The Conscious Couples Podcast

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros speak to a kind of tension many couples feel but struggle to explain. Two people can care deeply about each other and still feel stuck, disconnected, or uncertain about the direction they are heading together. They touch on alignment, personal growth, and the subtle shifts that change how partners move forward side by side.This episode is for anyone who wants a relationship that feels strong, supportive, and intentional over time, whether you are single or committed. Sometimes clarity shows up in a single moment. Let this be one of them.Show notes:(1:43) Long-term Vs. Short-term thinking(5:00) Identifying mindset differences in couples(8:21) Coping with uncertainty and stress(12:08) Where fixed mindset beliefs come from(16:23) Why couples must check alignment(19:39) Event invitation(22:06) Outro____________________________

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they address a common experience that quietly erodes connection and leaves partners feeling misunderstood, frustrated, or alone. Most couples think they know the cause, but the real reason often runs much deeper.If you have ever felt let down in your relationship or worried that you are drifting out of sync, this conversation will challenge your perspective and help you see what might actually be happening beneath the surface. Let this episode be the moment you choose growth over comfort.Show notes:(2:46) Expectations Vs. Reality explained simply(4:41) Real couple example with newborn stress(8:21) Trust breaks when marks are missed(10:37) Cognitive load and emotional burnout(14:24) Standards Vs. Expectations in partnership(19:19) Weekly check-ins to stay aligned(20:40) Outro____________________________

Are you asking for support or hoping your partner will read your mind?In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down why many couples feel unsupported even when they think they are communicating clearly. Through a real-life coaching story, they show how small misunderstandings can slowly turn into frustration, resentment, and emotional distance. You will learn how to clearly ask for what you need, set healthy boundaries, and create simple feedback loops that help both partners grow. Whether you are in a relationship or single and preparing for one, this episode teaches you how to build trust, respect, and teamwork from the inside out. Listen now and start building stronger, healthier connections today.Show notes:(1:42) Defining what support means(3:01) Coaching story about boundaries(6:34) Being clear about time needs(8:14) Using feedback after conflict(14:05) Raising relationship standards(15:52) Frustration into growth(18:14) What support does not look like(21:13) Final questions for couples(23:04) Outro____________________________

In today's episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros explain how rational thinking can change your relationship forever. They share why many couples struggle when emotions take over and how clear thinking brings calm, teamwork, and better decisions. Through real stories, coaching insights, and practical examples, they show how to use logic without losing love.Whether you are dating, married, single, or building a future with someone, this conversation will help you think ahead, communicate better, and stay focused on shared goals. If you want a relationship that feels steady, supportive, and strong, this episode gives you tools you can use right away.Show notes:(1:49) Why rational thinking matters in love(3:17) The $200 date strategy example(7:22) Using emotions without losing control(11:00) Goals that strengthen relationships(14:30) Money choices and long-term impact(17:21) Choosing your future as a couple(20:48) Regulating emotions instead of yelling(25:34) Wandering Vs. Living with purpose(29:33) Growing wiser over time(32:02) OutroEpisode Giveaway:25 Conscious Couples Love Languages Worksheet - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1nxJl-7uRD4IPIsELatDYTax_STO5LM1C/viewLearn more about:Where learning turns into action. “Next Level Book Club”  every Saturday: https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJMkcuiupjIqE9QlkptiKDQykRtKyFB5Jbhc

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, the focus is on what separates relationships that grow stronger from those that stay stuck in old patterns. This conversation is for couples and singles who want real connection, emotional maturity, and a partnership built to last. The episode invites honest reflection on how intimacy, responsibility, and long-term commitment are shaped over time, often in quiet and unseen ways. It speaks to anyone who senses that love should feel steadier, safer, and more intentional than it does now.If you are ready to raise your standards and stop repeating the same cycles, this episode offers a powerful pause to reset how you approach love and partnership. Listen with care and let this be the moment your relationship grows.Show notes:(2:15) Childish Vs. Adult relationships(7:49) Long-term focus changes everything(9:01) Serious conversations build maturity(13:12) Jokes Vs. Emotional avoidance(15:48) Investing time, money, and effort(17:51) Quality time without distractions(23:24) Planning creates relational safety(27:09) OutroEpisode Giveaway:25 Conscious Couples Love Languages Worksheet - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1nxJl-7uRD4IPIsELatDYTax_STO5LM1C/view

What if money didn't cause stress, fear, or distance in your relationship?In today's episode, Emilia and Alan speak to couples and singles who want peace, trust, and teamwork around finances. They share why money arguments are so common, how early life experiences shape financial behavior, and why most people never feel truly calm talking about money. You'll hear simple ways to identify your money attachment style, shift into a long-term investor mindset, and stop avoiding the numbers that matter most.This episode focuses on clarity, emotional safety, and practical steps that help relationships grow stronger instead of pulling apart. Financial alignment is not about control. It is about shared vision, honest conversations, and building a future together.Show notes:(2:05) Why couples fight about money(6:05) Creating safe money conversations(8:31) Money attachment styles explained(12:33) Shifting into an investor mindset(17:59) Simplifying money tracking(21:05) The shared finance board method(26:09) OutroEpisode Giveaway: The We Whiteboard - Worksheet / Activity - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1IYYJNacvG8lGG1_86dFFS8vaNvRzGrM-/view?usp=drive_linkDigital Asset: Attachment Styles Visual Flash - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ys4BSMOKwcIG4TbswAU91a0OQxEL3dUe/view 

