Podcasts about tfmr

Sabrina talks about regret after ending a wanted pregnancy and how it rarely looks the way people expect. Sometimes it's not regret over the decision to interrupt the pregnancy, but over the “smaller” (still huge) pieces around it... not taking enough pictures, not holding your baby long enough, declining genetic testing in a moment you weren't in the right headspace for. Sometimes the regret is about how you were treated during your termination for medical reasons... coerced, under-informed, never told what a labor and delivery induction would actually feel like, or that a funeral was even an option. And sometimes it's that tight, familiar pit in your stomach: what if my baby's condition had changed, was the diagnosis severe enough to choose TFMR, could I have handled a "good enough" outcome after all.If you've been Googling “how to cope with regret after TFMR” or "is it normal to regret my TFMR”, or you swing back and forth between peace and guilt sometimes in the same breath, you're not broken and you didn't make the wrong call. Sabrina gets into why TFMR grief and regret get weaponized against parents online, why gray diagnoses and "good enough" outcomes can torture us just as much as a fatal one, and the reframe that's helped her most in her own healing... that regret, underneath all of it, IS love and comes from love.And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents:THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY‌If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.‌The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.‌

Sabrina shares the unfortunate comments she and others in the community have heard about TFMR: "But how old were you when it happened?" "Well that's not reeeeally an abortion." "I would never..."Comments like these can actually feel MORE harmful that direct insults to TFMR/baby loss/abortion. Because other people around, or group leaders, or fellow general grievers might not "get" how painful these subtle things feel to TFMR parents. So we're talking about it!SMALL GROUP TFMR GRIEF CIRCLEIf you are looking for care and love and tools for the shame, guilt, longing & grief after TFMR, you are invited to join us. Our upcoming grief circles are open July 8th & July 12th start dates: small group in Ascend http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-applyTo meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat and find * your * way through with groups/1on1: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-call‌FREE FACEBOOK GROUP:Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you.PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes.‌Application only, free membership:⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup‌

How we decided - TFMR for T21 & grey diagnosis. Bianca Johnson shares her baby boy's down syndrome diagnosis and all the other pregnancy complications that came into play on her decision and more. Sabrina also shares lots of stories from other TFMR parents who also had a T21 diagnosis and how they decided to end their wanted pregnancies too.Bianca Johnson had already been through 6 pregnancy losses when she found herself in the impossible space of a T21 down syndrome diagnosis. What guided her decision to terminate wasn't just the medical appointments, CVS test results, or the terrifying words from a maternal-fetal medicine specialist who listed every way this pregnancy could kill her. It was a dream she'd had weeks before... a child standing at a crossroads, refusing to cross, saying simply: this is as far as I go.When the T21 diagnosis finally came, Bianca already knew. The baby had told her.In this Part 1 of 2, Bianca, empowerment coach and author of All of These Lines, shares the raw, layered story of how she and her husband decided to have an abortion in their T21 pregnancy in South Africa. If you're in the middle of a gray diagnosis and wondering how anyone ever makes this decision... this episode is for you.You can find Part 2 of 2: "Life after TFMR for T21 & grey diagnosis" on Bianca's pregnancy loss and healing YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ePOCM0HZPVQ so follow over there too

In this moving listener story, Carmen shares her complicated journey through pregnancy loss, recurrent miscarriage, TFMR (termination for medical reasons), traumatic births, emergency deliveries, and ultimately building the family she always dreamed of. As a mother of 12 babies, five Earthside and seven who are no longer physically here, Carmen offers a powerful perspective on grief, resilience, and what it means to continue mothering children who have died.Throughout this conversation, Carmen opens up about the realities of pregnancy after loss, the emotional toll of carrying grief through multiple pregnancies, and the complicated intersection of gratitude and trauma. Her story is one of profound love, heartbreaking decisions, and the ongoing process of learning how to carry both joy and sorrow at the same time.In This Episode, We Discuss:

Katie, a TFMR and multiple miscarriage mom and mom to two living kids shares her baby's story. Her daughter had a constellation of brain abnormalities - absent corpus callosum, fluid in the brain, and a small cerebellum - discovered at the 20 week scan.Katie knew something was off before the doctor had even spoke. At this 20-week anatomy scan, Katie caught a measurement on the screen that said 16 weeks... and then the doctor delivered the devastating news that her daughter's brain abnormalities would mean congenital blindness and severe mobility disabilities.Because of abortion restrictions in Florida, Katie had to figure out how to leave the state to say goodbye to her daughter the way she chose.Katie shares her story just 2.5 weeks out - raw, clear, and utterly without shame. She talks about navigating a gray diagnosis with no guarantees, flying to Virginia for her D&E while visibly pregnant, telling her living children the truth, and what it means to stand behind a decision that the world keeps trying to make complicated. For Katie the decision was clear, this is how she decided to end her wanted pregnancy.Katie received help with funding for travel through The Brigid Alliance: https://brigidalliance.org/MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT:If you are looking for care and love and tools for the shame, guilt, longing & grief after TFMR, you are invited to join us. Our upcoming grief circles are open: small group in Ascend http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply We start in July 2026To meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat and find * your * way through with groups/1on1: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-callFREE FACEBOOK GROUP:Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you.PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. Application only, free membership:http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup‌

