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ou made it to the final episode of our 10-day Holiday Mental Load Series, and that says something meaningful about who you are as a partner and a parent.You've shown up with intention, reflection, honesty, and a desire to make this season lighter for everyone in your home, including yourself.In today's wrap-up, we look back on everything you've covered:• Home + hosting• Family logistics• Event schedules• Emotional labor• Your own sanity + capacity• Travel prep• Gift logistics• Shared planning• Mixed emotionsAnd most importantly, you now have the language, tools, and clarity to share the load instead of silently carrying it alone.In this episode, we talk about:• The patterns couples fall into during early parenthood• Why awareness is the first step toward change• How to keep using these tools through the whole year• What “teamwork” actually looks like in real life• How to protect your relationship from default-parent burnout• Why you didn't do anything wrong — you were just doing too much

Today we're talking about something almost every new parent experiences during the holidays, but few couples actually prepare for: Mixed emotions.Because December isn't just joy and magic.It's overstimulation, nostalgia, grief, pressure, expectations, family dynamics, exhaustion, and the ache of wanting the holidays to feel a certain way… while navigating a very tender season of parenthood.And partners don't always feel the same way at the same time.In this episode, we unpack:• Why mixed emotions are normal (and expected) in early parenthood• How emotional load is just as real as logistical load• What happens when couples don't talk about what they're feeling• How to avoid “emotion mismatch resentment”• The “Name + Ask” Method for emotional clarity• What emotional support looks like in real, practical ways• How to honor both partners' internal experiences — even when they're differentThis is one of the most human, heartfelt conversations of the series, and it's designed to help couples feel safer, softer, and more connected during a season that often feels emotionally overwhelming.

Today we're breaking down one of the most powerful tools for reducing resentment, confusion, and emotional overload during the holidays: the Holiday Huddle.A Holiday Huddle is a simple 10-minute weekly check-in that helps couples stay aligned during December — before the stress, assumptions, and misunderstandings hit.Because most holiday conflicts aren't about what happened.They're about not talking ahead of time.In this episode, we walk you through the exact Holiday Huddle process we teach inside the Holiday Mental Load Breakthrough, including:• Step-by-step questions for a weekly check-in• How to avoid the “default parent” dynamic• Why assumptions create 80% of holiday tension• How to set realistic expectations for your bandwidth• How to divide responsibilities using Lead + Support roles• How to identify what needs to come off your plate this week• How to plan for emotional load, not just logisticsThis is the tool that keeps couples grounded, connected, and prepared — so you're not running on last-minute panic or silent resentment.

Today we're digging into one of the biggest (underestimated) parts of the holiday mental load: Gift logistics and all the special extras that come with December.Because gifts aren't just gifts.They're:• Lists• Budgets• Shipping timelines• Teacher gifts• Stockings• Matching pajamas• “Who already bought what?”• “What's developmentally appropriate?”• “Did we go overboard or not enough?”And most of that invisible planning ends up sitting in one partner's brain until it leads to resentment and overwhelm.In this episode, we cover:• Why gift logistics hit new parents so hard• The emotional labor behind “making it special”• How to prevent the default-parent dynamic with gifts• The 3 Gift Lanes Method (Mandatory, Optional, Special Extras)• How to divide holiday gifting in a way that feels fair• How to avoid overspending, duplication, and burnout• The difference between meaningful traditions and pressure-based traditionsThis episode takes the weight off the “Chief Gift Officer” role many parents fall into — and helps couples build a gift plan that feels clearer, calmer, and actually joyful.

Welcome to Day 6 of our 10-Day Holiday Mental Load Series for new and expecting parents.Today we're digging into a part of the season that becomes shockingly heavy once you have a baby: holiday safety and travel prep.Because holiday travel is no longer “grab your bag and go.”It's car seats, sleep setups, feeding supplies, backup outfits, weather checks, medicine bags, chargers, toys, kid snacks, emergency layers, nap windows, and the logistics of navigating several hours in a car or airport with a very small human who has zero interest in travel efficiency.And usually, one partner is carrying all of this in their head.In this episode, we break down:• Why holiday travel becomes a full-on mental load for new parents• The invisible planning that creates resentment if it's not shared• How to avoid the default-parent dynamic on travel days• The “Travel Non-Negotiables List” (the 5–7 things every parent needs)• How to divide travel responsibilities fairly so one person isn't drowning• What to do when plans go sideways (because they always do)This episode is all about lowering the pressure, creating clarity, and stepping into travel as a team — not hoping one person magically remembers everything.Your step-by-step guide for:✔ Travel prep✔ Holiday scheduling✔ Emotional labor✔ Gift logistics✔ Weekly Holiday Huddles✔ A full holiday brain dump✔ Dividing tasks without resentment

Today we're talking about the part of the holiday mental load that almost no one prioritizes, but absolutely every new parent needs: your own capacity, needs, and sanity.Because when you're navigating the holidays with a baby, even the “simple” things can feel overwhelming. Lights, noise, disrupted routines, pressure to be everywhere, overstimulation, emotional labor, family dynamics… it all compounds fast.Most new parents end up pushing their own needs to the bottom of the list, which leads to burnout, resentment, and that “I'm holding everything together by a thread” feeling.When you're running on empty, nobody gets the best version of you—least of all you.In this episode, we cover:• Why self-preservation is essential during the holidays• How new parents become overstimulated and emotionally depleted• The “Non-Negotiable + Bailout Plan” tool to protect your bandwidth• How to communicate your needs without guilt• How to prevent emotional overload before it spills into conflict• Why your sanity is a major part of your family's holiday wellbeingThis episode is part of our 10-day series helping couples replace holiday overwhelm with connection, clarity, and teamwork—especially during the busiest season of early parenthood.

