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There's a lot of talk about masculinity out there. Most of it's noise.In the dark, I discovered a version of masculinity that had nothing to prove, nothing to fight, and nothing to perform. Just strength. Stillness. Surrender. This episode is about how darkness stripped me down to the bones--and what I found underneath.I talk about the power of discipline without ego, devotion without force, and why surrender is one of the most misunderstood strengths a man can possess. If you're tired of performance-based masculinity, this one's a breath of fresh air.Cheers, Traver
Pain doesn't leave the body until it's been felt.In this episode, I talk about how darkness forced me to feel the stuff I spent years running from--grief, heartbreak, shame. All of it. No therapist. No journal. Just pitch black silence and a willingness to not run.I open up about what happened when I finally let the pain have a voice, and what healing looked like when there was no one around to witness it. This one's about shadow work, emotional truth, and what's possible when you stop trying to fix yourself and just sit with what is.If you've been carrying something heavy for too long, listen to this. If you've ever wondered how healing actually happens--this is where it begins.Cheers, Traver
Ever sat still long enough to hear yourself think? What about long enough to hear yourself scream?This episode is about the three characters that show up when the world goes quiet--fear, boredom, and madness. I met all three of them in the dark. Some of them became friends. Some... not so much.I get into the games your mind plays when there's no one to distract you, and how facing these voices helped me reclaim parts of myself I didn't even realize I had buried. This is about going beyond self-help into self-reckoning. It's a wild one, and it might just mirror something you've felt but haven't named yet.Cheers, Traver
We live in a world built on distraction--dopamine loops, constant noise, nonstop input. But what happens when you take it all away?In this one, I share what it felt like to remove every single thing I usually lean on--no Instagram, no podcasts, no books, no light. Just stillness and space. Spoiler alert: it sucked. Then it got profound.This episode isn't just about silence--it's about withdrawal, confrontation, and ultimately transformation. I talk about the chaos that surfaced when I stopped numbing myself and what broke through once I made it through the noise. If you've ever wondered who you are without your coping mechanisms, this one's for you.Cheers, Traver
Tim Seavey is a seasoned marketing and business development leader with a passion for helping individuals and companies find their voice. As Co-Owner of Vizolutions LLC, he specializes in organic digital marketing, leveraging data-backed strategies to enhance clients' online presence and reputation. Tim's expertise extends to competitive speech and debate coaching, reflecting his commitment to effective communication. His approach combines storytelling and strategic insight to drive meaningful engagement and growth for businesses. Website: https://vizolutionsinc.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-seavey-52444098/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vizolutions/ Spencer Traver is a seasoned marketing leader with deep experience in scaling startup and high-growth environments. After seven years with a rapidly growing Adtech company that reached a $1.5 billion valuation, he transitioned to lead marketing at Sustainment, an Austin-based SaaS startup serving the manufacturing industry. In his current role, Spencer is focused on accelerating product-market fit by establishing foundational marketing strategies and driving outreach across commercial, federal, and defense sectors. Beyond his day job, he's an active contributor to the Dallas-Fort Worth entrepreneurial ecosystem—serving on advisory boards, hosting free marketing workshops, and regularly speaking at industry events and podcasts. Website: https://www.sustainment.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/spencertraver/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sustainment-srm In this episode, we explore SEO insights, AI influence, and marketing strategies with Tim and Spencer. Apply to join our marketing mastermind group: https://notypicalmoments.typeform.com/to/hWLDNgjz Follow No Typical Moments at: Website: https://notypicalmoments.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/no-typical-moments-llc/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4G7csw9j7zpjdASvpMzqUA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notypicalmoments Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NTMoments
Tim Seavey is a seasoned marketing and business development leader with a passion for helping individuals and companies find their voice. As Co-Owner of Vizolutions LLC, he specializes in organic digital marketing, leveraging data-backed strategies to enhance clients' online presence and reputation. Tim's expertise extends to competitive speech and debate coaching, reflecting his commitment to effective communication. His approach combines storytelling and strategic insight to drive meaningful engagement and growth for businesses. Website: https://vizolutionsinc.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-seavey-52444098/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vizolutions/ Spencer Traver is a seasoned marketing leader with deep experience in scaling startup and high-growth environments. After seven years with a rapidly growing Adtech company that reached a $1.5 billion valuation, he transitioned to lead marketing at Sustainment, an Austin-based SaaS startup serving the manufacturing industry. In his current role, Spencer is focused on accelerating product-market fit by establishing foundational marketing strategies and driving outreach across commercial, federal, and defense sectors. Beyond his day job, he's an active contributor to the Dallas-Fort Worth entrepreneurial ecosystem—serving on advisory boards, hosting free marketing workshops, and regularly speaking at industry events and podcasts. Website: https://www.sustainment.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/spencertraver/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sustainment-srm In this episode, we explore SEO insights, AI influence, and marketing strategies with Tim and Spencer. Apply to join our marketing mastermind group: https://notypicalmoments.typeform.com/to/hWLDNgjz Follow No Typical Moments at: Website: https://notypicalmoments.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/no-typical-moments-llc/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4G7csw9j7zpjdASvpMzqUA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notypicalmoments Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NTMoments
If you've ever felt like you're doing everything “right” but still not getting the sex, connection, or fulfillment you want ⚠️ - this conversation might blow something wide open for you.
If you've ever wanted to run away from your life for a bit--or just hide in a closet with no phone--you're going to get this one.In this episode, I dive into why I chose to sit in total darkness for 28 days... and why I'm going back in for **49**. No phone. No light. No distractions. Just me, my mind, and whatever monsters show up when there's nothing else to hold onto. It wasn't just an escape--it was a full-on confrontation with myself. And in that confrontation, I found answers I didn't even know I was looking for. This episode is a window into the madness, the medicine, and the real reason I think every human needs a version of this. If you've ever felt the need to reset, unplug, or just get real with yourself — this one's for you.Cheers, Traver
In this episode I'll talk about why so many of us find ourselves in a constant cycle of self betrayal all in the name of fitting in and being loved. OY!We all do it to some degree, but once you see how you betray yourself in the name of keeping and creating connection and belonging, your life will change forever. I'll share with you a single sentence that you can apply to any form of self betrayal so you do just that — see it plane site — and then make the conscious decision to stop living against your value.Alignment isn't easy but it's pure freedom.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver
In this episode I'll talk about five of the most important factors for you to consider if you're in a breakup or divorce.My writing career kicked off with a book about how to use the pain of your breakup or divorce to transform your life, so this is my bread and butter! Since that book I've worked with thousands of people who are now on the other side of heartbreak and most are living lives they never thought possible.Knowing these are the keys to the kingdom:— You will be okay, you just won't be for a bit— It's okay to not be okay— You won't die, but part of you will and that's a good thing— Pain is fuel (this is a BIG one)— The reasons your breakup happened can lead you to a goldmine.Heartbreak is brutal, but on the other side of it can be a freedom you only dreamed of.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,TraverInterested in one of Traver's books? Find Them Here
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In this episode I speak with renowned author Dr. Douglas Thomas on what makes people tick in the bedroom and beyond it.After reading Dr. Thomas's book, The Deep Psychology of BDSM & Kink while in Costa Rica, I reached out to Dr. Thomas to see if he'd come on the podcast with me. He agreed and magic was made. We talk archetypes, the power of our sexuality, and at the end dive into the changes that AI and robotics may have on our bedroom lives.I loved this conversation and am excited to share it with you.Cheers,Traver
In this episode I'll talk about how and why you need to get past the idea that people who don't live like you do or even want to, are supposed to understand you.If there's one thing that needs to be navigated in order to live a life outside of the box — it's being misunderstood. This comes from family, friends, and of course, perfect strangers who have internet access to you.Learning to work through what's different about you (these are good things) and owning the fact you can't have uncommon or UNcivilized outcomes while being celebrated by folks trapped in the matrix is a big deal.And on the other side of it is freedom.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver
If you're curious how to build more trust, devotion, and polarity in your relationship, this episode is for you.Ever wonder what really happens in a relationship dynamic where both parties have agreed to a complete Dom/sub relationship? Ever wonder how that dynamic could help you be a better partner in your own relationship, no matter how it's put together?In this candid conversation with Andrew from Infinite Devotion, we get into all the pros, cons, and learning lessons he and his wife Dawn have had on their journey from a burnt out, borderline cliche married couple, to one thriving in a new dynamic.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver
Every time I have a client say their stuck because they're afraid of either failure or success I roll my eyes and say — OH LORD. No you're not. You're afraid of the unknown. The deep unknown. The things you can't even conceptualize right now.And — you need to start anyway. Anyone and everyone you know who's done something outside of their comfort zone has had the exact same stuck feeling. Stick around to the end of this already short episode where I give you three ways to get unstuck immediately.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver
In this profound and powerfully honest episode, Andrew is joined by Traver Boehm—author, speaker, and founder of the Uncivilized Men's Movement. This raw and revealing conversation dives deep into the emotional and spiritual reality of being a man in today's world. Traver shares the personal story behind his movement, how heartbreak and disillusionment cracked him open, and why he's devoted his life to helping men reclaim both their primal power and emotional truth. Together, Andrew and Traver explore men's sensitivity, the cultural disbelief in men's inner lives, and the loneliness and pain so many carry silently. Traver also opens up about his experiences with darkness retreats—radical, solitary immersions into absolute darkness—and how they've initiated him into deeper self-understanding, ego death, and trust in his own soul's call. He offers a powerful challenge to men: Dare to feel. Dare to be fully human. This episode is a must-listen for any man who's ever felt alone in his pain… and for anyone who's ready to meet the courage that lives inside vulnerability. ⸻ What You'll Learn in This Episode: • How Traver turned heartbreak into a mission to support men • Why emotional sensitivity is a masculine strength, not a weakness • The hidden epidemic of male emotional isolation—and how to break it • Why the phrase “I've never said this out loud before” changes everything • How to balance emotional expression with purpose, structure, and spine • The truth about numbness, avoidance, and the cost of living half-alive • What it's like to spend 28 (and soon 49) days in total darkness—and what that journey reveals • Why Traver believes something must break for a man to be reborn • How to cultivate a human experience that's raw, real, and relational • Two sentences every man needs to hear: “I believe you. I believe in you.” ⸻ Links & Resources: • https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm • The Uncivilized Nation • Preorder Traver's New Book: 28 Days in Darkness • Listen to Traver's Podcast: The Uncivilized Podcast ~~~ Becoming a Dominant Man is Andrew's flagship course for Dominant Men. Becoming a Dominant Man leads men through a 12 step process, the 12 Steps to Dominance, to claim full ownership of their lives and their inner strength, so that they can carry a loving strength, true Dominance, into their lives and relationships. Becoming a Dominant Man is a pre-recorded course that men can work through on their own time, but also includes live weekly instruction and Q&A with Andrew at no extra cost. Learn more about Becoming a Dominant Man at https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man Rules, Rituals, and Contracts for a loving D/s Dynamic. Check out Structuring Your DS Dynamic, our course that walks you through the process of setting up your D/s dynamic for success, using the same process that Andrew uses. No more basic templates, or trying to squeeze your real life into someone else's contract. This course walks you, step by step, through deep conversations, then helps you to establish rules, rituals, tasks, and eventually a full contract, that is fully YOURS and built to evolve with you over time. Learn more at https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic Our newest course for submissive women is available NOW. Submissive Foundations teaches women how to embody submission from a healthy emotional inner strength, with your self respect fully intact. Click the link to learn more! https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations Social Links: Instagram: https://instagram.com/_infinitedevotion YouTube: https://instagram.com/@infinitedevotion Facebook: https://facebook.com/domsubdevotion Coaching: You can learn more about working with us in 1-1 coaching and our various workshops, courses, and programs at https://infinitedevotion.com/store Free Resources: FREE: The 12 Steps to Dominance: A free ebook showing men how to embody a healthy, loving Dominance. Download here: https://www.infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance FREE: Inspiring Her Submission Masterclass: A deep dive on how to inspire any woman to submit and surrender to you. Watch here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-masterclass FREE: Devotional Dominance & Submission: A free ebook showing you how D/s dynamics and loving long term relationships work hand in hand. https://infinitedevotion.com/devotional-ds FREE: Get Dawn's Manifesto: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman. Click here to download it now! https://www.infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman 00:00 Introduction to Dom Sub Devotion 00:33 Guest Introduction: Traver Boehm 01:21 Traver's Journey: From Divorce to Men's Movement 03:49 The Impact of Traver's Work 08:12 The Sensitivity and Strength of Men 13:59 Challenges Men Face in Society 19:26 Emotional Intelligence and Relationships 23:20 The Importance of Emotional Expression 32:51 Exploring Emotional Tools 33:58 Balancing Primal and Divine Energies 34:26 The Importance of Mission and Purpose 35:00 Using Emotions as Fuel 36:10 Integrating Both Sides of Masculinity 43:21 The Power of Darkness Retreats 52:10 Facing the Unknown in Extended Darkness 01:02:31 Final Thoughts and Advice for Men
