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Grief is known by many names- sadness, joy, anger, love, fear...just to mention a few. It is experienced & felt in ways that are unique to each of us and our relationship to the people, places or things that we are grieving. While many voices in this world want to help by claiming that they are grief "experts", and while others are pathologizing grief or making up "stages of grief" to follow- at its core they cannot because grief is somewhere only we know- once we know it. Confused? Intrigued? Triggered? Curious? All is welcome when you check in and check out this episode of The Shek Check. "Grief: Somewhere Only We Know" Check in with The Shek Check on all our social media hotspots: Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/TheShekCheck (https://www.instagram.com/TheShekCheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck  (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck ) Sign up for our weekly newsletters and get updated with all things The Shek Check when you visit our website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

What if we met our anxiety WITH anxiety? When we struggle with anxious feelings and thoughts we usually look for control and certainty to calm down- but what if we don't need to calm down? What if our anxious feelings and thoughts don't need our calmness but to be rerouted instead? What if we in order to better handle our anxiety- we shifted the focus of our ruminations and intrusive thoughts to something...less personal than ourselves? In this episode Erez explores this and how it has shown up in his journey with anxiety. Join the discussion with The Shek Check on social media. Give us a follow on: Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) You can also visit the blog post for this episode here: https://theshekcheck.com/blog/ (https://theshekcheck.com/blog/) Sleep Hygiene resource: https://www.healthline.com/health/sleep-hygiene#electronic-devices (https://www.healthline.com/health/sleep-hygiene#electronic-devices)

There are a lot of messages regarding anger and feeling angry. Being told it is bad, negative, and that it will drain you of your goodness. Hearing messages telling you to “manage" your anger or the importance to "calm down" when you are feeling angry. What if that was bullsh*t? At least some of the time. What if anger was not the dark violent storm you were taught it is? What if anger was actually the clarity to guide you in the storm? It is true that our emotions carry energy within us- so how can we use that energy instead of thinking we need to diffuse it?  Don't be a loser- figure out and feel your anger like the cool kids do. Make sure to hit that follow or subscribe button so you get notified when any new episodes of The Shek Check drops because the more ways you have to check yourself the less you potentially wreck yourself. Choices.  Check in with The Shek Check on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (instagram.com/theshekcheck) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (twitter.com/shekcheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck (facebook.com/theshekcheck) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (theshekcheck.com) If you like this episode, you might like my chat with Author and Therapist Ralph De La Rosa where we discussed the importance of rage and anger. Check it out: https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/ralph-de-la-rosa-reality-rage-and-resiliency/ (https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/ralph-de-la-rosa-reality-rage-and-resiliency/)

For many people "stability" has been positioned as something we reach. Something we work towards or work for. A place we reach or find. How has that worked for you? While stability is officially defined as a quality, state or degree of being stable- what if we threw a wrench in that broad definition? What if you found a new understanding of stability- one that is entirely yours? Stability....the remix. Stability....YOUR remix. Have you checked in with The Shek Check on social media? Give us a follow. Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ Blog Post/Transcript: https://theshekcheck.com/stability-the-remix (https://theshekcheck.com/stability-the-remix) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

If you are human than you have most likely experienced burn out in some form (in your form). So, what conversation are you having with yourself regarding burnout? What does it look like for you? How compassionate are you towards yourself when you are burnt out? How much of a human are you allowing yourself to be? How are you moving beyond?  In this episode Erez talks about his recent experiences with burnout, his eventual acceptance of his human-ness and how moving beyond meant leaving a lot of unknowns and uncertainty in the past. Check-In with The Shek Check on: Twitter: twitter.com/shekcheck Instagram: instagram.com/theshekcheck Facebook: facebook.com/theshekcheck Check out the blog post for this episode: https://theshekcheck.com/?p=2861&preview=true (https://theshekcheck.com/burnout-being-human-and-beyond/) Want to learn more about Erez Shek and The Shek Check? Check in with us on our website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

Have we missed the point of understanding what drives us instead of where we are driving to? Goals Vs. Values We live in a very goal and milestone centric society. We teach it in our schools and homes. They show up in our relationships, our work, our friendships, our families. They drive competitions and fuel comparison culture. There is an importance to having goals and milestones- they are destination points. Even though they keep moving and changing they serve us as motivation factors. The question is, are we going where we really want to be going? Are those goals really ours? Do we know what is driving us to those goals? A lot of our goals and milestones we have are learned, not self-discovered. So, why is it important to understand that the goals are actually not important? Why should we shift our main focus to understanding and identifying what drives us? Our values. Find out in this episode of The Shek Check Podcast. Learn more about The Shek Check by visiting us at https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/) Have you checked in with The Shek Check on social media? Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck)

What is toxic positivity? Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how crappy something is, no matter what uncomfortable emotions we are feeling, no matter what the situation is- people need to find the “positive” side things and find a more positive mindset.  The phrase “toxic positivity” has been popping up a lot lately, a lot more than it had been. Yet, it has always existed- the thinking has always existed. We are just calling it what it is now.  Sometimes it is really obvious when toxic positivity shows up in the language or actions of people- “good vibes only”...”keep calm”....”don't worry, be happy”. However, there are so many other ways that toxic positivity shows up in our lives, in fact I would say we have been conditioned to feel through life WITH a toxic positivity lens.  How does it show up? Where does it show up? How is it affecting our growth and healing? How does it affect the space we create for others with their growth and healing? Let's talk about it. If you haven't already hit that follow or subscribe button to make sure you don't miss an opportunity to continue to check yourself with Erez and The Shek Check Podcast- give that button a tap. You can also visit Erez and The Shek Check at https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/) Have you checked in with The Shek Check on social media yet? Give us a follow on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/)

Body image issues are more common than we think and more than we openly discuss. The fitness and diet culture remind us of this constantly. Rebecca Kennedy has lived through the toxic side of those issues and that culture and now she is changing it by example. Rebecca Kennedy is a ACSM Certified Personal Trainer & NASM Corrective Exercise Specialist based in downtown Orlando, Florida. After struggling with being overweight (borderline obese) the majority of her life, she jumped into the fitness world head first - not knowing at all how toxic and extreme the fitness field can be. After losing a significant amount of weight, she spiraled into the world of eating disorders, body dysmorphia and obsessiveness over achieving the “perfect” body. It wasn't until she hit rock bottom and started recovery that she recognized what she wanted, what would truly make her happy: balance. "Fitness is not about obtaining the perfect aesthetic. It's about making you feel your best, badass, most empowered self." - Rebecca Kennedy We all create images of how we want to look, how we want to be, and who we want to be. How far do we go with that? How much do we focus on the images of ourselves we are creating instead of how we feel?  How much self-acceptance lives in those places?  How much self-compassion is included?  How much self-love are you feeling in that mind space?  Learn more about Rebecca Kennedy and check in with her on: Instagram:https://theshekcheck.com/wp-admin/www.instagram.com/redemptiverebecca ( www.instagram.com/redemptiverebecca) Facebook:https://theshekcheck.com/wp-admin/www.facebook.com/redemptiverebeccatraining ( www.facebook.com/redemptiverebeccatraining) Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@redemptiverebecca (https://www.tiktok.com/@redemptiverebecca) Have you checked in with The Shek Check on social media yet? Give us a follow on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

