Chapter X with Michael Kay

When Rich Alderton left his high-powered corporate role on a Friday, signing off millions and fielding nonstop calls, he expected Monday to bring more of the same. Instead, the phone was silent. That stark contrast was the wake-up call: people had been in love with his title, not with him.   What followed was a journey into reinvention. Rich stepped away from corporate leadership to help others become more adaptable in a rapidly changing world. Along the way, he discovered just how unprepared most of us are for life's biggest transitions.   Today, Rich joins me to talk about how to shift your mindset in the face of uncertainty, reframe fear as opportunity, and rediscover purpose in Chapter X.   We discussed:   Why we resist change (and how to stop fighting it) The mental tool that makes uncertainty more manageable What personal purpose looks like in life after work How to move from fearing change to finding freedom in it Redefining success when there's no one left to grade you   Resources High Performance Change  Follow Rich on LinkedIn 

David Marlow is known as the Ikigai Guy. I didn't know that when I first came across his writing. What I did know was that something in his work resonated deeply with me.   Today, we talk about what happens when your career comes to a close, and you're left facing the question: who am I now? David shares how he discovered the concept of ikigai, what it means to him, and how it shaped the way he moved through the end of his own career.   He offers a thoughtful process for reconnecting with purpose, and for paying attention to the parts of your life that make you feel most alive. We talk about identity, daily rituals, the power of reflection, and how a few small steps can open the door to something meaningful.   We also explore:   What ikigai means (and what it doesn't) How to quiet the noise enough to hear what's true for you Why a beginner's mindset is key to moving forward What it looks like to create your own “ikiverse” How old memories and stories can point you back to what matters most   Resources: Follow David on LinkedIn  Subscribe to the Ikiquest Newsletter David's website   Where to find The Ikigai Way:  Amazon   Barnes and Noble  Wiley Books   

Richard Eisenberg is back. And this time, we're diving into what his unretirement looks like now.    If you don't know Richard's story, he's an “unretired” journalist who writes a column for MarketWatch and freelances for Next Avenue, Fortune, AARP, and Fodor's. Richard calls this chapter “unretirement” — living it with purpose and intention.   Before all that, he was an editor at Next Avenue and Money magazine, and held senior roles at Yahoo! and Good Housekeeping. He's also the author of two personal finance books and a proud Northwestern grad.   In our conversation, Richard shares his latest stories on medical debt, telehealth access, and the renewed value of travel advisors. He also opens up about caring for his mom during her dementia journey and what it taught him about starting financial conversations early.   Listen in to hear what Richard's been up to since the last time we spoke.   We discussed:   What “unretirement” really looks like in practice The importance of having early financial conversations with aging parents Why telehealth access matters—and what could happen if it's rolled back A fresh look at travel advisors and how they're evolving Richard's book recommendations and resources for deeper learning The challenge of caregiving for aging parents with dementia Resources The View From Unretirement Next Avenue Fortune | Richard Eisenberg Fodor's Travel    Friends Talk Money   The Friday Afternoon Club by Griffin Dunne The Purpose Code by Jordan Grumet Retirement Intelligence by Robert Laura  

What happens when the career you built your life around stops feeling like it fits? Today, I'm talking to Jordan Grummet about what it really looks like to wrestle with purpose—especially during big life transitions like retirement.   Jordan opens up about losing his father at a young age, pursuing medicine to honor his legacy, and eventually realizing that career wasn't fulfilling him. We covered the struggle between societal expectations and our own authentic path, and how to find meaning after a life-altering shift.   Jordan, an author and host of the Earn & Invest podcast, brings a perspective shaped by both his work in hospice care and his own experience of stepping away from a path that no longer felt right.   It's a conversation about what happens when we let go of old identities and start figuring out what comes next. In this episode, you'll hear: Why purpose feels like such a monumental challenge in retirement Jordan's story of legacy, loss, and what medicine couldn't give him The slow burn of professional misalignment and how he woke up to it How powerful external voices influence our life choices The Purpose Code path forward into a more meaningful second act   Resources jordangrumet.com The Purpose Code  

Only 5% of homes in the U.S. are moderately accessible. Stairways, sunken living rooms, poorly designed bathrooms, and trip hazards are just the start.    Greg Cantore's journey has spanned bicycle mechanics to defense work and leading nonprofit programs. But his mother-in-law's experience living in a house that wasn't designed for her needs opened his eyes to the bigger issue.   After modifying her home, and later adjusting to her needs in assisted living, Greg realized there was a larger need for accessible, supportive home solutions. Today, he runs Little Deeds, a company dedicated to making homes safer and more accessible for aging individuals.   Your home should support you as you age. Find out how Greg is helping make that a reality for so many. We discussed:   How universal design makes homes safer and more accessible as we age Greg's career journey—and how it led him to create Little Deeds The challenges people face with aging in place  Simple ways to make your home safer and more accessible Why it's important to plan ahead with home modifications   Resources   Little Deeds  

You don't have to spend hours in the gym to stay strong and mobile as you age. My guest, Mark Firehammer, created myFeelness to help men remain functional without grueling workouts or fitness gimmicks.   At 43, Mark's body started pushing back. There were aches, stiffness, and limits he couldn't ignore. He knew something had to change but wasn't willing to spend hours in the gym.   That led him to rethink movement entirely. Mark found a way to stay strong, mobile, and pain-free through small, mindful movements. Now, he's helping other men do the same with a system that keeps you moving without intense workouts.   If you care about moving well, feeling good, and staying strong as you get older, you'll want to hear this one.   In this episode, we discuss: Simple daily moves to check how well your body is working Why your nervous system is the key to better movement How paying attention to your body can improve your health The problem with mainstream fitness advice and what actually works What it really means to be "Out of Function" (and how to fix it) A small mindset shift that could help you avoid serious health problems   Resources: myFeelness Living Well Without Fitness on YouTube Mark Firehammer on Instagram Mark Firehammer on LinkedIn

If you had to make an important healthcare decision today, would you know what to do?   My guest, Dr. Corinne Auman, is an expert in aging. She helps people and families figure out senior healthcare, retirement planning, and life's unexpected changes. She's a psychologist, CEO of Choice Care Navigators, and author of Keenagers.   Most of us don't think about aging until we have to, like when a parent falls or we realize our own home might not work for us as we get older. Suddenly, we're faced with tough choices about Medicare, long-term care, and what it means to age well.   Today, Dr. Auman shares why planning ahead is so important, how to talk to loved ones about it, and what steps you can take now to have more options later. I think you'll find this episode both eye-opening and helpful.   We discussed:   Start planning your future home in your 50s What we often get wrong about retirement communities How to bring your loved ones into the conversation The 3 main phases of retirement Who we can turn to for guidance on our next steps   Resources: Keenagers by Dr. Corinne Auman www.CorinneAuman.com

Today, we're taking a different approach. Instead of focusing on men's transitions, we're diving into the journey women face in their next chapter.   My guest, T. Kari Mitchell (TK), is a transformational speaker, author, and integrative wellness coach who has dedicated her second half to helping women reclaim their health, confidence, purpose, and power after retirement so they can truly flourish in their golden years.   After 32 years as a teacher, she boldly transitioned into holistic coaching and motivational speaking at 62. Now, through her programs, TK helps boomers overcome challenges and rediscover their potential. We explore the transitions women face, including shifting identities, hormonal changes, and societal expectations.   Guys, this is the episode to share with the women in your life because growth is better when we do it together. TK's energy is contagious, and I think you'll walk away with a new perspective on how we can all grow into the next stage of life.   We covered:   The mindset shifts that help women step into their next chapter with confidence How past experiences can open the door to new passions and opportunities The societal challenges that women face as they age (and how to push back) Practical ways men can better support the women in their lives How women can start reclaiming their purpose today Resources https://www.lifestyle120.com

With freedom comes the risk of losing direction. When we're younger, the world feels full of possibilities. But as we get older, our focus narrows—one job, one partner, one path. Over time, our routines can make it harder to see new opportunities.   In this episode, Paul Wilson explains how mental blocks can keep us stuck and shares how to break free and explore what's still out there. After a bicycle accident and a broken arm in 2017, Paul found a new career path.   Now, Paul is a life coach, business coach, and hypnotherapist who helps people overcome feeling stuck through his practice, A Happy Head. He developed the Shift Process, a method that uses small mindset shifts to create big transformations.   Paul shares how to remove the mental “blinkers” that limit personal growth, especially as we navigate life transitions like retirement.   How a broken arm led to a new career When Paul realized he had found a superpower 3 ways to discover new hobbies or interests What hypnosis can do for you (and what it can't) The difference one phone call can make for retirees Connect with Paul: A Happy Head Business Coaching with Paul

Willie Handler was born to Holocaust survivors. Though his home was loving, the trauma his parents endured left deep scars that shaped his life in ways he only came to understand much later.   During the pandemic, Willie began exploring his family's history and the intergenerational trauma he carried. What started as a way to honor his parents became a transformative journey. It unearthed buried memories, led to tough therapy sessions, and inspired his powerful new book, Out From the Shadows.   Along the way, Willie interviewed nearly 100 others with similar stories. He brings their voices together in a book that sheds light on the resilience of generations shaped by unimaginable pain. My conversation with Willie left me in awe of his courage. His story is one of reinvention and hope—and I can't wait for you to hear it.   We discussed: Why growing up with distant parents left Willie in survival mode How a HR consultant convinced Willie to retire When he realized it was time to unearth his survivor experience The challenges Willie faced in getting the memoir published His advice for aspiring authors in their Chapter X Resources: williehandler.com  Willie on Substack Willie on Instagram      Out From the Shadows Deep Into the Weeds The Road Ahead Loved Mars, Hated the Food  

For Larry O'Nan, leaving work behind wasn't about slowing down. It was a chance to step into a new chapter of intentional living and service.    With decades of experience guiding faith-based organizations, Larry raised millions for global initiatives and inspired others to lead with purpose. But his journey didn't stop there.   Redefining what it means to live fully, Larry has embraced failure as a tool for growth, mastered the art of saying no to what doesn't align with his strengths, and found meaning in every phase of life, even after retirement.   His story is a testament to the possibilities that unfold when we approach each day with intention and courage.   Resources Follow Larry on Facebook  Connect with Larry on LinkedIn  Intentional Living and Giving Email Larry at larry@larryonan.com   

At 70, Edward Doherty ran a virtual Boston Marathon. At 72, he published his first book. If anyone knows the secret to defying odds, it's him. Ed is a man who radiates optimism—his story not only touched my heart but also reignited my spirit, and I'm sure it will do the same for you.   In this episode, Ed takes us through his journey from the restaurant industry to consulting, after a pandemic-induced furlough. He shares the hurdles he faced and how he turned persistence into his greatest strength.   Ed heads up Ambrose Landen Consulting, helping organizations with strategic planning, leadership development, and employee engagement. At 72, he published his first book, Observations at the Speed of Life.   Get ready for an inspiring conversation on resilience, personal growth, and the legacy we all have the power to create.   We discussed:   How Ed pivoted after being furloughed during the pandemic Why failure is only valuable if you learn something from it How Ed's wife inspired him to become a runner in his 60s Running the Boston Marathon virtually around Fenway Park at age 70 How publishing a book made Ed reflect on his legacy The power of optimism in recognizing potential in others Resources: Ambrose Landen Consultant Observations at the Speed of Life  

We've all heard the ‘find your why' advice, but what if it's not about that at all? Today, my guest is Blair Dunkley, and I'll keep it simple: this conversation is going to be mind-filling, mind-expanding, and honestly, mind-blowing.    Blair's here to break down how we can improve our lives by shifting our behaviors with research-backed methods that are both impactful and surprisingly simple. So, get ready to pay attention and maybe even take some notes.   In this episode, he breaks down the difference between mindset and life skills—and why mindset alone just doesn't cut it. His mind models offer a fresh way of thinking that can help you through life's transitions, big or small.   We discussed:   The difference between mindset vs. life skills Why studies question the effectiveness of mindset Blair's challenge to the “find your why” framework Why we often blur the line between remembering and reliving Using mind models to manage stress and solve problems Resources The Three E's  Phobia Freedom Formula The Blair Dunkley Experience Ultimate Mind Hacking Book (16 Growth Mind Models)  

As a writer, I've often heard my peers talk about the “evils” of AI over the past couple of years. But truthfully, I don't know much about it myself, which is why I'm so excited to talk to today's guest, Justin Simpson.   Justin brings a lifetime of business experience, and now, in his “Chapter X,” he's exploring the world of AI with new imagination and curiosity. You might be wondering, “What does AI have to do with my stage in life?”   Justin's goal is to show how AI can be useful for everyone, especially those facing career changes or life transitions. He believes AI isn't something to shy away from, but something to enjoy and use.   In fact, Justin believes AI offers incredible benefits for everyone, particularly for non-tech folks. Let's dive in and explore how AI can bring new possibilities into our daily lives.   We discussed:   Why Justin believes AI benefits everyone (not just tech companies) How to start using AI tools like ChatGPT 3 incredible ways that AI serves small business owners Using AI as a brainstorming buddy for career transitions The potential for AI to address loneliness   Resources Here.Now.AI. 

Imagine a man who truly wants to connect with his partner. He carefully picks his words, hoping to create that closeness. But somehow, it all falls flat. Frustration builds in his partner, yet he can't quite put his finger on what's going wrong. Why does this keep happening?   Many men never learned how to connect emotionally in a way that feels genuine to them. Today, we're diving into this struggle and exploring how men can break free from this cycle.   I'm excited to welcome Owen Marcus, the co-founder of MELD. It's a community focused on helping men reconnect with their emotions and bodies. With over thirty years in men's emotional wellness, Owen has created programs that blend emotional understanding with peer support to help men, and now women thrive.   What Owen does is incredibly important for living authentically. In this episode, we'll dive into a major challenge men face today: being disconnected from their emotions.  We discuss:   What inspired Owen to start working with men 30 years ago Why society tells men to disassociate from emotions One simple way to talk to men about their feelings The impact community and relationships has on men Owen's method for reconnecting with your body Breaking the pattern of emotional distance across generations   Resources   MELD training & community  Couples retreat in Costa Rica for Valentine's Day 2025  

Imagine the possibilities when men come together in a supportive atmosphere. In the Chapter X community, I've seen firsthand how this freedom allows us to be our true selves—and that's where real growth happens.    Today, I'm excited to introduce you to Bodhi Aldridge, a man whose life story is a testament to the power of self-discovery and purpose.    Bodhi has traveled the world as a father, grandfather, lawyer, coach, and facilitator. He lives near the beaches of Byron Bay with his wife of 40 years and is a proud father of four and grandfather to ten.    As we step into our roles as elders, Bodhi believes we have a responsibility to create space for others—especially for women and younger generations, including our granddaughters. In this episode, he shares profound wisdom that just might inspire you to embrace your journey and engage with what truly matters in life.   We discussed:   Three traits Bodhi thinks are important for men What masculine and feminine energy represent The key advantage you have as a man How to become more present in 5 minutes  The 3 steps of searching for purpose  How to tackle the belief of 'not being good enough'   Resources:   Enter Bodhi's free course giveaway   Listen to the True Freedom podcast    The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware  

Today, I'm excited to catch up with my high school friend, Kenny Hersch. His story is truly one of a kind, and I think you'll find this conversation with him an absolute joy.   Kenny's symptoms began with minor neurological issues, but it took two years to get a clear diagnosis. Early on, doctors worried it might be ALS, which was a scary idea. It was eventually identified as Primary Lateral Sclerosis (PLS)—a non-fatal condition affecting speech and mobility. Thanks to technology, Kenny can join us today.   In high school, Kenny was a force of nature, and he remains just as remarkable. He's embraced the mantra “accommodation without surrender” with resilience and positivity that truly inspires. In this episode, we discussed:   Kenny's life-altering diagnosis of PLS at 45 What it was like coming to terms with his new way of life Tools that helped Kenny transition through his health journey How a newspaper profile transformed him into a local celebrity The impact he hopes to make through his legacy   Links Kenny's feature in The Providence Journal   

David Rynick was a big deal in college—serving on the university senate, co-captaining the wrestling team, and enjoying much attention. But despite all his achievements, he wasn't happy.    This realization set him on a path to explore what mattered to him beyond just achieving more and pleasing others. Today, David is a Zen teacher with credentials in two lineages and a seasoned life and leadership coach.    His latest book, Wandering Close to Home: A Year of Zen Reflections, Consolations, and Reveries, came from 18 months of daily writing during the pandemic. This remarkable collection of essays and reflections is designed to inspire you to live more fully.   In this episode, we chat about David's journey from college success to finding true fulfillment.  You'll find it's a conversation filled with inspiration and joy.   We discuss:   Why early success led David to question happiness and purpose How he explored dance and pottery as self-expression Why it took him a decade to appreciate daily meditation David's advice for men who are struggling to adjust to retirement The most common misconception about meditation   Connect with David   Read Wandering Close to Home   Visit DavidRynick.com    Boundless Way Zen Temple    Listen to David's Zen talks  

When is the right time to start asking yourself life's big questions? My guest, Austin Dowling, who shifted from a corporate attorney to a psychotherapist, is here to discuss the vital role of self-reflection in finding fulfillment in retirement.   Originally from Ireland, Austin is a practicing psychotherapist and executive coach based in New York. He helps professional adults at a crossroads in their personal or professional lives, many of whom struggle with anxiety or a lack of motivation and are striving to reach their full potential.   Austin has navigated some incredible transitions in his own life, and his insights strike at the heart of the challenges many men face in retirement. And here's a little secret: this won't be the last time you hear from us.   In today's episode, you'll hear about:   Austin's path from corporate law to helping people with their mental health Understanding the roots of our inner critic—and how to manage it effectively The reasons why men often face an identity crisis post-retirement  Why you must shed certain habits after transitioning out of your career  How to build a better community through these small steps When it's the right time start asking yourself the big questions   Connect with Austin Austin Dowling Psychotherapy  Austin on LinkedIn Austin on Facebook  

In a world full of noise, it's easy to forget that real happiness can start with reconnecting with who we truly are inside. Today, that's exactly what we're exploring with Amrit Singh, a life coach who helps men discover what they truly want and what makes them happy.   In this episode, we tackle the tough challenges men face with vulnerability and how embracing your true self can transform your relationships. Amrit shares some truly powerful tips on how vulnerability can lead to more joy and fulfillment in both personal and romantic lives.   So stick around as we uncover Amrit's personal journey, his tried-and-true techniques, and how he's helping successful men reignite their passion and strengthen their marriages. It's a conversation that shows just how incredible self-reflection and building intentional relationships can be.   We discussed:   What triggered Amrit's realization in his twenties that he needed to change course How we can reconnect with our true selves beneath all the layers we've built up The most common challenges in making relationships meaningful after retirement What advice Amrit would offer to men who are questioning their relationships Why is exploring our relationships both daunting and rewarding? The source of true fulfillment (beyond external achievements)   Connect with Amrit Coaching with Amrit Marriage Reconnection Roadmap Follow Amrit on Instagram Follow Amrit on Facebook Follow Amrit on TikTok  

When we find something that drives us forward, life takes on new meaning and fulfillment. But true fulfillment isn't just about traditional success—it's about discovering joy and purpose in our everyday experiences, especially as we navigate the second half of life.   Today, we explore this enriching path with a guest whose resilience and purpose have guided his own journey. Alain Dumonceaux joins us, a man whose own life trials have shaped his passion for helping men align their lives with their deepest values.   As the Purposeful Action (Men)tor for the Awakened Man movement, Alain has dedicated himself to showing others how to live authentically. From triumphs at the Culinary Olympics to facing near ruin twice, his journey has driven him to empower others.   Now, Alain's mission is clear: to guide men in rediscovering their life's purpose through his purposeful action plan, "The Return of The King.” This plan serves as a transformative blueprint for embarking on their Hero's Quest.   In this episode, we discussed:   Why we thrive on having something to anticipate in life What we often get wrong about defining our purpose The three mentors who can transform a man's life Why men need safe spaces for open dialogue What we must remember when confronting our pain One tip to keep in mind whenever imposter syndrome strikes Alain shares his tips for perfecting cooking techniques   Connect with Alain (Free Course) Crafting Your Mission The Awakened Man Band of Brothers Hero's Quest The Revolutionary Man Podcast Follow Alain on Instagram  Follow Alain on Facebook

Ever had a friend recommend a book that completely captivated you? That's exactly what happened to me. My friend Bob suggested this book written by a college acquaintance of his, and I decided to grab a copy. Little did I know, it would be one of those extraordinary reads.   As I flipped through the pages, I found myself nodding along, really connecting with the importance of the author's words. Feeling inspired, I knew I had to track down David Chernikoff's email and invite him to join me for a conversation.   David is a meditation teacher, spiritual counselor, and writer who taught psychology and meditation at Naropa University for many years. He currently teaches retreats throughout the United States and is one of the guiding teachers of the Insight Meditation Community of Colorado.    And his latest book, Life, Part Two: Seven Keys to Awakening with Purpose and Joy as You Age, is truly eye-opening. It's a roadmap to finding fulfillment and happiness, regardless of where you find yourself on life's journey.   How a life-changing event at age 13 molded David's adult years The pressure to succeed and how it affects our self worth Redefining your self-worth beyond achievements in middle age The concept of living on two levels: the relative and the absolute 7 keys to awakening with purpose and joy as you age Why David decided to write a book as he approached 70   Connect with David Life, Part Two: Seven Keys to Awakening with Purpose and Joy as You Age  www.davidchernikoff.com  David's Upcoming Event Schedule

In 2015, Brian Feutz began feeling the tug towards retirement. He went headfirst into a journey of discovery, diving into the ins and outs of retirement planning, wondering what the future held, and whether he was financially ready for it all.   He's not just navigated through the transition to retirement, but he's crafted a life filled with meaning and purpose, and I have no doubt you'll find his story truly inspirational.   Brian is a top writer, speaker, columnist, and published author with a unique style that brings a lively perspective to the art of retirement. Whether you're retired or considering retirement, you don't want to miss his thought-provoking ideas that challenge the imagination.    When he's not sharing his wisdom, you can often find Brian enjoying the natural beauty of the San Juan Islands alongside his wife, whether it's on a boat, trail, bicycle, or kayak.   In this episode, we'll explore:   How Brian crafted a encore career through his extensive research on retirement The one simple sentence Brian uses to define retirement What led Brian and his wife to choose the San Juan Islands as their retirement spot Why Brian decided to “practice” retirement on his own—and the steps he took   The reason why roughly 40% of people who retire go back to work temporarily   One ongoing project that is making Brian's retirement purposeful   The way Brian applied perseverance to this hobby to discover a sense of purpose   Resources Read Brian's Work https://lifeafterwork.zone https://brianfeutz.com/ https://brianfeutz.medium.com/   Connect with Brian https://twitter.com/BrianFeutz1 https://www.facebook.com/brian.feutz.16/ Email at Brian@BrianFeutz.com   

What if stress isn't the enemy we thought it was? Our guest today suggests that certain aspects of stress can actually be powerful motivators. But here's the catch: there's a sweet spot, and most of us tend to overshoot it.   Today I'm speaking with Dr. Stephen Sideroff. This is a conversation you will want to listen to multiple times, or at least have a notepad with you so you can jot down some notes. In fact, you're going to want to listen to this multiple times because it's packed with incredible information and things that I think are essentials in our lives.   Dr. Sideroff is an internationally recognized expert in psychology and resilience. Not only has he published groundbreaking research, but he has served as an associate professor at UCLA's Geffen School of Medicine. Now, he's sharing his expertise in his new book, "The 9 Pillars of Resilience," offering insights into mastering stress, aging gracefully, and enhancing vitality.   In this episode, we discussed:   Why stress is the master hallmark of aging  The power of confronting unfinished emotional business in Chapter X How we can get past the discomfort of exploring our buried feelings Discovering the starting point for challenging our inner critic  Dr. Stephen Sideroff breaks down the nine pillars of resilience  How our presence can impact each other unconsciously    Connect with Dr. Stephen Sideroff   The 9 Pillars of Resilience Book   Purpose: The Ultimate in “Use It or Lose It” on Psychology Today  

How does one reach the pivotal moment that propels them into the next chapter of their life? For our guest today, that moment unfolded in a Starbucks, where Jeff Eamers stumbled upon a newspaper ad seeking volunteers for suicide prevention. Having battled his own demons for years, Jeff saw this not just as an opportunity, but as a calling.   In his past life, Jeff wore many hats—writer, director, producer, counselor—all while battling the tumultuous challenges of bipolar disorder. Now, he's found peace and purpose as a practicing psychotherapist and the voice behind the upcoming Three Moments in Time podcast. He lives in the California desert with his two dogs and 11 chickens.   Jeff's journey is one marked by resilience, vulnerability, and the unwavering determination to confront the darkest aspects of the human experience. But a word of caution: Jeff's story is unfiltered and may touch on themes of mental illness that could trigger some listeners.   We discussed:   The first hospitalization at 21 marked the onset of a series of mental health challenges for Jeff How a major film opportunity brought Jeff from the advertising world to Los Angeles Jeff reflects on the experience of navigating manic highs and depressive lows Why he transitioned from Hollywood to suicide prevention counseling How the sudden loss of his best friend served as a wake-up call  Why Jeff decided to pursue a new academic journey at 55  Jeff shares his understanding of the single most crucial factor in healing    Connect with Jeff Mental health in the high desert: A Yucca Valley man, animal rescue and the open landscape via Desert Sun    www.eamertherapy.com   

What could be more crucial as we enter Chapter X than knowing our purpose? Today, I'm happy to have Ian Chamandy on board. He's developed a groundbreaking program aimed at helping people define their purpose.    Ian is no stranger to purpose-driven work. As a founding partner of Blueprint Business Architecture, he's helped hundreds of companies define their unique essence in seven words or less. But Ian's mission goes beyond corporate boardrooms. He firmly believes that every single one of us has a unique purpose waiting to be discovered.   In this episode, Ian walks us through his method for defining purpose, showing us how it can transform not only our decision-making but also our personal fulfillment. Through stories and practical advice, he shines a light on the power of aligning our purpose with our values, talents, and aspirations.   We discussed:   The impact of a simple reminder Ian taped to the wall above his typewriter How we can apply a key business principle to develop our own purpose The magic of defining what makes you uniquely remarkable (in seven words or less) Why discovering your purpose can help you make better decisions Three things that defining your purpose will do as you transition into Chapter X   Connect with Ian Visit Purpose(U) at purposeu.co   Ian Chamandy on LinkedIn  

Today, we're catching up with Richard Eisenberg, who embarked on his "unretirement" journey in 2022 after stepping away from his role as Managing Editor for Next Avenue.   Over the past two years, Richard has gracefully navigated this new chapter, balancing writing, mentoring, volunteering, and personal exploration alongside his wife. As he continues to carve out his path, he generously shares his insights and experiences with us once again.   I'm thrilled to reconnect with Richard and dive into his experiences, observations, and ongoing discoveries in Chapter X. From his insights to the latest reads and learnings, it's a privilege to explore the valuable lessons he's discovered along the way.   In this episode, we discussed:   How unretirement looks today for Richard two years in What has been the biggest obstacle after leaving his full-time job How Richard and his wife are leaning into what's important to them The current topics on aging that Richard is exploring with Next Avenue Exploring the ranges of legacies and impact you can leave behind   Links to Resources   Read “Work, Retire, Repeat” by Teresa Ghilarducci Read “Unretired” by Mark Walton Listen to the Friends Talk Money podcast Next Avenue Read Richard's stories on Medicare for Fortune.com

In 2019, Justin Roethlingshoefer looked like the picture of health from the outside. He was a world championship triathlete and CrossFitter with a successful career in the NHL. But then he started experiencing debilitating headaches combined with stomach issues and insomnia—health challenges he had never faced before.   Doctors told Justin he was in perfect health, but he knew it was a lie. He continued to push for more tests, eventually receiving a colonoscopy and endoscopy that found four precancerous polyps and a precancerous ulcer the size of a quarter in his stomach.   The revelation of his impending health crisis was a wake-up call for Justin to take control of his well-being. Now, as the co-founder of OWN IT Coaching, he aims to redeem global health by educating, empowering, and equipping individuals to take ownership of their well-being. Their mission is to reduce the leading cause of death in the United States—chronic illness, currently at 71%—to below 50% by 2030.   In this episode, we discussed:   Finding his purpose to redeem the health of the world at age 11 Why Justin believes we can use data to take ownership of our health 5 different markers of health that research found can prolong our live How we can access data to determine our health decisions The ways we can educate ourselves about lifestyle changes and health   Connect with Justin   Read “The Power of Ownership” by Justin Roethingshoefer Find out more about testing with Own It Coaching  Own It Coaching  

It's never too late to adopt an active lifestyle, even in retirement. Today's guest, Leon Sirulnick, has been retired for 17 years now. His life has been filled with extraordinary adventures—and I can say he's truly done it on his terms.     Today's guest is very special to me. Back in 2002, I met Leon for the first time in my office. He walked into our meeting, threw a stack of papers onto my desk, and firmly announced he was ready to retire.    That one meeting was a turning point in my financial life planning career. In this episode, you'll meet the man who I consider to be the father of the Chapter X project, and today, we're replaying this episode to highlight the impact he had on shaping our approach to retirement. Tune in to hear the complete story.   When Leon knew it was time to retirement from his career in television The unexpected reason why his first few weeks of retirement were the toughest How he responds to people when they ask what he does during the days How Leon (and his wife Rhonda) stay socially connected with others Leon's secret to being able to enjoy an active life in retirement Why one important meeting with him changed Michael's entire life Links The Paper Clips Project  

When Jerry Werner retired, he found himself in an unexpected slump. Getting hit by the retirement blues was a surprising experience for someone as goal-oriented and optimistic as the former Navy SEAL. Thankfully, a gentle nudge from his son reignited his enthusiasm, and he dove back into the project with renewed optimism.   The driving force behind Jerry's book project was the desire to leave a meaningful legacy for his grandchildren. Currently enjoying retirement between the bustling cities of Manhattan and Montreal, Jerry reflects on the adventurous journey that has brought him to this point. From his exciting Navy career to his transition into business leadership, Jerry's path has been rich with diverse experiences.   I came into this conversation with high hopes, and I can honestly say that Jerry exceeded every expectation. As we dive into his story, he candidly shares the highs and lows of his journey. But what's truly inspiring is how Jerry's resilience shines through as he shares what it takes to craft a fulfilling post-career life.   We discussed:   How a childhood dream to visit Mars ignited a lifelong journey that shaped Jerry's life What lessons he learned from being tortured in a prisoner-of-war camp The biggest life lesson Jerry wishes to impart to his grandchildren Why the intensity of reliving difficult memories put Jerry off from writing his book Jerry's best advice for crafting a meaningful post-career life  Connect with Jerry Follow on LinkedIn

In a world where fresh starts are often idealized but rarely explored, my guest today takes us behind the scenes of his own transformative journey.   I'm truly excited to welcome Howard Epstein, a lifelong resident of Omaha, Nebraska, who recently retired as the Executive Director of The Jewish Federation of Omaha Foundation. Now, he's embracing a new role as an adjunct professor at Creighton University School of Law, teaching a class in nonprofit organizations.    With a background that spans family businesses, a 17-year stint in private law practice, and extensive involvement in Omaha's charitable and philanthropic community, Howard has a wealth of experiences to share.    In this episode, we dive into Howard's fascinating journey—one that navigates through several career shifts. From his days in accounting to managing a fruit and vegetable business, exploring biology, and practicing law, it's a story of adaptation and growth.   We discussed:   How a casual client comment prompted Howard to begin a new career at age 61 Why Howard decided to leave his nonprofit career behind in the last year What the first morning felt like after waking up to a new life chapter The biggest lesson Howard's learned in this past year of retirement What discussions he had with his wife in the decision leading up to retirement The number one piece of advice he would give to folks considering to retire  

Finding your mission in life is no easy feat, but Ken Mifflin cracked the code. Join us today as we unravel the steps of his remarkable journey toward discovering purpose. While not labeling himself as "retired," Ken has skillfully redefined his life around activities aligned with his deepest values.   As a seasoned management consultant and aspiring author with a background at Procter & Gamble, McKinsey & Company, and Andersen Consulting/Accenture, Ken provides unique insights into navigating the transition from a career to a purpose-driven post-professional life.   From his voluntary contributions to his family life in Greenwich, CT, Ken's story offers valuable perspectives on purposeful living in the next chapter. Get ready for an insightful exploration of intentional living, career transitions, and the art of crafting a meaningful retirement journey.   We discussed:   Why your past career is preparing you for what you do in retirement The creative endeavor Ken is working on now (and how it's different from his career) Why we feel pressure once we've discerned our mission in life How Ken juggles responsibilities while nurturing his passion project Why you have to intentionally look for a path in this next chapter  

Life is more than chasing a bigger paycheck or a career fixated on it. Our guest today, Rand Selig, suggests that as we step into the next phase after work, it's an opportunity for self-discovery. What's interesting is that the same skills that fueled our career success can now shape this new chapter.   Rand Selig is a seasoned entrepreneur, coach, and roll-up-your-sleeves conservationist with an MBA from Stanford. His expertise in managing global projects adds a unique flavor to our conversation. Based in Mill Valley, California, he shares life's adventures with his wife of 42 years. Recently, Rand authored Thriving! How to Create a Healthier, Happier, and More Prosperous Life.    During our talk, Rand reflects on his own career transition and imparts valuable lessons on facing challenges with bravery, persistence, and grit. His philosophy centers around the idea that we can design our own lives. I'm delighted to bring you this thought-provoking and significant conversation—and you might even want to jot some notes down.    We discussed:   How day one felt after Rand left his business behind—and his Chapter X started What stands out as the life lesson that left the biggest mark on Rand  Taking a closer look at the four essential aspects of aging well Why writing your legacy is something to do now (and how it can shape your life) How focusing on the things you can control changes your outlook The difference between success and thriving   Connect with Rand www.randselig.com   Thriving! How to Create a Healthier, Happier, and More Properous Life 

What lies beneath the surface of your thoughts? Today, we're going deep into the stories we carry within ourselves with my guest, Kevin Burk. The stories we tell ourselves, often without realizing it, shape our reality and beliefs about ourselves and our situations.   Kevin B. Burk is the Headmaster of The Real Astrology Academy and the creator of the Human Game, a philosophy based on the idea that the Universe is made up of stories. He coaches the Human Game Experience, an astrology-based reality role playing game that can give you creative control over the Story of Your Life.    According to Kevin, understanding how these stories work is the key to understanding life. It's a journey into beliefs, stories, and the powerful shift that comes with gaining a deeper understanding. Get ready to explore how this insight can fill our lives with greater joy and happiness.   In this episode, we discussed:   Why we must get creative control over the story of our life's journey How the stories we tell ourselves unknowingly shape our reality  The three levels of story: plot, character, and theme (and the only one that matters) Why we're unaware of the stories we tell ourselves about our experiences What can happen when you make tiny adjustments to your stories   Connect with Kevin www.PlayTheHumanGame.com     https://TheRealAstrology.com/coddiwomple

Nan Ives and Lisa Stornaielo were long-time colleagues at Fidelity Investments. Their careers took an unexpected turn when the unexpected offer of an early retirement landed in their laps—and it sparked a whole new perspective on what retirement truly means.   In their research, they noticed a gap in the retirement planning discussion. While finances often take the focus, the life planning piece was missing. Big questions about purpose, balance, and making the most of the coming decades were left unanswered.   Nan and Lisa connected with 50 people soon-to-be or already retired individuals and absorbed wisdom from their experiences. From there, they leveraged their expertise in transition planning and life coaching to develop a transformative 4-step process that empowers individuals to design their ultimate retirement life.    With their passion for helping others and their profound understanding of the retirement experience, Nan and Lisa are on a mission to inspire and guide people toward a rewarding and fulfilling retirement.   We discussed:   Three common retirement spectrums people typically find themselves How they created a formula drawn from the experiences of fulfilled retirees The key things they observed that distinguished a fulfilled life after work  A four-step blueprint Nan and Lisa developed for planning your own future Why you have to work at retirement to make it something that has meaning  How to shift from a fixed mindset to one that embraces open thoughts   Connect with Nan and Lisa The Future of You  

To start off the new year, I decided to try something new. Each month, our Chapter X community gathers on Zoom to discuss a specific topic. And today, you're in for a treat—this podcast episode features a recording from our final Chapter X meeting of the year.   During this gathering, we reflected on 2023 and our aspirations for 2024: What lessons did it bring? What changes are we seeking or what growth are we aiming for? What insights emerged from both successes and challenges?   I believe that sharing these reflections could offer guidance to those navigating their own journeys—after all, that's what Chapter X is all about. I hope you find this conversation intriguing, engaging, and perhaps it might even inspire you to join our monthly gatherings.   In this meeting, we explored topics such as:   Why managing expectations becomes key in navigating the new experiences and challenges of this stage of life How remaining present and savoring every moment is a necessary challenge for your personal well-being Stoic philosophy and the idea of choosing how we respond to situations The impact of your family upbringing on shaping your outlook on the world Why letting go of worrying about external factors and honing in on what we can control in life is a powerful mindset The emotional hurdles of taking on new endeavors and shielding our self-worth from the judgments of others   Join Us Inside the Chapter X Community https://michaelfkay.com/connect/community/

Welcome to a special rerun episode that holds a special place in my heart. Today, we're revisiting a profound conversation that delves into life's transitions and the invaluable lessons they offer.   Looking back at our lives often reveals the defining moments that shaped our paths. But how do we take those lessons and apply them to our next chapter? That's the theme of today's conversation.   It's truly an honor to reintroduce our guest, Meir Statman. He is a professor of finance at Santa Clara University and has authored two of my favorite finance books. Born in a refugee camp in Germany during 1947, Meir has an incredible life story that he takes us through on the show.    In this episode, Meir shares his insights on maintaining an open mind, the importance of self-discovery, and how life's stages ultimately prepare us for the transitions ahead.   We discussed:   Why Meir chooses to look at his life through the lens of serendipity How we can use the concept of serendipity as we look to the future How to address the common post-career fear of financial uncertainty The surprising theory of getting satisfaction from saving money vs. spending it The reason why Meir hasn't retired from teaching in his seventies Why Meir focused on teaching his daughters the value of kindness as they grew   Links The Mental Mistakes We Make With Retirement Spending by Meir Statman

Mark Weber spent his career helping the wealthy transfer their wealth efficiently. He attended hundreds of meetings with attorneys and their clients, navigating the ins and outs of estate planning. But something was missing—hardly anyone talked about their values or the legacy they wanted to leave.   It dawned on Mark that advisors had a chance to go beyond just taxes and talk about the impact people could make and the legacy they could create. He saw this as a way to change minds among Omaha's professional advisors and make the community not just financially richer, but also more generous.   Today, he's seamlessly transitioned from a successful career in financial services to author, speaker and teacher. In this episode, he unfolds the heartwarming and meaningful journey that led him into this new chapter of his life.   The inspirational idea that prompted Mark's journey into his Chapter X Why now is the time to start identifying what values we want to pass on The difference between your family legacy vs. community legacy What might have occurred if Mark hadn't prioritized intentional retirement planning Why Mark senses that this particular group faces the greatest struggles in retirement The list of significant career milestones he created to pass down to his children   Connect with Mark Visit A Spectrum of Legacies website Find A Spectrum of Legacies on Amazon  

In 2019, Greg Vigdor decided to take a break after working in healthcare for four decades. His plan was to relax for a few months before returning to work. However, the outbreak of a global pandemic threw a curveball into his plans.   During this unexpected pause, Greg dove into a brand-new project. He started writing his very first novel, weaving his expertise from healthcare into fascinating detective stories. The idea was to entertain readers while enlightening them on health policy, the flaws in the American healthcare system, and suggesting ways readers can improve their own health.   In this episode, explore how Greg transitioned his career passion into storytelling. He shares how he embraced this new endeavor head-on, blending his expertise with the art of page-turning stories.   We discussed:   How Greg launched his career as a author writing medical detective stories The surprising part of retirement that left a major loss in his life What Greg discovered about himself through the process of writing two novels (these lessons are so important) How today's healthcare system evolved into fighting a losing battle The common dead ends that people face while trying to get healthcare   Connect with Greg Greg on Amazon:  https://www.amazon.com/author/gregvigdor   Washington Health Foundation: www.washhealthfoundation.org/book-the-theory-of-irv   Artisan Book Review of The Covid Murders:  https://artisanbookreviews.com/2023/09/03/the-covid-murders-by-greg-vigdor

Growing up before 1970 meant a diet heavy on margarine and potato chips—we just lacked awareness of nutrition. Today, we're armed with much more knowledge. Yet, navigating through varied advice can be bewildering, especially if you were raised with different beliefs.   At the core of our pursuit for health and well-being lies the desire to become the best version of ourselves. So, how can we show up as our best selves every day? According to our guest today, you have to take care of your hormones if you want to live a long life.   Today, I'm joined by the remarkable Dr. Christine Boev, an ICU nurse, health coach, and an expert in fitness and longevity. You cannot help but be inspired by her commitment in helping people live their best lives.   Her goal is youthful longevity with the aim of maintaining optimal mobility during chronologic aging. In this episode, she shares valuable advice on starting small to achieve sustainable health changes through discipline and habits. I know you'll enjoy this conversation with such a dynamic professional.   We discussed:   This final ingredient is the key to longevity (hint: it's not just about fitness or nutrition) What are the variables that we can control vs. the things that we cannot control? What checking your testosterone levels can reveal about your health Two common misconceptions about exercise that can prevent us from starting Why getting your mind right to start your day is really critical Christine's simple recommendations on nutrition and alcohol Connect with Christine Follow @drchristineboev on Instagram

Imagine retirement not as the end of a journey but as the beginning of an entirely new chapter—one where time becomes your most precious currency.    Today, we're peeling back the layers of conventional retirement wisdom to explore how the art of time optimization can transform these post-career years into an unparalleled phase of enrichment and purpose.   As a Certified Professional Retirement coach, David uses his 35+ years of organizational and time management skills to help business professionals craft post-career lifestyle strategies of fulfillment, purpose, and meaning. David is also author of the book, The Time-Optimized Life: Moving Everyday Preparation, Execution, and Control from Finite to Infinite.   Join us as we navigate the intersection of productivity, purpose, and a fulfilling post-career life. In this episode, we discussed:   How David applied the same productivity principles that made him successful in his career to his post-career life Why leaving your career doesn't mean quitting work altogether The importance of planning how you'll balance individual vs. couple goals  How to use time management principles to stay connected with your friendships David's adaptable goal planning system for the different phases of retirement   Connect with David Enter promo code “Michael” to get your free Retirement Time Analysis report https://infinitylifestyledesign.com/rta/   Preorder The Time-Optimized Life book https://infinitylifestyledesign.com/the-time-optimized-life-book/  

Steven Kushner had originally planned to retire at 70. However, at 65, he began feeling fatigued, noticing the strain of evening meetings and realizing his body was signaling a need to slow down.   By June 2018, he retired and received the honorary title of Rabbi Emeritus of Temple Ner Tamid. Eager to venture into uncharted territory, he sought something entirely new.   Throughout his rabbinic career, Steven's creativity had largely been expressed through writing and speaking. Yet, in 2017, anticipating retirement, he tapped into his visual side. He started sharing his photos on Facebook, receiving encouraging feedback from friends and congregation members.   That's when he wanted to finally—after a lifetime of taking pictures—begin a process of learning how to make pictures. Although he does not formally identify as a photographer, when asked Steven is very comfortable saying that he does serious photography. In this episode, Rabbi Steven shares an extraordinary journey marked by unexpected transitions and explorations.   We discussed:   Steven's childhood dream to be the shortstop for the Detroit Tigers How he cultivated a reputation as a film aficionado within the synagogue Why Steven decided to retire five years earlier than his initial plan The unexpected emotional challenge of retiring (and a quest for unexplored endeavors)  How he dove into photography with the guidance of a friend  The journey of learning and refining his craft that proved immensely gratifying Connect with Steven https://stevenkushnerphotography.com/portfolio Headshot Photo Credit: Nick Levitin Photography

We often mistake experience for wisdom. But today, our guest challenges this notion. Wisdom isn't just about ourselves; it's about the legacy we craft. How do we become good ancestors and leave the world better than the one we entered?   Join me in a conversation with Nikos Patedakis, a philosopher dedicated to unleashing wisdom and compassion. Brace yourself—the ideas exchanged in our conversation were nothing short of mind-expanding.    Nikos, armed with multiple philosophy degrees, including a PhD, wields wisdom, love, and beauty to transform lives. Through his role as a consulting philosopher and educator, he reshapes individuals, cultures, and our world. In this episode, we explore wisdom traditions and the need to deepen one's understanding of oneself and the mind.   We discussed:   What it means to have a wisdom-based approach to life How to weave a lifetime of your experiences into wisdom Considering your legacy and how you would love to be remembered Why mindfulness makes life much more interesting as you age The concept of ‘training for death' (and why you shouldn't put it off) Why leaving work behind isn't really about filling a void in your life   Connect with Nikos   Free resources on compassion training: https://dangerouswisdom.org/meditations Nikos' book recommendations on the subject of living well and dying well: The Art of Living: Peace and Freedom in the Here and Now by Thich Nhat Hanh Dying with Confidence: A Tibetan Buddhist Guide to Preparing for Death by Anyen Rinpoche The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us about Living Fully by Frank Ostaseski How We Live Is How We Die by Pema Chodron The documentary Tukdam Interview with Doug Tallamy about creating the world's biggest national park in your own backyard

Today we're delving into the world of dating. If you're married and thinking about skipping this one, I'd suggest you pause and consider sharing it with the single men in your life, whether they're single due to widowhood, divorce, or other circumstances.   Our guest today is Brad Johnson, the mastermind behind Zero Nonsense Dating. He caught my attention with his unique approach to tackling the challenges faced by men in the dating world. This podcast conversation was unlike any other I've had, and it was both enlightening and entertaining.   Brad founded Zero Nonsense Dating to equip men with practical strategies that yield real results. The dating advice landscape is flooded with content that either focuses on fleeting encounters or doesn't fit every situation. Authentic and practical guidance is hard to find, and often, it's only gained through personal trial and error.    And that's precisely why Brad is here today. He's on a mission to help other men become their best without becoming someone different.   In this episode, we discussed:   The biggest challenges of dating as an introvert vs. extrovert Three common problems with navigating the noise on dating apps  Why older men have advantages in dating that younger men don't have Reentering the dating scene after decades of being partnered Three worthwhile dating platforms for older men How to find common ground with someone on a first date   Connect with Brad Zero Nonsense Dating Website Get Chapter 1 of Your Dating Life Solved for Free Instagram Facebook  

Episode 159: Finding Yourself with Rabbi Andy Warmflash Title: Finding Yourself with Rabbi Andy Warmflash     As Rabbi Andy Warmflash's professional life came to an end, his world was flipped on its head. He had an abundance of time, but profound questions about his identity loomed. With a lifelong career as a rabbi, his job had defined him.    However, Rabbi Andy was clear about a few things: he wanted to share the wealth of wisdom accumulated during his 40-year career, seek meaningful pursuits, savor life's joys, and, once the pandemic allowed, embark on new adventures and cherish time with his children and grandchildren. A recent move, made together with his wife to be near their kids, had shifted their roles from parenting to the pleasures of grandparenting.   What did this journey teach him? It was a trial by fire, forcing reinvention after a lifelong career. Even with his strengths and experience, he was creating a fresh chapter in his life story. Join us as we explore Rabbi Andy's transformative path and his insights into shaping a fulfilling next chapter.   In this episode, we discussed:   How Rabbi Andy grappled with unexpected guilt after retiring during the pandemic Discovering a profound sense of unburdening after leaving work behind Why Rabbi Andy went to therapy to figure out his identity in retirement  The “hit and miss” search for meaningful volunteer opportunities What lessons Rabbi Andy learned about himself after exiting the workforce The impact of embracing discussions with diverse viewpoints   Connect with Rabbi Andy Listen to the Common Grounds podcast  

In a world filled with endless choices, it's all too easy to fall into the analysis trap, especially while redefining the next chapter of our lives. The conventional retirement playbook has been tossed out, ushering in a new era.   Today, we're joined by Campbell Gerrish, a successful entrepreneur, coach, and co-founder of Third Half Advisors (THA), an organization that's helping reshape retirement in America. THA, a nationally acclaimed resource for post-career professionals striving to thrive in what Campbell terms the 'Third Half' of their lives, has already empowered over 800 individuals through its programs.   While the idea of leaving the workforce often marks a fresh start for women, it can feel like the closing chapter, particularly for men. In this episode, Campbell reveals why it's time to flip the script. However, let's be clear: this transformation isn't without challenges. He candidly shares his journey navigating the shift from a thriving career to retirement, the hurdles he encountered, and even a recent battle with depression.   We discussed:   How to make informed choices based on your strengths What it means to design a “portfolio life” in the next chapter The real obstacle that holds us back from executing our plans How long it took for Campbell to find comfort post-retirement How a travel mishap plunged him into a deep depression The power of celebrating the freedom of choice in this stage of life   Connect with Campbell www.thirdhalfadvisors.com www.wingedkeel.com  

In Yiddish, there's an expression, "bashert," meaning that some things are destined to happen. Last September, I had the privilege of attending my first writers' conference, and amid a wealth of wisdom and inspiration, fate led me to a serendipitous meeting with today's guest.    David T. Cohen, a retired attorney turned aspiring novelist, brings a wealth of experience to the table. He spent three decades as a litigator at the U.S. Department of Justice and is now crafting epic fantasy novels. In this episode, he guides us through his retirement decision—a story driven by the desire for quality time with loved ones and the pursuit of lifelong dreams.    David openly addresses the challenges of shedding a career-centric identity, fervently advocating for creative, physical, community-focused, and social engagement as the keys to a fulfilling retirement. Despite missing his legal career, he finds a sense of purpose in writing and emphasizes the enduring importance of making a difference in retirement.   We discussed:   How the tragic loss of a colleague sparked David's early retirement journey One universally worthwhile question to ask yourself periodically (at any age)  How to take a sip of retirement before fully embracing the entire experience Why losing the daily contact with your colleagues leaves an unexpected void Navigating the transformation from a career-defined identity to a new sense of self   Connect with David David can be reached at merusian@aol.com.  

Today, we're getting to the root of a problem that plagues 80% of the population at some point in their lives: back pain. Dr. Lysander Jim, a spine health specialist, is here to shed light on this frequently misunderstood problem.   Dr. Jim's journey into the world of medicine was sparked by a simple biology textbook, leading him into the world of chronic pain management amid the fiery debate over opioid prescriptions. But frustration grew as he watched patients return month after month with little progress.   Until a game-changer emerged. Dr. Jim discovered the groundbreaking McGill Method, designed by Canadian biomechanist Stuart McGill. It bridged the gap between scientific knowledge and clinical practices, offering new hope to those grappling with debilitating back pain.   Today, Dr. Jim is the go-to expert for nonoperative back pain solutions, occupational injury rehabilitation, athletic performance enhancement, and, when necessary, surgical interventions. His latest triumph is the book Specific Spine, which unravels the mysteries of the human spine and its ties to low back pain.   In this episode, we discussed:   How Dr. Jim learned about a better approach to treating back pain Your starting point to proactive health and well-being Two important strategies for future back pain prevention The counterintuitive reason why flexiblity isn't the biggest preventor of injuries  Why the number one thing we can do to extend our longevity is avoid falls  Learning how to move without excessive spine bending. Connect with Dr. Jim www.masterymedical.com  Specific Spine on Amazon   Spine Clinicians for the McGill Method:  backfitpro.com      

Today's episode is a special one, born from an unexpected encounter that unfolded in the lobby of the Hotel Matilde in Budapest this summer. As our two-week journey began, I had the privilege of crossing paths with an individual who would soon become not just a fellow traveler but a friend.   Throughout those days in Budapest and the subsequent weeks of our journey, we shared experiences that left lasting impressions. We reveled in the rich sights, sounds, flavors, and the occasional cocktail, all while exploring the wonders of this beautiful city with Mario Bofill and his wife, as well as other fellow travelers.   I couldn't help but be captivated by Mario's life story and his profound insights. So, when I approached him with the idea of joining us on this podcast, he graciously agreed. Today, I'm thrilled to bring you a conversation with a dear friend, Mario Bofill.   We discussed:   Mario's incredible childhood journey from Cuba to Spain to Long Island  His traveling career in the PC business that spanned 800,000 miles Why Mario believes he should have retired earlier in his career The serenity in post-retirement life through quality time with his spouse and hobbies How to embrace leaving work behind with a roadmap (and eliminate fear) The value of celebrating successes—and finding wisdom in life's challenges  

Kent Weishaus spent 25 years in the world of television production — a realm of celebrities, directing, writing, producing, and navigating the interactions with network executives and large crews. Yet, he realized that much of his TV work was fueling the sensory overload that plagues us today.   Driven by a hunger for purpose, Kent embarked on a career transition into the "helping profession." Today, he's a licensed clinical social worker in California, with a diverse career that has seen him serve in mental hospitals, community clinics, and even as an educator in the classroom.   Kent is here to shed light on the art of stepping back, reaching higher ground, and gaining insight into our own biological and mental processes amidst the relentless demands of our 21st-century lives. His latest book, "Stop Breaking Down: The Secret to Avoiding Overwhelm and Crack-Up," serves as a guiding compass through this demanding landscape.    In this episode, we discussed: ‘ How Ken made his daring leap from TV production to social work How distorted thinking hijacks our thinking (and why we must confront it) The power-packed question we should all ask ourselves Why we seek out simple stories that are identifiable to make us feel better How we can gain a fresh perspective to look at our reality differently  The importance of listening to our bodies signs of distress   Connect with Ken http://www.kentw.net     

In a world that often encourages us to wear masks, authenticity simply means living by your core values. It's about boldly being yourself, shedding the years spent behind social facades, and embracing the courage to be truly genuine.   Today, we're revisiting a favorite past episode as we dive into part two of our conversation with Parker Palmer. Parker, a renowned writer, speaker, and founder of the Center for Courage & Renewal, takes us on a journey of self-discovery.   In this encore presentation, Parker reminds us that embracing our humanity doesn't require perfection—it simply asks for the courage to embrace our imperfections as integral parts of who we are. I hope this conversation will inspire you to live in alignment with your values and show up in the world as your authentic self.   We discussed:   What most of us do when we listen to another person's problem The art of asking sincere questions vs. offering concealed advice What it really means to show up authentically in one's own truth The importance of breaking the silence around depression and mental health Parker shares a favorite poem that serves as a guide for moving forward   Links Parker J. Palmer on FacebookCenter for Courage & Renewal