Podcast appearances and mentions of Kevin Skinner

Why Do I Still Feel Stuck? Understanding the Hidden Barriers to Healing After Betrayal Episode Summary One of the most common questions betrayed partners ask is, "Why do I still feel stuck?" Despite reading books, attending therapy, participating in support groups, and listening to countless podcasts, many people feel like they aren't making the progress they expected. In this episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore why feeling "stuck" is often a normal part of the healing process rather than a sign of failure. They discuss how trauma symptoms, incomplete disclosure, unresolved questions, unrealistic expectations, and misplaced responsibility can all interfere with recovery. The conversation also highlights the difference between individual healing and relational healing, emphasizing that while a relationship may temporarily feel stuck, an individual does not have to remain there. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn explain how healthy boundaries, differentiation, trauma-informed therapy, support groups, and compassionate communication create the conditions for lasting progress. Listeners will also learn why healing is a journey rather than an event, why comparing your progress to someone else's can be harmful, and how small intentional steps toward joy, self-awareness, and personal growth often become the turning points that move people forward. Whether you are the betrayed partner, the partner seeking recovery, or a clinician walking alongside couples, this episode offers practical guidance and hope for navigating one of the most discouraging stages of betrayal recovery. Key Takeaways Feeling stuck is often a normal part of betrayal trauma recovery. Healing is a journey, not a single event or milestone. Trauma symptoms such as intrusive thoughts, triggers, nightmares, and hypervigilance often improve gradually—not immediately. Full therapeutic disclosure often becomes a major turning point in healing. You cannot control another person's recovery or prevent someone else's relapse. Healthy boundaries focus on your response rather than controlling another person's behavior. Differentiation builds confidence by helping you act consistently with your own values. Trauma-informed therapies such as EMDR, Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), and Internal Family Systems (IFS) can significantly assist healing. Support groups and trusted relationships provide essential stability when a partner cannot yet respond with empathy. Recovery grows through self-awareness, compassion, patience, and small daily steps rather than perfection. Resources To learn more about betrayal trauma recovery, relationship healing, and the Intimacy Repair Method (IRM), visit: Human Intimacy: https://www.humanintimacy.com Explore courses, assessments, podcasts, and additional recovery resources designed for individuals and couples rebuilding trust after betrayal. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may benefit from this conversation. Together we can help create healthier relationships built on honesty, compassion, and lasting intimacy.

Roki Sasaki bounced back from a couple rough innings to put up a quality start, Mookie Betts had a huge game-winning hit in the bottom of the eighth, Tanner Scott got back on his horse, and the Los Angeles Dodgers beat the Rockies in the rubber match of their three-game series. Alex Call lost both of LA's ABS challenges on consecutive pitches in the first inning, which ended up being more of a talking point than a key point in the game. But it's definitely a talking point! Jeff Snider and Kevin Skinner are here to talk about it all! Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com Or call = (562)373-4095 #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff Snider on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Jeff Spiegel on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/JeffSpiegel Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Differentiation: Staying Connected Without Losing Yourself Episode Summary Healthy relationships require both deep connection and a strong sense of self. In this episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the concept of differentiation—the ability to remain emotionally connected to your partner while maintaining your own identity, values, emotions, and personal responsibility. The discussion examines how betrayal trauma often leads couples toward emotional enmeshment, where one partner's emotions, behaviors, or recovery begin to consume the other person's identity. Dr. Skinner explains why healing is not about becoming emotionally detached, but about developing the capacity to remain present with a partner's pain without becoming overwhelmed by it. Listeners will learn the difference between differentiation, attunement, emotional contagion, empathy, and compassion, and why these concepts are often confused. The episode also highlights the importance of self-awareness, healthy boundaries, personal identity, and individual responsibility in creating lasting intimacy after betrayal. Rather than trying to control a partner's recovery or emotions, healing occurs when each person learns to "stay in their own lane" while intentionally nurturing the relationship they are building together. Key Topics Discussed What differentiation is—and what it is not The difference between differentiation and emotional enmeshment Attunement versus emotional contagion Why betrayal trauma often causes partners to lose themselves Developing greater self-awareness and personal identity Healthy boundaries and personal responsibility The relationship between empathy and compassion Learning to stay in your own lane while remaining emotionally connected Caring for yourself without disconnecting from your partner Building a relationship where two healthy individuals create lasting intimacy together Resources If today's conversation resonated with you, we invite you to explore the many resources available through Human Intimacy. Visit Human Intimacy to: Take relationship and recovery assessments Explore our online courses for betrayed partners, individuals in recovery, and couples Learn about our relationship intensives and workshops Access books, articles, and educational resources on betrayal trauma, intimacy, and relationship repair Stay informed about upcoming events, trainings, and new podcast episodes If you have questions or would like to connect with us, email us at info@humanintimacy.com. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share the Human Intimacy Podcast with someone who could benefit from today's conversation. Your support helps us continue providing evidence-based resources to individuals and couples seeking healthier, stronger, and more connected relationships.

The Los Angeles Dodgers fumbled a winnable game against the Colorado Rockies to spoil a fantastic start from Justin Wrobleski as he continues to make his case for the MLB All-Star Game in Philadelphia. Jeff Spiegel and Kevin Skinner break it all down, including Shohei Ohtani's 300th career home run, Miguel Rojas's defensive miscues and some questionable decisions from the Dodgers on both sides of the ball. Plus, Evan Phillips makes his return from the injured list and looks impressive. #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How to Deal with Getting Cheated On: The First Steps Toward Healing After Betrayal Podcast Summary What do you do after discovering your partner has cheated? Where do you even begin? In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis tackle one of the most painful questions a person can ask: How do I deal with getting cheated on? Rather than offering quick fixes or encouraging you to simply "move on," they explain why infidelity often creates a genuine trauma response—and why healing begins with stabilization and safety before rebuilding trust or repairing a relationship. Drawing from decades of clinical experience and current research on betrayal trauma, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss why your mind and body react the way they do after discovering infidelity and outline the first steps toward recovery. In this episode, you'll learn: Why discovering infidelity often feels like psychological trauma. How betrayal affects your nervous system, sleep, appetite, and emotions. Why hypervigilance, anxiety, and intrusive thoughts are normal trauma responses. The difference between emotional stabilization and relationship repair. Practical ways to begin caring for yourself after discovery. Why safety looks different for the betrayed partner and the partner who acted out. The importance of finding trusted support instead of trying to heal alone. How the Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) provides a roadmap for healing after betrayal. Whether your discovery happened days ago or years ago, this conversation offers validation, hope, and practical guidance to help you begin moving forward. Resources Mentioned

The Los Angeles Dodgers crushed the Athletics in game two of the series as  Tommy Edman powered the offense and Justin Wrobleski dominated with a season high in strikeouts. Jeff Spiegel and Kevin Skinner break it all down, including Dave Roberts getting career win No. 1,000 — becoming the fastest manager in MLB History to hit the milestone. Plus, huge injury updates on Edwin Diaz, Tyler Glasnow, Will Smith and Evan Phillips! Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Clint Pasillas and Kevin Skinner break down all the action from game 1 of the 3 game set between the Los Angeles Dodgers and A's. As the Dodger offense takes advantage of the minor league ballpark the Athletics are currently playing at, the guys have plenty of opportunity to glaze several LA hitters including Max Muncy and Shohei Ohtani, both of whom went deep in the 9-4 victory. Eric Lauer posted another quality start. Is he building more trade value or is he someone who could start a postseason game in a pinch? We discuss. And is Tyler Glasnow's health the difference between the status quo or a Tarik Skubal type of deadline for LA? Our recap, your reactions, LIVE! #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Los Angeles Dodgers put a shellacking on the Padres, riding a nine-run sixth inning to a 15-3 victory. LA ace Yoshinobu Yamamoto got some welcome run support in the form of three homers in the sixth, off the bats of Kyle Tucker, Dalton Rushing, and Mookie Betts. Freddie Freeman also chipped in three hits, Shohei Ohtani had two, and overall the entire team got in on the action. Jeff Snider, Clint Pasillas, and Kevin Skinner are here to talk all about it! #Dodgers Use promo code DODGERS at https://www.discountpokershop.com/ and save 10% now! Text MLB to 64000 to save 20% on IQBar and get free shipping today! Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff Snider on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Jeff Spiegel on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/JeffSpiegel Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Disclosure Is the Beginning, Not the End Summary Many couples assume that once disclosure, impact letters, and emotional restitution are complete, healing should naturally follow. Yet many still find themselves feeling disconnected and wondering why they continue to struggle. In this episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explain why disclosure is not the finish line but the foundation for rebuilding a relationship. Recovery and trauma work address secrecy and pain, but they do not automatically teach couples how to communicate, listen deeply, regulate emotions, and reconnect. Healing requires learning relationship skills, addressing old patterns, and developing new ways of showing up for one another. The journey doesn't end with disclosure—it begins there. Resources Mentioned Human Intimacy Podcast (previous episodes on Therapeutic Disclosure, Impact Letters, and Emotional Restitution) Human Intimacy Podcast Deep Listening: A Healing Practice to Calm Your Body, Clear Your Mind, and Open Your Heart by Jillian Pransky Deep Listening by Jillian Pransky The Intimacy Repair Method (courses, intensives, and relationship skill-building resources) Intimacy Repair Method Human Intimacy Podcast Companion Course (free reflections, exercises, and video lessons) Human Intimacy Podcast Companion Course Human Intimacy Courses (communication, emotional connection, and relationship education) Human Intimacy Courses Couples Intensives with Dr. Kevin Skinner Human Intimacy Website These resources are discussed as ways to continue developing the relationship skills necessary for healing after disclosure.

Postgame reactions for game 2 of the 3 game series between the Los Angeles Dodgers and Minnesota Twins. Clint Pasillas, Jeff Snider, and Kevin Skinner dive into LA's offensive explosion and Chuckie Robinson's huge day at the plate. Justin Wrobleski shoved again without many strikeouts. Some Wrobo love and the next question for the 25-year-old: when do we worry about his innings count? Kyle Tucker was held out of the lineup following his back spasm episode. The Dodgers say he'll be back in action on Friday. Do we believe them? And how can he get his season back on track? #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Use promo code DODGERS at https://www.discountpokershop.com/ and save 10% now! Text MLB to 64000 to save 20% on IQBar and get free shipping today! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Clint Pasillas and Kevin Skinner dive into a bunch of Los Angeles Dodgers talk! Breaking down Roki Sasaki who was great until he ran out of gas. What is the next step for Sasaki and can he become a true ace? The Dodgers walked it off with a thrilling come-from-behind effort in the 9th inning. We're reacting to everything great from Friday night's game and that inning, including Mookie Betts who, on his bobblehead night, continued a hot stretch that has us wondering, is Mookie... back? Plus, injury updates on Will Smith, Even Phillips, Edwin Diez, and more! Later in the show, voicemails return! CONTENT REMINDER: Saturday shows may feature more colorful language. Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Los Angeles Dodgers fans are hearing more and more about who could be traded for this season, but Jeff Spiegel and Kevin Skinner break down the most tradeable names currently on the roster and what it would actually take to deal them. What does the front office value most right now, and are there any surprises in the mix? The guys also dig into Shohei Ohtani's workload plan moving forward given his blister and knee issues, whether the recent performance of guys like Kyle Tucker, Mookie Betts, Yoshinobu Yamamoto and others are sustainable moving forward, and discuss changes to the MLB HR Derby format and potential MLB Draft changes. #dodgers Tube in all season long! Use promo code DODGERS at https://www.discountpokershop.com/ and save 10% now! Text MLB to 64000 to save 20% on IQBar and get free shipping today! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How Do We Create Safety in a Relationship? 10 Keys to Rebuilding Trust and Connection In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore one of the most important questions couples can ask themselves: “How do we create safety in a relationship?” Drawing from attachment theory, betrayal trauma recovery, and clinical experience, they discuss how safety is not simply a thought or belief—it is a physiological experience that occurs when the nervous system feels secure enough to relax, connect, and trust. The conversation examines how unresolved wounds, betrayal, childhood experiences, and past traumas can disrupt a person's sense of safety and create hypervigilance, fear, and emotional distance. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn explain why repairing safety requires more than good intentions; it requires consistent actions that help both partners feel seen, understood, and protected. The episode outlines 10 practical ways couples can create safety, including accountability, humility, recovery work, emotional openness, compassion, vulnerability, communication skills, and attunement. Listeners are invited to reflect on what safety feels like in their own bodies, identify unresolved experiences that may still be influencing their relationships, and consider the specific behaviors that help foster trust and connection. Whether rebuilding after betrayal or strengthening an existing relationship, this episode offers a framework for understanding safety as the foundation of healing, intimacy, and secure attachment. Key Takeaways Safety is experienced through the nervous system before it is experienced cognitively. Unresolved wounds often create hypervigilance and make trust more difficult. Betrayal recovery requires intentional efforts to rebuild safety through actions, not promises. Couples can strengthen safety by practicing accountability, compassion, vulnerability, and attunement. Understanding what safety feels like physically can help individuals recognize when they are moving toward or away from connection. Creating safety is a skill that both partners can learn and practice over time. Resources Mentioned Books Attached — Amir Levine The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work — John Gottman & Nan Silver Wired for Love — Stan Tatkin The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk The Betrayal Bond — Patrick Carnes Research and Clinical Concepts Attachment Theory Betrayal Trauma Hypervigilance and PTSD Symptoms Nervous System Regulation Attunement and Secure Connection The Zeigarnik Effect Compassion vs. Empathy in Relationship Healing Provisional Perception (Patrick Carnes) Relationship Safety and Co-Regulation Learn More About the Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) The concepts discussed in this episode are foundational principles of the Intimacy Repair Method (IRM)—a structured approach to helping individuals and couples heal from betrayal, rebuild safety, restore trust, and create deeper emotional connection. The IRM focuses on seven core pillars of healing: Stabilization Safety Boundaries Transparency and Integrity Empathy Repairing Reality Connection and Intimacy Through education, practical tools, guided exercises, and relationship-building skills, the Intimacy Repair Method helps couples move from crisis and uncertainty toward healing, security, and lasting connection. Note: If you are recovering from betrayal or working to rebuild trust in your relationship, the principles discussed in this episode are explored in greater depth through the Intimacy Repair Method (IRM), a comprehensive framework designed to help couples create safety, restore trust, and strengthen emotional connection. Learn more about the Intimacy Repair Method: https://intimacyrepairmethod.com      

The Los Angeles Dodgers dropped a disappointing series to the White Sox as the bullpen fell apart late and Emmet Sheehan fell apart in the sixth inning. Jeff Spiegel and Kevin Skinner break down what went wrong, whether the bullpen concerns are becoming more serious, and why this series felt like a missed opportunity. Plus, Dodgers fans did get at least one encouraging sign as Mookie Betts continued to show signs of life at the plate — is a turnaround coming for Mookie? #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Use promo code "DODGERS" and save 10% at https://www.discountpokershop.com/ Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Live Los Angeles Dodgers postgame reactions to Yoshinobu Yamamoto's near perfect, near no hit performance against the White Sox! How much blame, if any, goes to Mookie Betts following his key 8th inning error? Clint Pasillas and Kevin Skinner sound off! Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Los Angeles Dodgers took down the Pittsburgh Pirates 8-6, but the real story is that Shohei Ohtani left the game with left knee inflammation. How long will the Dodgers be without their best player? And does this end his hopes of a Cy Young? Kevin Skinner and Jeff Spiegel break it all down. Plus, Justin Wrobleski also leaves the game early and Will Smith is officially placed on the injured list. Tube in all season long! Use promo code "DODGERS" and save 10% at https://www.discountpokershop.com/ Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

It looked like a good night to be a Los Angeles Dodgers fan. Shohei Ohtani pitched really well for six innings, Ryan Ward hit his first career grand slam, and the Dodgers carried a 6-1 lead into the seventh. But Ohtani ran out of gas a little bit on the mound, and then Kyle Hurt and Jack Dreyer really made a mess of things in the eighth inning, and LA dropped game two of their series in Pittsburgh by a score of 9-8 (despite a two-run homer from Ohtani in the ninth inning). Jeff Snider and Kevin Skinner are here to talk all about it! Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com Or call = (562)373-4095 #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff Snider on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Jeff Spiegel on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/JeffSpiegel Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: The Questions Every Couple Should Be Asking Podcast Summary Relationships rarely fail because couples stop caring. More often, they struggle because they stop asking the questions that create understanding, connection, and growth. In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the questions every couple should be asking to strengthen their relationship, improve communication, and build deeper emotional intimacy. Rather than focusing solely on relationship advice, they discuss how meaningful self-reflection and intentional conversations can help couples gain clarity about where they are, where they want to go, and how they want to show up for one another. Topics include rebuilding trust, creating emotional safety, vulnerability, attachment, relationship expectations, annual marriage check-ins, and navigating life's unexpected challenges. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss how experiences such as betrayal, infertility, parenting stress, health concerns, and other major life transitions often force couples to reevaluate their priorities and rediscover what matters most in their relationship. Listeners will learn how thoughtful questions can uncover hidden assumptions, increase self-awareness, reduce resentment, and strengthen connection. The episode also explores the relationship between safety, trust, vulnerability, and emotional intimacy, drawing on insights from attachment theory, relationship research, and neuroscience. Whether you're recovering from betrayal, working through conflict, or simply seeking a stronger and healthier marriage, this conversation offers practical tools to help you create more meaningful and intentional relationships. What You'll Learn Why the question "What are we doing?" can transform a relationship How relationship goals evolve over time The importance of annual marriage check-ins How trust, safety, and vulnerability influence connection Why major life events often require couples to reassess their relationship The role of self-awareness in relationship success How asking better questions leads to deeper emotional intimacy Practical journaling and reflection exercises for couples How to identify and address unspoken resentments Why relationship growth requires intentional effort Key Questions from This Episode What are we doing in this relationship? Why do I want to be in this relationship? What kind of relationship do I want moving forward? How am I showing up as a partner? Am I being the person I want to be? What am I feeling right now? How often am I listening versus defending? What conversations have we been avoiding? What do I want our relationship to look like one year from now? How can I contribute more positively to our relationship? Resources Mentioned Relationship Research & Attachment John Gottman & Julie Gottman Stephen Porges Peggy Vaughan Jim Collins Recommended Reading The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Eight Dates Attached Secure  Learn more @ HumanIntimacy.com

Los Angeles Dodgers pitcher Shohei Ohtani threw six scoreless innings to lower his season ERA to 0.74. Dodgers designated hitter Shohei Ohtani went 3-for-4 with two walks to raise his OPS to .941. Kyle Tucker and Alex Freeland each had three hits and a walk, and the Dodgers' offense was on base 22 times in total in a 7-0 win over the DBacks. Jeff Snider, Clint Pasillas, and Kevin Skinner are here to talk all about LA's dominant win in Phoenix, then branch off into ice cream discussions inspired by Joe Davis and Orel Hershiser on the broadcast. Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com Or call = (562)373-4095 #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff Snider on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Jeff Spiegel on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/JeffSpiegel Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Affair, Addiction, or Something More? Understanding the Story Behind Sexual Betrayal Summary In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore one of the most confusing and emotionally overwhelming questions couples face after betrayal: Was this “just” an affair, or is there something deeper happening? Together, they discuss the critical importance of understanding the full story behind sexual betrayal before attempting relationship repair. The conversation explores the differences between infidelity, compulsive sexual behavior, pornography addiction, emotional affairs, and trauma-driven patterns, while emphasizing why proper assessment and professional support are often essential. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn explain how secrecy, deception, and incomplete information impact the betrayed partner's nervous system, often leading to anxiety, hypervigilance, and worst-case-scenario thinking. They also discuss why premature couples therapy can sometimes do more harm than good when active betrayal or addiction is still occurring. Additional topics include: The progression of sexual behaviors Sexual history timelines and formal disclosures Trauma reenactment and attachment wounds The Zeigarnik Effect and unresolved emotional pain The impact of pornography and online sexual behaviors Why understanding the roots of behavior matters for healing How assessment tools help therapists identify deeper patterns This episode offers compassionate guidance for individuals and couples trying to make sense of betrayal, while reminding listeners that healing becomes possible when the full story is brought into the light. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) Directory IITAP (International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals) SexHelp Therapist Directory Topics Discussed Sexual History Timelines Formal Therapeutic Disclosure Emotional Restitution Letters Betrayal Trauma The Zeigarnik Effect Trauma Reenactment Attachment Injuries Stabilization Before Couples Therapy Sexual Dependency Inventory (SDI) Sexual Digital Media Inventory (SDMI) Additional Human Intimacy Resources Human Intimacy Dr. Kevin Skinner

Los Angeles Dodgers fans got another win over the Diamondbacks, but it wasn't exactly stress-free. Shohei Ohtani and Freddie Freeman powered the offense, while the bullpen made things interesting late as the Dodgers barely hung on. Jeff Spiegel and Kevin Skinner react to the win, what stood out most, and whether there should be any real concern about the bullpen moving forward. Dodgers fans also look ahead to Ohtani's next start against Arizona and what to expect from the two-way star on the mound. Plus, could a Tarik Skubal trade actually be in play for the Dodgers, or is it just wishful thinking? Use promo code "DODGERS" and save 10% at https://www.discountpokershop.com/ Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Confident Conversations: Teaching Children Healthy Intimacy, Connection, and Emotional Safety (with Dan Oakes) Summary In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner sits down with Dan Oakes to discuss parenting, healthy sexuality, emotional connection, and prevention in today's digital culture. Dan shares insights from his new book, Confident Conversations: Teaching Your Children to Develop Healthy Intimacy, which helps parents navigate difficult but essential conversations about sexuality, intimacy, attachment, and emotional regulation. Together, they explore how many parents feel uncomfortable discussing sexuality because they themselves were never taught how to approach these conversations in healthy, emotionally connected ways. The discussion reframes sexuality not as something shameful, but as a normal human drive connected to attachment, connection, and emotional intimacy. Dan explains how shame becomes attached to core human urges and how this can create cycles of restriction, secrecy, binge behaviors, anxiety, and compulsive pornography use. Using relatable metaphors and attachment-based principles, the conversation highlights the importance of replacing shame with openness, emotional safety, and co-regulation. The episode also explores: the connection between shame and anxiety, how pornography functions as a “supernormal stimulus,” why novelty and dopamine influence compulsive behaviors, the importance of emotional connection in prevention, and how parents can build trust and emotional safety with their children. Dan shares five foundational parenting principles from his book: Build trust above all else Protect the home environment Teach progressive developmental facts early Model healthy affection Respond with calm rather than fear or shame Throughout the conversation, Dr. Skinner and Dan emphasize that prevention begins with connection, emotional safety, and courageous conversations. The episode offers practical guidance for parents, grandparents, therapists, and educators seeking to help children develop healthy intimacy, emotional resilience, and meaningful human connection in a highly digital world. Resources & References Mentioned Book Confident Conversations: Teaching Your Children to Develop Healthy Intimacy — Dan Oakes Researchers & Concepts Sue Johnson — attachment and emotional responsiveness Niko Tinbergen — supernormal stimulus theory Co-regulation and auto-regulation research Attachment and emotional bonding principles Novelty, dopamine, and compulsive behavior research Shame cycles and compulsive sexual behavior patterns Key Topics Discussed Parenting and healthy sexuality Shame versus healthy sexual development Emotional regulation and attachment Pornography and supernormal stimuli Anxiety, shame, and compulsive behaviors Co-regulation and self-regulation Human intimacy and emotional connection Prevention strategies for pornography addiction Building trust with children Healthy affection and attachment Digital culture and emotional isolation Emotional safety in families

The Los Angeles Dodgers crushed the Colorado Rockies as Mookie Betts had a huge night, exploding offensively with two home runs. Will Smith and Andy Pages also had big nights as they scored 15 runs to extend their divisional lead to 3.5 games over the San Diego Padres. Jeff Spiegel and Kevin Skinner break it all down, including an impressive Dodgers debut from Eric Lauer, and a concerning Kiké Hernandez injury update postgame. Plus, injury updates on Tommy Edman, Evan Phillips, Brock Stewart and Jack Dreyer. Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️  Patreon.com/realfrg   Or on YouTube Members! Youtube.com/@AllDodgers All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dodgers designated hitter Shohei Ohtani hit the first pitch of the game over the wall in center field. In hindsight, that was all the offensive support Dodgers starting pitcher Shohei Ohtani needed, but the offense tacked on single runs in three other innings and the bullpen threw four scoreless innings after Ohtani's five scoreless, and Los Angeles wins the series over the Padres and leaves San Diego with a 1.5-game lead in the NL West. Jeff Snider and Kevin Skinner are here to talk about Ohtani's momentous performance tonight and this season, the insane hot streak the LA bullpen is on, and much more! Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com Or call = (562)373-4095 #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff Snider on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Jeff Spiegel on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/JeffSpiegel Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Emotional Safety After Betrayal: Understanding Emotions, Trauma, and Relationship Healing Podcast Summary In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the connection between emotional safety, betrayal trauma, emotional regulation, and relationship healing after infidelity or sexual betrayal. Many individuals struggling with betrayal trauma, anxiety, emotional disconnection, or relationship conflict often suppress their true emotions by saying “I'm fine” while internally feeling overwhelmed, hurt, angry, anxious, or emotionally exhausted. In this conversation, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss why emotional honesty and emotional congruency are essential for rebuilding trust, emotional intimacy, and healthy communication in relationships. The episode examines how shame, emotional shutdown, avoidance, and trauma responses interfere with connection and healing. Listeners will also learn about emotional contagion, nervous system regulation, co-regulation, and the importance of creating emotionally safe relationships where both partners can openly express their feelings without fear of judgment, defensiveness, or rejection. Topics discussed include: Betrayal trauma recovery Healing after infidelity Emotional regulation in relationships Relationship communication skills Emotional safety and trust rebuilding PTSD symptoms after betrayal Emotional disconnection in marriage Co-regulation and nervous system healing Shame and emotional shutdown Understanding contradictory emotions after betrayal Emotional intelligence and self-awareness How unresolved emotions impact intimacy and connection Whether you are recovering from betrayal trauma, struggling with emotional intimacy, or trying to strengthen communication in your relationship, this episode provides practical insights into understanding emotions, rebuilding trust, and creating deeper human connection. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman A foundational book on emotional awareness, emotional regulation, empathy, and developing healthier relationship skills. The Choice by Edith Eger Discusses emotional healing, resilience, trauma recovery, and understanding core emotional experiences. The work of Brené Brown Especially her research on vulnerability, shame, emotional connection, and authentic relationships. Stephen Porges and Polyvagal Theory Understanding nervous system regulation, emotional safety, co-regulation, and trauma responses in relationships. Thich Nhat Hanh Referenced for his teachings on deep listening, mindfulness, emotional presence, and compassionate communication. Al Siebert Concepts on resiliency, emotional flexibility, and the “both/and” approach to emotional experiences. The Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) Course A structured framework designed to help couples heal from betrayal trauma, rebuild emotional safety, improve communication, and strengthen intimacy. Human Intimacy Resources and Courses Human Intimacy Additional Resources for Betrayal Trauma & Relationship Healing Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Understanding attachment styles, emotional needs, and relationship dynamics. The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk A leading resource on trauma, nervous system responses, emotional regulation, and healing. Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson A guide to emotional bonding, attachment, and strengthening relationships after emotional injuries. Addo Therapy & Recovery Resources Therapy, betrayal trauma recovery support, couples counseling, anxiety treatment, mindfulness resources, and emotional healing support.

The Los Angeles Dodgers got a huge comeback win over the Padres as Freddie Freeman homered twice and Andy Pages came through with a massive ninth-inning at-bat to help finish it off against Mason Miller. Jeff Spiegel and Kevin Skinner break down the win, the bullpen holding it down late, and what to make of Emmet Sheehan's continued struggles. Plus, the latest on Blake Snell's injury situation and the plan for Shohei Ohtani the hitter tomorrow with him back on the mound. Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Sex After Betrayal: Navigating Sexuality, Safety, and Connection In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and Marianne Michaelis explore one of the most confusing and emotionally charged topics couples face after betrayal: sexuality after discovery. Why do some couples stop having sex entirely while others become more sexual after betrayal? What does it mean if a betrayed partner still desires intimacy? And how do couples navigate sexuality in ways that are emotionally safe and healthy? Together, they discuss the impact betrayal has on sexual desire, emotional bonding, pornography, hypersexuality, shame, and the confusion many individuals feel surrounding intimacy after discovery. The conversation introduces the concept of “sexual self-mastery” and emphasizes the importance of awareness, communication, emotional safety, and intentionality in rebuilding intimacy. This episode offers compassionate guidance for individuals and couples trying to better understand their sexuality, emotions, and relationship dynamics during recovery and healing. Resources Mentioned The Betrayal Bond by Patrick Carnes Sensate-focused therapy concepts Sexual self-mastery Emotional regulation and communication skills Pornography and relational intimacy research HumanIntimacy.com

The Los Angeles Dodgers lost again, the offense stayed asleep, and Yoshinobu Yamamoto had a rough night on the mound. Jeff Spiegel and Kevin Skinner break down another frustrating game, what's behind the Dodgers' offensive struggles, and whether it's time to start getting concerned. Dodgers fans did finally get a little life from Shohei Ohtani offensively though, which could be a sign that he's starting to break out at the plate again. What would that mean for a lineup that desperately needs a spark right now? Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️   / realfrg   Or on YouTube Members! ️    / @alldodgers   All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why Can't I Stop Thinking About the Affair? Understanding Rumination, Triggers, and Healing After Betrayal In this important episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore one of the most common and painful questions after betrayal: “Why can't I stop thinking about it?” Together, they unpack the neuroscience and emotional reality behind rumination, intrusive thoughts, PTSD responses, triggers, and nervous system dysregulation after sexual betrayal and affairs. The conversation helps both betrayed and betraying partners understand why the mind and body struggle to “move on,” even when logic says the relationship may be improving. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss how betrayal disrupts safety, attachment, and reality itself, often leaving the betrayed partner feeling emotionally flooded, hypervigilant, and stuck in repetitive thoughts. They also explain how healing requires more than simply stopping behaviors—it involves nervous system regulation, emotional attunement, compassion, consistency, and deeper relational repair. Listeners will also learn practical tools for responding to triggers, including grounding exercises, journaling, movement-based trauma release, self-attunement, parts work, emotional regulation, and therapeutic approaches such as EMDR and ART. This episode offers hope, validation, and practical guidance for anyone struggling with intrusive thoughts after betrayal trauma. Key Topics Covered Why betrayed partners experience rumination and intrusive thoughts PTSD and betrayal trauma responses The difference between logical understanding and nervous system safety Why triggers continue even after behavior stops Emotional flooding and nervous system dysregulation How betraying partners can respond in healing ways Self-compassion and trauma recovery Tools for emotional regulation and trauma release Parts work and self-attunement EMDR, ART, and trauma-informed healing approaches Recovery capital and building support systems Resources Mentioned The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Brené Brown – research on exhaustion and uncertainty Jill Bolte Taylor – emotional processing concepts Calming the Emotional Storm by Sheri Van Dijk EMDR Therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy) Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges Internal Parts Work / Self-Attunement Approaches Recovery Capital framework Human Intimacy Podcast episode on Empathy vs. Compassion Upcoming Course Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) — 12 Week Course Join Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis for the upcoming Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) course beginning May 7th. The course is designed to help couples heal from betrayal trauma through a structured process focused on: Safety Emotional regulation Accountability How to measure and create relational repair Compassion Rebuilding intimacy Learn More & Register: The Intimacy Repair Method (12-Week Online Course)  

The Los Angeles Dodgers lost 2-1 to the Houston Astros on Tuesday night, despite a great outing from Shohei Ohtani. The big talking point, however, was Dave Roberts' decision to keep Ohtani out of the lineup for the second straight start. Host Jeff Spiegel is joined by Kevin Skinner to break all of this down, plus an encouraging injury update on Kiké Hernández. Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com  Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon: Patreon.com/realFRG  Or on YouTube Members: youtube.com/@AllDodgers All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Yoshinobu Yamamoto had a rough first inning but then settled in nicely, and for once he got good run support as the Dodgers offense broke out against a weak Astros pitching staff. Add it all up, and Los Angeles beat the bad guys 8-3 and snapped their six-game homerless streak with dingers from Alex Freeland and Kyle Tucker. Freddie Freeman added two hits, Will Smith had three, and everyone except Shohei Ohtani and Max Muncy had at least one hit (and Ohtani and Muncy each had multiple walks). Good day for the Boys in Blue! Join Jeff Snider, Clint Pasillas, and Kevin Skinner to talk all about it! Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com Or call = (562)373-4095 #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff Snider on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Jeff Spiegel on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/JeffSpiegel Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Los Angeles Dodgers pick up a much needed win against the St. Louis Cardinals, and Jeff Spiegel, Clint Pasillas and Kevin Skinner break it all down with a focus on Justin Wrobleski, who just keeps dominating. Dodgers fans also got a big Blake Snell update as he takes a real step forward in rehab, meaning a Roki Sasaki decision is looming as the competition between him and Emmet Sheehan heats up. Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon: patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members: youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See  for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Crucial Moments: How Couples Can Navigate Triggers Without Destroying Connection Episode Overview What happens when a trigger hits in your relationship—and everything escalates? In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis break down what they call “crucial moments”—those intense emotional experiences where couples either move toward healing or fall back into painful patterns. If you've ever found yourself stuck in the same argument, feeling unheard, or overwhelmed by emotional reactions, this episode will help you understand why those patterns happen—and how to change them. Why Triggers Feel So Overwhelming When a trigger hits, your brain shifts into survival mode. The amygdala activates, your nervous system becomes dysregulated, and your ability to communicate effectively drops. This is why: Conversations escalate quickly You repeat the same arguments You feel misunderstood or dismissed Your partner becomes defensive or shuts down Key Insight: You cannot create connection when your body is in a fight-or-flight state. The Missing Step in Relationship Repair Most couples try to fix the relationship while they're emotionally flooded. Dr. Skinner emphasizes a critical principle: Stabilize yourself first. Then engage your partner. Without emotional regulation, even the best communication tools won't work. Common Mistakes Couples Make During Conflict Many couples unknowingly reinforce disconnection during triggers. Watch for these patterns: 1. Marathon Conversations Trying to resolve everything in one conversation while both partners are overwhelmed 2. Defensiveness Disguised as Empathy Statements like: “I didn't mean to hurt you” “I'm sorry you feel that way” These often feel minimizing instead of supportive 3. Relying Only on Your Partner for Regulation Expecting your partner to calm you down when they may also be triggered 4. Repeating the Same Cycle Having the same argument over and over without new tools or awareness How to Respond in Triggered Moments (What Actually Works) 1. Pause and Regulate Before responding, ask yourself: Am I emotionally stable right now? Is my body calm enough to have this conversation? If not, step away and regulate first. 2. Use Outside Support Sometimes your partner is not the right person in that moment to help you regulate. Consider: A trusted friend A support group A mentor or sponsor This can help you return to the conversation with clarity. 3. Shift from Reactivity to Curiosity Instead of reacting, try: “Help me understand what you're experiencing” “Tell me more about what you're feeling” This lowers defensiveness and builds connection. 4. Take Responsibility for Your Emotional Response Your emotions are valid—but how you express them matters. Healthy communication includes: Emotional honesty Self-awareness Respectful expression Understanding the Power Struggle in Relationships After betrayal or disconnection, couples often fall into power imbalances: One partner holds information or control The other feels uncertain, hurt, or reactive True healing requires moving away from: “One-up / one-down” dynamics And toward: Mutual honesty, vulnerability, and accountability Why Some Couples Stay Stuck for Years If you feel like you're not making progress, it's often due to: Incomplete or staggered disclosure Lack of emotional regulation skills Repeating patterns without addressing root issues Avoiding deeper vulnerability Key Insight: Without new skills, the same patterns will continue—no matter how much you talk. A Better Way Forward Healing doesn't come from saying more—it comes from learning how to show up differently. That includes: Regulating your nervous system Communicating with clarity and compassion Practicing new patterns consistently Building emotional safety over time Key Takeaways You cannot be relational when you are emotionally dysregulated Personal stabilization is the foundation of relationship repair Triggers require skillful responses, not reactive ones Both partners play a role in creating change Progress comes from practice, not just insight Resources Mentioned in This Episode Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) Course Emotional Regulation & Nervous System Awareness Structured Disclosure Process Role Play Practice for Communication Skills Call to Action If your relationship feels stuck in repetitive conflict, you don't have to keep guessing. The Intimacy Repair Method Course provides a step-by-step process to help couples: Rebuild trust Improve communication Create lasting emotional connection

How Do You Know You're Making Progress After Betrayal? Understanding Safety, Awareness, and Real Change In this episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn explore one of the most common—and emotionally loaded—questions couples ask after betrayal: *“How do we know if we're actually making progress?”* Healing doesn't follow a straight line. Many couples feel stuck in a painful cycle of “two steps forward, three steps back,” leaving them wondering if anything is truly changing. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn break down what real progress looks like—not through checklists or surface behaviors, but through a deeper, more meaningful shift: **perceived relational safety**. They discuss how the body plays a central role in detecting safety through what is often called a “gut feeling,” drawing on concepts like neuroception from Stephen Porges. Listeners will learn why healing requires more than logical reassurance—and why the nervous system must begin to *feel* safe before true connection can return. Through a powerful role-play, they demonstrate the difference between reactive, defensive conversations and regulated, productive ones. This real-life example highlights how self-awareness, emotional regulation, and vulnerability can transform conflict into connection. They also address: Why some betrayed partners struggle to trust even when their partner is “doing everything right” The impact of shock versus gradual awareness in discovery How deception can distort one's internal sense of safety Why stabilization must come before meaningful repair How consistency—not perfection—builds trust over time Ultimately, progress is not measured by the absence of conflict, but by how couples navigate it. When both partners develop awareness of their internal experiences and learn to communicate those experiences safely, healing becomes not only possible—but measurable. If you've ever questioned whether your relationship is moving forward, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a roadmap for what real progress actually looks like. Key Resources & Mentions The Intimacy Repair Method (IRM)   A structured approach to healing after betrayal, focusing on safety, stabilization, and rebuilding connection. Perceived Relational Safety Scale (PRSS)   A practical assessment tool to help individuals and couples measure how safe they feel in the relationship and track progress over time. Polyvagal Theory & Neuroception – Polyvagal Theory   Developed by Stephen Porges, this framework explains how the nervous system detects safety or threat and influences connection and emotional regulation. HumanIntimacy.com   Access courses, assessments, and resources to support healing and relationship repair. 12-Week Intimacy Repair Course   A guided program with role-plays, assessments, and step-by-step instruction to help couples rebuild trust and connection. --- Key Takeaway Progress isn't about doing everything perfectly—it's about creating consistent, safe, and honest interactions where both partners can begin to feel, not just think, that change is happening.

Clint Pasillas, Jeff Snider, and Kevin Skinner dive into everything from the Los Angeles Dodgers' series finale in Colorado and everything that came before it. Thoughts on Justin Wrobleski's 4th start of the season, the lineup (especially Max Muncy, Miguel Rojas, and Dalton Rushing) putting in work against Jose Quintana, and the latest on Edwin Diaz's injury. Our recap and your reactions, live! Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com Or call = (562)373-4095 #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff Snider on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Jeff Spiegel on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/JeffSpiegel Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Los Angeles Dodgers won another series after taking game two of their series agains the Mets in one of the best pitchers duels of the season. Dodgers ace Yoshinobu Yamamoto outdueled Mets rookie Nolan McLean, Blake Treinen got a huge out to earn the win, and Alex Vesia was lights out to notch his second save of the season on an emotional night for him. On the offensive side, Kyle Tucker made the Mets pay for intentionally walking Shohei Ohtani when he blooped a go-ahead single into left field in the eighth inning. Jeff Snider, Clint Pasillas, and Kevin Skinner are here to talk all about it, along with listener voicemails digging into it! Get your thoughts in on the Friend of the Show hotline! Send a voice memo to CallAllDodgers@gmail.com Or call = (562)373-4095 #Dodgers Tube in all season long! Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

 Hope After Betrayal: Is Healing Your Relationship Still Possible? After betrayal, many couples quietly wonder: Is there any real hope for us? In this powerful episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore what hope actually looks like in the aftermath of sexual betrayal—and why so many people struggle to find it. Drawing from decades of clinical experience, they discuss the reality behind discouraging statistics, the isolation many betrayed partners feel, and why healing often requires more than just good intentions. They introduce a critical shift: hope is not built through words alone, but through new patterns, emotional regulation, and learning how to stay present in the hardest moments. You'll also hear: Why many couples stay stuck in repeating emotional “loops” How shame and defensiveness block true repair The danger of trying to heal in isolation—or relying on the wrong sources What actually creates change: principles, skills, and consistent application Why healing is possible—even if the relationship doesn't survive Whether you're fighting for your relationship or trying to rebuild your life after it, this episode offers a grounded, honest message:

The Courage to Heal: Facing Pain, Shame, and Change Together Episode Summary In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and Marianne Michaelis explore the many forms of courage required in the healing process—both individually and as a couple. Courage is not just about staying in a relationship after betrayal. It's about facing pain, telling the truth, asking for help, and being willing to see yourself clearly. It's the courage to slow down when emotions are overwhelming, to remain present in difficult conversations, and to confront shame rather than avoid it. Dr. Skinner and Marianne highlight how healing is not just emotional—it is deeply biological. When individuals feel shame or fear, their nervous system becomes activated, making it difficult to stay grounded and connected. True courage, then, is learning how to regulate those internal responses so that meaningful repair can happen. Through powerful metaphors—including riding through dark tunnels, wearing the wrong “lens,” and learning to ride a backwards bike—they illustrate how healing requires patience, intentionality, and repeated effort. Change often feels unnatural at first, but with practice, new patterns can emerge. Ultimately, this episode invites listeners to reflect on one essential question: Where do I need courage right now? Healing is not about perfection—it's about continuing forward, even when the path is unclear.   Key Takeaways Healing from betrayal requires multiple forms of courage—not just endurance, but self-awareness and vulnerability Shame is both emotional and physiological; regulation must come before meaningful connection Slowing down is sometimes more courageous than pushing forward Change feels unnatural at first—like using your non-dominant hand or riding a backwards bike Progress happens through repetition, curiosity, and compassionate self-reflection Each person's pace is different—comparison can disrupt healing Resources & References Human Intimacy Resources Human Intimacy Website (Courses & Conference Access): https://www.humanintimacy.com 2026 Human Intimacy Conference (Recordings Available): Available under “Courses” after creating a free account Contact for Questions: info@humanintimacy.com Concepts & Influences Mentioned Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) – Dr. Kevin Skinner Polyvagal Theory – Dr. Stephen Porges Shame & Vulnerability Research – Brené Brown Interpersonal Neurobiology – Dr. Dan Siegel EMDR & Trauma Processing Models Suggested Viewing The Backwards Brain Bicycle (Learning & Change): A powerful illustration of how difficult it is to rewire learned patterns Reflection Questions for Listeners Where in my life do I need courage right now? What am I avoiding because it feels uncomfortable or overwhelming? When I feel triggered or flooded, how do I typically respond? What would it look like to slow down instead of react? Where have I already demonstrated courage in my healing journey?

Understanding Your Pain: How Childhood Experiences Shape Your Life and Relationships Episode Summary In this deeply honest and meaningful conversation, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaels explore one of the most important—and often avoided—topics in healing: personal pain. Whether that pain feels overwhelming and present, or buried and difficult to access, it plays a powerful role in shaping how we think, feel, and connect with others. In this episode, we examine how early life experiences—especially Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)—can influence emotional health, physical well-being, and relationship patterns later in life. Dr. Skinner shares both clinical insights and personal experiences to illustrate how unresolved pain can remain stored in the body for years, quietly influencing behavior and perception. Together, we discuss why some experiences are difficult to recall, how trauma impacts the brain and nervous system, and why having a safe, supportive environment is essential for healing. This episode also offers hope. Through the concept of Benevolent Childhood Experiences (BCEs), we explore how even one positive, supportive relationship can shift outcomes and foster resilience. Healing is possible—and it often begins with awareness, compassion, and a willingness to gently explore your story. If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure why certain patterns keep repeating, this episode is an invitation to better understand yourself—and to take the next step toward healing.

Clint Pasillas, Jeff Snider, and Kevin Skinner lay it on all the line with their predictions for the 2026 Major League Baseball regular season. How many wins will the Los Angeles Dodgers have this season? Who will be the second home run leader behind Shohei Ohtani? And how will the regular season shake out around the league? Division winner predictions. Playoff and World Series predictions. Awards predictions and all the bold takes you can handle! Save your receipts! Tube in all season long! Leave a voicemail or text the Friend of the Show hotline! (562)373-4095 Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Grieving the Unseen Loss: Understanding Grief After Betrayal Summary In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis reflect on the powerful insights emerging from the 2026 Human Intimacy Conference, with a particular focus on grief following sexual betrayal. While much of the field has emphasized trauma and post-traumatic stress, this conversation highlights a critical gap: the profound and often unaddressed grief experienced by both betrayed and betraying partners. Drawing from early data on the Grief After Betrayal Impact Scale, MaryAnn shares a striking finding—the most significant loss reported is not just the relationship, but the loss of self, including identity, trust in oneself, and a coherent sense of reality. The discussion explores how betrayal creates a “collapsed self,” alters one's perception of a partner, and leads to ongoing grief that can persist for decades. The episode introduces emerging frameworks for understanding betrayal-related grief, including stages of emotional shock, internal conflict, withdrawal, rage, and eventual reclamation. Dr. Skinner and Marianne emphasize that grief is not a single event but a long-term process, often unfolding over years as individuals grieve not only what happened, but what could have been. A key theme is the importance of giving grief a voice in safe relationships. Healing is accelerated when individuals are witnessed, validated, and supported—whether by a partner, therapist, or trusted connection. Without this, grief often becomes prolonged and isolating. The conversation also raises important clinical and societal implications, including the need for better training, expanded research, and more effective support systems—particularly in faith communities, where many individuals report feeling misunderstood or unsupported. Ultimately, this episode reframes betrayal recovery by integrating grief as a central component of healing, calling for a more compassionate, relational, and research-informed approach to addressing the deep emotional losses that accompany betrayal. Click here to take the Grief After Betrayal Impact Scale References (Note: These are foundational and aligned with concepts discussed in the episode—ideal for podcast notes and future academic integration.) Jennifer J. Freyd (1996). Betrayal Trauma: The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse. Harvard University Press. Judith Herman (1992). Trauma and Recovery. Basic Books. Susan Anderson (2010). The Journey from Abandonment to Healing. Berkley Books. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & Kessler, D. (2005). On Grief and Grieving. Scribner. William Worden (2009). Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy. Springer Publishing. Bessel van der Kolk (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Viking. Stephen W. Porges (2011). The Polyvagal Theory. Norton. John Bowlby (1980). Attachment and Loss: Vol. 3 – Loss. Basic Books. Pauline Boss (1999). Ambiguous Loss. Harvard University Press. Kenneth J. Doka (1989). Disenfranchised Grief. Lexington Books.  

As spring training winds down, fans of the Los Angeles Dodgers have their attention split between the Boys in Blue playing exhibitions in Arizona and some of their biggest stars (Shohei Ohtani, Yoshinobu Yamamoto, Will Smith, Edwin Diaz, and Hyeseong Kim) playing in the World Baseball Classic. Smith and his Team USA teammates overcame some self-inflicted adversity to advance to the quarterfinals, and Clint Pasillas, Jeff Snider, and Kevin Skinner are here to talk about Mark DeRosa's almost-devastating mistake. Back in Arizona, second-year phenom Roki Sasaki pitched in a B-game this week and looked very good, and we'll dig into his progress and his outlook for Opening Day. Also, LA first baseman Freddie Freeman is having a great spring and looks to be benefitting greatly from being fully healthy. What can we reasonably expect from the 36-year-old future Hall of Famer? Tube in all season long! Leave a voicemail or text the Friend of the Show hotline! = (562)373-4095 #Dodgers Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

When Recovery Means Different Things to Each Partner Summary: One of the most difficult aspects of healing after betrayal is that both partners may believe they are working toward recovery, yet they may have very different ideas about what healing actually looks like. In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner is joined by MaryAnn Michaels and Geoff Steurer to explore why couples often struggle to align their expectations during the recovery process. While both partners may want the relationship to improve, the impact of betrayal trauma, personal histories, and emotional needs can create very different timelines and definitions of what recovery means. The conversation explores the early stages of recovery, when many couples are simply trying to stabilize after the shock of discovery. Dr. Skinner, MaryAnn, and Geoff discuss why healing is rarely a straight path and how grief, emotional processing, and honest conversations play an essential role in rebuilding trust. They also explore a common challenge in recovery: when one partner feels they are doing everything they can to repair the relationship, yet the other partner still does not feel safe or connected. Rather than focusing on checklists or expectations, the discussion emphasizes the importance of curiosity, deep listening, and emotional presence. Another important topic addressed is the difference in timing when couples begin considering physical or sexual reconnection. Geoff shares insights from his work with couples and introduces the concept of “Not Yet,” highlighting the importance of patience, safety, and open dialogue when partners are not emotionally ready at the same time. Ultimately, healing after betrayal requires more than stopping harmful behaviors. It involves rebuilding emotional safety, learning to communicate vulnerably, and continually checking in with each other as the relationship evolves. As the conversation highlights, recovery is not a single event but an ongoing process of deeper understanding, connection, and growth. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Geoff Steurer – From Crisis to Connection Podcast Geoff Steurer – Courageous Together Couples Program Dr. Kevin Skinner – Treating Sexual Addiction: A Compassionate Approach to Recovery Dr. Sue Johnson – Love Sense John Gottman – Love Maps Brené Brown – Research and teachings on vulnerability, safety, and self-trust Human Intimacy Conference Geoff Steurer will be presenting at the 2nd Annual Human Intimacy Conference, held March 13–14, 2026, where he will speak on the topic “Not Yet,” focusing on how couples can thoughtfully and safely navigate sexual reconnection after betrayal. To learn more or register for the conference, visit: bit.ly/humanintimacy Use the Coupon Code: 30off New Sponsorship If you or someone you love is looking for a place to begin the healing journey, you can learn more at BeginAgainInstitute.com. We're grateful to Begin Again Institute for supporting the Human Intimacy Podcast.  

Empathy Overload: Why Feeling Too Much Can Hurt Your Relationship (And How Compassion Heals It)

Los Angeles Dodgers pitcher Roki Sasaki made his second start of the spring on Tuesday, and it went about as poorly as the first. But LA manager Dave Roberts says he and the team aren't concerned. Does that lack of concern about Roki carry over to the fanbase? Jeff Snider and Kevin Skinner are here to talk about that and more! Tube in all season long! Leave a voicemail or text the Friend of the Show hotline! = (562)373-4095 #Dodgers Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Roki Sasaki, River Ryan, and Edwin Diaz all made their spring training debuts on Wednesday for the Los Angeles Dodgers, to mixed results. What, if anything, can we learn from what we saw on the mound today in Arizona? Jeff Snider and Kevin Skinner are here to break it all down. Tube in all season long! Leave a voicemail or text the Friend of the Show hotline! = (562)373-4095 #Dodgers Join our Discord by supporting the show on Patreon! ️ https://patreon.com/realFRG Or on YouTube Members! ️ https://youtube.com/@alldodgers/join All Dodgers is presented by FanDuel, part of the Bleav Network of podcasts. Please like and subscribe on YouTube! Hit that notification bell to get alerts on new content! PODCAST: Listen on BLEAV! ️ https://bit.ly/adbleav Listen on iTunes! ️ https://apple.co/3TXL8Vv Listen on Spotify! ️ http://bit.ly/3I9nW2S Listen on iHeart! ️ https://ihr.fm/3TXV5Cy SOCIAL: Follow Clint on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/realFRG Follow Clint on Instagram ️instagram.com/realfrg Follow Jeff on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/snidog Follow Kevin on Twitter/X ️twitter.com/skinner7kevin Follow the show on Twitter/X ️ twitter.com/alldodgersla Follow the show on Instagram ️ instagram.com/alldodgerspod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

When Couples Feel Stuck: Breaking the Patterns That Keep You From Healing What do you do when you've tried everything—therapy, groups, individual work—and you still feel stuck? In this powerful conversation, Dr. Kevin Skinner and Maryanne Michaelis, LCSW, explore why couples get trapped in the same relational patterns and, more importantly, how those patterns can change. This episode speaks directly to couples who feel hopeless, exhausted, or unsure whether real progress is possible. You'll learn why feeling stuck is often a signal—not of failure—but of unexamined patterns, unspoken fears, missing structure, or hidden truths.

  Understanding Sexual Intimacy: Self-Awareness, Healing, and Connection in the Intimacy Triangle (Part 2) Episode Summary In this concluding conversation on the Intimacy Triangle, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the most complex and often misunderstood dimension of intimacy—sexual intimacy. Together, they examine how personal history, trauma, shame, cultural messaging, betrayal, and biology shape the way individuals and couples experience sexuality. The discussion begins with a powerful question: “Who am I as a sexual being?” From there, they unpack the importance of self-awareness, emotional safety, and honest communication as the foundation for a healthy sexual relationship. Listeners will learn: Why many people feel confused, anxious, or avoidant around sexuality How early experiences, body shame, pornography, and betrayal trauma impact sexual connection The biological differences in male and female arousal and desire cycles How resentment, unresolved relational ruptures, and fear block intimacy Why obligation and pressure damage sexual bonding How vulnerability and attachment create deeper connection than performance The role of boundaries (“bridling passion”) in creating safe and meaningful sexual expression Dr. Skinner also outlines practical steps toward healthy sexual intimacy, including developing self-awareness, turning toward your partner with honesty, addressing past ruptures, and learning to negotiate desire in a non-threatening way. This episode reframes sexuality not as a source of shame or conflict, but as a bonding experience that can be joyful, healing, and deeply connecting when approached with compassion, safety, and understanding. The episode also includes: An invitation to participate in a grief and betrayal survey for the upcoming Human Intimacy Conference Details about the Seven Pillars of the Intimacy Repair Method training Access to the Human Intimacy YouTube channel Key Themes & Concepts Sexual self-awareness Celebration vs. shame of sexuality Attachment and “turning toward” your partner Bridling passion through boundaries Threat vs. desire systems in the brain Porn-induced sexual dysfunction and body shame Obligation vs. authentic sexual connection Repairing sexual ruptures through timeline work Presence and attunement after betrayal Negotiating desire differences with respect Resources & References Mentioned Human Intimacy & Conference 2nd Annual Human Intimacy Conference (March 13–14) Tracks: Betrayal Trauma Unwanted Sexual Behaviors Couple Healing Dr. Skinner's training: The Seven Pillars of the Intimacy Repair Method MaryAnn Michaelis' presentation: Grief After Betrayal Pre-conference Grief & Betrayal Survey (listener participation) Human Intimacy Platforms Human Intimacy YouTube Channel → youtube.com/@humanintimacy Contact: info@humanintimacy.com Models & Frameworks The Intimacy Triangle The Intimacy Repair Method Sexual history timeline in couple healing Zeigarnik Effect (unresolved relational ruptures) Research & Clinical Voices Dr. John Gottman – The Science of Trust (physiological and relational cycles) Dr. Pat Love – Hot Monogamy (desire differences and adaptation) Dr. Sue Johnson – Attachment & “turning toward” Clinical & Psychoeducational Concepts Attachment bonding and vulnerability Threat vs. arousal systems in female sexuality Testosterone and male sexual rhythms Porn-induced erectile dysfunction Body shame and betrayal trauma Obligation vs. authentic consent and presence Action Steps for Listeners (derived from the episode) Develop sexual self-awareness Practice honesty with yourself first Learn to communicate desire without pressure or shame Address past relational ruptures that still carry emotional scar tissue Turn toward your partner in vulnerability and curiosity Create boundaries that make sexuality safe and meaningful Closing Takeaway Healthy sexual intimacy is not about performance, frequency, or obligation—it is about safety, presence, attachment, and mutual understanding. When couples learn to replace fear and shame with compassion and honesty, sexuality becomes a powerful pathway to healing and connection.

Summary In this milestone episode celebrating two years of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore one of the most meaningful — and often misunderstood — dimensions of connection: physical and sexual intimacy. Many relationships struggle in this area, especially when trust has been disrupted or when couples have never learned how to build intimacy from a strong psychological and emotional foundation. Rather than viewing sexuality as the starting point of connection, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn explain why healthy relationships are built from the ground up — with safety, communication, emotional closeness, and trust forming the base. Listeners will learn why touch is a core human need across the lifespan, how the body responds to healthy connection, and why confusion often arises when partners attach different meanings to physical contact. The conversation also addresses the impact of betrayal, trauma, body image concerns, sensory sensitivity, and internalized shame — all of which can influence how safe or unsafe touch feels. Dr. Skinner introduces the concept of discovering your resistance, inviting listeners to notice what happens internally when they experience or anticipate physical touch. Is there comfort? Anxiety? Fear? Longing? Awareness is the first step toward rebuilding intimacy. The episode also emphasizes the importance of consent, compassionate communication, and pacing. For many couples, healing may begin by temporarily removing sexual expectations and returning to simple, non-sexual forms of connection such as holding hands, hugging, or sitting close together. When emotional, psychological, and relational intimacy are strengthened, sexual intimacy becomes less confusing and more connecting — allowing couples to experience the bonding power of vulnerability, presence, and trust. Whether you are rebuilding after betrayal or simply seeking a deeper connection, this episode offers a thoughtful roadmap toward creating safety in touch and rediscovering the beauty of being fully seen, accepted, and loved. Resources Human Intimacy Conference (March 13–14, 2026) Join Dr. Kevin Skinner, MaryAnn Michaelis, and leading experts for two days of live teaching focused on healing from betrayal and strengthening relationships. Register at: bit.ly/humanintimacy Use coupon code 30OFF for a discount. Human Intimacy YouTube Channel Watch full podcast episodes and access additional relationship resources: youtube.com/@human-intimacy Related Episodes Episode 22: Exploring Sexuality — Navigating the Line Between Healthy and Unhealthy Behaviors Episode 65: Consent, Communication, and the Core of Intimacy Books & Educational Resources Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal — Dr. Kevin Skinner The Intimacy Pyramid & Seven Types of Intimacy teachings HumanIntimacy.com for courses, assessments, and relationship tools

Spiritual Intimacy: Being Seen, Sharing Meaning, and Deepening Connection In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the often-misunderstood concept of spiritual intimacy. Moving beyond narrow definitions of religion, they discuss spirituality as a deeply human experience—how we make meaning, experience stillness, share vulnerability, and feel connected to something greater than ourselves. Through personal stories, cross-cultural insights, and reflections on nature, trauma, loss, healing, and disclosure, this conversation highlights how spiritual intimacy can exist in marriages, families, friendships, and even therapeutic spaces. The episode also addresses spiritual wounding, attachment injuries related to faith, and how creating safety allows partners to share their deepest beliefs, doubts, and experiences. Ultimately, this discussion invites listeners to slow down, reflect on their own spiritual story, and consider how allowing themselves to be fully seen—without judgment—can lead to profound bonding and connection.