Podcasts about talk about it overcoming

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about experiences at the 2024 Italian Samson Retreat with nuns. Our Guest: Zach Brittle, who is the only Gottman and RLT trained couples therapist in the world. He is also a cohost of Marriage Therapy Radio, a husband, father, teacher, and four years sober, recovering alcoholic. Zach discusses getting married at 23 and being happily married for 24 of the 27 years. He works for the Gottman Institute and tells us the origins of the Gottman method and why it's so effective in therapy. Zach encourages us to be curious about the possibilities for our relationship beyond repairing the issue that brought us to therapy. Also, being curious about what's not being said, and the origins of addiction and shame. He shares the science behind successful marriage repair. He leaves us with many hopeful and positive resources as well. Links:   Zach Brittle Books: Marriage Therapy Journal By: Zach Brittle The Relationship Alphabet: A Practical Guide to Better connection for Couples: By Zach Brittle Reconnect: A Marriage Counseling Workbook: Guided Conversations and Exercises for Long-Lasting Relationship By: Zach Brittle and Laura Heck Other Books Mentioned: I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression By: Terrence Real Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship By: Terrence Real How Can I get Through to You: Reconnecting Men and Women By: Terrence Real The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work By: John Gottman and Nan Silver Summit: 2025 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Wellness + Wisdom | Episode 652 Why facing your fear straight on is the only way out of it? Dr. John Delony, joins Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 652, to share the principles of living a non-anxious life, why winning won't make you well, how men can escape the hustle and grind lifestyle and lead with an open heart instead, and why there's power in vulnerability. "Fear is just an internal alarm system that your body sets off. And so when we give it more power and credence, when we stamp that label on our souls, it begins to dictate all of our actions." - Dr. John Delony

Terry teaches the practice of relational mindfulness. He advises us to shift our view of relationship from a zero-sum situation where one person wins and the other loses, one is right and the other is wrong, he gives us examples of how to conduct skillful and effective communication in order to get off the treadmill of repetitive fights with our partners. Terry Real is a family therapist and author. He's the founder of the Relational Life Institute, which offers Relational Life Therapy (RLT) courses online and in-person workshops for couples, individuals, parents, and professionals. He is the author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner 1998), How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Gap Between Men and Women (Simon & Schuster 2002), The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work (Ballantine Books 2008), Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Rodale Books 2022) Interview Date: 2/14/2024 Tags: Terry Real, hyper-individualism, toxic individualism, relational mindfulness, Relational Life Therapy, RLT, disharmony, repair, James Framo, marriage, patriarchy, non-binary, false binary, Thomas Hubl, wounded child, brain, interconnectedness, Relationship, Personal Transformation, Psychology

Terry Real is a family therapist and author. He's the founder of the Relational Life Institute, which offers Relational Life Therapy (RLT) courses online and in-person workshops for couples, individuals, parents, and professionals. He is the author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner 1998), How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Gap Between Men and Women (Simon & Schuster 2002), The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work (Ballantine Books 2008) and Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Rodale Books 2022)Interview Date: 2/14/2024 Tags: Terry Real, marriage, relationship, James Framo, couples therapy, adaptive child, maladapted child, wise adult, Pia Mellody, self esteem, Relational Life Therapy, RLT, provocative distance taking, responsible distance taking, patriarchy, serenity prayer, personal biosphere, Relationship, Psychology, Personal Transformation

In this week's episode of "This Changes Everything," Sarah is answering some of your heartfelt questions about love and friendship. struggling with attraction to older men following teenage sexual assault, supporting a partner with depression, rebuilding trust after relationship issues, accepting the end of friendships, and what to do if you feel like you aren't moving on from a breakup fast enough. Keep your questions coming! We love hearing from you. This Changes Everything Voicemail: Record your question by calling ‪(313) 338-8828‬ The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk The Courage to Heal Workbook by Laura Davis I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real How You Can Survive When They're Depressed by Anne Sheffield Daring Greatly by Brené Brown Friendship: The Evolution, Biology, and Extraordinary Power of Life's Fundamental Bond by Lydia Denworth The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown The Wisdom of a Broken Heart by Susan Piver Take the guessing out of eating well and try Daily Harvest. For a limited time only, go to dailyharvest.com/tce to get thirty dollars off your first box plus free shipping. No matter your path, it's time to make a move with Alo Moves. Get a free 30-day Alo Moves subscription by going to alomoves.com and use code TCE. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off off your Starter Pack (that's over 40% off) with promo code TCE at LumeDeodorant.com! #lumepod DISCLAIMER: This podcast offers information for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified mental health provider for medical or mental health concerns. The host, guests, and network disclaim responsibility for any decisions or actions you make based on information provided by this podcast.

The holiday season is upon us shortly in the US. Some men will be surrounded by close ones, and some will finally get the R&R they've been craving, but many may feel alone.Americans have less and less friends. On this episode, Samantha and Remoy talk through some Survey Center on America Life findings on the state of American friendships. There are many men who have absolutely no friends, and that number is steadily increasing. The hosts get some help to understand how this impacts them during the holiday season.Our resident counselor for men, Justin Lioi, is back to talk about having mental ease during the holidays. He stresses that being alone at this time can be a fulfilling choice but it's OK to reach out for attention and support if it's loneliness rather than intentional alone time.Justin helps the hosts understand why reaching out can be difficult for men, how slipping back into old relationship dynamics can make it worse, and how to detect mental distress in the body.COMPANION PIECES:Ya can't pour from an empty cup! How Men Can Take Better Care of ThemselvesIgnoring it won't make it go away! How doing the work leads to men's freedom Special Episode! Getting Free, with Darnell MooreReferenced on this episode:Terrence Real, therapist author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male DepressionPia Mellody, author of Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our LivesBowling Alone by Robert D. Putnam shows how we people in modern societies have become more and more disconnected from each other

