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Welcome back to Voices of Your Village, and today we get to chat about teaching our kids how to bounce back from bullying with Dr. Michele Borba. Dr. Michele Borba is an internationally -renowned educator, award -winning author, and parenting, child and bullying expert recognized for her solution -based strategies to strengthen children's empathy, character, and reduce bullying. She's an NBC contributor who has appeared over 150 times on the Today Show and featured on countless shows, including Dr. Phil, Dateline, The View, and CNN. Her 24 books have been translated in 20 languages, including End Peer Cruelty: Build Empathy, Building Moral Intelligence, Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed and Are All About Me World, and her latest book is Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and others shine. She offers realistic, research -based advice culled from a career of working with over 1 million parents and educators worldwide. I got to dive into this topic with her, and then Rach and I also went deeper into what this looks like as a parent and on that personal note in the breakdown. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Dr. Michele Borba: Instagram: @drmicheleborba Website: https://micheleborba.com/ Order the book: I Got This: I Have Bounce Back Superpowers, Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine Connect with us: Instagram: @seed.and.sew  Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Website: seedandsew.org Music by: Ruby Adams and Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Host Erin Prather Stafford welcomes back author and educational psychologist Michele Borba, Ed.D., to discuss how empathy is vital for children's mental health and a crucial tool for preventing bullying. Dr. Borba is the author of UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me-World. Tune in for Girls That Create anytime and learn more about Dr. Borba and her work at micheleborba.com. Erin Prather Stafford launched Girls That Create in 2019. The site supports the parents and caregivers of creative girls while encouraging greater female representation across the arts. To support the parents and caregivers of creative girls while encouraging greater female representation across the arts, go to girlsthatcreate.com and follow and connect on Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and YouTube.   Feeding America supports tens of millions of people who experience food insecurity to access nutritious food and resources. The Feeding America network consists of food banks, pantries, meal programs, state associations, and the Feeding America national organization working together alongside communities to end hunger. WordofMomRadio.com - sharing the wisdom of women, in business and in life.  

Ever inadvertently model a behavior for your child and then have it blow up in your face? Miranda sure has, and she learned some valuable discipline strategies in the process. Also, Mel educates us all on the mysterious illness Hand, Foot, & Mouth disease. Spotlight - https://capacares.org/ To prevent and treat all forms of child abuse by creating changes in individuals, families, and society which strengthen family relationships and promote healing. The Association provides education, counseling and family support program services.Sources - Mel - https://www.pennmedicine.org/updates/blogs/health-and-wellness/2018/september/hand-foot-and-mouth-disease https://www.cdc.gov/hand-foot-mouth/index.html Miranda - Borba, Michele, Ed. D. Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me-World. Touchstone, 2017.https://health.clevelandclinic.org/pediatricians-say-dont-spank-your-kids-heres-why-what-to-do-instead/ https://www.parentingforbrain.com/inductive-discipline/#:~:text=Hoffman%E2%80%99s%20theory%20suggested%20that%20parents%20who%20use%20inductive,natural%20consequences%20and%20influences%20on%20other%20people%E2%80%99s%20lives. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jean Decety and Jason Cowell give us the following 3 part definition of empathy. Emotional sharing: experiencing the same feelings as others simply by observing them Empathic concern: the desire or motivation to care for individuals in need Perspective-taking: the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes Additionally, practicing empathy would include creating a positive outcome in a given situation. Now, this definition goes a bit beyond the scope of this podcast but will be important in the future. For this week's podcast, understanding the concepts of "emotional literacy," "feeling with others," and "tuning in to feelings" will be important. UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World

Empathy is not something we "have or don't have" by a certain age. Empathy is somewhat of a work in progress - certainly through childhood and adolescence, but oftentimes even into adulthood. Most people are born with the capacity for empathy, but it is something that needs to be experienced, taught, practiced, and cultivated. Listen to this week's podcast where I discuss empathy using Michelle Borba's book Unselfie. It's a good podcast and a better book. UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World

Michele Borba, Ed.D. is an educational psychologist, former classroom teacher and Mom who has spoken to over one million parents and educators in 19 countries. She is recognized for her solution-based strategies on raising resilient kids, and recipient of the Sanford N. McDonnell Lifetime Achievement Award in Character Education. Dr. Borba has appeared over 150 times on the TODAY show and featured in outlets including New York Times, Dr. Phil, Washington Post, Time, and Dateline. She has written 24 books, translated in 20 languages, with her latest being Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine.   Michele had a number of amazing insights during our conversation. Some of them include: “It's a different world that we're raising our children in than in what we grew up in” (8:00). “Our kids will be faced with adversity. We can't sugarcoat it. We can't rescue them. We have to prepare them for life” (9:00). “The highest correlation with [adverse mental health outcomes] is how we deal with negative experiences” (11:05). “The first thing we need to do is help our kids learn to handle adversity, because everybody is going to have a negative experience” (11:15). “Let's start being preventative” (12:00). “It's not one challenge that bothers us, it's the build-up” (13:20). “Thrivers are made, not born” (13:40). “Resilience is teachable” (16:15). “The thing that's going to keep [kids'] passion alive, their grit alive, is knowing who they are” (19:25). “Figure out who your kid is, not who you want them to become” (19:40). “That's when your grit is the strongest, when you're doing something you love” (20:55). “You have to feel compassionate for yourself. If you feel okay about who you are and take care of you and your own needs, you're actually going to be more likely to reach out and feel for another person” (25:45). “Are you managing your stress and taking care of yourself? Because if you don't, your stress feeds over to your kids” (31:10). “Breathe so your kids can breathe” (31:40). “You need to recognize your own stress level” (33:00). “Find what works for you and stick to it as a routine and a ritual” (34:00). “A sense of hope is core to resilience” (36:00). “Ordinary things can be extraordinary and make extraordinary magic in overcoming adversity” (46:15). “We've got to give our kids a repertoire of coaching strategies and buffers. They're all teachable” (46:40). “Empathy and curiosity are powerful together” (55:30). “When stress builds, curiosity goes down” (59:30). “We're more curious when we're with other people” (1:01:15). “You've got to make failure an option. You're never going to get better if you can't make a mistake” (1:02:15).   Additionally, if you'd like to do so you can connect with Michele here! You can follow Michele on social media on Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn. I'd also encourage you to read all of Michele's books, including her most recent ones: Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine, UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World, and Building Moral Intelligence. You can find all of Michele's information on her website. Thank you so much to Michele for coming on the podcast! I wrote a book called “Shift Your Mind” that was released in October of 2020, and you can order it on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Additionally, I have launched a company called Strong Skills, and I encourage you to check out our new website https://www.strongskills.co/. If you liked this episode and/or any others, please follow me on Twitter: @brianlevenson or Instagram: @Intentional_Performers. Thanks for listening.

If I asked you what leads to success, what would you say? I imagine most of us think about schooling, work experience, and the quality of our social networks. But there are other things that really matter here. Research reveals a huge predictor of success is empathy, and that is the subject of this episode. As you will hear, empathy has an abundance of positive outcomes that improve our work lives, personal lives, and our overall health. Yet, sadly, there is an ongoing empathy crisis today and research is showing that the skill of empathy is dwindling in the face of social media and the overwhelming abundance of information today. Thankfully, help is here! Dr. Michelle Borba (https://micheleborba.com/) has been described by CNN as “[The] go-to parent expert,” and by the Today Show as “The Mommy Whisperer.” She's the author of several books including, UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. I loved her book as have numerous luminaries, thought leaders, and book reviewers at the highest levels. I am so grateful that you will have the pleasure of learning about empathy with Michele as she outlines why empathy matters and how to cultivate this game changing skill. Book Link: https://tinyurl.com/4s4ncacs

Michele Borba, Ed. D., is the author of UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World and is an internationally renowned educational psychologist, and an expert in parenting, resilience, and character development. A sought-after motivational speaker, she has spoken in 19 countries on five continents and served as a consultant tohundreds of schools and corporations including Sesame Street, Harvard, U.S. Air Force Academy, 18 US Army bases in Europe and the Asian-Pacific, H.R.H. the Crown Prince of Abu Dhabi, a TEDx Talk: “Empathy Is a Verb” and is the recipient of Sanford N. McDonnell Award for Lifetime Achievement in Character Education. She offers realistic, research-based advice culled from a career working with over one million parents and educators worldwide. Dr. Borba is a regular NBC contributor who appears regularly on Today and has been featured as a parenting expert on Dateline, The View, Dr. Phil, NBC Nightly News, Fox & Friends, Dr. Oz, and The Early Show, among many others. She lives in Palm Springs, California, with her husband, and is the mother of three grown sons.Support the show

We are so honored to speak to Dr. Michele about how we can truly thrive!!! This is an episode you will not want to miss!!!  Michele Borba, Ed.D. is an internationally renowned educator, award-winning author, and parenting, child and bullying expert recognized for her solution-based strategies to strengthen children's empathy, character, and reduce bullying. She is an NBC contributor who has appeared over 150 times on the TODAY show and featured on countless shows including: Dr. Phil, Dateline, The View and CNN. Her 24 books have been translated in 20 languages including End Peer Cruelty, Build Empathy, Building Moral Intelligence, UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. her latest (March 2021) is Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine.  She offers realistic, research-based advice culled from a career of working with over one million parents and educators worldwide.

What none of the parenting books tell us is that there is over forty years of research into what makes kids grow into resilient and happy people. Dr. Borba has crystalized it into seven key qualities that will give our kids the strength they need to thrive in the world. And the best part is, they are all teachable. They are not inborn, they are accessible to everyone and anyone. Listen to today's episode to hear what all seven qualities are and some strategies for teaching them to your kids! Michele Borba, Ed. D., is the author of several parenting books including Building Moral Intelligence and UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. Her latest book is Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine. Dr. Borba is also an internationally renowned educational psychologist and expert in parenting, bullying, and character development. A sought-after motivational speaker, Dr. Borba has spoken in 19 countries on five continents and served as a consultant to hundreds of schools and corporations including Sesame Street, Harvard, U.S. Air Force Academy, 18 U.S. Army bases in Europe and the Asian-Pacific, H.R.H. the Crown Prince of Abu Dhabi, and a TEDx Talk: “Empathy Is a Verb.” Dr. Borba offers realistic, research-based advice culled from a career working with over one million parents and educators worldwide. She is an NBC contributor who appears regularly on Today and has been featured as an expert on Dateline, The View, Dr. Phil, NBC Nightly News,  Dr. Oz, and The Early Show, among many others. She lives in Palm Springs, California, with her husband, and is the mother of three grown sons. Michele sounds the alarm that our generation of kids (and grown adults, too!) are stressed, unhappy, and struggling with anxiety, depression, and burnout, but there are solutions and HOPE. Based on her new book, Thrivers, Michele addresses topics such as why character trumps IQ and GPA, the 7 essential character strengths, science-based research on the damaging effects of social media and screen time, and how to raise kids in a pessimistic world. Michele's message will help parents, leaders, teachers, and bosses get back to the basics of what REALLY matters for the pandemic generation. Connect with Guest Name: http://www.micheleborba.com/ (www.micheleborba.com). Join us LIVE each week in our Facebook Group … https://www.facebook.com/groups/blissfulparenting (https://www.facebook.com/groups/blissfulparenting) Connect with Blissful Parenting: Free Workshop ► https://www.blissfulparentingworkshop.com (https://www.BlissfulParentingWorkshop.com)  Website ► http://www.theblissfulparent.com/ (http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/)  Blog ► http://www.theblissfulparent.com/blog (http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/blog)  Podcast ► http://www.theblissfulparent.com/podcast/ (http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/podcast/)  Contact ►http://www.blissfulparenting.com/contact (http://www.BlissfulParenting.com/contact)  Follow Us On Social Media: Youtube ► https://www.youtube.com/theblissfulparent (https://www.youtube.com/theblissfulparent)   Facebook ► https://www.facebook.com/theblissfulparent (https://www.facebook.com/theblissfulparent)   Instagram ► https://www.instagram.com/theblissfulparent/ (https://www.instagram.com/theblissfulparent/)   Twitter ►https://twitter.com/blissfulparent (https://twitter.com/blissfulparent)   Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new...

Today Dr. Michele Borba joins us! Best selling author and parenting and child expert. This pandemic has done a number on our kids but truthfully… there was a mental health crisis going on even BEFORE the pandemic. Today you will hear some real stats and facts about the state of our kids, teens, and college students and learn the tools and observations you need to be aware of to raise a THRIVER not a STRIVER. Get Dr. Micheles Latest Book! Her latest is Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine.   Connect with Dr. Michele Borba! Web: micheleborba.com. Twitter @micheleborba.   Instagram @drmicheleborba. Guest Bio: Dr. Michele Borba, is an internationally renowned educator, award-winning author, and parenting child expert recognized for her solution-based strategies to strengthen children's character, resilience, and reduce peer cruelty. A sought-after motivational speaker, she has spoken in 19 countries and five continents, and served as a consultant to hundreds of schools and corporations. Clients include Sesame Street, Harvard, U.S. Air Force Academy, 18 US Army Bases in Europe and the Asian-Pacific, H.R.H. the Crown Prince of Abu Dhabi. and a TEDx Talk: “Empathy Is a Verb.” She offers realistic, research-based advice culled from a career working with over one million parents and educators worldwide. She is the award-winning author of 24 books translated into 19 languages including Nobody Likes Me, No More Misbehavin', Don't Give Me that Attitude!, Building Moral Intelligence, Parents Do Make A Difference, The Big Book of Parenting Solutions, End Peer Cruelty, Build Empathy, and UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. Her latest book (spring 2021) Thrivers: Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine.

In this episode, I speak to Dr. Michele Borba, the author of the new book Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine, and the book Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. Dr. Borba is an educational psychologist who blends 40 years of teaching and consulting experience with the latest science and someone with lots of wisdom to share how we can help our kids thrive. She is an award-winning author and parenting child expert recognized for her solution-based strategies to strengthen children's character, resilience and reduce peer cruelty. Michele is a sought-after motivational speaker; she has spoken in 19 countries and served as a consultant to hundreds of schools and corporations.   In this interview, Dr. Borba and I discuss: The difference between striving and thrivingHow to develop self-control and self-confidence Tools to cultivate empathy and compassionThe keys to building resilient kids and much moreConnect with Dr. Michele Borba:Homepage: micheleborba.com/Twitter: twitter.com/micheleborbaInstagram: instagram.com/drmicheleborba/Follow In Search of Wisdom:Homepage: perennialleader.comTwitter: twitter.com/searchofwisdomInstagram: instagram.com/searchofwisdompodcastSign-up for The PATH our free newsletter (short reflections on wisdom). 

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING! Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups: Live and Love with Joyful CourageJoyful Courage for Parents of Teens :::: My guest today is Dr. Michele Borba. Dr. Borba is the author of Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All About Me World, and is an internationally renowned educational psychologist and an expert in parenting, bullying, and character development. She is a regular NBC contributor who appears regularly on Today, and has been a featured expert on Dateline, the View, Dr Phil, NBC Nightly News, Fox and Friends, Dr. Oz, and the Early Show, among many others. She lives in Palm Springs California with her husband and is the mother of three growns sons. Dr. Borba was a guest wayyyy back in 2016 on the podcast, eps 46, and I am thrilled to have her back to talk about her NEW book: Thrivers: the surprising Reasons why some kids struggle and others shine. Takeaways from the show: Nature vs nurture Addressing parenting guilt Helping your teens find coping skills Resilience skills Mental health always comes first Using the “too” phrase to check in on your kids Hitting the covid wall Kids need hobbies Reengaging with your teens What does Joyful Courage mean to you? It means having that brave, brave inner sense to go for it. As soon as I do it I get so excited with myself because it’s like as soon as I get to the other side, there is joy. I love that term. Where to find Dr. Michele Borba: Thrivers the book | Twitter | Instagram See you next week!! :) :::: Minimizing Risky Behavior Workshop Thursday May 20th 5-6:30pm pacific time FREE Join me and other parents as we dig into all of this and more- teen secrets, connection, firmness, and REALLY seeing mistakes as opportunities to learn. REGISTER NOW - we are gathering next Thursday, May 20th, from 5-6:30, but you are going to want to enroll NOW to be sure not to forget and miss the goodness. This is a highly interactive workshop, aiming to land the learning in a powerful way, to ensure you can take it an apply it immediately. The link to register is www.joyfulcourage.com/risky, go claim your spot!! Bring your parenting partner, tell your friends - you will learn a ton AND we are going to have a good time. :::: The Book, The Coaching Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening in every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey. READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!

Dr. Dan interviews bestselling author and TODAY show contributor Michele Borba, Ed. D. to discuss her new book THRIVERS:The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine.   Michele Borba, Ed. D., is the bestselling author of UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About Me World, and is an internationally renowned educational psychologist and an expert in parenting, bullying, and character development who has spoken to over one million participants on five continents. She is a regular NBC contributor who appears regularly on Today and has been featured as an expert on Dateline, The View, Dr. Phil, NBC Nightly News, Fox & Friends, Dr. Oz, and The Early Show, among many others.    As a teacher, educational consultant, and parent for 40 years, Dr. Borba has never been more worried for young people than she is about this current generation of kids.  THRIVERS helps parents and educators teach the essential character strengths kids need to become “thrivers”-- young people who flourish in a rapidly changing, digitally- driven, and uncertain world. Dr. Borba discovered seven essential character strengths that set Thrivers apart (and set them up for happiness and greater accomplishment later in life): Self-confidence, Empathy, Self-control, Integrity, Curiosity, Perseverance, and Optimism. Dr. Borba ends the interview with her incredible and powerful Parent Footprint Moment which will stay with listeners for a long time.   Michele Borba lives in Palm Springs, California, with her husband, and she is the mother of three grown sons. For more information visit:   www.MicheleBorba.com

Dr. Borba is author of 24 books including “Unselfie” - Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me Word. She is launching her new book, “Thrivers” on March 2nd - “The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine.” It includes 7 teachable skills that set happy, healthy, high-performing kids apart.  Dr. Borba is an educational psychologist and TODAY show contributor. She's spoken to over 1 million participants on 5 continents.  On this episode she shares with us that across this nation student mental health is plummeting, depression rates among teens is rising, kids are reporting severe anxiety at ever-younger ages - and the pandemic has only exacerbated this crisis. When Dr. Borba interviewed 100 teens from around the US and asked “tell me about your generation” - most responded with stories of stress, anxiety, isolation and fear. “We're like pretty packages with nothing inside,” one teen said. But some young people aren't struggling; they're thriving. They cope with adversity, develop healthy relationships, and embrace change. They are ready for whatever the world throws at them, even in uncertain times. Dr. Borba calls these kids Thrivers, and the more she studied them, she wondered, What is their secret? And can it be taught to to others? Dr. Borba shares the seven essential character strengths that set Thrivers apart.    Click Here to buy “Thrivers”: https://www.educationalimpactacademy.com/resources   Dr. Borba's website https://www.micheleborba.com/  

Tessa sits with Dr. Michele Borba, author of Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. Dr. Borba shares the 9 tips for raising empathetic kids. You can find more about Dr. Borba at www.micheleborba.com

Assistant Head of School Andrew Bishop and Head of School Roxanne Stansbury are joined by Dr. Mary Choi Kelly in a conversation about instilling empathy in our children. Dr. Kelly is the parent of a current Dawson student and an alumnus and manages MCK Leadership Talent Group, an organization that works with leaders in global companies and diverse industries to help individuals develop courage, drive change, and build culture. Following Dr. Kelly's Parent University presentation on the Empathy Advantage, they elaborate on how empathetic behaviors can help grow our children into more resilient, healthy, and successful adults, and share practical tools for parents. They also reference the book UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World by Michele Borba, Ed.D.

Michele and I dive into the content of her recent book. We discuss the importance of empathy, the research to support it and most importantly, how parents can and MUST cultivate it in childhood.  She has spoken to over a million parents in 43 nations.  A true gem and expert.  Enjoy!    You can find her book here:    UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World.    Coming March 2021: Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine.   Web: micheleborba.com  Instagram: @drmicheleborba  Twitter @micheleborba

Let’s talk about empathy. I feel like I used to be more empathetic, before life got so busy and complicated. And today’s children, growing up in the age of selfies and immediate gratification, are showing a rapid decrease in levels of empathy. But why is empathy so important for our future, and how do we nurture it in our kids? Listen to today’s clip with educational psychologist Michele Borba to better understand empathy and the three best ideas to cultivate it in ourselves and in our homes.  Click here to view the whole talk, and for more info on Michele Borba, visit her website. You can also find her book, UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World, at https://amzn.to/3iKEqfK. I'd love to know what you think, so join in on the conversation! Subscribe, leave a review, or follow PG-ish on Instagram (@pgishparenting), or you can always find me at www.pgishparenting.com.

Stress, anxiety, depression are at an all-time high, and it’s affecting our kids’ health, happiness, and their ability to relate to others. It’s time for an empathy tune-up – for the whole family. Dr. Michele Borba is an educational psychologist, a former school teacher, and an expert in bullying, character development, and child behavior. She’s written 24 best-selling books, including her latest, UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. Dr. Borba joins us to talk about the critical role parents play in teaching empathy to kids, whether they’re 2 or 20. She shares practical ideas for reducing stress and increasing empathy and altruism in our kids, and explains why it can be their greatest competitive advantage. Listen to this episode to learn: -Tips for teaching kids how to hone their emotional literacy (the “gateway to empathy”) and enrich their emotional vocabulary -How to overcome the physical barriers that masks, FaceTime, and social distancing are placing on kids’ ability to connect and communicate with others (make eye contact!) -Navy SEAL-based breathing and relaxation techniques the whole family can practice to work through stressful situations and self-regulate negative emotions -Why hope and optimism are the keys to empathy, with a few inspirational stories of kids doing good deeds during the pandemic -Why our children need a whole lot more of “we got this” For more information, visit https://micheleborba.com

In EPISODE 29, Wayne and Rob talk with internationally renowned educational psychologist, Dr. Michele Borba, author of UNSELFIE: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. They discuss the critical importance of helping children develop empathy, and why developing a healthy sense of empathy is a key predictor of which kids will thrive and succeed in the future.

Empathy is an often underrated trait in the hyper-competitive, achievement-based world that many of our teens are living in. Michele Borba, educational psychologist and author of "UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed," joins Sue and Steph to teach us the value of empathy in the lives of young people.

Interested in positive strategies for happier children, adolescents, and families? Check out Sunshine Parenting Coaching! Show notes & links available here. In this episode, Audrey's guest is Dr. Michele Borba, an educational psychologist, parenting expert, and author of 24 books. Her most recent book is Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. The aim of Dr. Borba's work is to strengthen children's empathy and resilience and break the cycle of youth violence. In this book, she shares her experience meeting kids from all over the world and discovering the unprecedented global epidemic of mental health disorders. Watch Audrey & Michele's chat on video Big Ideas 1 in 3 kids has overwhelming stress levels. As a generation, kids today are lonelier, more risk-averse, and lacking in curiosity. Dr. Borba began to examine the causes and found the lower the income of the kid, the happier the child. Studies found that in the U.S., teens are nosediving in empathy. There was a 40% drop in 30 years, while narcissism and self-absorption were up 58%. Kids today need to develop empathy. Empathy can be cultivated in our youth and doing so will dramatically enhance their success, happiness, and well-being. Here are some ideas: The Two Kind Rule: say or do at least two kind things every day. Check-in with your kids and ask, "What was something kind you did today?" Model kindness and caring. Talk about your values and moral identity. Show and demonstrate kindness in small and simple ways. 9 Essential Habits that Give Kids the Empathy Advantage: Emotional Literacy: Be able to read someone's feelings, to connect with others, talk about feelings. Moral Identity: Feel inside that caring matters and your values inform good choices. Perspective Taking: Feel another person's point of view. Moral Imagination: Share uplifting literature, film, news, and images as a source of inspiration. Self-Regulation: One simple tip is to teach “Belly Breathing.” Practicing Kindness:Look for simple ways for your child to see you extend kindness. Collaboration & Teamwork: Encourage your child to have contact with individuals of different races, cultures, ages, genders, abilities, and beliefs. Moral Courage: Promote moral courage and teaching children situational awareness to embolden them to speak out, step in, and help others. Altruistic Leadership: Don't think about yourself, think about what you can do for others. Four questions to consider: 1. Which empathy habits are you helping your children acquire? 2. Which empathy habits might you be overlooking? 3. Which empathy habits is your school addressing or may be overlooking? 4. Which habit are you interested in nurturing in your children or students? Quotes Michele: "Empathy is teachable. Our kids are hard-wired to care, but we've got to nurture it and the culture is removing it." Michele: "Parenting right now is all about the G.P.A. and the rank and score. So it puts empathy down on a lower level. All we need to do is flip it around because we'll raise more successful, happier kids who are more prepared for life if we do." Audrey: "When you are not feeling good, the best thing you can do is serve other people. Empathy gets you outside of yourself." Michele: "When we look at kids and who their role models are, 20 - 30 years ago it was, I want to be a helper, a doctor, a teacher, a firefighter. Now? Somebody who is rich and famous." Michele: "If we flip our parenting and weave in how we cultivate empathy, and it's doable. It's not another teacher, not another tutor or worksheet--it's simple little things that we can do on a day-to-day basis that will make a major difference in our children's lives." Michele: "You can't have empathy unless you can read somebody else's feelings. That's emotional literacy. Our kids have been looking down, not up. They've been disconnected. So right now, just start talking feelings more because that's the gateway to empathy." Michele: "Kids need to feel inside their heart and soul that I'm a caring person and that matters. So talk about that in your home. 'That's what we stand for, those are our values.' Because your kid will be likely to step in and do the right thing." Michele: "If we keep asking those simple little things, and weave them in, what we start doing is stretching our kids to think 'WE' not 'ME' and that's what helps our kids to be able to fight the stress." Michele: "When stress builds, empathy goes down and burnout comes up. We're now looking at a population of burned out, overwhelmed individuals." Michele: "My challenge to each kid right now is to think of one person who's struggling. It could be a friend, somebody you may not be able to connect with face-to-face, but what's one simple little thing you can do to reach out and help that person? It will not only get your stress level going down, it'll help that person. That's a win-win." Audrey: "During a time of high stress and high anxiety, the best thing we can do is stop thinking so much about our own stress and our own worry and instead think about, 'What can I do?' Little acts of kindness." Michele: "Parents, don't try to do it all. You'll be overwhelmed and your kids won't be so happy." Michele: "Yes, it's important that you get the grade and you study, but it's also important to have balance. Because what you really want is a child who has two things going for them (heart and mind.) That's the kid who's going to be able to handle life well." Audrey: "Parents, remember, talk about it. If it's important to you, make sure your kids know that it is important to you and that you value kindness and empathy." Audrey: "Our identity is so much more powerful than anything else. So if we want our kids, for example, to be healthy, they need to identify themselves as a healthy person who doesn't take things into their body that are bad for them." Audrey: "A lot of communication to kids is, 'Don't do this, don't do that.' It's so much more powerful to say, 'We are kind. We're going to practice kindness.'" Michele: "Words really do matter. Praise can diminish or increase empathy. One of the simplest things to do is catch your kid with any kind of character trait and use the word 'because' in your praise: 'That was being kind because you held the door open for grandma. Did you see how happy she was?'" Michele: "When kids see the impact of a gesture, they're more likely to repeat the gesture until they become that kindhearted kid. Just tuning up our praise the right way can make a difference." Audrey: "Let's take this time to think more about our family's values and use it as a kind of reset...There are simple things we can do right now to come out of this better, kinder people." Michele: "All of these habits, you weave them in. It's kind of like this little scaffolding trajectory. You start when they're little and you keep on going even when they're out of the house. And what you end up with is habit nine--the altruistic kid who wants to make a difference in the world. That's what our world needs right now. The kid who thinks 'WE,' because we get through stuff together, not alone." Audrey: "It's never too late to start this--or too early--and nd it will lift everybody up. We need more people bringing positive changes to the world. What this world needs is people who care and people who are looking out for each other." Resources  Dr. Michele Borba 7 Ways to Teach Perspective Taking and Stretch Children’s Empathy Muscles Empathy Is a Verb: My TEDx Talk to Start An UnSelfie Revolution The Altruistic Personality by Samuel P. Oliner Related 5 Ways to Encourage Empathy in Kids Ep. 124: Promoting Mental Health with Dr. Jess Shatkin 30 Days of Kindness Is Kindness the Secret to a Successful Life? 10 Friendship Skills Every Kid Needs One Simple Thing What are the "little things" that bring you delight? Make a short list, and encourage your kids, your partner, and your friends to do the same. When you take time to create your list, you'll realize how many of the little things you enjoy don't cost anything and can be done even when you're stuck at home. Learning to Enjoy the Little Things My Favorite It all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.-Bronnie Ware Bronnie Ware's post, "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying." Here are the five regrets Ware lists in the post and covers in her book by the same name (which I haven't read). 1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. 3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. Ep. 75: Begin with the (Parenting) End in Mind Listener Question This week's listener question came in via email. If you have a question you'd like me to cover on a future episode of the podcast, email me or record a voice message! Hi there, I listen to your podcast and joined your discussion of homeschooling a few weeks ago. I was wondering if you think sleep away camps and day camps will happen this summer. I'd love to hear parents and camp directors on this topic. I'm so eager to have my kids have a "normal" summer but it's feeling more and more likely that they won't. I'd love advice on this topic. Thank you, Laura Hi Laura, I really don't know what's going to happen this summer with camps. All camps will hopefully have more guidance soon, as the American Camp Association and CDC are coming up with guidelines. In following what other camps are doing, some have already decided not to operate this summer, some are modifying sessions and starting later or with smaller groups, and some are planning to operate their regular sessions. The majority (including mine) are waiting to make decisions until we get more guidance from authorities and see what's happening with the Coronavirus. So much depends on what happens with the pandemic and when states allow larger gatherings. So... I'm sorry I can't be more helpful. If your kids have a camp they attend, you could contact them directly and see what they're planning. A "normal" summer would be so nice right about now! Take Care, Audrey

Drawing on ancient teachings about parenting, Maria and Sheila embark on a conversation about how to raise this modern generation of children with resilience and empathy.   "Recognize the inner realities.  If you try to make your children good, you will make them and yourself miserable; show them you believe in their natural goodness and all will be blessed.  If you try to make them honor you, you will create instead resentment and dishonesty; instead, honor yourself and them, and all will be happy.  If you try to make them successful, you will perpetuate their misery of endless desires; instead, enjoy the simple life and all will find contentment.  You do not have to recognize the outward niceties, you have to recognize the inward realities.  You do not have to make things turn out well, you have to realize that all is well." - William Martin, The Parent's Tao Te Ching: A New Interpretation, Ancient Advice for Modern Parents   When we bring to our parenting an underlying calm and knowing that all is well, we can address modern issues and better prepare our children to navigate the challenges and struggles of life with inner strength and inner peace.   "Be a model of honesty.  If you want to become a wise parent, you must be prepared to appear foolish.  You must be willing to say, "why should I chase this way and that?  Always grasping and always running?"  Unless you stop following the crowd, how can your children be free?  To teach your children strength, you must be prepared to appear weak.  You must renounce admission and struggle and embrace serenity and peace.  You must confess your faults and embrace your failures.  You must face yourself with honesty and find the truth of your nature." - William Martin, The Parent's Tao Te Ching: A New Interpretation, Ancient Advice for Modern Parents   Resources From This Episode: William Martin, The Parent's Tao Te Ching: A New Interpretation, Ancient Advice for Modern Parents: https://www.spiritualityandpractice.com/books/reviews/view/16160 Michelle Borba, Ed.D., UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in this All-About-Me World: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/UnSelfie/Michele-Borba/9781501110078 Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult Frances E. Jensen and Amy Ellis Nutt, The Teenage Brain: https://www.harpercollins.com/9780062067869/the-teenage-brain/ Project Empathy: https://www.projectempathyvr.com/  

This bonus episode is dedicated in celebration of the anniversary when Jessica Cabeen and her family welcomed their son Isiah home from Ethiopia on December 23rd. In this amplified story, you will hear how Jessica experienced depression when the process for adoption had stalled out, but how she also rose out of it and into the calling of being an adoptive parent. She shares the reality of what she calls "after the airport" in parenting an adopted child, and she inspires us with the grace and perseverance she and her husband show in raising their boys. You will not want to miss Jessica's awe inspiring interview. Find Jessica on Twitter @JessicaCabeen or her website https://jessicacabeen.com/. Awe Inspiring Recommendations: Brene Brown and Dare to Lead: https://brenebrown.com/ Rachel Hollis: https://thechicsite.com/ Jen Hatmaker: http://jenhatmaker.com/ Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in an All-About-Me World: https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=michelle+borba --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/inawepodcast/message

Our guest says that today's students are smart and self-assured, but they are also the most self-centered, competitive, individualistic, sad and stressed on record. Her solution is teaching empathy and in this episode, she offers a nine-point model teaching empathy in our schools. Follow: @ASCD @MonicaNeagoy @KyleHamstra @bamradionetwork Michele Borba is an educational psychologist, former teacher, and international speaker to educators and parents. She is the bestselling author of 24 books, including UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. Host Anthony Rebora is the Editor in Chief of Education Leadership.

How do Sacred Heart's School Counselors ensure that each child's mind, body and heart are growing? What goes into their day-to-day work? What is the full scope of their services when helping the entire student body from struggling to accelerating students? We discuss this and more with our school counselors. Upcoming Event: Michele Borba - "UNSELFIE: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About Me World" April 25 and 26. See more info here: https://www.shschicago.org/sacred-heart-schools/parents/parent-education Sacred Heart is proud to provide Parent Education events to support our parent population as their children grow. As mentioned in this podcast, Michele Borba will be joining us for our next Parent Education event and all parents are encouraged to attend. This podcast features Elizabeth Wilton, K-2 School Counselor, Laura Sloman, Lower School Counselor, and Sue Heybach, High School Placement and Middle School Counselor.

The MYTH OF THE ADHD CHILD by Dr. Thomas Armstrong who is a strong objector to the controversial ADD/ADHD diagnosis. Here are some topics, he will be discussing: Why Medicating Kids to Make Them Behave is Not a Very Good Idea Reason #1 for America’s ADHD Epidemic: We Don’t Let Kids Be Kids Anymore – ADHD presents a question of brain maturation, not a neurological disorder, so a child’s age relative to their classroom plays largely into the ADHD diagnosis. At the same time, we’re expecting children to do things they are not developmentally ready for. Reason #3 for America’s ADHD Epidemic: We Disempower Our Kids at School – Boring classrooms may be causing ADHD symptoms and thus fueling the sale of “bad schooling practices adaptation drugs.” Reason #7: Too Many People Have a Vested Economic Interest in Seeing It Continue – Dr. Armstrong takes a look at some of the underlying relationships and complex financial forces at work to feed the ADHD diagnosis. Strategy #1: Let Your Child Fidget – schools are beginning to recognize the benefits of fidgeting and are building it into the school day. Forget fidget spinners! Try everyday objects like a tennis ball, clay, pipe cleaners, or a string of beads that a child can safely and quietly manipulate while they work. October is often recognized as ADHD Awareness Month! "At a time when ADHD and the medications used to treat it are growing by leaps and bounds, Thomas Armstrong asks parents to think critically about the ADHD diagnosis, to value the uniqueness of their children’s different rhythms of learning, attending, and behaving, and to appreciate and use the wide range of non-drug strategies that are out there to help their kids prosper in school and flourish in life." - Michele Borba, Ed.D., author of The Big Book of Parenting Solutions, Building Moral Intelligence, and UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World "Thomas Armstrong, author of a pioneering series of books on neurodiversity, offers practical alternatives for parents who want to enable their ADHD-diagnosed children to tap the natural strengths of their atypical minds, manage stress, and express their creative intelligence without relying solely on medication. An inspiring guide to helping your kids live up to their fullest potential."- Steve Silberman, author of NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity

In a world where kids prefer texting over talking, are they learning the skills to succeed in life? Todd and Evan talk with Michele Borba, award-winning author of 22 parenting and educational books including UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About- Me World. Dr. Borba says teens are 40 percent less empathetic than 30 years ago. This hurts their ability to collaborate, innovate, and solve problems. In this episode, learn how parents can cultivate empathy in their children. You can find out more about Michele at www.micheleborba.com and following her @micheleborba.

Fresh from her latest appearance on NBC's "Today" show, internationally recognized author, speaker and educator, Michele Borba, Ed.D, joins our BCB podcast by Skype to describe the upcoming talk she will be giving to parents of teens. Her speaking event will be at the Commons of Bainbridge High School on Wednesday Nov 9th at 7:30pm -- the evening after election day. The event is brought to you by the local Raising Resilience organization, and co-sponsored by the Bainbridge Island Healthy Youth Alliance. Michele Borba's latest book is called "Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in an All-About-Me World," which is available locally at Eagle Harbor Books. The topic of encouraging our kids to learn and practice empathy will be a significant part of her talk. That talk is a major event in the Healthy Youth Alliance's 8-month educational campaign called "Beyond the Report Card: Cultivating What Matters", which is designed for local parents and other adults who care about teens. That campaign just started and it's not too late to participate at the Healthy Youth website. In this 13 minute podcast, Michele explains that empathy is a trait that any of us, and certainly teens, can learn and practice. As she says, empathy isn't "just for girls", and it isn't something that you're either born with ... or not. Hosting this interview is local BCB volunteer Christina Hulet, herself a mother of two children, and Healthy Youth Alliance director Cezanne Allen MD. Cezanne explains the Healthy Youth Alliance's current 8-month offering of events and readings that are designed to enable busy adults to learn effective ways of helping teens advance beyond the anxieties and pressures of their lives. Learn more about the Healthy Youth Alliance 8-month learning campaign at You're welcome to download free copies of her "Unselfie" discussion guide for parents, and her discussion guide for educators, at the BCB web page for this podcast. Credits: BCB host: Christina Hulet; BCB audio editor and social media publisher: Barry Peters.

Kathryn interviews educational psychologist and character expert Michele Borba EdD about her book “UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World”. Parents want to raise empathetic, kind, compassionate children who will go on to achieve great success and enjoy true happiness. But why do studies find that kids today are 40% less empathetic than they were thirty years ago? Dr. Borba is a regular NBC TODAY contributor and is featured on CNN, Dr. Phil, Dateline, NBC Nightly News, and Dr. Oz. Kathryn also interviews University of Missouri doctoral candidate Karen Traylor-Adolph about the dynamics of grandfamilies and raising kinship children. More than 2.2 million children are being raised by their grandparents, other relatives or loved ones. Added financial strains caused by this living arrangement and subsequent legal issues create challenges and often push these “grandfamilies” into poverty.

Kathryn interviews educational psychologist and character expert Michele Borba EdD about her book “UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World”. Parents want to raise empathetic, kind, compassionate children who will go on to achieve great success and enjoy true happiness. But why do studies find that kids today are 40% less empathetic than they were thirty years ago? Dr. Borba is a regular NBC TODAY contributor and is featured on CNN, Dr. Phil, Dateline, NBC Nightly News, and Dr. Oz. Kathryn also interviews University of Missouri doctoral candidate Karen Traylor-Adolph about the dynamics of grandfamilies and raising kinship children. More than 2.2 million children are being raised by their grandparents, other relatives or loved ones. Added financial strains caused by this living arrangement and subsequent legal issues create challenges and often push these “grandfamilies” into poverty.

Welcome! My guest today is Dr. Michele Borba, a globally-recognized educational psychologist and parenting, bullying, and character expert. Her aim is to strengthen children's empathy and resilience to break the cycle of youth violence. She has delivered keynotes and workshops to over 1 million participants on 5 continents and authored 24 books translated into 14 languages. Her latest book is out on June 7, and is titled Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. Parents and educators will benefit greatly from Dr. Borba's wisdom and insights. Join us! What you'll hear in this episode: Michele has experience as a special education teacher and working on school shooting prevention and bullying prevention programs. Much of the world's violence narrows down to the primary need of empathy. What is empathy? The ability to “feel” with someone, to step in and understand where another person is coming from. Empathy has emotional and cognitive components. In researching her book, Michele learned from Holocaust rescuers that empathy was modeled for them by their parents, so it was natural for them to care about helping others. In the last 30 years, empathy in children has dropped by 40%, while narcissism has increased by 58%. Michele explains “The Selfie Syndrome” and how it kills empathy. Michele shares the following about learning empathy: It's a “womb-to-tomb” scenario, so you can start learning at any age. Children are hard-wired for empathy at birth. Infants go through the first step of empathy when they attach to their mothers. Around age 1, emotional literacy begins when a child understands another's clues to sadness or hurt. The problem today is that children are learning to tune in to digital devices and not to each other. #1 Tip: Teach your child to look at the color of the eyes of the person speaking to learn to “tune in.” Michele's book teaches activities to cultivate empathy, to listen better, and to stand up to a bully. How to teach children the A, B, C's of recognizing stress The “empathy gap” of overwhelmed kids Many “self-regulation” techniques are recommended in the book. Why we MUST teach coping strategies to our kids! How to teach them to take care of someone else's heart Why saying “I'm sorry” is NOT the best option Michele gives some baby steps that parents can take as a starting point to increase empathy in their kids. “Think Big, Start Small”---choose ONE thing to do Michele has “Bully Buster” techniques and skills in the book. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Joyful Courage is the most wonderful concept you can imagine. Having courage brings real joy. We need to build kids from the inside out. It's the real miracle point of your heart opening to another.” Resources: www.commonsensemedia.org www.micheleborba.com Find Dr. Borba on Facebook and Twitter and find her books on Amazon.com.