Let's Be Real with Nicole Unice

After 100 episodes and 2.5 years of Let's Be Real, it's time to take a break. In this farewell episode, we discuss the importance of ending things intentionally and revisiting the reasons behind why something was started. This helps us create space for new beginnings. You can stay connected by subscribing to Real Talk

On today's episode we're throwing it back to one of the earliest episodes with Aundi Kolber, licensed professional counselor and author of Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy. She has such a compassionate, gentle approach to helping people come into abundant life through healing from "big T" and "little t” traumas, and I think you'll love this episode. Aundi teaches us about how even "little t" traumas can accumulate and wound in a way that keeps us from staying authentic to ourselves. How we all have a "window of tolerance" and what it means to stay within that window Aundi walks me through a guided exercise to stay with and then release hard feelings especially in times where we feel like we can't cope. "the harder life is, the softer we need to be.” Find out more about Aundi: Website | Instagram

Today's episode is from the How to Study the Bible Podcast. We are kicking off a new Advent series there, looking at the women in Jesus' lineage in a God of Our Mothers series. In Matthew 1, we get a genealogy of Jesus' family. Genealogies are put in place because the people matter to the story, and there are several women named in his family line. WHAT DOES IT SAY? Matthew 1:1-3: “This is the genealogy of Jesus the Messiah the son of David, the son of Abraham: 2 Abraham was the father of Isaac, Isaac the father of Jacob, Jacob the father of Judah and his brothers, 3 Judah the father of Perez and Zerah, whose mother was Tamar…” Genesis 38 – Who Is Tamar? 1. She is not an Israelite 2. She is unwanted 3. She is mistreated 4. She is seeking justice 5. She is shrewd (Don't forget how Judah's mom came to have him--also veiled and in disguise) Genesis 38:26 is the turning point in the story. Judah confesses his unrighteousness, and we see that Tamar is brought into his family and one of her twin sons becomes part of the lineage that leads to Jesus (Perez). WHAT IS THE BACKSTORY After Joseph is sold into slavery, we get this graphic story in Genesis 38. We see the wickedness of Judah as a foil to Joseph's righteousness. But eventually, we'll see Judah take a righteous turn. First, though, he marries a Canaanite, and they have three sons. One of these sons marries Tamar. WHAT DOES IT MEAN? 1. God colors outside the lines. 2. We are never defined by our past. 3. God sees the marginalized. WHAT DOES IT MEAN FOR ME? Matthew 9:10-12: 10 While Jesus was having dinner at Matthew's house, many tax collectors and sinners came and ate with him and his disciples.11 When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” 12 On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. 13 But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.'[a] For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” FREE Gift from Nicole! Nicole has written a free Christmas Eve liturgy for you and your family: https://www.nicoleunice.com/christmas

On today's episode we are joined by Blaine Hogan. Blaine is an actor, artist, director and author of Untitled and Exit the Cave. Blaine shares the stories that shaped him while exploring how our relationship to our past defines how we imagine the future and live in the present. Blaine's Website | Book Submissions Link

Are personas, platforms, and profits hurting the church? In light of the fall of famous Christian leaders in recent years, Katelyn Beaty reexamines the relationship between church and celebrity. In her book, Celebrities for Jesus (and this episode), Katelyn explores the ways fame has reshaped the American church, explains how and why celebrity is woven into the fabric of the evangelical movement, and identifies many ways fame goes awry. Katelyn's Website | Book Submissions (0:00) Intro (3:22) Christian celebrities (5:44) Fame vs. celebrity (9:01) Celebrity pressures (11:24) Dangers of marketing our faith (14:10) Various church structures (17:24) How to discern truth in this space (23:42) Personal church life (29:00) A word to Christian leaders (31:55) What is bringing you joy right now?

We have the privilege of having Nicole Lynn Lewis on the podcast today. Nicole is a fellow William & Mary alum, but she did it with her three-month-old daughter in tow. Nicole now works every day to change the statistic that less than 2% of teen mothers will earn their degrees before age 30. Nicole has been featured on major news outlets including “Good Morning America,” CNN, “NBC Nightly News,” and The Washington Post.

