Mastermind Parenting Podcast

Spoiler alert! Ya'll probably know that I LOVE a good TV show. A comfy blanket and a cozy watch is a reliable happy place for me. So when my family recommended the Netflix thriller, “Adolescence,” I have to say I was a little resistant. But eventually they convinced me, and I am SO GLAD they did!“Adolescence” is a short 4-episode drama series about a teenage boy accused of murdering a girl in his class. But unlike most murder mysteries, this show really digs down into how a seemingly normal kid could become capable of committing such an awful crime. Critics and audiences are giving it rave reviews, and Avery and I want to tell you why. We talk about Avery's experience growing up in the digital age, and how you can talk to your own kids about what awaits them online.MAJOR SPOILERS in this one gang, so watch the show first, then enjoy our discussion. You'll be glad you did!As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-321About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/Links“Adolescence” on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/81756069 Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Raising a strong-willed kid is harder. Even draining sometimes. Sitting on the floor and playing with toys felt like the worst to me. I now realize that I found other playful ways to be with my kids… but I still sometimes feel a little guilty about not being a Barbie or Legos kind of mom.So when Dr. Shawn Hondorp invited me on her podcast, The Innovative Therapist, to talk about play and pack leadership, I have to admit, I may have baby barfed a little. But I love Shawn, and I had so much fun working out a definition of Pack Leadership with her recently, that I knew I could trust we'd have a great conversation. And I was SO right.It turns out that a playful attitude counts as playing with your kids. Woohoo. It is also a part of my personal recipe for Pack Leadership. It's a great way of thinking about leadership in any context, and I think you'll love this conversation as much as I did. I just love Shawn. Enjoy!As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-320About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Dr. Shawn HondorpDr. Shawn Hondorp is a clinical psychologist whose goal is to create safe learning environments for those who want to explore innovative approaches to healing, one authentic conversation at a time. Learn more about her work, and subscribe to The Innovative Therapist Podcast, at https://drshawnhondorp.com/ Resources Discussed/LinksPart 1 of our discussion, What Even Is Pack Leadership? https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-318 Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

You want to help your kids succeed in school - that's a given. School success is a big area of anxiety and worry I often see with parents I coach. Many well-intentioned parents get more and more involved in their kids' homework - but more involvement often leads to more long term struggles.Becoming the homework helpline might help get your kids' grades up temporarily. But it also teaches them to rely on you instead of learning how to figure things out for themselves. There's no opportunity for your kid to develop agency.Without your constant concierge-level concern, the kid finds themselves flailing and potentially feeling like a failure. Obviously, this is the polar opposite of how you want them to feel. Avery is back and joining me this week to share her experiences with my less-than-obsessed attitude toward homework, and how it helped and possibly hindered her too! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-319About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

You've probably heard me talk about pack leadership, and how I believe it's the holy grail in creating a more peaceful family. Humans learn through stories, and I have SO MANY stories about empowered parents, stronger family connections, and sensitive kiddos who finally feel understood.But sometimes you have to go back to basics, like I did this week with therapist, podcaster, and long-time Masterminder, Dr. Shawn Hondorp. On a recent episode of her show, The Innovative Therapist, she asked a simple question. What is pack leadership? The answer was a discussion about feminism, society, parenting styles, and the expectations we place on ourselves to be super great at raising kids. Whether you're just starting to ask how you can step up for your family, or you're a confident pack leader yourself, you'll get something helpful out of our exploration. Enjoy!As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-318About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Dr. Shawn HondorpDr. Shawn Hondorp is a clinical psychologist whose goal is to create safe learning environments for those who want to explore innovative approaches to healing, one authentic conversation at a time. Learn more about her work, and subscribe to The Innovative Therapist Podcast, at https://drshawnhondorp.com/ Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Apologizing can feel hard. Maybe even harder than we care to admit to ourselves. It's vulnerable to look at a situation where you may have hurt someone you love…especially when that someone is your own kid. Owning your mistake in a heartfelt way can potentially repair a fractured relationship.Which is why Avery and I had to talk about a very public apology we listened in on, from a recent episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast. Mel and her daughter Sawyer talked about their new book The Let Them Theory, and had a candid discussion about Mel's presence in Sawyer's life when she was growing up.Avery and I both thought their reckoning left out some important steps. We thought walking through it would be a great way to help you learn what makes a genuine, empathetic apology, and how learning to apologize better can deepen the trust in your family.As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-317About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

It might feel like terrible news that building our pack leadership involves going back into our own childhoods. It can feel scary to go back to the “belly of the beast”… after all, you survived your childhood. Who on this God's green earth would actually choose to look back when you're so focused on changing cycles and moving forward? When the patterns we're trying to break involve the often invisible trauma of emotional neglect, they can be extra tough to identify. Grownups raised by neglectful parents can feel like their experiences weren't “bad” enough to count, or that they should just feel lucky because other kids had it way worse. My guest this week is Ruth Cohn, an amazing therapist and author who writes about what she calls “the invisible trauma” of neglect. Why it can be hard to realize that neglect IS traumatic, how it affects the way we live, and how much we tend to blame ourselves for things that aren't in our control. If you're a parent who's trying to do better than the way you were raised, you have to hear her wisdom!As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-316About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Ruth Cohn:Ruth Cohn, MFT, is a psychotherapist living and practicing in the San Francisco Bay area. She has been specializing in work with survivors of trauma and neglect, their intimate partners, and families since 1988. She is a Certified Sex Therapist, certified in Neurofeedback, EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and Imago Relationship Therapy. Ruth is also the author of numerous articles on sexuality, trauma, and neglect, and three books: Working With the Developmental Trauma of Childhood Neglect: Using Psychotherapy and Attachment Theory Techniques in Clinical Practice, Coming Home to Passion: Restoring Loving Sexuality in Couples With Histories of Childhood Trauma and Neglect, and Out of My Mind: Late Night Contemplations About Trauma and Neglect.Ruth Cohn's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://ruthcohnmft.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RuthCohnMFT/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruthcohnmft/?hl=en LinkedIn:

Did you know that the parenting tools you learn on this podcast also work with other strong-willed creatures? I'm chatting with Avery “favorite daughter” Rubenstein this time about pack leadership and what she has learned from “Ben, the strong-willed horse”. I think it's incredibly helpful to practice the tools you are learning here by applying them to other areas of your life…your work, your adult relationships and even your relationships with animals. You see, pack leadership is about becoming and remembering the person you were meant to be…the kind of person who shows up again and again with curiosity and badassery. I think you're going to love our banter on this episode as well as Avery's insights about using MMP tools with animals and understanding her equine therapy clients…many of which are on the Autism spectrum. As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-315About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Y'all probably know I'm not the biggest fan of the way learning happens in most classrooms…and oh, there are so many reasons. I have believed for a long time that traditional education is outdated and needs a ginormous revamp. However, I wasn't willing to homeschool my own kids.I liked the break and having my days as my own. So year after year, I made a “self-ish” decision when it came to my own kids' education. I always felt a tinge of guilt and don't really think they received the best. So I was super excited to talk to Rob Barnett. He's a former teacher and co-founder of the Modern Classrooms Project. They're a non-profit that envisions a world where technology can help kids learn at their own pace, by making space for teachers to give every kid the time and attention they need. Rob's new book, Meet Every Learner's Needs, builds on his experience in the classroom and as an education advocate. It's a blueprint for changing the way kids learn, and making teaching more rewarding. I just know you'll hear something that you'll want for your kids in their classrooms! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-314About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Robert Barnett:Robert Barnett co-founded the Modern Classrooms Project, which has empowered 80,000+ educators in 180+ countries to meet every learner's needs. Before that he taught math, computer science, English, social studies, and law, from the middle-school to university levels, at public and private schools in the U.S. and Switzerland. He graduated cum laude from Princeton University and Harvard Law School; speaks English, French, and Spanish; and lives in Washington, DC. He hopes his two young children will learn in Modern Classrooms someday!Robert Barnett's Web and Social LinksLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robert-s-barnett/ Book website for Meet Every Learner's Needs.Enter to win a free copy of the book!More about the Modern Classrooms Project.Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course!

Is it even possible to continue building your relationship after your birdies leave the nest? Come be a fly on the wall for one of my catch-up calls with my daughter, Avery. We share a hilarious Modern Fam video and recap our winter break family vacation, including an old pattern that made Avery upset and embarrassed. I think you're going to love our honest conversation about the “un-pretty” parts of our dynamic. Avery also teaches us a critical part of Pack Leadership and the term, weaponized incompetence. As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-313About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

How exciting is it when you have a conversation that sparks a ton of ideas you want to share?That's how my daughter Avery and I felt after our chat with Michael DiMartino. Talking about how kids learn through stories got us thinking about how much stories have taught us, both as kids (mostly in her case) and in adulthood (mostly in mine). Our follow-up conversation takes the focus from the epic right down to the personal. Avery and I talk about some of the favorite books, movies, and TV shows we love, and how the stories they tell have helped us connect with each other.This one is extra good if you're a parent who's struggling to see the world from the perspective of your kiddo. No matter what their age, there's a story out there that can help you remember, and give you a glimpse of what they're going through now.As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-312About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Humans have always learned through stories. It can be easy to forget this fun fact when there are toys and backbacks and shoes covering the floor. AND we still want them to learn morals and values and life lessons. This is where brilliant storytellers like Mike come in.Michael DiMartino's stories have had a huge impact on my kids, and children around the world. Mike is the co-creator of Avatar: The Last Airbender, and the author of comic books, novels, and podcasts. He tells stories that are epic and personal, and don't shy away from tough subjects that real kids experience.My daughter Avery is a huge fan of Mike's work, and she joined me behind the mic to talk to Mike about creating Avatar, writing his new teen/tween novel Both Here And Gone, and how he approaches writing for a young audience. It was a great convo, and I'm so excited for you to hear it!As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-311About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong-willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michael DiMartinoMichael is the creative genius behind some of the most beloved Nickelodeon animated series of our time: Avatar: The Last Airbender and The Legend of Korra.From his early days as a storyboard artist, and director on iconic shows like King of the Hill and Family Guy, to his current renown as the co-creator of the Avatar universe, Michael has been a driving force in the world of fantasy and animation for years.With his latest book Both Here And Gone, Michael is pushing the boundaries of his storytelling further. The coming-of-age YA novel dives into profound themes of loss, grief, mental health, philosophy, and teenage emotions through the gripping story of a 14-year-old.The self-published book diverges from the signature fantasy concepts Michael is widely known for and is a shining example of his unique position as a storyteller balancing big studio projects and personal artistic goals.Website: https://www.michaeldantedimartino.com/ Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessmen

Oh the pressure of December…SMMSSo. Much. Mom. Stuff. My gift to you this season is two time-tested treats that will help you plan a holiday that's memorable. (The good kind of memorable of course:)First reminder involves: How to deal with and even shut it down, when judgey relatives are questioning your parenting choices. Next, I'll remind you of some of my favorite tips for pack leading your 2024 holiday, (with a little help from the Gilmore Girls:). You'll be prepared to make magical memories with your family, and jump head-first into 2025! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-310About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Recently, I was a guest on “The Art of Parenting” podcast. The host, Jeanne-Marie, asked some great questions and you might even be surprised by some of my answers.We discussed what it means to have a strong-willed child and why I like to use that phrase. She asked me about my approach to helping these sw kids. And of course, we talked about one of my favorite topics to spotlight: Performative Parenting.We ended with the advice I would give my younger self, and everyone who's just starting out as a parent. It was a treat to be on the other side of the mic, and I can't wait for you to hear our convo.As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-309About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksThe Art of Parenting Podcast https://voilamontessori.com/the-art-of-parenting-podcast/Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

