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Have you ever been so ready to fix something that you forgot to ask if fixing was even what was needed? In this final episode of the six-part series with therapist and communication coach Jason VanRuler, Candace and Jason shift from how we disconnect to how we reconnect. What does the on-ramp actually look like? It starts with willingness, with curiosity, and with giving the people we love room to grow at their own speed. Listener questions take center stage here: A wife who has been worn down by a husband who seems chronically disappointed. A person who absorbs everyone's moods and can't shake them. A newly married woman asking what no one told her going in. Jason's answers are practical and honest, and Candace adds what she has actually lived, including the moment she realized that praying together changed everything in her own marriage. This one brings the series home with tools you can use today, and a reminder that the relationships worth having are worth the long game. Go to candace.com to join the email list, get the Healthy Connection Guide, and ask your own questions. You can also grab Jason's book and access more resources from the series. Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together. Connect with Candace and Jason  Candace on Instagram @candacecbure  Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast  Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode PHD – Visit myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace.  IFCJ ifcj.com  NOCD - Book a free call by visiting nocd.com GCU gcu.edu 316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been in a conversation and realized somewhere along the way you completely checked out? Not because you wanted to, but because your wiring just took you somewhere else? That's what this episode is about. Jason VanRuler is back as co-host, and together he and Candace break down what happens when each of the five PATHS communication types disengage. Not through open conflict or blowups — the quieter drift that happens when a Peacemaker decides it is not worth it, when a Thinker goes silent and starts cycling inward, or when a Harbor abandons themselves by over-functioning for everyone else. Candace talks openly about parenting teenagers and what it took to remember she was the adult in the room, even when the room was loud. Jason shares what it looks like when couples call him months after an intensive counseling session, having slid back into the same patterns that brought them in the first time. Connection, he says, is not something you tend to reactively. It is something you build consistently, and every PATHS type has a particular way of falling off that path. There are four listener questions in this episode, and they are honest ones: about anger that feels like it comes out of nowhere, about walls built to protect and then impossible to take down, about keeping a marriage strong when your husband is gone for twelve-plus hours a day. Candace shares what 30 years of marriage actually looks like, including the truth that not every day is a great day, and why two willing people might be the only real secret there is. Subscribe to Candace's email list and get the free Healthy Connection Guide at candace.com, and get Jason's Communicate to Connect course at candace.com/together. Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together. Connect with Candace and Jason  Candace on Instagram @candacecbure  Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast  Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode Crowdhealth - Go to JoinCrowdHealth.com and use code CANDACE GCU gcu.edu IFCJ ifcj.com  PHD - Visit myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace.  316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the reason your closest relationships feel stuck isn't about how much you care — but about how differently you and the people you love communicate? Today, I sit down with Jason VanRuler, therapist, Enneagram Two, and author of Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths to Deeper Connection and Stronger Relationships, as he introduces us to his P.A.T.H.S. framework — five communication styles he identified through years of working with couples navigating betrayal, teams in conflict, and individuals trying to understand why the same words land so differently depending on who's in the room. Those five types: the Peacemaker, the Advocate, the Thinker, the Harbor, and the Spark.  The nine Enneagram types map fascinatingly onto these five communication styles, and we walk through each type together. We talk about blind spots (every communication style has one), what happens to our style under stress and in conflict, and why the most generous thing you can do in any relationship is learn to speak your people's language rather than demanding they speak yours. Jason also shares honestly from his own marriage — he's a Harbor married to a Thinker — and what changed when he learned to stop reading his wife's precision questions as opposition and started hearing them as her version of love. Whether you're an Enneagram enthusiast, a couples therapist, a team leader, or just someone who's tired of feeling unseen in conversations, this episode is for you.  

Have you ever known something was broken in a relationship but had no idea how to say what you actually needed to fix it? That's where so many of us get stuck. This week, Candace and communication coach Jason VanRuler move from understanding the PATHS types to putting them to work, starting with a listener question about a family conflict that has been festering for twenty years. Jason reframes the whole thing: the problem is rarely that people won't talk. It's that they don't know what they need in order to move forward. The conversation moves through how each communication type engages with conflict, from the Peacemaker who needs reassurance that the relationship will survive the hard conversation, to the Advocate who can throw the whole relationship away for the win, to the Thinker who arrives with a trolley of evidence, to the Harbor who creates so much space for feelings that the conflict never actually gets resolved, to the Spark who surprises everyone when the intensity finally breaks. Jason also addresses what to do when the other person simply is not willing, and how to tell the difference between what we want and what we actually need. Two more listener questions round out the episode: a mom whose first-grade son keeps getting excluded, and a teenage girl named Blythe navigating anxiety. Jason's answer to both comes back to the same thing. Confidence rooted in identity. When we know who we are and what we stand for, rejection still hurts, but it doesn't define us. And for the teenage girl spinning in worry? Noting the anxiety and then redirecting that energy somewhere useful turns out to be far more effective than overthinking it. Download the free Healthy Connection Guide at candace.com, where you can also submit questions for future episodes. For Jason's "Communicate to Connect" video guide, go to candacecbure.com/together Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together! Connect with Candace and Jason  Candace on Instagram @candacecbure  Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast  Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode PHD myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace.  Crowdhealth Go to JoinCrowdHealth.com and use code CANDACE GCU gcu.edu 316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure IFCJ ifcj.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dog owners tend to live longer and be healthier than people without dogs. But why would owning a dog have such a powerful effect on your health? The answer turns out to be surprisingly fascinating—especially when it comes to what dogs may be doing for children. https://hi.umn.edu/news/health-perks-pet-ownership You know that frustrating moment when someone completely misunderstands what you meant—even though you thought you were being perfectly clear? Communication problems often happen because people aren't all “speaking” the same way. According to psychotherapist Jason VanRuler, there are five distinct communication types, and each hears the world differently. Which means the problem may not be what you said—but how the other person processes it. Jason explains how understanding these communication styles can dramatically improve relationships, reduce conflict, and help people finally feel understood. He is author of Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths to Deeper Connections and Stronger Relationships (https://amzn.to/43iBcJB). A lot of people were taught that if you work hard, stay humble, and keep your head down, success will eventually find you. That sounds nice. It's also often terrible career advice. Promotions and opportunities frequently go to the people who know how to make themselves visible, memorable, and impossible to overlook. Courtney Johnson, creator of the viral “Problematic Career Cheat Codes” series on TikTok, explains the unspoken rules that actually drive career success—and why many talented people unknowingly sabotage themselves by following outdated advice. She is author of Career Cheat Codes: The Unspoken, Unconventional, and Unfiltered Rules of Career Success (https://amzn.to/4tIk7DD). Nearsightedness has exploded around the world, especially among children and young adults. Most people blame screens. But researchers say the bigger issue may actually be something we've stopped doing—and the consequences could affect eyesight for life. https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2830598 PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS POCKET HOSE: For a limited time, when you purchase a new Pocket Hose Ballistic, you'll get a FREE 360 degree rotating pocket pivot and a FREE thumb drive nozzle! Just text SYSK to 64000 AQUA TRU: Take the guesswork out of pure, great-tasting water. Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://AquaTru.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now and get 20% off your purifier using promo code SYSK. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guarantee or your money back. RULA: This Mental Health Awareness Month, don't just think about your mental health - actually take the step to take care of it. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Rula.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to get started. QUINCE: Refresh your everyday with luxury you will actual use! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Quince.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too! DELL:  With the Dell Pro laptop powered by Intel Core Ultra with vPro, no matter how many interruptions you have, your laptop won't be one of them. With battery that's optimized for the way you work, and built-in intelligence that quiets distractions the moment you're trying to focus, your tech won't slow you down.  Find out more at ⁠⁠⁠https://Dell.com/Dell-Pro⁠⁠⁠ SHOPIFY: It's time to turn those "what ifs" into CHA CHING with Shopify Today! Sign up for your $1 per month trail and start selling today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Shopify.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do some people totally bomb when a conversation really counts? In this episode, therapist and author Jason VanRuler breaks down the five communication types that explain how we connect, where we fail, and why we keep repeating the same patterns. From Peacemakers who avoid conflict to Sparks who struggle to go deep, Jason reveals how childhood shaped your communication style and what happens when stress makes the real you show up. We also dive into the bullseye method for vulnerability (not everyone gets the middle), why cutting people off isn't a badge of honor, and the three phrases that will change your relationships: "If it matters to you, it matters to me," "Can I explain this?" and simply "Maybe." Plus, Jason shares why you need a new therapist when you can guess what they're going to say, the watches and hobbies we've both obsessed over, and why he cries on planes flying home. If you've ever wondered why communication breaks down when it matters most, this episode will show you exactly what's happening and how to fix it.In This Episode:Find Jason VanRuler on Instagram: @jason.vanrulerOr online at jasonvr.comOrder Procrastination Proof!You can grab a copy of my new book Procrastination Proof from your favorite bookstore or at my website!Make sure to follow me on Instagram and share with your friends!Sign up for my newsletter, Try This!Book me to speak at your event or to your team!Sign up for the Remarkable You Community today!Keep up with my book list on GoodReads!Have me speak at your next event! Have me speak at your next event!

