Finding Noble is a podcast where we climb into the world of young people’s mental health and where we help the adults who care, create the kind of homes and places of instruction in which emotional intelligence is learned.
With around 800,000 to 900,000 divorces occurring annually in the U.S., it's crucial as a society we learn how to better create safety, attachment, and emotional health for children of divorce.Dr. Skinner reminds us all, "It's never too late"-- to heal, grow and get better in all of our relationships. Wherever you're at, please join us as we aim to compassionately touch on five key areas to help make life better for children and families experiencing the aftermath of divorce. You and us,We got this.Carly Red & Dr. Skinner.00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic00:24 The Impact of Divorce on Families01:16 Statistics on Divorce Rates03:29 Betrayal Trauma and PTSD Post-Divorce06:31 The Importance of Safety and Attachment for Children12:18 Five Key Steps to Help Children of Divorce12:48 Creating a Safe and Structured Environment15:27 Effective Parenting Styles18:29 Handling Transitions Between Homes25:44 The Language We Use About Our Ex-Spouse29:24 Protecting Your Child's Safety30:08 Seeking Professional Help31:00 Communicating Divorce with Children 33:14 Handling Emotional Conversations38:26 Navigating Parenting Differences42:17 The Importance of Maturity and Reconciliation42:45 The Never-Ending Relationship of Divorced Parents44:57 Healing, Moving Forward, Finding Happiness48:51 Never Too Late: Acknowledging Pain and Rebuilding Relationships53:31 Final Thoughts and EncouragementWatch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcastWe are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere…so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support.To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com
Our guide today, Berkeley Runia Paulsen, shares her personal experience with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), which began after the death of her brother when she was 11 years old. Our conversation walks through the lonely nature of OCD, common yet widely unknown obsessions and compulsions, and Berkeley's journey through various treatments, including exposure response prevention (ERP) therapy. We also learn about the heavy impact of OCD on daily life, the importance of cultivating uncertainty over "certainty" reassurances, and how family and caregivers can offer support. Berkeley's story highlights how a brain and a person suffering from OCD can transform through very accessible and effective treatment processes. There is a way out and we hope Berkeley's story delivers a lot of light to many who feel trapped in the dark spiraling tunnels of real OCD. You and Us,We got this.Carly Red and Dr. SkinnerTreatment Center Referenced:https://www.ocdanxietycenters.com/Book Referenced:https://a.co/d/9K5NCV2Show Notes:00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble Podcast01:19 Berkeley's Personal Beginning with OCD03:27 Understanding OCD Symptoms and Triggers08:34 Exploring Common OCD Obsessions13:09 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life25:58 Seeking Treatment and Finding Hope27:39 Understanding Exposure Therapy27:58 Introduction to DBT and Its Modalities28:51 The OCD Cycle Explained30:18 Neuroplasticity and OCD32:59 Personal Experiences with Exposure Therapy33:34 Body Dysmorphic Disorder and OCD36:01 Living with OCD: Challenges and Coping Strategies39:20 The Importance of Comprehensive & Professional Help50:04 Parental Guidance for Children with OCD55:00 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsWatch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcastWe are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere…so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support.To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com
Our guide today, Berkeley Runia Paulsen, shares her personal experience with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), which began after the death of her brother when she was 11 years old. Our conversation walks through the lonely nature of OCD, common yet widely unknown obsessions and compulsions, and Berkeley's journey through various treatments, including exposure response prevention (ERP) therapy. We also learn about the heavy impact of OCD on daily life, the importance of cultivating uncertainty over "certainty" reassurances, and how family and caregivers can offer support. Berkeley's story highlights how a brain and a person suffering from OCD can transform through very accessible and effective treatment processes. There is a way out and we hope Berkeley's story delivers a lot of light to many who feel trapped in the dark spiraling tunnels of real OCD. You and Us,We got this.Carly Red and Dr. SkinnerTreatment Center Referenced:https://www.ocdanxietycenters.com/Book Referenced:https://a.co/d/9K5NCV2Show Notes:00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble Podcast01:19 Berkeley's Personal Beginning with OCD03:27 Understanding OCD Symptoms and Triggers08:34 Exploring Common OCD Obsessions13:09 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life25:58 Seeking Treatment and Finding Hope27:39 Understanding Exposure Therapy27:58 Introduction to DBT and Its Modalities28:51 The OCD Cycle Explained30:18 Neuroplasticity and OCD32:59 Personal Experiences with Exposure Therapy33:34 Body Dysmorphic Disorder and OCD36:01 Living with OCD: Challenges and Coping Strategies39:20 The Importance of Comprehensive & Professional Help50:04 Parental Guidance for Children with OCD55:00 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsWatch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcastWe are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere…so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support.To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com
What are the 3 factors highly increasing your teen's risk of suicide?Is my child at risk?Do I really know my child? Do I know how my child sees themselves?Does my child really feel seen and like they belong here? In this episode, Dr. Skinner shares how suicidal thoughts are actually much more common than we might believe, noting that most people have momentarily entertained the thought. However, those at risk are typically individuals who align with these 3 factors:1. I'm impulsive, 2. I feel I am in a crisis, 3. I have access.Hence, the unusually high risk of teen suicide.Studies show access to a gun or a form of poisoning likely through medical pills or substances, HIGHLY increases chances of a teen attempting suicide. Also, most teens attempt suicide under an hour of deciding. Our discussion also highlights the role we have as parents of creating and sustaining a warm home environment, drawing on the Grant Study to show how loving, deeply communicative relationships in childhood lead to longterm resilience, safety and belonging.The concept of "accompaniment" is introduced, illustrating how attuned parenting help children feel known and safe along their years of tender growth. Our conversation concludes with the importance of community support, kindness, education...... and these resources below.Support and Resources Mentioned in this Episode: My Life Is Worth Living Series: https://mylifeisworthliving.org/Parent Guidance Courses On Suicide: https://parentguidance.org/all-courses/"How to Know a Person" by David Brooks:https://a.co/d/45LYFUDShow Notes:00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble00:28 Special Edition: Suicide Awareness02:36 Understanding Who is at Risk of Suicide 05:40 Warning Signs and Prevention08:31 The Necessity for Vulnerable Dialogue13:32 The Story Formation of Identity17:43 Numbing Out of our Feelings23:27 Loneliness, Trust, and Safety in our Closest Relationships24:13 Understanding the Art of Connection24:27 The Core Need to Be Seen25:28 Reframing to See Oneself as Part of Whole– Belonging to the World27:49 The Impact of Childhood Relationships– Grant Study28:41 Warm Homes vs. Cold Homes31:41 Eliminating Barriers and Realigning our Time with our Values37:45 Generational Trauma and Cellular Memories42:25 The Power of Accompaniment47:54 Support for Families Facing SuicideWatch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcastWe are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere…so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support.To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com
Welcome to the sleep revolution. More than ever experts know how SLEEP defines the health of cognitive function, emotional regulation, social interaction... for everyone... but most especially teenagers!Sleep-deprived teens often struggle with moodiness, risky behaviors, relational skills and even academics due to being forced to operate on insufficient sleep. The cascade of poor sleep can result in what Dr. Skinner refers to as "ego depletion," leaving teens incapable of functioning at their best, or even just adequately. Are our teenagers being rebellious or lazy, or is there more to the story? Dr. Meers enlightens us on the biological changes that occur during adolescence, which can account for those infamous late nights and groggy mornings. Maybe their disengagement isn't just teenage defiance— maybe our kids are exhausted!In this fascinating episode, renowned clinical psychologist and certified sleep medicine specialist, Dr. Jessica Meers, uncovers the hidden intricacies of sleep, focusing on the enigmatic and often elusive sleep patterns of teenagers—a topic more vital to their well-being than we might think.Join us to find out how better sleep for our kids and teens is possible, today on Finding Noble. You and us,We got this.Carly Red & Dr. Skinnerhttps://findingnoble.com/Show Notes:00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement00:45 Dr. Jessica Meers' Background and Expertise01:26 The Importance of Sleep for Mental Health02:00 Challenges of Adolescent Sleep03:18 Biological Changes in Teen Sleep Patterns07:47 Impact of Sleep Deprivation on Teens11:11 Solutions for Better Sleep12:00 The Role of Consistency in Sleep14:12 Advocating for Later School Start Times15:40 Real-Life Examples of Sleep Deprivation20:20 The Perfect Storm of Sleep Risks for Teens23:15 The Connection Between Sleep and Health24:53 Modeling Good Sleep Habits for Teens26:04 Parenting Challenges: Screen Time Before Bed26:41 The Science Behind Device Usage and Sleep27:37 Balancing Screen Time and Sleep Quality28:30 The Role of Anxiety in Sleep Patterns31:23 The Benefits and Drawbacks of Napping36:08 Caffeine vs. Napping: What's Better?37:44 Understanding Individual Sleep Needs41:54 The Importance of Early Sleep43:46 When to Seek Professional Help for Sleep Issues47:57 Final Thoughts and Resources for Better SleepLink to freebie: Teen Sleep Survival GuideTo find out more about Dr. Jessica Meers:- Visit her website: rhythm-well.com- Follow her on Instagram: shetalkssleepTo subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/Watch the episodes on Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.comFind expert-led parenting courses on: https://parentguidance.org/
Today we are revisiting our fan favorite 'Ask a Therapist' format, where we tackle the most asked questions sent in from YOU parents.Join our real Q&A with Dr. Skinner-- over the primary dilemmas you too are likely facing right now as a parent. David Brooks once admitted,“I don't really know of many happy marriages. I know a lot of marriages where parents love their kids.” Dr. Skinner similarly acknowledges it's hard to keep the garden of marriage nurtured. It doesn't water itself even if, or especially if, you both are involved with your busy family life. Furthermore, conflict in parenting styles can also lead to further detachment from your partner. However, vocalizing a focused and united purpose in your desire for your kids happiness and growth, can unite you as a couple and bring you closer despite occupying different approaches. Dr. Skinner tackles how to get teens to open up! He says, “There are types of things and conversations that are not easy for us to have as parents and it's not easy for our children to have with us. So sometimes that's an earned conversation. It takes time to develop that kind of nurturing, that kind of interaction where again, the concept of all human connection is safety. I have to feel safe enough in your presence that you're not going to X, Y, Z, that you're going to hear me, that you're going to listen, that you still care, that you're still going to love me. I think we often hold back because we're afraid of being judged. We're afraid that our parents are going to judge us. They need to know that we are with them and we want to help them. We care." The last question is a tough one– addressing family secrets, specifically hidden parental porn use. However, Dr. Skinner gives us a beautiful and hopeful response on how to address some of the weightier issues within our family relationships. Stay tuned for the whole episode– It's worth it!. You and us--We got this,Carly Red & Dr. Skinner00:00 Introduction and Session Overview01:05 Everyday Parenting Battles05:44 Unified purpose in Parenting14:14 Put Down Your Parenting Weapons then Talk19:24 Nurturing a Marriage within Parenting23:23 Nurturing Relationships: Beyond Autopilot23:48 Breaking Down Teen Communication Barriers25:48 Encouraging Open Dialogue with Teens30:48 Balancing Control and Independence in Parenting34:16 Addressing Sensitive Issues: A Child's Perspective39:29 Handling Family Secrets with Compassion44:03 Concluding Thoughts and ResourcesWatch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcasthttps://findingnoble.com/We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere…so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support.To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/Watch the episodes on Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com
Do you ever wonder how that inner voice of yours is shaping your world and impacting your mental health, your body, your reality and especially your relationships? Andrea Rowley (an expert in cognitive behavioral coaching and Chief Clinical Coach Officer at Noble Health) joins us this week to share how,"Our language is defining what we believe about ourselves."Andrea suggests considering questions like,"What am I missing?" “Maybe there is more to this inner narrative outside of me, that I am not seeing?” This shift away from yourself-centric mid brain, not only fosters a healthier self-relationship, but also activates the brain'sproblem-solving prefrontal cortex. Dr. Skinner adds, "Curiosity is a huge factor here," encouraging listeners to replace our self-condemnation with curiosity and challenging our ingrained negative beliefs. Asking ourselves and our children frequently:“How is your relationship with yourself? How are you speaking to yourself? How are you treating yourself?” ….These questions can reframe our miscalculated and misguided ideas about our worth and especially recenter our own children's sense of worth. Small simple shifts to more positive and compassionate inner language can move mental mountains!We hope you will join us this week on Finding Noble!You and us--We got this,Carly Red & Dr. SkinnerShow Notes:00:00 Introduction and Guest Bio02:02 The Power of Communication04:36 Understanding Self Talk06:10 Origins of Negative Self Talk10:55 Transforming Negative Self Talk17:32 Developing Self Compassion23:49 Setting Boundaries and Self-Compassion24:39 Creating New Neural Pathways25:29 Parenting Without Self-Judgment26:50 Handling Public Parenting Challenges28:24 Visualizing Positive Self-Talk29:14 Mindfulness and Self-Dialogue29:37 Encouraging Positive Self-Talk in Children30:36 Practical Tips for Positive Self-Talk32:42 Challenging Negative Core Beliefs35:37 Self-Compassion and Compassion for Others39:50 Attuning to Children's Emotions44:20 Reflective Listening with Children46:27 Final Thoughts on Self-Talk and Mental HealthWatch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcasthttps://findingnoble.com/We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere…so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support.To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/Watch the episodes on Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast
" It's easy for us to think, Oh man, why can't I do this? Am I not smart enough? Am I not intelligent enough? What's wrong with me? And because we are in a society where it's fast paced and it's quick, I mean, really, if you want information, you go, you get on the chat whatever and it's right there. You get it. The problem with that is most of the things that we experience in life require work, persistence, and effort." -Dr. Skinner In this episode, we discuss how cultural and societal factors so often condition a fixed mindset over a growth mindset. We talk about the liberating language of growth and the transformation from celebrating inherent traits or outcomes to celebrating effort--- And how that may just get us further than we even thought possible. We also emphasize how curiosity and asking questions.. basically being willing to look dumb...will actually pave and create the path we are hoping to find ourselves on. And perhaps most importantly, Dr. Skinner helps us understand how growth mindsets in relation to relationships can become a game changer. This one is a goodie. Hope you will join us this week! You and us, We got this. Carly Red & Dr. Skinner Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction to Growth Mindset 00:37 Understanding Fixed vs. Growth Mindset 02:24 Cultural Influences on Mindset 03:44 Personal Experiences with Growth Mindset 06:46 The Power of Effort and Persistence 08:47 Language and Mindset 11:15 Encouraging Growth Mindset in Children 17:58 Overcoming Challenges, Gain Confidence & Resilience 20:20 The Importance of Enjoying the Learning Process 22:10 Parental Influence and Mentorship 23:04 Overcoming Adversity and Developing a Growth Mindset 25:57 The Value of Effort and Purpose 27:35 Learning from Failure and Embracing Curiosity 34:37 Building Healthy Relationships with a Growth Mindset 39:16 Encouraging Growth in Ourselves and Others 40:28 Final Thoughts and Encouragement https://findingnoble.com/ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast
Today we are using an 'Ask a Therapist' format, where we tackle the most asked questions sent in from YOU parents. Join our real Q& A-- over the primary dilemmas you too are likely facing right now as a parent. Today we respond on handling dishonesty, managing screen time, repairing strained parent-child relationships, fostering motivation in children, and more. " We want to have this conversation, 'I would rather you have a hard conversation with me than lie to me any day. And if you say, mom or dad, I don't agree, then let's talk about this. Let's do it together--' Because the outcome is so much better because they are a part of it rather than just being obedient.'" -Dr. Skinner We hope you find relief, hope, validation and some of the answers you are seeking. You and us, We got this. Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://youtu.be/tfjU75zv8wo?feature=shared Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble 00:25 Ask a Therapist: Tackling Parent Questions 01:00 Screen Time Struggles: Real-Life Scenarios 01:59 Understanding the Impact of Screen Time 03:39 Effective Communication Strategies with Teens 04:38 Role-Playing Scenarios for Better Parenting 06:15 Balancing Work and Parenting 09:47 Repairing Parent-Teen Relationships 15:06 Navigating Teen Depression and Screen Time 19:50 Understanding Screen Time and Depression 20:56 Creating Alternative Experiences 21:58 Addressing Lying in Teenagers 22:59 Exploring Reasons Behind Lying 26:20 Teaching Integrity and Trust 29:08 Adjusting Parenting Approaches 34:18 Motivating Children Effectively 38:03 Concluding Thoughts and Resources https://findingnoble.com/ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://youtu.be/tfjU75zv8wo?feature=shared
“If you develop or even have all of the physical abilities and all of the physical skill sets, THEY ESSENTIALLY ARE USELESS, if you don't have the right mental skills to help let them come out.” --Dr. Bobby Low “We know that there's lots of things that come into our minds as performers or as athletes that interfere with our performance-- that block our performance-- that inhibit our performance... My job is to help unblock all those things and teach individuals the correct thinking patterns. So they can unlock their performance and perform their best.” As an accomplished mental strength coach at BYU with a rich background in sport and performance psychology, Dr. Low joins us for a 2 part episode where we come to understand how mental strength opens the door for optimal performance in any endeavor. He shares how comprehensive mental strength can be built. How words and language impact our brain and body's ability to perform. We discuss the science behind how motivation and momentum are achieved. How to best handle the challenges of tough teammates and leaders (coaches, teachers, mentors, instructors, etc.) We learn about the important shift from arrogance to confidence and why there is a difference. And most of all we learn how to best help our own children find joy in the process whilst also unlocking their full potential. This is one of our favorite episodes yet! Don't miss this one. *Go check out Dr. Low's new app: MOTYV8 MOTYV8 IS an incredible tool for building Comprehensive Mental Health Training intended for kids, parents, and coaches. Show notes: PART 1: 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 00:28 Dr. Bobby Low's Background and Achievements 01:38 Role of Mental Strength in Performance 03:49 Comprehensive Mental Strength Training 05:03 Importance of Mental Skills in Sports 08:11 Practical Applications of Mental Training 09:25 Parental Influence on Children's Mental Strength 12:05 Coaching and Mental Resilience 14:16 Neuroscience of Positive Self-Talk 17:45 Building Mental Strength in Athletes, Performers, Anyone 25:02 Handling Pressure and Resilience 36:13 Present Moment Thinking 36:43 Building Self-Confidence PART 2: 38:30 Balancing Selfishness and Selflessness 40:46 The Power of Momentum in Sports 41:30 Understanding Flow and Energy in Performance 46:56 Confidence vs. Arrogance 50:53 Parental Influence on Kid's Experiences Performing 56:37 Intrinsic Motivation and the Value of Effort 01:02:47 Introducing the MOTYV8 App 01:10:20 Final Thoughts on Mental Strength and Health https://findingnoble.com/ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast/videos
“If you develop or even have all of the physical abilities and all of the physical skill sets, THEY ESSENTIALLY ARE USELESS, if you don't have the right mental skills to help let them come out.” --Dr. Bobby Low “We know that there's lots of things that come into our minds as performers or as athletes that interfere with our performance-- that block our performance-- that inhibit our performance... My job is to help unblock all those things and teach individuals the correct thinking patterns. So they can unlock their performance and perform their best.” Dr. Bobby Low, an accomplished mental strength coach at BYU with a rich background in sport and performance psychology, joins us for a 2 part episode where we come to understand how mental strength opens the door for optimal performance in any endeavor. He shares how comprehensive mental strength can be built. How words and language impact our brain and body's ability to perform. We discuss the science behind how motivation and momentum are achieved. How to best handle the challenges of tough teammates and leaders (coaches, teachers, mentors, instructors, etc.) We learn about the important shift from arrogance to confidence and why there is a difference. And most of all we learn how to best help our own children find joy in the process whilst also unlocking their full potential. This is one of our favorite episodes yet! Don't miss this one. *Go check out Dr. Low's new app called: MOTYV8. MOTYV8 is an incredible instrument for building comprehensive mental health intended for kids, parents, and coaches. Show Notes: PART 1: 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 00:28 Dr. Bobby Low's Background and Achievements 01:38 Role of Mental Strength in Performance 03:49 Comprehensive Mental Strength Training 05:03 Importance of Mental Skills in Sports 08:11 Practical Applications of Mental Training 09:25 Parental Influence on Children's Mental Strength 12:05 Coaching and Mental Resilience 14:16 Neuroscience of Positive Self-Talk 17:45 Building Mental Strength in Athletes 25:02 Handling Pressure and Resilience 36:13 Present Moment Thinking 36:43 Building Self-Confidence in Team Sports PART 2: 38:30 Balancing Selfishness and Selflessness 40:46 The Power of Momentum in Sports 41:30 Understanding Flow and Energy in Performance 46:56 Confidence vs. Arrogance 50:53 Parental Influence on Children's Performative Experience 56:37 Intrinsic Motivation and the Value of Effort 01:02:47 Introducing the MOTYV8 App 01:10:20 Final Thoughts on Mental Strength and Health https://findingnoble.com/ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast/videos
“The pain was necessary in order to know the truth. But we don't have to keep the pain alive in order to keep the truth alive.”- Mark Nepo Rachel Guenther teaches us all about Big T and Little T traumatic events as she compares “trauma” to a trash compacter— Like we've pressed the button and shoved down all the garbage inside our bodies to create space to function— Eww. But that at some point, our bodies (and souls) are going to need to clear out the unnecessary load we are hauling everywhere with us. Dr. Skinner also adds how trauma changes how safe, or unsafe, we feel in our world. That when we are still in trauma, it's harder for us to show up in relationships as a parent and as partner. And how working through trauma is a gift we not only give to ourselves, but also to all the people around us...especially those most dear. We also learn about the safe, advanced therapeutic processes used to release trauma from the body, such as EMDR and ART. And how these processes work to release the pain from the events stored inside our bodies. Overall, the key takeaway is that after experiencing some of life's most harrowing and unfair events, finding safety, trust and healing is very achievable with the right support and resources. Please join us! You & us— We got this, Carly Red and Dr. Skinner 00:58 Rachel's Journey into Trauma Work03:48 Defining Trauma05:26 Impact of Trauma on Self-Perception06:33 Childhood Experiences and Trauma 09:34 Relational Aspects of Trauma14:19 Individual Responses to Trauma19:39 Importance of Perceived Social Support22:23 Understanding Trauma and Its Symptoms24:11 Identifying Trauma in Children26:17 Approaches to Discussing Trauma with Children29:35 Therapeutic Techniques like ART and EMDR 31:28 The Role of the Body in Trauma Healing36:06 Trauma and Addiction43:33 Advancements in Trauma Therapy47:16 Final Thoughts and Reflections https://findingnoble.com/ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured
“I think the biggest difference between how kids were back when I was younger and how they are now, manifests itself at a High School dance... I worry that there is a fear of intimacy, and I'm not talking about sexual intimacy.” What keeps a High School principal up at night? Find out with Principal Peter Glahn-- as he shares the evolution of adolescent resilience, the culture of unity formed from school programs and extracurriculars, the power of relationship and the irreplaceable practice of peer interaction. From slow dances to smartphones, learn what life might just be like for the teens in your life... after all, principals and teachers could potentially see more and know more-- being with our kids all day in, day out. Tune in for this one, on this week of Finding Noble! 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:13 Principal Glahn's Journey to Education02:35 Challenges and Rewards of Being a Principal07:17 Impact of Extracurricular Activities09:14 Social Dynamics and Technology13:52 COVID-19's Impact on Students19:03 Addressing Bullying in Schools21:46 Addressing Criticism and Respect22:04 Parental Reactions and Curiosity22:48 Mob Mentality and Peer Influence24:04 Handling Bullying: School and Home Approaches25:55 Motivating Bullies to Shift to Positive Influencers26:56 Teenagers and Human Connection33:02 Parenting Teenagers: Balancing Authority and Relationship39:35 Concluding Thoughts and Future Conversations https://findingnoble.com/ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured
“Our experience with how the world views us, might shape how we view the world.” In this episode, we discuss how bullying and social stress can shape our children's longterm view of themselves & the world, and also shape their future personal relationships. Whether our child is the bullied or the bully, we loved hearing our experts emphasize the critical moments where our children interpret to us their experiences. “So, the interpretation of it may be the most important thing. Because the moment they start interpreting it, they are actually doing what I call their own version of therapy.” — Dr. Kevin Skinner Rather than internalizing wrong beliefs our children, or even we, pick up during these socially stressful years— we learn how confirming & reaffirming our family's personal value systems can change how we all actually want to see the world, and also how the world might actually just see us. Our societies are only as healthy as our relationships. And it starts at home. We can practice and eventually become, what Dr. Skinner calls: Promoters of Healthy Relationships. Join us now on Finding Noble! https://findingnoble.com/ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured
“I'm only echoing what we've all heard, but this is the loneliest generation...” --Dr. Jeff Wilks This week's episode features Professor Dr. Jeff Wilks: an associate dean at BYU Marriott School of Business, And Andrea Rowley: parent coaching expert and chief clinical coaching officer at Noble Health. (https://noble.health/) Together, they help us understand and respond to the college student mental health crisis. We learn of the increasing rates of depression, anxiety, unrelenting performance pressure and the epidemic of loneliness-- as part of the college students' experience and we explore the initiatives being undertaken to address them. We also discuss how parents can prepare their children NOW for their young adult years. AND loads more. So please-- Join us this week on Finding Noble! 00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble Podcast00:23 Meet the Guests: Dr. Jeff Wilkes and Andrea Rowley02:21 Mental Health Crisis on College Campuses02:45 Jeff's Insights on Student Mental Health09:16 Andrea's Perspective on Coaching Young Adults10:41 The Pressure of Performance and Comparison12:59 Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Goals14:39 Reframing and Building Self-Efficacy23:59 The Impact of Loneliness28:46 Favorite Books and Their Impact29:10 BYU's University 101 Course30:09 Building Deep Relationships33:26 Hope for the Future35:08 Mental Health in Professional Settings38:38 The Role of Coaches and Safe Spaces46:27 Mindfulness and Technology 48:03 Advice for Parents55:28 Final Thoughts and Resources https://findingnoble.com/ We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please like, review, subscribe and... even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured
“And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.”-- John Steinbeck, East of Eden “Shame is always relational. Be cautious not to shame yourself because parental shame influences every interaction you're going to have with your child. It will influence how you communicate with them. It will influence the way you express love to them. …When you give love without shame, they know they're loved. But when you parent with your shame, they will feel that there's something off and you will feel like there's something off. So if you're stuck with shame, make sure you deal with it.”— Dr. Kevin Skinner(From this week's episode) This week we deal with why we experience shame, why it hurts us, our homes, and how we can actually start to remove it from ourselves and our relationships. Please join us! https://findingnoble.com/ Please rate, review and subscribe to help other listeners to find us. To subscribe to emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured
“Children themselves are innately mindful. It takes a parent who's preoccupied in constant activity to teach them not to be that way.” Turns out our kids are already pretty great at practicing mindfulness— that is, until we get in the way... Ouch. This week, Mindfulness expert and therapist, Dallin Bruun, helps us parents re-learn to pay attention. To it all. To life. To the people around us. And even to all emotion… emotions we often label as good or bad, right or wrong. Dallin studied under Jon Kabat-Zinn (aka. the godfather of modern mindfulness) at Umass Medical and holds a litany of other titles and credentials. He is full of so much unpretentious wisdom and real life, real human experience. We discuss how mindfulness helps us stop being dead inside, how to stop judging and labeling emotions. And how to begin acknowledging all emotion, all our whole selves with compassion. We all need this. Our kids need this from us. So please join us for our first episode of season 2— with guest expert & Mindfulness Master, Dallin Bruun. https://findingnoble.com/ Please rate, review and subscribe if you'd like. To subscribe to emails head here: https://findingnoble.com/about/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured
"I love this rule!"...said no child/teenager ever. But this week we find out how it might actually be possible to get our kids onboard with the rules we make. Dr. Skinner shares the secret sauce: Relationships before rules. Care not control. ...And the importance of collaborating and connecting with our kids over the why's behind the boundaries we make as parents. Sure this may sound like you might be adding more work to your already full plate as a parent, all this relationship building and communication-- but in this episode we learn how this front work actually eliminates future friction and stress-- And even forges bonds suffuse with so much love, safety, and care between parent and child. Join us today on Finding Noble! We are hoping to help homes and families everywhere... so please like, subscribe and share with friends and family looking for parenting support. https://findingnoble.com/
Today on Finding Noble we address the exhausting challenges of parenting in a digital age. Technology doesn't own us! But sometimes it feels like we've lost all power. Our goal here is to help you create collaborative guidelines as a family to ensure technology is serving rather than hindering personal development and connection in your family relationships. We stress on how technology is profoundly effecting our kid's mental health, the importance of maintaining a positive parent-child relationship within your discussions around technology, and the necessity for educating your own kids on the impact of digital devices, social apps, etc. Dr. Skinner also discusses the power of teaching AND modeling self-regulation. Yikes!... This means more awareness and accountability as parents and taking intentional control over our own technology habits. Join us. We hope this helps diminish tension around technology in your home and homes everywhere!
"Get comfortable with the uncomfortable." -Devon Mills (And Johann Hari) In this episode Carly and Dr. Skinner welcome expert Dr. Devon Mills, founder of Thrive Counseling in Atlanta. Together Dr. Skinner and Dr. Mills, both with decades of research and empirical evidence to back it, powerfully examine the harm pornography poses with our young people. We go over the average age of first exposure, the developmental dangers, and the detrimental effects of early exposure. We cover how the challenges of pornography have evolved with technology advancing at such an extreme pace, and the necessity for proactive and supportive parental involvement. Dr. Devon Mills and Dr. Skinner invite parents to have the crucial, albeit admittedly uncomfortable, conversations with their children about pornography and sexuality. We discuss what the most helpful and also the least helpful responses are when learning of a child's pornography exposure. We also touch on the importance of not vilifying sex, the role of consistent and frequent dialogue, and understanding our own beliefs about pornography to effectively communicate them with our children. This episode you really don't want to miss! https://findingnoble.com/ Also: Find Devon's course from Parent Guidance here: How to Respond When Your Child Says They are Struggling with Pornography https://parentguidance.org/courses/25585/
“As we go outside the family, how I see the world might first of all be influenced by how I see relationships in my own home.” —Dr. Skinner Carly's husband, Eric, joins this episode as they, in real time, navigate parental differences with the help of Dr. Skinner! We highlight how disagreements are completely normal and really how modeling healthy conflict resolution may just be one of the best gifts we can offer our children. We explore the healthy methods of conflict resolution, including: the power of partner and family counsel, the real significance of empathy, improving the quality of our communication, and maintaining an overview focus on our shared desire for our children's health and happiness. The conversation also addresses tailoring parenting approaches to each child's unique needs and the impact of home relationships on children's worldview. We hope to provide valuable perspective to parents seeking to enhance family unity and effectively address challenges. Join us today on Finding Noble!
This episode of 'Finding Noble' continues the discussion on childhood and adolescent anxiety, offering parents and caregivers strategies to support anxious children effectively. Host Carly Red and her Dr. Skinner explore real-life scenarios and provide practical advice on listening, understanding, and responding to children's fears and anxieties. They discuss the importance of asking open-ended questions to understand the source of a child's anxiety, using examples from personal experiences to illustrate how parental responses can either escalate or alleviate anxiety. Techniques such as the 'basic exercise' for activating the vagus nerve and creating a safe, supportive environment are shared, emphasizing the role of safety in fostering human connections and reducing anxiety. The episode also touches on the significance of emotional intelligence, the impact of boredom on anxiety, and the power of demonstrating a growth mindset to children. 00:00 Welcome to Finding Noble: Diving into Young People's Mental Health 00:33 Exploring Anxiety in Children: A Real-Life Scenario 01:38 Understanding and Responding to Childhood Anxiety 04:05 The Power of Listening and Validating Feelings 05:07 Emotional Intelligence: Naming and Understanding Emotions 06:32 Basic Needs and Anxiety Reduction Techniques 07:59 Introducing the Vagus Nerve: A Key to Calming Anxiety 09:07 Practical Exercises for Anxiety Relief 11:43 The Importance of Not Talking Anxiety Away 13:33 Empowering Children to Handle Anxiety and Uncertainty 15:45 Productivity and Mental Health: Tackling Boredom and Anxiety 20:42 Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset: Shaping Resilience 23:31 Neuroplasticity and Hope: It's Never Too Late 27:02 Concluding Thoughts on Anxiety as an Educator 27:37 Creating a Safe Environment for Open Communication 32:32 Final Reflections and Resources
The podcast episode delves into childhood and adolescent anxiety, discussing how adult anxiety influences youth anxiety. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding and responding to anxiety, particularly in the modern world, where technology plays a significant role in exacerbating anxiety levels. Strategies for managing anxiety, promoting emotional awareness, and fostering emotional regulation in both children and adults are explored.
In this episode we highlight how attitudes towards body image begin formation at a young age and how body image affects overall mental health. The conversation advocates for a shift in how we view, talk about, and take care of our bodies--Rather than a focus on individual body appearance, listeners are encouraged to refocus their messaging on body appreciation. Young people can learn to appreciate their own bodies most especially for all the experiences their bodies allow them to enjoy. It is through our bodies we experience life. Dr. Skinner emphasizes the role adults play in shaping their children's body image and ultimately how taking care of our bodies allows our bodies to bountifully take care of us-- mentally, physically, emotionally and intellectually.
In this episode of 'Finding Noble,' host Carly Red and guest expert Dr. Skinner go into the nuanced world of ADHD, emphasizing a positive approach. The conversation covers the nature of ADHD as a unique brain modality rather than a "disorder," shedding light on the creative and highly functional aspects it can entail. They discuss various support strategies for parents and children, including the importance of exercise, left-right brain activities, and maintaining a positive approach to ADHD's qualities. The podcast also enlightens listeners about the potential impacts of societal factors on ADHD prevalence, the benefits of proper diagnosis and possible medication use, and emphasizes the overarching importance of understanding, love, and community support in managing ADHD effectively.
In this episode, Carly Red and Dr. Kevin Skinner continue discussing the impact of burnout and its correlation with loneliness. They emphasize the importance of human connection in combating burnout, drawing examples from the Rosetto Effect and Scandinavian communities. This episode concludes with a personal burnout assessment and also a challenge.
What exactly is it, and how does it hurt our mental health in our homes and families? This two-part podcast episode delves into burnout in both young people and adults, exploring its impact on mental health. It discusses the importance of mental and physical self-care, whilst additionally prioritizing core relational values. The discussion highlights the necessity of creating and nurturing connection in order to combat the onset, and ongoing nature of burnout.
The 'Finding Noble' podcast, hosted by Carly Red and Dr. Kevin Skinner, is designed to educate and support adults who work with young people, focusing on mental health. The show stresses the importance of understanding what contributes to children's mental health, helping them develop emotional intelligence, and creating an environment where they can thrive. The hosts express concern about the challenges of maintaining good mental health in an increasingly digital world. The first season will address major concerns gathered from global parent feedback, such as burnout, anxiety, mindful parenting, body image, technology use, fostering a growth mindset, setting boundaries, and discussing pornography. The podcast aims to quickly spread mental health education, emphasizing the need for collective effort.
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