The Dude Therapist

Why do high achievers often struggle in relationships? It's not about success—it's about unresolved emotional patterns.In this episode of The Dude Therapist, licensed psychologist Dr. Sarah Schewitz, founder of Couples Learn, breaks down why high-achieving individuals often bring attachment wounds, emotional avoidance, and miscommunication into their relationships.We dive deep into how therapy, self-awareness, and co-regulation can transform the way high performers love and connect.

If you've ever felt like your child is carrying the weight of the world or maybe just your own stress, you're not alone. And this episode is precisely what you need.Eli Weinstein sits down with powerhouse parenting coaches and psychotherapists Maria Evans and Ashley Graber, authors of the groundbreaking new book, Raising Calm Kids in a World of Worry. These two have trained over 8,000 mental health professionals and worked with families across the globe, and now they're breaking it all down for you.This isn't your typical “just breathe and stay positive” advice. We're talking fundamental tools for real parents dealing with real chaos.

In this powerful episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Olympic boxer Ginny Fuchs to unpack her incredible journey through the ring and her mind. From Houston to the Olympics, Ginny has not only faced opponents in the ring but also wrestled with OCD, anxiety, and anorexia behind the scenes. She opens up about the emotional and mental toll of being an elite athlete, the evolution of women's roles in boxing, and how she's using her platform to break stigma and inspire strength beyond the sport.Ginny shares raw insights on navigating the relentless pressure for perfection, the challenges of disrupted routines, and how she's learning to balance fierce ambition with deep vulnerability. Whether you're an athlete, a parent of a child with OCD, or someone striving to live authentically, you'll find courage, connection, and inspiration in Ginny's story.What You'll Learn:How Ginny transitioned from long-distance running to boxing—and found her true passionThe hidden toll of mental health struggles in elite sportsWhy OCD is more than just a “clean freak” stereotypeHow anorexia and OCD intertwined in Ginny's journeyThe reality of maintaining mental health while traveling as a pro athleteDating, routines, and relationships in the life of an Olympic contenderWhy vulnerability is Ginny's greatest strength and how it deepened her connectionsPractical advice for parents supporting kids with OCDHow Ginny's aiming for world championship glory while staying grounded in her valuesConnect with Ginny Fuchs:

In this powerful episode, Eli sits down with Carrie Berk, an NYC-based journalist, content creator, and bestselling author, to explore her personal journey with anxiety and OCD. Carrie opens up about the inspiration behind her book Mindfire and how she's helping young adults feel seen, understood, and less alone in their mental health struggles.With a career that started at just eight years old, Carrie has written 21 books, including My Real-Life Rom-Com, a Barnes & Noble bestseller and Amazon chart-topper. Her work has been featured in the New York Post, HuffPost, Women's Health, and Newsweek. She's also built a massive digital presence, with over 3.8 million followers on TikTok and nearly a million on Instagram.In this conversation, Carrie gets real about therapy, coping strategies, and the power of sharing your story. Whether you're dealing with anxiety or supporting someone who is, this episode is a reminder that healing doesn't mean perfection and community is everything.Follow Carrie on social @carrieberkk

In this powerful and candid episode, Eli sits down with Dr. Kate Balestrieri—clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author of What Happened to My Sex Life?—to explore the often misunderstood terrain of intimacy, desire, and sexual satisfaction in modern relationships.you'reTogether, they unpack everything from emotional labor and betrayal to the myths that still dominate conversations about sex. Dr. Kate shares why pleasure is a human right, how sexual entitlement erodes intimacy, and why sex is rarely just about sex. Whether you're navigating a dry spell, rebuilding after betrayal, or just trying to better understand your partner's needs, this conversation is your no-BS roadmap to reconnecting—physically and emotionally.We also get into how parents can better prepare their kids for healthy sexuality, why social media has a complicated connection, and what therapists need to know before wading into sex talk with clients.one'swho's "isn'tThisone'swho's"one'swho's"isn'tThis one's for anyone who's ever asked, “Why isn't our sex life what it used to be?"—and is ready for answers that go deeper than surface-level advice.Key Takeaways:Sex ebbs and flows—and that's normal.Communication, not spontaneity, is the real foreplay.Betrayal recovery is possible, but it requires ownership and intention.There's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to fidelity or sexual norms.Emotional and domestic labor deeply impact desire.Parents have a powerful role in shaping healthy sex education.Pleasure is not selfish—it's self-care and resistance.Stop shaming your partner's desires. Start talking about them.About Our Guest:Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical and forensic psychologist, certified sex therapist, and founder of Modern Intimacy, a therapy practice focused on relational and sexual wellness. She's the author of What Happened to My Sex Life? and host of Get Naked with Dr. Kate. Dr. Kate is passionate about helping people move from pain to thriving, and she's here to make conversations about sex less taboo and more transformational.Resources & Links:

What if settling isn't giving up—but leaning into what actually serves you?In this episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli sits down with Case Kenny—author, mindfulness mentor, and host of the hit podcast New Mindset, Who Dis?—for a no-fluff, eye-opening conversation on redefining love, vulnerability, and the art of staying true to yourself in a world that's always trying to shape you.Together, they dive into:Why hope isn't wishful thinking—it's a practice.How journaling and writing can cut through the noise of self-doubt.Why your partner should amplify your happiness, not be the source of it.The truth about being single (hint: it's not a waiting room for love).Why settling isn't about lowering the bar—it's about knowing what actually matters.Case unpacks the power of language, habit, and reflection in building a mindful, confident life—and offers practical tools for showing up authentically in both relationships and solitude. If you've ever questioned if you're too much, not enough, or stuck in the wrong chapter—this one's for you.

In this powerful episode, we sit down with Adam Woolard—a former banker turned holistic health advocate—who opens up about his transformative path from the world of finance to functional medicine. Adam shares how understanding your body through blood work and proactive care can radically shift your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.He gets real about the challenges of public relationships, the beauty of vulnerability, and how therapy has shaped his personal growth. With wisdom rooted in both experience and his role at Blokes/Joi, Adam reminds us why community matters, why routines are underrated, and how change is always possible—both in your relationships and your health.Key Takeaways:You can't pour from an empty cup—prioritize your wellness first.Information is power, especially when it comes to your health.Nothing is set in stone—growth is always an option.Physical health and mental health are deeply connected.Vulnerability isn't weakness—it's the way forward.We thrive in community—don't go it alone.Whether you're deep into your health journey or just starting out, this episode will leave you inspired to take control, lean into connection, and fill your cup—so you can pour into others.

Can someone seem totally fine — successful, social, high-achieving — and still be deeply struggling? Absolutely. In this eye-opening episode, psychiatrist Dr. Judith Joseph breaks down the concept of high functioning depression — a condition that often flies under the radar but affects so many people.We talk about why this kind of depression is so often dismissed, and how societal pressure pushes people to keep going, even when they're hurting inside. Dr. Joseph shares practical tools to spot the signs early, prioritize your mental health before it becomes a crisis, and create more joy in your daily life.She also dives into what it means to understand your own unique mental health makeup — and how doing so can lead to real, lasting change.

Join us for a deeply inspiring conversation with Dr. Samantha Harte, best-selling author of Breaking the Circuit: How to Rewire Your Mind for Hope, Resilience, and Joy in the Face of Trauma, a physical therapist, performing artist, and sober mom of two. Dr. Harte courageously shares her transformative journey from battling addiction and processing the heartbreaking loss of her sister to becoming a powerful advocate for emotional and spiritual wellness.In this heartfelt episode, we explore how pain can ignite profound personal growth, why spiritual wellness is just as vital as physical health, and the essential role self-forgiveness plays in recovery and healing. Dr. Harte opens up about the challenges and rewards of confronting her trauma through writing, emphasizing the importance of joyful, honest conversations, and trusting your intuition along the way.You'll discover:How to balance emotional healing with practical self-care.Strategies for rewiring your self-talk toward compassion.Why spiritual tools are essential for overcoming life's greatest challenges.Ways to navigate shame and identity collapse during recovery.The incredible power of transforming your pain into purpose.This episode will leave you motivated and inspired to embrace your own journey of self-discovery and healing!

In this dynamic episode, Tyler Moore, bestselling author and the brilliant mind behind Tidy Dad, dives deep into the art of balancing organization, parenting, and relationships. From overcoming the myths about perfection to empowering your kids through responsibility, Tyler shares practical tips for creating clarity amidst chaos. Discover how simple routines, effective communication, and shared responsibilities can reduce overwhelm and boost family harmony.Episode Highlights:Tyler's personal journey to tidiness and control.Communication hacks to share household responsibilities effectively.How decluttering reduces decision fatigue and boosts family joy.Embracing children's messes as part of joyful exploration.Practical routines and tips for maintaining everyday organization.Ready to simplify your life? Tune in!

In this powerful episode of The Dude Therapist, host Eli Weinstein sits down with Dr. Audra Horney, a licensed psychologist specializing in men's mental health, to break down the barriers that keep men from seeking therapy. They dive into the stigma surrounding vulnerability, the unique challenges men face in expressing emotions, and how social media is changing the conversation on mental health.Dr. Audra shares her journey into men's therapy, the importance of safe spaces for men, and how therapists can better support male clients. Whether you're a man struggling with isolation, a loved one trying to help, or a therapist looking to improve your approach, this episode is packed with insights and actionable advice.Key Takeaways:✔ Men face intense stigma around seeking therapy.✔ Social media is helping normalize mental health conversations.✔ Many men rely on coping mechanisms that eventually stop working.✔ A strengths-based approach resonates with male clients.✔ Safe spaces for men to express vulnerability are essential.✔ The mental health field needs more male representation and understanding.Dr. Audra is on a mission to validate and normalize men's mental health struggles, both in her private practice and online community. Don't miss this conversation that challenges outdated norms and offers real solutions.

Feeding kids can feel like a daily battle—but what if it didn't have to be?

What happens when you realize the people who raised you are the ones holding you back? In this powerful episode, we sit down with Josh Connolly, Amazon bestselling author of It's Them, Not You: How to Break Free from Toxic Parents and Reclaim Your Story. As one of the UK's leading mental health advocates, Josh has helped thousands unpack the weight of toxic family dynamics, reclaim their personal power, and heal from past trauma.We dive deep into:

Are we over-labeling kids, or are we just more aware? In this episode of The Dude Therapist, I sit down with Dr. Katie Davis, a clinical neuropsychologist, professor, and researcher, to unpack the complex realities of ADHD, neurodivergence, and the growing culture of overdiagnosis.We dive deep into:

Parenting is a wild ride—full ofjoys, challenges, and a whole lot of questions.

What if movement was the missing piece in emotional well-being?

In this episode, Eli Weinstein sits down with Dr. Robert Glover, the renowned author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, to explore the complexities of modern masculinity. Dr. Glover shares insights from his personal journey, how cultural influences shape male identity, and the struggles many men face in relationships, work, and personal growth. They discuss:✅ The ‘Nice Guy Syndrome'—why men struggle with people-pleasing and self-sabotage.✅ The evolving definition of masculinity and how men can embrace both strength and vulnerability.✅ The role of women in male development and the importance of polarity in relationships.✅ How modern boys are raised to suppress their masculine energy—and what that means for future generations.✅ The necessity of masculine initiation, safe spaces for emotional expression, and building strong male connections. If you've ever questioned what it means to be a man in today's world, this conversation is for you. Dr. Glover provides a roadmap for men to break free from outdated conditioning, embrace their authentic selves, and cultivate deeper relationships.

In this thought-provoking episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with the multitalented Jonah Platt to explore the evolving narrative of Jewish identity and the power of activism. Jonah dives into his personal journey of embracing Jewishness, the complexities of advocating in Hollywood, and how recent events have ignited a renewed sense of Jewish pride. This episode explores what it means to celebrate identity in the face of adversity, from tradition and family to the importance of respectful dialogue. Jonah also shares wisdom for young activists, highlights the importance of education and community support, and offers a glimpse into the future of Jewish advocacy. Key Takeaways: Judaism is about more than religion; it's about family and tradition. Activism can spark newfound pride and strength in identity. Respectful dialogue fosters understanding, even amidst differences. It's okay to block negativity online—protect your mental health. Embracing and celebrating who you are leads to empowerment. Community and education are vital for strengthening identity and advocacy. Jonah Platt, host of the new podcast Being Jewish with Jonah Platt, is a trusted voice in modern Jewish advocacy and culture. With a career that has spanned Broadway (Wicked), Hollywood (Being the Ricardos), and beyond, Jonah brings authenticity and insight to the ongoing conversation about Jewish identity. Tune in for inspiration, insight, and actionable advice on embracing who you are and standing tall in advocacy. Don't miss this empowering discussion! Resources Mentioned: Jonah's new podcast: Being Jewish with Jonah Platt Recommended readings on Jewish identity and activism Follow Jonah Platt on social media for updates and insights

In this transformative episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with the ever-inspiring mindfulness coach Michael Galyon to uncover the secrets to finding calm amidst the chaos of modern life. Known as a compassionate guide and nurturing presence to his clients and over a million social media followers, Michael shares his profound journey into mindfulness and how it has shaped his life and work. Together, Eli and Michael explore:✨ The difference between mindfulness and presence – and why both matter.✨ Practical strategies to weave mindfulness into the fabric of everyday life, especially for parents.✨ How forgiveness and self-care can serve as anchors in turbulent times.✨ The rising tide of anxiety in today's world – and how mindfulness offers a lifeboat.✨ Michael's writing process and the lessons it teaches about understanding personal needs and creating balance. Michael Galyon's heartfelt insights and relatable approach will inspire you to pause, breathe, and embrace a more connected and peaceful life. Whether you're a mindfulness novice or a seasoned practitioner, this episode is packed with tools to help you cultivate calm and navigate life's challenges with grace.

In this powerful episode, Eli Weinstein sits down with dynamic entrepreneur and top-rated dating coach Sabrina Zohar, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, to explore the complexities of modern relationships. With her signature no-nonsense style, Sabrina shares her personal journey from the fashion industry to becoming a leading voice in dating and relationship coaching. Together, Eli and Sabrina dive deep into the role of anxiety, attachment styles, and therapy in fostering self-worth and emotional growth. They unpack how social media and online dating can skew expectations, offering actionable strategies for building genuine connections in today's fast-paced world. Expect expert-backed advice, relatable stories, and transformative insights designed to help you navigate love with confidence and clarity. Key Takeaways:

What makes relationships thrive in today's ever-evolving world? In this illuminating episode, Eli Weinstein sits down with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a globally recognized expert in relationships and Relational Self-Awareness. Together, they explore how self-awareness, communication, and vulnerability shape lasting connections. From navigating conflict to embracing small, everyday moments of intimacy, Dr. Solomon shares practical strategies rooted in cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or simply curious about modern love, this conversation will leave you inspired and equipped with tools to deepen your relationships. Key Takeaways:

In this transformative episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Moshe Gersht—Wall Street Journal and USA Today bestselling author, international speaker, spiritual teacher, and modern mystic. Known for his profound insights and soulful wisdom, Moshe weaves together the mystical traditions of the Torah with the universal truths of the human mind. Drawing from his TEDx talk on unconditional happiness and his groundbreaking book The Three Conditions, Moshe shares practical and profound ways to align with joy, find clarity in uncertainty, and embrace personal growth. Together, Eli and Moshe explore the deep work of self-discovery and the incredible power of shining your unique light in a complicated world. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why joy is our natural state—and how to uncover it. The life-changing impact of “aha” moments on our perspectives. How accountability can empower you and spark real growth. Practical ways to cultivate certainty in an uncertain world. The ongoing, transformative journey of self-discovery. Why cutting away what isn't true to yourself leads to authentic joy. A hopeful perspective on humanity's progress, even in challenging times. The truth about fighting hate: only love can overcome it. How finding quiet within unlocks clarity, peace, and happiness. The ripple effect of shining your light and inspiring others to do the same. Tune in for an inspiring and heart-centered conversation that will leave you feeling uplifted, aligned, and ready to embrace the beauty of your journey. Links and Resources: Connect with Moshe Gersht: Website | Instagram Learn more about The Three Conditions and other books: Books Follow Eli Weinstein: Instagram Subscribe to The Dude Therapist: Apple Podcasts | Spotify Don't forget to rate, review, and share this episode with someone who needs a reminder of their inner light! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this powerful episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Karden Rabin, a nervous system medicine practitioner and trauma expert, to explore the profound connection between the nervous system, trauma, and emotional awareness. Together, they dive into the science and art of somatic healing, offering a fresh perspective on chronic pain, emotional regulation, and the mind-body relationship. Karden shares his transformative journey into somatic therapies, emphasizing the importance of understanding and responding to the body's signals. They discuss practical tools like the AIR approach (Awareness, Interruption, Redesign) and the concept of "emotional cold plunging" as a method for confronting and processing difficult emotions. Whether you're dealing with chronic pain, navigating trauma, or simply seeking a deeper connection with your body, this episode is packed with insights and techniques to support your healing journey. About Karden Rabin:Karden is a leading expert in nervous system medicine and psychophysiological disorders, combining bodywork, brain retraining, and somatic trauma therapies to help thousands of clients worldwide. As Co-Founder of SOMIA and a regular contributor to Bessel Van Der Kolk's Trauma Research Foundation, Karden brings a wealth of experience from working with organizations like The Wounded Warrior Project, Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, and Starbucks. Key Takeaways: Emotional awareness is crucial for understanding overall health. The nervous system plays a central role in chronic pain and trauma. Healing requires addressing both the mind and body in an integrated way. Somatic work focuses on listening to and responding to the body's signals. Cathartic experiences may bring temporary relief but aren't always effective. Emotional cold plunging is a tool for safely confronting difficult emotions. The AIR approach (Awareness, Interruption, Redesign) provides a practical framework for change. Healing is a relational process with the body, requiring patience and connection. Why You Should Listen:This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of how trauma and emotions impact the body. Whether you're a therapist, someone managing chronic pain, or simply curious about the mind-body connection, Eli and Karden offer actionable insights and relatable wisdom to inspire your healing journey. Links & Resources: Connect with Karden Rabin: Website | Instagram Learn more about SOMIA: Website Follow Eli Weinstein: Instagram | TikTok More episodes of The Dude Therapist: Website Tune in and start a new kind of conversation—with your body, mind, and emotions. Listen now! 

In this enlightening episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein is joined by the incredible duo, Joree Rose, LMFT, and Dr. John Schinnerer. As partners in both life and love, Joree and John have dedicated over five years to guiding couples toward deeper, more fulfilling relationships. Their expertise shines as they share insights from their groundbreaking work in couples therapy and their podcast, Love Isn't Enough. Together, they discuss the transformative power of couples work, emphasizing that while love is a foundation, it's not always sufficient to sustain a healthy, lasting partnership. They delve into the critical importance of individual growth within relationships and how understanding core wounds and triggers can lead to more empathetic and connected interactions. You'll hear about the impact of societal expectations around masculinity on emotional regulation and why cultivating self-awareness is crucial for both partners. Joree and John also reveal practical strategies, such as non-defensive listening, the power of weekly check-ins, and techniques to break cycles of conflict. Plus, they introduce their innovative year-long Master Class series, which focuses on the 12 key areas affecting couples' connections, along with their unique and highly effective couples therapy model. What makes their approach stand out is the humility and vulnerability they bring by sharing their own relationship challenges—and how they've grown stronger through them. Whether you're in a relationship or working to better understand your partner, this episode is packed with wisdom, actionable advice, and heartfelt moments that will leave you inspired to invest in the connection you share. Resources Mentioned: Learn more about Joree and John's work and their Master Class series at www.loveisntenough.net Follow their podcast, Love Isn't Enough, for more relationship insights Connect with Eli: Follow Eli Weinstein on Instagram, TikTok, and Threads Visit The Dude Therapist for more episodes on mental health, relationships, and personal growth Tune in and discover why love, while essential, truly isn't enough—and what you can do to build a thriving relationship beyond it! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this thought-provoking episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Dr. Sara Kuburic, better known as The Millennial Therapist, for a deep dive into the complexities of mental health and self-discovery. As an existential psychotherapist, Dr. Kuburic opens up about her journey and the powerful lessons she's learned along the way. Together, Eli and Dr. Kuburic tackle some of the most pressing issues of our time, such as the impact of labels on our identity, the balancing act between freedom and anxiety, and the delicate interplay between religion and personal meaning. They also shed light on how social media shapes our mental health landscape and the necessity of being real in a world full of filters. Dr. Kuburic emphasizes the importance of taking personal responsibility in our relationships and shares the hard truths about what it means to live authentically. Whether you're looking to better understand your sense of self, improve your relationships, or simply reflect on your own journey, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical takeaways. Don't miss this chance to explore the true essence of self-discovery with one of today's leading voices in existential therapy. Plus, learn about Dr. Kuburic's debut book, It's On Me, a must-read guide to recovering from self-loss and living a meaningful, authentic life. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Jessie Gold takes us on a journey into the heart of mental health care—where the personal meets the professional. As the first Chief Wellness Officer for the University of Tennessee System, overseeing five campuses and over 62,000 students, Dr. Gold is no stranger to the pressures faced by healthcare professionals. She's also an acclaimed psychiatrist, professor, speaker, and author of "How Do You Feel," a book that unpacks the emotional reality and humanity behind healthcare. Key Highlights: Self-Disclosure in Therapy: Dr. Gold opens up about how sharing her own experiences enhances therapeutic relationships. Burnout & Compassion Fatigue: Discover the signs and effects of burnout, plus the emotional cost that mental health professionals often pay. Big Feelings Matter: Why suppressing emotions can be detrimental and how validating feelings is essential for everyone, therapists included. Therapists Need Therapy Too: Dr. Gold emphasizes the importance of mental health support for those in caregiving roles. Writing from the Heart: Her book "How Do You Feel" highlights the often-overlooked emotional needs of healthcare workers and the importance of self-care in the profession. Whether you're a healthcare worker, mental health advocate, or someone passionate about authenticity and self-care, this episode will leave you with valuable insights and a fresh perspective on mental health. Dr. Gold's words remind us that everyone, even the caretakers, deserves care and compassion. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this compelling episode, we're joined by Dr. Sheila Nazarian, a highly acclaimed plastic surgeon, successful entrepreneur, renowned television personality, and dynamic activist. Beyond founding her private plastic surgery practice, Dr. Nazarian launched multiple ventures, including NazarianSkin, The Skin Spot e-commerce site, Nazarian Plastic Surgery, Spa26, and Physique26 Weight Management Program. She's been featured on popular platforms like Counsel Culture with Nick Cannon, E! News, The Doctors, Fox News, NewsNation, and the Emmy-nominated Netflix series Skin Decision: Before and After. Dr. Nazarian brings her courageous voice and unwavering commitment to advocating for Jewish identity, anti-Semitism awareness, and empowering the next generation. Tune in for insights on: Embracing Jewish identity in today's climate Transforming personal experience into impactful activism Facing fear to mobilize action and truth Preparing the next generation to stand up for their beliefs The role of community, personal safety, and shared responsibility Follow Dr. Nazarian's advocacy journey on Instagram @drsheilanazarian and X @doctornazarian, and don't miss this inspiring conversation on resilience, courage, and the drive to empower a better tomorrow! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this episode, Eli Weinstein and Ash Cebulka delve into the transformative power of understanding the subconscious mind. They discuss the differences between conscious and subconscious thoughts, the impact of trauma on our lives, and effective techniques for personal transformation. Ash shares insights on accessing and rewiring the subconscious to foster healing and growth, emphasizing the importance of intuition and self-awareness. The conversation highlights practical methods for listeners to begin their journey of self-discovery and healing, including journaling and visualization. Bio: Ash Cebulka is a world-renowned transformation coach, author, and creator of the My New Chapter journal, with over a decade of experience in the personal development space. People like to say that Ash is the one you call when your life needs a new chapter; Ash's mission is to help you create meaningful and sustainable changes in your life. Her work is based on neuroscience, intuitive practices, and spirituality.  Her work guides you to insights illuminating your conditioning and old programming so you can write a new heart-centered story for your life. A story that you consciously choose to create. Whether speaking on stage, working with creatives on retreats, or working with my private clients, she loves sharing practical and powerful practices you can integrate into your daily life so you can not only change your lifestyle and mindset but, most importantly, have a more resilient, stronger, loving, and light-hearted relationship with yourself. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this thought-provoking episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Dr. Judy, a renowned clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, to dive deep into the power of self-talk and how our attachment styles shape our present-day behaviors. Dr. Judy sheds light on the long-lasting impact of past experiences, offering insights into why we act the way we do and how balanced thinking can lead to transformative healing—at any age. Together, they tackle the often misunderstood world of disorganized attachment, uncover practical coping strategies, and provide actionable tips to turn those nagging negative thoughts into empowering positive actions. Whether you're seeking healing or understanding, this episode has something for everyone! BIO: Dr. Judy Ho, Ph. D., ABPP, ABPdN, is a triple board certified and licensed Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, a tenured Associate Professor at Pepperdine University, and a published author, penning “Stop Self-Sabotage,” published by HarperCollins in August 2019; a book detailing a scientifically driven six-step program which has been translated into 7 additional languages around the world. Her second book, which she co-authored with Max Dubrow, entitled "I'll Give it to Your Straight-ish: What Your Teen Wants You to Know," is published by Flashpoint and contains Dr. Judy's evidence-based tips to help parents raise healthy and resilient teenagers. Dr. Judy's third book, The New Rules of Attachment, which focuses on healing insecure attachment styles at any age to optimize well-being, career, goal attainment, and relationships with family, friends, and colleagues, was published by Hachette Book Group in March 2024. Dr. Judy maintains a private practice in Manhattan Beach, CA where she specializes in comprehensive neuropsychological assessments and expert witness work. She regularly appears as an expert psychologist on television, podcasts, and radio and contributes to other media, including print and electronic periodicals. She was a co-host on the syndicated daytime television talk show “The Doctors,” co-host of CBS's Face the Truth, and host of The SuperCharged Life podcast, which focuses on scientific, tangible tips for physical and mental wellness and strategies for motivation and productivity, produced by Stage 29 Podcast Productions. Dr. Judy Ho is an avid researcher and two-time recipient of the National Institute of Mental Health Services Research Award. She hosts an active research program to improve mental health care for high-need populations and is the chair of the Institutional Review Board at Pepperdine University. Her treatment approaches integrate the scientific principles of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. She often speaks at national and local events including research, clinical, and corporate conferences and workshops for organizations and schools. Dr. Judy received her bachelor's degrees in Psychology and Business Administration from UC Berkeley, and her masters and doctorate from SDSU/UCSD Joint Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology. She completed a National Institute of Mental Health sponsored fellowship at UCLA's Semel Institute. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Todd Baratz—therapist, author, and expert on relationships and generational trauma. Todd dives into the power of therapy, the importance of open communication in families, and why 'good enough' relationships might be more fulfilling than we think. He also unpacks the nuances of modern dating and how understanding our triggers can lead to greater self-awareness. Tune in as Todd shares personal reflections and practical advice for overcoming emotional hurdles and fostering healthier connections in your life. Takeaways: Todd Barretts emphasizes the importance of long-term therapy relationships. Generational trauma significantly impacts our understanding of ourselves. Open communication in families fosters emotional intimacy and connection. Modern dating is filled with anxiety and unrealistic expectations. The concept of 'good enough' relationships is crucial for long-term satisfaction. Triggers can provide valuable insights into our emotional states. Acceptance of our feelings is essential for personal growth. Relationships inherently involve challenges and discomfort. Self-awareness is key to navigating emotional complexities. Todd's personal journey informs his therapeutic approach. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this conversation, Eli Weinstein and Brendan explore the complexities of masculinity, emotional growth, and the loneliness that many boys and men experience. They discuss the importance of emotional connections, the need for safe spaces, and the challenges of navigating vulnerability in a society that often discourages emotional expression. Brendan shares insights from his research on teenage boys and emphasizes the significance of community and self-acceptance in fostering emotional well-being. The discussion highlights the necessity of embracing emotions as a fundamental aspect of the human experience, regardless of gender. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Frank Anderson discusses trauma and healing in this episode. He shares his personal experience with trauma and how it has shaped his career in helping others heal. Dr. Anderson emphasizes the importance of understanding and accepting our responses to trauma and the need for connection and support in the healing process. He also highlights the significance of trusting our own wisdom and seeking corrective experiences. Dr. Anderson believes that healing from trauma is possible and encourages individuals to appreciate their own resilience and capacity for healing. Bio: Frank Anderson, MD, is a world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist. He is the acclaimed author of Transcending Trauma, the memoir To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation, and the co-author of the Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual. As a global speaker on treating trauma and dissociation, he's passionate about teaching brain-based psychotherapy and integrating current neuroscience knowledge with Internal Family Systems (IFS). Dr. Anderson is the co-founder of The Trauma Institute and Trauma Informed Media, organizations that promote trauma awareness, education, integration, and healing. He is a lead trainer at the IFS Institute under Richard Schwartz and has a long affiliation with Bessel van der Kolk and the Trauma Research Foundation. Dr. Anderson maintains a private practice in Harvard, MA, where he lives with his husband and two sons. Follow him at FrankAndersonMD.com and on Instagram at @frank_andersonmd. Takeaways Understand and accept your responses to trauma. Don't blame yourself for how you react. You have what you need inside of you to heal. Trust your own wisdom and seek support and connection. Healing from trauma happens in connection with others. Find healthy and safe relationships that provide corrective experiences. Healing is a process that takes time. Take it one step at a time and be patient with yourself. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 08:01 The Concept of 'Normal' and Self-Acceptance 12:48 Traumatic Experiences and Processing 16:39 Becoming a Chameleon and Opening Up 19:03 Healing Trauma and the Role of Protectors 26:13 The Journey of Healing and Patience 31:55 The Resurgence of Trauma Healing and Integrated Approaches 39:26 Key Points on Trauma and Healing 43:00 Reaching Out and Finding Healing --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Sarah Ann Macklin, a registered nutritionist and founder of the top health podcast Live Well, Be Well, shares her journey from the modeling industry to becoming a nutritionist and mental health advocate. She emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and self-care in achieving overall wellness. Sarah discusses the impact of societal pressure and comparison on our mental health and offers strategies for cultivating a positive mindset. She suggests naming the inner critic, practicing mindfulness, and writing self-compassionate letters to develop a healthier relationship with ourselves and our bodies. Sarah Ann Macklin is a multifaceted force in the realm of health, nutrition and advocacy. As the founder of the acclaimed podcast Live Well Be Well and the visionary behind the Be Well Collective, she has galvanised change in the wellness landscape. A registered nutritionist, TEDx speaker, international model and esteemed health journalist, Sarah's impact exceeds boundaries. Named by Marie Claire as the Jamie Oliver of the Modelling industry. Her dedication to preventative mental health initiatives led to the establishment of the Be Well Collective, a not-for-profit organization committed to preventable mental health support on a mission for all minds to BE Well. Through her top health and nutrition podcast, Live Well, Be Well, one of the biggest UK health podcasts with exclusive of-the-moment health conversations involving the world's renowned scientists and health experts, Sarah has publicized invaluable insights and garnered widespread acclaim. Takeaways Self-compassion is essential for overall wellness and involves acknowledging and accepting our imperfections and treating ourselves with kindness and understanding. Societal pressure and comparison can negatively impact our mental health, and it's important to recognize that everyone experiences self-doubt and struggles. Practicing mindfulness and being present in the moment can help us become more aware of our thoughts and feelings and respond to them in a more rational and compassionate way. Writing self-compassionate letters to ourselves can improve body satisfaction and body image by fostering acceptance and gratitude for our bodies. Developing a positive mindset takes time and effort, but it is possible to cultivate self-love and self-acceptance by challenging negative thoughts and treating ourselves with compassion. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Sarah Ann Macklin 01:00 Sarah's Journey into Nutrition and Wellness 03:20 The Impact of the Modeling Industry on Mental Health 08:43 The Dangers of Comparison in the Digital Age 14:45 The Importance of Self-Compassion in Achieving Health 19:49 Balancing Self-Compassion with Societal Pressure 25:31 Cultivating a Positive Mindset and Overcoming Self-Doubt 28:49 Improving Body Image through Self-Compassion 35:23 Strategies for Developing a Healthier Mindset --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Kat Truitt, a clinical psychologist and applied neuroscientist, discusses the importance of understanding and working with our brains to improve mental health. She shares her personal journey of struggling with mental health and how it led her to pursue a career in psychology. Dr. Truitt emphasizes the need to break down barriers and make mental health services accessible to everyone. She explains how our brains can sometimes feel like they are trying to hurt us, but it's actually a survival mechanism gone awry. She also discusses the concept of the brain holding the key to our health and wellness and how we can learn to utilize it. Dr. Truitt highlights the power of psychosensory tools, such as EMDR and mindful touch, in healing trauma and promoting resilience. She encourages individuals to prioritize their brain health and engage in practices that strengthen their mental well-being. 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:22 Understanding the Power of Our Brains 08:10 Creating Space for Change 19:27 Rebuilding Core Values 23:44 Viewing Trauma as a Challenge and Opportunity 28:21 Training and Strengthening the Brain 34:21 Healing Trauma with Psychosensory Tools 47:36 Conclusion and Contact Information Dr. Kate Truitt, an award-winning clinical psychologist and applied neuroscientist, is internationally recognized for her trauma, stress, and resilience expertise. As the founder of the Truitt Institute, she integrates cutting-edge neuroscience into mental health training and seminars. She also leads her clinical team of expert mental health practitioners at Dr. Kate Truitt & Associates. She serves as CEO of both the Amy Research  Foundation and the Trauma Counseling Center of Los Angeles.  As a member of the Goldie Hawn Foundation's MindUP Scientific Advisory Committee as well as an expert contributor to the Kevin Love Fund and the Girl Scouts of America, Dr.  Truitt passionately advocates for mental health literacy and empowerment globally.  With an impressive social media following of over 140,000 and a combined viewer and readership of over 10 million, she regularly shares valuable mental health insights.  Her voice in the mental health arena extends to her role as a sought-after speaker and expert in media, including features on BBC and Today. Dr. Truitt has delivered keynotes and training at prestigious platforms like the United Nations and the United States  Department of Defense. As the author of Healing in Your Hands: Self-Havening Exercises  to Harness Neuroplasticity, Heal Traumatic Stress, and Build Resilience and Keep  Breathing, she is dedicated to advancing the treatment of trauma and stress disorders,  making significant strides in destigmatizing mental health and fostering resilience worldwide. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Julie Manano, a licensed marriage and family therapist, specializes in working with couples using emotionally focused therapy for couples. She focuses on attachment styles, particularly the anxious-avoidant dynamic. A healthy relationship is defined by compatibility, shared values, and effective conflict management. Conflict is an opportunity for growth and bonding but must be managed with emotional safety. Change in attachment style can happen within a relationship, but it requires awareness, understanding, and time. The deeper questions to ask in a relationship involve exploring fears, views of self, and shame. Love languages are not enough to replace emotional bonding. In this conversation, Eli Weinstein discusses his book and the importance of understanding relationships' underlying emotions and behaviors. He emphasizes the need for self-reflection and self-awareness to create positive behavior change. Weinstein also highlights the negative cycles that couples often get caught in and provides examples of how to break free from them. He discusses the importance of recognizing that partners are on the same team and need to support each other emotionally. Additionally, he addresses the challenges of adjusting to changes in a relationship and the importance of patience and growth. Chapter: 00:00 Introduction to Julie Manano and Attachment Styles 01:28 Defining Healthy Relationships and Conflict Management 05:09 Breaking the Ideal of No Conflict in Relationships 08:56 The Role of Repair in Relationships 10:22 Understanding Change in Attachment Styles 13:13 Fear of Vulnerability and Change in Relationships 14:40 The Importance of Attachment Styles in Relationships 16:30 Changing Attachment Styles Within a Relationship 18:24 Balancing Repair and Attachment Style Work in Therapy 21:09 Exploring Deeper Questions in Relationships 23:02 The Limitations of Love Languages in Relationships 24:26 A Different Approach to Love and Relationships 24:54 Understanding the Underlying Emotions and Behaviors 27:18 Recognizing the Complexity of Relationship Problems 33:56 Partners on the Same Team: Emotional Support 37:20 Sympathy over Empathy: Connecting to Feelings 48:28 Breaking Free from Negative Cycles Julie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Stan Tatkin, co-founder of the PACT Institute, discusses the importance of secure functioning in relationships and the principles of mutual care and the couple bubble. He emphasizes the need for couples to create a shared vision and set of social contracts to protect and support each other. Dr. Tatkin also highlights the challenges of modern dating and the importance of building secure functioning relationships from the start. He concludes by discussing the ongoing research being conducted by the PACT Institute to provide evidence-based support for their approach. Bio: Dr. Tatkin and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, created the PACT Institute in 2010 to train mental health professionals to successfully integrate a psychobiological approach in their clinical practices. They appreciate his depth of understanding – of both the scientific research and the human condition – and how he integrates that wisdom to form the foundation of the comprehensive principles and methodologies he teaches. The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists CA honored Stan with the Educator of the Year award in 2014.    Dr. Tatkin helps couples create healthy attachments and secure-functioning relationships based on fairness, justice, and sensitivity. In addition to his robust clinical practice in Calabasas, California, Dr. Tatkin and Tracey lead couples through Wired For Love Couple Retreats -- both online and in person across the United States and Europe.     Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, Department of Family Medicine. He is on the board of directors of Lifespan Learning Institute and serves as a founding member on Relationships First, a nonprofit organization founded by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Stan Tatkin and the PACT Institute 02:00 Understanding PACT and its Polytheoretical Approach 04:54 The Motivation Behind Creating a New Perspective in Couples Therapy 08:44 The Impact of John Gottman and Sue Johnson on Couples Therapy 09:42 The Role of Brain Science and Psychobiology in Couples Therapy 11:32 Applying Brain Science and Psychobiology to Communication and Conflict Resolution 13:25 The Importance of Knowledge and Psychoeducation in Couples Therapy 15:22 The Interplay Between the Brain and Couples Therapy 20:16 Revising 'Wired for Love' and the Changing Landscape of Relationships 23:14 Common Relationship Pitfalls and Mistakes to Avoid 27:38 Creating a Shared Vision and Accommodating Differences in Relationships 35:16 The Importance of Mutual Care and the Couple Bubble 44:51 Applying PACT Principles to Modern Dating and Relationships 50:14 Building Secure Functioning Relationships from the Start 52:36 Key Relationship Advice from Dr. Stan Tatkin 55:03 Ongoing Research by the PACT Institute --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this episode, Eli Weinstein interviews Chiemi, a leading expert in infertility and IVF. They discuss the misconceptions and assumptions surrounding infertility, the ongoing emotional and physical toll of the journey, and the importance of compassion and support. They also explore the dynamics of support within couples, the need for active listening and validation, and the challenge of balancing grief and joy. Chiemi emphasizes the importance of honoring one's experience and creating spaces for vitality and self-care. They also discuss the lack of recognition and ritual around the grief of infertility. Key Ideas: Infertility and IVF are often misunderstood, and there are many misconceptions and assumptions surrounding these experiences. The emotional and physical toll of infertility and IVF is significant, and it is important to acknowledge and validate the grief and trauma that individuals and couples go through. Support within couples is crucial, and it is important to listen to and validate each other's experiences actively. Balancing grief and joy can be challenging, but it is possible to hold space for both emotions and allow oneself to experience happiness alongside the pain. Creating spaces for self-care, vitality, and emotional well-being is essential during the infertility journey. The grief of infertility is often unrecognized and lacks the rituals and support that are typically associated with other forms of loss. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Discussion of Misconceptions about Infertility 03:24 The Unrecognized Grief of Infertility 08:55 The Importance of Conversations about Loss and Fertility 15:01 Supporting Each Other in the Infertility Journey 19:12 Navigating Fear and Avoiding Turning Against Each Other 28:24 Creating a Warm and Loving Space in the World of Infertility 30:38 Letting Joy In and Balancing Grief and Happiness 34:02 Shifting the Mindset from Guilt to Acceptance 37:25 Recognizing and Honoring the Grief of Infertility 38:53 Conclusion and Appreciation for the Work of Supporting Infertility Bio: Chiemi aka Miss.Conception Coach is a published writer and Infertility Trauma + Grief Support Specialist. She lends her unique voice and expertise to help people better understand, validate, and process their infertility journey. She uses her platform to raise awareness about the emotions felt and the reality of the mental health issues people experience. Through her unique counseling style, she helps people understand, and heal from their experiences. She offers worldwide individual and couples teletherapy. Connect with Chiemi on Instagram and visit her website to learn more. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Miriam Kirmayer, a clinical psychologist specializing in adult friendships, discusses the importance of friendships and social connections in our lives. She shares her journey of researching adult friendships and the challenges of building and maintaining them. Dr. Kirmayer emphasizes the need for knowledge translation and making evidence-based information about friendships accessible and relatable. She also explores the dynamics of childhood friendships and how they differ from adult friendships. Dr. Kirmayer provides insights on overcoming social anxieties, being open and vulnerable in friendships, and the importance of self-talk and positive cues in building and maintaining connections. Bio: Dr. Miriam Kirmayer is a clinical psychologist, leading friendship expert, and influential speaker on human connection and social support.  With over a decade of research on the science of friendship, Dr. Miriam is revolutionizing the way we show up for, mentor, and connect with each other.  Dr. Miriam is one of the first and only clinical psychologists to specialize in friendship and shares guidance on navigating relationship changes and challenges through her writing, courses, and online community. As a speaker and consultant, Dr. Miriam helps people, teams, and organizations to bridge the connection divide and readily build resilient, supportive relationships. She currently sits on the Mental Health Advisory Board for Wondermind, a mental fitness company co-founded by Selena Gomez and consults for The Foundation for Social Connection. Dr. Miriam regularly contributes research-driven insights and relatable advice to top outlets including The Atlantic, BBC, Forbes, The New York Times, Time, and more.  Dr. Miriam Kirmayer received her Ph.D. from McGill University and lives in Montreal, Canada with her husband and their two children. Connect with Dr. Miriam @miriamkirmayer and learn more at MiriamKirmayer.com. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:44 The Power and Importance of Adult Friendships 08:48 Navigating the Challenges of Building and Maintaining Friendships 15:38 The Role of Self-Talk and Positive Cues in Building Connections 20:53 Embracing New Connections and Initiating Friendships 28:00 Recognizing and Embracing the Evolution of Friendships 32:46 Gender Differences in Friendships 39:19 Men's Need for Intimacy and Self-Disclosure in Friendships 42:06 Conclusion and Final Thoughts --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Sherri Campbell, an expert on toxic family dynamics and emotional abuse, shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery. She emphasizes the importance of authenticity and genuine care in therapy and how she incorporates personal experiences into her practice. Dr. Campbell defines toxic relationships as poisoning the spirit and preventing individuals from functioning at their full potential. She discusses the need to accept the reality of abusive family members and partners and the process of learning to love oneself after growing up in a toxic environment. Dr. Campbell also highlights the power of creating happiness and the value of suffering in developing empathy and wisdom. Takeaways Authenticity and genuine care are essential in therapy, as they help clients feel seen and valued. Toxic relationships poison the spirit and prevent individuals from reaching their full potential. Accepting the reality of abusive family members and partners is crucial for healing and self-love. Happiness is not given, but created through self-discovery and personal growth. Suffering can lead to increased empathy and wisdom, enhancing one's capacity for happiness and fulfillment. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 07:58 The Journey of Learning to Love Oneself 11:44 Understanding Toxic Relationships 20:59 Connecting Hope and Reality 31:23 The Goal of Therapy for Survivors of Toxic Family Dynamics 37:28 Creating Happiness and the Value of Suffering 42:11 Final Words of Advice --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this conversation, Eli Weinstein interviews Vincent Infante, a therapist and life coach who shares his unique approach to helping clients optimize their lives and feel empowered. They discuss the importance of giving grace to others and the limitations of therapy and coaching. They also explore the daily grind that can lead to burnout and ways to alleviate it. The therapist emphasizes the positive intent behind negative emotions and the need to be curious about them. They also discuss the power of mindset shifts, breaking out of diagnoses, and rephrasing language to separate oneself from emotions and experiences. In this conversation, Eli Weinstein and Vin discuss the importance of separating psychological disorders from personal responsibility. They mention Dr. Amen and his work on brain scans to understand mental health. They also talk about the prevalence of making excuses in today's society and the need to take ownership of one's actions and emotions. Vin shares his personal journey of breaking free from victimhood and the importance of honesty and self-awareness. They discuss the five aspects of mastery: thoughts, emotions, behaviors, actions, and language, and how they can be controlled to create a more intentional and empowered life. Takeaways Give grace to others and be flexible when scheduling and rescheduling appointments. Therapy and coaching have their limitations, and a hybrid approach that combines aspects of both can be more effective. Negative emotions have positive intent and can be indicators of deeper challenges or problems. The daily grind can lead to burnout, and it's important to find ways to alleviate it. Rephrasing language and separating oneself from diagnoses can help create possibilities for change and overcome negative experiences. Separate psychological disorders from personal responsibility Take ownership of your actions and emotions Be honest and self-aware about who you are Control your thoughts, emotions, behaviors, actions, and language Create an intentional and empowered life Chapters 00:00 The Power of Giving Grace and Flexibility 03:49 The Limitations of Therapy and Coaching 08:04 Alleviating the Daily Grind 13:24 The Positive Intent of Negative Emotions 23:08 Rephrasing Language for Change and Possibilities 25:02 Understanding Psychological Disorders and Personal Responsibility 26:31 Taking Ownership of Your Actions and Emotions 30:32 Breaking Free from Victimhood through Honesty and Self-Awareness 39:10 Mastering Your Thoughts, Emotions, Behaviors, Actions, and Language 45:00 Creating an Intentional and Empowered Life For more on Vincent Infante, check out the links below: Website: www.vincentinfante.life LinkedIn: www.Linkedin.com/in/vininfante Instagram: www.instagram.com/vin.infante PsychologyToday: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/vincent-infante-staten-island-ny/821820 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Sara, an expert on relationships, discusses the six ingredients for designing the love people deserve. These ingredients can be applied to all types of relationships, including those with parents, siblings, children, and coworkers. The conversation explores the importance of attraction, respect, trust, compatibility, communication, and growth in maintaining thriving relationships. It emphasizes the need to focus on the right aspects of a relationship and not rely solely on love to save it. The discussion also challenges common misconceptions about sex and physical attraction in relationships. In this conversation, Eli Weinstein discusses the six key ingredients for a successful relationship: respect, vision, trust, compassion, acts of love, and knowing your own blueprint. He emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and communicating them lovingly and firmly. Vision involves imagining a partnership where two individuals influence and support each other, creating a harmonious relationship. Trust is built on reliability and consistency, and commitment is crucial even when you don't feel like it. Compassion is about being there for the other person without making it about yourself, and acts of love involve making the other person feel special in the way they want to be. Takeaways The six ingredients for designing the love people deserve are attraction, respect, trust, compatibility, communication, and growth. Love alone cannot save a relationship; it requires effort and focus on the right aspects. Physical attraction is important, but it is culturally constructed and can change over time. Respect involves continuously learning about boundaries and being respectable oneself. Trust is built through consistency, reliability, and vulnerability. Compatibility includes both individual attributes and interpersonal qualities. Effective communication goes beyond talking and includes understanding and valuing each other's perspectives. Relationships require growth and evolution to adapt to different stages and challenges. Set boundaries and communicate them lovingly and firmly. Imagine a partnership where two individuals influence and support each other. Build trust through reliability and consistency. Commit to the relationship even when you don't feel like it. Be there for the other person without making it about yourself. Make the other person feel special in the way they want to be. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:22 Dr. Sara's Journey into Relationship Work 05:20 The Role of Love in Relationships 09:16 The Focus and Efforts in Relationships 12:13 The Six Ingredients for Designing Love 22:41 Focusing on What Matters in Relationships 24:35 The First Ingredient: Attraction 26:36 The Second Ingredient: Respect 29:21 The Third Ingredient: Trust 31:46 The Fourth Ingredient: Compatibility 34:38 The Fifth Ingredient: Communication 38:03 The Sixth Ingredient: Growth 40:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 28:24 Creating a Vision for a Harmonious Relationship 29:21 Building Trust through Reliability and Consistency 35:06 Committing to the Relationship Even When You Don't Feel Like It 41:46 Being There for the Other Person without Making it About Yourself 49:16 Making the Other Person Feel Special --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Travis Thomas, a performance coach, discusses the importance of mindset and courage in sports and everyday life. He shares how his background in improv comedy led him to the mental performance space and how he incorporates improv principles into his coaching. Travis emphasizes the need to accept and embrace uncertainty, control the controllable, and focus on what's important now. He distinguishes between fearless and courageous, highlighting the importance of facing discomfort and taking action despite fear. Travis encourages individuals to validate their feelings and prioritize their locus of focus to make decisions that align with their priorities. Takeaways Accept and embrace uncertainty in order to adapt and respond effectively to changing situations. Focus on what you can control and take action in the present moment. Courage is the ability to face discomfort and take action despite fear. Validate your feelings and prioritize your locus of focus to make decisions that align with your priorities. BIO Travis Thomas is a performance coach who specializes in mindset, leadership, and culture. He is the former performance coach for the US Men's National Soccer team, and is currently serving that role with FC Dallas and the St. Louis University men's soccer team. He continues to serve as a corporate trainer, speaker, and consultant for some of the top companies in the world. He is the author of the book, “3 Words for Getting Unstuck: Live Yes, And”…in which he shares his experience from 25 years in improvisation and improvisational comedy - and how those principles apply to the happiness and performance in our lives.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Summary The Slumberkins founders, Kelly and Kaylee, discuss emotional health and wellness for children, the creation of their business, and the impact of their products. They emphasize the importance of emotional wellness for parents and children, the challenges of parenting in the digital age, and the need for a shift in the narrative around emotional growth and wellness. Kelly Oriard is the co-founder and Chief Therapeutic Officer at Slumberkins, a children's education and emotional health brand. She holds a dual master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and School Counseling. As a licensed family therapist, school counselor, and mother, Oriard is passionate about changing how we support the mental and emotional well-being of children and families. As the author behind the character storylines at Slumberkins, Kelly is changing the way children and families can access the content and strategies, usually found in a family therapy session, in a fun, easy-to-use way that creates healing and brings meaningful moments of connection that make a lifelong impact on the emotional health of children. Callie Christensen is the co-founder and Chief Brand Officer at Slumberkins, a children's education and emotional wellness brand. Callie holds a master's in teaching elementary education and special education. As a mother and educator turned entrepreneur, she's on a mission to use her educational background to create an accessible, meaningful, and purposeful brand that is useful in every home and school to help support families and communities on their journeys of emotional health. Slumberkins is at the forefront of brand building online as they expand into children's entertainment by bringing the characters to life in a preschool television series produced by The Jim Henson Company for Apple TV+.   About Slumberkins Slumberkins is the leading early emotional wellness brand promoting healthy emotional development through stories and characters in the form of consumer products, books, content, music, school-based curriculum and more. Slumberkins uses original storytelling through its 50+ books in print and popular cuddly creatures to help children connect with a wide range of emotions and empower them to grow into caring, confident and resilient people. Slumberkins was founded in 2015 by Kelly Oriard and Callie Christensen, both moms with backgrounds in child development and family therapy.  Fueled by an appearance on Shark Tank and a growing community of more than 1 million, Slumberkins is continuing to expand its wildly successful consumer products and publishing business across multiple touch points, including a children's music album, affirmation app, and mixed media puppet / 2D animation TV program produced by The Jim Henson Company, based on its plush toys, now streaming worldwide on AppleTV+. Slumberkins has sold more than 1.5 million books to date while also actively selling curriculum into schools nationwide. To learn more, visit Slumberkins.com and follow them on Instagram, Facebook, and Pinterest. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Patrick McGrath, Chief Clinical Officer at NoCD, discusses the reality of OCD, its portrayal in the media, and the treatment approaches. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the true nature of OCD and the challenges faced by individuals with the condition. The conversation delves into the impact of OCD on daily life, the therapeutic process, and the distinction between OCD and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. The conversation covers a wide range of topics related to OCD treatment, including the use of teletherapy, exposure therapy, the role of clinicians, the mission of NoCD, medication, and emerging treatments. The conversation also addresses common myths and misconceptions about OCD and offers hope to those struggling with the condition. With over 20 years of expertise, Dr. McGrath is recognized as a leading authority on OCD. His media presence includes appearances on the Discovery Health Channel's “Panic,” TLC's “Hoarding: Buried Alive,” and podcasts such as Inside Mental Health and We Met At ACME. He's also authored “Don't Try Harder, Try Different” and “The OCD Answer Book.”  Takeaways OCD is not an adjective, it is a condition that involves obsessions and compulsions. The media often misrepresents OCD, leading to misconceptions about the condition. Exposure and response prevention therapy, combined with ACT principles, is an effective treatment approach for OCD. OCD and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder are distinct conditions with different characteristics and treatment approaches. Teletherapy has been successful in treating OCD and offers convenience for patients and families. Exposure and response prevention therapy is a key treatment for OCD, and clinicians play a crucial role in guiding patients through the process. NoCD is a leading organization in the treatment of OCD, providing accessible therapy and support for individuals across the U.S. and internationally. Medication is often used in conjunction with exposure therapy for OCD treatment, and the importance of proper prescription and dosage is emphasized. Emerging treatments, such as deep TMS and deep brain stimulation, show promise in the treatment of OCD. Common myths and misconceptions about OCD are debunked, and the conversation offers hope and encouragement to those struggling with the condition. Chapters 00:00 Understanding the Reality of OCD: Myths vs. Truth 06:38 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life 14:16 Treatment Approaches for OCD: ERP and ACT 25:17 Revolutionizing OCD Treatment: The Role of Teletherapy and Exposure Therapy 38:26 The Mission of NoCD: Accessible Therapy and Support for OCD 41:17 Medication and Emerging Treatments for OCD: A Look into the Future 46:23 Debunking Myths and Offering Hope: Understanding OCD Treatment --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Discover the secrets to living an authentic life on this episode of The Dude Therapist, with host Eli Weinstein and guest Rachel Sievers. They explore the topics of relationships, boundaries, and self-care, discussing the importance of setting boundaries and embracing your true self. Rachel shares her journey of overcoming codependency and highlights the need for conscious decision-making. They also delve into the impact of childhood experiences on adult behaviors and the process of re-parenting oneself. Tune in to learn how self-acceptance can lead to a more fulfilling and courageous life. Rachel Sievers is a retired psychotherapist and life coach with a master's degree of science in psychology. She's logged over ten thousand hours practicing psychotherapy. In addition to her podcast, The Answer to Everything, she's developed a workbook, Talk To Me, and an online anxiety course, Anxiety-Free in 21 Days, as well as running an expanded private practice in California. She began her career working with families of foster and adopted children. Since then, she's worked in private practice using Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Affirmative, and Gestalt therapy. She's been trained in the Gottman Method, and in Somatic Experiencing to help her clients effectively heal from trauma symptoms. Now, she works as a counselor and life coach in private practice using her experience as a psychotherapist in combination with action-based methods to fit the needs of her clients best.  Rachel doesn't have "bad days" at work. She loves her job, and is honored and each time someone allows her to walk alongside them on their journey.  For access to Rachel's book, podcast, and online course, or to work with Rachel 1-1, go to rachelsievers.com.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Discover the secrets to successful relationships on this episode of the Dude Therapist podcast with Eli Weinstein and Elizabeth Earnshaw. They discuss the shifting dynamics in relationships, from traditional issues like infidelity to modern stressors like work pressure and societal influences. Elizabeth emphasizes the impact of external stressors on relationships and advocates for boundaries and effective communication. Gain practical solutions like joint accounts for financial harmony and learn the importance of empathy and understanding in resolving conflicts. Explore the complexities of ending relationships with honest communication and self-reflection. Tune in for valuable insights on fostering harmonious and fulfilling relationships. Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Clinical Fellow of the AAMFT, and the author of I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in The Modern Age". She sees couples and trains therapists at A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and is a co-founder at Ours, a company focused on helping premarital couples have important conversations. She has also hosted  a relationship advice segment on the iHeartRadio podcast, Good Risings, and creates relationship wellness content on Instagram @lizlistens. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

On this episode of The Dude Therapist join host Eli Weinstein as he delves into the world of inner healing and personal growth with clinical psychologist Dr. Stephanie Carinia. Discover the power of inner child work and shadow work in overcoming past traumas and building stronger relationships. Learn how to transition from codependency to interdependency and the importance of self-compassion, self-acceptance, and setting boundaries. Gain insights on recognizing unhealthy relationship patterns, fostering emotional well-being, and attracting emotionally available partners. Tune in for guidance on self-reflection, communication, and navigating personal growth to achieve lasting emotional well-being. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

On this episode of The Dude Therapist podcast, Eli Weinstein and guest Emily Sanders explore the intricate dynamics of building and maintaining relationships. They delve into the impact of early family experiences on our ability to be open in relationships and stress the importance of pacing and avoiding rushing intimacy. The conversation highlights the significance of in-person interactions, clear communication, and expressing needs explicitly to prevent resentment. Sanders also addresses healthy conflict resolution and views disagreements as opportunities for growth, advocating for a nuanced approach to maintaining connections. Emily has been practicing for over 13 years, and knows from personal experience the courage it takes to walk on the road to healing and self-discovery; she works with compassion to support others on their path to restoration, empowerment, and fulfillment. ​ Emily has enjoyed working with individuals and families from all walks of life, both in the therapy room, classroom, and various speaking venues. She also has a desire to support the family unit, whether through caring for the youngest members of the home or guiding couples to a closer, more satisfying relationship. Of all the roles Emily plays, she most enjoys being wife to her husband of 16 years, Michael, and mother to their daughters and son. In her free time Emily can usually be found outside running, hiking, or riding her bicycle along Pacific Coast Highway. She also enjoys browsing Pinterest for new dinner recipes, chatting with her girlfriends, and spending quality time with her family. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this podcast episode, Eli Weinstein and Dr. Jennifer Guttman discuss the importance of prioritizing sustainable life satisfaction over fleeting happiness. Dr. Guttman, a clinical psychologist, shares insights on embracing a broader emotional spectrum and setting achievable goals for personal fulfillment. They also explore the impact of social media on perceptions of happiness and the need to find contentment in everyday moments. The conversation concludes with a focus on self-acceptance and celebrating progress toward goals for a truly fulfilling life. [00:00:00] Therapist promotes sustainable life satisfaction revolution. [00:03:29] Search for happiness within, not externally. [00:07:56] Chasing happiness on social media is harmful. [00:12:04] Happiness is externally driven; other emotions are not. [00:16:23] Pursuit of happiness through satisfaction revolution. [00:20:49] Achieve satisfaction by avoiding assumptions and comparisons. [00:24:09] Seeking fulfillment through presence and mindfulness. [00:27:40] Social media oversharing contributes to despair. [00:31:48] Good days are simple and satisfying. [00:35:22] Embrace authenticity, feel your feelings. Dr. Jennifer Guttman has a doctorate in clinical psychology. She launched a motivational brand called Sustainable Life Satisfaction® and produced a YouTube series, course, and workbook based on this method. This year Beyond Happiness, The 6 Secrets of Life Satisfaction was published by Post Hill Press. Dr. Guttman is a regular contributor to Psychology Today and Thrive Global. She has written for national news outlets such as The Washington Post and Newsweek, has been a guest on several network television programs, including ABC News, and has been featured on dozens of podcasts. Dr. Guttman has an active and robust Cognitive Behavioral practice. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

On this episode of the podcast, Eli Weinstein and relationship specialist Mark Groves dive into the complexities of modern relationships and personal growth. They discuss the importance of accepting individuals as they are and avoiding the urge to change partners. They also emphasize the significance of open communication, self-care, and setting boundaries for true transformation. Tune in to learn how to foster healthy connections and celebrate individuality in relationships for growth and authenticity. [This week's episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/dudetherapist today to get 10% off your first month.] [00:00:00] Therapy can help guide and listen. [00:02:28] Mark Rose explores human connection authentically. [00:06:53] Identifying through wounds, growth comparison, relationships. [00:12:42] Resolve disconnection, prioritize self, communicate needs. [00:18:41] Fear of loss keeps people stuck. [00:23:56] Liberated love celebrates individuality in relationships. [00:29:59] Nurturing sacred space in relationships. [00:35:52] Relationships require courage and liberation. [00:40:11] Blind spots: guilt and blame. [00:45:58] Relationships require skill and self-awareness. Mark Groves is a Human Connection Specialist, founder of Create the Love, and host of the Mark Groves Podcast. Mark's work bridges the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the beautiful sides of connection. Links: Preorder Liberated Love here! Website: createthelove.com + markgroves.com Podcast: markgrovespodcast.com Instagram: @createthelove --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Siggie Cohen is known as the “Child Whisperer” for her unparalleled depth of insight in working with children of all ages. For more than 35 years she has worked with thousands of children and families across the US and abroad, first as a teacher and then as a professor and counselor. Her method provides parents with practical tools and scripts to feel more empowered and less guilty. Her ultimate goal is to simplify the parenting journey and increase connection between parent and child. She is also a mother of 3 and runs her own private practice in Los Angeles. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support