The Down and Dirty

Ever notice who gets approached at lifestyle events — and who doesn't? Chuck D shares a candid perspective on how interracial couples are often treated at parties and why it matters. It's short, powerful, and worth thinking about before your next night out.

Swinger 101 (Part 2): From Comfort Zones to Lingerie ZonesWe're back with Part 2 of our Swinger 101 conversation—and it gets even more real. In this episode, the hosts dig into the comfort zones, expectations, and awkward (but hilarious) learning curves that every couple faces in their early lifestyle experiences.From learning how to communicate through uncertainty to understanding what those “lingerie zones” are all about, this one is full of laughs, reflection, and stories that'll make you say, “Oh yeah, we've been there.”

Join us as we sit down with the manager of one of Western Europe's largest brothels. Catherine De Noire has her master's degree in organizational psychology and sociology and is currently in a PhD program to continue her research in managing legal sex work and diving into sex workers' experiences within their work. We had such a delight interviewing her to hear about her unique perspective on the sex industry and talk about our aligned values in advocating for sex positivity, swinging, polyamory, and so on...Guest(s): Catherine De NoireHosts and Producers: Cali, Fox, and RubyFollow and DM us on:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sponsor(s):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CouplesNextDoor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Seek, Discover, Connect (SDC)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SDC Promo code: 37887 (Sign up today for a free trial and we'll be notified of any new member who officially decides to seek, discover, and connect. We will reach out to you personally!)

Listen in to tips, stories, and the ins and outs of The Professor's favorite swinger event of the year... Mardi Gras!

An update on the upcoming Season 3 of the Down and Dirty Podcast and details of a new podcast from CND.

Join us for the last episode of Season 2, (Yes, there will be a Season 3!) as we talk with two couples from CND and dive into the often elusive four way connection they have found with each other. Well talk about their journey so far, and enjoy some quips and fun stories along the way!

How do you explore and celebrate your sexuality? Our hosts Cali, Fox, and Ruby interviewed Lexi Sylver, Media Director with Seek, Discover, Connect (SDC), an international platform for ethically non-monogamous singles, couples, throuples, and so on. Lexi talks about her sex positive journey as an international accredited coach, an award winning erotic storyteller, and all of the fun features of SDC!

Join The Professor and his surprise guest as they discuss the what, who, and when about the upcoming Halloween events!

Join us as we recorded onsite at the White Party Hotel Takeover. We'll hear from your room crawl ambassadors, a couple that's only looking for solo/hall pass males, and a couple that's brand new to the life style!

Join us as we have conversations with multiple members of the sex positive community while at the legendary White Chocolate end of season pool party! You'll hear insights and advice from lifestyle Veterans, business owners, and a previous single male and single female now turned couple.

In this episode, the hosts interview Kole Snodgrass, the owner of Krazy Kasbh, a lifestyle network in Nebraska. They discuss the various events and websites that Krazy Kasbh offers, including their nationally award-winning events like Crazy Winter Nights and Crazy Summer Nights. Kole emphasizes the importance of creating a safe and respectful environment at their events, with measures like safe tables and on-site security. They also touch on Kole's involvement in the adult industry, including shooting porn and playing the role of Santa in adult films. The conversation also explores the differences between nudist camps and swinger events. Kole Snodgrass discusses the philosophy of inclusion at his events and the impact they have on people's lives. He shares stories of individuals who have felt safe and comfortable exploring their sexuality and pushing their boundaries at his events. Kole also talks about the Crazy Winter Nights event and the wide range of educational seminars and activities it offers. He mentions the Full Swap Radio podcast network and its goal of providing a comprehensive resource for lifestyle information. Kole emphasizes the importance of respecting boundaries and creating a safe and welcoming environment for all attendees.

Join The Professor and MrOpen (TA) talk about the upcoming WhiteChocolate: White Party in Minnesota on September 7th and at a new location!

Burlesque is an art form known as the art of the tease, where performers strip tease on stage. It has a rich history, with origins in vaudeville and burlesque houses in the 1830s. Burlesque is especially popular in the United States, with a thriving scene in Minnesota. The burlesque community is inclusive and open to all bodies, genders, and expressions. To get into burlesque, it is recommended to see a show and consider taking classes at a local burlesque school. Costumes and choreography are individualized, and performers often have standard acts that they perform at different venues. Burlesque is a performative art form that allows individuals to express themselves and explore their sexuality. It is a diverse and inclusive community that welcomes people of all backgrounds. Burlesque shows often feature individual and group acts, with performers gradually removing their clothing to reveal a G-string and pasties. The art form has evolved over time, with different styles and props being used, such as feather fans, boas, and silks. Costumes and rhinestones are a significant investment for performers. While some shows may be unpaid, many producers pay performers based on the venue and the quality of the show. Burlesque provides a space for self-expression and vulnerability, and it is a gateway to the sex-positive community for those looking for alternative ways to explore their sexuality. Guest (s): Cali10 & Petty Hosts: RubyandFox Produced/Edited: MrOpen Sponsored by: CouplesNextDoor.com

In this episode of The Down & Dirty Podcast, the hosts discuss their experiences and insights into threesomes. They talk about the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and building trust. They also discuss the use of toys and the importance of knowing each partner's preferences. The hosts emphasize the importance of chemistry and being in the moment during a threesome. They also touch on the role of alcohol and the need for consent and check-ins throughout the experience. In this conversation, Ruby and Callie discuss various sex toys and experiences they have had as a throuple. They talk about different types of dildos, strap-ons, and other toys they use for double penetration and other experiences. They also mention the importance of communication in their throuple dynamic and how therapy has been helpful for them. Overall, they express their happiness and fulfillment in being part of a throuple and the freedom it offers. Guest(s): Cali10 Hosts: RubyandFox Production & Editing: MrOpen Sponsors: CouplesNextDoor.com This is a Down & Dirty Production

This is Part 2 of the 2 part conversation. In this conversation, the hosts discuss various aspects of being in a polyamorous relationship. They touch on topics such as event rules, vetting single males, the challenges of being in a quad, and the importance of clear boundaries and communication. They also emphasize the need for a strong foundation of trust and security in a polyamorous relationship. Overall, the conversation provides insights into the dynamics and complexities of polyamory. In this conversation, the hosts discuss the importance of communication and setting boundaries in the lifestyle. They share personal stories about dealing with boundary violations and the challenges they faced. They also emphasize the need for equal attention and validation for men in the lifestyle. The hosts provide tips on how to handle adversity and discuss the significance of dressing well and making an effort to attract others. They conclude by expressing their desire for equality and inclusivity in the lifestyle. Feedback Survey: ⁠Listener Feedback Survey⁠ Guest(s): ⁠WhiteChocolate⁠ Hosts: ⁠RubyandFox⁠ Producer: ⁠MrOpen⁠ Sponsor(s): ⁠CouplesNextDoor.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/the-down-and-dirty/message

The conversation is about an upcoming event called Glow Too, which is a mansion party with a glow-in-the-dark theme. The event is described as a fan favorite and has a unique atmosphere. The conversation covers various aspects of the event, including dress attire, changing rooms, registration, and rules for attendance. The hosts emphasize that the event is suitable for both experienced swingers and newcomers to the lifestyle. Event Details: Glow Too Lingerie Mansion Soriee Guest: Mr WhiteChocolate of WhiteChocolate Events Host: MrOpen --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/the-down-and-dirty/message

The conversation revolves around the topic of polyamory and the experiences of the hosts in a throuple relationship. They discuss the challenges and dynamics of being in a throuple, including the importance of trust, communication, and maintaining emotional connections. They also touch on the differences between swinging and polyamory, and the various types of non-monogamous relationships within the umbrella term of polyamory. The conversation explores different relationship dynamics within the context of polyamory and throuples. The speakers discuss various labels and terms used in the polyamorous community, such as open relationships, closed relationships, hierarchical polyamory, and poly fidelity. They also touch on the challenges and dynamics of threesomes and orgies. The speakers share their personal experiences and offer advice for navigating polyamorous relationships. They mention some recommended resources, including books and blogs, for those interested in learning more about polyamory. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the importance of communication, trust, and being part of a supportive community. Feedback Survey: Listener Feedback Survey Guest(s): WhiteChocolate Hosts: RubyandFox Producer: MrOpen Sponsor(s): CouplesNextDoor.com

Recorded in Sioux Falls, South Dakota with real couples attending the Eye Candy event on May 4, 2024. Couples from Minnesota, South Dakota, North Dakota, Iowa, and Nebraska! This conversation explores the experiences and perspectives of a couple in the swinging lifestyle. They discuss how they got into swinging, their fantasies, and their journey of sexual exploration. They also touch on topics such as body confidence, the stigma around swinging, and the importance of open communication in a relationship. The conversation is light-hearted and humorous, with the couple sharing anecdotes and answering fun questions. In this conversation, the hosts ask the couple if they have any questions for them. The couple discusses their masturbation habits and preferences, as well as their plans to attend swinging parties. They also talk about their Enneagram types and guilty pleasures. The hosts share their wildest sexual experiences and discuss their favorite types of cheese. The conversation ends with the hosts asking the couple about their sexual superpowers. Sponsored by: CouplesNextDoror.com Hosted by: Ruby & Fox Production/Editing by: The TA aka MrOpen

The TA announces a survey for listeners to provide feedback on the podcast. They also promote an upcoming event and offer a special membership deal. The conversation covers topics such as lifestyle preferences, event attendance, and the benefits of joining CouplesNextDoor. SURVEY LINK: https://forms.gle/hnAnsGJbKW9nZcbJ8 PROMO CODE for 3 free months of membership to CouplesNextDoor.com for new members good for the month of May 2024 only: PODCAST524 Produced/Edited by TA aka MrOpen

Guest: Lindsay aka FifthElement In this conversation, Ruby and Lindsay discuss the Enneagram, a model of human psychology and personality theory. They explain that each person has a unique Enneagram type, which is like a suit of armor that shapes the way they see the world and themselves. There are nine primary types, each characterized by a combination of strengths, weaknesses, motivations, fears, and triggers. Understanding your Enneagram type can help you understand your core motivations and emotions, and can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-awareness. It can also help in the lifestyle by improving communication and understanding between partners and other people in the community. In this conversation, Ruby and Fox discuss the Enneagram personality types and how they relate to the lifestyle. They explore each type and how it may manifest in the lifestyle, as well as the importance of communication and self-awareness in the lifestyle. They also touch on the role of emotions, particularly anger, in their own experiences. Overall, they emphasize the value of understanding oneself and others in order to have a better experience in the lifestyle. Online Enneagram Test: The Enneagram Personality Test Sponsors: CouplesNextDoor.com Contact Ruby and Fox at RUBYFOX@THEDOWNANDDIRTYPODCAST.COM Produced/Edited by Mr. Open aka Teachers Assistant (TA)

Guest: The Professor aka Mr. WhiteChocolate This bonus episode of the Down and Dirty Podcast explores the White Chocolate Summer Nights event series exclusively found on couplesnextdoor.com. The hosts discuss the swinging seasons and the upcoming Little Black Dress event. They provide insights on attire suggestions for the event and discuss potential themes for future events. They also mention their upcoming attendance at the Eye Candy event in Sioux Falls. The episode concludes with a reminder to follow and support the podcast. If you have suggestions or topics for future episodes, be sure to email them to RUBYFOX@THEDOWNANDDIRTYPODCAST.COM

Guest: FifthElement aka Lindsay, Licensed Therapist In this conversation, Fox discusses a communication technique called parroting, which involves repeating a portion of what someone says in an inquisitive tone to prompt them to elaborate. The technique can help improve communication and redirect conversations. The conversation then transitions to a discussion on love languages, specifically words of affirmation and acts of service. Ruby and Lindsay share their experiences and preferences with these love languages and discuss how they can be applied in the lifestyle. In this conversation, Ruby, Lindsay, and Fox discuss the love languages of the lifestyle. They explore the different ways people express and receive love, focusing on acts of service, receiving gifts, physical touch, quality time, and words of affirmation. They share personal experiences and preferences within each love language, highlighting the importance of consent and understanding individual boundaries. The conversation emphasizes the need for thoughtfulness, consideration, and communication in building connections and creating meaningful experiences in the lifestyle. Sponsors: CouplesNextDoor.com Contact Ruby and Fox at RUBYFOX@THEDOWNANDDIRTYPODCAST.COM

In this episode of the Down and Dirty Podcast, the hosts interview two couples who are new to the lifestyle. They discuss body language, flirting, favorite porn categories, and play fun games. The couples also share their experiences and answer questions about their swinger spouses. The episode ends with a catch-up session and random questions. In this episode, the hosts and guests discuss various topics related to open relationships and swinging. They explore attraction and fantasies, including the idea of couples being attracted to other couples. The conversation takes a playful turn as they imagine having a second penis and discuss their preferences. They also talk about go-go bags and must-have items for sexual adventures. The guests share their experiences with pegging, condoms, and the transition from soft swap to full swap. The conversation delves into kinkiness, safe words, and the importance of communication in relationships. They also touch on the benefits of cannabis and the significance of nutrition. The episode concludes with a quick-fire round of questions and a discussion on observing partners in the lifestyle. Ruby's OnlyFans Jenny Felcon's OnlyFans Guest Members: Jelly Grovecurious Mplscuriouscouple Afterglow openflow Sponsors: CouplesNextDoor.com

In this bonus episode, the Professor and the Queen provide updates and tips for the upcoming Mardi Gras event. They discuss changes in the event venue and the need for a BYOB policy on Friday night. They also emphasize the importance of knowing your alcohol limits and avoiding excessive drinking. The hosts share their favorite Mardi Gras memories and offer advice for first-time partygoers. They recommend bringing comfortable masks, extra sheets, and late-night food options. The episode concludes with information about the Viva Mardi Gras event and a preview of the upcoming season of the podcast. Guests: WhiteChocolate

Tune in to the latest episode as Ruby & Fox sit down with the fresh faces behind Eye Candy Events in Sioux Falls, South Dakota! Whether you're a local or a lifestyle enthusiast who loves to travel for events, this conversation is a must-listen. Discover the exciting details about Eye Candy events and mark your calendars for the upcoming one in March. For more event info and updates, visit CouplesNextDoor.com. Don't miss out on the buzz – join the conversation now!

The GLOW Mansion Soiree is one of the favorites of CND Members! Hosted inside a gorgeous facility with onsite hotel rooms, full bar, dance floor, areas to socialize, and PRIVATE! Sign up today to CouplesNextDoor.com to learn more about this event and more!!!!

Join us for the final episode of Season One as Ruby and Fox talk with two Unicorns, one newer the the lifestyle and one Veteran. They'll provide advice and share some stories of their experiences. Guests: jennyfalcon95 and DDvixen

Happy Holidays from The Down & Dirty Podcast!! Join us for the final interview of real couples at the WhiteChocolate Halloween Total Hotel Takeover and meet another new couple that is loving this new community! Featured Guests: HotwifeEP

We continue our series of interviews with real couples at a WhiteChocolate Halloween Total Hotel Takeover! This couple is brand spanking new both as a married couple and our community! Featured Guests: GraysonRiddle

We continue to have conversations with real couples of CouplesNextDoor.com at the 2023 WhiteChocolate Total Hotel Takeover. Featured Guests: JT7719

We continue our conversations with real couples of CND at the 2023 WhiteChocolate Total Hotel Takeover for part 2! Guests: RPLUSC4EVER

We met with five couples over the 2023 WhiteChocolate Halloween Total Hotel Takeover for our Couples of CND Series, which will be released weekly for the next five weeks! So sit back, relax, and get to know the REAL couples of CouplesNextDoor.com! Featured Guest: ⁠LolaandBugsBunny

Listen to this short bonus episode for tips on attending the upcoming and any future WhiteChocolate Lingerie Mansion party! Next full episode of The Down & Dirty will air November 24th!

In this very special episode, we're joined by two licensed therapists and we'll be talking about things to consider when joining the lifestyle, communication, shyness, showing value, and a whole lot more! Guest(s): FifthElement & Alexandra (Licensed Therapists) Reference Links: The Five Love Languages Enneagram Test Erotic Blueprint

This bonus episode provides 9 helpful tips and tricks from your hosts, Ruby & Fox!

Gain the insight from two solo males in the lifestyle that have a combined 15 years of experience. They will reveal a tremendous amount of their experience that will help any solo males or couples looking for the MFM or Hotwife experience! Guest(s): FourthBase⁠⁠ & MrOpen Reference Links: ⁠The Five Love Languages⁠

Join us as we sit and talk with our fun and sexy friends, Rebel Penguins. In this 2nd episode we'll discuss the very important topic of Dates! How to initiate a date, where to go, how to move forward to the next step, and more.

In this episode we introduce this brand new podcast series, share insights in to evolution of the lifestyle in the midwest, things to know when just starting out in the lifestyle, and much more! Plus, insight from our special guest that has been in the lifestyle for over 20 years! Special Guest: The Professor