Episode 4 of 10: Emotional Labor + Holiday Expectations (Holiday Mental Load Series)Today we're talking about the invisible part of the holiday mental load that hits new and expecting parents the hardest: emotional labor and expectations.This is the stuff no one sees ,but absolutely everyone feels.Because when you're the parent managing the vibe of the room, the tension between relatives, your own overstimulation, your baby's needs, and everyone's expectations… the holidays can feel more like emotional gymnastics than family fun.In this episode, we dive into:• Why emotional labor skyrockets during the holidays• How one partner often ends up managing everyone's feelings• The pressure to “make it magical” when you're exhausted• How family expectations create hidden stress• The “Emotional Non-Negotiables” tool to protect your bandwidth• What to say when you're trying to set boundaries without creating conflict• How couples can show up for each other emotionally—not just logisticallyThis episode is part of our 10-day series helping couples replace holiday overwhelm with connection, clarity, and teamwork.

Today we're talking about the part of the holiday mental load that drains new parents faster than anything else: the nonstop event schedule and the endless seasonal to-do list.Because once you have a baby, every outing suddenly comes with extra logistics, emotional load, nap timing stress, overstimulation concerns, and a very real question:“Is this even worth it for our family right now?”In this episode, we break down:• Why holiday events feel overwhelming with a baby• How couples accidentally overschedule themselves• The “Memory Pressure” that leads to doing things you don't even want to do• How to decide what's meaningful vs. what's performative• The three-bucket system (Must Do / Could Do / Doesn't Matter This Year)• How to prevent resentment by planning together• Why your values—not social pressure—should shape your December calendarThis episode is part of our 10-day series designed to help couples replace holiday tension with teamwork, clarity, and connection.

Today we're unpacking the part of the holiday mental load that drains new parents faster than wrapping paper and sugar crashes: logistics and family coordination.Because once you become a parent, December is no longer just a month—it's an entire operation. Travel planning, nap windows, meal timing, driving routes, RSVPs, “who's hosting what,” and navigating multiple sides of the family… it adds up quickly. And usually, one partner ends up carrying the whole thing mentally.In this episode, we cover:• Why holiday logistics overwhelm new and expecting parents• The hidden emotional load behind timing, planning, and travel• How to stop being the “default calendar keeper”• The weekly Holiday Huddle that prevents resentment• How to divide logistics realistically instead of snapping at each other• Why clarity—not perfection—is what makes December smootherThis episode is part of our 10-day series designed to help couples replace tension with teamwork during the busiest season of early parenthood.

Welcome to the first episode of our 10-day Holiday Mental Load Series—created for new and expecting parents who are overwhelmed by the mental load of December.Today we're breaking down the invisible work behind holiday home prep and hosting from the decorating, cleaning, planning, meal prep, to the emotional labor that usually falls on one partner.In this episode, we'll cover:• Why home + hosting becomes such a heavy mental load• How the “default holiday parent” dynamic forms• The Lead + Support strategy for dividing hosting tasks• How to set a “Good Enough Holiday Home” standard• How to prevent resentment and miscommunication before they hitThis series is designed to help you feel more supported, more aligned, and more like a team through the busiest season of early parenthood.Download the free Holiday Mental Load Breakthrough—the brain dump guide, category breakdown, and weekly Holiday Huddle prompts we reference in every episode:Click here to download the Holiday Mental Load Breakthrough: Make the Invisible Holiday Work Visible in Your Relationship

You love your baby. You love your partner.But the holidays hit, and suddenly you're the one tracking gifts, outfits, nap schedules, travel plans, and everyone's feelings… while your partner is getting praised for bringing one pie.In this episode, Chelsea and Mike break down the mental load of the holidays for new parents—especially moms who are carrying the invisible work of making everything “magical” while feeling unseen, overextended, and resentful. You'll hear real examples from couples they coach, why this season is so triggering, and concrete ways dads/partners can finally get off the sidelines and step into true teamwork.You'll also hear exactly how to use our holiday mental load template so you're not just venting—you're getting that invisible work out of your head, onto paper, and divided fairly.What the mental load / invisible load actually is for new moms in postpartum and early parenthoodWhy the holiday mental load explodes for new parents (texts from family, travel plans, gifts, outfits, schedules, emotional baggage)How patriarchy and old gender scripts still show up at the holidays—even with “good guys” who want to be involvedWhy new dads often want to help but don't have a model and get stuck on the sidelinesThe difference between “helping with one sliver” of a task vs. taking full responsibility for an entire category (like groceries, gifts, or travel)The Holiday Huddle: a simple weekly check-in to talk about what's coming up, what's stressing you out, and what needs to come off your plateA “power phrase” for the season: talk before you're tired—so you don't wait until you're fried to bring up hard conversationsHow to pick lanes and stick to them (no last-minute surprises, emotional grenades, or hour-before-the-gathering invitations)A practical “one thing that matters most” ritual so every family member gets one prioritized experience instead of trying to do everythingWhy presence matters more than performance: choosing emotional connection over Instagram-worthy perfectionThe “take shifts” strategy at family gatherings so each partner gets time to actually enjoy themselves and have adult conversationThroughout the episode, Chelsea walks you through how to use the holiday mental load template as a conversation starter with your partner—so you can name what's on your mind, divide responsibilities, and build a holiday rhythm that feels lighter and more connected.Free Holiday Mental Load Template / ChecklistGet your mental load out of your head and onto paper, so you two can actually divide responsibilities and plan your Holiday Huddle together.https://chelseaskaggs.kit.com/abd66c33ba