The inner critic  is what we call that inner voice that judges, criticizes and shames us. The thoughts surrounding actions, interactions, reactions, our choices and our behaviors-  which can be harsh. We might hate on the inner critic for screwing with our self-esteem and our confidence, so in our self-awareness journey we might be convinced to get rid of the inner critic and those thoughts.  Is that ultimately helpful though?  Plot twist: The inner critic is not our enemy. Those thoughts are not our enemy. So why not choose a different way to view that inner critic that lives in you and your thoughts?  Time for a self-check on checking in and understanding your inner critic.  Have you checked in with https://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check) on social media? Visit us on: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck) Want to show some extra love and support? Consider donating by buying The Shek Check a coffee. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck)

What is the mother wound? Who does it affect? How does it show up?  The mother wound is not a specific diagnosis but it is something that affects us all. We are all born of a mother- and there are generations of beliefs and behaviors that get passed down from that. The roles mothers played in the past and in different cultures, how they survived to protect themselves and their children, how that affects the children they raise, and how it continues to get passed down in sons and daughter. The mother wound. In this episode I sat down to chat with Kerri Hummingbird- a soul guide, shamanic healer, inspirational speaker, teacher and author of the new book “Love is Fierce: Healing the Mother Wound”. We explored her discovery of how the mother wound showed up in her life, and the self-discovery journey she chose through the intentional healing of the mother wound. Kerri Hummingbird is the best-selling author of the  books “Love is Fierce: Healing the Mother Wound”,  “From We to Me: Emerging Self After Divorce” and “Awakening to Me: One Woman's Journey to Self-Love.” She's also the creator, the host, and the soul of the podcast “The Soul Nectar Show”. Learn more about Kerri Hummingbird and check in with her on social media and on her podcast!  Website: https://kerrihummingbird.com/  (https://kerrihummingbird.com/ ) The Soul Nectar Show : https://soulnectar.show/ (https://soulnectar.show/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kerri.hummingbird/  (https://www.instagram.com/kerri.hummingbird/ ) Twitter:https://twitter.com/KerriHummingbrd ( )https://twitter.com/KerriHummingbrd (https://twitter.com/KerriHummingbrd) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kerri.hummingbird.sami (https://www.facebook.com/kerri.hummingbird.sami) Have you checked in with The Shek Check on social media?  Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck ( https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

Intuition is a form of knowledge that appears in consciousness without obvious choice or thought. It is not magical but rather a tool in which our impressions are produced from an unconscious place in our mind- formed from our past experiences and our cumulative unseen knowledge.  If you are like me, then there were a lot of messages you got growing up to NOT trust your intuition. Building that trust in ourselves, and understanding what that intuition looks like and feels like to us, requires some assistance. In this episode I sat down with the Founder of The Intuitionology Project- Sunil Godse to explore cultivating our intuition. Sunil is a well-known entrepreneur, author, coach and podcast host who has helped 1000s of people make the right decisions in their life by building and understanding their intuition. Learn more about Sunil and the Intuitionology Project & Podcast by checking him out on social media: Podcast: https://www.intuitionology.com/podcast/ (https://www.intuitionology.com/podcast/) Website: https://www.intuitionology.com/ (https://www.intuitionology.com/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/sunilgodse (https://twitter.com/sunilgodse) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intuitionology/ (https://www.instagram.com/intuitionology/) Have you checked in with The Shek Check on social media?  Instagram: https://instagram.com/theshekcheck (https://instagram.com/theshekcheck) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/) Would you like to help The Shek Check grow? Consider buying us a coffee. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck)

We all have had (or have) those people in our lives that frustrate us because of how they communicate....or how we think they don't communicate. We will blame them for the miscommunication, we create conflict around the miscommunication or lack of communication, and we exhaust ourselves trying to find ways to create "healthier" forms of communication with this person or people. Does the struggle help? Does the conflict help? Does focusing on fixing them or you help? Could acceptance help? In this episode, Erez Shek explores the idea of acceptance surrounding communication with others. Setting aside the labels of "communication styles" and the everchanging fixes to create "healthy communication" with others- can we find acceptance of the other and ourselves? Make sure to hit that subscribe button and give us a follow on all our socials! Instagram:https://instagram.com/theshekcheck ( https://instagram.com/theshekcheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/) Help The Shek Check grow and buy us a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck)

We all face different kinds of loss in our lives, and we all go through hard times. It is an undeniable reality. The question becomes, what kind of freedom do we have to express what we are feeling? How safe do we think we are in expressing how and what we are going through? Loss and grief are not things we were taught to have a healthy relationship with, even though we can and we should. In today's episode, Erez is joined by Patrick Hill. Patrick is a transformational business and personal coach, focused on helping and supporting people through the harder times in life. Patrick is here to help us understand what we can do in the now to help us be with our pain in order to feel past it.  After 21 years in recovery from drug addiction and the loss of his mother, Patrick realized that most of the significant growth periods in his life have been born from difficult times. Realizing this, he wanted to create a safe space free of judgements for clients to look beyond fear and shame, in their now. Find out more about Patrick here: https://www.thinkingbeyondnow.co.uk/ (https://www.thinkingbeyondnow.co.uk/) Follow Patrick on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/patrickhillcoaching/ (https://www.instagram.com/patrickhillcoaching/ ) Check in with The Shek Check on social media:  Instagram:https://instagram.com/theshekcheck ( https://instagram.com/theshekcheck) Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck ( https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Website:https://theshekcheck.com/ ( https://theshekcheck.com/) Help The Shek Check continue influencing your journey of self-awareness and buy us a coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck)

If you are like me, there are some very distinct images that pop up when I think of peace, forgiveness and healing. Cinematic images that seem far away and so hard to reach.  What if we reframe those images? What if we reframe the concepts we have created around peace, forgiveness and healing?  After you check out this episode, check in with The Shek Check on social media:  Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck ( https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck) Learn more about Erez Shek and The Shek Check when you visit:  https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

2020 has been exhausting right? So, it might feel natural to look at 2021 as the answer to all our problems. Is that helpful though? Is it helpful for us to demonize the year 2020, and romanticize the year 2021?  Let's do a quick mindset check.  Check in and check out The Shek Check on social media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck (https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Learn more about Erez Shek on The Shek Check Website: https://theshekcheck.com (https://theshekcheck.c)https://theshekcheck.com (om) Help support The Shek Check and buy us a coffee!  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck)