My daughter, Avery, is first-gen Mastermind Parenting, (once removed:) . The “once removed” was her description - “the MMP recipe was still being perfected:)”. She's grown and flown now, but it's been fascinating to watch her put Mastermind principles into practice. These days she probably teaches me more than vice versa.Avery is on the pod this week to share some wisdom that I think you're gonna eat right up. She shares a few real life stories - what the “how” looks like - how to talk to kids when they are about to flip out. It's an empathy masterclass.As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-308About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksWaking the Tiger: Healing Trauma, by Pete A. Levine https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233XOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Divorce is a reality for lots of families, and it's a gigantic emotional challenge. As you're struggling to realign your life, you're also managing a lot of big feelings. You want to make things as easy as possible for your kiddos, but how can you do that when things get messy?How do you help your kids understand what's happening? How do you support them as they process the fear, sadness, and uncertainty they're sure to feel?My guest this time understands these questions, and she's here to educate us. Rachel King is an experienced family law attorney, legal commentator, and author of an upcoming book called “Getting Divorced: Now What?”Rachel has seen the messiest divorces up close. She know what the law says, and she understands the heartbreak and anxiety families go through. But she also know that there's a way through it, and how to help yourself and your kids come out the other side of it.If you're worried about supporting your kids as you navigate a divorce, this is the episode for you.As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-307About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Rachel King:Attorney Rachel King is a powerhouse in the world of family law. With over a decade of experience, she has become a force to be reckoned with in the courtroom, guiding countless families through some of the most complex and emotionally charged divorce and parenting disputes. Rachel's unmatched determination to resolve conflicts has made her a standout in the family law arena, where she believes that the quicker a family can move forward, the sooner they can find peace.But Rachel's influence doesn't stop there. She's also the owner of Budget Legal Services, a company dedicated to making family law document preparation more accessible. And this October, she's releasing a new book designed to help those facing divorce navigate the turbulent waters with confidence and a clear path forward.Resources Discussed/LinksRachel King's website is https://rachelkingattorney.com/ Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Humans learn through story. It's been this way for thousands of years. For realz:).And when you're raising strong-willed kids, no script or tip has ever had the same impact as saying “Hey, remember in that story when...”I think we need to take a step back from memorizing the words of the latest social media parenting professional and get back to simpler times. Dare I say, indigenous times. This week I have the gifted and delightful Andrew Newman, author of the Conscious Bedtime series, on the pod. Andrew writes the kind of stories I wish I had had as a kid. Andrew helps kids and parents bond more deeply at bedtime. His conscious stories help kids learn how to regulate their emotions, by using relatable stories and beautiful illustrations that your kids will remember.On this episode, Andrew shares one of his amazing conscious bedtime stories, and we workshop together how to utilize a story like this to deepen your relationship with your kids. This is a teaching episode that I just think you're going to love love love! Here is the Youtube link if you'd like to see Andrew's screenshare as he reads his beautiful book to us. https://youtu.be/Ospq-HCA6R0 As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-306About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Andrew Newman:Andrew Newman is the award-winning author and founder of www.ConsciousStories.com, a growing series of bedtime stories purpose-built to support parent-child connection in the last 20 minutes of the day.Andrew's TEDx Why the last 20 minutes of the day matter, weaves trauma-informed awareness and attachment bonding into the wonders of storytelling, outlining the importance of quality connection before sleep for your child's ability to regulate, rest deeply, and awake confident.WEBSITE: www.consciousstories.comGet your kids started with Conscious Stories using Coupon Code : PODCAST for 20% discountINSTAGRAM @consciousbedtimestories https://www.instagram.com/consciousbedtimestories/FACEBOOK Consciousbedtimestories https://www.facebook.com/consciousstoriesResources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment:

Kids are naturally motivated to feel purposeful. In other words, kids want to feel like they bring value to the pack. It's primal actually. You see, bringing value/ helping out/ feeling as if “these people might be lost without the amazing me and my mad sweeping skillz:)”, are all ways kids feel when they are given purpose. Purpose can be a tiny thing (clearing their plate from the table)…Or it can be much bigger like, (reading to a younger sibling and helping to care for them). Unfortunately, many of the ways we are taught to motivate kids do the exact opposite. Michaeleen Doucleff, author of the parenting phenom book, Hunt Gather Parent, learned and shared a ton of wisdom from cultures that do it differently than many traditional “Western Worlders” are practicing. We can learn to recognize the ways kids express their helpful instincts, and encourage them to feel the sense of purpose they're seeking.This week on the podcast this is what we are discussing. We also talk about how technology is making it harder than ever on families and why fostering that sense of purpose is more important than ever. You don't want to miss it!As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-305About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksPart one of my conversation with Michaeleen: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-304 Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment

I'm a fan of good therapy. But I also see so many moms, who are trying to help their strong-willed ones, in the wrong order imo…they look for a therapist first, before changing anything at home. Well this is what I'm talking about today with our fave author, Michaeleen Doucleff. In part one of this conversation, we discuss why pack leadership seems so natural for some folks, and so elusive for others. We also get into the topic of purpose, attention seeking, attachment styles and even disagree on a few things!As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-304About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein coaches parents raising strong willed kids. Randi searched endlessly to find the magical resource that would help her own highly sensitive, strong-willed child. (He's now 26, healthy and happy-ish:). She's been passionate about helping other “cycle-breaker” parents like herself for almost two decades.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Big changes mean big feelings, and as my youngest heads off to college, I've been deep in them.I'm so glad I got to talk to psychologist and attachment expert Eli Harwood about this. Eli literally calls herself The Attachment Nerd, and she totally gets it.This one was vulnerable and raw and felt like a therapy session for me. As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-303About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Eli HarwoodEli Harwood is a licensed therapist who lives in Colorado with her husband, Trevor, and their three children. Eli has been nerding out on attachment research for the past two decades and is on a mission to help make the world a better place, one relationship at a time. She continues this mission in her clinical work, her writing, and running her mouth about attachment on social media. When she isn't working to make the world a more secure place, she is playing dress-up with her kids, obsessing about her sourdough starter, and reminiscing about that one time she won a set of globes as a Price is Right contestant. Visit her at AttachmentNerd.com.https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd https://www.facebook.com/attachmentnerd/ https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd?lang=en Resources Discussed/LinksRaising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting To Create Confidence, Empathy, And Resilience https://attachmentnerd.com/books/raising-securely-attached-kids Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

You know those moments, when a little deal feels like a much bigger deal? And even though you tell yourself Don't sweat the small stuff or Settle down, Sister…You just can't help it. I call these Bratty Little Baby moments, and guess what? We all have them.Big people. Little people. All the people have Bratty Little Baby moments. Why you may ask? Cuz…Human-ing is hard. And messy. And and and. And the more we understand this, the less Bratty Little Baby hijacks happen. In this episode, you'll learn:How suppressing meltdown moments in kids leads to self-criticism in adulthood.The questions to ask when you've had a bratty moment and you're convinced you're a terrible parent.Why it's okay to lose control sometimes, even if you feel like you should know better.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-302About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Have you ever met someone who is doing the thing you wish “younger you” had known? Recently, I met Esther and wow…Just. Wow. In many ways she reminded me of “younger me” but better. Way. Better. (And with a cool accent to boot:)She's been a mom on a mission to turn her household around. And she has implemented so much in such a short amount of time - literal lightning speed. I feel like what took me decades to figure out has taken Esther minutes. She's inspiring to say the least…especially if you have an extra spicy strong willed one. Esther started as a podcast listener and became a self-directed learner. Now she's a committed and super impressive, pack-leading Mama Bear. Take a listen, and imagine all the ways you can transform your family with the right support!In this episode, you'll learn:How we can use tech tools and old-fashioned compassion to support moms wherever they are in their pack leadership journeys.Why well-meaning parents mistakenly see conformity and obedience as kid-raising goals.What I really think of the performative perfection standards too many of us hold ourselves to as parents.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-301About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksThe Highly Sensitive Child, by Elaine Aron, Ph.D. https://hsperson.com/books/the-highly-sensitive-child/Dr. William Sears' Attachment Parenting https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/attachment-parenting/No Bad Parts, by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. https://ifs-institute.com/nobadpartsOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Getting the kids out the door in the morning…I don't think most parents would describe this simple daily process as simple.But what if it could be? When I was thinking about what to share with you on the podcast this week, I remembered this resource, and had to share it with you to help simplify the mornings and set your family up for a super successful school year. If you need help with the morning madness, this is the episode for you.In this episode, you'll learn:Why nurturing your child's agency is so critical to making mornings less of a fight.The top five morning tasks a kiddo needs to accomplish before they're ready to take on the day.How to develop a plan for morning success, and how to get your child onboard with it.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-300About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment

You listen to parenting podcasts. You read books. You are a student of how to be the best mom for your kids. You work your tushie off for your kids…maybe even to be the parent you would've wanted. I see you. And I know you beat yourself up about the hard moments when you just can't hold it together anymore. And wouldn't it be amazing to have a partner that sees all of you? All that you do. All that you are as a mom. Would it help you to not be so hard on yourself for those “oops” moments with your kids, if your partner was there to remind you:Remind you that you are beautiful inside and out.Remind you that a few unproud moments don't make you a bad mom.Remind you that so many things are working!Remind you that your kids are lucky to have a mom like you.Enjoy this little back and forth convo between a dad and me about exactly this. And if you want to start Masterminding your house, come and join us!In this episode, you'll learn:How to recognize and ride the cycle of times where you feel like you're winning, and times when you feel like you can't do anything right.What to do when you're in the Messy Middle and feeling guilt over parenting mistakes you've made in the past.To give yourself grace when you feel like things suck, so you don't make yourself feel bad for feeling bad.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-299About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksStrange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment, by Bethany Saltman https://www.bethanysaltman.com/strange-situation Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

If you're looking for support in figuring out the “now what” after diagnosis, you've gotta know Yetta Myrick. Yetta has been in the trenches, supporting her son for 21 years, who was diagnosed early with Autism, ADHD, and intellectual disability.When it came to finding stellar support for her child with cognitive and developmental challenges, Yetta had no quit!This often felt like an uphill battle in a confusing and uncaring system. She is an Erin Brockovitch level Mama Bear - inspiring like an instant bestie who has your back. If you've felt overwhelmed trying to make sense of a diagnosis and on a quest to curate an excellent care team for your kiddo…don't miss this convo.In this episode, you'll learn:How a fierce love and determination to do right for her son helped Yetta become a resource for other families that have been touched by neurodiveristy.Why it's so important for the home environment to reinforce the support your child gets from their other caregivers.How frustrating it can be to find compassionate help for kids who need extra care, and how you can learn from the experiences of mamas like Yetta who've been there.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-298About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ About Yetta MyrickYetta Myrick is the mother of a young adult son diagnosed with Autism, ADHD, and Intellectual Disability. Yetta is the Founder and President of the nonprofit DC Autism Parents, and author of the book Mr. Marshall's Block Party. She has served as an advocate in roles with the Centers for Disease Control, Children's National Hospital, the Department of Health and Human Services, the DC Developmental Disablities Council, and many others. In 2024 she received the Advocate in Equity Award from the DC Developmental Disability Awareness Month Planning Committee.Resources Discussed/LinksDC Autism Parents https://dcautismparents.org/ Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment:

Teenage-hood. It's a loaded topic. It's a loaded time. Just you wait til this one's a teenager.Payback's a bitch - you were a nightmare as a teenager!We turned out fine but the risks are too risky for kids today. Ya'll have been asking me for teenager resources for forever. The teen years have always been tough. Changing schools, changing bodies, racing hormones. But today's teenagers face more. The world has become more complicated. #FACTS. Recently, I talked to Coach Kevin Baker, and I think you'll hear immediately why I invited him on the pod. Kevin is super committed to helping stuck in a rut or struggling teenagers. Listen as we break down this topic and how we can help our kids rather than accidentally stressing them out more. In this episode, you'll learn:Why the freedom to make choices - good AND bad - is so important to your teenager's development.How to hold expectations for your kiddos, and how to know when it's more important to let them go and just be supportive.How to stay compassionate and preserve your sanity during the transition from easy, chatty kid to sullen, surly teen.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-297About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ About Coach Kevin BakerKevin Baker is a Certified Professional Life Coach who specializes in empowering teenagers. Kevin is on a mission to nurture self-esteem, confidence, and resilience in young minds. With a firm belief that true happiness and success stem from inner strength, he guides adolescents through the transformative process of self-discovery and growth. Website: https://lifecoachkevin.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinebaker/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkevin/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TeenLifeCoachKevin Resources...

Do some days seem like a never-ending emotional rollercoaster living with your strong-willed and/or highly sensitive one? Like no matter what you say or do, they just can't seem to get it together? On days like these, you might be fighting like hell to stay calm on the outside, but inside your heart is racing and your stomach is tied up in knots. And these days seem way longer than a mere 24 hours. By bedtime, no wonder you finally blow a gasket…you're like a human tea kettle and that steam must be released, right?My guest this week can help. Michelle Grosser is a coach, mom, and neuroscience expert. She knows a ton about what stress does to our brains and bodies. She's helped so many moms address their triggers, calm their nervous systems and find the peace they so desperately want in their families and lives.We hit it off instantly. You're going to learn so much about how to manage overwhelm and avoid burnout.Listen as we discuss tangible real-life methods for emotional rollercoaster days with your highly sensitive humans.In this episode, you'll learn:How we make meaning out of our kiddos' behavior (and how to make that meaning into something positive).Why it's so crucial to recognize, honor, and contain our reactive feelings so we don't pass our stress on to our sensitive kids.To start with your own healing and mental health in order to build safety and stability for your family.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-296About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ About Michelle GrosserMichelle is an attorney, pastor, Nervous System Expert, Certified Master Life Coach, and host of The Calm Mom Podcast. Through somatic and neuroscience-based modalities, she coaches women through discovering what's beneath their triggers and emotions, so they can begin their healing journey and find peace in the present. She deeply believes that the most profound thing we can offer our children is our own healing. She and her husband Jeff have two daughters and live in Miami, FL.https://michellegrosser.com/Social: @michellegrosser.coachResources Discussed/LinksPeter Levine's Somatic Experiencing https://traumahealing.org/“All The Rage,” a...

As a mom, figuring out when to give my kids a phone has been one of the hardest topics to tackle.While there have been conveniences once they got a phone, like being able to know where they are at all times and reach them if I need to, the cons have far outweighed the pros in my family. A phone is the default way lots of kids stay in touch, organize activities, and learn about the world. But it can also suck them into the online world, and make it harder for them to engage in reality.So this week, I sat down with my youngest kid, Cory, and talked about this hot topic: What age to give a kid a phoneWhat type of phoneSocial Media accessHow a parent should handle all the common arguments kids often giveAt 18, Cory is old enough to see both the pros and cons and can vividly remember how his first smartphone changed his life. I had so much fun getting his perspective on this question and even putting him in the hot seat - weighing in on how he'd handle it with a badgering teen, claiming that EVERYONE has a phone and blah blah blah.When it comes to technology, it's like the wild wild west for parents. I think I'd do things differently if I had to do it all over again…especially based on my own kid's advice!Cory and I discuss what kinds of changes happen in the life - and mind - of a kid when they get their first smartphone, how to decide when they're ready to handle those changes, and how to (and how not to) talk to your kids about the limits around smartphones.As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-295About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

My conversations with Michaeleen Doucleff are so much fun that sometimes I forget to hit record!Usually it doesn't even matter what we talk about, but this time it's extra good. You know those times when your kid is acting like a little contrarian. You say up, they say down. You say yes, they say no. And around and around and around.Michaeleen has come up with an amazingly simple sentence that shifts this dynamic like magic.It will turn them not just into collaborators but actual co-creators.Listen as Michaeleen and I discuss oh so many things. I love my time with her so much and I think you will too!In this episode, you'll learn:How to encourage your child to contribute ideas and collaborate in planning activities.The messages about our values that we send when we choose recreation for our kids.Why things that keep kids engaged aren't always as fun as they might seem.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-294About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksThe New York Times profile of Virginia Sole-Smith https://www.nytimes.com/2024/04/21/well/eat/fat-activist-virginia-sole-smith.htmlHer book Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture https://virginiasolesmith.com/books/fat-talk-parenting-in-the-age-of-diet-culture/All Joy, No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood, by Jennifer Senior https://jennifersenior.net/all-joy-and-no-funOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment:

When you're in the trenches raising kids, it can feel like the busiest, hardest season of life. Now, imagine trying to start and run a business at the same time? I think my son, Cory, would say that's low key insane. He'd also hate me claiming to know what he'd say and attempting to use his lingo…whatevs:). And just like it rarely feels like a perfect time to get pregnant but you go for it anyway, same same when it comes to starting a business. Turns out the pack leadership skills that work so well for raising a family are also really good for helping you nurture an entrepreneurial business! In this week's podcast episode, listen to my conversation with fellow mom of three, podcaster and author, Melissa Llarena, as we dive into all things parenting and business ownering. If you've been putting your dreams on hold, listen now.In this episode, you'll learn:Why it's so important for busy moms to own and celebrate their own accomplishments.How to identify what lights you up, and give yourself permission to go for it.The powerful lessons we teach our kids when we allow ourselves to follow our dreams.Why the vision you have for your home, family, business, and life is worth fighting for.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-293About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Melissa LlarenaMelissa is an author, imagination coach, consultant, speaker, and contributor to ForbesWomen. She also hosts the podcast Unimaginable Wellness, for entrepreneurs, founders, and creators who are also moms. Her book is Fertile Imagination: A Guide for Stretching Every Mom's Superpower for Maximum Impact. https://fertileideas.comhttps://www.melissallarena.com/podcast/ Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment:

When people join the Mastermind Parenting community, they come seeking answers about the way their children behave. What they usually don't realize is that they're not just struggling with “bad” behaviors. They need a space where they can unlearn generations of bad advice, and retrain their thinking around the rewards and challenges of parenting sensitive kids. This week we're talking about a mom who is just starting that process. I'll share the experiences that are resonating with her, and how her family dynamic is being rewritten through the honesty and empathy she's receiving in community with other moms.In this episode, you'll learn:What the label “strong-willed” means for a kiddo, for what they need in a parent, and how it will serve them as they grow into the world.That we have to start with ourselves as we cultivate empathy and patience.How easy it is to get stuck in outdated, counterproductive thinking about what it means to parent a sensitive child.The huge impact on a family when mom gives herself permission to feel overwhelmed.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-292About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Can we just be real for a minute, and admit that parenting is hard? Kids are wild and wonderful, but their behavior can sometimes be really confusing. That's never more true than when a kiddo is a delight around one parent, but mean and antagonistic around the other. That's the situation one of my Mastermind moms faced when she joined us. It's been a process, for sure, but this week she shared with us how much things have improved. And it started with joining a safe, supportive community where she had permission to get to know herself better.In this episode, you'll learn:How much “quick fix” thinking can interfere with making positive change in your family dynamic.Why we so often need to look inward to figure out what's motivating challenging behavior in our children.How important it is as a parent to know, embrace, and honor your own needs.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-291About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksHolistic Psychologist Nicole LePera: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Y'all know that Michaeleen Doucleff is my favorite. Her book, Hunt, Gather, Parent, has become a must-read for my Mastermind parents. Since we first connected we've spent hours, on and off the mic, vibing and swapping parenting stories. One story I've been dying to get more detail about is the decision Michaeleen made to start a whole school out of her house! It's a remarkable tale of agency, confidence, and a mama knowing what's best for her kiddo. I guarantee you'll find it fascinating.In this episode, you'll learn:What makes a mom and journalist with no teaching experience decide to build a learning experience for her daughter.Why the way schools teach is so much more important than what they teach.How a school that doesn't match your kids' needs can be so bad for their interest in learning.The mindset that makes it possible to trust ourselves with something as important as providing the education our kids need.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-290About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

When people find out I'm a parenting coach, they'll often say they should probably take a parenting class. Now, you know I believe in the value of coaching. But there are lots of everyday opportunities to connect with our kids and teach them how to navigate the world. Stories you read together for fun can be a great source of wisdom if you just know what to look for and reinforce. I call this the “spinach in the spaghetti sauce” method of teaching kids life lessons, and I've got a fun example to show you just how effective it can be. In this episode, you'll learn:How books and stories can help us guide our kids, even when they're not intentionally teaching lessons.Why we parents put so much pressure on ourselves to teach kids all the lessons, when they're learning so much from the behavior we model.How to appreciate and activate the educational tools we already have at our disposal.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-289About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Mother's Day is so loaded for so many reasons. Now that it's in the rearview for another year, this is a great time to share some more of my most embarrassing/inspiring mothering mistakes. Embarrassing because they seem painfully obvious in hindsight. Inspiring because they're a loving reminder from me to you that no parent is perfect. We all want to do better for our kiddos than our parents did for us. The way to do that isn't to obsess over never messing up, or keep our mistakes secret. It's to own our falibility and let our kids see us as whole, complicated, loving human beings.In this episode, you'll learn:Some of the oops moments that have shaped my kiddos and our relationship over the years.Why I'm happy to let them roast me a little when we're reminiscing about times I've made a mess of things.How love and humor can grow out of being honest with yourself, your family, and the world about your parenting screw ups. And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-288About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksMy chat with my son Alec about his needle phobia https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K0BXoDVVo_AMindset: The New Psychology Of Success, by Carol S. Dweckhttps://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/44330/mindset-by-carol-s-dweck-phd/Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance, by Kelly McDaniel https://kellymcdanieltherapy.com/books/#motherhungerOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

When kids don't do simple things for themselves, it's easy to future trip and freak out. But what if you knew that they'd be okay and it will all turn out just fine? What if you could have that reassurance? Would it change how you show up now when you're feeling fed up about them not knowing how to make a hair appointment, make a sandwich, or do their own laundry? If you could drop the panic, what would you do instead? How could you course correct when you want your kids to learn basic "life-ing" skills?In this episode, you'll learn:How to take a breath and get perspective instead of panicking when your kid needs help to complete a basic “grownup” task.To keep a sense of humor around the things your kids have (and haven't) learned to do for themselves.Why blaming ourselves for doing too much can drive a wedge between us and the kid whose independence we want to support. And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-287About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Raising our kids to understand and share our values is a central part of being a parent. But so often when we send them out into the world, they come back using words or acting in ways that conflict with the things we've tried to teach them. Recently, a Mastermind mom shared that her six-year-old came home from playing at a neighbor's house and called something “gay” like it meant “bad.” This resonated extra strongly with me. All three of my own kids, when they were younger, heard the exact same thing on the playground. As tough as it can be to hear that, it's also an amazing opportunity to help strengthen your relationships with your kids while also reinforcing the values that your family holds dear. In this episode, you'll learn:How to instill your family's values without resorting to “because I said so.”Why it's worth pausing to inform yourself when your kiddo is asking why.The lifelong closeness you can nurture when you're not afraid to have tough conversations with your kids.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-286About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

When our kids are talking down about themselves, of course our first instinct is to push back. But even though we say “you're so beautiful,” or “you're so smart,” or “you'll get better if you practice,” the message we send is “I'm not listening and understanding your experience.” If you want to know the secret to tackling your kiddo's insecurities without undermining their agency and self-determination, this ep is for you! I just coached one of my fabulous Mastermind moms through this, and I know you'll be inspired by how she stepped up for her child.In this episode, you'll learn:The tools you can use to reorient your child's perspective when they're feeling bad about themselves. Why it's so much more important to listen than to argue with a kid who's struggling with their self-worth.How insecurities that are papered over with praise can turn into meanness.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-285About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

If you're a parent with a kiddo who's constantly angry and acting out, a diagnosis of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) can seem like an explanation for a lot of disruptive behavior. But what if that defiance and opposition are actually caused by other sensitivity? I've worked with so many parents who struggle to understand why their strong-willed kid is lashing out. An ODD diagnosis can seem like an answer, but the label doesn't come with the tools to actually help their sensitive little human cope with their big feelings. Let's talk about why I think ODD is a symptom, not a cause, and how to approach your struggling kiddo with the empathy they need to become a success story.In this episode, you'll learn:Why I'm convinced the behavior we label as oppositional and defiant is really our kids asking for help the only way they know how. All the other sensitivities and specialness that an ODD label can cause us to overlook.What strong-willed kids are looking for when they use external conflict to compensate for internal discomfort.Why we try to think our way through situations when we should learn how to feel through them instead.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-284About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/Linkshttps://mastermindparenting.com/callDr. Steven Storage on ODD as a symptom rather than a diagnosis: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C40o3PyL8C_Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Housework. Homemaking. Chores. Whatever you call it, it's hard work to maintain a safe, clean house, and it's made so much harder by the expectations around that work. So many moms, whether they're employed outside the home or not, find themselves in charge of a lot more of those household tasks than their kids or their partners. If we're going to change those expectations we have to change the way we talk with our kids about the labor that's so often invisible to them. Coach and author Lori Sugarman-Li has written an amazing kid's book that will help you have those conversations, and turn housework into a full-family collaboration. In this episode, you'll learn:The mindset shift that will help you see the value of including your kiddos in household upkeep. The kind of communication and compromise that will help your family express gratitude for your household and take pride in the work of maintaining it.How the health and well-being of women around the world are made worse by the invisible labor they disproportionately shoulder.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-283About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Our GuestLori Sugarman-Li believes deeply in the power of families and is a passionate voice in the cultural shift aiming to articulate the value and visibility of unpaid work. She is dedicated to fostering meaningful conversations within families, encouraging them to contemplate how they care for one another and their shared space. Lori's book Our Home: The Love, Work & Heart Of Family is available for pre-order at https://ourhomeourpride.com/my-childrens-book. Her website is https://ourhomeourpride.com/, and she's on Instagram @ourhomeourprideResources Discussed/LinksHunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans, by Michaleen Doucleff https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution For When You Have Too Much To Do (And

Kimberly Samson is the author of F*Ck This, a candid and hilarious collection of essays about the journey through midlife. She's also one of my oldest friends, who has witnessed a ton of my formative moments as a person and a parent. In this conversation, Kimby shares what motivated her to write a book about the midlife experience and what she's learned by living through it. She also lifts the curtain on some of my best (and not so best) moments as a mom. It's a whole new perspective how I've grown as a parent of a strong-willed child, and how my mishaps have given me the tools to help others.In this episode, you'll learn:The pivotal role my sensitive child played in my transformation as a mother, and my ambition to help keep other parents from repeating my missteps.Why it's okay for parents to talk to each other about their children more than anything else.That unconditional love and basic human annoyance aren't mutually exclusive.How amazing my friend Kimby is!And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-282About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Our GuestKimberly Samson is an author, podcaster, blogger, influencer, mother of three, wife of one, and a native Angeleno. Her book F*Ck This: Practical Advice To Get You Through Your Midlife Crisis is available at https://www.amazon.com/CK-THIS-PRACTICAL-THROUGH-MIDLIFE/dp/B0CRPB51RGResources Discussed/LinksThe Midlife podcast and blog: https://themidlife.co/ Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Every parent has some version of this story. Your kid crosses a line that's important to you. You exchange angry words, but eventually you talk it out and repair your rapport. Now you're stuck with conflicting feelings. You don't want to cause further disruption to your relationship with your child, but you also know their behavior isn't likely to change without some consequence. This time, I'm sharing the experience of a Masterminder who was caught in this exact dilemma. We'll discuss the difficult but necessary steps you can take to honor your values, communicate their importance to your children, and help them be better prepared for adulthood in the process.In this episode, you'll learn:Why sometimes the way to step up for your kiddos means imposing consequences that neither of you is happy about.The long-term benefit of short-term discomfort, for your relationship with your kids and their relationship with the world.How vitally important followthrough is in your role as pack leader.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-281About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Therapy can be a big help for some people. But for stressed-out parents, healing our old wounds and stepping up for our kiddos often requires a different approach. One of my Masterminders, Dr. Shawn Hondorp, has experienced this disconnect from the inside. Shawn is an experienced clinical psychologist who isn't satisfied with the tools and techniques of the traditional diagnostic therapy methods. She's developing a new approach to improving mental health.Shawn's practices reject pathology and easy labels. Instead, they help you identify your old patterns of thoughts and feelings, understand why they were woven, and put them to work in ways that help rather than hinder your growth. I'm honored that working with me has helped her find the courage to share this new vision of what therapy can accomplish, and I can't wait for you to learn about it!In this episode, you'll learn:How a focus on efficiency and accomplishment can actually cost us - and our kiddos - more time and energy in the long run.The real reason why we struggle with negative self talk, and how that context can help you keep it from overwhelming you.Why pack leaders need other pack leaders they can lean on and grow with.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-280About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Our GuestDr. Shawn Hondorp is a clinical psychologist whose goal is to create safe learning environments for those who want to explore innovative approaches to healing, one authentic conversation at a time. Learn more about her work, and subscribe to The Innovative Therapist Podcast, at https://drshawnhondorp.com/ Resources Discussed/LinksNo Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dick Schwartz https://ifs-institute.com/store/419Decolonizing Therapy: Oppression, Historical Trauma & Politicizing Your Practice, by Dr. Jennifer Mullan https://www.decolonizingtherapy.com/book Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course!

Last week's conversation about ADHD got my brain firing about what a diagnosis can and can't do for the parents of a highly sensitive child. Getting that label can be a starting point, but our mental health system doesn't train medical professionals - or support struggling parents - to understand what those kiddos need to adapt and thrive. Membership Coordinator (and Mastermind Co-parent) Lindsey joins me on the mic this week, to share a success story from a new Masterminder. From there we talk about why diagnosis is just the start, medication isn't a sure fix, and what leading your pack through a tough day with a strong-willed kiddo actually looks like.In this episode, you'll learn:How a disjointed mental health system often leaves parents with more questions than answers.The important role of your intuition in deciding what works best for your family.Why a diagnosis can be helpful, and why it's only one piece of a puzzle when it comes to helping your child navigate the world.The difference between understanding your kiddo's big feelings and letting them hijack your household when they express those feelings.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-279About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

An ADHD diagnosis can be a welcome answer for parents who are struggling to understand their child's behavior. But a diagnosis doesn't come with a user's manual, and kids especially can have a hard time understanding what all the clinical terms mean for them and their needs. This time I'm in conversation with pediatric neuropsychologists Dr. Katia Fredriksen and Dr. Yael E. Rothman. They've written Different Thinkers: ADHD a kid-friendly guide that aims to help little ones understand and celebrate their neurodiversity.In this episode, you'll learn:Why sleep issues, anxiety, and other sensitivities are often mistaken for signs of ADHD.How a collaborative approach involving parents, teachers, and medical professionals can help you understand and honor kids no matter their neurodiversity.That helping a highly sensitive child cope with an overstimulated world works best when you take it step by step.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-278About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About My Guests:Katia Fredriksen, Ph.D. and Yael E. Rothman, Ph.D. are pediatric neuropsychologists and the authors of Different Thinkers: ADHD, a child-friendly guide that strips away the stigmas, myths, and misconceptions associated with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. https://www.boystownpress.org/different-thinkers-adhd-softcover/ Resources Discussed/LinksThe Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When The World Overwhelms Themby Elaine N. Aron Ph.D. https://hsperson.com/books/the-highly-sensitive-child/Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

We all want our kids to grow up confident and self-sufficient. But by doing too much and protecting our kids from failure, so many well-meaning moms and dads end up discouraging the autonomy they want their kids to achieve. Welcome to the first episode of an ongoing conversation with my friend and fave, Michaeleen Doucleff, author of the phenomenal book Hunt, Gather, Parent. We use real stories from my Mastermind Parents to help us find antidotes to the performative, perfectionist parenting models we're trying to overturn.In this episode, you'll learn:The key mindset shift that will help you develop a mutually respectful, collaborative connection with your children.What happens when you stop trying to find the perfect script and start talking to your kids like full human beings.Why parents who do the most for their kids wind up raising little anxious humans.How the strategies we use to motivate and reward our kiddos actually push down their natural drive to help out.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-277About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Michaleen Doucleff:Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/ Resources Discussed/LinksJonathan Haidt's upcoming book The Anxious Generation https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/729231/the-anxious-generation-by-jonathan-haidt Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson https://www.newharbinger.com/9781626251700/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/The Whole Brain Child, by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. https://www.tinabryson.com/thewholebrainchildOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course!

No parent loves to admit feeling annoyed by their kids. It's tempting to dismiss little problems, and try to ignore the frustration they cause inside us. This is extra hard if we've experienced gaslighting in the past. If we've gotten the message from partners or parents that our emotions aren't trustworthy, it can be so easy to repeat that pattern and not trust our reactions. But if we pay attention to them, small frustrations can give us big info about what's going on with our kiddos. And if you approach the annoying behavior with a curious, understanding mindset, you can address the root causes before they turn into bigger issues down the road.In this episode, you'll learn:A real-life example of a small annoyance that could have turned into a big deal if this Mastermind mom ignored her feelings.Why it's so important to treat a kid who's acting out like a teammate rather than an adversary.How to listen to your inner voice when it's telling you that a little deal behavior is hinting at a bigger problem.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-276About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Emotionally immature parents set us up for lots of challenges in our own role as family pack leaders. One of the most difficult ways that shows up is when our actual kiddos act in ways that echo behavior we endured from emotionally immature grown-ups. This week I invite you to listen in on some coaching I did with two of my amazing Masterminders. They're making huge strides recognizing the behavior that's triggering their instinctive responses, and using their pack leadership skills to break the cycle of blame and disappointment.In this episode, you'll learn:Why so much of what we think of as “bad” behavior comes down to our own unrealistic expectations for our kids.How building your pack leadership can help you be more conscious of the skills your kids haven't developed yet, and provide the guidance and certainty they need to learn them.The ways your own upbringing influences those expectations, and how understanding the connection can help you lead with empathy rather than judgment.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-275About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson https://www.newharbinger.com/9781626251700/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

Look out, listener, I have another new book crush, and I can't wait to discuss her work with you! I've recently been captivated by Lindsay C. Gibson and her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. It spoke to so much of my experience with my own parents and their resistance to reflecting on how they raised me, and it also explains the conditioning that so many of my Mastermind parents are struggling against! I'm ready to start a whole conversation on the topics this book raised. I'm glad you're here to be part of it!In this episode, you'll learn:Why it can be so hard for our parents to face the mistakes they made raising us, and how we can learn from their resistance to self-reflection.How the concept of emotional immaturity can help you understand your own healing, and help you keep that behavior out of your own parenting. Why highly-sensitive kids are uniquely equipped to see through the pretense and performance that we use to mask our insecurities as parents.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-274About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson https://www.newharbinger.com/9781626251700/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/Author and podcaster Glennon Doyle https://momastery.com/ Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

If you've listened to the podcast, you've probably heard me mention how much I love television. Since I was a kid, TV has been a place where I could escape from reality for a little while. But it's also helped me to understand what kind of family relationships I want, and modeled the kind of parent I want to show up as. I recently rediscovered The Mary Tyler Moore Show, which was a favorite when I was in college. An episode I just watched showed me that our worries about perfection aren't a new thing. We've felt this pressure to perform and be the perfect parents since at least 1970. Let me (and Mary) show you where that pressure comes from, and what to do about it.In this episode, you'll learn:How we got so caught up in the wisdom of parenting books and the advice of experts, and stopped trusting ourselves.Why we worry so much about saying the wrong thing and screwing our kids up forever.How the performance of parenting prevents us from being authentic and real (until we're too pissed off to keep up the act).And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-273About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksThe Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown https://brenebrown.com/book/the-gifts-of-imperfection/Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

My mind is on fire with all the things we're discovering in my new Pack Leadership group. One of our newest Masterminders is experiencing a very familiar kid scenario: pulled in too many directions, never enough time, her energetic daughter is seeking attention by acting out. Usually, I'd send her to our NICE Framework, to help her better understand her daughter's behavior. But this time, I took a step back and asked about HER day-to-day experience. It turns out she's got her own patterns and triggers, and no amount of compassion for her child is going to help if she's not taking care of herself. I can't wait for you to hear a recent voice message I left for the group, where we talked about why it feels like there's so much potential in this different approach. In this episode, you'll learn:Why we don't usually think about self-understanding and compassion when we're focused on addressing behavioral challenges. What drives kids to act out and misbehave when they can't express their need for more attention.How to think about being present with your kids so you're not just going through the motions of spending time with them.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-272About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksIntro to my NICE Framework: https://mastermindparenting.com/222-1-the-framework-that-transforms-strong-willed-kids/Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

We're coming into 2024 with a whole new perspective on the pack leadership our families need. We're done performing robotic perfection. We're rejecting the script, tips, and how-tos that reinforce our feelings of inadequacy. We're giving ourselves the grace to feel our feelings, and granting ourselves permission to fuck up sometimes. We're embracing self-awareness, and celebrating our messiness. We're showing up as whole, healthy, emotionally expressive humans, and showing our kids that they can do it, too. Won't you join us?In this episode, you'll learn:How easily our kids see through us when we try to play the role of the perfect, patient parent.Why giving ourselves space to feel our feelings is so difficult and so, so important.The key way of thinking about breaking generational cycles and showing up for our kids in the way we wish we'd had growing up.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-271About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksAuthor and athlete David Goggins: https://davidgoggins.com/Neuroscientist Andrew Huberman: https://www.hubermanlab.com/Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/