Have you ever been around someone who made you feel like your feelings actually mattered? Or tried for months to get through to someone you love, only to catch one brief moment where they let you in? That is exactly what this episode is about. Candace and Jason VanRuler are back to continue the PATHS series, and this week they go deep on the two communication types that might be the most misunderstood: Harbor and Spark. Jason opens up about being a Harbor himself — the feeler of the group, the one who makes space for everyone else's emotions and often forgets to need that space too. He shares the story of a therapist on a bus who had spent a career being a Harbor for others and had never once had one for herself. The loneliness in that is real, and so is the beauty of what a Harbor offers when it's healthy. They also talk about the wound that often shapes a Harbor: being a kid whose feelings just didn't get to matter. Then there's the Spark — the one who lights up a room, gets every conversation going, and sometimes vanishes the moment things get heavy. Candace and Jason talk about what it actually takes to reach a Spark in a real relationship, and Candace shares what her husband has taught her about patience, cigars on the patio, and the one-in-three conversations that open everything up. Two listener questions round out the episode: one about a three-year-old who worries too much, and one from a mom who feels like she's losing her twelve-year-old. Download the free Healthy Connection Guide and join the Together Community at candace.com. Sign up for email updates at candace.com. Life is like a rollercoaster, but it's better when we go through it together! Connect with Candace and Jason  Candace on Instagram @candacecbure  Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast  Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode IFCJ ifcj.com  PHD myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace.  316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure GCU gcu.edu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever told the truth and still felt like the message didn't land? Or held back because you weren't sure how to say it without it coming across wrong? Candace and licensed therapist Jason VanRuler are back this week continuing the conversation about the PATHS communication types — and this time they're going deep on two of them: the Advocate and the Thinker. The Advocate leads with what's fair, what's right, and what needs to be said. Proverbs 27:5 says, "Better is open rebuke than hidden love" — and that's the Advocate's whole posture. But Jason talks about what it looks like when the truth is delivered without the right packaging, and Candace opens up about her own Advocate score and a real conversation where she had to say out loud: the truth matters more to me than the fix right now. The Thinker, meanwhile, goes quiet before they go anywhere. Proverbs 18:13 is the anchor verse: "To answer before listening — that is folly and shame." Someone with a Thinker communication style is processing and fact-checking themselves, making sure what they say is worth saying. Candace shares what that looks like on set and why the people around her have learned to just let her think. There's also a listener question from Lucia about family members she can barely tolerate, a conversation about letting your kids watch you work through conflict, Jason's "boredom binder" of life skills, and an honest look at what it took for him and his wife to stop arguing in circles. Go to candace.com to sign up for email updates, get more of Jason's communication tips, and buy access to Jason's Communicate to Connect video series. Connect with Candace and Jason  Candace on Instagram @candacecbure  Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast  Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode PHD myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace.  IFCJ ifcj.com  NOCD Visit nocd.com to book a free call  Toups & Co toupsandco.com/candace and use code CANDACE for 25% 316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like the other person heard something completely different from what you said? That gap between what we want and what really happens is where so many of our hardest moments show up — in our marriages, with our kids, with the people we love most. This week, Candace sits down with licensed therapist, coach, and author Jason VanRuler to start a six-week series on the five communication types he outlines in his book "Discovering Your Communication Type." Right from the start, this one feels less like a lecture and more like finally getting words for something you've always sensed about yourself. Jason introduces the PATHS framework: Peacemaker, Advocate, Thinker, Harbor, and Spark — and the conversation digs into the first type: the Peacemaker. If you've ever found yourself working overtime to keep everyone okay, managing the energy in a room without anyone even knowing, this episode is going to feel very familiar. Jason shares how our communication types are often rooted in what we needed most as kids, and how the gift we give others is usually the gift we once longed for ourselves. A listener question from Bethany about her husband's phone use leads to one of the most practical moments in the episode — including a line from Jason that could genuinely shift a marriage: "If it matters to you, it matters to me." Sign up for email updates, grab the free Healthy Connection Guide with Jason's communication type assessment, and learn how to buy Jason's course "Communicate to Connect" at candace.com. Connect with Candace and Jason  Candace on Instagram @candacecbure  Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast  Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Sponsors For This Episode NuEthix nuethix.com/candace IFCJ ifcj.com  PHD myphdweightloss.com and call #864-644-1900 and mention Candace.  316 Financial https://bank316.com/candace-cameron-bure GCU gcu.edu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever walked out of a hard conversation wondering, "How did that go so wrong?" Or maybe you're the one who always holds the peace together in a room, running on empty because no one else seems to notice. We have all been there. And starting next Tuesday, we're going to do something about it. Jason VanRuler is a licensed therapist, communication coach, and author who has spent years helping people understand not just how to talk to each other, but who they actually are in conversation. Are you a peacemaker, a challenger, or the safe person everyone calls first? That's the question at the center of this six-week series — and the answer might open up something real in your most important relationships. This is a preview of what's coming, and Candace can't wait to dig in with you. Go to candace.com to sign up for email updates so you'll always be first to know when new episodes drop. Life is like a rollercoaster , but it's better when we go through it together! Connect with Candace and Jason  Candace on Instagram @candacecbure  Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast  Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Jason on IG: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Jason on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Jasonvrcounselor Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have already tried the conversations. You have tried slowing down, choosing better words, waiting for the right moment. And still something derails it — the same wall, the same disconnect, the same feeling that you are speaking into air. What you have probably not tried is understanding why you communicate the way you do, and more importantly, where that pattern came from. Jason VanRuler is a licensed psychotherapist, author, and nationally recognized speaker whose new book, Discovering Your Communication Type, names a truth that changes everything: your communication style was not chosen — it was formed, shaped by the environment you needed to survive as a child. In this conversation, Jason introduces the PATHS model (Peacemaker, Advocate, Thinker, Harbor, Spark), but the framework is only the surface. Beneath it is something more confronting: most heated arguments are not about words. They are about wounds. And the same survival instincts that protected you then are likely the ones sabotaging your closest relationships now. What does it cost a relationship when secrets corrode it slowly, the way carbon monoxide fills a room — undetectable until real damage is done? What happens when you lead with your explanation instead of your apology, and why does that single inversion invalidate everything that follows? If you have been in survival mode so long that dysregulation feels like Tuesday morning, this conversation names the path out — and the grief that comes with it. The question Jason puts to you, whether he says it directly or not, is this: do you actually want connection, or do you want validation for remaining exactly as you are? Only one of those is available here. Guest Bio Jason VanRuler is a licensed psychotherapist, author, and nationally recognized speaker based in Sioux Falls, South Dakota, specializing in communication, attachment, and relationships. He is the author of Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths to Deeper Connections and Stronger Relationships and founder of a thriving private practice. Jason leads retreats, workshops, and intensives for couples and organizations, and hosts his own podcast, Ok, What's Next? He lives with his wife and three children. Show Partner SafeSleeve designs a phone case that blocks up to 99% of harmful EMF radiation—so I'm not carrying that kind of exposure next to my body all day. It's sleek, durable, and most importantly, lab-tested by third parties. The results aren't hidden—they're published right on their site. And that matters because many so-called EMF blockers on the market either don't work or can't prove they do. We protect our hearts and minds—why wouldn't we protect our bodies too? Head to safesleevecases.com and use the code WINTODAY10 for 10% off your order. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my book "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

