Honest Women

We're taking on one of the toughest questions for new moms: how do I sleep without my partner becoming resentful? Let's talk about it...WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!!Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunityAnd if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.comFollow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea on IG: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer:Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Andrea and Jessica have a conversation about the importance of sleep for women. They debunk bad sleep advice and share tips for how to prioritize getting the rest we need.Would you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica?Work with Andrea: https://www.andreaburkly.com/Work with Jessica: https://www.jlhutchison.com/Connect with Us:Join the HONEST WOMEN PODCAST CommunityFollow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We're taking some time to soak up the summer sun, indulge in barbecue, and spend quality time with our families. But we didn't want to leave you without your dose of Honest Women wisdom. So, we're re-releasing one of our favorite episodes: The Difference Between Independence and Interdependence. Even if you heard it last year, it's worth another listen. Trust us, it's like a good fireworks show—you can never see it too many times!Hands up if you have ever heard the term INDEPENDENCE used as a marker of success and strength. Time and time again, we have women coming into our offices, prideful about being an “independent woman.” Is the quest for independence holding us back? Join us as we redefine what it means to be a strong, successful woman in today's world by debunking the myth of independence.Throughout this episode, we discuss how the pursuit of independence can lead to feelings of shame and guilt when we can't do everything on our own. We shed light on the importance of dependence and connection, and how they can actually lay the foundation for true independence. We also share personal stories about how relying on others has empowered us to take risks and make significant changes in our own lives.Finally, we dive into the concept of interdependence as an alternative to our current idea of independence. We explore how our personal histories may have instilled a fear of dependence, and how we can challenge this fear to embrace a more balanced, interdependent way of living. So, take a moment to explore your own definition of independence and consider if interdependence might be a better fit for you. Don't miss this thought-provoking conversation that could change the way you view your relationships and personal growth.Would you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica?Work with Andrea: https://www.andreaburkly.com/Work with Jessica: https://www.jlhutchison.com/Connect with Us:Join the HONEST WOMEN PODCAST CommunityFollow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join Andrea and Jess for HOT TAKE THURSDAY, where we answer listener questions in a completely unedited and unfiltered way. We may not be right, but we have an opinion!WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!!Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunityAnd if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.comFollow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea on IG: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer:Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

An overwhelming amount of our listeners have asked about one topic. Friendship. Today, we have an honest conversation about the challenges of making new friends and nurturing the friendships we do have.Takeaways from the Episode:Making and maintaining friendships can be challenging in the modern world due to more factors than you would think.Individualism and the pressure to find a perfect fit friend can hinder the formation of new friendships.The workplace and technology have changed the dynamics of friendships, making it harder (if not impossible) to connect on a deeper level.Navigating the complexities of adult friendships requires managing drama, differing parenting styles, finding common ground....know wonder we are tired!Building new friendships as adults takes time and effort, with around 200 hours needed to develop a strong bond....WHOA! Let's all stop criticizing and judging each other, instead maybe we could work to support and uplift one another; who's with us?!Would you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica?Work with Andrea: https://www.andreaburkly.com/Work with Jessica: https://www.jlhutchison.com/Connect with Us:Join the HONEST WOMEN PODCAST CommunityFollow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dear Honest Women: Everything about my life has changed since having a baby, but it seems like nothing has changed for my husband - he's back to work (and golf!) after a few short weeks. How can I tell him he needs to step up and be a better dad?Join Andrea and Jess for HOT TAKE THURSDAY, where we answer listener questions in a completely unedited and unfiltered way. We may not be right, but we have an opinion!Want alllll of our opinions on the role that dads play? Check out this episode:The Secret to Successful Fatherhood: Insights from Honest Women (June 18, 2024)Would you like coaching from Andrea Burkly or Jessica Hutchison?Work with Andrea, specializing in postpartum and couples work: https://www.andreaburkly.com/Work with Jessica, specializing in sudden & traumatic loss, grief, and couples work: https://www.jlhutchison.com/WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!!Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunityAnd if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.comFollow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea on IG: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer:Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After more than a year, the Honest Women are turning the focus on DADS (it's about damn time!). And while they are not actually featured on today's show, the Honest Men were interviewed for this episode... and they have a lot to say on the changing roles that Dads play over the course of their lives.(Want us to actually feature our husbands on the show?? Let us know by leaving us a 5 star rating and a review that says "Bring on the Honest Men!")Join us as we get honest about: how the expectations placed on dads have never been higherhow the roles that dads play change over timehow to be a successful dad during pregnancy and early postpartumhow to be a successful dad as your kids get olderhow vital open conversation about roles and expectations are to the health of your marriage during the parenting yearsthe unique ways that fathers impact their children's self-esteem and successthe ways that women can open the door to their husbands to have a deeper conversation about fatherhoodPlus, Jessica surprises her husband with another 6 a.m. questioning sesh; Andrea starts a campaign to get the Honest Men to actually come on the show; and we break down basically every marriage problem you will ever have in a 1-minute overview of the EFT cycle. Don't say we never did nothing for ya!Like this episode? Check out this one: START HERE if You Want to Talk About Money in Marriage (Without Fighting!) (April 16, 2024) - because you need to hear the last time Jessica woke her husband up at 6:00 am to get some insight for the pod!Would you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica?Work with Andrea: https://www.andreaburkly.com/Work with Jessica: https://www.jlhutchison.com/Connect with Us:Join the HONEST WOMEN PODCAST CommunityFollow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"How do we handle the differences between ourselves and other families who are either more permissive with tech or more conservative with kids having real-world freedom?"Join Andrea and Jess for HOT TAKE THURSDAY, where we answer this listener's question in a completely unedited and unfiltered way. We may not be right, but we have an opinion!WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!!Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunityAnd if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.comFollow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea on IG: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer:Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jonathan Haidt (height), author of The Anxious Generation has quite literally been EVERYWHERE. As mental health professionals, we are cheering loudly from the sidelines; however as mothers, we have struggled to identify where we begin. Today we have an honest conversation about what we are doing with all of this information to ensure a happy, safe and healthy summer for ourselves and our children. Listen to Learn More About:The Youth Mental Health Crisis...There is more to it than you think!Factors Leading to the crisis dating back to the 1990s, think missing children on milk cartons and 24-hour news cycles telling us to fear anything and everything.Jonathan Haidt's proposed solutions, including honest conversation about if these are doable, and how we plan to implement them.Personal reflections and challenges faced by Andrea and Jessica.Helpful Links and Resources:The Anxious Generation: For ParentsLet Grow ProgramThe Anxious Generation ResearchWould you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica?Work with Andrea: https://www.andreaburkly.com/Work with Jessica: https://www.jlhutchison.com/Connect with Us:Join the HONEST WOMEN PODCAST CommunityFollow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Every time I share my view on a 'hot topic,' like what schools are teaching about gender and sexuality, I immediately get shut down and called names. HELP!"Join Andrea and Jessica for HOT TAKE THURSDAY, where we answer listener questions in a completely unedited and unfiltered way. We may not be right, but we have an opinion!Want a deeper dive conversation on this pervasive feeling that the end of the world - or at least the end of humanity and civility - is coming? Check out:Apocalypse Now? How to Stay Sane When Everything Feels UncertainWE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!! Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! Join here: Honest Women Podcast CommunityAnd if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.comFollow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea on IG: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comWould you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica?Work with Andrea: https://www.andreaburkly.com/Work with Jessica: https://www.jlhutchison.com/Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Humans have worried about the end of the world since… probably the beginning of the world. But lately? It seems like people are worried more than ever. Today, we get honest about the existential anxiety that is plaguing our daily lives. Whether you think that humanity is going to hell in a hand basket, you fear that the world is literally going down in flames, or you wonder why everyone around you is so keyed up, this honest conversation is for you. Listen as we get honest about:How a sense of doom - about the end of the world, or the trajectory of humanity - is part of the zeitgeist of the last few yearsHow the fear of the end of the world is fueled by a sense of powerlessness and the constant exposure to micro stressorsThe fact that this is not our first rodeo! "There have been numerous predictions about the end of the world, but none have proven true." (LOL)How fear is a normal human response to uncertainty... and fear makes it hard to have rational thoughtsHow focusing on what you can control, taking actions that align with your values, engaging with other humans in real life, and being intentional with your time will help you regain a sense of security and peace, no matter the stress in the worldPlus, Jessica simply cannot stop singing; Andrea blames Earth Day for her existential dread; and the fact that we recorded this episode a few weeks ago becomes abundantly clear because we are currently SWARMED by cicadas. #cicadapocalypseWould you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica?Work with Andrea: https://www.andreaburkly.com/Work with Jessica: https://www.jlhutchison.com/Connect with Us:Join the HONEST WOMEN PODCAST CommunityFollow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We hear it everyday in our offices: after a client shares the things they are struggling with, they inevitably say "But so many other people have it worse than I do... I should just suck it up and be more grateful." Today we get honest about the fact that this is NOT true! You can have the house and the partner and the kids and the van... and the things that are hard in your life STILL count.We hope you enjoy listening to this OG episode of Honest Women - it's literally the first one we ever recorded, and it's still one of our favorites!If you liked this, you might also like this oldie but goodie, especially as we head into the summer: Facing Our Body Insecurities (During Swimsuit Season!): How the Pressure to Look a Certain Way, Effortlessly, Impacts Us All (May 31, 2023)Would you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica?Work with Andrea, offering individual and couples coaching specializing in pregnancy, postpartum, and the transition to parenthood: https://www.andreaburkly.com/Work with Jessica, offering individual and couples coaching specializing in grief and sudden and traumatic loss: https://www.jlhutchison.com/Connect with Us:Join the HONEST WOMEN PODCAST CommunityFollow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcastFollow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpcFollow Andrea: @andreaburklyLearn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.comHonest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Summer is here! Which means sunny, stress-free, lazy days for kids and… pretty much the exact opposite for Moms. Today Andrea and Jessica get honest about what summer is REALLY like for the women who are in charge of making it memorable.    Listen in as we discuss: Dealing with the frantic pace of May when we have no energy to care about it The mental load of planning for summer and how we (both!) already failed at planning The anxiety caused by dealing with constant schedule changes Why we reject summer bucket lists Specific challenges for working and stay-at-home moms And why moms should be recognized as the heroes of summer We hope you enjoy listening to this OG episode - it's one of our favorites! And let us know if you'd like us to host a new kind of summer camp for those of us who failed to make the summer signup deadline... rosé, sprinklers, and disappointment... of course we didn't actually meet the deadline for planning this this year. But maybe next year? 2025 goals? If you liked this, you might also like this oldie but goodie: Redefining Happily Ever After: The Realities of Marriage an How Early Messages Alter Expectations (June 14, 2023) Would you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica? Work with Andrea, offering individual and couples coaching specializing in pregnancy, postpartum, and the transition to parenthood: https://www.andreaburkly.com/ Work with Jessica, offering individual and couples coaching specializing in grief and sudden and traumatic loss: https://www.jlhutchison.com/ Connect with Us: Join the HONEST WOMEN PODCAST Community Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can I find a good therapist for either myself or my children? How can I ensure their values align with my family's values? Help! Join Andrea and Jess for HOT TAKE THURSDAY, where we answer listener questions in a completely unedited and unfiltered way. We may not be right, but we have an opinion! If you haven't listened to Tuesday's episode, we have it right here for you. No excuses; listen now! Therapy vs. Coaching Would you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica? Work with Andrea: https://www.andreaburkly.com/ Work with Jessica: https://www.jlhutchison.com/ We want to connect with you!! Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP!  Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A question that frequently comes up in our offices is: What the heck is the difference between traditional therapy and coaching? Today, we discuss the differences between therapy and coaching, how our opinions have changed, and last but not least, an exciting announcement from your favorite Honest Women. Listen to learn more about: Educational Requirements and Licensure: Differences between the stringent regulations for therapists and the lack of regulations for coaches. Code of Ethics: Importance of the ethical standards therapists must adhere to, which coaches do not necessarily follow. Therapists vs. Coaches: Explanation that therapists can also act as coaches, but coaches cannot serve as therapists. Appropriate Issues for Therapy: Suitable for addressing diagnosable mental health conditions. Appropriate Issues for Coaching: Focus on personal development and skill-building. Personal Opinions and Experiences: Jessica and Andrea share their insights and experiences with therapy and coaching. Frustration with the Coaching Industry: Discussion on the lack of regulation and misleading claims by some coaches. Limitations of Traditional Psychotherapy: Need for a more flexible and proactive approach in therapy. Therapeutic Alliance: It is important to find a therapist or coach who understands and connects with you. Future Plans: Announcement of upcoming coaching services and training programs offered by Jessica and Andrea. Would you like coaching from Andrea or Jessica? Work with Andrea: https://www.andreaburkly.com/ Work with Jessica: https://www.jlhutchison.com/ Connect with Us: Join the HONEST WOMEN PODCAST Community Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parents may not fully understand the struggles of millennial life, and it can be exhausting to try to explain it to them! Listen in as we answer a listener question from a mom struggling to be understood by her Boomer parents. Haven't listened to Tuesday's episode? Click here to tune in! WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!! Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP!  Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that the United States is no longer one of the top 20 happiest countries. So, what's the deal? In today's episode we have honest conversation, one generation at a time, as we work to identify the reasons for this decline. Continue the conversation in our FACEBOOK GROUP! Join the HONEST WOMEN PODCAST COMMUNITY. Listen to Learn more about: The United States has slipped out of the top 20 happiest countries list, raising questions about what's dampening the national mood. Boomers seem to be in a golden age, while millennials and Gen Z are facing more challenges and feeling less content. Changes in society, advancements in technology, and a lack of understanding between generations are all contributing to this happiness gap. Boomers had the advantage of growing up in a time of economic prosperity and stability, which influenced their outlook on life. Younger generations are dealing with different issues like financial instability and the overwhelming presence of technology in their lives. To improve happiness levels, it's crucial to build empathy and understanding between the generations. Recognizing each other's experiences and challenges can go a long way in bridging the gap. Each generation has its own set of unique challenges and experiences that shape their worldview and behavior. Economic factors such as student loan debt and high housing prices have had a major impact on the happiness and well-being of Millennials and Gen Z. The rise of the internet and social media has changed the way younger generations connect with each other and experience loneliness. It's important to create spaces both online and offline where people can authentically connect and understand each other, helping to address generational differences and build a happier society. Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our listeners asked: I always wanted to be a Stay at Home Mom, but now that I'm doing it, I hate it... The only thing I want for Mother's Day is a break from my husband and kids... Am I a bad mom?? Join Andrea and Jess for HOT TAKE THURSDAY, where we answer listener questions in a completely unedited and unfiltered way. We may not be right, but we have an opinion! Want a deeper dive conversation on the topic of feeling like a Bad Mom? We've got you covered:: 56. Good Enough is the New Perfect: Why Being a "Bad Mom" Doesn't Make You a Failure (May 7, 2024) You might also like: 2. Your Hard is Hard! Dealing with the Responsibility and Stress of Life (May 3, 2023) - one of our OG episodes! 4. What Honest Women REALLY Want for Mother's Day (May 10, 2023) WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!! Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP!  Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You might make a self-deprecating joke about riding the hot mess express, or saving for your kids' future therapy, but the truth is? Behind the closed doors of the therapy room, so many women share that they fear they are a "bad mom," and there's nothing funny about it. Listen as we get honest about : the fact that nearly every mom sometimes feels like a "bad mom" and fears that she is failing at motherhood. how apps like BabyCenter, and internet mom groups, created a generation of "responsibilized" moms how parenting information has separated moms from their intuition the unrealistic, unconscious expectations that many of us have for ourselves or our children how early motherhood experiences, including postpartum depression and anxiety, can contribute to the feeling of being a "bad mom" Winnicott's "Good Enough Mother" (aka the one time psychology DIDN'T blame moms for absolutely everything) why it is important to challenge the idea of being a bad mom and practice self-compassion. This is SO MUCH EASIER to do in community, so we'll be continuing the conversation in the facebook group, and we'd love you to meet us there! Plus, Andrea sings the praises of a beloved pre-k teacher; Jessica reacts - strongly - to the idea of the "good enough" mother; and Andrea and Jessica discover that they were both bloggers in the early internet days (who knew?). As we head towards Mother's Day, we want YOU, our beloved listener who is also a mother, to know this: You are exactly the mom that your children need. So make all of the "bad mom" jokes that you want, but remember - you are more than good enough, just the way you are. Happy Mother's Day! Like this episode? Check these out: 44. Isn't this Supposed to be Fun? (February 27, 2024) - in case you don't enjoy the daily grind of motherhood, and that makes you feel like a bad mom (spoiler alert - you're not!) 37. Exploring Mommy Wine Culture During Dry January (January 9, 2024) - talk about societal pressures! Also, I think we should all take a moment to reflect on the fact that 20% of women in the US in the 1950s were being prescribed valium up to 4x a DAY to deal with their daily difficulties, so... you're probably doing fine. 22. So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - in case losing your shit makes you feel like you're a bad mom... at least you're in good company! This is never not going to be one of our favorite episodes. WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!! Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP!  Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I'm in a situation where my husband basically is dismissive or rejecting to me every time that I try to start a conversation with him, or I try to come close to him. But then, when he tries to come close to me, he gets really offended that I'm not engaged with him. I'm instantly getting my bids rejected or dismissed, but then my partner expects me to be responsive to him. What the heck am I supposed to do?" Join Andrea and Jess for HOT TAKE THURSDAY, where we answer this listener's question in a completely unedited and unfiltered way. We may not be right, but we have an opinion! WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!! Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP!  Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if we told you there is one thing you could start doing today, that could divorce proof your marriage? Does it sound too good to be true? Today we have honest conversation about our attempts to connect with our partner and how one small move can increase or decrease the likelihood of divorce. Listen to hear more about: Bids for connection are important in maintaining a healthy relationship Responding to bids by turning towards each other increases the likelihood of a successful relationship Ignoring or rejecting bids can lead to relationship dissatisfaction and potential divorce Couples should make an effort to be aware of and respond positively to each other's bids for connection. Bids for connection in relationships can be indirect and easily missed or misinterpreted. Bids change throughout a marriage, particularly after having children. Recognizing and valuing bids for connection is crucial for maintaining a strong relationship. Challenging the stories we tell ourselves about our partner's bids can lead to better understanding and connection. Being more direct in our communication can help ensure that bids are received and responded to. Making nonverbal bids, such as affectionate touch, can also contribute to a positive relationship dynamic. Soundbites from your favorite Honest Women: "Bids for connection are any attempt from one partner to another for attention, affirmation, affection, or any positive connection." "There are three ways to respond to a bid: turning towards, turning away, or turning against." "Couples that stayed married turned towards each other 86% of the time, while couples that divorced averaged only 33% of the time." "I embraced it so much more because I now looked at some of the silly things that my