Early childhood experiences shape how we feel in relationships and impact us through our whole life. How our needs are or aren't met is what ultimately forms our attachment style later on in life. Psychotherapist Greg Bodin checked in with Erez to help us better understand attachment theory, attachment styles, and how our attachment styles influence our relationships. You can read more about Attachment Styles (and a lot of great other topics) when you visit  Greg's blog:  https://www.gregbodin.com/news (https://www.gregbodin.com/news)  (Highly recommended by The Shek Check….clearly) Make sure to visit Greg Bodin LMFT on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/gregbodinpsychotherapy/ (https://www.instagram.com/gregbodinpsychotherapy/) Greg Bodin was previously on The Shek Check in July 2019 to discuss Acceptance and Comittment Therapy (ACT). Check out our previous chat wherever you are listening to us from. You can also listen to it on The Shek Check website:  https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/checkin-act/ (https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/checkin-act/) Check in with The Shek Check on social media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck (https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck) Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ ( https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck)

The death of a truth creates the ghost of a lie.  In this episode of The Shek Check, Erez serves a quick self-check on how powerful a lie can be and how even with time….it will always present itself in some way.  Check in and check out The Shek Check on the web: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

Do you struggle with seeing value in your anger or rage? Do you struggle with seeing value in your sadness? Do you struggle seeing the love that exists within those “negative” emotions?  Author, Psychotherapist and Meditation Teacher Ralph De La Rosa sits down to chat with Erez about the search for value in our current reality, our “negative” emotions, and what emotional resiliency can look like. Ralph De La Rosa LCSW is a psychotherapist in private practice and a seasoned meditation instructor. He began practicing meditation in 1996 and has been teaching since 2008. As a meditation teacher, Ralph's work has been featured in The New York Post, CNN, GQ, SELF, Womens Health and many other publications.  Ralph himself is a PTSD, depression and addiction survivor. His work is inspired by his own tremendous transformation that he experienced through meditation, yoga and therapy. His new book https://www.shambhala.com/don-t-tell-me-to-relax.html ("Don't Tell Me To Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak Outs" )is available wherever books are sold.Connect with Ralph De La Rosa LCSW: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ralphdelarosa/ (http://instagram.com/ralphdelarosa) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ralphdelarosa_ (https://twitter.com/ralphdelarosa_) Website: https://ralphdelarosa.com/ (https://ralphdelarosa.com/) Check-in with The Shek Check on social media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck (https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck) Twitter:https://twitter.com/ShekCheck ( https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Visit The Shek Check at: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

In this episode, The Shek Check delves into how we notice hate in this world. Erez addresses the importance of looking beyond the hate that is bold and loud.  In this episode Erez references to his chat with Dr. Angelica Pinna-Perez in this episode: https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/part-1-redefining-revolutionary-with-guest-dr-angelica-pinna-perez/ (https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/part-1-redefining-revolutionary-with-guest-dr-angelica-pinna-perez/) Follow The Shek Check on social media:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Want to show your support and love for The Shek Check? Buy us coffee! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theshekcheck) Visit The Shek Check on the web: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/) **https://theshekcheck.captivate.fm/listen (Subscribe) to the podcast to make sure you can keep on checking yourself in order to take care of yourself. That is the only way we can take care of others.**

What can it look like when two men open up about their experiences with bullies and eating disorders?  In this episode of https://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check), Erez sits down to talk with Sam Thomas- a writer and men's mental health advocate based in the U.K. Sam opens up about his own experiences with bullies, https://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=2546 (bulimia), addiction and what recovery is looking like for him. Sam and Erez go in depth on the need for awareness around https://us.movember.com/mens-health%20 (men's mental health), the bumpy flow of trauma recovery and the importance of presence day to day. You can check out a recent article written by Sam Thomas:  https://happiful.com/functioning-dysfunctionally-sams-story/ (https://happiful.com/functioning-dysfunctionally-sams-story/) Find Sam on Twitter: https://twitter.com/sam_thomas86 (https://twitter.com/sam_thomas86) Keep up to date with The Shek Check on social media: Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck ( https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Visit us on our website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

In this episode, Erez Shek expands on the importance of viewing passion (and the things that we are passionate about) as unique to the individual. How can we better understand passion as a reaction to things outside of ourselves AND also (at the same time) in relation to ourselves?   The Shek Check has just been named one of the https://blog.feedspot.com/self_identity_and_awareness_podcasts/ (Top 25 Self Identity & Awareness Podcasts by Feedspot)! Visit https://blog.feedspot.com/self_identity_and_awareness_podcasts/ (Feedspot) to check it out and check out who also made the list!  Keep up to date with The Shek Check on social media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck (https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter:https://twitter.com/ShekCheck ( https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) And give our website a visit https://theshekcheck.com/ (theshekcheck.com )

How can you create and foster creativity in your life to strengthen your resiliency?  In this episode of The Shek Check, Erez sits down with David Monticalvo to discuss discovering where creativity lives inside of each of us and how we can cultivate our creativity to build resiliency.  David is a speaker and author who has gone through his own personal journey to re-awaken his creativity. He is here to discuss how to cultivate creativity and use it as an opportunity to become more resilient. David believes that the Universe pushes us to where we are supposed to be through outside circumstances. He told himself he wasn't creative, and being used to task-based jobs influenced this perception of himself. David credits the book https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/615570.The_Artist_s_Way (‘The Artist's Way' by Julia Cameron) as starting him back on his path to creativity. Do something that fosters creativity in your daily life. It can be as simple as visualizing how a plant will look in your room. No matter how small, see the value in the everyday creative. Don't let the big ideas in the world intimidate you. Remind yourself through creativity that you are more than your present circumstance. For those struggling to re-start their creativity, David offers some advice. Relax and adopt a mindset of play when creating. Remember what you were drawn to as a kid and adapt it to your life now. Did you enjoy playing with Legos? Try building something with your hands, no matter how small. Shift your perspective away from trivializing the small things and instead, see it as a form of self-care. To end the episode, David urges you to remember that your creativity isn't the same as others, and it doesn't have to be! Do what promotes joy and look at every moment as an opportunity to change. Want to learn more about David? Follow him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidmonticalvo/ (https://www.instagram.com/davidmonticalvo/) Keep checking yourself with The Shek Check on social media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck (https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) The more opportunities we have to check ourselves, the less we wreck ourselves. So make sure to https://theshekcheck.captivate.fm/listen (subscribe) wherever you are listening to us AND visit our website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

In this episode, Erez highlights LGBTQ History month and the complexities of coming out of the closet- as well as what the future can look like with changed behaviors in our society.  What can we do to create inclusivity in our behaviors, language, schools and homes to develop space for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer folk?  Learn more about LGBTQ History Month by visiting: https://lgbthistorymonth.com/ (https://lgbthistorymonth.com/) The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning (LGBTQ) young people under 25. Learn more about the Trevor Project by visiting:  https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ (https://www.thetrevorproject.org/) Get Checked with Erez on Social Media:  Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/)