If you are questioning whether your story fits in our grief circles, whether your diagnosis was "severe enough," or whether you'll connect with other parents who made this impossible choice, listen in

Shaming comments after TFMR - how to deal & who's shame IS it anyways?? If you've ever seen a cruel comment about TFMR and felt it land somewhere deep... this episode is for you.Sabrina goes there - straight into the shame that gets hurled at TFMR parents by strangers, by religion, by society - and how she refuses to let it stick AND how she helps other termination after devastating diagnosis parents & her clients do the same. She walks you through her three levels of dealing with the shaming comments: from the outer noise of a world that doesn't understand abortion baby loss, to the sneaky, hard-to-name inner feeling of shame itself, to the most sacred level - your direct relationship with your baby.Your baby is not a shame. Your TFMR is not a shame. By the end of this episode, you too will feel why that shame was never yours to carry in the first place.For care and love and tools for the shame, guilt, longing & grief after TFMR, you are invited to join us. Our upcoming grief circles are open: small group in Ascend http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-applyTo meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat and find * your * way through with groups/1on1: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-call...And on ongoing support space, just for TFMR parents:THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY‌If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.‌The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.‌

PJ talks to Alison after hearing from Holly yesterday about the badly needed support they offered her when very little else was available. "The Impossible Choice" book mentioned during the interview is available here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Holly tells PJ about her daughter Hazel and how she and her husband faced a nightmare trip to the UK to save Hazel from agony because politicians don't want to legislate for Termination For Medical Reasons. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you are asking yourself "how do I survive this?" - this episode is for you.Sabrina speaks directly to this question she hears often... from parents facing a devastating prenatal diagnosis, from parents mid-decision, and from parents on the other side of TFMR baby loss looking to make it through. She gives you permission to throw out the "moving on" narrative entirely, and shares her S.E.E.N. framework - the four things she's guided other TFMR parents through to help them carry their grief and keep going.You don't move on from your baby. You move with them. And there IS a way through.To meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat and find * your * way through with groups/1on1: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-call...And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents:THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY‌If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.‌The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.‌

PJ discusses a City Council crackdown on the Paul St food trucks, hears the agony of travelling to the UK because Termination For Medical Reasons is not available here, learns of the overwhelming rejection of the proposed Kinsale Greenway Route. And more... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your TFMR story is sacred - the words you share in grief circles, the journals, the downloads you've trusted with your healing, your baby's story... they MUST be handled with care. If you've been looking for TFMR support that actually protects you, this episode is for you.Sabrina (that's me, The TFMR Doula) takes you behind the scenes on her ongoing process of moving away from big tech - Google, Meta, and the companies whose AI is quietly reading, scraping, and training on everything we put into their clouds - to build something safer for all of us. Safer for you, safer for your baby.This isn't just about encrypted video calls or coded forums (although yes, she built the forum herself from scratch, and yes, that's pretty f-ing cool). It's about what becomes possible when TFMR parents finally feel safe... how your healing actually happens, when humans connect heart to human heart, not filtered through a platform that doesn't care about us at all. This is TFMR grief support the way it was always meant to be - private, sovereign, and completely yours.Some recommendations from the episode so you too can keep your TFMR story safe: Firefox browser, Proton mail, Signal messaging appTo meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat and find your exhale and safety within our groups/1on1: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-call...And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents:THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY‌If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.‌The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.‌

Unfortunately TFMR baby loss, ending a wanted pregnancy, abortion for medical reasons is still very misunderstood. In this episode we talk about how this may be showing up in your relationships, your emotions, and how you communicate about your baby loss.You'll also hear some gentle inspiration for the hardest days from Sabrina, who has also been through TFMR, for hydrops & cystic hygroma, and how she found and facilitates understanding spaces for you. In the hardest most impossible parenting, this is the place for you

If you've asked yourself "am I a monster for choosing this?" this episode is for you.Sabrina speaks directly to the thought that haunts so many TFMR parents... before, during, and long after the procedure is over. She speaks to *why* that "monster" thought creeps in once the medical crisis has passed, why both paths can feel monstrous, and why the fact that you're asking the question at all is proof that you're not one.This is fierce parenting. This is a mama on fire. And you are not a monster.‌JOIN US IN THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY:If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.The **TFMR Support Sanctuary** is a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. Finding ways to live their lives again, TTC again, parent and be in relationships - all while honoring the baby that has died.

Today we are talking with Alexia Leachman and her call to classify tokophobia and MANY other reproductive experiences (like the trauma and anxiety that comes from baby loss) under what she calls “Reproductive Anxiety Disorder.” If your anxiety after TFMR has been brushed off as "yeah a lot of folks feel that" but you KNOW there is more to your story, listen in.Alexia Leachman is the author of Fearless Birthing, founder of Head Trash. The Head Trash book and website and method helped her clear her tokophobia - which is the visceral, unexplainable reaction or fear of pregnancy and birth.Her links for more info:https://tik-tokophobia.com/podcast/https://fearless-birthing.com/white-paper/Tokophobia = extreme fear of birthRAD = Reproductive Anxiety Disorder...And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents:THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY‌If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.‌The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.‌

Ooof, this is an emotional one people. This week we chat to Sian Gardner https://www.instagram.com/flicks_and_red_lips/ We last had her on the podcast back in season 8 (no one can remember the episode number, but it was forty something) In our previous episode, Sian talked about the loss of her baby boy, Chase to a TFMR (termination for medical reasons) Since we recorded, Sian has gone on to experience another TFMR with her daughter Aubrey. In this epsiode, we talk about the strength of the TFMR community, the help that Sian has sought out and received and the pain of losing a second child in this way, alongside the joy she was able to find during her pregnancy and birth with Aubrey. This is a hugely personal and emotional episode, but one that is full of inspiration and beauty. There's support for TFMR out there - here are the resources we cover in this podcast episode.Ellie's Gift - https://www.ellies.gift/ARC - https://www.arc-uk.org/Mental health Midwfie - https://www.instagram.com/mentalhealth_midwife/We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We're all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it's needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

There are certain things about pregnancy loss and grief that people often don't fully understand until they experience it themselves. In this solo episode, Sarah Cox shares an honest conversation about the emotional realities that can follow miscarriage, infertility, stillbirth, TFMR, and pregnancy after loss — and the quiet ways these experiences can change you.From navigating difficult emotions to learning how to carry grief while still finding hope, this episode is for anyone trying to figure out what life after loss looks like.Topics include pregnancy loss, miscarriage, infertility, pregnancy after loss, loss and grief, healing, and finding hope after loss.

In this episode, Aimee sits down with Jonah Platt, actor, musician, and host of The Being Jewish Podcast. Aimee first reflects on the milestone of 200 episodes and  impact of IWSTHAB on the Jewish community, before pivoting to Jonah's personal story. Jonah Platt discusses the complexities of navigating health, faith, and the public eye while trying to grow a family. This conversation is a vulnerable exploration of how chronic health challenges reshape the path to parenthood. Jonah Platt opens up about his upbringing in a musical household and his transition into fatherhood alongside his wife, Courtney, who lives with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). He describes the reality of MS—the extreme fatigue and the medical necessity for Courtney to stop life-altering medications in order to conceive and breastfeed. In discussing the lack of awareness around these specific hurdles, Jonah notes, "I think we don't talk about this story that much because her issue isn't fertility." This challenge led the couple through three distinct reproductive journeys: a natural pregnancy, IVF, and surrogacy. Jonah shares the emotional weight of supporting his partner through a taxing fertility journey and the gift of surrogacy, which allowed Courtney to be fully present for their daughter's birth. Through his story, Jonah highlights the importance of choosing a path that preserves the health of the mother while expanding options for building families. If you are navigating the difficult intersection of chronic illness and family building, this episode offers a compassionate and grounded perspective. You're not alone. More about Jonah Platt: Jonah Platt is one of America's most trusted voices on modern Jewish identity, culture, and current events. He hosts Being Jewish with Jonah Platt—the world's #1 Jewish podcast—exploring Jewish life through conversations with prominent Jews and allies like Jason Alexander, Congressman Ritchie Torres, Bernard-Henry Lèvy, Cindy Crawford, and Sheryl Sandberg. An accomplished entertainer, Jonah has starred in acclaimed projects from Broadway (Wicked) to Hollywood (Being the Ricardos), is co-writing the musical adaptation of The Giver, and producing his first feature film, The Mensch. He was honored with California's inaugural Community Excellence Award for Combating Antisemitism, Holocaust Museum LA's inaugural Roz & Abner Goldstine Advocacy Award, the 2025 American Friends of ELEM LifeSaver Award, and is currently pursuing his Master's in Antisemitism Studies at Gratz College. Connect with Jonah Platt: Website ‍ ‍Email‍  Instagram‍ ‍ Facebook‍ ‍ Threads‍ ‍ TikTok‍ ‍ X ‍ LinkedIn‍ ‍  Listen to the Being Jewish with Jonah Platt: Beingjewishpodcast.com‍  ‍Instagram‍  Facebook‍  TikTok‍ ‍ YouTube‍  ‍LinkedIn   Aimee's Favorite Episodes: 1-Seen and Remembered: Making Space for Everyone This High Holiday Season with Rabbi Yisrael Motzen I kept nodding through this episode with Rabbi Motzen because I agreed with everything he said.  As a rabbi at a large synagogue with many different kinds of family units, he has developed many unique ways to make sure everyone fits in... I loved all of its suggestions and thought they were so applicable to people in the fertility community too.  2- Finding Calm in the Chaos with Dr. Aliza Ancier  Mindfulness is something anyone can use to get through stressful situations, but I had never really given it much thought until this conversation with Aliza. It's amazing how something so simple can really help. 3- Making Mikvah Meaningful with Dr. Naomi Grumet  Mikvah is one of the hardest mitzvos to keep when you're struggling to have a baby.  I hated every single time I went. The suggestions here were personally life-changing and helped me reframe mikvah. 4-  A Decision I Never Imagined: An Anonymous TFMR Story  This was the first episode we did on TFMR, and I remember being so nervous before it came out.  Not because I was worried that we were doing anything wrong by sharing this incredible story, but more because I was concerned about backlash.  And the amazing thing is - TFMR stories are some of the most listened to in our 200 episodes.  Because people don't walk these stories openly, it's a huge gift to offer those dealing with this personally the knowledge that they are not alone.   5- Tokophobia with Yehudit Kosowsky Even as a doctor, I had never heard of tokophobia before, but I have had dozens of people/year message me that they are so grateful this episode exists.   Connect with us: Website‍ ‍ Instagram - send us a message YouTube‍ ‍ Facebook‍ ‍ TikTok‍  ‍LinkedIn‍ ‍

In this episode, Aimee sits down with Clare, a mother of three and reproductive rights advocate to discuss her experience with termination for medical reasons (TFMR). Clare shares how a complex twin pregnancy led to a heartbreaking decision and explains why she feels it is vital to share her story openly. She discusses the complex reality of a reproductive journey that spans over a decade, beginning with a deeply personal choice at seventeen and leading to a heartbreaking diagnosis during a wanted pregnancy years later. After a routine scan revealed severe medical anomalies in the surviving fetus of a twin pregnancy, Clare was thrust into a period of uncertainty. By sharing her journey, Clare challenges the binary view of abortion, placing all reproductive choices on a single spectrum of loss and love. Her story is a powerful reminder that putting a name to these experiences turns abstract ideas into human realities. More about Clare Molnar: Clare Molnar is an advocate for abortion access and destigmatization based in Ferndale, MI. She is a mom to three girls and one Labrador retriever.  Connect with Clare: - Connect on Instagram   Connect with us: -Check out our Website -Follow us on Instagram and send us a message -Watch our TikToks -Follow us on Facebook -Watch us on YouTube -Connect with us on LinkedIn

Your favorite baby loss podcast hosts in the same place? You bet! In this crossover episode, we're joined by Katherine Lazar, host of At a Total Loss podcast, to talk about what it looks like to live with child loss both in the early days and years later.We get into how each of us found our way to podcasting, the role of community when everything falls apart, and the weird, complicated evolution of grief over time. From recording episodes in the depths of despair to… not really doing that anymore, we talk honestly about what's changed, and what hasn't.Katherine lost her son Brody in 2022, and she has turned her grief into advocacy. In addition to At A Total Loss podcast, she is also the founder of LossLink -- a searchable community for real life loss mom friends -- and the author of the Stillbirth Survival Guide --available THIS WEEK on May 7th!:::Follow As Long As I'm Living on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@aslongasimlivingpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, send us an email at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠aslongasimlivingpodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or visit us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠anchor.fm/aslongasimliving⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! We would love to hear from you!:::As Long As I'm Living is a podcast about life, love, and laughter after infant loss. Judith and Alina are rebuilding Happier Ever After one day at a time despite excruciating grief and trauma and offering support to grievers of all flavors, but especially those who have lost a baby to SIDS, infant death, birth accidents, stillbirth, TFMR, ectopic pregnancy, or miscarriage.

Type of loss: TFMR, Life-limiting diagnosisMore about this episode: In this episode of Confessions of a Grieving Mother, we talk with Lucy Livesey, a mother whose love for her daughter continues to ripple across the world.In 2017, Lucy and her family faced the unthinkable—making the heartbreaking decision to terminate their much-wanted daughter, Ellie, after a devastating heart abnormality was discovered. What followed was a birth filled with intention, tenderness, and love. Through hypnobirthing, Lucy created a peaceful and sacred space to welcome Ellie into the world, honoring her life in the most beautiful way she could.Out of that loss, Lucy found purpose.Drawing on her background in mental health nursing and her lived experience, she created Ellie's Gift—the world's first hypnobirthing app designed specifically to support families preparing to birth a baby who has died. What began as a way to honor Ellie's life has grown into a global resource, now used across the UK within NHS trusts and in over 37 countries—offering comfort, guidance, and compassion to grieving families, completely free of charge.Lucy also shares about Ellie's Rainbow, a platform offering support for families navigating pregnancy after loss, and her mindfulness-based grief book that is helping individuals around the world process loss with gentleness and intention.This conversation is a powerful testament to the ways grief and love can coexist—and how one mother's devotion to her daughter is changing the way loss is held and supported for others.Resources mentioned in this episode: https://www.ellies.giftEllie's Gift: A Mindful Approach to Grief and Baby Loss: 8 Week Self-Help Guide 

The “what ifs” after TFMR baby loss can knock you over with their intensity and AMOUNT. After abortion for medical reasons pregnancy loss, you may look back and wish you could have changed the date, the timing, the type of procedure, your habits, your diet - ‘What if' this or that would have made a difference or led to a different outcome?In this episode we talk about where the ‘what ifs' may be showing up, how it feels when these thoughts get loud, and what is under these thoughts. And gentle ways to hold and care for the ‘what ifs.'JOIN US IN THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY:If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.The TFMR Support Sanctuary is now open: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. Finding ways to live their lives again, TTC again, parent and be in relationships - all while honoring the baby that has died.

The “what ifs” after TFMR baby loss can knock you over with their intensity and AMOUNT. After abortion for medical reasons pregnancy loss, you may look back and wish you could have changed the date, the timing, the type of procedure, your habits, your diet - ‘What if' this or that would have made a difference or led to a different outcome?In this episode we talk about where the ‘what ifs' may be showing up, how it feels when these thoughts get loud, and what is under these thoughts. And gentle ways to hold and care for the ‘what ifs.'JOIN US IN THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY:If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.The TFMR Support Sanctuary is now open: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. Finding ways to live their lives again, TTC again, parent and be in relationships - all while honoring the baby that has died.

Sabrina & Kate wrap up part 3 of 3 of "What Your Grief Actually Needs after TFMR" series and share the key 5 ways to work with and hold your grief gently and survive the horror of TFMR baby loss - these are real, doable, repeatable and helpful things you can do today. We practice these skills deeply and TOGETHER in the TFMR Support Sanctuary if you want to join us live. Through May 11th we have an opening price of $45/monthly and you are invited

Sabrina & Kate wrap up part 3 of 3 of "What Your Grief Actually Needs after TFMR" series and share the key 5 ways to work with and hold your grief gently and survive the horror of TFMR baby loss - these are real, doable, repeatable and helpful things you can do today. We practice these skills deeply and TOGETHER in the TFMR Support Sanctuary if you want to join us live. Through May 11th we have an opening price of $45/monthly and you are invited

‌Sabrina (Fletcher) and Kate (Carson) are back, sharing more about what your grief after TFMR *actually* needs. We're going all the way over to what you DON'T need in your grief after abortion baby loss. If these things have NOT felt like a help to you in your grief, you are not alone, and you are not crazy.And tune back in to part 3 of 3 next time to hear how we have helped ourselves and our clients not only survive, but LIVE after TFMR, simple and doable.And in this episode we invite you to check out this space, just for you:THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARYIf you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.The **TFMR Support Sanctuary** is now open: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.

‌Sabrina (Fletcher) and Kate (Carson) are back, sharing more about what your grief after TFMR *actually* needs. We're going all the way over to what you DON'T need in your grief after abortion baby loss. If these things have NOT felt like a help to you in your grief, you are not alone, and you are not crazy.And tune back in to part 3 of 3 next time to hear how we have helped ourselves and our clients not only survive, but LIVE after TFMR, simple and doable.And in this episode we invite you to check out this space, just for you:THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARYIf you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.The **TFMR Support Sanctuary** is now open: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.

‌In Part 1 of 3 of 'What grief after TFMR *actually* needs,' Sabrina Fletcher brings in Kate Carson. These two TFMR grief experts talk about when therapy isn't enough and why you may be feeling this way. We are talking about when therapy models helps and when therapy models falls short (by no fault of the therapist) and when other supplemental grief spaces are needed. This is part 1 of 3 of this series so tune back in over the next few days for more on this topic.IN THIS EPISODE WE ALSO SHARE A SPECIAL INVITATION FOR YOU TO JOIN US IN THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY:If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.The **TFMR Support Sanctuary** is now open: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.

‌JOIN US IN THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY:If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore.The **TFMR Support Sanctuary** is now open: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby.

Last week, we released an episode where Alina talked about surviving Quinn's fifth death anniversary in January. This week, check in with Judith as she just survived Aiden's. 5 years. Wow.xoAlina and Judith:::Follow As Long As I'm Living on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@aslongasimlivingpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, send us an email at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠aslongasimlivingpodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or visit us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠anchor.fm/aslongasimliving⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! We would love to hear from you!:::As Long As I'm Living is a podcast about life, love, and laughter after infant loss. Judith and Alina are rebuilding Happier Ever After one day at a time despite excruciating grief and trauma and offering support to grievers of all flavors, but especially those who have lost a baby to SIDS, infant death, birth accidents, stillbirth, TFMR, ectopic pregnancy, or miscarriage.

In Part 2 of Becky's story, we pick up after her termination for T21 (Down Syndrome, Trisomy 21) and what life has looked like in the two and a half months since.Becky talks about how she found the TFMR community... and how even then, she felt alone in her specific diagnosis. She shares what it was like to post her story in a mommy group and have 11 people private message her saying "me too, but don't tell anyone."Becky talks about what nobody told her about the D&E procedure itself, that it was a two-day process. She talks about grieving loudly while her husband grieved quietly, and the moment she realized he was carrying the pain too, just differently.Becky closes with words for anyone right now in the thick of a Trisomy 21 diagnosis, deciding whether to end their pregnancy: you're going to be able to breathe again. The first breath will feel like a gasp. But somehow, time marches on.Thank you, Becky. Your baby boy was here, real, and so fiercely loved.

In Part 2 of Becky's story, we pick up after her termination for T21 (Down Syndrome, Trisomy 21) and what life has looked like in the two and a half months since.Becky talks about how she found the TFMR community... and how even then, she felt alone in her specific diagnosis. She shares what it was like to post her story in a mommy group and have 11 people private message her saying "me too, but don't tell anyone."Becky talks about what nobody told her about the D&E procedure itself, that it was a two-day process. She talks about grieving loudly while her husband grieved quietly, and the moment she realized he was carrying the pain too, just differently.Becky closes with words for anyone right now in the thick of a Trisomy 21 diagnosis, deciding whether to end their pregnancy: you're going to be able to breathe again. The first breath will feel like a gasp. But somehow, time marches on.Thank you, Becky. Your baby boy was here, real, and so fiercely loved.

TFMR, pregnancy loss, baby loss, and life after loss — why is this type of loss so rarely talked about?In this episode, Dr. Karen Kelly shares her experience of losing her daughter through TFMR (termination for medical reasons) at just over 20 weeks after a devastating diagnosis. Her story includes multiple pregnancy losses and the complex reality of navigating loss and grief after making an impossible decision.Karen opens up about the silence surrounding TFMR, what it feels like to carry this kind of loss, and how grief can evolve over time. She also shares how her experience led her to co-found Through the Heart, a nonprofit that provides comfort and support to families navigating baby loss and pregnancy loss.This conversation explores TFMR, pregnancy loss, loss and grief, and life after loss, and why some of the hardest stories are the ones we talk about the least.If you have experienced TFMR, miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss, or any form of baby loss, this episode offers validation, honesty, and a reminder that your grief matters.

Becky, TFMR mom and mom to one living kid, shares her story of termination for T21. Becky was almost 40 and considering IVF when she found out she was pregnant naturally. She was over the moon to be pregnant. Then came the NIPT call... at work... while she was in front of her classroom. A heartbreaking 93% chance of T21, Trisomy 21.In Part 1 of 2 of Becky's story, you'll hear how she decided to end her pregnancy after a Down's Syndrome diagnosis. Becky needed to feel 100% certain before she could move forward. So she got her placenta biopsied, and when the results came back confirmed, she and her husband considered the two potential pictures of their baby's future - and what it would mean for their whole family. They thought about their ages, their firstborn toddler, finances, divorce statistics, and a world that isn't always kind. Even then, Becky was still going back and forth on her decision when more medical information - a poor pregnancy diagnosis for herself as well - also came into play.Thank you for sharing about your baby boy and his Down Syndrome diagnosis, Becky.

Becky, TFMR mom and mom to one living kid, shares her story of termination for T21. Becky was almost 40 and considering IVF when she found out she was pregnant naturally. She was over the moon to be pregnant. Then came the NIPT call... at work... while she was in front of her classroom. A heartbreaking 93% chance of T21, Trisomy 21.In Part 1 of 2 of Becky's story, you'll hear how she decided to end her pregnancy after a Down's Syndrome diagnosis. Becky needed to feel 100% certain before she could move forward. So she got her placenta biopsied, and when the results came back confirmed, she and her husband considered the two potential pictures of their baby's future - and what it would mean for their whole family. They thought about their ages, their firstborn toddler, finances, divorce statistics, and a world that isn't always kind. Even then, Becky was still going back and forth on her decision when more medical information - a poor pregnancy diagnosis for herself as well - also came into play.Thank you for sharing about your baby boy and his Down Syndrome diagnosis, Becky.

Recorded back in January, immediately after the 5th anniversary of Quinn's death. Tune in next week for thoughts from Judith about Aiden's 5th death anniversary, which just passed in early March.xoAlina and Judith:::Follow As Long As I'm Living on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@aslongasimlivingpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, send us an email at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠aslongasimlivingpodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or visit us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠anchor.fm/aslongasimliving⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! We would love to hear from you!:::As Long As I'm Living is a podcast about life, love, and laughter after infant loss. Judith and Alina are rebuilding Happier Ever After one day at a time despite excruciating grief and trauma and offering support to grievers of all flavors, but especially those who have lost a baby to SIDS, infant death, birth accidents, stillbirth, TFMR, ectopic pregnancy, or miscarriage.

Type of loss: TMFR, Life-limiting diagnosisMore about Elizabeth's story: In this episode, Elizabeth Beadle shares the story of her son, Weston Arthur Beadle.Elizabeth and her husband were overjoyed to learn they were expecting their first baby boy. But at their anatomy scan, they received devastating news — doctors identified concerning markers suggesting Weston may have had a severe genetic condition causing shortened limbs and likely complications incompatible with life.In the face of unimaginable heartbreak, Elizabeth and her husband made the loving and agonizing decision to terminate the pregnancy for medical reasons (TFMR), knowing their son would likely pass before, during, or shortly after birth. At 24 weeks and 3 days, Elizabeth delivered Weston vaginally.In this conversation, Elizabeth shares her experience in her own words — the shock, the decision-making process, the grief, and the enduring love she carries for her son. This episode holds space for the complexity of TFMR, honoring the parents who make impossible choices rooted in profound love.

In Part 1, we talked about feeling "stuck" in TFMR grief and how that feeling comes from using old, outdated ideas - using a broken map. In this episode, I'm showing you what's ACTUALLY in these grief waters.The old grief maps say "here be dragons" - monsters to fight, stages to conquer. But you've actually BEEN to this territory. You know what's really there: manatees (your baby's continuing love, the gentle waves of grief you learn to swim alongside) AND a giant squid (the soul fracture of choosing termination for a wanted baby, the impossible grief that wraps around you in the dark).The problem? Most people refuse to believe the giant squid exists because they haven't lived it, haven't held their dead baby, haven't named a baby and then had to choose their death. You're not stuck. You're not imagining things. You're navigating waters that don't exist on anyone else's map.And that's exactly why you need people who've seen the giant squid too.TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle

In Part 1, we talked about feeling "stuck" in TFMR grief and how that feeling comes from using old, outdated ideas - using a broken map. In this episode, I'm showing you what's ACTUALLY in these grief waters.The old grief maps say "here be dragons" - monsters to fight, stages to conquer. But you've actually BEEN to this territory. You know what's really there: manatees (your baby's continuing love, the gentle waves of grief you learn to swim alongside) AND a giant squid (the soul fracture of choosing termination for a wanted baby, the impossible grief that wraps around you in the dark).The problem? Most people refuse to believe the giant squid exists because they haven't lived it, haven't held their dead baby, haven't named a baby and then had to choose their death. You're not stuck. You're not imagining things. You're navigating waters that don't exist on anyone else's map.And that's exactly why you need people who've seen the giant squid too.TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle

If you've ever felt like your grief is never-ending, if you worry “will this ever end?” if you feel other people think you are ‘stuck' in your grief after baby loss, listen in.I share what that "I feel stuck" feeling may be showing up as after ending a wanted pregnancy. You'll also hear why the *idea* of being “stuck in grief' feels so prevalent. And you'll find relief in looking at “stuckness” in a new light.TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle

If you've ever felt like your grief is never-ending, if you worry “will this ever end?” if you feel other people think you are ‘stuck' in your grief after baby loss, listen in.I share what that "I feel stuck" feeling may be showing up as after ending a wanted pregnancy. You'll also hear why the *idea* of being “stuck in grief' feels so prevalent. And you'll find relief in looking at “stuckness” in a new light.TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle

You know that feeling when someone tells you to "just be grateful for what you have" and it makes you want to scream? When your own family acts like you should be "over it" by now, so you plaster on a smile and pretend you're fine? If you've been feeling so alone after losing your wanted baby, exhausted from putting on a “I'm okay” face, and wondering if you are the problem because positive thinking isn't fixing your shattered heart - listen in

You know that feeling when someone tells you to "just be grateful for what you have" and it makes you want to scream? When your own family acts like you should be "over it" by now, so you plaster on a smile and pretend you're fine? If you've been feeling so alone after losing your wanted baby, exhausted from putting on a “I'm okay” face, and wondering if you are the problem because positive thinking isn't fixing your shattered heart - listen in

Megan Tennis' story & journey continues after her molar pregnancy diagnosis and medical interventions. Part 2 of 2 takes us through the cancer treatments that followed, the grief that regular therapy couldn't touch, and how Megan's own experience of feeling unseen and misunderstood in traditional therapy spaces led her to specialize in pregnancy loss counseling.Megan has created something different: a therapeutic approach specifically for pregnancy loss that actually understands what grieving parents need. She shares what that looks like in this episode and how to help validate your grief after baby loss of all kinds.This episode is for anyone who's tried traditional therapy after pregnancy loss (especially when it is a “unique” or “rare” or “not talked about” kind of loss -like TFMR-) and felt like something was missing. For those wondering if your grief "should" look different by now. For anyone who's thought "my therapist just doesn't understand this type of loss." Megan's story shows how going through it yourself & professional training can come together to create the support that actually helps.CONNECT WITH MEGAN TENNIS:@meganmiscarried on TikTokMegan is also a licensed clinical professional counselor in Illinois: https://www.advancedbhs.com/megan-tennis-lpc/ and she wants to share the link for the helpful non-profit organization Chasing The Rainbows: https://linktr.ee/chasingtherainbowsTFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM STARTING IN FEB. 2026:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle

Megan Tennis' story & journey continues after her molar pregnancy diagnosis and medical interventions. Part 2 of 2 takes us through the cancer treatments that followed, the grief that regular therapy couldn't touch, and how Megan's own experience of feeling unseen and misunderstood in traditional therapy spaces led her to specialize in pregnancy loss counseling.Megan has created something different: a therapeutic approach specifically for pregnancy loss that actually understands what grieving parents need. She shares what that looks like in this episode and how to help validate your grief after baby loss of all kinds.This episode is for anyone who's tried traditional therapy after pregnancy loss (especially when it is a “unique” or “rare” or “not talked about” kind of loss -like TFMR-) and felt like something was missing. For those wondering if your grief "should" look different by now. For anyone who's thought "my therapist just doesn't understand this type of loss." Megan's story shows how going through it yourself & professional training can come together to create the support that actually helps.CONNECT WITH MEGAN TENNIS:@meganmiscarried on TikTokMegan is also a licensed clinical professional counselor in Illinois: https://www.advancedbhs.com/megan-tennis-lpc/ and she wants to share the link for the helpful non-profit organization Chasing The Rainbows: https://linktr.ee/chasingtherainbowsTFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM STARTING IN FEB. 2026:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle

Naga and the doctors are joined by Emma, Lucy, Sarah, Jim and Hayley to talk about terminating a pregnancy for medical reasons (TFMR). That is ending what is often a much-wanted pregnancy due to results from antenatal testing, foetal anomalies or maternal health. If you are affected by issues in this discussion, there is a range of organisations and websites that can offer you advice and support. You can find them listed on the BBC's Actionline website at bbc.co.uk/actionline. First broadcast on BBC 5 Live on 13 January 2026

In this episode of The Worst Girl Gang Ever, Mäela shares her story with honesty, courage, and a depth that stays with you long after the conversation ends. She opens up about experiencing multiple miscarriages, the quiet devastation that so often gets minimised, and the way women are expected to carry on as if nothing happened.Mäela takes us through the moment her pregnancy changed forever, when she received a life-altering diagnosis for her unborn child - complete AVSD - and the impossible reality of making a decision no parent should ever have to face. She speaks candidly about termination for medical reasons, the layers of grief that followed, and the added weight of societal judgement that so often surrounds these experiences.Alongside her personal loss, Mäela reflects on returning to work as a midwife, where holding space for others while tending to her own grief was both deeply challenging and unexpectedly grounding. She also names the impact of systemic racism within maternal healthcare, and how being a woman of colour intensified the barriers she faced - from pregnancy care to accessing mental health support after loss.This episode is a powerful reminder of why these conversations matter. It's about resilience, about being believed and supported, and about the absolute necessity of compassionate, inclusive care. Above all, Mäela's story speaks to the importance of community - of finding people who understand, who don't judge, and who will sit with you in the hardest moments.We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We're all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it's needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

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Cheri Bergeron shares her extraordinary 10-year journey through infertility, IVF, pregnancy loss, TFMR, infant loss, and the fierce resilience it took to finally become a mother at 44 and 47. Her path to motherhood was anything but traditional—marked by donor conception, genetic defects, heartbreaking loss, and a precedent-setting legal battle that challenged outdated “presumed father” laws. Through every setback, Cheri found a way to keep moving forward, redefining what it means to build a family on your own terms.Cheri opens up about what it felt like to not lose hope after learning at five months pregnant that her daughter had a severe case of spina bifida incompatible with life. She discusses the emotional complexity of TFMR, and later, the unimaginable grief of losing her newborn son, who lived for just 19 days due to an undiagnosed genetic condition. Her story honors both of her babies and sheds light on how inaccessible testing can cost families everything.We explore life after loss, how Cheri coped with trauma that spanned nearly every corner of reproductive health, and the resilience required to keep going when motherhood seems out of reach. She offers wisdom on coping with loss, honoring your children, navigating single motherhood by choice, and rebuilding your identity after repeated heartbreak. Her perspective is raw, empowering, and deeply validating for anyone navigating infertility, IVF, or pregnancy loss.Cheri also shares the inspiration behind her book Mission: Motherhood and her nonprofit, Cheri's Choice, which supports women pursuing motherhood on their own terms. With honesty, humor, and incredible strength, she reminds us that finding hope after loss is possible, even when the fairy tale looks nothing like you imagined.If you have experienced infant loss, pregnancy loss, TFMR, infertility, or feel alone on your journey to motherhood, this episode will help you feel seen, understood, and empowered to write your own story.

Today's conversation is one of those rare ones that will stay with you. I'm joined by Dr. Erica Rozmid, a clinical psychologist, researcher, and founder of Clarity CBT & DBT Center and TFMR Psychologist — where she supports parents who have faced the unimaginable: a termination for medical reasons. Not only does she support them, but has built an ecosystem of providers with this specialty, filling a gap that didn't exist before. In this episode, Dr. Rozmid opens up about her own story of loss, and how she turned her pain into purpose. We talk about radical acceptance, the DIVE method, the complexities of grief and what it means to build a meaningful life — even when it looks nothing like the one you imagined. Dr. Rozmid shares evidence-based tools from Dialectical Behavior Therapy, how to regulate the nervous system after trauma, how she helps the decision making process, and the surprising ways we can find clarity, connection, and hope through grief. Whether you're healing from loss, supporting someone who is, or just navigating a hard season — this episode is a reminder that pain and peace can coexist, and that living well often starts with accepting what is. This episode discusses pregnancy loss, termination for medical reasons (TFMR), and grief. Please listen with care and reach out for support if you need it. If you or someone you know is struggling, you can reach out to Postpartum Support International or text “HELLO” to 988 for mental health support in the U.S. Visit Erica's website Follow Erica on Instagram Connect with me on Instagram  ShopMy - What I'm Loving Lately