 In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros pick up where the last episode left off and go deeper into the real role self-awareness plays in relationships. Part two unpacks why most people believe they are self-aware, why that belief is often misplaced, and how that blind spot quietly fuels conflict, disconnection, and stalled growth. The conversation centers on honesty, responsibility, and the unseen patterns shaping how couples communicate and relate. If you care about building a stronger partnership, this episode will challenge how you see yourself inside the relationship. Listen closely, then decide whether comfort or clarity guides your next move.Show notes:(1:50) Why self-awareness matters most(3:40) Most people overestimate awareness(5:25) Only a few are truly self-aware(9:28) Green, yellow, red self-check(13:59) You meet others at yourself(16:09) Three pillars of self-awareness(21:26) How awareness improves happiness(24:24) Outro

 Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they confront a relationship dynamic that quietly creates imbalance, frustration, and emotional fatigue. They introduce a simple awareness framework that helps make sense of what often feels confusing or hard to name, offering clearer language for what is actually happening beneath the surface. Emilia and Alan challenge familiar stories around responsibility, respect, and emotional labor, while presenting a sharper way to recognize what is healthy and what slowly drains connection. If you have ever felt like effort is uneven, or growth feels one-sided, this episode will shift how you see both yourself and your relationship. Press play and choose clarity over comfort.Show notes:(2:32) Green, yellow, red awareness test(4:01) When helping turns into resentment(6:17) Why is it not your responsibility(11:29) Respect as the real divider(15:22) Money, power, and self-worth(17:43) Clear signs of low self-awareness(20:53) OutroEpisode Reference:Fair Play documentary - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt15857800/

What if the missing spark in your relationship is not romance, but shared passion? In this episode, Emilia and Alan challenge the quiet habits that slowly disconnect couples over time. Drawing from years of coaching conscious couples worldwide, they reveal why engagement, shared energy, and meaning matter more than chemistry alone. This conversation is for partners who want more than comfort, more than routines, and more than coexistence. It is about building a relationship that stays alive, aligned, and intentional. Do not wait for passion to return. Choose it, practice it, and let it change everything. Show notes:(2:15) Why shared passions shape relationship health(4:12) Engagement Vs. Zoning out together(7:10) Admiration, inspiration, and attraction(10:46) The power of me, you, and we(16:44) Why passion fades in long relationships(19:33) How to reconnect with real passions(21:21) Turning passion into a weekly practice(25:27) Outro

In today's episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros draw from years of real-world experience coaching couples, hosting live events, and guiding individuals through relationship challenges. They center on a truth that often goes unspoken. Men's struggles do not happen in isolation. This brief, impactful conversation is for conscious couples and singles who want deeper connection, stronger communication, and relationships that feel emotionally safe. Rooted in lived experience, the episode explores how men's mental health, vulnerability, and internal pressure quietly shape trust, intimacy, and partnership. Press play, listen closely, and let this conversation shift how you relate to the people you love.Show notes:(2:02) The missing male role model problem(4:41) Mental health stats men avoid sharing(7:14) Why men struggle with vulnerability(8:55) Pushing too hard leads to a breakdown(11:43) Simple language that creates connection(14:33) Why men want deeper conversations(17:50) How self-awareness shapes intimacy(19:09) OutroDigital Asset: The Top 3 Things Men Struggle With in Their RelationshipLearn more about:Books for Babes gives children hope and possibility by putting meaningful stories in their hands. When we give a book, we give a future – GoFundMe donation link:https://www.gofundme.com/f/books-for-babes-annual-fundraiser-2025The “Next Level Hope Foundation” creates meaningful experiences for kids growing up without a father figure and builds a positive, supportive community around them.To support this event, you can donate here: https://gofund.me/5c6abcf7f_____________________________

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they challenge the idea that love alone makes a relationship work. This conversation is for conscious couples and singles who feel stuck in repeating patterns or carrying more emotional weight than they should. It points to the unseen factor that shapes trust, safety, and lasting connection, without spelling it out. If you want a relationship that feels grounded, steady, and real, this episode will shift how you think about love and responsibility. Press play and decide how you show up in love.Show notes:(2:05) Getting off relationship autopilot(3:24) Why self-improvement matters first(5:19) What conscientiousness really means(9:32) Four pillars of conscientiousness(12:48) Emotional maturity Vs. Age(15:06) Why low conscientiousness hurts love(19:24) Sleep, empathy, and responsibility(23:52) How to address partner behavior(26:05) Who you would bet on long-term(31:29) OutroLearn more about:Books for Babes gives children hope and possibility by putting meaningful stories in their hands. When we give a book, we give a future – GoFundMe donation link:https://www.gofundme.com/f/books-for-babes-annual-fundraiser-2025The “Next Level Hope Foundation” creates meaningful experiences for kids growing up without a father figure and builds a positive, supportive community around them.To support this event, you can donate here: https://gofund.me/5c6abcf7f_____________________________

Do you ever feel pulled between family expectations and the relationship you're trying to build? In today's episode, Emilia and Alan talk about what happens when couples stop following old family rules and start choosing what truly supports love, growth, and emotional safety. You'll learn how “old world” patterns keep partners stuck, why the holidays trigger so much stress, and how stepping into a “new world” together can strengthen communication, alignment, and connection. With simple relationship frameworks and real client breakthroughs, this conversation shows you how to break generational cycles, create healthier traditions, and build a partnership that feels true to who you are becoming.Show notes:(2:44) Creating your own rule book(4:10) Old world Vs. New world(7:20) Butterfly metaphor for growth(10:08) Family roles that shape us(14:15) Choosing aligned traditions together(22:16) Honest partnership conversations(26:36) Books for Babes impact(30:37) OutroDigital Assets: 1. Alan, Emilia & Tucker 20192. The Growth Journey3. Dysfunctional Family Roles4. Family Roles - Dysfunctional to FunctionalLearn more about: Books for Babes gives children hope and possibility by putting meaningful stories in their hands. When we give a book, we give a future – GoFundMe donation link: https://www.gofundme.com/f/books-for-babes-annual-fundraiser-2025 The “Next Level Hope Foundation” creates meaningful experiences for kids growing up without a father figure and builds a positive, supportive community around them.To support this event, you can donate here: https://gofund.me/5c6abcf7f_____________________________

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros break down why long-term love changes over time, what really happens in the brain when partners start taking each other for granted, and the simple relationship practices that bring back connection, spark, and emotional safety. You'll learn how small daily moments rebuild trust, strengthen appreciation, and create the kind of partnership that grows instead of fades.If you want a relationship that feels supported, seen, and deeply alive, press play and let this be the moment you choose love with intention.Show notes:(2:01) Why the brain stops noticing your partner(5:40) Mental subtraction and remembering early love(7:20) Noticing small changes that rebuild connection(11:48) How commitment trains the brain to stay curious(15:16) The RAS and why goals help relationships(20:15) Capturing “core memories” in tiny everyday moments(24:39) The nightly gratitude practice that strengthens love(29:32) Why internal beauty matters more than external trends(31:37) Three habits for long-lasting connection(36:03) Outro_____________________________

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they break down how emotional state shapes connection, timing, and the way couples show up for each other. They reveal why green, yellow, and red moods matter, how stress pushes partners into the “collision zone,” and why late nights and alcohol make everything harder. This episode is not about blame. It is about awareness, timing, and the simple shifts that protect love when it matters most.If you want a relationship that lasts, start by mastering the moments that break most couples.Show notes:(2:08) The green-yellow-red awareness system(6:29) What creates the “collision zone”(9:29) How your nervous system signals danger(11:57) Why alcohol makes hard moments harder(13:20) Simple language to avoid conflict(19:17) Nighttime fights and next-day fallout(22:02) Checking your state as a team(23:28) OutroDigital Asset: The Shared Language - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TKs_PSiMzfZGyNQFKI4OKzsFc48MA9zb/view?usp=drive_linkReferenced Research Articles: https://www.google.com/url?q=https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5293605/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764094977531479&usg=AOvVaw08OVyxCcj8z-LOtR2nH6on https://www.google.com/url?q=https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi%3D10.1037%252Ffam0000227&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764095121534954&usg=AOvVaw01XE6-0-LiIdNf0W7yGxLQ _____________________________

What if the real reason men struggle in relationships has nothing to do with love and everything to do with emotion? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the hidden forces that keep men guarded, silent, and disconnected from their own feelings. You'll hear why women often carry the emotional load, how empathy can backfire, and why emotional safety, not strength, creates real intimacy. This isn't about blame. It's about truth, awareness, and the kind of growth that rewrites what it means to love and be loved.Show notes:(2:14) Empathy Vs. “Man-keeping”(5:38) Why women do the emotional work(7:13) Men judge their own growth(9:03) Masculinity and early conditioning(14:44) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.(16:14) Why does emotion feel unsafe for men(18:57) Status, ego, and the gym(20:18) What's under male frustration(25:40) Look strong Vs. Get strong(27:29) Outro_____________________________

In today's episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share the surprising truth behind what actually predicts long-term success in relationships, and the one thing partners must do to stay aligned for life. You'll rethink how you set goals, communicate, and build your future together. Forget the fairytale. This is the science of staying in love for decades. Stay curious, stay conscious, and don't just grow old together, grow better together.Show notes:(5:37) The study that shocked us(9:01) 46% higher divorce risk explained(10:28) Why missed check-ins matter(11:47) How to create shared goals(14:42) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.(17:17) The power of time perspective(22:20) Weekly “life optimization” meetings(25:31) Calling your partner forward with humility(29:05) OutroEpisode Reference:The Effects of Lack of Joint Goal Planning on Divorce Over 10 Years - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1yo796KxkvxeWrlo-KJgEjw1BzvVoZoln/view?usp=drive_link_____________________________

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this fiery episode, they open the secret rhythm running your relationship and how it quietly shapes your moods, energy, and connection. Forget the “be more consistent” advice. What if you're already consistent,  just on a different wavelength? It's science meets self-awareness with a twist of humor, honesty, and relationship real talk you won't hear anywhere else. Tune in, sync up, and watch your relationship level up in ways that'll surprise you.Show notes:(2:29) The 24-hour Vs. 28-day rhythm explained(4:01) Why women think they lack consistency(5:49) The lightbulb moment that changes everything(7:04) The four hormonal “seasons” explained(9:18) How emotions and body temperature fluctuate(11:00) The Peaceful Period Project and resources(12:12) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.(14:42) How mismatched cycles cause disconnection(17:06) The belief shift that improves relationships(20:12) Are you operating on a 24- or 28-day cycle?(23:39) OutroDigital Asset:The 28 Day Cycle - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bewUe8khOJIEfeEh6YDNk3vqeFIyC9d8/view?usp=drive_link_____________________________

