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Christine Deyo is a professional route setter, and the former head route setter at the Austin Bouldering Project. We talked about Christine's path to route setting, learning to be creative, setting challenges and games, the Fontainebleau circuit system, the responsibility of route setters, competitions, the role of diversity in setting, and the future of the climbing industry.Support the Podcast:thenuggetclimbing.com/supportBecome a Patron:patreon.com/thenuggetclimbingClimbWell Retreat:climbwell.co/retreat-rifleUse code "NUGGET10" for 10% discount!Show Notes:  thenuggetclimbing.com/episodes/christine-deyoNuggets:2:30 – Christine's dad, and falling in love with bouldering4:44 – Why Oregon?6:02 – Studying biochemistry, unemployment, and discovering route setting9:38 – The Nightly Business Report on PBS11:58 – Christine's early route setting education14:26 – How route setting qualifications have evolved, and what Christine looks for when hiring a route setter18:57 – Three notable chapters in Christine's evolution as a route setter28:36 – What makes a good setter?34:33 – The circuit system at the Bouldering Projects36:33 – How circuits work in Fontainebleau41:22 – How grades work within circuits44:23 – Combining the circuit system with the training boards, and improving at climbing aside from strength47:10 – How Christine uses the circuit system for training purposes50:45 – Patron question from Tyler: What are your thoughts on parkour-style setting and balancing that with movement found on real rock?58:16 – Patron question from Joe: Are there ways to get setters around the world to collaborate more?1:03:17 – Patron question from Tim: Where do you draw inspiration from when setting routes? (Christine's collection of note cards.)1:07:30 – Creativity can be learned, creating constraints, and route setting challenges/games1:13:01 – Tonde's email, the responsibility of setters, and the role of diversity in route setting1:20:31 – Questions from Tonde: What value do female setters bring to a setting team? Why bother with diversity?1:26:28 – More questions from Tonde: Is setting art? Where is setting going? The future of setting for competitions?1:30:45 – The role route setters play in competitions1:44:52 – What is the value of route setters in the climbing industry?1:47:50 – Safety in route setting1:53:06 – Setter salaries, ages, and turnover1:56:54 – How we move setting forward as a profession2:02:03 – Christine's tips for taking care of yourself as a route set2:09:04 – Christine's career, and what's next2:14:19 – Learning to set dynos2:19:55 – Gratitude 

Hazel Findlay is a professional climber and mental training coach from the UK, known for her boldness on dangerous and difficult trad routes. We talked about common themes in mental coaching, how the ego manifests in our climbing, supporting your partners, fear of falling, and Hazel's mental approach while projecting the legendary ‘Magic Line', her first 5.14c.Support the PodcastBecome a PatronClimbWell Retreat:climbwell.co/retreat-rifleUse code "NUGGET10" for 10% discount!Show Notes:  thenuggetclimbing.com/episodes/hazel-findlayNuggets:5:00 – Talking across time zones, and Hazel's home in Whales7:00 – Masters studies, Brexit + covid, and Hazel's lifestyle these days9:33 – Being trapped on the ferry curing covid11:25 – Weather in Whales16:11 – Priorities, balancing climbing, coaching, and school, and doing stuff that involves others20:52 – Coaching is asking questions, and helping people figure out what they want and how they can get there25:27 – The ego27:42 – How the ego manifests in our climbing, and loosening our attachment to outcomes30:52 – Patron Question from Tyler: What type of people are most likely to seek coaching?33:42 – Patron Question from Tyler: Differences between men and women (in general) when it comes to fear of falling37:05 – Patron Question from Tyler: Advice when supporting someone who is working on their mental game?40:37 – More resources on fear of falling41:32 – Patron Question from Kellen: Differences between advanced and new climbers when it comes to mental training needs.43:17 – Patron Question from Will: How to balance between confidence vs. cockiness, and cultural differences in confidence48:46 – Magic Line description54:51 – Hazel's mental practice while climbing Magic Line58:18 – Jasna's email, and what inspired Hazel about Magic Line1:04:19 – Question from Jasna: How did Hazel prepare for the possibility of failure?1:07:37 – Keeping your head and climbing better1:08:40 – Daily mental practices 1:11:20 – Hazel's thoughts on the lack of publicity of Magic Line1:15:17 – Patron Question from Jen: Any advice from Hazel's shoulder surgery and recovery?1:24:03 – Patron Question from AnnaMarie: Most memorable climb? 1:25:03 – Next El Cap route?1:25:56 – Escaping to Greece during covid, and her upcoming trip to the states1:29:14 – How to connect with Hazel1:30:18 – Gratitude

