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Jason VanRuler is one of the most sought-after therapists in relationships, trauma, and personal transformation. He has helped thousands show up as their best self, get connected, and have exceptional relationships. Jason has also been featured in renowned media outlets such as the New York Times, Fox News, and many others. He is also the author of the #1 Amazon Best Selling "Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection.” To learn more about the podcast or access the show notes, visit www.redletterpodcast.com. We talk about the power of freedom in today's episode with Jason VanRuler. And we'd now love for you to go on the journey to not only forgive others, but to receive God's forgiveness for your life. Before we can truly bring reconciliation to others in the world, we need to be reconciled to God. Thankfully, He doesn't withhold His grace of forgiveness from any of us. It's time to receive the freedom that comes with the forgiveness of God because a forgiven person becomes a forgiving person!We'd love to introduce you to the 40-Day Forgiving Challenge.Forgiving Challenge takes you on a life-changing journey to experience the gift of God's grace so that you can share it with others. It also helps you identify and walk through the five phases leading to freedom. You can learn more about the challenge here!Resources mentioned in the episode: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Get Past Your Past How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection by Jason VanRuler Key insights from the episode: We get comfortable with our past even when it's bad. – Jason VanRuler Generational trauma stops with us. – Jason VanRuler The first step is saying, “I am responsible.” – Jason VanRuler Jason VanRuler's Challenge: What is one thing you are carrying around from your past that it's time to let go of?Are you following Jesus? Many want to be greater followers of Jesus but don't know how. We extensively studied everything Jesus commanded of us and located five key targets to which Jesus invited His followers. The five targets are Being, Forgiving, Serving, Giving, and Going.In partnership with LifeWay Research, we created a Red Letter Challenge Assessment that will measure you according to these five targets. And the best news of all: it's free! You will receive your results immediately and be presented with the next steps to help you become an even greater follower of Jesus.You can take the FREE Red Letter Challenge Assessment here. This is another Hurrdat Media Production. Hurrdat Media is a podcast network and digital media production company based in Omaha, NE. Find more podcasts on the Hurrdat Media Network by going to HurrdatMedia.com or the Hurrdat Media YouTube channel!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Jason VanRuler is an author, a therapist out of Sioux Falls, South Dakota, and he has so much good counsel to share when we talk about relationships. Dating relationships, married relationships, relationships with the prickly people, relationships that need to stand the test of time… If today you need to hear from a mental health expert who is wise and funny and smart AND who doesn't take a lot of gruff, this is your episode. While not facilitating, coaching, speaking, or writing, you can find Jason cycling, fly fishing, and living life with my wife and three children at their home in South Dakota. Find him at jasonvr.com and @jason.vanruler. Visit KimberlyStuart.com/podcast for more from this episode.
What secret are you keeping? Many of us keep secrets to protect ourselves. But secrets also hide us from others. They can prevent us from being fully known and fully loved. Jason VanRuler, author of “Get Past Your Past”, joins Juli to share some insights about secrecy and why it's worth us living in the light. Guest: Jason VanRuler Website: jasonvr.com Instagram: @jason.vanruler Book: Get Past Your Past by Jason VanRuler Java with Juli: #539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.
Are you walking with pebbles in your shoes? Therapist and author Jason VanRuler offers this simple metaphor as a way to show how unbearable and damaging secrets can be if we don't address them. With leaders in church and culture falling all around us, it's important for us to understand the gravity of secrets. Jason points out that we all have two choices in dealing with our secrets: We can disclose them or we can deny them. Listen in as he encourages Christian leaders to create a Luke 12:2 rhythm of bringing any darkness into the light by employing the LIGHT Model for accountability. Resources Check out more from Jason VanRuler, including his book Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. Create a free THINQ Account and download the THINQ Media app on your smart TV to access more trusted content like this on topics from all channels of culture at thinqmedia.com. Apply the THINQ Framework as you think through cultural topics. Attend THINQ events where you can gather with like-minded leaders, ask better questions and have conversations that lead to wisdom: Participate in Let's Talk Tech Detox. Bring the 28-Day Digital Fast to your family, workplace, or church. Sign up for THINQ Summit 2025 October 2-4 in Nashville, TN. More from the THINQ Podcast Network: Rhythms for Life with Rebekah and Gabe Lyons The InFormed Parent with Suzanne Phillips NextUp with Grant Skeldon NeuroFaith with Curt Thompson UnderCurrent with Gabe Lyons
In today's South Dakota episode (which wraps up our New Year's series), I sit down with one of my closest friends, Jason VanRuler.Jason, a well-known therapist, author and speaker, joins me to talk about how to evaluate where you are emotionally and gives steps you can take to improve your emotional and relational health in 2025. My favorite part: Jason sharing a part of his own (broken) story, how he became a therapist, & his journey of finding God.Jason also gives us insight into addressing the hard parts of 2024 and tells us what we can do to make sure the difficult things we went through can help us grow in the New Year and beyond.From navigating the messiness of life to finding beauty in imperfections, this episode is a heartfelt exploration of what it means to be human.Grab a copy of Jason's book: https://amzn.to/4hcOX1t Follow Jason on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Check out Jason's courses: jasonvr.com Check out part 1, part 2 and part 3 of the New Year's series!Thanks to our amazing partners on this episode: First Interstate Bank & The Tyler Goff Group First Interstate Bank has a mission to help people and their money work better together. They do this by ensuring clients can manage their money conveniently wherever they are while also providing the friendly service. They have over 300 locations throughout 14 states! For more information and to find a location near you, visit firstinterstatebank.comAre you on the hunt for a new house? Genuinely look no further. The Tyler Goff Group has a proven process that has transformed the lives of many clients. With the Tyler Goff Group by your side, you're not just buying a house – you're investing in a future home you'll love. To learn more and to contact Tyler or his team, visit tylergoffgroup.comSubscribe to The Conversation on YouTube and watch the full interview with Jason: youtube.com/@adamaweber Sign up for The Crew: adamweber.com/thecrew
Sponsor: U.S. Dept. of Veterans Affairs Biorepository Brain Bank Today's episode of PTSD and Beyond is proudly sponsored by the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs Biorepository Brain Bank, dedicated to advancing research on brain disorders that impact Veterans. The VABBB is seeking participants both with and without neurological conditions. Your involvement can lead to important breakthroughs and support life-changing research. Visit www.research.va.gov/programs and click on VA Biorepository Brain Bank
Alice Draper shares her experience with rejection and how it can lead to greater success, both personally and professionally and then she offers strategies for all of us to build our own rejection resilience muscle. Alice Draper is the founder of Hustling Writers, a podcast guesting agency that has secured clients on hundreds of podcasts, including most of the top 0.5% shows. Her newly-launched podcast, My Rejection Story, features interviews with Neil Patel, Jason VanRuler, and Gay Hendricks. She has written for HuffPost, Refinery29, Business Insider, and more. Help Zak continue making this show by becoming a Best Advice Show Patron @ https://www.patreon.com/bestadviceshow---Call Zak on the advice show hotline @ 844-935-BEST---Share this episode on IG @BestAdviceShow
Licensed therapist, Jason VanRuler joins us to lead a workshop on figuring out your love attachments and how to heal your past hurts! Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Alice Draper is the host of the podcast “My Rejection Story” and the founder of the podcast guesting company, Hustling Writers. She is on a mission to make publicity accessible by reframing rejection. Alice has secured her clients on countless podcasts, including most of the top 0.5% shows. On her podcast, My Rejection Story, you can listen to bestselling authors like Neil Patel, Jason VanRuler, or Tina Wells share how they navigated the toughest periods of their personal and professional lives, and how this shaped the success they now experience today. Her words can be found in HuffPost, Business Insider, VICE, Refinery29. Some of Alice's favorite things include strong coffee, affordable travel hacks, and deep connections. She detests small talk, waking up early, and unnecessary jargon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jason VanRuler, a therapist, coach, speaker, and author, has been helping people overcome their past and build emotional resilience since 2011. Whether working with CEOs or those facing addiction, he shares his mission of speaking truth and grace, both in person and through his online following. Outside of his work, Jason enjoys cycling, fly fishing, and family time in South Dakota. In this episode Jason and Sathiya discuss: [03:41] The inspiration behind the book [07:28] Fear and Denial [10:23] Changing Perception of the Past [12:04] Heart Change and New Messages [14:34] The Concept of God and Feeling Safe [15:03] Challenging Our Concept of God [17:46] Psychodrama as a Therapeutic Modality [21:34] The damaging effects of pornography on relationships [23:14] The challenge of overcoming addiction to pornography [24:34] The six types of intimacy and their impact on pornography addiction [29:29] The challenges of disclosure and its impact on the partner [30:50] Approaching addiction recovery and relationship work [32:56] Inviting the partner to join in recovery [36:17] The clarity of processing emotions [39:23] Navigating transitions in life [42:29] Preserving progress during change [43:28] The importance of community [44:51] The impact of community on recovery [46:43] The future of mental health and the role of technology [50:14] The Instagram Live Announcement [51:02] The Need for a System to Quit Pornography Follow Jason VanRuler on Instagram Check out Jason's books available on Amazon Learn more About Jason VanRuler Book A Call With Sathiya's Team For more Free Resources, check this out Follow Sathiya on Instagram
We all have a past, parts of it we fondly recall, and others, not so much. Licensed therapist Jason VanRuler has his own difficult past he's faced head-on and now is helping others find healing from brokenness. Nine-time Emmy winner David Sams sits down with Jason to hear encouragement and practical wisdom to gain true authentic connection. Jason VanRuler's book: "Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection," is a gamechanger for anyone feeling stuck, lost or wondering how to let go of the lies they keep believing. #GetPastYourPast #KeepTheFaith #Relationships #DeeperConnection #contagiousinfluencer #JasonVanRuler #David Sams
PTSD and Beyond is #1 of Feedspots' 20 Best PTSD Podcasts in 2024! Support PTSD and Beyond - Buy us a Ko-fi cuppa Ready to break the cycle and embrace healing? In our latest PTSD and Beyond Podcast episode, we sit down with Jason VanRuler, author of "Get Past Your Past." Jason shares his journey through trauma, offering insights on the transformative power of vulnerability and self-love. Discover practical steps to overcome trauma and build meaningful connections. Jason's story is one of resilience and hope, providing a beacon of light for those feeling trapped by their past. His approach combines professional expertise and personal experience, making his advice both relatable and actionable. He emphasizes facing traumas head-on and nurturing ourselves with compassion. Make sure to catch this inspiring conversation episode where Jason shares valuable lessons on healing and helping others. Listen to hear his heartfelt story and take away strategies for your own healing journey. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking hope and self-discovery. Give a listen and remember to share with someone who may find this podcast episode valuable. Subscribe, like, comment and take what resonates and go beyond! In Love and Healing, Dr. Deb Connect with Jason VanRuler at: Web - JasonVR Insta: @Jason.VanRuler Book: Get Past Your Past Connect with Dr. Deb Lindh and PTSD and Beyond at: Website - Dr. Deb Lindh X formerly known as Twitter - @DebraLindh X formerly known as Twitter- @PTSDandBeyond LinkedIn - Dr. Deb Lindh Support our PTSD and Beyond Podcast - Buy us a Ko-fi cuppa
Why do high performers seem to struggle with their personal relationships? Our guest today is Jason VanRuler, a licensed therapist and author of "Get Past Your Past." Jason provides eye-opening insights into why high performers often struggle with personal relationships. He explains that while high performers excel in business by applying certain success strategies, these same strategies can fail in personal relationships. Jason emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, identifying safe people, isolation vs. self-isolation, and the need for intentional and consistent relationships (and grieving the ones that no longer fit).We discuss the concept of "max awareness" in therapy, where people are more aware of their issues but often fail to take actionable steps to improve their relationships.Notable Timestamps:[00:02:42] Relationships for high performers.[00:06:40] The impact of self-isolation.[00:09:16] Seeking healing versus seeking comfort.[00:11:55] Three Levels of vulnerability.[00:15:02] Deep conversations at parties.[00:19:15] Evolving friendships in midlife.[00:28:34] Vulnerability in relationships.[00:29:17] Love shouldn't be a secret.[00:34:23] Redefining values for happiness.Jason VanRuler Links:InstagramGet Past Your Past BookWebsiteResources Mentioned:Schedule a free 1:1 Brainstorming CallInterested in starting a podcast? Schedule a free 15 minute call to discussSurprisingly True Useful Fun Fact (STUFF) source Be sure to rate, review, and follow this podcast on your player and also, connect with me IRL for more goodness and life-changing stuff.AllisonHare.comFollow me on Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and YouTube.Schedule a FREE breakthrough call with me Want to take these ideas and apply them to your life? Let's do it!DOWNLOAD the free PDF - 40 Simple Ways to Add Energy To Your Day- get a quick burst of energy right now and KEEP IT!GET the Effectiveness Booster - Shift your priorities to what matters most in less than a minute!Reb3l Dance Fitness - Try it at home! Free month with this link.Personal Brand - need help building yours? Schedule a call with me here and let's discuss.Feedback and Contact:: allison@allisonhare.com
In this episode:Jason VanRuler, author of recent new book, Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection, joins Heather to address past pain and hurt as the first step to find healing and authentic connection. He uses biblical wisdom, clinical experience and his own personal story growing up surrounded by abuse, addiction and conflict, leading to his own drug and alcohol issues. He remembers hitting his rock bottom, looking in the mirror and hating who he saw, falling into the same unhealthy patterns he saw growing up and swore would never be his life. He reexamined his relationship with drugs/alcohol and went back to school to become a therapist. Now Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships.In the marriage corner:Eric and Heather share the top 3 charicteristics they each look for in friendships and appreciate about their friends.Connect with Jason:https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/https://www.jasonvr.comLinks from this episode:Jason's Book: https://urlgeni.us/amazon/mentalhealthbookslistConnect with Heather:7 Days FREE of the HBHB Membership: https://www.mylifewellloved.com/membership/Heather's ebooks: https://www.mylifewellloved.com/product-category/digital-products/Heather's Amazon favorites: https://urlgeni.us/amazon/HBstorefrontHeather's freebies: https://www.mylifewellloved.com/freebies/Heather's favorite liquid collagen: https://www.mylifewellloved.com/everyday-must-haves/Heather's email list: https://spring-pine-631.myflodesk.com/9347a138-077e-4c55-bf61-2137aeed89eaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/healthybyheatherbrown/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HealthyByHeatherBrownPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/healthybyheatherbrown/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HealthyByHeatherBrown/videosLTK: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/HealthybyHeatherBrownTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@healthybyheatherbrownHow you can show the podcast some love:FOLLOW - Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app.RATE - We'd love it even more if you could drop a r5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.REVIEW - Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.DOWNLOAD - Click the download but to download an episode!
Why do Christians need counseling? Isn't the Gospel enough to transform us? We hear these questions fairly often. Today Dr. Kim and special guest Jason VanRuler dive deeper into these questions and the conversation about the role of therapy and counseling in a life devoted to following Jesus. Don't miss this helpful conversation! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: How often do clients have no idea that they haven't gotten past their past? Unexpected ways your past might be showing up & affecting your marriage today Updating the negative messages we believe about ourselves The effect of vulnerability on our marriage connection *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! QUOTES “Where there's a disconnect in relationships, it's often a disconnect from the system we witnessed growing up and what we're trying to make happen today.” - Jason VanRuler “When we get comfortable, the old ways seep out to the surface.” - Jason VanRuler “Every time a client says a negative message about themselves, I ask, is that the message you think God gave you?” - Jason VanRuler “One of my great joys is working with people to eliminate distractions so they can focus on the truth and live the life God has called them to.”- Jason VanRuler “If we want to feel connected and we're not feeling connected, a lot of times that emotional intimacy and depth is the missing link.” - Jason VanRuler “When we get vulnerable and honest, it attracts intimacy from our partner and we have a different relationship.” - Jason VanRuler “The marriage we want is often on the other side of vulnerability. We just don't often know how to get there.”- Jason VanRuler QUESTIONS FOR YOU Do you recognize any ways you haven't gotten past your past? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Get Jason's book, Get Past Your Past His site: https://www.jasonvr.com/ If you're ready to heal your marriage from p*rn, join us for the “5 Steps to Healing After P*rn Betrayal” LIVE webinar. Joining Marriage Changers now means you score a huge haul of marriage-building goods when our annual *7 Most-Popular Resource Bundle* goes live on April 2nd!
Do any of these exasperating statements sound familiar to you? That really was the last time. I'm going to do it differently than they did. I can't keep letting this affect me. I've got to move on. Me too. And this week's guest's personal story and his life work is to help people like you and me get past our pasts. Jason VanRuler is a liscenced therapist, coach, and speaker working with clients from high-level business execs and artists to those transitioning out of incarceration. And the one thing he sees we all have in common: the tendency to let our pasts rob our present and threaten our futures. Jason is kind. He is wise. And he is so generous to equip us with the tangible ways to start actively working through the parts of our story we continue to feel or fall victim to. And the best part of all of this? When we learn how to get past our broken past, it leads to greater connection – with our loved ones, with ourselves, and with all the goodness around us. Follow Jason Order Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Past Leads to Connection
Vulnerability. How do you know when it's safe to be vulnerable in a relationship? Join me as I discuss this crucial topic with my guest, Jason VanRuler, a licensed therapist, author, speaker, and coach who helps people grow their relationships, become stronger leaders, and own their past to drive a better future for themselves. You can visit Jason VanRuler's site here and find his book here. Connect with me: Dr. Zoe Shaw on Instagram Dr. Zoe Shaw on Facebook Dr. Zoe Shaw Website
Why do Christians need counseling? Isn't the Gospel enough to transform us? We hear these questions fairly often. Today Dr. Kim and special guest Jason VanRuler dive deeper into these questions and the conversation about the role of therapy and counseling in a life devoted to following Jesus. Don't miss this helpful conversation! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: How often do clients have no idea that they haven't gotten past their past? Unexpected ways your past might be showing up & affecting your marriage today Updating the negative messages we believe about ourselves The effect of vulnerability on our marriage connection *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! QUOTES “Where there's a disconnect in relationships, it's often a disconnect from the system we witnessed growing up and what we're trying to make happen today.” - Jason VanRuler “When we get comfortable, the old ways seep out to the surface.” - Jason VanRuler “Every time a client says a negative message about themselves, I ask, is that the message you think God gave you?” - Jason VanRuler “One of my great joys is working with people to eliminate distractions so they can focus on the truth and live the life God has called them to.”- Jason VanRuler “If we want to feel connected and we're not feeling connected, a lot of times that emotional intimacy and depth is the missing link.” - Jason VanRuler “When we get vulnerable and honest, it attracts intimacy from our partner and we have a different relationship.” - Jason VanRuler “The marriage we want is often on the other side of vulnerability. We just don't often know how to get there.”- Jason VanRuler QUESTIONS FOR YOU Do you recognize any ways you haven't gotten past your past? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Get Jason's book, Get Past Your Past His site: https://www.jasonvr.com/ If you're ready to heal your marriage from p*rn, join us for the “5 Steps to Healing After P*rn Betrayal” LIVE webinar. Joining Marriage Changers now means you score a huge haul of marriage-building goods when our annual *7 Most-Popular Resource Bundle* goes live on April 2nd!