Have you ever had a conversation with a loved one go in a completely different direction than what you saw coming? Your intention was there, but the way your loved one received it was nothing in the way you intended it?  Our good friend, Jason VanRuler, started to see this pattern in many of the people he had come into therapy. Conversations between people -- where everything was at stake -- and the intentions were there, but someone inevitably walked away feeling hurt, unseen, or even abandoning the relationship altogether. What one person meant isn't what the other person heard. So Jason asked himself, “Why does it sometimes land well, and other times not?”The more research he did, the more he learned predictable patterns that led to 5 primary communication types: Peace, Advocate, Thinking, Harbor, and Spark. Each one with a strength and each one with an opportunity. Not only that, each person has their own primary and secondary type. In this episode, Jason unveils each type, how we develop our own, and how we can better understand how our spouse, kids, and loved ones communicate with us. We get into marital dynamics and why we usually marry someone with similar secondary type, but the trouble that can arise when we realize we don't have the same primary one. We also talk about how knowing the types can help us communicate at a deeper level with our kids. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:18 Jason VanRuler joins the show!4:34 Why these communication types matters 6:00 Jason introduces the 5 PATHS of communication11:16 Where our personal communication style comes from 14:05 Strengths and weaknesses of each communication type 20:20 The communication types in our children and how we give what we didn't get25:05 How different communication types serve us in marriage Show Notes: Get Jason's new book Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths to Deeper Connections and Stronger Relationships: https://amzn.to/4sZzbwc Check out Jason's website: www.jasonvr.comReserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

On In The Market with Janet Parshall this week we Fouad Masri, founder of the Crescent Project, explained why the current Iran war is actually spiritual warfare taking place in physical form right before our eyes. Then we spoke to the creator of the American Worldview Inventory who explained the crisis of the American church when it comes to the failure to train disciples. Jason VanRuler explained the 5 communication types and their impact on the way we share our thoughts and feelings with others. Dr. John Delony addressed the mental health crisis in our nation and how understanding and owning our past can transform our future. The supernatural world is only a hair’s breadth away from our physical one, but we often don’t take it into account in our daily living. Dr. Karl Payne was back to remind us of that unseen world by answering your questions on spiritual warfare. Janet and Craig invite you to another discussion of news through the lens of scripture.Become a Parshall Partner: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/inthemarket/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Christa sits down with Jason VanRuler (type 2), therapist and author who specializes in communication and relationships, for a conversation about why couples can walk away from the same conversation with completely different experiences. Jason breaks down the PATHS Assessment he developed to help couples understand their communication types and why what you say isn't always what your partner hears. They discuss how your family system growing up shapes the way you communicate now, the five communication types and how they show up in conflict, and what to do when you think you're aligned but your spouse is somewhere else entirely. If you've ever had a conversation where you thought everything was fine only to discover later it absolutely was not, this episode will show you exactly what's happening and how to bridge the gap. Watch YouTube! Show links: Jason VanRuler's new book: https://www.jasonvr.com/book/ Jason's website to get on the list! https://www.jasonvr.com/ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Healthy connections with others don't happen on their own. They take practice, time, and knowledge of yourself and others. Jason VanRuler will join us to help us discover our communication type. Using the acronym PATHS, Jason will introduce us to five different communication types and the weaknesses and strengths that go with each one.Become a Parshall Partner: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/inthemarket/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jason VanRuler joins More than Roommates to discuss his book "Discovering your Communication Type." This episode dives into how your communication style and attachment patterns are shaping your marriage—often without you realizing it. By understanding how you and your spouse are wired, you can stop repeating the same conflicts and start building deeper connection.Discussion Questions:1- Which communication type do you think you are? What about your spouse?2- Where do your differences help your marriage? Where do they create tension?3- Do you tend to avoid hard conversations or over-address them? Why?4- How did your family growing up shape the way you communicate now?5- Which attachment style do you most relate to (secure, anxious, avoidant)?6- What's one small communication habit you can practice this week?ResourcesInstagram (@jason.vanruler)Discovering Your Communication Type by Jason VanRuler

In this episode, I talk with Jason VanRuler about why we keep missing each other in conversation and what's actually going on beneath the surface. We explore the five communication types - peacemaker, advocate, thinker, harbor, and spark - and how our upbringing, attachment styles, and even shame shape the way we speak and listen. Jason offers a practical way forward: growing in self-awareness, understanding the person in front of you, and shifting from trying to win or convince to actually connecting.​​Jason VanRuler, MA, CSAT, is a psychotherapist, author, and nationally recognized speaker specializing in communication, attachment, and relationships. He's the author of Discovering Your Communication Type and Get Past Your Past and founder of a thriving private practice. Known for blending insight, story, and strategy, Jason leads workshops, retreats, and intensives that explore the patterns shaping how we connect, lead, and thrive. His work creates space for clarity, growth, and lasting change. He lives with his wife and three children and enjoys travel, cycling, and fly fishing.Jason's Book:Discovering Your Communication TypeConnect with Joshua: jjohnson@shiftingculturepodcast.comGo to www.shiftingculturepodcast.com to interact and donate. Every donation helps to produce more podcasts for you to enjoy.Follow on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Threads, Bluesky or YouTubeConsider Giving to the podcast and to the ministry that my wife and I do around the world. Just click on the support the show link below NEW PODCAST: American Evangelicals - A History PodcastA thoughtful, deep dive into one of the most talked-about movements in American history.Support the show

Jason VanRuler sits down to discuss his latest book, Your Communication Type, a guide for those seeking to deepen their relationships by understanding their communication styles. Today on the 700 Club Interactive.

Jason VanRuler sits down to discuss his latest book, Your Communication Type, a guide for those seeking to deepen their relationships by understanding their communication styles. Today on the 700 Club Interactive.

Jason VanRuler sits down to discuss his latest book, Your Communication Type, a guide for those seeking to deepen their relationships by understanding their communication styles. Today on the 700 Club Interactive.

Jason VanRuler sits down to discuss his latest book, Your Communication Type, a guide for those seeking to deepen their relationships by understanding their communication styles. Today on the 700 Club Interactive.

The depth of our relationships is often shaped by the depth of our communication. Not just what we say, but how we say it...and even more than that, why we say it. Communication isn't just a skill we learn. it's something that's been formed in us. Through our stories, our families, our attachment, the environments that shaped us long before we had language for any of it. In today's conversation, I'm joined by therapist and author Jason VanRuler to explore the different communication patterns we tend to fall into, how those patterns are formed, and what it looks like to grow in self-awareness so that our friendships can actually deepen. We also talk about hard conversations: why they matter, why they're so difficult, and how learning to step into them can become one of the most meaningful pathways to connection. I hope you'll listen in. Check out Jason's new book Discovering Your Communication Type ⁠here⁠. Thought-provoking quotes: “Our ability to have relationships hangs on our ability to communicate.” - Jason VanRuler “Some of us are starters in relationships, and some of us are sustainers...but lasting relationships require depth. Depth requires self-awareness, and the ability to understand where someone else is coming from.” - Jason VanRuler “A good communicator understands themselves. A great communicator understands other people.” - Jason VanRuler Get Faith & Feeling's weekly resource email Watch this episode on YouTube Grab a copy of my book Stop Saying I'm Fine Connect with me on my website Find me on Instagram @__taylorjoy__ Key words:communication, relationships, friendship, connection, conflict, vulnerability, attachment, self-awareness, communication styles, communication patterns, growth, trust, intimacy, emotions, listening, honesty, Jason VanRuler

This week in The Writing Room, Bob and Kimberly sit down with Jason VanRuler to talk about what it looks like to stop overthinking and start writing.They cover everything from building simple frameworks that hold your ideas together to knowing when it's time to stop researching and just begin. Jason shares how to capture the stories that matter, find your own voice, and let the process unfold in a way that actually works for you.If you've been waiting for the perfect plan or the right moment to start your book, this might be the nudge you need. Turns out, sometimes the best way forward is just to put it down on paper and see what happens next.Connect with Jason: @jason.vanrulerLearn about Jason's new book, Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths to Deeper Connections and Stronger Relationships.Connect with Bob: @bobgoffConnect with Kim: @kimberlystuart.writes--Ready to write your book? Join Bob and Kim at The Oaks for the next Writer's Workshop. Visit bobgoff.com/events to learn more and register.

Get Your Mother's Journal TODAY -   Jason VanRuler is back on the show today, and we're diving into something every relationship relies on, but most of us get wrong: communication. Because here's the truth—so many of us think we're communicating well when we're really just talking. Jason breaks down five communication styles and why understanding yours (and your spouse's) can completely shift the way you connect. I share what I've learned about my own style, what my husband's looks like from the other side, and why I'm fully embracing my delightfully high‑maintenance era. If you've ever walked away from a conversation thinking, That's not what I meant at all, this episode will give you the language, clarity, and tools you need for healthier communication and stronger relationships. It's practical, eye‑opening, and a whole lot more hopeful than you might expect.   Timestamps: (03:30) - The 5 Communication Styles (And Which One You Are) (10:51) - On-Ramps & Off-Ramps: Why Conversations Go Wrong (16:25) - Why Intention Changes Everything (20:42) - The Real Secret to Hard Conversations (24:28) -  Learning to Recognize Your Needs and Give Yourself Permission to Honor Them   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Discovering Your Communication Type PATHS Assessment Jason's TV Show Recommendation - Train Dreams Jason's Book Recommendation - Thinking in Systems Jason's Product Recommendations - Moreless Protein Gummies Wise Woman Era The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days. I hope you loved this episode!

In this thought-provoking conversation, Jason VanRuler joins Dr. Carol to explore the growing influence of artificial intelligence on human relationships, intimacy, and spiritual life. Together they examine emerging trends, such as young people forming "relationships" with AI, and discuss what defines genuine connection, including truth, challenge, authenticity, and emotional depth. While AI can offer affirmation, the conversation highlights its limitations as a "yes man" that cannot replace the vulnerability and growth found in real human relationships. They also unpack how technology and social media can encourage curated identities, distract from authentic intimacy, and tempt people to settle for surface-level connection rather than meeting deeper relational needs. The episode also offers practical and spiritual guidance for cultivating real intimacy in a digital age. VanRuler shares how self-awareness, honesty, and small steps toward vulnerability, along with practices like prayer, can help individuals grow in authentic connection with God and others. The discussion addresses the spiritual risks of overreliance on AI and encourages discernment in using technology as a tool rather than a substitute for relationship. Listeners will also discover practical habits for setting healthy digital boundaries, protecting presence, and prioritizing what matters most. Connect with Jason VanRuler on his website, Facebook, or Instagram. Find Jason's book Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths to Deeper Connections and Stronger Relationships        Find out more about Dr. Carol Ministries in-person intensives - a safe place to unpack your story around intimacy and relationships, and experience Jesus coming into your story to bring healing and wholeness.        Find out more about individual coaching with Dr. Carol        Dr. Carol loves to hear from you. You can send a confidential message here.  

EP 279: Therapist and returning guest Jason Vanruler joins Andy and Chuck for a powerful and practical conversation about his brand-new book, Discovering Your Communication Type: The Five Paths to Deeper Connections and Stronger Relationships.In this episode, Jason breaks down the five communication paths and helps us understand why we talk the way we do, react the way we do, and sometimes miss each other completely—even with the people we love most. From marriage and friendships to leadership and ministry, this conversation is packed with insight you can apply immediately.Chuck and Andy also mix in their signature banter before (and after) diving deep into how knowing your communication type can transform conflict, build trust, and create healthier connections.If you've ever thought, “Why can't we just get on the same page?”—this episode is for you.

Do you and your partner ever feel like you're speaking different languages?In this episode, America's leading therapist Jason VanRuler breaks down the five communication types that shape every relationship — and how to speak so that the other person truly feels loved, heard, and understood.We also dive into relationship renegotiation, emotional depth, parenting dynamics, workplace communication, and the science of emotional connection.⏱️ TIMESTAMPS0:00 — Most communication advice gets it wrong0:22 — Welcome back: conversation with Jason VanRuler1:10 — Why some people connect deeper, faster2:59 — The Who & Why: the emotional depth levels3:48 — The four levels of emotional understanding4:18 — Relationship renegotiation in marriage5:34 — Why honoring the “old way” stops growth6:35 — How to begin a renegotiation conversation7:32 — This applies in the workplace too8:41 — Intro to the 5 PATH communication types9:28 — The Peacemaker (P)9:28 — The Advocate (A)9:28 — The Thinker (T)9:28 — The Harbor (H)9:28 — The Spark (S)11:55 — Example: Jason is a Harbor, his wife is a Thinker12:50 — How polarity causes conflict13:18 — Why we connect easily with people like us13:32 — Why we marry our opposite14:20 — We love the difference first — then resent it14:57 — Creating the PATH assessment15:05 — Couples vs corporate application15:22 — Speaking to someone in their style, not yours16:00 — When does the assessment release?17:07 — What makes a healthy relationship?17:36 — Parent/child communication & differences19:53 — Estrangement and the refusal to validate perspectiveConnect with Jason:

In today's episode, I sit down with therapist, author, and all-around brilliant human Jason, whose work spans trauma recovery, relationships, high performers, and helping people finally get unstuck.Jason opens up about his years working with everyone from child soldiers to Navy SEALs to everyday couples who feel trapped in the same painful patterns. We walk through the real process of getting unstuck — not the vague “do the work” advice, but the actual steps: connecting past experiences to present behavior, understanding your narrative, grieving what you hoped life would be, and creating a new story that moves you forward.Whether you're navigating marriage challenges, struggling with unmet expectations, or trying to grow without losing yourself, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro02:53 – Why relationships are the lifeblood of our lives03:03 – Why people stay stuck06:10 – How to trace your “stuck” feeling back to a past moment08:42 – Being “too much” — and how context changes everything11:15 – Choices in marriage and what healthy people do13:04 – “Can I love someone at their own pace?”14:58 – Why safety is required before change happens16:13 – Grieving the dream you didn't get18:19 – When making peace is not settling19:20 – What to do when someone won't meet you halfway20:07 – Changing your narrative and being open to changing it again21:09 – Why cringing at your past is actually a sign of growthConnect with Jason:

Episode Summary In this episode, we're joined by licensed therapist, speaker, and coach Jason VanRuler for a powerful conversation on what it really means to be mentally fit—and how mental and physical fitness can (and should) work together. We talk about: What mental fitness is and why it's trainable How physical and mental strength influence each other The role of mindset in parenting, marriage, and business Why recovery isn't weakness—it's part of the process The mental reps Jason uses to stay grounded and strong as a husband, father, and leader Whether you're a beginner, an achiever, or somewhere in between—this episode will challenge you to look at fitness differently and build a life that's strong from the inside out.   Topics Covered 1. What Is Mental Fitness? Jason breaks down what it means to train your mind like a muscle—and how his view of mental strength has evolved over time. 2. Mental vs. Physical: What's the Difference? We dig into how these two forms of strength differ, where they overlap, and what people often get wrong about each. 3. The Power of Transferability Can working out help your mental health? Can mindset shifts accelerate your fitness? The answer is yes—and we share why. 4. Mindset in Marriage, Business & Parenting Jason shares how mental fitness tools impact all areas of life—from communication in marriage to leadership in business and showing up as a dad. 5. Reps & Recovery Just like muscles need rest, so does your mind. Learn the signs of when to push vs. when to pause. 6. Jason's Mental Fitness Journey We hear what has tested Jason the most in recent years—and what tools helped him grow through it. 7. Final Takeaways Jason shares his best advice for couples who want to build real strength—physically, mentally, and relationally.  Favorite Quotes "Mental fitness is just like physical fitness. If you don't train it, it gets weak." – Jason VanRuler   "Most people think rest is quitting. It's actually preparing." – Chris Mello   "Being Marriage Fit means we're choosing to stay strong together—even when it's hard." – Annie Mello    Connect with Jason Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Instagram: @jason.vanruler  Challenge of the Week Pick one way to train your mental fitness this week.   Take a walk without your phone Practice a tech-free dinner Share something vulnerable with your spouse Journal one thing you're avoiding — and take action  Subscribe & Review If this episode hit home, drop us a 5-star review and share it with someone who's working on their own fitness—inside and out.

What happens when your past keeps rewriting your future?We all carry stories — ones we didn't choose, ones that shaped our reactions, confidence, and leadership. But what if those stories aren't true anymore? What if the version of you that learned to survive isn't the same one called to lead?In this transformative episode, Jason VanRuler, MA, CSAT — a nationally recognized therapist, speaker, and author specializing in relationships, attachment, and dating — joins the conversation to share how facing your broken places can lead to true connection and personal freedom. Jason's journey from a chaotic, trauma-filled childhood to becoming one of the most respected voices in emotional health and leadership offers a roadmap for anyone ready to take ownership of their story.Featured in major national news outlets, known for his strong social media presence, and having spoken on stages to thousands, Jason brings both professional insight and raw honesty to every conversation. He's the author of Get Past Your Past (Zondervan, 2023) and the upcoming Discovering Your Communication Type, set to be released in April — a groundbreaking look at how our attachment styles shape the way we speak, lead, and love.He reveals why truth is the ultimate kindness, how confidence is something we earn through small, consistent action, and why uncovering your origin story is the foundation of authentic leadership. Whether you're leading a team, a family, or yourself, this episode will challenge how you view growth, success, and self-awareness.Quotes:“The best kind of confidence is the kind you earned. You can only earn it if you know where you're starting.”“If we don't really understand why that's the goal, we'll never get there. What fuels us fools us into thinking, ‘When I get X, I will feel Y,' but fulfillment comes from knowing our true origin story.”“You don't have to do the big thing every day, but you've got to do a thing every day that helps you be better—and do it consistently.”Actionable Takeaways:Identify your “scale moment.”Write down one area of your life where you've been avoiding the truth — your finances, health, or relationships. What would it look like to face it honestly this week?Audit your personal story.Reflect on a belief you've carried since childhood (“I'm not good enough,” “I always mess up,” etc.). Ask yourself: Is this still true today — or just an old story I've never rewritten?Earn your confidence through small wins.Choose one habit or routine you can do daily — no matter how small — that reinforces trust in yourself. Consistency, not perfection, builds authentic confidence.Define your communication type.Are you a Peacemaker, Advocate, Thinker, Harbor, or Spark? Notice how you naturally communicate under stress, and identify one way to better connect with someone who communicates differently.Celebrate progress, not just results.At the end of each week, list one thing you accomplished or handled better than before. Pause to acknowledge growth before moving on to the next challenge.Conclusion:Jason VanRuler reminds us that growth doesn't begin with perfection — it begins with honesty. When we stop hiding behind stories that no longer serve us and start owning where we really are, we gain the power to change everything. Confidence isn't something we're given; it's something we earn through daily discipline, reflection, and courage.Whether you're a leader, parent, or student of life, the path forward starts with one question:What story about yourself needs to change — and what truth are you finally ready to face?Call-to-action:If this episode inspired you, take the next step: dive deeper into Jason's work through his books Get Past Your Past and Discovering Your Communication Type, and begin building a more intentional, truthful, and connected version of yourself.

Have you ever settled for a woman who wasn't what you were looking for, but you felt she was the best you could do? Licensed therapist and author Jason VanRuler reveals how hidden childhood wounds quietly shape your dating choices—and how to finally heal and move forward. You'll learn why men settle, how to escape a “shadow” love life, and get a plan to help you finally find the relationship you really want.Episode Highlights:07:12: The Panic Attack Connell Once Had about Dating and What it Reveals14:45: The Psychology Behind Settling in Love and Life25:45: How to Stop Living a “Shadow Life”28:54: How to Enjoy the Process of Dating36:16: The “Business Partner Test” to Know if She's the One38:58: Where Introverted Men Should Go to Meet Quality WomenTO DOWNLOAD JASON'S FREE ‘LIFE AUDIT':http://JasonVR.comREAD JASON'S BESTSELLING BOOK ‘GET PAST YOUR PAST':Available on AmazonFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF DATING COACHINGIS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://Datingtransformation.com

Jason VanRuler is one of the most sought-after therapists in relationships, trauma, and personal transformation. He has helped thousands show up as their best self, get connected, and have exceptional relationships. Jason has also been featured in renowned media outlets such as the New York Times, Fox News, and many others. He is also the author of the #1 Amazon Best Selling "Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection.” To learn more about the podcast or access the show notes, visit www.redletterpodcast.com. We talk about the power of freedom in today's episode with Jason VanRuler. And we'd now love for you to go on the journey to not only forgive others, but to receive God's forgiveness for your life. Before we can truly bring reconciliation to others in the world, we need to be reconciled to God. Thankfully, He doesn't withhold His grace of forgiveness from any of us. It's time to receive the freedom that comes with the forgiveness of God because a forgiven person becomes a forgiving person!We'd love to introduce you to the 40-Day Forgiving Challenge.Forgiving Challenge takes you on a life-changing journey to experience the gift of God's grace so that you can share it with others. It also helps you identify and walk through the five phases leading to freedom. You can learn more about the challenge here!Resources mentioned in the episode: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Get Past Your Past How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection by Jason VanRuler Key insights from the episode: We get comfortable with our past even when it's bad. – Jason VanRuler Generational trauma stops with us. – Jason VanRuler The first step is saying, “I am responsible.” – Jason VanRuler Jason VanRuler's Challenge: What is one thing you are carrying around from your past that it's time to let go of?Are you following Jesus? Many want to be greater followers of Jesus but don't know how. We extensively studied everything Jesus commanded of us and located five key targets to which Jesus invited His followers. The five targets are Being, Forgiving, Serving, Giving, and Going.In partnership with LifeWay Research, we created a Red Letter Challenge Assessment that will measure you according to these five targets. And the best news of all: it's free! You will receive your results immediately and be presented with the next steps to help you become an even greater follower of Jesus.You can take the FREE Red Letter Challenge Assessment here. This is another Hurrdat Media Production. Hurrdat Media is a podcast network and digital media production company based in Omaha, NE. Find more podcasts on the Hurrdat Media Network by going to HurrdatMedia.com or the Hurrdat Media YouTube channel!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jason VanRuler is an author, a therapist out of Sioux Falls, South Dakota, and he has so much good counsel to share when we talk about relationships. Dating relationships, married relationships, relationships with the prickly people, relationships that need to stand the test of time… If today you need to hear from a mental health expert who is wise and funny and smart AND who doesn't take a lot of gruff, this is your episode.  While not facilitating, coaching, speaking, or writing, you can find Jason cycling, fly fishing, and living life with my wife and three children at their home in South Dakota. Find him at jasonvr.com and @jason.vanruler. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠KimberlyStuart.com/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more from this episode.

What secret are you keeping? Many of us keep secrets to protect ourselves. But secrets also hide us from others. They can prevent us from being fully known and fully loved. Jason VanRuler, author of “Get Past Your Past”, joins Juli to share some insights about secrecy and why it's worth us living in the light.   Guest: Jason VanRuler   Website: jasonvr.com Instagram: @jason.vanruler   Book: Get Past Your Past by Jason VanRuler   Java with Juli: #539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Are you walking with pebbles in your shoes? Therapist and author Jason VanRuler offers this simple metaphor as a way to show how unbearable and damaging secrets can be if we don't address them. With leaders in church and culture falling all around us, it's important for us to understand the gravity of secrets. Jason points out that we all have two choices in dealing with our secrets: We can disclose them or we can deny them. Listen in as he encourages Christian leaders to create a Luke 12:2 rhythm of bringing any darkness into the light by employing the LIGHT Model for accountability. Resources Check out more from Jason VanRuler, including his book Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. Create a free THINQ Account and download the THINQ Media app on your smart TV to access more trusted content like this on topics from all channels of culture at thinqmedia.com. Apply the THINQ Framework as you think through cultural topics. Attend THINQ events where you can gather with like-minded leaders, ask better questions and have conversations that lead to wisdom: Participate in Let's Talk Tech Detox.  Bring the 28-Day Digital Fast to your family, workplace, or church. Sign up for THINQ Summit 2025 October 2-4 in Nashville, TN. More from the THINQ Podcast Network: Rhythms for Life with Rebekah and Gabe Lyons The InFormed Parent with Suzanne Phillips NextUp with Grant Skeldon NeuroFaith with Curt Thompson UnderCurrent with Gabe Lyons

In today's South Dakota episode (which wraps up our New Year's series), I sit down with one of my closest friends, Jason VanRuler.Jason, a well-known therapist, author and speaker, joins me to talk about how to evaluate where you are emotionally and gives steps you can take to improve your emotional and relational health in 2025. My favorite part: Jason sharing a part of his own (broken) story, how he became a therapist, & his journey of finding God.Jason also gives us insight into addressing the hard parts of 2024 and tells us what we can do to make sure the difficult things we went through can help us grow in the New Year and beyond.From navigating the messiness of life to finding beauty in imperfections, this episode is a heartfelt exploration of what it means to be human.Grab a copy of Jason's book: https://amzn.to/4hcOX1t Follow Jason on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Check out Jason's courses: jasonvr.com Check out part 1, part 2 and part 3 of the New Year's series!Thanks to our amazing partners on this episode: First Interstate Bank & The Tyler Goff Group First Interstate Bank has a mission to help people and their money work better together. They do this by ensuring clients can manage their money conveniently wherever they are while also providing the friendly service. They have over 300 locations throughout 14 states! For more information and to find a location near you, visit firstinterstatebank.comAre you on the hunt for a new house? Genuinely look no further. The Tyler Goff Group has a proven process that has transformed the lives of many clients. With the Tyler Goff Group by your side, you're not just buying a house – you're investing in a future home you'll love. To learn more and to contact Tyler or his team, visit tylergoffgroup.comSubscribe to The Conversation on YouTube and watch the full interview with Jason: youtube.com/@adamaweber Sign up for The Crew: adamweber.com/thecrew  

Sponsor: U.S. Dept. of Veterans Affairs Biorepository Brain Bank Today's episode of PTSD and Beyond is proudly sponsored by the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs Biorepository Brain Bank, dedicated to advancing research on brain disorders that impact Veterans. The VABBB is seeking participants both with and without neurological conditions. Your involvement can lead to important breakthroughs and support life-changing research. Visit www.research.va.gov/programs and click on VA Biorepository Brain Bank    

Alice Draper shares her experience with rejection and how it can lead to greater success, both personally and professionally and then she offers strategies for all of us to build our own rejection resilience muscle. Alice Draper is the founder of Hustling Writers, a podcast guesting agency that has secured clients on hundreds of podcasts, including most of the top 0.5% shows. Her newly-launched podcast, My Rejection Story, features interviews with Neil Patel, Jason VanRuler, and Gay Hendricks. She has written for HuffPost, Refinery29, Business Insider, and more.    Help Zak continue making this show by becoming a Best Advice Show Patron @ https://www.patreon.com/bestadviceshow---Call Zak on the advice show hotline @ 844-935-BEST---Share this episode on IG @BestAdviceShow

Licensed therapist, Jason VanRuler joins us to lead a workshop on figuring out your love attachments and how to heal your past hurts! Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest  Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library  Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast  Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alice Draper is the host of the podcast “My Rejection Story” and the founder of the podcast guesting company, Hustling Writers. She is on a mission to make publicity accessible by reframing rejection. Alice has secured her clients on countless podcasts, including most of the top 0.5% shows.   On her podcast, My Rejection Story, you can listen to bestselling authors like Neil Patel, Jason VanRuler, or Tina Wells share how they navigated the toughest periods of their personal and professional lives, and how this shaped the success they now experience today. Her words can be found in HuffPost, Business Insider, VICE, Refinery29.   Some of Alice's favorite things include strong coffee, affordable travel hacks, and deep connections. She detests small talk, waking up early, and unnecessary jargon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jason VanRuler, a therapist, coach, speaker, and author, has been helping people overcome their past and build emotional resilience since 2011. Whether working with CEOs or those facing addiction, he shares his mission of speaking truth and grace, both in person and through his online following. Outside of his work, Jason enjoys cycling, fly fishing, and family time in South Dakota. In this episode Jason and Sathiya discuss: [03:41] The inspiration behind the book [07:28] Fear and Denial [10:23] Changing Perception of the Past [12:04] Heart Change and New Messages [14:34] The Concept of God and Feeling Safe [15:03] Challenging Our Concept of God [17:46] Psychodrama as a Therapeutic Modality [21:34] The damaging effects of pornography on relationships [23:14] The challenge of overcoming addiction to pornography [24:34] The six types of intimacy and their impact on pornography addiction [29:29] The challenges of disclosure and its impact on the partner [30:50] Approaching addiction recovery and relationship work [32:56] Inviting the partner to join in recovery [36:17] The clarity of processing emotions [39:23] Navigating transitions in life [42:29] Preserving progress during change [43:28] The importance of community [44:51] The impact of community on recovery [46:43] The future of mental health and the role of technology [50:14] The Instagram Live Announcement [51:02] The Need for a System to Quit Pornography Follow Jason VanRuler on Instagram Check out Jason's books available on Amazon Learn more About Jason VanRuler Book A Call With Sathiya's Team For more Free Resources, check this out Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Why do high performers seem to struggle with their personal relationships? Our guest today is Jason VanRuler, a licensed therapist and author of "Get Past Your Past." Jason provides eye-opening insights into why high performers often struggle with personal relationships. He explains that while high performers excel in business by applying certain success strategies, these same strategies can fail in personal relationships. Jason emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, identifying safe people, isolation vs. self-isolation, and the need for intentional and consistent relationships (and grieving the ones that no longer fit).We discuss the concept of "max awareness" in therapy, where people are more aware of their issues but often fail to take actionable steps to improve their relationships.Notable Timestamps:[00:02:42] Relationships for high performers.[00:06:40] The impact of self-isolation.[00:09:16] Seeking healing versus seeking comfort.[00:11:55] Three Levels of vulnerability.[00:15:02] Deep conversations at parties.[00:19:15] Evolving friendships in midlife.[00:28:34] Vulnerability in relationships.[00:29:17] Love shouldn't be a secret.[00:34:23] Redefining values for happiness.Jason VanRuler Links:InstagramGet Past Your Past BookWebsiteResources Mentioned:Schedule a free 1:1 Brainstorming CallInterested in starting a podcast? Schedule a free 15 minute call to discussSurprisingly True Useful Fun Fact (STUFF) source  Be sure to rate, review, and follow this podcast on your player and also, connect with me IRL for more goodness and life-changing stuff.AllisonHare.comFollow me on Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and YouTube.Schedule a FREE breakthrough call with me Want to take these ideas and apply them to your life? Let's do it!DOWNLOAD the free PDF - 40 Simple Ways to Add Energy To Your Day- get a quick burst of energy right now and KEEP IT!GET the Effectiveness Booster - Shift your priorities to what matters most in less than a minute!Reb3l Dance Fitness - Try it at home! Free month with this link.Personal Brand - need help building yours? Schedule a call with me here and let's discuss.Feedback and Contact:: allison@allisonhare.com

In this episode:Jason VanRuler, author of recent new book, Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection, joins Heather to address past pain and hurt as the first step to find healing and authentic connection. He uses biblical wisdom, clinical experience and his own personal story growing up surrounded by abuse, addiction and conflict, leading to his own drug and alcohol issues. He remembers hitting his rock bottom, looking in the mirror and hating who he saw, falling into the same unhealthy patterns he saw growing up and swore would never be his life. He reexamined his relationship with drugs/alcohol and went back to school to become a therapist. Now Jason is known for his ability to relate and connect with his clients and offer hope to those who have felt hopeless. He has an engaged and rapidly growing online audience for his insightful, short videos sharing practical tips for psychological care, self-help, and healthy relationships.In the marriage corner:Eric and Heather share the top 3 charicteristics they each look for in friendships and appreciate about their friends.Connect with Jason:https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/https://www.jasonvr.comLinks from this episode:Jason's Book: https://urlgeni.us/amazon/mentalhealthbookslistConnect with Heather:7 Days FREE of the HBHB Membership: https://www.mylifewellloved.com/membership/Heather's ebooks: https://www.mylifewellloved.com/product-category/digital-products/Heather's Amazon favorites: https://urlgeni.us/amazon/HBstorefrontHeather's freebies: https://www.mylifewellloved.com/freebies/Heather's favorite liquid collagen: https://www.mylifewellloved.com/everyday-must-haves/Heather's email list: https://spring-pine-631.myflodesk.com/9347a138-077e-4c55-bf61-2137aeed89eaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/healthybyheatherbrown/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HealthyByHeatherBrownPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/healthybyheatherbrown/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HealthyByHeatherBrown/videosLTK: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/HealthybyHeatherBrownTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@healthybyheatherbrownHow you can show the podcast some love:FOLLOW - Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app.RATE - We'd love it even more if you could drop a r5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.REVIEW - Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.DOWNLOAD - Click the download but to download an episode!

Why do Christians need counseling? Isn't the Gospel enough to transform us? We hear these questions fairly often. Today Dr. Kim and special guest Jason VanRuler dive deeper into these questions and the conversation about the role of therapy and counseling in a life devoted to following Jesus. Don't miss this helpful conversation! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:   How often do clients have no idea that they haven't gotten past their past?  Unexpected ways your past might be showing up & affecting your marriage today Updating the negative messages we believe about ourselves  The effect of vulnerability on our marriage connection  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES “Where there's a disconnect in relationships, it's often a disconnect from the system we witnessed growing up and what we're trying to make happen today.” - Jason VanRuler  “When we get comfortable, the old ways seep out to the surface.”  - Jason VanRuler  “Every time a client says a negative message about themselves, I ask, is that the message you think God gave you?”  - Jason VanRuler  “One of my great joys is working with people to eliminate distractions so they can focus on the truth and live the life God has called them to.”- Jason VanRuler  “If we want to feel connected and we're not feeling connected, a lot of times that emotional intimacy and depth is the missing link.”  - Jason VanRuler  “When we get vulnerable and honest, it attracts intimacy from our partner and we have a different relationship.”  - Jason VanRuler  “The marriage we want is often on the other side of vulnerability. We just don't often know how to get there.”- Jason VanRuler   QUESTIONS FOR YOU  Do you recognize any ways you haven't gotten past your past?    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  Get Jason's book, Get Past Your Past  His site: https://www.jasonvr.com/ If you're ready to heal your marriage from p*rn, join us for the “5 Steps to Healing After P*rn Betrayal” LIVE webinar. Joining Marriage Changers now means you score a huge haul of marriage-building goods when our annual *7 Most-Popular Resource Bundle* goes live on April 2nd!  

In this episode, I interviewed Jason Van Ruler, a seasoned therapist, about the profound impact of our past on our present and future. Jason shared his personal journey, reflecting on a childhood marked by upheaval and trauma, which shaped his perspective and propelled him towards a career in therapy. Jason highlighted the transformative power of vulnerability and connection in the healing process, underscoring that healing is indeed possible, albeit a journey rather than a destination. He encourages us to embrace imperfection and cultivate spaces for honesty and growth, as we learn from our past and look to our futures. Access exclusive supporter benefits Waitlist up for the next Sticky Habit Intensive Free DSL Training Full Show Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this conversation, I'm joined by Jason Van Ruler as we discuss the importance of addressing past wounds and traumas in order to move forward in life and relationships. We talk about the concept of scripts and how our past experiences shape the narratives we tell ourselves.  Learn more about Jason here - https://www.jasonvr.com/ Takeaways Addressing past wounds and traumas is essential for personal growth and healthy relationships. Scripts, formed by past experiences, shape the way we perceive ourselves and others. On the Xtended Version ... Jason and I dive into the work of Dr. Schnarch and his theory of traumatic mind mapping, which examines the deeper layers of trauma and the motivations behind it. The conversation emphasizes the need to confront the dark side of ourselves and rewrite our narratives to chart a new course. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Connect with your spouse every day using Paired. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Factor: Get fresh, flavor packed meals ready in 2 minutes for 50% off when you use our code passion50 at https://factormeals.com/passion50. The post Get Past Your Past | Jason VanRuler #662 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today Kait and JJ have on Jason VanRuler to talk about reclaiming worth and value as a single through your own journey of healing.  Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest  Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library  Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast  Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en . . . . .  A quick thank you to some of our friends! Better Help: Our #1 resource for affordable, reliable, therapy. You can get 10% off your first month by going to https://betterhelp.com/heartofdating Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we'd love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating

Today on the show we are talking all about Attachment Theory. I came across my new friend, Jason VanRuler on Instagram and his resources have been so helpful for me! We're joined by my friends Shayna and Sam as we talk about each of the different attachment styles, how they impact our relationships, and what moving toward secure attachment looks like. This was such a helpful conversation and I'm so thankful for Jason, Shayna, and Sam's honesty and friendship! For more resources from Jason and our other Summer Lovin' experts, check out anniefdowns.com/dating. . . . . After listening to the series, do you have follow up questions? Submit them HERE for a Q&A episode in the fall! . . . .  Go to hereforyoutour.com to get your tickets to our tour this June! Want to gift a ticket to a friend? Go to anniefdowns.com/events for a printable Here For You gift ticket. . . . . Subscribe to Let's Read the Gospels with Annie F. Downs HERE. Go to https://anniefdowns.com/gospels to purchase your June Reading Plan or Let's Read the Gospels Guidebook. . . . . . Head to anniefdowns.com/books for more information and to sign up for the AFD Book of the Month. . . . . . Sign up to receive the AFD Week In Review email and ask questions to future guests! #thatsoundsfunpodcast . . . . . Thank you to our partners! Gospel Enneagram: Tyler Zach's FREE Resources: