The Conscious Couples Podcast

Does chaos keep finding its way into your relationships? In this soul-stirring episode, Emilia and Alan explore how hidden wounds from our past, unhealed generational trauma, and toxic family dynamics can quietly weave tension into our closest relationships. Through raw stories, heartfelt reflection, and a metaphor that lingers long after listening, they help you trace the true origin of your relationship struggles. Discover how to name the patterns, reclaim your power, and set loving boundaries that make room for connection. Whether you're in a relationship or preparing your heart for one, this is your invitation to choose peace over patterns and healing over history.Show notes:(2:33) When the source is your parent(7:27) The toxic lake metaphor(11:07) How shame shapes identity(13:01) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.(15:32) Three signs of a drama source(18:05) The pain of breaking cycles(20:01) Reclaiming peace through boundaries(23:22) Outro

Love their soul, but check their behavior. In this heartfelt episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the emotional tension that arises when one partner is more growth-oriented than the other. Through real client stories and personal reflections, they explore the difference between loving someone for who they are and trying to change them into who you want them to be. You'll discover the power of belief vs. hope, why dragging someone up a mountain never works, and how to hold high standards without losing compassion. This episode offers truth, encouragement, and a fresh perspective on love and growth.Show notes:(3:31) The strain of uneven growth(5:31) Loving them, holding standards(7:16) Accept, set boundaries, or leave(9:05) Hope versus belief in change(11:48) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.(14:56) Know your limits as a catalyst(17:57) Love their essence, not behavior(20:39) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk Coaching:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join our next free Relationship Talks Event #48 on Thursday, June 19th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How To Determine Your Relationship's Commitment Level" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/gjK7xvmrR_OXIeq2toMH5Q#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7

What makes a great partner, and how do you become one? In today's episode, Emilia and Alan break down the five essential relationship skills every couple needs to grow together, not apart. From emotional regulation to honest communication and conflict repair, they don't just name the skills, they show you how to practice them every day. Whether you're in a relationship or preparing for one, this conversation offers the clarity and tools to stop guessing and start growing.Show notes:(3:06) The five skills preview(7:01) Most people never learn this(9:29) Why emotional regulation comes first(11:35) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.(13:00) How to communicate your needs(14:25) The right way to repair conflict(15:17) Why trust hinges on honesty(17:19) What true self-ownership looks like(20:08) Practice, not perfection(21:10) Your reference group shapes your love(22:49) OutroDigital Asset: Download the free Relationship Skills Guide - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1A4QVps4fkSwRAnRsHUOuJfW9mfqD19of/view?usp=drive_linkBook a FREE Relationship Talk Coaching:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join our next free Relationship Talks Event #48 on Thursday, June 19th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How To Determine Your Relationship's Commitment Level" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/gjK7xvmrR_OXIeq2toMH5Q#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7

Is your partner really too different, or is that just the story you've been telling yourself? In this episode, Emilia and Alan explore what that phrase often hides: a lack of understanding, unresolved values, or a quiet cry for help. You'll learn how to decode mismatches using the 25 Conscious Love Languages and uncover whether the differences in your relationship are deal-breakers or opportunities for growth. With real coaching stories and powerful insights, this episode is a must-listen for couples, singles, and conscious partners who want to build something real.Show notes:(3:27) The power of love language mismatches(6:09) Core values Vs. Core conflicts(9:16) When differences are actually deal-breakers(11:54) The doom loop in relationships(12:20) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.(14:09) What “too different” really means(17:52) Cry for help or emotional exit?(20:59) Real integration requires mutual respect(25:19) OutroDigital Asset: The 25 Conscious Love Languages Worksheet PDF - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UZzCXujFRFEbYY-vSWcCwAY9hSPeq0ZZ/viewBook a FREE Relationship Talk Coaching:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks Event #48 on Thursday, June 19th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How To Determine Your Relationship's Commitment Level" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/gjK7xvmrR_OXIeq2toMH5Q#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Better love begins with knowing how we give and receive. In this intimate episode, Emilia and Alan introduce the five fight languages that quietly shape our conflicts and connection. With heartfelt stories and thoughtful insights, they reveal how our default reactions can create distance instead of closeness. You'll learn how to recognize these patterns, respond with more grace, and build the kind of emotional safety that invites deeper intimacy and lasting love. Show notes:(1:48) Falling for potential in relationships(5:28) Abuse, wake-up moments, and self-worth(6:39) The HALT acronym and trauma responses(10:23) The five fight languages explained(12:21) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(14:51) Connection techniques for each type(17:44) Fight Lingo Bingo and why it helps(21:32) When effort feels one-sided in love(24:52) OutroDigital Assets:Fight Lingo Bingo and Connection Techniques PDFs - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1KItZLlDhMUdsqa1k1Z_QBjoGnoP491OV/view ___________________________Book a FREE Relationship Talk Coaching:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks Event #48 on Thursday, June 19th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How To Determine Your Relationship's Commitment Level" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/gjK7xvmrR_OXIeq2toMH5Q#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