Jason VanRuler is a licensed therapist, coach, author and content creator who helps people to have the relationships they most desire and utilizes their past as a tool for their future. His book: Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection is a fantastic read. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Book Release 03:39 Realizations and Moving Forward 06:11 The Importance of Expressing Feelings 09:21 The Impact of Childhood Experiences on Relationships 13:13 The Value We Assign to Ourselves 19:25 Dealing with Rock Bottom 23:39 The Consequences of Stifling Feelings 26:28 The Importance of Self-Forgiveness 29:26 Love as a Ferrari or a Bear 33:35 The Complexity of Relationships 38:26 Acceptance and Change in Relationships 39:44 The Flip Side of What We Want 42:19 The Power of Community 43:03 Dramatic Changes vs. Long-Term Growth 44:19 Courage and External Validation --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couply/message
My guest, Jason VanRuler, shares his direct and honest approach to working with couples and offers a fresh perspective on overcoming past challenges and building exceptional relationships. During our conversation, you'll discover how to “Get Past Your Past” as Jason shares invaluable insights, emphasizing the importance of taking action and not seeking validation from others for your progress. We also discuss navigating resistance in relationships, dealing with differing narratives in divorce, and addressing the complexities of sex addiction within marriage. With over a decade of experience as a coach and therapist, Jason's expertise shines through as he offers practical advice and compassionate support. Featured topics: Jason explains what he means by “get past your past…” (2:28) “Sometimes it's not that you don't know what to do; it's that you are not doing what you're supposed to do.” (8:53) It is essential to recognize that not everyone will be happy about your progress when you do the work. Do not determine your success by the approval of the people you are surrounded by. (9:56) The effects and challenges a couple faces when one is doing the work and the other is resistant. (13:07) Jason answers, “What do you do when your ex-partner has a narrative about your divorce that differs from yours?” (22:52) The effects of sex addiction on marriage and how Jason works with couples around this type of addiction. (31:57) Learn more about Jason VanRuler: Jason VanRuler has worked in everything from the corporate world to the entrepreneurial one — and has over a decade of experience as a coach and therapist dedicated to helping others. With extensive experience as a coach, clinician, and speaker, Jason now owns a private practice, writes books, gives speeches, and facilitates and leads groups across the world. Coaching is always equal parts affirming, honest, and compassionate — and Jason's practice has led with this approach when helping every client seeking guidance and direction. Whether it's leadership coaching, relationship building, couples therapy, addiction, trauma, or something different, his goal is the same: to speak truth and grace into every life I work with. When Jason is not facilitating, coaching, speaking, or writing, you can find him cycling, fly fishing, and living life with his wife and three children at their home in South Dakota. Resources & Links: Kate's book “The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Jason's website Jason's book Get Past Your Past Jason on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-258-get-past-your-past-with-jason-vanruler/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.
My guest, Jason VanRuler, shares his direct and honest approach to working with couples and offers a fresh perspective on overcoming past challenges and building exceptional relationships. During our conversation, you'll discover how to “Get Past Your Past” as Jason shares invaluable insights, emphasizing the importance of taking action and not seeking validation from others for your progress. We also discuss navigating resistance in relationships, dealing with differing narratives in divorce, and addressing the complexities of sex addiction within marriage. With over a decade of experience as a coach and therapist, Jason's expertise shines through as he offers practical advice and compassionate support. Featured topics: Jason explains what he means by “get past your past…” (2:28) “Sometimes it's not that you don't know what to do; it's that you are not doing what you're supposed to do.” (8:53) It is essential to recognize that not everyone will be happy about your progress when you do the work. Do not determine your success by the approval of the people you are surrounded by. (9:56) The effects and challenges a couple faces when one is doing the work and the other is resistant. (13:07) Jason answers, “What do you do when your ex-partner has a narrative about your divorce that differs from yours?” (22:52) The effects of sex addiction on marriage and how Jason works with couples around this type of addiction. (31:57) Learn more about Jason VanRuler: Jason VanRuler has worked in everything from the corporate world to the entrepreneurial one — and has over a decade of experience as a coach and therapist dedicated to helping others. With extensive experience as a coach, clinician, and speaker, Jason now owns a private practice, writes books, gives speeches, and facilitates and leads groups across the world. Coaching is always equal parts affirming, honest, and compassionate — and Jason's practice has led with this approach when helping every client seeking guidance and direction. Whether it's leadership coaching, relationship building, couples therapy, addiction, trauma, or something different, his goal is the same: to speak truth and grace into every life I work with. When Jason is not facilitating, coaching, speaking, or writing, you can find him cycling, fly fishing, and living life with his wife and three children at their home in South Dakota. Resources & Links: Kate's book “The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Jason's website Jason's book Get Past Your Past Jason on Instagram TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.
In this episode, I interviewed Jason Van Ruler, a seasoned therapist, about the profound impact of our past on our present and future. Jason shared his personal journey, reflecting on a childhood marked by upheaval and trauma, which shaped his perspective and propelled him towards a career in therapy. Jason highlighted the transformative power of vulnerability and connection in the healing process, underscoring that healing is indeed possible, albeit a journey rather than a destination. He encourages us to embrace imperfection and cultivate spaces for honesty and growth, as we learn from our past and look to our futures. Access exclusive supporter benefits Waitlist up for the next Sticky Habit Intensive Free DSL Training Full Show Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jason VanRuler is a therapist, coach, speaker, and author dedicated to impacting those who make an impact. His first book, Get Past Your Past, is all about establishing a mindset of emotional health and resilience to find lasting wholeness. In this episode, Jason shares his personal self-development journey, why going to therapy is so difficult for so many people, and why our natural inclination is to hurt others; intentionally or not. TAKEAWAYS: [4:15] A little bit about Jason and how he became a therapist. [10:10] Due to Jason's rough upbringing, he knew he had to work on himself first before helping others. [14:40] Jason explains the reason why he likes to host outdoor retreats and how it helps with the healing process. [21:30] Best way to change your past and maladaptive behaviors is by surrounding yourself with different people. [22:05] It's important to be honest with yourself and really benchmark where you're currently are. [25:15] The more successful we get, the less likely we become surrounded by people who tell us the truth. [30:15] Therapists are truth tellers and this is why going to therapy is so hard. [37:45] There was a time in Jason's life where going to therapy seemed impossible. [38:45] What can we do today that empowers a better story? [40:45] Have a question for Jason? Reach out! RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Seeking Integrity Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Out of the Doghouse by Robert Weiss Jasonvr.com Jason on LinkedIn Get Past Your Past QUOTES: “We aspire to have something that only a different community will give us. If don't have a different community, our current one just keeps us in the same spot.” “Be honest with where you're at. So many times we fantasize how we want it to look.” “I think people always hurt people. Always. I don't think people have gotten out of life without hurting other people, sometimes it's intentional and sometimes it's not. ”
Josh's career has never been more successful, and his personal life is at an all-time low. From monetization to promotion, the industry shadows things that already exist.Content Warning: Unmentionable contains depictions of domestic violence, sexual assault, suicidal ideation, and pornography.WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:00:00 - Recap02:43 - Male Performer of the Year04:05 - Shadow World10:58 - Fake Love14:12 - Sponsor: Compel Studio14:51 - Front of the Pack23:30 - In the Spotlight27:25 - No Control31:30 - Making the Switch39:00 - Making a DepositDisclaimer: Slight discrepancies in the timestamps may occur due to podcast platform differences.SPONSORCovenant Eyes: Get started on your path to recovery for 30 days FREE by visiting covenanteyes.com/joshuabroome/HELP US OUT!Help us reach new listeners by leaving us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. It takes less than 30 seconds, and really helps our show grow. And, take a moment today to share this podcast on your social channels to shine a light for someone you might not know is in the dark.CREDITSUnmentionable was written by Lee Shelton, Jacob Jolly, and Tyler McKinney.Director & Host: Lee SheltonArt Direction: Jacob JollyProduction Executive: Kathleen TerrillEditor: Tyler McKinneyAssistant Editor: Jacob JollyOriginal Score and Composition by Tyler McKinneyGuests: Jason VanRuler, Helen TaylorSpecial Thanks to Alex Louis, Craig Denison, Tim Ross, Justin Moates, and Joshua Broome.Unmentionable is a production of Compel Studio.FOLLOWFollow Compel Studio for more updates and Behind the Scenes content.Check out our Instagram @compel.studioVisit our website Compel.StudioFollow Compel Studio for more updates and Behind the Scenes content.Check out our Instagram @compel.studioVisit our website Compel.Studio
In this conversation, I'm joined by Jason Van Ruler as we discuss the importance of addressing past wounds and traumas in order to move forward in life and relationships. We talk about the concept of scripts and how our past experiences shape the narratives we tell ourselves. Learn more about Jason here - https://www.jasonvr.com/ Takeaways Addressing past wounds and traumas is essential for personal growth and healthy relationships. Scripts, formed by past experiences, shape the way we perceive ourselves and others. On the Xtended Version ... Jason and I dive into the work of Dr. Schnarch and his theory of traumatic mind mapping, which examines the deeper layers of trauma and the motivations behind it. The conversation emphasizes the need to confront the dark side of ourselves and rewrite our narratives to chart a new course. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. The post Get Past Your Past | Jason VanRuler #662 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.
Embark on a transformative journey with Jason VanRuler, a therapist who's turned his own battles with trauma and addiction into a roadmap for healing. Together, Duane and Jason unravel the profound impact of rewriting our inner narratives, a process that Jason has not only lived but also lays out in his latest work, "Get Past Your Past." His story is a testament that even the deepest wounds can lead to a future bright with wholeness and well-being. Listen as they delve into the steps that can liberate us from the chains of our history and ignite the spark of change within. Shifting from a relentless pursuit of proving worth to embracing genuine happiness, they tackle the entrenched beliefs keeping many from their true potential. Their conversation illuminates the path from 'doing' to 'being,' where success blooms from authenticity, not fear. Discover the importance of guidance, community, and role models in personal growth, and revel in the hope that comes from witnessing lives rebuilt. Jason's journey and insights offer a beacon of hope, proving that transformation is within reach for all who seek it. In this episode, you will hear: Shifting mindset and challenging core beliefs Finding authenticity and creating safe spaces Importance of clear instructions for achieving change Building a community for mental wellness Follow and Review: We'd love for you to follow us if you haven't yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: “Get Past Your Past” https://www.amazon.com/Get-Past-Your-Facing-Connection/dp/0310367417 NovusMindfulLife.com Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
“I think when we get in that victim space, like it makes so much sense and certainly some people have had such horrific experiences, I can see why they would feel that way. But the truth is, that only holds you in that place.” Jason VanRuler Today I'm speaking with Jason VanRuler. He is a licensed therapist, Coach, Speaker and Author of "Get Past Your Past, How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection". I had so much fun talking with Jason, he's actually really funny, but we also covered a lot of ground in terms of finding practical solutions to the challenges a lot of us face in recovery. We're going to talk about why we replicate our family of origin, how to forgive your parents, and how to build confidence. We also talk about relationship dynamics and how to move from dysfunctional roles like being the rescuer, the victim, or the bully to being the coach, the survivor and the encourager. The framework is actually very practical and can shift your perspective very quickly. There were so many gems in this conversation, I know you'll walk away with something you can apply to your life today. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Jason and please feel free to reach out to me on social media, and let me know what you think! Be Sure to Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
221 Healthy Attachment in Marriage and Parenting with Jason VanRuler Jonah 2:8 "Those who cling to worthless idols forfeit the grace that could be theirs." Questions We Discuss: Will you teach us Attachment theory? How can each of us work to move more towards secure attachment? How can we best set our children up to be securely attached? Thank You to Our Sponsor: Midwest Food Bank Jason VanRuler is the author of Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. He began his career in 2011 and has worked with many populations over the years, ranging from persons who are incarcerated to top CEOs, performers and artists, and just about everyone in between. Jason has extensive experience as a clinician, coach, and speaker and operates a multistate private practice. In 2018, Jason joined Bethesda Workshops in Nashville, TN, where he serves as a group leader and facilitator. Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships. Jason enjoys spending time with his wife and three children playing games and traveling. In his spare time, Jason enjoys cycling, running, music, fly fishing, and all things personal development related. https://www.jasonvr.com/ https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor https://www.tiktok.com/@jason.vanruler https://www.amazon.com/Get-Past-Your-Facing-Connection/dp/0310367417 Other Episodes Mentioned from The Savvy Sauce: 97 Guiding Our Children Through Their Emotions with Julie Roth Patreon 18 Shame's Journey to Freedom with Julie Roth Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.” Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.” Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“ Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“ Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
The Guys Like Us is joined with Jason VanRuler who is a therapist. In this conversation we talk about the importance of addressing our trauma and hang-ups and finding healing in our brokenness. Emotional health is a critical aspect to our overall spiritual wellbeing and it is important to understand the complexity of feelings and move toward the Wisdom of God from above. His latest book “Get Past Your Past” is available where books are sold. Stay up to date with all of our latest podcasts by visiting www.theguyslikeus.com
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Have you ever tried a therapist or counsellor and walked away feeling more empty, anxious or simply that things are not improving? In the process of creating a restoration home, do you feel alone, or like you are bearing the weight of it? Do you feel like you are swinging wildly between parenting styles as you try your hardest day after day to give your children the best childhood and parenting possible? Welcome to Episode 66 of the Restoration Home Community! We are so excited about the content of this episode. It's deeply practical, and after talking about becoming healthier, more at peace, whole and restored over the last year, Jason VanRuler offers easy to follow steps for accessing support in the process. Jason VanRuler is a Licensed Therapist and author of "Get Past Your Past". He is also a husband and father and we are delighted to have him on this weeks episode. Episode sponsored by the Peaceful Press! With Spring and Spring Holidays around the Corner check out the Peaceful Press resouces and blogs for good literature, engaging ways to celebrate, and the Peaceful Press four week Garden Guide. Martin Luther King Jr. Day Presidents Day St Patricks Day The Peaceful Press Spring Guide and the Peaceful Press Garden Guide In this episode– Creating a personal criteria as you look for a therapist or counsellor Choosing the best support team for your past experience and future goals A parents job is to coach their children into preparedness not carry them across the finish line of adulthood The importance of being really honest with yourself about where you are getting stuck in your growth Building better habits to maintain breakthrough Check out Ryan's book "Get Past Your Past" "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk Check out Jennifer's new book "Habits for a Sacred Home" available for pre-order on Amazon and Barnes and Noble You can learn more about Jennifer here- Jennifer's Instagram You can learn more about Jason here- Jason's Instagram Some Amazon Affiliate Links.
Jason VanRuler is a licensed therapist, speaker, executive coach, and the author of his new book, Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. On this episode of The RESGEN Giving Life Podcast, Jason and RESGEN Founder Tom Henderson visit about:Jason's personal story of brokenness and healingThe role forgiveness and vulnerability play in our ability to truly connect with othersHow we can overcome some of the biggest obstacles that get in the way of personal healing.Steps we can take that will help move us from brokenness to wholeness – both individually and in our relationships with others. The Giving Life Podcast: Conversations about being a man whose life in Christ gives life to others.Watch the video version on youtube - youtu.be/DLF7D8vwhLQ More info about Restoration Generation - www.resgen.org
In this episode of the Let's Get Real Podcast we have a conversation with author, therapist and coaching, Jason VanRuler about his new book, Get Past Your Past. You can purchase his book, HERE. You can follow Jason on Instagram, HERE You can find him on his website, HERE To learn more about the RefineUs Weekend in Nashville, TN CLICK HERE
I visit with licensed therapist Jason VanRuler about how to get past your past. Sit with yourself for this one... and take the 20 minutes he suggests to reflect on what you need to walk through. Jason gives awesome, practical advice you can apply immediately to start the process and some easy, "sticky note" reminders for us! Helpful links: Jason's book Jason's website
Jason VanRuler doesn't just talk the talk, he walks the walk, emphasizing the importance of identifying and challenging our own self-perceptions. He's all about questioning the evidence behind those perceptions and boy, does that hit home for many of us! One of Jason's key messages? Find safe people to share and seek support from. Starting small and accessible rather than diving headfirst into vulnerability is essential. Learning curves! We've all been there! Let's talk about Jason's personal journey... From seeking support in all the wrong places to finding the right people who lifted him up, he's been there and back. His wife played a pivotal role in his journey, proving the power of a strong support system. Jason VanRuler also touches on his relationship with God, from strain to seeing His presence in his life. He emphasizes prayer as a safe space for vulnerability, intertwining it with the deep connection between vulnerability and love. Can I get an amen?! "Do the next right thing, have courage, and connect." Jason's advice is all about taking those small, courageous steps towards connecting with others. It all boils down to having the bravery to reach out, especially with difficult past experiences in tow. Jason's fascination with understanding and helping people led him to become a therapist. He's all about encouraging others to reassess their beliefs and seek validation to unlock their true worth. You are so much more than you realize! Questions, questions, questions! We highlight the value of asking, learning, and growing through the wisdom of others. Unleash that inquisitive nature for your own benefit and the good of those around you! Family, love, and connection take center stage as we discuss the role of parents in empowering children. We touch on the healing power of these moments and how children can teach us adults a thing or two about vulnerability and curiosity. And of course, there's some light-hearted banter about soccer teams because who doesn't love a good laugh? It's all about embracing the process, growth, and finding trust in God as a friend and coach on this wild ride called life. There's also a soul-stirring story about a song initially representing heartache, which transformed into a symbol of hope and healing. Perspective shifts are everything, and hope truly shines in the moments when we need it most. This conversation is a powerful reminder of the beauty and strength found in vulnerability and connection. Let's keep this energy alive and embrace the journey of growth, love, and understanding. You are never alone! Key takeaways from the conversation 1. Embrace Vulnerability: Jason VanRuler stressed the significance of identifying and questioning our self-perceptions. He encouraged finding safe people to share and seek support from, highlighting the power of vulnerability in connecting with God and others. 2. Foster Authentic Connections: Our lives are defined by our relationships and our ability to connect with others. Jason emphasized the value of seeking support from trustworthy individuals and the importance of community in personal growth. 3. Courage in Personal Growth: By sharing his personal journey and the obstacles he faced in becoming a therapist, Jason emphasized the importance of courage, connection, and seeking wisdom from others. His story serves as an inspiration for embracing vulnerability and pursuing growth. MORE ABOUT THE BOOK, GET PAST YOUR PAST Licensed therapist Jason VanRuler personally knows how difficult it can be to look at your brokenness, heal and move forward. He grew up surrounded by abuse, addiction, chaos and conflict. One morning after a night out drinking and using drugs, VanRuler was alone in an apartment he couldn't afford due to having an unstable job and a substantial amount of debt. He felt broken and hated himself for falling into the same patterns he saw as a child and swore never to be a part of. After years of avoiding his pain, he eventually reached the point where he was able to get professional help and started to feel hope for the first time. The battle of healing from the past is a long and hard journey. In his new book, Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection, VanRuler invites readers to address past pain and hurt and embrace love and connection through personal stories, biblical wisdom and his clinical experience as a therapist. He offers empathy, grace and a hand to hold as he shares his own trauma and struggles with alcohol, drug use and depression combined with his professional knowledge from over a decade helping patients face their brokenness and find healing and authentic connection. “I spent so many years letting things that had happened in the past make me feel broken and run the show, and I know it's not easy to shine a light on those places,” writes VanRuler. “I wrote this book for everyone, not only as a guide as they navigate these stages but also as a reference for the times when they feel stuck and alone. I want readers to know that they are not alone in their journey or the exception to the rule.” Purchase the book here: https://www.jasonvr.com/book MEET JASON VANRULER Jason VanRuler began his career in 2011 and has worked with many populations over the years, ranging from persons who are incarcerated to top CEOs, performers and artists, and just about everyone in between. Jason has extensive experience as a clinician, coach, and speaker and operates a multistate private practice. In 2018, Jason joined Bethesda Workshops in Nashville, TN, where he serves as a group leader and facilitator. Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships. Jason enjoys spending time with his wife and three children playing games and traveling. In his spare time, Jason enjoys cycling, running, music, fly fishing, and all things personal development related. 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Jason VanRuler, a therapist, coach, speaker, and author, has been helping people overcome their past and build emotional resilience since 2011. Whether working with CEOs or those facing addiction, he shares his mission of speaking truth and grace, both in person and through his online following. Outside of his work, Jason enjoys cycling, fly fishing, and family time in South Dakota. In this episode Jason and Sathiya discuss: [03:41] The inspiration behind the book [07:28] Fear and Denial [10:23] Changing Perception of the Past [12:04] Heart Change and New Messages [14:34] The Concept of God and Feeling Safe [15:03] Challenging Our Concept of God [17:46] Psychodrama as a Therapeutic Modality [21:34] The damaging effects of pornography on relationships [23:14] The challenge of overcoming addiction to pornography [24:34] The six types of intimacy and their impact on pornography addiction [29:29] The challenges of disclosure and its impact on the partner [30:50] Approaching addiction recovery and relationship work [32:56] Inviting the partner to join in recovery [36:17] The clarity of processing emotions [39:23] Navigating transitions in life [42:29] Preserving progress during change [43:28] The importance of community [44:51] The impact of community on recovery [46:43] The future of mental health and the role of technology [50:14] The Instagram Live Announcement [51:02] The Need for a System to Quit Pornography Follow Jason VanRuler on InstagramCheck out Jason's books available on AmazonLearn more About Jason VanRulerBook A Call With Sathiya's TeamFor more Free Resources, check this outFollow Sathiya on Instagram
When striving for true, deep, everlasting change in your life, the road can be a rocky one—and it can often be filled with turmoil and pain. Growing up, therapist Jason VanRuler struggled to find stability in his life, leading him to bad habits that he desperately wanted to break. Jason opens up about how something as simple as asking for help from God and from mentors made the difference in turning his life around. Quotes “I think God puts the truth in all of our hearts and we know it. And sometimes we distract ourselves from it or we pretend we don't know it, or we do something else or even try to squash it. But looking in the mirror, I knew the truth.” – Jason VanRuler “Our emotions are really important, because if we don't acknowledge them or deal with them, they just come out in another place. They don't actually go away. If we're not dealing with them directly, we're going to deal with them indirectly. And so if we actually want to change our life or we want to become different, we have to address the things that are driving us and those are our emotions.” – Jason VanRuler “Our relationship with God is really going to frame out all those other relationships. And I think that is something you can start on today.” – Jason VanRuler “I think in my own story and in working with many other people's stories, what we need most is a change of heart. I think the challenge is we can change our head pretty easily—we often know the problem. We can even identify potential solutions. But if we really want to be different, we need a new heart.” – Jason VanRuler Guest's Links Jason VanRuler's Website Jason VanRuler's Instagram Jason VanRuler's Facebook Jason VanRuler's YouTube Channel Connect with Sally Lloyd-Jones Jesus Storybook Bible Facebook Jesus Storybook Bible Instagram Sally's website Sally's Facebook Sally's Instagram *Episode produced by Four Eyes Media*
Moonshot group's Elizabeth Neumann responds to the increasing number of people seeking violence in the U.S. Instead of walking around with fear, turning to prayer, and as Christians to do our part for our communities' peace. Jason VanRuler, author of "Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection," shares how we need to put our past pains and failures into God's gracious perspective so we can heal. He talks about the need for others to help you find that perspective. Faith Radio podcasts are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here
5 Reasons Every Leader Should Get THERAPY with Jason VanRulerJason VanRuler is a Licensed Therapist and the Author of the book “Get Past Your Past.”Jason and I had a conversation about how most entrepreneurs and leaders should be in therapy. We spoke about how healing from past traumas can be a springboard for your future, and how living in your past will keep you stuck in it.This was an enlightening conversation. I thoroughly enjoyed talking to Jason and I know that you will benefit from this conversation.Please share this with your loved ones.Purchase Jason's new book here - https://www.amazon.com/Get-Past-Your-Facing-Connection/dp/0310367417Connect with Jason here - https://www.jasonvr.com----Click here to Become a VIP supporter of Lead On Purpose: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1583287/supportIf you would like to help James continue to bring on world-class guests, please consider making a small recurring donation to cover the back end, admin and editing costs. For many years, James has dedicated countless hours to the show and would LOVE to continue bringing you global thought leaders.Thank you for your support. It is greatly appreciated.With much gratitude.Full Transcript, Quote Cards, and a Show Summary are available here:https://www.jjlaughlin.com/blog-----Website: https://www.jjlaughlin.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6GETJbxpgulYcYc6QAKLHA Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JamesLaughlinOfficial Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameslaughlinofficial/ Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/life-on-purpose-with-james-laughlin/id1547874035 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3WBElxcvhCHtJWBac3nOlF?si=hotcGzHVRACeAx4GvybVOQ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jameslaughlincoaching/James Laughlin is a High Performance Leadership Coach, Former 7-Time World Champion, Host of the Lead On Purpose Podcast and an Executive Coach to high performers and leaders. James is based in Christchurch, New Zealand.Support the show
If you've ever felt stuck in your past, today's episode is for you.I sit down with Jason VanRuler, a licensed therapist (in my eyes, the best in our country), author, speaker, and coach. He's also someone who has dealt with his own past: childhood trauma, alcohol & drug use, and bouts of depression.More than anything else, Jason is my dear friend and someone who deeply loves Jesus.Jason has found healing and is determined to help others do the same by facing their past, owning their present and casting a vision for the future.With a beautiful combination of grace and truth (and a witty humor), Jason helps us find the courage to be vulnerable about our stories and helps us take tangible steps toward healing.Get a copy of Jason's book Get Past Your Past hereTo sign up for the On The Rise Newsletter, visit ontherisenewsletter.com Thanks to our amazing partners on this episode: Tommy John & SimpleTommy John has thousands of five star reviews for a reason! They sell the most comfortable undershirts, modern polos, and loungewear you'll find. Tommy John is Adam's absolute favorite clothing company ever! You are gonna love them too! Check them out today at tommyjohn.comSimple provides an easy, secure way to make giving super user-friendly. If you are a church or lead a faith based nonprofit, you have to look into working with Simple. You won't regret it! For more info, check out their brand new website simpledonation.comSign up for the Crew at: adamweber.com/thecrewThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/3258948/advertisement
Today's guest and I seem to have a lot in common, and I'm so glad I was given the chance to meet him and interview him about his book. I think it's one you definitely need to read for yourself. His name is Jason VanRuler, and his book is called Get Past Your Past: How […] The post 502: Learning to Get Past Your Past with Jason VanRuler first appeared on Read to Lead Podcast.
Prepare for a breakthrough as Tracy and Rachel are joined by licensed therapist, author, speaker, and coach Jason VanRuler to celebrate healing and healthy futures through a discussion of his new book Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. Through highlighting his own bouts with trauma, addiction, and healing; Jason offers listeners practical first steps when seeking therapy and explains the importance of facing, naming, and dealing with pain and grief. Jason and Tracy unpack current mental health trends, including the complex relationship between mental health accounts on social media and clinical diagnoses, as well as the conversation around hot topics such as narcissism. Rachel and Jason explore the importance of taking risks to pursue and nurture genuine human connections versus unhealthy dynamics of hero/rescuer/victim roles. Jason candidly discusses the “vulnerability hangover” that results from writing a book; Rachel and Tracy continue to quote Jason back to himself and extend the interview countless times with “one last question”. Episode Mentions: Jason VanRuler's Website: https://www.jasonvr.com Jason VanRuler's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/?hl=en) Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection by Jason VanRuler https://amzn.to/49SkPWq Narcissisim https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/narcissism Bass Weejuns Men's Shoes https://www.ghbass.com/men/view-all/weejuns What Are You Loving: Jason: Florida/traveling somewhere warm; Experiencing Friendship with God: How the Wilderness Draws Us to His Presence by Faith Eury Cho https://amzn.to/3MNwNXt Tracy: Blurry Creatures Podcast; https://www.blurrycreatures.com/ Annie F. Downs That Sounds Fun podcast https://www.anniefdowns.com/ Rachel: Stay Near Organization https://staynear.co/
You want to cast vision, reach into the future, and make plans for life, but you neglect looking into your past to help you get there. We talk about this quite a bit on this show, but today, we want to emphasize how much our past really does affect us. If we don't address issues from our past, it's just going to negatively affect our future. Let's hear from Jason VanRuler on his newest book, “Get Past Your Past.” You can purchase it by hitting the links below! Resources: Get Past Your Past by Jason VanRuler https://amzn.to/3sce7cC Jason's IG https://instagram.com/jason.vanruler?igshid=MzMyNGUyNmU2YQ== Get in Touch with Jason https://www.jasonvr.com Stay in Conversation with Us IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple Website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Email: hello@dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
In this episode, we talk about how to get over your past and move on to live a more fulfilled and meaningful life without the past continuing to loom over you. Jason is launching his new book; Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. In this book, Jason invites you to own your past, hold onto hope, and live a connected life. FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d
In this episode, we talk about how to get over your past and move on to live a more fulfilled and meaningful life without the past continuing to loom over you. Jason is launching his new book; Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. In this book, Jason invites you to own your past, hold onto hope, and live a connected life. FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d
In this episode, Jason VanRuler and I have a great conversation about our past wounds and struggles and how we can heal from them, so that we can be healthy and whole. We can find Christ in the dark places of our lives as he enters into the suffering with us and he will be there to lead us to the next step. We talk about the necessity of acknowledging where we are at, being honest with ourselves and God, asking for help, and finding friends to walk with us. Join us as we uncover the wounds of our past, so that we can heal from them, and move forward into the future in a healthy way connected to God and to one another. Jason VanRuler is the author of Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. He began his career in 2011 and has worked with many populations over the years, ranging from persons who are incarcerated to top CEOs, performers and artists, and just about everyone in between. Jason has extensive experience as a clinician, coach, and speaker and operates a multistate private practice. In 2018, Jason joined Bethesda Workshops in Nashville, TN, where he serves as a group leader and facilitator. Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships. Jason's Book:Get Past Your PastJason's Recommendation:Soundtracks by Jon AcuffConnect with Joshua: jjohnson@allnations.usGo to www.shiftingculturepodcast.com to interact and donate. Every donation helps to produce more podcasts for you to enjoy.Follow on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Threads at www.facebook.com/shiftingculturepodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/shiftingculturepodcast/https://twitter.com/shiftingcultur2https://www.threads.net/@shiftingculturepodcastConsider Giving to the podcast and to the ministry that my wife and I do around the world. Just click on the support the show link below.Support the show
This week, we're taking an in-depth look at the signs that indicate for all intents and purposes, that we're stuck in the past. But to that, we're going to talk about how to get past the past with therapist, coach, speaker, and author, Jason VanRuler, whose goal is to speak truth and grace into the life of every person he works with. Dive Deeper: If you enjoy this episode with Ian, I'm sure you'll also enjoy: 353: Albert Tate on Adjusting Our Relationship with Pain & Failure, Stunting Our Emotional Growth, and What it Means to Do the Work of Untangling Our Dysfunctional Relationship with Pain 360: Dr. John Delony on The Cost of Living a Borrowed Life, Outsourcing Vulnerability, Practicing Resilience and Courage, and Why a Curated Life is a Fake Life ++++++ Episode Links: Jason's Website | Instagram | Facebook Subscribe to #WinTodayShow on YouTube. Join the conversation wherever hashtags are welcome using #WinTodayShow. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube. ************************** This week's show partner(s): Get LMNT and a free gift with your purchase here! **************************
Jason VanRuler is the author of Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. He began his career in 2011 and has worked with many populations over the years, ranging from persons who are incarcerated to top CEOs, performers and artists, and just about everyone in between. Jason has extensive experience as a clinician, coach, and speaker and operates a multistate private practice. Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships. In this episode, Jason and Stephen talk about all things emotional health, dealing with brokenness, getting past your past, navigating challenges, and prioritizing appropriate vulnerability in order to deepen relationships. This conversation is FULL OF GOLD and I'm excited for you to hear it!Follow Jason on Instagram | @jason.vanrulerCheck out Jason's website | jasonvr.comPurchase Get Past Your PastFollow us on InstagramAsk a Question or Suggest a Guest | goingsomewherepod.com/contactSubscribe to us on YoutubePodcast Music: Electric Ten by Broke in SummerGoing Somewhere is a resource of Northview ChurchStephen's Instagram & Blog
Your brokenness is not the end of the story. It's time to heal. Any of us can get stuck in our struggle. But what if brokenness--the array of behaviors and symptoms that show us that all is not as it should be with us--isn't all there is? What if we can change? In this episode, Bobby has a fascinating conversation with Jason VanRuler, author of the book, Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. Don't miss this incredibly powerful interview. Before the interview, Bobby and Meghan kick off the episode with an Empowered Homes update & a BIG giveaway. Our podcast studio needs a makeover and we need your help. Head over to FB or Instgram to see photos of our current studio. Please email us or comment your ideas for a studio update! If you contribute, you will be entered into a drawing for Apple Airpods! About Jason's Book Jesus came to set us free and give us life--abundant life--but while we believe it for everyone else, it's hard to accept his forgiveness and grace for ourselves. We continue in our old ways, living as one with no hope because we're afraid of failing if we try to get better. Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/Get-Past-Your-Facing-Connection/dp/0310367417 About Jason VanRulerJason began his career in 2011 and has worked with many populations over the years, ranging from persons who are incarcerated to top CEOs, performers and artists, and just about everyone in between. Jason has extensive experience as a clinician, coach, and speaker and operates a multistate private practice. In 2018, Jason joined Bethesda Workshops in Nashville, TN, where he serves as a group leader and facilitator. Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships.Jason enjoys spending time with his wife and three children playing games and traveling. In his spare time, Jason enjoys cycling, running, music, fly fishing, and all things personal development related.Connect with Jason: www.jasonvr.com or jason.vanruler on instagram. Show us some Love!Do you appreciate The Empowered Homes Podcast? Like, subscribe, comment, share. Every bit of your engagement helps us be open-handed in sharing resources to grow strong families, leaders and ministries. Thanks for your help in Empowering Homes for the gospel! FB InstagramQuestions? Ideas for the Podcast? Contact us at podcast@empoweredhomes.org.About Empowered Homes Who we are? The primary purpose of Empowered Homes is to connect church and home by equipping families, leaders and ministries to grow in the areas of marriage, parenting, personal growth. discipleship strategy, family ministry, and leadership development. We value the family as the first institution designed by God for spiritual formation, relationships, and reflecting His image. We seek to ensure that every element of church life supports and equips that essential role. What we do? Empowered Homes Ministry provides practical, gospel-based resources to connect church and home. The majority of our resources are offered online through our website empoweredhomes.org. We also partner with churches and ministries to provide conferences, equipping events & ministry coaching.Find Free Resources empoweredhomes.org
Any of us can get stuck in our struggle. Jesus came to set us free and give us life--abundant life--but we continue in our old ways, living as one with no hope because we're afraid of failing if we try to get better. Counselor and author Jason VanRuler shares from his book "Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection." Faith Radio podcasts are made possible by your support. Give now: click here
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Your brokenness is not the end of your story. If you can't get past your past, there's healing available. Jason VanRuler says he spent years letting his past run the show. But facing the broken places made all the difference. How do you accept what happened in the rearview and move forward? Is that possible? Get past your past—listen Tuesday to Chris Fabry Live. Care NetSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, Dante talks with author, counselor, and speaker Jason VanRuler to discuss his new book "Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection." In this book (available October 10th, 2023 from Zondervan) Jason invites readers to address past pain and hurt as the first step to find healing and authentic connection. He uses biblical wisdom, clinical experience and his own personal stories as a father of 3 and growing up surrounded by abuse, addiction and conflict. Jason began his career in 2011 and has worked with many populations over the years, ranging from persons who are incarcerated to top CEOs, performers and artists, and just about everyone in between. Jason has extensive experience as a clinician, coach, and speaker and operates a multi-state private practice. In 2018, Jason joined Bethesda Workshops in Nashville, TN, where he serves as a group leader and facilitator. Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships. To connect with Jason, visit the following links: Jason VanRuler Website Instagram Page Youtube Page Legacy Dads is proud to be partnered with the Christian Parenting Network of podcasts. For more practical and spiritual resources to help you become the perfectly imperfect parent you wish to be, visit CPN today!
Jason VanRuler is a licensed therapist who is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience that he uses in his best interest to reach the world around him. In today's bonus episode, we discuss strategies to captivate and engage your audience and how to foster a community around your work. In his new book, "Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection", Jason invites readers to address past pain and hurt as the first step to finding healing and authentic connection. Grab your copy: jasonvr.com/book Follow Jason: @jason.vanruler
Jason VanRuler is a licensed therapist who is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience that he uses in his best interest to reach the world around him. In today's bonus episode, we discuss strategies to captivate and engage your audience and how to foster a community around your work. In his new book, "Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection", Jason invites readers to address past pain and hurt as the first step to finding healing and authentic connection. Grab your copy: jasonvr.com/book Follow Jason: @jason.vanruler
Jason VanRuler is a licensed therapist who is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience that he uses in his best interest to reach the world around him. In today's bonus episode, we discuss strategies to captivate and engage your audience and how to foster a community around your work. In his new book, "Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection", Jason invites readers to address past pain and hurt as the first step to finding healing and authentic connection. Grab your copy: jasonvr.com/book Follow Jason: @jason.vanruler
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Dr. Liz hangs out with Jason VanRuler, Licensed Therapist, to chat all about “fighting fair” in our relationships. Dr. Liz and Jason chat about common causes of conflict, including feeling “triggered” and hurt by our partners, and ways to manage this conflict more effectively. They each share about personal examples of struggles with conflict in their own relationships, as well as tools and methods they have found to be helpful for resolving conflict. You won't want to miss this very relatable episode all about managing relational conflict. Connect with Dr. Liz: https://linktr.ee/drelizabethfedrick Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drelizabethfedrick TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drelizabethfedrick YouTube: @drelizabethfedrick Website: https://www.drelizabethfedrick.com/ drelizabethfedrick #fightingfair #relatable Disclaimer: Nothing found on Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick's social media pages, YouTube channels, Podcasts, interviews with any media outlet, or any websites, is intended to substitute for any type of professional diagnosis or treatment, medical care, therapeutic service, or clinical guidance. Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick, Relatable, and Evolve Counseling & Behavioral Health Services assumes no liability, responsibility, or risk for any use of this information, any diagnosis, treatment, decisions made, or action taken in reliance upon information contained in social media pages, YouTube, Podcast, website, or any other internet sites linked to Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick, Relatable, and Evolve Counseling in any way.
David and Nate chat with Jason VanRuler, Author of Get Past Your Past(Zondervan 2023). Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience (IG, TikTok) for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships.
What if your past could become your passageway to true connection? This week, we welcome the author of Get Past Your Past, Jason VanRuler. Jason opens up about his journey from a broken home and the struggle trying to avoid repeating those same patterns. He brings insights on healing, the power of vulnerability, and the role of psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships in our lives. I love this conversation with Jason because we really dive deep into the journey of healing from our past and how challenging that can be. We talk about how we find the courage to be vulnerable with people around us and how it is really important to feel it to heal it. We get deep in this episode and I know you're going to love it as well. 3:10 – Jason 101 Coming from a broken home with trauma and chaos and abuse When did things begin to change for him? The things he wanted to do differently when he reached adulthood 12:09 – Feel It to Heal It Why is it so difficult for people to deal with grief? Bringing other people into the equation to help you heal Opening up and building trust incrementally 20:03 – Steps to find someone to be vulnerable with Taking it step-by-step, there is not shortcut Don't try to make someone your person How we think about it and talk about it changes over time 29:41 – The struggle to forgive ourselves When did you stop deserving forgiveness? Common thread for people that struggle with forgiveness Honoring people we hurt by being better 41:46 – Action steps you can take Be honest with yourself about what's going on Recognizing the cost Hope is always there even if you can't see it FEATURED QUOTES "If you don't know how to do it differently, you return to what you know. And within a couple of years, I just sort of built the life I was running from." “I think the best way we can honor the people we hurt is by being better. And we can't be better if we if we don't forgive ourselves because people don't improve what they don't value.” “If you're in this season and this space, use that growth. And remember that when you feel those times of regret in those moments, that's actually a sign you changed for the better. Because you never would have noticed it otherwise.” ____ Connect with Jason: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Get Jason's book ‘Get Past Your Past': https://www.amazon.com/Get-Past-Your-Facing-Connection/dp/0310367417
The battle of healing from the past can be a long and difficult journey. Guilt, shame, embarrassment, pain, and hardship can deter us from finding the help, hope, and healing we ultimately desire and deserve. Thankfully today, we get the opportunity glean from both the wisdom and experience of our guest who is no stranger to understanding how difficult it can be to look at your brokenness, heal, and move forward. Our guest today is a renowned licensed therapist, speaker, and now author, Jason VanRuler. Jason joins us today to unpack his new book that will be releasing October 10th titled, Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. In and throughout the pages of this book as well during our conversation today Jason invites us to address our past pain and hurt to fully embrace love and connection. Through offering empathy, grace and a hand to hold as he shares his own trauma and struggles with alcohol, drug use, and depression combined with his professional knowledge from over a decade helping patients face their brokenness Jason strives to help each of us find the healing and authentic connection we long for. Links to Visit: https://www.jasonvr.com/ https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor https://www.tiktok.com/@jason.vanruler https://www.amazon.com/Get-Past-Your-Facing-Connection/dp/0310367417
EP.156: In this fun, engaging, and practical episode, licensed therapist, author, and speaker— Jason VanRuler—returns to Revival Town Podcast to unpack his powerful new book 'Get Past Your Past.' Get ready to laugh, learn, and be inspired!
Licensed therapist Jason VanRuler knows what it's like to be stuck. But he also knows how to break through whatever is holding us back and get to the other side. This week's episode of Unapologetic is a fun one, as these two trained therapists talk all things attachment theory, finding safe people, getting past your past, and everything in between! Julia doesn't hold back from asking Jason some tough, honest questions, and both his answers and her insights can help us all take the steps we need to face our own brokenness and walk toward health and healing. Breaking free from sin, secrets, and shame really comes down to having the courage to live out a new story for your life (and being saved and forgiven by Jesus, of course!). We're all capable of change, no matter how far gone our lives may seem. Don't miss out on this super practical conversation! Jason's book, Get Past Your Past, is available for preorder now! Learn more about his work at jasonvr.com and follow him on Instagramfor daily relationship tips!
Today on the show we are talking all about Attachment Theory. I came across my new friend, Jason VanRuler on Instagram and his resources have been so helpful for me! We're joined by my friends Shayna and Sam as we talk about each of the different attachment styles, how they impact our relationships, and what moving toward secure attachment looks like. This was such a helpful conversation and I'm so thankful for Jason, Shayna, and Sam's honesty and friendship! For more resources from Jason and our other Summer Lovin' experts, check out anniefdowns.com/dating. . . . . After listening to the series, do you have follow up questions? Submit them HERE for a Q&A episode in the fall! . . . . Go to hereforyoutour.com to get your tickets to our tour this June! Want to gift a ticket to a friend? Go to anniefdowns.com/events for a printable Here For You gift ticket. . . . . Subscribe to Let's Read the Gospels with Annie F. Downs HERE. Go to https://anniefdowns.com/gospels to purchase your June Reading Plan or Let's Read the Gospels Guidebook. . . . . . Head to anniefdowns.com/books for more information and to sign up for the AFD Book of the Month. . . . . . Sign up to receive the AFD Week In Review email and ask questions to future guests! #thatsoundsfunpodcast . . . . . Thank you to our partners! Gospel Enneagram: Tyler Zach's FREE Resources:
Adam sits down with experienced therapist & his good friend Jason VanRuler are back to wrap up their bonus series on Sex, Porn, & Infidelity. They talk about specific questions that so many of you have, but that you're embarrassed to actually ask out loud. This week, Adam and Jason are talking about boundaries:If you're married what's the line between a "harmless" conversation with another person and something more?What's the big deal?“He's just a friend.”“She's just a friend.”Where's the line? And how do you know when you've crossed it?No one sets out to have an affair… yet at least 60 percent of married couples will experience infidelity at some point in their marriage. They'll share both a therapist's perspective (Jason) and a pastor's perspective (Adam) in a candid, honest conversation around a topic that's so rarely talked about. Join The Crew for encouragement from Adam: adamweber.com/thecrewGet Jason's weekly relationship tips: jasonvr.com/emailsignup
I caught them or they told me, is there a difference?What should I do? What shouldn't I do?I don't trust them at all. Can I trust them again? How?How do I heal?Adam and experienced therapist Jason VanRuler are back to answer your honest, messy questions around Sex, Porn, & Infidelity.They'll share both a therapist's perspective (Jason) and a pastor's perspective (Adam) in a candid, honest conversation around a topic that's so rarely talked about. Join The Crew for encouragement from Adam: adamweber.com/thecrewGet Jason's weekly relationship tips: jasonvr.com/emailsignup
Adam sits down with experienced therapist & his good friend Jason VanRuler to answer honest, messy questions around Sex, Porn, & Infidelity. They talk about specific questions that you have, but you might feel ashamed or embarrassed to actually ask out loud. This week, Adam and Jason are talking about infidelity:What do I do if I'm having an affair?Do I tell my significant other? If so, how?What do the next 6 months look like & how do I earn trust back?What if the affair happened a long time ago?What if I want to be with the person I'm having the affair with?They'll share both a therapist's perspective (Jason) and a pastor's perspective (Adam) in a candid, honest conversation around a topic that's so rarely talked about. Make sure to subscribe to The Conversation podcast, so you don't miss next week's episode: What do I do if my significant other is having an affair?Join The Crew for encouragement from Adam: adamweber.com/thecrewGet Jason's weekly relationship tips: jasonvr.com/emailsignup
What do I do if my kid is struggling with pornography… or having sex?What do I say to them?What do I do?What's helpful & what's not?Adam and experienced therapist & his good friend Jason VanRuler are back to answer these honest, messy questions around Sex, Porn, & Infidelity.They'll share both a therapist's perspective (Jason) and a pastor's perspective (Adam) in a candid, honest conversation around a topic that's so rarely talked about. Make sure to subscribe to The Conversation podcast, so you don't miss next week's episode: Part 4 — What do I do if I'm having an affair?Join The Crew for encouragement from Adam: adamweber.com/thecrewGet Jason's weekly relationship tips: jasonvr.com/emailsignup
What do you do if your significant other is struggling with porn?Do you have to forgive them?How do you heal and learn to trust them?How can you help them?Adam and experienced therapist & his good friend Jason VanRuler are back to answer these honest, messy questions around Sex, Porn, & Infidelity.They'll share both a therapist's perspective (Jason) and a pastor's perspective (Adam) in a candid, honest conversation around a topic that's so rarely talked about. Make sure to subscribe to The Conversation podcast, so you don't miss next week's episode: What do I do if my kid is struggling with pornography… or having sex? Join The Crew for encouragement from Adam: adamweber.com/thecrewGet Jason's weekly relationship tips: jasonvr.com/emailsignup
Adam sits down with experienced therapist & his good friend Jason VanRuler to answer honest, messy questions around Sex, Porn, & Infidelity. They talk about specific questions that so many of us have, but that we might feel ashamed or embarrassed to actually ask out loud. This week, Adam and Jason are talking about porn:What do you do if you're struggling with porn?Do you tell your significant other if you are? If so, how and what do you tell them?They'll share both a therapist's perspective (Jason) and a pastor's perspective (Adam) in a candid, honest conversation around a topic that's so rarely talked about. Make sure to subscribe to The Conversation podcast, so you don't miss next week's episode: What do I do if my significant other is struggling with pornography?Join The Crew for encouragement from Adam: adamweber.com/thecrewGet Jason's weekly relationship tips: jasonvr.com/emailsignup
Join Michael Jr. and special co-host Jason VanRuler, a relationship counselor as they answer dating and relationship questions from listeners. Questions include how long it takes to recover after exiting a bad relationship, how to stay abstinent as a single Christian, and what exactly a "trauma bond" relationship is.Jason VanRulerhttps://www.jasonvr.com/Have you left a question for Michael Jr. yet?Call 214-308-1177 and leave a question...just make sure to start with "Michael Jr., I Was Wondering."Stand-up Special:See Michael Jr.'s most recent Stand-up Special FREE here on YouTube https://youtu.be/f81swJDPgusFree ChapterYou can download a free chapter from Michael Jr.'s new book here: michaeljr.com/chapter.Join Our Exclusive Community on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/michaeljrDon't forget to leave a review! We really do read them. Your review could be featured in an episode and read by Michael Jr.Support the show
Join Michael Jr., co-host Jason VanRuler, and special guest Coach Micheal Burt, a life coach and author. Michael and Jason learn what exactly Coach Burt means when he talks about "flipping the switch", why it's important to activate your "prey drive", and the importance of both knowing your purpose AND staying motivated to fulfill it.Coach Micheal Burthttps://coachburt.com/Jason VanRulerhttps://www.jasonvr.com/Have you left a question for Michael Jr. yet?Call 214-308-1177 and leave a question...just make sure to start with "Michael Jr., I Was Wondering."Stand-up Special:See Michael Jr.'s most recent Stand-up Special FREE here on YouTube https://youtu.be/f81swJDPgusFree ChapterYou can download a free chapter from Michael Jr.'s new book here: michaeljr.com/chapter.Join Our Exclusive Community on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/michaeljrDon't forget to leave a review! We really do read them. Your review could be featured in an episode and read by Michael Jr.Support the show
Have you ever abandoned yourself in a relationship? It can look like sacrificing things that are really important to you in order to fit into someone else's life. This can be a relationship killer. So can emotional immaturity. When you don't deal with your past traumas, they can impact your present day self in relationship with your significant other. Couples therapist Jason Van Ruler talks about how you can work through these issues to create a happy, healthy relationship. Follow Jason VanRuler on Instagram: @Jason.VanRuler Follow me on Instagram: @Colleen_Odegaard Website: www.ColleenOdegaard.com Email me: Colleen@WakeUptoYourLife.net
Join Michael Jr., Pastor Kyle, and special guest Jason VanRuler, a marriage therapist, coach, and speaker. Michael and Kyle learn about how Jason approaches helping couples with improving intimacy in their marriage, how his advice applies to his own marriage, and how important it is to make your relationship with your spouse a priority after having children. It's Funny How Life Works as a Marriage Therapist. Non-Sponsor SponsorFunny For The Forgotten https://www.funnyfortheforgotten.com/Jason VanRulerhttps://www.jasonvr.com/@jason.vanruler on IGSent Churchhttps://www.sentchurch.cc/Have you left a question for Michael Jr. yet?Call 214-308-1177 and leave a question...just make sure to start with "Michael Jr., I Was Wondering."Stand-up Special:See Michael Jr.'s most recent Stand-up Special FREE here on YouTube https://youtu.be/f81swJDPgusStorytime with Michael Jr.Get ready to laugh and be encouraged! Spots are limited - join Michael Jr. as he shares impactful stories from his new book, Funny How Life Works.Get your access ticket here: https://funnyhowlifeworksbook.com/storytimeFree ChapterYou can download a free chapter from Michael Jr.'s new book here: michaeljr.com/chapter.Join Our Exclusive Community on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/michaeljrWhen you become one of our patrons, or what we call an Opener, you are joining a strong and exclusive community who have early access to some really cool perks.Don't forget to leave a review! We really do read them. Your review could be featured in an episode and read by Michael Jr.As a thank you for listening, we want to hook you up with Michael Jr.'s comedy CD, Funny For a Reason at whatever price you want. Click the link, name your price, and keep laughing.Name Your Price CD: michaeljr.com/cdSupport the show
Description: Kelly talks to CSAT licensed therapist, speaker and podcast host, Jason VanRuler about the keystones to healthy relationships. Jason talks about the steps to getting a healthy relationship, as well as the obstacles he sees most amongst his clients on their journey to find these relationships with themselves and others. Socials: @jason.vanruler Website: Jasonvr.com Podcast: Ok, What's Next? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Join Michael Jr., Pastor Kyle, and special guest Jason VanRuler, a counselor, coach, and speaker. They talk about his approach to marriage counseling, the importance of recognizing how non-important some issues that arise in marriage can be, and how our expectations for marriage don't always match the results.Non-Sponsor SponsorPsychology For All http://www.psychologyforall.org/Jason VanRulerhttps://www.jasonvr.com/@jason.vanruler on IGSent Churchhttps://www.sentchurch.cc/Have you left a question for Michael Jr. yet?Call 214-308-1177 and leave a question...just make sure to start with "Michael Jr., I Was Wondering."Stand-up Special:See Michael Jr.'s most recent Stand-up Special FREE here on YouTube https://youtu.be/f81swJDPgusStorytime with Michael Jr.Get ready to laugh and be encouraged! Spots are limited - join Michael Jr. as he shares impactful stories from his new book, Funny How Life Works.Get your access ticket here: https://funnyhowlifeworksbook.com/storytimeFree ChapterYou can download a free chapter from Michael Jr.'s new book here: michaeljr.com/chapter.Join Our Exclusive Community on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/michaeljrWhen you become one of our patrons, or what we call an Opener, you are joining a strong and exclusive community who have early access to some really cool perks.Don't forget to leave a review! We really do read them. Your review could be featured in an episode and read by Michael Jr.As a thank you for listening, we want to hook you up with Michael Jr.'s comedy CD, Funny For a Reason at whatever price you want. Click the link, name your price, and keep laughing.Name Your Price CD: michaeljr.com/cdSupport the show
Jason VanRuler is a counselor, coach and speaker who owns Solomon Recovery, a private practice specializing in the treatment of intimacy, trauma and transitional concerns.On this episode of The Giving Life Podcast, Tom and Jason discuss the most common relational issues couples are facing today and how to overcome them, how we can build resiliency in our kids so they are better prepared for being an adult and how we can take care of our mental health in a world that is filled with so much negativity.The Giving Life Podcast: Conversations about being a man whose life in Christ gives life to others.Watch the video version on youtube - youtu.be/MuJLxO2chgcMore info about Restoration Generation - www.resgen.org
S3 EP.9 - Jason VanRuler, a Sioux Falls, South Dakota native is a counselor, coach and speaker. Jason is the owner of Solomon Recovery, a private practice that spans multiple states and specializes in the the treatment of intimacy, trauma and transitional concerns. Jason is also the host of "Ok, What's Next?" podcast. You will enjoy Jason's story and benefit from the wisdom he shares during this practical and entertaining episode of Revival Town Podcast.
In the premiere episode, we hear from host and founder Jason VanRuler. Jason shares a bit about his upbringing and early carrier including the events that led him to become a counselor and commit his life to helping others.