This week on The Golden Wrench Podcast I sit down with John Traver. John and I discuss how to master your BDC process, improve loyalty, how to know your customer better and more! For more info on Repair360, visit: https://www.repair360.com/ Digital Dealership Solutions: ddsolutions.ca Strategy With Jason: strategywithjason.com Bell2Bell: bell2bell.ca Listen To The Strategy With Jason Podcast: Apple Podcast: https://apple.co/3IwlT3v Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fT8V3H Soundcloud: https://bit.ly/347rnDb #automotive #automotiveindustry #automotivesoftware #dealership #dealerships #dealersolutions #leadership #leader #bell2bell #strategy️ #data #fixedops #servicedrive #service #customercentric #customerrelationships #bdc #loyalty
Now more than ever, people are craving a deeper experience of their lives. I bet you can relate. In this episode I speak with Boulder Outdoor Survival School graduate, Men's Work Facilitator, and BJJ enthusiast Evan Meyer on his own path towards living a soul based life, the pain and turmoil he's had to go through to get where he's at, and of course, his favorite Jiujitsu submission.If you're curious about not only how to navigate big transitions in your life but also what depth they may reveal, this episode is for you.Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver
In this episode of the Used Car Dealer Podcast, Zach talks with John Traver, the founder of Traver Technologies and TraverConnect, to explore the evolution of the BDC concept. John shares insights on launching TraverConnect, transforming service-lane interactions into revenue opportunities, and balancing people with technology to deliver an exceptional customer experience. This conversation dives into leadership lessons, changing customer expectations, and the future impact of AI and automation on automotive BDC.Automotive BDC & Fixed OperationsQ) Take us back to how you got in the auto industry and your origin story?Q) So talk about the early days of BDC adoption and how that went—were dealers skeptical?Q) So what were some of the biggest operational challenges as you scaled out your business?Q) And how did the different services evolve that you offer at your company as technology and dealership operations got more complex?Q) So what separates a top-performing dealership using your BDC service versus one that's not as organized?Q) How do you strike that balance between people, process, and technology?Q) How have customer expectations in the service department changed over the last 10 years, and how should dealers adapt?Q) What do you see as the biggest technology gaps today in fixed ops or BDCs?Q) Any thoughts on AI and some of the automation coming to market right now?Q) As we look to 2025 and dealers becoming more cost-conscious, where should they focus to drive the highest ROI?Q) What are you most excited about in the next year for Traver Connect and the automotive space generally?Listen to more episodes here: https://www.sellyautomotive.com/podcastRead the full transcription: https://blog.sellyautomotive.com/blog/john-traver-2025
In this episode of the You Are Not Broken podcast, Kelly Casperson, MD, engages in a deep conversation with Traver Boehm about redefining masculinity, the importance of emotional intelligence, and the journey of helping men navigate their feelings and relationships. Traver shares his experiences from the Year to Live Project, the impact of his book on men's lives, and the necessity of creating safe spaces for women. The discussion also touches on the differences in how men and women perceive safety and the importance of understanding these perspectives in fostering healthier relationships. In this conversation, Kelly Casperson, MD, and Traver explore the complexities of emotional awareness, therapy for men, gender differences in relationships, the evolving independence of women, and the foundational role of sexuality in partnerships. They discuss the importance of self-awareness in managing emotions, the need for therapy that resonates with men, and the societal shifts that have changed relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the necessity of understanding and communication between genders to foster healthier relationships. In this conversation, Traver and Dr. Kelly Casperson explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the business aspects of marriage, the importance of communication, the impact of pornography, and the challenges