What if love isn't just about chemistry but about shared care for the life you're building? In today's soulful episode, Emilia and Alan explore what happens when one heart holds a higher standard for health. From silent misalignments to moments of deep recognition, they reflect on how the wellness of the body, mind, and soul shapes connection. For those already walking together or those waiting for the right hand to hold, this conversation is a gentle nudge to lead with love, speak with courage, and choose a future built on intention.Show notes:(2:37) Who has the higher standard?(4:43) Falling for potential in love(6:25) Fitness values and misalignment(10:42) What shared intensity reveals(12:42) Brain health, memory, and love(14:28) Here's Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.(16:25) How health impacts the future(22:48) Courageous conversations about wellness(28:03) Systems that help love last(30:45) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they share a powerful communication tool called Clear The Air, a three-step process to help you express emotions, feel understood, and strengthen connection without jumping into fix-it mode. Discover how a simple three-minute practice can reduce resentment, build trust, and transform how you and your partner show up for each other. Perfect for couples, conscious singles, or anyone craving a deeper emotional connection.Show notes:(4:33) The “Clear The Air” method(6:10) Share emotions without fixing(8:29) Why emotional timing matters(11:52) How small annoyances become big issues(14:11) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(17:39) Most people were never taught this(20:43) Visualizing emotional balance with inside out(22:13) Emotional Vs. Strategic relationship tools(25:44) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

When we expect more than we give, love begins to crumble in silence. In today's episode, Alan and Emilia unravel the quiet damage caused by unrealistic expectations. Through real coaching moments and heartfelt stories, they reveal how resentment grows where understanding should live. If you've ever felt the quiet ache of mismatched efforts, this conversation will meet you where you are and gently guide you home.Show notes:(2:59) Expectations and resentment(5:54) Two types of relationship dynamics(7:11) Everyday examples of unfair expectations(8:30) How broken expectations hurt trust(10:26) Generational patterns in relationships(11:19) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(14:48) Platinum rule and relationship growth(17:16) Leadership, self-awareness, and competence(20:10) Conscious communication Vs. Outdated roles(22:25) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Do you really know what love means to you, or have you just been guessing all along? In this episode, Emilia and Alan open up about their definitions of love and reveal why so many relationships suffer simply because partners never ask this one essential question. Through heartfelt stories, practical frameworks, and yes, even eagle metaphors, they break down what it takes to experience real connection, growth, and intimacy. Whether you're single or in a relationship, this episode will help you reflect, reconnect, and grow.Show notes:(3:51) Lessons from 46 Relationship Events(5:08) Love is growing together(7:09) Emilia's definition of love(12:58) Soaring higher than the crows(14:57) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(17:07) What quality time really means(19:29) The three pillars of quality time(22:54) Intimacy and emotional attunement(25:51) Depth Vs. Surface-level connection(30:28) OutroDigital Asset:The 25 Conscious Love Languages Worksheet - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UZzCXujFRFEbYY-vSWcCwAY9hSPeq0ZZ/view Book a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they explore how self-respect, self-awareness, and inner dialogue shape every aspect of your intimate relationship. Through honest stories, surprising insights, and practical tools, they'll help you stop outsourcing your happiness and start building a solid foundation within. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode will shift the way you think about love—from the inside out.Show notes:(2:09) Blind spots and inner work(4:38) Self-worth and admiration(6:00) The long list of inner requirements(9:53) Crossing personal boundaries(12:58) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.(14:31) Outsourcing emotional security(16:43) Going deeper to climb higher(23:22) Self-esteem's impact on relationships(25:58) OutroDigital Assets:1. Pyramid of Fulfillment - https://drive.google.com/file/d/13zkiW6VZ5Rx0m87omHULzCsT8kOmmGf_/view 2. Pyramid of The Self - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1w5p656YRbF4dZ2KfZmU_Z_ROCQSJW-Rs/view Book a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/J3vhhpWCSyOJPKvwTGWLWg#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Competition in relationships can build you up—or break you down. In this episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the hidden effects of competition in relationships. They share real stories, challenge the “zero-sum” mindset, and explore how healthy support and playful competition can make couples stronger. You'll learn how your self-belief influences how you show up for your partner—and what to do if you feel held back instead of lifted up.Show notes:(2:32) Childhood experiences with toxic competition(4:46) Monopoly and the wake-up call(6:49) Zero-sum thinking in relationships(8:38) When support turns into control(10:24) Building a growth mindset together(13:54) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.(16:03) Abundance starts with self-belief(20:24) Why do you struggle to celebrate your partner(24:26) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/J3vhhpWCSyOJPKvwTGWLWg#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Do you ever turn to your friends before your partner when something big happens? In today's episode, Emilia and Alan break down why so many couples feel like they can't talk about certain things—and what to do about it. They share powerful stories and explain the three things every relationship needs to feel emotionally safe. Whether you're struggling to open up or want to build a deeper connection, this episode offers simple, heartfelt guidance to help you grow together—not apart.Show notes:(4:32) What is psychological safety?(6:29) Responsiveness in relationships(10:13) Why even delayed replies can harm the connection(13:32) Co-regulation and emotional support(16:40) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.(18:05) Why do we turn to friends instead of our partner(20:13) Avoiding judgment when your partner opens up(25:09) How to offer real emotional support(31:31) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/J3vhhpWCSyOJPKvwTGWLWg#/registrationLearn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they reveal a powerful tool that helps people worldwide determine whether they're being mistreated or experiencing something more profound. They walk through the 10 most common signs of mistreatment and how even well-meaning partners can cause harm without realizing it. You'll also learn how your past may affect what you tolerate now—and what to do if your heart, mind, and gut don't agree. Whether you're in a relationship or single, this episode will help you recognize red flags early and give you the clarity to take the next step.Show notes:(2:18) What is the mistreatment scorecard?(4:06) Green, yellow, red: Growth skittles and top 10 mistreatments(7:38) Why your gut often knows first(10:29) Small mistreatment can lead to abuse(11:54) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.(13:31) Rational lies: Why we stay too long(17:05) Unseen mistreatment(20:13) Growth comes from honest scoring(22:52) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -https://bit.ly/4hGYm1h Learn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Assuming everything is fine in your relationship might be causing cracks to form. In today's episode, Emilia and Alan explore the silent relationship killer. They share real-life coaching experiences where couples unknowingly drifted apart due to a lack of communication and self-awareness. Together, they provide practical steps to help couples stay connected, set relationship goals, and ensure both partners grow together, not apart.Show notes:(4:05) Why discomfort leads to relationship growth(5:34) A real-life example of a couple drifting apart(7:35) The danger of avoiding hard conversations(10:06) The cycle of ignoring problems until it's too late(12:17) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.(16:42) How setting goals keeps you humble(22:42) A simple gratitude habit to strengthen relationships(24:46) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #45 on Thursday, March 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Top 10 Most Common Ways Partners Mistreat Each Other” -https://bit.ly/4i31rcu  Learn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

