Podcasts about tenderhearted

"Be a man." Three words that have gotten a lot of guys in trouble. Too many of us have done too many dumb things to prove what a "man" we were. But it seems more confusing than ever to know what that even means. Being a man. Is it changing diapers and watching Hallmark movies? Or increasing your bench press and wearing camos? Is it conquest or compassion? Tenderness or toughness? Is it hiding your feelings or feeling your feelings? "Toxic masculinity" at one pole, passive manhood at the other. As we approach another Father's Day, I'm not feeling a great urge to pontificate on manhood. What I do have is an urge to remember my Dad. And the man who changed him. When I was a kid, Dad was a machinist. By the time I was a teenager he'd become a plant manager - only a high school graduate. On his own time, he was a leader at church, even chairman of a couple nonprofit boards. Recently I was asked to write a paragraph about my dad for a broadcasters' magazine. He was strong in his convictions and honest. Mischievously funny. Hardworking. Always fair. Always there. But as I sat at my keyboard, staring at the wall for the words, one word just kept coming to mind. "Tenderhearted." For all my dad's obvious strengths as a leader, I remember the man who wasn't afraid of tears. When he was moved, you knew it. He was moved by a son's adolescent accomplishments... when he became a grandpa... when he saw people hurt. Most of all, he was deeply moved when he thought about my baby brother who died suddenly at six months. And he really teared up when he thought about the man he used to be and the God who changed him. I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about "Messy Manhood and Dynamite Dads." My dad thought of himself as very average. His priorities were anything but average. You can read it on his tombstone. With all the titles he had in his life, on his grave it simply says, "John Hutchcraft. Husband. Father." And after all is said and done, that's his legacy. Others could be foreman or chairman or boss. Only he could be our husband and father. So with all the craziness about manhood, this Father's Day I'll go with the one who defined the word Dad for a boy named Ronnie. He was strong but sensitive. Fighting for what is right, but still a peacemaker. Neither toxic nor timid. Achieving but putting people first. But most of all, I think about the Man who changed my Dad into the man I've been describing. For when my brother died, my Dad was totally lost. His broken heart led him to an old rugged cross. Where Jesus died to pay for every sin John Hutchcraft ever did. John Hutchcraft gave up driving that day - his life, that is. And Jesus took the wheel. And made him the man I remember, I love, and I miss. Our word for today from the Word of God makes me think of my dad. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, "Therefore, if any man be in Christ, he is a new creation: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new." Jesus. Tough enough to single handedly drive crooks out of the temple, but tender enough that children clamored to sit on his lap. Strong enough that men would leave everything to follow Him. Yet caring enough to elevate women in a world that crushed their dreams. The Savior who has made many a man what he could never have been without Him. I'm one of them. When a man experiences Jesus forgiving... His unconditional love... His power to change - he now has nothing to prove. Nothing to hide. And nothing to lose. He is free to lead. And free to love. My friend, if you want to begin a relationship with Him (which I hope you do!), go to our website. There's more there about how you can belong to Him. The website is ANewStory.com. So I'm very blessed this Father's Day. I think I know all I need to know about being a man. From the one I call Dad. And, most of all, from the One I call Savior.

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In this episode of Thinking Christian, Dr. James Spencer welcomes Bible teacher, author, and podcaster Lisa Harper for a rich, heartfelt conversation about her new book A Jesus-Shaped Life. Together, they explore how diving into theology isn’t about elitism or intellect—it’s about intimacy. Lisa shares stories that are as moving as they are humorous (yes, snot and sanctification are both on the table), revealing how theological reflection is meant to be lived out in community, kindness, and Christlikeness. From Leviticus to the Trinity, from doctrinal missteps to the presence of God, this episode reminds us that theology done well brings us closer to Jesus and shapes us to reflect His radical love in the world. Whether you're a seminary student or someone whose eyes glaze over at the word "pericope," this episode will meet you where you are—and invite you deeper.

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Join us for "Tenderhearted" A discussion of Ephesians 4:17-32 with Dr. Matt Homeyer from the sermon series A Worthy Life. This episode aired on March 2nd, 2025.

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Dr. Charles Blackstock preaches on the importance of having a tender heart.

Welcome to Motivational Sundays with Kevin and Friends! In this heartfelt episode, we reflect on gratitude, kindness, and forgiveness, inspired by the biblical quote: "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32). Vanessa shares a moving Thanksgiving experience, emphasizing the importance of forgiveness and inner peace. Christopher recounts a powerful story of compassion during a city parade, reminding us of the impact of small acts of kindness. Join us for inspiring conversations every Sunday at 9 AM EST, as we explore meaningful quotes and how they resonate in our lives. Don't miss this uplifting discussion! Subscribe, like, and share to spread positivity! #MotivationalSundays #Kindness #Forgiveness #Gratitude

Pastor Bob started today’s teaching by telling the children of what happened to him during his third grade year. He was enticed by the other boys on the playground to run over and pull the hair of the girl with the long braids. Pastor Bob wanted to be accepted as “one of the boys” so he did it. But as soon as he pulled her braids, the little girl started crying. He felt so badly that he ran and hid behind the bicycle rack and cried, too. May God bless you as you engage in worship. Please feel free to leave feedback/comments to let us know you joined in worship. If you’d like to contribute to the ongoing ministry of Two Rivers Community Church of the Nazarene please use this link: paypal.com/us/fundraiser/charity/64291

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At Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Charleston, SC, our senior pastor Rev. Craig Bailey continued preaching his First Peter sermon series.

God is Tenderhearted. He's our strong Tower, Teacher, and the Truth. Today, we're discovering more of God's character to discover more of our identity. And joining us is a special guest, Courtney Lowman! Courtney Lowman is a speaker and podcaster with a passion to see Gen Z and all future generations experience the benefits of discipleship and mentorship. Alongside her podcast and conference appearances, Courtney has developed programs to aid churches in creating a culture of disciple multiplication within their congregation. Courtney serves alongside her husband in their church's college ministry and loves baking, reading, and drinking coffee with young women.WHAT IS NEUE THING?Neue Thing is a non-profit ministry, founded by Cherie Wagner, that exists to equip women with the Word of God. Cherie's life-long passion is two-fold: knowing Jesus Christ and making Him known. Author of Found On My Knees, Awake O Sleeper, Rest, Hope, Psalms for Life, and Knowing Your Name, Cherie writes Bible studies for women that will encourage them to know and believe God's Word, equip them to live it, and empower them to take it and transform this generation for Jesus Christ.CONNECT WITH NEUE THINGWebsite: https://neuething.org/Email Subscription link:https://neuething.us2.list-manage.com/subscribe?Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neuethinginc/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/neuethingGive to Neue Thing: https://neuething.org/give/RESOURCESProverbs: The Wise, The Fool, The WickedKnowing Your NameFound On My Knees: The Journey from Brokenness to BlessingAwake O Sleeper: EphesiansRest: 30 Days of Exploring God's Invitation to RestHope: Tethered to an Unwavering GodPsalms for Life

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The Rev. Javier Almendárez-Bautista preaches on the twelfth Sunday after Pentecost.

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One of the things we pride ourselves in delivering through our FC2.0 podcasts is a willingness to dive into our conversational walk-abouts without holding back. We fancy ourselves as comfortably authentic. No spin that's not exposed. That's why we might need to apologize for today's episode. As it turns out, David's desire to chat about "fibby-fibs" may have been a veiled attempt to coax Dr. Dave from his sleepy state for the sake of a more energetic, entertaining listening experience. Alas, this truth was left unsaid during our recording. Pray for us.

Justina Page is an international speaker and natural storyteller who speaks with a bold and refreshing honesty. She's the author of the award-winning book, The Circle of Fire which tells the story of how Justina's life was changed forever when fire swept through her home, the loss of her 22-month-old twin son, Amos, the severe lasting injuries of her other twin son, Benjamin, and her own devastating experience of third-degree burns covering 55 percent of her body. She's also the author of 20 other literary works. Justina now inspires audiences with a powerful message of hope and triumph. She's the Founder & Executive Director of The Amos House of Faith, a nonprofit organization, established to provide post-burn support to families affected by burn trauma. She's a voice over actor and children audio producer. She's also an actress in the award-winning faith-based movie We Are Stronger, the inspirational TV series Breaking Strongholds, and a few other upcoming films. She resides in Richmond, TX with her husband of 37 years Pastor James Page. She believes that with God, all things are possible!

I. Christians must forgive others who sin against us, and keep on forgiving them, vv21-22. II. But how do we do that? What can give us a heart to do that?, vv23-34. III. We aren't a forgiven person if we don't forgive others from our heart, v35. 

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What do you think it means to be kind to one another? Ephesians 4:31-32We are (LIVE) on our website's [Morning Devo] podcast now!:::: https://soulwinnerz.org and we want to see who you are by simply clicking here https://chat.restream.io/fb :::::Visit our Sponsors: https://soulwinnerz.orgSupport: https://soulwinnerz.org/donateBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-blaze-bible-study--525630/support.

In part 1 of our Games People Play series, Mike reveals how Jesus wants us to show mercy to others.

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God Is So Kind, Tenderhearted, and Patient!Psalm 103:8-9 “Lord, you're so kind and tenderhearted and so patient with people who fail you! Your love is like a flooding river overflowing its banks with kindness. You don't look at us only to find our faults just so that you can hold a grudge against us.”Today's verses are ones I think we all need to hear over and over again. They speak such truths in them, yet they are often forgotten, or we simply don't believe them. The first line says, “Lord, you're so kind and tenderhearted and so patient with people who fail you!” God truly is patient with us. If you need evidence of this, look back at the Old Testament in the Bible. Look how many times God's people turned away from Him. Look how many times he did miraculous things for them, and they repaid Him by worshiping idols. It wasn't one or two times. It was often. Look at when He saved them from Egypt, where they were slaves, and then they complained because they didn't have meat to eat. He gave them this miraculous substance called manna daily to eat, but they wanted more.The Lord often told them to do something, and they did the opposite. They had so many kings who wanted to rely on other nations to protect them instead of relying on the one true God to protect them. Ever since the fall, when Adam & Eve ate the apple, man has failed the Lord. You can see even in the New Testament where we failed the Lord. The worst is when we crucified the Son of God. However, the apostles failed to trust Jesus or understand what He was saying all along the way.God is still so kind and so patient with us. Even when you fail, and we all fail. Romans 2:23 says, “ For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Then the very next verse says, “and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Can you see how kind, tenderhearted, and patient He is with us? Even after all the times we turned away in the Old Testament, God still sent His only Son to be crucified for our sins. This also brings us to the next part of today's verses: "Your love is like a flooding river overflowing its banks with kindness.”Take a moment, close your eyes, and imagine a river overflowing its banks. Imagine how much water there must be in that river. Image what it looks like for that overflowing water to cover the river's surrounding land. Can you picture water covering the grass, the rocks, the dirt, everything? This is what the Lord's love is like. It covers us with kindness. His love covers our dirt, our sins, and all of our weaknesses. What I love about this imagery is that you can't control the water overflowing from a river. It can't be contained. There is just too much to stay contained it the river. It just overflows to everything around it. This is what God's love does for us. It fills us up and then overflows to all those who surround us.The following line says, “You don't look at us only to find our faults just so that you can hold a grudge against us.” This is a very common belief. I have talked to many people who admit that they think of God as a judge sitting up in heaven, looking down on us, and just waiting for us to screw up so He can punish us. I have known in my heart for a long time now that this is not true, and now I have a Bible verse to confirm it. It's interesting that this line comes right after the line about God's love overflowing with kindness. God doesn't have to wait up in heaven, just waiting for us to mess up. He already knows what we will do before we do it. He knows when and where you will mess up. And guess what? He loves us anyway. He forgives us anyway.I think it is hard to picture God as a good and loving father if we don't have a good and loving father.  If our father was always waiting for us to screw up so he could punish us, then we can transfer that to God. Also, if we grew up with this image of God in our minds, it can be tough to switch our thinking. If we struggle to believe that our heavenly Father is loving and doesn't just look at our faults, we don't need to look any further than the cross. God sent Jesus to pay for our sins. Ellen Gould White said, “Christ was treated as we deserve that we may be treated as He deserves. He was condemned for our sins, in which He had no share, that we might be justified by His righteousness, in which we had no share. He suffered the death which was ours, that we might receive His life. 'By His stripes, we are healed.”Does that sound like a Father who is just looking for our faults? Does it sound like someone looking for a reason to hold a grudge against us? If God wanted to hold a grudge against us, He wouldn't have to sit around waiting for us to sin; we sin daily. We turn away from God frequently. God has plenty of reasons to hold grudges, yet He doesn't. Romans 5:8 is also reminds us of this, “ But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” God didn't wait for us to stop sinning to save us. Luckily, because I don't think that is possible on this side of heaven. He saved us, knowing we would keep sinning. Jesus chose to die on that cross, not just for the sins of that day, but all the sins before that day, on that day, and all future sins.When we hear all of that, it is hard to view our Lord as someone just sitting up in heaven waiting for us to sin so that he can punish us. Viewing Him like this doesn't make sense when we think about all He has sacrificed to save us. Father Mike always says truth can't contradict truth. The words in the Bible are truth. They are the Words of God. The Bible is telling us plain and simple that God is not someone who looks at us only to find our faults, just so that you can hold a grudge against us. The facts in the Bible show us just how loving God really is. If you struggle to see what a loving Father in heaven we have, I urge you to read about Him in the Bible. Read the Psalms, the New Testament, and the Song of Songs. Read pretty much any part of the Bible, and you will be able to see how great God has loved us over the years. Looking back at our lives through the lens of “What had God done for us over the years?” we will see all the amazing things He has done for us. He really is a good, good Father.Dear Heavenly Father, I ask you to bless all those listening to this episode today. Thank you for loving us so well. Thank you for showing us what true love looks like. Lord, we ask that you show us what a good Dad you are. For all of us struggling to get an accurate image or feeling of you, we ask that you help us, Lord. Please show us what to read and where to learn more. Lord, show us who you really are. Give us a renewal of our mind. Teach us to see the real you! We love you, Lord, and we ask all of this in accordance with your will and in Jesus' holy name, Amen!Thank you so much for joining me on this journey to walk boldly with Jesus. I look forward to meeting you here again tomorrow. Remember, Jesus loves you, and so do I! Have a blessed day!

It's easy to love people who love you back. This episode gives some practical steps to learning how to remain tenderhearted after you've been broken in some way by the relationships that matter most. * Although not discussed in great detail, this episode briefly mentions sensitive topics that may be triggering for some listeners. Check out HeavenatHome.org  Follow Ashley on Instagram: ashleyem.official  Follow Ashley on Facebook: ashleyem.official  Support this podcast --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heavenathome/support

In past episodes of the Max Lucado Encouraging Word Podcast, we've talked about praying for our children and speaking encouraging words to our spouses. These things are so important, and, by God's grace, we'll do them often. But what about when it's really, really hard? The Bible has something to say about this too: Love bears all things.

In past episodes of the Max Lucado Encouraging Word Podcast, we've talked about praying for our children and speaking encouraging words to our spouses. These things are so important, and, by God's grace, we'll do them often. But what about when it's really, really hard? The Bible has something to say about this too: Love bears all things.

Can what you say affect my joy? How would you pay an insulter back with a blessing?1 Peter 3:8-10We are (LIVE) on our website's [Morning Devo] podcast now!:::: https://live.soulwinnerz.org and we want to see who you are by simply clicking here https://chat.restream.io/fb :::::Visit our Sponsors: https://soulwinnerz.org

I can't believe we are back to school in two weeks. In honor if returning back to school, I thought we shoudl revist one of my favorite episodes with one of my favorite Early Childhood Teachers, TenderHearted Teacher, Sally. Thank you for joining me on another episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me. In this episode, I chat with Sally, a toddler mom, and special education preschool teacher. Sally has over 10 years of experience working with young children. Sally is the Education blogger behind The Blog TenderHearted Teacher.  Her blog and social media platforms provide topics on early academics,  Social-emotional learning; she uses her platform to support other parents and caregivers by giving them strategies on how to encourage overall development. I am obsessed with providing kids with critical thinking skills at an early age; Sally does a wonderful job of breaking down critical thinking skills and introducing the skill to kids as part of their early education.  Highlights: At a Higher level, critical thinking skills allow us to take in new information, use it, and allows us to form new ideas. Set goals, communicate, and collaborate with others. [00:01:45] Deciding to go into teaching. [00:04:15] Critical thinking. [00:10:46] Teaching critical thinking skills. [00:12:45] Encouraging play at home. [00:17:06] Open-ended play and creativity. [00:22:03] Supporting social emotional learning. [00:24:07] Teaching empathy and emotional awareness. [00:29:01] Watching children grow and develop. [00:34:26] Tantrums are a natural part. [00:37:13] Prioritizing self-care as a parent. [00:41:14] Social emotional skills in life. [00:45:30] Life skills and academic success. [00:49:31] Using recyclable materials for STEM activities. [00:55:43] Teaching critical thinking skills. [00:57:56] Sharing knowledge and raising thoughtful children. [01:02:01] Making a difference in education. Connect with Sally on Instagram Connect with me on Instagram Read Sally's blog posts at TenderHearted Teacher Be sure to check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals. For more, visit our website --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/what-i-wish/support

Forgiving What You Can't Forget Pt. 2   We're discussing part two of forgiving what you can't forget and continuing to talk about the fourfold path to forgiveness. These references come from Desmond and Mpho Tutu's book The Book on Forgiving. It's an incredible book; so well written. When I read this book, it was like a really kind, sweet, older gentleman, uncle, grandpa, that kind of person, who was just, loves you through his words. That's the best way that I can describe it. It's such a compassionate, gentle book, but with powerful truths.    Step 2 - Name the Hurt The next step in the fourfold path to forgiveness is naming the hurt. It's one thing for you to tell the story. For example, this thing happened to me,  my husband was unfaithful, my wife depleted our bank account, whatever the situation is. But it's another thing for you to then name the hurt for you to actually get real about what was lost. What did you lose when that thing happened? Get real specific about that. I've had quite a few things happen in my life that have caused me grief, and I've just kind of moved on. Now, that's not to say that I haven't grieved at all, but if I'm honest, I probably skipped some steps because I don't like to feel sad. I don't like feeling sorrow. I don't like to think about loss. So to really be honest and real with myself about the fact that I really lost something there takes a lot of work. It takes a lot of honesty.    It takes a lot of vulnerability to just sit with that and to realize that some of the things that you lost, you can never get back. If you were, God forbid, sexually assaulted as a child, you lost your innocence, and you won't be able to get that back. Now, that does not mean that you're damaged goods. It doesn't mean that your life is over and you're somehow always going to be walking around with a scarlet A on your forehead. Absolutely not. But it does mean that you have to acknowledge that something was lost. So a part of naming the hurt is super important because it allows you to stop pretending or minimizing what happened. It's one thing to, again, be general, I was hurt, I was betrayed, I was let down. It's another thing to say, this is the hurt. I lost my confidence, I lost my security, I lost the closeness that I felt with that person. I lost my safety, I lost my savings. Whatever it might be, whatever was lost. It's important that you're able to name that and not just the tangible things, but the Nontangibles. That's super important that we're able to do that. Be specific about what it is that you lost.    Good Grief There's another book, and I'll link to this in the show notes of this podcast. It's called Good Grief by Granger Westburg. I read this book back in 2008 after my best friend passed away from breast cancer, and I've talked about this before on the show. I've told you just now that I'm not the greatest at dealing with grief. So I had to start seeing a grief counselor because I could not move on. Now, obviously, you're dealing with a very significant loss, like people expect you to grieve for a while, right? But this was different. It wasn't like I was in denial. I knew that she had died, but it really affected me in ways that I did not know what to do with. And so I started seeing a grief counselor. And that was one of the best decisions that I ever did because I think had I not started seeing that grief counselor, I probably would have just masked it under some religious jargon, like, “Oh, she's in glory, bless the Lord.” That's not what we need to do when we are going through loss and pain. We don't need to mask it in some religious ideology.    ALSO LISTEN TO EP. 47: GRIEVING WITH HOPE    Step 3 - Granting Forgiveness Step three is granting forgiveness. Now, I say this a lot, and I'm going to say it again, that forgiveness is both a choice and a process. You are not always going to feel like forgiving. And forgiveness is not just something as easy as just like, I forgive you. Okay, let's move on. It starts off as a choice, but then you have to work it out as a process. These four steps that I'm giving you today is the process, or a process. So when I tell you that you need to grant forgiveness, it is a choice. You have to get to a point where you realize that when you withhold forgiveness from someone, you're truly only hurting yourself in the long run.    Scientific studies have shown what unforgiveness does to the human body. Our bodies were not meant to hold on to unforgiveness. Your body was not meant to hold on to unforgiveness. You were not created to hold that much pain, to absorb that much trauma unhealed. So when you choose not to forgive, you're choosing to stay stuck in your trauma and in your shame, and in your pain. I tweeted this years ago. It's not my original tweet, but “Holding on to unforgiveness is like drinking poison, expecting the other person to die.” Some of the people that we are not forgiving have gone on about their lives, and they are not thinking about you at all. They're not thinking about what they did. They're not thinking about your hurt. They're not thinking about anything. They are living their best life, and you're the one stuck in the trauma. How do you get out of it? Well, you choose to forgive them.    Forgiveness is also not something that they earn. Forgiveness is a gift. They don't have to ever ask you for an apology. I know that's hard to hear because we want that. We need that. It's like, wait a minute, you hurt me. You need to apologize. And the truth is, in a perfect world, absolutely that would work. But not everybody's going to apologize. Maybe they don't think that what they did was wrong. Maybe they're a jerk. So maybe that person has died and they'll never be able to acknowledge what they did. They'll never be able to apologize. And this is why forgiveness is not predicated on someone asking for an apology. Forgiveness is simply a choice that you make. It's what you choose to do. I choose to forgive you, even if you're unworthy. Even if you never ask for my forgiveness. Even if you don't think you did anything wrong. This is hard. You all easier said than done. I get it. I get it. But when you choose to forgive, you release yourself. Yeah, you release that person, but you really release yourself. You release yourself from them having to pay you back for whatever they did. Forgiveness is a gift. And I think one of the things that really helps us to forgive others is realizing that we have been forgiven.   When we realize that we're humans, and I know that sounds so oversimplified, like everyone's human, but truthfully, we have done things to others that we didn't intend to do. We have hurt other people. We have caused people pain. And sometimes we meant to and sometimes we didn't. So when we're able to get in touch with that side of ourselves, with our humanity, then it gives us grace for other people. It gives us compassion for other people. Even when they hurt us, it gives us empathy for other people.    Forgiving Keeps Your Heart Tender Maybe you need to forgive yourself. Maybe you've done something that is just so horrible and you've not forgiven yourself. It's time for you to put yourself in the forgiveness box. It's time for you to give yourself some grace, some compassion, some empathy. And that is what happens when we choose to forgive. We set ourselves free. We set the other person free. Ephesians 4:32, one of my favorite scriptures, says, “Be kind one to another, tender-hearted forgiving one another, even as God, for Christ's sakes, has forgiven you.” Think about that. Tenderhearted. When you forgive, you keep your heart tender. You see when you choose to hold on to unforgiveness, it makes your heart hard and calloused.    And you wonder why you can't love. You wonder why you can't bond. You wonder why there's a wall up between you and other people. It's because when you hold on to unforgiveness, it hardens you. It embitters you. But when you're able to forgive, you have a tender heart. You keep your heart soft and pliable and flexible. Maybe you think but then people are going to hurt you again. Maybe they will. But I'd rather have a tender heart that's open to love and that's open to accepting people and living with others with all of their weaknesses, all of their flaws, all of their insecurities, and mine vs being this hardened, tough person who's trying to protect myself from all the hurts in the world. Because guess what, friend? You can live like that all you want. And people are still going to figure out a way to hurt you. So you may as well live with a tender heart.    Step 4 - Renew or Release the Relationship    Step four is to renew or release the relationship. This is an important conversation here because there is a difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. There are some relationships that are not going to be able to be reconciled. Like I said earlier, there might be people in your life who have died. You can't be reconciled with them. There might be people in your life who are completely unsafe, and I've had to do that with some people. I will offer forgiveness, but we will not have a relationship. I'm not going to be bitter. I'm not going to egg your house. I'm not going to pray for your demise, but we will not be reconciled, and that is okay. You want to use those situations sparsely. You don't want that to be your M.O. for everybody. You don't want that to be how you treat people. But the truth is, there are some relationships that can be renewed. In Thrive Relationship Coaching, we talk about how to actually restore your relationships, but then even with that, I understand that there are going to be some relationships that are not going to be able to be restored.   There are some relationships that aren't going to be able to be restored, but there are many relationships that can be. So how do you know the difference? How do I know if this relationship can be restored or if I need to be able to release it? Repentance? Is that person truly repentant? Are they willing to make repairs? If they're not willing to make repairs and if they're not repentant, well, then that leaves you with your answer.    To Forget or Not Forget?   Yes, there are times that you can wipe the slate clean, when have chosen to forgive. It's then that you need to start over and wipe the slate clean. This is what it means to “keep no record of wrongs,” like it says in 1 Corinthians 13. This does not mean that love allows you to just be taken advantage of or that love never brings up wrongs. It said, keeps no record, meaning that you're not always throwing in the face something that your spouse or whoever did to you. So when you decide your relationship can be repaired, renewed, or restored, it's time to wipe the slate clean. Next, you do what the Bible teaches in Philippians 3: “forget what lies behind and you press forward to what lies ahead.”   Now, the title of this episode is Forgiving What You Can't Forget. So am I contradicting myself? No. And neither is the word of God when it says forgetting what lies behind. God knows that we're human beings and we're not going to technically forget. But it means that you no longer focus on that thing. That thing is in your rearview mirror. So just like you driving down the street and you see some houses and some fields and some cars. When you pass those things, those things are in your past, they're done. You're probably not going to keep staring in your rearview mirror because then guess what? You'll miss everything that's in front of you. That's how healthy relationships work. Once you forgive, now it's behind you. That doesn't mean that you'll never think about it. That doesn't mean that you won't even sometimes reach back in the past to help other people with your story as I said earlier. But it does mean that you're no longer harping on that thing. You're no longer focusing on it. It's not tripping you up anymore. You're choosing to let the past be the past, and you're choosing to press ahead to what lies ahead in the future. And if you're not able to do that, then that relationship is not going to be restored or repaired.    Release the Hurt   So this brings us to our final point here, which is forgiveness is about releasing. It's about releasing the hurt. So just like we named the hurt, now it's about releasing the hurt. Just like you confronted the person, now it's about releasing the person. Just like you had to tell your story, now it's about releasing that story so that you can now tell a different story.   God has used our story to bless many, many marriages so that they could know that there is truly nothing that you will go through in your marriage that God can't fix and heal so long as you're willing to do the work. And this is why we end every episode by saying that a good relationship is not one that works. A good relationship is one where you put in the work. You've got to put in the work. There's no magic wand fairy dust that God's doing for some people and not for others. That's not how it works. If you're willing to do the work, if you're willing to go through this process of forgiveness that we've talked about, anything can work.   If you're ready to do the work of restoring your relationship, schedule your discovery call with me at http://danache.com/getstarted.    Links Mentioned in this Episode    Episode 149: Forgiving What You Can't Forget - Pt. 1 Episode 116: Love Keeps No Record of Wrongs - with Dr. J. Calvin Tibbs     SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, Stitcher, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! So, share these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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I greet you in Jesus' precious name! It is Monday morning, 29th May, 2023, and this is your friend, Angus Buchan, with a thought for today. We start in Ephesians 4:32: “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” And then we go straight to John 8:11: “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”Thats what Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery, when he said to all those men that wanted to stone her - “The one who has no sin can cast the first stone.” And remember, they all threw their stones down and walked away, then he said to the woman, “I don't condemn you either.”The Lord Jesus Christ wants you and me to be kind to one another - forgiving and patient, just as Jesus has been to us. I want to say to the young people, when you see an old man or lady and they seem grumpy, or a little bit short, don't be too hard on them. You don't know what they have been going through. Maybe that old man is battling with a very bad back and he is in constant pain. Maybe that old lady is mourning because the man in her life, that she has been married to for 60 years, has now gone home and she is lonely. Be kind and understanding. Those young people, be patient with them. Some of them are confused and are letting off a bit of steam because they don't know how to get rid of the stress in their lives. Be kind to them, just a smile in season, oh man, it is so nice to see somebody greet you and give you a nod, a smile or a wave. It doesn't cost anything does it? Those are the kind of things that we need to do. When you go to a restaurant and have a good meal, when was the last time you went through to the kitchen and said to the chef, “That was a fantastic meal. Thank you very much!”? We need to be kind to one another. I have got a trustee, in fact I have four, but I have one who is a senior trustee - 88 years young! He is a kind man. He is a great achiever, he has done many great things in his life, but you know what touches my heart more than anything else? When we have a trustee's meeting, he brings a chocolate cake to the meeting... That really touches me. He doesn't have to do that but he likes to do that. He is always asking, “How are you, Angus? How is your wife? How is the family?” Be kind to one another because this world needs kindness, love and forgiveness, like never, ever before. In other words, be Jesus to people today. God bless you and have a wonderful day,Goodbye.

Life robs us of compassion. As little children, we tend to be naturally gentle, empathetic, and sensitive. But as we grow into adulthood, it's a fight to keep our hearts tender. Maybe it's time to start rethinking compassion. What does the Word say about its importance, and how can we cultivate it in our lives and in the church?

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Thank you for joining me on another episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me. In this episode, I chat with Sally, a toddler mom, and special education preschool teacher. Sally has over 10 years of experience working with young children. Sally is the Education blogger behind The Bolg TenderHearted Teacher. Her blog and social media platforms provide topics on early academics, Social-emotional learning; she uses her platform to support other parents and caregivers by giving them strategies on how to encourage overall development. I am obsessed with providing kids with critical thinking skills at an early age; Sally does a wonderful job of breaking down critical thinking skills and introducing the skill to kids as part of their early education. Highlights: At a Higher level, critical thinking skills allow us to take in new information, use it, and allows us to form new ideas. Set goals, communicate, and collaborate with others. Encouraging open-ended play and making play and exploration a priority Through play, they learn cognitive skills Make sure that the home environment welcomes questions from your children. Have an open environment and have safe brain-storming ideas. Give opportunities and space to try and fail. Support social-emotional learning. Model the behavior that you want to see in your child. You want the child to know how to find emotions and normalize the feelings. Feelings can change from moment to moment. Connect with Sally on Instagram Read Sally's blog posts at TenderHearted Teacher Be sure to check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals. For more, visit our website --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/what-i-wish/support

Welcome to episode 111 of the Mayberry Devotional entitled “JOY”  Today I'll be looking at season four, episode thrirteen of The Andy Griffith Show, “Barney and the Cave Rescue”.  And I'll also be looking at Scripture from 1 Peter 3:8I hope you've enjoyed this episode of the Mayberry Devotional. If you haven't already, subscribe to the podcast, and leave me a rating or a comment. I'd appreciate it. www.mayberrydevotional.com

BE KIND AND FORGIVEKEY VERSE: AND BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER, TENDERHEARTED, FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER, EVEN AS GOD IN CHRIST FORGAVE YOU. EPHESIANS 4:32 

Today we are going to talk about Ephesians 4:30-32. Paul says we should not make the Holy Spirit sad with our actions. This would be a great season for us to start taking Paul's advice. Enjoy!The music on the podcast is from John Nugent. John is a Chicagoland area musician who has been a real blessing to Tabor Church. Support the show

It is easy to get irritated at people, but it is Christlike to be compassionate toward them. Ephesians 4:32 – “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.”

Love is Kind.  But Are You? (Love Is… Series) - with Anne Visser   I was reading an article last year about when a mutual friend set up Prince Harry and Megan Markle on a blind date.   Megan says she had only question in mind: "Is he kind?" Love is kind, so let's talk about kindness. We've seen the t-shirts, we've used the hashtags, but how important is kindness to a relationship? Or to a marriage for that matter? To be honest, ya'll, I wouldn't rate kindness as one of my top attributes.   I mean, I'm not mean, but it's just that there are so many other qualities that rank more important to me than kindness.  Like responsible.  Dependable.   Faithful.  Heck, even a sense of humor.   But the more I think about it, I realize being in a relationship with someone who isn't kind is kinda rough.    What do you think about when you think of the word kindness? For some reason, Barney comes to my mind.   He's always smiling.   He never seems to have a bad day.   He's forever optimistic.   And Barney loves everyone. Kindness is usually synonymous with gentleness.   Therefore, many men don't readily identify with this word.   Can you be tough and kind? Can you have swag and be kind? Cool and kind? Or do you need to act like Barney? I think kindness is more about a heart expression than a facial expression.   Kindness is more than just being nice.  It's compassionate, selfless, and its very definition is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.   Kindness is putting others first.   And you can do all of that without smiling.    In Ephesians 4:32, Paul instructs Christians to be kind to one another.   Tenderhearted, forgiving one another just as God, for Christ's sake, forgives us.   Elsewhere, in Galatians, we see that kindness is a fruit of the Spirit…basically it's one of the evidences of God's spirit in you… or not. We all know about those mean ol' church ladies, right?    Random Acts of Kindness I've been the recipient of random acts of kindness more times than I can count.   Several years ago, after a long and stressful day of non-stop sports, I pulled my weary self into the Chick-fil-A drive through.   I knew it would be the cashier's pleasure to serve me, or at least that's what they always say, I mean kindness is literally written all over their employee handbook.   But what I didn't expect is the person in front of me to pay for my whole ticket.   Do ya'll know how expensive Chick-Fil-A is for a family of six? You might at well go sit down somewhere at a restaurant.     Another time at Starbucks after ordering an especially sugary drink and battling shame as I inched my way through the drive-through.   Again, someone, a complete stranger, paid for my drink.   FYI: I haven't battled shame in the Starbucks line ever since. Kindness literally destroys shame.   Ooohhh...    Hesed: the Biblical Definition of Kindness Kindness is a theme all throughout Scripture.   God extends us kindness through giving us grace and mercy.   Jesus modeled kindness by caring for the poor, lifting up women in a hyper-mysoginistic culture.   From the patriarch, Abraham, who showed hospitality to strangers (who just happened to be angels), to the prostitute, Rahab who hid the Israelite warriors from her own people who were trying to kill them, and the prophet Hosea, who married a wayward prostitute and kept pursuing her while she was pursuing other men, all of these people extended kindness without expecting anything in return.   But ya'll know what, when you do something kind without expecting anything in return, God has a way of returning it back to you.    There's this really beautiful Hebrew word Hesed that shows up in the Bible.   Hesed means loyal love, faithful devotion and unfailing kindness.   Sounds just like God to me.   But did you know we are called to show hesed in our marriages and relationships? Loyalty, faithful devotion, unfailing kindness.   These are all action-oriented nouns. Hesed is kindness rooted in love. So we know kindness is good for us spirit, but can talk about science for a bit?    How Kindness Affects our Physical Bodies Did you know that according to Mayo Clinic Health, being kind boosts serotonin and dopamine, which are neurotransmitters in the brain that give you feelings of satisfaction and well-being, and cause the pleasure/reward centers in your brain to light up? Endorphins, which are your body's natural pain killer, also can be released just be practicing kindness.   So hesed is good for your physical health too!  Being kind just feels good.      How to be Kind in Marriage & Relationships I think one of the most obvious ways we can show hesed is in how we communicate, specifically how we talk to those we're in relationship with.   When I was a kid, my sister and I would mock my mom's telephone voice, you know you made fun of your mom too.   You know the voice I'm talking about? That super nice, cheerful, proper voice (hello) my mom would answer the phone after she just got finished yelling at my sister and me for not cleaning our rooms. Well, much to my dismay, my own kids joke my podcast voice! Ya'll, I don't have a podcast voice. Really what they're saying is my tone with them is lacking the same sweetness I obviously have with my listeners.    But let's talk about marriage for a bit.   This is a marriage podcast after all.   We all have a tendency to take our spouses for granted.   Think of the last conversation you had with your spouse.   If you were to be rated on a scale from 1-10 on how kind that conversation was, how would you score? Think about when you were dating vs your conversations now.   Remember how you'd be so excited to talk to each other on the phone or you'd get that tingling feeling deep in your stomach when you saw your future mate had emailed, texted, or reached out to you on social.      Now, that you're married, how often do you think of kindness in your conversations? No judgment here, you guys.   I, too, am guilty as charged.   And that's why our guest today is here.   She is going to help us learn to communicate more kindly. I invited Anne Visser, who is a life coach, and also a certified John Maxwell coach, speaker & trainer.   With her husband, Melis, of 42 years, they co-founded 4 Better 4 Ever, which seeks to help Christian women learn to communicate clearly and confidently. Anne is going to chime in on this conversation we're already having on Kind communication.     Kind Communication in Marriage & Relationships Communication is key in relationships. Anne shares how couples can improve their communication, and in turn, improve their relationships. Through healthy communication, we can all learn to give a little more love to the people around us, while building thriving relationships. Anne shares meaningful ways that we can open ourselves up to love through vulnerability, kindness, and patience. Being vulnerable is never easy, but it is worth it. When we take the chance to get vulnerable with our partners, it allows us to enter a space where we can speak freely from our heart, in a safe space. Anne said of kind communication, “It was a shift in Melis's and my mindset and a shift in the way we communicated.” When Anne and her husband created vulnerability in their marriage, they regained hope in their marriage. Through deep, heart-opening conversations, Anne and her husband were able to overcome strife and regain the love they desired. Conflict will arise in relationships at some point and understanding and communicating your needs is crucial for creating resolution. Anne said, “Conflict is the doorway to intimacy. Into me you see.” When conflict is revealed, it allows you to understand and grow closer by working as a team to overcome the problem. When conflict is fixed with vulnerability, it allows both partners to be heard and seen through the eyes of love.   God is Kind and So Can You Be When we are at the end of our rope it's important that we can always return to kindness. God is such a pure example of what love and kindness looks like. Kindness shows up in our thoughts first, then it shows up in our words. Anne said, “Kindness to me is being honest with myself. Kindness is being kind to myself and recognizing my humanness and recognizing when I am depleted. Kindness starts with being kind with me.” All kindness starts from within. That's why when we practice patience and kindness with ourselves, it makes it easier to practice that with others people in our lives. When you have love in your heart for yourself and God, that love becomes contagious and spreads like wildfire. When we create kindness in our lives, it creates a positive experience for us and the kindness can radiate into other people's lives. Kindness is contagious.   Creating Healthy Communication in Your Marriage Sometimes in relationships, we have things that we want to say, but we don't always express ourselves in the most efficient way. A lot of times, our emotions get the best of us and we become irrational and say things we didn't mean. When we practice patiences and kindness, it allows us to shift the way we handle conflict. Anne gives her clients a tip to help with this. It's called The Three C's - Check Emotions, Communicate and Clarify, and Create Resolution. When we have something weighing us down it's important to check in with our emotions. Slow down and check in on how you're feeling. When we are triggered, emotions will run high causing irrational responses. Once we are able to recognize that, we can slow down to communicate and clarify our needs. This will help with creating understanding and creating resolution with our partners. Often times, in relationships, we think we are going to war with our partner. When we shift our thinking, and realize that our partners are on the same team as us, it allows us to create more love and empathy. When you give your partner the same kindness, grace, and love that you want to receive, it creates healthier communication in the partnership.     Links Mentioned in this Episode Learn more about Anne's Work Here.  Anne's 7-Day Communication Challenge Get Your Copy of My New Workbook: Love Is . . .   SUBSCRIBE | SHARE | RATE | COMMENT To ensure you never miss an episode, be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, Stitcher, iHeart Radio, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Remember, sharing is caring! So, share these episodes with your friends and family via email or social media.  

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