We Interview Octavia Ramirez, founder of Paper & Coin (https://www.paperandcoin.com/) – a financial coaching business that uses certified financial planners to help define how millennials view wealth and manage their money towards their goals. On the show, we talk to her about wealth and how we as millennials and gen-zers need to redefine what wealth means to us.    [0:30 - 2:25] INTRO - How do you define wealth? Do we need to buy a house or is wealth better defined by our flexibility and freedom to live the lives we want?    [2:26 - 8:36]  MONEY MISTAKE OR MAKEUP - Maxing out TFSA, Not DIY investing, Uber Eats   [8:37 - 15:14] What inspired you to start a financial coaching business that’s uniquely targeted to millennials?    [15:15 - 19:19] You’re part of Highline beta’s newest cohort of startups. What’s it like taking your bootstrapped business to getting seed funding?   [19:20  - 27:59] What are your key priorities now that you’re seeking external funding? Can you give us a hint about what Paper & Coin is going to do in the future? How budgeting apps fail us. How personal finance needs to better align with personal fitness. Finding your tribe.    [28:00 - 32:22] How Paper & Coin is flipping the script on financial coaching, planning, and what millennials really need to build their wealth.  A story of the Paper & Coin magazine being stocked in the fashion section, not on the finance shelf. Why don’t we talk about money?    [32:23 - 39:29] How is Paper & Coin changing the way millennials think about wealth? Octavia wants a California ranch and a bunch of horses.  #1 - A clear vision for your life.  #2 - What does wealth mean for you? Challenge yourself to define your wealth.  #3 - Staying focused on your goals and future plans   [39:30 - 43:15In your conversations with millennials - what conversations and conflicts are millenials having with their parents? If someone gives you money, they have permission to tell you what to do.  [43:16 - 50:09] The reason our parents want us to buy a house is financial stability. But is that the life we want to lead? Is FIRE at the forefront of redefining wealth? Does this new definition of wealth hurt new Canadians? Or Canadians living on the fringes? Is there a difference between people that inherit wealth and those who don’t? Will the inheritors destroy their wealth if they don’t adopt a new lifestyle?   [50:10 -54:37]  So is education about finances at the core of defining your path to wealth? What do you recommend to clients when you ask about safeguarding their wealth?    [54:38-  1:02:41] RAPID FIRE QUESTIONS Tyler: What’s in your wallet?  Aashti: A book everyone should read?  Tyler: What was your first job and what did you learn from it? Aashti: What is a commonly held belief about your industry or space that you passionately disagree with?  Tyler: If you had one tweet that everyone in the world would read, what would it say?   Aashti: What’s your number (to retire, how much you need?)  Tyler: Where can people find you if they have more questions?    [1:02:42 - 1:03:34] OUTRO

The end of 2019 has arrived. Let's recap Path of Exile through 2019 and end with a bang! Giveaway information:Twitter Tweet to RetweetReddit Post for Episode 6Join the party! Check out our website for more episodes and be sure to follow us on Twitter.www.foreverexiled.comTwitter @ForeverExiled82Path of Exile WebsiteWrecker of Days Builds ListFull Transcript of Episode:Justin: Welcome to forever Exiled. The Path of Exile podcast. This is technically Episode six, but it's going to be our bonus. New Year's Eve and Day episode. I am one of your host, Justin a k a. TagzTyler: and I'm Tyler Wrecker of Days.Justin: Make sure you check out the rest of this episode right up until the end because we may have a sexy giveaway coming up anyway. Ty, how are you doing? Well, how are you? Good. So this is gonna be our our extra bonus for fun. Super awesome. Episode six I agree. So, uh, path of exile G just released today their best of 2019 video, which was awesome. If you haven't checked it out, make sure you watch it. Maybe we'll put a link in the show notes just so you can find it. I think they're coming up with some more information on there. Accomplishments and bragging tomorrow, which is New Year's Eve will be tomorrow. So hopefully will be out there and live with everybody at the same time. So, yeah, let's let's ah, let's jump into it. So we figured it'd be kind of fun to look back a year at what grinding gear games development plan for 2019 was and assuming like we will continue this for the next 15 or 16 years, we'll be able to do this. We'll be able to do this at the end of each year and kind of see what was announced the previous year and sort of where things went from there. So we've got the development plan for 2019 from grinding gear games last year. 2019. Here's what they say. 2019 will see the release of four significant Path of Exile updates in the form of 3.6 and March 3.7 in June, 3.8 in September and 3.9 in December. These releases will follow the formula we have been using over the last few years, introducing a challenge league, various expansion features, new character, skill, archetypes to play, and masses