Continuing my chat with social action activist, educator and psychotherapist Dr. Angelica Pinna-Perez. https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/part-1-redefining-revolutionary-with-guest-dr-angelica-pinna-perez/ (In Part I) of our discussion we started taking a closer look at our understanding of racism and how it is built into our systems (internal and external). We continue that in part II, exploring topics of race in mental health care, suicide prevention, pop culture representation and police brutality. How and what can we reframe to feed our evolution and allow that to become our revolution? This episode does touch on sensitive subjects regarding suicide prevention. If you are in danger of hurting yourself please reach out. The counselors at the crisis text line are ready to support you. If you are in the United States or Canada text "HOME" to 741-741 If you are in the United Kingdom text "HOME" to 852-58 For more information please visit: https://www.crisistextline.org/ (https://www.crisistextline.org/) You are not alone in what you are experiencing, and you deserve the support to remind you of that. Please reach out. In this episode Dr. Angelica Pinna-Perez spoke about the work of Author Layla Saad. Learn more about Layla and her book "Me and White Supremacy" using this link:http://laylafsaad.com/ ( http://laylafsaad.com/) Are you totally obsessed with Angelica like I am? Make sure to visit the Cervitude Website and her social media pages: Cervitude Website: https://bit.ly/3kORIIW (https://bit.ly/3kORIIW) Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrPinnaPerez (https://twitter.com/DrPinnaPerez) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrPinnaPerez (https://www.facebook.com/DrPinnaPerez) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/createonthe8/ (https://www.instagram.com/createonthe8/) Make sure you follow The Shek Check on: Twitter:https://twitter.com/ShekCheck ( https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/) Dr. Angelica Pinna-Perez | she/ella, is a trauma aware and culturally affirming psychotherapist, educator and social action activist. She is the founder of The Cervitude Coalition 501(c)(3), a non-profit increasing access to quality holistic mental health care.   Her passion is integrative health in the context of globalization and decolonizing oppression in all contexts, including internalized messages.Her clinical work centers the needs, desires and stories of marginalized individuals with intersectional identities that have limited structural power within our current social system that disenfranchises these community members. She is re-imagining ways of creating access for BIPOC that aim to radically transform how we all think about direct action as community care.She was an Associate Professor at Lesley University in Cambridge, MA, resigning June 30, 2020 to pursue Cervitude endeavors full time.  

Host Erez Shek sat down this week to speak with Dr. Angelica Pinna-Perez, a trauma aware and culturally affirming psychotherapist, educator and social action activist. She is the founder of The Cervitude Coalition 501(c)(3), a non-profit increasing access to quality holistic mental health care. A fierce advocate for equity in holistic mental health care, she centers anti-colonial re-imaginings in order to amplify its healing impact on people and communities living with complex collective trauma. In this episode, we embrace conversations surrounding equity in health care systems, educational systems and judicial systems. Exploring how decolonization can assist us to truly tackle racism and the systemic issues that feed our need to redefine our evolution and be truly r/Evolutionary. Our ability and desire to question not only things around us, but also question ourselves becomes a powerful internal tool that naturally becomes an external power. Join the r/Evolutionary fun with Dr. Angelica Pinna-Perez and Cervitude: Cervitude Website: https://bit.ly/3kORIIW (https://bit.ly/3kORIIW) Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrPinnaPerez (https://twitter.com/DrPinnaPerez) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrPinnaPerez (https://www.facebook.com/DrPinnaPerez) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/createonthe8/ (https://www.instagram.com/createonthe8/) Make sure you follow The Shek Check on: Twitter:https://twitter.com/ShekCheck ( https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/) Make sure to hit that subscribe button so you get notified when Part II of our conversation drops and when any new content drops.

What are trapped emotions? All our emotions affect our bodies in different ways and carry different energy within us. What happens when energy doesn't get to release the way it should? It does not just disappear or go away. It stays with us. It becomes trapped. How do trapped emotions show up in our bodies and our lives? How do we become aware of these trapped emotions? What can we do from (and with) that awareness? Guest David Delgado (founder of Moksha- A personal development company) sits down to talk about his discovery of his own trapped emotions. Breaking down how they showed up in his life, his path of awareness, and what movement looks like for him now. David is a UX designer by trade and began walking the path within when he faced unexplainable brain fog, chronic fatigue, and other symptoms. On his journey, he became immersed in the fields of biohacking, contemplative sciences, breath work, transpersonal psychology, subconscious programming, and other modalities.  While we may not have all the answers, we have our own answers up until this point and that is why we talk. That is why we share. That is how we check ourselves so that we wreck ourselves a little bit less. Follow David & Moksha Life on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_moksha_life/ (https://www.instagram.com/the_moksha_life/) Learn more about Moksha Life: https://www.mokshalife.co/ (https://www.mokshalife.co/) Keep up to date with The Shek Check on social media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck (https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Learn more about the methodologies mentioned by David in today's episode: Sedona Method: https://www.sedona.com/Home.asp (https://www.sedona.com/Home.asp) The Class: https://theclass.com/ (https://theclass.com/)

Which comes first? Changed Mindset or Changed Habits? When I posed this question to my followers on Instagram, I got very interesting results. A majority of people responded that a changed mindset comes first. Which is why, in this episode, I explain why I think it's important to look at changed habits first (and always). Focus check. Make sure to give us a follow on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck (https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck) Twitter: https://twitter.com/shekcheck (https://twitter.com/shekcheck) Make sure to visit our website to stay up to date when new episode and blog posts are released! https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/) Keep checking yourself so you can keep taking care of yourself, that is how we take care of others.

An intention is an idea or a thought, that you plan to carry out. It may be a vibe or an energy that you are aiming for. What is impact? It is the action of one object coming forcibly into contact with another object. It can be an effect of an action on someone or something. Our intention influence our actions and our choices. The impact of our actions and choices affect the world around us. The question becomes, what matters to you more? The intentions you set, or the impact they have? Host Erez Shek explores why we cannot talk about owning our intentions without talking about owning the impact they may have. Make sure to follow https://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check) on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck (https://www.facebook.com/theshekcheck) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Check out the blog post for this episode: https://theshekcheck.com/?p=2577&preview=true (https://theshekcheck.com/impact-when-intentions-dont-matter/)

How much has silence hurt you? Were you taught that being loud was disruptive? How many times have you been told that silence is the same thing as peace? Does challenging silence scare you? Does it freak you out to be loud?  Host Erez Shek explores the mythical connection between silence and peace. Check out the full blog post for https://theshekcheck.com/the-case-to-be-loud/  ( Episode 77: "The Case To Be Loud") Follow https://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check) on all our social media platforms and webpage: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

Beyond the hashtags, the powerful protests, and the media coverage lives the real, honest, and maybe uncomfortable conversations between white people and black people that need to take place. Can we do that? Yes we can, if we choose to. Actress Lorren Cotton sat down to talk about her experience as a black woman in America, how racism shows up in her life, how it has shown up in her life, how it shows up in our school systems, in workplaces, on the streets, in the entertainment industry, and of course in our legal and policing systems.  We can choose to have these conversations surrounding black lives, and with black voices. Lorren Cotton is a Los Angeles based actress and writer, known for https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1997433?ref_=nmbio_mbio (Lured) (2012), https://www.imdb.com/title/tt6279258?ref_=nmbio_mbio (Where the Water Runs) (2018), https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0818516?ref_=nmbio_mbio (Resurrection Mary) (2005), https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1352727/?ref_=nm_flmg_act_24 (L.A.A.P Presents Family Values) (2007) and her YouTube series “Bible Stories: By KEY Lo-Lo”. A Chicago native, she studied at Columbia College & The Second City, and began doing theatre & film work. She then moved to Los Angeles & continued her training at Upright Citizens Brigade. Currently she can be seen in various commercials, on YouTube collaborating with many up & coming talent and performing live & viral with her all-female sketch comedy troupe, OvaryActing. She stars as "Angie" in the web series 'Not by Choice'Learn more about Lorren Cotton and check out her work on https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLXCUciNXzEbgfp1Qiu47VXeSw74pgVuQe (Youtube): https://youtu.be/4HqVLHD99n4 (https://youtu.be/4HqVLHD99n4) Want to learn more about the https://blacklivesmatter.com/ (Black Lives Matter) movement and become more informed about black lives and voices? Visit https://blacklivesmatter.com/ (https://blacklivesmatter.com/) Make sure you are following https://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check) on all our social media hot spots.  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck)

What is The MindBody Syndrome? Author and TMS Coach Dr. Kevin Martillo Viner sat down with Erez Shek to delve into what happens when we realize that the body has been saying what the mind has not been ready to.  Kevin Martillo Viner Ph.d is a NYC based TMS author and personal coach and holds a PhD in linguistic. Kevin recovered from years of debilitating back and sciatica pain using Dr. Sarno's approach to TMS recovery.  Based on his years of comprehensive research and lived experience his new book “The MindBody Syndrome (TMS): A Path to Recovery And Freedom” delves deeply into the psychological mind of the TMS sufferer. Providing a framework and a myriad of tools for the necessary mind training involved in TMS recovery.  The MindBody Syndrome (TMS): A Path to Recovery and Freedom” is available on Amazon and Kindle right here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085RNKS75/ (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085RNKS75/) Make sure to follow Kevin Martillo Viner Ph.D on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tmscoach/ (https://www.instagram.com/tmscoach/)  Learn even more about Kevin and his journey on his website: https://www.thetmscoach.com/ (https://www.thetmscoach.com/) Do you follow The Shek Check on social media? Give us a follow on: Instagram. https://instagram.com/theshekcheck (https://instagram.com/theshekcheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

Queer Songwriter and Musician Kenyth Mogan joins us this week to share his new single "You and Me" (out May 22) off his new album "Star Stealer" (out June 15). Covers of 80's classic's from female artists. We jumped right into topics of queer culture, comparison culture, owning and discovering identity, and flashing back to the music that shapes our journeys. If you want to revisit (or be introduced) to the wonderful world of 80's babies, than this is the time to do it. Kenyth's single "You and Me" ( featured on today's episode) is available for download and streaming on iTunes and Spotify on May 22. Get notified when it drops and become a fan of Kenyth on social media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KenythOfficial/ (https://www.facebook.com/KenythOfficial/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kenythofficial (https://www.instagram.com/kenythofficial) Keep up to date with https://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check )and follow us on Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Kenyth Mogan was born and raised in Northeastern Montana. Kenyth joined the ranks of Hollywood's out and proud music scene with the release of his Wizard of Oz themed music video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qGakV9vqnZQ ("Unlock Your Heart"). Since its premiere in 2015, Kenyth has been creating with hits like "https://open.spotify.com/track/6ei56VFrBfEwo48DuZbYEB?si=duIlqa4SReWTA5sUoS69Sg (It Was Love)", "https://open.spotify.com/track/1XRj60SHyJH7Y6I4aFxcBB?si=CnXQhoVpRmCIq0LDlr9xXg (Holy Water)" and "https://open.spotify.com/track/3VcRf2S9PYslpTN92GNXjE?si=SHOxS66tQM6ExjspOeRcgg (Real Me)"- which can be heard in https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5634960/ (Del Shore's hit "A Very Sordid Wedding")

Episode 73: Involved Evolution: Part 2 In Part Two, Host https://theshekcheck.com/ (Erez Shek) continues his chat with https://www.facebook.com/sarilehrhoffmdllc/ (Sari Lehrhoff M.D.), the alternative psychiatrist. We continue to explore our work to be involved in our evolution including looking at our beliefs of self, rituals for our self-care, sleep hygiene and how we collect wisdom and challenge ourselves to practice as we learn.  Check out https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/involved-evolution-part-one-with-guest-dr-sari-lehrhoff/ (Part 1 of "Involved Evolution" with Sari Lehrhoff M.D. )  You can learn more about Sari Lehrhoff M.D. and Evolve Wellness: Center for Integrated Health on: Webpage: http://evolvewellnessnj.com/ (http://evolvewellnessnj.com/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EvolveWellnessNJ/ (https://www.facebook.com/EvolveWellnessNJ/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvewellnessnj/ (https://www.instagram.com/evolvewellnessnj/) Keep up to date with https://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check )and follow us on Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Sari Lehrhoff, M.D. is a Board-certified by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology and licensed physician in the state of New Jersey. Dr. Lehrhoff earned a bachelor's degree in psychology from Muhlenberg College in 2001. After working for and studying pharmaceuticals with Pfizer, she then went on to earn her Medical degree from St. George's University in 2010. In July 2014 she completed her General Psychiatry Residency through Seton Hall University at Trinitas Regional Medical Center in Elizabeth, NJ. During her time at Trinitas hospital, Dr. Lehrhoff focused on the treatment of mood disorders such as depression and bipolar disorders as well as anxiety and panic disorders. As part of Dr. Lehrhoff's residency program, she received additional training in relationship and sex therapy at the Council for Relationships in Philadelphia.Dr. Lehrhoff is also an advocate for alternative & holistic medicine and practices with a full system approach, meaning that she uses a wide-range of treatment modalities to guide patients towards feelings their best. In 2005 she completed a yoga and meditation training and has been a certified yoga instructor sharing yoga principles with both students and patients alike. She attends workshops yearly to keep up to date with the teachings and life coaching modalities.

Episode 72: Involved Evolution: Part 1 In Part One, Host https://theshekcheck.com/ (Erez Shek) chats with https://www.facebook.com/sarilehrhoffmdllc/ (Sari Lehrhoff M.D.) We explore her own personal evolution, her own choices and her involved decisions that have led to her current beliefs. Extending to her personal life, her work as a psychiatrist and her work with others. Discussing integrated health, "alternative psychiatry", the power of choice for (and with) patients, and the acceptance of our emotions as guidance in our daily lives. You can learn more about Sari Lehrhoff M.D. and Evolve Wellness: Center for Integrated Health on: Webpage: http://evolvewellnessnj.com/ (http://evolvewellnessnj.com/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EvolveWellnessNJ/ (https://www.facebook.com/EvolveWellnessNJ/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvewellnessnj/ (https://www.instagram.com/evolvewellnessnj/) Keep up to date with The Shek Check and follow us on Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Webpage: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/) Make sure to tune in next week for Part Two of our chat. Sari Lehrhoff, M.D. is a Board-certified by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology and licensed physician in the state of New Jersey. Dr. Lehrhoff earned a bachelor's degree in psychology from Muhlenberg College in 2001. After working for and studying pharmaceuticals with Pfizer, she then went on to earn her Medical degree from St. George's University in 2010. In July 2014 she completed her General Psychiatry Residency through Seton Hall University at Trinitas Regional Medical Center in Elizabeth, NJ. During her time at Trinitas hospital, Dr. Lehrhoff focused on the treatment of mood disorders such as depression and bipolar disorders as well as anxiety and panic disorders. As part of Dr. Lehrhoff's residency program, she received additional training in relationship and sex therapy at the Council for Relationships in Philadelphia.Dr. Lehrhoff is also an advocate for alternative & holistic medicine and practices with a full system approach, meaning that she uses a wide-range of treatment modalities to guide patients towards feelings their best. In 2005 she completed a yoga and meditation training and has been a certified yoga instructor sharing yoga principles with both students and patients alike. She attends workshops yearly to keep up to date with the teachings and life coaching modalities.

Part 2: #StayAtHome Stories Within this global event we are all experiencing together, we are each experiencing it differently. We can create a lot of space for understanding, compassion and perspective when we just take the time to listen. About others and within ourselves. In https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/stayathome-stories-part-1/ (Episode 70, #StayAtHome Stories Part 1), we heard three different people share their experiences of how COVID-19 is affecting their life. This week we have three more people sharing their experiences: https://www.instagram.com/the.john.eli/ (John Eli) https://theaestheticunion.com/about (James Tucker) https://www.instagram.com/brandon_leland/ (Brandon Leland) When they were asked these two questions: #1 How is the pandemic affecting you and your life? #2 How are you taking care of yourself? Learn more about The Shek Check and listen to more episodes by https://theshekcheck.captivate.fm/listen (subscribing) and visiting us on our social media hot spots: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

There is something powerful and uniting when we are sharing our lived experiences and shared experiences. As we face COVID-19 and how it is affecting our lives, this has never been more necessary. Within this global event we are all experiencing together, we are each experiencing it differently. I am a strong believer that the differences are what can bring us even closer together. In those differences….there is so much to learn. About others and about ourselves. We can create a lot of space for understanding, compassion and perspective when we just take the time to listen. So I wanted to hear from all of you. So I put out on my social media that I wanted people to answer two questions,  #1 How is the pandemic affecting you and your life? #2 How are you taking care of yourself? In Part One of the #StayAtHome Stories, you will hear from:  Steff Quinn https://www.dmtoddlerjamrp.com/ (Dawn Marie Hamilton) Anginet Page More stories and experiences are coming soon so make sure to https://theshekcheck.captivate.fm/listen (subscribe) and visit http://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check) on our social media spots: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Would you like to share your experiences with The Shek Check?https://theshekcheck.com/contact/ ( Contact Us )

We think the only way to create change, to grow or to become more than we are right now is to always go-go-go. We might believe that our productivity is defined by our ability to "push it real good". We might believe that if we have free time, then we have to fill it up as much as possible. We might think that slowing down prevents that, or makes us look weak, or makes us lazy. Perhaps we need a Willy Wonka moment here to "strike that, reverse it". What if yielding, slowing our roll, is actually what we need? Host https://theshekcheck.com/ (Erez Shek) talks about the benefits of switching our mindset, and the behaviors we have clung to for so long, The power of yielding for change. Want to make sure you stay up to date with all things "The Shek Check? Receive weekly updates and tips to practice self-awareness in your life, http://bit.ly/387kApO (click here to sign up for weekly e-mails. ) Join Erez and https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/ (The Shek Check) on all our social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Learn more about The Shek Check here: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/)

Uncertainty The lack of certainty, a state of limited knowledge where it's impossible to exactly describe the existing state, a future outcome, our more than one possible outcome We don't always see how often we are dealing with uncertainty, because we are used to finding things and knowledge that will provide us with a perception of certainty. Right now as a global community we are being slammed with the reality, and finally being forced to accept that uncertainty is the only certainty. What does that acceptance look like? How can we become flexible with facing uncertainty? How can we https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/de-clutter-within-a-present-moment-practice/ (practice living) with uncertainty? Continue the conversation with us on Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://instagram.com/theshekcheck (https://instagram.com/theshekcheck) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck)

"Your life, in it's current state is your curriculum. You don't need to wait for someone or something else. It's you. It's your life. Embrace it all as if you've chosen it and let it teach you" - Ryan Allenhttp://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check) is joined by https://www.ryanallen.co/ (Guest Ryan Allen)- Writer, Coach, Breathwork Teacher and the mastermind behind the https://www.facebook.com/BecomeLifted/ (Lifted Digital Program.) Through his own life, Ryan has uncovered the pain that he carried from being gay and growing up in a world that didn't understand him. When he found that awareness and took his own path of healing, he discovered the power of life being his teacher. Uncovering space within himself inspired him to help others to uncover their own space. Integrating fitness, meditation, breathwork and inner work through his coaching. In this episode we covered topics like: Mens' relationships with their bodies Healing for Gay/Queer Men Beliefs of self Uncovering to heal Acceptance of self Self-Love Mind & Body Connection. Ryan's new 6 week digital program- https://www.ryanallen.co/digital-program (Lifted Men)- is focused on helping other gay/queer men who are holding onto their own pain. In his six week, self-study digital program Ryan takes the tools and principles he's learned in his own healing to help others uncover the gifts under their own pains and challenges. Visit Ryan and Lifted Men on his website: https://www.ryanallen.co/ (https://www.ryanallen.co/) On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BecomeLifted/ (https://www.facebook.com/BecomeLifted/) On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryan.m.allen/ (https://www.instagram.com/ryan.m.allen/) Make sure you are checking in with http://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check )on: Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://instagram.com/theshekcheck (https://instagram.com/theshekcheck)

Are we able to have thoughts and beliefs that maybe oppose each other? What we might call "contradictions"? Yes, and the only time we struggle with that is when we are super aware of it. We are not one dimensional, we are not even two dimensional. How much would we struggle if we accepted that, if we allowed that more openly. The polarities we "feel safe" in, the "pure" views we attach to, the absolutes we search for. Do they help us or hurt us?  Mentioned in this episode is https://jayshetty.me/ (Jay Shetty) and hishttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/on-purpose-with-jay-shetty/id1450994021 ( podcast "On Purpose" ). I recently pre-ordered his new book https://thinklikeamonkbook.com/ ("Think Like a Monk: Train your mind for peace and purpose everyday") which will be released in April. I highly suggest you to check it out by https://amzn.to/33ewhJK (clicking here). Do you follow Erez and The Shek Check on social media? Give us a follow on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://instagram.com/theshekcheck (https://instagram.com/theshekcheck) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) And visit http://theshekcheck.com/ (http://theshekcheck.com/) to learn more about us.

This week I sat down with Sean Burke, the Founder and CEO of "CheckingIn"- A self-awareness app that empowers people to tune into their emotions and energy levels in order to live healthier lives. Self-awareness is a super power that we all have access to within us, we often just need to start taking the actions to exercise and strengthen it. Download CheckingIn for free on Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/checkingin/id1465984722 (https://apps.apple.com/us/app/checkingin/id1465984722) Are you using an Android? Get on the early access list to get notified when the app is available on the Google Play Store : https://mailchi.mp/checkingin/android (https://mailchi.mp/checkingin/android) An https://themighty.com/2018/11/i-feel-nothing-wheel-of-emotions/ (emotion wheel/chart) can really help us identify and understand our emotions better. Broadening our emotional vocabulary is a huge part of how we communicate with others, and of course ourselves. If you have never seen an emotions wheel or chart before, check this one out: https://images.app.goo.gl/q6F5GNbi1jYyTHgq5 (https://images.app.goo.gl/q6F5GNbi1jYyTHgq5) Make sure you are following http://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check) on: Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/) Sean Burke is the Founder and CEO of CheckingIn. As a serial entrepreneur, Sean has founded and lead 2 successful organizations over the past 10 years. He has a passion and reputation for building socially responsible products, integrated teams and scalable cultures.Sean has served as a member of the SFU Board of Governors Responsible Investment Committee, was a member of the SFU Alumni Association Board and the Hong Kong Canada Business association board.He is passionate about giving back to his community. He co-founded a local not for profit that has expanded to 8 countries with over 80,000 members and over $100,000 donated to local charities. Sean founded a community basketball tournament that grew to the largest in Western Canada, hosting 134 high school teams across a 3 day tournament. Also, he was chair of the Canadian Breast Cancer Pauline Chan dress up challenge for 5 years growing donations from $30,000 to $95,000, raising over $250,000.Sean has been recognized by the Chartered Professional Accountants of Canada as the Most Exemplary Young Professional and was awarded the PwC CEO award, recognized as the employee of the year for the Canadian practice.

"They were five students with nothing in common, faced with spending a Saturday detention together in their high school library. At 7 a.m., they had nothing to say, but by 4 p.m., they had bared their souls to each other. To the outside world they were simply a Brain, an Athlete, a Basket Case, a Princess, and a Criminal, but to each other, they would always be the Breakfast Club." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTNZy8Yxw3I (The Breakfast Club Movie Synopsis)The Breakfast Club Theory is that even though we all have our own experiences, and our own experiences of those experiences. We can find understanding and connections with people we might not think we would.  We still might not agree or like those people we are connecting with, but maybe that empathy can create more kindness within ourselves as we walk with each other. ​ Make sure to give us a follow on all our social media pages: Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Instagram: https://instagram.com/theshekcheck (https://instagram.com/theshekcheck) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Website: https://theshekcheck.com/ (https://theshekcheck.com/) Want Shek Check updates in your inbox along with self-awareness tips and challenges? Sign up for our weekly newsletter: http://bit.ly/387kApO (http://bit.ly/387kApO) Did you like this episode, than you might like https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/episode-18-special-guest-christopher-rivas/ (Episode 18 with Guest Christopher Rivas. )The power of our stories in finding connections with others. https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/episode-18-special-guest-christopher-rivas/ (Check it out).

We live in a world of to-do lists. We have things to plan, we have things to over-plan, we have work that needs to get done, we have people we need to meet, we have things we need to do, we have things we have to do, and of course things we want to do. While https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNaPKFA1niUFRgzkVqqhJVg (Marie Kondo) will tell you to take a minimalist approach in your surroundings and fill your work and living area with things that bring you joy. I say we can also find a less cluttered place within ourselves. We might not have the option to de-clutter all those things outside of us, but we can take a https://amzn.to/2SD4jDW (moment in our present to de-clutter from within). https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/love-is-love/ (Everything we work on inside of us, goes outside of us in the long run.) Follow us on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck) Instagram: https://instagram.com/theshekcheck (https://instagram.com/theshekcheck) We are about to head into a Self-Awareness challenge through our newsletter so make sure you are signed up for that by http://bit.ly/387kApO (CLICKING HERE.)

Love is love. Like any feeling it is unlimited, it moves and it shifts. So why do we feel we need to compare our love? Why can't we hold space for the feeling, and how we feel it, and who we feel it for? Or who we have felt it for in the past? Why do we feel that we might have to sacrifice loving ourselves so that we can love others? Doesn't it all connect, mix, and co-exist? Continue the conversation with https://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check) on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/) Instagram: https://instagram.com/theshekcheck (https://instagram.com/theshekcheck) Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (https://twitter.com/ShekCheck)

Sitting down with Journalist and Filmmaker http://www.jasonhanasik.com/about (Jason Hanasik) to talk about his new film http://www.jasonhanasik.com/a-childhood-on-fire ("A Childhood on Fire". ) “A Childhood on Fire” is a film about the father figures who violated Nick, the effects that abuse had on Nick's sense of self and security, and the ways he is interrupting a cycle of violence so that his two boys thrive.While my conversation with Jason was focused on "A Childhood on Fire" and his previous film http://www.jasonhanasik.com/how-to-make-a-pearl ("How to Make a Pearl"), I really got to see how his curiosity in others created space within him. For his own journey, his own struggles, and his own triumphs. Exploring his own journey, his own struggles, and his own triumphs and how connections can always be found and made. "They say curiosity killed the cat, when in reality it just gave the cat more to live for" -https://theshekcheck.com/ (Erez Shek )http://www.jasonhanasik.com/ (Jason Hanasik )is a filmmaker, artist, playwright, and journalist. His work has appeared in https://www.theguardian.com/ (The Guardian), at the Smithsonian's National Portrait Gallery, in The Los Angeles Times, in the academic journal Critical Military Studies, at various international film festivals, on stage at the Brooklyn Academy of Music and Ace Theater in LA, and in solo and group visual art exhibitions worldwide. His monograph, http://www.jasonhanasik.com/i-slowly-watched-him-disappear (“I slowly watched him disappear” )is in the collection of the https://www.metmuseum.org/ (Metropolitan Museum of Art), MoMA NYC, Stanford University and the Rhode Island School of Design. Keep up to date with http://bit.ly/387kApO (The Shek Check) on https://instagram.com/theshekcheck (Instagram), https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (Twitter) and https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (Facebook).

"What if forgiveness was more about processing, and less of a destination or a single act?" - https://theshekcheck.com/aboutus/ (Erez Shek) Often we will be told to find forgiveness, or simply ask for forgiveness. However, nothing is as simple as a single moment, or a single act when it comes to our emotional health, our growth, our healing....our lives. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uJsvFnJ0Vjg&list=PLUpXujarjkzb81DltA_s8zEkBG3RC1Gd3 (Words matter, but actions matter more). We see this with the phrase https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUpXujarjkzZS0ouUdsKPNKd03UeNHe4J ("I'm Sorry"). A true apology is patterns of changed actions and behaviors. Not a symbolic phrase. It is no different with forgiveness. Forgiveness is also changed actions and behaviors. Our own. Everything we work on within us, goes outside of us. Everything we don't work on within us, also goes outside of us. What if we focused on the process more than the destination? What if we allowed the process? What if we let ourselves be human along that process? What if that meant we had to start with forgiving ourselves for being human in that process?What if? Make sure to give us a follow on https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (Twitter,)https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ ( Instagram) and https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (Facebook)

Music and Musicians have been creating conversations around Mental and Emotional Health for decades. Creating conversations and communities of people who might not have met or spoken before. We can talk at people all we want, to educate and to bring awareness. We can plant those seeds, but we can never be sure people will choose to water them. What music and musicians do, is create a direct connection to a person. Perhaps we have a better understanding of a situation that affects our mental health. Perhaps we are able to give name to an emotion we weren't able to before. Perhaps the music creates conversations and connections with people you might have connected to before. Mental Health is how we think, feel and behave. Music and Musicians have been putting that out there for decades.

Do our experiences shape us, or do the shifts we take from those experiences shape us? Or do they both? "I've looked at clouds from both sides now. From up and down..."- https://jonimitchell.com/ (Joni Mitchell)My conversation with Therapist and Author https://www.tashajackson.com/ (Tasha Jackson) continues from https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/swiping-right-with-guest-tasha-jackson/ (Episode 57: "Swipe Right"). There was a shift in our conversation that explored her own experiences and how they have shaped her, how they have shaped what she has done, and how they shape what she is doing now. Discussing about her connection with the https://www.sfcenter.org/ (LGBTQ community), and what led to her own path of healing and growth. Jumping to topics regarding https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/neurodiversity (neurodiversity ),self-care, self-compassion, seeing things from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pbn6a0AFfnM (both sides now) and her genius "Hot Tub Theory". If you are not following Tasha Jackson on https://twitter.com/TashaJacksTweet (Twitter) and https://www.instagram.com/shrink_shots/ (Instagram), make sure you get right on top of that. You can also purchase her new book https://www.amazon.com/Master-Dater-Hilarious-Anecdotes-Therapists/dp/0578580470/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Master+Dater&qid=1573149636&sr=8-1 ("Master Dater" which is available on Amazon.) Make sure you are following https://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check )on https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (Twitter,) https://instagram.com/theshekcheck (Instagram), and join our https://www.facebook.com/groups/ShekYourself/ (Private Facebook Group) to continue these conversations. Tasha Jackson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based out of San Francisco, CA. She has been on the national speaking stage with the https://www.apa.org/ (APA- American Psychological Association). She has been published in trade journals and magazines. Featured articles on https://www.shrinktank.com/ (Shrink Tank) about https://www.shrinktank.com/southern-border-crisis/ (Mental Health and the Southern Border Crisis), and in a very contrasting piece she provides new perspective on herhttps://www.shrinktank.com/5-reasons-why-miss-piggy-is-the-original-boss-btch/ ( spirit animal Miss Piggy and her feminist undertones). As a therapist Tasha ishttps://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/trauma-informed-care-what-it-is-and-why-its-important-2018101613562 ( trauma informed), having been trained in both traditional and more progressive theories she integrates different techniques to meet her clients individual needs. Focusing on the relationship with a client as the most important aspect of therapy. Learn more about Tasha and her work https://www.tashajackson.com/ (here).

can we swipe right on ourselves toallow ourselves to swipe right on others. Therapist and Author Tasha Jackson joins me to talk about connecting in our social media age, dating in our social media age, and why we need to break down those thought barriers that keep us from swiping right. “Love is an essential part of life and a new love can open the door to personal growth in so many unexpected ways” - from "Master Dater" by Tasha JacksonSocial media and dating apps give us a wonderful new way to connect with people from around the world. It can also isolate us we scroll and swipe through information and people at a faster speed. We can blame and celebrate all of that, or we can move with it. Giving ourselves a chance for connections with others, and maybe a chance on love. How can we navigate those love filled waters in our current, technological, scroll and swipe filled ocean?  How can we face our thought barriers, so we can give ourselves a chance at love? Can we move with our flaws, knowing that everyone else is flawed? What can dating look like in this social media age? Take a look athttps://www.amazon.com/Master-Dater-Hilarious-Anecdotes-Therapists/dp/0578580470/ref=pd_ybh_a_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=D54DGRE1VQHX3586G8V2 ( "Master Dater: The New Normal Dating Guide for Finding Love in the Digital Age") on https://www.amazon.com/Master-Dater-Hilarious-Anecdotes-Therapists/dp/0578580470/ref=pd_ybh_a_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=D54DGRE1VQHX3586G8V2 (Amazon) right now. Do you want to continue the conversation withhttps://theshekcheck.com/ ( The Shek Check,) make sure to https://linktr.ee/theshekcheck (subscribe) wherever you are listening to our show. Also join the private https://www.facebook.com/groups/ShekYourself/ (Shek Yourself Facebook Group,) and give us a follow on https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (Twitter )and https://www.instagram.com/theshekcheck/ (Instagram). Tasha Jackson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based out of San Francisco, CA. She has been on the national speaking stage with the https://www.apa.org/ (APA- American Psychological Association). She has been published in trade journals and magazines. Featured articles on https://www.shrinktank.com/ (Shrink Tank) about https://www.shrinktank.com/southern-border-crisis/ (Mental Health and the Southern Border Crisis), and in a very contrasting piece she provides new perspective on herhttps://www.shrinktank.com/5-reasons-why-miss-piggy-is-the-original-boss-btch/ ( spirit animal Miss Piggy and her feminist undertones). As a therapist Tasha ishttps://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/trauma-informed-care-what-it-is-and-why-its-important-2018101613562 ( trauma informed), having been trained in both traditional and more progressive theories she integrates different techniques to meet her clients individual needs. Focusing on the relationship with a client as the most important aspect of therapy. Learn more about Tasha and her work https://www.tashajackson.com/ (here). Show Tasha some love and follow her on Twitter and https://www.instagram.com/shrink_shots/ (Instagram).

​What if....hope was not a magical thing outside of us that we had to find, that we had to hold on to, that we could lose? What if...hope is something we unknowingly practice everyday?  What if...hope lived in our daily actions? What if...hope lived in the choices we make? What if...we redefined hope as something internal instead of external? Want to continue the conversation from this episode in a safe and open environment? You can now join our Private Facebook Group right https://www.facebook.com/groups/ShekYourself/ (here).

While "self-diagnosis" is literally impossible, a totally made up nonsensical phrase and nothing. The thoughts that form within us when we digest, attach and fixate on things we might look up are very real. This episode explores those thoughts, the thought process and why we need to diffuse them. So, if we do need help, we can communicate that clearly...in the context of our body. Not a list of symptoms we look up or hear about.  Let's continue this coversation and let us know what you think by leaving a comment on https://theshekcheck.com/ (The Shek Check Website). You can also head on over to our https://www.facebook.com/TheShekCheck/ (Facebook),https://instagram.com/theshekcheck ( Instagram) or https://twitter.com/ShekCheck (Twitter) page and let us know what you think.