What if you could prevent your relationship from falling apart before it's too late? Many couples break up not because they don't love each other but because they ignore small problems until they become too big to fix. In this episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the two biggest reasons couples struggle. Learn how to recognize early signs of trouble, build emotional security, and take responsibility for your growth so your relationship can thrive. Whether in a committed relationship or preparing for one, these lessons will help you build trust, communicate better, and create a relationship where both partners feel safe, heard, and valued.Show notes:(2:30) Why couples wait too long to get help(5:44) Unhealed wounds and relationship struggles(7:46) The silent shame that leads to breakups(9:50) What is psychological safety?(12:14) Signs you don't feel safe in your relationship(14:22) Listen to Jason's and LJason'sestimLisa'son Alan and Emilia's RelaEmilia's Coaching.(16:40) How fights weaken your relationship(20:26) What safety looks like for each partner(24:14) The role of personal growth in love(28:40) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #45 on Thursday, March 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Top 10 Most Common Ways Partners Mistreat Each Other” -https://bit.ly/4i31rcu  Learn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they discuss a real-life coaching session where a couple had to choose between an African safari and their long-term financial goals. They break down the law of trade-offs, the importance of communication, and why mapping out dreams together is key. Whether your bucket list includes travel, personal growth, or big life milestones, this episode will help you find a way to make it happen—without sacrificing your relationship.Show notes:(2:32) A client's bucket list dilemma(5:08) Men's perspective on bucket lists & practicality(10:25) The law of trade-offs: Dreams Vs. Reality(15:17) Here's Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience(16:35) Why couples should use a shared whiteboard(19:00) How a couple reworked their roadmap to make a dream happen(23:19) Why do some dreams get suppressed in relationships(26:50) How to strategically plan bucket list goals(29:43) OutroEpisode Reference:What a wonderful day! - https://bit.ly/3XoQfik Book a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #45 on Thursday, March 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Top 10 Most Common Ways Partners Mistreat Each Other” - https://bit.ly/4i31rcu  Learn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Discover the roles that shape love and how to bridge the growth gap. In this episode, Emilia and Alan share clear, simple insights to help you strengthen your bond. They show how small shifts in daily habits might slowly change your relationship. With real-life examples and heartfelt advice, they introduce three key roles—pusher, nudger, and inspirer—that each partner might play. Their conversation shows how being aware of your actions and leading by example can bring you and your partner closer.Show notes:(2:48) Exploring three relationship roles dynamics(3:19) Understanding the “60 rule” in relationships(4:22) Daily connection and bridging the gap(7:02) Moving from agree-to-disagree to true integration(17:03) Identifying the pusher's role in action(20:11) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(21:23) Explaining the nudger role effectively(26:06) Learning the inspirer role by example(34:21) Growth integration(38:39) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #45 on Thursday, March 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Top 10 Most Common Ways Partners Mistreat Each Other” -  https://bit.ly/4i31rcu  Learn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Have you ever wondered why some people tolerate mistreatment while others set strict boundaries? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the “Richter Scale” of relationships—how our upbringing influences what we see as usual in love, conflict, and emotional connection. They explore how past experiences shape how we treat (and accept treatment from) our partners. They share personal stories and examples of how childhood environments create unconscious relationship patterns. Whether you grew up in a calm, respectful household or one filled with tension and conflict, this episode will help you assess your relationship standards. More importantly, you'll learn to set a healthier, higher standard for yourself and your partner.Show notes:(2:05) What is a relationship Richter scale?(3:45) Why your normal might not be your partner's(7:04) How childhood experiences shape what we tolerate(12:50) Recognizing mistreatment & raising standards(14:45) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk(16:55) Breaking generational patterns of toxic relationships(24:26) How to start raising your standards(28:10) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” -  https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0Learn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they explore emotional maturity—why it matters and how it strengthens relationships. Learn key skills like self-awareness, emotional regulation, and healthy communication. Plus, assess your relationship with a simple rating system. Tune in to grow together, not apart!Show notes:(3:44) What emotional maturity looks like in relationships(6:40) Defining emotional maturity Vs. Immaturity(12:40) The 10 key skills that define emotional maturity(14:49) Relationship rating exercise: Green, yellow, red system(21:42) Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(26:20) The long-term impact of emotional immaturity(29:37) Real-life example: Emotional immaturity in daily life(35:26) How to actively build emotional maturity in your relationship(38:55) OutroDigital Asset:The 10 Facets of Emotional Maturity - https://bit.ly/4hyiGTgBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” -  https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0Learn more about:Evolve Movie Club Link - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Unlock the secrets to transforming your relationship. In this episode, Emilia and Alan explore four communication styles, which help you identify your default approach and how it affects your relationship. They share real-life examples, discuss the impact of past experiences, and provide practical ways to shift toward healthier, more effective conversations. Whether you struggle to speak up, avoid conflict, or tend to dominate discussions, understanding your communication style can strengthen your connection.Show notes:(2:44) The “iceberg” concept—what's beneath communication struggles?(4:21) Passive communication(5:50) Assertive communication(7:05) Metaphors for communication styles: Turtle, Puffer Fish, and Turtle Puff(11:18) Passive-aggressive communication(17:08) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia(18:35) Aggressive communication(22:14) Recognizing aggressive tendencies and setting boundaries(26:39) The key to healthy relationships(28:58) OutroDigital Asset:Communication Styles - https://bit.ly/3Eo2EN1 Book a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” -  https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Are you the kind of person who wants a better relationship but isn't sure where to begin? What if the secret lies within you? In today's episode, Emilia and Alan reveal how personal growth fuels lasting, meaningful relationships. Through personal stories and real-world coaching experiences, they highlight why actions outweigh words, how self-discipline drives growth, and what happens when one partner outpaces the other. Tune in to learn how to break through stagnation and create the partnership of your dreams.Show notes:(1:59) The “Me” builds the “We.”(6:42) Pretenders Vs. Doers in growth(11:28) Real habits of growth-oriented people(13:51) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.(15:09) The impact of personal effort on relationships(17:26) Balancing business and personal life(22:57) Relationship Talks Event invitation(24:38) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” -  https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They explore why courage is essential for expressing your needs and creating deeper intimacy. Through real-life stories, playful anecdotes, and actionable advice, they discuss how fear and past rejection shape our ability to ask for what we need. Learn how to identify your core needs, overcome the fear of rejection, and build a more balanced partnership, perfect for couples and individuals committed to personal growth and meaningful connections.Show notes:(2:24) Funny story: Courage at a dance club(6:29) What is courage, and why does it matter?(8:31) The “Rainbow Slide” explanation(14:37) How rejection shapes our fear of asking(16:43) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks(19:21) Identifying unmet needs in relationships(22:49) Balancing conflicting needs in partnerships(24:58) Risks of being overly selfless or selfish(30:11) The "growth gap" in relationships(32:18) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth" -  https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0 ___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Frustrations aren't just complaints—they're pathways to innovation! In today's episode, Emilia and Alan share a powerful tool that transformed their connection and deepened their understanding of each other. Learn why expressing gratitude and frustrations is key to building psychological safety and fostering collaboration in your relationship. They discuss how unspoken frustrations can create unseen wedges, the importance of honest communication, and how gratitude can coexist with constructive criticism. Whether single or in a relationship, this episode offers practical tips to foster openness and growth with your partner.Show notes:(2:25) The powerful relationship tool(5:16) The “home theater” story and frustrations(9:09) The role of psychological safety in relationships(14:34) Bonnie says this about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.(17:09) Why frustrations spark creativity and innovation(24:24) The genius of the “and” in communication(28:19) Relationship coaching and upcoming events(30:22) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” -  https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Are you being your true self in your relationship, or are parts of you hiding to fit in? In this episode, Emilia and Alan discuss what it means for your partner to love all of you genuinely—your past, present, and future selves. With relatable stories and actionable advice, they'll inspire you to reflect on your relationships and teach you how to foster more profound, authentic connections. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking a deeper, more authentic bond.Show notes:(2:39) The sun and planets analogy for true self(5:37) Hiding your true self in relationships(10:04) How fear impacts authenticity(12:13) Looking back: growth over time(14:12) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.(20:06) Does your partner love all of you?(25:25) Courageous conversations and authenticity(27:41) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” -  https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they share personal stories, practical tips, and thoughtful insights on setting boundaries to enhance emotional intimacy. Discover how small, intentional changes—like moving your devices to another room—can transform how you connect with your partner. From putting your phone aside to establishing healthier screen-time habits, this episode offers actionable tools to help you and your loved one prioritize meaningful moments together. Tune in now to reconnect and strengthen your bond!Show notes:(3:36) Personal strategies to limit distractions(5:50) Understanding “Brain Rot” and “Digiphrenia”(7:31) Choosing your partner over your screen(10:29) Identifying your biggest distractions(11:32) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching(14:48) Impact of unmet needs on relationships(19:15) Setting boundaries for a deeper connection(21:15) Courageous communication with your partner(23:09) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” -  https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Transform your relationship goals into reality! In this heartfelt episode, Emilia and Alan guide couples through the “Three C's” for building a strong, fulfilling relationship in the new year. They share inspiring client stories, practical tips, and exercises to help couples align on goals, create sustainable plans, and support each other through challenges. Whether planning for a home, a wedding, or a fitness goal, these tools will help you and your partner align your visions and create lasting memories.Show notes:(2:12) Highlighting client success(4:16) The iceberg analogy: Visible results Vs. Hidden work(9:25) The three C's(14:05) Here's Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience(17:18) Overcoming mental blocks around goal-setting(24:05) Real-life examples of the three C's in action(30:13) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” -  https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Are you stuck in a never-ending tug-of-war over who's ‘right' in your relationship? What if the goal wasn't to win the argument but to uncover the truth? In this episode, Emilia and Alan reveal how shifting your mindset can transform your connection. Through real-life stories, practical examples, and the powerful metaphor of a ‘truth chamber,' they'll show you how to build trust, accept feedback gracefully, and align your goals for a thriving partnership. Tune in to discover simple strategies to grow closer and flourish as a team.Show notes:(2:30) A humorous story about feedback in relationships(6:56) Personal growth through embracing past mistakes(10:09) The “truth chamber” metaphor for objective communication(14:59) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk(18:45) Aligning goals as a couple for mutual success(25:26) Invitation to the upcoming RTE(27:03) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner's Goals for 2025” -  https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore how protective relationship behaviors can unintentionally create tension and hinder growth. They discuss the dangers of shielding your partner from constructive feedback out of fear of their reaction—a behavior that often leads to resentment and emotional disconnection. Through real-life examples, Emilia and Alan highlight the importance of courage and vulnerability in addressing challenges, prioritizing emotional safety, and fostering meaningful communication. Tune in to discover practical ways to strengthen your bond and grow together, not apart.Show notes:(2:14) The “resentment formula” explained(4:37) Struggling with boundaries and feedback.(7:18) Balancing personal growth and protecting the family dynamic(10:57) How generational beliefs shape relationship behaviors(12:56) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk(15:22) The power of courage and vulnerability in feedback(22:21) Aligning goals and communication for a flourishing relationship.(26:27) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner's Goals for 2025” -  https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Turn holiday chaos into a bonding experience! Emilia and Alan share simple, effective strategies to reduce stress and strengthen your relationship during the busiest time of the year. Discover three must-ask questions to prioritize what matters, support each other meaningfully, and enjoy the holidays peacefully and purposefully. Don't let holiday stress pull you apart—learn how to grow together and end the year feeling more connected.Show notes:(1:51) The holiday season: Why it often brings relationship challenges(5:22) What's most important to you during the holidays?(9:07) What does support look like for you during this time?(11:56) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(15:39) What do we need to do now to be proactive?(20:01) Building peaceful holiday routines(22:45) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner's Goals for 2025” -  https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

What do you do when your beliefs clash with your partner's? In this episode, Alan and Emilia offer practical tools and real-life examples to help couples bridge the gap. They'll show how conflicts over deep-seated beliefs can be an opportunity to grow stronger together. Through their stories and insights from coaching, they share simple strategies to stay connected, even in tough times. Tune in for relatable advice and actionable tips to help you and your partner move forward, no matter how different your perspective may seem.Show notes:(2:09) Turning conflicts into opportunities for growth(4:22) How societal events highlight belief differences(10:26) Core beliefs and relationship journeys(12:50) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia(18:11) Resolving belief-based tensions(21:30) “Weeding the garden” of minor conflicts(24:45) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner's Goals for 2025” -  https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r ___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they unpack the challenges and beauty of self-acceptance. Learn why embracing your strengths and flaws is vital to personal growth and thriving relationships. They share real stories from their coaching experiences, offering tools to transform insecurities into opportunities for deeper connection and mutual respect. Discover how self-compassion can be the first step toward better relationships, and reflect on the role models who shaped your self-perception.Show notes:(2:25) Three “camps” of self-acceptance(4:07) The triad of transformation(6:27) How self-acceptance impacts relationships(10:26) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently(11:55) The three layers of truth in self-identity(14:36) Self-acceptance and relational growth(19:42) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #41 on Friday, November 22nd, 2024, at 05:00 pm EST: “Our Top 5 Relationship Game Changers and How to Implement Them” -  https://bit.ly/4dTp0C8  ___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Transform stress into strength! Alan and Emilia talk about how stress affects relationships—and what couples can do to manage it together. They introduce two types of stress: the kind that motivates us and the kind that overwhelms us, showing how each impacts our relationships. They share four ways couples usually handle stress together, from building each other up to accidentally tearing each other down. With practical tips, they explain how to turn stressful moments into chances for connection. You'll learn helpful strategies for supporting each other's growth, setting boundaries, and keeping a strong “we” through life's ups and downs. Tune in for real stories, laughs, and advice you can use right away to bring you and your partner closer, even when life gets tough.Show notes:(2:22) Two types of stress(6:55) Increasing digital and social stress(10:48) Dyadic coping(12:24) Supportive coping in action(18:48) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks(24:39) Negative coping in relationships(27:32) Protective coping and shielding partners from growth(30:12) Validation with constructive feedback(37:19) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #41 on Friday, November 22nd, 2024, at 05:00 pm EST: “Our Top 5 Relationship Game Changers and How to Implement Them” -  https://bit.ly/4dTp0C8  ___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Ever feel like you and your partner are just not in sync? Maybe they're buzzing with energy while you're more relaxed, or the roles are reversed. In this episode, Alan and Emilia dive into understanding your unique energy levels and what they mean for your relationship. Learn how to align with each other's natural rhythms, improve communication, and even use these energy differences to deepen your connection. Packed with tips on daily habits and impactful reflection exercises, this episode is your guide to building a more balanced, harmonious relationship. Tune in and bring new harmony to your connection!Show notes:(2:06) Energy differences in relationships(3:54) Identifying personal energy set points(5:06) Introvert Vs. Extrovert energy dynamics(9:08) Framework for identifying energy "zones"(11:56) Tips on raising energy levels(17:22) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks(24:26) Communication as the key to bridging energy gaps(31:11) Top Three tips for increasing your energy(35:38) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #41 on Friday, November 22nd, 2024, at 05:00 pm EST: “Our Top 5 Relationship Game Changers and How to Implement Them” -  https://bit.ly/4dTp0C8  ___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this special anniversary episode, Alan and Emilia celebrate five transformative years together, sharing heartfelt insights into their love, growth, and partnership journey. They discuss the importance of growth-oriented relationships, highlighting three foundational lessons. They share heartfelt insights and practical steps for couples looking to strengthen their relationships and grow together, not apart. Whether in a relationship or single, tune in to discover the keys to building a lasting, growth-driven connection.Show notes:(4:48) Going through memories together(7:53) Lessons learned on relationships, others, and self(10:13) Importance of deep conversations(13:02) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.(14:33) Building relationships with humility, courage, and vulnerability(18:47) Growth in vulnerability(21:05) How deeper understanding strengthens relationships(26:32) Relationship coaching and gratitude practices(27:02) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #41 on Friday, November 22nd, 2024, at 05:00 pm EST: “Our Top 5 Relationship Game Changers and How to Implement Them” -  https://bit.ly/4dTp0C8  ___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Discover the secret to thriving relationships! In this heartfelt episode, hosts Alan and Emilia discuss how differing ambitions can create tension in relationships, especially when one partner feels unsupported. Alan shares stories from past relationships where he felt dragged down due to a lack of shared vision, while Emilia reflects on her experiences with misaligned goals in her relationships. Together, they offer listeners practical advice on communicating needs, setting clear boundaries, and supporting one another's dreams. Whether you're a conscious couple or a single individual eager to strengthen your love life, this episode promises to equip you with the skills and mindset needed for a successful and harmonious partnership.Show notes:(3:01) Metaphor of goals and dragging a partner(4:06) Types of relationships (A, B, C)(5:33) Alan's personal story of feeling unsupported(7:07) The courage to express what support looks like(10:35) Emilia's experience with juggling goals and unsupportive partners(14:03) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching(16:25) How to measure and communicate goal support in relationships(21:45) Practical steps to enhance goal support in your relationship(27:57) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks #41 on Friday, November 22nd, 2024, at 05:00 pm EST: “Our Top 5 Relationship Game Changers and How to Implement Them” -  https://bit.ly/4dTp0C8  ___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Ever wonder how some relationships grow stronger after heartache? Alan and Emilia share valuable insights on rebuilding relationships, focusing on accountability, growth, and embracing imperfections in this episode. Learn how the Japanese concept of Kintsugi applies to mending emotional wounds and making your relationship even more beautiful after facing challenges. Whether you're struggling with a breakup or want to strengthen your bond, this episode offers heartfelt advice for returning stronger as a couple.Show notes:(1:50) The origin of their relationship coaching journey(3:28) The couple's story: Growth divergence and accountability(5:18) Introduction to the concept of Kintsugi(9:51) Repairing the “relationship fabric” with patience and care(10:52) The triad of transformation: Humility, courage, and vulnerability(16:18) Using conflict to grow stronger in relationships(13:16) Here's Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience(20:32) The power of forgiveness and taking ownership(26:46) OutroVideo Reference: Kara Lawson: Handle Hard Better - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDzfZOfNki4 Book a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks Event #40 on Tuesday, October 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be Your True Self in Your Relationship” -  https://bit.ly/3MSSYLt___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Are you navigating a relationship where growth isn't aligned? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share personal stories and helpful advice for women who want to stay strong in their self-worth while building a healthy relationship. You'll hear tips on setting boundaries, knowing when to take charge, and how to grow together with your partner. Whether in a relationship or focusing on self-love, this episode offers practical insights to help you build stronger, more fulfilling connections.Show notes:(3:56) Challenges of being growth-oriented in a relationship(6:42) Assessing growth in a relationship(10:38) Falling in love with potential and setting boundaries(17:44) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk(19:41) The importance of taking control in relationships(25:26) Recognizing who is holding the relationship back(35:15) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks Event #40 on Tuesday, October 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be Your True Self in Your Relationship” -  https://bit.ly/3MSSYLt___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

How can men overcome societal expectations to thrive in love? In this episode, Alan shares a male's perspective on being in a growth-oriented relationship. Through his experience as a coach and partner, he reveals how men often struggle with self-reflection, humility, and vulnerability in relationships. Alan discusses the pressures men face to achieve outward success while neglecting emotional connection, which women typically value deeply. He offers insights into the importance of personal growth for both partners and the dangers of settling in relationships. Alan and Emilia encourage listeners to embrace growth, communicate openly, and work toward building more robust, more fulfilling relationships together.Show notes:(2:17) Alan's journey with relationships before meeting Emilia(3:38) Alan's experience coaching women in growth relationships(7:19) The issue of cognitive dissonance in men(12:28) Growth relationships vs. fixed mindset relationships(17:55) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk(20:53) Choosing between a growth-oriented or non-growth-oriented partner(25:34) Tools for men in growth relationships(34:35) OutroLink mentioned:Next Level Dreamliner: https://a.co/d/aWiJ3FKBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks Event #40 on Wednesday, October 16th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be Your True Self in Your Relationship” -  https://bit.ly/3MSSYLt___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Do you ever feel like you're doing all the work in your relationship? In this episode, Alan and Emilia discuss the hidden challenges of invisible work and unequal partnerships that many couples face today. Learn why fair play and shared responsibilities are critical to a balanced relationship and how you and your partner can start growing together by creating an equal partnership. Whether in a relationship or embracing self-love, tune in for real-life examples, insightful discussions, and practical advice for strengthening your relationship!Show notes:(2:21) The concept of invisible work and cognitive labor(5:34) Personal examples of unequal partnership(8:07) Defining cognitive labor and its impact(12:01) Listener feedback and event insights(14:08) Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching.(16:40) How entitlement affects relationships(19:03) The idea of equal partnership(28:41) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks Event #40 on Wednesday, October 16th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be Your True Self in Your Relationship” -  https://bit.ly/3MSSYLt ___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Do minor disagreements at home sometimes turn into more significant issues? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Together, they dive into the little habits that can make or break harmony in relationships. From bedtimes to dishes, they explore why understanding each other's lifestyle preferences is vital to living together better. Tune in to discover how you and your partner can align your needs for a deeper connection. Whether in a relationship or embracing self-love, this episode offers valuable insights to help nurture fulfilling connections with others or yourself.Show notes:(3:05) 25 Conscious Love Languages Worksheet(4:14) Importance of lifestyle preferences(5:31) Safety and comfort in home environments(7:18) Sharing personal experiences and tips(10:16) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia(12:46) Discussing individual lifestyle musts(19:31) Closing thoughts and invitation to upcoming events(20:17) OutroDigital Asset:The 25 Conscious Love Languages: https://bit.ly/3TLc2PS Book a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks Event #39 on Thursday, September 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to NOT Be Held Back in Your Relationship” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwof-yrqTsjGtEUfK4DcWkkAtxnTFHLoAQd#/registration___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

In this episode, Alan and Emilia dive into what equal partnership looks like in relationships. They share personal stories and coaching experiences to explore how partners can divide responsibilities fairly, whether in business or at home. Highlighting the idea of “invisible work” and the challenges many couples face, they stress the importance of defining equality for each partner. They offer practical advice on creating a balanced and supportive partnership from household chores to financial duties.Show notes:(1:40) Defining equal partnership and its impact on couples(4:26) Example of cognitive labor and invisible work in relationships(6:11) Introduction of the DRI (Directly Responsible Individual) concept for task division(7:46) Story of a couple's unequal household work perception(11:24) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.(16:41) Importance of defining what equality means in your relationship(18:49) Creating a win-win approach to dividing household responsibilities(20:58) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks Event #39 on Thursday, September 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to NOT Be Held Back in Your Relationship” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwof-yrqTsjGtEUfK4DcWkkAtxnTFHLoAQd#/registration___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Are your past relationships affecting your present and future ones? In this episode, Alan and Emilia share how reflecting on your relationship history can help you understand your preferences and avoid repeating mistakes. They offer practical advice on being your true self in a relationship, ensuring growth and alignment with your partner. Tune in to discover how to cultivate a relationship that amplifies who you are!Show notes:(2:01) The importance of reflecting on relationship history(3:00) Exercise: Bright spots and dark spots in relationships(5:50) Learning from past relationships to make better choices(12:04) The danger of ignoring relationship standards(12:46) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks(20:40) Amplifying your true self in a relationship(24:05) How to not be held back by your relationship(25:14) Final thoughts and invitation to Relationship Talks coaching(25:20) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks Event #39 on Thursday, September 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to NOT Be Held Back in Your Relationship” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwof-yrqTsjGtEUfK4DcWkkAtxnTFHLoAQd#/registration___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore how the decisions you and your partner make every day shape your relationship. Whether a simple or extensive choice, these decisions can lead to a stronger, healthier connection or create challenges. Through personal stories and real-life examples, they share how partners can unknowingly impact each other's actions and emphasize the power of honest, caring conversations. This episode is perfect for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship by making more thoughtful choices together.Show notes:(1:47) Emilia shares a personal story on emotional vulnerability(3:22) The significance of better decision-making in relationships (5:12) Alan discusses the long-term impact of decisions made in high school(8:30) The influence of partner behavior on personal growth(12:21) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks(13:55) How to address misaligned standards with your partner(18:09) The 1% improvement rule in decision-making(20:20) How to have a courageous conversation about sensitive issues(24:27) Invitations to RTC and RTE(26:05) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us at Relationship Talks Event #39 on Thursday, September 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to NOT Be Held Back in Your Relationship” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwof-yrqTsjGtEUfK4DcWkkAtxnTFHLoAQd#/registration ___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Do you ever wonder if your partner truly believes in themselves or if they're secretly struggling with self-doubt? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros.This eye-opening episode explores how deep-rooted beliefs can shape our relationships, mainly focusing on two core wounds: feeling “defective” and “unlovable.” Discover how these underlying fears can trigger conflicts and how to build genuine self-belief to foster healthier, more supportive partnerships.Show notes:(2:12) Two main buckets of the core wound(5:58) The formula for building self-belief: State, Prove, Self-assign(8:45) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia(10:40) Comparison of self-belief processes in "Defective" Vs. "Unlovable"(13:35) Humility and courage in relationships(16:38) Continue vulnerability(17:36) Invitation to Relationship Talks Coaching(19:23) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Do you feel like your partner truly sees you, or are you sometimes left in the background? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. This episode unpacks what it means to be your partner's primary focus and why it's crucial for maintaining a healthy, loving relationship. Listen in as they share real-life examples and tips to help you and your partner stay connected, even when life gets busy. Perfect for couples and individuals who want to strengthen their relationships and feel more valued in their connections. Whether in a relationship or single, this episode provides valuable insights into creating more profound, more intentional connections.Show notes:(2:15) The challenge of harmonizing podcasting and relationship(4:41) Scenario 1: When your partner is your primary focus(5:54) Scenario 2: When your partner is a secondary focus(10:03) Scenario 3: Switching focus and its challenges(13:38) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching(15:56) Slow, tiny, boiling water analogy and regular “No-Stim” nights for reconnection(17:53) Personal “software updates”(19:56) Growth mindset, adaptability, and understanding(24:30) Homework for everyone(26:44) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Feeling overwhelmed by life's demands? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore how prioritizing personal needs is crucial for a healthy relationship. Life's pressures, from financial stress to everyday challenges, can easily make you neglect yourself, putting a strain on even the strongest bonds. Discover practical tips and heartfelt advice to keep your relationship loving and supportive, no matter what life throws at you. Tune in for an engaging discussion that helps you stay connected and harmonize with yourself and your partner.Show notes:(2:29) H.H.A.L.L.T (3:33) 10-pound, 10-week challenge(5:47) Scarcity 101: Financial stress(8:27) Maslow's Mountain of Needs(10:32) Business growth and relationship dynamics(12:57) Here's Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience(14:05) Micro and Macro assessments(17:31) Personal responsibility and mutual support(18:57) “How can I support you?”(20:55) Do check in's with yourself and your partner(24:31) OutroDigital Asset:Maslow's Mountain of Needs - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1JPjcS0LT26EtFCknvwzldi-GIlON7QuS/view Book a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Have you ever wondered why some people grow emotionally while others stay stuck? Tune into The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explain what “doing the work” means regarding personal growth, especially for men. Using relatable stories and insights, they explore how men and women differ in self-improvement, the value of therapy, and the power of humility. Join them as they discuss the challenges and rewards of personal growth and how it can improve your relationships and self-awareness.Show notes:(1:57) Origin story of “doing the work.”(3:36) The value of therapy and inner work to men(5:05) Distinction between male and female focus in personal development(6:53) Inner work vs. external work(7:58) From inside out(10:39) Signs of not doing the inner work(15:24) Listen to what Amy and Chris say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.(16:28) The concept of “truth target” and ego circles(18:01) The challenge of benchmarking identity against reality(20:18) Gender differences in facing ego challenges(24:16) Importance of humility and self-belief in personal growth(29:16) OutroDigital Assets:The Ego Circles - https://drive.google.com/file/d/19CytO6WS3FWr00ig-Nft92HmxgxYma0N/view?usp=drive_link The 25 Conscious Love Languages - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UZzCXujFRFEbYY-vSWcCwAY9hSPeq0ZZ/view?usp=drive_linkBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Are you struggling with device addiction in your relationship? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they discuss the importance of setting boundaries with technology, the impact of excessive screen time on relationships, and strategies to reclaim quality time together. From creating device-free zones to establishing notification hygiene, learn how to foster a more connected and present partnership in a tech-driven world. Tune in for a comprehensive guide to healthier, more present relationships in the age of constant connectivity.Show notes:(2:34) Event feedback: The relevance of discussing device addiction(4:31) Tools in the hands of fools(5:39) Staggering statistics on daily screen time(7:02) Have the conversation(8:16) Future implications of technology in relationships(11:39) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk(14:09) Tips and setting boundaries(15:15) Device and notification hygiene(19:08) Protecting your consciousness and device-free quality time(21:27) Harmonizing work and relationship presence(24:54) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8 ___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Can unresolved childhood experiences sabotage your relationship? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, we'll explore the profound impact of viewing the past as a slingshot for future growth, the significance of creating core memories together, and the role of understanding and supportive partners. The discussion highlights the importance of exploring underlying fears and core limiting beliefs with courage and vulnerability, which can pave the way for personal growth and stronger connections. Join us to learn how to transform past pain into opportunities for connection and joy.Show notes:(1:55) Story about the client's engagement party(2:55) Surface level indicators of deep-rooted problems(5:26) Childhood experiences affecting adult behavior(7:18) Importance of identifying and addressing triggers(9:13) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Coaching(13:27) Strategies for partners to support each other(15:40) Recognizing defensive reactions vs. true preferences(17:17) Upcoming events(18:18) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Feeling lonely even when you're with your partner? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. This episode reveals why many people think this way in relationships and how to change it. Learn the real reasons behind this common issue and how understanding it can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Alan and Emilia share their insights from coaching, highlighting the importance of emotional availability and creating safe spaces. Whether you're single or in a relationship, this episode offers practical advice on addressing loneliness and fostering deeper intimacy.Show notes:(2:28) Misbeliefs about relationships solving loneliness(4:28) Romanticism around relationships and the two beliefs(8:20) The necessity of recognizing and communicating your needs(11:33) Safe space: Emotional availability, especially in traditional roles(13:24) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.(14:25) Depths are valuable and perceived weakness(18:05) Gender conditioning and emotional expression(21:02) Playing not to lose and not playing to win(22:24) Pretend stoicism(29:30) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*

Join Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros on The Conscious Couples Podcast to explore how pride can impact love and relationships. In this episode, they define pride, share relatable examples of its effects, and introduce the Love-to-Pride (LTP) ratio—a key to sustaining a loving partnership. Learn practical advice on balancing accuracy and humility in your interactions, ensuring a healthy and harmonious relationship. Tune in for a concise yet impactful discussion that will help you and your partner navigate the complexities of love with greater awareness and intention.Show notes:(2:05) Defining pride and its effects on relationships(3:41) Love to Pride “LTP” ratio(4:27) Four horsemen and bids for connection(7:16) Practical application of the LTP ratio in daily life(9:39) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.(11:40) Accurate perception(13:48) What you measure changes the way you play(15:51) Constructive conflict(18:43) OutroBook a FREE Relationship Talk:https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coachingJoin us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf___________________________Follow us on Instagram:Emilia Smith @evolvewithemiliaAlan Lazaros @alazaros88*Email:*