of other fixes and quality of life improvementsTyler: while working on the 2019 updates. We also hope to make significant progress on the four point Omega expansion, which we now know as path of exile, too likely coming sometime in 2020. For those unfamiliar with our version numbering system, Once we've released Update 3.9, we are forced to number the next 14 point. Oh, for example, the version after 3.9 and March is 3.10 as we do not expect to release 4.0 in the first part of next year. Development of 4.0 is a massive task that is absolutely affected by our desire to continue to release sizable leagues at our usual pace. So we're taking our time and making sure it's ready before we decide on a release date. 20Justin: nine. Teen culminates in the Exile Con Fan convention in November, where we can announce and demonstrate December's 3.9 expansion, as well as a small preview of 4.0, this convention takes place approximately 2 to 3 weeks before the 3.9 release, so you should be able to play a near final build at the show. We expect to put Tickets are for sale in the next couple of weeks.Tyler: We're also putting the finishing touches on the PlayStation four version of Path of Exelon should be able to announce a release date in the near future. It's going to be a busy year.Justin: So that was the development plan for 2019 Fergie and I will say I think they hit all of them. They nailed it. Yeah, I think they did. And they were very good at their ah, super chilled idea of what four point I was going to be in comparison to what we found out November. So we're going to get to that part sort of Indian. Let's let's break down the league's because we've had now a year we've had were in the fourth league for this this year. So it's obviously three have been completed. Ones very, very new. So let's let's jump through each of them. So we'll go 3.63 point six was the synthesis leak.Tyler: Mmm. Do you rember what you bladeJustin: synthesis for me Now? I I don't entirely know. I do remember playing arc totems. Ah, for quite a bit of it, just because so synthesis was a huge cast early there were that was the league of ah, huge changes to spells and just casting in general, mainly kind of got kicked a little bit and just was left alone. But casting was a big one So for me, my main one was, uh, was arc totems and it actually carried me. I think I played it quite a bit. Brill League. And I think that one took me to 97 or so. I think ITyler: lied Well, and I laughed and I laughed. That was the one league where you are. Totems was just storing everything. You could have done it with your eyes closed. You're having a great time. And you bailed on it to make something else because you felt like it was too slow. And you're flying. I mean, it was like a split second. I couldn't even hit like the start stop button fast enough to to say how fast you were laying your total's. But it was too slow for you. And so you respect?Justin: Yeah, I don't remember. I don't remember too much what I did after that. Only because that that was a big league for me. Just in currency. I had the I can't remember the name of it, but the Mir dhe shield that I ended up selling for I remember selling all of my ark totem gear for I don't know, 60 or 70 exults and just playing around and going crazy and then not carrying after that point. What did you play them? You remember?Tyler: Uh, I don't remember playing it, but I had it written down. It was how I do my lists of characters. My 3.6 build was an R f character. Okay, remember playing it, but I'm sure it did. Great.Justin: Nice. So, synthesis. It was not a great release. So it wasn't. Ah, it wasn't my favorite. While we can talk about favorite ones later. But the system wasTyler: confusing. Yeah, and they're confusing.Justin: And there's not a whole lot of it left in theTyler: game. No, no, it definitely went by the wayside in terms of how it could fit into the current court game. Um, you barely ever see. It really only exists for as I've seen it. Um, it only exists in Zana maps. When you see her in a map, you could have a synthesis map as one of your options. And that's really the only way that I've come across it. Naturally. I don't remember any other way that they've tried to infuse it, but that's that's it. I remember. Sorry. Go ahead. Go ahead. I was just gonna say I remember it being a league. That was as as much effort as they put into it. I remember it being a leak, that I was completely happy to just skip the content, just go right past whoever was that was doing all the since this stuff and I just play the map and do the atlas. Normally,Justin: the idea behind it when it was first announced seemed really cool to me. The way it actually played out, I found overwhelmingly confusing. It was really difficult to plan out the I don't even know what you would call it. The map type thing that they had. I didn't find it. There were so many issues where ah ah, block the memory segments. Yeah, an area would, like, clear out for some reason, Or you couldn't. I just didn't like how that function work. There was way too much extra added to the game. And can you even go there? Can you see? What was it called? The nexus, I think. Yeah. I think that's what it was called. Can you still together? IsTyler: every Texas not that I know of? No, I don't think you can get the pieces of memory anymore, but you can still get synthesized items. That cannon all within a synthesized map.Justin: Yeah, it was It was It was a I don't know what the word is that it was ah, valiant attempt to try and make something new to the game. But to me, it was way, way, way, way too much. It was like, what was the one in the previous year with the the boards and all the lines and everything that would, uh, go between all of the bosses? It was the one with the change of the craft.Tyler: Um oh, syndicate. No, no, it's not called syndicate. I was calling in to getJustin: the mail. It was to me, it was like that. It was adding way too much of the game, and I just wanted to kill stuff, but so that actually kind of leads into legion. So that was synthesis. It was a fun league, but I did not touch the league mechanics almost atTyler: all. It's It's one of its unique, I think since I've started playing, which was in the early two's, um, it was unique in the sense that there's a lot of the times where they have to make a lot of changes. Right? Remember with synthesis, they had that blue stuff that would be coming in, and it would really start to cave in on us what it was speed game, right? So they had to modify it a lot. And even though this was now 2018 but you mentioned betrayal, they modified betrayal a lot to try and balance it for people that were leveling cleared two people that like Game and so that happens in a lot of leagues, and that's just how it goes. But it was one of those leagues where this bite all the changes that they made to try and balance it properly so that it could be playable. It was the mechanic itself that held a lot of people. That, and just matching the memory fragments, being able to store the fragments, figuring out how they work to the best ability was from what I found from what I read. From what I remember, that was the hardest part about the league.Justin: I had a blast in the league, but I did not enjoy the league mechanic. I loved the castor changes. I love the you know the skill reworks. I really, really liked a lot of the changes that they made for game play, but I did not like the guy just didn't enjoy the synthesis side of of the league. But are we good with 3.6? Yeah, let's move on. So 3.6 goes through, 3.7 comes out in. That's legion. And now legion. I think one of my favorite things about legion the Legion, was it was dummy proof. It was relatively simple. It was very much breach ish. Not obviously the same exactly is breach. But the idea that you would just come across them while you play it. You could do them while you were in a map or in his own, and it didn't require you to really have to do much else. You got to fight additional mobs, and there was obviously other stuff that could happen within that you know how the league was set up. But the overall way that it worked was super simple. Super simple.Tyler: Yeah, You see it in the map, you hit the button, you just kill as much as you can. Yeah. Maybe they'll kill you if you unlock too much there. Too tough. Or maybe you killed them all. And then you move on, you pick up your loot, you keep going. And I loved it. Absolutely loved it.Justin: Yeah. And then so with that league, they also came up with a huge Malay rework, which wasTyler: awesome, especially because the amount of crying melee fans did in 3.6 for the castor league. It was really nice toe. Have those wines dissipate in 3.7? Yeah, andJustin: and while it was a really, really cool mainly rework, which has really a lot of that stuff even now it's still very useful to Malay builds. A lot of the changes that they made are still super appreciated. It also became literally the cyclone leak. It did. It did. And because of the way that legion worked, I loved the legion part where you would just you'd find it in a map, click it, you'd break a bunch of stuff. You kill a bunch of guys and you keep moving on. I wasn't a huge fan of the endgame side of it where you would go to that that I can't remember what it was called the other area. And you could, you know, based on how many you wanted to do, was the domain of the timeless conflict. Look at you. Ah, that part to me was not my favorite. Only because I had seen what people could do in there with insane gear. And it just made you feel like, very weak. Didn't like. Yeah, yeah. What did you play? Do you remember what you played in that in that leak?Tyler: Yeah, that was my blocking build my trigger Happy build that I do. And ah, it was perfect for it. Um, I was using Cyclone with it. Now I've recently changed it. The last leaguer to To what's it called Laid Storm. But I did Cyclone for that league with Max block build. And it would have worked really well except trigger skills had almost 100% reproduction crash associate ID for the first month. So I really tried to play, but