Breaking the Ice

Dana Oleksuk, wife of Travis Oleksuk, who finished last season in Rosenheim in the Del3, joins me on the podcast for the third time! Our husbands played together in Austria for two hockey seasons and in this episode we caught up and updated each other on our lives. In this episode we talk about:  Not having a contract this late in the year and what that looks like for each of us The possibility of retirement and how we each feel about it The day to day challenges of this position (living with family, lack of stability or not being able to plan anything) How we each would get our stuff back from overseas if we didn't go over Mental energy and how it takes so much out of you to have these same conversations every year with your significant other Regardless of whether you have a contract or not, you will definitely be able to relate to this episode and I hope it brings some light into your week that you are not alone!   EPISODES WILL BE OUT TWICE A MONTH! Follow my page on Instagram! Shop my kids boutique and get 15% off with the code ice   Follow Dana on Instagram! Use the code ICE15 for 15% off their first month or if you sign up for the 6-month/annual subscription payment you can get 15% off the whole plan!   Dana's Website:   www.dofitnessco.com www.dofitnessco.com/membership     

Hi guys! I hope you all are having a nice summer at home. As always, I wanted to be open with you about some of the things that I have been struggling with postpartum this time around. I am so grateful that I have this safe space to share about my life and hope that I can help someone with this episode.   How I was diagnosed with Postpartum OCD + Anxiety I talk about some of my triggers and how I have experienced "impending doom" and ruminating thoughts How my hypochondria has sky rocketed this time around and how I am overcoming it How I found a therapist that I LOVE How you're not crazy, it's the hormones   Some things that have helped me: This podcast + this Instagram account has thoroughly helped me with this journey https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-the-hard-things/id1526993843   This episode specifically: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/all-the-hard-things/id1526993843?i=1000577362483 

Carli Husson is a spirit baby medium and energy healer that I had a session with a couple months before I conceived my daughter. I loved our session so much that I knew I HAD to have her on the podcast so here we are!   In this episode we chat about: What a spirit baby is How she started with this work and how her spiritual journey began  How she prepares for a reading  Signs from our spirit babies  Gender disappointment and how we should normalize it How everything is energy  How you can start the journey of connecting with your spirit baby  A mini spirit baby reading on me where Carli connects and tells me the gender of my last baby in the future!   Follow Carli on Instagram @matrescent.mama   Full list of offerings & to book a session: https://www.matrescentmama.com/offerings   More on SIGN, a 5-week Spirit Baby Group Immersion: https://www.matrescentmama.com/sign  

Cheers to ONE HUNDRED Episodes of Breaking the Ice! It has been my absolute honor to be the host of this podcast and communicate with the amazing women in this community daily. In this episode I talk about:   100th episode + how there has been EIGHTY THOUSAND downloads since I started! Winning the championship + what the experience was like witnessing it in person How the starts aligned on the day of Game Six  Bridging the gap between coaches SO's + players SO's and how it leads to one word: Communication (and preferably at the beginning of the season!) Inclusion on Teams + Why this makes such a difference in your overall well being during the season + more! Please SUBSCRIBE, RATE + REVIEW if you LOVE Breaking the Ice! It's the best way to show your support for my show!

Jackie Gendron, wife of Miles Gendron, who plays in the ECHL for the Greenville Swamp Rabbits, joins me on Breaking the Ice today. In this episode we chat about: TikTok and how Jackie grew her following majorly once she moved to Norway for her husband's job and started sharing about their day to day there How Jackie met her husband in high school and has traveled with him for 11 years Remote jobs: How to find a remote job, what it's like working North American hours in Europe Focusing on the positives of this lifestyle + how it can benefit you overall to not dwell on the negatives Follow me on Instagram  Follow Jackie on Instagram Follow Jackie on TikTok

Maggie Kestner, wife of Josh Kestner, who plays for Rauma Lukko in Finland, joins me on Breaking the Ice today. In this episode we chat about: Losing your identity in this lifestyle The challenges emotionally when isolated so far away from home The common misconceptions that people have about hockey Missing big life moments back home during the season Visa Issues Trying to get out of Russia right before the war started and so much more! Follow me on Instagram Follow Maggie on Instagram

Emilie Blum, wife of Jonathon Blum, who plays for Red Bull Munich in the DEL, joins me for a long overdue episode of Breaking the Ice! In this episode we talked about: The show, Hockey Wives, and how Emilie was cast for it One Year Contracts and the uncertainty of it Not having any control as a hockey wife Schooling for Kids Abroad How to make friends outside of hockey Transitioning from a house you love back home to a small apartment in Europe Mid-Season Burn Out Struggling with Mental Health during the hockey season and how going on anti depressants are okay Follow me on Instagram! Follow Emilie on Instagram

Tara Kampfer, wife of Steven Kampfer, joins me on Breaking the Ice today.   In this episode, we talk about: Her experience going on The Bachelor ABC and all the behind the scenes details How she felt watching herself back on tv  How she met her husband and moving around in this hockey life Living in Russia and playing in the KHL during COVID The war in Russia + Brittney Griner Follow Tara on Instagram! Shop my Online Children's Boutique SALT

Alyssa Flynn, wife of Brian Flynn, who finished his last professional season in the AHL with the Utica Comets joins me for todays episode of Breaking the Ice. In this episode we talk about: Self Care for Moms How postpartum is not just the first three months after having a baby How to support a new mom postpartum in our lifestyle Pregnancy Loss Abroad The healing power of food Plant Based Nutrition Follow me on Instagram Follow Alyssa on Instagram Website for recipes, yoga, and motherhood: https://www.alyssakflynn.com/    YouTube Yoga & Meditation Videos: @alyssakflynn   Other stuff:   Yinova Center: Chinese medicine, acupuncture, women's health & fertility specialists:  https://www.yinovacenter.com/   Thrive by Arianna Huffington    The China Study: The Most Comprehensive Study of Nutrition Ever Conducted https://www.amazon.com/China-Study-Comprehensive-Nutrition-Implications/dp/1941631568   Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof You Can Heal Yourself by Dr. Lissa Rankin (this book mentions the Roseto, PA community) https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Over-Medicine-Scientific-Yourself/dp/1401939996   Postpartum Support International (including this just in case listeners don't know about it!) https://www.postpartum.net/

Stefany Jenks, wife of AJ Jenks, who finished his last professional season in the ECHL playing for Fort Wayne Komets, joins me on Breaking the Ice to share all about their experience in the wild wild west, aka the ECHL. In this episode, we chat about:    The unpredictability in minor league hockey and what it has taught her about herself Being ghosted by a team when it comes to resigning with them Friendships outside of the hockey life Motherhood How your priorities shift depending on which season of life you're in Retirement and the phases you go through when you retire The fear of both being unemployed when it comes to retirement Networking for our S/O post hockey life   Follow me on Instagram Follow Stefany on Instagram

Buckle up, I'm ready to share my birth story! For those of you that have followed my pregnancy journey, my daughter was breech and I chose to have a scheduled c-section here in France. I share the highs and lows of my hospital experience, as always, UNFILTERED.   In this episode I talked about:   -The surgery + what it was like having a c-section   -My childcare falling through a few days before my scheduled c-section   -Being in the hospital alone and struggling with a major language barrier   -The differences between having a baby in Austria and France   -What I've learned and done differently as a second time mom: Advocating for myself in the hospital   -The last night with your toddler before the baby comes   -C-Section recovery + (with a toddler)   -The transition from 1-2 kids   & more!   Follow Breaking the Ice on Instagram! Want to be a Guest? Fill out the Guest Submission Form here! My last SOLO Episode leading up to my birth  My European Birth Story in Austria

Layne Gibbons, wife of Kyle Gibbons, who plays in Val Gardena in the Alps Hockey League, joins me on BTI for the SECOND time. I felt we could all use a light hearted and funny conversation and I knew she was my go-to girl! In this episode, we talk about: Visa Issues and Flying Super Late in our Pregnancies Finding Dog Sitters + Baby Sitters Abroad Funny Situations with Teams ALL THINGS POP CULTURE. Bravo, RHW, Vanderpump Rules, Kardashians, Ultimatum + Love is Blind, F***, Marry, Kill. You name it, we went there. We hope this episode puts a smile on your face!   Follow me on Instagram!  Follow Layne on Instagram! Listen to our Episode on Friendships: A Reason, A Season or a Lifetime  Get 15% off your order at my Online Boutique SALT. with the code ice.

Danielle Nyquist, wife of Gustav Nyquist, who plays in the NHL for the Columbus Blue Jackets, joins me for a wonderful episode all about SLEEP. Danielle is a Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant and owns her own business, Sov Gott Sleep (which means sleep tight in Swedish) In this episode we talk about ALL things baby + toddler sleep including: What drove her to create a career around sleep Healthy Sleep Habits and when we can begin to implement them What healthy sleep habits are and WHY they are so important Newborn Sleep, what you can expect and how to know when your baby is tired What sleep regressions are and what we can do to help support our kids through these developmental progressions Toddler Sleep Regressions How + WHEN to move your toddler from a crib into a toddler bed (Lord, help us) The Witching Hour(S)!!! + More!    Follow me on Instagram      Work with Danielle: Website: www.sovgottsleep.com Here you can find more information about booking a free consultation, booking a group experience (parenting group, school group), and shop my sleep packages.  Email: sovgottsleep@gmail.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/sovgott_sleep  Facebook: facebook.com/sovgottsleep

It's been a MINUTE. I recorded this solo episode because I felt it was about dang time to update you guys on what has been going on for the past month and a half. I wanted to share the real and true hardships of this lifestyle and some of the additional stressors we have been dealing with.  Making a complete lifestyle shift (going from off-season to season and vice versa) can be really draining. In this episode, I share about prepping for the season, the travel day, my pregnancy and getting adjusted in a new country. I share what helps re-center me when I am going through a hard time and how there is always light at the end of the tunnel.   LINKS: One of my favorite memories of this podcast + community was our retreat last year and in case you haven't heard, this year it is in CABO SAN LUCAS! May 17-21st, 2023. There are still rooms available so DM me if you have questions or want to sign up today!    Have you made your list for Black Friday shopping? I have one more addition for you! My small business, SALT, is having a HUGE Black Friday sale. starting Thursday November 17th. You can take 30% off all regular priced items and 15% off all Markdown Items. Get some of your Christmas shopping out of the way!    

Suz Lundeen, girlfriend of Joe Howe, who is currently the assistant coach at Yale but played his last professional season with the Orlando Solar Bears in the ECHL, shares all about their journey through retirement.   Suz + Joe were both hockey players, who retired at the same time, and faced all the challenges that came with this, together. In this episode we talk about:   The frustration element that can lead a lot of players into retirement  Struggling with high functioning depression Seeking help for the mental health issues and how they overcame this transition together as a couple Tangible tools they learned from therapy Leaning on community Retirement gifts and so much more!   Follow me on Instagram Follow Suz on Instagram   Other Episodes on Retirement: Knowing When It's Time to Hang Them Up with Sarah Whitmore Retirement and Life After Hockey with Stefanie Heid Having a Game Plan for Retirement with Andrea Hanson