What does resilience look like? What does it look like to faithfully stay the course? Exhaustion and fatigue in leadership are so real. This episode dives into 3 key components that impact our ability to be fruitful for the long term. Pace (3:37) Purpose (9:01) Posture (13:47)

We are joined today by Author, Life Planner, and Relationship Expert, Chanel Dokun. Chanel shares so much wisdom to help prevent women from felling like they missed out on their own life. In this episode, we will dive into daily liturgies, thriving vs. striving, life purpose, and so much more. Get a copy of Life Starts Now Chanel's Website | Reclaim the Morning

Monica DiCristina is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a passion for helping individuals and couples overcome past and present unproductive patterns and establish emotional safety and connection, and we dive in to topics like emotional resilience, boundaries, and whether or not people can change. You can subscribe to Monica's Newsletter Here

Today we are joined by #1 bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman, and his good friend, author, counselor, and diversity consultant, Clarence Shuler. Many of us want to do something to improve race relations but don't know where to start or even if we can make a difference. Cross-cultural friends for over fifty years, Gary and Clarence believe building friendships across racial and cultural lines will change lives and our country for the better forever. This belief inspired their new book, Life-Changing Cross-Cultural Friendships, to help others develop loving friendships that challenge their perspective and enrich their lives. This episode covers some of their friendship, what inspired them to write this book, and practical steps for cross-cultural friendships. Gary's Website | Clarence's Website Gary's Facebook | Gary's Twitter | Clarence's Facebook

On this episode, Jeanne Stevens joins us to talk about what really keeps you from experiencing peace in your life. She is one of the lead pastors of Soul City Church in Chicago as well as the author of “What's Here Now?” We dive into topics like: - Receiving the NOW - Leading with unprocessed grief - Defining CONTRITE - Practicing silence & solitude - Framework to freedom - Being a visionary leader

Jeff Henderson joins us on the pod today to talk about what to do next. Named by Forbes Magazine as one of 20 speakers you shouldn't miss, Jeff has become a trusted voice for businesses and non-profit organizations. On this episode he talks shares insights about navigating career change. Get Jeff's new book “What To Do Next” here | Jeff's website Get Real Talk Weekly here

This episode covers a little of what's going on in my world and life updates and pivots (0:39) and then touches on advice for cultivating a mindset to handle unexpected things (7:41).

Erin Rose and Natalie Tyer join the podcast to talk all about relationships, singleness, and dating. Intro (0:00) Messaging Around Singleness (3:35) Purity Culture (14:15) Wisdom for Dating (22:10) Thoughts for Single Guys (30:28) Thoughts for Parents (32:28) Godly Dating 101 by Safa Grey and Tovares Grey Mount Hermon Women's Retreat

It's been a minute! This episode jumps into the time away from everything this summer, and how to make space in your life. Catching Up (0:40) Taking Time Away + Making Space (5:35) Book Updates (15:26) Join Nicole's Newsletter Here Music by Nath (feat. Steve Davis) “Let's Save Hyrule Together"

As we wrap up Let's Be Real for the summer, Nicole talks about how we can navigate the line between critiquing and being critical, and being discerning vs. judging. As Christians, we can get caught in either being TOO passionate about a cause, or being so scared of coming off judgmental that we don't engage at all. In this episode, we go over: -the question to ask in order to start to engage well -how to think deeply about solutions, not just problems -how we can speak into each other's lives Thanks for listening this season; we'll see you in the Fall!

This week, we're learning from the duo behind one of Nicole's favorite leadership books, Think. Talk. Create., David Brendel and Ryan Stelzer. They help answer the question: how did we get to a de-humanized workplace, and how do we change things in order for all of us to flourish at work? Plus, we talk: -the biggest indicator of performance (which may surprise you!) -the TTC framework in a virtual world -why it's simple for leaders to execute (but not easy) In addition to being authors, David and Ryan are founders of Strategy of Mind, an executive coaching and management consulting firm out of Boston. AKA…they've got a lot to share…so check them out!! Learn more about the firm and get their book at: strategyofmind.com

This week on LBR, we're honored to have the powerhouse mother/daughter duo Nancy and Samantha Beach on to talk about their new book Next Sunday: An Honest Dialogue About the Future of the Church. 
Being leaders in ministry and growing up in church, they ask the question: will future generations find a church worth fighting for? We talk about it and where they see the Church headed in this rich conversation. Pre-order their book out June 14: www.ivpress.com/next-sunday Discount code: BEREAL22 (available from 5/18-6/1) to be used at ivpress.com.

Inspired by a listener question, this week on LBR we're exploring how to be a safe place to have spiritual conversations, or, conversations where we bring our souls and whole selves into them to connect with people on a deeper level.

So honored to have the brilliant Dr. Jemar Tisby for this conversation around what it looks like to faithfully engage the topic of racism and justice as Christ followers in America. Dr. Tisby's book The Color of Compromise (2019) has been formative for me and is one that I consider required reading for anyone who is serious about deeply engaging with their faith— because these issues involve everyone, not just one group of people. We talk about Christians' ideas of individual vs. systemic issues, historical continuity and how things years past have informed the American Church today, and what chapters he would add to his book now having lived through the last few years. Jemar Tisby is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Color of Compromise: The Truth about the Church's Complicity in Racism, How to Fight Racism, and How to Fight Racism: Young Reader's Edition. Jemar is the co-host of the "Pass the Mic" podcast. He speaks nationwide on the topics of racial justice, U.S. history and Christianity. Jemar earned his PhD in history and he studies race, religion, and social movements in the 20th century. You can follow his work through his newsletter, Footnotes, and on social media at @JemarTisby. Subscribe to his newsletter: jemartisby.substack.com Get his newest book, How to Fight Racism: Young Reader's Edition: https://jemartisby.com/how-to-fight-racism-young-readers-edition/ His recommendations for Black churches to listen to or watch: https://allnationspensacola.com/ https://www.cpckoinonia.org/staff

I fully believe that us together is better than one alone— but we need a shared vision in order for it to be true. Today we're talking about how you can embrace differences without experiencing division in the relationships around you— and how that will help you approach high stakes decisions differently. Want more info on cultivating healthy relationships? Grab my book, The Miracle Moment, here: nicoleunice.com/miraclemoment

Every person is made in the image of God and deserves to be treated with dignity and respect. That's the “why” behind SSeko Designs, a company that uses fashion to create opportunity & community for women globally, started by this week's super fun and super wise guest, Liz Bohannon. We talk: -The paradox of being a lone ranger AND being passionate about community -How you should be holding onto your “why” vs. your “what” -The weight of leadership -The truth about good things feeling organic Learn more about SSeko Designs: ssekodesigns.com Follow Liz on Instagram: @lizbohannon

Today, we're going back to Nicole's fitness roots at William & Mary, where she met Sadie Lincoln, founder of barre3, a fitness company focused on teaching people to be balanced in body and empowered from within. Sadie takes us through barre3's evolution, from the moment she realized the fitness industry was failing people, to now leading a full-blown movement made up of millions of people focused on body positivity, being empowered, and redefining what success in fitness means. Plus, they talk: -The realities of sacrificial tradeoffs -Using pain from your origin story to inform your purpose -How barre3's values helped them get through COVID Follow her on Instagram @sadielincoln and learn more about what barre3 is doing here: barre3.com.

In today's episode, Nicole shares some thoughts about what it means to speak life into others, and how to elevate the affirmations that you give. We all need others to point out the special things they see in us, and affirm the unique ways we move throughout the world! Point to a specific action, name the behavior, and connect it to a character trait Note their natural gifts and elevate those things that feel natural Focus on speaking intentional life into people! Our words can also be a powerful tool for evil; focus on speaking intentional LIFE into people! You'll also hear some great listener questions on setting boundaries with cell phones, and family conflicts. Subscribe to Nicole's newsletter: https://bit.ly/3nWk5sP PS: I love hearing from you! This podcast, in some ways, is like a little bit of free coaching. Shoot me a message at hello@nicoleunice.com if you've got any questions on how to approach a situation in your life or leadership. It's not exactly the same thing as coaching, but a little something extra for your journey.

On this week's episode, we're talking with the SUPER fun Audrey Sampson, author of Known: How Believing Who God Says You Are Changes Everything, a book about the names that God speaks over His children. We talk about her exercise of being surprised by joy, trying hard vs. surrendering, and the words that God speaks over us that settle every question and pain we have experienced in our search for identity. She's loving this Korean drama on Netflix lately: https://www.netflix.com/title/81159258

This week's episode is inspired by content from my book The Miracle Moment and a breakout conversation I had at a recent conference: we're talking about reasons why things go sideways in families. There's always going to be turbulence in families, but there are 4 places to start when we want to get to the bottom of it. Get The Miracle Moment here: nicoleunice.com/miraclemoment

On today's episode, it's a double Nicole special! I talk with my new friend Nicole Zasowski, therapist and author of What If It's Wonderful?, and we talk about: -Engaging with God both in your struggle AND celebration -Having the courage to be expectant -Becoming acquainted with God's character in a new way through loss She gives us some practices that can help create a heart of joy and tells us how asking “what if it's wonderful?” is changing her life in real time. Get her new book, What If It's Wonderful?, here: https://amzn.to/3vOk27c Nicole's favorite products right now: Eucalyptus shower bomb: https://bit.ly/35ZWGjZ Tissue box for car cup holder: https://bit.ly/3MuG0lE

On today's episode of Let's Be Real, I'm talking to my friend and big time leader Adrienne Wright, who is the CEO of U-Turn and the founder of the Collaboratory of VA. Adrienne is someone who dreams big and runs fast towards goals, and we talk about what it's like to achieve when no one is clapping for you, and what her experience has been being both Black and female in an executive role. She shares where God has taken her, where He's working on her right now, and has some solid advice for young, aspiring leaders. Check out her new podcast around dating as a Christian, “In These Streets”: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/in-these-streets-podcast/id1610254328 Learn more about U-Turn & The Collaboratory: https://www.u-turn.org/ https://www.thecollaboratory-va.org/

“Anger is a powerful catalyst but a life-sucking companion.” - Breńe Brown On today's episode, we're talking the emotion of anger (or the emotion BEHIND the anger) and what it looks like to take our angry experiences and allow them to be transformed into productive action. 
We're going over the difference and connection between unproductive, productive, unrighteous and righteous anger— and we've got a helpful graph to walk us through it.

When was the last time you changed your mind about anything? 
That's one of the questions that's asked in my conversation with Reggie Dabbs and John Driver, authors of Not So Black and White: An Invitation to Honest Conversations about Race and Faith. In this conversation, we talk about what prompted these two friends to write this book together and what we can all learn if we take the position of humility as individuals, as Christians, and as a nation. Plus, we talk: —What keeps us from ACTUALLY loving our nation —One simple action to take when you don't know where to start learning —The history of race in our systems —What our responsibility as Jesus' disciples is

On this episode of LBR, Nicole sits down with business and organizational leader Lisa Nichols to talk about the reasons behind the Great Resignation, how leaders can care for their teams better, and being a sponge in the name of growth. Something Extra Podcast Rooted Sisters Organization Technology Partners Ruthless Elimination of Hurry on Audible Toxic Culture is Driving the Great Resignation

Today, we're talking to Justin Earley, author of “The Common Rule” and his new book “Habits of the Household”, about the beauty of habits and the power they have to form our lives, our homes, and our families. We talk through how failures might not mean what you think they mean, starting daily liturgies with your kids, and Justin's take on the number one most powerful habit you can (and should!) start today. Buy Justin's new book “Habits of the Household” here: www.habitsofthehousehold.com Buy his favorite XtraTuf boots here: https://bit.ly/3g4OZe9

This week, Nicole talks about the 3 things we need to focus on when everything around us is breaking down and we need a home base to return to and get through the winter-ing season. **Zoom call is FEB. 10th, not the 12th. Sign up here: https://nicole-unice.myshopify.com/products/february-zoom-call-women-in-leadership Subscribe to Nicole's newsletter: https://bit.ly/3nWk5sP

This week on Let's Be Real, Nicole sits down with bestselling author, speaker, and business coach Alli Worthington to talk about her story of losing everything to building multiple successful businesses, now teaching other coaches and entrepreneurs how they can do the same. Listen in to hear their conversation on: -embracing failure in entrepreneurship -the importance of multiple streams of income -the difference between coaching and therapy -what it REALLY takes to succeed There's way more good stuff coming your way on this season of Let's Be Real. Never miss an episode by subscribing: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-be-real-with-nicole-unice/id1505817001 Want to be informed about workshops, Bible studies, and events happening near you this year? Subscribe to Nicole's email newsletter here: https://exciting-knitter-1634.ck.page/1e62df1636 Find Alli's books, subscribe to her podcast, and find info on coaching here: https://alliworthington.com/coaching

In today's episode (the last of the year before we pick back up in January!) I want to open up the conversation about winter seasons of life.

On today's episode, I get to chat with Jessica Hottle, a faith-based fitness coach, podcast host, best-selling author, and speaker with a heart for teaching women how to dismantle the lies that keep them from healing and wholeness. Her new book, Face Off with Your Feelings is available now for pre-order.Today we talk about living as a reaction to past hurt versus living a life of purpose, how emotional and physical wellness are so intertwined with the spiritual, and what it actually means to make space to heal.  And last but not least… you can find Jessica's favorite lipstick here, and that amazing hexagon timer clock here. Instagram: @jessicahottle Website: www.jessicahottle.comPodcast: ‎What's The Truth on Apple Podcasts

I'm excited to introduce you to today's guest, Karen Ehman. Karen is a Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and New York Times bestselling author. Described as profoundly practical, engagingly funny, and downright real, her passion is to help women to live their priorities and love their lives as they serve God and others. She has authored seventeen books and her latest book, When Making Others Happy is Making You Miserable: Karen Ehman (zondervan.com), is out now.We're all about relationships and finding freedom in truth and honesty on Let's Be Real, and Karen's next book is right up that alley.

On  today's show I chat with Joy Eggerichs Reed, a great friend and founder of the speaking and literary agency called Punchline Agency (who I'm honored to be represented by!)  An incredible communicator herself, Joy is all about getting behind people she really believes in.I get questions all the time from people who have an idea they're passionate about, and want to know “how do I turn this into a book?!”.  I'm so happy to have a great resource to point them to in Joy's new book called “Get to the Publishing Punchline: A Fun 30-Day Guide to Get Your Book Ready for The World.”Today we chat about the refining process of becoming a faithful communicator in an instant gratification world, making sure you understand your why, and how Bob Barker helped Joy up her communication game.If you're curious about the process of getting the ideas in your head out onto the page, this episode (and Joy's book) are for you!Joy's instagram: @joyeggerichsJoy's book: Get to the Publishing Punchline: A Fun (and Slightly Aggressive) 30 Day Guide to Get Your Book Ready for the World

Today I get to chat with Lisa Whittle, who feels like a soul-sister because we're both a little crazy and a little cynical, but also both just trying to be authentic in our relationships with God as we walk through hard things.In addition to being a friend, Lisa is someone I look up to as a mentor in the world of publishing, and I really just love her writing. Her latest book is called The Hard Good, about the uncomfortable process that leads us to growth, where she pulls out the big truths that she's uncovered in her own journey.We talk about getting caught in a thought tornado of “what-ifs” (and have a mini counseling sesh about my own journey), the difference between preference and acceptance, and why we feel so entitled to God's blessings. Lisa also shared her fav product, the Dwell app, which reads the Bible to you in a million different ways. You can get 20% off by checking it out here: lisawhittle.com/dwellMore from Lisa:Podcast - Lisa WhittleBooks - Lisa Whittle

I am so excited to be back! I'm here with my new-but-feels-like-an-old-friend, Ashley Abercrombie. I love the way that Ashley is so well-acquainted with God's grace, and her incisive eye to culture that she combines with a long-term perspective. She brings that heart to her newest book, Love is The Resistance: Learn to Disagree, Resolve the Conflicts You've Been Avoiding and Create Real Change. It's worth the read, y'all. Check out Ashley's latest book here: Love is the ResistanceOr on Instagram at : @ashabercrombiewww.ashabercrombie.com  Enneagram Resources for You:The 9 Types of Leadership: Mastering the Art of People in the 21st Century Workplace, written by Beatrice Chestnut, Ph.DThe Road Back to You, written by by Ian CronTypology Podcast, Ian CronThe Enneagram Institute: website resource for mistyping, type interactions and an “enneatip of the day”The Enneapp: all things Enneagram, on your phone!

Today I'm here with my brand new friend, Jennifer Dukes Lee (https://jenniferdukeslee.com/), who just released her newest book called “Growing Slow: Lessons on Unhurrying Your Heart from an Accidental Farm Girl.” She was previously a crime and politics reporter chasing headlines, but found that even when she left her career behind and moved to a scenic farm, her heart was still hurried. We talk about hurry sickness, taking a “Hustle Detox,” and what the natural rhythms of seasons can teach us about our own growth. Her book was a gift for me to read and I'm excited to share it with you! Growing Slow: Lessons on Unhurrying Your Heart from an Accidental Farm Girl (https://jenniferdukeslee.com/growingslow/) Jennifer's Other Books (https://jenniferdukeslee.com/books/) Patient Trust Above all, trust in the slow work of God. We are quite naturally impatient in everything to reach the end without delay. We should like to skip the intermediate stages. We are impatient of being on the way to something unknown, something new. And yet it is the law of all progress that it is made by passing through some stages of instability – and that it may take a very long time. And so, I think it is with you; your ideas mature gradually – let them grow, let them shape themselves, without undue haste. Don't try to force them on, as though you could be today what time (that is to say, grace and circumstances acting on your own good will) will make of you tomorrow. Only God could say what this new spirit gradually forming within you will be. Give Our Lord the benefit of believing that his hand is leading you, and accept the anxiety of feeling yourself in suspense and incomplete. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, SJ

On today's episode, I get to talk about the Enneagram (if you've been here a while, you know I somehow always find a way to sneak it into any topic!) with my new friend and expert AJ Sherill (https://www.ajsherrill.org/). AJ wrote a book called “The Enneagram & Spiritual Formation (https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Spiritual-Formation-Knowing-Ourselves/dp/1587434725/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=9781587434723&linkCode=ur2&qid=1616601030&sr=8-1),” and has a new book releasing in October called “Being with God: The Absurdity, Necessity and Neurology of Contemplative Prayer (https://www.amazon.com/Being-God-Absurdity-Necessity-Contemplative-ebook/dp/B08XLPVGGV/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=9781493432790&linkCode=ur2&qid=1616600830&s=digital-text&sr=1-1).” AJ has served as a Lead Pastor for two decades in churches across the country, and now calls Charleston, South Carolina his home. He received a doctorate in the area of spiritual formation, and teaches courses on preaching and the Enneagram at Fuller Theological Seminary. We talk about the humiliation (it's a good thing, I promise) of what the Enneagram can reveal about you, our identities rooted in belovedness, and the beauty of just being in God's presence where words are welcome but not necessary.

Mazi is the Founder and Director of the Cultivate counseling center in Atlanta (https://www.cultivateatlanta.com/) , and has created an online course called “Uncomplicating Love” that offers practical tools to better love yourself and others. Learn more about it here (https://www.cultivateatlanta.com/uncomplicating-love), and use the checkout code “heal” for a $5 discount! It's the last chance for my LBR listeners to get 30% off the upcoming coaching experience 30 Days to Your Miracle (https://nicole-unice.myshopify.com/products/30-days-to-your-miracle-a-relationship-workshop-and-coaching-experience). Join a whole community of people, hear teaching from me, get practical exercises, and a live Q&A. Use the discount code LBR30 for 30% off your registration!

I connected with Kristen after my own incredibly meaningful experience participating in One Small Step (and share clips from the convo!), and love the redemptive thread woven throughout these conversations of connection. Kirsten shares her background working at the 9/11 Memorial where she listened to thousands of hours of stories, how she ended up at StoryCorps, and why it's so important to connect with other people's stories on a human level. You'll be so encouraged, and I hope you might even want to take One Small Step, too. Ready to take One Small Step? Check it out and sign up here (https://storycorps.org/discover/onesmallstep/)! PS: It's the last chance for my LBR listeners to get 30% off the upcoming coaching experience 30 Days to Your Miracle (https://nicole-unice.myshopify.com/products/30-days-to-your-miracle-a-relationship-workshop-and-coaching-experience). Join a whole community of people, hear teaching from me, get practical exercises, and a live Q&A. Use the discount code LBR30 for 30% off your registration!

Like what you heard? This was just a brief snippet about “fighting well” that you can read much more about in The Miracle Moment. And just for my LBR listeners, *you can get 30% off *the coaching experience that goes with it! It’s called 30 Days to Your Miracle (https://nicole-unice.myshopify.com/products/30-days-to-your-miracle-a-relationship-workshop-and-coaching-experience) and starts THIS month! Join a whole community of people, hear teaching from me, get practical exercises, and a live Q&A. Use the discount code LBR30 for 30% off your registration! (https://nicole-unice.myshopify.com/products/30-days-to-your-miracle-a-relationship-workshop-and-coaching-experience)

I’m so excited about the conversation I have to share with you today, with guest Terence Lester. Terence is a minister, speaker, community activist, author, and founder of Love Beyond Walls, a not-for-profit organization focused on poverty awareness and community mobilization. His awareness campaigns on behalf of the poor have been featured in USA Today, Essence, Black Enterprise, The Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS News, NBC, Upworthy, and “The Bright Side” with Katie Couric. They have been viewed by millions of people globally. Terence has written five books. His new book, “When We Stand: The Power of Seeking Justice Together,” (http://terencelester.org) was just released on May 18th. You’re going to love this conversation, and it may just open your eyes to some things you haven’t been thinking about, some challenges Terence has for us, and I also ask a really specific question from my own life. You should also check out: “Love Sinks In” Campaign (https://www.lovebeyondwalls.org/lovesinksin/) The Dignity Museum (https://www.lovebeyondwalls.org/dignity-museum/) I See You: How Love Opens Our Eyes to Invisible People (http://terencelester.org) We launched The Miracle Moment last week, and as a book about healthy relating, it helps to be in a community as you work at getting better in your most important relationships. We created a coaching experience called 30 Days to Your Miracle (https://nicole-unice.myshopify.com/products/30-days-to-your-miracle-a-relationship-workshop-and-coaching-experience)starting in June that will involve a whole community of people, teaching by me, practical exercises, and a live Q&A. Use the discount code LBR30 for 30% off your registration! Register HERE (https://nicole-unice.myshopify.com/products/30-days-to-your-miracle-a-relationship-workshop-and-coaching-experience)

Welcome to Episode 52 of Let’s Be Real! Today I get to chat with my good friend Elisabeth Edelman. She’s the founder and CEO of Golden Word, the boutique PR firm based right here in my hometown of Richmond, VA (and sidenote: they’re hiring! Check out the new opportunities here: www.goldenword.co) As an Enneagram 7 and an Essentialist, Elisabeth chases the few and the meaningful, whether clients or adventure. She’s a force in Richmond and far beyond, and she joins me today to share some of the wisdom she’s picked up about risk, starting new things, and a new definition for failure that I just love (and immediately adopted since our conversation). Elisabeth offers a workshop called How to Pitch Yourself” and I’m serious when I say it’s a must-take for any authors or entrepreneurs out there. Head over to www.goldenword.co to learn more.

On today’s episode, I get to chat with my new friend Pat Linnell! You’ll love hearing his heart behind Grace Bomb, a movement and ministry that equips churches and people around the country to love their neighbors with no strings attached. He has an MA in theology from Columbia International University, and lives in Maryland with his wife and four kids (although, like me, has a Southern California soul).

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The chances are slim that my quick answer is the right answer, and it stops the conversation instead of taking it to a deeper place. When we take one step back, we enter into a place of humility by assuming we don’t have all the facts. Taking a step back looks more like walking side-by-side with someone, and less like a transactional “bank teller” interaction. A lot of times, taking one step back is asking yourself “what is the nature of this relationship I’m in?” and approaching the conversation from that place. I share an example about my teenagers – instead of just giving them the quick answer to solve a problem, I can take one step back and ask myself “How can I have this conversation in a way that lends itself toward the goal of my child becoming a more graceful, wise and caring adult?” Taking that one step back can help make sure you’re on the right path forward, so my encouragement to you is this: next time you’re in a situation where you’re trying to solve a problem, hear the words “take one step back.”