because I had all three trigger skills on my on my build, I didn't know and they didn't really know they did. It wasn't fixed for about the first month, so Unfortunately, I didn't get a lot of playing time andJustin: didn't actually last that long. Was it aTyler: month? It was a month before the trigger skills Scott fixed. It takes time to figure out like that for long was the longest time because it was a cyclone build. They were really focused on trying to fix the mechanics and cycle behind the scenes because they thought cycling is causing a lot of crashes. It ended up causing very few, but it was a focus and it's just how it works, so not as a criticism. It's just what was impacting my specific build took quite a while to fix. And so by then, two people that I play with were kind of Douglas Aly.Justin: Maybe. I definitely don't think it was specific to the type of build you play, though, because that was the league where Cyclone became channeling and that made a huge difference to what you could do with it. And so you saw so many of the on effect skills now in used with cyclone, which was cool. Now I played flicker strike on Lee becauseTyler: I don't know why I actually don't remember what made me think A flicker strike. You're trying to make me throw up.Justin: Maybe. Maybe it was my goal. Just 100%. Be sure I wouldn't play with you. I'm not sure, but, uh, I will say it was the first league in I have played since was April 2012 in the in the beta. This was my very first headhunter drop where it actually draw, right? And so that was in one of the Legion things that was actually glacier farming, which was a big thing for me in that league. And I remember it dropped as a unique leather belt. And I was laughing because Ethan, who was who was in my office at the time, and I, you know, kind of just said to him, Of course, it's a tease. I'm not gonna pick it up. What a waste. I know it's gonna be garbage worms, Moulter. Whatever it is, um and so I most over top of it in both of us, just like crap their pants. Because it was it was actually centered, so that that was probably my favorite part of it.Tyler: That's if you were to have a highlight reel. That's that'd be rightJustin: at the top. Yeah, it was cool to have. I've had ahead 100 before, but they've always been through currency, so this is kind of cool to actually have one draw.Tyler: That's awesome.Justin: Yeah. And then So this was also the change. This latte league changed to the five sockets, which obviously allowed you forgetting to That owe me and you were talking aboutTyler: Oh, you mean the map device was able to have five sockets? Yeah, you could find that. I was pretty cool, right? Still in the game, they say still in the game. Is it if this didn't remove it, but I I haven't come across it, YouJustin: know, myself, either. Yeah, it and then timeless jewels were and they were in that the guy didn't play much with, um, they confused the hell out of me. I don't want to see a jewel with just a bunch of numbers, and you have to just put it in to find out what it was just just wasn't for me, But it was fun, Lee. I liked I liked legion. So, Jenny, we're good with legion.Tyler: I believe so.Justin: Legion then leads into blight, So blight comes out. I found it, actually, at little shocking that it was tower defense. It made me laugh when they announced it. And this was the league of monster minion buffs, which I knew you were in love with, obviously, since I readTyler: it. I am a minion. Pet lover, depending. What game you come from. I am hollow vote minions. My league. It was fantastic.Justin: So what did you play that league?Tyler: Zombies. What? Well, I did. They made a lot of I wasn't originally gonna plays office. I was. There's 11 or two of my guides. I've only played on Collins. Wanna have a plate on PC? And so I really wanted to play one of the other ones. But there were so many changes to minions and not just minions like the core gem like zombies was modified substantially from 3.73 point eight. But then they added an insane amount of very different but also powerful. Um, support gems like feeding, frenzy and meat shield and death Mark. And then they changed the values of the corresponding like minion damage and minion speed to accommodate those new additions and how minions leveled and then the whole necromancer ascendancy. It was so different that I had to play it just to see what it was like for the sake of replying to guide responses. But it was really good. ObviouslyJustin: it was the first league for me since again. I want to say it was backing closed Beta. Uh, when I was playing, I think one of my very first builds I ever played was minions. And I remember one of the very first things I ever message the developers to say was there needs to be a counter like the idea that I can't see how many zombies I have out is really difficult to play, how a minion build. And so this was, I think, my first time touching minions. Besides, I played with us rs a little bit, but I don't think I touch onions for years, years and years. Of course, with this league, you really there wasn't I mean, I could have played other stuff, but it just said it made so much sense to play around with with millions, and it was fun. It was the easiest league start I've ever had ever in the history of path of exile. I remember going, but this is something's wrong. This is.Tyler: Well, you didn't zombies for your league start, right? You didn't do any different. Yeah,Justin: No, I went zombies and it was just It was better. It was so smooth. And I remember laughing to you. Maybe a month in just jokingly saying that. Oh, boy, you're zombies are going to take a hit. I think it was actually right after celestial zombies came out. I was like, All you're screwed. That's it. That's the curse. Once you could stay with celestial. You're done. Yeah, So that that actually, for me, blight didn't last a super long time. But I do remember ending it with celestial everything. Of course, I got every single celestial, empty X had a bunch of the minions in the celestial on. Did you? Did you like the blighted leak? Did you like the towerTyler: defense again? I really liked it. I'm I was apathetic to the tower defense part, but I am a huge fan. My favorite leagues are the ones that just let me kill stuff right away. And so I love things like blight. You know, I love it when I have an insane amount of rogue exiles on the map. I just love it. What is it? Reach where they come out of the ground. Just love it. So this one was similar to that? I didn't have to go anywhere else to find my to do the lead content. And they were just comes rushing at you, which is great. Um, I I was apathetic to the tower stuff, so I basically just looked for the closest checkpoint. Her choke point or two made them slow and then let my minions deal with the rest. And Natalie, because zombies were so overpowered, that strategy did work. It was their intense to make towers almost required, unless you had an insanely over powerful built. So, um, I did like it. I love that the minions just came rushing at you, or I guess not passing pod, whatever that was called, but yeah, no, I really liked it. If if it worked, if it worked.Justin: Sure. I think my favorite part about Blight was sister Cassius. Oh, here singing and was listening in. And she just didn't give a damn about you either. Was almost irritated that you were there.Tyler: Yeah, Yeah, she needed you. And that pissed her off. Yeah, it was pretty funny. I do the one thing about blight. It would have been It was very difficult. I primarily play console and it people had to really, really do specific builds that weren't busy for a Minion League. Blight was too busy, right? I mean, everybody's has a lot of minions out, and then there's an insane amount of monsters out with a lot of hit points. And there was It was just a slide show on normal consoles, not just the original P s foreign Xbox one, but the the second version of thumb. Even some people with the Higher and PS four and Xbox one X they they'd run into some pretty big slide. So slideshow stuff, too, depending on it. So for ah, Minion League blight kind of counteracted itself with with what would be overpowered and successful. So a lot of the streams that you would see we're primarily PC, especially as you got later into the league, because only a higher NPC could actually handle a full blight map. The full board of minions. But I really liked it. I just wish it I just wishJustin: it worked, right? I do remember hearing people struggling with the blighted maps in later in game, just with the amount of stuff that would happen on your own screen. And then you multiply that by a 1,000,000,000 with the amount of mobs that were coming outTyler: and they didn't even implement it into console immediately. It was so challenging because of the frame rate issues and such on PC. They implemented it into 3.9 right away. But they didn't don't console and they're fixed on console was to just make less paths less minions. And it's just so easy. Mmm, It's so easy. It's Ah, I mean, I'm glad it's in it. I'm glad it's in it, butJustin: I've actually done them more while I run into them. Yeah, me, too. It's kind of nice It I guess it's nice because they're not so often. I never I never had a problem with the the Tower defense, but I also never cared to do much else Besides the reason ones. I would hit the ice ones and then just sit back in the middle and let my let the minions just do their thing in the middle. Yeah, I rememberTyler: doing. I like I like it. I don't mind. Some people have an issue when they have to stay in a spot and fight enemies. I don't care as long as there's enemies and I really like blight and breach. What's the abyss for those types of ones? I really like them. Overall, I thought it was a great legal.Justin: And then we went into the current league, which there's not a whole lot to talk about, just cause it's so new.Tyler: Well, they nerved one minion from 3.8. Do you know which one mother, actually, too. That's true. It was, in vectors, passions on these songs andJustin: then the support James. Now that being said, we've