Sarita Francis, engaged to Jordan Scarlett, who plays professional football in the NFL, joined me for an episode of Breaking the Ice. One thing I have learned from this lifestyle is that regardless of which sport you are in, our lifestyles are so similar. We experience very unique life experiences, struggles, highs, lows and everything in between!   In this episode, we chat about:    -The NFL and what the schedule is like, the lifestyle + getting drafted for the first time -The similarities between pro football and pro hockey -Being Type A in this lifestyle -Finding balance in this lifestyle -Having 2020 babies -Raising kids in the professional sports world -Never being able to make plans in the lifestyle -How she created her brand based on a passion that she had -Creating boundaries within your business -Advice for those looking to start their own business Follow me on Instagram Get 15% off your order at my Online Children's Boutique, Salt with the code ice.   Follow Sarita on Instagram  Shop Pressed by Sarita   Sarita would love to offer listeners 15% off their next custom PRESSED design! DM "ICE" to @PRESSED.BYSARITA to activate your savings TODAY!

Brittany Wedgewood, wife of Scott Wedgewood who plays in the NHL for the Dallas Stars, and Emma Winnitoy, girlfriend of Mitchell Stephens, who plays in the NHL for the Montreal Canadiens, join me for a friendship therapy sesh today!   We had so much fun catching up and updating each other about the summer and upcoming plans for the year and season ahead. We chat about new teams, post wedding blues, renting houses, getting kicked out of the US, engagement stories, intentions for the 22/23 hockey season and more!   Follow me on IG Follow Brittany on IG Follow Emma on IG   Get 15% off your order at my new children's boutique called SALT. Use the code ice. 

Annessa Smith, wife of Jeff Smith, who plays for EHC Neuwied in the Del 4, joins me on Breaking the Ice today. Annessa has been living the hockey life for 13 years and in this episode we chat about:   Her mom passing away during the hockey season Embracing the culture that you're in and leaning into it How to find things going on in the city that you live in Her birth experience in Germany  How it works when giving birth in another country and having no one to watch your first kid How team cars following players when wives are about to have a baby should be mandatory The adjustment from 1 to 2 kids How teams can tell you certain things that are false so you'll sign and play there The struggle of not being able to get your kid into a daycare/school  Kinder Krippe  Having a home in Spokane in the Off-Season Social anxiety and how Annessa has coped with social anxiety while living abroad   Follow me on Instagram:   Follow Annessa on Instagram:   Take 15% off your order at Salt Kids Boutique with the code “ice”   I am scheduling out guests for Breaking the Ice! Interested in being a guest on the podcast? Fill out the Be a Guest Submission here.

Madison Marshall, wife of Ben Marshall, who plays in Ingolstadt, Germany in the DEL, joins me on Breaking the Ice today and I could have talked to her for five more hours. Madison has been doing all of my brand management and has been such an asset, turned friend! If you want to listen to a relatable AF episode….this one is for you.   We chat about: Madison having an identical twin and anything you've ever wanted to know about identical twins, I asked!   The stereotypes and judgment that people have about the lifestyle and our husbands personal lives   Different pay ranges within the sport and how everyone assumes each person makes millions of dollars   Leaving a job that you love to move for your significant others job. It's a choice, sacrifice and not an easy decision   How Madison figured out what she wanted to do and how to start her own business while living abroad   Learning your value and setting boundaries within your business and with your clients   Being a people pleaser and cancel culture   Inclusion in the hockey lifestyle, this was a long conversation. We each shared vulnerable stories of when we have been excluded by others and how it made us feel.   What to take out of your vocabulary when extending invitations to other people to hang out   Madison just got married so we chat about etiquette and guest expectations about all the things (plus ones) and people putting you in uncomfortable situations to accommodate them   Advice for future brides   How people project things onto you if you a choose a life path that's different than theirs BASICALLY ALL THE THINGS! Don't miss this epi!!!! Follow me on Instagram   Follow Madison on Instagram   Work with Madison   Check out Madison's Youtube Channel   

Kaitlin Yakura, wife of Dean Yakura, who finished last season in the ECHL for the Greenville Swamp Rabbits, joins me on Breaking the Ice and shares with me her journey of finding out she has Stage 3 Melanoma at age 25.   In this Episode we discuss:   Getting Diagnosed with cancer and what this emotional process looked like for her What she had going on in her life and how it had to be put on hold What chemotherapy was like and how cancer affected her confidence and self-esteem How growing old is a privilege and the unknowns that cancer can cause in the big picture of life The ways in which she felt the most supported by friends and family How therapy was a huge part of her healing process The importance of being an advocate for yourself and your health   Follow me on Instagram   Follow Kaitlin on Instagram    Resources for Cancer + Melanoma:   AIM Melanoma Foundation:  CancerCare American Cancer Society

Camilla Emilie Jacobsen, engaged to Emil Bejmo, who plays for the Manglerud Star in Oslo, Norway, joins me on the pod today. Camilla and I met when she flew from Norway to Nashville for the retreat and I was so excited to see her face via zoom and chat with her.   In this episode we talk about:   -How Camilla works as a customs officer in the largest airport in Norway -Her and her husband are from two different countries and she shares how they communicate -Living the Hockey Life as a European Import -How to put yourself out there when you are more shy + reserved going to a new country -We chat about English -Maternity + Paternity care in Europe -Babies being born while sports are going on -Biggest Fears as a First Time Mom -People commenting on pregnant bellies whether your bump is boppin or not so much aka STOP doing it       Follow me on Instagram: Get the Retreat Details here  Follow Camilla on Instagram