What if the real test of love isn't passion, but safety? In today's episode, Emilia and Alan break down the difference between feeling comfortable and being safe. They reveal the top three signs you're in an unsafe relationship, the cues your body gives when something feels “off,” and how to stop overriding your intuition. From unmet needs to emotional neglect, they explain how safety starts with awareness and grows through repair, not perfection. Whether you're single or partnered, this episode will help you identify what a safe relationship feels like and how to build one grounded in trust, vulnerability, and calm. Don't just settle for chemistry. Learn what safety really feels like. Hit play and find out.Show notes:(3:04) What safe relating really means(5:00) Overriding intuition and ignoring red flags(6:42) Defining what safety feels like(9:30) High standards Vs. Psychological safety(13:08) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.(16:00) The truth about men and vulnerability(20:21) Top 3 signs of an unsafe and safe relationship(24:20) OutroDigital Asset:Safe Relationship Assessment - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CpmwZ187J6Dspb4mqQ3a33grR3Wl0uHJ/view?usp=drive_linkEpisode Resource:Evolve Group Coaching Waitlist - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve-group-coaching/_____________________________

In this heartfelt episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros reveal the surprising truth behind what keeps relationships thriving when others fall apart. From hidden habits that sabotage love to the real formula that guarantees growth together, this episode will challenge everything you think you know about lasting connection. If you've ever wondered why some couples evolve while others drift apart, this is the one you can't miss. Stop waiting for love to “work out.” Build it intentionally. Tune in now and learn the secret to a forever kind of love.Show notes:(2:40) The secret sauce for lasting relationships(5:01) Shocking stats about goal setting(8:20) Why “winging it” ruins love(10:14) How shame blocks your growth(14:45) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(23:24) Five steps to make your love last(27:15) OutroDigital Asset:RTE 52: "How to Set and Crush Goals with Your Partner!" - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ka2HEh6ii75U5fc3SXfGdmuMyHhnJvKw/viewEpisode Reference:Relationship Longevity Study - https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9999318/_____________________________

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they break down why most relationships crumble under the weight of tradition and how to build a bond that actually stands the test of time. From skipping the wedding checklist to investing in what really matters. Together, they share real stories, hard truths, and a powerful tool that will completely change how you see love and commitment. Forget the highlight reel. This is about building your “we” on purpose, not pressure. Press play, and start building your forever, your way.Show notes:(2:17) Why the wedding industry misguides couples(5:32) The real cost of chasing tradition(8:34) Redefining what engagement means(9:49) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.(11:09) The core values exercise - https://drive.google.com/file/d/16zozk9YNGBNpP7qixiFi6AsV2xQZGJE1/view?usp=drivesdk(16:26) How three values shape your future(18:56) Clarity over social pressure(20:21) Outro___________________________

What if everything you've been taught about love languages is outdated and keeping you from the connection you crave? In this raw and high-energy episode, Emilia and Alan break open The Five Love Languages No One Talks About, the real codes to emotional depth, passion, and unstoppable partnership. Forget surface-level affection, this is about conscious love that challenges, ignites, and transforms. If you're ready to stop settling for “fine” and start building a love that's alive, electric, and unbreakable, this episode will wake something up in you. It's time to upgrade how you love. Press play and feel the fire.Show notes:(3:30) Why traditional love languages fall short(5:01) The truth about unmet emotional needs(8:10) Lessons from Hope Springs on connection(10:47) The real reason couples stop expressing feelings(14:43) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(16:29) Introducing the five conscious love languages(19:00) How proactive thoughtfulness strengthens trust(21:25) Conscious loving care that melts distance(23:49) Building mutual mastery as a couple(25:54) The power of loving challenge in growth(29:29) Invitation to grow your love consciously(31:43) OutroDigital Assets:Conscious Couple Giveaway Worksheet: “The 25 Conscious Love Languages” - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bilZ2LfQ6tg6q_oAIALyiVkSQevU_Kzo/view___________________________

In today's episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share real stories about emotional intelligence, trust, and what it takes to truly be in tune with your partner. From reading micro-expressions to building honest communication, you'll hear how small moments can shape the future of a relationship. Ready to stop missing the signals that matter most? Listen now and learn how to create the connection you've been searching for.Show notes:(1:09) Early conflict that built trust(3:17) Reading micro-expressions and emotions(6:15) Why men struggle with emotional intelligence(9:12) Here's Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.(12:50) Simple steps to tune into yourself(14:21) How to tune into your partner(17:11) OutroDigital Assets:Conscious Couple Giveaway Worksheet: “The 25 Conscious Love Languages” - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bilZ2LfQ6tg6q_oAIALyiVkSQevU_Kzo/viewThe Wheel of Emotions: “The Feel Wheel” -  https://drive.google.com/file/d/1iZr7klGpnU7zYGKISXMylyOoWhKxDw55/view___________________________

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they reveal how emotional attunement can transform your relationship. Through powerful real-life coaching stories, a surprising Pixar metaphor, and simple tools like the emotions wheel, they show why validation and empathy, not quick fixes, are the key to lasting connection. Whether you're newly together or years into marriage, this conversation will help you build emotional literacy, strengthen intimacy, and create a bond that lasts.Show notes:(2:12) Real coaching call with a young couple(3:38) Top conscious love language: Trauma & triggers(4:42) Inside Out metaphor on emotional validation(6:40) Why sadness is a powerful connector(8:41) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(10:22) Emotional literacy and the emotions wheel(15:26) Simple practice: “A part of me feels…”(16:52) OutroDigital Assets:Conscious Couple Giveaway Worksheet: “The 25 Conscious Love Languages” - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bilZ2LfQ6tg6q_oAIALyiVkSQevU_Kzo/viewThe Wheel of Emotions: “The Feel Wheel” -  https://drive.google.com/file/d/1iZr7klGpnU7zYGKISXMylyOoWhKxDw55/view___________________________

Are goals the secret to lasting love and personal growth? In today's episode, Emilia and Alan share why goals are the foundation of clarity, teamwork, and fulfillment, whether you're in a relationship or building your future solo. Discover the hidden reasons most couples feel disconnected, how simple goals can transform communication, and why designing your future beats leaving it to chance. Ready to learn why goals change everything? Press play and find out.Show notes:(3:31) Goals as a path to self-awareness(5:02) Why teamwork is impossible without goals(10:12) The difference between goals and experiences(11:29) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(13:30) The investor's mindset formula(15:42) Using time effectively through goals(18:20) Why resourcefulness grows with necessity(19:07) From job to calling with goals(20:46) Inspiring others through shared goals(22:05) Outro

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros break down the top reasons why goals matter for every relationship and even for singles preparing for love. They share how goals add meaning, reduce conflict, and build the skills that keep couples strong for the long run. You'll hear how structure, accountability, and vision can transform not just your relationship but also your life. Whether you're already with someone or still searching, this episode will help you see why goals are the heartbeat of growth and connection. Take the first step today and set a goal that brings you closer to the life and love you want.Show notes:(2:14) Why direction matters in love(4:02) The power of building a vision(8:40) Goals give meaning to suffering(9:49) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(11:00) Shared goals connect all of us(13:44) Neuroscience shows goals boost growth(16:22) Conflict skills come from shared goals(18:09) Outro

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they reveal why joint goals are the foundation of strong, fulfilling relationships. Together, they discuss surprising research that shows couples without goals or those who set them but never make progress, face lower life satisfaction and more conflict. Through real stories and client experiences, you'll learn how goal setting transforms “me” into “we,” creating trust, alignment, and deeper love. Whether you're just starting or years into your relationship, this conversation will help you design a future together instead of drifting apart.Show notes:(2:20) Only 3% have written goals(7:17) The 10-year roadmap exercise(13:55) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.(15:20) Research on goal coordination & progress(19:04) Couples with goals but no progress(23:05) Joint goals as an orange flag warning(26:51) Outro

What's the sneaky mistake most couples make without realizing it? In this week's episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the one mistake most couples make that slowly pulls them apart. Through the concept of duality, balancing gratitude with frustration, individuality with togetherness, they share how conscious relationships thrive while others drift. Drawing from their 50th Relationship Talks event and the film Marriage Story, they illustrate how neglecting duality leads to resentment and disconnection. Listeners will gain practical tools, heartfelt stories, and a powerful framework for building a relationship rooted in truth, growth, and love.Show notes:(2:16) What duality really means(5:57) How couples drift without awareness(9:40) The shift from gratitude to frustration(13:36) Why does everything have pros and cons(16:28) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.(20:23) Honoring individuality without losing “we”(22:53) Integration Vs. Compromise in relationships(26:07) Balancing gratitude and frustration daily(28:34) Real work behind a fairy tale love(29:06) The courage, humility, and vulnerability triad(31:44) OutroDigital Asset:The We | Triad of Transformation - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1jyEFoL93wVZRYNqc5P-QJVOwpz4nnFth/view

In today's episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, Emilia and Alan break down the three levels of quality time and why being intentional with your minutes matters more than ever. Whether you're in a relationship or single, you'll discover how to use time as an investment that strengthens connection, builds confidence, and shapes your future. Tune in today and learn how to make every moment count.Show notes:(3:16) Why devices hurt real connection(5:20) Time as an investment in “we”(10:24) The three levels of quality time(12:54) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.(15:37) Why intentional time makes you high value(20:05) Everything in relationships should be by design(25:24) Outro

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this follow-up episode, they open the final chapter to a lasting connection. From the warmth of holiday traditions to the thrill of shared adventures, from the steady rhythm of money alignment to the tender art of conscious parenting, each moment becomes a thread in love's enduring fabric. They show how mismatches can become meeting points, how conflict can grow roots of understanding, and how alignment can light the path forward. Whether single or walking hand in hand, this is a gentle map to a relationship that feels safe, fulfilling, and beautifully unshakable.Show notes:(2:01) Holidays as a relationship love language(6:52) Practicing empathy and vulnerability(9:39) Growing by learning together(13:25) Prioritizing health and fitness(15:45) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.(17:05) Aligning on money and lifestyle(23:05) Conscious parenting and caregiving(31:27) OutroDigital Asset:Get the free activity sheet: “The We's 25 Conscious Love Languages” - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bilZ2LfQ6tg6q_oAIALyiVkSQevU_Kzo/view

Are you loving your partner the way they need to be loved? In today's episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the 25 Conscious Love Languages, a powerful upgrade to the classic five. Through real stories, practical tools, and a playful back-and-forth, they help you spot where conflicts are coming from and how to better meet your partner's emotional needs. Whether it's quality time, deep conversation, supporting growth, or understanding trauma, this framework is designed to help you build a relationship that feels deeply aligned.Show notes:(5:11) The green-yellow-red framework(8:13) What affirmation actually means(12:10) Deep conversations Vs. Small talk(13:17) Supporting your partner's growth(14:15) What it looks like to support goals(17:17) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.(20:03) Food as an emotional connector(22:06) Rethinking sexual intimacy(23:18) Understanding trauma, triggers, and shame(31:07) OutroDigital Asset:Conscious Couple Giveaway Worksheet: “The We's 25 Conscious Love Languages” - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bilZ2LfQ6tg6q_oAIALyiVkSQevU_Kzo/view

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, Emilia and Alan share a story that shines light on how hidden insecurities can turn love into misunderstanding. They gently unpack the weight of personalization when we take things too personally and how it quietly shapes the way we connect. With warmth and wisdom, they offer three simple tools to shift from tension to tenderness. Whether you're caught in your storm or reaching for your partner's hand, this episode is a soft place to land and a path back to clarity, compassion, and connection.Show notes:(1:51) When personal choices trigger conflict(4:51) Insecurity at the root of reactivity(7:02) What personalization really means(9:25) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(11:11) The “me loop” that distorts reality(16:04) Curiosity: the antidote to taking it personally(18:03) Three tools to break the pattern(19:48) Outro

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's eye-opening episode, they unpack what emotional safety means and why it's the foundation for connection, trust, and long-term love. Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a touching moment from The Vow, they reveal how past experiences, misattunement, and unhealed triggers can quietly sabotage your connection. You'll learn what emotional safety looks like, how to recognize emotional danger, and what it takes to build a relationship where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued.Show notes:(3:18) The cost of hiding your true self(5:26) How past relationships shape the present(8:03) Real-life triggers in safe relationships(11:07) Here's Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.(14:39) The power of attunement in love(19:50) What emotional safety truly looks like(23:36) Outro

Ever wonder why small comments turn into big arguments? In this powerful episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the four hidden shame responses that quietly shape how couples react, communicate, and connect. You will discover how blame, defensiveness, withdrawal, and self-criticism often stem from unconscious patterns and what to do instead. With relatable stories and expert insights, this episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to create emotional safety and deepen their relationship.Show notes:(2:22) How shame erodes relationships(7:16) The four main shame responses(12:38) Real-life examples of shame in action(14:01) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(20:16) The difference between shame and accountability(23:02) Coaching and creating emotional safety(25:43) Outro

Think your relationship struggles might be rooted in unspoken expectations? In today's honest and deeply practical episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the unconscious beliefs that quietly sabotage connection. Like expecting your partner to “just know,” assuming passion will never fade, or believing they should meet all your needs. Through real stories and coaching insights, they help you spot and squash these hidden assumptions before they create distance. Whether you are preparing for marriage, moving in together, or navigating daily life as a couple, this conversation helps you shift the focus from fantasy to foundation.Show notes:(2:36) The hidden cost of unspoken expectations(6:31) Why weddings aren't about the couple(12:01) Read my mind: The unfair ask(16:46) Your partner can't complete you(19:33) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(21:17) Career conflicts and unrealistic demands(25:37) The truth about passion over time(28:49) Relationships require personal growth(33:56) Expecting your partner to be everything(36:20) Practical ways to reset expectations(39:03) Outro

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they reflect on the quiet truths that shape who we are and the sacred mantras that guide us through love's ever-changing seasons. Sparked by a single question, Emilia and Alan uncover the core purpose of their relationship and invite you to do the same. Whether you walk beside a partner or journey solo as a conscious single, this episode invites you to listen inward, find the words that ground you, and use them as your compass in both life and love.Show notes:(2:17) The purpose of a relationship is growth(5:11) Emilia's one-word personal mantra(10:22) Alan's core mantra and essence(11:04) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(13:02) Growth, truth, and commitment(15:48) Grow together, not apart(17:03) The GPS exercise for self-awareness(19:56) OutroDigital Asset:

Do you and your partner define commitment the same way? In today's episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the quiet power of true commitment. They share their personal “Code of Commitment,” a five-part framework that keeps their relationship grounded in honesty, empathy, and connection, even during life's toughest moments. Whether you're newly dating or decades in, this episode will give you the clarity to stop relying on assumptions and start building a relationship rooted in trust, safety, and love.Show notes:(2:03) The Doom Loop Vs. Success Loop(3:41) What does commitment mean(6:21) Creating your code of commitment(10:30) Protecting each other's hearts(11:42) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.(14:06) Honoring autonomy without changing each other(16:28) Staying connected before bed(18:01) Code of Commitment(20:41) OutroDownload the FREE Digital Asset:Code of Commitment: https://drive.google.com/file/d/12cerEexdzamVsTJiqx5DxUcJdVZUtBfa/view

Does chaos keep finding its way into your relationships? In this soul-stirring episode, Emilia and Alan explore how hidden wounds from our past, unhealed generational trauma, and toxic family dynamics can quietly weave tension into our closest relationships. Through raw stories, heartfelt reflection, and a metaphor that lingers long after listening, they help you trace the true origin of your relationship struggles. Discover how to name the patterns, reclaim your power, and set loving boundaries that make room for connection. Whether you're in a relationship or preparing your heart for one, this is your invitation to choose peace over patterns and healing over history.Show notes:(2:33) When the source is your parent(7:27) The toxic lake metaphor(11:07) How shame shapes identity(13:01) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.(15:32) Three signs of a drama source(18:05) The pain of breaking cycles(20:01) Reclaiming peace through boundaries(23:22) Outro

Love their soul, but check their behavior. In this heartfelt episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the emotional tension that arises when one partner is more growth-oriented than the other. Through real client stories and personal reflections, they explore the difference between loving someone for who they are and trying to change them into who you want them to be. You'll discover the power of belief vs. hope, why dragging someone up a mountain never works, and how to hold high standards without losing compassion. This episode offers truth, encouragement, and a fresh perspective on love and growth.Show notes:(3:31) The strain of uneven growth(5:31) Loving them, holding standards(7:16) Accept, set boundaries, or leave(9:05) Hope versus belief in change(11:48) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.(14:56) Know your limits as a catalyst(17:57) Love their essence, not behavior(20:39) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk Coaching:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join our next free Relationship Talks Event #48 on Thursday, June 19th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How To Determine Your Relationship's Commitment Level" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/gjK7xvmrR_OXIeq2toMH5Q#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7

What makes a great partner, and how do you become one? In today's episode, Emilia and Alan break down the five essential relationship skills every couple needs to grow together, not apart. From emotional regulation to honest communication and conflict repair, they don't just name the skills, they show you how to practice them every day. Whether you're in a relationship or preparing for one, this conversation offers the clarity and tools to stop guessing and start growing.Show notes:(3:06) The five skills preview(7:01) Most people never learn this(9:29) Why emotional regulation comes first(11:35) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.(13:00) How to communicate your needs(14:25) The right way to repair conflict(15:17) Why trust hinges on honesty(17:19) What true self-ownership looks like(20:08) Practice, not perfection(21:10) Your reference group shapes your love(22:49) OutroDigital Asset: Download the free Relationship Skills Guide - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1A4QVps4fkSwRAnRsHUOuJfW9mfqD19of/view?usp=drive_linkBook a FREE Relationship Talk Coaching:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join our next free Relationship Talks Event #48 on Thursday, June 19th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How To Determine Your Relationship's Commitment Level" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/gjK7xvmrR_OXIeq2toMH5Q#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7

Is your partner really too different, or is that just the story you've been telling yourself? In this episode, Emilia and Alan explore what that phrase often hides: a lack of understanding, unresolved values, or a quiet cry for help. You'll learn how to decode mismatches using the 25 Conscious Love Languages and uncover whether the differences in your relationship are deal-breakers or opportunities for growth. With real coaching stories and powerful insights, this episode is a must-listen for couples, singles, and conscious partners who want to build something real.Show notes:(3:27) The power of love language mismatches(6:09) Core values Vs. Core conflicts(9:16) When differences are actually deal-breakers(11:54) The doom loop in relationships(12:20) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.(14:09) What “too different” really means(17:52) Cry for help or emotional exit?(20:59) Real integration requires mutual respect(25:19) OutroDigital Asset: The 25 Conscious Love Languages Worksheet PDF - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UZzCXujFRFEbYY-vSWcCwAY9hSPeq0ZZ/viewBook a FREE Relationship Talk Coaching:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks Event #48 on Thursday, June 19th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How To Determine Your Relationship's Commitment Level" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/gjK7xvmrR_OXIeq2toMH5Q#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Better love begins with knowing how we give and receive. In this intimate episode, Emilia and Alan introduce the five fight languages that quietly shape our conflicts and connection. With heartfelt stories and thoughtful insights, they reveal how our default reactions can create distance instead of closeness. You'll learn how to recognize these patterns, respond with more grace, and build the kind of emotional safety that invites deeper intimacy and lasting love. Show notes:(1:48) Falling for potential in relationships(5:28) Abuse, wake-up moments, and self-worth(6:39) The HALT acronym and trauma responses(10:23) The five fight languages explained(12:21) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(14:51) Connection techniques for each type(17:44) Fight Lingo Bingo and why it helps(21:32) When effort feels one-sided in love(24:52) OutroDigital Assets:Fight Lingo Bingo and Connection Techniques PDFs - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1KItZLlDhMUdsqa1k1Z_QBjoGnoP491OV/view ___________________________Book a FREE Relationship Talk Coaching:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks Event #48 on Thursday, June 19th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How To Determine Your Relationship's Commitment Level" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/gjK7xvmrR_OXIeq2toMH5Q#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

What if love isn't just about chemistry but about shared care for the life you're building? In today's soulful episode, Emilia and Alan explore what happens when one heart holds a higher standard for health. From silent misalignments to moments of deep recognition, they reflect on how the wellness of the body, mind, and soul shapes connection. For those already walking together or those waiting for the right hand to hold, this conversation is a gentle nudge to lead with love, speak with courage, and choose a future built on intention.Show notes:(2:37) Who has the higher standard?(4:43) Falling for potential in love(6:25) Fitness values and misalignment(10:42) What shared intensity reveals(12:42) Brain health, memory, and love(14:28) Here's Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.(16:25) How health impacts the future(22:48) Courageous conversations about wellness(28:03) Systems that help love last(30:45) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they share a powerful communication tool called Clear The Air, a three-step process to help you express emotions, feel understood, and strengthen connection without jumping into fix-it mode. Discover how a simple three-minute practice can reduce resentment, build trust, and transform how you and your partner show up for each other. Perfect for couples, conscious singles, or anyone craving a deeper emotional connection.Show notes:(4:33) The “Clear The Air” method(6:10) Share emotions without fixing(8:29) Why emotional timing matters(11:52) How small annoyances become big issues(14:11) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(17:39) Most people were never taught this(20:43) Visualizing emotional balance with inside out(22:13) Emotional Vs. Strategic relationship tools(25:44) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

When we expect more than we give, love begins to crumble in silence. In today's episode, Alan and Emilia unravel the quiet damage caused by unrealistic expectations. Through real coaching moments and heartfelt stories, they reveal how resentment grows where understanding should live. If you've ever felt the quiet ache of mismatched efforts, this conversation will meet you where you are and gently guide you home.Show notes:(2:59) Expectations and resentment(5:54) Two types of relationship dynamics(7:11) Everyday examples of unfair expectations(8:30) How broken expectations hurt trust(10:26) Generational patterns in relationships(11:19) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(14:48) Platinum rule and relationship growth(17:16) Leadership, self-awareness, and competence(20:10) Conscious communication Vs. Outdated roles(22:25) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Do you really know what love means to you, or have you just been guessing all along? In this episode, Emilia and Alan open up about their definitions of love and reveal why so many relationships suffer simply because partners never ask this one essential question. Through heartfelt stories, practical frameworks, and yes, even eagle metaphors, they break down what it takes to experience real connection, growth, and intimacy. Whether you're single or in a relationship, this episode will help you reflect, reconnect, and grow.Show notes:(3:51) Lessons from 46 Relationship Events(5:08) Love is growing together(7:09) Emilia's definition of love(12:58) Soaring higher than the crows(14:57) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(17:07) What quality time really means(19:29) The three pillars of quality time(22:54) Intimacy and emotional attunement(25:51) Depth Vs. Surface-level connection(30:28) OutroDigital Asset:The 25 Conscious Love Languages Worksheet - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UZzCXujFRFEbYY-vSWcCwAY9hSPeq0ZZ/view Book a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they explore how self-respect, self-awareness, and inner dialogue shape every aspect of your intimate relationship. Through honest stories, surprising insights, and practical tools, they'll help you stop outsourcing your happiness and start building a solid foundation within. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode will shift the way you think about love—from the inside out.Show notes:(2:09) Blind spots and inner work(4:38) Self-worth and admiration(6:00) The long list of inner requirements(9:53) Crossing personal boundaries(12:58) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.(14:31) Outsourcing emotional security(16:43) Going deeper to climb higher(23:22) Self-esteem's impact on relationships(25:58) OutroDigital Assets:1. Pyramid of Fulfillment - https://drive.google.com/file/d/13zkiW6VZ5Rx0m87omHULzCsT8kOmmGf_/view 2. Pyramid of The Self - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1w5p656YRbF4dZ2KfZmU_Z_ROCQSJW-Rs/view Book a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/J3vhhpWCSyOJPKvwTGWLWg#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Competition in relationships can build you up—or break you down. In this episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the hidden effects of competition in relationships. They share real stories, challenge the “zero-sum” mindset, and explore how healthy support and playful competition can make couples stronger. You'll learn how your self-belief influences how you show up for your partner—and what to do if you feel held back instead of lifted up.Show notes:(2:32) Childhood experiences with toxic competition(4:46) Monopoly and the wake-up call(6:49) Zero-sum thinking in relationships(8:38) When support turns into control(10:24) Building a growth mindset together(13:54) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.(16:03) Abundance starts with self-belief(20:24) Why do you struggle to celebrate your partner(24:26) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/J3vhhpWCSyOJPKvwTGWLWg#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Do you ever turn to your friends before your partner when something big happens? In today's episode, Emilia and Alan break down why so many couples feel like they can't talk about certain things—and what to do about it. They share powerful stories and explain the three things every relationship needs to feel emotionally safe. Whether you're struggling to open up or want to build a deeper connection, this episode offers simple, heartfelt guidance to help you grow together—not apart.Show notes:(4:32) What is psychological safety?(6:29) Responsiveness in relationships(10:13) Why even delayed replies can harm the connection(13:32) Co-regulation and emotional support(16:40) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.(18:05) Why do we turn to friends instead of our partner(20:13) Avoiding judgment when your partner opens up(25:09) How to offer real emotional support(31:31) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/J3vhhpWCSyOJPKvwTGWLWg#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they reveal a powerful tool that helps people worldwide determine whether they're being mistreated or experiencing something more profound. They walk through the 10 most common signs of mistreatment and how even well-meaning partners can cause harm without realizing it. You'll also learn how your past may affect what you tolerate now—and what to do if your heart, mind, and gut don't agree. Whether you're in a relationship or single, this episode will help you recognize red flags early and give you the clarity to take the next step.Show notes:(2:18) What is the mistreatment scorecard?(4:06) Green, yellow, red: Growth skittles and top 10 mistreatments(7:38) Why your gut often knows first(10:29) Small mistreatment can lead to abuse(11:54) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.(13:31) Rational lies: Why we stay too long(17:05) Unseen mistreatment(20:13) Growth comes from honest scoring(22:52) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -https://bit.ly/4hGYm1h Learn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Assuming everything is fine in your relationship might be causing cracks to form. In today's episode, Emilia and Alan explore the silent relationship killer. They share real-life coaching experiences where couples unknowingly drifted apart due to a lack of communication and self-awareness. Together, they provide practical steps to help couples stay connected, set relationship goals, and ensure both partners grow together, not apart.Show notes:(4:05) Why discomfort leads to relationship growth(5:34) A real-life example of a couple drifting apart(7:35) The danger of avoiding hard conversations(10:06) The cycle of ignoring problems until it's too late(12:17) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.(16:42) How setting goals keeps you humble(22:42) A simple gratitude habit to strengthen relationships(24:46) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #45 on Thursday, March 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Top 10 Most Common Ways Partners Mistreat Each Other” -https://bit.ly/4i31rcu  Learn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

What if you could prevent your relationship from falling apart before it's too late? Many couples break up not because they don't love each other but because they ignore small problems until they become too big to fix. In this episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the two biggest reasons couples struggle. Learn how to recognize early signs of trouble, build emotional security, and take responsibility for your growth so your relationship can thrive. Whether in a committed relationship or preparing for one, these lessons will help you build trust, communicate better, and create a relationship where both partners feel safe, heard, and valued.Show notes:(2:30) Why couples wait too long to get help(5:44) Unhealed wounds and relationship struggles(7:46) The silent shame that leads to breakups(9:50) What is psychological safety?(12:14) Signs you don't feel safe in your relationship(14:22) Listen to Jason's and LJason'sestimLisa'son Alan and Emilia's RelaEmilia's Coaching.(16:40) How fights weaken your relationship(20:26) What safety looks like for each partner(24:14) The role of personal growth in love(28:40) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #45 on Thursday, March 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Top 10 Most Common Ways Partners Mistreat Each Other” -https://bit.ly/4i31rcu  Learn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*