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On the latest episode of the DMPL Podcast, Jenny from the Book Chat team joins us to talk about books with crazy plots and premises. As Jenny describes them, these books feature "a thriller sympathetic towards the murderer, a heist that focuses on student debt, and a remake of an old favorite children's book as an adult horror story." Show Notes Jenny's Picks Discussed on the Podcast My Sister, the Serial Killer, by Oyikan Braithwaite The Assistants, by Camille Perri Meddling Kids, by Edgar Cantero Other "MAD" Books, with Notes from Jenny Playing Nice, by J.P. Delaney: A couple finds out the son they’ve been raising for two years was switched at birth and have some terrible choices to make. But the couple raising their biological child is not what they seem. Part family drama, part courtroom adventure, part thriller. My Best Friend’s Exorcism, by Grady Hendrix: Abby has been best friends with Gretchen since she was the only girl who didn’t stand her up at her roller-rink birthday party. In absolute 80s style, best friend drama gets complicated when one of the girls may be possessed by a demon. The exorcist is a bodybuilder. This book is wonderfully weird. A Madness so Discreet, by Mindy McGinnis: A teenage girl is in an 1890s mental institution for being pregnant, fakes a lobotomy to escape with a Sherlock-Holmes-esque doctor to track down a serial killer. Suffragettes, corrupt politicians, positive portrayals of people with mental health problems, and just so much adventure. I straight up forgot about Zoom Game Night because I was too engrossed reading this! Other Links AViD Homepage Register for AViD: Tayari Jones Register for AViD: Hanif Abdurraqib Book Chat

Jenny Tomlinson | Romans 16:25-27 Now to him who is able to establish you in accordance with my gospel, the message I proclaim about Jesus Christ, in keeping with the revelation of the mystery hidden for long ages past, but now revealed and made known through the prophetic writings by the command of the eternal God, so that all the Gentiles might come to the obedience that comes from faith – to the only wise God be glory for ever through Jesus Christ! Amen.It's only obvious when you've seen it: until then, it's a mystery. As Jenny explains, the coming of Jesus revealed God to the world in a way that had never happened before, but we still have to respond in each generation. In her role as Archdeacon of Birmingham Jenny has supported Christ Church unstintingly as we have searched for a new vicar, and we were delighted to welcome her to speak and lead a celebration of Holy Communion. The recording is an edited version of our Sunday service, introduced by Bobbie Frere with a reading from Susan Mole and prayers from Phil Ennis.The full video version of the service, including music and Communion, can be viewed on YouTube.

In this episode Jenny shares some exciting news! She walks you through the spark that led her to start her own business and she explains how she began living out her dream. As Jenny dives into her own business venture with “Karma Fitness” she shares her goal for the Living on Purpose podcast: to create a support system for those who have also decided to follow their entrepreneurial dreams. If you’re excited to learn more about Jenny’s experience as the business owner of “Karma Fitness”, stay tuned to continue following her journey!   In this episode, you’ll learn: The spark that led to her DREAM Her goal to transform this podcast All about her NEW studio, KARMA FITNESS And so much more!     --- Connect with Jenny! Instagram | Website

Suicide is a sensitive, stigmatized topic. Hence, we avoid discussing it. This could lead to misconceptions and unhealthy judgments around it. On this episode, Jenny Teo shares vulnerably about losing her son Josh to suicide; the factors at play, the trauma she went through, and her tough journey of recovery. We also discuss suicide and mental health in society, and what we must do to become more inclusive and emphatic towards those in pain. This was by far the most difficult podcast I hosted. I cannot imagine the pain that Jenny and Josh had to go through. Yet, I am comforted by the fact that she found the strength to turn her pain into purpose. As Jenny shares: “I do not want Josh's death to be in vain. Everytime I speak, I can feel his presence. I am his mouthpiece”. We hope that by recording this, more people can ask ‘Why the Pain?', instead of asking ‘Why Suicide?' Do support Jenny's advocacy and education work below: She runs Stigma 2 Strength Singapore. In Memory of Josh Isaac. It's an initiative that aims to apply a more unconventional approach in addressing the topic of suicide and all other stigmas, from the perspective of one with "lived experience" ie evidence-based merged with research-based narratives https://www.facebook.com/S2SJJ Jenny is also part of PleaseStay. Movement. It's a movement started by a group of mothers who lost their children to suicide. In the midst of their grief and pain, they found the strength to come together to advocate for suicide prevention and more support for children at risk of self-harm. https://www.facebook.com/PleaseStayMovementSingapore If you need someone to talk to, here are some numbers you can call: IMH Mental Health Helpline: 6389 2222. Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019. Samaritans of Singapore (available 24/7): 1800 221 4444

In this episode, Roger talks with Jenny Mero. Jenny is a very successful voice developer and most well known for her Freeze Dance voice experience. Jenny is both an Alexa Champion and a Bixby Premier Developer.Jenny discusses her career in journalism including putting "life and limb" in danger to get an exclusive interview with Hugo Chavez, the former Venezuelan President.Jenny tells the story of her transition from Journalism into voice and how a background in journalism has helped her make compelling voice experiences.We discuss Jenny's hit voice experience, Freeze Dance. What inspired it, how it grew and how she continually improves and adds on to it to keep the experience fun and compelling.Freeze Dance is not just fun but also educational in a fun way. Jenny discusses her passion for EdTech and how inspirational it is to see kids playing and learning at the same time. As Jenny says, it's "kinda like sneaking veggies into their meals"We discuss diversity in voice, the state of it today and how Jenny works to bring diverse experiences to voice experiences.Jenny shares advice for aspiring voice developers. How to get started (just do it!) and how to think about building and designing a voice experience.Jenny reveals the secret behind her company's name, Appy Sloth!We wrap things up by talking about the current state of voice, where it can and should go and the bright future ahead!Links from the ShowAppy Sloth - https://www.appysloth.com/Keeping in TouchJenny- Twitter - @jennymeroJenny - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymero/Guest: Jenny MeroAccomplished Voice Developer, Jenny Mero shares her voice experience journeyHost: Roger Kibbe(@rogerkibbe) is a senior developer evangelist for Viv Labs/SamsungEpisodesAll Bixby Developers Chat Episodes available on your favorite podcast player and at:bixbydev.buzzsprout.comMore about BixbySamsung Bixby is a next-generation, AI platform that enables developers to build rich voice and conversational AI experiences for the Bixby Marketplace, and Bixby devices including phones, watches, televisions, smart appliances, and more.Bixby Developers Homepage - https://bixbydevelopers.com/Bixby Developers Github - https://github.com/bixbydevelopersBixby Developers YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/c/bixbydevelopersBixby Developers Twitter - twitter.com/BixbyDevelopersBixby Developers Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/BixbyDevelopers/Bixby Developer News/Blogs - https://bixby.developer.samsung.com/Support the show (https://www.bixbydevelopers.com)

Jenny Saunders, https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenny-saunders/ (President of FC Bank), is our guest. Jenny gives us detail on her background, and how she became the president of FC Bank. Not only does FC Bank have a https://fcbank.bank/Who-We-Are/Locations/locations/grandview-office (great new location) to be proud of, but Jenny is a big part of the Tri-Village Chamber Partnership's Be Your Best Self initiative. She will be be a part of a panel discussion in February 2020 with https://www.facebook.com/aparentlyltd/?ref=py_c (Marti Post). As Jenny states about this initiative... These last six or seven months has challenged all of us as we try to be the best versions of ourselves as we navigate all of these challenges that we've had. So I think the initiative is timely. I think it's relevant.  Thank you for downloading, listening and subscribing to Business Inspires, a TriVillage Chamber Partnership podcast, presented by The Village of Marble Cliff. With more than 60 years as an integral part of the Grandview, Upper Arlington and Marble Cliff communities, the TriVillage Chamber Partnership is dedicated to a singular purpose - the success of the business community. To schedule a guest appearance, or find out more about sponsoring Business Inspires, send an email to david@chamberpartnership.org Please take a moment to rate and review our podcast in Apple Podcasts. That helps us spread the word about Business Inspires! Here's how - http://pleasereviewmypodcast.com/businessinspires (http://pleasereviewmypodcast.com/businessinspires) http://chamberpartnership.org/ (http://chamberpartnership.org/)

Jenny McCarthy is one of Ireland's leading wedding photographers, having worked in the industry since 2003 when she was asked to photograph her sister in law's wedding. As Jenny says herself "she will never forget the feeling she was left with after showing them their wedding photographs for the first time"... Fast forward to 2020 and over 2,000 weddings later, Jenny is the go-to photographer for weddings, baby and family portraits across Ireland. Most recently, Jenny has launched a bespoke wedding candle, so that brides can choose their own signature scent for the morning of their wedding day. Married to one of Ireland's best-loved TV presenters, Martin King, and mum to Dean, Victoria, James, Matthew and Alex, I am delighted to introduce Jenny McCarthy to Shut the Front Door...Shut The Front Door is produced by @venturamarketing.ie | www.venturaMarketing.ie.Email the podcast: shutthefrontdoor@ventura.ie

If we want to have a productive and honest conversation about what it’s going to take to end human trafficking, we’ve got to start thinking about what to do on the front end. How do we keep people from falling into the trap of human trafficking in the first place? One of the biggest factors in that prevention means providing jobs, education, and sustainable economic opportunities. This is how we end human trafficking. My guest today started a social enterprise that is caring for women escaping human trafficking and exploitation in East Asia. Jenny McGee is the founder and director of Starfish Project. Jenny started her work by visiting brothels every week and building relationships with the women and girls who worked there. She found that many of them had either been tricked into working in these places, or they came from incredibly desperate circumstances. Most had very little education, and many could not read and write. Jenny started Starfish project to provide alternative employment and educational opportunities for these women and girls. Starfish project started with five women working around a kitchen table and has grown to employ over 150 women! Today, Starfish Project has two women’s’ and children’s’ shelters and reaches thousands of women every year through their outreach programs. One hundred percent of their profits are reinvested in their social mission to restore hope to exploited women and girls. Without further ado, join me for this great conversation with Jenny. 4:03 - The Jenny 101 Eighteen years ago, Jenny moved to Asia after studying abroad there and falling in love with East Asia, specifically.  She started learning the language and building a life there with her husband and three children. She started to notice a lot of young women working on the streets and brothels. One of Jenny’s friends wanted to start reaching out to the women and girls and reached out to Jenny for help translating. As Jenny started to get to know the women and girls better, she was surprised that many were coming in from poor villages in the countryside and looking for work in the city. A lot of them were sending money back to their village for their brothers to be able to go to school. Most were there for economic reasons and didn’t want to be there doing that kind of work. Building those connections and relationships was the foundation for Starfish Project. It allowed Jenny to begin to find educational and safe employment opportunities for the women. They started with just five women working around a kitchen table and it grew from there. Starfish Project is a social enterprise jewelry company that cares for women who are escaping human trafficking and gives them opportunities to experience freedom, establish independence, and develop careers. There are teams that go into the brothels each week to visit the women working in the shops there. 7:40 – Experience Freedom, Establish Independence, and Develop Careers. Starfish Project builds relationships in person and even through social media apps. They offer the option of a way out through employment and women and children’s shelters. They also provide benefits, retirement, and career development. They try to employ women coming out of human trafficking and exploitation throughout all levels of the company from graphic designers, artisans, photographers, accountants, and more. If the women want to continue working at Starfish Project they can, but they can also take the skills they’ve developed to new opportunities in self-employment or jobs with other companies. Working at Starfish also gives women a chance to be a part of a team and build community. Those first coming into the program can see the potential for their future in women who’ve worked there a little longer and developed their skills. Starfish Project is one of the few organizations in the area that has very few women going back to work in the brothels. Part of that is that because newer women in program, even if they’re just starting with very simple skills, can see someone with their same background who’s made it as a photographer, accountant, graphic designer, etc. 13:48 - Indiana to East Asia Jenny initially came to East Asia as a part of a semester abroad program with Bethel College in Indiana. She fell in love with East Asia (a very different city than it is today). She’s not exactly sure what it is that made her love it so much, and she truly feels that being there was a calling on her heart. Jenny and her family live in a migrant village so that they can share life with the people they felt were their community. Jenny’s kids go to an international school with kids from all over the world as well. They experience life in a mix of cultures. 19:03 -Adapting and Innovating During a Global Pandemic Since they’re in Asia, Starfish Project dealt with Covid-19 early on and in a sense, are now in round two of the pandemic. The women in the program went home during the Spring festival time (imagine it being like going home at Christmas time). They were spread out all over the country and when it was time to return, it was hard for many of them to travel back to the city. Starfish Project also had to turn away orders because they couldn’t get raw materials for a while and couldn’t fill orders for about two months. As soon as they started to see the light at the end of the tunnel, Covid-19 hit the United States hard. Now they are seeing the sales side more impacted. Day to day life in East Asia during Covid-10 started with a lot of strict regulations. Jenny had to do a full 14-day quarantine, complete with a sign placed on her door stating the household could not go outside for 14 days. All the neighborhoods are blocked off and getting into your own neighborhood requires a card. That affects Starfish Project’s outreach, as they can’t go into other neighborhoods where women are working in the brothels. There are even small brothels in Jenny’s neighborhood, so they’ve been trying to deliver care packages to the women there. Some of the women locked themselves in with bike locks to try and stay safe. Their bosses cut off their electricity and heat to save money. Unfortunately, even brothels being shutdown leaves women vulnerable because they have no income and it’s harder to communicate with the outside world and places like Starfish Project that can them begin to find a way out. 25:26 Faith and Hope in Uncertain Times and Through to the Future Jenny’s faith and the faith of her team has brought togetherness and hope. It’s really opened everyone’s eyes to how little control they have over things.  Spending time studying God’s Word and focusing on things that bring hope has helped Jenny and the teams during this difficult season. As Starfish Project looks toward both the immediate future and further down the road, they’ve focused on growing their business and sales to be able to help more people. They want to grow the business side to create as many job opportunities and escapes from the brothels as possible. To accomplish that growth, they’re looking at business partnerships that will get products in front of more people and take the business side as far as it can go. 28:22 - Getting to Know Our Guest Find out what Jenny has learned about herself during Covid-19, what her hype song would be, what she thinks people will be nostalgic for in forty years, and of course, what it means to Jenny to run a business with purpose. Memorable Quotes 10:10 - It’s always hard to see people you’ve poured into move on, but I think it’s also about opening space and opening doors for other women then to learn new skills as well. 13:11 – I think from day one, even if they start on a production line doing very simple tasks in the beginning, they can see the potential for their future. I think that also does a lot to bring them hope as well. About Jenny McGee: Jenny McGee is the Founder and Director of Starfish Project, a social enterprise that cares for women escaping human trafficking and exploitation in East Asia. Jenny started her work by visiting brothels every week and building relationships with the women and girls who worked there.  She found that many of them had either been tricked into working in these places or they came from incredibly desperate circumstances. Most had very little education and many could not read and write. So Jenny began Starfish Project to provide alternative employment and educational opportunities for these women and girls. Starfish Project began with five women working around a kitchen table and has grown to employ over 150 women since its beginnings. Today Starfish Project has two women and children's shelters and reaches thousands of women every year through their outreach programs. 100% of their profits are reinvested into their social mission to restore hope to exploited women and girls. Jenny moved to East Asia over 18 years ago and continues to live there today with her husband and three children. Connect with Starfish Project: https://starfishproject.com/ https://www.facebook.com/StarfishProjAsia/ https://www.instagram.com/starfish_project/ https://twitter.com/starfishproj https://www.pinterest.com/starfishproject https://www.linkedin.com/company/starfish-project https://www.youtube.com/user/starfishprojectinc

I’m really happy to have Jenny Slate back again. She’s smart, funny, and charming, and she’s refreshingly honest about her struggles as an artist and human being. Every time I find myself in conversation with her, I feel inspired and joyful. She’s just released a Netflix special called Stage Fright, which is part standup, part documentary, part confessional, and wholly original. And she’s also released a new memoir called Little Weirds, which is probably the most esoteric and private book to ever land on The New York Times bestseller list. Bottom line, Jenny is an unapologetically human artist, and she is at the height of her powers. Jenny had to do some soul-searching over the past few years. Divorce, the public spotlight, and emotional turmoil were inhibiting her creativity, and as she depicts in her memoir, she had to work through some of that “gloop.” Writing Little Weirds led to a maturity and self-assuredness that helped her reach not only new creative heights, but also to find peace and happiness within herself. She inhabits an interesting space between creating entertainment and soul-searching. As Jenny says, “I don’t think that there will be a world in which I don’t try to be funny and add levity to reality, but the most important thing for me as an artist and the only constant is, ‘Openness until death.’ Stay open until you’re terminal.” Jenny joins Off Camera to talk about losing her creative spirit in the woods of New England, freaking out after she bombed the Stage Fright rehearsal, and the psychological and creative benefits of dressing monochromatically for a couple weeks. HOME

Today's text, like so much of the Gospel according to Mark, is layered. It appears the teaching of Jesus has a surface level understanding, and also countless layers of understanding below the surface.   As Jenny invites you to do, hear the text not just for information, but for formation. May you be informed, as well as transformed, by today's reading.   Follow along here. 

Miscarriage is all too common and it is difficult to talk about. If care is given, it is usually directed towards a grieving mother. Yet, what about the father? When men are overlooked in the grieving process, what is the cost? How can you give meaningful support to both parents? In part two of the series on miscarriage and infant loss, Matt and Jenny Kistler share their story.   Definitely it's more like as it should be a lot of focus on my wife and my emotions going through those things but I definitely believe that there's not as much attention that's given to the husband and the experience. So you're kind of sitting there like your friends don't know how to relate. Kind of like that once hit everybody. Human nature pretty wants to get back to normal as much as possible. So it's kind of a weird experience   INTRO   Matt and Jenny have four beautiful, vibrant children.  On the 2018 Chirstmas card, the sun is shining and everyone is smiling…they are all really photogenic in coordinating outfits. Three girls and a boy. What the picture doesn’t show is the painful journey of miscarriage, infant loss, and interventional surgery that led up to that Kodak moment.    Today is the second in our two part series on miscarriage and infant loss.  In this episode, I am particularly glad to feature the voice of Matt alongside his wife, Jenny.  As a society, we don’t talk about miscarriage and infant loss very often…and when we do, the conversation is usually focused on the mother, the very real pain and loss that happens in her body and in her emotional world. Yet, miscarriage and infant loss can also have a profound effect on the father, as Matt speaks to in today’s episode.    Matt and Jenny are at a busy stage of life, they have four children under the age of nine:  Anna, Molly, Kate, and Hudson.  In the summer, you can find Jenny and her crew at the neighborhood pool.  Matt and Jenny are high school sweethearts, they were married at the age of 20.    – Jenny Kistler We were wee babies   - Matt Kistler We could not legally drink alcohol. No not even at our wedding, it was a dry wedding.    After a few years of marriage, they decided it was time to have children. Jenny conceived, they were delighted, told everyone, only to miscarry a few days later.    - Jenny Kistler Basically, we got the positive pregnancy tests and a week later it was already over and in our, we were pretty naive you know we were super excited and already lots of people right when we found out. So yeah that was where the scary journey began right at the beginning with our first baby.   Jenny was working at the time and people were super supportive, they sent cards and told her to take as much time as she needed.  Matt also remembers a lot of support.  They let some time pass, tried again, and Jenny gave birth to Anna.  But then there was another, early miscarriage, followed by a pregnancy.  This pregnancy would result in a second, healthy baby, but the previous losses caused uncertainty, and anxiety.   - Matt Kistler I think there's a piece you it's like, well let's get this nine months over with, you know, you try not to let your anxiety build up around when was last time you felt the baby OK OK. Are you sure go have some orange juice. You know it's like all that kind of stuff you go through so I think for me it's just a matter of like you kind of let that stuff go. But it definitely played in the back.   MUSICAL TRANSITION   - Jenny Kistler Anxiety at first, No not a daily thing. As time went on and it was taking longer and longer. And the first time we got right it didn't take long. And so then the anxiety really set in probably the last three or four months. And I actually almost came to a point where I I realized I needed to think about what if something is wrong. We can't conceive naturally can be ok with that. You know can I have peace with that. And for me, I was actually a big step because anxiety cause I tend to be an anxious person admittedly and that can cause a lot of stress in my body even. And I'm sure that was influencing the situation as that anxiety mounted.   Yet, those anxieties were unfounded as Jenny gave birth to a second healthy baby girl.  However, It was difficult for Matt to identify fully with what Jenny was experiencing in these cycles of loss and pregnancy.   - Matt Kistler I was on my end with the earlier miscarriages as a husband. The only thing that changed was your wife showed you a pregnancy test that said pregnant you know it's nothing you didn't see a baby bump you didn't, Jen gotten sick in the morning. You know all the kind of telltale signs of a pregnancy. So it's kind of a weird journey of the husband and the earlier miscarriages because for you it's like I guess you're pregnant. I mean. Yeah. Let's try this out.   MUSICAL TRANSITION   - Jenny Kistler And then once you've gone through a miscarriage, you are more, your ears are hurt and you hear about it a lot more and you realize how many women are experiencing this and that it's common and no less sad for being common but it is common.   For being common, Matt and Jenny emphasize that not all miscarriages are the same.  They have lived through four miscarriages, these first two were relatively early on and were dramatically different from their third loss, a stillbirth that happened not in those early weeks but in Jenny’s second trimester.    - Jenny Kistler But there are so and this is this is something I'll mention is that miscarriage as a term is very broad because a miscarriage really early like we had experienced is different in a different situation than having seen a viable baby and then having that baby maybe die in utero in the next ultrasound be gone or like in our situation. What happened was a prematurely dilating cervix. So we had our baby was alive until the point where she wasn't. And I basically I delivered her into my hands.   MUSICAL TRANSITION - Matt Kistler I still a don't know how to unpack it. I just don't it just I don't know how you process it. For me I was at work. She called me at work and said hey my water broke here in Chicago where we live in a time and today maybe the hospital and my co-worker was their CFO in that we were talking we had a business meeting. She said I'll drive you to hospital. So she drove me and I pulled in a matter and she goes the restroom and I can hear her cry out from the restroom and that's when I walked in the shoes and they're holding the baby and I think that's the piece I did to Jenny's point like I could like home miscarriages.   - Matt Kistler  So I felt like we held the baby that's in a public restroom. It was like when I was like just the trauma from it was was really crazy and lasting and so was one of those things that's it's really hard. You can't explain that to someone or something or you know that's why   - Jenny Kistler it's not really you know you wouldn't really clarify that in normal conversation. Oh we miscarry wouldn't it. This is what really happened.   - Liesel Mertes You know there's a moment a reference to the trauma. There's like all the moments that come out like what we do with this child who I go to if this is just the outplay it's not just a discrete oh and afterwards   - Jenny Kistler but you're correct that afterwards a whole nother thing you know because. So that our little girl is in my hands you know the placenta and the rest of the pregnancy was all still in my body. And so even though I didn't have to be into labor to get her out they did have to do things.   - Jenny Kistler And now it's more difficult than just the shock of being pregnant two hours ago. I mean when from the time I held her it was only like 40 and 40 minutes ago I had been healthy pregnant and then   - Matt Kistler I mean it was one of those things that they came in doing what it's called funeral.   Jenny Kistler Yeah. We couldn't take her with us.   - Matt Kistler It's hard for you to find a funeral medic call the funeral home get the reins and it's all those same thoughts. That's that's the piece of the you kind of hit on this second trimester. It's still a miscarriage but it's one of those it's like when you have to go to a funeral home to pick up your daughter I mean it's just it's just kind of a norm. It's that kind of stuff that doesn't leave you   - Liesel Mertes and that the logistics of death you never picture yourself having to make that call to drive yourself emotionally compromised by slamming guys like these strange, surreal steps of strangeness to all of that.   - Matt Kistler I think there's a stranger sent around like that was your child but they would have been three you know now it would have been a person with personality no different than the child we have today. And there's a lot of redemption in our story as well. God has been more than faithful to us in the journey.   - Liesel Mertes Matt you mentioned that you're at work and you see about drag you to the hospital. What was it like to to re-enter the workplace when this pain, man like you gone and what happened you find that there was a strangeness to fielding those questions that you wanted to share? Do you want to. What did that look like for you?   - Matt Kistler You know I would say that my CEO at the time I'm getting the rundown and this is where exactly you would take as much time as you will. We'll pick up all the slack we'll handle whatever it is. Don't concern yourself with with what's going on at the office. Well we'll take care of it. So he was very generous.   - Matt Kistler He was very generous to do that and I really did feel like he downplays it so I was probably out for two weeks 10 days, sort of stir-stepped  my way back in. But I remember it times as much.   - Liesel Mertes But how did he know that you were ready to go back?   - Matt Kistler That's a great question. Honestly I think it's for me just this sense of like getting back to something normal for me in as generous as it is too important to say that. And then we use you would hope. You can't leave your job and they just backfill with people they mean you. You want to be know someone who contributes to the team and you're needed. So we want to get back at it. I've been in sales my entire career so it's pretty easy to know if you're doing well or not so well and if you take a month to five six off to go through whatever it's tough to build that pipeline back up and have those conversations people understand.   - Matt Kistler  But and so I think that piece was was in the back of my mind again like my personality is trying to focus on the positive. And you know it's like your life sucks. That was kind of a thing. But we've got all this stuff and I'm going to focus my attention on the positive. And I'm going to just plug away in that's not I don't mean that I'm like that.   MUSICAL TRANSITION   - Matt Kistler Yeah. I think I think a lot of guys if not all guys have the ability to compartmentalize a lot of things. So I think it's easy to kind of put that over in the car. I've got to do this today. This is what I do feed the family and so we focus on that. It's kind of I think how I went about it doesn't mean it isn't crushing my time but it's you know I'm able to put that had up and I'm working at right after a little bit and then come home and kind of engaged again and see what they held and those conversations in and that worked through. Again it's it's a lot of how I'm wired is to do that. And so yeah I think it works sometimes it works to my detriment but it's easy it's easy for me to do that not leaning in this stuff. And so it's easy for me to like I always want to get to that next thing that's happy or exciting or the next adventure that I can do and I don't want to wallow in the sadness of grief. And so but there are times in life where it is that is the time to lean into grief that is the time to engage that that to let that play its self out. So when you don't let it do that I think it does come back to bite you a little bit.   Part of this is rooted in Matt’s personality   - Matt Kistler I mean it's I'm a bad griever I just avoid it. But it's like it's not grief. I'm pretty good at stepping out of it and finding things like find rewarding and fulfilling and find love and refocus my attention on so that's probably been more of the She's encouraged me it's OK to feel over all the things you're feeling it's OK as opposed to the   - Jenny Kistler especially with our 15 week loss so much different kind of creeps and I did we did have conversations where I encouraged him to let his emotions be felt and talk about it.   - Matt Kistler Because I think it it's somewhat important to share of the day and kind of with all that stuff a lot of the loss.  So it was pretty traumatic in the sense that it wasn't abstract at all.   In the midst of this trauma, Matt and Jenny’s community arrived with support. Matt’s parents drove up to be with them in Chicago.    - Jenny Kistler Always meals especially when you have a family and you're emotionally distraught having someone else make dinner is just the best help. And after the loss of Caroline you certainly had meals brought to us. We had grandparents helping care for children. We had friends offering to care for children. I know our church small group everybody that was part of the community of our lives was very caring and willing to serve us to do so helpful so my mom helped me have a cleaning lady just things like that so that the normal everyday tasks that are always a lot weren't so burdensome for us simply and enough.   - Jenny Kistler I also had to have a they thought that everything had come out on the day that it happened but it didn't so I ended up having a DNC a month later. And so then we kind of went through another little pressing until that again. And the emotions with that and even just my body that whole month that my body wasn't really recovering because there was still pregnancy tissue there. So there was that yeah but our community was great.   Yet, in the midst of this outpouring of care, Matt was missed.    - Matt Kistler Definitely it's more like as it should be a lot of focus on my wife and my emotions going through those things but I definitely believe that there's not as much attention that's given to the husband and the experience. So you're kind of sitting there like your friends don't know how to relate. Kind of like that once hit everybody. Human nature pretty wants to get back to normal as much as possible. So it's kind of a weird experience that we're gonna go through and you're kind of like, ah, guess I'm to figure this out. I guess that's going to be kind of my portion of it.   - Jenny Kistler So yeah I would say the emotional spiritual counseling kind of care. Maybe it was lacking.   - Matt Kistler  I would say you nonexistent right.   - Liesel Mertes Maybe this is like an imaginative exercise but as you think back can you imagine like what you would have wanted if there was somebody or even like who you might be to a guy who is walking through a miscarriage right now. What would something healthier have looked like?   - Matt Kistler You I just think it's as simple as grabbing a cup of coffee or a beer or whatever it just depends on how well you know I mean I know some really well it's going to impact the way that I approach situation but I think just that engaging and just saying, How's your wife doing how the kids are going to sound right. Like how are you doing. Are you impacted like like you held a baby that was a very traumatic issue. What are your thoughts? I mean it takes the right person in the right relationship to do that but I definitely think that there's a there's a place for it there's an appropriate timing for it and just I think that conversation might have been 10 minutes long but that's just enough to like that person to say hey I've been there I know what it's like if you need someone to call is great but just know I like I've been there I see it. I identify with it. We don't go into more detail but you know that's a path to walk down before   - Liesel Mertes What would you say are some big misconceptions that you feel like people who have not gone through miscarriage have about any aspect of it.   - Matt Kistler There's a lot of like you didn't hold a nine month old baby that was just born and it doesn't really count. It's almost like now it's like kind of a different type but it's like. It's like you know there's there's still there's still a grief for the parents that are going through it like you do start picturing like we know it was a girl. So you pick names and you talk about where they're going to sleep in the house and you know all those kind of things kind of go through and then when it stops it's just like it's you grieve all that you grieve the loss and everything has been blamed on it. So it's you know I don't know if I use or devalue or wouldn't devalue the experience to the point it's not just me   - Liesel Mertes Reducing it.   - Matt Kistler Yeah it's it's I feel like there's a reducing of it.   - Jenny Kistler That's I agree. That's a good word for it.   - Liesel Mertes What are some of the worst things that people said   - Jenny Kistler you know things like there'll be another child that was probably the worst for me   This was especially painful because having more children was NOT a guarantee for Jenny.  She acutally needed surgery to repair a surgical problem.  She had the surgery, needed time to recover, and still struggled to get pregnant.  Then, there were infertility treatments, discomfort, disappointment, and the lingering desire for four children.    - Matt Kistler it got down to you know emotionally where we were like we cannot do this. We cannot. Every month hope and pray that it didn't happen. It's like well how many of the emotion the stress of that and it's wrecking.   They decided to give it two more months.  And, happily, Jenny conceived, only to miscarry again.  This was…confusing and hard.  They felt emotionally defeated, but decided to again give it two more months.    - Jenny Kistler mentally we were moving on You were thinking this. So we have our three girls and we're going to end this our family on loss:  two of them. And that was the hardest piece to get over. Know it's like any dream you have in your mind and just picturing our family always. And we had to let go of that and say that's not what our family is going to look like,. But it's still wonderful. It's still good. And maybe it's just time for something new. And that is then when we finally conceived our last little one who ended up being a boy.   - Jenny Kistler  But what was really neat about that story was that we found out I was pregnant on that day two years to the day that we lost our baby Caroline at 15 weeks. So there was some serious redemption in that. That was mind blowing.   MUSICAL TRANSITION   - Liesel Mertes You mentioned some things that people say that were bad. Was there anything really really good that people said   - Jenny Kistler  Saying I'm sorry and that works for everybody and then acknowledges that there is something painful and it gives, whenever someone says that to me that gives me the opportunity to talk if I want to or to just say thank you for it. And I have also I lost a parent. I was 20 and that was my first taste of grief and I can't speak for everybody but I think my experience was that it was better for someone to risk expressing care than to remain silent because grief can be so isolating you know you're feeling all these things you know.   - Jenny Kistler  I say that about miscarriage and then also other forms, they make you feel so alone in it and people that speak to you about it allows me my chance to be alone because it is easy for the feeling of no one remembers. Yeah we do. You do. But   - Matt Kistler it's easy to really fall I guess everybody else has moved on and they forget that we still carry this piece with us. To this day it is still part of our story and always will be.   - Matt Kistler I think for me I think the idea of once the dust settles a little bit is that a couple that can come over with their kids and have pizza hang out talk and then just you know how are you doing. And we acknowledge the loss. We can talk about. We don't talk about it but we want you to know that it may you had a loss like it. It's up to you if you want to engage or not. But no we know I think for me to be that can be even just that but I appreciate that. Like maybe today it's just that the pizza and beer on the back patio. Maybe next time we talk about a little bit more but just acknowledging that we we don't wanna be weird about it not We're trying to be respectful and not bring it up because you lost your whoever you know fill in the blank   - Jenny Kistler we don't want to make you cry.   - Matt Kistler And so I'm just acknowledging and sometimes saying hey you know that's a bum deal but you're going talk about why you didn't join me. What are you going to do but we see you and we hear you in that.   - Liesel Mertes  If you could speak anything to your younger self to just beginning on this journey and I think you would offer that to somebody who's going through something similar.   - Jenny Kistler I trust God, you know that everybody believes in God but that that was the Rock for me, That there was a plan that I trust in it wasn't like I had that there was a good God that cared for me so clearly if you are someone of faith, lean into that, but I think with the pregnancy in general.   - Jenny Kistler Just be sensitive or be sensitive that if you're the kind of person that does just get pregnant easily. Never has any losses. Be aware that there are many that don't have that experience and going into it don't assume that you're going to be the person that doesn't have any losses.   In thinking about his younger self, Matt brought up a practice that is talked about in the Bible:  an Ebenezer. In biblical history, an Ebenezer was a pile of stones, a sort of monument, that acted as a physical reminder of things that came before.  The idea was that the older generation would bring young people or new-comers to this place of remembrance, this Ebenezer, and tell meaningful stories of important events that had shaped the community.  The Ebenezer was an occasion to remember, to reflect.   - Matt Kistler It's easy to get wrapped up in the day to day, but I think that's why the Ebenezer are used to exist like the place you come back to when you're, like this is what God. Can you tell your kids about it. You tell your generations. This is the pile of rocks who put it up so we wouldn't forget because we always forget. And so I think we need to look at that kind of stuff are they just just know like you know they're there peaks and valleys, just like anything else in life.   - Matt Kistler  But I think when you look back over the course and really contemplate what you've been through and then what God has brought you through you know that's in a job that's in finances that's in miscarriages children fertility. I mean we've seen it in many many different aspects of our marriage in our lives that it is extremely difficult though in the loss. What's this all about.   - Matt Kistler But it's never perfect that it's never heal me it's a scar there's still a physical mark that you're left with emotional but you think you could see God's loving faithfulness, at least I can say that where I am today   - Jenny Kistler One thing I did think in answer to one of your questions a while ago I have seen with friends and acquaintances is a tendency amongst women to become bitter when friends and people they know become pregnant if they've had a loss and they're not pregnant again. Yet again having multiple losses and obviously that also can sometimes go along with infertility not always. Sometimes it's just loss and.   - Jenny Kistler My advice there would be to try to find joy for others no letting that bitterness grow. You have had a loss and you see someone else. It's just focusing inward and away and it just causes destruction on yourself you know, you, it hurts your relationship. I've heard stories of women that just get so bent out of shape because so-and-so shared that they were pregnant. I just thought that was so insensitive to them because they just had a miscarriage in…obviously this is my opinion. But the problem with that is that you are unable to step outside of your own pain and see that this person's Joy really is unrelated to your pain and you all have to find a way to be happy for others when they are given joy   MUSICAL TRANSITION   Here are three thoughts at the close of this second conversation on miscarriage and infant loss. Not all miscarriages are the same; there can be a wide variance based on the timing of the loss. Regardless of timing, do not reduce the loss as you talk with a grieving parent.  Especially avoid statements that begin with words like, “At least…”  These phrases minimize the impact of the loss. If you know a couple that has experienced miscarriage or infant loss, have you taken time to reach out to both the mother and the father? Matt talked about being overlooked as care focused on Jenny.  Make time to communicate care to a grieving father, to ask him how he is doing and to acknowledge that he shares in this loss.  Saying “I’m sorry” is a good response to someone who is experiencing loss. As Jenny said, it allowed her to chance to talk if she wanted to or to just acknowledge the sentiment with a thank you.  This expression of care also let her know that she was not along in the midst of her pain.    OUTRO

Click here to buy: https://adbl.co/2DU0JhE Jenny Bowen is going home. Following an acrimonious split from her husband, she is quitting her job and moving back from London to the small town in the Scottish Highlands where she grew up. After tying up some last-minute loose ends, she rushes to Euston and boards the Caledonian Sleeper, headed north on a five-hundred mile, ten-hour journey through the night. As Jenny is getting settled in her cabin, she hears a commotion outside in the corridor. She sees a pale little girl of about eight years old being bundled into a cabin down the carriage, with a stressed-looking woman who Jenny assumes to be her mother. A tall man glances at the pair as he passes them. Jenny thinks it's strange that he has no luggage. He gives her a look that makes her uneasy before opening the door of the cabin next to her. When they reach their destination in the morning, Jenny discovers the woman dead in her cabin... but there's no sign of the little girl. The train company have no record of a child of that age being booked on the train, and CCTV shows the dead woman boarding alone. Jenny starts to get settled in her new home. She tries to put the incident out of her head and tells herself that everyone else is right: she must have imagined the little girl, or it was a misunderstanding. But deep down, she knows that isn't the truth. (p) Orion Publishing Group Ltd 2019

On this week's Silicon Valley Insider with Keith Koo - "Top 50 Women in Technology" - Jenny Dearborn, EVP of HR, Talent, Learning & Leadership at SAP, discusses the hiring crisis in technology and how alternatives to 4-year degrees (like apprenticeships) can help address the problem. As Jenny says, it really is the "Best time ever to get a job in technology." Jenny also discusses her most recent book: "The Data Driven Leader: A Powerful Approach to Delivering Measurable Business Impact Through People Analytics" The good news is that this is the best time ever to enter the technology industry. For the Cyber/Privacy-Tip of the week, Keith talks about the vulnerabilties are in Google Home In next week's show, Keith will report from the finals of the inaugural Call For Code event with the $200,000 grand prize winners, Project OWL. Also joining the show is: 1) David Clark, CEO of David Clark Cause Founder of Call For Code 2) Mayor Lily Mei of Fremont, CA with - https://omny.fm/shows/the-silicon-valley-insider-show/sv-insider-8-24-17-podcast 3) Team Lali Wildfire a Call For Code finalist from School 42 and was on a past Silicon Valley Insider - https://omny.fm/shows/the-silicon-valley-insider-show/sv-insider-8-17-18-podcast 4) Angel Diaz, VP of Technology and Open Source Advocacy, IBM - IBM was on a past Silicon Valley Insider to discuss the Call For Code Initiatve: https://omny.fm/shows/the-silicon-valley-insider-show/sv-insider-8-31-18-podcast First airing is 1-2pm on 1220AM KDOW Download the podcast at 2pm Friday's For questions or comments, email: info@svin.biz Be sure to subscribe and listen to the podcast. You can also listen to past podcasts here: Non-iTunes: https://omny.fm/shows/the-silicon-valley-insider-show iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-silicon-valley-insider-show/id1282637717?mt=2 Email us at info@svin.biz or find us here: www.svin.biz https://stitchengine.drishinfo.com/index.jsp?sId=15540&source=sh Arifitical Intelligence, AI, Blockchain, Big Data, Data Analytics, Cyberrisk, Information security, VC, Venture Capital, Angel Investments, Fundraising, Capital Raising, Investor, Human Rights, Technology for Good, UN SDGs, Emerging Technology

Our Body Image: Is it Environmentally Reinforced?To start this episode, Jenny shares her fascination for the “etiology” (origin) of our body image. That is, when did we first become self-conscious about our bodies? Jenny states that she did over sixty interviews during the research stage of The Body Image Blueprint and the answer she found is fascinating. To learn of this central source, where most of our insecurities first become apparent, tune into the episode.The Positive Impacts of Jenny’s WorkJenny shares some of the facets of her clients’ lives that are completely enriched and rejuvenated: from improved self-esteem to VASTLY improved sexual function, all were centered on techniques that were gradually applied and eventually compounded to an increased quality of life. For more on just how positive the impacts of her work, you can read testimonials on her website, as well as listen along to the episode.Body Image and SexualityPlain and simple, one’s body image is inextricably linked to one’s sexuality. And because of that, Jenny knows the symptoms of stress and insecurity, and how they can detract from an overall healthy sexuality. During the interview, she talks about the importance of expansion over restriction. So often, self-consciousness holds us back from being our most expressive self in the bedroom, and as a result, our sex suffers. As Jenny states, we are often far too mired in our stress-response to actually experience pleasure. The bedroom shouldn’t be a stress-inducing place; it should be stress-relieving. For more brilliant insights on the topic, Jenny goes even deeper during the interview.Lights Off During Sex? Not Anymore!Jenny relays the tragic fact that many are too ashamed of their bodies to have sex with the lights on. Be it the result of shame or an inability to be comfortable in their own skin, many are afraid. But Jenny has a technique which she uses with some of her clients. It involves a mirror and it has vast potential for getting people more comfortable with their naked bodies. Tune in to hear what it entails.Not Just Women, but Men as WellAnother important fact that Jenny points out during the interview is that men are affected by negative body images as well. Be it specific measurements of a certain nature or socially-reinforced ideas of muscularity and masculinity, the guy can go through the same sort of insecurities about body image as the woman.Embracing Pleasure Through Sensuality and MindfulnessJenny states that embracing pleasure is absolutely essential for any healthy dynamic in the bedroom. And the way to get there is through sensuality and mindfulness. Regarding sensuality, we need to focus on the sensations that arise in the moment. Once we become attuned to our bodies instead of looking to escape them, we can truly learn to embrace pleasure. There are certain mindfulness techniques that Jenny brings up during the episode that are very helpful in achieving this focus on sensuality. Check it out!The Three Precursors to LoveThe first two precursors to a love of one’s body are trust and respect. The first of these, trust, might be the most important of the precursors. Through it, we can learn to trust the sensations that we feel, without looking for an end goal. Because poor performance or an unsatisfactory ending can derail a positive sexual experience, learning to trust the present-moment sensations and experiences is of tantamount importance. Through mindfulness, sex becomes less about “finishing” and more about the sensual journey along the way. For the last precursor to self-love, listen to the interview!Mindful EatingJenny also talks about how the same sort of principles used for mindfulness during sex can be used for eating. Looking to change her clients’ perceptions about eating as a whole, the activity becomes a much more profound experience when approached through mindfulness. To learn some of the benefits, as well as how to go about eating mindfully, listen to the episode.About Jenny BerkJenny Berk has spent considerable time helping her clients love their bodies. She bestows upon clients the tools to foster a positive self-image, an acceptance of self, and increased levels of self-esteem. Her main objective is to reorient the thinking of the people she works closely with, helping them heal from a body-image perspective and tune into intrinsic wisdom to learn how to nourish ourselves naturally and joyfully.She has earned a Master of Science in Education and Psychological Services from the University of Pennsylvania. In addition, she has more than 14 years of experience as a professional health coach.Also, Jenny has authored the best-selling book, The Body Image Blueprint: Your Go-To Guide for Radical Self-Reverence. And lastly, she is the pioneer of The Beyond Weight Loss™ Method which has changed the lives of many people, herself included.She resides in Boston with her husband, 3 spirited daughters and 2 kittens. When she’s not coaching, she loves to travel, hike, cook and entertain and spend time with good friends and family and languish over a delicious meal and a deep talk.To Contact or Learn More About Jenny BerkJenny’s email: suzanna@thedatemaven.com & her website: : www.jennyedencoaching.comLink for her book: The Body BlueprintInstagram - www.instagram.com/coachjennyedenPinterest - www.pinterest.com/coachjennyedenFB group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1738140356456267/Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennyedenberk/Twitter - www.twitter.com/coachjennyedenFB business page - https://www.facebook.com/jennyedencoaching/More info:Web - https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/

Our Body Image: Is it Environmentally Reinforced?To start this episode, Jenny shares her fascination for the “etiology” (origin) of our body image. That is, when did we first become self-conscious about our bodies? Jenny states that she did over sixty interviews during the research stage of The Body Image Blueprint and the answer she found is fascinating. To learn of this central source, where most of our insecurities first become apparent, tune into the episode.The Positive Impacts of Jenny’s WorkJenny shares some of the facets of her clients’ lives that are completely enriched and rejuvenated: from improved self-esteem to VASTLY improved sexual function, all were centered on techniques that were gradually applied and eventually compounded to an increased quality of life. For more on just how positive the impacts of her work, you can read testimonials on her website, as well as listen along to the episode.Body Image and SexualityPlain and simple, one’s body image is inextricably linked to one’s sexuality. And because of that, Jenny knows the symptoms of stress and insecurity, and how they can detract from an overall healthy sexuality. During the interview, she talks about the importance of expansion over restriction. So often, self-consciousness holds us back from being our most expressive self in the bedroom, and as a result, our sex suffers. As Jenny states, we are often far too mired in our stress-response to actually experience pleasure. The bedroom shouldn’t be a stress-inducing place; it should be stress-relieving. For more brilliant insights on the topic, Jenny goes even deeper during the interview.Lights Off During Sex? Not Anymore!Jenny relays the tragic fact that many are too ashamed of their bodies to have sex with the lights on. Be it the result of shame or an inability to be comfortable in their own skin, many are afraid. But Jenny has a technique which she uses with some of her clients. It involves a mirror and it has vast potential for getting people more comfortable with their naked bodies. Tune in to hear what it entails.Not Just Women, but Men as WellAnother important fact that Jenny points out during the interview is that men are affected by negative body images as well. Be it specific measurements of a certain nature or socially-reinforced ideas of muscularity and masculinity, the guy can go through the same sort of insecurities about body image as the woman.Embracing Pleasure Through Sensuality and MindfulnessJenny states that embracing pleasure is absolutely essential for any healthy dynamic in the bedroom. And the way to get there is through sensuality and mindfulness. Regarding sensuality, we need to focus on the sensations that arise in the moment. Once we become attuned to our bodies instead of looking to escape them, we can truly learn to embrace pleasure. There are certain mindfulness techniques that Jenny brings up during the episode that are very helpful in achieving this focus on sensuality. Check it out!The Three Precursors to LoveThe first two precursors to a love of one’s body are trust and respect. The first of these, trust, might be the most important of the precursors. Through it, we can learn to trust the sensations that we feel, without looking for an end goal. Because poor performance or an unsatisfactory ending can derail a positive sexual experience, learning to trust the present-moment sensations and experiences is of tantamount importance. Through mindfulness, sex becomes less about “finishing” and more about the sensual journey along the way. For the last precursor to self-love, listen to the interview!Mindful EatingJenny also talks about how the same sort of principles used for mindfulness during sex can be used for eating. Looking to change her clients’ perceptions about eating as a whole, the activity becomes a much more profound experience when approached through mindfulness. To learn some of the benefits, as well as how to go about eating mindfully, listen to the episode.About Jenny BerkJenny Berk has spent considerable time helping her clients love their bodies. She bestows upon clients the tools to foster a positive self-image, an acceptance of self, and increased levels of self-esteem. Her main objective is to reorient the thinking of the people she works closely with, helping them heal from a body-image perspective and tune into intrinsic wisdom to learn how to nourish ourselves naturally and joyfully.She has earned a Master of Science in Education and Psychological Services from the University of Pennsylvania. In addition, she has more than 14 years of experience as a professional health coach.Also, Jenny has authored the best-selling book, The Body Image Blueprint: Your Go-To Guide for Radical Self-Reverence. And lastly, she is the pioneer of The Beyond Weight Loss™ Method which has changed the lives of many people, herself included.She resides in Boston with her husband, 3 spirited daughters and 2 kittens. When she’s not coaching, she loves to travel, hike, cook and entertain and spend time with good friends and family and languish over a delicious meal and a deep talk.To Contact or Learn More About Jenny BerkJenny’s email: suzanna@thedatemaven.com & her website: : www.jennyedencoaching.comLink for her book: The Body BlueprintInstagram - www.instagram.com/coachjennyedenPinterest - www.pinterest.com/coachjennyedenFB group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1738140356456267/Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennyedenberk/Twitter - www.twitter.com/coachjennyedenFB business page - https://www.facebook.com/jennyedencoaching/More info:Web - https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/Sex Health Quiz - http://sexhealthquiz.com/If you’re enjoying the podcast and want to be a part of making sure it continues in the future, consider being a patron. With a small monthly pledge, you can support the costs of putting this show together. For as little as $2 per month, you can get advance access to each episode. For just a bit more, you will receive an advance copy of a chapter of my new book. And for $10 per month, you get all that plus an invitation to an online Q&A chat with me once a quarter. Learn more at https://www.patreon.com/bettersexpodcastBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/

Jenny and I are in an Open Dialogue group that examines how Western psychology is linked to colonisation. Both emerge from the same place. Because of this, psychology can sometimes do harm to people who have been colonised. In the group, we look at ways our own psychology practice can perpetuate colonising practices. Jenny, an Aboriginal woman, talks about how the term ‘decolonise’ is offensive for her. It evokes bloodshed and massacres, families torn apart, languages lost, disconnection. The word doesn’t communicate love. It communicates only pain. The Open Dialogue group is attempting to re-imagine clinical psychology as a place of dialogue, collective action and resistance to injustice. As Jenny says, “there’s a group of passionate people that want to see change.” In Open Dialogue, “everybody gets to hear what everybody has to say. But also all the feelings are acknowledged and then you can sit back and assess what was heard.” Simply finding a word or phrase to represent our intentions and conversations requires finding a middle ground, a place for both psychology and lore.   Photo 'Corellas' by David Warren Noble

Note: If you are not comfortable listening to a conversation about sex and sexuality in front of other people (kids, your boss, etc), then please be sure to listen to this one when you’re in a place to do so. Meet Jenni Skyler - an AASECT certified sex therapist, board certified sexologist, and a licensed marriage and family therapist. Jenni helps people get in tune with their own sexuality and fully embrace themselves as healthy sexual beings. Her mission is to help people give themselves permission for pleasure. Jenni is one of those amazing people who tackles a topic - one that is often shrouded in secrecy, shame and confusion - without judgment in a way that helps people feel comfortable.  Jenni’s background is both difficult and empowering. Her mother became addicted to drugs and left when Jenni was very young, so she was raised by her father who was a very positive, strong influence in her life. She learned about sex when she was very young as her father addressed it in a somewhat clinical way as a fact of life. There was never any shame or secrecy around the topic. As Jenny got older, she became the de facto Dr Ruth of her friends. Eventually she found her way into the profession and decided to become a licensed therapist. Today, Jenni is the founder of the Intimacy Institute in Boulder. If you’re local, come to Skirt Sports Women Run the World event on Tue, Nov 14. Jenni will be leading the strength workout and she’ll be one of our featured speakers. I’ll be honest. I was so excited to have Jenni on the show, but I felt like I kept stumbling over my questions. It was not as easy for me to ask direct questions as I thought it would be! Today we talk about: What it means to be a sex therapist Jenni's path to the trade: discovering her own sexuality and embracing it as she became an adult Jenni's parents: the dad who raised her and the mother who left Sex and kids: how and when do we talk to them about sexuality in a safe and open way Sex and marriage: is it possible to maintain the "butterflies" through a lifelong relationship Sex and sports: is there a correlation? Sex and aging: what can we expect The keys to a healthy relationship: Respect, Transparency, "Desire Deposits" In the end, as Jenni says, it’s all about optimizing your own life. Ask yourself where and how you want to shine. When you give yourself permission for pleasure you open yourself up to a life of positivity and that’s what we are all striving for in the end. Thanks for tuning in today. If you want to reach Jenni, check out the Intimacy Institute website – she has lots of content on this subject!  All right everyone, you know what time it is. It’s time to get out there and Run This World. Have a great workout and I’ll see you next week.

Welcome to Marketing Monster Mashup, the official podcast of Leading Results! Join us for episode three to hear Jenny Butler, Senior Support Engineer at HubSpot Dublin, podcast producer. I caught up with Jenny in Boston at the INBOUND16 conference where she was a featured speaker. Jenny's panel, Podcasting: A Starter Guide for Agencies, debunked some myths about podcasting roadblocks. No, you don't need to spend any money to launch a podcast. Podcasting is an absolutely free way to connect with your listeners, clients, and prospects.    As Jenny said, "Just hit record!" (Oh, and thanks for joining us for our third episode!) Follow Jenny on Twitter @radiojbutler

 In this episode we discuss psychological safety in simulation.  Harvard professor Jenny Rudolph, PhD joined us for the discussion, taking time out form her busy schedule as the Director of the Center for Medical Simulation in Boston.  We considered this all too familiar case study……  You’re facilitating a sim session in your ED. The junior docs and the nurses arrive,  a few straggle in late. You do a nice RTR (Round the room) but everyone seems a bit anxious and they are shifting in their seats. You really want them to relax.   “You shouldn’t be anxious guys, this is what you do every day”.   They look more worried.   “I mean these will be sick patients, but this is the place to stuff up, rather than with a real patient”.   One of the docs looks like he might vomit.   “and remember what happens here, stays here, no you tube videos from what we are recording” - as you attempt to lighten the mood. “Its not like this is a test, we really just want to make sure you’re ok to be on nights on your own……”   “so relax….”   Two of the participants dash off for a toilet break before you start.    The podcast gave us a wonderful opportunity to delve deeper into the philosophy behind Jenny et al’s excellent article on Establishing a Safe Container for Learning in Simulation.   Most of our learners are pretty apprehensive about participating in sim. As Jenny explained to us – some people ‘come to life’ on stage with an audience, but most of us feel a sense of psychological threat if we are doing things in front of others and perceive this as evaluative i.e. a test of some sort. We may not know how an individual will be predisposed to respond, but as facilitators we can help everyone feel more psychologically safe.   We can do this through some practical steps - clarifying expectations, discussing confidentiality, and telling stories/ sharing our own fears and vulnerabilities. Establishing the fiction contract is important - as described in the ‘safe container’ paper, and building on work by Peter Dieckmann here.  (beware -  a deep dive into theory!)  The fundamental mindsets (of learner and facilitator behind these steps need to be understood.   Jenny described some key concepts in the area, starting with helping to shift our learners to a ‘growth mindset’ (see Carol Dweck’s TeD talk here) in response to the challenge of a simulation activity.  The idea of positive regard is crucial. We have to truly respect our learners and their efforts, and we need to demonstrate that. Well intentioned words suggesting this respect can be easily undone with ‘guess what I’m thinking’ questions that might make learners feel manipulated or unfairly judged.    So how do we know if we have achieved psychological safety for our sim participants?   Its complex.  Experts like Amy Edmonson (another TeD talk to watch) suggests that seeing supportive responses when one puts oneself on the line, such as by asking a question, seeking feedback, reporting a mistake, or proposing a new idea.  Sounds like our aspirations for our work teams….?  Again, simulation practice parallels our real world healthcare practice.  Thanks again to Jenny Rudolph for an illuminating podcast.

As Jenny returns from her family vacation, our good friend Lisa sits in as co-host for a great sit down with our friend from CNN, David Daniel. We play a little SNL Alumni Draft for our ficticious comedy teams. It was a lot of fun and it was great to Have Lisa fill Jenny's big shoes. Also- BMI squashes the little man, Archie's going to die, Sriracha's neighbors suck, Stephen Colbert is going to blow up, Chimpanzees are smart but it's too early for Planet of the Apes, and Portland is about to receive a Bend transplant. Show Beer was Fort George's Suicide Squeeze IPA. Pre-Show Beer was Mikkeller's collar with Anchorage Brewing, BreAKfast Stout. A huge thanks to Lisa, Mainbrew/ABV Tap House, David Daniel, and YOU! Check us out at http://www.inonedayradio.com/ Contact us directly at - jenny@inonedayradio.com sean@inonedayradio.com Talk to us at (971) 238-IN1D (leave us a voice message) Like us at www.facebook.com/inonedayradio Tweet us at @inonedayradio Subscribe to us on iTunes & Stitcher Go support our friends and sponsors at www.mainbrew.com and www.abvpub.com, as well as Oregon Public House at www.oregonpublichouse.com . You can follow David Daniel on Twitter @CNNLADavid

It’s October. In the American sports calendar, that means it’s time for the baseball playoffs. My team, the Minnesota Twins, wasn’t even close this year, going from first place last year to the cellar this year. But I gained some measure of consolation last week in watching A-Rod strike out to end the Yankees’ season. Jenny Ring‘s team, the Oakland Athletics, is also sitting out this October. A scholar of political theory, Jenny is a lifelong baseball fan. She was born with, as she calls it, the “baseball gene.” She follows the Major Leagues, she played ball in the neighborhood as a girl, and she passed the gene on to her daughter. But whereas Jenny was left alone with her ball and glove when the boys her age went off to play in organized leagues, her daughter joined the team–and proved herself on the field. Jenny’s daughter played the game well, as well as any of the boys. As she grew older, though, and tried out for teams in the higher ranks, it became clear that a girl playing baseball was not acceptable to many coaches and parents. But Jenny’s daughter refused to leave the game, and she still plays baseball today for the USA Women’s National Team. As Jenny watched her daughter encounter overt discrimination in her attempts to play baseball, she asked the question: “Why aren’t American girls allowed to play baseball?” Boys and girls play soccer together. In swimming and cross-country, they practice side-by-side. Boys and girls teams share basketball courts and lacrosse fields. But baseball remains off-limits for girls. For example, 337 players were on teams in my local Little League last spring. Only two of those players were girls. And unlike in other sports, there is not the option to play in a girls’ baseball league. Instead, girls who love to throw a ball and hit it with a bat are steered into a different sport: softball. In her book Stolen Bases: Why American Girls Don’t Play Baseball (University of Illinois Press, 2009), Jenny looks at the history of baseball to find that women were on the diamond from the sport’s beginnings, only to be openly and deliberately excluded in the 20thcentury. As we discuss in the interview, the reasons given by baseball’s guardians for girls’ inability to play covered the bases of male ignorance and insecurity toward women. But beyond the stated reasons, there was something deeper going on. The fact that resistance to girls playing baseball is still strong in the United States (while Canada, Australia, and Japan all have girls baseball programs) suggests that a belief in baseball as the sacred domain of American manhood is still strong. There will be girls, like Jenny’s daughter, who will find a place on the diamond, and even stand out among the boys. But despite all the advances for girls and women in sports, baseball in America remains a game of fathers and sons. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s October. In the American sports calendar, that means it’s time for the baseball playoffs. My team, the Minnesota Twins, wasn’t even close this year, going from first place last year to the cellar this year. But I gained some measure of consolation last week in watching A-Rod strike out to end the Yankees’ season. Jenny Ring‘s team, the Oakland Athletics, is also sitting out this October. A scholar of political theory, Jenny is a lifelong baseball fan. She was born with, as she calls it, the “baseball gene.” She follows the Major Leagues, she played ball in the neighborhood as a girl, and she passed the gene on to her daughter. But whereas Jenny was left alone with her ball and glove when the boys her age went off to play in organized leagues, her daughter joined the team–and proved herself on the field. Jenny’s daughter played the game well, as well as any of the boys. As she grew older, though, and tried out for teams in the higher ranks, it became clear that a girl playing baseball was not acceptable to many coaches and parents. But Jenny’s daughter refused to leave the game, and she still plays baseball today for the USA Women’s National Team. As Jenny watched her daughter encounter overt discrimination in her attempts to play baseball, she asked the question: “Why aren’t American girls allowed to play baseball?” Boys and girls play soccer together. In swimming and cross-country, they practice side-by-side. Boys and girls teams share basketball courts and lacrosse fields. But baseball remains off-limits for girls. For example, 337 players were on teams in my local Little League last spring. Only two of those players were girls. And unlike in other sports, there is not the option to play in a girls’ baseball league. Instead, girls who love to throw a ball and hit it with a bat are steered into a different sport: softball. In her book Stolen Bases: Why American Girls Don’t Play Baseball (University of Illinois Press, 2009), Jenny looks at the history of baseball to find that women were on the diamond from the sport’s beginnings, only to be openly and deliberately excluded in the 20thcentury. As we discuss in the interview, the reasons given by baseball’s guardians for girls’ inability to play covered the bases of male ignorance and insecurity toward women. But beyond the stated reasons, there was something deeper going on. The fact that resistance to girls playing baseball is still strong in the United States (while Canada, Australia, and Japan all have girls baseball programs) suggests that a belief in baseball as the sacred domain of American manhood is still strong. There will be girls, like Jenny’s daughter, who will find a place on the diamond, and even stand out among the boys. But despite all the advances for girls and women in sports, baseball in America remains a game of fathers and sons. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s October. In the American sports calendar, that means it’s time for the baseball playoffs. My team, the Minnesota Twins, wasn’t even close this year, going from first place last year to the cellar this year. But I gained some measure of consolation last week in watching A-Rod strike out to end the Yankees’ season. Jenny Ring‘s team, the Oakland Athletics, is also sitting out this October. A scholar of political theory, Jenny is a lifelong baseball fan. She was born with, as she calls it, the “baseball gene.” She follows the Major Leagues, she played ball in the neighborhood as a girl, and she passed the gene on to her daughter. But whereas Jenny was left alone with her ball and glove when the boys her age went off to play in organized leagues, her daughter joined the team–and proved herself on the field. Jenny’s daughter played the game well, as well as any of the boys. As she grew older, though, and tried out for teams in the higher ranks, it became clear that a girl playing baseball was not acceptable to many coaches and parents. But Jenny’s daughter refused to leave the game, and she still plays baseball today for the USA Women’s National Team. As Jenny watched her daughter encounter overt discrimination in her attempts to play baseball, she asked the question: “Why aren’t American girls allowed to play baseball?” Boys and girls play soccer together. In swimming and cross-country, they practice side-by-side. Boys and girls teams share basketball courts and lacrosse fields. But baseball remains off-limits for girls. For example, 337 players were on teams in my local Little League last spring. Only two of those players were girls. And unlike in other sports, there is not the option to play in a girls’ baseball league. Instead, girls who love to throw a ball and hit it with a bat are steered into a different sport: softball. In her book Stolen Bases: Why American Girls Don’t Play Baseball (University of Illinois Press, 2009), Jenny looks at the history of baseball to find that women were on the diamond from the sport’s beginnings, only to be openly and deliberately excluded in the 20thcentury. As we discuss in the interview, the reasons given by baseball’s guardians for girls’ inability to play covered the bases of male ignorance and insecurity toward women. But beyond the stated reasons, there was something deeper going on. The fact that resistance to girls playing baseball is still strong in the United States (while Canada, Australia, and Japan all have girls baseball programs) suggests that a belief in baseball as the sacred domain of American manhood is still strong. There will be girls, like Jenny’s daughter, who will find a place on the diamond, and even stand out among the boys. But despite all the advances for girls and women in sports, baseball in America remains a game of fathers and sons. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices