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This episode is an encore presentation from the BS Free MD archives — and worth a second listen. Drs. May and Tim Hindmarsh welcome marriage coaches Dr. Jeep and Vanessa Naum back to BS Free MD for a wide-ranging conversation on what actually sustains a marriage long-term. The four longtime friends — coincidentally going through home sales and life transitions on opposite coasts — dig into the conversations couples should be having before the wedding and throughout the marriage: where to live, whose career takes priority, how many kids to have, religion, finances, in-laws, and shared interests. The Naums share personal stories, including Vanessa's sacrifice to move back to the Pittsburgh/Wheeling area so Jeep could fulfill his dream of practicing with his father, and Jeep's hard lesson in "financial infidelity" involving Thomas Kinkade paintings. The group unpacks why marriage is built on trust and commitment more than love, the importance of joint accounts and regular financial "state of the union" meetings, the power of delayed reward, the danger of losing individuality, and how to set boundaries with in-laws. With humor and candor, they remind listeners that nobody on their deathbed regrets driving a smaller car — they regret the time they didn't spend with the people they loved. Guest Bios Dr. George P. "Jeep" Naum, MD Dr. George P. "Jeep" Naum is a board-certified family physician, marriage coach, and author with over three decades of clinical experience and 30+ years of marriage coaching alongside his wife, Vanessa. A graduate of medical school with residency training in the Pittsburgh area, Dr. Jeep practiced family medicine with his father before co-founding Best Friends Again, LLC — a coaching practice that specializes in physician marriages and the unique pressures healthcare professionals face at home. He is the author of What's Forever For? A Physician's Guide for Everlasting Love and Success in Marriage, a marriage manual that blends psychological research, spiritual practices, and practical strategies for couples in every season of marriage. Dr. Jeep and Vanessa have been married since 1992, have three children, and currently reside in Wheeling, West Virginia. Vanessa C. Naum, MBA, CPC Vanessa C. Naum is a Certified Professional Coach, Relationship and Intimacy Coach, and co-founder of Best Friends Again, LLC, where she has been coaching engaged and married couples for over 25 years. She earned her MBA in Finance, summa cum laude, from Capella University, and holds undergraduate degrees in Management and Accounting from Wheeling Jesuit University. Vanessa is trained in the Somatica Method through the Somatica Institute in San Francisco and brings both lived experience — including a first marriage that ended in divorce — and rigorous training to her work with couples. She collaborated with Dr. Jeep on the final chapter of What's Forever For? and edited the manuscript. Together, the Naums specialize in helping physician couples reignite communication, intimacy, and connection through their signature 90 Days to Clarity and Connection program. Connect with Dr. Jeep & Vanessa Naum Website: bestfriendsagain.com  Book: What's Forever For? A Physician's Guide for Everlasting Love and Success in Marriage Resources & Links

Episode topic: ADHD, sex, desire discrepancy, intimacy, communication, kink, queerness, polyamory, and what happens when libido doesn't match in relationships. Content note: This episode includes candid adult conversation about sex, desire, libido, kink, dating apps, polyamory, and sexual communication. Episode Summary What happens when one partner wants sex more than the other? What if ADHD affects libido in both directions? And what if "just do it" is actually some of the worst advice out there? In this episode, Eric is joined by Laura Jurgens, a dual-certified master relationship and intimacy coach, desire and arousal specialist, and host of The Desire Gap podcast. Laura helps individuals and couples create more authentic sexual connection, including when one or both partners are neurodivergent. Eric and Laura get into a candid, shame-free conversation about ADHD, sex, mismatched libido, desire discrepancies, rejection sensitivity, sensory needs, communication, and why so many people struggle to talk openly about what they actually want. Laura explains why desire differences are incredibly common in long-term relationships, why obligation sex can create resentment and shut down libido, and how ADHD can shape both high and low desire. She also shares how people can begin reconnecting with their bodies, practicing self-attunement, and communicating more clearly with partners. The conversation also explores sex positivity, kink positivity, queer dating, bisexuality, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and the importance of honest, embodied consent. This episode is frank, playful, personal, and deeply human. In This Episode, You'll Hear About Why desire discrepancy is common in long-term relationships How ADHD can contribute to both high libido and low libido Why "just do it" is terrible advice for mismatched desire The difference between sex for connection and sex for nervous system regulation How obligation sex can lead to resentment, shutdown, pain, or sexual dysfunction Why a partner can start to feel like a "tool" or "medication" when sex becomes self-regulation The role of dopamine, novelty, and hyperfocus in ADHD sexuality Why some ADHDers struggle to get out of their heads and into their bodies How stress, burnout, and nervous system activation can shut down libido Why self-attunement is a key starting point for intimacy How alexithymia can complicate emotional and sexual communication What "sex positive" and "kink positive" can actually mean Why embodied consent matters more than intellectual "I guess this is fine" consent How kink communities can model explicit communication and negotiation The risks of opening a relationship when the relationship is already disconnected Why polyamory requires a high level of trust, communication, and self-awareness Dating while bisexual, queer, neurodivergent, or exploring new relational identities How to disclose needs and patterns without using ADHD as a "get out of jail free" card Why communicating about withdrawal, burnout, and alone time matters in relationships Notable Moments / Quote Pulls "Obligation sex is the worst possible advice." "If you are trying to manage your partner's feelings with your body, that is a one-way ticket to resentment town." "Sex can become the way an ADHDer gets into their body and out of their head." "Your partner starts feeling like a tool or a medication rather than a person you authentically want to connect with." "Compatibility doesn't mean there are no differences. It means there are differences you can navigate." "Do I love the sex I'm having? That's a question a lot of people aren't even asking themselves." "Practice with the kitten to play with the tiger." "Don't yuck on someone else's yum." "You don't have to be evangelically polyamorous." Guest Bio Laura Jurgens is a dual-certified master relationship and intimacy coach and host of The Desire Gap podcast. She is a desire and arousal specialist who helps individuals and couples discover authentic sexual connection, including when one or both partners are neurodivergent. Her approach helps people release shame, shed relationship anxiety, and build confidence through more effective communication. Her work is play-based, practical, inclusive, trauma-informed, and grounded in current research. Laura is a former university professor with a PhD in biological sciences, with certifications from the Somatica Institute, The Life Coach School, and the NeuroAffective Touch Institute. Learn more about Laura at laurajurgens.com and listen to The Desire Gap podcast. Resources & Links Learn more about Laura Jurgens: laurajurgens.com Listen to Laura's podcast: The Desire Gap Learn more about ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com Learn more about ADHD reWired: adhdrewired.com Join Adult Study Hall, our virtual coworking community: adultstudyhall.com Support the show on Patreon: patreon.com/adhdrewired Sponsor / Program Mention Registration is open for the next season of ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups. This is our intensive coaching and accountability program for ADHD adults who want more structure, support, follow-through, and connection. Learn more and start pre-registration at: coachingrewired.com

Ready to Set Sail on a Journey of Self-Discovery and Unbridled Desire?  Join Emma Sayle, the fearless founder of Killing Kittens, as we dive into the world of sex parties, cruises, and retreats, and explore what makes these experiences so alluring to those seeking a more liberated expression of themselves. In this episode, you'll discover: * The secrets behind Killing Kittens' sold-out parties, cruises, and retreats, and what attendees can expect from these immersive experiences * The differences between sex parties, cruises, and retreats, and how each caters to distinct desires and needs * Emma's top tips for navigating sex party etiquette like a pro, and how to make the most of these experiences * What's on the horizon for Killing Kittens, including their upcoming cruises and retreats, and how you can be a part of it * Emma's journey into the world of sexuality and how she's been a driving force behind the brand's mission to empower women and challenge outdated narratives around sex and identity As the founder of Killing Kittens and co-leader of Ideas Extreme, Emma Sayle is a true pioneer in the world of sex positivity and female empowerment. With a community of over 200,000 strong, Emma has created a movement that's all about embracing your true self and living life on your own terms. And with the launch of WAX, a sex-positive social membership app, and the expansion into luxury retreats and cruises, Emma is taking her mission to the next level. Want to experience the ultimate in sex-positive luxury? Check out killingkittens.com or click this like for the KK Cruises and join the movement: https://tinyurl.com/3cfwnzkh Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: ⁠⁠⁠⁠h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us (even though we are shadow-banned) on IG: Go to Amy's profile ⁠⁠⁠@amyshamelesssex ⁠⁠⁠=> find a post with @shamelesssexpodcast to follow and see contests Become a Sex and Relationship Coach through Somatica Institute! Go to ⁠⁠⁠http://somaticainstitute.com⁠⁠⁠ and try their free 2-minute quiz to see if the training is right for you Other links: Get 10% off boosting your load with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://loadboost.com⁠⁠ Get Erika Lust's beautiful , connected, ethical, and SUPER HOT porn at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://erikalust.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and use code SHAMELESS to get 45% off! Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off April's favorite vibrator - the Magic Wand Waterproof (and other sexy items) with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started:⁠ https://learn.nocd.com/shameless⁠

Is Your Hand the Best Tool in Your Pleasure Toolbox? Get ready to get hands-on (literally!) as we dive into the world of hand sex with somatic relational and intimacy mentor, Breann Starr. In this episode, we get real about self-pleasure, giving and receiving handjobs, and the magic of erotic massage. Here's what you'll learn: * The art of masturbation: tips and tricks for pussy owners, and how to use your practice to expand your sexuality with yourself and partners * How to turn handjobs into a sensual experience (for both giver and receiver) with basic how-to's and top tips for hands on pussies, cocks, and assholes * The power of erotic massage: what it is, why it matters, and a few techniques to get you started * Why paying attention to sensation in your hands is key to becoming a more attentive and loving partner * How Breann's Somatica training has impacted her personal and professional life (and how you can benefit from it too!) As the founder of Embodied Liberation, Breann brings her expertise in trauma-informed somatic modalities to the conversation, helping you understand how to break free from repetitive patterns and cultivate a more authentic, liberated way of living and relating. With her background as a registered nurse and extensive training, Breann guides you back into connection with your body, so you can access truth, build self-trust, and relate from a grounded, honest place. By tuning in, you'll gain a deeper understanding of your own desires and learn how to communicate them to your partner. You'll also discover new techniques to enhance your intimacy and connection. And, as a bonus, you'll get to learn more about Breann's work and how to work with her. Tune in and get ready to get shameless about your pleasure! And, stay tuned until the end for a special giveaway - we're offering a free spot in Breann's Embodied Liberation program. Next episode, we're pushing the boundaries of what's possible in the bedroom... and we're not holding back. Will you be joining the conversation? Learn more or work with Breann: https://www.embodiedliberation.love Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: ⁠⁠⁠h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us (even though we are shadow-banned) on IG: Go to Amy's profile ⁠⁠@amyshamelesssex ⁠⁠=> find a post with @shamelesssexpodcast to follow and see contests Become a Sex and Relationship Coach through Somatica Institute! Go to ⁠⁠http://somaticainstitute.com⁠⁠ and try their free 2-minute quiz to see if the training is right for you Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In 1990, 55% of American adults reported having sex weekly. By 2024 that number had fallen to just 37%, and among adults aged 18–29, the share reporting no sex at all in the past year has doubled, from 12% to 24%. We are in the middle of a sex recession. And most of us have no idea why, or what to do about it. In this special episode of Good Is In The Details (recorded live at Podapalooza, a one-day podcast matching event) host Gwendolyn Dolske sits down with Xanet Pailet: nationally recognized sexuality educator and coach, somatic sexologist, and bestselling author of Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure, a former NYC healthcare lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades before experiencing her own sexual healing and dedicating her career to helping others do the same. It's philosophy of intimacy, and genuinely useful psychology all in one conversation. What we explore in this episode: What's actually driving the sex recession, from smartphones and "bedtime procrastination" to the collapse of in-person socializing (young adults in 2024 spend less than half as much time with friends as they did in 2010) and what it means for our relationships. Why inadequate sex education and overexposure to pornography are creating unrealistic expectations and disconnecting people from genuine intimacy, and what healthy sexual education actually looks like. How bad early sexual experiences create lasting somatic patterns that shut people down, and what it takes to heal them. The common thread running through every healthy, intimate long-term relationship, and why most couples never talk about it. How to get unstuck in a long-term relationship that has lost its spark: practical, evidence-based, and compassionate strategies from a coach who has helped hundreds of couples. Why sexual expression is inseparable from emotional needs, and what happens to both partners when those needs go unaddressed for years. Whether you're in a long-term relationship that's lost its spark, navigating your own relationship with desire and intimacy, or simply trying to understand why an entire generation seems to be opting out of sex, this episode will give you a new framework for thinking about one of the most fundamental human experiences. About the format: This episode was recorded at Podapalooza — a live podcast matching event where hosts and guests connect in real time, no pre-research, no prepared talking points. What you hear is a genuinely spontaneous conversation. Sometimes the most honest episodes are the unplanned ones. Guest: Xanet Pailet: nationally recognized sexuality educator and coach, bestselling author of Living an Orgasmic Life, certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Somatic Sexologist, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator, and Somatic Experiencing Trauma practitioner. Faculty at 1440 Multiversity, Ecstatic Living Institute, and the Somatica Institute. Based in Asheville, North Carolina. Good Is In The Details is hosted by Gwendolyn Dolske, Ph.D. and Rudy Salo — a philosophy, books, and ideas podcast exploring the examined life in the spirit of Socrates. Learn more about Xanet's work: https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com Join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Get your copy of Interview with Intention on Amazon Get starting on your own podcast with Gwendolyn's class on thinkific: "How to Create Your Podcast" Get in touch: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com

Get Ready to Talk Dirty: Unleashing Your Authentic Voice in the Bedroom! Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex as we dive into the sultry world of dirty talk with the dynamic duo, Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., founders of the Somatica Institute and creators of the Somatica Method. As thought leaders in the field of sex and relationship coaching, they've trained over 1000 coaches and have even been featured on UK's award-winning TV show, Virgin Island. In this episode, we'll be exploring the art of dirty talk and how to make it your own. Here's what you can expect to learn: * The surprising reasons why dirty talk can be so challenging for people, and why so many are eager to improve their skills * How to discover your unique and authentic voice when it comes to dirty talk * Tips and tricks for those who thrive on structure and formula * An insider's look at the Somatica Method and how it can help you tap into your confidence and empowerment in the bedroom * What to expect from Danielle and Celeste's online classes and upcoming sex and relationship coaching training By tuning in, you'll gain a deeper understanding of how to communicate your desires and boundaries with confidence and ease. You'll learn how to let go of inhibitions and tap into your authentic voice, making your intimate experiences more fulfilling and exciting. Danielle and Celeste bring their expertise and passion to the conversation, sharing their journey into the field of sexuality and the principles behind the Somatica Method. Whether you're a seasoned pro or just starting to explore the world of dirty talk, this episode is sure to leave you feeling empowered and inspired. About the guests: Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, MA are the co-creators of the Somatica® Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching and co-founders of the Somatica® Institute. Their innovative, experiential approach helps individuals and couples transform the way they relate emotionally and sexually. They also train professional sex and relationship coaches through the Somatica Institute. They are the co-authors of ⁠Making Love Real,⁠ ⁠Cockfidence⁠, and ⁠Coming Together: Embracing Your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility.⁠ Learn more: Explore Somatica courses and trainings at ⁠http://somaticainstitute.com⁠ and try their free 2-minute quiz to see if the training is right for you Join their free live Q&A on Thursday, March 12, 2026 Learn more about their Sex & Relationship Coaching Training starting in late April 2026 Take their online courses including⁠ How to Get Turned On: Unlock Your Core Desires⁠, or explore other courses at ⁠https://learn.somatica.com Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: ⁠⁠⁠h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off getting soaking wet with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://soakingwet.com⁠⁠ Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

This clip comes from one of our favorite past conversations: Episode #133 – How Core Desires Lead to Hot Sex with Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, MA. What are your Core Desires, and how can understanding them lead to hotter, more fulfilling sex? In this episode, Danielle and Celeste—co-creators of the Somatica® Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching—share how exploring your deepest erotic desires can transform your sex life and deepen intimacy in your relationships. Using their experiential Somatica approach, they explain how shifting our internal patterns around sex and connection can open the door to greater pleasure, authenticity, and emotional intimacy. We also answer a listener question: How can you rebuild broken trust in a relationship? Listen to the full episode here: https://tinyurl.com/bdhs3vv3 About the guests: Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, MA are the co-creators of the Somatica® Method of Sex and Relationship Coaching and co-founders of the Somatica® Institute. Their innovative, experiential approach helps individuals and couples transform the way they relate emotionally and sexually. They also train professional sex and relationship coaches through the Somatica Institute. They are the co-authors of Making Love Real, Cockfidence, and Coming Together: Embracing Your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility. Learn more: Explore Somatica courses and trainings at http://somaticainstitute.com and try their free 2-minute quiz to see if the training is right for you Join their free live Q&A on Thursday, March 12, 2026 Learn more about their Sex & Relationship Coaching Training starting in late April 2026 Take their online course: How to Get Turned On: Unlock Your Core Desires, or explore other courses at https://learn.somatica.com Come to our October 2026th retreats - one for women and one for couples! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join us on the Killing Kittens cruise in the Mediterranean in June 2026: ⁠⁠⁠h⁠ttps://kkcruise.com⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Coral Osborne is a Certified Sexologist, Sex and Intimacy Coach who specializes in helping men overcome intimacy struggles, reconnect with their desires, and build more fulfilling relationships. Before becoming a Sexologist, Coral spent years as a high-end provider, where she witnessed men in their most unguarded moments—revealing fears around performance, shame about desire, and confusion about intimacy. Those experiences laid the foundation for her current work: helping men heal sexual shame, build confidence, and create embodied, emotionally connected relationships. She has trained with the Sexual Health Alliance, Somatica Institute, and Dr. Saida Desilets' Embodied Psychosexual Method (EPSM), with additional study in tantra, kink/bdsm, somatic experiencing, Jungian psychology, and men's work. Her multi-disciplinary approach integrates evolutionary psychology, attachment theory, cultural constructivism, depth psychology, and polyvagal theory. Coral believes our relationship to sex mirrors how we engage with life—and that healing the Madonna–Whore split is essential to reclaiming wholeness and vitality. She writes a regular Substack column dissecting erotic experience through a sexological lens and is at work on her first book, The Whore's Gospel: Case Studies in Sex, Power & Truth. She also hosts The Next Man Up podcast, exploring the paradoxes and misconceptions of modern masculinity.  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

James has been exploring non-monogamous relationships for over 17 years and has been a proud member of the kink scene for over 11. His journey has taken him around the world through many twists and turns, including a don't ask don't tell-type dynamic at the beginning, to exploring swinging and sex parties, non-hierarchical polyamory, and recently discovering his demisexuality. We dig into it all today in this wonderful interview! One of the things we absolutely love about this conversation with James is how transparent and vulnerable he is about everything he's learned over the last 17 years, including how he hasn't always done things in the most ethical way. But, like most of us, he's always trying to learn and grow along the way. James is all about community and creating space for people to explore and discover their most authentic selves. He's the co-founder of the Festival Of Alternative Relationships (F.A.R.) and co-runs The Open Circle, Australia's largest community of people exploring ethical non-monogamy (ENM). He has lived experience in almost every form of ENM dynamic and has run workshops in ENM and Lifestyle Kink (D/s) in both London and Sydney. He also studied sex and relationship coaching at The Somatica Institute based in San Francisco. You can learn more about James and his work on his website. Check out the full show notes here. Join us at Relationship Recess in May 2026! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

We're sold the fairy tale from birth: find “the one,” make them your everything, and you'll live happily ever after. But what happens if that one person can't meet all your needs - or ever could? In this convention challenging conversation, sex experts Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman take aim at America's deeply rooted ideas about monogamy, intimacy, and what makes for a fulfilling - and lasting - relationship. Host Gabe Howard points out America's strange mix of selling sex while shaming it, and together they unpack why so many couples struggle in silence instead of having honest, non-blaming conversations about their desires. Along the way, they reveal how redefining intimacy, owning your choices, and using your “sexual energy” as a navigation system can lead to more connection, better sex, and improved mental health. Key Take-aways: Why “the one” isn't true for everyone and could set you up for failure. How monogamy, open relationships, and other structures can all work - if you choose them deliberately. Practical tips for starting sensitive sex conversations without triggering alarm bells. If you've ever wondered whether your relationship rules are helping or hurting your love life, this episode just might change everything. “So monogamy is originated in feudalist society when there was like, someone who had money and, you know, possession. We moved into needing to know who our offsprings are. And that's exactly what monogamy started, because we wanted to know where are we inheriting our money to and the church came in and religion and it started to become like a, a standard to live by. But it's not necessarily our nature and it's not necessarily what everyone should be doing.” ~Dr. Danielle Harel Our guests, Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., are pioneers in intimacy, sexuality, and relationship coaching. Co-founders of the Somatica® Institute, they've transformed how love and connection are taught through their experiential, science-based Somatica Method. Together, they've trained over 1,000 coaches and helped countless individuals and couples embrace vulnerability, rediscover desire, and create deeply fulfilling relationships. Authors of three influential books—Making Love Real, Coming Together, and Confidence—Danielle and Celeste blend authenticity, humor, and bold honesty to inspire transformation. Their relatable insights into intimacy and connection make them captivating guests, offering audiences practical tools to enhance relationships and live passionately. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Thank you for tuning in! Show ideas? Hit us up at show@psychcentral.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Danielle and her husband have been married for over thirty years and have been exploring non-monogamy together for more than twenty of them. Danielle's husband initially brought up the idea but the concept felt intuitive for both of them so they started tiptoeing into it together. And of course, just because it felt intuitive doesn't mean that there weren't challenges and surprises along the way.  This interview with Danielle is really beautiful and vulnerable as she takes us all the way back to her childhood and then through thirty plus years of marriage, raising a family, building a business, and living the hell out of life. We have powerful conversations about confronting jealousy and how it can really sneak up and surprise you, coming out to their children, how she and her husband have different preferences and desires when it comes to connecting with others, and so much more! We hope you enjoy this lovely conversation as much as we did! Danielle began immersing herself in learning about sexuality, relationships, and pleasure from a relatively young age and never really stopped... Dr. Danielle Harel is a pioneering force in erotic embodiment and personal transformation. As co-creator of the Somatica® Method and co-founder of the Somatica Institute, she weaves deep academic expertise with heartfelt presence, empowering people to awaken their desires and embrace their fullest, most authentic selves. With a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality, and a Master's in Clinical Social Work, Danielle brings both scholarly depth and intuitive wisdom to her work. She has co-authored three transformative books and served as lead sexologist and consulting producer on Virgin Island, a bold Channel 4 series exploring real, vulnerable, and healing erotic connection. Danielle's approach is rooted in celebration and curiosity, inviting each person to reclaim pleasure as an essential part of human wholeness. You can learn more about Danielle and her work at somaticainstitute.com. Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

About this Episode Is sex in long-term relationships destined to fade into routine, become awkward, unsatisfying, or quietly avoided? Many couples find themselves sidestepping desire, making silent assumptions, or repeating the same old script while craving deeper connection and renewed excitement. The outcome is often sexual boredom, miscommunication, and a growing emotional distance that affects the entire relationship. What if the key to lasting passion isn't just about technique? What if it lives in courageous, ongoing conversations about consent, desire, and our evolving needs? In this episode, listeners are invited into a candid and creative exploration of sexual communication. Consent is reframed as more than a one-time agreement; it becomes a fluid and continuous dialogue that keeps intimacy alive. You'll discover how to make these conversations feel natural and exciting instead of awkward, how to face vulnerability and disappointment with compassion, and how to sustain erotic curiosity over time. Whether you're looking for fresh insight or practical tools to reignite intimacy, this episode offers both inspiration and guidance to help you co-create a relationship that grows with you. Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A. are thought leaders in the intimate realm. As the founders of the Somatica® Institute of sex and relationship coaching, they have created experiential and relational teaching methods to revolutionize sex coaching and help people transform their sex lives and relationships forever. They are the authors of 3 books and the lead sexologists on a soon-to-be-released UK-based reality TV show. They will enliven and enlighten audiences with talks about everything in the realms of intimacy, sexuality and relationship as well as the power of vulnerable leadership in teaching, business, and in building community. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  06:06 How curiosity, culture, and compatibility shape sexual expression. 10:00 Why a beginner's mindset matters in long-term sexual relationships. 13:55 Consent beyond “yes” or “no”: Making communication part of attraction. 17:45 Creating safe spaces for sexual self-discovery. 20:23 Building safety when sharing desires. 25:25 Challenging assumptions and resentment in intimacy. 31:16 Discovering turn-ons: Moving past stereotypes to emotional and psychological arousal. 34:48 The power of curiosity, flirting, and non-judgment. 39:47 How to expand erotic menus and blueprints. 41:01 Finding the win-win: Bridging and turn-taking in sexual negotiation. 46:20 Learning to sit with disappointment—acceptance and the reality of relationships. Mentioned Somatica Coach Certification (Somatica Institute link) Somatica® Sex & Relationship Coach Certification (Somatica Institute link) Relationship Reboot (Somatica Institute link) (online class) Making Love Real (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Coming Together (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Confidence (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) My Secret Garden (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 211: How To Get Rid of Shame to Increase Pleasure In The Bedroom – an Interview with Ian Ferguson ERP 473: How to Experience More Embodied Pleasure Sexually – An Interview with Susan Taylor Special offer for listeners: Use Empowered30 (gives $30 off Relationship Reboot) Connect with Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A Websites: celesteanddanielle.com | somaticainstitute.com Facebook: facebook.com/somaticainstitute | facebook.com/celesteanddanielle YouTube: youtube.com/@SomaticaInstitute Instagram: instagram.com/somatica_institute TikTok: tiktok.com/@somatica.institute Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Don't miss this important (and fun) conversation with Danielle Harel, PhD, co-founder of the Somatica Institute. We talk all about discovering your deep turn-ons, how to know and ask for what you like, and why everyone's arousal pathway is different. We also flirt and laugh a lot while we demonstrate a mini-conversation to have with your partner. Grab the Somatica Institute's guide to Finding Your Hottest Sexual Movie (what turns you on) with this special link for podcast listeners: https://learn.somatica.com/link/6emf31?url=https%3A%2F%2Flearn.somatica.com%2Fcourse%3Fcourseid%3Dhow-to-spice-up-your-sex-lifeAnd a special listener link to all of their other courses is here: https://learn.somatica.com/link/6emf31Find out all the details for the Maui Women's Lit & Luscious Retreat & reserve your spot here: https://www.kamahagar.com/retreat-page/Lit & Luscious Women's Retreat in Hawaii January 2026 is open for registration and early-bird discount! Come to Hawaii with me & co-host Kama Hagar for The Most Fun Retreat Ever Made -- just for you. Go to https://www.kamahagar.com/retreat-page/ to register now and give your future self the best gift ever. Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, and learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com.

This week, Anna and Mandi get extra spicy as they sit down with the sex therapists, Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, to uncover the juicy details behind the scenes. from Channel 4's wildest, most talked-about show — Virgin Island. Yep, the one where actual virginity meets reality TV and therapy gets hands-on (literally

Did you know that many of your desires are imprinted when you are young and have more to do with how you want to feel than the actual acts you desire? Understanding this can have a big impact on how you view yourself and your sexuality, your relationship, and how your partner understands your needs and desires. In this episode of The Love Lab Podcast, Kevin Anthony talks with the founders of the Somatica Institute, Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, about where our core desires come from, how they effect our relationships, what we can do if there is a mismatch with our partner, and how somatic experiences can be effective tools in navigating these issues. To find out more about Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, click the link below: Classes: learn.somatica.com Instagram: @somatica_institute Find a Sex Coach: www.sexcoaching.com

In this episode, Lisa is joined by Danielle Harel, PhD and cofounder of the Somatica Institute. Together, they discuss healing through embodied pleasure, mindful sensory engagement, and personal growth strategies to counteract societal conditioning and rebuild self-worth.Topics Include:Embodied PleasureSelf EmpowermentPleasurable Experiences[1:06] Lisa welcomes Danielle Harel, PhD in human sexuality and co-founder of the Somatica Institute, for a groundbreaking conversation on tackling themes of sex, intimacy, body image, and self-worth. Lisa shares the email that connected her with Danielle and her excitement at exploring this topic on the OOTC podcast. Lisa notes that with over 120 episodes, this discussion marks a first exploration of topics like sex and intimacy on the podcast. They discuss how societal messages and objectification, such as the constant focus on appearance and weight, deeply influence self-perception and body shame. Danielle talks about the need to counteract these habits by reconnecting with internal sensations. [10:06] Danielle explores using sensuality, intimacy, and erotic embodiment as tools for empowerment and this includes embracing full body sensations and recognizing pleasure as a means to rebuild self-worth and challenge internalized cultural messages. Lisa and Danielle excitedly discuss neurobiology and the concept of neuroplasticity, noting that repetitive thought patterns (like objectifying oneself) form strong neural pathways, which can be reshaped by actively engaging with pleasurable sensations and mindful embodiment.[18:33] Danielle talks about sex beyond penetration, promoting the idea of pleasure in everyday experiences such as movement, tasting food, and overall sensory enjoyment and the empowerment found in diverse pleasurable experiences. discussion about food as a source of pleasure. Lisa and Danielle point out that when food becomes the only source of pleasure, it can lead to disordered eating. They discuss the need for a balanced approach where food is enjoyed along with other life pleasures.[35:30] Lisa and Danielle cover the significance of receiving compliments and self-affirmation as a way to counteract internal criticism, encouraging acceptance and internalizing positive feedback. Danielle discusses how many people have a fear of pleasure due to cultural and societal conditioning. Lisa and Danielle discuss the challenge of slowing down and being present, making gradual steps to allow the nervous system to learn that pleasure is safe.[51:06] Lisa and Danielle talk about the importance of reclaiming one's own sexuality from societal and cultural narratives, emphasizing a shift towards experiencing and expressing bodily pleasure as a natural part of being human.[56:04] Danielle discusses the benefits of personal growth experience in a group of other people who are going to do it with you and the core training offered through the Somatica Institute. She shared that there is also training for coaches. Danielle offered a 20% off discount for the OOTC audience for the Love Your Body class. She can also be found on Instagram. *The views of podcast guests do not necessarily reflect the views and beliefs of Lisa Schlosberg or Out of the Cave, LLC.⁠Purchase the OOTC book of 50 Journal Prompts⁠⁠Leave Questions and Feedback for Lisa via OOTC Pod Feedback Form ⁠Email Lisa: ⁠lisa@lisaschlosberg.com⁠⁠Out of the Cave Merch⁠ - For 10% off use code SCHLOS10Lisa's Socials⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠YouTube⁠Reclaiming Peace With Food Retreat at the Omega Institute - September 7-12, 2025 

Lily wants to have satisfying sex that plays to her core desires, but lately it's been hard to describe to potential partners exactly what she wants. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman—sexologists, authors, and the founders of the Somatica Institute. They coach Lily (and all of us) on how to define the individual experiences we're seeking—and communicate them to others. If you liked this episode check out: How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy How To Orgasm How To Lose Your 'Virginity' at 43 How To Have an Open Relationship Also: Death, Sex & Money's Sex Parties and Shakespeare With Carvell Wallace Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer.

Lily wants to have satisfying sex that plays to her core desires, but lately it's been hard to describe to potential partners exactly what she wants. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman—sexologists, authors, and the founders of the Somatica Institute. They coach Lily (and all of us) on how to define the individual experiences we're seeking—and communicate them to others. If you liked this episode check out:  How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy How To Orgasm How To Lose Your ‘Virginity' at 43 How To Have an Open Relationship Also: Death, Sex & Money's Sex Parties and Shakespeare With Carvell Wallace Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Want more How To!? Subscribe to Slate Plus to unlock exclusive bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of the How To! show page. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus to get access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lily wants to have satisfying sex that plays to her core desires, but lately it's been hard to describe to potential partners exactly what she wants. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman—sexologists, authors, and the founders of the Somatica Institute. They coach Lily (and all of us) on how to define the individual experiences we're seeking—and communicate them to others. If you liked this episode check out:  How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy How To Orgasm How To Lose Your ‘Virginity' at 43 How To Have an Open Relationship Also: Death, Sex & Money's Sex Parties and Shakespeare With Carvell Wallace Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Want more How To!? Subscribe to Slate Plus to unlock exclusive bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of the How To! show page. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus to get access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lily wants to have satisfying sex that plays to her core desires, but lately it's been hard to describe to potential partners exactly what she wants. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman—sexologists, authors, and the founders of the Somatica Institute. They coach Lily (and all of us) on how to define the individual experiences we're seeking—and communicate them to others. If you liked this episode check out:  How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy How To Orgasm How To Lose Your ‘Virginity' at 43 How To Have an Open Relationship Also: Death, Sex & Money's Sex Parties and Shakespeare With Carvell Wallace Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Want more How To!? Subscribe to Slate Plus to unlock exclusive bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of the How To! show page. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus to get access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lily wants to have satisfying sex that plays to her core desires, but lately it's been hard to describe to potential partners exactly what she wants. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman—sexologists, authors, and the founders of the Somatica Institute. They coach Lily (and all of us) on how to define the individual experiences we're seeking—and communicate them to others. If you liked this episode check out:  How To Have the Best Sex of Your Life How To Make Sexual Consent Sexy How To Orgasm How To Lose Your ‘Virginity' at 43 How To Have an Open Relationship Also: Death, Sex & Money's Sex Parties and Shakespeare With Carvell Wallace Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Want more How To!? Subscribe to Slate Plus to unlock exclusive bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of the How To! show page. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus to get access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we're joined by Celeste Hirschman, co-creator of the Somatica® Method and co-founder of the Somatica Institute. Celeste is a somatic sex coach who specializes in helping men and women create deeper, more connected, and more satisfying intimate experiences.We dive into how you can become a detective in the bedroom—not by overanalyzing, but by tuning in. Learn how to pick up on what a woman likes, what she doesn't, and how to test the waters in a way that feels confident, playful, and deeply attuned. Celeste shares actionable tips on how to explore and communicate desire without killing the mood, how to bring more sensuality into your touch, and how to come across as the sexy, grounded man women crave—without second-guessing yourself.Whether you're just starting to explore intimacy or want to take your bedroom confidence to the next level, this episode will give you a new perspective on pleasure, connection, and what women actually want.>>> Ready to become the most charming, magnetic, WITTY and confident version of yourself? Book a free call with Kristen here: https://calendly.com/kristenandchill/magneticmanstrategysession>>> Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni's Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠This week's episode is brought to you by Beducated. Get an additional 10% off at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2510-askwomen⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2510-askwomen⁠

Did you know intimacy is a skill that is a learnable, empowering skill?  In Episode 394 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why Intimacy Is a Skill—Not Just Chemistry: Reclaiming Desire & Connection with Danielle Harel & Celeste Hirschman” Kimmy chats with Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Herrell, co-founders of the revolutionary Somatica Institute and authors of three powerful books, including Making Love Real. With extensive experience training over 1,000 coaches and transforming countless lives, Celeste and Danielle blend science, humor, and heart to help people build confidence in intimacy. In this episode, you'll discover why intimacy is not just about sexual or physical attraction—it's an evolving set of skills involving emotional safety, intellectual connection, shared experiences, and even spiritual alignment. Kimmy and her guests discuss common roadblocks to intimacy, from childhood wounds to societal messages that make people feel shame about their desires. They explain how flirtation and erotic energy are foundational to authentic relating (not just “nice-to-haves”), and share the step-by-step practices their clients use to move past blocks, build confidence, and celebrate pleasure in ways that feel natural. Listen in for memorable stories, like Kimmy's account of a client unwittingly creating a “love shield” with her body language, and a playful demonstration by Danielle about using your five senses (and even eating ice cream!) to connect with your body's pleasure zones. You'll hear how Celeste coaches clients to enjoy being appreciated, and learn tips to help both men and women feel empowered instead of ashamed in their pursuit of intimacy.  You'll hear: Why true intimacy means expressing what feels good for you and setting boundaries. How shame, gender roles, and societal messages can make people feel disconnected from their own desires. Skills in intimacy and sexuality that lead to more confidence and authentic relationships. How putting your own pleasure and desires at the center actually leads to healthier intimacy. If you are having a hard time letting go and having intimacy and playfulness in your dating life, join Kimmy's next co-ed interactive Flirt Workshop where you will learn the skill of flirting and having fun.  Just go to www.stophatingdating.com to grab your spot as they do go fast. Book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

As Celeste describes it, she's had a long and illustrious journey of exploring different relationships and relationship styles as she continues learning who she is and what works best for her. For so long she tried to fit herself into what she calls "primary possessive partnerships" and unfortunately spent much of her time being triggered. Today, Celeste identifies as "solo open" and has filled her life with lovers, partners, and friends that she feels deeply connected to while also feeling safe and securely attached. This conversation is so beautiful and full of vulnerability, laughter, and love as Celeste takes us on her powerful journey. Enjoy! Celeste Hirschman, MA, is a visionary in intimacy and personal transformation. As co-founder of the Somatica Institute, she merges profound insight with compassion, empowering individuals to unlock deeper connections and embrace their authentic selves. With a Master's in Human Sexuality Studies and a background in Women's Studies, Celeste has co-authored three transformative books and contributed groundbreaking research in adolescent sexuality. You can learn more about Celeste and all of her work at somaticainstitute.com. Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Do you want to know how to increase intimacy in your life? Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., are co-founders of the Somatica® Institute. They revolutionized intimacy and relationship coaching with their experiential Somatica Method. They have trained over 1,000 coaches, authored three books, and inspired countless people to embrace vulnerability and rediscover desire.In this episode:How to start practicing intimacy in your daily lifeWhy it's essential to start with non-romantic connectionsHow to step out of your comfort zone and practice intimacy with strangersHow couples can create chemistry, even if they don't feel an immediate connection at firstSome of the first steps someone can take to actively generate more chemistry with their partner, even after years togetherHow men can shed their emotional armor and lean into vulnerability with their partnersWebsite & Social Media Links:Special Offer: $20 off of the Love on Purpose women's dating class https://learn.somatica.com/course/intentional-dating-for-women with coupon code LFD20 Other classes: learn.somatica.comInstagram: @somatica_instituteCoaching Certification: www.somaticainstitute.com►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

“ We don't choose what turns us on… but we get to play with it.”Too often, women move into adulthood (and even marriage) without a real roadmap for understanding their own desires, let alone the conversations that bring intimacy to life. In this episode, we're exploring how putting yourself at the center of your erotic life can transform not just your sex life, but your confidence, creativity, and sense of empowerment in every area.Our guests, Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, are co-founders of the Somatica Institute, known for their pioneering, hands-on approach to sex and relationship coaching. They don't just teach theory—they teach the real-world skills we all wish we'd learned in school, like tolerating awkwardness, negotiating desires without guilt, and sitting with the sometimes-uncomfortable tension of wanting different things to create deeply fulfilling relationships. In this candid, powerful episode, Erin, Danielle, and Celeste unpack:Why so many people enter adult relationships without the tools to express feelings, ask for what they need, support a partner, or handle emotional tensionThe importance of women learning to re-center themselves (over others!) in sex, relationships, and lifeHow to sit with discomfort and why it's essential for creating healthy, lasting relationshipsWhy most of us are taught to downplay our own pleasure and how to finally unlearn itCreating a “pleasure menu”: how getting specific about your unique turn-ons and needs can transform sex and relationshipsWhy a wide range of sexual fantasies can be a healthy part of your erotic life when explored consciously and consensuallyWhy we don't get to choose what turns us on, but we can choose how we play and interact with those feelings in the bedroom, with agency and empowermentHow building a “village” of emotional support (friends, therapists, community) can take the pressure off your romantic relationshipsOUR GUESTS: Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., are pioneers in intimacy, sexuality, and relationship coaching. Co-founders of the Somatica® Institute, they've transformed how love and connection are taught through their experiential, science-based Somatica Method. Together, they've trained over 1,000 coaches and helped countless individuals and couples embrace vulnerability, rediscover desire, and create deeply fulfilling relationships. Authors of three influential books—Making Love Real, Coming Together, and Confidence—Danielle and Celeste blend authenticity, humor, and bold honesty to inspire transformation. Their relatable insights into intimacy and connection make them captivating guests, offering audiences practical tools to enhance relationships and live passionately.Want more Danielle and Celeste? Find them online at https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/ and https://www.somaticainstitute.com/ Follow them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somatica_institute/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@SomaticaInstitute FB: Somatica Institute: https://www.facebook.com/somaticainstitute FB Celeste and Danielle:...

In this conversation, Joel Evan speaks with Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, co-founders of the Somatica Institute, about their innovative approach to intimacy, sexuality, and relationship coaching. They discuss their personal journeys into this field, the common issues clients face, and the importance of communication and understanding shame in sexual relationships. The conversation also explores the healing potential of sexual experiences, the tools available for navigating trauma, and the significance of sexual fulfillment in overall well-being. They emphasize the learnability of intimacy skills and the diverse expressions of sexuality, while also providing insights into daily practices for maintaining connection and resources for sexual education.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Somatica and Its Founders03:03 The Journey to Intimacy Coaching05:58 Understanding Client Needs and Common Issues08:56 The Importance of Communication in Relationships11:58 Shame and Its Impact on Sexuality15:01 Healing Trauma Through Sexuality17:59 Tools for Overcoming Trauma in Relationships21:07 Individual Needs in Sexual Fulfillment23:48 Navigating Desire in Long-Term Relationships24:24 Navigating Sexual Needs in Relationships26:10 The Role of Communication in Intimacy27:37 Understanding Touch and Sensation30:00 The Impact of High Performance on Sexual Fulfillment32:24 Exploring Different Types of Sexual Experiences35:20 Unlocking Erotic Energy for Personal Growth37:00 Daily Practices for Emotional and Physical Connection39:34 Courses and Resources for Sexual Empowerment42:04 Future Projects and Collaborations

Want more? For Part 2 with Celeste and Dr. Danielle, and to learn how to boldly ask for what you truly desire in bed, join our Libido Club: MyLibidoDoc.com/libido-club   You've been told to settle. To fake it, smile, and pretend everything's good in bed—even when it's not. Enough of that bullshit. Dr. Diane is here with Celeste & Danielle, founders of the Somatica Institute, to teach you how to stop swallowing shame and start owning your goddamn pleasure. Whether you're feeling numb, insecure, or stuck in your own body, this episode will show you how to break free and start feeling everything you've been missing. Real pleasure. Real intimacy. And real power.

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today we're answering questions from our virtual community! First, we talk about how to be the hinge partner in a dynamic where your two partners want nothing to do with one another. And then, we share some of our thoughts on how to maintain and deepen our connection with a partner when we have different libidos, sexual interests, and desires. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Learn more about Meshai and all of her work over at expansiveconnection.com! You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024! Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today we're answering questions from our virtual community! First, we talk about polyamory breakups and then we follow it by answering a question about NRE (New Relationship Energy). Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Learn more about Meshai and all of her work over at expansiveconnection.com! You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024! Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today we are answering questions from our virtual community! First up, we determine when you're allowed to call yourself non-monogamous. How many partners do you have to have to qualify? Come found out. Then we talk about how to show up authentically in a non-monogamous partnership when it feels like you can't really be yourself around your loved ones or may not even be able to be out in public at all. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Learn more about Meshai and all of her work over at expansiveconnection.com! You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024! Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today we are answering questions from our virtual community... We get a bit personal and talk about our own journeys into the world of coaching and working with people in sex-positive and non-monogamous spaces. We also talk about when and how to have conversations with new potential connections about their approach to non-monogamy and... We make an official ruling on what counts as being in an orgy! Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Learn more about Meshai and all of her work over at expansiveconnection.com! You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024! Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

This episode is for all of you that have a hard time talking about sex, even with your partner.  I'll cover the 3 top reasons people struggle to have conversations about sexual desires, needs, and interests. I'll also give you a place to get started in solving these challenges for each one. From the episode recommendations, here is a link to the blog post from Somatica Institute on my most highly recommended relationship repair process: https://www.somaticainstitute.com/blog/9-steps-to-successful-relationship-repair/Learn more about me, get a FREE GUIDE to FINDING YOUR DEEPEST TURN-ONS, inquire about coaching, and learn how to get help with relationships and intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com. Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today we are join by the Director of Marketing and Communications at Global Protection Corp. (manufacturers of ONE and MyONE condoms) and we are super excited! Milla is here to talk about and answer all your condom questions in a special ask us anything episode we're calling Condom University! Enjoy! Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Learn more about Meshai and all of her work over at expansiveconnection.com! You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024! Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Anna and Polly take a deep dive deep into the world of post-childbirth sex, orgasmic birth (yes, that's a thing), and vibrators (Polly is never without hers). Joined by the brilliant minds behind the Somatica Institute, Danielle Harrell and Celeste Hirschman.

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! This month's incredible questions come from our private community and are about moving at different paces when opening up a relationship and whether or not you should share your feelings with someone when your interests lie outside of the agreements of another relationship of theirs. Juicy stuff! Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Midlife is often a time of big transitions. Giving up alcohol can also create monumental shifts. As we move through these transitions, we sometimes leave parts of ourselves behind, and sometimes we leave others behind.   My friend and fellow coach Aimee Ames has been on her own transitional  journey, including going back to school to become a Functional Nutritionist, redefining her relationship with alcohol and ending a 23-year marriage. Along the way, Aimee discovered that 'you are your one true partner'. I love this saying as it reminds me of what I came to recognize in my own path: the one person who will be with you at the end, is you.   I am excited to share this conversation with you. Aimee is an incredible human who shares her wisdom freely and shares the difficult parts as well.  Amy also talked about her work with the Somatica Institute, training as an intimacy coach and a sex and relationship coach.  Find out more in the Show Notes HERE

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! However... This month we have a special guest! Today's questions are all about finances and money and we have an incredible author, coach, and fellow podcaster Laura Boyle joining us! Laura just published her second book, "Monogamy? In This Economy?: Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory" and she's also the creator of readyforpolyamory.com where you can find more information about all of her fantastic work! Quick note and disclaimer... Laura, Meshai, and myself (Fin) are NOT tax or finance professionals. Please talk to a financial professional, CPA, or similar about your specific financial situation. If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! However... This month we have a special guest! Today's questions are all about compersion and we have one of the world's leading experts on the subject joining us! Dr. Marie Thouin is a dating and relationship coach as well as the author of the new book "What is compersion?" You can learn more about Marie and her work at www.whatiscompersion.com. You can also save 25% if you order your copy of her book using the link and code below! "What is Compersion?" (Use code RLFANDF25 to save 25%) If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about exploring swinging while also in a quad and whether or not size matters and impacts men's ability to find success in the lifestyle. If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about tips and strategies for navigating drop AND embracing mismatched libidos in a triad. If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about how to persevere when it feels like it's been hard for a while AND what information is ours to share about our partners and how do we do it in a way that feels good for them. If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

I am back with the insightful Christie Watrous for a heartfelt conversation on the intricacies of sisterhood.  We get REAL about the social conditioning that often pits women against each other and share our own journeys toward meaningful connections.  Christie and I discuss our shared passion around holding space for other women and the transformative experience of being seen in our most vulnerable moments. We emphasize the significance of environments that encourage curiosity over comparison.I talk about my commitment to creating Red Tent (a best selling book by Anita Diamont)gatherings; the kind of  where women can gather to find solace and solidarity amidst life's challenges. isterhood that holds the potential to transform personal growth and communal resilience.--------- HIGHLIGHTS ---------0:03:33 - Reconnecting Through Sisterhood and Intimacy0:14:18 - Understanding the Concept of Containers0:22:44 - Building Sisterhood and Safe Spaces0:33:52 - The Importance of Passing Down History0:39:46 - Exploring Erotic and Personal Voice  Our Guest: Christie WatrousChristie (she/her) is currently a Sex & Relationship Coach practicing in Folsom, CA. She is clinically trained with a Master's in Social Work and has spent most of her career working in a wide variety of grassroots and non-profit settings ranging from runaway and homeless youth to adults with traumatic brain injuries.  She graduated from the Advanced Sex & Relationship Coaching Program with the Somatica Institute. And most recently, Christie completed a sex educator mentorship program with the Back to the Body team and received her certification as a facilitator of The Lotus Lift Meditation ©, created by Pamela Madsen & featured in Oprah Magazine.Christie's practice focuses on helping those whom identify as women to stay connected to their bodies in the midst of life transitions. She helps women discover their own unique erotic energy, prioritize pleasure, explore desire and integrate this awareness into daily life. Her work is inspired by her own mid-life embodied journey back to her erotic self and fuels her passion for women's sexual wellness. As the founder of Embodied Life Transitions providing 1:1 Coaching for women, Christie also facilitates a collaborative community based Book Club called “Between the Covers”. She hosts a monthly, sex-positive Sisterhood Happy Hour with a focus on sexual wellness for women and teaches her own in-person experiential workshops in Historic Folsom as part of the Back to the Body Collective. She is an advocate for women's sexual wellness & is passionate about creating spaces for sisterhood, intimacy, and connection in her community.website: https://www.embodiedlifetransitions.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christie-watrous-b3b350172/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedlifetransitions/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/embodiedlifetransitions/ About Jen Oliver:I pursue and create environments where we converse on the REAL stuff that changes us. I'm designed to bring others on my personal journey with honest admissions to help us all transform - that's my sweetspot and I speak, lead, and write from that space.REAL conversations stir deeper connection and community - to explore ways that you can work with me, go to:email: jen@REALjenoliver.compodcast website: ListenForREAL.comwebsite: REALJenOliver.comLinkedIn:@realjenoliverInstagram: @realjenoliverFacebook: @realjenoliverIf you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter. Subscribe to all things Jen at REALJenOliver.

My conversation with Christie Watrous expands my limited viewpoint…again. We unpack what it means to connect with our bodies and each other, defining intimacy and pleasure in REAL terms. Spoiler alert: intimacy and pleasure are not always sexual and wow sometimes they are - AND it can look different than what the culture dishes up. As the founder of Embodied Life Transitions, Christie brings her personal experience of transformation and empowerment to our discussion, offering insights into reclaiming our bodies and desires. We talk candidly about our need to deconstruct shame narratives and embrace the pursuit of pleasure, which extends beyond the confines of the bedroom and into the joy of our simple daily rituals, from sipping a warm beverage to soaking in the melody of our favorite tune.Christie and I confront our individual and collective truths - from unhealthy self-concepts to narratives that frame the end of a marriage as failure. Join the conversation. Resources referenced:Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by  Emily Nagoski Ph.D.--------- EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS ---------(0:00:01) - Exploring the Erotic and Love(0:10:10) - Prioritizing Pleasure and Desire(0:24:10) - Unpacking Shame and Embracing Truth(0:30:55) - Deconstructing Shame and Celebrating Growth(0:41:59) - Human Need for Connection and Intimacy(0:48:02) - Exploring Sexuality and Intimacy Beyond Stereotypes(1:00:28) - Navigating Consent and Boundaries in RelationshipsOur Guest: Christie WatrousChristie (she/her) is currently a Sex & Relationship Coach practicing in Folsom, CA. She is clinically trained with a Master's in Social Work and has spent most of her career working in a wide variety of grassroots and non-profit settings ranging from runaway and homeless youth to adults with traumatic brain injuries.  She graduated from the Advanced Sex & Relationship Coaching Program with the Somatica Institute. And most recently, Christie completed a sex educator mentorship program with the Back to the Body team and received her certification as a facilitator of The Lotus Lift Meditation ©, created by Pamela Madsen & featured in Oprah Magazine.Christie's practice focuses on helping those whom identify as women to stay connected to their bodies in the midst of life transitions. She helps women discover their own unique erotic energy, prioritize pleasure, explore desire and integrate this awareness into daily life. Her work is inspired by her own mid-life embodied journey back to her erotic self and fuels her passion for women's sexual wellness. As the founder of Embodied Life Transitions providing 1:1 Coaching for women, Christie also facilitates a collaborative community based Book Club called “Between the Covers”. She hosts a monthly, sex-positive Sisterhood Happy Hour with a focus on sexual wellness for women and teaches her own in-person experiential workshops in Historic Folsom as part of the Back to the Body Collective. She is an advocate for women's sexual wellness & is passionate about creating spaces for sisterhood, intimacy, and connection in her community.website: https://www.embodiedlifetransitions.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christie-watrous-b3b350172/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedlifetransitions/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/embodiedlifetransitions/ About Jen Oliver:I pursue and create environments where we converse on the REAL stuff that changes us. I'm designed to bring others on my personal journey with honest admissions to help us all transform - that's my sweetspot and I speak, lead, and write from that space.REAL conversations stir deeper connection and community - to explore ways that you can work with me, go to:email: jen@REALjenoliver.compodcast website: ListenForREAL.comwebsite: REALJenOliver.comLinkedIn:@realjenoliverInstagram: @realjenoliverFacebook: @realjenoliverIf you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter. Subscribe to all things Jen at REALJenOliver.

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month!   If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here!   You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back!   Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement.   Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person.   Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month!   If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here!   You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back!   Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement.   Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person.   Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month!   If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here!   You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back!   Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one's authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement.   Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person.   Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing