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Are you in a relationship with a first responder or a law enforcement officer? Hey! I know what that is like! Code4Couples provides support and helpful information to keep your relationship safe and Code 4. I am Cyndi Doyle, a licensed professional counselor as well as a law enforcement officer wi…

Cyndi Doyle


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    Ep 85: How to prepare and handle Extreme Events

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2022 40:15


    What is an extreme event and how do you handle them when they occur?  As schools have started the new school year, Uvalde has been on my mind. When Dr. Katherine Kuhlman offered to come on and talk about mass events, I moved to get her on the podcast. She has been speaking on national media outlets about these events and the impact on communities and law enforcement. It's possible that this one may be triggering. Today, Katie discusses the impact of these events on law enforcement families and how to move through them successfully. 

    Ep 84: Crusty Curmudgeon to Courage

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2022 32:12


    Curmudgeon: a bad tempered person, especially an old person.  This episode is a conversation with Cyndi and her husband Lt. Bobby Doyle (Ret.) where Bobby admits he is a recovering curmudgeon. Bobby shares his story of why he needed to make a change. His old school mindset needed to shift into one based off the needs of the younger generation of officers as well as the impact the curmudgeon had on his marriage.  Bobby offers solutions on finding the joys in life after witnessing the bad and evil around him by taking his emotional armor off when appropriate.  From a crusty old guy to mental health mentor, listen in to Bobby's story.  Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your relationship. Code4Couples

    Ep. 83: The impact of authoritarian spillover. (Featuring my husband!)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2022 50:49


    Behaviors that keep officers safe of the job can have negative impact on relationships with those they love.  The command presence that officers must have on the job is conditioned and can occur at home in certain situations.  This episode is a conversation with Cyndi and her husband Bobby (ret).  They share not only information about how authoritarian spillover presents at home but how, why, and the impact in their own relationship.  Cyndi and Bobby offer several solutions so you can negate the impact in your own relationship. Cyndi is a licensed professional counselor specializing in law enforcement and other first responders.   Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your relationship. Code4Couples Essential Skills Guide

    Ep 82: How to be a parent and not a cop at home with Lynn McLean, LCSWS, RPTS

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2022 37:17


    Parenting is hard. It can be even harder when you are trying to parent in a Law Enforcement Family. Our officer's brain needs time to come down from the hypervigilance high that keeps them safe on the job. Their authoritarian mindset that keeps a scene under control during shift needs to shift to one that is condusive to a parenting approach.  During today's episode, I have brought on Lynn McLean to help us understand how officers can have better relationships with their kids, understand the impact of the reactions, and help both parent's approach those frustrating situations differently. Learntoparent.net

    Encore: Shut Out or Shut Down Communication

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2022 28:37


    Cyndi Doyle, LPCS and LEO Wife talks about issues that impact law enforcement relationship issues.  This week is an encore episode of Shut Out and Shut Down Communication.  Learn what causes the communication pattern and how to address it in your law enforcement relationship. Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Your Law Enforcement Relationship (Click here to buy) Free Workbook click here IG: code4couples For speaking or training click here

    Ep 81: Supporting others through Grief in Law Enforcement

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2022 48:46


    We experience different types of grief as law enforcement couples, including the grief of the life we may have dreamed such as having dinner and holidays together. You may be grieving the support of a community or safety you once felt. You may be also grieving the death of an officer you know personally or in the community. For that reason, I have brought on Jill Johnson- Young, the grief guru. Jill is a LCSW, former hospice and child welfare worker that has worked very closely with law enforcement officers. Professionally and personally, Jill has seen grief firsthand. In this podcast, we talk about grief and support beyond thoughts, prayers, and casseroles.  About Me (jilljohnsonyoung.com)

    Ep. 80: 5 Easy Communication Hacks

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2022 39:37


    Communication can be difficult when you never see each other, deal with hypervigilance, and stress.  Cyndi give you 5 easy communication hacks to keep you connected through the ups and downs. Be sure to check out the free download at holdthelinebook.com  Check out other episodes at code4couples.com  Pick up the book Hold the Line on Amazon or any online retailer.  

    Ep. 79: Is it really "Just Friends"?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2022 23:32


    You notice you spouse texting and smiling.  You lean over and notice it's someone from the opposite sex.  You start to wonder if their relationship is more than just friends.  In a environment that has the potential to leave us feeling lonely and disconnected, it is important that the connection is not filled outside of our relationships.  In this episode, Cyndi talks about the slow slide of friendship turned emotional affair.  Find out if your friendships with the opposite sex is really more than "just friends".

    Ep 78: The 5 Skills You Need for a Thriving Law Enforcement Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2022 35:47


    Do you want to make sure your law enforcement relationship is strong enough to endure the ups and downs of life and the career?  Cyndi shares the 5 essentials skills that skills that every law enforcement couple needs to have to stay connected and resilient!  code4couples.com

    Ep 77: Struggles with Relationships, Stigma, and Nutrition

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2022 43:33


    Kelly Lynch, EMT, Nutritionist, and Licensed Clinical Social Worker talks with Cyndi about the pros and cons of dual first responder relationships, smashing the stigma of struggles after calls, and nutrition essential for all first responders.  

    Ep 76: Conquering Loneliness Together with Rebecca Lynn, Proud Police Wife

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2021 36:01


    Feeling lonely is often felt and talked about by police spouses but officers often talk about the loneliness they feel as well.  The holidays seems to increase loneliness in both due.  Guest Rebecca Lynn, Proud Police Wife, and Cyndi talk about how to conquer loneliness as a couple in this episode.

    Ep 75: Sgt Michael Sugrue. Officer Involved, PTSI, and Recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2021 53:41


    Michael Sugrue, a retired police Sergeant with the City of Walnut Creek CA with over 14 years of service encountered a situation that was not only tragic, but it was a call for duty that changed his life forever. He found himself in reckless abandon and on the verge of self-destruction until he mustered the courage to ask for help. Michael tells his story of survival recovery and healing after a deadly force incident and wants others to know that they are not alone.

    Ep 74: Mindset Matters with Garrett TeSalaa

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 19, 2021 39:21


    A shift in mindset can help officer's mental health, their relationship, and impact other officers around them.  Garrett TeSlaa, from The Squad Room Podcast, talks about his struggles with his thinking and physical health, how his mindset was impacted by a community coming together during the Montecito Debris Flow, and how his mission to impact other officers to shift there mindset through BADGES.

    Ep. 73: Hold The Line Book with Guest Bobby Doyle

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2021 38:57


    Hold the Line: The Essential Guide for Protecting your Law Enforcement Relationship is the book to help both officers and spouses understand the psychological impact of law enforcement on them and their relationship.  Cyndi and her husband Bobby talk about why she wrote the book and how he was impacted both by the book but years of enduring Cyndi's "therapizing".

    Ep. 72: Domestic Violence or Bad Behavior?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2021 41:03


    October is Domestic Violence awareness month making it the perfect time to have the conversation. Not only about domestic violence, but a real conversation about what to do if you think you or your spouse might be unintentionally crossing the line.  To help give some clarity to the line between domestic violence and bad behavior, I interviewed Tabitha Westbrook, LMFT Fellow, LCMHC, and LPC, is an expert in domestic violence and an expert witness in PTSD for this podcast. 

    Does Our Sacrifice Matter?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2021 28:19


    Culture and politics continue to take a toll on law enforcement officers and their spouses.  There are serious mental health issues that stem from the ongoing negativity from the world around us.  In this episode, Cyndi addresses the serious and prevalent nature of low compassion satisfaction and high compassion fatigue, its' impact on the officer and spouse, and how to counter the impact.

    Ep 70: Life Hacks w/Lt. Col. Dave Grossman

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2020 40:11


    This is Part 2 of our conversation with Lt. Col. Dave Grossman. If you missed the first half, check out Ep 69 before listening to this episode. In this second of two episodes with him, he shared some life hacks he's learned in his career including attacking the epidemic of sleep deprivation and simple solutions to complex problems. Lt. Col. Dave Grossman is a retired US Army Ranger, paratrooper, former Westpoint psychology professor, owns five patents, has authored 12 books and his accolades go on and on. Learn more about our guest at Killology.com. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ Sand Tray Therapy: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-sand-tray-therapy-4589493 Post Traumatic Stress Injury: https://www.posttraumaticstressinjury.org Resilience Academy: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com/resilience OSI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operational_Stress_Injury Kim’s Contact Info: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com Email: kim@firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog Edited by Taylor Schroll (Taylorschroll.com/editing) 