husband will do as a bid for connection." "There was less time invested in it. It was less risky at that point, meaning there probably wasn't a long history of feeling rejected." "A lot of his bids are the same as they've always been. But I respond to him a lot differently." Like this episode? Try these! Transform your Marriage Today: 10 Tips to Transform your Marriage Three Universal Reasons Why Being Married is Hard Redefining Happily Ever After Connect with Us: WE WANT TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS!! If you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My fiance and I are getting married in a few months, and we've figured out pretty much everything, except for this: he thinks we should keep our money separated, but I think we should combine it... What should we do? Join Andrea and Jess for the first ever HOT TAKE THURSDAY, where we answer listener questions in a completely unedited and unfiltered way. We may not be right, but we have an opinion! Want a deeper dive conversation on the topic of money and marriage? We've got you covered with not one, but TWO episodes: 51. START HERE if you Want to Talk About Money in Marriage (Without Fighting!) (April 16, 2024) 52. Beyond the Budget - The Secret to Having Better Money Conversations With Your Spouse (April 23, 2024) WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!! Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the first time EVER in Honest Women History, we have a topic SO juicy and SO loaded we had to break it into two episodes! This is the second of two episodes all about how to handle money better in your marriage, so go back to last week's episode if you haven't heard it yet (we'll wait!). Today we get honest about: The four money scripts: money avoidance, money worship, money status, and money vigilance. The importance of understanding and aligning spending behaviors with personal values. Financial infidelity. How differences in spending habits can lead to misunderstandings and resentment between partners. How open and regular communication about finances is crucial for a healthy relationship. How understanding each other's upbringing and attitudes towards money can help create empathy and connection. How addressing fears and defining financial security can lead to a better understanding of each other's financial goals and priorities. How having a budget and reviewing it regularly can help couples stay on top of their finances and avoid unnecessary stress. Plus, Andrea and Jessica are WAY more chill about the money topic than last week (see??? Having an honest conversation does wonders for money stress!); Andrea makes a big announcement; and Jess makes a VERY ambiguous sound effect. Did somebody say motor boating?? Like this episode? Check out these: 49. This One Skill Can Make or Break Your Relationships (April 2, 2024) - in which we discuss how to really apologize... just in case. 24. How to be a Better Communicator (October 4, 2023) - because learning to communicate better can only serve you well when you have to talk about tricky topics like money. Connect with Us: WE WANT TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS!! If you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are we the only ones who love having money, but absolutely HATE talking about it with our partners? Like, sweaty palms, fight or flight, fears of domestic-World-War-3 hate it? We didn't think so! That's why we're getting honest about how money conversations in our marriages are about SO MUCH MORE than dollars and cents. Join us as we discuss: A few reasons we're all so freaking weird about talking about money. Why money conversations can be stressful and challenging in relationships. Why it's totally common to avoid conversations about money. How money disagreements can lead a couple to divorce. How childhood experiences and societal messages shape our relationship with (and thus our behaviors around) money. Why understanding our own money history is critically important for better money conversations. How having open and curious conversations with our partners can lead to real connection - even when the money conversation is over. And a nudge for you, dear listener, to continue the dialogue and seek real connection through honest conversations about money in your own home... cause you deserve to feel less stressed and more connected in your marriage! Even something as simple and open-ended as "What money lessons did you learn growing up?" could start a conversation that gives insight and leads to connection. Plus, Jess and Andrea reveal how money is currently being handled in their own houses (spoiler alert: one of us is actively involved and one of us currently has the money involvement of a 1950's housewife... can you guess who is who?); Jess shares some wisdom from the 90's about money (Mo Money Mo Problems); and Andrea reveals that not even earning a CPA can release you from the deeper meaning that money takes in your life, if you haven't done the work of reflection and conversation. Like this episode? Check out these: 23. Unpacking Childhood Labels (September 27, 2023) - another episode that helps you understand the impact your early life has on you today. Get ready for some insight! 27. Hobbies! They're Not Just for Husbands Anymore! (October 25, 2023) - because, when it comes to conflict in marriage, the way we use our time is second only to the way that we use our money. Connect with Us: WE WANT TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS!! If you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG: @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica on IG: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea on IG: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're shining a light on a topic that's more urgent than ever: the impact of social media on our youth. Many of us are unaware of the dangers lurking online, and as mothers, we're constantly trying to navigate this digital landscape with our kids. In today's episode, we get honest about the challenges we face and the strategies we're employing to protect our children. Every parent needs to hear this episode! Listen to learn more about: Why the Surgeon General of the United States is calling youth mental health "The defining public health issue of our time." Recent reports and decade-long research that is calling attention to the growing concerns about the effects of social media use on children and adolescent's mental health. The history of social media: Then vs. Now. What we as parents need to consider when it comes to putting smartphones in our children's hands. And more alarming stats that might make you rethink everything! Read the book referenced in this episode, written by Jean M Twenge, PhD Generations: The Real Differences Between Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X, Boomers, and Silents. Resources (in the event you want to dive deeper!): Social Media and Youth Mental Health (The U.S. Surgeon General's Advisory) The History of Social Media NBC News: Social Media is Driving Teen Mental Health Crisis American Psychological Association: Health Advisory on Social Media Use in Adolescence Teens, Social Media and Technology 2022 (Pew Research Center) Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If we had to pick one skill that is vital to the health and longevity of our relationships - with spouses, kids, friends, and the world at large - it would be apologizing well. But, if we're being honest? Many of us really suck at doing this when it counts! Today, we dive into the art of saying “I'm sorry,” - why it's so dang hard to do, how to do it well, and even when and if we should accept an apology. Listen to learn more about: How we learned to apologize How our relationship history with someone can make it impossible to apologize to them How shame and guilt show up in apologies Why saying "I'm sorry" can feel - and be - so vulnerable The most common kinds of bad apologies How to apologize like a pro Why you truly have to feel remorse to deliver a good apology Plus, Jess shares a truly painful story of a good apology gone bad; Andrea reveals a pet peeve; and we discuss how we got REALLLL tan for you guys cause WE'RE ON YOUTUBE THIS WEEK! Where on Youtube, you ask? https://www.youtube.com/@HonestWomenPodcast Like this episode? Check out these: Reframing Regret: How this Difficult Emotion Can Help You Grow (December 19, 2023) - regret can point us to places we need to apologize... plus, this episode can help you differentiate between guilt and shame. How to be a Better Communicator (October 4, 2023) - in case you were feeling low-key passive aggressive when you went to send this episode to a frenemy (still send it... just be straight up assertive about it!) 41. The Complicated Relationship Between Mothers & Daughters (February 6, 2024) - did that example of the "apology" that turned into emotional caretaking hit a little too close to home? I'm just going to leave this right here, then. Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly DID WE MENTION WE'RE ON YOUTUBE? https://www.youtube.com/@HonestWomenPodcast Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're celebrating a special occasion – our birthdays! As women, we have been repeatedly told (and led to believe!) that aging is a bad thing. But is that accurate? As we blow out the candles, we thought it would be the perfect time to reflect on our experiences, lessons learned, and growth over the years. So grab a slice of cake, settle in, and join us for a heartfelt and honest conversation about the journey from our younger selves to the women we are today. Listen to hear more about: Health: How our relationship with our bodies has changed over the years, including what we have learned about our health as women. Relationships: How our expectations have changed within our own marriages. Career and Passions: How they have evolved as we have gotten older, including significant milestones and achievements (and failures!) that happened along the way. Our Personal Growth: How we have changed since our 20s and 30s, including experiences that shaped us, and how they impact us today. Plus. Andrea shares how she took her relationship with Jessica to a new level, and Jessica shares one of her many dating horror stories from her early 20s! Like this episode? Check out these: (March 12, 2024) - Invisible Labor and the Weight of the Mental Load (November 28, 2023) - Redefining Happily Ever After Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From the time we were little girls, we've been given a list of things to do and not to do in order to stay safe. But what are you supposed to do when you are attacked out of the blue? Today we get honest about a recent scary situation that Andrea found herself in and work through the loaded question - what would you do? Listen as we dive into: Our cultural obsession with true crime Why you might want to post about a scary situation online If publicly shaming people for their bad behavior is a good idea What fight / flight / freeze really feel like Why "What would YOU have done?" is a terrible question What you will likely feel in the aftermath of being threatened What you SHOULD say to someone who has been attacked Plus, Andrea is activated the whollleeeeee episode; Jess is emotionally - though not literally - rendered speechless; and Andrea and Jess reminisce about the good olde days of carrying keys between their fingers, just in case you need to fight off an attacker (what the hell are we going to do now with our fobs?). And we swear... we swear a lot. You have been warned. Like this episode? Check out these: 45. You've Got Friendship Questions? We've Got Answers (March 5, 2024) - another episode where we share our hot takes on real-life scenarios submitted by our listeners! The Ripple Effect of Loss: How Tragedy Touches Us All (January 30, 2024) - thank goodness this incident didn't end in tragedy, but... we hear about tragic things that happen to women every day, and those can have a big impact on us. This episode will help you understand why. When Your Partner is Struggling with Addiction or Mental Health (November 7, 2023) - if this story felt too close to home... because you have a partner who behaves this way as they are struggling with addiction or mental health... this episode is for you. Want to share your story with us? Have a scenario you want us to work through on a future episode? Email us!! hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcastb Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Nobody understands everything I do around here!" Does this statement sound familiar?  The invisible work, often going on inside our heads, is unrelenting and never-ending. Today, we get honest about the mental load and explore where it came from and how in the heck we got here. Listen to learn more about: What the mental load (also called "invisible labor") is. What falls into the category of mental load. How and perhaps why, the mental load seems to fall more on women than men. The role of over and under functioner within our marriages, and how this contributes to the mental load.  Assigning tasks vs. responsibilities. How to create a "minimum standard of care" through taking ownership AND collaboration with your partner. Jessica talks about a seemingly random pet peeve that she has, and Andrea talks about having to repair it with her children after a heavy mental load-baring day. Like this episode? Check out these: Episode 41: The Complicated Relationship between Mothers and Daughters (February 6, 2024) Want to do a deeper dive into Mental Load? Click here to learn more about Eve and Fair Play. Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

But first... GIVEAWAY: Want free coffee from your friends Andrea & Jessica?? Take a screenshot of this episode, post it on Instagram, and tag us @honestwomenpodcast, and you'll be entered to win! Winner will be drawn and notified on Monday, March 11, 2024. When we think about friendship, we often imagine a relationship that is easy, positive, and lasts through the seasons of life without interruption. But in our experience, friendship is just not that simple. Today we give our honest opinions on some of the most common challenges in friendship, including how to handle big transitions, slow fades, and even bitter, bitter ends. Listen as we discuss: Why friendship gets so little billing compared to romantic relationships The reason that friendships can fall to the wayside after college The high expectations we have for our friendships Listener question: I don't want our friendship to change when my friend has a baby! Listener question: How do I slow fade a friendship when I see this person all the time? Listener question: How can I grieve the loss of a long-term friendship? Plus, Andrea reveals that one of these questions IS HER OWN QUESTION; Jessica fights off a spring cold (thank God it's not a man-cold!); and we both admit to being avid listeners of our own podcast (Honest Women! It's so good, even we listen to it!) Like this episode? Check out these: When Your Partner Is Struggling with Addiction or Mental Health (November 7, 2023) - the first time we answered a listener question! Rethinking the 'Girl Squad' (September 6, 2023) - for obvious reasons... Is a 50-50 Split of Domestic Labor Realistic? (July 5, 2023) - because friendships are the only relationships we expect to be 50-50 We LOVE answering your questions! Keep 'em coming to: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com or DM us on instagram! Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Society has this sneaky way of making us believe that we should actually be relishing every moment of the daily grind. Well, spoiler alert: that's not always the case. Today, we have an honest conversation about the myth of "loving every minute" and explore why it's okay not to be head over heels for the daily grind.   Listen to learn more about: Cultural norms that led us to believe that the daily SHOULD be fun. The crushing feeling of never feeling DONE with that to-do list. The double binds that keep us stuck. Guilt associated with questioning the daily grind and our relationship to it. How the daily grind can lead to feelings of depression or actual depression. Like this episode? Check out these: May 3, 2023: Your Hard is Hard Dealing with the Responsibility and Stress of Life May 3, 2023: Honey, I lost my village! Feeling Lonely in a Connected World September 20, 2023: So You Lost Your Shit... January 23, 2024: Is it Time to Break Up with Your Phone Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raising a child is challenging, no matter their gender... but raising boys just hits different than raising girls! Today, we get honest about all things #boymom: the cultural narratives around raising as on, our own hopes and fears for our sons, and how the relationship we have with our sons is different than the one we have with our daughters. Listen to learn more about: the cultural norm of the "wild boy" a possible origin story for the #boymom trend how we both felt about having sons how we identify - as boy moms or girl moms the cultural narrative about the relationship between boys & their moms how we REALLY feel about becoming THE mother-in-law our fears and hopes for our own boys how our goals for our sons impact how we parent them today Plus, Andrea cringes at her own (former) traditionalist stance on why she wanted a boy first; Jessica seems unsure about how many children Andrea has; and we both wade deep into how our relationships with our sons are shaped by our relationships with the other women that will be in their lives. Like this episode? Check out these: 41. The Complicated Relationship Between Mothers & Daughters (February 6, 2024) - it's practically required listening after this one! Feel Like You Can't Get it Right? Here's Why (August 30, 2023) - this episode, and the one on mothers & daughters, are FULL of binds. If you want to hear more of the binds that we're in as women, this is your episode! Connect with Us: Have something you want us to talk about on the show? Or want to tell us what you think about it? Have a good recipe or meme you want to share? EMAIL US! hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As couples therapists, we've seen it all, and we know that love doesn't come with a manual. But hey, where's the fun in that, right? So today, we're sharing some lighthearted (slightly questionable) marriage tips peppered with a healthy dose of humor and a dash of honesty. Plus, we're throwing in some insights from our own experiences as wives because, let's be real, sometimes life teaches you more about love than any textbook ever could.  Listen to learn about Andrea and Jessica's top tips: Stop attacking; stop defending. Go to bed angry, yep, we said it! Rewrite date night. Be ok with them NEVER liking to do the dishes. Acknowledge one another in passing. Give what you want. ASK for what you want; don't just assume. Increase non-sexual touching...like, a lot! Repair quickly. Try not to fall out of love at the same time. Yes, we know the irony here. The two of us giving tips when we are entirely against dishing out tips! We promise you this is not one of those episodes. Marriage is hard! In fact, we even did a couple episodes on the topic: June 14th, 2023: Redefining Happily Ever After June 21st, 2023: 3 Universal Reasons Why Being Married is Hard! Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

All relationships are complicated… but perhaps none are more complicated than the relationship between mother and daughter.  Today, we get honest about some of the factors that make the mother-daughter relationship so loaded… things we've learned both as therapists, and have experienced in our own lives.  Listen as we discuss: The messages we receive as women about having a daughter:   That we will either be best friends or have a lot of conflict with our daughters That we are not complete unless we have a daughter The ways that societal expectations for little boys and little girls are different How trying to change the roles and expectations for women make parenting our daughters complicated How our own experiences with female friendships and with our own mothers shape our relationships with our daughters How our own insecurities show up in our relationships with our daughters How we can sometimes try to correct things that we see in our daughters because we see them in ourselves, and how it can be really hard to separate what is ours from what is hers The elephant in the room... how our relationships with our own mothers shapes our relationships with our daughters Plus, Andrea channels her inner Freud; Jessica models receiving a compliment; and we both step into the confessional a record number of times as we discuss our raw thoughts and feelings about the complicated relationships we have with the relationship we have with having daughters (

The impact of a sudden loss can be profound, leaving us grappling with a range of emotions we may not fully understand. Moments like these remind us of life's fragility and the interconnectedness of our human experience. We're reminded that loss, in any form, touches us all in unexpected ways. Today, we're having an honest conversation about why tragic loss hits us so hard, even when we don't have a personal connection to the individual involved. We'll explore the complexities of grief, the ripple effects of loss, and how we can navigate these emotions with compassion and understanding. Listen to learn more about: The complexities of grief The ripple effects of loss How we can navigate these emotions with compassion and understanding Like this episode? Check out these: Breaking the Silence During Suicide Prevention Week (September 13, 2023) Living and Parenting in the Age of School Shootings (October 11, 2023) Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We hate to say it, but one of the most significant relationships we have as modern women is the one we have with our phone. But while we have many good reasons for using them, we have to admit that our phone usage has an impact on our relationships and on our mental health. Today, we get honest about those impacts, and ask the practical question - short of building a time machine to the 1990s, is there anything we can do to improve things? Listen to learn more about: how our phone usage harms our most important (and even very casual) relationships a few of the ways our phones damage our mental and physical health some practical suggestions to change your relationship with your phone Plus, Jess ruins everything for everyone by making a plan (and thereby causing a blizzard which kept her kids at home which wrecked the plan); Andrea and Jessica wrestle with the word ironic (thanks, Alanis!); and we reveal how we discover Tik Tok trends (via MSNBC articles about 3 months later… tell me you're a millennial without telling me you're a millennial!) Like this episode? Check out these: Exploring Mommy Wine Culture During Dry January (January 9, 2024) - if you want to explore another tricky cultural topic that has pretty straightforward research about it So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - if you're looking for the episode where we discuss the difference between guilt and shame. New Year, New You? (January 2, 2024) - cause we mentioned that Jessica has some feelings about New Years Resolutions Connect with Us: EMAIL US: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jealousy is a feeling that often lurks in the shadows of our minds. From comparing ourselves to others on social media to feeling envious of a friend's success, jealousy can keep us stuck in a cycle of negativity. Join us as we unpack why jealousy is such a common emotion for women and explore how we can navigate it with honesty, a little humor, and empathy. Listen to learn more about: Jealousy vs. envy (Thanks to Andrea loving to "word nerd" out!). Why leaning into jealousy can be useful. How social media can enhance jealousy. How jealousy can make us feel powerless. How jealousy is introduced to women at a younger age than men. How jealousy can lead us to inaccurate comparisons that keep us stuck in a negative cycle. Plus, Andrea challenges a quote while Jessica stands to defend it! You don't want to miss this honest conversation. Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are some things that are so baked into our culture that they can feel scary to even talk about… but we wouldn't be Honest Women if we weren't bold enough to talk about those things. Today, we explore Mommy Wine Culture: where it came from, how it impacts us, and where it might not be serving us. Listen to learn more about: How / Why / If Andrea & Jess do Dry January Why shame makes it difficult to examine our drinking behavior The origin of Mommy Wine Culture Marketing of alcohol as an escape from the challenges of life The history of using substances to deal with womens' distress (do NOT miss this!) A few of the things that alcohol does *not* help us deal with Plus, Jess gives an update on the dress she got stuck in; Andrea discovers that you *can* return alcohol to the liquor store if yor decide to become sober before you make special cocktails; and Jessica and Andrea nerd out about the history of substances being marketed to women instead of dealing with their real, actual problems. Were housewives in the 1950's really happy, or were they just f*ing high on valium? You'll have to listen to find out! Like this episode? Check out these: NO-Cember: When to Say "Yes" and When to Just Say "NO" (November 28, 2023) - cause you need the "Jessica gets stuck in a dress" story! So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - if you're wanting Andrea & Jess to deep-dive into another tricky topic with a big dose of humor and self-disclosure Want to learn about the health impacts of alcohol from real experts?? Check out Liz Moody's podcast series on alcohol, especially the effects on hormones and brain health and gut health and cancer. Connect with Us: EMAIL US: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

New year, new you? We don't know about that. Whether you can't wait to implement your new life plan or cringe at the idea of setting a resolution, you are not alone. Today, we get honest about the chaos of setting or avoiding New Year's resolutions.    Listen to learn more about:  ·      How Andrea and Jessica REALLY feel about New Year's resolutions. ·      Did either of our co-hosts set a resolution for 2024? ·      The history of New Year's resolutions. ·      A few stats….because. why not? ·      Ways to be realistic about resolutions.   Want to read more about the history of New Year's Resolutions? Read these:   Forbes New Year's Resolution Statistics USA Today: The Most Popular New Year's Resolutions The History of New Year's Resolutions: The History Channel   Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com   Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.   Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's impossible to count the times that we've been told to live life with no regrets… but is that a realistic, or even worthy goal? Today we have an honest conversation about the rather taboo topic of regret: what it is, what to do if you feel it, and even wonder if it is possible that this rather uncomfortable experience can be beneficial. Listen to learn more about: The difference between regrets of action and regrets of inaction Why ruminating on regrets of action - like moral failings - is not serving you The three regrets of inaction - boldness, foundation, and connection regrets How regret can lead us to our values and help us to shape our life going forward The false promise of "if only" regret thinking (hint: your life would not be perfect and painless right now "if only" you had done X instead of Y) What to do RIGHT NOW if you are feeling regret Plus, Andrea works through a really raw friendship regret; Jessica explores a time she regretted in her relationship with Andrea; and Jessica almost spits out her coffee when Andrea shares her not-so-evolved reaction to a relationship that ended poorly. NO REGRETS, right? Like this episode? Check out these: So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - cause you NEED to know the difference between guilt and shame if you're thinking through regret! NO-Cember: When to Say "Yes" and When to Just Say "NO" (November 28, 2023) - just in case you're regretting saying yes to so many things this season. Want to do a deeper dive into regret? Read Dan Pink's thought-provoking book The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this emotionally charged episode of the Honest Women Podcast, the hosts fearlessly dive into the complex tapestry of loss during the holiday season. From the profound grief of death to the heart-wrenching realities of pregnancy loss, divorce, and financial struggles, no stone is left unturned. The hosts shed light on the unique challenges faced during this festive time when the world expects cheerfulness while individuals navigate the depths of sorrow. However, it's not all shadows and sorrows; the hosts generously share invaluable advice on how to navigate the holiday season amidst loss. They emphasize the power of verbalizing needs, setting boundaries, and extending grace to oneself and others. This episode serves as a beacon of support for those grappling with loss, offering solace and practical guidance. As the conversation unfolds, the hosts conclude the episode on a poignant note with a heartfelt poem titled 'Light a Candle,' encapsulating the essence of finding hope and healing even in the darkest moments. Tune in for a raw, authentic, and compassionate exploration of loss during the holidays on the Honest Women Podcast. Listen to Hear More About: 00:00 Introduction to the Holiday Season and Feelings of Loss 02:29 Grief Work and Loss During the Holiday Season 05:10 Personal Examples of Loss During the Holidays 08:26 Other Types of Loss During the Holiday Season 13:37 Challenges of the Holiday Season and Grief 18:38 Dilemmas of the Holiday Season 21:23 Ambushing Moments of Unexpected Sadness 22:17 Supporting Yourself During Loss 25:29 Supporting Others During Loss 29:40 Poem: Light a Candle 30:42 Conclusion Resources: This Emotional Life: Getting through the Holidays by Camille Wortman, PhD What to Say (and What Not to Say) to Someone Who's Grieving from The New York Times Poem read by Jessica at the end of the episode: “Light A Candle” by Paul Alexander And I will light a candle for you To shatter all the darkness and bless the times we knew Like a beacon in the night The flame will burn bright and guide us on our way Oh, today I light a candle for you The seasons come and go, and I'm weary from the change I keep moving on, you know it's not the same And when I'm walking all alone Do you hear me call your name? Do you hear me sing the songs we used to sing? You filled my life with wonder, touched me with surprise Always saw that something special deep within your eyes And through the good times and the bad We carried on with pride I hold on to the love and life we knew Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If the thought of everything you've got on your plate this holiday season - and all of the extended family time - has you fondly reflecting on the no-gathering pandemic holiday season of 2020... you're not alone! But a global pandemic can't be the only way to get some relief around the holidays. Instead, we're revisiting the ever-relevant topic of boundaries, with a holiday spin. Listen to learn more about: What a Boundary Is (and is not) Time and Energy Boundaries Financial Boundaries Behavior / Content Boundaries (looking at you your weird uncle who gets sloshed and says something totally inappropriate) How and When to Set a Boundary Why You Shouldn't be a Jerk When you Set a Boundary (and why we all need to re-learn some civility after the last few years) What to do When Your Boundaries are not Respected The Surprising Person who is Most Likely to Kill Your Boundaries (spoiler alert… it's you!) Plus, Jess gets triggered when Andrea accidentally puts her on the spot; Andrea confesses that she struggles with the idea of doing things she doesn't want to do… even when she really needs to compromise; and Andrea & Jessica discover that they REALLY don't agree about Family Christmas Cards. Like this Episode? Check out these: How to be a Better Communicator (October 4, 2023) BOUNDARIES! How to Identify, Set, and Defend Them (June 7, 2023) Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to the Honest Women Podcast! As we bid farewell to No-vember, we're diving straight into No-Cember. Today, we're getting honest about the challenges of saying 'yes' and 'no,' especially as the holiday season approaches. In today's episode, we get honest about: The No-Cember Trend: Reflecting on the "No-vember" trend and extending it into December. Exploring the challenges of deciding when to say "yes" and when to confidently say, "NO!" Barriers to Responding to Invitations: The struggles of an extrovert: Balancing social commitments. The struggles of an introvert: Identifying when to say, "YES!" Overcoming the fear of disappointing others. Weighing the Impact: Debating between attending an event you're not enthusiastic about versus declining and potentially upsetting someone. Addressing the fear of backlash and setting boundaries. Holiday Magic vs. Realistic Choices: Balancing the desire to make the holidays magical with the reality of limitations. Navigating situations where you want to attend, but your partner does not. Navigating Multiple Invitations: Social etiquette and strategies for handling multiple invitations on the same day. Waiting for the date of an annual event and handling conflicting schedules. What to Prioritize: Distinguishing between what you need to show up for versus what is optional. Evaluating personal desires and available resources. The Art of Saying 'No': Sharing personal frameworks for decision-making. Advocating for honesty in declining invitations and the positive impact it can have. Handling Rejections: Discussing the effectiveness of being open, honest, and vulnerable when declining. Acknowledging the challenges of a simple "no" with little explanation. As we navigate the holiday season and enter No-Cember, let's embrace the power of honest communication in setting boundaries. Remember, it's okay to prioritize your well-being and be intentional about the commitments you choose to take on. Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ladies, we know you're doing allthethings this holiday week. Instead of just plowing through, we hope that you take a few minutes to hear how very grateful we are for YOU - you're the best! - and let us inspire you to find some gratitude for yourself, too. WE WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU!! Have a topic that you would like us to discuss on the pod? Send us an email at hello@honestwomenpodcast.com And if you want to send us a little gratitude, too, please leave us a rating and review. We read every single one! Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Email us at Hello@HonestWomenPodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello, Honest Women community! Welcome back to another episode of the Honest Women Podcast. Today, we're diving into a topic that resonates deeply this time of year. It's November, the month of gratitude, but what happens when finding gratitude feels like just another task on our never-ending to-do list?" In today's episode, we get honest about: The unseen burden that often falls on women: There is a lack of balance within our homes, especially during the holiday season. As demands increase, many of us, particularly women, feel we barely keep our heads above water. The pressure to present Instagram-worthy homes and families adds another layer to the struggles. Today, we get honest about the challenges of finding gratitude amidst these expectations. Our blocks to gratitude: during this chaotic time, self-care, healthy eating, and even basic needs like sleep often take a back seat. We explore the factors that hinder our ability to be present and experience gratitude. Are past experiences, societal pressures, or personal exhaustion contributing to this block? We delve into the complex web of emotions and circumstances that might hold us back. Working to find gratitude in the every day: From dry shampoo to online grocery shopping and our beloved Pinterest meal planning boards, there's humor in the little things. We discuss the importance of recognizing and appreciating these small joys. Plus, the value of being grateful for yourself during this season. As we navigate the holiday season, let's remember to be honest with ourselves about the struggles we face and find gratitude in the small, everyday moments. Thanks for joining us in this candid conversation. Don't forget to show yourself some appreciation. Until next time, stay true, stay honest, and take a moment to be grateful for the amazing person you are. Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Email us at Hello@HonestWomenPodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It can be incredibly hard to take care of yourself when your partner is struggling with addiction or their mental health. Today, we answer an email from a beloved listener, asking us how to do just that. We get honest about: How you might have gotten into this relationship in the first place What you CAN'T do when you're married to someone who is struggling with addiction or their mental health What you CAN do to take good care of yourself and others We also discuss our love for 90s rap and try to make nicknames happen. Our low-key avoidance of this tender topic is quite hilarious, in our humble opinion. All joking aside, if you have a loved one who is struggling with addiction, please check out all of the applicable family support groups: https://al-anon.org/ https://www.nar-anon.org/ And if you have a loved one who is struggling with their mental health, please check out: https://www.nami.org/Support-Education/Support-Groups/NAMI-Family-Support-Group WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! If you have a topic that you would like to hear Andrea and Jessica get honest about, email us at Hello@HonestWomenPodcast.com. Connect with Us on Instagram: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have a confession to make. Andrea and Jessica have fallen victim to the “do more, be better” message that we have openly pushed against since we launched the Honest Women podcast in May of this year. In today's episode, we get honest about our own expectations and how we have been forced to re-evaluate them. Get ready for some raw, real, unfiltered self-disclosure. In today's episode, we talk about our "zones": The things we want to accomplish that often make us look "impressive." Think spirit fingers and a little razzle dazzle! The things we HAVE to do but often don't LOVE to do. Think dishes/school emails/kids' clothing/meal planning/grocery shopping...did someone say, "invisible labor?!" The fun stuff! And often, things that go by the wayside when we are drowning in zone 2, and expecting too much of ourselves in zone 1. Think sleep, connection, exercise! We get honest about: How we got here, once again. How unrealistic expectations have negatively impacted us. Re-evaluating what our expectations should be in this "season" of our life. If you have a topic that you would like to hear Andrea and Jessica get honest about, email us at Hello@HonestWomenPodcast.com. Connect with Us on Instagram: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it's all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Believe it or not, the topic of hobbies - especially stereotypical "men's" hobbies - makes an outsized appearance in both individual and couples' counseling (I'm looking at you, golf!). How is it possible that leisure activities can cause such turmoil in so many partnerships? Well, the conversation around hobbies often reflects bigger issues in our marriages, and can lead to bigger issues in our marriages, such as: who "owns the time" in the partnership mom guilt vs. dad guilt (aka, not a thing) default parenting internalized productivity culture If you've ever: felt like you can't possibly do something, just for the fun of it, because there's so much to do and other people need so much from you felt like even if you DID get time, you don't have "a thing" and wouldn't know where to start felt like your partner thinks that their time is more valuable than yours burned with resentment when your husband joins another sports league felt like you've lost your sense of self wondered if you might be a vampire, only allowed to have fun before the sun comes up or after the sun goes down (just me???) This episode is for you! Please enjoy, share with a friend (and make a plan to start a hobby together! "Lunch" is an option!), and leave us a 5 star rating and review. Want to influence what we talk about next? Email us at hello@honestwomenpodcast.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you want to know about your therapist? Are there questions you would love to ask but don't feel like you can? Today, as therapists, Andrea and Jessica give honest answers to questions that our listeners wish they could as their therapists. Andrea and Jessica also discuss how therapists handle listening to people's problems all day, whether therapists silently judge their clients, and if therapists talk about their clients with their friends. They emphasize the importance of the therapeutic relationship and unconditional positive regard in therapy. Key Takeaways: Therapists may feel emotionally drained after listening to people's problems all day, but they genuinely care about their clients and want to help. Therapists are trained to provide unconditional positive regard and hold their clients in a non-judgmental space. It is essential for clients to feel comfortable with their therapist and to trust that their therapist likes and cares about them. Therapists are bound by confidentiality and ethical guidelines and do not discuss their clients' issues with others outside of professional consultations. Therapy is a safe space where clients can bring their most vulnerable and shameful experiences without fear of judgment. Connect with Us: Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast Follow Jessica: @jlhutchisonlcpc Follow Andrea: @andreaburkly Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's never a good time to talk about mass shootings... So now is as good a time as ever. Join us as we talk about it's like to live and parent during a time in the U.S. where mass shootings are commonplace; normalize the many different ways that we deal with this reality; consider the impact that these discussions have on our relationships; and ask the very obvious question: "If so many people think this is a problem, why the hell is this still happening?" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Practically everyone who walks into our therapy offices says that they want to "communicate better." But what does that even mean? Join Andrea and Jessica as they discuss the four types of communication styles; define "good communication" (hint: it doesn't lead to a certain outcome!); and work through their own gut-check moments in real time (and yeah... that is as vulnerable and hilarious as you think it would be!). Make sure to share this episode with a friend or family member! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices