Better Relationships After Baby

Once we learned about the mental load, we thought we were on the same page. But that first conversation? It brought up more frustration than clarity. In this episode, we share how our first attempt to talk about the mental load went sideways, the common mistakes couples make in these moments, and the small shifts that helped us move from blame to real teamwork.Whether you're just learning about the mental load or you've tried bringing it up (and hit a wall), this episode gives you real talk, relatable moments, and practical ways to start the conversation again — with more connection and less conflict.This episode is audio from a live chat between Chels + Mike. Should we start a "Mornings with Chels and Mike" segment? Let us know!

>For the first 4 years of our parenting journey, we didn't know what the mental load was, let alone how deeply it was impacting our connection, our communication, and our resentment.In this honest conversation, we share what our relationship looked like before we had the words, how the invisible labor kept building tension, and what shifted when we finally named it.Whether you're new to the idea of the mental load or you're trying to help your partner understand it, this episode gives you language, validation, and a behind-the-scenes look at how one small vocabulary change can create big relational shifts.

From postpartum rage to career stress to spiritual deconstruction, we've walked through some serious identity earthquakes and nearly walked away from our marriage. We know what it's like to sit in silence at the end of a long day, feeling more like roommates than partners. To wonder if things will ever feel good again. To carry the mental load, the emotional labor, and the resentment that builds when no one talks about what's really going on after the baby.This conversation kicks off a new chapter in our marriage, in our business, and on this podcast. We're sharing the honest truth about the hard seasons, the awkward conversations, the near misses... and the daily work it took to move from disconnection to reconnection.Whether you're in the newborn fog, navigating toddler chaos, or just feeling like the spark is gone, this episode is your reminder that you're not alone, and it is possible to find your way back.

If your emotional hangover keeps crashing your good days, or your confidence lives and dies by your partner's mood… we need to talk. This one's coming in hot with equal parts spicy and supportive. In this tough love episode, I'm channeling my no-BS grandma to call out three common ways women self-sabotage in relationships and life:Expecting the good to fall apartHanding your power over to your partnerHiding your insecurity behind "busy"If you've ever felt like you're stuck in a loop of doing the same things and expecting different results, this episode is your wake-up call and your warm hug. We're not here to stay small. We're here to break cycles and expand our capacity for more joy, connection, and confidence. Let's go.If you recognized yourself in any of this, it's time to stop circling the same drain. Book a clarity coaching call and let's get you unstuck, because the patterns aren't going to change unless you do something different.www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration

Feel like you're the only one trying to keep the conversation (and the relationship) alive? In this episode, Chelsea Skaggs breaks down how to get your partner to open up and communicate—without nagging, resentment, or repeating yourself 100 times. We'll talk about why your partner may be emotionally shut down, how gender conditioning plays a role in communication breakdowns, and how to use curiosity, timing, and real-life scripts to shift the dynamic in your relationship.If you're craving deeper connection, less defensiveness, and way fewer one-sided convos—this episode is for you.

Feeling touched out as a mom is so real — and so under-talked about.In this episode, we're diving into what it means to feel touched out, how overstimulation affects your connection in marriage and motherhood, and what to do when your nervous system is begging for a break.Host Chelsea Skaggs (mom, relationship coach, and author of upcoming release: Talk Like a Team) shares her personal story of being physically and emotionally maxed out after baby #2, the guilt she had around asking for space, and the empowering communication shifts that helped her find herself again.You'll learn:What "touched out" really means — and why it's more than just being tiredHow sensory overload impacts intimacy, connection, and mental healthWays to set physical boundaries without shutting your family outLanguage upgrades that help you advocate for your needs without guilt or blameWhy this isn't a sign of failure — but a powerful cue for self-careWhether you're a stay-at-home mom, working mom, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you name what you're feeling, normalize the need for space, and give you tools to reconnect with yourself and your people.

You planned the trip. Packed the bags. Hoped for rest.But somehow, you're still managing tantrums, tracking snacks, and wondering why your partner is chilling while you're losing it in the hotel bathroom.Sound familiar?In this episode, I'm breaking down why so many family vacations leave one parent drained (usually you), and how to shift the dynamic before, during, and after the trip — so both of you get a break, feel seen, and actually enjoy your time away.We'll talk about:The pre-vacation convo every couple needs (and why it's not about the itinerary)Real-life rhythms that help you tag-team instead of keeping scorePhrases to use when things get tense — so you reset instead of explodeHow to stop feeling like the vacation manager and start feeling like a team againBecause vacation should be a break for both of you.Let's make it happen.

In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, we're not just opening the windows and scrubbing baseboards—we're clearing out the emotional dust bunnies that quietly build up in your relationship. Inspired by a junk drawer declutter (spoiler: it wasn't even my stuff), I'm diving into the invisible messes—like unspoken expectations, unchosen roles, and the quiet resentment that chips away at your connection.You'll hear real talk about:How the default parent role might be wearing you downWhy unspoken expectations create lingering tensionAnd how to name the needs that are currently going unmetPlus, I'll walk you through 3 core emotional blocks and give you reflective questions to get honest about what's taking up space in your relationship.

Arguments happen. Misunderstandings are inevitable. But what separates thriving couples from those who grow distant isn't how often they argue, it's how they repair. In this real-talk episode, Chelsea Skaggs breaks down why your fights aren't necessarily a problem, how your body and brain store emotional memories (hello, Inside Out fans!), and the simple but powerful ways you can create more connection even after a hard conversation. Plus, she shares a personal story of a recent tearful moment with her husband and how it surprisingly became a moment of deeper intimacy.If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is "normal" because you argue, this one is for you. It's not about perfection. It's about learning to heal and grow together.Ready to build a relationship that stores more joy than resentment? Let's dig in. Book a free consultation call with me here to learn more about how to work with me: www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-explorationelationship communicationemotional repairhealthy conflict resolutionmarriage advicearguing in relationshipshow to repair after a fightbuilding intimacy after conflictemotional connection in marriagecouples who arguehealthy argumentsstoring emotional memoriesemotional intimacyconflict repair skillsrelationship advice podcastmarriage communication tipsfighting and repairingrelationship repair strategiesimproving emotional connectionreal talk about marriageInside Out emotional memorieshow couples fight and healemotional memory storageresentment vs repairhealthy marriage habitspartnership communicationavoiding relationship resentment

Is your relationship “fine”... but not exactly thriving?In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, I (Chelsea Skaggs) break down the key differences between relationship coaching and therapy—and why coaching might be the proactive support your partnership actually needs.From couples feeling disconnected after having kids to those craving more communication, intimacy, and emotional connection, I'll share how my coaching approach helps you move forward—not just dig into the past.You'll learn why emotional intelligence is crucial for modern relationships, how a personalized Relationship Blueprint can reignite your connection, and why waiting until a crisis isn't the only option.Whether you're in the thick of parenting, navigating the emotional load, or just ready for deeper relationship growth, this episode offers tools, insights, and a fresh perspective on investing in your partnership.

In this powerful and raw conversation, Chelsea sits down with Fred Van Riper, a Fair Play facilitator and men's relationship coach, to unpack the invisible forces shaping our partnerships—particularly the role of patriarchy and gendered expectations. Together, we explore how societal norms have impacted both men and women, why conversations around vulnerability, emotional labor, and mental health are often avoided, and what true partnership really requires.From reframing what it means to be a provider to acknowledging unprocessed shame and stepping into emotional ownership, this episode challenges listeners, especially men, to get uncomfortable and take real steps toward change. If you've ever felt stuck in traditional roles or unsure how to create an equitable, empowered relationship, this conversation is your starting point.Topics include:Why vulnerability is a strength, not a weaknessThe unseen cost of the patriarchy for men and womenWhy men must lead in dismantling toxic normsThe blame-shame loop in relationshipsHow to start building emotional safety and communityTakeaway:It's not about blame—it's about responsibility. We don't need perfect solutions, but we do need committed partners. This is your invitation to do the inner and relational work.Connect with Fred: Transform Your Life: Coaching for High-Achieving Men | Seat at the TableConnect with Chelsea: Chelsea Skaggs Coaching

Has your relationship felt heavier lately? You're not alone. In this episode, we are here to discuss the rising tension I'm seeing in couples, especially during this election season in the U.S. — a season that's loud, divisive, and emotionally charged. Whether you're in a marriage, co-parenting partnership, or navigating family and friendships, political conversations are starting to feel like landmines.I'm not here to tell you who to vote for. I'm here to help you protect your relationship while honoring your values, especially when you and your partner see the world differently.In this episode, you'll hear:Why political talk feels so personal (spoiler: it's not just about policies)How mismatched views can trigger identity-level conflict in relationshipsThe 3 most common tension patterns couples fall into — and how to shift themWhy your home needs to be a “safe landing place,” now more than everEncouragement to turn toward each other instead of away — even when you disagreeThis is the real-talk, empathy, and empowerment that makes me your favorite big sister voice in the world of modern parenting and relationships. If you're wondering how to keep your connection strong through disagreement — and even grow because of it — this one's for you.

Feeling lonely in your relationship, even when you're together all the time? You're not alone. In this episode, I'll share about the quiet disconnection that can creep into long-term partnerships. We'll get into how love can exist alongside loneliness, why emotional distance happens, and how to rebuild a sense of connection. I'm sharing personal experiences, insights from working with couples, and practical ways to break out of the “roommate” cycle. If you're craving deeper conversations, emotional closeness, and more intentional moments with your partner, this episode is for you.What to expect in this short-and-sweet episodeSigns you might be stuck in a loneliness cycleSmall shifts to create deeper daily connectionHow to respond to your partner's bids for attentionMy 4-month Relationship Roadmap Coaching for couplesIf this resonates, take a moment to reflect—and if you're ready for more support, let's talk. Helpful Links:FREEBIE: Spring Cleaning Your RelationshipOFFER: The Confident Mom ResetOFFER: Relationship Coaching Hang with me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationships.after.babyRelationship lonelinessEmotional disconnectionFeeling lonely in marriageMarriage strugglesRelationship connectionCommunication in relationshipsRebuilding intimacyMarriage supportRelationship coachingEmotional intimacyFeeling like roommatesStrengthening your marriageImproving communicationRelationship advice for couples

In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, I sit down with Nicole Buckley a licensed perinatal therapist and the voice behind Raising Good Parents, to talk about one of the biggest struggles for new parents: asking for help. We break down the barriers that keep moms stuck in burnout mode, why so many of us feel like we have to do it all, and how learning to ask for help can transform not only your own well-being but also your relationship. Nicole shares practical strategies, mindset shifts, and real-life examples to help you step out of survival mode and into a more supported, balanced version of motherhood. Plus, we chat about the impact of the pandemic on today's parents and how to move forward with healthier expectations. If you've ever felt overwhelmed but didn't know how to ask for help, this episode is for you!

Do you ever find yourself in the same argument on repeat? One of you gets louder, pushing for resolution, while the other shuts down and checks out. This common cycle isn't just personality differences—it's your nervous system at work. In this episode, we break down why this happens and how to shift the dynamic so you and your partner can communicate better, repair faster, and actually solve the issue.Curious about what the biggest disconnect is in your relationship? Find out in 2 minutes with this free quiz: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/6722c41de89981a813192c52Ready to take control of your relationship so you can enjoy your partner and your life more? Schedule a free meet-and-greet with me to discuss coaching options: https://calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-explorationDid you enjoy the episode? Please leave a review! It means so much to me.

Your relationship doesn't crumble in one big moment—it's the small, everyday fractures that make the foundation weak. In this episode, we're breaking down how to build a relationship that can withstand stress, conflict, and the inevitable hard times.You'll learn:✅ Why couples don't fall apart in dramatic explosions—but in the unnoticed moments✅ How 30-second check-ins can change everything✅ The power of repairing quickly instead of letting resentment build✅ One thing you and your partner can turn to when things get toughHard times are coming—it's not a matter of if but when. The strongest couples aren't avoiding the storm; they're building a foundation that can handle it. Let's talk about how to do that, together.Listen now & start strengthening your relationship today!Ready to get serious about enjoying your relationship and your roommate? Schedule a free meet-and-greet call with me to learn about relationship roadmapping.

Download my FREE Relationship Jumpstart Bundle (Including conversation starters about the mental load): https://chelseaskaggs.kit.com/relationship-jumpstart In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea discusses the invisible weight of the mental load—the planning, remembering, and anticipating that often falls on one partner (usually women). If you've ever felt frustrated that your partner “just doesn't see” everything you manage, this episode will help you unpack why that happens—and what to do about it.Chelsea breaks down how small fights over chores or schedules are actually about deeper issues of cognitive labor and emotional burden. She shares practical, no-BS solutions to help couples shift household responsibilities, communicate more effectively, and build a more balanced partnership.Takeaways:Fighting over small things often masks deeper issuesWomen typically carry the majority of the mental loadResentment builds when one partner feels overburdenedDirect conversations—not passive frustration—create changeReallocating entire responsibilities (not just tasks) prevents micromanagingWeekly check-ins help keep the balance in checkChapters:00:00 - Introduction to the Mental Load02:51 - Understanding the Mental Load04:39 - The Impact of Mental Load on Relationships08:49 - Shifting the Dynamic: Solutions for Couples11:38 - Practical Steps to Balance ResponsibilitiesTune in now and take the first step toward a more balanced partnership.

Tune into tomorrow's episode to learn what you CAN DO to stop arguing over "nothing" and address the common struggles in your relationship.

Feeling overwhelmed but hesitant to ask your partner for more help? You're not alone. Many of us fear that asking for support will come across as nagging or ungrateful—but the truth is, appreciation and needing more can (and should) go hand in hand.In this episode, we'll break down the psychology behind why appreciation motivates behavior change, how to communicate your needs without resentment, and the key to creating a more balanced partnership. Research shows that healthy relationships thrive on a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions (Gottman Institute), meaning the way we ask for help directly impacts the response we get.You'll walk away with:A step-by-step conversation framework for asking for more helpThe science behind why appreciation increases follow-throughWord-for-word phrases to keep the conversation productiveTips for navigating defensiveness or pushbackIf you've ever felt like you're carrying too much but don't want to start an argument, this episode is for you. Hit play now and learn how to ask for what you need—while still making your partner feel valued.Let's keep the conversation going! DM me on Instagram [@chelseabrookeskaggs] and let me know your biggest takeaway!Interested in using coaching as a tool to make the growth you want? Email me chelsea@postpartumtogether.com to explore options!

Ever feel like you're carrying the weight of your household while your partner gets a free pass? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm joined by Sandi Konta, an expert in the Fair Play method, to break down how couples can move toward more balance and partnership at home.We dive into:✅ The hidden ways we become complicit in our own oppression✅ Why you have to step back if you want your partner to step up✅ How Fair Play helps redefine roles and expectations—without the nagging or scorekeeping✅ Small, doable steps to create more equity and connection in your relationshipIt's time to drop the Supermom identity and reclaim your time, energy, and partnership.

Is your relationship starting to feel more like a co-parenting partnership than a deep, connected bond?In this episode, Chelsea dives into the all-too-commonroommate stage that couples experience after having kids. She unpacks why this happens, how communication shifts from connection to logistics, and—most importantly—how to bring back intimacy, curiosity, and shared moments.Whether you're feeling a little distant or completely stuck, this episode offers real, practical ways to reconnect and prioritize your relationship. Because youdeserve more than just passing each other in the kitchen.

This bonus mini-episode is a little bit different because I wanted to send you an invite from my heart to yours! Motherhood changes everything—your time, your energy, your sense of self. And while you're busy making sure everyone else is okay, it's easy to lose sight of your own needs, your confidence, and the version of you that exists outside of the roles you fill. That's why I'm inviting you to The Confident Mom Reset—a small, intimate coaching group designed to help you rebuild, reconnect, and step into the next season of motherhood feeling clear, grounded, and strong in who you are. This isn't about adding more to your plate. It's about creating space to breathe, reflect, and remember that you matter too. Together, in a small supportive group of women, we'll dive into confidence, boundaries, balance, and what it means to truly advocate for yourself in your relationships and daily life. If you've been craving a reset, a moment to reclaim your energy, and a place to be seen and supported—this is for you. Spots are limited, and I'd love to have you in this space with me.

Motherhood is full of emotions—but what happens when those emotions turn into rage? In this episode, I'm getting real about mom rage—what's underneath it, why it's so misunderstood, and how to navigate it without drowning in guilt. I'll share my own experience with feeling out of control, the fear and sadness that fueled my anger, and the grief I didn't realize I needed to process. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, frustrated, or like you're failing at something no one prepared you for, you're not alone. Let's talk about what's really going on—and how to find the support you actually need. What You'll Learn: Why mom rage isn't just about anger How fear and sadness show up as frustration The role of unmet needs in emotional overload Why acknowledging grief is key to navigating motherhood Tools and support to help you feel less alone Press play and let's unpack this together. Want to work on it? Let's discuss how coaching can help you move through these big life changes with more ease, confidence, and tools. ⁠Schedule a free meet-and-greet with me here to learn more. ⁠

Trying to conceive can bring excitement, challenges, and a whole lot of pressure—not just on your body, but on your relationship too. In this episode, I'm joined by Erin McCaffrey Crespo, a fertility expert and doula, to tackle the often-overlooked emotional and intimate struggles that come with the TTC journey. We explore: How to maintain intimacy and connection when sex becomes a “to-do” The surprising myths about fertility and what actually matters Practical tips to keep your relationship strong and your sex life enjoyable Why open communication is the ultimate relationship superpower during TTC Whether you're in the midst of trying to conceive, supporting someone who is, or curious about how to navigate this journey, this episode offers real-talk, practical advice, and a lot of love. Connect with Erin: Website: https://www.thrive-doula-services.com/ Instagram: @thrivedoulacolumbus If you'd like to work with Erin, use CHELSEA for a $50 discount on services. Don't miss this insightful and comforting conversation—it's like a big hug for anyone feeling the weight of the TTC journey.

Ever feel like your partner just doesn't get you? Like you're speaking different languages—especially in the chaos of raising little ones? In this episode, we're diving into why misunderstandings happen (hint: exhaustion and assumptions play a big role), how they can impact your relationship, and what you can do to get back on the same page. I'll share a real-life story about how one small comment turned into a big argument, plus three practical ways to reconnect with your partner—no matter how busy life feels. Whether you're feeling distant, frustrated, or just ready for things to flow a little easier, this episode is packed with tools and encouragement to help you and your partner communicate better. And if you're ready to take things a step further, I'll also talk about how coaching can give you the clarity, perspective, and support to truly transform the way you and your partner understand and show up for each other. This one's for the parents out there feeling a little lost in translation—let's work on finding your way back. Join my peanut group Learn about working with me Get my emails

Do you constantly justify, explain, or defend your choices during conversations? You're not alone. And, there's a name for this tendency: JED (Justify, Explain, Defend). In this episode, I share insights from The Shadow and the Light podcast, where Dr. Elizabeth Winkler breaks down why we're wired for JED and how mindfulness can help us break free from it. We'll explore how JED shows up in relationships, why it often leads to tension, and practical tips to step out of the cycle. Plus, I'll share how coaching can help you improve communication patterns, foster deeper connections, and respond with intention rather than defensiveness. If you're ready to create more meaningful conversations and less frustration in your relationships, this episode is for you! Tune in now and take the first step toward healthier communication. What's your biggest relationship roadblock? Find out here! Click to learn more about working with me.

How Can I Create a Deeper Connection with My Partner? In this episode, I'm sharing what I believe is the foundation for trust, intimacy, and meaningful connection: emotional safety. I'll talk about how emotional safety can break down, the common patterns that create barriers—like criticism, defensiveness, and avoidance—and what you can do to rebuild and protect it in your relationship. I'll also walk you through the role of active listening, how predictability fosters trust, and why practicing gratitude can make such a big difference. Whether you're navigating conflict, trying to reconnect, or simply wanting to feel closer, this episode is full of practical tools and insights to help you and your partner grow together. What You'll Learn: Why emotional safety is essential for connection. How trust is built through consistent actions. Ways to repair and strengthen intimacy after conflict. Join me as we explore how to create a relationship where both you and your partner feel safe, understood, and deeply connected. Learn more about working with me: https://www.postpartumtogether.com/services

Why does talking about money feel so hard? In this episode, Chelsea sits down with money mindset coach and financial educator Shannon Brown Ward to tackle one of the most common sources of conflict in relationships: finances. Together, they explore how money shapes our values, decisions, and communication—starting as early as age seven! Chelsea and Shannon share practical tips for young families, including budgeting strategies, the importance of date nights, and how to avoid lifestyle creep. Whether you're struggling to get out of debt, align on financial goals, or simply feel confident talking about money with your partner, this episode has tools and insights to help you reconnect and take control of your finances together. Plus, Shannon shares why money doesn't have to feel restrictive and how even $25 a month can lead to big wins over time. Tune in to learn how to turn one of the biggest stressors in relationships into an opportunity for connection. Connect with Shannon: Website Instagram TikTok Facebook LinkedIn Podcast - Middle Class to Millions

Feeling stuck in the cycle of information overload? You're not alone—and it's time to break free in 2025. In this episode, we explore how embracing authenticity and letting go of external expectations can pave the way for real, impactful change. Join me to learn and discuss the power of focused action, why identifying just one key change can spark a domino effect, and how limiting input sources reduces mental drain. Whether you're aiming to improve communication in your relationship, set realistic goals, or simply gain clarity in your personal growth journey, this episode will inspire you to take intentional steps toward lasting progress starting with the new year. Ready to create a plan for meaningful growth? Tune in to learn how coaching and accountability can help you move from overwhelm to action. Let's simplify, focus, and grow—together. Quiz mentioned: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/6722c41de89981a813192c52 Learn about working with me: https://www.postpartumtogether.com/services Timestamps: 00:00 – Embracing Authenticity in the New Year 02:51 – Overcoming Information Overload 06:05 – The Power of Focused Action 12:10 – Identifying Key Changes for Growth 17:48 – Creating a Supportive Environment for Change --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

Feeling overwhelmed by holiday to-dos and expectations? This episode is your reminder to pause and refocus. Learn how to prioritize meaningful connections over the chaos and set yourself up for a more intentional new year. This is the permission slip you didn't know you needed for a holiday season full of grace, growth, and joy.

Is your relationship feeling a little… off? You're not alone. In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, I'll share three major relationship red flags that I see over and over as a coach. These subtle warning signs might seem small, but if left unaddressed, they can derail even the strongest partnerships. We'll talk about: ✅ How emotional distance can quietly create loneliness in your relationship ✅ Why resentment over unequal responsibilities is so dangerous—and how to stop it ✅ Why quality time and intimacy are non-negotiable (and how to bring them back) You don't need to wait until things feel too far gone to work on your relationship. I'm here to show you how small, intentional steps can help you rebuild connection and turn things around for the new year. Let's make 2025 the year you feel strong, connected, and in love with your partnership again. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro & a Big Breath for the Holidays 2:30 Red Flag #1: Emotional Disconnect 7:50 Red Flag #2: Growing Resentment 12:30 Red Flag #3: Neglecting Quality Time 17:00 How Coaching Can Help You Rebuild Connection - Ready to get the support you deserve? Let's talk about coaching: www.postpartumtogether.com/services

In this episode of the Better Relationships After Baby podcast, host Chelsea Skaggs speaks with child sleep consultant Alexa Lee about the critical role sleep plays in family dynamics. They discuss the journey to becoming a sleep consultant, the emotional challenges parents face regarding sleep, common myths and misconceptions, and practical strategies for improving sleep for children and families. The conversation emphasizes that sleep is not just a personal issue but a family concern that can significantly impact relationships and overall well-being. Learn how to approach sleep with developmentally-appropriate expectations and how to build teamwork around sleep needs. If you or someone you know is looking to improve sleep in your home, Alexa offers her services virtually and you can learn more about her offerings and approach to sleep at: www.alexaleesleep.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

Ever felt like you're the only one chasing kids around at holiday gatherings while your partner gets to relax and enjoy adult conversations? Yeah, I've been there too. In this episode, I'm introducing the concept of shift work—a simple strategy to help you and your partner take turns being “on-duty” with the kids so you can both actually enjoy the holidays. We'll talk about: The stress and resentment that can build when one parent takes on the parenting load at events. How shift work creates fairness and respect in your relationship. Practical ways to plan your shifts, handle pop-up challenges, and navigate resistance to the idea. Why being a strong team during the holidays benefits your relationship now and in the long run. This episode is packed with relatable stories, actionable tips, and plenty of encouragement to help you and your partner show up as a team. If you're ready to reclaim the joy of holiday gatherings and set the tone for connection, trust me—you don't want to miss this one! Let's make this holiday season feel lighter and more fun for both of you. Learn more about working with me as your coach on a free call: calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

In this episode, Chelsea sits down with McKenna to unpack the dynamics of welcoming a new baby into a home with pets. They discuss the challenges and joys of blending furry family members with little ones, sharing personal anecdotes, expert insights, and actionable tips. From preparation and training to understanding pet behavior and balancing affection, this conversation equips parents to create a safe and loving environment for all. Learn how to navigate pet anxiety, leverage desensitization techniques, and discover the lifelong benefits of raising empathetic kids alongside animals. Listen in to learn: Why preparation and training are key to success. How to spot and respond to pet anxiety and body language. Practical strategies for balancing affection between pets and babies. The surprising benefits of raising kids with pets—hello, less allergies and more empathy! Learn more about McKenna Learn about working with Chelsea as your coach --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

In this episode of the Better Relationships After Baby podcast, Chelsea discusses how real, lasting change begins at home with the relationships that matter most. She discusses the profound impact that strong, supportive family connections have on our resilience, emotional health, and capacity for meaningful advocacy in the world. Chelsea shares practical tips to help you enhance family connections, set shared values, and surround yourself with positive relationship examples. Discover why intentionality in family relationships is key for personal growth and how creating a safe and nurturing home environment can empower you to advocate more effectively in your community. Takeaways: - Creating change starts with strong relationships at home. - Family connection builds resilience and supports emotional health. - Weekly check-ins are valuable for open family communication. - Children model their behavior on what they observe in us. - Positive relationship models influence children's development and empathy. - A supportive home provides the foundation for community engagement. - Rest and recharge at home are essential for effective advocacy. - Coaching can align family values and goals, paving the way for growth. Tune in to learn how building a nurturing family environment empowers both personal and societal change. Interested in how coaching can help build your family foundation? Let's discuss! https://calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

Many men may feel fear or resistance to these changes, worrying about losing status, control, or even their identity. But what if breaking free from these outdated societal structures actually gives you more? Join me as I break down the ways that moving beyond patriarchy can lead to healthier, more authentic relationships, better mental health, freedom from toxic masculinity, and a more balanced life—both at home and at work. We'll explore why these shifts don't need to be feared but rather embraced as opportunities for deeper connection and personal freedom. I also share how female partners can empower and support their men through this transition, and we'll discuss the role of coaching in helping you navigate these emotional and relational changes. If you're ready to rethink masculinity, redefine your relationships, and move toward a more equal and fulfilling life, this episode is for you! Learn more about working with me: https://postpartumtogether.com/what-is-life-coaching-for-parents-and-partners/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

After years of feeling unseen and carrying the emotional load in her marriage, Jenny asked for a separation. But then, one recommendation and a leap into coaching turned it all around. In this episode, Chelsea speaks with a previous client, Jenny, who opens up about the key conversations that saved her relationship, how coaching helped her understand her partner in a new light, and why she now wishes she had started this work sooner. This is a must-listen for anyone who feels like they've tried everything but still can't seem to get through to their partner. Learn more about coaching with me: chelseaskaggs.com/home Grab my (free) Talk Like a Team guide: https://chelseaskaggs.ck.page/communication Connect with Jenny: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenny-gugliemotto-carl-9598709/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

In this episode, we'll explore how important it is to shift our perceptions and expectations in relationships—especially as we navigate the transition into parenthood. It's all about embracing curiosity, getting clear on what we want through visualization, and keeping the lines of communication wide open. When we challenge those old ideas and make space for change, we allow our relationships to grow stronger and become more resilient. It's not about holding on to how things were, but about creating something even better with our partner as we grow together. Improve your relationship today with the free Talk Like a Team workbook: https://chelseaskaggs.ck.page/communication Learn more about working with me: https://www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

We all know that love, attraction, and shared goals matter, but here's the truth: without communication, none of that can sustain a relationship long-term. In this special episode, I'm kicking off 30 Days of Better Communication with the foundation of it all. Most of us weren't taught how to communicate effectively—and that's why so many relationships struggle with conflict, misunderstandings, or feeling disconnected. But the good news? You can learn this skill, and it can change everything. Tune in to hear why communication is THE most important factor in a healthy relationship, how it impacts everything from conflict to intimacy, and why dedicating time to improve your communication can truly transform your relationship. This is your chance to build a stronger, more connected partnership—starting today. Want to get the daily emails for the 30 day series? Sign up here: https://chelseaskaggs.ck.page/74eecf429d Would you like to become a better communicator with your partner and enjoy more of your life together? I help couples do just that. Learn more about working with me on a free call: https://calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

Hey friends, it's Chelsea, and today on Better Relationships After Baby, we're diving into a topic that hits hard this time of year: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). If you're already balancing new motherhood with the emotional rollercoaster of postpartum, adding winter's shorter days and colder weather can feel overwhelming. I get it—I've been there too. In this episode, we're exploring how to be proactive in managing mental health as we head into the colder months. We'll talk about creating small, sustainable habits that help combat the effects of SAD, while also acknowledging the unique challenges new parents face. From getting outside for some natural light (yes, even when it's freezing!) to mindful self-care practices, I'm sharing actionable tips to keep you feeling grounded and supported. I'll also touch on the importance of communication with your partner when it comes to winter precautions for your baby. It's all about finding that balance between protecting your little one from germs and making sure you still get the fresh air and connection you need to avoid the winter blues. So, if you've been feeling a bit nervous about the winter months ahead, grab your cozy blanket, tune in, and let's talk about building healthy habits, supporting mental well-being, and keeping joy alive during this season! If you're feeling like you need some extra support navigating postpartum and winter wellness, schedule a free exploration call with me: www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

Hey friends, it's Chelsea, and in today's episode of *Better Relationships After Baby, we're discussing the five must-have conversations every couple should have before bringing a baby into the world. Having a baby is one of the most life-changing experiences, but if you're not communicating about the big stuff—division of labor, sleep schedules, finances, parenting philosophies, and even boundaries with family—it can bring unnecessary stress into your relationship. I'm sharing my insights on why these talks are so essential, plus practical tips on how to approach them without feeling overwhelmed. Trust me, you don't want to wait until you're knee-deep in dirty diapers and sleepless nights to hash these things out! If you've been feeling like you and your partner could use a little extra support in navigating these conversations, I also touch on how coaching can play a huge role in guiding you through it all. Remember, you don't have to be 100% prepared to be great parents—you just need to open the door for clear communication and adaptability. Let's talk about how to do just that. So grab your partner and tune in, because these are the conversations you *need* to have before that baby arrives! 03:35 Preparing for Parenthood: Key Conversations 06:37 Division of Labor and Parenting Roles 09:18 Navigating Sleep Schedules and Nighttime Responsibilities 12:05 Exploring Parenting Philosophies 15:18 Financial Planning and Budgeting for New Parents 17:58 Setting Boundaries with Extended Family 21:04 The Role of Coaching in Parenting Conversations Do you want to have these conversations with the guidance of expert support? Schedule a free exploration call with me to learn more about how I help couples prepare for a baby by building strong communication and teamwork: www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

When was the last time you really, intentionally showed appreciation to your partner? Are there times you ASSUME they know what you love and appreciate about them, but haven't displayed or talked about it? In this episode, we'll explore how easily we can take our partners for granted and how learning to show appreciation, in our partner's preferred way, can shift the dynamic towards a more fulfilling connection. Chelsea breaks down the process of building a culture of appreciation, discussing the role of communication, love languages, and coaching in fostering emotional connection and personal growth within your marriage or relationship. Listen in and reflect on your patterns, explore the balance between resentment and appreciation, and begin the journey towards a more intentional, joyful relationship. Whether you're looking to improve communication or deepen your emotional connection, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable steps toward personal and relational fulfillment. Chapters 00:00 The Gift of Journaling and Reflection 05:11 Appreciation in Relationships 09:50 Building a Culture of Appreciation 12:25 Navigating Resentment and Appreciation 14:29 The Journey to Self-Appreciation 16:37 Rediscovering Beauty in Everyday Moments --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

In this episode, I dive into the importance of couples' friendships and how they can have a huge impact on both your individual well-being and the overall health of your relationship. I talk about how crucial community support is and the incredible value of having friends who are truly invested in your family. I also share practical tips for building those meaningful couples' friendships, like setting goals together, finding local networks, hosting gatherings, and showing genuine interest in getting to know other couples. Whether you feel insecure about making new connections or you're not sure where to start, I encourage you to take small, intentional steps today. And if you need a bit more support along the way, I offer coaching to help you work through any feelings of insecurity or disconnection. It's all about making the effort and embracing vulnerability to foster those meaningful connections that can enrich your life and your relationship. Learn more about coaching with me: www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration 00:00 The Importance of Couples' Friendships 06:05 Building a Supportive Community 08:53 Positive Role Models for Your Children 11:41 Tips for Building Couples' Friendships 16:18 Taking Small Steps Towards Building Friendships 17:13 Coaching Support for Insecurity and Lack of Connection --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

In this episode, I sit down with my eight-year-old son, Emerson, for an honest chat about family, business, and marriage. We dive into the ups and downs of being both a mom and a business owner, exploring how I've learned to set boundaries and prioritize what truly matters. I also share some personal insights from my journey and offer a free workshop on building a business that supports your marriage. We talk about finding the balance between chasing your dreams and being present for your family, and how to create a business that aligns with your values and strengthens your relationships. Tune in to hear how we navigate the unique challenges of motherhood and entrepreneurship, and why making memories with your family is just as important as pursuing your passions. Register for the (Free) Workshop: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1004597727847?aff=oddtdtcreator⁠ Schedule a free call to learn more about coaching: www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration 00:00Introduction and the Importance of Including Children in the Conversation 08:25The Challenges of Being a Mother and a Business Owner 09:49Chelsea's Journey and Lessons Learned 12:42Creating a Business that Supports Your Family 13:34Setting Boundaries and Knowing Your Values 14:32Join Chelsea's Workshop on Building a Business that Works for Your Marriage --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

Ready to explore coaching with me? Schedule your free call here. In this episode, I dive into the critical topic of parental stress and its profound impact on both individuals and families. Drawing attention to the U.S. Surgeon General's recent statement, I discuss why parental stress is recognized as a significant public health issue. I've been there—feeling overwhelmed and constantly comparing myself to other moms online, which only fueled my stress and sense of inadequacy. Through my own experiences, I've learned the importance of prioritizing self-care and building a strong support network. Letting go of the unrealistic pursuit of perfection and instead embracing what truly works for your family is key to finding peace and joy in parenting. In this episode, I encourage open conversations about the real challenges we face and advocate for a much-needed cultural shift that values and supports parents, recognizing the vital role we play in society. https://www.hhs.gov/surgeongeneral/priorities/parents/index.html --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

Surprise Surprise! I asked my husband, Mike, to join me for this episode as we discuss modern masculinity. In this episode, we discuss the topic of masculinity and its portrayal in society. We explore how masculinity has evolved over time and the differing opinions on what it means to be a man. We also discuss the impact of societal expectations on relationships and families, and how they navigate their own roles as parents. Mike shares his personal journey of self-discovery and how he has learned to embrace his true nature and be a gentle and supportive father. 03:12 Exploring the Changing Definition of Masculinity 10:25 The Impact of Politics on the Perception of Masculinity 20:40 Navigating Societal Expectations in Relationships 21:08 Creating a Safe and Loving Environment for Children 35:25 Embracing Self-Discovery and Personal Growth 40:02 Reviving the Value of Family and Connections Do you and your partner need to improve how you work together as parents and partners? Do you want to explore more about how societal expectations like masculinity are impacting you? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

In this episode, we will discuss the power of personal values in relationships. I'll let you in on a personal story about my husband stepping in for me at a speaking event. I will highlight the importance of values in co-creating a fulfilling life together and just how to do that. Be ready to learn about how values shape our behavior, expectations, and reactions, and when both partners are aware of and honor each other's values, it creates a foundation of mutual understanding and respect. I'll also provide examples of how values can be used to resolve conflicts, make joint decisions, and prioritize resources in a relationship so you can apply today's episode right away! 00:00Introduction and Personal Experience 05:26The Power of Personal Values in Relationships 12:07Using Values to Resolve Conflicts 15:26Making Joint Decisions Based on Values 17:22Prioritizing Resources with Values Are you and your partner ready to enjoy more of the life you have built together? I can help you get out of a rut, build stronger teamwork and connection, and be intentional about your life together. Learn more: www.chelseaskaggs.com/home --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

Sound Bites Have you ever found yourself wanting to have a serious conversation with your spouse, your partner, but the moment you start, you feel flustered and the words come out all wrong? Our brains bless them, but our brains are perceiving the situation as a threat. So then we go into this fight or flight response, making it harder to think rationally, making it more difficult to articulate our thoughts. If you are having the same arguments, the same conversation over and over again without resolution, something has to change. This episode will help you do just that. 00:00 Introduction 03:24 Understanding the Impact of the Stress Response on Communication 07:11 Creating a Filter for Urgent Issues 10:06 The Importance of Regular Check-ins 18:27 Navigating Communication Styles and Tendencies 21:42 Practical Tips for Effective Communication 27:14 The Benefits of Coaching Support for Communication Ready to become a better communicator and team with your partner? The first step is to schedule a free exploration call with me here. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

In this episode, Chelsea discusses the importance of modeling healthy relationships and communication for children and how it shapes their future interactions. Modeling healthy relationships is one of the biggest ways parents can invest in their children's futures. Children learn through observation from a very young age and that even newborns can mimic facial expressions and gestures. Parents can intentionally model healthy communication, emotional regulation, and problem-solving, which helps children develop effective communication skills and better social interactions. Modeling healthy relationships and communication is one of the biggest ways parents can invest in their children's futures. Children learn through observation from a very young age, and even newborns can mimic facial expressions and gestures. Parents can intentionally model healthy communication, emotional regulation, and problem-solving, which helps children develop effective communication skills and better social interactions. Conflict resolution and repair in relationships positively impact children's emotional intelligence and ability to manage their own conflicts. 00:00Investing in Our Children's Futures: Modeling Healthy Relationships 04:20The Power of Observation: Children Learn Through Modeling 11:53Intentional Modeling: Healthy Communication and Emotional Regulation 16:04Conflict Resolution and Repair: Building Strong Relationships Book a free call with me: www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

In this episode, Chelsea Skaggs discusses the concept of identifying glass and plastic balls in the context of managing responsibilities and tasks as parents. Glass balls represent crucial tasks that have significant consequences if dropped, while plastic balls are less important and can be put aside or dropped without major issues. Chelsea emphasizes the importance of prioritizing and working together with your partner to determine what truly matters. By distinguishing between glass and plastic balls, couples can reduce stress, improve communication, and create a more balanced and resilient partnership. 02:28 Identifying Glass and Plastic Balls 04:17 Examples of Glass and Plastic Balls 06:14 Prioritizing Glass Balls 10:03 Working Together to Prioritize 18:02 Regular Check-Ins and Reevaluation 22:44 Conclusion Learn more about working with me: www.postpartumtogether.com/services --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support

In this "off the cuff" episode, I'm walking you through a personal practice I did recently to evaluate why helping moms become less overwhelmed really matters. We're talking about the immediate and long-term impact of women's leadership and how a healthier distribution of the mental load would be better for society as a whole. This method I used with myself is one I also use with clients to make sure they're living in line with their values and goals. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/better-relationships/support