surrounding menopause. They emphasize the need for emotional maturity and understanding in relationships, advocating for open discussions about sexual satisfaction and the human experience. The dialogue highlights the evolving dynamics between men and women, the significance of consent, and the necessity of education regarding women's health issues. Traver's IG Man Uncivilized Sedona in October - only five slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Starts 2025. To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 30% off your first purchase of any product, automatically applied at checkout. For an additional $5 off, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Myth. Sex. Pleasure. Oh my.In this conversation with author and Depth Psychologist Dr. Alanna Kaivalya we jam on several aspects of relationship and female pleasure. And this podcast isn't just for our female listeners, guys you will glean much from this episode as well.Dr. Kaivalya has a unique lens on the relationship world as both a psychologist and someone who has a deep understanding of myth, masculine and feminine dynamics, and sexuality.This interview was a ton of fun to do and I know you'll enjoy it.Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver
Today I bring you another Irishman and a fascinating one at that. Pat is a good friend of the Uncivilized world and has been leading a life worthy of the title of Uncivilized since before we were born.In this episode we follow Pat's career going from fitness success and lack of satisfaction into the world of Breathwork and how that has radically changed his life. Pat's openness about the truth of business and entrepreneurship as well as his deep understanding of the body's use of breath makes this episode on you don't want to miss.Pat also does Brazilian Jiujitsu which means he's awesome. Fact.Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver
Considering the fact that it's reason the species perpetuates, the difference between friendships and romantic relationships, as well as a MASSIVE source of both life's pleasures and pain — it's shocking that we don't have more open and honest conversations about sex.In this episode I get to ask Dr. Kelly all the questions you men ask me, covering such topics and erectile disfunction, premature ejaculation, and even what happens if you “break” your penis — not something I have experience with or knowledge of, but apparently it happens!Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver
Michael Gay is Uncivilized royalty, having been there from the beginning and is one of our co-leaders in our workshops. He's also a licensed therapist and would probably be happiest living in the woods.In this episode we explore the ways men and women both can create a deeper relationship with your intuition and the parts of your body and knowings that the civilized world divorces you from.This is a great episode for anyone who wants a greater understanding of the how's and why's you exist in the world in the ways that you do. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver
Chris is an old friend of The Uncivilized Podcast and in his third appearance with us speaks to the ways that we all numb and disconnect from our bodies, and the truth we're so afraid to acknowledge.In this potent exercise we speak of potent ways to be in your body, to live more powerfully, and experience who we are underneath lives shackled with fear and contraction.Stick around to the end of this episode as Chris drops some fiery gems in the last 10 minutes!Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver
NAME YOUR YEAR—START YOURS NOWIt's February. Too late.(No it's not.)For years, men and women around the world have kicked off their journeys with my powerful ritual—Naming Your Year.It's not a resolution.Not a wish list.Not another empty promise.It's a stake in the ground. A declaration. A call to something greater.In this recorded call, Traver and the uncivilized crew walk you through the process of claiming your year, setting your intention, and stepping into the version of yourself that refuses to live on autopilot.It doesn't matter if January slipped by in a haze.You can start today.Cheers,Traver
On this weeks episode of TSP and on our very own Bobby Hall's Birthday, we are happy to bring back a reoccurring guest in Alex Traver! Traver would like to put a rumor to bed, gives us the latest on his unique lifestyle, and more! Ohio Law Makers trying to pass a bill that would cost men $10,000 for ejaculating without the intent of creating life, Dylan has 3 reviews for the show with one of them being his own creation, Bobby's holding strong on his candy holdout, approaching a massive milestone of 200 episodes ands possible plans for that, and MUCH more!!Be sure to like, follow, and subscribe!
Let's talk tantric sex, full body non ejaculatory orgasms, psychedelics, and the dark masculine… In this episode with renowned Men's Leader Adayemi Adayosoye we get into all of it. We cover the conditioning and patterning that leads men to live lives of drudgery and quiet misery rather than truth and ecstatic joy. This is a powerful episode for men who are ready to live in a completely separate reality from the one you're most likely walking around in. Listen at your discretion! Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
In this episode you get to peak behind the coaching curtain and watch me work one-on-one with a man who's struggling bringing structure into his life. This is showing up in his challenge around meal planning and workout programming, as well as the deeper issue at hand: — This is a protection mechanism keeping him from getting what he really wants. What does he really want? A deep connection with the men in his life. A deep connection with friends and loved ones. And of course, not take all of the time and energy that he's spending keeping every single option open to him (how exhausting) and use that time and energy to reach a higher purpose. This is potent conversation about responsibility, maturity, and discipline and how all three actually do foster more feelings and experiences of freedom. Enjoy. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
I'm a True Crime dork, and if you are too, then this episode is for you. Hell, even if you're not this episode will show the path of a man who was deep in a music career, had a hiccup, then on a whim after a single conversation decided to try something new. Millions and millions of downloads later with popular shows such as In The Red Clay, Drowning Creek, Fox Hunter, and In The Land of Lies — Sean's life is going in an entirely new direction. We dive into his creative process, the toll these projects take on him personally, and how he balances putting himself in precarious situations for work now that he's a husband and a father. Enjoy. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
Gavin Meenan is a world-class men's coach in Ireland. But he wasn't always. At one point, he was a porn-addicted young father, buried in grief and shame. And it wasn't until his porn use became public when videos of him in chat rooms made their way around the internet that he was able to shift his life forever. In his candid and open conversation, Gavin and I discuss the secret addiction so many men suffer with and how you can start to change it. Porn's not going anywhere, in fact it's only going to become more personalized and prevalent. This is a powerful episode all men should listen to. Enjoy. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
In this episode Hendrix and I dive into the ways men end up trapped with money, stuck in debt, and otherwise feeling disempowered when it comes to their finances. We talk about common stories men hold and how to break them — mostly by creating an actual relationship with money they've never had before. We also dig into why so many men who say they want to make millions and millions of dollars are actually terrified of doing so and secretly sabotaging their own wealth. AND — this is not just a conversation men should listen to, it's packed with gems for anyone who's interested in making more money, saving more money, and feeling more free. Enjoy. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
I stumbled upon David's work just a short time ago and was immediately hooked. After leaving a successful acting career in Hollywood, David did what very few actors do and became a therapist! And a brilliant one at that. In this episode we talk about following the path of your soul, about the ways men trip themselves up, and the common challenges found int relationship. This is a powerful episode with a powerful man. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
This is a big topic and one that often gets overlooked or misunderstood by most men. And, here at UNcivilized we're interested in supporting you in becoming unlike most men. Radically so. In this solo episode I give you four concrete ways you can shift your own ways to help everyone around you feel safer, especially any woman in your life. They're powerful. They're field tested. And they work. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
In this lighthearted episode I interview David Bodenhamer about his experience raising two young boys and finding a stark change in them once they started doing burpees during COVID. Watching them go from restless and inattentive with their schoolwork to focused and disciplined had him take this simple idea all the way up the chain in his local school board. If you have a son you need to listen to this episode. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
This week we chat with Women's Basketball Head Coach Charmin Smith after the 9-1 start for the team including a home win over ranked Alabama. Plus a conversation with Traver's Family Head Football Coach Justin Wilcox that includes the transfer portal, new Offensive Coordinator, bowl game and more.Audio Transcript Here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Hh6yuyIZ-6f3JjsDAwdUI9VGp6EByTRc/view?usp=share_linkSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Traver Boehm is the leader of the Man Uncivilized Movement, the author of multiple books, and a huge advocate for men’s work. Traver leads by example, and in this episode, he joins me on the show for a second appearance to share the powerful story of his father’s passing. He shares the insights and lessons we can all take from his experience. He also shares his story of spending 28 days in a “darkness retreat” where he saw no light for 28 days. The lessons of this powerful psychedelic experience shine through in striking detail as he takes us through what it was like to be in total darkness for a month. In this conversation, we discuss: The recent death of Traver’s father, reflecting on father wounds, with a powerful story of healing in those last days. The role of men’s work and men’s groups in healing the father wound. Dark Room: Traver’s experience living in a room by himself in complete darkness for 28 days. The insights this gave him on death, freedom, and living fearlessly, hallucinations, grief processing, and lessons about time perception. Death and Freedom: How the acceptance of our mortality can influence our approach to life and goals. Traver’s Upcoming book, “28 Days in Darkness,” releasing in February. Links from this episode: Man UNcivilized website Traver’s Instagram Book: 28 Days in Darkness The Arka Brotherhood men’s work community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Raj Jana is wears many hats. CEO of a tech company, teacher, speaker, podcast host, and seeker. Getting to sit down with him here in Boulder was an incredible experience as we dove into his journey from running a coffee startup to his now leading a team of entrepreneurs creating digital mapping of our emotional lives. This is a great episode if you're curious about how humans operate, the power of alignment and integrity in business and relationships, and if you just want to listen to someone who is whip smart and funny as hell. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
Bonner Rinn is an extraordinary man and he's a man with Cerebral Palsy. But honestly that's not what's interesting about him. What is interesting is what he's done with his life going from a home where his condition wasn't able to be spoken about to running a world wide organization brining awareness and resources to kids with disabilities in developing countries. Along the way he's had to do his own healing work and has built himself a unique an amazing life as a man. This is a great episode about what is possible, no matter the cards you're dealt in your life. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
If you're a Nice Guy, or someone who struggles with either finding or fully embodying your purpose — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of struggling with believing he's worth doing what he really wants in the world. He's a massage therapist who wants to shift to providing bigger and better services for his clients but struggles with that nagging question: “Who am I to get to live this kind of amazing life?” Sound familiar? Some of this call is straight up business advice but then we drop down into a conversation about what his soul deeply desires. We talk about why these pattern exists, where they comes from, and how he can make small shifts in his behavior to start giving himself the PERMISSION he needs to charge more, work less, and craft the life of his dreams. This is a powerful episode and I'm grateful of the openness of my guest. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
In this episode, I sit down with Traver Boehm, author, speaker, and founder of the Man Uncivilized movement. Traver's work has been a beacon for men seeking to reclaim their authentic selves in a world that often stifles true masculinity.Together, we explore why men need men—why male connection and community are essential not just for personal growth but for creating a life of purpose, power, and connection. From redefining vulnerability to tackling shame and isolation head-on, this episode is a raw, honest, and impactful conversation for anyone ready to step into their full potential.Show NotesThe Importance of Male ConnectionTraver explains why men thrive in environments of brotherhood and shared purpose.The risks of isolation in modern life and how it impacts mental, emotional, and relational health.Redefining VulnerabilityVulnerability is reframed as strength, not weakness, and a gateway to deeper relationships and personal growth.Traver shares stories of men who found transformation by embracing openness and honesty with others.Understanding and Healing ShameA deep dive into the role shame plays in holding men back from their true power.Practical steps for identifying and overcoming shame through shared experiences and self-compassion.The Role of Pain in TransformationWhy pain is often the catalyst for growth and how to use it as a tool for self-discovery.Traver shares his personal journey of loss and how it propelled him to create the Man Uncivilized movement.Men and Emotional FreedomWhy men struggle with expressing emotions and the consequences of emotional repression.Tools and practices Traver uses to help men unlock emotional freedom and live more balanced lives.The Power of BrotherhoodReal-life examples of how a strong male community can provide accountability, growth, and support.Traver discusses why men need other men to challenge them, hold space, and celebrate their wins.Practical Steps for Men Ready to TransformHow to build meaningful connections with other men.Simple practices to integrate emotional awareness and authentic leadership into daily life.Subscribe to the Dare to Be Different podcast on your favorite platform for more transformative conversations. If this episode resonates with you, don't forget to leave a review.
In this episode I sit down with 10 time author Sylvester McNutt. Sly is a good friend and brother who I've known for years now. His new book is all about crafting the life you want to live and letting go of all the things that stand in your way. You'll get to hear us dive into how he now has to organize his life since becoming a father, what he sees as the biggest roadblocks people have to creating a satisfying life, and how Sly himself has had to grapple with challenges around food and being a provider. This is a great episode for you creatives, entrepreneurs, and fathers. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
I met Nicky at a dinner in London two months ago and knew immediately I wanted to interview her. She runs a world wide company working with people at the deepest levels of their healing. Her work is life changing. And — her story is equally fascinating. Going from a drug addicted twenty year old to a business powerhouse, then having to rebuild her entire life from the ground up after a freak accident. This episode is POWERFUL. And Nicky is a brilliant story teller and wisdom keeper. I know you'll love this one. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
If you're a Nice Guy, or someone who works in a service profession like coaching, teaching, or parenting — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of struggling with discipline when it come to doing the things that will benefit HIM. If it's to help one of his students or kids, he has no problem getting up early and putting in the effort. He also struggles taking up space, speaking his needs, and allowing himself to receive compliments and the good things from life. Sound familiar?! (All you Nice Guys & Cool Girls just nodded, I know…I did too.) As a teacher and a father, my guest is constantly helping others… We talk about why these pattern exists, where they comes from, and how he can make small shifts in his behavior to start giving himself the same level of care and presence he gives to everyone else. This is a powerful episode and I'm grateful of the openness of my guest. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
I was told NOT to do this interview. Why? Because “no one cares about women's sexual health.” Well…that wasn't true, as this is the 3rd most listened to episode in the Uncivilized Podcast. Carly pulls no punches as she teaches you all you need to know about your woman, her cycle, and more. This is an episode every single man and every single woman should listen to. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
Ginger Kern teaches primarily women how to be in relationship in a new paradigm. One based on mutual respect, devotion, and truth. She also adds that this will be a “relationship without leaks.” Sounds intriguing doesn't it? We dive into Ginger's marriage, why it wasn't the right fit for her and what has happened in her life and her partner's life once they stepped into their devotional frame. Whether you're currently in a relationship or wanting to be in one, this episode will give you some of the tools and structure on how to create a relationship where everyone wins, everyone is honored, and the steaks and love flow like wine! Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
Chris Bale is one of the most unique men I know. He's a fellow acupuncturist, a men's guide, and an energy worker like no other. In this episode we bring back one of the Top 5 most listened to episodes of the Uncivilized Podcast just for you — this is the first day I ever spoke with Chris. We've since become good friends and I know Chris well. His teachings are beyond potent as you will hear. In this episode we break down how and why the slow domestication of men ultimately leads to the demise of their souls, and then of course, the life they've worked so hard to build. This is an episode every single man should listen to. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
If you're a Nice Guy, or someone who likes to put off hard tasks to the very last minute, then of course, beat yourself up for doing so — and not doing more in your life — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of not doing what he needs to in a timely manner. Then guilting and shaming himself for the procrastination. THEN beating himself up more for not accomplishing more in his life. OUCH. We talk about why this pattern exists, where it comes from, and how he can make small shifts in his behavior to start being his own teammate, rather than his own tormentor. This is a powerful episode and I'm grateful of the openness of my guest. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
Let's be honest — it's challenging to be in relationship these days, and that's because there's so much conflicting information out there. Men are supposed to lead! But only at the magical right time… Men are supposed to be protectors! But that's also toxic… Men are supposed to be emotionally connected to their women! But don't show emotion because that's weakness… In this episode we bring back one of the Top 5 most listened to episodes of the Uncivilized Podcast just for you. GS Youngblood cuts through all the bullshit and teaches men how to actually be in relationship. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver
In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who has stepped into a brand new role — he's the step father of two teenage twin boys. He also wants to show up powerfully for himself, his fiancé, and the boys in the family. We talk about how his Nice Guy patterns are holding him back and keeping him from fully engaging with both his woman, and her kids. And we give him some concrete steps on how to be more powerful while also staying out of the dictatorial role and in the relational role. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver