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That Difficult Coworker is Just a Character in Your Success Story with Tessa WestIn this episode of The WorkWell Podcast™, Jen Fisher speaks with Dr. Tessa West, Professor of Psychology at New York University and author of "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them" and "Job Therapy: A Psychologist's Guide to Finding Your Most Fulfilling Job Yet." Her research reveals surprising patterns about difficult workplace relationships and career satisfaction.Episode Highlights:The five types of workplace jerks: Kiss Up/Kick Downers, Credit Stealers, Free Riders, Bulldozers, and GaslightersWhy gaslighters are the most psychologically damaging but also the rarest type of workplace jerkHow to strategically document and address problematic workplace behavior without making it personalWhy confronting office jerks alone is often the biggest mistake people makeThe surprising truth about "toxic rockstars" and whether you really have to put up with themThe five sources of career frustration: identity crisis, drifted apart, stretched too thin, runner-up, and underappreciated starWhy "follow your passion" is terrible career advice and what to focus on insteadHow to use the Working Week Audit to identify your true workplace stressorsA fresh perspective on work-life balance as psychological integration rather than time managementQuotable Moment:"We all are jerks. When we're tired, when we're stressed, when we're overwhelmed, we probably all got to know this person pretty well during the pandemic. Learn to identify what your inner jerk is and start looking for those red flags, and you'll be a better person for it." - Tessa WestLyra Lens:In this edition, Keren Wasserman, Senior Manager of Organizational Development at Lyra Health, explores how workplace jerks thrive by manipulating systems - and how understanding those systems is key to overcoming them. She highlights that when we take back our power through actions like building connections and amplifying other voices, "we not only shift the power dynamics, but also improve the quality of the work itself." Keren also connects Tessa's job-person fit framework with burnout research, offering a workplace version of the Serenity Prayer to help us recognize "our needs and what we can change about our environment.Resources:This episode of The WorkWell Podcast™ is made possible by Lyra Health, a premier global workforce mental health solution. Learn more at Lyrahealth.com/workwell.

That Difficult Coworker is Just a Character in Your Success Story with Tessa WestIn this episode of The WorkWell Podcast™, Jen Fisher speaks with Dr. Tessa West, Professor of Psychology at New York University and author of "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them" and "Job Therapy: A Psychologist's Guide to Finding Your Most Fulfilling Job Yet." Her research reveals surprising patterns about difficult workplace relationships and career satisfaction.Episode Highlights:The five types of workplace jerks: Kiss Up/Kick Downers, Credit Stealers, Free Riders, Bulldozers, and GaslightersWhy gaslighters are the most psychologically damaging but also the rarest type of workplace jerkHow to strategically document and address problematic workplace behavior without making it personalWhy confronting office jerks alone is often the biggest mistake people makeThe surprising truth about "toxic rockstars" and whether you really have to put up with themThe five sources of career frustration: identity crisis, drifted apart, stretched too thin, runner-up, and underappreciated starWhy "follow your passion" is terrible career advice and what to focus on insteadHow to use the Working Week Audit to identify your true workplace stressorsA fresh perspective on work-life balance as psychological integration rather than time managementQuotable Moment:"We all are jerks. When we're tired, when we're stressed, when we're overwhelmed, we probably all got to know this person pretty well during the pandemic. Learn to identify what your inner jerk is and start looking for those red flags, and you'll be a better person for it." - Tessa WestLyra Lens:In this edition, Keren Wasserman, Senior Manager of Organizational Development at Lyra Health, explores how workplace jerks thrive by manipulating systems - and how understanding those systems is key to overcoming them. She highlights that when we take back our power through actions like building connections and amplifying other voices, "we not only shift the power dynamics, but also improve the quality of the work itself." Keren also connects Tessa's job-person fit framework with burnout research, offering a workplace version of the Serenity Prayer to help us recognize "our needs and what we can change about our environment.Resources:This episode of The WorkWell Podcast™ is made possible by Lyra Health, a premier global workforce mental health solution. Learn more at Lyrahealth.com/workwell.

Tessa West shares her method for making the necessary changes that lead to greater job satisfaction. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) How your body tells you when it's time to change jobs 2) How to not be overwhelmed by the stresses at work 3) The hidden curriculum that helps you succeed at work Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep996 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT TESSA — Tessa West is a Professor of Psychology at New York University and a leading expert in the science of interpersonal communication. Her work focuses on questions such as, why is it so hard to give honest, critical feedback? and how do class, race, and cultural differences make communication in the workplace so difficult, and what can we do to improve it?Tessa's work has been covered by Scientific American, the New York Times, ABC World News, TIME, Harper's Bazaar, the Financial Times, Forbes, CNBC, CNN, The Guardian, The Globe and Mail, Bloomberg, Strategy and Business, and the US Supreme Court. She has appeared on the Nightly Show with Larry Wilmore, CNN, and Good Morning America, and is a regular contributor to the Wall Street Journal. She is the author of the book Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What To Do About Them and the upcoming Job Therapy: Finding Work That Works For You. • Book: Job Therapy: Finding Work That Works for You • Book: Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to do About Them • Website: TessaWestAuthor.com • Research website: TessaWestLab.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Article: "Intimate Partner Violence: A Literature Review" by Erick Yonfa, Malinda Fasol, Camila Cueva, Anna Zavgorodniava • Past episode: 745: How to Handle Bad Bosses and Toxic Coworkers with Tessa West • Study: Brittle Smiles: Positive Biases Toward Stigmatized and Outgroup Targets • Tool: Bose noise-cancelling headphones• Don't miss out on your chance to appear on How to be Awesome at Your Job and win $1000 worth of prizes! Check out https://awesomeatyourjob.com/1000giveaway for more details. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, we dive into the intricacies of workplace dynamics, career satisfaction, and professional growth with Tessa West, a leading expert in the science of interpersonal communication. Tessa is a professor of psychology at New York University and one of the world's top researchers on social perception. Her acclaimed work includes the books "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them" and her latest release, "Job Therapy: Finding Work That Works for You" available July 23, 2024.  Join us for an insightful conversation with Tessa West, where she unpacks the complexities of workplace dynamics and career satisfaction. How can you turn a difficult coworker into an ally? What are the exact questions to ask when networking to ensure you land the best job offers? Tessa shares her top strategies for identifying the top 5 career frustrations and navigating them effectively, drawing from her extensive research and personal experiences. Discover how to leverage your network in salary negotiations and the critical steps to finding work that truly fulfills you. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How does Tessa West's background in social perception and psychology inform her insights on workplace dynamics? What are the psychological tensions people experience at work that Tessa identifies in her book? How can fear of uncertainty and status loss impact career decisions? The Five Key Drivers of Career Frustration – [00:11:59] What are the top sources of career frustration that Tessa outlines in "Job Therapy"? How can understanding these drivers help in navigating career satisfaction? Balancing Fulfillment and Compensation – [00:17:14] What are the common trade-offs between career fulfillment and financial security? How does being embedded at work complicate career changes and personal fulfillment? How can strong team cohesion negatively impact individual recognition and promotion prospects? Strategic Networking for Career Growth – [00:26:45] What specific questions should you ask when networking to explore career fit? How can you create a coherent and compelling narrative of your career journey? What are the risks of taking on non-promotion-relevant roles in search of fulfillment? Articulating Your Contribution to Company Outcomes – [00:38:02] Why is it crucial to understand and articulate how your work contributes to broader company goals? How can you effectively communicate your role in achieving company outcomes? What is the importance of having a broad network beyond your immediate workplace? How can networking outside your organization enhance your career prospects? Asking Tough Questions During Networking – [00:45:15] Why should you ask tough questions about status and promotion prospects when networking? How can feedback from former colleagues provide insights into your career advancement? Effective Networking Strategies – [00:51:27] What practical advice does Tessa give for effective networking? How can you approach potential contacts and ask the right questions to build meaningful connections? Insightful Questions During Job Interviews – [00:56:07] Why insightful questions should you ask during a job interview? What specific questions can help you ensure a good fit with a potential employer? How can embracing awkwardness and having tough conversations lead to finding fulfilling work? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do your co-workers make life tough for you on the job? Our guest on this episode is social psychologist Tessa West, who's an expert on difficult workplace relationships, specializing in interpersonal interaction and communication. She's the author of "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them."  Her website is https://www.tessawestauthor.com.

In the third episode of our empowering six-part series, "Rise Above Toxic Work Environments," we're joined by an anonymous guest who brings a decade-long experience in the sports and entertainment industry. This episode is a treasure trove of insights, stories, and actionable advice, all aimed at helping you navigate and rise above toxic work environments. Our guest begins by exploring the importance of understanding your happiness and how to lift yourself up when things get tough. She shares her own journey of rebuilding confidence after enduring a toxic workplace, offering strategies that can help you do the same. Finding a new job after a distressing experience can be daunting, but our guest provides practical steps on how to recover, start anew, and spot potential red flags in future workplaces. She candidly discusses why waiting for the 'perfect' job might not be the best approach and encourages you to seize opportunities as they come. She also addresses the paralyzing fear and anxiety that often accompany such experiences, reassuring you that it's okay to feel this way. This episode promises to leave you with a renewed sense of hope and the tools needed to rise above any toxic work environment. So, are you ready to reclaim your professional life?  Tune into this episode and let our guest's experiences and insights guide your path forward.  Don't just survive a toxic work environment - learn how to rise above it. Listen now!   Free Resource | Empower Your Career: Mastering the Art of Advocacy for Promotions and Raises: https://rb.gy/3qpump   Connect with Jahaan:  Learn more about working with Jahaan and see if it's the right fit for you: https://JahaanBlakeAppointmentScheduling.as.me/LetsTalk Join Jahaan's VIP Email List: https://bit.ly/3yccwAP  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jahaanblake/ Email: jblake@jahaanblake.com Website: https://jahaanblake.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jahaanblake/   Links: Book | Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them: http://tinyurl.com/9yv48sny  Book | The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable: http://tinyurl.com/mryshkh7    Music By:  Quanzaa   

IN THIS EPISODE:  Chances are you've dealt with a jerk at work. But there's an even stronger likelihood that you've handled it the wrong way -- and possibly made a bad situation worse. In Episode 87, Tessa West deconstructs jerky behavior and helps us place it into a larger context. You'll learn how to identify different jerk profiles (they come in different shapes and sizes), how to gather helpful intel and allies, and how to resolve problems with losing your standing or sanity. This is a great conversation for anyone dealing with those tricky interpersonal dynamics at work and may even shed some light on our own subtle tendencies to play the part of the jerk without realizing it. After listening to Tessa, you'll have the smarts and savvy to detox the work relationships you love to hate. ABOUT TESSA WEST:  Tessa West is an Associate Professor of Psychology at New York University and a leading expert in the science of interpersonal communication. Her work has appeared numerous outlets in the popular press, including Scientific American, the New York Times, ABC World News, TIME, The Guardian, Bloomberg, Strategy and Business, and was even cited before the US Supreme Court. She's a regular contributor to the Wall Street Journal and is the author of ⁠Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What To Do About Them.⁠

Today I talked to Tessa West about her book Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them (Portfolio, 2022). This conversation explores the seven types of jerks that West has diagnosed: the kiss-up / kiss downer, the credit stealer, the bulldozer, the free rider, the micromanager, the neglectful (boss) and the gaslighter. The last type is, in West's words, almost “clinically” an evil spirit, even more cleaver and intent on doing harm than the kiss up / kick downer, both of whom are united in feeling contempt for their victims on the job. Sometimes each type has a subspecies categorization: for instance, some bulldozer are rough and obvious from their in-the-mouth machinations. Other bulldozers can be smoother and more subtle. Whatever the manifestation, however, each of these seven types are best handled by developing an array of allies at work who can help give advice and documents the bad behavior you're experiencing. As to executives, they're too busy and too eager to see themselves above the fray, West counsels; so you've got to make your own way forward. Tessa West is an associate professor of psychology at New York University. She has published over 60 articles in psychology's most prestigious journals and has received multiple grants, including from the National Science Foundation and the National Institutes of Health, in addition to writing regularly about her research in The Wall Street Journal. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of ten books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). His latest two books are Blah Blah Blah: A Snarky Guide to Office Lingo and Emotionomics 2.0: The Emotional Dynamics Underlying Key Business Goals. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Today I talked to Tessa West about her book Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them (Portfolio, 2022). This conversation explores the seven types of jerks that West has diagnosed: the kiss-up / kiss downer, the credit stealer, the bulldozer, the free rider, the micromanager, the neglectful (boss) and the gaslighter. The last type is, in West's words, almost “clinically” an evil spirit, even more cleaver and intent on doing harm than the kiss up / kick downer, both of whom are united in feeling contempt for their victims on the job. Sometimes each type has a subspecies categorization: for instance, some bulldozer are rough and obvious from their in-the-mouth machinations. Other bulldozers can be smoother and more subtle. Whatever the manifestation, however, each of these seven types are best handled by developing an array of allies at work who can help give advice and documents the bad behavior you're experiencing. As to executives, they're too busy and too eager to see themselves above the fray, West counsels; so you've got to make your own way forward. Tessa West is an associate professor of psychology at New York University. She has published over 60 articles in psychology's most prestigious journals and has received multiple grants, including from the National Science Foundation and the National Institutes of Health, in addition to writing regularly about her research in The Wall Street Journal. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of ten books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). His latest two books are Blah Blah Blah: A Snarky Guide to Office Lingo and Emotionomics 2.0: The Emotional Dynamics Underlying Key Business Goals. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/dan-hills-eq-spotlight

Today I talked to Tessa West about her book Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them (Portfolio, 2022). This conversation explores the seven types of jerks that West has diagnosed: the kiss-up / kiss downer, the credit stealer, the bulldozer, the free rider, the micromanager, the neglectful (boss) and the gaslighter. The last type is, in West's words, almost “clinically” an evil spirit, even more cleaver and intent on doing harm than the kiss up / kick downer, both of whom are united in feeling contempt for their victims on the job. Sometimes each type has a subspecies categorization: for instance, some bulldozer are rough and obvious from their in-the-mouth machinations. Other bulldozers can be smoother and more subtle. Whatever the manifestation, however, each of these seven types are best handled by developing an array of allies at work who can help give advice and documents the bad behavior you're experiencing. As to executives, they're too busy and too eager to see themselves above the fray, West counsels; so you've got to make your own way forward. Tessa West is an associate professor of psychology at New York University. She has published over 60 articles in psychology's most prestigious journals and has received multiple grants, including from the National Science Foundation and the National Institutes of Health, in addition to writing regularly about her research in The Wall Street Journal. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of ten books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). His latest two books are Blah Blah Blah: A Snarky Guide to Office Lingo and Emotionomics 2.0: The Emotional Dynamics Underlying Key Business Goals. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/psychology

Today I talked to Tessa West about her book Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them (Portfolio, 2022). This conversation explores the seven types of jerks that West has diagnosed: the kiss-up / kiss downer, the credit stealer, the bulldozer, the free rider, the micromanager, the neglectful (boss) and the gaslighter. The last type is, in West's words, almost “clinically” an evil spirit, even more cleaver and intent on doing harm than the kiss up / kick downer, both of whom are united in feeling contempt for their victims on the job. Sometimes each type has a subspecies categorization: for instance, some bulldozer are rough and obvious from their in-the-mouth machinations. Other bulldozers can be smoother and more subtle. Whatever the manifestation, however, each of these seven types are best handled by developing an array of allies at work who can help give advice and documents the bad behavior you're experiencing. As to executives, they're too busy and too eager to see themselves above the fray, West counsels; so you've got to make your own way forward. Tessa West is an associate professor of psychology at New York University. She has published over 60 articles in psychology's most prestigious journals and has received multiple grants, including from the National Science Foundation and the National Institutes of Health, in addition to writing regularly about her research in The Wall Street Journal. Dan Hill, PhD, is the author of ten books and leads Sensory Logic, Inc. (https://www.sensorylogic.com). His latest two books are Blah Blah Blah: A Snarky Guide to Office Lingo and Emotionomics 2.0: The Emotional Dynamics Underlying Key Business Goals. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our guest on this episode is social psychologist Tessa West, who's an expert on difficult workplace relationships. She's an associate professor of psychology at New York University who specializes in interpersonal interaction and communication. Her newest book is called "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them."  Her website is https://www.tessawestauthor.com/   Our sponsor, LightStream, is the nation's premier online consumer lender.  If you want to reduce your credit card debt, one way to get ahead is by consolidating that debt and paying a low, fixed rate loan instead.  LightStream makes the process simple. You can get a loan from $5000 to $100,000 and there are absolutely no fees.  You can even get your money as soon as the day you apply.  Rates start at 7.99% APR with Autopay and excellent credit. Just for our listeners, apply now to get a special interest rate discount and save even more.  The ONLY way to get this discount is to go to LIGHTSTREAM.com/NTM. ; Subject to credit approval.  Rates range from 7.99% to 23.99% APR and include 0.50% AutoPay discount.  Lowest rate requires excellent credit.  Terms and conditions apply and offers are subject to change without notice.   Our sponsor, Zocdoc, is the only FREE app that lets you find AND book doctors who are patient reviewed, take your insurance, are available when you need them and treat almost every condition under the sun.   On Zocdoc, you'll find quality doctors who focus on you, listen to you and prioritize your care.  Go to Zocdoc.com/NTM and download the Zocdoc app for FREE!  Then, find and book a top-rated doctor today.  Many are available within 24 hours.  If you have a symptom that you'd really like to get checked out, don't put it off any more!  Go to Zocdoc.com/NTM and download the Zocdoc app for FREE!

Whether on Zoom or in-person, there is always a coworker or two who get under our skin. Tessa West is an associate professor of psychology at New York University, and she joins host Krys Boyd to discuss the different personality types that tend to make work miserable and the methods of social psychology you can employ to neutralize them. Her book is called “Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them.” This episode originally aired on March 29, 2022

From cubicles to open floor plans, from conference rooms to Slack channels and Zoom calls, the workplace has changed a great deal over the years. There is one thing that never changes, however. You'll always have to deal at some point with workplace jerks who can wreak havoc in your professional life, career and role. Joining us today is Tessa West, a Professor of Psychology at New York University, where she is a leading expert on interpersonal interaction and communication.  Tessa has published over 60 articles in the field of psychology's most prestigious journals, and has received multiple grants, including from the National Science Foundation and the National Institutes of Health. She is the recipient of the Theoretical Innovation Prize from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology and writes regularly about her research in The Wall Street Journal. Tessa is also the author of the book, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them. Today, we take a closer look at the seven types of jerks that she describes and dive into her definitive guide for dealing with (and ultimately breaking free from) the overbearing bosses, irritating coworkers, and all-around difficult people who can make your work-life miserable. To learn how to spot a jerk and also how to ask for the right kind of feedback you need to prevent you from becoming a jerk yourself, plus helpful strategies for dealing with workplace jerks, tips for finding great allies, and so much more, don't miss this episode.    Key Highlights From This Episode: How Tessa landed on this topic and what compelled her to write about it [02:55] Cultural norms that steer us away from conflict and why we need to learn to face it [04:46] The seven types of jerks and how to identify them [11:25] What these jerks might have experienced in childhood that drives their behavior today [17:10] The fascinating origins of the term ‘gaslighting' and how it relates to narcissism [29:32] Proven strategies for handling each type of jerk [30:32] Tips for reframing your work relationships and finding trusted allies [32:30] Encouragement and advice for dealing with jerks and toxic coworkers [36:35] How to recognize if you're the jerk at work [37:44]   For More Information: Tessa West Tessa West at NYU Connect with Tessa on LinkedIn and Twitter Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Tessa's book, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them, on Amazon and Audible. 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We don't learn how to detect jerks early. We don't learn how to have conflict early. A lot of these problems stew. Eventually, we maybe get fed up [or] we turn to coping mechanisms that don't work.” — @TessaWestNYU [0:03:45] “You imagine conflict more than you actually [encounter] it. That perception is what leads us to avoid these situations.” — @TessaWestNYU [0:08:29] “We know that adult attachment styles don't just affect your personal relationships; they affect your workplace ones as well.” — @TessaWestNYU [0:17:33] “Gaslighters cause the most long-term damage out of all these types [of jerks]. The psychological warfare they engage in is just next level!” — @TessaWestNYU [0:27:24] “This stuff is hard. If anyone comes to you and says, ‘There's a quick fix. If you just did X, Y, and Z, these problems would go away,' don't believe them!” — @TessaWestNYU [0:36:47] “It's all about the small behavioral changes. Little things accumulate. Don't try to hit [the problem] with a hammer. 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You're working under a boss who really rubs you the wrong way. So you quit your job and take another. But in your new office, you find yourself stuck with a co-worker who bugs the tar out of you.The presence of annoying, incompetent, and underhanded people isn't a particular workplace problem, but a universal human problem. In any and every group of people, there are going to be bothersome and troublesome personalities.So if you can't entirely escape them, how do you get along with your fellow humans at work? My guest today has some research-backed advice. Her name is Tessa West, and she's a professor of psychology and the author of Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them. Today on the show, Tessa describes the seven types of jerks you run into at work — the kiss-up/kick-downer, credit stealer, bulldozer, free rider, micromanager, neglectful boss, and gaslighter — and shares what drives their respective behaviors and how to deal with them.Resources Related to the PodcastAoM Article: How to Deal With Bad CoworkersLet Me Google That For YouAoM Podcast #627: How to Deal With Jerks, Bullies, Tyrants, and TrollsAoM Podcast #799: Getting Along Is OverratedAoM Podcast #559: How to Handle Difficult ConversationsConnect With Tessa WestTessa's Website

By now you've probably heard about "quiet quitting," the latest workplace trend to blow the minds of journalists and social media posters alike. This stunning act of rebellion involves employees doing the work they are paid to do. Seriously. That's what quiet quitting is. It's neither quiet nor quitting, but it's a movement nonetheless. The hoopla, of course, is about what these mutinous workers are NOT doing. They're not making charitable donations of their time and energy to their employers. They're not responding to work emails at their kids' birthday parties. They're not spending extra (unpaid) hours in the office as a matter of course. They're not viewing the contents of their job descriptions as "the bare minimum." And so, in solidarity with this movement, we present a stripped-down, "bare minimum" deep-dive into quiet quitting. Articles and Books Discussed in this Episode:What Is Quiet Quitting on TikTok?If Your Co-Workers Are ‘Quiet Quitting,' Here's What That MeansQuiet Quitting: Why Doing the Bare Minimum at Work Has Gone GlobalEmployees Say ‘Quiet Quitting' Is Just Setting Boundaries. Companies Fear Long-Term EffectsA Look at 'Quiet Quitting' — and Whether It's a Good or Bad ThingThe Backlash to Quiet Quitting Smacks of Another Attempt by the Ruling Class to Get Workers Back Under Their Thumbs: Am I Wrong?Tessa West: Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About ThemVisit us at busynessparadox.com for the transcript to this episode. Check out some of our blog posts and other content while you're there!

“No siempre estaremos preparados para lidiar con personas conflictivas, muy en especial cuando somos nuevos en un entorno laboral”. Esta es la afirmación de Tessa West, psicóloga social quien publicó el libro “Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them” (Los idiotas en el trabajo: Compañeros tóxicos y cómo lidiar con ellos), de donde se deriva el artículo publicado en la prestigiosa revista Harvard Business Review, del cual hago un breve resumen para este podcast. Aquí podrás conocer: ¿Quiénes son esos 5 idiotas a quiénes encontrarás en tu trabajo? ¿Cuáles son sus características? ¿Qué ambientes y comportamientos los impulsan? y ¿Cómo puedes lidiar con estos indeseables? Puedes leer toda la transcripción del audio con sus notas y vínculos en el Blog de Grupos Mastermind entrando en: http://bit.ly/tmpod O, accede directamente al post en: http://bit.ly/emision777 Allí mismo encontrarás casi todos los artículos correspondientes a cada emisión del Podcast. Si necesitas información acerca de ésta y cualquier otra entrada del Blog o del Podcast ponte en contacto conmigo a info@themanagerspodcast.com o entra en mi página web https://www.themanagerspodcast.com También puedes seguirme en YOUTUBE en ´El Canal de Gustavo Pérez’: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-y63mQhEnCU5ec5aqbdfjA Si estás interesado en participar en uno de los Grupos Mastermind que gestiono, puedes contactarme también en: http://www.facebook.com/TheManagersPodcast En Twitter y en Instagram soy @podcastmanager Escucha el episodio completo en la app de iVoox, o descubre todo el catálogo de iVoox Originals

Scooters. Bikes. E-mopeds. If you're an urban dweller, you've probably seen a variety of these vehicles whizzing by—and you're likely to see more in the future. In this episode of The McKinsey Podcast, McKinsey partner Kersten Heineke speaks with global editorial director Lucia Rahilly about micromobility: who's using it, why it's becoming more popular, and how cities can adapt to a future of tiny transportation. Following their conversation, we hear from NYU associate professor of psychology Tessa West about toxic coworkers. In her book, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them (Portfolio, January 2022), featured in a recent edition of our Author Talks series, West describes how to handle jerks at work–and how not to become one yourself. Theme music written, produced and performed by Joy Ngiaw.See www.mckinsey.com/privacy-policy for privacy information

Scooters. Bikes. E-mopeds. If you're an urban dweller, you've probably seen a variety of these vehicles whizzing by—and you're likely to see more in the future. In this episode of The McKinsey Podcast, McKinsey partner Kersten Heineke speaks with global editorial director Lucia Rahilly about micromobility: who's using it, why it's becoming more popular, and how cities can adapt to a future of tiny transportation. Following their conversation, we hear from NYU associate professor of psychology Tessa West about toxic coworkers. In her book, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them (Portfolio, January 2022), featured in a recent edition of our Author Talks series, West describes how to handle jerks at work–and how not to become one yourself. Theme music written, produced and performed by Joy Ngiaw. Read more > Listen to the podcast (duration: 27:02) >

We've all had to deal with problematic bosses or coworkers at some point in our career journeys. But the issue is how can you deal with them in a productive way, so everyone still feels comfortable in the workplace and gets their work done.Tessa West is a Professor of Psychology at New York University and a leading expert in the science of interpersonal communication. Her research focuses on questions such as: How can we improve communication across cultural and national divides, and what hurdles do we need to overcome to make hybrid communication work? She is also the author of “Jerks at Work” which focuses on coping with toxic colleagues.Tessa joins Greg to talk about how toxicity can affect productivity in an office environment, maybe having some empathy for the jerks, credit stealing, and finding allies within the workplace.Episode Quotes:Three rules to consider before quitting your jobI have a couple rules. One is, the person who's creating these problems, you know, or the person who's in charge of the person creating these problems, are they motivated to change? Are they motivated to fix it? So, if the motivation isn't there, you're not going to get anywhere. And then the second piece of that is, assuming they're not motivated, how much flexibility do you have at all to shift over to a new team? To a new manager? If you're stuck in this kind of power dynamic, they are not motivated to change and these behaviors are deal-breakers, it's just like any relationship—you don't really have much of a choice but to exit. But I would definitely try, you know, having some of those conflict conversations. Don't kind of jump out right away because you think the grass is greener. You know, we're seeing with the great resignation, a lot of people are surprisingly wishing they had their old job back because we have very little evidence that the new place we're going to is any better. So, I'd add the kind of last piece of advice is, when you're thinking about leaving and you know where you're going to go next, you have to put them through the same kind of gauntlet that you put your old job through to make sure that those same problems, or even worse problems you've never even heard of, don't exist. And we don't interrogate new jobs in the same way that we interrogate our existing jobs. We sort of always assume it's going to be better. But you have to really interrogate them before you make that step, because if you're not careful, you're just going to have a career of a whole bunch of horizontal moves. And it's going to be very hard to climb up.What “toxic” really meansWe use the word "toxic" a lot. We throw it around. And everyone says it, but no one knows what it means. And I think it's very much in the eye of the beholder. One person's toxic coworker, or toxic boss, is another person's someone with leadership potential who knows how to get ahead here.How smart jerks can turn your good traits into badSo, one thing that bosses do is they try to show as much trust in teams as possible. So, there's this whole movement out there to not micromanage, to trust people. We use this kind of vague language that implies that, if we're overseeing them too much, if we're communicating with them too much, they're going to burn out, they're going to get irritated, they want autonomy, you know, all that kind of good stuff. But smart jerks at work will take advantage of cultures that are trying to sort of create that level of autonomy by sneaking in and actually taking over the reins and communicating for their boss, often, for people who are not one step beneath the boss but two steps beneath them.Show Links:Recommended Resources:Diederik StapelGuest Profile:Faculty Profile at New York UniversityProfessional Profile at BrightSight SpeakersTessa West WebsiteTessa West on LinkedInTessa West on TwitterHer Work:Tessa West on Google ScholarTessa West on SubstackThe West Interpersonal Perception LabJerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them

Nora chats with NYU psychology professor Tessa West about her book Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them, and offers strategies on how to deal with difficult people at work (from co-workers to managers), and communication tips that go beyond confrontation, to knowing how and when to speak up. For more info on our presenting sponsor, check out realvision.com/businesscasual. Host: Nora Ali Producer: Bella Hutchins  Video Editors: McKenzie Marshall and Christie Muldoon Production, Mixing & Sound Design: Daniel Markus Music: Daniel Markus & Breakmaster Cylinder Fact Checker: Kate Brandt  Senior Producer: Katherine Milsop VP, Head of Multimedia: Sarah Singer  Full transcripts for all Business Casual episodes available at https://businesscasual.fm

Tessa West (@tessawestnyu) is a social psychology professor at New York University and the author of Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them. What We Discuss with Tessa West: The seven types of jerks at work: the kiss up/kick down, the credit stealer, the bulldozer, the free rider, the micromanager, the neglectful boss, and the gaslighter. Why prioritizing conflict management as a skill is crucial for identifying and coexisting with jerks at work. How to stop the jerks at work from taking credit for all of your good ideas. Have mercy: jerks at work aren't necessarily villains -- their poor patterns hurt them just as much as they hurt everyone else. What we can do to ensure that we're not the jerks at work. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/706 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss the first show we did with Pivot co-host and NYU Stern School of Business professor Scott Galloway? Catch up here with episode 204: Solving the Algebra of Happiness! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!

IN THIS EPISODE: Chances are you've dealt with a jerk or two at work. But there's an even stronger possibility you've gone about it the wrong way -- and possibly made a bad situation worse. In Episode 87, Tessa West deconstructs jerky behavior and helps us place it into a larger context. You'll learn how to identify different jerk profiles (they come in different shapes and sizes), how to gather helpful intel and allies, and how to resolve problems with losing your standing or sanity. This is a great conversation for anyone dealing with those tricky interpersonal dynamics at work and may even shed some light on our own subtle tendencies to play the part of the jerk without realizing it. After listening to Tessa, you'll have a whole new set of strategies for handling jerks at work. ABOUT TESSA WEST: Tessa West is an Associate Professor of Psychology at New York University and a leading expert in the science of interpersonal communication. Her work has appeared numerous outlets in the popular press, including Scientific American, the New York Times, ABC World News, TIME, The Guardian, Bloomberg, Strategy and Business, and was even cited before the US Supreme Court. She's a regular contributor to the Wall Street Journal and is the author of Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What To Do About Them. Website | Twitter

In this Better@Work episode, we're excited to welcome the amazing Tessa West for a high energy, fun and insightful chat. I came across Tessa in the last year through her amazing book, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to do About Them. Social psychologist Tessa has spent years leveraging science to help people solve interpersonal conflicts in the workplace. What she discovered is that most of our go-to tactics don't work because they fail to address the specific motivations that drive bad behaviour. In the book, she deep dives the seven jerks you're most likely to encounter in the workplace, drawing on decades of original research to expose their inner workings and weak points — and ultimately deliver an effective game plan for stopping each type before they take you down with them. It's a book I wish I had many years ago.  Quick episode breakdown: I chat with Tessa around what her inspired to work in the area of interpersonal interaction and communication, and why she wrote her book Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to do About Them  Tessa talks about the seven types (archetypes) of jerks at work; kiss-up/kick-downer, credit stealer, bulldozer, free-rider, micromanager, neglectful boss and the gaslighter We agree there are always jerks at work, however you can deal with them by understanding how they tick, and using tactics to understand their motivations and restore your emotional wellbeing I share my challenges with a gaslighter and micromanager and we talk through the types of conflicts you're likely to encounter in the workplace and evidence-based approaches for dealing with toxic bosses, annoying coworkers, and difficult people at work. While dealing with challenging people is not easy, we also have some fun talking through some of personal examples of toxic individuals (sometimes you have to laugh are their brazen approach, humour helps too!!).  Tessa talks to me about her quiz we can take to make sure we are not the jerk at work Finally, Tessa shares an amazing tip on some advice she received which makes her better at work Let's Take This offline In our “Let's take this offline” segment I debrief on Tessa's key insights with my friend Annette and answer a question from Emma about dealing with a difficult manager.  Get in touch: Cathal@betteratwork.com.au or https://betteratwork.com.au Get in touch on Instagram: @betteratwork_ Get in touch on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cathal-quinlan/ Send us a question or leave us a voicemail: https://betteratwork.com.au/contact-us/ Get the newsletter: https://betteratwork.com.au/ About Tessa Tessa West is an Associate Professor of Psychology at New York University. A leading expert on interpersonal interaction and communication, and quantitative analysis and statistics, her work has been covered in the New York Times, The Guardian, the WSJ, TIME, the Huffington Post and The Globe and Mail. Her experiences as a rising leader in the world of academia - often as the only woman, and youngest person in the role by a magnitude of decades - have given her a unique perspective on jerks at work. She regularly gives talks to global organisations including Capital One, KPMG, Gilead and Pfizer, to help employees improve their relationships.   Book: Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to do About Them Quiz: “Am I a Jerk at Work?” Website: TessaWestAuthor.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hosted by Andrew Keen, Keen On features conversations with some of the world's leading thinkers and writers about the economic, political, and technological issues being discussed in the news, right now. In this episode, Andrew is joined by Tessa West, co-author of Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do about Them. Tessa West is an Associate Professor of Psychology at New York University, where she is a leading expert on interpersonal interaction and communication. She has published over 60 articles in the field of psychology's most prestigious journals, and has received multiple grants, including from the National Science Foundation and the National Institutes of Health. She is the recipient of the Theoretical Innovation Prize from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology. She writes regularly about her research in the Wall Street Journal. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our guest on this episode is social psychologist Tessa West, who's an expert on difficult workplace relationships. She's an associate professor of psychology at New York University who specializes in interpersonal interaction and communication. Her newest book is called "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them." If your work environment is stressful, you may find it impacting your home life as well. You might have an overbearing boss or an irritating coworker who's making your life miserable and taking a toll on your mental health. If this sounds like you, then you won't want to miss this one! Thanks to our sponsors of this episode! --> Athletic Greens: Athletic Green's AG One is a special blend of ingredients that supports your gut health, nervous system, immune system, energy recovery, focus and aging. Athletic Greens uses the best products based on the latest science with constant product iterations. Right now, it's time to reclaim your health and arm your immune system with convenient daily nutrition, especially in the flu and cold season. Athletic greens is going to give you a free one year supply of immune supporting vitamin D and five free travel packs with your first purchase. All you have to do is visit athleticgreens.com/ntm. --> LinkedIn: Being professional is more than what you do for work. It's finding the right balance between work and life and prioritizing the things that really matter. Right now, LinkedIn members are talking about things like needing more flexibility around where we work, how we work, and even taking time away from work to focus on family or mental health. Those things shouldn't stunt career development and growth. Instead, they should enhance it as we show up on our own terms. It just makes sense that your potential clients, customers, or employers want to hire someone who's authentic– they want to know who you really are. You're more than just a job title. Visit www.linkedin.com to create an account or sign in to update your profile and join the conversation today! →NordPass: NordPass is a simple, easy to use, and very secure password manager created by the cyber security experts who built NordVPN, the advanced online security and privacy app trusted by millions of users around the world. NordPass will generate secure passwords for you, and there's no need to memorize all of them because NordPass stores them in one place. NordPass has an autofill feature so you can log in faster, and NordPass is a zero knowledge password manager, which means that no one else, but you can see what's in your encrypted vault. Get 70% off a two year plus an additional month free NordPass premium plan at www.nordpass.com/nobodytoldme or use code nobodytoldme. Valid through March 17th. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the intro, Sarah and Laura discuss their creative processes -- how do they come up with ideas, content, writing? Then, social psychology professor and author Tessa West joins Laura to chat about "Jerks at Work" -- her phrasing and part of the title of her upcoming book, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them.In the Q&A, a science professor writes in asking how to help students/postdocs set and reach for goals.Episode Sponsors:Daily Harvest: Delicious and convenient meals shipped to your home! Go to dailyharvest.com/bestof to get up to forty dollars off your first boxCaraway Home: Nontoxic cookware made modern. Visit Carawayhome.com/bestof to take advantage of a limited-time offer for 10% off your next purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the intro, Sarah and Laura discuss their creative processes -- how do they come up with ideas, content, writing? Then, social psychology professor and author Tessa West joins Laura to chat about "Jerks at Work" -- her phrasing and part of the title of her upcoming book, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them. In the Q&A, a science professor writes in asking how to help students/postdocs set and reach for goals. Episode Sponsors: Daily Harvest: Delicious and convenient meals shipped to your home! Go to dailyharvest.com/bestof to get up to forty dollars off your first box Caraway Home: Nontoxic cookware made modern. Visit Carawayhome.com/bestof to take advantage of a limited-time offer for 10% off your next purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Talk Nerdy, Cara is joined by NYU psychology professor Dr. Tessa West to talk about her new book, "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them." They talk about the types of conflicts you're likely to encounter in the workplace and evidence-based approaches for dealing with toxic bosses, annoying coworkers, and all-around jerks at work.

Tessa West addresses the seven common types of jerks at work–and how to deal with them effectively. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) How to tell if someone is being an intentional jerk at work 2) How to identify your particular type of work jerk 3) How to tell if you're the jerk at workSubscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep745 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT TESSA — Tessa West is an Associate Professor of Psychology at New York University, where she is a leading expert on interpersonal interaction and communication. She has published over 60 articles in the field of psychology's most prestigious journals, and has received multiple grants from the National Science Foundation and the National Institutes of Health. She writes regularly about her research in the Wall Street Journal. • Book: Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to do About Them • Quiz: “Am I a Jerk at Work?” • Website: TessaWestAuthor.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: Children of Time by Adrian Tchaikovsky — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • University of California Irvine. Chart your course to career success at ce.uci.edu/learnnow See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The show opens with Ken Sweezey talking about his campaign for State Representative in the 6th Plymouth District. Emmy Award-winning filmmaker Noube Rateau and Carlito Weaver discussing their new film, I Am You - Immigration in America, which opens on March 24th. Tessa West, Author of, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them, shares insight from her new book. Finally, State Senator Diana DiZoglio talks about her campaign for State Auditor.   Do you have an topic for a future show or info on an upcoming community event? Email us at mondaynighttalk@gmail.com. If you're a fan of the show and enjoy our segments, you can either download your favorite segment from this site or subscribe to our podcasts through iTunes today!  © Monday Night Talk with Kevin Tocci - 2022. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from the show host and/or owner is strictly prohibited.          

Tessa West, author and Associate Professor of Psychology at NYU, discusses her new book "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What To Do About Them". She identifies the types of jerks you're likely to encounter in the workplace—from overbearing bosses to irritating colleagues—and provides a strategic and ethical game plan for breaking free from these difficult people.

Whether your work is in person or remote, dealing with a jerk in the workplace sucks. Social psychologist Tessa Went has dedicated time researching the difficult coworkers we encounter in the office and actually found seven common archetypes that exist among them. Her book, Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them is a guide to dealing with the overbearing bosses, irritating coworkers, and all-around difficult people who make work and life miserable. On the pod, Tessa talks about the types of jerks we find at the workplace, as well as some ways to address their irritating behavior. She also touches on some habits we can develop to make work more enjoyable for everyone.

Social psychologist Tessa West joins us to share ideas on how to deal with toxic coworkers in new book: "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them."

Kelly commiserates with NYU professor Tessa West about her new book,  “Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What To Do About Them.” “The antidote to jerks at work is friends at work.” “Bad behavior at work is contagious.” “Record keeping is kryptonite to gaslighters.” #collaboration#leadership#resilience