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This week Dr. Burton and I discuss the tendency for women to feel like sex become a chore. We emphasize the importance of emotional connection in a relationship as well talking about orgasm and the dialog around sex. References: Jimmy on Relationships Video: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/E1eBLR5a0j4 Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by  Emily Nagoski Ph.D.Music by AudioLounge  - Like us on Facebook: www.facebook.com/audioloungemusic - Soundcloud: @audiolounge1 - Youtube: www.youtube.com/user/AudioInstrumentals - Twitter: @audio_lounge - Google+ goo.gl/toKclZ     Our email: mentalhealthpod21@gmail.com

On this episode, Allison Yates and Fernanda Wetzel come on to talk about their organization, Read and Run Chicago, a book and run club that features specific books with coordinated runs in Chicago. They describe how accessible their organization is, open to anyone who might be interested in participating, and we get to talk about some incredible books that feature information and stories that open and affirm experiences that have been historically ignored.    Read and Run Chicago Fall Event Calendar  Allison's Small Pack Camping Chair  Italic Type book tracking    Books mentioned in this episode:    What Betsy's reading:  Vampires of El Norte by Isabel Cañas  Koresh by Stephan Talty  The Stranger Upstairs by Lisa M. Matlin   Books Highlighted by Allison and Fernanda:  The Alice Network by Kate Quinn The Change by Kirsten Miller The Midnight Library by Matt Haig  A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara  The Idea of You by Robinne Lee Our Missing Hearts by Celeste Ng  Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge, and the Teaching of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer  Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language by Amanda Montell Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez Girl, Woman, Other by Bernardine Evaristo  Last Night at the Telegraph Club by Malinda Lo The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai  Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi Letters from Cuba by Ruth Behar  The Push by Ashley Audrain   Other Books Mentioned in the Episode: All books available on my Bookshop.org episode page.   Temper by Layne Fargo  The Women by Kristin Hannah  Lady Tan's Circle of Women by Lisa See  Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski The Hundred Year House by Rebecca Makkai  Fieldwork: A Forager's Memoir by Iliana Regan  All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr Yellowface by R.F. Kuang  Erasure by Percival Everett  I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter by Erika L. Sánchez 

After a tough experience with a traumatic childbirth, I started shaking uncontrollably. I didn't understand it at the time, but there's this one book that helped me go through this.In this episode of the Mom on Purpose book club, we're going to dive deep into the book "Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle" by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. We'll talk about what burnout really is and how "Human Giver Syndrome" is slowly killing us. Today, we'll understand the body's natural process of completing the stress cycle to actively manage stress.My hope is you realize that your joy matters, you matter. You can really heal your burnout with all of the steps that the book provides. I invite you to take them.What you'll learn:The role of "human giver syndrome" in perpetuating selflessnessThe role of societal expectations and the patriarchy in contributing to burnoutTechniques to complete the stress cycleInsights about burnout based on the book "Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle" by Emily Nagoski PhDMethods to identify when stress is not fully released and signs that stress needs attentionFeatured on the Show: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle – by Emily Nagoski PhDCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.Click HERE to watch this video to learn The 3 Things to Avoid When Reading Self-Help BooksHow to Connect with Lara: Web: www.larajohnsoncoaching.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/j.lara.johnson/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/larajohnsoncoaching Work with Lara: www.larajohnsoncoaching.com/work-with-me/

Navigating Conflict and Embracing VulnerabilityIn this special Mens Health Month episode, I'm joined by John Flanagan, an Accredited Mental Health Social Worker and certified Gottman therapist. Today, we're focusing on important aspects of men's mental health.We break down myths about men and emotional expression, explore the importance of creating supportive environments, and share practical advice on how to talk about feelings. We also explore how conflict can strengthen relationships and why validation is key to effective communication.Key PointsDebunking Myths about Men's EmotionsJohn challenges the idea that men struggle to talk about their feelings: "I think men are very capable of engaging in conversations about what's going on in their world and inside them. It's not about a genetic flaw; it's about creating environments that encourage such conversations."Creating Supportive EnvironmentsWe discuss how to foster spaces that encourage men to share their emotions and feel safe doing so.The Role of ValidationUnderstanding how to validate someone's feelings without agreeing with them: "You can validate and be connected or be right and be alone. Validation is about acknowledging the person's experience."Conflict as a ToolDiscover how conflict can help you understand your partner better and strengthen your relationship.Practical AdviceGet actionable tips on fostering better communication and emotional expression, including the use of open-ended questions and creating safe spaces for emotional conversations.Repairing RelationshipsLearn why making repairs after conflicts is crucial and how to do it effectively.Community SupportExplore ways to find support in your community, even outside of therapy.Featured Quotes"I think men are very capable of engaging in conversations about what's going on in their world and inside them. It's not about a genetic flaw; it's about creating environments that encourage such conversations."John Flanagan"You can validate and be connected or be right and be alone. Validation is about acknowledging the person's experience."About your guest John has an extensive history working with and supporting individuals and couples since completing his Bachelor of Social Work in 1988 and later a Masters in Gestalt Therapy and certification in Gottman Couples Therapy.John is one of the first two Certified Gottman Couple Therapists in Australia - and only two Australians to hold the title of Certified Gottman Couple Therapist, Advanced Clinical Trainer and Consultant. Not only does John provide the accredited training for all of the Gottman Levels in Australia, he also facilitates many other trainings to professionals, key note speaking to groups as well as being a co author of '365 Simple Ideas to Improve your Relationship'John regularly has clients seek his services from all around the world.ResourcesGottman card deck app - on smartphoneBooks 7 principles to make marriage work by John Gottman8 Dates bookJohn Gottman, PhD and Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD. Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MDCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life Emily NagoskiFight Right How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman and Dr. John Gottman...

My conversation with Christie Watrous expands my limited viewpoint…again. We unpack what it means to connect with our bodies and each other, defining intimacy and pleasure in REAL terms. Spoiler alert: intimacy and pleasure are not always sexual and wow sometimes they are - AND it can look different than what the culture dishes up. As the founder of Embodied Life Transitions, Christie brings her personal experience of transformation and empowerment to our discussion, offering insights into reclaiming our bodies and desires. We talk candidly about our need to deconstruct shame narratives and embrace the pursuit of pleasure, which extends beyond the confines of the bedroom and into the joy of our simple daily rituals, from sipping a warm beverage to soaking in the melody of our favorite tune.Christie and I confront our individual and collective truths - from unhealthy self-concepts to narratives that frame the end of a marriage as failure. Join the conversation. Resources referenced:Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by  Emily Nagoski Ph.D.--------- EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS ---------(0:00:01) - Exploring the Erotic and Love(0:10:10) - Prioritizing Pleasure and Desire(0:24:10) - Unpacking Shame and Embracing Truth(0:30:55) - Deconstructing Shame and Celebrating Growth(0:41:59) - Human Need for Connection and Intimacy(0:48:02) - Exploring Sexuality and Intimacy Beyond Stereotypes(1:00:28) - Navigating Consent and Boundaries in RelationshipsOur Guest: Christie WatrousChristie (she/her) is currently a Sex & Relationship Coach practicing in Folsom, CA. She is clinically trained with a Master's in Social Work and has spent most of her career working in a wide variety of grassroots and non-profit settings ranging from runaway and homeless youth to adults with traumatic brain injuries.  She graduated from the Advanced Sex & Relationship Coaching Program with the Somatica Institute. And most recently, Christie completed a sex educator mentorship program with the Back to the Body team and received her certification as a facilitator of The Lotus Lift Meditation ©, created by Pamela Madsen & featured in Oprah Magazine.Christie's practice focuses on helping those whom identify as women to stay connected to their bodies in the midst of life transitions. She helps women discover their own unique erotic energy, prioritize pleasure, explore desire and integrate this awareness into daily life. Her work is inspired by her own mid-life embodied journey back to her erotic self and fuels her passion for women's sexual wellness. As the founder of Embodied Life Transitions providing 1:1 Coaching for women, Christie also facilitates a collaborative community based Book Club called “Between the Covers”. She hosts a monthly, sex-positive Sisterhood Happy Hour with a focus on sexual wellness for women and teaches her own in-person experiential workshops in Historic Folsom as part of the Back to the Body Collective. She is an advocate for women's sexual wellness & is passionate about creating spaces for sisterhood, intimacy, and connection in her community.website: https://www.embodiedlifetransitions.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christie-watrous-b3b350172/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedlifetransitions/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/embodiedlifetransitions/ About Jen Oliver:I pursue and create environments where we converse on the REAL stuff that changes us. I'm designed to bring others on my personal journey with honest admissions to help us all transform - that's my sweetspot and I speak, lead, and write from that space.REAL conversations stir deeper connection and community - to explore ways that you can work with me, go to:email: jen@REALjenoliver.compodcast website: ListenForREAL.comwebsite: REALJenOliver.comLinkedIn:@realjenoliverInstagram: @realjenoliverFacebook: @realjenoliverIf you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter. Subscribe to all things Jen at REALJenOliver.

“The deal is your bodies are going to change over time and people can stay attracted to somebody's body over time, even though it is unrecognizable from what it was like when they first met because that body is the home of a human they adore our attraction to a person's body can be just like superficial something like your toenails are gross, or it can be here is the human whose life I have shared in our home for all these years and like their belly and their bum and their varicose veins and their scar from the surgery that saved their life all of it is so fucking hot because this is my person.” So says Emily Nagoski, one of the most exceptional minds at work today on the science—and she would add, art—of sexual connection, intimacy, and arousal. Emily is brilliant and she's also deeply human, using her own experiences in the world as the foundational ground for exploring relationship: This means that she's not full of heady theory and diagnoses, but focused on what actually works to fuel desire—and bring it to fruition. She's the author of the mega bestselling Come as You Are, as well as a book called Burnout about the stress cycle that she co-authored with her twin sister, and now she brings us Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections, which is the natural evolution. While Come as You Are is a primer on how we all function as sexual creatures, Come Together explores what happens when you bring that into relationship—and try to establish and maintain a connection that can endure through seasons of, well, low interest.  She is full of ideas, principles, and methods for getting it going—including a core blueprint for determining what rooms are adjacent to your desire. I loved this book, I love Emily, and I loved our conversation. MORE FROM THE EMILY NAGOSKI: Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life Watch Emily's TED Talk Emily's Website Follow Emily on Instagram To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today's episode, we return gently to sacred ground: the ground of our sexuality.  Last January, we explored what it means to own our sexual sovereignty through reclaiming our right and ability to say no. Today, we begin uncovering our inherent yes, which was likely shamed early in our lives. Sheryl encourages us to gently orient ourselves back towards our innate curiosity, belief in our own goodness, and appreciation for our bodies and beauty. We embrace the power of sharing stories of early sexual exploration, as participants of Sheryl's Sacred Sexuality course do throughout the program. And we reflect on the importance of making room for fear, seeking out helpful educational materials, and finding our own unique relationship to sexuality, not trying to fit into an externally-prescribed template. Learn more about Sheryl's Sacred Sexuality course, which starts January 13th, on her website.  References: Last year's Gathering Gold "Sexual Sovereignty" episode Sheryl's Sacred Sexuality course Sheryl's blog post, “We Have Forgotten Who We are” https://conscious-transitions.com/we-have-forgotten-who-we-are/ The Chalice and the Blade, by Riane Eisler Barbie film (2023) Beautiful Dreamers film (1990) Walt Whitman Gathering Gold "Fairy Tales by the Fireside" episode Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, by Vanessa Marin Emily Dickinson poem, “Tell All the Truth But Tell It Slant”

Summary:   Today's episode is fun and spicy! Diane chats with Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator, Whitni Miller, to talk all about how to have fun in the bedroom. Whitni shares why it's so important to demystify sex talk and communicate what you want with your partner, and she breaks down step-by-step how to do so. This conversation is all about pleasure, women's bodies, sex, how to communicate, body shame and so much more!   Key Takeaways:   01:41 - Meet Whitni and how she got her start as a pleasure coach 08:03 - Finding pleasure in sex without the orgasm 09:54 - Tips if you struggle to orgasm 12:12 - How to initiate sex without fearing rejection 15:52 - What to do when you and your partners have different sexual needs 19:38 - How to break the ice and communicate what you want 22:11 - Games and resources to help spark your sexual curiosity 24:15 - Dirty talk & expressing yourself during sex 28:02 - Porn: should you do it alone or together? At all? 29:48 - Do this if you don't know what you want 33:08 - A major concern most people have 35:50 - Whitni's top favorite thing about her work 37:31 - Common misconceptions & myths surrounding women's pleasure 40:33 - This is the biggest sexual organ 42:46 - Positive trends or developments in sexual wellness 46:13 - Tools & tips to overcome body insecurities/shaming  49:35 - What more women NEED to know 50:45 - How to live a pleasure-filled life 53:02 - What more men need to know about women   Resources Mentioned:   Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies The Body is Not an Apology, The Power of Radical Self-Love Listen to Episode 130: Afterdark - From Prude to Kinky. Have You Tried These Things? Gottman Card Decks App: https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/  Tonight's Conversations Cards: https://www.amazon.com/Tonights-Conversation-Cards-First-Dates/dp/B09ZFG98KG  Take the quiz with your partner to find out what kinky results you match on: https://mojoupgrade.com/  Check out the wide array of vulvas here: https://www.thevulvagallery.com/      Connect with Whitni:   Join her Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/bdemoves  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bde.moves/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bdemoves  Website: https://bde-moves.com/    Connect with Diane:   GET ON MY E-MAIL NEWSLETTER HERE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dianeflores_ifbb_pro/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dianeflores_ifbb_pro   Ask me anything! E-mail: diane@venusfitnessstudio.com    Work with Diane:   The Goddess Body Project 12 week program Apply to be on our Competition Team HERE Check out the New Client Offer at Venus  Ditch Deprivation 12 week Diet Coaching Program Join the Sensual Dance Movement and feel confident in your skin Get your FREE backstage packing list for competition here   Fuel Your Body with the Goods:   Cured Nutrition Code: BossBitch saves 20% off first order Fave Boss Bitch Protein Bars - Built Bars *Use Promo Code: “Diane” at check out Try Meal Prep Delivery with FitKitchen Code: Diane10  Try this Energy Shot from Magic Mind - Code: BBRadio for 20% off first order Visit Titan Nutrition for the exclusive offer for BossBitch listeners *Promo code BossBitch at check out Visit HiYo for 20% off non-alcoholic beverages HERE  Nutrishop Supplement Shop - Code: BossBitch (free shipping)   Dress Up & Show Up Like a Boss Bitch:   Get $10 off Bombshell Sports Wear HERE For 15% off at Pseudo Force Studio Apparel, use Code: BossBitch Salty Savage Fitness Apparel Code: AmandaGlitters For 15% off your purchase at Toxic Angels Bikinis use Code: Diane 

Hey y'all!In this episode Randie interviews her sex and intimacy doula, Yanitza. Together they droid out over their pleasure muse THE Janelle Monáe, discuss the shame surrounding sex, pleasure, and intimacy and what this work has taught Yanitza about herself and about people. Later they talk about how grief affects our capacity to receive, and what working with a sex and intimacy doula looks like.It's a fun episode and Randie's first in-person interview with a listener, turned Patron, turned friend, turned doula ever in the history of BMM. And it's only up from here.So tune in and come as you are.Items Mentioned:Listen to Ad-Free Episodeshttp://bit.ly/JOINBMMBMM Indie 151: Honey & Self-Sabotage : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bmm-indie-151-honey-self-sabotage-bonus-ep/id1363790050?i=1000615916050 Connect with YanitzaIG: https://www.instagram.com/yanitzamarcel/IG: https://www.instagram.com/thecyanmango/Contact: https://calendly.com/cyanm/one-on-one?month=2023-07 Book: Come as You Are The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski Ph.D : https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090 Check out singer, songwriter, and actress Ebony Jenaehttps://www.instagram.com/ebonyjenae_/Follow us on Social MediaFB: http://bit.ly/BMMonFBIG: http://bit.ly/BMMonIGTwitter: http://bit.ly/BMMonTwitterContactEmail: blackmilmar@gmail.comLeave a voicemail: 770-750-4098Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-millennial-marriage/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Kali is a Master's Candidate at Antioch University Seattle pursuing her MA in Couples and Family Therapy. She currently works as a clinical intern at Modern Therapy Seattle. We talk about couples therapy, communicating your needs, intimacy, love languages, and EMDR therapy.Book mentioned: Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life Paperback – March 3, 2015 by Emily Nagoski Ph.D. https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090Kali's Psychology Today linkKalis InstagramWear Your Sunscreen @HabitSkinWear your sunscreen even when it's cold and gloomy. Habit N°41 is the way to go. CODE CLAIRECALFO Holistic Supplements with Primal HarvestIf you're passionate about your health, check out primal greensDie Young As Late as Possible with Bubs Use CLAIRECALFO at checkout for 20% off.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the Show.https://www.instagram.com/momforgottotellyou/ on Instagramhttps://linktr.ee/momforgottotellyou

This week, Dr. Burton and I talk about post partum depression and ways to cope with it. We also talk about the importance of keeping your relationship with you partner strong and how you can do that. References:  And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives; by John GottmanBernie Zilbergeld 1939–2002  - Sex therapistCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life; by Emily Nagoski Music by AudioLounge  - Facebook: www.facebook.com/audioloungemusic - Soundcloud: @audiolounge1 - Youtube: www.youtube.com/user/AudioInstrumentals - Twitter: @audio_lounge - Google+ goo.gl/toKclZ Our email: mentalhealthpod21@gmail.com

In our 173rd episode of Beyond the Bump, we chat with Ruth. Ruth is a physio from Exhale Physiotherapy and she chats to us all about postpartum pelvic floor - what's normal, what to look out for, what are issues and what can be done about them! We hope you enjoy!!! Is it called the pelvic floor because it feels like our insides are on the floor postpartum? What is the pelvic floor? What if your pelvic floor is tight before giving birth, is that going to make you tear faster during birth?  Does anyone go from a ‘normal' pelvic floor to a ‘too tight' one postpartum? We all know that our pelvic floor feels very foreign postpartum, but how do we know what it's meant to feel like after giving birth versus being concerned because what we're experiencing is outside what should be expected postpartum? What are some things in birth that can put us at greater risk of having pelvic floor trauma? The word episiotomy is thrown around a lot — why are they done and how do we recover from them? Is our pelvic floor completely intact post c-section? Should we all see a  pelvic floor physio postpartum? And approx. how much would it cost? Should everyone be doing their kegel exercises? And how do we know we're doing them correctly? Prolapse — what is it and what are we looking for? There's conflicting information regarding menstrual cups and what the suction can do to our cervix? Should we be avoiding them postpartum? If we have a mild prolapse but it's not severe enough to have surgery, are there any tools we can use to make us feel more comfortable day to day? Why is surgery controversial when it comes to prolapse? Bladder leakage — what are realistic expectations?  Stress incontinence — what can we do?   Top tips for getting back into exercise postpartum Tips for enjoying sex again postpartum Abdominal separation — is this something we should be worried about? And so MUCH MORE!   Resources mentioned: Bowl shaped menstrual cups:  Nixit @letsnixit Hello Period @helloperiodco www.exhalephysio.com.au @exhale_physiotherapy  Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Ph.D   Beyond the Bump is a podcast brought to you by Jayde Couldwell and Sophie Pearce! A podcast targeted at mums, just like you! A place to have real conversations with honest and authentic people.   Follow us on Instagram at @beyondthebump.podcast to stay up to date with behind the scenes and future episodes.    This episode of Beyond the Bump is brought to you by Bae the Label: From versatile jumpsuits to active wear, Bae is your one stop shop to making yourself look and feel as good as can be. Head to baethelabel.com and use code BTB15 for 15% off all full price items!  You can also head to their Instagram @baethelabel!

This week Dr. Burton and I talk about Barry McCarthy's 4 sexual types. We break down each types, talking about the pros and cons of each and we also talk about why sexuality is so important in a long term relationship. References: Constructing the Sexual Crucible: An Integration of Sexual and Marital Therapy, by David Morris Schnarch Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic & the Domestic, by Esther Perel  Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski Ph.D. Laura Berman, PhD & Dr. Jennifer Berman MDMusic by AudioLounge  - Facebook: www.facebook.com/audioloungemusic - Soundcloud: @audiolounge1 - Youtube: www.youtube.com/user/AudioInstrumentals - Twitter: @audio_lounge - Google+ goo.gl/toKclZ Our email: mentalhealthpod21@gmail.com

TW: sexual assault   Sexuality doula Ev'Yan Whitney joins Gabrielle to discuss pleasure and sensuality in this f%cking sex obsessed yet sex negative world. Ev'Yan explains asexuality and what pleasure means to them, apart from just sex. The two discuss the pressure to have an orgasm every f%cking time you have sex, and Ev'Yan explains what afterplay is; something just as important as foreplay! They touch on some causes of sexual shame in our society, and accessing pleasure outside of the sexual realm. Lastly, Ev'Yan offers advice for those out there who are ready to get in touch with their sensuality!   Books mentioned in this episode:     Unfuck Your Intimacy: Using Science for Better Relationships, Sex, and Dating by Dr. Faith G. Harper   Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.   Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen    The Politics of Trauma: Somatics, Healing, and Social Justice by Staci Haines   Be sure to visit evyanwhitney.com to learn more. Plus, check out their podcast Sensual Self, wherever you listen to podcasts, and their book by the same name. You can also find Ev'Yan on Instagram @evyan.whitney.  Huge thank you to these incredible sponsors for supporting our show:  SuperGut — Go to Supergut.com and use code FML to save 20% off your order  HelloFresh — Go to HelloFresh.com/fmltalk65 and use code fmltalk65 for 65% off plus free shipping  Farmer's Dog — Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food at TheFarmersDog.com/fmltalk. Plus, you get FREE shipping  Follow your host!   TikTok: @gabrielle_stone  Instagram: @gabriellestone & @fmltalkpodcast  YouTube: FML TALK  Website: www.eatprayfml.com   Plus, if you want to submit an FML story, email it to info@eatprayfml.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Perimenopause brings with it various interpersonal conflicts that affect marriages and relationships... but this should not stop you from having healthy, thriving relationships! In this episode, we speak with Lisa McFarland, the UK & Ireland's leading relationship coach. As the founder of Relationship Coaching NI, she happily shares her marriage counseling journey, the common grounds to improve relationships, love languages, and attachment and argument styles, which are helpful to delve deeper into improving your relationships! Join the conversation to learn more on how to build, sustain, and save your relationships in perimenopause from Lisa McFarland! Highlights Lisa's marriage and counseling journey Lisa's life coaching journey Relationship shifts after perimenopause Discovering your love languages Understanding polarity in relationships Reasons why couples go to therapy Three Cs: Confidence, Communication, and Conflict Attachment & argument styles Resources Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski (2015) - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are Love Your Lady Landscape: Trust Your Gut, Care for ‘Down There' and Reclaim Your Fierce and Feminine SHE Power by Lisa Lister (2016) - https://www.amazon.com/Love-Your-Lady-Landscape-Feminine/dp/1781807361 The Principles of Pleasure (2022) available on Netflix UK & Ireland The Love Languages Test powered by 5 Love Languages - https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language ‘Discover Your Attachment Style' Test by The Attachment Project - https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/ About Our Guest A wife and a mother to three children, Lisa McFarland is UK & Ireland's leading relationship coach. The former professional in Human Resources has not looked back ever since she founded Relationship Coaching NI, committing herself to help couples build, sustain, and save interpersonal relationships. Lisa published an e-book titled “Tips and Tools on How to Save a Healthy Relationship” in 2022 and is conducting 1-1 and couples coaching sessions. You may also check her previous webinars on her site. Website | www.relationshipcoachni.com Facebook | www.facebook.com/relationship.coaching.ni Connect with us! Website | keyforher.com Facebook | www.facebook.com/keyforher Instagram | @keyforher Twitter | @keyforher Tiktok | @keyforher LinkedIn | FemTech Healthcare Pinterest | www.pinterest.com/keyforher

หนังสือ Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life ของ Emily Nagoski - เมื่อเราจะลงมือปฏิบัติเราจึงจำเป็นจะต้องเรียนรู้เรื่องเกี่ยวกับทฤษฎีไว้บ้าง หนังสือเล่มนี้ทำหน้าที่นั้น - ทุก ๆ เคสของการเป็นทั้งอาจารย์สอนและเป็นคนที่คอยให้คำปรึกษา เราก็ต้องเรียนรู้ความเป็นจริงว่าแต่ละคนนั้นมีจุดเสียวต่างกัน - ความพึงพอใจเรื่องทางเพศ หรือการมีเซ็กส์นั้นเป็นเรื่องปกติของมนุษย์ทุกคน แต่การที่เราจะทำให้มันเป็นปกติจริง ๆ นั้นเป็นสิ่งที่ยากเสมอ - ผู้หญิงส่วนใหญ่จะมีการถึงจุดสุดยอดได้ จากการรู้จักตัวเองว่าตัวเราเองนั้นรู้สึกตรงจุดไหนเป็นพิเศษ การค้นหาเป็นสิ่งที่จำเป็นถ้าเราต้องการมีความสุขกับการร่วมรัก - ทั้งนี้ การเล้าโลมเป็นสิ่งที่จำเป็นต่อการผ่อนคลาย มีหลายคนหลงลืมว่าการค่อย ๆ ให้ร่างกายนั้นตอบสนองต่อการตื่นตัวนั้นไม่ใช่เป็นสิ่งที่ควรเพิกเฉย แต่มันกลับกลายเป็นสิ่งที่จำเป็น

Today we are diving into the all-too-familiar topics of stress and burnout with our special guest, Amelia Nagoski. Amelia is an author, speaker and conductor who holds a Doctorate in Music from The University of Connecticut. She wrote the New York Times bestseller, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, with her identical twin sister, Emily. The book contains science and stories for people, especially women, who have felt exhausted and overwhelmed by everything they have to do, yet they still feel like they're not doing enough. This conversation with Amelia is a reminder to take yourself seriously and to start listening to that voice inside of you. You won't be able to show up fully in this world until you begin taking this thing called burnout seriously, and by figuring out what your needs truly are! We'd love it if you could share this episode and message with anyone you feel could benefit from it, because burnout is such a relevant topic today for so many people. Don't forget to tag us, @burnoutbookgroup and @herselfpodcast, and let us know what resonated the most with you! MEET Amelia: https://www.instagram.com/burnoutbookgroup/ Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 15% off at GOODR with code ‘herself15': https://goodr.comLinks & Resources:Get Your Copy of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle Amelia's YouTube Channel, Autistic BurnoutCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate ManneLet's connect!HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Producers note: Mature subject matter around sex is discussed in this episode.   As we've been learning in our Dating, Sex and Relationship series, there is no one right way to go about finding satisfaction in these areas of life. And the same is true for sex. You deserve to find joy and pleasure in your body and your sexuality just as you are, no matter what. There are so many things that culture has told us about our bodies and our sexuality that aren't true. We're going to walk through some of those misnomers and some healthy ways to approach sex with our very wise guest, sex educator and return visitor to our show, Emily Nagoski.  Emily describes her mission as helping women live with joy and confidence inside their bodies. She wants us to know that our bodies have wisdom to share, and that our bodies can be trusted–their intuition is actually  good for us and our protection. She explains what a sex drive is (actually, what it isn't, because it's not actually a thing–surprise!). Emily also shares key findings from couples who sustain strong sexual connection over the long term (and those two things aren't what people most generally think they are). In this frank conversation about sex, Emily encourages us to lean into our sexual pleasure and shake off any hesitations that are usually due to cultural shame or baggage. And if you think that exploring your sexuality isn't possible with a busy career, kids, and other responsibilities, Emily removes the myth that scheduling sex makes it less hot. When we normalize all sorts of sexual responses, we remove barriers that keep us from making space for all this pleasure that has always been ours to claim.  * * * Thank you to our sponsors! Rothy's | $20 off your first purchase by visiting Rothys.com/forthelove Kiwico | 50% off your first month of a Kiwico subscription and free shipping for any crate line with the code FORTHELOVE at Kiwico.com BetterHelp | Visit BetterHelp.com/forthelove and get 10% off your first month   Thought-Provoking Quotes “I think having curiosity about our own bodies and continually learning in a non-judgmental way is really important. Trusting the message your body is sending you more than anyone else's expressed opinion about what should be happening with your body. We can believe our bodies over and above anybody else's opinion about bodies.”  - Emily Nagoski “We actually heal ourselves when we allow uncomfortable feelings to melt through our bodies. On the other side of it, that process has healed our bodies and freed us from the lies that we were told when we were small.” - Emily Nagoski “What is it that I want when I want sex? And what is it that I like when I like sex? And talk about those answers with your partner. And it'll help you to remember why. If there is a ‘why' for sex in your relationship, this will help you remind you why.” - Emily Nagoski “The person you are is a person worth being. This is the whole you're enough, but the thing is–you are enough. It is only in this like culturally constructed comparison against a fictional and often deliberately unachievable ideal that we torture ourselves about the way our sexuality works.” - Emily Nagoski “I got taught to put on a show. I got taught that men really like it when women seemed to be having a good time. So I got taught to act like I was having a good time so that he would like it. And there's this big, deep irony that I was learning to put on the show of pleasure, without even asking whether or not I was actually experiencing pleasure.” - Emily Nagoski “There is no quota of pleasure. There's no such thing as too little pleasure. And there's no such thing as too much pleasure. Nobody gets to judge or decide about your experience of pleasure.”  - Emily Nagoski “If you're a person who needs to like and admire your partner and you need to know that they like and admire you, that they respect you, that they are there for you, then there is no amount of lingerie or handcuffs or porn or role play is ever going to make you interested in having the sex available to you with a person whom you don't trust.” - Emily Nagoski “Let's make a world with less body shame. Let's make a world where girls are raised to believe that they have a basic right to bodily autonomy and that pleasure is their birthright. They have the right to all the pleasure that their body is capable of experiencing without being afraid of it or ashamed of it or needing to prioritize somebody else's pleasure over theirs.” - Emily Nagoski “Neurologically, pleasure is a practice. The more we practice paying attention to pleasure, the easier it is for our brains to notice pleasure.” - Emily Nagoski “Have pleasure. Desire will follow.” - Emily Nagoski   Emily Nagoski's LinksEmily's website Emily's Instagram   Books & Resources Mentioned in This Episode Dr. Bessel VanDerKolk For the Love Podcast Episode (Your Body Keeps the Score) Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski Amelia Nagoski Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life (Emily's new book)  Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by Peggy Kleinplatz ACE resources toward understanding asexuality from The Trevor Project Orgasms for Two by Betty Dodson Donald Hall's Essay about marriage “The Third Thing”  Ms. Marvel - TV Show on Disney+   Connect with Jen!Jen's website Jen's Instagram Jen's Twitter Jen's Facebook Jen's YouTube

Today we are diving into Part 2 of Robin's conversation with Dr. Aviva Romm, and if you haven't listened to Part 1 yet, you are going to want to do that right now)! It is full of so much good information related to hormones through all stages of life and the hidden hormone epidemic that exists among women. In Part 2, Dr. Romm reveals the pros and cons of hormone replacement therapy, simple ways to bring more balance to your hormones, a very practical and realistic way to improve brain fog, and tips for navigating your hormones on the journey to menopause. Dr. Romm also answers your questions on everything from sex drive, to birth control, to supplements to consider for healthy hormones, and so much more. If this two-part conversation with Dr. Romm was helpful for you, we'd love it if you could share it with your friends, family, and anyone that would benefit by listening. The more women we can empower with this knowledge, the better! Show highlights: what you can look forward to in this episode! Perimenopause isn't being talked about enough, but there are botanicals and herbs that can help restore the adrenal stress response associated with it She gives her thoughts on going the synthetic hormones versus natural route, and what you can do to feel more empowered about your options There is hype surrounding the marketing of certain synthetic hormones, but don't believe everything you see being promoted Our mind is powerful, so be careful how you think of menopause! Certain studies prove that our thoughts around the subject will impact the symptoms we experience. If you have brain fog, often hydration is the issue and drinking more water is where to start with alleviating it. Sex drive is way more complicated that being just about our hormones, so try to unpack what is really going on in your life and impacting it. The birth control pill depletes you, but there are things you can do and take to reduce how it affects you. If you write down your questions before visiting the doctor, bring an advocate with you and wait to put your gown on at the office, you will be in a much better position to advocate for your health once there. Links in this episode: Dr. Romm's Website & Instagram Her Podcast & Episode on Adrenal Fatigue Her Latest Book, Hormone Intelligence: The Complete Guide to Calming Hormone Chaos and Restoring Your Body's Natural Blueprint for Well-Being & Other Works Dr. Romm's Articles on The Pill & Personal Empowerment Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. Article on UK Study, 'Listen to women': UK doctors issued with first guidance on endometriosis The North American Menopause Society (NAMS) Join the Free 5-Day Pilates Strong Challenge The Balanced Life Sisterhood The Balanced Life on Instagram Sign up for The Balanced Life Newsletter

Are you ready to talk about hormone health? This is the episode that Robin has literally been counting down the days to, with her special guest Dr. Aviva Romm! Today they dive deep into all things hormone health that we experience in our everyday life, as well as through the various stages and seasons we move through. Robin also asks Dr. Romm the questions that you submitted by social media and email to have answered, and the information she shared was so fascinating to hear. As you know, Robin has been on a journey this past year with her own hormonal health, sharing with you as much as possible along the way. Bringing Dr. Romm on the podcast today is a tremendous opportunity to get an expert perspective on these important topics, and hopefully it empowers you on your journey to advocate for your health and to feel your very best.  You're not going to want to miss Part 2 of this special conversation next time on the podcast. We'll see you then! Show highlights: what you can look forward to in this episode! There is a hidden hormone epidemic that exists, with several levels to why it's hidden and so often normalized in society. Romm made a big realization after starting college years ago, and she considered herself a “trojan horse” when she went back to Yale decades later to get her MD. Hormone health is a critical vital sign of our overall health in a variety of ways, every day and not just during certain times of the month. We're getting better as moms at admitting when something is off, but historically women have just kept going and tried to push through burnout. We often forget about the non-physical symptoms of burnout, but there are subtle signs to watch for and to be aware of. The right types of foods, including carbohydrates, healthy fats and quality proteins, are absolutely critical for supporting our nervous system. Smart devices can be our worst enemy at bed time. Dr. Romm shares how to approach a sleep routine in the most optimal way. Links in this episode: Dr. Romm's Website & Instagram Her Podcast & Episode on Adrenal Fatigue Her Latest Book, Hormone Intelligence: The Complete Guide to Calming Hormone Chaos and Restoring Your Body's Natural Blueprint for Well-Being & Other Works Dr. Romm's Articles on The Pill & Personal Empowerment Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.   Article on UK Study, 'Listen to women': UK doctors issued with first guidance on endometriosis The North American Menopause Society (NAMS)     Join the Free 5-Day Pilates Strong Challenge The Balanced Life Sisterhood The Balanced Life on Instagram Sign up for The Balanced Life Newsletter

My first interview is with Dr. Gretchen Frey www.gretchenfreymd.com an OB/GYN with a specialty in sexual health and hormone therapy. Dr. Frey and I have worked together through the years and I love her balanced approach and willingness to embrace integrative care for the benefit of the patient. We had so much great content we split our convo into 2 parts. In part 1, we dive into vaginal dryness, libido, treating painful penetrative intercourse and more. In my experience concerns with vaginal/vulvar symptoms top the list of fears around aging - so please listen because treatment options are available and work extremely well!My starting place for folks wanting to understand the depth and breadth of fatphobia and anti-fat-bias in health care specifically - Aubrey Gordon - https://www.aubreygordon.net/general-1Great resources for understanding libido:Mating in Captivity - Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic by Esther Perel Come as you Are - Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Resources for exploring erotica: My Secret Garden My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday www.meetrosy.comErica Lust - Erika Lust Official Site | Female Porn DirectorWicked Films - Soulsex/senior sex

On today's episode, we have sex educator Aubri Lancaster (SheHer) join us for a conversation all about discovering her Asexual identity. Together we talk about the spectrum of attraction, polyamicable quadracules, and questioning the hierarchy of the nuclear family. If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! And if you feel like you have benefited from this podcast, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are fighting towards! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support a mutual aid fund. For the month of April, we will be supporting Insight, a Ukrainian LGBTQ+ and feminist non-profit that is helping people in Ukraine with covering basic needs in protection, safety and health during the war. To learn more about Insight, check out https://www.insight-ukraine.org/en/ Modern Anarchy Community: Instagram Facebook Patreon Aubri's Community: Website Resources to Learn More: AASECT Testosterone Therapy Can Restore Women's Libido—but Questions Remain Bad Girls Multigenerational Living Creates Warmth and Companionship What is the Relationship Escalator? Marriage, a History: HOW LOVE CONQUERED MARRIAGE Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life Living as a Sex-Favourable Asexual THE ACE AND ARO ADVOCACY PROJECT

Renowned motivational speaker Chalene Johnson joins Aprille to discuss parenting, marriage, and sex. Tune in as Chalene and Aprille covers topics like a passionless marriage, couple's therapy, and how conflict can save your marriage and make you a better person. About Chalene Johnson: Chalene Johnson is a health expert, motivational speaker, author, and podcast host. Her podcast has more than 70 million downloads. Connect with Chalene Johnson Online! Podcasts:  The Chalene Show Podcast | Build Your Tribe Podcast  Website: https://www.chalenejohnson.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chalenejohnson/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/Chalenejohnson Time-stamps: [00:40]Meet co-host Chalene Johnson! [01:12] Chalene recounts meeting Aprille after the death of George Floyd [06:13] Successful people don't just talk business; we need balance between fun, quality time and business endeavors [08:06] Chalene dealing with several lawsuits and learning that it's okay to let go of any worries around her situation. [11:47] Chalene's daughter and son are both getting married this year! So what's the budget? [13:27] You're never done parenting. The same goes for your parents as well. [15:31] Sometimes parents need to be parented. [17:18] Join the Epic Woman Conference at www.epicwoman.co [18:20] Womanly matter: an anonymous writer speaks on her burdens of being bread-winner and caregiver in a relationship. [26:10] Grow stronger as a couple at retreats like Couples Academy [27:56] Thinking about swinging or having a threesome to save your boring sex life? [31:09] The best way to deal with a relationship crisis may be to work on your own issues first. [33:00] Chalene believes clearly communicating your conflicts will make a relationship stronger. [37:06] Lessons Aprille learned from reading  Love Smart: Find the One You Want - Fix the One You Got and attending Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel. [41:16] Submit your story at womanlyshit.com to be featured on the show! [46:37] Tea time: Chalene's sex life hit an all time high now that her kids are out of the house. [49:55] Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, a funny way to own your sexuality. [51:02] Chalene on normalizing edible gummies by sharing her first edible experience.  [56:09] Inspo moment brought to you by Good Karma Decor.  Connect with Aprille Online! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCI0w-ZQQ6LOqIa0-k_qI_2Q Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/epicaprille/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@aprilleofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/epicaprille

Get ready to shake up your beliefs and behaviors about gender as we dive deep into Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD). A phrase coined by Dr. Valerie Rein, author of “Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment,” in this podcast episode you'll understand the problem with our patriarchal society and how we as women hold ourselves back due to society's “norms” of achievement and accomplishment. If you've ever held yourself back, not spoken up, experienced self-sabotage, felt uncomfortable with receiving pleasure, not asked for help when you know you needed it, you may be suffering from symptoms from living in oppressive patriarchy that has held women back from their true power for over a thousand years. What if breaking through your self-limiting beliefs was not even about YOU? What if it was because you have grown up in the environment of a patriarchal society? After all, you can't heal yourself in the same environment that got you sick, right? As we are seeing more and more shifting gender roles and understanding how generational beliefs are passed down and triggered biologically, how can women break through the patriarchal structure and reclaim their power as sovereign, Queens! Dr. Valerie Rein is a psychologist, women's mental health expert, and business consultant who has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the intergenerational trauma of oppression. She holds an EdM in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a Ph.D. in Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Her bestselling book, “Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment” has been heralded by Amazon reviewers as “the most important body of literary work of our modern times” and “perhaps the most important book of the century for women.” Dr. Valerie is most passionate about the intersections of deep inner work and business. She is a sought-after speaker at conferences and companies committed to diversity and inclusion, leadership development, and unlocking people's full potential. #patriarchy #womensrights #internationalwomensday #feminism

On Ep 183 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Sinclair Sexsmith about dominance & submission. While most are aware that Dom/sub play is common in kink, we also have a very narrow view of what it entails. D/s isn't always cruel & authoritarian. We talk about the many ways people engage in D/s & how they find strength by surrendering to powerlessness, including: The different types of D/s & selecting areas of control Building healthy dynamics “Subs hold all the power” Balancing fantasy & reality “Giving up” safe words D/s as an “intimacy fetish” Deconstructing power Guest Bio – Sinclair Sexsmith SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is an award-winning queer trans masc writer focusing on queer culture, trauma, dominance, submission, spiritual kink, and transgender and nonbinary issues. Sinclair's creative nonfiction and queer erotica writings are widely published online and in more than thirty anthologies, including eight volumes of Best Lesbian Erotica series. They are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 4, Volume 5, Volume 6, Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, Erotix: Literary Journal of Somatics, and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2015 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. Sinclair writes at sugarbutch.net since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the top sex blogs. They have been teaching about erotic writing, the power of queer narratives, somatic arts, and many sex and kink techniques since 2002. Sinclair is an international leather titleholder, a pretty good cook, and an avid creative journaler. Follow all their work at patreon.com/mrsexsmith. 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To contact us and/or leave us an audio message visit WhatHasMyAttention.com  Welcome to What Has My Attention. This is John Biethan. We are back today with Audrey, Lisa, and Patty. We decided to continue the conversation from episode 43 “Redefining Humaning” and talk about service and success, and how to have both as you serve those who love what you do. Books Mentioned Today Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski Overcoming Underearning: A Five-Step Plan to a Richer Life, by Barbara Stanny  Previously from Lisa, Audrey and Patty WISL 20 Women In Strong Leadership feat. Lisa Pachence Apr. 29, 2021 WISL 25 Women in Strong Leadership - Leading from Love feat. Lisa Pachence and Jess Lily Jun. 17, 2021 WISL 36 Beating The Broken Cookie Effect(™): Price for Value and Stop Settling for Crumbs feat. Patty Block Nov.16, 2021 WISL 37 Fortitude and Flow feat. Audrey Holst Nov. 30, 2021 WISL 38 Leadership, Collaboration, and What's Next Dec. 6, 2021 WISL 43 Redefining Humaning feat. Audrey Holst, Lisa Pachence, and Patty Block Feb. 1, 2022 WHAT has YOUR attention? Let us know To contact us and/or leave us an audio message visit WhatHasMyAttention.com  Produced by ImaginePodcasting.com dba Heard Not Seen Media, Inc. Podsafe Music Credits Shine All Night by AudioStock and Motion Array Royalty-Free Music. Dope Digging by Martijn de Boer (NiGiD) Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial (3.0) license

[Not a "christian" or "non-christian" conversation,"  nor a conversation revolving around my personal sexual ethics. Okay, now with that out of way -- Joey}God gives graciously.  Can this be seen any clearer in the sophisticated way humans are able to experience pleasure within one's very anatomy?   And just like most other things, humans have managed to screw (no pun intended) this up also.   Erica Smith, sex educator of 20 years, speaker, writer, consultant (including online one-on-one's) and creator of Purity Culture Drop Out comes on to talk all things sex, some advice and insight for all.  This episode covers a variety of topics surrounding human sexuality, including the benefits of regular masturbation for men and women; and the conundrum between valuing feminine freedom and power, while hating their objectification.  Is it a bummer to be asexual?  Would it be helpful for people to expand the definition of what sex is?  Are some people wired incompatible with monogamy?  Erica points to the Puritanical values that have been baked into the very sexual fabric of  America, impacting those in and well outside of church/religious culture?  At top of episode, Robbie Maddison, Hayne Griffith and Joey Svendsen talk vaccines as Joey shares the very close call his mother had a few weeks ago with that there COVID-19. Erica Smith, M.Ed Instagram / Site / Purity Culture Drop Out Program"must read" book Eric referred to called Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex LifeRobbie Madison Web / Instagram / MusicHayne is on Classmates.com.  Join us as a Patron!Join our mailing list to keep up with everything.Tip any amount $ to Venmo for a PWNA Sticker.Joey/PWNA Instagram and TwitterCurrent DonorSee giving opportunityJoin the PWNA Discussion Facebook GroupPWNAcontact@gmail.com  for correspondence.Theme song, courtesy of Derek MinorOther music originally composed by Joel Hamilton and Joel Hamilton + friends, and Ray Deezy. Executive Producer of PWNApod:  Jared SvendsenSupport the show

In this uncharacteristically lucid episode, the Stepfamily gets busy busting masturbation myths and attempting to normalize the topic by talking about their own techniques. Now, you too can become a Masturbation Master! Cum for the facts, stay for the fun! Sponsored by Master Bait and Tackle. ***The asterisk of consent is always present, and it always applies!*** Thank you for listening to the Smut's Up Podcast! Email us at smutsup69@gmail.com Join our Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/3493620117335739/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SmutsUp69 American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). Sources: Masturbation Relieves Anxiety, Helps You Sleep, and Boosts Your Sex Life. So Why Don't More Women Do It? Health.com https://www.health.com/sex/female-masturbation Is Masturbation Healthy? Planned Parenthood.com https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/sex-pleasure-and-sexual-dysfunction/masturbation/masturbation-healthy Are there side effects to masturbation? Medical News Today.com https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320265 Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life By Emily Nagoski https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are

What do you call a baker without an oven, a butcher who turns vegan or a plumber that doesn’t… plumb? How about someone who is alosexual and between relationships or a swinger who doesn’t swing? This week Helen Greene from Recovering From Religion joins Nate and Christy in understanding monogamous bisexuals, single poly people and dusty and rusty personal adjectives. Identity politics, unused labels and your calls on this week’s SecX!► Jump-start your recovery at https://www.RecoveringFromReligion.org/► Dive deeper into the episode and find more information at https://www.vcatx.com/media/passingSexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It by Marty KleinCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

So, you're in a long-term relationship and it feels like that honeymoon lust has disappeared. When you first got together, you couldn't keep your tongues out of each other's mouths and your hands off of each other's bodies, right? These days, do you ever find yourself laying in bed next to your snoring spouse and wondering “Where did the passion go?” Today, we're going to bust two major myths about long-term lust and love. Because despite what the romantic comedies say, think like that in terms of your sex life, your relationship, and how we just aren't built to stay crazy in lust forever. Here's the thing: life includes a lot of stages, and falling in love is only one of them. After dating comes real life, along with careers, mortgages, babies, aging… It's a pretty wild ride. And the bedroom is only one part of it. But there is a bright side. I have a plan to help you reignite your erotic relationship, even after those perpetual googly eyes have left the building. :) In this episode, I answer a question from a couple in my online immersion program who are super worried that their relationship didn't stay in the Rip-Each-Other's-Clothes-Off stage forever. You'll learn why scheduling sex is not unsexy and why exceptional couples plan for passion. Most importantly, I talk about how the natural evolution of long-term relationships is to lose spontaneous desire, so you and your partner are NOT broken. Good news - there is a second type of desire - and you can learn to master it. In This Episode, You Will Learn:The three most important words I will ever say to you about love and sex (01:40)Jose and Talisha's question-- and why their “desire problem” is completely NORMAL (03:05)I bust the myth of the human “sex drive” (05:14)The biochemical cocktail behind spontaneous desire-- AKA why lust can't last (06:58)A prehistoric love story of lust, romance and… commitment? (12:04)Lack of spontaneous sex ≠ A broken relationship (14:32)To the rescue! Responsive Desire-- and how to use it (15:30)The surprising definition of a “sexless” relationship (18:33)Adding sex as an item on your calendar-- and why that's NOT a bad thing (20:42) A little wisdom in the form of this week's LoveByte (25:39) People Mentioned in this Episode:Tony RobbinsJack CanfieldResources Mentioned in this Episode:Book: Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser PhDBook: Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life By Emily NagoskiArticle about Lust and Love Myths Let's Connect!Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page YoutubeIf you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion QuizBio Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tarynn is a New York-based Psychotherapist. She focuses on alternative sexualities & lifestyles – including non-monogamy. In this episode we talk about how she opened up with her husband of 8 years. She tells us about another partner she considers as significant as her husband and how she achieved a comfortable "kitchen table" dynamic between the three of them. We also talk about how she plans to communicate with her daughter about non-monogamy and about therapy for alternative relationships. If you like the show we'd love it if you shared it with a friend, lover or even family member. Click here to connect with Tarynn Book Come as You Are (The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life) by Emily Nagoski Follow us on Instagram at polycuriouspodcast Write to us at polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com

For episode homepage, resources and links, visit: https://kristenmanieri.com/episode124/    Description “You are normal; it is the world around you that’s broken” writes Emily Nagoski in her New York Times bestselling book, Come As You Are (The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life). Using a research-based approach to understanding female sexuality, Emily aims to help women embrace and celebrate their bodies and sexual response mechanisms in a world that urges them to judge and second-guess themselves. Her approach to women’s sexuality is a transformative pathway to better sex and wellbeing.    Guest Bio Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist. https://www.emilynagoski.com/   Host Bio Kristen Manieri is certified both as a habits coach and mindfulness teacher. She specializes in: stress reduction, energy management, mindset, resilience, focus, habit formation, rest rituals, and prioritizing personal well-being. As the host of the weekly 60 Mindful Minutes podcast, an Apple top 100 social science podcast, Kristen has interviewed over 120 authors and thought leaders about what it means to live a more conscious, connected, intentional AND joyful life. Learn more at https://kristenmanieri.com/work-with-me/.   Mentioned in this Episode Guest’s website: https://www.emilynagoski.com/   Guest’s book: Come as You Are (The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life): https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090   Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/1984818325   Emily’s romance novels: https://www.emilynagoski.com/home   Mind Over Medicine - REVISED EDITION: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself: https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Over-Medicine-Scientific-Yourself/dp/1401959881 Connect with the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast   Web: https://kristenmanieri.com Email: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/60MindfulMinutes Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristenmanieri_/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kristenmanieri/

In this episode I speak with Dr.Zhana, a professor of sexuality at New York University and the creator of the Open Smarter Course, a science-based course designed to figure out what type of relationship works for YOU based on your personality. She is also the mastermind behind Uncensored with Dr.Zhana, a new approach to having online conversations about sex and love. In this conversation we talk about Dr.Zhana's own non-monogamous journey, her research on casual sex and some of the important traits to consider when deciding what type of relationship works for you. Open Smarter Course Uncensored Book Come as You Are (The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life) by Emily Nagoski If you enjoy this episode please share it! Our Instagram is Polycuriouspodcast Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com

Sex is such a big part of being human. It's how our species persists, but it's also so much more than that. So why do we feel so uncomfortable talking about it? Emily Nagoski is a sex educator who argues that learning how to talk openly about sex — and unlearning some damaging misconceptions— can give you access to a more authentic and fulfilling sex life. She has a Ph.D. in health behavior, clinical internship experience at the Kinsey Institue, and is the author of the best-selling book “Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life.” To learn more about "How to Be a Better Human," host Chris Duffy, or find footnotes and additional resources, please visit: go.ted.com/betterhuman

感谢收听“普通读者”。 这一期我们做一期三八妇女节特别节目，总结一下以前节目中提到的和女性，女权有关的非虚构和虚构作品，聊一些我们想聊但没有机会聊到的相关作品，还有听众们推荐的女性女权相关的书。 时间节点： 1:40 三八妇女节小历史 3:12 关于女权的非虚构作品 14:28 和女性相关的虚构类作品 28:30 3月阅读挑战读什么：一本关于在各行各业女性的书 40:33 听众投稿 提到的书： 非虚构： 《父权制与资本主义》上野千鹤子 《厌女》上野千鹤子 《女性的权利》奇玛曼达·恩戈兹·阿迪契 《亲爱的安吉维拉》奇玛曼达·恩戈兹·阿迪契 《妇女的力量与社会翻转》-- 玛利亚罗莎·达拉·科斯特 / 谢尔玛·詹姆斯 《黑箱》伊藤诗织 《知晓我姓名》香奈儿·米勒 Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski Feminist City : Claiming Space in a Man-Made World, by Leslie Kern Feminism for the 99%: A Manifesto, by Nancy Fraser / Tithi Bhattacharya / Cinzia Arruzza My Own Words, by Ruth Bader Ginsburg 虚构： 《野兽派太太》卡罗尔·安·达菲 The Other Einstein, by Marie Benedict Hamnet, by Maggie O'Farrell 《秧歌》 张爱玲 《凡尔赛玫瑰》池田理代子 Corregidora, by Gayl Jones Girl, Woman, Other, by Bernardine Evaristo 《诗人X》伊丽莎白·阿塞韦多 Hurricane Season, by Fernanda Melchor The Bass Rock, by Evie Wyld 《荆棘之城》萨拉·沃特斯 《鳄鱼手记》邱妙津 Everything Under, by Daisy Johnson Sisters, by Daisy Johnson 《卡罗尔》帕特里夏·海史密斯 《觉醒》凯特·肖邦 《狂乱》萨冈 《素食主义者》韩江 《钟型罩》希微雅·普拉斯 《星辰时刻》克拉丽丝·李斯佩克朵 Frankissstein: A Love Story, by Jeanette Winterson 3月阅读挑战相关书籍： The Women with Silver Wings: The Inspiring True Story of the Women Airforce Service Pilots of World War II, by Katherine Sharp Landdeck Hold Still: A Memoir with Photographs, by Sally Mann 《埃及艳后》斯泰茜·希夫 How to Make Love Like a Porn Star, by Jenna Jameson and Neil Strauss Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers' Rights, by Juno Mac and Molly Easo Smith 《我的妹妹是连环杀手》欧因坎·布雷思韦特 《我本不该成为母亲》阿什莉·奥德兰 Recoding Gender: Women's Changing Participation in Computing, by Janet Abbate Ada's Ideas: The Story of Ada Lovelace, the World's First Computer Programmer, by Fiona Robinson The Thrilling Adventures of Lovelace and Babbage, by Sydney Padua 听众推荐的书： 《使女的故事》玛格丽特·阿特伍德 《你以为你是谁》艾丽丝·门罗 《蝲蛄吟唱的地方》迪莉娅·欧文斯 《从不妥协：法拉奇传》克里斯蒂娜•德•斯特凡诺 收听和订阅渠道： 小宇宙App，Apple Podcast, Anchor，Spotify，Pocket Casts， Google Podcast，Breaker， Radiopublic；网易云“普通-读者” 电邮：commonreader@protonmail.com 微博： 普通读者播客 欢迎关注普通读者的豆瓣： 豆瓣“普通读者播客”：https://www.douban.com/people/commonreaders/ 片头音乐credit： Helen Reddy - I Am Woman 片尾音乐credit：John Bartman - Happy African Village (Music from Pixabay)

Welcome to Episode 8, loves! Today we are talking about mental health and how it correlates to our sex lives. When you're stressed do you become hyper or hypo-sexual? Can you get out of your head and into your body enough to orgasm if you are struggling with your mental health? Join us as we each discuss how our mindset & stress levels affect our sex drives & more!  #staywildstaywitchy More information on EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel A. van der Kolkhttps://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18693771-the-body-keeps-the-scoreCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are D Tea F - https://oldbarreltea.com/products/d-tea-fKeep up with us:Wild Women Rise: https://www.instagram.com/wildwomenrisepodcast/Nikole: https://www.instagram.com/pennie_please/Alex: https://www.instagram.com/mollonwarriorprincess/Suzanne: https://www.instagram.com/suzanngela/Sarah: https://www.instagram.com/soulcenteredservices/

Hello you beautiful soul!In this quick I AM affirmation session (combined with Beta Waves) we will help you release any negativity you may have surrounding your sex life and build you up to the confident individual you truly are.  The more you listen to this the more you will notice positive changes in your life and a new found power and prowess in your sexual relations. Just sit back, relax and let my words become your own. Thank you for listening!Light, Love and Harmony

Do you struggle with shame or guilt around your sexuality? Or maybe you don't know how to talk to your child about sex or how to answer their questions?This week Bree is interviewing Kristin B Hodson, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Sex Therapist. Kristing is the Co-Author of the book Real Intimacy: A Couple's Guide for Genuine, Healthy Sexuality and Founder and Executive Directors of The Healing Group mental health clinic in Salt Lake City, Utah.Bree & Kristin discuss how to talk to your children to help them find confidence in their sexuality as well as other questions about your sexuality that you don't dare to ask. Don't worry, Bree asks them for you!Book Recommendations: Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your SexLifehttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B00LD1ORBI/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1Real Intimacy: A Couple's Guide for Genuine, Healthy Sexualityhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B008Y5NSZM/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1Learn more about Kristin at https://www.kristinbhodson.com/ and follow her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kristinbhodson/ or https://www.instagram.com/thehealinggroup/Learn more about Bree and her programs at www.bodybybree.com and follow her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bodybybreefitness/

"Золатай хамт" цувралын 9 дэх дугаараар Эрүүл мэндийн шинжлэх ухааны доктор Emily Nagoski -гийн 2015 онд гаргасан "Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life" хэмээх номын талаар хуваалцав. Уг ном нь эмэгтэйчүүдийн бэлгийн амьдралын мөн чанар, түүний сэтгэл зүйн болон бие махбодийн уялдаа холбоо, болон бид юуг, хэрхэн, яаж хүсч, мэдэрч, таашаадаг талаар биологи тэр дундаа тархи судлалын шинэлэг судалгаанд тулгуурлан тайлбарласан нь бидний сексийн амьдралыг илүү утга учиртай, аз жаргалтай, амтлаг болгоход үнэтэй хувь нэмэр оруулах болно. Та бүхэнтэйгээ хуваалцахыг хүсэн хүлээсэн гайхамшигтай номнуудын маань нэг юм

"Золатай хамт" цувралын 9 дэх дугаараар Эрүүл мэндийн шинжлэх ухааны доктор Emily Nagoski -гийн 2015 онд гаргасан "Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life" хэмээх номын талаар хуваалцав. Уг ном нь эмэгтэйчүүдийн бэлгийн амьдралын мөн чанар, түүний сэтгэл зүйн болон бие махбодийн уялдаа холбоо, болон бид юуг, хэрхэн, яаж хүсч, мэдэрч, таашаадаг талаар биологи тэр дундаа тархи судлалын шинэлэг судалгаанд тулгуурлан тайлбарласан нь бидний сексийн амьдралыг илүү утга учиртай, аз жаргалтай, амтлаг болгоход үнэтэй хувь нэмэр оруулах болно. Та бүхэнтэйгээ хуваалцахыг хүсэн хүлээсэн гайхамшигтай номнуудын маань нэг юм

大家好，欢迎收听普通读者。 这一期我们来聊一聊11月份读了什么。 慢懒： 1. Frankenstein, by Mary Shelley 2. Frankissstein: A Love Story, by Jeanette Winterson 3. Poor Things, by Alasdair Gray 4. The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo, by Taylor Jenkins Reid 5. The Hike, by Drew Magary （中译本《奇径人生》） 提到的： 《牧羊少年奇幻之旅》by 保罗·柯艾略 堂本： 1. The End of Everything (Astrophysically Speaking), by Katie Mack 2. Sisters, by Daisy Johnson 3. Dearly, by Margaret Atwood 4. Howl's Moving Castle, by Diana Wynne Jones （中译本《哈尔的移动城堡》） 提到的： Everything Under, by Daisy Johnson 电影《空中之城》、《幽灵公主》、《红猪》 H： 1. Notes from an Apocalypse: A personal Journey to the End of the World and Back, by Mark O'Connell 2. Hamnet, by Maggie O'Farrel 3. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski 4. Migrations, by Charlotte McConaghy 5. Locke & Key Vol. 1-6, by Joe Hill & Gabriel Rodriguez 提到的： The 2084 Report, by James Lawrence Powell The Vanishing Half, by Brit Bennett 《一间自己的房间》by 伍尔夫 The Lamentations of Zeno, by Ilija Trojanow 收听和订阅渠道： 小宇宙App，Apple Podcast, Anchor，Spotify，Pocket Casts， Google Podcast，Breaker， Radiopublic 电邮：commonreader@protonmail.com 微博： 普通读者播客（听众微信群二维码） 欢迎关注三位主播的豆瓣： 堂本 https://www.douban.com/people/shiorireads/ H https://www.douban.com/people/jacintaH/ 徐慢懒 https://www.douban.com/people/77421773/ 片头音乐credit: Flipper's Guitar - 恋とマシンガン- Young, Alive, in Love - 片尾音乐credit: John Bartman - Happy African Village (Music from Pixabay)

Have you ever wondered what a Pelvic PT uses for treatment? Like, does everyone need a set of vaginal weights, or an insertable wand to release tight muscles? And electric stimulation for the pelvic floor... what the what?!In today's episode, Blair and I talk about some common tools that you might find in a pelvic PT's toolbox, and who they might help and why. 1:39 Lube, knowing the differences between the three types of lube and the pros and cons of each. Brands we love: Good Clean Love, Uber Lube, Desert Harvest. More lube options here.9:24 Arousal Nonconcordance, Wet = aroused, right? Not as often as we are led to believe, hormones play a huge part, especially for postpartum moms. I highly recommend EVERYONE read the book: Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. 16:21 Vaginal Weights/Yoni Cones, Intimate Rose is a great brand22:49 Pelvic Wands, vibrating and regular31:56 Dilators37:25 the Ohnut, can help control depth of penetration during intercourse 39:16 Squatty Potty45:09 Splinting for Prolapse52:48 Pessaries 61:25 E-Stim & Biofeedback70:43 Bladder Pads vs Menstrual Pads, what's the difference*Disclaimer* neither Blair nor I are in any way sponsored by any of these companies/products. We are just providing, with our best knowledge, information that you should consider but not take as medical advice.We covered a lot of stuff here, but if we missed something you have questions about - reach out and ask! Connect with Blair:www.pregnancyandpostpartumpt.comInstagram: @pregnancy_and_postpartum_ptFacebook: Pregnancy and Postpartum PTConnect with Annie:www.fullbloomwellness603.comInstagram: @fullbloomwellness603Facebook: Full Bloom WellnessQuestions? Comments? Suggestions? Want to be on the show? Email me at thepostpartumrevolutionpodcast@gmail.comSupport the show (https://ko-fi.com/thepostpartumrevolution)

THE INTERVIEW with Dr. Kaitlyn Goldsmith Clinical Psychologist and founder of @esvedrawellness a wellness app who's mission is to make wellness accessible to everyone. On this episode Lulu and Jana get into Kaitlyn's WHY behind creating EsVedra, how wellness seems unattainable to so many people and why that needs to shift. They also talk about all things sexual wellness, how to communicate what you need from your partner when it comes to sex and your relationship in general, what the most common intimacy problems are, and how to improve your sex life as a whole. Other talking points; Important aspects that are missed in the school system's Sex Education, most common issues for women when it comes to sexual wellbeing, how to navigate intimacy issues and/or issues in the bedroom, how to open up communication with your  partner and improve your sex life.*EsVedra is available for download in the App Store 11.14.2020*JOIN OUR INSTA COMMUNITY@itswildpodcastFOLLOW YOUR HOST'S PERSONAL JOURNEYS@lulugodin @jana.wollesenThings mentioned in this episode:Organic Traditions Turmeric Latte with Saffron and Probiotics  The Bible AppAritzia Super Puff and Duvet Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life - Emily Nagoski Ph.D  The Vagina Bible - Jen Dr. GunterGuide to Getting It On - Paul Joannides

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEHow To Overcome Sexual Shame (And Finally Love Sex) -. (2018, November 11). Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/how-to-overcome-sexual-shame-and-finally-love-sex/Nagoski, E. (2015). Come as you are: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life. New York: Simon & Schuster Paperbacks.Easton, D., & Hardy, J. (2017). The ethical slut: A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other adventures. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379Spector, D. (2013, October 15). 11 Groundbreaking Findings That Changed How We Think About Sex. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.businessinsider.com/11-findings-that-revolutionized-our-understanding-of-sex-2013-10Locke, S. (2014, July 01). Sex researchers manage to study the most intimate of human experiences. Here's how. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.vox.com/2014/7/1/5858034/sex-researchers-manage-to-study-the-most-intimate-of-human---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNhttps://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/   - Again, Cordelia's website has  "self-healing" resources on the website with free worksheets/etc.Recommended BooksThe Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti:  https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies, and Revolution by Laurie Penny:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KRDKH2G/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_GUqxFbSK749A9Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J. Sollee -https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996485279/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_wWqxFbMD6Q98FCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_hYqxFbJV59KF5The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399579664/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_OYqxFbPNZMTY4WorksheetsSex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdfIt helps unpack where you learned about various concepts around sex and gender as a child.Help to Talk about Sex with Partner (and to Figure Out What You Like) - https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdfThis could be used to help you navigate conversations with your partner or figure out what you like.  It covers things like... what you want to do, what you like sexually if you like toys and lubes, what turns you on, boundaries (on what/shouldn’t be said or done).Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist - https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/files/scarleteen/yesnomaybe.pdfYou can either use this as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you go through it together.  Lists like this do not finish lines but starting points: evaluating your own sexuality and/or for deeper conversations with someone else.

SMNTY Book Club is back, this time with Emily Nagoski's book Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://news.iheart.com/podcast-advertisers

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODEGeneralCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.Sex Educationhttps://www.plannedparenthoodaction.org/issues/sex-education/how-sex-education-fundedhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/gender-and-schooling/201812/funding-abstinence-the-war-sex-edhttps://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/pediatrics/138/2/e20161348.full.pdfhttps://www.publichealth.columbia.edu/public-health-now/news/high-school-sex-ed-may-prevent-sexual-assault-collegehttps://srcd.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1002/j.2379-3988.2010.tb00065.xhttps://www.guttmacher.org/news-release/2006/premarital-sex-nearly-universal-among-americans-and-has-been-decades Sex Talkhttps://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/consequences-of-no-sex-talk/https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/losing-virginity-for-good/https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.https://www.plannedparenthood.org/uploads/filer_public/41/81/4181fd5b-b359-480d-8f91-6f9fffda6cb3/nationalpoll_09-14_v2_1_1.pdfhttps://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/05/21/what-happens-to-our-girls-when-we-dont-talk-about-sex/Policing Clothinghttps://www.coasthighschool.com/apps/pages/index.jsp?uREC_ID=687686&type=d&pREC_ID=1127290Letter by mom to Notre Dame re Leggings: https://ndsmcobserver.com/2019/03/the-legging-problem/https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/news/a21667/united-airlines-girl-leggings-shaming/https://time.com/36997/when-enforcing-school-dress-codes-turns-into-slut-shaming/https://jezebel.com/lets-reinvent-the-dont-be-a-slut-school-dress-code-509077807https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/virtue_signalinghttps://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/stop-saying-slut/Orgasm Gaphttps://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/orgasm-gap-why-it-exists-what-women-can-do-about-ncna983311---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNhttps://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/   - Again, Cordelia's website has  "self-healing" resources on the website with free worksheets/etc.Recommended BooksThe Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti:  https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies, and Revolution by Laurie Penny:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KRDKH2G/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_GUqxFbSK749A9Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J. Sollee -https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996485279/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_wWqxFbMD6Q98FCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_hYqxFbJV59KF5The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399579664/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_OYqxFbPNZMTY4Tips for Talking to Kids about Sexhttps://www.plannedparenthood.org/uploads/filer_public/cd/e3/cde39a0f-0bbb-4d30-a6e1-613d3bf8d020/27_lets-talk-tv-parents-checklist_d12.pdfhttps://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/parents/tips-talking#:~:text=Research%20tells%20us%20that%20kids,to%20be%20healthy%20and%20safe.WorksheetsSex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdfIt helps unpack where you learned about various concepts around sex and gender as a child.Help to Talk about Sex with Partner (and to Figure Out What You Like) - https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdfThis could be used to help you navigate conversations with your partner or figure out what you like.  It covers things like... what you want to do, what you like sexually if you like toys and lubes, what turns you on, boundaries (on what/shouldn’t be said or done).Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist - https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/files/scarleteen/yesnomaybe.pdfYou can either use this as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you go through it together.  Lists like this do not finish lines but starting points: evaluating your own sexuality and/or for deeper conversations with someone else.

Podcast InfoA new podcast episode drops every Monday.  Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking hereBe sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecoveryWant to help me make this podcast better?  Take an anonymous survey here.---------Workbook + Community + Free ResourcesAre you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click hereWant access to free resources? Click here--------CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODESexual Shamehttps://familysolutionsok.com/breaking-bad-parenting-legacy-sexual-shame/https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2014/02/linking-sexual-shame-and-addiction/VirginityThe Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica ValentiThe Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardyhttps://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/consequences-of-no-sex-talk/https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/losing-virginity-for-good/Slut shamehttps://feminisminindia.com/2017/04/07/slut-shaming-friend-zone-objectification/https://www.verywellfamily.com/the-effects-of-slut-shaming-on-teen-girls-460586https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/07/stop-saying-slut/---------RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWNhttps://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/   - Again, Cordelia's website has  "self-healing" resources on the website with free worksheets/etc.Recommended BooksThe Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti:  https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies, and Revolution by Laurie Penny:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KRDKH2G/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_GUqxFbSK749A9Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J. Sollee -https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996485279/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_wWqxFbMD6Q98FCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_hYqxFbJV59KF5The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399579664/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_OYqxFbPNZMTY4Instagram Post with Questions: https://www.instagram.com/p/CD_1zZ_J5iw/WorksheetsSex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdfIt helps unpack where you learned about various concepts around sex and gender as a child.Help to Talk about Sex with Partner (and to Figure Out What You Like) - https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdfThis could be used to help you navigate conversations with your partner or figure out what you like.  It covers things like... what you want to do, what you like sexually if you like toys and lubes, what turns you on, boundaries (on what/shouldn’t be said or done).Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist - https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/files/scarleteen/yesnomaybe.pdfYou can either use this as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you go through it together.  Lists like this do not finish lines but starting points: evaluating your own sexuality and/or for deeper conversations with someone else.

This week's guest is Ti Chang, an industrial designer and the co-founder and VP of design at Crave. Crave is a company that creates elegant, sophisticated and thoughtfully designed sex toys for women, with the goal of making buying and using sex toys an elevated experience, one that leads to fulfilled desires, sensual satisfaction, and thoughtful conversations about sexuality. Ti leads the concept and design for the company's full line of products and she has been featured in Playboy, Fortune, Huffington Post, Forbes, Cosmopolitan and many more. Crave is hands down my favorite sex toy company. In this episode we discuss everything from how Ti got started in this industry, to what it's like being a female industrial designer in a male dominated space, to creating and wearing jewelry as sex toys AND a very exciting new Crave product that just launched today! (check out the kickstart for it below). Tis Recommended Resources: 1) Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski 2)Shannon Bodrum - Certified intimacy educator 3) Audre Lorde - The Black feminist, lesbian, poet, mother and warrior Contact Ti: Instagram: @designerti Twitter: @designerti Website: www.lovecrave.com Duet Pro Kickstarter: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/lovecrave/duet-pro-personalize-your-pleasure?ref=deopqc ________ For a FREE custom engraving on a Vesper vibrator necklace, use the code "THEVHIVE" at checkout on WWW.LOVECRAVE.COM. ________ Get 20% off your Let's Get Checked order by going to www.trylgc.com/vhive and entering promo code “VHIVE” at checkout ________ Become a Member of The V Hive: www.thevhive.com/memberships ________ If you want to get in touch with The V Hive, please send an e-mail to info@thevhive.com. ________ Follow The V Hive: INSTAGRAM - @thevhive TWITTER - @thevhive_ FACEBOOK - @thevhivemedia WEBSITE - www.thevhive.com

This week's episode features Shelby Sells, a love, sex & life coach based in New York City. Shelby shares SO much incredible information with us, including how we can be empowered to have more authentic and intimate relationships, how we can explore our sexuality in order to have a more fulfilling sex life and how we can improve our communication skills in order to better express our sexual desires. Shelby also discusses how she trained herself to have a g-spot orgasm & how we can learn to have both better and faster orgasms : ) Shelbys Recommended Resources: 1) The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk 2) Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski 3) Attachment Theory Workbook David Lawson 4) Shelbys Podcast: Emotional Check-in Contact Shelby: Instagram: @shelbysellslove Twitter: @shelbysellslove ________ If you become a member of The V Hive this month (& if you are already a member) 100% of the profits will be donated to The Minnesota Freedom Fund, a non-profit that pays criminal bail and immigration bond for those who cannot afford to as we seek to end discriminatory, coercive, and oppressive jailing. Become a Member @: www.thevhive.com/memberships ________ If you want to get in touch with The V Hive, please send an e-mail to info@thevhive.com. ________ Follow The V Hive: INSTAGRAM - @thevhive TWITTER - @thevhive_ FACEBOOK - @thevhivemedia WEBSITE - www.thevhive.com

Rachel Maine is on a mission to turn the world into a more sex-positive place. Through her company Wellness Sexpertise and her podcast Owning Your Sexual Self, Rachel inspires men and women to talk about their experiences, desires and everything in between. Having started her career in a local domestic violence shelter, Rachel understands how trauma or negative experiences can forever transform a person's relationship with sex and masturbation. Rachel's experience through Pure Romance (a company that sells products for adults only) gave her one-on-one understanding of women's sex journeys, and thanks to that, she now helps people of all backgrounds understand their body, their connection to pleasure and how they can meet their needs through self-pleasure.In this episode, Valerie and Rachel discuss the implications of "the less you know, the more you can control" parent mentality, being raised in a conservative Catholic household, and how parents can harness the power of the internet to break the cycle of shame. As Rachel explains, "so many young adult women don't know who to talk to, to get the advice they need" because as children, they were left to find out things on their own versus having an educated conversation with family members about sex education. Rachel and Valerie also debate the biggest sex challenges in today's society, women's first masturbation and how the act of self-masturbation can do a lot for your self-confidence. Also, Rachel dives deeper into pleasure to explain how women can masturbate the right way, and tell you why you should start looking at feminist porn.Key takeaways from this episode:-Over 80% of women experience low desire to masturbate.-Self-aspiration is deeply connected to self-masturbation.-Sex toys and sex products can be outdated and it's important to understand what you should be using (for your own good).-Sex toys are empowering to help you understand how you experience pleasure and how'd like to be pleasured.-Sex response between genders is very different and there's no reason to think everyone gets it the same way.-Masturbation can help you relieve the stress or body aches you may feel during the day ... and even help you have healthier skin!-Over 80% of women experience orgasms through their clitoris stimulation. -A sex therapist will help you understand the triggers that can cause lack or desire or libido.​Resources on this podcast:She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, by Ian Kernerhttps://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Ian-Kerner-audiobook/dp/B0007Q1CI6/ref=sr_1_1?crid=D8WD50B0J9MO&dchild=1&keywords=she+comes+first&qid=1589912715&sprefix=she+comes+fir%2Caps%2C190&sr=8-1​Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life​, by Emily Nagoski ​https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=come+as+you+are&qid=1589912792&sr=8-1Sex Matters for Women, Second Edition: A Complete Guide to Taking Care of Your Sexual Self​, by Sallie Foley, Sally A. Kope, Dennis P. Sugrue https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Matters-Women-Second-Complete-ebook/dp/B006L6VW9U/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2ZAD68072W7YW&dchild=1&keywords=sex+matters+for+women&qid=1589912859&sprefix=sex+matters+%2Caps%2C182&sr=8-2​Sex with Emily Podcast​https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/sex-with-emily-recorded-in-the-stitcher-studioSmart Sex, Smart Love with Dr. Joe Korthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/smart-sex-smart-love-with-dr-joe-kort/id1471803230​How to connect with Rachel:https://www.buzzsprout.com/764204https://www.facebook.com/pureromance.byrachel.12https://www.instagram.com/rachelmaine_ownyoursexualself/https://www.wellnesssexpertise.com/

This week, Misty and Lisa review the New York Times bestseller Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D. Emily Nagoski is Wellness Education Director and Lecturer at Smith College, where she teaches Women’s Sexuality. She has a PhD in health behavior with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University, and a master’s degree in counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She has taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships and communication, stress management, and sex education. She is the New York Times bestselling author of Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook as well as three guides for Ian Kerner’s GoodInBed.com, including the Guide to Female Orgasm, and her own blog, The Dirty Normal. This is an incredibly comprehensive book, so we cover a few of the topics that were most resonant to us in this Come As You Are book review. And we loved every second of it! To buy the book, learn more about the author, and listen to her podcast, check out her website here! And don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Go Help Yourself!

Episode Notes It's Episode 69 (Nice!), so Devon and Stacy TALK ABOUT SEX! Specifically, they talk about Emily Nagoski's TED Talks and book Come As You Are. The Truth About Unwanted Arousal [How Couples Can Sustain a Strong Sexual Connection for a Lifetime] (https://www.ted.com/talks/emilynagoskihowcouplescansustainastrongsexualconnectionforalifetime) [The Keys to a Happier, Healthier Sex Life] (https://www.ted.com/talks/emilynagoskithekeystoahappierhealthiersex_life?language=en) [Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life] (https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090)

Sexual pleasure is a complex topic and today I'm excited to introduce you to Emily Nagoski. When it comes to understanding both the physiological and psychological aspects of pleasure, she’s an expert who’s done her homework! Tune-in to learn the #1 question you should ask your clients or patients when it comes to their sexual experiences. January 10th, 2020 > Click here to download the completed Matrix from this week’s episode > To get your hands on Emily's book ‘Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life’ click here (recommended reading!) > To learn more about Emily's work click here > You can read more about the “Dual Control Model” here > Click here for episode #21 Mapping Pelvic Pain with Jessica Drummond   Get 15-Minute Matrix podcast notifications delivered to your inbox!

Why do some couples stop having sex? Is it possible to sustain a strong sexual connection over the long-term? And how can you experience more pleasure when life feels stressful and overwhelming? They’re tough questions, but today’s podcast guest, Emily Nagoski, has the answers.Emily Nagoski is a sex educator and the author of the best-selling Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life (which is one of the best book titles ever, right?!). She has a PhD in Health Behavior with a minor in Human Sexuality, is the inaugural Director of Wellness Education at Smith College, and her mission in life is to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies.This conversation is filled with cutting edge research, proven strategies, and plenty of lightbulb moments. Emily offers so much wisdom, but perhaps her greatest gift is giving us language to articulate deeply personal experiences that so many of us have experienced, yet that can often make us feel broken and alone. (Spoiler alert: you are NEITHER of those things!)So if you want to create a better sex life for yourself, experience more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible, and feel true fulfillment within yourself, within your relationship and in the bedroom, then pop in those earbuds… this episode is for you.In this episode we chat about: Her story from teaching sex education to where she is today (06:09)The 2 data-backed strategies for a healthier and happier sex life (11:04)Two techniques that successful couples use to sustain their connection over the long term (14:25)Scheduling sex — Can it work? Should you try it? (18:34)Is there a path back from cheating and infidelity? (22:53)Gender roles and how they manifest in sex (26:39)What is the Human Giver Syndrome? (31:18)How to handle differences in desire with your partner (34:09)How to turn down sex without making your Significant Other feel rejected (37:43)What is arousal non-concordance, why is it so common, and why should we all be talking about it? (41:13)How to get both your head and your body in the moment, to transform your pleasure experience (47:31)The best way to talk about sex with your kids (and what NOT to do!) (51:46) See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On episode No. 6 of the Cafe Binge Podcast, we're getting REAL as I talked with Val Lyons all about sex. That's right, the birds and the bees, and everything in between! She is confident, comfortable and so extremely wise, in her message about love and sex. She encourages women everywhere to take control of their sex lives and inspires them to know your sex life can be just as good at 70 as it was at 20. Join us today, as she plays mom to all of us listening, and offers us 8 tips for making sex and intimacy infinitely better.  Show Notes: Sliquid H2O Orginal Water Based Lubricant  Astroglide X, Premium Waterproof Silicone Personal Lubricant  Woo More Play: Coconut Love Oil Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life     Follow Cafe Binge on Instagram @ cafebinge www.cafebinge.com All original content is copyright 2019 Cafe Binge.

What do you do when you like sex way more than your partner? This episode goes places this mother-daughter duo never imagined when they are asked to answer a listener letter from Sexless Sourpuss. How will Rebecca deal when a show topic threatens to end her 27-year moratorium on talking to Momma B about S-E-X? We are so excited for you to meet our guest for this show, Erika Moen, the talented cartoonist behind “Oh Joy Sex Toy” and co-author of the upcoming book, Drawn to Sex: The Basics, coming out on Nov 6! Buy it on Powell's https://www.powells.com/book/-9781620105443&partnerID=43976 or Amazon: amzn.to/2y105LL. .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. A SEXY GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS Momma B makes book recommendations! Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again by Michele Weiner-Davis https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Busting-Step-Step-Approach/dp/0671797255/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1 Erika makes amazing sex-ed comics! Vaginal Penetration: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/vaginal-intercourse/ Sex positivity: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/sex-positive/ Come as You Are book review: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/come-as-you-are-2/ Wanna buy that book? Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Ph.D. https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090 .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Hosted by Michael Austin Sui. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Erika’s interview was recorded by Jeni Wren Stottrup. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. Join us for our rock opera album premiere. Buy tickets: bit.ly/2OtRyug This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

In this episode I interview Emily Nagoski, PhD., author of the New York Times bestseller “Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life”. Emily’s mission is to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. Find her at emilynagoski.com TOPICS ❤️The dual control model of sexual arousal ❤️Sexual spectatoring ❤️Mindfulness-based interventions for genital pain ❤️Why sexual interest is context dependent ❤️Arousal nonconcordance: lubrication is not causation ❤️Spontaneous/responsive desire ❤️The best predictor of relationship and sexual satisfaction ❤️Why pleasure is the measure of sexual wellbeing ❤️Why sexual fantasies may not match up with real-life desires ❤️How Emily found her way out of an abusive relationship and learned to stop blaming herself Find the full show notes at compassionpodcast.org Support the podcast at www.patreon.com/compassionpodcast

Sex Spoken Here:  Arousal Non-concordance: When your Body says ‘yes’ but you don’t want sex and aren’t enjoying it.     Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.   This week I am talking about arousal nonconcordance.   What? Huh?  I can hear you saying.   In simple terms, arousal nonconcordance is when your genital response doesn’t not match your internal experience.  For example, if you have a vagina, you are feeling really turned on but you are not wet.   Everyone experiences nonconcordance at times and it can be extremely confusing.  The most upsetting examples of nonconcordance, are around rape and sexual assault.  Many people experience orgasm during rape and this can lead them to believe that they wanted the rape.  Sometimes worse than the self-blame is the blame heaped on them by others – and the attitude of the criminal justice system when they are not aware that nonconcordance is a normal response in these situations and that orgasm does not mean that there was desire, enjoyment or consent.   Dr Emily Nagoski, sex educator discusses nonconcordance in detail in her book ‘Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life.’ She gave a TED talk at TED2018 that covered this topic as well.   She highlights that when sex research is done with men measuring penile response to determine arousal in response to stimuli and comparing it to subjective arousal reported by the man, there is only about a 50% concordance between the two.    That means 50% of the time there is nonconcordance – the man reports arousal but his penis doesn’t harden or the man doesn’t report arousal but his penis is hard.   She reports that if you do the same experiment with a woman – there is only 10 percent overlap.  Think about that for a second.  Though a woman’s genitals react to sexually relevant stimuli, the overlap with subjective arousal is only 10%.    What does this actually mean?  Something can be sexually relevant but not something a person would find desirable.  Bondage is sexually relevant but Marc finds it tedious.   Images of anal sex are sexually relevant and cause Jerry to lubricate but she finds the idea of anal sex repugnant.  One of the things this highlights is how important the brain is in female sexual response.    Emily Nagoski talks about Ross Buck’s framework to think about emotion that allows us to better understand nonconcordance.  ‘Emotion I is the involuntary physiological response – your heart rate and blood pressure, pupil dilation, digestion, sweating immune functioning.  Genital response falls into this category and my college friend who got wet while she was bored, tied up waiting for her partner to come back, experienced this kind of response but nothing else. Emotion II is involuntary expressive response to a feeling.  It’s body language- or more accurately, paralanguage – things like vocal inflection, posture, and facial expression – all the cues we use to infer another person’s internal state.  A great dinner date will be full of Emotion II, as you find yourself putting your hand on your date’s arm, gazing into their eyes and smiling.  These are often influenced by culture but have a great deal of universality and they can be intentionally controlled to some degree but not as much as you might think.  Did you choose the expression on your face right now?  Emotion III is subjective experience of a feeling. If someone asks you how you feel and you check in with yourself to find the answer, what you’re noticing is Emotion III.  This is subjective arousal – the conscious experience of ‘I want you so much I can hardly stand it’  which may or may not be accompanied by genital response (Emotion I) or eye contact (Emotion II).   So nonconcordance is not only related to sex – it is related to all expression of emotion as well.   There are three myths related to nonconcordance that Emily Nagoski highlights as being particularly dangerous.  The first one is the most long lasting and the most dangerous in my view.  This is the myth that genital response means someone is sexually aroused.   This is true for both men and women.  Men are more likely to experience this in the form of missing genital response but feelings of sexual arousal and then assume they are not really aroused or that there is something wrong with them.  Men can experience a lack of an erection at a time when they really want sex and not understand what is happening.  They will go looking for a cause when it fact it is simply nonconcordance.    Why is this particularly dangerous, because it encourages people to question their subjective feelings of arousal.    When someone does this, they begin to question their judgment and may agree to do things that don’t cause them pleasure and that they don’t want to do.    It is the myth that leads to men telling women who say they don’t want to do something or even saying a clear no that they obviously are aroused because they are wet.    Genital response is a conditioned reflex – it is the body expecting activity because it is exposed to a sexually relevant stimuli.    Again – it does not suggest wanting.   Genital response does not mean turned on.  Subjective response is the only completely sure way to assess whether someone is turned on and so you need to be talking with a partner or potential partner.   Myth number 2 is that genital response means enjoying.  This is when it is suggested that a woman’s genitals are giving the ‘truth’ about what is really turning them on and that women are either ‘in denial’, ‘out of touch with their bodies’, ‘lying’ or ‘completely repressed and not aware of their own deep desires.’    This myth is dangerous as it encourages men to push forward justifying this behaviour by saying the woman is not aware of her own desires – suggesting her genitals will highlight what is really true.    The danger is obvious.  If your genitals tell you the ‘truth’ about arousal and you lubricate when being sexually assaulted or become erect when being sexually assaulted then it means that you wanted or enjoyed the assault.   This could not be further from the truth since genitals only signpost that something is sexually relevant not enjoyable or wanted.   For example research has women (and men) reacting with genital response to movies of monkeys mating.   Genitals react to mating as something that is a sexual act but I haven’t yet met someone who has a fetish about monkeys mating (so no wanting or enjoying). For women, the biggest part of arousal occurs in the mind.  The evidence of this is the only 10% overlap between genital response and subjective arousal.  For men, 50% overlap means that about 50% of arousal is in the mind.   Finally, the third myth is that nonconcordance is a problem.    That is to say, if your genital response is not matching with your subjective response there must be a problem that needs treating.  This is wholly untrue.    There is a relationship between nonconcordance and sexual dysfunction but a relationship is NOT causation.  None of the research suggests that there is any causative relationship.    The most important take aways for all of this:  To know if someone is sexually aroused and enjoying what is happening, you have to listen to their words not to their genitals.  That is why it is so important to gain verbal consent and not to make assumptions that because someone is responding genitally that is consent.    Nonconcordance is normal and common.  The person who is nonconcordant does not need to be fixed.  They just need to trust their own brains and their partners just need to listen to their words.   This week I talked about arousal nonconcordance.  If this triggers you or you have a comment to make, email me at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com. Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://the-intimacy-coach.com/and click the button that says click here! on the contact page. Please leave a review on iTunes and stitcher if you enjoy the show. I look forward to seeing you next week.    

In this episode, I chat with Actress/Musician Courtney McClean about following your dreams and pursuing your passion, no matter the cost. Guest Bio:  Courtney McClean (born McLean) is a comedic performer/writer, musician, storyteller, actress, and co-host of the upcoming podcast "Bits & Ask." A native Californian, Courtney was raised in Orange County, spent a few years in San Diego, then a few years in New York City, then a few more years in the Twin Cities, MN. She's now currently based in Los Angeles, CA, and plans on staying there. Courtney has also authored numerous songs, stories, and jokes and presented them on stages all over North America. NYTheatre.com said she is “funny and endearing with a seductive twinkle in her eye,” and Twin Cities’ Metromag.com said Courtney “is uproariously funny… a superb storyteller.” Her band Courtney McClean & The Dirty Curls, pioneers of naughtybilly (dirty & bluegrassy comedy music), was recently crowned City Pages’ Music Artists of the Year 2014. 89.3 The Current’s Local Current Blog coined The Curls “Minnesota’s most ribald bluegrass group” with the release of their debut album on Stand Up! Records, “This One’s For Dad.” Andrea Swensson, The Current's Local Show Host, was the City Pages Music Editor when she called The Dirty Curls “Irresistible,” and Lucy Michell, then of Lucy Michelle and the Velvet Lapelles, said live on stage that Courtney was “the Peaches of bluegrass.” Courtney has read alongside Ileana Douglas and Michael Urie in Minneapolis’ edition of Celebrity Autobiography, and had a story published in the anthology “Dirty Girls Come Clean.” Her comedic bluegrass stylings have charmed the crowds at the Hell Yes Comedy Festival in New Orleans, and at Stand Up! Records' Akumal Comedy Festival (in Akumal, Mexico, duh). She has been heard on the radio on San Diego’s old Star 100.7 FM, and Minnesota Public Radio, Twin Cities’ KFAI and myTalk107.1, as a frequent contributor to "Laughing Matters" with Robert Baril on MN's AM 950, and countless podcasts including her stint as a co-host on the Twin Cities' Hit Show. In 2011, Courtney was #52 of the Twin Cities’ City Pages 100 Creatives. For more information, please visit Courtney's website: courtneymcclean.com Courtney McClean and The Dirty Curls : YouTube Courtney McClean and The Dirty Curls : Facebook In this episode, we discuss: Books: Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life The Highly Sensitive Person The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles Music: Magic Spell : This Is The Kit Tori Amos Alanis Morissette Podcast : Conversations With Alanis Morissette  Comedy: Maria Bamford Chris Maddock : Point of Entry Broad City // Think Outside the Lines Podcast Subscribe / Leave a review on iTunes Subscribe on Soundcloud Subscribe on Player.FM Subscribe on Stitcher (Must have an account) // If you would like to stay updated on all things podcast-related, click here to sign up for the mailing list. // Return to main podcast page //

This week we're looking at the intersection of human sexuality, research and education. We're joined by sexuality educator and blogger Emily Nagoski, to talk about her book "Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life." And we'll speak to medical humanities and bioethics professor Alice Dreger, about her experience live-tweeting her son's abstinence-focused sex-ed class.