Jesus' final instruction to his followers was to proclaim the gospel to the whole creation. Those instructions are also for us today. But why do so many Christians struggle to share their faith? Let's talk about it. This series will help you learn how to confidently share your faith with others. Reflection Questions: ‌What fears do you have in sharing your faith and what encouragement did you receive to overcome those fears?‌ Why is fear an unreasonable response to sharing our faith?‌ What questions do you have about how to share your faith?‌ Other than God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, what person can you trust as a partner to help you in sharing your faith? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/central-city-assembly/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/central-city-assembly/support

Overview: Today, we're going to talk about Sabi, the B2B retail & supply chain services platform. We'll explore the story across the following areas: Africa's and Nigeria's informal retail sector Sabi's early history Product & monetization strategy Competitive positioning & potential exit options Overall Outlook. This episode was recorded on July 23, 2023 Companies discussed: Sabi, Rensource, TradeDepot, Twiga Foods, Wasoko (Sokowatch), Omnibiz, Alerzo, & Marketforce Business concepts discussed: Informal retail penetration, SMB retail OS, B2B Operating systems, Equity carve-outs, Power as a service, Channel margins & Supply chain logistics Conversation highlights: (01:00) - Sabi context (06:30) - Africa and Nigeria informal retail context and background (20:39) - Background on the founders (30:04) - Quick Rensource detour - overview and background (37:05) - Background on Sabi founding (47:52) - Fundraising (56:40) - Geographic expansion, partnerships and metrics, and growth (1:10:15) - Product Strategy (1:21:17) - How Sabi makes money (1:32:06) - Competition and options for exit (1:46:16) - Bankole's overall thoughts and outlook (1:55:59) - Olumide's overall thoughts and outlook (2:07:49) - Recommendations and small wins Olumide's recommendations & small wins: Interested in investing in Africa Tech with Olumide: Read about Adamantium fund & contact me at olumide@afrobility.com. Founders looking for funding: If you're a B2B founder working on Education, Health, Finance or food, please contact me for funding at olumide@afrobility.com Checkout my FIREDOM book = FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early) + Freedom = personal finance and financial independence book. Website, Read: Substack Newsletter & Buy: Print, eBook or Audiobook) Recommendation: Outlive: The Science and Art of Longevity (book by Peter Attia) Recommendation: I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (book by Terrence Real) Small win: Organized House party with friends yesterday, it was fun. Small win: Got a new backpack for future travelling, very nice. Bankole's recommendations & small wins: Recommendation: Invest Like The Best with the co-founder of FIGS & Spiderman Song - Nigerian Remix Small win: New keycaps!!! Other content: How Equifax became a private IRS, Mission.org podcast episode with CEO Sabi  & Norrsken22-Backed Nigerian Startup Plans $125 Million Round Listeners: We'd love to hear from you. Email info@afrobility.com with feedback! Founders & Operators: We'd love to hear about what you're working on, email us at info@afrobility.com Investors: It would be great to link up with you. Contact us at info@afrobility.com Join our substack mailing list where we get feedback on new episodes & find all episodes on Afrobility.com

What are the keys to a successful marriage?  A lot of things change when you retire. Will your marriage evolve and become even stronger? Ana Gabriel Mann and her husband John David Mann have written a book The Go-Giver Marriage: A Little Story About the Five Secrets to Lasting Love with valuable and practical tips on the practices of a successful marriage. Ana Gabriel Mann joins us from Massachusetts. Comments or Questions You'd Like Me to Address on the Podcast? Leave a Voice Message Here ___________________________ Bio Ana Gabriel Mann holds a Master's degree in clinical psychology and dance-movement therapy from Antioch New England, where she specialized in working with adults and family therapy. In addition to her work in family therapy and 5 Secrets marriage coaching, she has served as clinical director for a support program for families caring for loved ones with Alzheimer's disease, co-founded New England's first college of Chinese medicine, and worked as a corporate consultant, speaker, trainer, and business coach. She is the creator and lead facilitator of the Go-Giver Marriage Coaches training program. John David Mann and Ana Gabriel Mann have been dreaming about cowriting The Go-Giver Marriage and bringing its message to the world ever since the first draft of John and Bob's original book, The Go-Giver, came sliding out of his desktop printer in early 2005. ____________________________ For More on Ana Gabriel Mann and The Go-Giver Marriage The Go-Giver Marriage: A Little Story About the Five Secrets to Lasting Love The Go-Giver Marriage Coaches Program John David and Ana Gabriel Mann's Go-Giver Marriage Coaches training and certification program will train you in the art of coaching and mentoring individuals who want to improve their marriage. Programs will commence in the fall of 2022. To be notified when details become available, email programs@gogivermarriage.com _____________________________ Podcast Episodes You May Like The Emotional Side of Retiring – Kate Schroeder The Second Curve of Life – Arthur C. Brooks The Power of Fun – Catherine Price Retire Happy – Dr. Catherine Sanderson ______________________________ Mentioned in This Podcast Episode Terrence Real - I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression The Gottman Institute - The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse _______________________________ What readers are saying about Win The Retirement Game "...amazingly readable, and chock full of insights. " "Definitely the best book I've read on the non-financial aspects of retirement." "The storytelling format makes it fun to read, and the lessons woven into the story are backed up by tons of references." "The storyline of the book is engaging and also actionable, a rare find." Amazon    Barnes & Noble    Bookshop.org Thank you for making the book a #1 Amazon Best Seller in two categories. ____________________________________ Wise Quotes On Mindsets "Mindsets are everything, because here's one of the things that happens in every relationship. You meet and you're in this kiss of romance. It's really amazing. You think I have found my soul mate. But the truth is you're all bringing your history. She is bringing her history. You are bringing your history and whatever that history was from your initial family will start to seep into the relationship. And, some people call it after the honeymoon's over, but it really is the day-to-day. Who are you as a person? And how do you relate in the relationship? Did you have a critical parent? And now you've become a critical partner. Are you a critical parent yourself? It's always that history is reflecting in our relationships. So mindset's incredibly important and intentionality is incredibly important. I tell people often in my coaching practice, you have to decide: who do you want to be in this relationship?" On Learning and Growing