    Ep 69: Sheepdog Mentality w/Lt. Col. Dave Grossman

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2020 42:48


    Lt. Col. Dave Grossman is a retired US Army Ranger, paratrooper, former Westpoint psychology professor, owns five patents, has authored 12 books and his accolades go on and on.  In this first of two episodes with him, he discussed the sheepdog mentality and protecting those we love here in the present and doing all we can to protect their future.  Learn more about our guest at Killology.com. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ Sand Tray Therapy: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-sand-tray-therapy-4589493 Post Traumatic Stress Injury: https://www.posttraumaticstressinjury.org Resilience Academy: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com/resilience OSI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operational_Stress_Injury Kim’s Contact Info: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com Email: kim@firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog Edited by Taylor Schroll (Taylorschroll.com/editing) 

    Ep 68: Jonathan Hickory: Break Every Chain

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2020 46:58


    Drowning in the depths of depression and sadness, burning with anger, and chained down by alcoholism, Jonathan Hickory couldn’t do anymore. After the loss of his father as a young boy, facing countless horrific death scenes in the line of duty, and the death of his son, Jonathan faced the threat of losing his job as a police officer, the loss of his wife and daughter, and contemplating suicide.  In this episode Jonathan Hickory shared his story of struggling with Officer PTSD and alcoholism and resilience.  Learn more about it in his book Break Every Chain. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ Sand Tray Therapy: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-sand-tray-therapy-4589493 Post Traumatic Stress Injury: https://www.posttraumaticstressinjury.org Resilience Academy: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com/resilience OSI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operational_Stress_Injury Kim’s Contact Info: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com Email: kim@firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog Edited by Taylor Schroll (Taylorschroll.com/editing) 

    Episode 67: First Responder Family Resilience with Kim Williamson

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2020 36:23


     Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with Kim Williamson, owner of First Responder Family Wellness Center, mental health professional, and fellow LEO wife, to talk about personal PTSI (PTSD), secondary traumatic stress, the impact on Officer involved incidents on the spouse, and the practice of resilience for law enforcement officers, first responders, and their families. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ Sand Tray Therapy: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-sand-tray-therapy-4589493 Post Traumatic Stress Injury: https://www.posttraumaticstressinjury.org Resilience Academy: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com/resilience OSI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operational_Stress_Injury Kim’s Contact Info: https://www.firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com Email: kim@firstresponderfamilywellnesscenter.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 66 - Dr. Amy Fortney Parks: Understanding and Moving Through Stress as a Family

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2020 40:40


    Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, brings on Dr. Amy Fortney Parks to discuss the impact that this pandemic is having on our children and the anxieties that go along with that. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” The Three Phases of Psychological Response to Crisis: Emergency, Regression, and Recovery Amy’s Contact Info: Text “WISEHELP” to 66866  www.thewisefamily.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Black and Blue

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2020 43:37


    - Feeling black and blue is about feeling a little beat up over the last week.  It's also about supporting issues related to race and supporting the law enforcement community. We can do both.  In this episode, Cyndi addresses how our brain is being impacted and our flight and fight engaged, supporting officers and their spouses, education, empathy, and self-care.   - https://proudpolicewife.com/ - https://www.embracerace.org/resources/26-childrens-books-to-support-conversations-on-race - https://booksforlittles.com/racial-diversity/ - https://docs.google.com/document/u/0/d/1-D3-NDhKgMsQT4bmqMyM-Y-lPf9Z3E0OELKKL2vKGhs/mobilebasic?usp=gmail - https://changingtheculturefr.com/get-educated-about-black-live-matter/

    Episode 65: Top 10 From The Last 20

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2020 43:54


    Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, and her Darling Husband celebrated 20 years of marriage and wanted to share their first responder relationship tips they have learned over the years. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Top 10 Tips: 1. Be Adaptable 2. Habits and Reactions 3. Boundaries are Important 4. Enjoy Your Time Off 5. State What You Need 6. Stand In Each Other’s Shoes 7. What You See May Not Be What’s Going On 8.Take Ownership of Your Actions and Ask For Forgiveness 9. Be Willing to Have Difficult Conversations 10. It’s Okay If They’re Not Okay “Eggshells and Living Big” Podcast: https://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-63-eggshells-and-living-big “Divorce Myth” Podcast: https://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-60-the-divorce-myth My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 64: It's Okay To Not Be Okay

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2020 52:12


    Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, talks about the effects this pandemic is having on our minds, bodies, and relationships with our first responders. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Brene Brown- brenebrown.com Aspects of Brain Reactions: Fight or Flight, Grief, Cognitive Dissidence, and Past Trauma Bessel Van de Kolk - https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/ The Body Keeps Score Book - https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 7 Aspects of Trauma – Lack of Predictability, Immobility, Loss of Connection, Numbing, Loss of Sense of Time and Sequence, Loss of Safety, and Loss of Sense of Purpose Solutions – Schedule/Routine, Plan Events, Move Your Body, Make a Dream Board, Play, Connection, Choose Mindfulness Over Numbing, Make Time for Privacy, Physical Touch, Be kind and Gentle Previous Podcasts about Breathing: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-57-yoga-for-first-responders http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-58-responding-with-resilience-kate-pieper My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en          LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                        Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    COVID + Anxiety = Blue Line Lifestyle Special: A Conversation of Unity Between LEOW Sisters - Allison, Kelli, Cyndi, and Rebecca

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2020 29:44


    *Bonus Podcast* In this episode of Blue Line Lifestyle, host Kelli Lowe and three of her First Responder Spouse sisters: Rebecca, Cyndi, and Allison have a Conversation of Unity, sharing tips for spouses and to help families move forward during this trying time as the world deals with the trauma of COVID-19 (Coronavirus 19). 

    Episode 63: Eggshells and Living BIG

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2020 31:39


    Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, discusses how to get rid of the feeling of walking on eggshells in your relationship while applying the idea of living BIG. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Ellen Kirschman - https://ellenkirschman.com/ Cooper’s Colors: https://www.bsr-inc.com/awareness-color-code-chart/ Cooper’s Colors Podcast Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-13-its-not-about-the-sponge-stories-we-tell Brene Brown Rising Strong: https://www.amazon.com/Rising-Strong-Ability-Transforms-Parent/dp/081298580X Brene Brown Quote: “What boundaries do I need to set and follow to work and act from a place of integrity, so that I extend the greatest generosity when it comes to interpreting others intentions and actions?” Living BIG: Boundaries, Integrity, Generosity or Generous explanation Sponge Story Podcast Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-13-its-not-about-the-sponge-stories-we-tell My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en          LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                        Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 62: How the Heck Does Attachment Style Impact Connection?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2020 30:46


    Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, brings on one of her friends, Dr. Jodie Elder, to discuss different attachment styles and how that impacts our connection with our spouses. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Reactions to Attachment Threats: Criticism and Withdraw Attachment Styles: Dismissive, Pre-Occupied, and Fearful Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ How to Move Towards Secure Attachment: Manage Your Own Stuff and Perception of Our Partner Jodie’s Handout: https://www.dropbox.com/s/aljt01jzka94i3u/Dr.%20Jodie%20Elder%20Attachment%20and%20Connection.pdf?dl=0 Jodie’s Contact Info: Jodie_elder@hotmail.com My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en          LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                        Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 61: My Husband Finally Read Gilmartin and The Lightbulb Came On

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2020 25:41


    Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with her Darling Husband and chats about his 5 takeaways from Dr. Gilmartin’s Book Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Kevin Gilmartin’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403 Darling Husband’s 5 Takeaways: The Job, The Whole Job, and Nothing but The Job. 2. Dealing with Hypervigilance. 3. The Burn Out. 4. What Officers Actually Control. 5. Police Work Isn’t 24/7. My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en          LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                        Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 60: The Divorce Myth

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2020 19:42


    Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, does the research to myth bust the divorce rate among law enforcement couples and hopes to give some peace of mind. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” First Responder Mental Health Conference: https://www.backingthebluedenton.com/ Podcast Episode with That Peer Support Couple: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-46-that-peer-support-couple Podcast Episode with Dr. Stephanie Conn: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-47-the-importance-of-resilience Stephanie Conn’s Book - https://www.amazon.com/Increasing-Resilience-Police-Emergency-Personnel/dp/1138643688 Jeff Shannon Police One: https://www.policeone.com/off-duty/articles/p1-first-person-the-myths-and-realities-of-cops-and-divorce-GjJKRRC3Pzzi8H0W/ Factors of Divorce Rate Trending Down: couples waiting to get married and co-habitation without nuptials Shawn McCoy and Michael Aamodt Study: https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/A-Comparison-of-Law-Enforcement-Divorce-Rates-with-McCoy-Aamodt/499077004f2e743a7c7d88237a8eb51a7684077d My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en         LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 59: Rachel Dolcine - Love Behind the Blue Line

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2019 26:16


    Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with fellow law enforcement officer wife and author, Rachel Dolcine, to discuss her book Love Behind the Blue Line and her experience being married to an officer. Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” Rachel’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Behind-Blue-Line-Stories/dp/1945464968 Freddie Gray: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Freddie_Gray IACP: https://www.theiacpconference.org/ Sponge Story Podcast Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-13-its-not-about-the-sponge-stories-we-tell Rachel’s Contact Info: Instagram - @racheljspeaks                       @love_behind_blue_line Facebook - @rachelspeaks Website – http://www.compasscts.com/ My website: code4couples.com Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/          Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en         LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/          Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                      YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 58 - Responding with Resilience: Kate Pieper

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2019 25:52


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, chats with her colleague and fellow first responder supporter, Kate Pieper – LMFT, about how to become a resilient individual and couple in the first responder community. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        CISM - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Critical_incident_stress_management -        EMDR - https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ -        CHP - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/California_Highway_Patrol -        CDAA - https://www.cdaa.org/ -        Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement by Dr. Gilmartin - https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403 -        ROP - https://www.coastlinerop.net/course-fire-science.asp -        Eric Greitens’ Book- https://www.amazon.com/Resilience-Hard-Won-Wisdom-Living-Better/dp/0544705262 -        Resiliency Techniques: Gratitude, Meditation, and Community -        Brendon Burchard’s Book - https://www.amazon.com/High-Performance-Habits-Brendon-Burchard-ebook/dp/B072N6MQ5V/ref=sr_1_2?crid=NMP2C9RLOU53&keywords=brendon+burchard+books&qid=1573587311&s=digital-text&sprefix=brendon+burchard%2Cdigital-text%2C303&sr=1-2 -        Tactical Breathing - http://onresilience.com/2011/06/02/tactical-breathing-can-stop-stress-on-the-spot/ -        Kate’s Website: https://www.katepieperlmft.com/ -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 57: Yoga For First Responders

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2019 45:39


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, landed an interview with Olivia Mead, who created Yoga for First Responders. The two of them chat about how yoga is so beneficial to first responders in their job and keeping that resiliency for their mental health and wellness. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Yoga Definition - a Hindu spiritual and ascetic discipline, a part of which, including breath control, simple meditation, and the adoption of specific bodily postures, is widely practiced for health and relaxation -        TRE: https://traumaprevention.com/what-is-tre/ -        Oliva Mead’s Contact Information: Email – programs@yogaforfirstresponders.org               info@yogaforfirstresponders.org YouTube Page - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBU0mRTMl-GkNjo8AAS92iw Link to Intro to Yoga for First Responders Video - https://youtu.be/Rseir2c_hek Website – https://www.yogaforfirstresponders.org/ Social Media (Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter) - @yogaforfirstresponders Olivia’s Personal Social Media Handle and Website - @loislaneofyoga https://loislaneofyoga.com/ -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 56 - His Badge My Story: Vicki Gustafson

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2019 36:15


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, had the pleasure of chatting with fellow LEOW and author, Vicki Gustafson about her book His Badge My Story. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Vicki Gustafson’s Book: https://www.vickigustafson.com/book/ -        Code 4 Couples podcast about fear: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-51-fear-and-schedules-what-19-years-has-taught-me -        Vicki’s Website: https://www.vickigustafson.com/ -        Get ahold of Vicki: www.leowsinsight.com or leowinsight@gmail.com -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 55: Police Scanners At Home

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2019 15:33


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, discusses the controversial topic of listening to police scanners as LEO spouses or even as off-duty officers and how that may impact your mental health overall. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        IACP: https://www.theiacpconference.org/ -        Autumn Schmidt, Intuitive Sheepdog: http://thesheepdognation.com/ -        Code 4 Couples Podcast Episode with Autumn: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-52-autumn-schmidt-how-to-be-code-4-while-10-7 -        Dr. Kevin Gilmartin’s Book – Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403/ref=sr_1_1?gclid=CjwKCAjwmZbpBRAGEiwADrmVXi8PMOavSGG9E5Ep_sxHGgULG5WEBKkDdIsbcMwWhdIlQTfaOi3krhoC83MQAvD_BwE&hvadid=241635165755&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9052790&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t1&hvqmt=e&hvrand=16576739639537873524&hvtargid=aud-648454669636%3Akwd-311944418777&hydadcr=22568_10355169&keywords=gilmartin+emotional+survival&qid=1562776186&s=gateway&sr=8-1 -        Secondary Traumatic Stress: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secondary_trauma -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 54 - Surviving an Officer Involved Incident as a Couple: Greg and Jaelyn Lovell

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2019 48:18


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, was able to talk to a LEO couple who experienced an on-duty incident and how they walked through that together. Greg and Jaelyn Lovell experienced trauma and are here to bring more awareness to the conversation of trauma. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Greg and Jaelyn’s YouTube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45XYrgPnw8Q -        Brene Brown – Shame: https://brenebrown.com/articles/2013/01/14/shame-v-guilt/ -        Greg and Jaelyn Contact Info: Instagram - @jaelynbarneslovell -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 53 - I Rolled My Ankle: Coping With My Own Eggshells

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2019 25:11


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with her Darling Husband to discuss the importance of officers being aware of their own needs and communicating that to their partners so their partners are not having to walk on eggshells. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Four Factors of Officer’s Demeanor: Stress, Conditioning of Reacting, Anxiety or Lack of Control, and Shift Mindset. -        Gottman “ritual” - https://www.gottman.com/blog/5-rituals-reconnect-relationship/ -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 52: Autumn Schmidt - How to be Code 4 While 10-7

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2019 38:50


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, brings Autumn Schmidt back on to the podcast to discuss her passion of reducing the suicide rate in law enforcement by training officers how to not lose themselves to the job. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Previous Podcast featuring Autumn: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-33-females-in-law-enforcement-and-impact-on-relationships -        The Sheepdog Nation Podcast: http://thesheepdognation.com/ -        Dr. Kevin Gilmartin’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403 -        David Goggins’ Book: https://www.amazon.com/Cant-Hurt-Me-Master-Your-ebook/dp/B07H453KGH -        Autumn’s Contact Info: Instagram: @intuitivesheepdog Email: autumn@autumnclifford.com -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 51: Fear and Schedules - What 19 Years Has Taught Me

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 23, 2019 16:27


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, shares her experience in learning how to handle the fear and the schedule challenges that come along the way with this law enforcement world. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Proud Police Wife: https://proudpolicewife.com/ -        Proud Police Wife post on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/B0Dud8alJX_/ -        Code 4 Couples Podcast Episode #1: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/introduction-to-code4couples-0 -        The two pieces of advice that I hear a lot: 1. Trust the training 2. Be flexible -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 50: The Overtime Trap

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 12, 2019 31:28


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, chats with fellow LEO couple Jason and Katie Hoschouer about the affects of the overtime trap on our relationship and our wallets but more importantly how being a team with our spouse can make all the difference. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Jason Hoschouer’s book - Badges and Budgets: Personal Finance from a Law Enforcement Perspective https://www.amazon.com/Badges-Budgets-Personal-Enforcement-Perspective/dp/1530841496 -        The Motorcop Mindset Blog: http://www.themotorcopmindset.com/ -        Jason’s American Cop Magazine Article: https://americancopmagazine.com/hero911/ -        Jason’s Police One Page: https://www.policeone.com/columnists/Jason-Hoschouer/ -        Jason’s Podcast “What’s Your Emergency?” - http://wyeradio.com/ -        Dr. Kevin Gilmartin’s Book – Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403/ref=sr_1_1?gclid=CjwKCAjwmZbpBRAGEiwADrmVXi8PMOavSGG9E5Ep_sxHGgULG5WEBKkDdIsbcMwWhdIlQTfaOi3krhoC83MQAvD_BwE&hvadid=241635165755&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9052790&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t1&hvqmt=e&hvrand=16576739639537873524&hvtargid=aud-648454669636%3Akwd-311944418777&hydadcr=22568_10355169&keywords=gilmartin+emotional+survival&qid=1562776186&s=gateway&sr=8-1 -        Dave Ramsey Books: https://www.daveramsey.com/store/books?gclid=CjwKCAjwmZbpBRAGEiwADrmVXgA8h5rB5t-yf5vneEcbuNTq1HhY1KLL4QjeGLIsVJFxOdxBKN9T7RoCgL0QAvD_BwE -        Gottman Soft Start-Up: https://www.gottman.com/blog/softening-startup/ -        Jason’s Email: jason@themotorcopmindset.com -        Katie’s Website: http://www.katiecanhelp.com/ -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 49: Shut Out Shut Down

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2019 26:03


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, talks about situations we face in our first responder relationships when we may be shut out or shut down by our partner when trying to connect with them. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Dr. John Gottman “Stonewalling”: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-stonewalling/ -        “Invisible Armor” Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-48-invisible-armor -        “Love Maps” Episode: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-22-cleaning-your-relationship-house -        Gottman Love Maps: https://www.gottman.com/blog/build-love-maps/ -        Hypervigilance: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypervigilance -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 48: Invisible Armor

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 14, 2019 27:21


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, discusses the impacts of trying to create intimacy and connection with our partners while keeping an invisible armor on. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Podcasts with Dr. Dean Aslina: 1. http://code4couples.libsyn.com/understanding-your-mate-interview-with-dr-dean-aslinia-sex-therapist   2. http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-26-understanding-your-mate-interview-with-dr-dean-aslinia-sex-therapist-continued -        Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ -        Dr. John and Julie Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/ -        “Into Me You See” Aspects of Intimacy: Vulnerability and Empathy -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 47: The Importance of Resilience

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2019 27:12


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with Dr. Stephanie Conn, licensed psychologist and former police officer, to talk about resiliency and her book Increasing Resilience in Police and Emergency Personnel: Strengthening Your Mental Armor. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Dr. Stephanie Conn’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Increasing-Resilience-Police-Emergency-Personnel/dp/113864367X/ref=sr_1_fkmrnull_1?keywords=stephanie+conn+book&qid=1556128706&s=gateway&sr=8-1-fkmrnull -        Dr. Gillmartin’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=gilmartin+book&qid=1556130599&s=gateway&sr=8-1 -        Contact Dr. Stephanie Conn: https://firstresponderpsychology.com/ -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 46: That Peer Support Couple

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2019 37:11


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, connects with That Peer Support Couple, Javier and Cathy Bustos! Javier and Cathy share their critical incidences while they were both in law enforcement and how that affected their marriage. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Bill Blackwood Law Enforcement Management Institute of Texas: http://www.lemitonline.org/ -        Law Enforcement Today Articles: https://www.lawenforcementtoday.com/?s=cathy+bustos -        Police One: https://www.policeone.com/ -        Dr. Gilmartin: http://emotionalsurvival.com/about.htm -        5 Love Languages: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/ -        Patrick Shaver “Officer Involved”: http://www.officerinvolvedproject.com/ -        EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ -        Start a Peer Support Program: https://www.policeone.com/health-fitness/articles/480389006-How-to-launch-a-successful-peer-support-program/ -        You Tell on Yourself: https://www.lawenforcementtoday.com/tell/ -        Blue Help: https://bluehelp.org/ -        Back the Blue Denton: https://www.backingthebluedenton.com/ -        Shawn Thomas First Responder Conferences: https://1stresponderconferences.org/ -        PCIS: http://www.lemitonline.org/programs/?mode=view&item=21 -        Cathy and Javier Contact Info: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cathyandjavi/ ; Twitter - https://twitter.com/PeerLlc ; Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cathyandjavi/ ; Email: cathyandjavi@gmail.com -        COPLINE: http://www.copline.org/ -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 45: Not Everyone Walks Out with PTSD

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 29, 2019 38:04


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, discusses the difficult topic of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or Post Traumatic Stress. She breaks down what qualifies a person to be diagnosed with PTSD and gives examples of warning signs to look for if a first responder has been affected by a critical incident and may be suffering from PTSD. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Criterion for Diagnosis: Criterion A – Direct/Indirect Exposure; Criterion B – Nightmares, flashbacks, distress after triggers; Criterion C – Thoughts, feelings, or external reminders; Criterion D – Inability to recall key features of the trauma, negative thoughts about oneself or the world, exaggerated blame, negative affect, decreased interest in activities, isolation; Criterion E – alterations and arousal in reactivity; Criterion F – last one month or more; Criterion G – a change in functional significance; Criterion H – exclusion criteria. -        Contributing Factors to Impeding Your Brain to Process Event: personalization of the event and their own trauma. -        “Typical” behavior after critical incident: don’t close eyes, show emotions, be quiet, and talk to others -        What to watch for: hopelessness, personalization and blame, magical thinking, blame on somebody else, increase in numbing activity, and isolation. -        What to do if you see this: tell them what you see different about behavior, and ask open-ended questions. -        EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ -        Code 9 Project Podcast: http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-17-bringing-ptsd-into-the-light -        Bringin’ on the Heat: https://www.code4couples.com/freebie -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 44: Trauma with Brittainy Wagner

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2019 25:05


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, interviews fellow therapist, Brittainy Wagner, about trauma and how that impacts us as individuals and as couples. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Tidemark Therapy in Denison, Texas - https://www.tidemarktherapy.com/ -        Trauma Aspects: Emotional, Physical, Neglect/Betrayal, Events (death, natural disasters, health-related) -        Three Way of Trauma Spillover: Angry Distance, Romantic, and Social -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 43: Real Struggle, Real Resilience: Asst. Chief John & Stephanie Oldham

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2019 48:14


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, sits down with fellow LEO couple Asst. Chief John and Stephanie Oldham to discuss how they navigated through the challenges that we tend to face being in a first responder relationship. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        IACP Conference: https://www.theiacpconference.org/attend/past-conferences/ -        Gottman Training: https://www.gottman.com/professionals/training/ -        The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work book: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 -        Gottman Cards App: https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/ -        Bringing Baby Home: https://www.gottman.com/professionals/training/bringing-baby-home/ -        John and Steph Oldham Contact Info: J_Oldham@comcast.net -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog  

    Episode 42: Wellness with Lisa Grenfell

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2019 38:04


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, chats with fellow law enforcement officer wife, Lisa Grenfell, about wellness and how it pertains to your personal life and your relationship with your first responder. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        WELCOA’s 7 Components of Wellness: Health, Resiliency, Meaning, Safety, Connection, Achievement, and Growth - https://www.welcoa.org/blog/definition-of-wellness/ -        Dr. Gilmartin - https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403 -        Vic Strecher books about Purpose - https://www.amazon.com/Life-Purpose-Matters-Changes-Everything/dp/0062409603 https://www.amazon.com/Purpose-Victor-J-Strecher/dp/1940594014/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1547062676&sr=1-2&keywords=vic+strecher -        Episode 34: Reconnecting - http://code4couples.libsyn.com/episode-34-reconnecting -        Lisa Grenfell Instagram: @lmgrennie -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 41: USTA

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2019 20:30


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, talks about the dangers of the USTA syndrome and how to help prevent this from happening in your relationship. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        USTA Syndrome – stuff we ‘used to” do -        Dr. Kevin Gilmartin - https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403 -        Cure for USTA – proactive mindset, get in control, find a hobby, and connect with others. -        Intimacy Ops Plan “Bringin’ on the Heat!” Freebie: https://www.code4couples.com/freebie -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 40: Making the Most of Holidays

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2018 12:39


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, created a fun and humorous list of why having a first responder spouse during the holidays can be quite enjoyable! -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        First Responder Holiday List: 1. Traditions 2. Night Shift 3. Package Stealers 4. Get Out of Going to Parties 5. Shopping -        Intimacy Ops Plan “Bringin’ on the Heat!” Freebie: https://www.code4couples.com/freebie -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 39: Bulletproof Marriage with Adam Davis

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2018 17:06


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, brings author, Adam Davis, back to talk about his newest devotional book Bulletproof Marriage, which he co-wrote with Lt. Col. Dave Grossman, to help LE couples avoid pitfalls. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        Bulletproof Marriage: https://www.amazon.com/Bulletproof-Marriage-Devotional-Adam-Davis/dp/1424557593/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1544632540&sr=8-1&keywords=bulletproof+marriage+adam+davis -        Lt. Col. Dave Grossman: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dave_Grossman_(author) -        Dr. John and Julie Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/ -        Adam Davis Contact and Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theofficialadamdavis/ Website: https://www.theadamdavis.com/ Instagram: @theofficialadamdavis -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

    Episode 38: Rockin' Quality Time

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2018 21:36


    -        Cyndi Doyle, law enforcement officer’s wife and licensed professional counselor, was asked by a fellow LEO wife to talk about the importance of knowing what quality time means to us in our relationships. -        Intro and Outro music by Big State “Bad Timing / Bad Luck” -        The 3 Conflicts of Quality Time: 1. After doing a time inventory – what is taking up your time? 2. What does quality time mean to you personally? 3. Hypervigilance. -        The 3 Solutions of Quality Time: 1. Talk with each other about quality time and see if there is a common interest. 2. Find the most optimum engaging time. 3. Schedule that time together. -        Intimacy Ops Plan “Bringin’ on the Heat!” Freebie: https://www.code4couples.com/freebie -        My website: www.code4couples.com -        Social Media: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/cyndidoylelpc/           Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/cyndi_doyle/?hl=en           LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cyndidoylelpc/           Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/cyndidoylelpc/pins/                         Twitter - https://twitter.com/cyndidlpc                         YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCo8lSBy00E7vJnmh096Svog

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