Podcasts about emotional survival

Ever walked into a room and thought, “Oh... it's just me then”? In this episode, I'm talking about what it's really like to be the only woman in the room. The awkwardness. The invisible load. The way we manage, rather than just show up as we are. I'm sharing how those old patterns sneak back in, and how we can notice them, challenge them, and show up fully as ourselves anyway!Here are the highlightsPerformance Pressure and Hypervisibility (1:34)Structural Issues and Cultural Norms (3:53)Emotional Survival and Leading Without Shrinking (6:49)Peer Support and Challenging Assumptions (10:07)Final Thoughts (12:38)Connect with Ruth:Instagram LinkedIn WebsiteThis podcast is proudly produced by The Podcast Boutique

When the emotional waves of divorce hit unexpectedly, leaving you wondering if you've somehow failed at healing, know this: you're experiencing grief in its most natural form. Grief during divorce isn't a linear journey with neat stages and timelines—it's an unpredictable rollercoaster that can send you soaring one day and plummeting the next. The profound disconnect between what you thought your life would be and what it has become creates the perfect conditions for grief to emerge. Yet unlike the grief that follows death, divorce grief often hides in plain sight, unacknowledged by both ourselves and society. You might hear that you have no right to feel sad if you initiated the divorce, or that you should feel only relief if your marriage was difficult. These judgments only compound the pain. What you're feeling is valid. Every time you feel like you've finally found solid ground, only to be blindsided by sadness while shopping at Target or driving to work, you're not moving backward in your healing—you're moving through it exactly as you need to. There's no "right way" to grieve the end of a marriage. Understanding the predictable triggers that launch you back onto this emotional rollercoaster gives you power. Knowing what situations commonly spark these feelings—and having practical tools ready to support yourself through them—transforms your experience from overwhelming to manageable. To help you navigate this challenging terrain with more confidence, I've created a free guide; What To Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce. This guide explains the science behind your experiences, identifies the five most common scenarios that set off emotional responses, and provides concrete tools to help you find your footing faster. Available as both a PDF and audio recording, it's my free gift to you. Download it today through the link in the below, and remember: your healing journey is uniquely yours, and you're doing it exactly right.To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep218

Send us a textEver find yourself saying things you don't mean… or going completely silent because it feels like nothing will help?You're not alone. When emotions run high, we don't default to communication, we default to survival.In this episode of Love Shack Live, we're pulling back the curtain on one of the most important (and overlooked) relationship skills: how to regulate your emotional state before you try to “fix” the conversation.You'll learn:The two emotional survival modes we all fall into, Control and Collapse, and how to recognize yoursWhy communication tips don't work when your nervous system is in overdriveWhat the “Window of Neutrality” is, and how to stay inside itThe real reason your conversations keep going sideways (it's not what you think)

What caregiving really asks of us—emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. What happens inside us when we're called to care for someone we love? Beneath the to-do lists and the sleepless nights lives an unspoken truth: caregiving changes us. It can strip us down, reshape our identity, and ask us to find meaning in all of it. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Barry J. Jacobs—a clinical psychologist, family therapist, and longtime caregiver himself. He's the author of The Emotional Survival Guide for Caregivers and the upcoming AARP Caregiver Answer Book. Barry brings decades of insight into what it really means to show up for others while trying to hold onto yourself. We talk about the emotional toll of caregiving, the guilt that lingers, and the loneliness that can come when no one sees what you're carrying. Barry shares real, practical ways to manage anxiety, protect your identity, and build resilience. We also explore what a truly supportive healthcare system could look like—and how caregivers can begin to advocate for themselves. This is an episode for anyone in the thick of it, anyone who's quietly unraveling and rebuilding, and anyone who just needs to hear: you're not alone.     Thank you to our sponsors! HeroGeneration empowers caregivers and families by providing innovative resources, education, and support to navigate the challenges of aging and caregiving with confidence and connection. It's free to start. Join now HERE. Share your caregiving story HERE!        Zinnia TV is a therapeutic dementia care platform that supports caregivers. creates engaging, dementia-friendly video content to reduce anxiety, spark memories, and provide meaningful moments of connection for individuals living with cognitive challenges and their caregivers. We invite you to use the code GATHER20 for 20% off an annual subscription HERE.     We are not medical professionals and are not providing any medical advice. If you have any medical questions, we recommend that you talk with a medical professional of your choice. willGather has taken care in selecting its speakers but the opinions of our speakers are theirs alone. Thank you for your continued interest in our podcasts. Please follow for updates, rate & review! For more information about our guest, podcast & sponsorship opportunities, visit www.willgatherpodcast.com

The power to feel emotionally safe, even when life feels uncertain, might be the greatest gift you can give yourself after divorce. But our brains make this challenging in ways you might not realize.  Have you ever wondered why leaving an unhappy marriage feels so terrifying, even when you know it's the right choice? The answer lies in how your brain processes certainty versus uncertainty. Your amygdala—the primitive part of your brain responsible for survival—doesn't distinguish between physical threats and emotional ones. When divorce disrupts your predictable patterns, your brain interprets this uncertainty as danger, triggering fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses that can leave you feeling constantly anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck.  What's fascinating is how we can mistake familiarity for safety. Even in disconnected or toxic relationships, the predictability creates a false sense of security. Your brain says: "I know what to expect here, therefore I'm safe"—even when you're deeply unfulfilled.  The transformative truth? Uncertainty itself isn't dangerous. We live with it constantly! The key is learning to create emotional safety for yourself without requiring external certainty. In this episode you'll learn the first steps to dismantle false safety mechanisms and build true emotional security. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep213

Jen and Catherine are back — and it's officially Women's Summit season! In this episode, they chat about the thrill of launch day, big-name speakers, and why they're so excited about this year's event. They also get candid about the upcoming Canadian election, what the polling says about the gender divide, and how they're each navigating the emotional rollercoaster of today's world (spoiler: quirky murder mysteries and rom-coms may be involved).

What's really going on inside the minds and hearts of today's teenagers?In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with Dr Cheryl Loh, one of Singapore's leading adolescent psychiatrists and a mother to two teens, to explore the inner emotional world of adolescence: a time of searching, shaping, and often silent struggle.We unpack what teens are truly longing for, not just connection, but a deep sense of belonging, identity, and emotional safety. Dr Cheryl shares why so many adolescents turn to the digital world to cope, why shame is such a potent and often misunderstood force during these years, and how adults can begin to show up in ways that don't just manage behaviour, but meet real emotional needs.What makes this conversation truly special is that it doesn't stop at insight. Dr Cheryl offers practical, actionable ways for parents, caregivers, and educators to reconnect, rebuild trust, and offer teens the safe, anchored presence they may not know how to ask for.00:00 Introduction01:28 Dr Cheryl Loh on Championing Adolescent Mental Health in Singapore04:24 Why Teen Mental Health Deserves More Attention10:13 Are Our Teens Simply Misunderstood?14:37 Parent Guilt, Anxious Parenting & the Pressure to Get It Right17:33 Teens vs the Internet: Navigating Influence, Shame & Identity22:37 How to Stay Present in Your Teen's Life — Without Pushing Them Away27:16 Seeing the Good: Shifting from Fixing to Connecting30:03 What Increases the Risk of Mental Health Struggles in Adolescents?34:36 The Role Educators & Schools Play in Teen Emotional Safety37:55 The Social Media Trap: Why Teens Seek Validation Online39:42 Showing Up for Your Teen & Playing the Long Game44:17 Netflix's Adolescence: When Emotional Needs Go Unmet46:45 Why Healthy Parent-Teen Relationships Matter More Than Ever48:53 Helping Teens Build an Inner Compass in a Noisy World50:52 The Power of Good-Enough Parenting52:57 What Gives Dr Cheryl Hope About This Generation54:40 The Billboard Question: “Say Hello to Your Kid Today”56:07 Episode ClosingFollow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/You can book an appointment with Dr. Cheryl Loh at Garden Grove Clinic. Find out more here: https://gardengroveclinic.sg/about-us/

Most women going through divorce don't realize they've been living in codependent relationships, desperately seeking external validation rather than trusting their inherent worth. In this transformative episode, I introduce you to a powerful reframing of codependence as "emotional outsourcing" as coined by Beatriz Victoria Albina - the habit of chronically seeking our sense of value from everyone and everything outside ourselves. This pattern didn't emerge from nowhere. From girlhood, we're conditioned to believe our purpose is making others comfortable, prioritizing everyone else's needs, and feeling guilty when we put ourselves first. The devastating message? You're not complete until you fulfill your "duties" as a woman. This harmful programming creates the belief that you're somehow broken or unworthy - especially when your marriage ends. Here's the liberating truth: We can replace emotional outsourcing with a deep, unshakable knowledge of our inherent worth. But contrary to what you might think, the goal isn't complete independence. True healing comes through interdependence - knowing your worth from within while maintaining meaningful connections where you give from abundance rather than obligation. Ready to stop believing you're broken? Your journey to wholeness begins with recognizing your worth isn't determined by anyone else. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep209

Anger is perhaps the most misunderstood emotion in a woman's divorce journey. While society readily accepts men's anger, women are often told to push it down, stay calm, or avoid this powerful emotion altogether. This harmful double standard creates an additional barrier to healing that we need to address head-on.  In this empowering episode, I break down exactly what anger is from a neurological perspective - a survival response originating in our amygdala, designed to protect us when we feel threatened. By understanding the distinction between anger-triggering thoughts, the physical sensations in your body, and your behavioral responses, you gain the clarity needed to process this emotion in healthy ways.  The heart of this episode offers seven practical, accessible techniques to process anger safely without damaging relationships or suppressing your emotions. From physical approaches like wall-pushing and "rage dancing" to more subtle practices like controlled breathing and self-holding that can be done anywhere, you'll discover methods that resonate with your unique needs. I share my personal favorites (including singing at the top of my lungs when no one's around!) and explain why finding your own go-to techniques is essential for long-term emotional resilience.  Most importantly, you'll learn that anger itself isn't the problem - it's a normal, natural human emotion that deserves space in your healing journey. The real issues arise when we react impulsively or push anger down, pretending it doesn't exist. By developing intentional ways to process this powerful emotion, you reclaim your right to feel everything without judgment, take back your power, and move closer to becoming yourself again.  If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep207

Send us a textIn this conversation, we speak with Deputy Commissioner Matt Walsh who shares his extensive background in law enforcement and discusses the importance of maintaining balance in the profession. He emphasizes the significance of connection, therapy, and mental health awareness among officers. Walsh recounts personal experiences with trauma and the journey towards forgiveness, highlighting the need for open discussions about mental health in law enforcement. The conversation also touches on humorous moments in the field, showcasing the lighter side of a challenging profession. Matt Walsh shares his insights on the law enforcement profession, emphasizing the importance of treating others with respect, the need for continuous learning, and the critical role of mental health support for officers. He discusses the alarming rates of suicide within the law enforcement community and the necessity for comprehensive wellness programs. Walsh also highlights the significance of faith in building resilience and coping with the challenges faced by officers throughout their careers. Takeaways:·  Connection is vital for mental and emotional well-being.·  Therapy should not be stigmatized in law enforcement.·  Anger can be harmful and is often self-destructive.·  Forgiveness is essential for personal growth.·  Sharing experiences can help others heal faster.·  Coping with trauma requires ongoing effort and support.·  Physical, spiritual, and mental fitness are crucial for officers.·  Continuous learning is essential for personal and professional growth.·  Faith plays a significant role in resilience and coping with job stress. Support the showCritical Aspects Website IG: @critical_aspectsIG: @pastorvernin: @Dr. Vernon Phillips

Tony Overbay, LMFT, delivers an emergency bonus episode addressing a heartfelt listener email. The episode discusses cognitive dissonance, gaslighting, emotional abuse, scapegoating, and trauma bonding often experienced in relationships with narcissists. Tony breaks down the listener's experiences, offering insight into their struggles, including emotional manipulations and prolonged emotional trauma. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing these abusive patterns, seeking help from therapists specializing in narcissistic abuse, and prioritizing self-care and self-compassion. The episode revisits key concepts like whole object relations, object constancy, and cognitive dissonance, encouraging listeners to strive for emotional intelligence and balanced relationships. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:21 Emergency Bonus Episode Announcement 01:14 Reading and Analyzing a Listener's Email 04:25 Understanding Gaslighting and Emotional Abuse 12:08 Cognitive Dissonance in Relationships 16:57 Whole Object Relations and Object Constancy 21:10 Understanding Cognitive Dissonance 21:59 Balancing Good and Bad in Relationships 23:11 Empowerment Through Clarity 24:36 Navigating Emotional Trauma 25:49 The Narcissist's Manipulative Tactics 28:20 Therapy and Emotional Manipulation 31:21 Breaking Free from Trauma Bonds 33:58 Self-Reflection and Sanity 39:03 Seeking Help and Moving Forward If you are interested in joining Tony's private Facebook group for women in narcissistic or emotionally immature relationships of any type, please reach out to him at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, https://www.tonyoverbay.com If you are a man interested in joining Tony's "Emotional Architects" group to learn how to better navigate your relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally immature partner or learn how to become more emotionally mature yourself, please reach out to Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, https://www.tonyoverbay.com

No Stone Unturned.This is a revisit Beyond Well. It's one of our earliest shows from 2019. Edan Armas is an award-winning Spoken Word Artist and Poet and graduate of Stanford University. Armas was the 2019 Baccalaureate student speaker, and an outspoken voice on the topic of student mental Health. Edan's undergraduate career focused on how emotion manifests in the body, mind and the collective consciousness. Edan encourages students to embrace both the tribulations and triumphs of the college experience, noting that the process of adulting is difficult—even painful, and how vulnerability became his superpower.

Send us a Text Message.When life threw curveballs at Dr. Yael Dubin, she not only caught them but tossed them back with transformative power. Her journey from psychiatrist to relationship coach is nothing short of extraordinary, and in our latest episode, she opens her heart to reveal the resilience that saw her through sexual assault, divorce, and the tough decision to leave her medical career behind. Yael's entry into the "Been There Got Out Club" and her 16-year hesitation to remarry underscores the courage it takes to rediscover trust and love, a narrative that is both inspiring and deeply educational.Navigating emotional storms requires a toolkit, and Yael introduces us to one of her favorites: the "window of tolerance." This concept is critical as it helps us understand our body's stress and trauma responses, and how we can better manage life's high-pressure situations, such as mediation during a divorce. Yael's personal anecdotes provide insight into the tactics of abusers and the relaxation techniques that counteract them. From drawing inspiration from the animal kingdom to the healing power of laughter and community, this episode is a treasure trove of strategies for staying afloat when the waves of life crash around us.Parenthood doesn't pause for court battles or legal disputes, and Yael emphasizes the importance of maintaining emotional presence for our children. By sharing strategies to help ourselves and our little ones find and stay within our individual windows of tolerance, she offers a lifeline for parenting under pressure. This episode is an affirmation of the strength found in solidarity and empathy, providing a message that you're not alone in your struggles. Whether you're facing your own Olympic level challenges or supporting someone who is, this heartfelt conversation with Dr. Yael Dubin promises to uplift, educate, and empower.

Embark on an insightful exploration of the tumultuous emotional landscapes portrayed in Netflix's "Beef" with me. I'll examine the emotional survival of the main characters, Danny and Amy, and uncover profound lessons in emotional resilience that you can apply to your own life. You learn how unchecked anger and impulsivity can mask the deep-seated pain and disconnection we face, especially during life's more trying situations like divorce. Their story serves as a mirror to our own, reflecting the critical need for emotional awareness to navigate the ebbs and flows of personal adversity.I'll discuss the pivotal role that staying present with our feelings provides to be able to engage our prefrontal cortex for thoughtful decision-making. By sharing this fictional transformation, I offer you insights and practical resources to support your journey toward emotional clarity. Whether you're rebuilding resilience or simply seeking a deeper understanding of emotional awareness, join me in this episode that promises to inspire and guide you along your path to healing and growth.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep149

This is a revisit Beyond Well. It's one of our earliest shows from 2019. Edan Armas is an award-winning Spoken Word Artist and Poet and graduate of Stanford University. Armas was the 2019 Baccalaureate student speaker, and an outspoken voice on the topic of student mental Health. Edan's undergraduate career focused on how emotion manifests in the body, mind and the collective consciousness. Edan encourages students to embrace both the tribulations and triumphs of the college experience, noting that the process of adulting is difficult—even painful, and how vulnerability became his superpower.

* Description provided by the Dolan Consulting Website, https://www.dolanconsultinggroup.com/instructor/kevin-gilmartin/DR. KEVIN GILMARTINAttorneyDr. Gilmartin is a behavioral scientist specializing in law enforcement related issues. He is a principal and co-founder of Gilmartin, Harris, and Associates, a behavioral sciences/management consulting company specializing in law enforcement/public safety consultation.Dr. Gilmartin previously spent twenty years working in law enforcement in Tucson, Arizona. During his tenure he supervised the Hostage Negotiations Team and the Behavioral Sciences Unit. He is a former recipient of the International Association of Chiefs of Police-Parade Magazine, National Police Officer Citation Award for contributions during hostage negotiations. He presently maintains a consulting relationship with public safety and law enforcement agencies nationally in the U.S. and in Canada. He is guest instructor at the FBI Academy's Law Enforcement Executive Development Institute (LEEDS and EDI). He is an adjunct instructor at Cornell University's New York State School of Industrial and Labor Relations, the University of Massachusetts Police Leadership Institute, Federal Law Enforcement Training Center in Glynco, Georgia, and Sam Houston State University's Law Enforcement Management Institute of Texas. He is retained as a consultant to several Federal agency national critical incident response teams. He is a charter member of the IACP-Psychological Services Section and former vice-president of the Society of Police and Criminal Psychology. The Department of Justice, FBI, and International Association of Chiefs of Police have published his work. He holds a doctoral degree in Clinical Psychology from the University of Arizona and is a licensed psychologist in the State of Arizona. He is a veteran of the U.S. Marine Corps and resides in Tucson, Arizona and Salem, Oregon.

First responders spend their careers working in and around their communities to protect the safety and welfare of citizens. They experience daily personal and professional exposure to traumatic incidents. Enter EMDR therapy and EMDR-certified therapists like Kate Pieper, MFT. She has spent most of her 30-year counseling career working with firefighters, EMTs, paramedics, and police officers. Learn more about how EMDR therapy helps this population, what kind of education, experience, and cultural relevancy a therapist must have before treatment, and how EMDR helps first responders with their post-traumatic stress injury (PTSI). Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement Officers: A Guide for Officers and Their Families by Kevin M. Gilmartin, Ph.D. EMDR Therapy with First Responders, Go With That Magazine, December 2018 EMDR for First Responders and Protective Services Personnel  EMDRIA Online Community Special Interest GroupFocal Point BlogEMDRIA Practice ResourcesEMDRIA Online EMDR Therapy Resources EMDRIA's Find an EMDR Therapist Directory lists more than 14,000 EMDR therapists.Follow @EMDRIA on Twitter. Connect with EMDRIA on Facebook or subscribe to our YouTube Channel.EMDRIA Online Membership Communities for EMDR TherapistsMusical soundtrack, Acoustic Motivation 11290, supplied royalty-free by Pixabay.Produced by Kim Howard, CAE.Learn more about EMDR therapy at www.emdria.org.

Dr. Friedemann, a physician with a Ph.D. in molecular biology, left his career in allopathic medicine to pursue his passion and purpose of helping people overcome fear and anxiety without medication. For more than twenty years, he has helped thousands of his clients worldwide to break through their mental and emotional blocks and become the empowered leaders of their lives. Dr. Friedemann is the author of the award-winning book, The Fear and Anxiety Solution. His newest book, The Empowerment Solution, focuses on activating the healing power of the subconscious mind to switch out of stress- and anxiety-driven survival mode and make authenticity and confidence the everyday way of being. For more details about his work, please visit www.DrFriedemann.com and his YouTube channel www.youtube.com/user/drfriedemannschaub Here he and Dawson share about: Dr. Friedemann's story Patterns that go into autopilot, shaping our whole lifestyle Ways to deal with anxiety Being victimized by our own emotions Invisibility mode Procrastination Your authentic self - Your essence Living your values Being part of the global shift in consciousness A connection with nature For more information about host Dr. Dawson Church: http://dawsongift.com/   #eft #eftuniverse #anxiety #mindtomatter #blissbrain #fear #mentalblocks #emotionalblocks

This is the third and final episode in our series about the mental health crisis affecting law enforcement officers and first responders. Guests for this series include LSU NCBRT/ACE subject matter experts Roy Bethge, Chief of Police for Cherry Valley, Illinois and Chair of the Education and Training Committee for the International Association of Chiefs of Police; Max Geron, Senior Director for Health and Public Safety at Meadows Mental Health Policy Institute and Courtney Tassin, a licensed professional counselor and Crisis Intervention Program Manager for the city of Aurora, Colorado. Today, they discuss ways to increase positive narratives surrounding policing, the importance of connecting with local communities, and the things that law enforcement agencies do well in areas of protecting responders' mental health. Below are some resources mentioned by our guests during this series: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement by Dr. Kevin Gilmartin InSideOut Coaching: How Sports Can Transform Lives by Joe Ehrmann Unleashing the Power of Unconditional Respect: Transforming Law Enforcement and Police Training by Jack L. Colwell and Charles Huth The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by Jonathan Haidt Suicide Prevention Resource Center (First Responders) Blue H.E.L.P. Honoring the Service of Law Enforcement Officers who Died by Suicide Bridging the Divide Podcast If you or someone you know is an officer or first responder seeking mental health support, you can text “BADGE” to 741-741. That's a free, confidential service through the All Clear Foundation's ResponderStrong initiative. Anyone facing a mental health crisis can always call 988.

This is the second episode in our series about the mental health crisis affecting many law enforcement officers and first responders today. Guests for this series include LSU NCBRT/ACE subject matter experts Roy Bethge, Chief of Police for Cherry Valley, Illinois and Chair of the Education and Training Committee for the International Association of Chiefs of Police; Max Geron, Senior Director for Health and Public Safety at Meadows Mental Health Policy Institute and Courtney Tassin, a licensed professional counselor and Crisis Intervention Program Manager for the city of Aurora, Colorado. Today, guests discuss the importance of creating a culture of trust and open conversation among officers when it comes to sharing mental health struggles. They also talk about ways in which mental health practices can be incorporated into more police academies. Below are some resources mentioned by our guests during this series: · The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. · Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement by Dr. Kevin Gilmartin · InSideOut Coaching: How Sports Can Transform Lives by Joe Ehrmann · Unleashing the Power of Unconditional Respect: Transforming Law Enforcement and Police Training by Jack L. Colwell and Charles Huth · The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by Jonathan Haidt · Suicide Prevention Resource Center (First Responders) · Blue H.E.L.P. Honoring the Service of Law Enforcement Officers who Died by Suicide · Bridging the Divide Podcast If you or someone you know is an officer or first responder seeking mental health support, you can text “BADGE” to 741-741. That's a free, confidential service through the All Clear Foundation's ResponderStrong initiative. Anyone facing a mental health crisis can always call 988.

Today, we begin a new series focusing on the mental health crisis affecting many law enforcement officers and first responders today. Guests for this series include LSU NCBRT/ACE subject matter experts Roy Bethge, Chief of Police for Cherry Valley, Illinois and Chair of the Education and Training Committee for the International Association of Chiefs of Police; Max Geron, Senior Director for Health and Public Safety at Meadows Mental Health Policy Institute and Courtney Tassin, a licensed professional counselor and Crisis Intervention Program Manager for the city of Aurora, Colorado. In this episode, they discuss the pressures facing law enforcement and responders today, including physical, cultural, and department-level stressors that may lead responders to a mental crisis. Below are some resources mentioned by our guests during this series: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement by Dr. Kevin Gilmartin InSideOut Coaching: How Sports Can Transform Lives by Joe Ehrmann Unleashing the Power of Unconditional Respect: Transforming Law Enforcement and Police Training by Jack L. Colwell and Charles Huth The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by Jonathan Haidt Suicide Prevention Resource Center (First Responders) Blue H.E.L.P. Honoring the Service of Law Enforcement Officers who Died by Suicide Bridging the Divide Podcast If you or someone you know is an officer or first responder seeking mental health support, you can text “BADGE” to 741-741. That's a free, confidential service through the All Clear Foundation's ResponderStrong initiative. Anyone facing a mental health crisis can always call 988.

Retired Captain Dan Willis from La Mesa Police Department in San Diego, California talks emotional survival with first responders. Captain Willis authored the book Bulletproof Spirit: The First Responders Essential Resource for Protecting and Healing Mind and Heart,” which is a required reading at the FBI National Academy. Captain talks youth leadership in the community, as well as leading during mass change.

It's time to uplevel your skill as a parent and be emotionally in control of yourself. I'm a dad of 3 boys and as a parent, I feel for other parents! Being a parent is a full-time job that involves a lot of emotions. So how do you emotionally survive as a parent? I have 2 steps to help you be a better parent who is in control of your emotions and who can actually have a positive influence in the lives of your children. You can watch the full video of this podcast and subscribe to our YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/t1ZMQ9DYewk Looking for more training to upgrade your mindset, become more productive, get your goals or improve your relationships? Unlock your 14-day free trial of Master Your Influence - a powerful monthly group coaching program where I train you live online for 2 hours twice each month to live the life you've always wanted and become who you're meant to be: https://3ke.to/influence

Guest host Brooke Taylor is joined by her guest Fr. Doug Brown to discuss the importance of support for men and women in uniform as well as their families. Brooke Taylor's guest Connor Gallagher, CEO of Tan books discusses the path to peace through the Catholic Church.   Resources mentioned: Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement:  https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403 Still Amidst the Storm: A Family Man's Search for Peace in an Anxious World https://tanbooks.com/products/books/discounts-sales/5-books/still-amidst-the-storm-a-family-mans-search-for-peace-in-an-anxious-world/  

A Guide for Officers and Their Families.

Being on law enforcement is not an easy path to take, not only for the officers themselves but also for their families. That is why it is equally important to talk about the emotional component of being in this field. Bringing this necessary conversation to light, host Timothy J. Hayes, Psy.D. invites over Kevin Gilmartin, Ph.D., a behavioral scientist specializing in law enforcement and public safety-related issues. With his book, Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement, Kevin talks to us about the unique challenges of the men and women in the criminal justice system. In particular, they tap into the psychological dynamics and biological components of mental health issues among police officers and what we can all do collectively to provide them the psychological resilience they need. Kevin further talks about pushing forward the importance of education on emotional survival to law enforcement departments.Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!Here's How »Join the On Your Mind Community today:journeysdream.orgTwitterInstagramFacebookYouTube

We want to invite you to join us for a 3-part live workshop series starting this month: "Tools For Emotional Survival"   In this workshop series, we'll be using an understanding of personality type to discuss key strategies to reduce stress, amp up self-care and supercharge your optimism.  Join us: https://personalityhacker.com/tools

Show Notes:Today we are continuing our series on detangling identity and we're focusing this episode on crafting control.The challenge with the kind of work you do, is that while it draws people who enjoy feeling in control – it is an unending stream of out-of-control mess. Whether it's the calls or the work-related risks or the organizational dynamics, there is SO much that happens that is not in our control. So, what do you think that means when we've enmeshed our sense of identity, our sense of self, with our work? US Marine Corps veteran and behavioural scientist, Dr. Kevin Gilmartin wrote the book “Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement” and summarizes this so well. He says, “If the job becomes your life, and you don't control your job, then you don't control your life.” Nailed it.I said during last week's episode that your work is a really important part of who you are. But the KEY is remembering and being intentional about keeping it a PART. A portion. Just a piece. Think of it like a pie chart. Work is a valuable piece of who you are – it says something about you that you do what you do. But if the piece of the pie chart your work occupies is the biggest slice of the pie, or outweighs the amalgamation of several other slices of the pie, then your balance is out of whack and you need to go back to last week's episode to take a look at how you rebalance. If your work piece of the pie is dictating too much about who you are, how you feel, and how you value yourself in your world or experience value in the world, then you are running some serious risks and Dr. Gilmartin is hitting it on the head. Our work is so often outside of our control. The job is literally responding to crisis. The defining nature of crisis is NOT in control. And while we're trained to enter into the chaos and intervene to help, the truth is that we can only ever do so much, and it is almost always REACTIVE which feels much less in control than preventative or responsive. On top of that, even within the organizational framework, we can often feel at risk of an adversarial or blatantly aggressive or hostile workplace dynamic that further undermines our sense of stability or control. Decisions that affect us are made without consultation and we are left to hold the repercussions.If this is what we are using to define us, no wonder so many are burning out, experiencing mental health concerns and struggling to continue. When I make my identity tied to something that is so unstable, it is internally de-stabilizing. As we internalize an identity that defines us based on an environment and experience that can be so tumultuous, we internalize the chaos and the helplessness and the lack of control. And these features start to increasingly take hold inside of us and dictate how we feel, how we think and how we engage in our lives. THIS is why it is so deeply risky to make work our life. Now, I'm going to say, AGAIN, that work is of course an important part of your life. Yes, you have to work to pay the bills. And yes, you are allowed to love your work, feel passionately about the work you do, and invest deeply into the work you care about. Just not exclusively, or mindlessly.I'm not asking you to not do your job. Really, what I want it the opposite of that – I want you, with all of the amazing skill, training and experience you've acquired, to be a kickass contributor to the work for a long, long time to come. Our communities need you. They need skilled, experienced people who ARE passionate about the work and committed to being in the thick of it. But we are losing really great people – veteran skilled staff – because the job got too big and swallowed them whole. What I want for you is to be mindful and intentional about keeping the job in its place – as a piece of the pie. And in so doing, I want you to craft something that is far more sustainable. Something that keeps you able to remain in the work for as long as you choose to be in it. Last week we talked about balance and distributing our interests and sense of self across multiple “pillars”. An important piece of this process is anchoring to building aspects of my life that I have control over. When we spend a significant proportion of our time in a workplace that really lacks control, we need to build a life outside of that that really enhances our connection to control, even in seemingly small ways. It is also really valuable to work at implementing pieces within your work day that give some amount of control back wherever you can find it. There are two specific aspects to crafting control that I want to encourage you to focus on.The first is refining your values and the second is drawing your boundaries. When it comes to refining your values, it's really a matter of taking the time to step back from the auto-pilot nature of life to really dig in and be intentional in thinking about what matters to you most. Life has a tendency to get us caught up in the moment-to-moment of the daily grind. We can get hung up in some of the survival mode that life calls us into. We're busy. Work life, home life, fixing the leak in my house or taking my car in for the weird noise it's been making, visiting that ailing family member, getting that call out of the blue that says my pet needs surgery or someone I care about is leaving their spouse… Life doesn't stop life-ing. The pace is high and we get caught in the current of it. It's not that we intentionally fall out of living into our values, it's that we lose track of time. But then, before you know it we have lived a life of reaction to whatever has come at us any given minute – feeling out of control and left with that funeral question but without the time left to cast a different kind of vote for how people will talk about and remember us. When we can make the time, prioritize the space, to get clear about our values – and to re-clarify them on a semi-regular basis – we are more likely to shape choices that allow us to live into our values even when life keeps life-ing. When you are working to refine your values, I want you to think about where in your life you have experienced a sense of control. Think back – as a child or teen, as a young adult all the way to this time in your life – when have you felt like your best self? What kinds of activities or interests brought this out in you? Where did you feel like you were owning life? What are your greatest skills? Where do you shine? Who are the people who bring out the best in you?Inventory the answers to these questions, along with that most central question – what would you hope that people would remember about you or say about you at your funeral? What characteristics about who you are and how you are in your life do you hope make the greatest impact on the world and those in your life? These are your values. These are the spheres of control for you. Identifying these, and taking time on a semi-regular basis to re-evaluate your values and how you are going about living into them, is the single most important thing you can do to help build a sense of control in your life. And in crafting an increased sense of control, we help protect ourselves from the impact of the areas in our lives where we experience reduced control. As you identify your values, try to get creative in thinking about how you can connect to these. It may not be the same and it may not be perfect, but aim for close approximations. For example, one of the areas in my life where I have experienced a high degree of control and feeling in my element has been while dancing. As a kid I was a highly competitive dancer and later taught highly competitive dancers to pay my way through university. As a child, I didn't feel good at much, but dance was easy for me. It felt natural. It felt like the only place I really belonged. And for much of my life it has been a central aspect of my coping. That said, my life is no longer conducive to being at a studio for 4 hours of classes 6 days a week, and I'm pretty sure my body would break in half if I tried to attempt the splits right now. Dance can't occupy the same space in my life as it used to, and while I wish it looked a certain way, even my wish isn't really an option right now. So, my version of close approximations looks like taking the parts of dance I cared about most and putting them into my daily life. I love the music – the heavy bass, strong beat, and having it on so loud you could feel it in your bones. So, when I exercise in the evenings once my kids are in bed, I do it to my favourite playlist with our good speaker system. I also loved the spontaneity of it. Making things up, moving for the sake of the movement – that “dance like no one is watching” kind of feeling I guess – so my kids and I crank some ridiculous song and bust out our most fantastic moves and just let go for a few minutes…and it's wonderful. Someday I might get back into a class, and when I do I know it will feel great, but until then, close approximations give me the chance to feel aspects of that best version of myself at least a little bit. I get to hold that feeling of being in control of SOMETHING. Being in control of my body, in control of the music I choose, in control of the mood I have as I choose to do something I love, in control of the choice to choose something for me. Yes it's temporary, but it also carries with me, and it's better than nothing.This brings us to boundaries. Boundaries are the other vital aspect of crafting control because they help us protect what we value and protect us from what lives outside of our values. But this is why it's important that we know and name our values first, because without that it's hard to protect something we can't identify. Now, we've talked about boundaries on the show before and I've shared about the idea of internal and external boundaries. If you have done the Beating the Breaking Point online program, you'll know that I also talk quite a bit about this same topic in more depth there. For today we're going to focus this same concept on the idea of crafting control. So, as a refresher – external boundaries are the ones we set with other people. These are the things we say out loud, like “no I won't be able to get to that email until I'm back on Monday, I don't check my work email outside of work time.” …Wouldn't that be crazy?! External boundaries clarify your values to others so they know what to reasonably expect of you. It sets everyone up for success because it is clear and allows people to be on the same page. On the flip side, internal boundaries are boundaries we have in our own heads. We may never say them out loud to anyone ever. They are the lines and limits we acknowledge within ourselves. Where how and when I spend my time and energy; my commitment to be in bed at a certain time each night because it allows me to be my best self the next day; my line of limiting screens; my choice to commit to connecting with a person or the people who bring out the best in me, and so on. The combination of internal and external boundaries should be working toward helping me focus in on what I can control, and those spaces where I feel like my best version of myself.  So, what about when we have to be in spaces that we can't control, or where it's hard to be a version of ourselves we feel good about. Well, that's going to happen. It's the reality of this life. But even in the things we can't control, we can find bits of control. I remember a time a number of years ago when my husband signed us up for a co-ed slow pitch team. I almost killed him. Let me clarify that while I have always been a fairly athletic person thanks to my intense dance background, I was never someone who participated in group sports outside of gym class. Dance was a heavy commitment and there was never time for anything else. So at this point in history I hadn't played baseball since junior high. I didn't even own a glove. So, feeling VERY not in control of this, I took control of the things I could. I went out and bought the pinkest pink glove I could find. Right or wrong, I figured it would shape people's perceptions of me walking on the field. I figured the girl with the hot pink glove likely wouldn't be taken too seriously. Open with low expectations. It totally worked too. I worked hard and practiced and improved…although I was never particularly good, I could do what needed doing. I controlled what I could. I controlled my actions in practicing and trying my best, I controlled shaping expectations placed on my right from the get-go, and I controlled my mindset – choosing to own that I'm not good at this but I value being someone who tries and who puts in the work even when it's hard. I don't value baseball, but I do value being seen as someone who is willing to risk and try things. While the activity was not something where I shone, some of my values really got to shine. My character, of being a good sport no matter what and trying hard, that did shine, and I was proud of that.When you think about your work, and the ways it invites you to over-identify with it. Try to work at detangling the job title from your identity, but allow yourself to connect to the characteristics about you that you love and value in you that your profession highlights or allows to shine. And as you do that, look for places in your life outside of the job where those characteristics can ALSO shine, so that you are building a life that includes your job but not exclusively your job as defining of you.Keep asking, who am I? Keep connecting with the question of how you want to be remembered. And keep working to craft a life that moves you in the direction toward that being a reality. Episode Challenge:Spend time reflecting on the questions outlined in this episode to determine your values, and then work to identify boundaries that would help protect these values. Choose one or two places to start implementing your values and boundaries to craft an increased sense of control.Reflect on where you're at and what you might need by using our free Beating the Breaking Point Indicators Checklist & Triage Guide. Additional Resources:Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement by Dr. Kevin Gilmartin, here.Use (and re-use!!) our free Beating the Breaking Point Indicators Checklist & Triage Guide. Check in with yourself around indicators for burnout and make sure you are being preventative or intervening when you need to in order to curb burnout's impact on your life, both on the job and off. Signing up for this free tool also gives you access to our regular emails with new podcast episodes and other special resources designed just for you on the front lines.Connect, Rate, Review, Subscribe & Share!Connect with me on Facebook and Instagram, or email me at support@thrive-life.ca. I love hearing from you! Subscribe and share this podcast with those you know. I appreciate every like, rating and review – every single one helps this podcast to be seen by other First Responders & Front Line Workers out there. Help me on my mission to help others just like you to not only survive, but to thrive – both on the job and off.

Show Notes:We are into our latest series on detangling identity and we're going to talk today about building balance. Here is the thing about balance: life balance is not a fixed point. Life, and people within life, are never fixed points. We are always changing and adapting. Life is always moving and flexing. Ebbing and flowing. Think of it a bit more like balancing on a stand up paddle board on ocean waves. You might find a balance at one moment when the waves are calmer and the water is more still, but then the wind picks up, the waves hit a bit harder and each moment is effort to find and re-find balance under the fluctuating conditions. The tricky thing about building balance in our lives is we won't ever be done with it. It isn't a one and done. We won't find this wonderful balance point and be able to just ride that out indefinitely. Life will come along and give us some waves, and we'll need to re-adjust and re-discover balance all over again. I know that likely sounds a bit daunting, and I'm not going to lie, it can be. But here's the good news – once you build balance that feels good to you, most of the adjustments will be tweaking. Like the stand up paddle board – it's starting that's the hard part. It is learning to find your centre and strengthening your body to remain centred in moving conditions that is difficult. Once you get used to it, get good at it, the adjustments are pretty small tweaks moment-to-moment to respond to fluctuations in the water conditions. As we look at detangling our identities from our profession, we need to focus on building balance so our identities are an amalgamation of who I see myself to be in various diverse parts of my life. Last week I suggested thinking about this like investment banking. When we build our identities in exclusive ways, like into our profession, or another common one is into our role as parents, and tie them to things that invariably come to an end or can be pulled out from under us, we put all of our eggs into one very janky basket. So then, if I'm off work, or I retire, or my kids leave home, my sense of self feels jeopardized because that basket just got yanked and my whole self is tanked without it. In investing they talk about diversifying your portfolio. Financially is isn't wise to take your hard earned money and put it all in one company's stocks. Because if that company takes a hit, you are along for that ride in a very deep way. The recommendation is to spread what you want to invest into a few areas so that if one takes a bit of a hit, it's likely counterbalanced by something else that's doing well, and over time you can better ride the ebbs and flows that are a natural part of the market, coming out ahead overall. The same theory is true for us as people. We need to conscientiously and intentionally diversify our personal portfolios. We need to invest our sense of self into differing areas so that if I'm off work for a stretch of time, the part of me that feels tied to that is supported by other things that also and equally meaningfully define me. So, where do we invest ourselves to be able to achieve a greater return on our investment? How do we do this whole diversified portfolio thing for our own personal balancing act?It starts by cultivating interests and prioritizing time to be versions of ourselves that feel good, affirming, meaningful, and so on. Dr. Kevin Gilmartin, who literally wrote the book on emotional survival for law enforcement and whose work extends into most first response and front line work experiences, talks about “I usta syndrome”. That before the job officers tend to have a lot of friends, hobbies, interests, activities, and so on. But then, as they pour into the job and start spending more time with work-mates doing work-related things, they invest more and more into their work lives and less and less into their personal life roles outside of t he work. So it becomes, “I usta fish, I usta go out with friends, I usta go camping” and so on. What did you usta do? What used to mean something to you? What used to feel fulfilling or interesting to you? What have you always been curious about trying but never done? What was your favourite thing to do as a child? What do your friends like to do that you could get into with them? What does your partner or your kids like to do that you would be up for participating in? I was reading an article written by psychologist Dr. Rachelle Zemlok (link below), and in it she shares this story:, “Joel Fay (Retired police officer, founding member of First Responder Support Network and lead clinician at West Coast Post Trauma Retreat) was quoted stating ‘As I stood there an image came to mind, that of a roof being supported by a single pillar. If that one pillar were removed the entire roof would collapse. But I had a lot of pillars in my life besides work. I had friends, family, volunteer work, sports, and many other interests. I could afford to lose this one pillar. At that moment I knew I was going to be OK.'”That's what we're trying to do here. We're trying to be intentional about building up other pillars to support the weight of life. Work is a pillar. It is an awesome pillar. We can get a lot out of our work and it does get to be a facet of our identities. But that's where we need to be conscientious – am I allowing it to be a facet or have I defaulted into making it the whole shebang?If we are identifying that we need some additional pillars and that we need to work at building in some more balance, there is going to be a temptation, and it's the tendency to go to extremes. As we recognize the risk we're at by making work the fullness of who we are, we are likely to try to swing to the other extreme and try to build 5 new pillars at the same time. That won't work, and here's why – people suck at sustaining extremes. So yes, you'll join a gym and you'll book a camping trip and you'll buy some fishing gear and you'll pick up knitting, and , and , and…and then you'll likely fall off of doing all of it because it's too much too fast. Start small, make it incremental, and recognize that building things…anything…doesn't happen overnight. Like we said at the start, balance is not a one and done fixed and move on kind of issue. If we pile on too much too quickly, it will feel like that huge wave that came out of nowhere and rocks us off balance and tosses us into the ocean. If we can do it a little at a time, it's like the smaller waves that our bodies can have a chance to be responsive to adapting to a little bit and a little bit. If you want to start working out more, don't sign up for a marathon – start by going for a walk on your lunch break a couple times a week. If you want to volunteer don't sign up to some kind of weekly commitment, but maybe agree to help out occasionally here and there. And don't commit to things in diverse areas all at the same time. Space it out, see how it feels to add in a thing then another thing and let yourself notice the balance before adding anything more. When you are considering what pieces to add in, focus on your values. Many of us commit to the work because we value helping and caring for people and making the world a better place. That's a cool value, but one that can also get draining if we're not careful. Get curious and creative about ways to lean into this value without depleting yourself. For example, my grandma knits mittens, toques and scarves for homeless people. She does it at her own pace while she watches the news and sips her coffee. It is a hobby she enjoys that she is able to turn into something that contributes toward a value and that she feels passionate about. If we value time with our families and friends, consider ways to structure activities that reflect this. Maybe it's a family bike ride or a regular family activity or game day where each family member gets to rotate choosing the activity we do or board game we play. Another way of thinking about this is to consider what you hope people say about you at your funeral. Do you really care if people say, he was a great firefighter, or she was an amazing social worker, or he was a solid nurse, or she was a phenomenal police officer? While it would be nice for our professional contributions to be noticed, it likely isn't the stuff we would care to hear the most. We're more likely interested in things like, “they were a great friend, really there whenever you needed them.” “they really cared about people, you could tell that they were really genuine.” “they were real, you felt like you could be yourself with them because you knew you could be real with them” These are the pieces that will help you know what you really value, and I would encourage you to lean into activities that then give space to highlight these aspects of who you are. If you want to be remembered as a good friend, what kinds of activities and ways of engaging would reflect this? How can you invest now and on an ongoing into having that be what people remember about you down the road? How do we contribute to shaping today what we hope our legacy will be in the future?Now, as I said at the outset, balance isn't fixed. It won't be static. It is an always shifting thing that we need to stay continuously engaged with or it will tend to get away from us. That means that we also need to be checking in on our balance on a regular basis. We need to be self-aware and we have to carve out time to intentionally pause, reflect, and adjust. For example, I may have found a pretty solid balance of things that help me feel pretty good. But then I get injured and I'm off work for a bit. Not only that, my injuries also mean I can't do my workouts which were another part of my balance strategy. Suddenly, I'm having to re-balance and potentially interject new pillars to support the weight left from those that have, at least temporarily, collapsed. I may have to turn to other pieces that were more background kinds of strategies and make them front and center to get through this time, or I may need to cultivate some new strategies to offset the weight. What I can't rely on is for life to magically rebalance itself for me. It won't. If I don't spend the time and energy to be engaged in the process, and work to make it balance, it will not just magically happen. My invitation is to be committed to being intentional, reflective and actively engaged. Balance exists, but not haphazardly. It is work. It is effort. But I swear it's worth it. And when we invest in this on an ongoing, we are investing in ourselves – it means that part of our identity is being someone who gives a shit about ourselves, allowing us to do a better job being present for those we care about. We invest in being a person who is a WHOLE person, not just a professional hat. And when life comes along and we are off work for a stretch, or can't return to the job, or we retire – we will reap the reward of having invested in a diversified portfolio. We will have a life we have built that we get to continue in. The loss of work will feel like a loss, but it won't feel like I'M lost. Episode Challenge:What needs to shift to build more balance in your life? What gets in the way? How can you work to build a life that will lead to the kind of things you hope will be said of you at your funeral?Reflect on where you're at and what you might need by using our free Beating the Breaking Point Indicators Checklist & Triage Guide. Additional Resources:In this episode I cite a couple of books and articles – check them out here:Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement by Dr. Kevin Gilmartin, here.4 Reasons First Responders Need to Expand Their Identity Beyond Their Jobs by Dr. Rachelle Zemlock, here.Trauma Stewardship by Laura van Dernoot Lipske, here.Use (and re-use!!) our free Beating the Breaking Point Indicators Checklist & Triage Guide. Check in with yourself around indicators for burnout and make sure you are being preventative or intervening when you need to in order to curb burnout's impact on your life, both on the job and off. Connect, Rate, Review, Subscribe & Share!Connect with me on Facebook and Instagram, or email me at support@thrive-life.ca. I love hearing from you! Subscribe and share this podcast with those you know. I appreciate every like, rating and review – every single one helps this podcast to be seen by other First Responders & Front Line Workers out there. Help me on my mission to help others just like you to not only survive, but to thrive – both on the job and off.

If you are looking for peer support, you may want to listen to this episode with Jeffery Denning. Jeff will discuss the importance of asking for help with a bit of humor to lighten up our mood. If you want to laugh a little but learn a lot, this podcast is for you!In this episode, you will learn:⦁ Police tips (3:40);⦁ Why is there an uptick of first responders' mental health problems during the holiday season (5:17);⦁ Why is it so hard for people in dark places to reach out (8:04);⦁ Do first responders aren't willing to admit that they need help (10:00);⦁ How do we know who a good person is to reach out to or an effective method (18:15);⦁ Happiness is derived from relationships (21:04);⦁ What is peer support counseling (27:21);⦁ Is there a correlation between first responders empathy and resilience (31:17);⦁ The science behind our well-being (37:31); and⦁ Additional tips to take care of ourselves physically and mentally (46:22) Who is Jeffrey Denning?Recently retired first responder, mental health advocate, military veteran, and author of several books, including Warrior SOS.Visit Jeffrey Denning's WebsiteBuy his books:Warrior SOS: Military Veterans' Stories of Faith, Emotional Survival and Living with PTSD Our True Identity: Discovering Our Divine DNA The Work of Death Leaders Wanted: The Power of Influence, Professional Behavior and Moral Leadership Together Forever: Important Life Lessons for Families and Future Generations 101 Police Tips: A Humorous Collection of Law Enforcement Advice to the Public110 More Police Tips: Funny Advice for Those Who Obey the Law ... and for Those Who Don't Host InformationYour host Jerry D. Lund can be reached at 801-376-7124 or email at enduringthebdage@gmail.com or voice message use the icon microphone at www.enduringthebadgepodcast.com. Please feel free to give my information to anyone that might be feeling down or anyone you would like to be on the podcast. Please subscribe to the podcast and leave a review wherever you listen to your podcast.  If you like the podcast please share it and join the online community at www.instagram.com/enduringthebadgepodcast.Reach out to Jeffrey now. Don't forget to listen to our other episodes!

My 8th gift of 8 in my holiday series: how to survive and what have you been able to do with the holidays? It's hard to know if you're doing any good, so instead we let things run around our head wondering. We wonder if it worked, wonder if it helped, wonder if we made anything better for ourself or others. So, here are a few things to look for, questions to ask to allow you to sleep at night.

My 7th gift of 8 in my holiday series: how to survive and what have you been able to do with the holidays? When all doesn't go perfectly, what can we do when things go off track. Realizing "off track" can look like anything and have many responses, but this should help a little.

My 6th gift of 8 in my holiday series: how to survive and what have you been able to do with the holidays? As someone who deals in hostage, crisis and courtrooms, talking with people experiencing anxiety is no joke. That's why I've included a simple technique to deal with those experiencing anxiety. It's easy and can take the pressure off. Please reach out and tell me how you're doing using these gifts. Would like to hear your success story.

My 5th gift of 8 in my holiday series: how to survive and what have you been able to do with the holidays? What are the general rules of thumb, little adjustments in the mind to create a more blessed and whole holiday.

My 4th gift of 8 in my holiday series: how to survive and what have you been able to do with the holidays? There is a little info at the beginning (about 2-min) and then you learn about the signs of trouble spots that you can respond to during the holidays.

My 3rd gift of 8 in my holiday series: how to survive and what have you been able to do with the holidays? This episode is the 1 question to ask that will set you up for the entire holiday season!!

My 2nd gift of 8 in my holiday series: how to survive and what have you been able to do with the holidays?

My 1st gift of 8 in my holiday series: how to survive and what have you been able to do with the holidays? This is a quick overview of all eight in the series.

In this episode, Narelle talks about ‘Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement'; a book she believes that every police officer and their respective families should read. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Narelle talks about ‘Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement'; a book she believes that every police officer and their respective families should read.

"The pain of being afraid of touching our pain is so much worse than actually getting our pain out and working through it" Bobbi Wynn is one of the kindest, wisest souls I've had the honor of learning from. She KNOWS the fear of touching those painful things and the power and peace that comes from walking through the other side. She teaches us how she learned to embrace and forgive her painful childhood, her children's trauma and her own pain and how she has learned the tools to not only allow her to begin to heal, but to hold space for others to embrace theirs as well. After listening to this episode I hope you feel like you got a much needed pep talk, a huge hug and permission to be real from a wise friend. Bobbi and I are joining forces on a new project to help even more women gain the tools to be well and I am so excited to tell you about it. Jump on our social media or email lists if you want to know more. You can follow her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/about.being.whole/ Learn from her beautiful blog https://www.aboutbeingwhole.com/ and engage with her on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/Bobbi_wynn Come join me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/shelley_integrative_herbalist/ or my private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/wellnessrestorationproject or my website www.shelleyswapp.com

The 1Less Podcast finally has its very first guest! Dr. Gilmartin, who is most known for his book, "Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement: A Guide for Officers and Their Families", agreed to join us in discussing the biological toll that the Law Enforcement profession takes on the body, and how to reverse this depressive process. This information is not tailored for just Law Enforcement, the tools provided in this episode can be used by anyone dealing with mental or physical health issues. Please take note that our podcast does not supplement getting professional help. SONG "ANOTHER DAY" WAS PROVIDED BY DANIEL RIVERA AKA DEPUTY BOOKEM, all rights are reserved and material is copyrighted. Check him out @ www.teambookem.wixsite.com

People often say they are okay when they are barely surviving emotionally. Emotional survival are situations that tighten your emotions - when you don't feel the way you'd rather feel in that same situation. You shouldn't merely survive, you should thrive emotionally.

Dr. Kevin Gilmartin is one of the preeminent police psychologists in the country. He is the author of the Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement, an absolute must read for any cop or LEO spouse. Dr. Gilmartin's one-day seminar sells out all over the world and he is one of the best presenters I've ever seen. […]

COVID-19 is an unprecedented event for the entire world. Dr. Mark Sylvester and Dr. Richard Schulman provide down to earth strategies to help people emotionally cope with uncertain times

Dr. Kathleen Mojas deep dives into why we feel the way we do during isolation and social distancing.  She shares concrete exercises to make you start feeling better, both physically and emotionally, immediately.  You can find more from Dr. Mojas through her podcast:  Dear Brain, Knock It Off!  Podcast link: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1FQtvdg8dCNq8FypHXK6ER. As always, please send us comments, questions, or ideas to Covidscream@gmail.com

This is an incredible look into the simple tools that can be used to help the very complex emotions we all can feel. David begins this live seminar converted into a podcast with a very intense live changing mission to rescue two teen age boys under the ice. The insights gained here are timeless and a must listen!

What do cops think about giving traffic tickets? Jason Hoschouer has had a career as a motorcycle cop for 13 years, being responsible for writing tickets and working as a collision reconstructionist. He shares insights into a police officers personal...

Dr. Diego Hernandez is a clinical psychologist and trauma expert who focuses on wellness, human performance and and health. He frequently works with Army Special Operations and their training cadre to address the trauma rehabilitation of elite warriors. He regularly treats veterans and first responders. Dr. Hernandez is also the Clinical Director of the Accelerated […]

Hello everyone and welcome back. In this episode talks about the importance of having a life outside of law enforcement. This doesn't mean retirement and moving on to something else. This means after you come home from work after a long day on the job, do you continue to engulf yourself in your job? Law enforcement can be very time consuming, but when you are not working you need to learn to disengage. Are you spending quality time in the areas of your life that might be lacking attention (family, spouse, friends etc?). There are great tips and suggestions that Patrick covers from a great PoliceOne article. Reference to the podcast: https://www.policeone.com/patrol-issues/articles/1666423-Do-you-have-a-life-outside-law-enforcement-really/ Check out the great book Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement by Dr. Kevin Gilmartin https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-survival-law-enforcement-officers/dp/0971725403/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1521843176&sr=8-1&keywords=emotional+survival+for+law+enforcement+dr.+kevin+gilmartin If you are facing roadblocks in your life or you need some great coaching from a great team check out Frame of Mind Coaching www.frameofmindcoaching.com Stay tuned for more great guests.   Patrick