I've been fairly candid about my own, ongoing work with counselors, historically, and today. My current counselor really got deep with me into my relationship with myself and recommended a book called “​​I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression,” by a therapist named Terry Real. I got it and read it and it opened up a whole new level of understanding myself. Terry just recently put out a book called US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. My therapist got it and right away said, “Kevin, I want you to get this book.” I did. It revealed aspects of how I behave unhealthfully in relationships that are nothing less than revolutionary for my life. As an individual, spouse, parent, and more. And bigger picture, how we culturally live as “you and me” and individuals when the bedrock of our being is relational and us. It will either wow you as it did me, or you'll have to fully dismiss it. And I don't think you will. I then went to find out who this guy is and found this book US was was published by Goop press, which is founded and owned by famed actress and client of Terry's, Gwynyth Paltrow. Same with actor Bradley Cooper who emphatically endorses Terry. But then people like famed psychotherapists Esther Perel and Lori Gottliev I find are touting Terry and this book us. And interestingly, the forward is from one of Terry's patients. The forward alone rocked my world. It's by a singer you may have heard of. Bruce Springsteen. But it's not the celebrity component that impresses me, it's the humble and heartfelt words they shared about their life changes. Bruce said, “At age thirty two I hit an emotional wall and realized I was lost in a deep dark forest, largely of my own making without a map. So began forty years of trying to find my way through the shadowed trees, down to the river of a sustaining life. Terry Real has been a guide and this book is a map through those trees. I agree. I wanted to share Terry with you, so this episode is part one of my discussion with him. Find him at terryreal.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

As bestselling author Terrence Real says, if the person who cheated on you is willing to get real and do the work, you're a fool to leave. But if they are unwilling to take accountability and change, then you're a fool to stay. Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there's also not much that's more important. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.  In his transformative new book, “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship” bestselling author Terrence Real brilliantly observes how our individualistic, winner-takes-all culture infiltrates affair recovery with devastating results Top Take-A-Ways: Avoiding “The 5-Losing Strategies” of Relationship Recovery: Proving you are right Controlling your partner Unbridled self-expression Retaliation Withdrawal How to trade in a “power and control” model of relating for a “relational model” so you can cultivate calm when triggered, remember love, and speak, act, and behave in ways that make relationships better – even when you've been betrayed. Understanding and maintaining the “biosphere” of your relationship, so both partners can win, thrive, and transform despite difficulty Working with the partner you have, and not the partner that you deserve in order to create the relationship you want Terrence Real is the bestselling author of “I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression” and “How Can I Get Through to You?: Reconnecting Men and Women.” He has been a practicing family therapist for more than twenty years and has lectured and given workshops across the country. In March 2002, he founded the Relational Empowerment Institute. His work has been featured on NBC Nightly News, Today, Good Morning America, and Oprah, as well as in The New York Times, Psychology Today, Esquire, and numerous academic publications. His latest book is “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship,” and for any of us, but especially for any of us in the betrayal recovery space, this book is huge! Could it be time to stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple? At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real explains how – while self-reflection and working on yourself is indeed essential – too much poisons intimate relationships. With deft insight, humor, and charm, Real guides you to transform your relationship into one that's based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness. “This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop “Us” is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist's flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin. Learn more about Terry Real at: https://terryreal.com/ and buy a copy of his latest book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship anywhere books are sold (or on his website!) Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Spring Sale! One-on-one affair recovery coaching for women who have been cheated on by their intimate partner who are committed to: Overcoming the devastation, pain, and obsessive thoughts and reclaiming peace, Rebuilding trust in themselves, their intuition, and the world, Making sense of their story regardless of their partner's participation, Reconciling the life they have now with the life they thought they'd have, Moving on with confidence and clarity – whether they are working things out with their partner or moving on alone, and Bringing themselves back to life again, stronger and happier than before! Only $333 per month for one 90-minute session per month, a monthly, 30-minute self-hypnosis to use between sessions, weekly prep work to augment your healing, and real-time Voxer support. Lora@loracheadle for more information or to apply. Learn More & Apply Here! www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile!

Save Your Marriage After an Affair - Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship – with Terrence Real As bestselling author Terrence Real says, if the person who cheated on you is willing to get real and do the work, you're a fool to leave. But if they are unwilling to take accountability and change, then you're a fool to stay. Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there's also not much that's more important. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.  In his transformative new book, “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship” bestselling author Terrence Real brilliantly observes how our individualistic, winner-takes-all culture infiltrates affair recovery with devastating results Top Take-A-Ways: Avoiding “The 5-Losing Strategies” of Relationship Recovery: Proving you are right Controlling your partner Unbridled self-expression Retaliation Withdrawal How to trade in a “power and control” model of relating for a “relational model” so you can cultivate calm when triggered, remember love, and speak, act, and behave in ways that make relationships better – even when you've been betrayed. Understanding and maintaining the “biosphere” of your relationship, so both partners can win, thrive, and transform despite difficulty Working with the partner you have, and not the partner that you deserve in order to create the relationship you want Terrence Real is the bestselling author of “I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression” and “How Can I Get Through to You?: Reconnecting Men and Women.” He has been a practicing family therapist for more than twenty years and has lectured and given workshops across the country. In March 2002, he founded the Relational Empowerment Institute. His work has been featured on NBC Nightly News, Today, Good Morning America, and Oprah, as well as in The New York Times, Psychology Today, Esquire, and numerous academic publications. His latest book is “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship,” and for any of us, but especially for any of us in the betrayal recovery space, this book is huge! Could it be time to stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple? At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real explains how – while self-reflection and working on yourself is indeed essential – too much poisons intimate relationships. With deft insight, humor, and charm, Real guides you to transform your relationship into one that's based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness.  “This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop “Us” is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist's flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin. Learn more about Terry Real at: https://terryreal.com/ and buy a copy of his latest book Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship anywhere books are sold (or on his website!) Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Spring Sale! One-on-one affair recovery coaching for women who have been cheated on by their intimate partner who are committed to: Overcoming the devastation, pain, and obsessive thoughts and reclaiming peace, Rebuilding trust in themselves, their intuition, and the world, Making sense of their story regardless of their partner's participation, Reconciling the life they have now with the life they thoughtthey'd have, Moving on with confidence and clarity – whether they are working things out with their partner or moving on alone, and Bringing themselves back to life again, stronger and happier than before! Only $333 per month for one 90-minute session per month, a monthly, 30-minute self-hypnosis to use between sessions, weekly prep work to augment your healing, and real-time Voxer support. Lora@loracheadle for more information or to apply. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! 

It's amazing how couples can function as two distinct individuals in a relationship. Maintaining your own identity while encouraging your partner's interests and personal goals is gold. On the other hand, individual independence can be toxic too. It can make you feel like you're competing with your spouse, getting into a power struggle, and everything else that comes from these two individual perspectives. In this episode, Terry Real encourages us to consider the consequences of approaching a relationship from a toxic individualism perspective and how critical it is to shift to a relational mindset as he shares some actionable steps from his new book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents, along with a professional training program for clinicians to learn his Relational Life Therapy methodology. He is the bestselling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It, How Can I Get Through to You?, and The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 9:18 The inspiration behind the book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. 12:42 What is toxic individualism and how does it affect relationships? 20:14 How to make the transition from automatic response to conscious communication? 23:52 How to empower your relationship. 46:00 Key takeaways. Mentioned Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Terry Real Websites: terryreal.com — relationallife.com Facebook: facebook.com/TerryRealRLI YouTube: youtube.com/user/TerryRealRLI/feed Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Themes: Relationships, Conflict, Patriarchy, Individualism, Sexuality, Masculinity Summary: Today I'm honoured to welcome Terry Real back on the podcast. An internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author, and the founder of the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Real has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists to help people create the connection they desire in relationships. His groundbreaking, bestselling book, I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, established him as one of the most respected voices in the treatment of men and male depression and his expertise on men's mental health and relationship issues have been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, The Oprah Winfrey Show and in The New York Times, among many others. In his practice, Real works with couples on the brink of disaster; he sees how individualism and patriarchy poisons our most intimate relationships. The excellent news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. In Terry's new book, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, he shows people how to stop working on themselves as individuals and start working on their relationship as a couple.   Discover: How to move beyond your traumas and stressors and shift from thinking in terms of me and you to a different consciousness - the consciousness of us How patriarchy poisons our intimate relationships What's happening in your body when you're activated in conflict — plus scripts to help you move beyond your knee-jerk reactions and into your wiser, more collaborative self What's really behind defensiveness How men are programmed to squash what is most needed in their intimate relationships: vulnerability   Links: Check out Terry's first episode on the Mark Groves Podcast: The End of Women Caretaking Men terryreal.com US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I will never forget the day I was in my therapist's office sharing about how my anxiety was through the roof.  I was grieving the death of my father, saddened by my mother's cancer diagnosis, and fearful that my husband's business would have to close its doors.  I was the epitome of “down and out” in my life and marriage.My therapist had the ability to show deep compassion but also called me out on my denial when necessary.  She said, “Molly, you need help and I think you should begin with the book Fierce Intimacy by Terry Real."Terry's “say it like it is” attitude, transparency around his own marriage, and tips and tools, have literally saved my marriage and my soul.  After listening to today's episode I believe your relationships will also benefit from his ability to teach about communicating, not from the adaptive child but the wise adult.I'm so grateful that Terry not only said yes to being a guest on the podcast but said yes during a very busy time in his life with his new book, US: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, releasing on June 7th. It was this “yes” that brought forth an interview where we talked about how to be a present life partner and a loving parent.  He opened up about how his abusive childhood could turn into anger and grandiosity, but with deep internal work, it is now intense love and compassion for himself and others. And that he wrote his latest book to help us all remember how we can transform when there is unity and connection in relationships versus separation and disconnection. Terry is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker, and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy). Terry is the best-selling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work, Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with Love, and his latest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.His ideas on men's issues and couple's therapy have been celebrated in venues that include Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20,  Oprah, and The New York Times. When I look back 10 years ago, sitting in my therapist's office really struggling in my life, I know for sure that today I am a better wife, a less anxious human, and a more compassionate mom thanks to Terry Real. Learn more about Terry RealTerry's booksFind Terry on FacebookLearn more about Molly CarrollGet your free Body Emotion MapFind Molly on Instagram and Facebook 

There is no redeeming value in harshness- nothing good can come from this, that loving firmness can't do better. This is foundational to the work that internationally recognized family therapist, Terry Real, presents to so many of his clients. Whether it is to your partner, or yourself, practicing loving firmness is what can bring us to a place of US, moving us past individualism that separates us from each other, ourselves, the world. In US Terry, reveals how  individualism and patriarchy poisons our most intimate relationships. but offers this excellent news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. In this episode, Terry shows people how to stop working on themselves as individuals and start working on their relationship as a couple, brining opportunity for relationship saving vulnerability and a deepening intimacy that is worth fighting for.Meet Terry!Terry Real knows how to help people create the connection they desire in relationships. An internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author, and the founder of the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Real has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. His groundbreaking, bestselling book, I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, established him as one of the most respected voices in the treatment of men and male depression. His expertise on men's mental health and relationship issues have been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, The Oprah Winfrey Show and in The New York Times, among many others.Real is passionate about showing how the toxic cultures of individualism and patriarchy have seriously damaged our interpersonal relationships. Despite living in a world interconnected by globalization and technology, we are all more disconnected and isolated from each other than ever before. In his practice, Real works with couples on the brink of disaster; he sees how individualism and patriarchy poisons our most intimate relationships. The excellent news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. In US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Goop Press), Real shows people how to stop working on themselves as individuals and start working on their relationship as a couple. Neurobiology shows that the mind exists in a social context, and couples co-regulate one another's nervous systems. But it's hard to get that delicate dance right if you, like so many people, grew up without adequate emotional support. The techniques you developed to survive a dysfunctional family as a kid—the very skills that probably bring you success in your career—will torch your relationships. US—the culmination of four decades of Real's clinical practice as well as teaching and writing about relationships, trauma, gender, and healing—is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset. One that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the cultural landscape that reinforce our dysfunction. Using psychology, history, and stories of couples who have entered his office, Real helps readers move beyond their traumas and stressors and shift from thinking in terms of me and you to a different consciousness. The consciousness of us. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” Thanks to our sponsors!https://arSupport the show

In today's premier episode of SHITSHOW SATURDAY, we are joined by Shitshow Scott, who shares about his upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and his ongoing journey of healing & recovery.Resources referencedBooks -- Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma Paperback by Pete Walker- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.- It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn- Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One by Joe Dispenza - Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness by Jon Kabat-Zinn - I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence RealPodcasts -- Traumatized Motherfuckers- 10 Percent HappierSupport the Podcast -https://www.patreon.com/adultchildwww.buymeacoffee.com/adultchildFollow Andrea on social -www.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodSupport the show (http://www.patreon.com/adultchild)

Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker, and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher for more than twenty-five years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner, 2002), The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work, and his latest book, Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.terryreal.com/“Women are unhappy in their marriages because they want men to be more related than most men know how to be. And men are unhappy in their marriages because their women seem so unhappy with them.” ~Terry RealMichael Stone is a spiritual author, mentor, shamanic practitioner, radio host, producer, and trauma integration facilitator who co-creates individual and group environments and experiences that support people in transcending the myth of separation, and experiencing deep and profound interconnection with others and all of life. He has been teaching and leading experiential events, classes, teleseminars and workshops on Organizational Development, Embodied Shamanism, Moving Meditation, Mysticism, Personal Growth, and Spiritual Fulfillment for over 40 years.For more information on the Well of Light Global Community, Programs, Radio shows and Services go to www.welloflight.comTo access other great interviews and offerings: www.patreon.com/welloflightYour donations are gratefully received and make it all possible!

#285 Join the Great Man Mastermind: https://www.dominickq.com/masterminds/the-digital-mastermind Join the Facebook Group for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin Here's a quote from Terrence Real, therapist and author of the best seller: I Dont Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression “The way we turn boys into men is through injury. We pull them away from their own expressiveness, from their feelings, from their sensitivity to others. The very phrase “To be a man” means suck it up and keep going. Disconnection is not the fallout from traditional masculinity, disconnection IS traditional masculinity.” What Terrence Real is saying is most men have been indoctrinated to manhood through sustaining injury – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. We are taught to deal with that injury by disconnecting from our emotions. So not only are we walking around with untreated mental, emotional and spiritual wounds… …we don't even have the awareness that we're wounded because we're so disconnected from our emotions and ourselves. Here are some signs that wounds exist: You self sabotage when things in your life are going well You have difficulty maintaining intimacy in romantic relationships You are surrounded by people yet feel misunderstood and alone You don't have deep emotional relationships with other men You have a hard time trusting men You have a hard time trusting women You carry guilt or shame in your sexuality   In This Episode: The 7 Masculine Wounds: Growing up without a father/father figure Growing up with an emotionally unavailable father Enmeshment with a mother Never learning how to trust men with his emotions Having been bullied for size/status/sexual orientation Hazing rituals as normalized rights of passage to acceptance Believing pain and suffering are the most noble paths to success The impact these wounds have on our resiliency, on our ability to connect, on our ability to be trustworthy leaders How men's work facilitates the ability to turn towards, face and heal these wounds

“Before our boys have learned to read, they have already read the stoic code of masculinity and are conforming to it.” says Terry Real, world-renowned family therapist, speaker, best-selling author and founder of the Relational Life Institute, where he offers workshops for couples, individuals, parents and therapists. He is also a dear friend. While he's best known for his couples work, decades ago, he wrote the landmark book on male depression, which I cannot recommend enough. It's called, I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, and with it, Real established himself as one of the most respected voices in the treatment of men and the healing of their relationships with the world. In this episode, we talk about why depression is “illegal” for men, the cultural programming of boys, and forced detachment in the name of autonomy. Our culture of individualism, Real says, has done as much damage as our culture of patriarchy—leaving men little room for the type of connection and relationality that we humans live for. He leaves us with the steps for deprogramming ourselves from patriarchal thinking and parenting as well as the ways in which we can support the men in our lives in service of deeper connection and the pursuit of greater relational joy.  EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: Exploring Terry's theory of male depression…(2:30) The cultural programming of boys…(12:50) Active trauma, passive trauma, and the severing of connection in the name of autonomy …(19:50)  Icarus syndrome and learning to find relational joy…(37:08) MORE FROM TERRY REAL: Terry's Website I Don't Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression How Can I Get Through To You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women The New Rules Of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work Take Terry's Online Course - Staying in Love: The Art of Fierce Intimacy DIG DEEPER: Find an RLT Certified Therapist Near You  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU!   Show Notes for this Episode   Our 14-year-old daughter is being secretive and deleting texts. How do we navigate social media while maintaining our relationship with her? We've been married 11 years and my wife seems to have checked out. I am becoming bitter and angry. What can I do? I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression – by Terrence Real I'm caring for my first foster baby. How do prepare myself and my family for the time when we have to say goodbye to the baby? Lyrics of the Day: "The Fire" - The Roots feat. John Legend   As heard on this episode: BetterHelp 5-Minute Coverage Checkup   tags:   These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately.`

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John will give you practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step when you feel frozen, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. You are not alone in this battle. You are worth being well—and it starts by focusing on what you can control. Let us know what’s going on by leaving a voicemail at 844.693.3291 or visiting johndelony.com/show. We want to talk to YOU!   Show Notes for this Episode   What books am I currently reading? non-fiction: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson The Biology of Desire - Why Addiction Is Not a Disease - Marc Lewis PhD Discipline Equals Freedom - Jocko fiction: Parable of the Talents - Octavia Butler Sleep Donation - Karen Russell The Only Good Indians - Stephen Graham Jones How Long 'til Black Future Month? - N.K. Jemisin   All-time favorite fiction: Danny the Champion of the World - Roald Dahl The Catcher in the Rye - J. D. Salinger Fight Club - Chuck Palahniuk The Yearling - Marjorie Kinnan Rawlings Where the Red Fern Grows - Wilson Rawls The Adventures of Tom Sawyer - Mark Twain Jayber Crow - Wendell Berry Harry Potter series - J.K. Rowling   What books do I recommend for raising children? I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression – by Terrence Real Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. Gibson The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry - John Mark Comer  Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief - David Kessler   What do I think about phone usage for kids?   What was the research I did for my PhDs?   What are my favorite podcasts? The Drive - Dr. Peter Attia Where Should We Begin? - Esther Perel Nurture vs Nurture with Dr. Wendy Mogel Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard Jocko Podcast - Leadership and Discipline standup comedians   What is my routine for living with adult ADHD? don't forget to remember writing things down sleep connection   What do I think about music education?   How often do you go without sugar?   Can you go into detail about the foods you eat?   What supplements do I take?   What's the sweetest thing I've ever done to surprise my wife?   How many followers/listeners does my show actually have?   What would I say to my younger self?   What's my most embarrassing moment?   What advice would I give to a therapist starting a practice?   Why am I so obsessed with diarrhea references?   What's the best woo-woo guidance I've ever received?   Favorite local Nashville places?   Lyrics of the Day: "Can I Kick It" - A Tribe Called Quest   As heard on this episode:  BetterHelp Redefining Anxiety John's Free Guided Meditation   These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately.

The six women discuss feedback they’ve received from episode one through five based on their discussions of “Women Who Run with the Wolves” by Clarissa Pinkola Estés. They also call themselves out on times they were insensitive and speak about their privilege. Between laughing at their own mothers’ responses to the podcast, debating suggestions of the male version of “Women Who Run with the Wolves”, diving deep into the self help industry and trying to answer whether we need to fix ourselves, they are honest about their views and their lives. They ultimately discover how important storytelling is in all environments. Discussion Points: Kim reflecting on the group’s Coyote Dick conversation and possible insensitivity/the importance of coyote as the trickster in indigenous cultures in storytelling Storytelling as a valid form of education Acknowledging the group’s privilege in regards to discussion of the Ugly Duckling - not everyone can pick their group The book interrupted members’ mothers’ and mother-in-laws’ support and feedback Meredith’s Down The Rabbit Hole blog every Sunday and responses to it Lindsay’s feedback about episode three and not being a mom in a group of mothers Suggestions of male versions of Women Who Run with the Wolves and discussion on whether it fits: “The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire” by David Deida; “I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression” by Terrence Real; “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Miguel Ruiz How Kim should write Coles Notes of spiritual self-help books that annoy her Response to a fan feedback of “the topic is basically like fixing yourself which implies that you are broken” The self help industry - do you need to fix yourself or not? Is ignorance bliss? Is the podcast and club only for women? Is Women Who Run with the Wolves only for women? Other feedback Kara’s boss’ way she applies storytelling (and particularly “Women Who Run with the Wolves”) in a corporate environment Resources: Book Interrupted Website Book Interrupted YouTube Channel

Welcome to today’s show!   In today’s solo episode, I’m sharing a book that has helped me to better understand Depression-especially male depression. In the show, I outline 5 takeaways from the book.   WHAT WE’LL LEARN   Here is what I want to spend time highlighting as if we were sitting together having an iced decaf mocha! How you can pass depression on from parent to child like a chain of pain For men, pain is something you should rise above and when we “fail” that is when the shame comes out The difference between overt vs. covert depression How depression leads to numbing the pain with behaviors & addictions Gender differences in how one handles depression The story of David Autobiographical thread throughout the book is riveting and raw especially how Terry Real turned his life around by breaking his own toxic legacy Adina’s PSA to the A.I.R. community   RESOURCES MENTIONED   Episode 52-where Adina talks about R.A.I.N. I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression atheistsinrecovery.com/audible For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Welcome to today’s show!   In today’s solo episode, I’m sharing a book that has helped me to better understand Depression-especially male depression. In the show, outline 5 takeaways from the book.   WHAT WE’LL LEARN   Here is what I want to spend time highlighting as if we were sitting together having an iced decaf mocha! How you can pass depression on from parent to child like a chain of pain For men, pain is something you should rise above and when we “fail” that is when the shame comes out The difference between overt vs. covert depression How depression leads to numbing the pain with behaviors & addictions Gender differences in how one handles depression The story of David Autobiographical thread throughout the book is riveting and raw especially how Terry Real turned his life around by breaking his own toxic legacy Adina’s PSA to the A.I.R. community   RESOURCES MENTIONED   Episode 52-where Adina talks about R.A.I.N. I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression For more info, head over to atheistsinrecovery.com and subscribe to our email list. And thank you for listening!   Leave an honest review on ITUNES.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one.   Subscribe on ITUNES   If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it with friends, family, and other professionals by using the social media buttons on this page.  

Dr. Banker is interviewed about what the syndrome of depression. Terrence Real (1998). I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression. Diagnostic-Statistical-Manual-Mental-Disorders World Health Organization: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/depression --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/xan0/message

How are you facing adversity? While serving in the United States Army, Marcus was seriously injured as he prepared to deploy with the 10th Mountain Light Infantry Division. This injury left Marcus paralyzed and turned his world upside down. During the subsequent surgery, Marcus died on the operating table twice. While the operation saved Marcus's life, he was still unable to walk. This adversity gift served as the catalyst Marcus needed to change his mindset and, therefore, his life. The lessons learned from Marcus's endeavor revealed his purpose and drives him to spread his message today.Book Recommendations:The War of Art Thick Face, Black Heart: The Warrior Philosophy for Conquering the Challenges of Business and Life I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression The 5 Love Languages Hardcover Special Edition: The Secret to Love That Lasts Instant Impact: use this as an opportunity to find out what is important to you. In this Episode: About Marcus Aurelius Anderson [ 0:00 ]How adversity is a gift [ 4:55 ]Why mindset is essential for adversity [ 8:00 ]The benefits of adversity [ 11:30 ]About Marcus’s routines [ 14:10 ]Book recommendations [ 18:35 ]How to live a life of purpose [ 25:10 ]How to combat comfort and complacency [ 27:45 ]Advice for people who are feeling overwhelmed [ 29:45 ]How to make the most of adversity [ 34:00 ]Instant Impact [ 38:40 ]

Finlay Wilson gained overnight international recognition for his "cheeky" and viral Kilted Yoga video, which aired on the BBC in 2017. But don't let that first impression fool you. The Kilted Yogi himself is quite serious about yoga. Finlay is a senior Forrest Yoga teacher who owns and operates a studio in his hometown of Dundee, Scotland, and he has also established the Young Yogis Project to bring free yoga to toddlers, children, teenagers and young people with special needs and disability. Finlay is a cook, published author, media activist, and of course, tartan enthusiast. In this episode, you'll hear from Finlay on: The darker side of willpower, and the role yoga played in Finlay's swapping alcoholism for bulimia and other forms of addiction How, if we aren't careful, we can use mental gymnastics to justify self-destructive behavior The validity of human feeling, and the difference between 'detachment' and emotional unavailability How Finlay parlayed 15 minutes of fame into a wide-reaching platform from which he speaks out on depression, abuse, and civil rights Announcements: Help me get to China for the IYSF World Asana Championships! Donate to my travel fund: paypal.me/henrywins Join me for workshops in NYC (Yoga & Fitness Herald Square), Virginia (The Yoga Dojo + Hot Yoga Richmond), and California (YogaWorks Costa Mesa): henrywins.com/events Apply to the Jan 2019 200-hour teacher training at Lighthouse Yoga School, and get $100 OFF your tuition with referral code HENRYWINS: henrywins.com/events Links from this episode: Watch the Kilted Yoga BBC video on YouTube I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real — Grab a copy of Finlay's recommended book Get in touch with Finlay: finlay-wilson.com — Check out the Kilted Yogi's blog and upcoming events Follow @finlay0901 on Instagram

Traditional therapy has done a great job of providing clients with a warm, loving, compassionate environment to heal. Unfortunately, it falls short when it comes to bringing up difficult truths to people when that is necessary. In this episode, Terry Real talks about the three phases of his model, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the first of which is joining through the truth. In this way he begins the process of creating quick, profound change in the individuals and couples he works with.  During the conversation we get into stance-stance-dance, empowering the latent, using a lot of pause, grandiosity, inner child work, and many of the other aspects of Terry's model for couples therapists (RLT). Terry Real is a leader in the field of couples therapy. He has written 3 books which are linked below, numerous articles, and has been featured in countless interviews with media outlets. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and continues to work with couples as well as train therapists. For more information on his upcoming level one training click the link below. The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. There is an episode released every Tuesday about the practice of couples therapy. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes! If you enjoyed the episode please leave a rating and review on iTunes. Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group. Check out Terry Real's website at terryreal.com Click here to learn more about RLT level 1 training Books The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

“It’s never too late. Put the divorce on pause, find a really strong, good therapist who knows what they’re doing, and give it a few months before you pull the plug.” Terry Real is a renown family therapist and the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and How Can I Get Through to You?: Reconnecting Men and Women. Terry is the founder of the Relational Empowerment Institute, and his work has been featured on NBC Nightly News, Today, and Oprah, as well as in The New York Times, Psychology Today, and numerous academic publications. He is known for his ground-breaking work in helping transform couples on the brink of divorce. Today, Terry joins Katherine to discuss the role of grieving your marriage in the process of letting go and the silver lining of learning that can come from the divorce process. He shares his approach to working with couples on ‘marital death’s door,’ explaining how he leverages the Relationship Intervention to get couples back on track. Listen in to find out why Terry thinks you should press the pause button and seek out emergency couples therapy before you move forward with divorce. Topics Covered The challenge around feeling the pain of divorce without acting it out The pivotal role of grieving in the process of letting go How to view divorce as a potential growth experience Understand your part in what went wrong Realign with core values How the Relationship Intervention helps couples get back on track Terry’s approach to working with couples on ‘marital death’s door’ Take sides, tell the truth Create treatment program The value of having a therapist that acts as a coach rather than a cheerleader Why couples don’t seek help before they are in dire straits Terry’s take that no matter how bad a marriage is, there is always hope The four methods of decision-making in the divorce process DIY Traditional litigation model Mediation Collaborative law Connect with Terry Real Terry’s Website: www.terryreal.com Books by Terry Real: amazon.com/Terrence-Real/e/B000APV0Q8/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1 Resources Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life by Abigail Trafford: www.thetimes.co.uk/article/how-not-to-hatehttps://www.amazon.com/Crazy-Time-Surviving-Divorce-Building/dp/0060923091-your-husband-like-i-used-to-sdzfrwzff ‘How to Not Hate Your Husband’ in The Times: https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/how-not-to-hate-your-husband-like-i-used-to-sdzfrwzff Staying in Love Online Course: http://stayinginlove.pages.ontraport.net/%20 Relationship Inventory Quiz: www.terryreal.com/quiz I Don’t Want to Talk About It by Terry Real: www.terryreal.com/product/i-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher for more than twenty-five years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight- talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work. Terry's work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men's issues and on couples therapy have been celebrated in venues from the Good Morning America, The Today Show and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.” Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by- step journey to greater intimacy — and greater personal fulfillment. His website is www.terryreal.com.

In this episode I explore: the link between anger and depression. the different types of depression. different treatments for depression. reframing depression. Please listen and subscribe to my podcast in the following places, and then leave a comment letting me know what you liked about the show, or what guest you would like to hear from. Thank you so much for your support. iTunes -- Stitcher Player FM -- Libsyn Resources Mentioned in the Episode NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Health NIMH: National Institute of Mental Health ADAA: Anxiety and Depression Association of America MAYO: Mayo Clinic TWLOHA: To Write Love on Her Arms (self-harm, suicide) I Just Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terence Real Unmasking Male Depression: Recognizing the Root Cause to Many Problems Such as Anger, Resentment, Abusiveness, Silence, Addictions, and Sexual Compulsiveness by Archibald Hart A Women’s Guide to Overcoming Depression by Archibald Hart and Catherine Hart Weber A Mind of Your Own: The Truth About Depression and How Women Can Heal Their Bodies to Reclaim Their Lives by Kelley Brogan M.D. and Kristin Loberg Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation by Parker Palmer Naming and Navigating Depression in the Lives of Teenagers by Rhett Smith

It is not unusual for me to be sitting across from a man in my therapy office as he relays to me the story about when he first learned that it was not okay for boys to cry. It is usually a very powerful moment. I have heard men of all ages and backgrounds tell this story. And though the characters and contexts are different, the take away message is always the same. It is not safe for men to show emotions. One of the more powerful moments came in my work with a man in his 70's as he recalled with tears in his eyes that incident 70 years earlier when his father told him to stop crying. That event was 70 years ago and it had a profound shaping affect on that man's understanding of masculinity and what defines it. I am super passionate about helping men identify their feelings. Because if a man can identify them, understand them, name them...have words and language for them...he often begins to not only understand himself better, but so do those people in relationship with him. He begins to own his own story in the words of Brene Brown in Rising Strong. And once he can begin to identify his feelings then we are off and running. He then learns to be able to connect those feelings to the negative coping behaviors that he has probably, and automatically, operated out of most of his life. And it's this awareness that I know eventually leads to powerful change for that man. For without the awareness, one cannot change. I've seen men's lives changed in this process and it has changed my life as well. So it's important to me to help you better understand why men have a hard time connecting to their emotions, and what role you may play in that for good or bad. In this episode I explore: our culture's pressure on men to not cry and to just "be a man." how boys are as equally expressive as young girls...but then why that changes. how a man can begin the process of identifying and connecting to his feelings/emotions what role the people in men's lives have in either perpetuating the belief that it's not okay for men to cry...or in helping create a safe place for men to be vulnerable. how to create a safe space for men to be vulnerable. Please listen and subscribe to my podcast in the following places, and then leave a comment letting me know what you liked about the show, or what guest you would like to hear from. Thank you so much for your support. iTunes -- Stitcher Player FM -- Libsyn Resources Mentioned in this Episode Two Words You Should Never Tell a Boy (blog post) What it Means to be a Man: God's Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes by Rhett Smith Rising Strong by Brene Brown I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terence Real

Terry Real is a renowned psychotherapist, author, and speaker celebrated for his significant contributions to the field of relational trauma and adult child issues. In today's episode, we delve into...