Atheists in Recovery

"Never let a good crisis go to waste." Winston Churchill Welcome to today's show! In today's episode, I list 3 ways to build your resilience in the face of pivotal events.    I announce a new project I'm excited about and invite you to join me on my new journey!   WHAT WE'LL LEARN What types of events are pivotal  (e.g. arrest, loss of a job, divorce/break up, big birthday, pandemic/languishing, loss, trauma, realization that I'm on the wrong path and life is passing me by).  How do these events impact us? Understanding the Window of Tolerance.  What do we need at this time? What can you do with these pivotal events? RESOURCES MENTIONED   Writing Bravely home page. Write with me! Episode 82: Beyond Stress: training yourself to thrive in recovery Episode 116: 3 Ways Writing Takes You from Hopeless to Hopeful: the final episode James Pennebaker: The expressive writing method For more info, head over to writingbravely.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show!   In today's episode, I talk about how to tell when your pain is protecting you  by dialoguing with our emotions. And the pain that I will be referring to is guilt, shame, remorse, maybe judgment, self judgment caused by the inner critic. WHAT WE'LL LEARN What are the types of pain? The pain of guilt or shame, remorse or judgment caused by the inner critic. Who is the Inner protector is and what is its purpose. How to listen to the healing signals through writing (what can they be signifying or letting us know we need to pay attention to?) I give a homework exercise: Prompts - to lead down the path to get to know these undesirable parts.    RESOURCES MENTIONED                                                                        Writing Bravely home page. Write with me! Episode 106: 5 Journaling Prompts I Use The Most And The August And September Pause   For more info, head over to writingbravely.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

“You had someone to go places with. You had a date on national holidays!” -Marie, When Harry Met Sally, 1989 Welcome to today's show! Loneliness is a feeling that I know a lot of us try and avoid. And the thing is, we've all felt lonely at different points in our life. So it's an important topic. I've described loneliness as an epidemic in previous shows (and so has the 19th Surgeon General of the U.S. Vivek Murthy). It's so prevalent and it's also so destructive mentally, and physically. So let's dive in.   WHAT WE'LL LEARN What does society tell us about loneliness (hint: it's all wrong!) The difference between loneliness and solitude. What is healing, what is harmful, what must be lived through? We can use loneliness for self-exploration  I give a few writing prompts to get us started on self-exploration through loneliness. RESOURCES MENTIONED                                                                      Writing Bravely home page. Write with me! The Secret to Not Losing Yourself: recovering from narcissistic abuse   For more info, head over to writingbravely.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

“Man is least himself when he talks in his own persona. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.” -Oliver Wilde   Welcome to today's show!   In today's episode, I talk about the masks that do more harm than good. The masks we wear because we are afraid; we are afraid that it anyone see's how incompetent we are at our job, relationships, parenting, at anything we feel is part of our identity, the costs will be too great. WHAT WE'LL LEARN I talk about the top 3 masks: the social mask, the emotional mask, The “Who AM I”  Mask. I give you a challenge to about the masks you wear and commit to letting them slip off now and again.  What if  fear didn't get in the way, who would you like to be? I suggest a writing prompt.  RESOURCES MENTIONED                                                                      Writing Bravely home page. Write with me! For more info, head over to writingbravely.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

People who are resilient allow themselves to be changed by the experience of adversity. To be resilient is not to avoid difficulty but to play an active role in how difficulty transforms you. -Kelly McGonigal, PhD, health psychologist, Stanford University   Welcome to today's show!  I've found that if one can focus their attention on resilience in these trying times, it shows that they can handle almost anything-it's a learned capacity to cope! Resilience is as important to our well-being as Josh allen is to the Buffalo Bills. :) WHAT WE'LL LEARN  Skills and strategies of resilience are always trainable. The core of resilience is flexibility.  Choosing how you respond to resilience is essential. RESOURCES MENTIONED                                                                        Writing Bravely home page. Write with me! 3 Ways to Build Your Resilience in The Face of Pivotal Events For more info, head over to writingbravely.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

“Creativity is a basic human response to trauma and a natural emergency defense system,” Louise DeSalvo  Welcome to today's show!   I spend some time talking about what writing can do for us and why writing works. I talk about how writing in community can be beneficial and how I will structure my upcoming writing groups based on the literature and personal experience.   WHAT WE'LL LEARN Why writing? What writing can do for us? Writing in community - what is the additional benefit? What should we be aware of regarding safety/boundaries with writing I will explain my creative process with writing. RESOURCES MENTIONED                                                                      Writing Bravely home page. Write with me! 3 Ways to Build Your Resilience in The Face of Pivotal Events   For more info, head over to writingbravely.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today's show! WHAT WE'LL LEARN What is narcissism really? I discuss the myth of narcissism and how social media gets it terribly wrong. How do you know if you've been in a relationship with a narcissist? You've tried to be who your partner needed and when they are gone, you've lost yourself. Now what? How writing helps with healing. I give you a few writing prompts. RESOURCES MENTIONED                                                                      Writing Bravely home page. Write with me! For more info, head over to writingbravely.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show! In today's episode, I list 3 ways writing takes you from hopeless to hopeful:. And I've decided to end the Atheists in Recovery podcast so this is the final episode. I thank you all for listening.   I announce a new project I'm excited about and invite you to join me on my new journey!   WHAT WE'LL LEARN Writing as a coping mechanism. Writing allows us to sit with the uncomfortable feelings and be curious about them-their contours, shapes and sizes.  Writing can help us honor and light up our stories while prompting us to envision our future selves restored and renewed. Writing as a creative outlet. Writing is just one form of creative expression. It's not for everyone but I feel it's easily accessible for all. Writing that heals. I talk about my own journey with writing and how it helped heal my traumatic wounds when therapy seemed like “too much.”  The 13th-century Sufi mystic and poet Rumi wrote, “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” Thinkers from Freud to Brene' Brown have all postulated that there's strength in vulnerability.   RESOURCES MENTIONED   Writing Bravely home page. Write with me! James Pennebaker, Expressive Writing: words that heal Episode 89 Three Reasons Why I Love Journaling & The April Pause Episode 96 How to Use Journaling to Manifest Your Dreams in Recovery   Episode 105 Q & A with Adina-daily practices for vulnerability, courage, love and belonging Sign up to be notified when the new podcast, Writing Bravely, drops here!  For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show!   WHAT WE'LL LEARN: How Johnathan's early view of religion helped shape his identity in the world. How his southern baptist “angry form of Christianity” messages made him question life. At age 37, Jonathan found himself at a critical crossroads when staring into a garbage can. The three steps to help you overcome your sugar addiction. Why Johnathan feels the willpower argument is a lie. Johnathan talks about what to do now that we are physically distancing and food is everywhere. What practice Johnathan started in order to socially connect while staying physically isolated. What's Johnathan's message to the A.I.R community.   RESOURCES MENTIONED   Jane McGonigal's Ted Talk Superbetter: The Power of Living Gamefully Recovery Record App The Hacking of The American Mind: The Science Behind The Corporate Takeover of Our Bodies and Brains The Sugar Demons: An Addict's Guide to Conquering Sugar Addiction Sugar Addiction FaceBook Group Track Your Cravings Video Series-Step One @crandiva Jonathan Cranford Schedule a free consultation with me!   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show! In today's solo episode, I'm sharing how I use hypnotherapy to treat addiction. Below I outline 5 takeaways hypnotherapy can help you with addiction.   WHAT WE'LL LEARN   Hypnotherapy is not new. Hypnotherapists have been getting to the root cause of one's suffering for years Say hello to your future self. You are the storyteller of your present & future When you fire it, you wire it. Making new neural connections The language you use matters The story of Duane (how he kicked his 20 plus year smoking habit) Some amazing things happen during hypnotherapy (the story of John)  When Adina thinks of hypnotherapy she thinks of two words: Rapid Relief   RESOURCES MENTIONED   Schedule a free 15 minute 1:1 hypnotherapy consult here. For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one. Subscribe on ITUNES If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show!    WHAT WE'LL LEARN How Rob's community wanted to thank him for his contribution to the community and invited him to meet the Queen. And what his inner dialogue was like (hint: he was not happy). Rob talks about his childhood growing up and how his identify was formed but it was not an easy road to becoming a successful entrepreneur. Rob talks about his recovery journey and gives us a “happiness disclaimer.” At 38, Rob found himself looking within the dark places of his subconscious which was hugely frightening for Rob. How a flashback led him to relieving a traumatic event. He wanted to stop the pain so much that he made a conscious decision to take his life. What Rob's interview process for therapists was like and what his litmus test was like for finding a therapist. What Rob's therapist told him to do right before he wanted to take that next hit that Rob credits as “her genius.” How Rob's underlying belief system helped him to find hope in recovery. RESOURCES MENTIONED Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS) Trip of Compassion-Documentary Before I Leave You-Book Beforeileaveyou.com Twitter Facebook Schedule a free consultation with me! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening! Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one. Subscribe on ITUNES If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show!    WHAT WE'LL LEARN   How David's earliest memories were rooted in sadness & depression and he felt like something was terribly wrong with him. David was put on anti-depressants is his early teens but felt “nothing was working.” How a Cop was the greatest endorsement for heroin use. When at Hazelden, David was told by staff he needed to put his life & will in God's hands and work the steps of A.A. David, as a devout Atheist, felt this treatment approach was not going to work for him. After parents gave David “tough love” and an ultimatum, he went to a halfway house but felt “it was a joke” be/c all he wanted to do was use again. David then went on a mission to show his parents that addiction was not a disease and he could stop at will. After his friend overdosed and thinking about the permanence of death, David believed this would motivate him to stop using heroin. How David found Buprenorphine when looking for a reliable, safe source of an opioid to start the healing process. What the struggles were with obtaining buprenorphine from doctors in 2008. What's David's response to the Opioid Crisis. What David thinks the “miracle future” of addiction treatment looks like (hint: it involves science and facts). RESOURCES MENTIONED   The Irrationality of Alcoholics Anonymous DavidTheKick-Twitter Davidposes.com Schedule a free consultation with me! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show!    WHAT WE'LL LEARN   How Derek earliest memories were rooted in religion but his connectedness and place of belonging was found (and still is) in nature. While Derek was in active addiction he watched his brother, father, and mother pass away from complications due to alcoholism which threw him into a deeper state of depression. It wasn't until a suicide attempt, that Derek decided to put himself through rehab. Derek says as he passes his one year anniversary, routine & asking for help has been two great tools for healing. Derek talks about the shame and “feeling like a burden” when asking for help. How utilizing mentors instead of sponsors is what works for his recovery. What his perspective is on how to “reset your recovery.”  How he handles things that are out of his control-he gives examples from his own life. Derek discusses what he means by “slowing down to speed up.” What Derek's heartfelt message is to people who are in active addiction or newly sober during the pandemic. Tips on how Derek connects with others during the pandemic. What's Derek's message to the A.I.R. community.   RESOURCES MENTIONED   DerekJThatcher@gmail.com-Email Schedule a free consultation with me! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today's show!    WHAT WE'LL LEARN   How Valley's earliest sense of self was formed during “alot of using and instability.” Valley's mother thought since Valley grew up in AA those values would transmit but Valley had other plans. Valley majored in love addiction, alcohol addiction, and codependency during her college years. When Valley sat with her dying horse's (Hooker) corpse she realized she was pregnant and had to “own it.” How she was confronted by her then fiance to stop drinking and Valley said “no way” drinking for her was the solution and not the problem. How getting a heart wrenching letter from her ex-fiance prompted Valley to get “free therapy.” AA helped Valley become “right sized” because she felt she was either an Angel or the Devil. What is Life in 10 and can you use this tool to heal. The brain research behind sharing our vulnerable stories What's Valley's advice to start sharing one's writing in a group.   RESOURCES MENTIONED   lifein10minutes.com Life in 10 minutes-Facebook Life in 10 minutes-Instagram The Halfway House for Writers Surrender Your Weapons: Writing to Heal Schedule a free consultation with me! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today's show!   WHAT WE'LL LEARN:   How hearing a sermon in a church led Peter to “wake up” and start to heal the suffering within. How his Dean Martin, Sammy Davis Jr. household normalized alcohol use. What led Peter to get “interventioned” at work. Why Peter found SMART recovery early on in his recovery and how it helped him. What is SMART ‘s 4-point program. Learn a few SMART recovery tools: for example, “ABC” tool. How mindfulness works to challenge our automatic belief system. What we need to do to release our stories (our past trauma). What makes SMART different is focusing on the internal locus of control. How Peter uses his spirituality in his recovery and focusing on possibilities instead of challenges. What the Oscar Wilde quote says that helps Peter get through the “heavy spaces” in recovery.   RESOURCES MENTIONED   David Kessler SMARTRecovery.org Smart.southdakota.org Smart Recovery South Dakota Facebook Page A.I.R. Private Facebook Group  Schedule a free consultation with me!   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today's show!   WHAT WE'LL LEARN:   How atheists/agnostics have found sobriety in AA. The A.I.R. audience has spoken: we talk about these four categories: tolerance, losing one's religion, the language of addiction, and coming out of the Atheist closet. When is the right time to come out of the Atheist closet? How you should come out of the Atheist closet (a few conversation starters are discussed). RESOURCES MENTIONED Recovery Dharma Website Recovery Dharma Facebook Group Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for 12 Step LIfe Online Secular AA Meetings The 12 Steps According to Russel Brand Schedule a free consultation with me! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today's show!   WHAT WE'LL LEARN:   Episode 22 starts our December series, Movies That Move Us. Learn why Adina loves this movie and its relevance in the recovery space. Learn what it means to be codependent. The movie portrayed the subtle way drinking goes from being “fun” to more of a progressive disorder in which shame and fear are ubiquitous. Learn what Adina thinks is the most pivotal part of the story of Michael and Alice's relationship and how this movie is more about the Man than the Woman. Discover what role can Al-anon (or family education programs) play in familial recovery. The final scene of the movie gives us a nice peak into alcoholism in the family . Why we may need to work on ourselves apart from the person that's keeping you stuck and how to stop that cycle. Identify your role in the family of addiction and how you can heal.   RESOURCES MENTIONED   A.I.R. Private Facebook Group  Family Education Program Schedule a free consultation with me! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today's show! In today's episode, I list 5 journaling prompts I use most often (and why I think it's the greatest recovery tool). And I'm taking a pause in August through the end of September to focus on family time, travel, self-care and to tweak a few things with the podcast. In the meantime, you may want to catch up on episodes 1-105 or relisten to a few of your favorites.    WHAT WE'LL LEARN Right now I am... How Adina uses journaling in her own life, daily. She shares a story from her most recent journaling prompt. I remember... I don't remember a time when... ​​What I haven't told you is...  Or, what I meant to say was... (Adina loves this prompt!) Check out EP 105 on how she handles Vulnerability. If I wrote the story of my life up to this point, the chapters would be named… Alternatively, if I wrote the story of my future, the chapters would be named...   RESOURCES MENTIONED Episode 89 Three Reasons Why I Love Journaling & The April Pause Episode 96 How to Use Journaling to Manifest Your Dreams in Recovery Episode 105 Q & A with Adina-daily practices for vulnerability, courage, love and belonging Sign up for the Newsletter here! Begin a new ritual that nourishes your soul and maybe start a journaling practice to liberate yourself from defeating narratives. Schedule a free consultation with me! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today's show! Vulnerability “Vulnerability smells like rotten eggs, feels like slimy fish, tastes like ash.”   WHAT WE'LL LEARN:   What is Vulnerability?  What events led to Adina knowing she needed to address her own vulnerability. How Adina previously handled vulnerability. What the family motto was in her early days that led to her feeling that being vulnerable was not acceptable. How Adina approaches vulnerability now. What is Adina's writing process. Through writing we are able to make connections with our former, current, and future selves. How she would use stories as reminders, as protection and prevention. The stories that helped keep you alive when you were young, are not the stories that will help you now. Start to write and then share those stories with others. That's how we are able to connect with each other.  Quotes:   “I was literally in a fist fight with vulnerability. And I knew at that point that I needed to start working on this.”   “Writing is a creative act of internal disruption” RESOURCES MENTIONED   Learn more about our future A.I.R. writing group and journaling prompts by subscribing to the newsletter here!   Episode 50:  Let's talk about the Spirituality Question: Q and A with Adina   Schedule a free consultation with me! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show!   WHAT WE'LL LEARN: Paul's deepest roots came from living with a family of doctors that pushed him to excel at school. He deeply wanted to learn more about the nervous system and what makes up the brain & spinal cord. You have to “rob” the tumor in a stealth manner so as not to awaken the brain. Think Jedi Warrior :) How addiction affects the brain structure. And the brain wants to do good for us until there's an insult that's put into our body (e.g. nicotine, heroin, alcohol).  Then the brain gets the signal that “this must be what this person wants.” And now there's a new normal. When we're at a party the brain correlates drinking with fun.  And that's when the external factors take over. How the body & brain heal from addiction.   The normal lifestyle is not meant for us to be feeling high all the time. It's just an average lifestyle. Why did Paul begin to write. And why he decided to showcase some of his client's surgical cases. How Paul's writing has helped people all over the world to heal. Paul discussed how he's changed from the beginning of his journal writing til now. What Paul does with his writing mimics a lot of the recovery principles-joining in on conversation, giving back, showing vulnerability, courage and empathy. Key Quotes:   “You need to have the confidence that you can beat this addiction. It's never too late.”   “Follow your bliss. And you can never go wrong if you truly follow your bliss in life.” RESOURCES MENTIONED   DrPaulWriting.com   The Young Neurosurgeon: Lessons from My Patients  From The Eyes Of A Doctor My Surgical Cases Told In Poems   Schedule a free consultation with me! Learn more about our A.I.R. writing group and journaling prompts by subscribing to the newsletter here! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.    If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show! Stories I reference a quote which I feel sums up the episode well.  Write Often and Edit Well  -Esther Perel WHAT WE'LL LEARN:   What is Brainspotting? We look at a case study with Tina and pay attention to her insecure attachment style. What the outcome was after Tina's first brainspotting session & why Adina was surprised :) Why early messages are so important to our attachment styles as with the case of Tina. How Brainspotting accesses parts of the brain that are traumatized by many unintended experiences. How Brainspotting increases attunement by using a dual attunement frame. And how Tina was able to start her healing journey by feeling the empathy from me. Adina wonders if we would have gotten here with traditional talk therapy alone. Brainspotting helps us identify how our stuff defines us and how to unlearn these thoughts/behaviors.  Adina feels it's important to know one's attachment styles. This can help with connecting better with your loved ones. Authentic attachment is an inherent quality of human beings. We all want to get there!   RESOURCES MENTIONED   Brainspotting.com Episode 94: How to Face Your Anxiety Head on: the power of brainspotting Internal Brainscan exercise  (google sheets) Schedule a free consultation with me! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show!   WHAT WE'LL LEARN: Please listen to EP 101 where we learn Arlina's background before listening to this one :) Why our brains are designed to focus on the negative. And how to increase our awareness of this. Arlina, at a young age, kept finding reasons that she wasn't “good enough” and “smart enough” and whenever she would have a negative experience, she'd use that as “evidence” to back up the stories she told herself. Confirmation bias is what's happening. In early recovery, we do things that we regret under the influence of alcohol. You lose the ability to choose how much you will drink or not. Why after 27 years sober Arlina continues to work daily on emotional regulation. What is the Default Mode Network & how we can rewire our brain in order to make better decisions. Arlina walks us through a writing exercise on how to identify and change your irrational beliefs. Key Quotes: “I just put a bunch of drugs & alcohol in my brain and I'm going to use that broke *ss tool to make decisions for my entire life…”   “Question your beliefs because a lot of times they're not rooted in truth.” RESOURCES MENTIONED   A.I.R. Survey Please take this 45 second survey to help direct the future of the AIR podcast.  Bryon Katie's 4 Questions  SoberLifeSchool.com For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show!   WHAT WE'LL LEARN: Arlina described her deepest roots as having come from two traumatic incidents early on. She learned some survival skills that “did not translate into healthy adult relationships.” How at age 8 or 9, Arlina discovered alcohol. And she described the first drink vividly. She stated, “The self-confidence & self-loathing was lifted….” This cemented the theory that alcohol would take away “all these bad feelings.” Why she felt money or love was going to save her. (Hint: love did not come in the form she was expecting)! Why she feels Quantum Physics explains everything she had learned from her religious upbringing. Arlina shared she made all her decisions based on low self-esteem. And her work in recovery is now to identify & reframe her self-beliefs. How “Empathy is the antidote to shame.” Arlina shared that her shame presented as defensiveness. And shame could not survive once it was spoken. How connection became the cure to her feeling less shame, less isolated &  less alone. Stay tuned for next week's interview with Arlina Allen as we focus on the theory & practice of her recovery along with a writing exercise! Key Quotes: Arlina's tagline: “If it were in a bottle, a bag, or blue jeans, I was doing it.”   “I was trying to think my way into right living. And it turns out I needed to live my way into right thinking.”   RESOURCES MENTIONED   A.I.R. Survey Please take this 45 second survey to help direct the future of the AIR podcast.  SoberLifeSchool.com For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show!   In today's solo episode, I outline 6 questions to ask yourself in order to create a recovery routine that works for you. My bullet points below are a series of questions rather than statements. This is similar to what I do with my monthly newsletter. I'm a big journaler and our brains are problem solving machines so let it do its job. Write down each question and then answer it. WHAT WE'LL LEARN: Question #1:  What are your non-negotiables re: habits? Question #2:  What can you do in the AM to set you up for success? Question #3:  What puts you in “awe” mode? Question #4:  What feelings come up when you “don't want to do something?” Question #5 : What's one thing you can focus on right now? Question #6:  What's your why? What's your purpose? Bonus: Ruts don't dig themselves. List some other non-negotiables to swap in and out depending on your mood. One of Adina's favorite quotes related to comparison is attributed to President Theodore Roosevelt.  RESOURCES MENTIONED A.I.R. Survey Episode 79: Resetting Your Recovery:  rituals for healthy living Episode 87: Rituals and Routines: 6 questions to ask yourself Sign up for the Newsletter here!   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today's show!   WHAT WE'LL LEARN: John described his deepest roots led him to Syracuse New York...from his upbringing, to his professional development, to his professional career and to his sobriety. John's sobriety journey is intertwined with a dual diagnosis with Mental Health issues. How he needs to maintain his mental health so that he does not drink again and vice versa. John's first sponsor made him take his mental health seriously. How he balanced advocacy work with personal recovery-especially in early recovery. Where John was at the beginning of his recovery to where he is today-a person recovering out loud while respecting the traditions that people care about. When in conversation with a student in Rams in Recovery, the student asked John how it is that he claims to be in recovery if all he's doing is advocacy (e.g. the coffee bike). This helped John become more connected with the recovery community. And helped him to build an “underground network” of people all over the world which he taps into to help others. How these projects (e.g. Coffee Bike, Narcan Bike) served as John's recovery program for a long time.  And how the advocacy piece changes with each project. Now, the Narcan Bike, beyond the design, is largely all about advocacy. Key Quotes: “I tried to do it on my own with my will power alone and the group of people in that room (recovery room) knew what I was going through and had been where I was...it was one of my only options. It's the one thing I could connect to and participate in that wasn't making things worse.”   “I've gone from an artist who's an activist to an activist who's an artist.” RESOURCES MENTIONED   A.I.R. Survey Please take this 45 second survey to help direct the future of the AIR podcast.  @5050.projects-Facebook FreeNarcanBike.com JohnFreyer.com @recoveryroast @freenarcanbike For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show!   In today’s solo episode, I outline 3 tips on how to overcome guilt, shame, & regret in early recovery. A sober life means feeling all the emotions and in early recovery that can be very triggering. Let's start our show with how I define guilt, shame & regret.   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   How to Increase your self-forgiveness.  In order to walk through any difficult emotion, self-forgiveness needs to be part of that tool kit.    How to increase your connections.  It's hard to see oneself in a positive light because our thoughts can be brutal but that’s when you need to look to your external environment for help! How to increase your resilience.  Dr. Lucy Hone (resilience expert) does a great job of exploring resilience more in depth. And she discusses three strategies she relied upon as she conducted a “self experiment.” Bonus:  What you’re feeling is not fact, they’re theories that need to be investigated.      RESOURCES MENTIONED   A.I.R. Survey Star Wars: learn how to find the force in recovery 3 Secrets of Resilient People-Dr. Lucy Hone Drinking and Anxiety:  what's the connection    For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN: Chris described his deepest roots as being introduced to spirituality by way of “special event Catholicism” God and the idea of a higher power was a novelty to Chris How his relationship with sobriety was one of coercion by being court ordered into fellowships, group therapy, jail, and house arrests. Chris describes his high school locker as a small black marketplace for anything he needed. How being “uncomfortable in his own skin” led to finding relief from alcohol. How Chris fell into a 12 step meeting around his hometown and had friends in that meeting-all young people. This was the first time Chris said to himself, “This could be fun. Sobriety can be cool” How his last year of addiction was the darkest place he's ever been. This led to a call for help from God laden with curse words. From that day on, Chris has been sober. Chris states he did not find spirituality until he found recovery. When going to Hazelden, Chris flashed back to the 1st time he really got sober and hearing the professionals say, “The disease is doing pushups in the parking lot while you’re inside trying to get sober.” Chris clenched onto sobriety as tightly as he could during his stay. Even though his default thoughts were negative. What Chris’s first spiritual experience was like on his walk “taking the long way home.” How the gift of recovery helps one take pause to live a better life. Key Quotes: “The disease is doing pushups in the parking lot while you’re inside trying to get sober.” “I was really self-conscious in addiction and found my voice in recovery.” RESOURCES MENTIONED   A.I.R. Survey Please take this 45 second survey to help direct the future of the AIR podcast.  Taking The Long Way Home by Chris Blavelt Augustine Recovery Augustine Recovery-Facebook Augustine Recovery-Instagram Chris@augustinerecovery.com    For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Quote: The life of every man is a diary in which he means to write one story, and writes another; and his humblest hour is when he compares the volume as it is with what he vowed to make it.”  J.M. Barrie (Author of Peter Pan)    Welcome to today’s show!   In today’s solo episode, I outline 5 takeaways for utilizing journaling to manifest your dreams in recovery!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   What is a keystone habit? Why is journaling considered a keystone habit? Journaling accelerates your ability to manifest your goals.  Journaling creates a springboard for daily recovery. Journaling creates clarity and congruence. Journaling wipes away (like emotional windshield wipers) emotions. In this case, venting is encouraged. Journaling reveals and tracks patterns and cycles.       RESOURCES MENTIONED   A.I.R. Survey Episode 89: Three Reasons Why I Love Journaling & The April Pause   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   Kristen describes her deepest roots and her mother’s influence on shaping her future identity. How to use technology to remove barriers for mental health.  Ketamine as a dissociative and what that means for our treatment. How is Ketamine different from the traditional medications we take to reduce depression & anxiety.  When adding a psychedelic treatment you are going deeper within and finding out the root cause of the issue versus a flattening of symptoms that occurs with SSRI’s. Kristen talks about the neurobiology of Ketamine which is so interesting (says Adina!).  Kristen on Ketamine and how it creates this embodied experience: “Once you see something, it’s hard to unsee.” What happens after each treatment or “journey” to keep the new learning from fading away. Kristen talks about integration as a three step process to develop new habits: 1) Journaling, 2) Bulletting the key takeaways & streamlining the information 3)Committing to engaging once a day from the key takeaways list. Kristen goes through the safety of a telehealth guided Ketamine treatment.   RESOURCES MENTIONED   A.I.R. Survey Please take this 45 second survey to help direct the future of the AIR podcast.  Mindbloom.com   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   What is anxiety? And why is brainspotting perfect for resolving anxiety? Brainspotting as a dual attunement process. We look at a case study with Raphael. What the outcome was after Raphael’s first brainspotting session. What are the challenges with brainspotting for Raphael (and especially in our western culture). Where is Raphael now? Brainspotting is not a magic elixir but it does go much deeper than talk therapy.     RESOURCES MENTIONED   A.I.R. Survey Brainspotting.com Internal Brainscan exercise  (google sheets) Elizabeth Stanley Episode 82   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   Why Adina feels the word Anxiety is overused in our society What is an Anxiety disorder What are the genetic and environmental factors that contribute to Anxiety disorder Learn about “Brad” and his recent relapse What is the relationship between alcohol and anxiety How do we build an anxiety tool kit? Adina goes through an exercise called R.A.I.N. that she uses in her therapy practice Another exercise called “after the R.A.I.N.” Adina shares an example of what a “future self” looks like and why it’s important to detach from one’s ego Why Adina thinks incorporating this mindful awareness practice is an essential part of your recovery tool kit     RESOURCES MENTIONED     Episode 33 How to Find Self-Love and Self-Acceptance in Recovery Episode 50 Let’s Talk About The Spirituality Question: Q and A with Adina 40 Million Adults struggle with Anxiety Disorder Headspace App Tara Brach R.A.I.N. A.I.R. ITUNES page     For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN: How Mishka’s “second hand smoke” of religion had helped him develop in the world. How living a Godless life impacted his recovery.   Why Mishka “reluctantly” self-identifies as an Agnostic. What are the key takeaways from the book- one of the tools is quite similar to AA. Why Mishka says you need to “pay your taxes” when in recovery. What Mishka says about crying and “losing one’s shit” and how to feel the feelings. Mishka talks about what is different about now vs. then (prior to sobriety). Why Mishka wants us to embrace the duality of human nature. What’s Mishka’s message to the A.I.R community.   RESOURCES MENTIONED   Cold Turkey: How to Quit Drinking by Not Drinking Foreword by Jeff Bezos @mishkashubaly Mishkashubaly Top Memoirs That AIR Recommends   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show!    WHAT WE’LL LEARN   How D.J.’s earliest roots were “tangled, buried, diseased and complex.” Learn why D.J. thought he was adopted (even at a young age) because things were “just so bad.” D.J. talks about his fearful experience of spirituality growing up and how God would not “show up for” him and he had proof that God was not showing up.  D.J. feels all of what he went through led him to the person he is today-a healer. D.J.’s recovery journal began when he felt like “giving up” but then went to Al-Anon and discovered his husband wasn’t really the issue and that he was the issue. D.J. feels he is “not a bad person” he’s just been to hell and back. And survived. When working the 4th & 5th steps, D.J. was tasked with outline all the things he accomplished prior to getting sober. And D.J. felt this was what broke him. How D.J. was sending people to 12 steps before he started getting help and going to 12 step meetings. What was so “serene” about being in these 12 step meetings and finding a sponsor. What behaviors D.J. engaged in that contributed to his recovery.  What is Co-Dependency and what do healthy boundaries look like. What message D.J. has for the A.I.R. community.   RESOURCES MENTIONED   Djburr.com @djburr1022-Twitter  TheDJBurr-Instagram I Just Wanted Love: Recovery of a Codependent, Sex and Love Addict   D.J.’s Book   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   How Michael’s deepest roots shaped her identity in the world How Michael took some interesting routes to get to where she is today in the decluttering space What are some practical questions to get us started with evaluating our belongings An exercise in mindfulness What’s the first step in the purification process for individuals in recovery Why it’s important to create a plan along with expectations for our first purifying session How we can bring in things to support this process (e.g. a ritual) An exercise called, a mindful walk through How can we create an environment that is supportive of our recovery How has Michael changed from the start of her podcast until now   RESOURCES MENTIONED   @letspurify-Instagram @letspurify-Facebook letspurify.energy   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today’s show! In today’s episode, I outline 3 reasons why I love journaling (and why I think it’s the greatest recovery tool). And I’m taking a pause in April to focus on self-care and to even get a bit ahead with the podcast. In the meantime, you may want to catch up on episodes 1-88 or relisten to a few of your favorites.    WHAT WE’LL LEARN Self Awareness. How Adina uses journaling in her own life, daily. How journaling helps one to become more aware of their behaviors by making the unconscious conscious. This can also help you reframe trauma. Tracking your behaviors. Use the acronym SMART to track your progress in order to make clear goals vs. general goals Imagining your Future Self. For most people identity is past centric. Journaling is very future oriented. Identity is what drives your behavior. Identify who you want to be and then design that life.   RESOURCES MENTIONED Technology and Addiction: do Online Communities Work? Sign up for the Newsletter here! For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   How Luke’s mother’s death at age 10 caused severe trauma throughout his life. And how learning about this masculinity code shaped his identity in the world.  How coping mechanisms of not showing emotions kept him safe in his household. A turning point for Luke was when a friend pierced his denial. And Luke realized, his Mom’s life was an example, her death was a lesson. Luke’s recovery journey started from those first few therapy sessions. What helped him become vulnerable in those therapy sessions. Luke recalls his mentors saying therapy worked which helped him walk through the door. What having mentors means to Luke. Luke gives a detailed litmus test for how he finds mentors. Where is Luke currently in his journey (what’s different now vs. back then). What are some healthy habits Luke uses which benefits his behavior & recovery. What Luke would write on a billboard for all to see. RESOURCES MENTIONED   Lisa Inside Addiction-website Seven healthy habits I use and I recommend clients use. (Luke’s ebook) Facebook Youtube Instagram Spotify Top 7 Memoirs That A.I.R. Recommends   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show! In today’s episode, I outline 6 questions to ask yourself on how routines & rituals have helped you in your recovery. My bullet points below are a series of questions rather than statements. This is similar to what I do with my monthly newsletter. I’m a big journaler and our brains are problem solving “vessels” so let it do its job. Write down each question and then answer it WHAT WE’LL LEARN Ask Yourself:   Question #1:  Identify What routines and rituals that have created continuity for you this year?  Question #2:  What new routines and rituals have created structure and joy for you this year? Question #3:  Do you follow any religious or spiritual rituals? (a familiar A.I.R. question) :) Question #4:  What are some special routines or rituals you’ve made with friends this year? Question #5:  What new routines and rituals would you like to try now? Question #6:  How can you use Rituals for “slips?”         RESOURCES MENTIONED How Decluttering Your Life Can Positively Benefit Your Recovery Sign up for the Newsletter here!   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   How Eli’s deepest roots shaped his identity in the world in a very orthodox Jewish community in New York called Crown Heights. How his childhood felt “very unsafe.” As he was growing up he started to group people as “safe” and “unsafe.” When an older community boy took advantage of him sexually,  Eli unconsciously held onto two deep seated beliefs that followed him throughout his life. Eli felt if he had money it would solve all his problems. At age 23, Eli had hit all these monetary and business goals and he believed all his problems would go away, and the opposite happened. Eli shared, “It was a shattering of a lie.” Eli  talks about feeling “pure sadness” and how getting in touch with that emotion was crucial to his recovery. About 5 years into therapy Eli met with his abuser and that day changed his life. Shame is a fear of not being worthy of connection. Why support groups are so effective. What would Eli write on a billboard for all to see. RESOURCES MENTIONED   Eli Nash-Instagram “Secrets” (YouTube) Out of The Shadows by Patrick Carnes In Search of More (Podcast)   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show! In today’s episode, I outline 5 Ways Hypnotherapy Can Help You Break through Emotional Rock Bottom.  Hypnotherapy is this podcast is a tool but it can be replaced with any resource you like: Brainspotting, Yoga, Meditation, and Memoirs (love a good memoir).   Emotional Rock Bottom I reference a quote which I feel sums up the episode well.  Those Who Have A Why to Live Can Bear Almost Any How -Viktor Frankl   WHAT WE’LL LEARN   There is always light in the darkness. It’s hard to imagine that life will ever get better. But it will. Hypnotherapy will shine a spotlight on your future self. Even in your loneliest moments, you are not alone.  Hypnotherapy will help you gain greater clarity and awareness with what’s in front of you and all around you. Lean into that vulnerability.   The people who matter will be by your side (blood or not). The people that really care for you will stick around and those relationships will likely grow even stronger. Shame is just a feeling (among many). Hypnotherapy can provide a direct link to shame. Will help you to get to where these feelings originated. And remember feelings are just temporary. Case Study: Stefan. Stefan decided he could not live in the chaos anymore. He ultimately became the hero of his story instead of the victim.  Rock bottom is an opportunity to recreate your life. Make it a priority to reach out for help. Bonus: By changing your identity, you change your behaviors. Hypnotherapy can help you change your story (usually after the 1st session). You and you alone are the one that creates meaning. Make the story you tell about your (future) self a good one!   RESOURCES MENTIONED Schedule a free 15 minute 1:1 hypnotherapy consult here.   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   How David’s earliest roots brought up feelings of isolation and sadness. Learn why being one of only a few Catholics from East Tennessee had a huge impact on David. How David’s first drink as an altar boy sipping the Priests wine gave him a feeling that “everything’s going to be okay.” David recalls a real hatred to be himself and a hatred for everyone else that “wasn’t like me.”  David said he went to treatment 5 times in the 80’s for “back problems.” I went to get my family off my back, to get my friends off my back etc… When David’s sister “cut him off” that was the “straw that broke the camel’s back.” And he was ready to seek help. How David now realized the God of his understanding in his youth was not a nice god. Recovery introduced David to a higher power that was different than anything he was ever raised with.  How Covid and the isolation involved with living during a pandemic prompted David to increase his Zoom recovery meetings Where and how David identified his Higher Power (and it continues to develop) David’s message to the A.I.R. community RESOURCES MENTIONED   Augustinerecovery.com David@augustinerecovery.com (email)   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show! In today’s episode, I discuss a pandemic of loneliness and outline 3 ways to combat loneliness during Covid19.   On Measuring Loneliness I reference a quote from Jack:   I received a DM from an old college friend the other day who said he missed me and wanted to catch up. I was so touched that I started to cry. I feel strange saying I'm lonely because I have a loving family. I repeat to myself, I have a wife and kids. But maybe I am lonely. With my week consisting of sitting in front of a computer on Zoom meetings by myself, the amount of people I come into contact with is slim. WHAT WE’LL LEARN The Gender Divide: How Men & Women differ when trying to connect with their same sex friends US Surgeon General (under President Obama) addressed loneliness and why people refuse to address the fact that they’re lonely but it’s actually a sign that our body gives us We discuss an example from Jack’s life Pick up the phone. And call at least 3 guy friends a week. Arrange a standing event.  Get something on the calendar and make it part of your routine (e.g. a standing walk around the neighborhood). Sleep. To increase your resistance. What the surgeon general says about even just trying to connect with other men         RESOURCES MENTIONED Episode 79: Resetting Your Recovery: rituals for healthy living Episode 82: Beyond Stress: training yourself to thrive in recovery Schedule a free 15 minute 1:1 Men’s group consult here. For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   How Liz’s deepest roots shaped her identity in the world which led her to write about stress and trauma. She says she is “exhibit A” of what she writes about How we as a society undermine resilience and how this shows up in addictions Liz’s definition of Trauma: “a condition when our survival brain perceives us to be powerless, helpless, and lacking control” What is the window of tolerance to stress arousal 3 ways we narrow our window over our lifetime The most important thing is that we can widen the window Why the habit of worrying has huge neurobiological costs Adina gets some answers on habit change and the all too familiar resistance How to build ourselves a ladder to help with re-regulating habit change What’s one thing you can do right now to widen the window-this is great! We can go in a virtuous cycle direction or a vicious cycle direction but it’s our choice What is Liz’s message to the AIR community (hint: it involves willpower) RESOURCES MENTIONED   Elizabeth-Stanley.com Mindfulness Based Mind Fitness Training Course Free to public servants. Just head to the FAQ’s section to find the link. Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES)   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show! In today’s episode, I outline 5 ways Hypnotherapy Can Help you Find Unexpected Meaning in recovery.  Hypnotherapy is this podcast is a tool but it can be replaced with any resource you like: talk therapy, yoga, Memoirs (love a good memoir).   Digging for Unexpected Meaning I reference a quote which I feel sums up the episode well.    He who has a why to live can bear almost any how. – Friedrich Nietzsche   WHAT WE’LL LEARN   Take all things as ‘granted’  as gifts not “for granted” as entitlement   Connection. (with your past & future selves)- I talk about bringing in props to the hypnotherapy session to help connect with loved ones at a time where connection is difficult for many Safety. We need to teach our CNS that it’s okay. We are safe at this moment. We identify 3 cues of safety in this present moment. Core Values. Hypnotherapy will help you identify who is your spiritual connection, your higher power, your future self. And when you’re not living up to your core values, Hypnotherapy will point this out (in a non-judgmental way :)) We look at the story of Jack Service.  If you are in AA, you know how powerful service can be.   How hypnotherapy can bring us closer to our loved ones (living & deceased) And no I’m not talking about time travel. Or am I? :)   RESOURCES MENTIONED Episode 80: How to Deal with Extreme Emotional Anxiety Episode 64: Writing as A Vehicle for Truth-Telling, Healing, and Recovery Schedule a free 15 minute 1:1 hypnotherapy consult here.   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one. Subscribe on ITUNES If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   How Elizabeth’s deepest roots shaped her identity in the world  When she recognized how much of a lack of emotional attunement parents can have in their child’s lives Elizabeth managed those really hard emotions with substances because she did not know how to manage her emotional state and/or her Childhood Emotional Neglect Elizabeth defines Childhood Emotional Neglect We talk about how we “Numb” the emotions because we did not learn how to deal with them as a child Elizabeth talks about the challenges with starting a mindfulness practice & Adina jokes about what her clients think of mindfulness in general Elizabeth shares her practitioner wisdom about how to “feel the pain” and the power of brain health Why awareness is so important in healing  What’s the first step in starting a mindfulness practice (hint: it looks a lot like the first step one takes after they relapse) Elizabeth talks about her podcast, Women Worriers and what informed her decision to start her podcast RESOURCES MENTIONED   Selfcompassion.org Insighttimer Headspace Calm.com @womenworriers-Instagram ProgressionCounseling-Facebook ProgressionCounseling.com ProgressionCounseling.com/womenworriers   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today’s show!    WHAT WE’LL LEARN   How Derek earliest memories were rooted in religion but his connectedness and place of belonging was found (and still is) in nature While Derek was in active addiction he watched his brother, father, and mother pass away from complications due to alcoholism which threw him into a deeper state of depression It wasn’t until a suicide attempt, that Derek decided to put himself through rehab. Derek says as he passes his one year anniversary, routine & asking for help has been two great tools for healing Derek talks about the shame and “feeling like a burden” when asking for help How utilizing mentors instead of sponsors is what works for his recovery What his perspective is on how to “reset your recovery”  How he handles things that are out of his control-he gives examples from his own  life Derek discusses what he means by “slowing down to speed up” What Derek’s heartfelt message is  to people who are in active addiction or newly sober during the pandemic Tips on how Derek connects with others during the pandemic What’s Derek’s message to the A.I.R. community RESOURCES MENTIONED   DerekJThatcher@gmail.com-Email   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today’s show! Is low self-esteem holding you back? In today’s solo episode I outline 5 ways to banish negative self-talk, increase self worth and take back your relationship with yourself to keep you from “ruining” your recovery. WHAT WE’LL LEARN Listen to your language. They are the sentences that begin with, ‘I am…’ or ‘I am not…’.  Who AM I? (think of the messages you received from childhood) Many factors went into creating this inner self. The Goal is, No Self-Esteem. The “cure” for low self-esteem isn't high self-esteem, it’s no self-esteem.  The Story of David How to Accept Yourself for Who You Are. Stop judging yourself! Questions to ask yourself. (an exercise).  Write these questions down and answer them. Our brain is a problem solving vessel!   RESOURCES MENTIONED The Masculinity Dilemma:  covert depression and self-sabotage   Schedule a free 15 minute 1:1 hypnotherapy consult here. For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one. Subscribe on ITUNES If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show! In today’s episode, As we embark on the New Year, I outline 3 things to let go of in the form of verbs (and 3 things to hold onto). This can apply to your recovery but it can also apply to your everyday life-your finances, your sexual story, your relationship with self & others. WHAT WE’LL LEARN Hypnotherapy can be a highly effective tool in the early stages (as well as the maintenance stages) of recovery Hypnotherapy addresses those feelings we work so hard to push down (and we consciously may not even know we do this) or dismiss The verb: To Ask.     The verb: To Take. The verb: To Receive.   The struggle with vulnerability (the story of Ann)  In conclusion, what verb would you pick to strengthen in the new year    RESOURCES MENTIONED   Schedule a free 15 minute 1:1 hypnotherapy consult here. For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.

Welcome to today’s show!    WHAT WE’LL LEARN   How David’s earlier experiences helped him to realize his calling was to help cultivate stories in other people. How living near a crime scene had prompted David to ask “Why do people commit crimes” and further searching questions like: “Why did his life turn out this way?” And “Does he want a better life?” David discussed a story from the book about Naji who is five years old at the time and dealing with issues of race How to start writing and the cathartic effect it can have on us What to say to yourself when you think you’re not a good writer How to rewrite the past just by writing the story as you remember it How you can start a writing group right now What’s David’s message to the A.I.R. community   . RESOURCES MENTIONED   Episode One of  Writing our Way Out Podcast Writing Our Way Out Prompts Writing Our Way Out Book Writingourwayout.com dcoogan@vcu.edu For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today’s show!   In today’s solo episode, I’m sharing a book that has helped me to better understand Depression-especially male depression. In the show, I outline 5 takeaways from the book.   WHAT WE’LL LEARN   Here is what I want to spend time highlighting as if we were sitting together having an iced decaf mocha! How you can pass depression on from parent to child like a chain of pain For men, pain is something you should rise above and when we “fail” that is when the shame comes out The difference between overt vs. covert depression How depression leads to numbing the pain with behaviors & addictions Gender differences in how one handles depression The story of David Autobiographical thread throughout the book is riveting and raw especially how Terry Real turned his life around by breaking his own toxic legacy Adina’s PSA to the A.I.R. community   RESOURCES MENTIONED   Episode 52-where Adina talks about R.A.I.N. I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression atheistsinrecovery.com/audible For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN: This episode features 15 of our past guests. Each guest submitted an audio recording answering the question: “What’s the one thing you wish you knew in early sobriety.” This show was so much fun to work on. This episode is also a celebration of sorts as we mark the one year anniversary of the podcast! After this episode, I am taking a much needed break but will be back in September with brand new episodes.    Joe C. shares his message to his younger self and his analogy between recovery time and flying a plane is a good one! Joe’s website is Rebellion Dogs Publishing Tom Bannard discusses how the hard recovery work will pay off. Tom’s website is VCU's Rams in Recovery Bari Cohen shares what she wishes she knew about a connection to a higher power and fully committing to the 12 steps. Bari’s Facebook page is, Bari Cohen Liv Pennelle’s experience is, recovery is fluid and your needs change as you progress. Liv’s website is: Liv's Recovery Kitchen Bill Greer discusses learning how not to be overwhelmed at the start. He uses great imagery to drive home his point. His website is:  Smart Recovery USA Duane Osterlind shares there is nothing to be afraid of when asking for support and nothing to be ashamed of for getting support. His website is: Novus Mindful Life Nicole Burgess talks about what she would tell clients who are starting their trauma recovery journey. Her website is: Nicole Burgess Coaching Peter Finger shares that recovery gets easier as you go and having new coping skills to replace the old ones helps to exercise that recovery muscle. His website is:  Smart Recovery South Dakota Dr. Liz discuses how your whole life is going to get better in recovery and your future self will thank you. Her website is: Dr. Liz Hypnosis Julie Cole says she wishes she knew to slow down in early recovery and to treat it like a marathon and not a sprint. Her website is: Cole Wellness Rev. Edie Weinstein shares recovery is a process and not a one and done event. Her website is: Opti Mystical Matt Markowicz discusses loneliness and disconnection with self as being his primary battles in early sobriety. You can reach him on Linkedin: Matt's Linkedin Page Diane D Rodriguez (Dee Dee) discusses how loss and grief can show up in early sobriety and help to keep us stuck. Her website is: Live Life Changed Chris Marshall-says that fun needs to be a focus in your sobriety. His website is: The Sans Bar Mishka Shubaly says both laughing til it hurts and inappropriate jokes are still available to you in sobriety and to have fun! His website is: Mishka Shubaly   For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery.   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page. Website copy only: [Some of the links mentioned above are affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I will earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you.]

Welcome to today’s show!   WHAT WE’LL LEARN:   How John’s early view of religion helped shape his identity in the world Why did John ultimately decide to conform to religious beliefs even though his family had decided religion was not a part of their worldview How John’s traumatic experience (and how he absorbed that experience) led to his accelerated drinking  How after 25 years in AA, John came to the conclusion that he was an Atheist Why John rejects the concept of a higher power and how this led to a fracture with his home group What informed John’s decision to start the AA Beyond Belief community John talks about how he has changed as a person from the beginning of the podcast until now What would John write on a billboard for all to see RESOURCES MENTIONED   aabeyondbelief-Facebook  aabeyondbelief-YouTube Aabeyonbelief.org atheistsinrecovery.com/audible       For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one. Subscribe to the A.I.R. newsletter where you will learn to identify patterns of dysfunctional thinking, change the dysfunctional thinking into something more positive, and find hope in recovery. If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.