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Why does a breakup feel like more than heartbreak? In this episode, John Kim explores why breakups can feel like a death, and why that experience is rooted in more than emotion alone. Drawing from neuroscience, attachment theory, and years of therapeutic experience, he explains what happens in the brain after a relationship ends and why healing takes time. John unpacks the hidden losses that often come with heartbreak, from the future we imagined to the identity we built inside a relationship. He also shares why recovery isn't about forgetting someone, but learning to create a new reality without them. In this episode: • Why breakups feel physically painful • The role dopamine and attachment play in heartbreak • How relationships become part of our emotional regulation system • The grief of losing a future that never actually happened • Identity loss after a breakup • Why healing is really about rewiring If someone in your life is going through a breakup, share this episode with them. Follow the podcast for more conversations on relationships, healing, and personal growth.

In this Therapy Thursdays episode, we're answering listener questions about the messy, tender, and sometimes confusing parts of relationships. We talk about what it means when someone says “I love you” very early on, how relationships naturally move through different stages, and what to do when the romance starts to fade. We also explore the painful reality of betrayal — including what repair can look like after cheating, and how to know whether your partner is truly respecting the process of rebuilding trust. This episode also looks at conflict and communication: how to bring up difficult issues with your partner, family, or friends when confrontation feels scary or overwhelming. In this episode, we cover: Whether saying “I love you” after two weeks is genuine love, infatuation, or a possible red flag The different stages relationships often go through First steps toward repair after infidelity What it means when a partner pressures you to accept contact with the person they cheated with How to talk about losing the spark in a long-term relationship Why romance and effort can fade after the honeymoon phase How to approach hard conversations when you hate confrontation The difference between healthy communication and avoiding conflict

Joy, trauma, grief, healing. What if they're all connected? In this conversation, John sits down with Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald to explore what trauma actually does to the nervous system, why joy is more than a fleeting feeling, and how small moments of joy can help us stay grounded through life's hardest seasons. They discuss the science behind joy, common misconceptions about trauma, how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, and why healing may require letting go of identities built around suffering. The conversation also touches on grief, psychedelics, nervous system regulation, and finding meaning after loss. In this episode: • Why joy can help regulate and rewire the nervous system • What trauma really does to the body and brain • How childhood trauma shows up in adult relationships • The danger of identifying too strongly with your wounds • Why grief may be more transformative than we realize • The role of flow states, surfing, and presence in healing Also mentioned: • MaryCatherine's books Unbroken https://www.amazon.com/Unbroken-Trauma-Response-Never-Things-ebook/dp/B0B19CVVNM and The Joy Reset https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Reset-Trauma-Steals-Happiness/dp/0306836262 • Her upcoming K-12 resilience curriculum focused on trauma, stress, and joy • Her current work exploring grief through writing and poetry If this episode resonated with you, follow the podcast, share it with someone who may need it, and leave a review to help others find these conversations. Follow Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald Website: https://www.drmcmcdonald.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/mc.phd/?hl=en

Beau Johnson, author of On Purpose, shared with our Faith Incorporated audience about the four seasons of our work life. The third season Beau referenced is Influence. After we've worked through the Exploration phase, we'll need to eventually land on our passions and areas of expertise. This is the season when you need to become ... The post Working On Purpose: Season Three appeared first on Unconventional Business Network.

Beau Johnson, author of On Purpose, shared with our Faith Incorporated audience about four seasons of our work life. After the Identity season, Beau suggests that we enter the Exploration season. God has equipped you with skills and passions that will advance your career and your contribution to society. You will, however, need a season ... The post Working On Purpose: Season Two appeared first on Unconventional Business Network.

What if the thing you keep chasing isn't actually better... just more familiar? In this solo Q&A episode, John Kim reflects on fantasy, gratitude, emotional presence, and the difference between intensity and real love. From surfing in Costa Rica to answering listener questions about confidence, breakups, infidelity, and self-abandonment in relationships, this episode explores what happens when you stop escaping yourself and start paying attention to what's actually here. Key points covered: • Why we romanticize the past and overlook the present • The difference between intensity and consistency in love • How healthy relationships create clarity instead of confusion • What confidence actually comes from • Signs you may be abandoning yourself in a relationship • Whether couples can rebuild after infidelity If this episode helped you, send it to someone who may need to hear it. Follow, rate, and share the podcast to support the show.

Beau Johnson, author of On Purpose, shared with our Faith Incorporated audience about the Four Seasons of our Work Life. In this series we'll unpack some of Beau's wisdom. The first season he referenced is what Beau labeled Identity. We need to discover who we are and want to be regarding our character. During ... The post Working On Purpose: Season One appeared first on Unconventional Business Network.

John Kim explores what it really means to “seek nectar” in everyday life and why tiny moments of beauty, awe, and presence might matter more than we think. In this solo episode, John reflects on life in Costa Rica, nervous system healing, and the difference between surviving and actually feeling alive. He shares how years of stress and hyper vigilance can train us to scan for danger, and how intentionally noticing small moments of joy can slowly rewire the brain toward expansion, connection, and presence. Key points from this episode: • Why “stress narrows you and nectar expands you” • How survival mode becomes a default nervous system state • The neuroscience behind joy, presence, and neuroplasticity • What it means to train your body to “expect beauty again” • Tiny moments that create aliveness, awe, and emotional regulation • Why healing also means collecting new emotional experiences John also shares personal reflections on surfing, Costa Rica, creativity, parenthood, relationships, and the small rituals that bring him back to himself. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need the reminder to seek more nectar in their life. Follow the podcast for more conversations on relationships, healing, and becoming more human.

We'd love to hear from you! Send us a text!We are almost halfway through the year!  Can you believe it?  Today's show doesn't offer a to-do list, a three step plan, or anything else Elizabeth has learned on her journey to be INTENTIONAL.  Instead, this is just a moment to pause, to reflect, to ask, and to do some personal journaling. Elizabeth will ask five questions worth sitting with, worth being honest about, and worth investing in. So take a deep breath, settle in, be willing to be honest with yourself, and go into it believing that the best is not behind you. Five reflection questions: 1.   What did January-you believe about this year that you've since proven wrong — and what did she get right?2.    What have you been tolerating that you haven't been willing to name out loud?3.    Who have you been showing up for — and who have you not been showing up for?4.    What would you do differently if you actually believed you were capable of it?5.    When this year is over, what do you want to be true that isn't yet?Elizabeth Pehrson created The Exchange in 2015. The Exchange is a monthly event     for ALL adult women. Women who work outside the home. And women who work in the home. Women who are single. And women who are married. Women who are moms. Women who are grand-moms. No matter what season of life you are in, The Exchange is here to inspire you to live life ON PURPOSE and WITH INTENTION.The Exchange is a non-profit that provides an environment for women to hear practical advice from topics Elizabeth has read and life lessons she has learned, and is currently learning. Equipping us to become better women tomorrow than we are today. And to ultimately use that to pour back into those around us. Tickets and info: theexchangeus.orgfollow us on instagram: theexchangeusfollow us on Facebook: the exchange cumming

Love often starts as a drug. But what happens when the high wears off? In this episode, John Kim explores the difference between “drug-based love” and “medicine-based love,” and why most relationships struggle when chemistry begins to settle. He talks about projection, love addiction, emotional growth, and how real healing begins when relationships stop being a place to escape yourself and become a place to return to yourself. John also shares personal reflections on rebuilding life in Costa Rica after losing his home in Altadena, and how reinvention is shaping this new season of his life. Key points covered: • Why love feels intoxicating in the beginning • The difference between chemistry and healing • How projection shapes modern dating • “Recess love” vs mature relational work • Why repair matters more than avoiding conflict • How healthy love can rewire old patterns and fears Resources & mentions: • John discusses his new book, Love Hard on Purpose • Listeners who purchase the book get access to his private WhatsApp community If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who's learning the difference between chemistry and healing. Follow the podcast for more conversations on love, growth, and relationships.

Season 8: Episode 18-REFOCUSYES! Season 8 continues and the mission is simple but serious:VISION. FIXED. FOR '26.Because when vision slips, momentum stalls.When focus fractures, progress slows.And when we stop seeing clearly, we start settling quietly.This season isn't about hype it's about alignment.It's about recalibrating your sight, realigning with God's original intent, and refusing to move another step without clarity.We are locking in on what matters.Letting go of distractions disguised as opportunities.And demolishing every last blur that's been keeping us busy but not becoming.No more fuzzy faith.No more double vision decisions.No more walking with purpose but looking in the wrong direction.

In this Therapy Thursdays episode, John answers listener questions about anxious attachment, exes, blame, perfectionism, makeup sex, and relationship myths. He explores how attachment patterns affect your partner, why we sometimes stay mentally connected to an ex, and how to know whether a relationship has real long-term potential. If you've ever wondered whether your relationship has legs, why you keep blaming your partner, or why you still think about someone from your past, this episode will help you slow down and look at the deeper patterns underneath.

In this episode, John explores the different dimensions of intimacy, including emotional, spiritual, mental, passionate, physical, and energy intimacy. He emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for emotional vulnerability, engaging in meaningful conversations, and practicing empathy and compassion.

Season 8: Episode 17-QUESTIONING THE LENSYES! Season 8 continues and the mission is simple but serious:VISION. FIXED. FOR '26.Because when vision slips, momentum stalls.When focus fractures, progress slows.And when we stop seeing clearly, we start settling quietly.This season isn't about hype it's about alignment.It's about recalibrating your sight, realigning with God's original intent, and refusing to move another step without clarity.We are locking in on what matters.Letting go of distractions disguised as opportunities.And demolishing every last blur that's been keeping us busy but not becoming.No more fuzzy faith.No more double vision decisions.No more walking with purpose but looking in the wrong direction.

What should you really look for when choosing someone to love? In this episode, John Kim explores why attraction alone is not enough to build a healthy relationship. He breaks down how instant chemistry can sometimes come from old patterns, why emotional intelligence matters more than intellect, and how self-awareness, consistency, and the ability to create safety are essential in love. John also shares why strong relationships are often built around something bigger than the couple itself, whether that is shared values, purpose, family, creativity, spirituality, or service. This episode is a reminder to look beyond the spark and ask what kind of relationship you are actually building.

This episode starts with a story about peeing on himself… and somehow turns into a conversation about masculinity, emotional safety, relationships, and rebuilding love after loss. John records this one off the cuff from a coffee shop in Costa Rica and reflects on the traits he once saw as flaws, the surprising depth that can happen in men's groups, and a relationship question that's changing the way he shows up in marriage. He also shares why he believes some relationships need to “die” in order for something more honest to be rebuilt. In this episode: • Why impulsiveness and intensity may not be the problem • The question John asked a men's group: “How is your heart?” • How emotional safety changes the way men open up • Why some long-term relationships stop evolving • “What I need” vs “what the relationship needs” • Rebuilding a marriage after loss and change If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who's navigating growth, love, or reinvention. Follow the podcast for new episodes every week.

Some relationship patterns aren't about the present. They're about wounds your nervous system learned a long time ago. In this episode, John Kim breaks down some of the most common emotional wounds people carry into relationships, including abandonment, rejection, betrayal, control, emotional deprivation, and loss of self. He explains how these wounds become patterns, why we react instead of respond, and what healing actually looks like in real time. Key points covered: • Why wounds are about meaning, not just events • How childhood experiences shape adult relationship patterns • The difference between reacting from protection vs truth • Why people repeat the same emotional cycles in relationships • How abandonment and rejection wounds show up in everyday moments • What it means to create a corrective love experience John also shares personal reflections about rebuilding life after losing his home in the Altadena fires and moving into a new home in Costa Rica. He mentions his upcoming book, Love Hard on Purpose, and a private WhatsApp group for readers who pre-order the book. If this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs it and follow the podcast for more conversations on relationships, healing, and growth.

Season 8: Episode 16-PERIPHERAL DISTRACTIONS!YES! Season 8 continues and the mission is simple but serious:VISION. FIXED. FOR '26.Because when vision slips, momentum stalls.When focus fractures, progress slows.And when we stop seeing clearly, we start settling quietly.This season isn't about hype it's about alignment.It's about recalibrating your sight, realigning with God's original intent, and refusing to move another step without clarity.We are locking in on what matters.Letting go of distractions disguised as opportunities.And demolishing every last blur that's been keeping us busy but not becoming.No more fuzzy faith.No more double vision decisions.No more walking with purpose but looking in the wrong direction.

In this Therapy Thursdays episode, we're answering your questions about dating, attraction, conflict, infidelity, and the messy middle of deciding whether a relationship is worth repairing. We explore what to look for when you're dating, how much of your past to share with a partner, and whether physical attraction can grow over time. We also get into the harder questions: why a spouse might become distant after an affair, how to rebuild trust, when to go to couples counseling, and how to know whether conflict is healthy or a sign that something deeper is wrong. This episode also touches on emotional healing after heartbreak, finding yourself again, staying positive through difficult seasons, and why an ex might still be watching your life from a distance. Whether you're dating, rebuilding, questioning, or letting go, this conversation is about learning to listen to yourself, understand the patterns at play, and make choices from clarity instead of fear.

In this deeply personal episode, John Kim revisits his story with fresh eyes and new perspective. From divorce and failed screenwriting dreams to becoming a therapist, building a life in Los Angeles, and then losing it all in a fire, he reflects on the defining “act breaks” that reshaped his identity. Now rebuilding in Costa Rica, John explores what it means to live without a blueprint and to design a life rooted in presence, courage, and truth. Key Points Covered • The difference between a life “chapter” and an “act break” • Losing his home in a fire and how it forced radical change • Letting go of a screenwriting dream and finding purpose as a therapist • Building the “Angry Therapist” platform through authenticity • How loss stripped away excuses and created space for reinvention • Redefining life, success, and home while rebuilding in Costa Rica If this story resonated with you, make sure to subscribe for more conversations on growth, relationships, and rebuilding your life. Mentions: John's book publishing company: Soulprint https://www.soulprintmedia.co

We'd love to hear from you! Send us a text!In 1987 a woman named Emily Perl Kingsley wrote one of the most beautiful, simple pieces of writing you will ever read.  And today's episode is built around that incredible, gut-wrenching metaphor called Welcome To Holland. We all have things in our lives that we did NOT choose. Or that we did NOT see coming. We did NOT wish for, hope for, or pray for. Yet there they are.  If you have EVER planned for, dreamt of or imagined what life would be like, only to find yourself asking, “how in the world did I end up here?”, then THIS episode is for YOU. "Welcome to Holland" © 1987 Emily Perl Kingsley — all rights reserved.Elizabeth Pehrson created The Exchange in 2015. The Exchange is a monthly event     for ALL adult women. Women who work outside the home. And women who work in the home. Women who are single. And women who are married. Women who are moms. Women who are grand-moms. No matter what season of life you are in, The Exchange is here to inspire you to live life ON PURPOSE and WITH INTENTION.The Exchange is a non-profit that provides an environment for women to hear practical advice from topics Elizabeth has read and life lessons she has learned, and is currently learning. Equipping us to become better women tomorrow than we are today. And to ultimately use that to pour back into those around us. Tickets and info: theexchangeus.orgfollow us on instagram: theexchangeusfollow us on Facebook: the exchange cumming

Glitzy™ Presents: When Your Patience Runs Out at Work! A situation from Self Settings™.Self Settings is a about the controls, sliders, and toggles inside us — the dials we never knew we could adjust. This one is hosted by Glitzy Pup and we're looking at  a public library worker writes in: she has zero patience left for the steady stream of angry patrons. One woman threw a fit because a brand-new bestseller was on hold, and she snapped — "this is a library, it's free." She knows it wasn't great. She wants to stop reacting like that.Glitzy™ and her friend Glitchy dig into what's actually under the irritation: the way frustration carries forward from patron to patron, how emotional regulation slips when you're already running on empty, and why setting realistic expectations isn't the same as setting good limits. Three internal settings come up — Emotional Regulation, Restart, and Active Tolerance — and how to use them so that the version of you helping the tenth ridiculous patron isn't carrying the residue of the first nine.Includes a clip from On Purpose with Jay Shetty — How to Communicate So People Actually Listen — on what happens the moment we respond from pure emotion instead of intention.For anyone whose patience meter needs recalibrating.Find your settings at SelfSettings.comThis podcast is brought to you by Matters.com. A new social media and collaboration platform - launching soon. Join thousands getting the Matters.com newsletter — world news, fresh perspectives, and early beta access.

In this episode, John explores why trying to bring a relationship back to what itonce was can quietly hold it back. Instead of restoring the past, he reframes love as something that must evolve alongside the people in it, requiring honesty, effort, and a willingness to grow together. He breaks down how relationships naturally fall out of alignment over time and why that doesn't mean they're broken. Through communication, truth-telling, and emotional capacity, alignment becomes something you build rather than something you either “have” or don't. John shares three grounded ways to realign when things feel off, including telling the current truth, updating the relationship instead of restoring it, and focusing on willingness over perfection. The episode also touches on the idea that some relationships need to “die” in order to be rebuilt in a way that actually fits who both people are today.

Season 8: Episode 15- OBEDIENCE!Season 8 continues and the mission is simple but serious:VISION. FIXED. FOR '26.Because when vision slips, momentum stalls.When focus fractures, progress slows.And when we stop seeing clearly, we start settling quietly.This season isn't about hype it's about alignment.It's about recalibrating your sight, realigning with God's original intent, and refusing to move another step without clarity.We are locking in on what matters.Letting go of distractions disguised as opportunities.And demolishing every last blur that's been keeping us busy but not becoming.No more fuzzy faith.No more double vision decisions.No more walking with purpose but looking in the wrong direction.

In this vulnerable solo episode, John Kim explores love and sex addiction through the lens of attachment, emotional regulation, childhood wounds, and relationship ruptures. After a painful conflict with his partner, John reflects on how love can become a way to regulate anxiety, emptiness, and the need to feel wanted or chosen. He unpacks the difference between real love and chasing intensity, and why healing means learning to sit with your own internal state without immediately reaching for someone else to fix it.

Listen and subscribe to Money Making Conversations on iHeartRadio, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, www.moneymakingconversations.com/subscribe/ or wherever you listen to podcasts. New Money Making Conversations episodes drop daily. I want to alert you, so you don’t miss out on expert analysis and insider perspectives from my guests who provide tips that can help you uplift the community, improve your financial planning, motivation, or advice on how to be a successful entrepreneur. Keep winning! Two-time Emmy and Three-time NAACP Image Award-winning, television Executive Producer Rushion McDonald interviewed Dr. Kurt Jones. Purpose of the Interview The conversation aims to highlight the importance of mental health and wellness, particularly in the Black community, elite sports, and entrepreneurial spaces. It focuses on mental resilience, confidence building, and strategies for handling stress and setbacks, while introducing Dr. Jones’ methodology and his mission through Play 21 Wellness Academy. Key Takeaways Mental Health in the Black Community Historically stigmatized; seen as weakness or negativity. Today, awareness is improving, but significant work remains. Customized Approach Dr. Jones does individualized analysis and treatment plans for athletes and business professionals. Rejects “cookie-cutter” solutions—tailors strategies to personal circumstances. The Shelving Method A mental organization system with four shelves: Immediate Shelf: Urgent tasks within 24 hours. Active Shelf: Important but less urgent tasks. Holding Shelf: Items to revisit later. Elimination Shelf: Thoughts/tasks to discard permanently. Helps clients focus on the present and avoid dwelling on past mistakes. Confidence & Setbacks Confidence can collapse after major losses or failures. Strategy: Remind clients of their greatness, review past successes, and rebuild momentum. Consistency and adaptability are key to sustaining success. Play 21 Wellness Academy Founded in memory of Ben Wilson, a top basketball player and Dr. Jones’ best friend. Mission: Support youth athletes, address issues like parent/teacher abuse, and provide mental health resources. Operates as both a nonprofit and for-profit entity. Broader Client Base Works with elite athletes, entrepreneurs, and high-level professionals. Mental clarity and emotional control are critical for success in any field. Health & Balance Encourages regular medical checkups, stress management, and work-life balance. Advocates for self-reward and stepping out of comfort zones while maintaining wellness. Upcoming Projects Book: Chi-Town Blueprints (personal story and mental resilience). Workbook on the Shelving Method for schools, universities, and professionals. Notable Quotes On Mental Health Stigma:“When people talked about mental health, the first thought was negative.” On Focus:“You can’t take the last play to the next play.” On Success:“Mental thinking is a huge part of success.” On Confidence:“Remind yourself of what got you to the point where you were winning.” On Consistency:“You’ve never seen a Brinks truck behind a funeral car—the graveyard is the richest place because people die with million-dollar dreams.” On Purpose:“Walk in your purpose. When you walk in your purpose, there’s no stopping you.” #SHMS #STRAW #BESTSteve Harvey Morning Show Online: http://www.steveharveyfm.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Season 8: Episode 14- NAVIGATION!Season 8 continues and the mission is simple but serious:VISION. FIXED. FOR '26.Because when vision slips, momentum stalls.When focus fractures, progress slows.And when we stop seeing clearly, we start settling quietly.This season isn't about hype it's about alignment.It's about recalibrating your sight, realigning with God's original intent, and refusing to move another step without clarity.We are locking in on what matters.Letting go of distractions disguised as opportunities.And demolishing every last blur that's been keeping us busy but not becoming.No more fuzzy faith.No more double vision decisions.No more walking with purpose but looking in the wrong direction.

What happens when two men in their 50s look back at the childhood pain that shaped them and realize friendship can be medicine? John rides in the car with therapist, author, and longtime friend Sam Louie for an honest conversation about Asian shame, childhood trauma, masculinity, and healing. Sam shares what it was like immigrating from Hong Kong, growing up in South Seattle, navigating racism and bullying, and living in survival mode from a young age. Together, John and Sam explore how early pain shaped their nervous systems, relationships, and sense of self. They talk about shame, porn, divorce, therapy, parts work, and the healing power of male friendship. This is a raw conversation about identity, repair, and what it means to be truly seen. Connect with Sam https://linktr.ee/AsianShame More about John:

In this Therapy Thursdays episode, John answers some of the hardest relationship questions people carry quietly: trust after infidelity, emotional disconnection, fading desire, avoidant partners, honesty that hurts, and the pain of knowing when it may be time to let go. He explores what it really takes to rebuild trust, why emotional depth matters, what can motivate someone to finally do the work, and how to move through guilt, disappointment, and heartbreak without abandoning yourself. If you have ever felt torn between hope and reality in love, this episode will give you clarity, language, and perspective.

Turning 53 has John reflecting on what actually matters. In this birthday episode, he shares five revelations shaped by loss, growth, love, and starting over. From losing his house to finding more meaning, joy, and freedom, this is a deeply personal conversation about accepting the truth, living in alignment, and letting life change you. He talks about why growth often feels like loss before it feels like expansion, why love is something we build and practice, and why starting over is not failure but a skill. This episode feels like a check-in with yourself. A reminder that what was true for you before may not be true now. That chasing highs will never give you the kind of life alignment can. That love is less about finding the perfect feeling and more about consistency, repair, and honesty. And that no matter your age, you can begin again. If you've been reevaluating your life, grieving an old version of yourself, or wondering whether it's too late to change course, this episode will meet you there. In this episode: Truth changes your life when you fully accept it Why alignment matters more than chasing highs Growth often feels like loss before it feels like expansion Love is built through consistency, honesty, and repair You can start over more times than you think

We'd love to hear from you! Send us a text!Loneliness is underneath more of our struggles than we realize. And one thing we know for sure is that we were created for connection. Kim Anderson, from Elevate Moms, returns for part 3 (of our 3-part series) to discuss why finding other mom friends is so important, not only for us but also for our children! Finding other moms to do life with can be genuinely hard, and we will examine the real reason why. This kind of village doesn't happen by accident… it has to be built ON PURPOSE. You may find Kim at elevatemoms.comElizabeth Pehrson created The Exchange in 2015. The Exchange is a monthly event     for ALL adult women. Women who work outside the home. And women who work in the home. Women who are single. And women who are married. Women who are moms. Women who are grand-moms. No matter what season of life you are in, The Exchange is here to inspire you to live life ON PURPOSE and WITH INTENTION.The Exchange is a non-profit that provides an environment for women to hear practical advice from topics Elizabeth has read and life lessons she has learned, and is currently learning. Equipping us to become better women tomorrow than we are today. And to ultimately use that to pour back into those around us. Tickets and info: theexchangeus.orgfollow us on instagram: theexchangeusfollow us on Facebook: the exchange cumming

In this episode, John Kim sits down with relationship expert and author Amy Chan to talk about dating patterns, childhood wounds, grief, commitment, and what it really takes to build healthy love. Amy shares how the sudden loss of a close friend changed the way she thinks about relationships and why creating core memories with the people you love matters more than convenience. John opens up about how losing his home reshaped his idea of freedom, home, and what truly matters. Together, they explore how childhood neglect, validation-seeking, and old survival strategies continue to shape adult dating patterns. They also break down Amy's framework for dating smarter, including how to spot where your dating life gets stuck, why apps should not be your only strategy, and how your energy affects connection. They talk about dopamine, fantasy, and why the first three months of dating can be misleading. Later, they unpack commitment, unrealistic expectations, relationship trade-offs, triggers, repair, and emotional safety. Amy explains her “Sh*t Bucket” concept and why healthy love is not about finding a perfect partner, but choosing someone whose imperfections you can actually live with. They close with a hopeful reminder: love is hard, but it is still worth building. In this episode: (00:00) The real reason your dating life keeps repeating(00:29) Grief changed how Amy thinks about love(02:09) John's life after losing home and redefining freedom(03:15) Amy Chan on dating smarter and finding lasting love(05:03) The childhood wounds behind adult relationship patterns(10:29) The patterns sabotaging your love life(14:24) People can feel your dating energy(16:15) Why the first 3 months can fool you(20:02) Why love only grows when you go all in(23:30) Social media is warping our expectations of love(26:34) Every relationship comes with a “Sh*t Bucket”(28:57) Triggers, conflict, and healing inside relationships(33:24) What repair actually looks like in healthy love(37:08) What happens when only one partner wants to grow(43:14) Why love is hard and still worth it About Amy Chan: Amy Chan is the author of Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts — a fun, science-backed dating guide that helps people interrupt the relationship patterns keeping love just out of reach and build healthier, lasting connections. Dubbed the “scientific Carrie Bradshaw” by The Observer, Amy has been a trusted voice in modern relationships for nearly two decades. In 2016, she founded Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world's first heartbreak retreat. She also leads Dating Bootcamp and is on faculty at Esalen and The Omega Institute. Her first book, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, was featured in The New York Times and optioned by a major streaming network. Her work has appeared in The Wall Street Journal, Good Morning America, The Today Show, The New Yorker, The Guardian, and USA Today. Books: Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts (Pre-order) https://amzn.to/48xS01r Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Hearthttps://amzn.to/3wBZxxi Websites: www.renewbreakupbootcamp.com www.renewbootcamps.com www.missamychan.com www.hearthackersclub.com www.UnsingleByAmyChan.com (launching soon) Connect with Amy: Instagram Handle: https://www.instagram.com/missamychan LinkedIn URL: https://www.linkedin.com/in/missamychan/ Tik Tok Handle: https://www.tiktok.com/@missamychan Twitter Handle: www.twitter.com/missamychan YouTube Handle: https://www.youtube.com/missamychan 

Love can feel intoxicating. The chemistry, the obsession, the constant thinking about someone, the emotional highs and lows. But just because love feels intense does not mean it is healthy. In this episode, John Kim explores one of the most important relationship questions you can ask yourself: Is your love acting like a drug, or is it becoming medicine? He breaks down how love can become something you use to regulate your worth, soothe your anxiety, or escape yourself. He also explains how healthy love, while not always comfortable, can become a powerful place for self-awareness, healing, and growth. John unpacks the difference between addictive love and healing love, why intensity is not always intimacy, and how attachment wounds can disguise themselves as chemistry. He also shares what needs to happen for love to shift from something that destabilizes you to something that helps you become more grounded, honest, and self-connected. If you have ever confused passion with pain, chased reassurance, or lost yourself trying to hold onto a relationship, this episode will help you look at love more clearly. A self-check for your relationship Your internal state Do I feel anxious more than I feel grounded in this connection or relationship? Do I need reassurance often to feel okay? Do I feel a high when they lean in and a crash when they pull back? Do I think about them more than I feel connected to myself? Your behaviorDo I change how I show up based on how they are acting?Do I overgive, overtext, or overexplain when I feel distance?Do I ignore things that do not feel right to keep the connection?Do I try to manage how they see me instead of just being myself? Your relationship to discomfortWhen I feel triggered, do I reach for them instead of sitting with myself?Do I avoid conflict to keep things good?Do I stay longer than I should because of potential?Do I confuse intimacy with intensity? Your clarityDo I know where I stand, or am I often guessing?Am I in love with who they are or who I hope they will become?Am I choosing them, or am I trying to be chosen? Your identityDo I feel more like myself in this relationship or less?Am I proud of how I show up here?If this ended today, would I feel broken or grounded in myself? Final questionIn this relationship, am I trying to feel better, or am I trying to become better?

What happens when a city-built life gets interrupted, and something quieter begins to call you in? In this episode, John Kim sits down with Brooks Wilson for a conversation about nature, nervous system regulation, mindfulness, healing, and what it means to move through life with more intention. Brooks shares what it was like growing up in Tamarindo, Costa Rica before major development, how nature shaped her from an early age, and how surfing, yoga, sound healing, and ceremony became part of her path. Together, John and Brooks explore the contrast between fast-paced city living and a slower, more grounded way of being. They talk about presence, eye contact, human connection, gratitude, manifestation, and the healing power of sound, nature, and community. John also opens up about how his move to Costa Rica has been reshaping him after major life upheaval, and why this season feels less like escape and more like medicine. This is a conversation about returning to what matters, learning to listen differently, and finding alignment in unexpected places. Brooks Wilson is a Costa Rica–based yoga teacher, sound healer, and ceremonial guide. You can learn more about her work here: Abouthttps://vibracionesexpansivas.com/about Book a sessionhttps://vibracionesexpansivas.com/sessions Journeys and retreatshttps://vibracionesexpansivas.com/journeys/india

Ever feel like your passion is both your fuel and your enemy? I'm sharing my own messy victories and failures, and how learning to refine your passion is the only way you're going to avoid burnout and build something that lasts. This one's for every entrepreneur who's ready to trade sleepless obsession for focused, bold purpose.Ready To Go Deeper?If today's episode resonated, don't just move on to the next one. The next step isn't more content. It's context, clarity, and formation.That's why I created the Journey Feed.Inside the Journey Feed, you'll find:Mentorship Notes: Honest reflections, Elzisms, and faith-driven insight to help you align your life and leadership.Behind-the-Scenes Perspective: The thinking, lessons, and real-time discernment shaping the Journey to Mastery.Weekly Focus & Reflection Prompts: Simple tools to help you slow down, get clear, and lead with intention.Early Invitations: First access to gatherings, workshops, and live experiences.If you want to grow God's way, this is where the journey continues.

Season 8: Episode 13- MAINTENANCE!Season 8 continues and the mission is simple but serious:VISION. FIXED. FOR '26.Because when vision slips, momentum stalls.When focus fractures, progress slows.And when we stop seeing clearly, we start settling quietly.This season isn't about hype it's about alignment.It's about recalibrating your sight, realigning with God's original intent, and refusing to move another step without clarity.We are locking in on what matters.Letting go of distractions disguised as opportunities.And demolishing every last blur that's been keeping us busy but not becoming.No more fuzzy faith.No more double vision decisions.No more walking with purpose but looking in the wrong direction.

Jay Shetty, a coach, monk, and host of the "On Purpose with Jay Shetty Podcast," has a phrase he uses often.  He says, "A mile wide and an inch deep."  He uses this to describe a lack of depth in modern life, knowledge, or relationships. He points out that while we have access to vast amounts of information (a "mile wide"), we rarely take the time to truly understand or apply it deeply (only "an inch deep"). In this podcast we discuss adding depth to our knowlege.  Rather than accepting our miles worth of surface level knowlege, actually digging and going deeper. I relate this using an experience I had with Mashed Potatoes. Rather than accept what I knew, how I did, and the fact that I was not a great mashed potato maker, I decided to go deep, do some reading, and discover that I could become a really great mashed potato maker. We talk about two tips to help go deeper: Ask: We can't go deeper unless we want to. We have to ask questions to sources and to ourselves. If we don't give our brains a project or problem to solve, it will do it on its own and not always be productive! Apply: To make what we are learning solidified, we have to apply it! And then do it over and over and over again! Listen in to this podcast episode as we discuss adding depth to our knowledge base, and then using that depth to contribute to our world!  

In this episode of Therapy Thursdays, John responds to listener questions about love, trust, identity, and the emotional patterns that keep us stuck. He explores the difference between real love and limerence, why some people struggle to let love in, and how fear can disguise itself as protection, control, or certainty. He also gets into the tension between equality and fairness in relationships, what it means to outgrow an old identity, and how past betrayal, heartbreak, or attachment wounds can shape the way we connect. From red flags and self-worth to trust after infidelity, this episode is a deep dive into the patterns that quietly run our relationships. If you have ever wondered whether what you are feeling is love, fear, fantasy, or unresolved pain, this conversation will help you look deeper.

How do childhood wounds, past relationships, and old emotional patterns shape your definition of love? In this episode, John Kim explores how relationship residue turns into distorted definitions of love. He breaks down how early experiences, family dynamics, unhealthy conflict, self-sacrifice, and internalized pain can create a damaging love blueprint that follows us into adulthood. John unpacks the unhealthy ways many people define love, including love as self-sacrifice, possession, completion, and dependency. He explains how these distorted beliefs can lead to codependency, control, unrealistic expectations, self-abandonment, and unhealthy relationship patterns. He also shares how heartbreak, expired relationships, and self-awareness can become a corrective love experience that helps you redefine love in a healthier way. Instead of losing yourself in romance, healthy love is built through interdependence, communication, compassion, conflict repair, individuality, and emotional growth. If you've ever struggled with attachment wounds, toxic relationship patterns, fear of abandonment, or confusion about what real love looks like, this episode will help you question the definitions you inherited and create a healthier, more grounded version of love.

We'd love to hear from you! Send us a text!Many moms are natural born FIXERS and we want to help ease any burdens our children face. But is that what our children really need from us?  Elizabeth sits down (for part 2 of a 3 part series) with Kim Anderson, certified therapist, coach, author and speaker who boldly shares that most of what we do in hard moments is about OUR discomfort, not our children's!  And that what they need from us is not perfection, but our steady presence. She unpacks how our nervous system is what sets the temperature in the room and how important it is to understand that a dysregulated mom, cannot regulate a dysregulated child. If you have ever wanted to bulldoze the rocky path for your child, then this episode is for you!  You may find Kim at elevatemoms.com Elizabeth Pehrson created The Exchange in 2015. The Exchange is a monthly event     for ALL adult women. Women who work outside the home. And women who work in the home. Women who are single. And women who are married. Women who are moms. Women who are grand-moms. No matter what season of life you are in, The Exchange is here to inspire you to live life ON PURPOSE and WITH INTENTION.The Exchange is a non-profit that provides an environment for women to hear practical advice from topics Elizabeth has read and life lessons she has learned, and is currently learning. Equipping us to become better women tomorrow than we are today. And to ultimately use that to pour back into those around us. Tickets and info: theexchangeus.orgfollow us on instagram: theexchangeusfollow us on Facebook: the exchange cumming

In this episode, John sits down for a layered conversation on erotica, desire, safety, and what it really means to feel alive in your life and relationships. They explore the idea that erotica is not just about sex, but about presence, sensuality, connection, and being fully turned on by your own life instead of moving through it on autopilot. The conversation also unpacks why sex and closeness can feel so different for different people, how safety shapes intimacy, and why desire often changes in long-term relationships. John, Madeleine and Vanessa also talk about self-abandonment, the pressure we put on romantic relationships, the tension between love and freedom, and the importance of living not just from the mind, but from the body and soul too. This episode is about intimacy, embodiment, emotional truth, and learning how to stay connected to yourself while building deeper connection with someone else.

Ever feel like your business, family, and talents are yours to control? I'm opening up about why real stewardship starts when you realize it's all borrowed from God. Let's talk about handling both the mountaintop and the valley with humility and integrity, because how you manage the little things shapes everything.Ready To Go Deeper?If today's episode resonated, don't just move on to the next one. The next step isn't more content. It's context, clarity, and formation.That's why I created the Journey Feed.Inside the Journey Feed, you'll find:Mentorship Notes: Honest reflections, Elzisms, and faith-driven insight to help you align your life and leadership.Behind-the-Scenes Perspective: The thinking, lessons, and real-time discernment shaping the Journey to Mastery.Weekly Focus & Reflection Prompts: Simple tools to help you slow down, get clear, and lead with intention.Early Invitations: First access to gatherings, workshops, and live experiences.If you want to grow God's way, this is where the journey continues.

In this episode, John talks with Robin Ducharme about her new book, Real Love Ready, and the deeper work of learning how to love well. They explore grief, forgiveness, childhood patterns, codependency, and the myths about love that keep people stuck. Robin shares how losing her twin brother changed her life and why relational literacy may be one of the most important skills we can develop. If you want healthier relationships with yourself and others, this conversation is for you. Guest Links: Book: https://geni.us/RealLoveReadyBook In Bloom Summit April 10-12, 2026, in Vancouver, BC and Online: www.inbloomsummit.com Real Love Ready Website: www.realloveready.com Real Love Ready Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realloveready/

Here we are, the week of Jesus' crucifixion. The week he very well knew was his last here on this earth. A week he knew would include more suffering than our human minds can comprehend. And guess what – he walked right into this week, facing it head on with intention, knowing what he was doing he was doing for me and you. Over and over again, Jesus shows us how to live in a way that makes it about others more than it is about ourselves. How can we take this example of Jesus in the final week of his life and live more like him? Let's see how Jesus did it! All 4 gospel accounts of this final week begin in the same way, “Jesus' triumphant entry into Jerusalem”. Now if you were making a triumphant entry, what would that look like? Oh girl, what would you wear? You have to be triumphant in your appearance. Make a grand entrance. Que the walk-up music, this has to be dynamic! Smoke and lights! Energy! All the hoopla for a triumphant entry – right? We really have a special way of making things about us, don't we? We try so hard to be impressive. We have a hard time choosing what to wear for the flight home from vacation, let alone a triumphant entry for the most important and final week of your life. We overthink … you know why – because we're thinking about ourselves. Really we are – even when we think of others, we're typically thinking of how they receive us, how they treat us, and how they make us feel. It's all about us. But Jesus shows us how to make a triumphant entry that's all about HIM, without making it all about him. Now, let's be clear. This really is all about Jesus. Everything in our Bible is ultimately about Jesus. It's about how Jesus saved us from what we couldn't save ourselves from. It's about how Jesus changed absolutely everything for us. So, how do you show up and make an entrance when in fact, it really is about you? Answer: With humility! It was time for Jesus to willfully walk toward Jerusalem, knowing this was the place he would sacrifice his life. Knowing this was the place he would be betrayed. Knowing this was the place he would suffer. Knowing this was the place absolutely nothing would be fair for him, and he would endure it to make it right for us. And do you know how he makes his triumphant entry? Does he show up with chariots? No. Does he call out the band to play his walk-up song? No. Does he even ride in on a horse? No. Jesus chooses the most humble entry – riding on a donkey. A donkey was not a sign of power. A donkey was a sign of humble work. Jesus was making his entry to Jerusalem for his humble work of saving both me and you! Matthew 21: 1-6, “As Jesus and the disciples approached Jerusalem, they came to the town of Bethphage on the Mount of Olives. Jesus sent two of them on ahead. ‘Go into the village over there,' he said. ‘As soon as you enter it, you will see a donkey tied there, with its colt beside it. Untie them and bring them to me. If anyone asks what you are doing, just say, The Lord needs them, and he will immediately let you take them.' This took place to fulfill the prophesy that said, ‘Tell the people of Jerusalem, Look your King is coming to you. He is HUMBLE, riding on a donkey – riding on a donkey's colt.' The two disciples did as Jesus commanded. They brought the donkey and the colt to him and threw their garments over the colt, and he sat on it.” So now we see Jesus didn't only choose the humble means of a donkey, but he chose even lower – the donkey's colt. The colt wasn't as strong, wasn't as experienced, and not as useful. It's the equivalent today of traveling on an airplane, not choosing first class, not choosing business class, not even choosing the isle or the window – but choosing row 41, middle seat – ON PURPOSE. Who does that? Nobody does that. Especially not when you have not only the power to fly the plane, but the RIGHT to fly the plane. Jesus had the power to show up any way he wanted to. He had the right to make an entrance in any manner. He could have made it all about him, and absolutely no one would have blamed him. I mean really, do you blame the person riding in first class for getting extra leg room when they can afford it and paid for it? No, you just envy them a little bit as you walk on by and get yourself to the back of the plane. Jesus knew his assignment, and he walked in it perfectly. He rode in, entering his final week of life on a donkey's colt, with the ultimate humility. And here's the wild thing – God had always planned it that way. Many years earlier, God had spoken to Zechariah and told him the King would come to save the world, and he would come with absolute humility on a donkey's colt. This is now being quoted in Matthew. And remember, when God spoke those words to Zechariah through the Holy Spirit in the Old Testament, Jesus was there, because Jesus is God in human form. The trinity. With all the power in the world, LITERALLY, God planned his own entry into the world … with humility. And he planned the joy of saving his children while holding the grief of sacrificing his son. Jesus was born in humility to a virgin girl in a stable – and now Jesus would enter into his final week knowingly with that same power contained in humility. He didn't make it about him. But let's be clear – IT WAS ABOUT HIM. It's all about Jesus. But do you know what Jesus made it about – HE MADE IT ABOUT YOU. Imagine going to a concert and your absolute favorite artist walks out on stage holding a sign with your name on it. And imagine every song they sing, they sing looking directly at you in the audience. THAT'S WHAT OUR JESUS DID, and he did it for you. At the end of this week, Jesus is betrayed and arrested, which he knew was coming since the very beginning. He didn't fight it. He didn't run from it. He endured it all with humility and a focus on us, not on himself. There, surrounded by a crowd of men with swords and clubs, being arrested and ultimately led to his death, Jesus says in Matthew 26: 53-54, “Don't you realize that I could ask my Father for thousands of angels to protect us, and he would send them instantly. But if I did, how would the Scriptures be fulfilled that describe what must happen now?” Jesus knew his mission, and although he knew he held the power to do absolutely anything he wanted, he chose to humbly surrender to the Father's will – even when it was hard. Jesus shows us how to live in the hardest seasons of our lives and walk with purpose. We restrain ourselves from doing the things we could do, and focus on doing what God wants us to do. Jesus doesn't just tell us to surrender and submit to God – he shows us how to do it. Jesus is here in his final week, holding the grief of being betrayed in one hand, and the joy of walking in his purpose in his other. The grief of suffering in one hand, and the joy of knowing his suffering was temporary but forever good in his other hand. Jesus is showing us how to hold grief and joy at the same time. When you hurt, it's okay to hurt – but there can still be joy knowing this hurt isn't all there is. When there's joy, you can feel the joy knowing everything doesn't have to be perfect and fixed to experience moments of beauty. On our final night together here in the retreat house in Hawaii, we sat together and we each shared two things – what is the sweetest thing in this season of your life, and what is the hardest. We all had something hard we're currently in, and we all had something so sweet too. We're holding both, at the same time. One who has lost her husband. Three who are going through divorces. Many who have hard to love children. Some who battle health issues. And yet, each who have immense awareness of their blessings straight from heaven. There's a song called “Evidence” by Josh Baldwin that says: In every season from where I'm standing I see the evidence of your goodness All over my life All over my life I see your promises and fulfillments All over my life All over my life Help me remember when I'm weak The fear may come The fear will leave You lead my heart to victory You are my strength And you always will be I see the evidence of your goodness All over my life With humility, Jesus shows us how to take the focus off self, while holding grief and joy at the same time. He reminds us of the evidence of God's goodness all over our life, even in the midst of a hard season. Wherever you are standing, may you humbly see the evidence of God's goodness all over your life. In every season, may you always remember it's never all bad. Jesus faced this final week of his life, holding the grief and weight of all the sin in the world, yet he held joy knowing it was about YOU! Saving you. Redeeming you. Making a way for you. May you humbly hold your joy and your grief, and walk your path knowing there's a greater purpose. Follow Pamela on Instagram – https://instagram.com/headmamapamela Or Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/pamela.crim Find out more about BIG Life – http://biglifehq.com

John explores how many of us are loving from a definition we never consciously chose. From family dynamics to heartbreak and old emotional imprints, he breaks down how our love blueprint gets formed and why it keeps pulling us into familiar patterns. He also shares three practical homework exercises to help you uncover your current definition of love, identify your relationship patterns, and separate real chemistry from emotional familiarity. If you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different face, this episode is for you.

In this episode of Therapy Thursdays, John answers listener questions about love, fear, disconnection, self-worth, and the hard decisions people face when relationships no longer feel clear. He explores whether situationships can actually work, what happens when intimacy disappears in a long-term marriage, and how to tell if you are staying because of love or simply because fear is keeping you stuck. He also unpacks attraction in romantic relationships, what it means to like yourself, how to regulate your nervous system, and how to know whether you are making the right decision in life when everything feels uncertain. This episode is for anyone questioning their relationship, struggling to reconnect, or trying to trust themselves enough to choose what is true.

In this episode, John reflects on what it means to feel complete and asks a powerful question: what in your life feels unfinished? He explores how so many of us chase worth, peace, and wholeness through achievement, validation, or external circumstances, while the real work may be learning how to feel whole from within. This is a conversation about unfinished parts of ourselves, living with more intention, and finding completeness even when life is uncertain or unresolved. If you have been feeling restless, behind, or like something is missing, this episode will give you space to reflect on what truly brings you back to yourself.

In this episode, John explores the link between masculinity, exercise, and self-worth, and how many men learn to chase confidence through strength, discipline, and physical ability. An unexpected car incident during the golf cart ride sparks a conversation about masculine fear, community, and the importance of men checking and supporting each other in healthy ways. He reflects on heartbreak, competition, and the gym as a path to identity, while also asking the deeper question of whether a man's worth can ever really come from muscle alone. If you have ever felt insecure, questioned your worth, or wondered why you want to build your body in the first place, this episode is for you. Timestamps: (00:00) Masculine Fear and Insomnia (03:56) Andy Thompson Fitness Origins (18:03) Navy SEAL Dream and Party Fight (19:48) Bladder Rupture Emergency (22:25) CrossFit Origins and Friendship (29:46) Helping Others and Next Chapter Guest Links: Find Andy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/andy86thomps Contact Andy via email at andythompsontraining@gmail.com Website: https://www.andythompsontraining.com/

John breaks down why “2x love” keeps people stuck in the same patterns, while “10x love” asks for a total redesign. He talks about self-respect, raising your standards, releasing old blueprints, and building a relationship that feels aligned instead of familiar. If you've been trying to fix love without really changing it, this episode is for you. Timestamps: (00:00) Two X Fixes (00:25) Podcast Intro Abroad (01:11) The 10X Idea (02:59) Two X Love Traps (04:24) Designing 10X Love (05:41) Why 10X Feels Easier (06:24) The Fear of Letting Go (08:05) Rethinking The Blueprint (11:09) Build A New Container (13:53) Truth Talks And Wrap Up Book mentioned: 10x Is Easier than 2x: How World-Class Entrepreneurs Achieve More by Doing Less https://tinyurl.com/yrb6bn6j

In this episode, John sits down with Kiran K Aulakh, acupuncturist and craniosacral practitioner, for a conversation about healing, sensitivity, and what it means to reconnect with the body. Kiran shares how jaw pain, anxiety, and restricted self-expression first led her inward, and how that journey eventually became a calling toward acupuncture and the healing arts. Together, she and John explore what acupuncture actually does, how Eastern and Western frameworks can both help explain it, and why the body often knows long before the mind catches up. This conversation moves beyond needles and technique into something deeper: intuition, receptivity, nervous system regulation, and the practice of letting the body guide your life. If you have ever felt disconnected from yourself, unsure how to trust your body, or curious about acupuncture as more than just pain relief, this episode is for you. Timestamps: (00:00) The body as vessel, vehicle, and altar (02:12) John's history with acupuncture (04:08) How Kiran found healing work (07:48) What acupuncture actually does (10:09) Why touch, intuition, and listening matter (15:18) Sensitivity as a gift (20:30) Safety, receptivity, and the nervous system (24:20) Why we disconnect from the body (31:31) Letting the body guide your life (36:37) Kiran's advice for anyone new to acupuncture Connect with Kiran:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/venusrituals_costarica