Modern parenthood wasn't meant to be a solo project, yet so many new moms and dads are trying to figure it out in isolation. We scroll, read, and listen to every parenting podcast, but at the end of the day, it still feels lonely. The truth is, no amount of information can replace the transformation that happens in community.In this episode of the Better Relationships After Baby Podcast, Chelsea and Mike dig into the power of group connection — why real change happens faster when parents have support, accountability, and belonging. They unpack what science and psychology show us about group learning and why joining a Mom Group or Dad Group can radically shift how couples communicate and cope in early parenthood.Why you can't self-help your way out of postpartum lonelinessThe science of co-regulation and why community calms your nervous systemHow group learning builds real-life communication skills (thanks, Bandura!)The difference between therapy and postpartum coaching and how they work togetherWhy peer support and accountability make new habits stickHow virtual groups for parents create connection, even when you can't leave the houseWhat happens when one partner spirals, and how community creates a ripple of healing for the whole familyChelsea and Mike also share personal stories from their own experience running online parent groups for the past five years. From the first-time mom who finally said, “I'm not broken , I just needed other women who get it,” to the new dad who realized that he didn't have to fix everything, just show up...these are the moments that remind us we were never meant to do this alone.Research continues to show that new parent support groups lower rates of postpartum depression and anxiety for both mothers and partners. Group coaching allows couples to learn and practice new skills in a safe, encouraging environment. Unlike anonymous online threads, a guided virtual group combines real relationships, evidence-based tools, and accountability that actually creates growth.In a season where life can feel like a blur of bottles, diapers, and exhaustion, having a space that's just for you, one that helps you regulate, reflect, and reconnect, isn't a luxury. It's a necessity.Chelsea and Mike explain how postpartum coaching helps couples after baby rebuild their foundation. When stress runs high, our brains go into survival mode — fight, flight, or freeze. But in a group setting, you learn how to interrupt those patterns, communicate effectively, and show up as teammates instead of adversaries. It's where you can practice the conversations you've been avoiding, get feedback from peers who are in the same season, and walk away with language you can use that same night at home.If you've ever ended the day back-to-back with your partner, each on your phones, wondering why connection feels so hard, then this episode is for you. Whether you're an expecting couple, new parents in the thick of it, or a few years in and still trying to find your rhythm, community is the missing piece most families are craving.Chelsea and Mike's Mom Group (Mondays at 7PM ET) and Dad Group (Tuesdays at 7PM ET) are small, virtual groups designed for real-life parents who want practical tools, a sense of belonging, and conversations that go deeper than social media highlight reels.Week One is free so there's no pressure, no performance, just a chance to see what it feels like to be part of a community built around growth and honesty.Tune in and learn why the future of strong families starts with strong communities.Questions? Email us chelsea@postpartumtogether.comonline parent group | mom group | dad group | new parent support group | virtual parent group | postpartum coaching | couples after baby | postpartum relationship coaching | parenting after baby | online parenting community | group coaching for parents | postpartum connection | support for new dads | support for new moms

When a new baby arrives, the whole family's nervous system changes. In this episode, we're talking about what helps families thrive in the postpartum season, especially how dads and partners can become the steady, emotionally present anchor their home needs.We break down:What it means to be anchored, not stoic (emotional presence vs. emotional shutdown)Why nervous system regulation and co-regulation are game-changers for moms, dads, and babiesTwo practical breathing tools (Wim Hof method + 4-2-6-2 pattern) that calm your body fastHow to create a “commute reset” to shift from work mode to family modeMicro-scripts for staying connected instead of defensive in tough momentsThe link between emotionally present partners and lower postpartum depression ratesThis conversation is for dads, partners, and anyone who wants to understand how emotional steadiness and nervous system awareness can transform postpartum relationships.Stay to the end for a short behind-the-scenes chat about how parenting, research, and humanity are evolving (and why this generation of parents has the tools to do it differently.)Resources mentioned: • DadVantage small group for dads • Confident Mom Reset program • Previous episodes on co-regulation & nervous system work • Wim Hof guided breathingpostpartum dads | postpartum relationships | emotional regulation | nervous system | co-regulation | anchored presence | steady partner | postpartum marriage | new parents | fatherhood | emotional connection | postpartum support | relationship after baby | breathing exercises | Wim Hof method | nervous system reset | mindful parenting | present father | postpartum mental health | mom and dad teamwork | emotional awareness | postpartum communication | gentle fatherhood | modern dad | postpartum coach | relationship coaching | family nervous system | calm parenting | parenting after baby | postpartum tips

We're pulling back the curtain. This is our real planning convo on how we align language, debate “steady vs. stoic,” and map the tools before we get into a weekly podcast episode. It's messy, honest, and meant to bring you right in the room with us.This isn't a polished episode; it's the actual conversation we had to plan Tuesday's show. We hash out what “steadiness” really means (not robotic, not shut down), talk nervous system regulation and “anchored presence,” and decide how to communicate it so both partners feel seen. You'll hear how we align language, challenge each other's angles, and turn lived moments into something you can try at home.If you love the raw, unfiltered build-up before the mic goes live, tell us...should we do more Behind the Scenes? Drop a quick DM or reply with your favorite takeaway.emotional steadinessemotional regulationanchored presencenervous system regulationmasculine presencecalm communicationstaying groundedrelationship after babyemotional connection in marriagepost-baby partnershipchoose it until you become itcalm, curious, connectedpersonal growth for dadshealing religious traumamindset shiftembodied communicationsteadiness vs. stoicismhow to stay calm in conflicthow to be emotionally steadymasculine steadiness vs stoicismhow to regulate your nervous system in relationshipsnervous system and marriagebecoming an anchored partnercommunication tools for coupleshow to show up steady for your partner

In this solo episode, Mike Skaggs — co-founder of Postpartum Together — speaks directly to the men stepping into fatherhood, partnership, and purpose in a changing world.He shares a vision for a new kind of manhood—one built not on control or performance, but on presence, steadiness, and love. Drawing from his own experience in the NICU with his daughter, Mike reflects on what it means to protect through presence, to lead through calm, and to anchor your family through the chaos of postpartum life.This episode explores nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and how men can practice the strength that steadies everything else. Because your family doesn't need a perfect man—they need a present one.Learn about working with Mike + Chelsea:Postpartum Together OfferingsBook a free connection call with us modern fatherhoodpostpartum dad supportnervous system regulation for menemotional safety in relationshipsfatherhood mindsetredefining masculinitymen's mental health postpartumcoregulation in relationshipssteady partner after babynew kind of manhoodhow to be a present dadmindful fatherhood

Early parenthood can fry your nervous system.Hello overstimulation, zero bandwidth, and snapping at your partner or kids. In this conversation, Chelsea and parent coach Manu Brune break down what co-regulation actually looks like between partners and with your baby, and how small, body-based tools help you move from survival mode to a livable rhythm. We name the signs of dysregulation (short fuse, shutdown, spirals), why routines can help or hurt, and how to use simple anchors—breath, movement, flexible rituals—to bring your system back online. We also talk about the pressure to do it all, and why community lets you “borrow calm” when yours is gone. If you've thought, “I should be handling this better,” this episode shows you how to build capacity instead of guilt.More about Manu and Beyond Birth Basics:Insta: Beyond Birth Basics: Parenting Reimagined (@beyondbirthbasics) • Instagram photos and videosWebsite:Beyond Birth Basics | Coaching in Columbus, OHPreorder her book: Book | Beyond Birth BasicsWork with Postpartum Together:Insta:Chelsea Skaggs || Relationship Coach for Parents (@postpartumtogether) • Instagram photos and videosCurrent Offerings:Chelsea Skaggs CoachingBook a free connection call : Calendlynervous system regulationco-regulationcoregulation in relationshipsdysregulation after babypostpartum nervous systemoverstimulation momsnapping at your partneryelling at your kidssurvival mode parentingparent burnoutpostpartum anxietyemotional regulation for parentsnervous system support for new parentsnervous system resetnervous system healing after birthrelationship after babyteamwork in parenthoodemotional safety in relationshipscalm communication in marriagerebuilding connection after babyparenting rhythm not routineflexible family routinesgrounding exercises for parentsmindfulness for moms and dadscapacity not perfectionborrowing calmmodern parenting pressureregulating togetherearly parenthood overwhelmpostpartum mental health

Becoming a dad after a baby arrives can shake a man to his core. In this episode, Mike opens up to share fears, emotions, and invisible battles many fathers face in the postpartum season. From feeling like they're on the outside looking in, to wondering if they're enough, we unpack what's really going on behind the quiet moments and unspoken worries.We explore why presence matters more than perfection, how provision without connection can feel like absence, and what it looks like for dads to build their own parenting playbook. Whether you're a new father, a partner trying to understand him, or someone supporting a growing family, this conversation will give you insight into the emotional landscape of modern fatherhood and how dads can thrive, not just survive, in this new role.Listen if you've ever wondered:Why dads often feel disconnected after a babyHow to bridge emotional gaps between partnersWhat it takes to feel confident as a new fatherWhy being present matters more than doing it allIf you've ever felt like you're doing everything you can for your family but still wondering if it's enough, you're not alone.A quick connection call can help you figure out what's really going on under the surface and how to start feeling like a team again.Book your free call here, and let's talk about what support could look like for you two.Keywords: fatherhood, postpartum, emotional connection, presence, family dynamics, inadequacy, parenting challenges, support for dads, mental load, parenting playbook

In this second part of The Stories We Tell Ourselves series, Chelsea and Mike get into how the stories we carry in early parenthood shape connection, intimacy, and identity.They unpack why emotional disconnection and constant stress make couples feel distant, how to rebuild psychological safety, and why nervous-system regulation is key to closeness.You'll learn:How to externalize negative stories and stop the spiral of resentmentWhat “matrescence” and “patrescence” really mean for your identity as parentsWhy emotional safety is the foundation for physical intimacy after a babyPractical ways to reconnect and repair when you're both running on emptyWhether you're feeling stuck in survival mode or missing the spark in your marriage, this episode offers real talk and practical tools to help you feel like a team again.Keywords: emotional disconnection after baby, intimacy after baby, postpartum marriage help, matrescence, new parent identity, nervous system regulation, relationship coaching, postpartum relationship adviceMentioned past episodes and links: Regulation and the Nervous SystemEmotional or Physical Connection, Which Comes First?MatresenceBook a connection call with us here to learn more about how we support pregnant, postpartum, and current parents in their relationships.

Conflict after a baby is inevitable, but it doesn't have to break your relationship. In this episode, Chelsea and Mike go deeper than their Babies & Bumps workshop to unpack the real difference between couples who thrive and those who drift apart: Repair.You'll hear:Why conflict itself doesn't predict divorce, but failure to repair does (thanks, John Gottman).How rupture in relationships is like a muscle tear — painful, but with repair, it builds strength.The dangerous stories we tell ourselves about our partners and the antidote of curiosity.Practical tools like code words, repair steps, and “the story I'm telling myself…” to stop resentment from spiraling.Why humility and vulnerability matter more than being right.If you've ever felt like parenting is heavier because you're not on the same team or you want to make sure your teamwork is solid before the baby arrives, this episode is for you.

When your newborn goes to the NICU, nothing feels “normal.” In this honest conversation, author and creative director Emily Rosen shares the 16-day NICU journey with her son Max, the grief of leaving the hospital without your baby, and the small lifelines that help you keep going. We talk day-to-day NICU rhythms, supporting partners, what friends can actually do, and why Emily wrote Waiting for Max—a children's book that helps siblings (and grown-ups) understand NICU life with hope, not fear. If you're in it now or love someone who is, this one's for you.Preorder: Waiting for Max Connect with Emily: Instagram @EmilyRosenCreative TikTok @Emily.Rosen.CreativeGuest: Emily Rosen — author of Waiting for Max, creative director, mom of two.Topics we cover:The moment plans change: premature labor, fast decisions, and naming laterWhat a “normal” NICU day looks like (feeds, skin-to-skin, rounds, notes)The partner dance: care, tears, pancakes, and trying to sleepWhat to say (and not say) to NICU parentsTiny practical love: Venmo, freezable food, pump-part helpSelf-compassion after birth trauma + letting go of “should”How Waiting for Max helps siblings process scary environmentsHope for the mom in the uncomfortable hospital chairBook launch details + why representation of NICU stories mattersTimestamps00:39 Intro + Chelsea's NICU story02:19 Meet Emily + family03:49 Max's birth + 16 days in NICU (SVT, feeding/growing)06:39 Why write Waiting for Max + who it's for10:27 What those early hours really felt like14:09 A “typical” NICU day: feeds, hand-washing, rounds16:29 Partnering through stress, pancakes, and naps19:38 How friends can help (specifics that matter)21:32 Therapy, self-blame, and compassion23:39 Deciding to write the book26:46 The lobby moment + grief of not going home together31:38 A message to the mom in the chair33:33 Sunshine, short walks, tiny resets34:30 Where to find the book + who it helps39:15 Max today: DJ, dance parties, tender big brother40:34 What's next: a “Waiting for…” series (surrogacy story)Schedule a connection call with Chelsea: Calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/connection-call

Ever feel like your brain has 27 tabs open—and none of them can close? That's the invisible load of parenthood: The endless mental and emotional labor that keeps a family running but often falls on one parent without ever being named.In this episode, Chelsea and Mike break down:What the invisible load actually looks like in early parenthood (hint: it's more than chores)Why it so often falls unequally, even in good partnershipsThe cycle of resentment it creates when it stays hiddenA simple 3-step framework—See it. Say it. Slay it.—to start redistributing the weight todayWhether you're pregnant and wondering how to prepare, or already in the thick of diapers and daycare forms, this conversation will help you shift from scorekeeping to true teamwork.

Tired of having the same fight on repeat with your partner? One of you wants to hash it out right now, the other goes silent, and suddenly you're not even arguing about the actual issue anymore. You're arguing about how you argue. Sound familiar?In this episode, Chelsea and Mike break down processing styles in marriage after baby—external vs. internal processors—and why these differences get louder when you're tired, stressed, and stretched thin as new parents. You'll hear how this dynamic showed up in their own relationship, why stress and flooding make small clashes spiral, and the simple tools couples can use to break the demand–withdraw cycle.Whether you're an exhausted parent feeling stuck in the same arguments or a couple who wants to grow stronger after baby, this conversation will help you:Understand your own processing style (and your partner's).Recognize the nervous system's role in miscommunication.Use 4 practical tools to calm conflict and reconnect as a team.Because your baby deserves parents who don't just survive parenthood, but thrive together.Book an connection call with us: CalendlyGet our go to questions for a 5-min daily check-in: 5 Questions to Stay Connected to Your Partner — Chelsea Skaggs Coaching

Early parenthood has a way of putting every crack in your relationship under a spotlight. In this candid conversation, Chelsea and Mike pull back the curtain on the pain points they faced after having kids and the lessons they wish they'd learned sooner. From buried baggage that resurfaces under pressure to communication breakdowns and the mental load that nearly pulled them apart, they share the struggles, the breakthroughs, and the hope that comes with learning to work as a team.If you've ever thought, “Why didn't anyone tell us it would be this hard?” this episode is for you. You'll walk away with real-life insights and tools to help you save some heartache and start building the kind of connection that lasts through sleepless nights, identity shifts, and big transitions.ResourcesLearn more about our 6-Week Relationship Coaching Program: postpartumtogether.com/welcomeGrab your free Postpartum Planning Checklist: postpartumtogether.com/postpartum-planningBook a Connection Call with Chelsea: calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/connection-callPS: If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who's in the trenches of early parenthood. And if you loved it, please take a moment to leave a 5-star review — it helps more couples find the support they need to thrive, not just survive, after baby.

Are you constantly saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”?In this episode, Chelsea and Mike get honest about people-pleasing, the “eldest daughter” martyr mindset, and how overstuffed calendars and invisible expectations quietly drain your marriage and family life.Together, they share how learning to set boundaries, stop overscheduling, and get clear on your values (instead of everyone else's rules) can completely change the tone of your home. You'll hear real stories about:Why saying no feels impossible (and why it matters for your marriage)How filling every blank space on your calendar sabotages connectionWhat happens when you stop living by other people's rules and start living by your family valuesSimple practices that help couples create more rest, joy, and clarityIf you've ever felt stretched thin, stuck in “good mom” or “good spouse” mode, or unsure how to align as a family, this episode will give you a refreshing and practical perspective.✨ Want to go deeper? Join Chelsea and Mike's Rewrite the Rules Workshop — a live, donation-based virtual event designed to help you uncover your core family values and use them as your compass for time, energy, and money decisions. Reserve your spot in the next workshop here: Postpartum Together EventsLearn more about Postpartum Together Coaching

On this off-the-cuff parenting podcast episode, Chelsea and Mike get real about fatherhood, parenting grief, and the pressure to be present.From crying at the bus stop to reflecting on kids growing up and what it means for your marriage, this conversation covers micro-griefs in parenting, dads and emotions, and communication in parenting.If you're a mom or dad navigating parenting transitions and wanting to build stronger parent connection in your relationship, you'll find yourself nodding along.

Motherhood was never meant to be a solo act.In this episode, Chelsea sits down with Stephanie Fornaro, founder of Hello Nanny, to talk about why accepting help isn't a weakness, it's wisdom.We explore the emotional, relational, and practical layers of building your support system, from financial independence and partnership dynamics to the difference between nannies and family assistants. Stephanie shares her personal journey of overcoming guilt around getting help, and how her mission is empowering parents to thrive, not just survive.Whether you're navigating postpartum, juggling toddlers, or simply craving more presence in your parenting, this conversation is your permission slip to drop the “do it all” mindset and start creating your own village.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why accepting help is a strength, not a failureHow financial independence impacts your relationshipThe difference between a nanny and a family assistant (and why it matters)How to build a support system that fits your family's valuesThe role of one-on-one time with your kids in a busy seasonOvercoming the guilt of asking for helpResources & Links:Connect with Stephanie on the Hello Nanny siteFollow Hello Nanny on Instagram: @hellonannydotcomLearn more about relationship coaching after baby with Chels + Mike at Postpartum TogetherFollow Postpartum Together on Instagram: @postpartumtogether

Is your stress response a sign you're failing, or a sign you're human?In this episode, Chelsea and Mike get real about what stress is actually trying to tell us and how it impacts connection in relationships. We'll explore how everyday tension can become a source of strength if we know how to come back to safety, together.You'll hear:The psychology of rupture and repair—and why it matters more than “getting it right”Why we break down when one person tries to carry the emotional load for bothHow friendship, co-regulation, and nervous system safety are deeply linkedPlus, the one question that can transform your relationships:“Do you have the capacity for this?”If you've been stuck in reactive conversations, missed signals, or simmering resentment, the first step back to each other might be simpler than you think.

“Let's just figure it all out right now…”You've said it. Or your partner has. And before you know it, it's 10:30pm, you're in survival mode, and the ‘solution' turns into another fight.In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea and Mike get honest about why trying to fix your relationship during fight-or-flight doesn't work and what to do instead.You'll learn:What happens in your brain and body during conflictWhy “just talking it out” often backfiresThe neuroscience behind repair and regulationHow to pause a fight without ignoring itTools you can use to come back together in a healthier, more connected wayThis is the next step after last week's viral episode on feeling touched out. Together, they unpack what stress really does to our relationships and how to build safety, repair, and teamwork in the hard moments.“You can't fix a relationship in fight-or-flight. But you can come back stronger.”

Ever felt like you want a connection, but the thought of one more person touching you makes your skin crawl?You're not cold. You're not broken. You might just be touched out.In this episode, Chelsea and Mike dig into what's really happening when physical affection feels like too much, especially in the postpartum season. Using Polyvagal Theory as a framework, they explore how your nervous system responds to chronic stress, the mental load, and overstimulation.They talk about:Why being touched out is not just a mom thing (though it hits moms hard)The science behind why your body says “no” even when your heart says “yes”How to recognize when your nervous system is in shutdown or high alertThe power of co-regulation (and why it's more effective than just pushing through)Tools that help you reconnect even if you only have five minutesThis isn't about fixing your partner. It's about understanding yourself, offering compassion, and having new language to break old cycles.Want to dive deeper into the science?

You're in the same room, but it feels like miles apart.You love your partner, but you feel more like co-managers than a couple.Sound familiar?In this episode, Chelsea and Mike get real about the signs of emotional disconnection that show up after having a baby, often quietly and gradually. From scorekeeping and silence to intimacy struggles and the nervous system overload no one warns you about, they unpack what drifting apart really looks like and why it's not a sign you're broken.If you're sitting on opposite ends of the couch, wondering how you got here—or how to get back—this episode is for you.You'll hear:How emotional disconnect shows up in everyday lifeWhy resentment and avoidance don't mean you've “fallen out of love”Tools to start reconnecting without pressure or blameA powerful reframe: “The story I'm telling myself is…”

When the world feels like it's burning politically, socially, & emotionally, what do we do as parents? In this episode, Chelsea and Mike get honest about what it means to raise kids in today's tense climate and why your home might just be the most powerful place of resistance.From stress-induced doomscrolling to boundary-setting in your own house, they unpack how overwhelmed couples can protect their peace, raise emotionally intelligent kids, and reclaim joy as an act of radical parenting. This conversation explores:The hidden toll of always being “informed”How to parent with purpose when you're burned outWhy joy and connection are survival tools for familiesWhat it means to use your privilege without burnoutReal talk on relationship tension, social media pressure, and choosing fun on purposeWhether you're at a protest or simply trying to keep your home a refuge, this episode is your reminder: You are doing something powerful just by raising kind kids in a heavy world.

Once we learned about the mental load, we thought we were on the same page. But that first conversation? It brought up more frustration than clarity. In this episode, we share how our first attempt to talk about the mental load went sideways, the common mistakes couples make in these moments, and the small shifts that helped us move from blame to real teamwork.Whether you're just learning about the mental load or you've tried bringing it up (and hit a wall), this episode gives you real talk, relatable moments, and practical ways to start the conversation again — with more connection and less conflict.This episode is audio from a live chat between Chels + Mike. Should we start a "Mornings with Chels and Mike" segment? Let us know!

>For the first 4 years of our parenting journey, we didn't know what the mental load was, let alone how deeply it was impacting our connection, our communication, and our resentment.In this honest conversation, we share what our relationship looked like before we had the words, how the invisible labor kept building tension, and what shifted when we finally named it.Whether you're new to the idea of the mental load or you're trying to help your partner understand it, this episode gives you language, validation, and a behind-the-scenes look at how one small vocabulary change can create big relational shifts.

From postpartum rage to career stress to spiritual deconstruction, we've walked through some serious identity earthquakes and nearly walked away from our marriage. We know what it's like to sit in silence at the end of a long day, feeling more like roommates than partners. To wonder if things will ever feel good again. To carry the mental load, the emotional labor, and the resentment that builds when no one talks about what's really going on after the baby.This conversation kicks off a new chapter in our marriage, in our business, and on this podcast. We're sharing the honest truth about the hard seasons, the awkward conversations, the near misses... and the daily work it took to move from disconnection to reconnection.Whether you're in the newborn fog, navigating toddler chaos, or just feeling like the spark is gone, this episode is your reminder that you're not alone, and it is possible to find your way back.

If your emotional hangover keeps crashing your good days, or your confidence lives and dies by your partner's mood… we need to talk. This one's coming in hot with equal parts spicy and supportive. In this tough love episode, I'm channeling my no-BS grandma to call out three common ways women self-sabotage in relationships and life:Expecting the good to fall apartHanding your power over to your partnerHiding your insecurity behind "busy"If you've ever felt like you're stuck in a loop of doing the same things and expecting different results, this episode is your wake-up call and your warm hug. We're not here to stay small. We're here to break cycles and expand our capacity for more joy, connection, and confidence. Let's go.If you recognized yourself in any of this, it's time to stop circling the same drain. Book a clarity coaching call and let's get you unstuck, because the patterns aren't going to change unless you do something different.www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration

Feel like you're the only one trying to keep the conversation (and the relationship) alive? In this episode, Chelsea Skaggs breaks down how to get your partner to open up and communicate—without nagging, resentment, or repeating yourself 100 times. We'll talk about why your partner may be emotionally shut down, how gender conditioning plays a role in communication breakdowns, and how to use curiosity, timing, and real-life scripts to shift the dynamic in your relationship.If you're craving deeper connection, less defensiveness, and way fewer one-sided convos—this episode is for you.

Feeling touched out as a mom is so real — and so under-talked about.In this episode, we're diving into what it means to feel touched out, how overstimulation affects your connection in marriage and motherhood, and what to do when your nervous system is begging for a break.Host Chelsea Skaggs (mom, relationship coach, and author of upcoming release: Talk Like a Team) shares her personal story of being physically and emotionally maxed out after baby #2, the guilt she had around asking for space, and the empowering communication shifts that helped her find herself again.You'll learn:What "touched out" really means — and why it's more than just being tiredHow sensory overload impacts intimacy, connection, and mental healthWays to set physical boundaries without shutting your family outLanguage upgrades that help you advocate for your needs without guilt or blameWhy this isn't a sign of failure — but a powerful cue for self-careWhether you're a stay-at-home mom, working mom, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you name what you're feeling, normalize the need for space, and give you tools to reconnect with yourself and your people.

You planned the trip. Packed the bags. Hoped for rest.But somehow, you're still managing tantrums, tracking snacks, and wondering why your partner is chilling while you're losing it in the hotel bathroom.Sound familiar?In this episode, I'm breaking down why so many family vacations leave one parent drained (usually you), and how to shift the dynamic before, during, and after the trip — so both of you get a break, feel seen, and actually enjoy your time away.We'll talk about:The pre-vacation convo every couple needs (and why it's not about the itinerary)Real-life rhythms that help you tag-team instead of keeping scorePhrases to use when things get tense — so you reset instead of explodeHow to stop feeling like the vacation manager and start feeling like a team againBecause vacation should be a break for both of you.Let's make it happen.

In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, we're not just opening the windows and scrubbing baseboards—we're clearing out the emotional dust bunnies that quietly build up in your relationship. Inspired by a junk drawer declutter (spoiler: it wasn't even my stuff), I'm diving into the invisible messes—like unspoken expectations, unchosen roles, and the quiet resentment that chips away at your connection.You'll hear real talk about:How the default parent role might be wearing you downWhy unspoken expectations create lingering tensionAnd how to name the needs that are currently going unmetPlus, I'll walk you through 3 core emotional blocks and give you reflective questions to get honest about what's taking up space in your relationship.

Arguments happen. Misunderstandings are inevitable. But what separates thriving couples from those who grow distant isn't how often they argue, it's how they repair. In this real-talk episode, Chelsea Skaggs breaks down why your fights aren't necessarily a problem, how your body and brain store emotional memories (hello, Inside Out fans!), and the simple but powerful ways you can create more connection even after a hard conversation. Plus, she shares a personal story of a recent tearful moment with her husband and how it surprisingly became a moment of deeper intimacy.If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is "normal" because you argue, this one is for you. It's not about perfection. It's about learning to heal and grow together.Ready to build a relationship that stores more joy than resentment? Let's dig in. Book a free consultation call with me here to learn more about how to work with me: www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-explorationelationship communicationemotional repairhealthy conflict resolutionmarriage advicearguing in relationshipshow to repair after a fightbuilding intimacy after conflictemotional connection in marriagecouples who arguehealthy argumentsstoring emotional memoriesemotional intimacyconflict repair skillsrelationship advice podcastmarriage communication tipsfighting and repairingrelationship repair strategiesimproving emotional connectionreal talk about marriageInside Out emotional memorieshow couples fight and healemotional memory storageresentment vs repairhealthy marriage habitspartnership communicationavoiding relationship resentment

Is your relationship “fine”... but not exactly thriving?In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, I (Chelsea Skaggs) break down the key differences between relationship coaching and therapy—and why coaching might be the proactive support your partnership actually needs.From couples feeling disconnected after having kids to those craving more communication, intimacy, and emotional connection, I'll share how my coaching approach helps you move forward—not just dig into the past.You'll learn why emotional intelligence is crucial for modern relationships, how a personalized Relationship Blueprint can reignite your connection, and why waiting until a crisis isn't the only option.Whether you're in the thick of parenting, navigating the emotional load, or just ready for deeper relationship growth, this episode offers tools, insights, and a fresh perspective on investing in your partnership.

In this powerful and raw conversation, Chelsea sits down with Fred Van Riper, a Fair Play facilitator and men's relationship coach, to unpack the invisible forces shaping our partnerships—particularly the role of patriarchy and gendered expectations. Together, we explore how societal norms have impacted both men and women, why conversations around vulnerability, emotional labor, and mental health are often avoided, and what true partnership really requires.From reframing what it means to be a provider to acknowledging unprocessed shame and stepping into emotional ownership, this episode challenges listeners, especially men, to get uncomfortable and take real steps toward change. If you've ever felt stuck in traditional roles or unsure how to create an equitable, empowered relationship, this conversation is your starting point.Topics include:Why vulnerability is a strength, not a weaknessThe unseen cost of the patriarchy for men and womenWhy men must lead in dismantling toxic normsThe blame-shame loop in relationshipsHow to start building emotional safety and communityTakeaway:It's not about blame—it's about responsibility. We don't need perfect solutions, but we do need committed partners. This is your invitation to do the inner and relational work.Connect with Fred: Transform Your Life: Coaching for High-Achieving Men | Seat at the TableConnect with Chelsea: Chelsea Skaggs Coaching

Has your relationship felt heavier lately? You're not alone. In this episode, we are here to discuss the rising tension I'm seeing in couples, especially during this election season in the U.S. — a season that's loud, divisive, and emotionally charged. Whether you're in a marriage, co-parenting partnership, or navigating family and friendships, political conversations are starting to feel like landmines.I'm not here to tell you who to vote for. I'm here to help you protect your relationship while honoring your values, especially when you and your partner see the world differently.In this episode, you'll hear:Why political talk feels so personal (spoiler: it's not just about policies)How mismatched views can trigger identity-level conflict in relationshipsThe 3 most common tension patterns couples fall into — and how to shift themWhy your home needs to be a “safe landing place,” now more than everEncouragement to turn toward each other instead of away — even when you disagreeThis is the real-talk, empathy, and empowerment that makes me your favorite big sister voice in the world of modern parenting and relationships. If you're wondering how to keep your connection strong through disagreement — and even grow because of it — this one's for you.

Feeling lonely in your relationship, even when you're together all the time? You're not alone. In this episode, I'll share about the quiet disconnection that can creep into long-term partnerships. We'll get into how love can exist alongside loneliness, why emotional distance happens, and how to rebuild a sense of connection. I'm sharing personal experiences, insights from working with couples, and practical ways to break out of the “roommate” cycle. If you're craving deeper conversations, emotional closeness, and more intentional moments with your partner, this episode is for you.What to expect in this short-and-sweet episodeSigns you might be stuck in a loneliness cycleSmall shifts to create deeper daily connectionHow to respond to your partner's bids for attentionMy 4-month Relationship Roadmap Coaching for couplesIf this resonates, take a moment to reflect—and if you're ready for more support, let's talk. Helpful Links:FREEBIE: Spring Cleaning Your RelationshipOFFER: The Confident Mom ResetOFFER: Relationship Coaching Hang with me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationships.after.babyRelationship lonelinessEmotional disconnectionFeeling lonely in marriageMarriage strugglesRelationship connectionCommunication in relationshipsRebuilding intimacyMarriage supportRelationship coachingEmotional intimacyFeeling like roommatesStrengthening your marriageImproving communicationRelationship advice for couples

In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, I sit down with Nicole Buckley a licensed perinatal therapist and the voice behind Raising Good Parents, to talk about one of the biggest struggles for new parents: asking for help. We break down the barriers that keep moms stuck in burnout mode, why so many of us feel like we have to do it all, and how learning to ask for help can transform not only your own well-being but also your relationship. Nicole shares practical strategies, mindset shifts, and real-life examples to help you step out of survival mode and into a more supported, balanced version of motherhood. Plus, we chat about the impact of the pandemic on today's parents and how to move forward with healthier expectations. If you've ever felt overwhelmed but didn't know how to ask for help, this episode is for you!

Do you ever find yourself in the same argument on repeat? One of you gets louder, pushing for resolution, while the other shuts down and checks out. This common cycle isn't just personality differences—it's your nervous system at work. In this episode, we break down why this happens and how to shift the dynamic so you and your partner can communicate better, repair faster, and actually solve the issue.Curious about what the biggest disconnect is in your relationship? Find out in 2 minutes with this free quiz: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/6722c41de89981a813192c52Ready to take control of your relationship so you can enjoy your partner and your life more? Schedule a free meet-and-greet with me to discuss coaching options: https://calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-explorationDid you enjoy the episode? Please leave a review! It means so much to me.

Your relationship doesn't crumble in one big moment—it's the small, everyday fractures that make the foundation weak. In this episode, we're breaking down how to build a relationship that can withstand stress, conflict, and the inevitable hard times.You'll learn:✅ Why couples don't fall apart in dramatic explosions—but in the unnoticed moments✅ How 30-second check-ins can change everything✅ The power of repairing quickly instead of letting resentment build✅ One thing you and your partner can turn to when things get toughHard times are coming—it's not a matter of if but when. The strongest couples aren't avoiding the storm; they're building a foundation that can handle it. Let's talk about how to do that, together.Listen now & start strengthening your relationship today!Ready to get serious about enjoying your relationship and your roommate? Schedule a free meet-and-greet call with me to learn about relationship roadmapping.

Download my FREE Relationship Jumpstart Bundle (Including conversation starters about the mental load): https://chelseaskaggs.kit.com/relationship-jumpstart In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea discusses the invisible weight of the mental load—the planning, remembering, and anticipating that often falls on one partner (usually women). If you've ever felt frustrated that your partner “just doesn't see” everything you manage, this episode will help you unpack why that happens—and what to do about it.Chelsea breaks down how small fights over chores or schedules are actually about deeper issues of cognitive labor and emotional burden. She shares practical, no-BS solutions to help couples shift household responsibilities, communicate more effectively, and build a more balanced partnership.Takeaways:Fighting over small things often masks deeper issuesWomen typically carry the majority of the mental loadResentment builds when one partner feels overburdenedDirect conversations—not passive frustration—create changeReallocating entire responsibilities (not just tasks) prevents micromanagingWeekly check-ins help keep the balance in checkChapters:00:00 - Introduction to the Mental Load02:51 - Understanding the Mental Load04:39 - The Impact of Mental Load on Relationships08:49 - Shifting the Dynamic: Solutions for Couples11:38 - Practical Steps to Balance ResponsibilitiesTune in now and take the first step toward a more balanced partnership.

Tune into tomorrow's episode to learn what you CAN DO to stop arguing over "nothing" and address the common struggles in your relationship.

Feeling overwhelmed but hesitant to ask your partner for more help? You're not alone. Many of us fear that asking for support will come across as nagging or ungrateful—but the truth is, appreciation and needing more can (and should) go hand in hand.In this episode, we'll break down the psychology behind why appreciation motivates behavior change, how to communicate your needs without resentment, and the key to creating a more balanced partnership. Research shows that healthy relationships thrive on a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions (Gottman Institute), meaning the way we ask for help directly impacts the response we get.You'll walk away with:A step-by-step conversation framework for asking for more helpThe science behind why appreciation increases follow-throughWord-for-word phrases to keep the conversation productiveTips for navigating defensiveness or pushbackIf you've ever felt like you're carrying too much but don't want to start an argument, this episode is for you. Hit play now and learn how to ask for what you need—while still making your partner feel valued.Let's keep the conversation going! DM me on Instagram [@chelseabrookeskaggs] and let me know your biggest takeaway!Interested in using coaching as a tool to make the growth you want? Email me chelsea@postpartumtogether.com to explore options!

Ever feel like you're carrying the weight of your household while your partner gets a free pass? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm joined by Sandi Konta, an expert in the Fair Play method, to break down how couples can move toward more balance and partnership at home.We dive into:✅ The hidden ways we become complicit in our own oppression✅ Why you have to step back if you want your partner to step up✅ How Fair Play helps redefine roles and expectations—without the nagging or scorekeeping✅ Small, doable steps to create more equity and connection in your relationshipIt's time to drop the Supermom identity and reclaim your time, energy, and partnership.