Kecia Sheahan, wife of Riley Sheahan, who finished last season in the NHL playing for the Seattle Kraken, comes on Breaking the Ice today and we chat about all everything within our lifestyle. Kecia was an absolute pleasure to have on the podcast and I had the best time talking with her!   In this episode we talk about: What it was like planning a wedding during a pandemic and how everything turned out the way it should be Kecia and Riley are from two different countries and we chat about how they dealt with it during the height of the pandemic Living far away from family and the challenges of not having help once you start having kids Meeting someone from different sides of the world, different countries or across the country and deciding where you should settle down and plant roots Going to Seattle and what it was like going to a brand new organization  What a free agent is and what that has looked like for them Trying not to control the situation when you don't know where you are going and trust the process Mental Health in the Hockey World The challenges and rewards of hockey and so much more!   Follow Me on Instagram:   Follow Kecia on Instagram:   Check out Vitality with Kecia   Listen to Kecia's husband, Riley, "Speak your Mind Podcast"

Kayla Alber, wife of Patch Alber, who plays for the Fischtown Penguins (Germany) in the DEL, joins me for the first episode of Season 3. Kayla has been going to Europe for 5 hockey seasons and knows the ropes of packing and preparation for moving overseas!   In this episode we talk about: How you can find the essentials in other countries and packing things from home is all about preference The current ongoing lost luggage situation going on in Europe Our must have items for the big move Items we forget + regret to bring each year The items you can leave behind + grab abroad Must have items for kids (we kept this short + sweet) How to mentally prepare for the adjustment, because let's face it's an adjustment   Keep in mind, someone's year 10 abroad, is not someone's year one and vice versa. Let's remember to help support each other and make each other feel as comfortable as possible!   Resources from the Episode Below: iHerb (You can order North American products from this website abroad) German Amazon (We use this all the time in Austria!) Free Packing List from my Website! Episode on Packing with Carine Bailey Apple AirTags for Keeping Track of your luggage! Postpartum + Hospital Bag Essentials for having a baby abroad First Few Months with Baby Essentials    Follow me on Instagram: Join the Waitlist for the Retreat! Follow Kayla on Instagram!  

What an incredible season two it has been with you all. For the last episode of season two, I wanted to jump on and share some life updates, recap season two, talk about what's to come with season three and take you along for the ride. Even though the pod is taking a minor summer break, I will still be super active on the Instagram page and chatting with you all! Thank you for being a part of this community, it means the world.   Follow me on Instagram!   

Abby Grimaldi, wife of Rocco Grimaldi, who plays for the Nashville Predators in the NHL, is a hockey wife and Christian based musician from Grand Forks, North Dakota. Abby is an amazing human and this episode will inspire you all.   In this episode, we chat about:   Moving and starting over and Abby's outlook on fresh starts Growing up in a traditional home and never moving around to transitioning to the lack of stability that hockey brings Going from being a super busy person to struggling with depression once that stopped and hockey life started.  -The sense of fulfillment that's affected once you stop working What Abby's experience has been like living in different places away from her core people Taking hard times and turning them into life lessons Abby's career as a musician and how she leaned into her passion And SO MUCH MORE!     Follow me on Instagram:   Athletic Greens is going to give you a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D and 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. All you have to do is visit athleticgreens.com/breakingtheice   Follow Abby on Instagram Listen to Abby's music on Itunes

Amanda Wick, wife of Jeremy Wick, who plays in Switzerland for the Rapperswil-Jona Lakers in the National League, and I sit down and have a conversation on all things traveling with kids. In this episode, we each share all the tips and advice to hopefully help you prepare as best as possible.   In this episode we cover: Ages 0-5 years old. We break down what you need to bring with you and what you can leave behind Where you should be sitting on the plane according to your kids age What jet lag looks like and what you can do to stay sane Whether you should purchase an extra seat Whether you should bring a car seat on board and more!   Follow me on Instagram! Follow Amanda on Instagram!   Get your FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase of Athletic Greens.

Erinn Hakstol, wife of Dave Hakstol, who is the head coach for the Seattle Kraken in the NHL, joins me on Breaking the Ice today!   In this episode, we chat about:  How her and her husband met being 8 years apart! What covid looked like for them as a family and how her and her kids were apart from Dave for over six months  Home schooling older kids during a pandemic  Long distance Growing through this lifestyle with kids who are older What community means to her and how the hockey life has changed her perspective on life Experiencing the Seattle Kraken and what it's been like being with a brand new team and organization   Follow me on Instagram!  Visit BTI Website Here! Claim your FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase of Athletic Greens Here.   

Taylor Cook is a women's professional hockey player and a mindset coach! Taylor's boyfriend, Eeli Parviainen, is the strength and conditioning + assistant coach in Bremerhaven, Germany in the DEL. In this episode we chat about: The pay equity between mens and women's hockey The U18 World Championships getting canceled for women but mens continuing on  How she got started in her career Men's mental health: Why men feel like they can't be vulnerable and why we think there needs to be more resources on hockey teams Mental health struggles that happen with the hockey lifestyle and how can we recognize when we are struggling with it Tangible things we can do to incorporate in our lives to take us out of the hockey bubble such as a lot of movement, travel, away from life long family and friends and feeling left out      Follow me on Instagram!    Check out Taylor's Website: https://www.elitehighperformance.com/ This is the group program that Taylor is running starting April 14: Take 25% off with the code BTI25 Valid until April 13 at 11:59PM EST**   Inside the Athletic Mind Podcast: Book reference: Mind Gym by Gary Mack

Stacey Kasdorf, wife of Jason Kasdorf, joins me on the podcast today. Stacey is a mom to three little girls, a business owner, influencer, blogger and wife. With this being a busy time of year, I thought this would be a great time to dive into the topics of motherhood, marriage + me time and how they all are intertwined.   In this episode we chat about: One of Stacey's hardest times as a mom How once you have kids, it's harder to make time for your marriage and Stacey shares how and her husband work on this Love languages and how they change depending on what season of life you're in How to take time for yourself when being a mom Burn out- how to recognize this before it's too late Stacey's top 3 tips for flying with kids on an airplane + more!     Follow me on Instagram: Want to be on the podcast? Fill out a submission here! Follow Stacey on Instagram: Read her Blog here!   THANK YOU TO VUORI FOR SPONSORING THIS PODCAST. GET 20% OFF YOUR ORDER HERE!

Julie Johnson, engaged to Tim Branham, who is the assistant coach of the Colorado Eagles in the AHL,  joins me on Breaking the Ice today! Tim was the head coach of the Utah Grizzles in the ECHL for 8 years and this is their first season making the big move to the AHL. In this episode, we discuss how it seems “against the rules” to co-mingle with coaches wives and players wives and how we can change this storyline.   In this episode we chat about:   Never being a players wife and stepping directly into this role The different mentality between being a head coach vs. assistant coach's wife Negativity on the internet about your significant other How the relationship varies depending on the team dynamics Covid limitations for players and their wives last hockey season in the ECHL We both give our honest opinions on these relationships     If you haven't written a review yet on Apple Podcasts, leave one here   Follow me on Instagram!   Follow Julie on Instagram!   Follow Alphalit!    Other Reference's: Coach's Wife Life with Wendy Tippett

Victoria Arlen is a ESPN + MBC Host, Gold Medalist, Dancing with the Stars Contestant and Author, to name a few, joins me on the podcast today!   When Victoria was 11 years old, she developed two very rare conditions and lost the ability to walk, talk, communicate but she heard everything that people were saying for FOUR years. She was completely locked in her body.   In this episode we talk about:   The beginning stages when Victoria and her family knew something was off How Victoria and her family got through these four years and the recovery to come The emotional ride of being able to hear everything going on but not able to respond Winning a gold medal at the paralympics Setting goals and never giving up Becoming one of the youngest people to become a reporter on ESPN (and female) The stereotypes from others being a female working for ESPN What it has been working in a male dominated industry The experience with Dancing with the Stars and performing while not being able to feel her legs and truly showing people what you are capable of Surrounding yourself with people who will lift you up/cheer you on    It was such an honor to chat with Victoria and I know you will leave this episode feeling as inspired as I did!   This Podcast is sponsored by Vuori. Use the code ICE for 20% off your order! www.vuori.com/ice  Follow me on Instagram  Be a Guest  Follow Victoria on Instagram Project Walk Boston   Victoria's Book:   

Today is a solo episode with me, your host! I started to feel that roadtrip, middle of the season burn out creep in a couple of weeks ago and once I processed my emotions, I wanted to share this episode with you all.   In this episode I talk about:   The Mental Load of Responsibilities  Stepping into the role as the primary caretaker of kids, pets, household responsibilities but also feeling the overwhelm of not being able to take a break if needed Long Roadtrips Alone Planning Life Around Hockey   The Mental Load of Traveling Coordinating the Flights To/From the Season and sometimes having to travel by yourself (potentially internationally + potentially with children) The end of the season overwhelm: What do we leave behind, where do we leave our stuff, what do we bring home, needing to pack suitcases, boxes and keep everything organized with less than a weeks notice, usually  Long Exhausting Travel Days, twice a year   The Mental Load of Starting Over: Making New Friends every 8 months Learning a new city or country, with maybe a new language  The stress of not knowing where you will live constantly    What I have learned I needed in these tough moments   Listen to the episode on Coping with Travel Anxiety   Listen to the episode "The Unknowns Made us Stronger"      Follow me on Instagram:    Check out my website   Join us in Nashville:  

Kirsten Bartley, wife of Vic Bartley, who finished this season for Kunlan Red Star in the KHL, is a real estate agent, small shop business owner and mom of two. Kirsten is one of the most hardworking people I know and she joins me to share her knowledge of the real estate world. In this episode we talk about   -Juggling working real estate full time, having two kids, solo momming the last three seasons -Whether you should rent or buy during the hockey season -Foreign income -When you're married to someone from a different country than you  -What the market looks like currently and whether or not you should buy right now -Airbnb or short term rentals when renting your house out for the season and we share some funny stories about both -What are red flags that you should avoid when hiring a real estate agent  -Whether or not you can buy a home if you don't have a set contract for next year Take 20% off your purchase with Vuori: USE THE CODE: Ice    www.vuori.com/ice    Follow me on Instagram:   Follow Kirsten on Instagram:   www.instagram.com/kirstenbartley   Get 15% off Kirsten's shop, Blake & Brock! Use the code: breakingtheice    www.blakeandbrock.com    Reach out to Kirsten for Real Estate!   www.instagram.com/kirstenandhollyteam    Listen to the Episode about Resentment!   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/breaking-the-ice/id1514210846?i=1000539130832 

Gretchen Geraghty, girlfriend of Max Willman, who plays for the Philadelphia Fliers in the NHL, joins me today on Breaking the Ice. Gretchen currently resides in Allentown, PA and her boyfriend is 1.5 hours away in Philadelphia living the hotel life!   In this episode we talk about:   The uncertainties of the hockey life When they decided to move in together Long Distance Covid and how that affected her day to day Learning how to be independent in this lifestyle What it's like having a twin and living far away from them The comparison game of social media Making friends as an adult and how challenging this can be and more!    Follow Breaking the Ice on Instagram! www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Use the code "ice" for 20% off your Vuori purchase www.vuori.com/ice    Link to the Slumberpod!   Take $75 off your spot in Nashville! Click here!    Follow Gretchen on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gretchengeraghty Subscribe to Gretchen's Youtube Channel  www.youtube.com/gretchengeraghty  Listen to the Happy Hour Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-hour-with-gretchen-geraghty/id1483491132  

Danielle Fraser, wife of Jamie Fraser, who plays in Villach, Austria in the ICEHL, joins me today for a late night happy hour! Danielle and I had an absolute blast chatting virtually. We have had so many mutual connections and she has also spent six hockey seasons in Vienna herself! (where my husband plays now). Her and Jamie have been together for 15 years and they now travel the globe with their two kids.   In this episode we chat about everything and anything but a few topics in between all of the laughs are:   -Playing in the US and making the decision to go over to Europe -Why she doesn't live in Europe full time and goes back and forth from Canada to Austria -Giving birth in Austria  -The challenges of living in a foreign country when your kids are older -How her family has navigated their sons Type 1 Diabetes -How we discovered we are hypochondriac soul sisters   and SO much more.   Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod    Sign up for the Nashville Retreat: www.breakingtheicepod.com/retreat   Follow Danielle on Instagram: www.instagram.com/prevfraser  

Jenn Army, wife of Derek Army, who is the Head Coach of the Wheeling Nailers in the ECHL, joins me on Breaking the Ice today! Even though she is a coach's wife now, she started off as a player's girlfriend/wife and they went through long distance for 9 years! Jenn is a teacher and she shares about how difficult it was to get time off to go visit and really having to plan her time off around what worked for the hockey schedule, which also led us to talking about maternity leave for teachers and how unfair it is (and even more stressful with covid times!) We also talk about: Being a Homebody and how this hockey life really pushes you outside of your comfort zone Long roadtrips in the ECHL as a mom and how it's basically survival mode We talk about how days off, aren't days off for moms (if ya know, ya know!) Call ups and send downs when you're long distance and dealing with the frustrations and uncertainties that come with this, especially when you are taking time off from work How long distance and the unknowns that hockey can bring can make your relationship stronger, if you're with the right person Transitioning into the coaching role Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Get details about the Retreat here! www.breakingtheicepod.com/retreat   Follow Jenn on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ducey_15 

Brittany Wedgewood, wife of Scott Wedgewood, who plays for the Arizona Coyotes in the NHL, joins me on the podcast today for the seventh time?! Brit and I really needed a good catch up episode and I know you all love hearing her on the podcast so we had to make it happen! Some of the things we chit chat in this episode are: Brittany and Scott's new home in Arizona The January Lull and why it seems to affect us all What's been going on for us both: Moving, Sicknesses, Funny Dog Stories and Check your boobs Britney Spears and Jamie Lynn Spears drama Wedding Prep for Brittany The rules and regulations for hockey during a pandemic and why the constant confusion is exhausting AND MORE! Tune in for a good convo with your girls & enjoy!   Join us at the retreat! www.breakingtheicepod.com/retreat Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod Follow Brit on Instagram: www.instagram.com/britttanyenglish 

Jamie Machacek, wife of Spencer Machacek, who plays for Wolfsburg in the DEL, joins me over a virtual glass of wine on the podcast today. Jamie + I have been chatting for so long after we discover the same love for the show Nashville. (Naming her son and my dog after it!)  We've talked about all the mom things over the past year and I was so excited to finally meet her virtually IRL on the podcast.   Jamie and her husband knew they wanted children from the beginning. After trying for quite awhile and going through a few health issues, they realized they needed to look into their options.   In this episode we talk about:   The transition from babyhood to toddlerhood and how being a mom is always evolving and changing   Jamie opens up about her health struggles and what she went through before her first round of IVF   Male Factor Infertility and Endometriosis   Navigating IVF in a foreign country and how hockey played a factor into their journey   When you're struggling with fertility and family and friends are getting pregnant around you   Keeping this private and not sharing with anyone around them   After undergoing IVF, they found out they were pregnant with twins and lost one of the twins. She talks about what this experience was like for her and her husband    Never Giving up on your Motherhood Journey    THANK YOU Jamie. You are amazing!     Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod    Join in on our Nashville Retreat! www.breakingtheicepod.com/retreat    Follow Jamie on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jlmachacek 

Dr. Sarah Sweetnam, wife of Erik Gudbranson, who plays for the Calgary Flames in the NHL, joins me on the podcast today. Before we talked about dentistry, we talked a bit about Sarah's hockey journey, thus far. She shares how her husband got traded six days after Sarah gave birth. She had to wait five weeks before finally joining him in Nashville (They are Canadian!) We also chat about what COVID has been like for her as a first time mom. She shares how her and her husband met her first week of dental school and how they managed both of their busy schedules and careers. Then, we talked about all things dental. I asked her about any dental myths she has heard that she can debunk for us  She tells me whether or not sleeping with your mouth open can cause cavities  She answers whether cavities are genetic and what you can do to prevent them We talk about fluoride and what she recommends Kids Dental- She tells me the real deal of when your kid actually needs to go to the dentist for the first time. She also shares some great tips on how we can prepare our children for their first dental appointment and change the dialogue so that we aren't implementing fear before their first appointment.   Enjoy this episode, I learned so much!    

Ilyssa Alvaraz, girlfriend to Logan Roe, who plays in Vasteras, Sweden in the Allsvenskan Hockey League, joins me today on the podcast. Ilyssa has lived her entire life in Florida and adventured to the other side of the pond for her first season overseas. In this episode we dive into: How you can lose yourself when you begin to date someone new or lose yourself in this lifestyle and how to identify this within yourself  Darkness and how challenging it is when it becomes dark so early Finding what you love to do and learning about yourself in the process Youtube. Ilyssa started a Youtube channel this year to cope and communicate with this lifestyle.   Follow BTI on Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Subscribe to Ilyssa's Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/IlyssaAlvarez   Follow Ilyssa on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ilyssaalvarez   

Jeanie Prapavessis, wife of Matt Prapavessis, who plays in Vienna Austria for the Vienna Capitals, sat down with me over wine and we had a great conversation about all of the things.   We dive into:   Lockdowns- What it has been like as Americans living in Austria during yet another lockdown. We chat about the frustration, confusion on rules and of course, what we're watching during lockdown.   We talk about wine and how cheap it is in Europe   High School- How we feel terrible about what we put our parents through in high school (lol sorry mom) and now we both think nothing will get past us as moms. Watch out kids, we're onto you.   We talk about mom shaming on social media. We find that sometimes there can be useful tips but also we are not robots and there is no such thing as “perfect parenting” You have to do what's best for you and your family.   Cheating- that taboo topic that no one talks about but everyone wants to know about….what do you do when you know someone is cheating on their girlfriend from back home or who's there in person…... You'll have to listen to this completely unfiltered conversation we had about this. We give our opinions on how to address this situation and whether we think this should be a group approach or single approach.   Female Friendships in the hockey world- How there is sometimes a pressure for everyone to be best friends and it's not always practical with so many different personalties. However, you can also meet some of your closest friends. Same goes for the guys too!   Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Follow Jeanie on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jeanie.prapavessis

Hilary Miele, wife of Andy Miele, who plays in Nizhny Novgorod in the KHL, joins me on the podcast today! In this episode we dive into: -Long Distance: Hilary & Andy met in college and she had little to no idea where hockey would take them! She shares about her experience with long distance and how she wound up leaving her career to be with him -We talk about Russia and she shares a few funny stories. Hilary and her daughter were apart from Andy for four months while they were waiting on their Russian visas. -Solo Travel- Hilary loves to travel and she loves going on trips with her daughter to experience the adventures that this hockey life has to offer. -Not losing your sense of self while following your partner -We also talk about one year contracts and how it can be stressful when you are always waiting on the next opportunity. Before the pandemic hit, they signed a two year deal in Arizona in the AHL, but with the unknowns of COVID, they made a family decision to head overseas.   This episode was so fun to record. We had a lot of laughs and I guarantee you will feel like you are sitting down with two friends.   Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakingtheice Follow Hilary on Instagram: www.instagram.com/hilarymiele 

Carley Patterson, girlfriend of Jesse Graham, who plays in Augsburg, Germany in the DEL, is a holistic nutritionist and this is the perfect day for this episode to come out as we head full force into the holiday season.   In this episode, we dive into:   -How she plans meals for the week and the simple basics you can have prepared in your fridge versus meal prepping for the entire week   -Healthy snack ideas vs. crushing a bag of chips mid day ( @ me) and how this brings out the 3 p.m. energy lull    -Staying on track with our nutrition around the holidays without limiting ourselves   -How to avoid the binge and restrict cycle   -We chat about how eating + working out is not a one size fits all because we are all so different   -How your lifestyle can affect your nutrition   -Why Eating Late is no bueno ( @ my husband)    Lastly, we talk about the most random things we have accidentally brought home from the grocery store and how we find random foods in random sections. Enjoy this episode!  Follow me on Instagram:   www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Follow Carley!   www.instagram.com/carleypatterson.nutrition    www.cpattersonnutrition.com   cpatterson.nutrition@gmail.com  Other Resources:   https://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eating-4th-Anti-Diet-Revolutionary/dp/1250255198/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=intuitive+eating&qid=1638180086&qsid=143-7866670-0039564&sr=8-1&sres=1250255198%2C1626256225%2C1250004047%2C1797203983%2C1684037085%2C1684031443%2C1684038286%2C1612439330%2C1647398525%2C1509893911%2CB009LB5MFM%2C1954605099%2C1945586125%2C0312321236%2C1628604115%2C1090899424&srpt=ABIS_BOOK 

Terra O'Reilly, wife of Cal O'Reilly, who is the Captain of the Lehigh Valley Phantoms in the AHL, shares her fertility journey with me. Terra opens up about her Endometriosis, several miscarriages, IVF journey and surrogacy journey. Terra wants other women to know that they are not alone if they are struggling with their fertility. She speaks about how looking back, she really kept this private but as she has opened up more about it, so many women have reached out to her about their struggles. I also have a very special connection to the surrogacy world, which you will have to listen to hear about it. Terra and I have such a authentic and genuine conversation and connection about this topic and this long episode is worth every minute. Terra has such a beautiful heart and I am so honored she chose to share her story on Breaking the Ice.     Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Follow Terra on Instagram: www.instagram.com/terraoreilly        Other Resources: www.ancestry.com   

Sandra Boström Hoppa, wife of Sebastian Aho, who plays in the NHL for the NY Islanders, joins me on the podcast today! This is the first time I've chatted with a European expat in North America and we had so much fun! In this episode we dive into: Her husband getting drafted and how she originally didn't want to go because she was nervous to leave her friends, family and job   We chat about leaving your comfort zone to go out of your home country and how tough this can be in terms of planning your future   What it was like getting into the United States with the pandemic    Sandra is pregnant with her first child and giving birth in the US! We talk about healthcare in the US and we also tap into maternity leave in the US and how unfair it is. We chat about how much support there is for new moms in Europe.   We exchange funny stories and talked about tipping in the US vs. Europe   Enjoy!   Follow our Instagram page: www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Follow Sandra on Instagram: www.instagram.com/bostromhoppa   Want to hear my European birth story? Listen here   Check out my new website: www.breakingtheicepod.com 

Alyssa Malette, daughter of Vince Malette, who was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's at the age of 52, joins me on the podcast today. Vince is a retired DEL + OHL coach. Alyssa is incredibly strong for sharing her vulnerable story on BTI and I was so inspired by her story + her strength. You can feel the bond that Alyssa and her dad have together.   In this episode we talk about   -Alzheimers and what this disease is -How she could see changes within her dad by watching him on the bench  -The hardest part about the diagnosis for her and her family -She shares about how important it is to not take life for granted, tell your loved ones that you love them and enjoy every moment.             Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Follow Alyssa on IG:  www.instagram.com/alyssaxomalette   Resources: www.instagram.com/alzassociation   The Vince Malette face off to end Alzheimer's will be held on July 9th, 2022.    Below is a link to donate to the golf tournament: https://metcalfegolf.com/golf/ecom_v2/ecom.php?cat=101865&item_id=1017087   The 2019 Vince Malette Face off to End Alzheimer's golf tournament raised over $32,000 and the money was given to the Alzheimer's Society of Ontario to support younger onset programs. Unfortunately the past two summers we had to cancel the golf tournament in the best interest of public safety and out of respect for the businesses struggling due the COVID19 pandemic.   http://alzheimersocietyblog.ca/fathers-day-why-alyssas-dad-is-her-hero/    https://www.google.ca/amp/s/ottawacitizen.com/news/local-news/were-not-going-to-give-up-on-him-hockey-coach-56-facing-alzheimers-with-grit-love/wcm/45b1c06e-279b-4332-949c-490e84d06387/amp/     Get 10% off your first month of BetterHelp   www.betterhelp.com/breakingtheice 

Wendy Tippett, wife of Dave Tippett, head coach of the Edmonton Oilers in the NHL, joins me on the podcast and shares all about her 37+ years in this hockey world!   In this episode we dive into:   -What this lifestyle as looked like for her over the years and the difference between being a player's wife and a coach's wife   -What it was like for her kids growing up in the hockey world   -How she loves the role of a coaches wife because she is a mama bear by nature but respects the boundaries   -We chat about what it was like for her during COVID when she went home for a quick real estate transaction and wound up doing long distance with her husband for 5 months (the longest they have ever been apart)!   -We chat about funny wives room stories + fans in the stands   -What advice she would give her younger self in this world   Follow the podcast on Instagram! www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Follow Wendy on Instagram: www.instagram.com/wentip    Follow along with the Edmonton Oilers! https://www.nhl.com/oilers 

For our final hurrah together, we wanted to bring the community into the mix. Most of you know I host this podcast by myself but wanted to bring on Brittany for a bit to co-host with me! We collected all of your questions and answered them throughout the episode. In this episode we dive into:  How to handle people not being supportive in the lifestyle Whether you should buy a house during hockey or after it's over Our superstitions as hockey wives Setting boundaries Break ideas with or without kids What we do to make extra cash When is the right time to start a family & more!   SUBSCRIBE, RATE + REVIEW Breaking the Ice on Apple Podcasts!     Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Job ideas: www.poshmark.com www.mercari.com  www.care.com      Need social media management? www.instagram.com/saltandpinesocial  

Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a clinical psychologist, a relationship expert, a speaker and an author. After hearing Dr. Tracy on another podcast, I became fascinated with her work and have continued to follow along with her on Instagram and Facebook! This is an episode that will be relatable for women EVERYWHERE, even if you are not in the hockey lifestyle.   In this episode we dive into:   Resentment: In this lifestyle, we are uprooting our lives and we carry a lot of the mental load. Resentment is a feeling that can unfortunately creep in. Dr. Tracy addresses what resentment is, ways it can show up and how we can move through it.   Acceptance- Finding acceptance within this lifestyle when you feel you have little or no control   Long Distance- Little things we can do to strengthen our relationship when we are in a long distance relationship   Attachment Styles- We chat about the four attachment styles. I took Dr. Tracy's attachment style quiz on her website and learned my attachment style and learned the attachment style of my husband. We talk about how to work through disagreements if your partner has a different attachment style than us.   How your marriage shifts after having a baby    & more! This episode is truly amazing. If you find yourself resonating with it, please share it to your story and tag the podcast!     RESOURCES: Check out her website http://drtracyd.com/   Follow her on Instagram:    www.instagram.com/drtracyd   Check out her podcast!   https://drtracyd.com/podcast/  Some upcoming workshops from Dr. Tracy   https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/resentment Subscribe Rate and Review Breaking the Ice on Apple Podcasts   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/breaking-the-ice/id1514210846    Follow us on Instagram:    www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod 

Today is World Mental Health Day and I decided to record a spontaneous episode last night for this topic. I really started to notice that I had anxiety in high school and it has definitely continued into my adult life. Even though this is a pretty vulnerable topic, I feel it's important to share. I discuss how I have been feeling mentally the last few weeks. I also shared some past clips from episodes where my guests have spoken out about mental health. Please know that you are not alone if you suffer from depression or anxiety and to always reach out to someone if you are struggling. Your struggles do not define who you are. Thank you for being apart of this community. www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod  

Jacqueline Chiarot, wife of Ben Chiarot, who plays for the Montreal Canadiens in the NHL, joins us on Breaking the Ice today! Jacqueline and Ben met when they were 17 years old, after being set up on a blind coffee double date and have been together ever since! Jacqueline is a successful interior designer so of course we had to pick her brain about design. We asked her how to make your off-season home feel more like you, how to nail down a design style + more. We also chat about how she was able to balance motherhood + launching a business in the middle of a pandemic. Enjoy!    www.instagram.com/breakingtheicepod   Follow Jaqueline on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisprettylifexo www.instagram.com/jacquelinechiarotdesign