talked about this in the in the patch notes, ones necessary changes, maybe a little heavy handed. Hopefully, it's adjusted a little bit, but, uh,Tyler: yeah, because I think it was fair. I was pretty broken hearted, and I wasn't overly kind with, uh, my opinion of it, But I do think it wasJustin: after the human stuff. Yeah, it was kind of necessary. Now they did a huge Bo Ri work with 3.9Tyler: 3.9. That was the bowl leak or is the bulletJustin: is in the bowl league? So what now? It's funny that we say it's the bowl EQ. What are you playing?Tyler: Playing about build and I'm playing a build every every boat skill got buffed or modified to be relevant is this league. But there were two to Bo won support and one primary scale active skill that got Ah, I guess nerved would be appropriate. I played elemental hit. I lost a lot of damage compared to 3.8, and I'm playing with its link to the ballistic totem support, which is brand new. Um, they changed that from the attack, told him support which originally you could only lay one at a time unless you invested further in the tree with items. Now it can lay three so and blisters are brand new to the league. This league, too. It's a new type of attack totem that you have to lay within Malay Range as opposed to being able to swell. So But yeah, uh, my my specific build got hit hard, but this is a bow league, and people are going both crazy and they're lovingJustin: it. I skipped Bo's entirely for this league so far. I decided to go a spectral throw. I'm having a really good time, actually. Meta morph. I have struggled a little bit with some stuff. First time with S S f for quite a long time. But it's I like it. The Metamor stuff again. I have found this league more challenging, I think, for in a positive way, Not just like Okay, dump chaos, damage on me, like in syndicate or right, uh, make a stupid area that closes on me within, like, three seconds. As soon as I move like synthesis. This is This is legit. Like, if it's difficult, it's my fault. I made it harder. I love that. I absolutely love that.Tyler: Yeah, me too. I love that you can take You could make it. I mean, it's still gonna be a boss fight if you took all white items. But you can take the easiest body parts and make the easiest boss you can. And if you have a really weak build, you'll you'll do. Okay, right. But if you have ah, pretty good. Not the best billed as you're leveling and you do all the hardest ones, it's gonna be a hard fight, and it's I thought it was really well balanced right off the bat. A lot of the changes they've made weren't to these new bosses. That was really cool. One thing that I love that meta morph added just into the core game was completely was much harder enemies, they added. Armor and elemental increase. Resistance is in chaos. Resistance is they increased the life off bosses and enemies and rare Sze everywhere. And they just made the game. They didn't increase their damage, but they increased their survivability, and it has made the game itself a lot harder. Meta morph is a great league and the changes they made to the core game that they introduced with meta morph and perfect timing. Of course, because you're making a boss league and then you're adding all these extra boss survivability things into the game as well. I was perfect cohesion, and I think they did a really good job. They haven't changed any of it. It's awesome.Justin: Yeah, I don't even remember. Are the changes for that tied to the metamorphosis? Igor, This conquers of the atlas. It's kind of hard to tell which was for what.Tyler: It's well, it's all the same, right? I mean, it's tied two unique enemies. It's tied to this of the very specific map. Bosses were individually tweaked. Yeah, I mean, some of them boss fights were completely rebound anyway. But for those existing ones there, they were specifically tweet so that they were an appropriate level. It wasn't just flat, you know, This this tear all got the same percentage of health increase. From what I remember them saying anyway, so it's all intertwined.Justin: So then tied in with 3.9 and metamorphoses this the big end game change to the atlas of Now we're into the conquers of the atlas. We've got new new endgame. Bosses knew endgame story, and I mean, we're both relatively new into it. I think you're a bit further than I am, but again, I've had a blast. It's made. It's made mapping much more challenging at a lower tier, and that's fun. I like that.Tyler: Yeah, definitely. I'm I think it's it's done a very good job. So far, I've heard that higher up that there's some some issues with people that were David Cook to complete certain quests or boss fights, or that certain items weren't falling within a proper area. But for the most part, this has been this league tied with the new endgame that they've created. To me, it's it path of excels always tried to be a very difficult game. And trying to incorporate what people want in the game and what they want in the game is obviously a very tricky thing. I well, I would assume for them say so in their interviews. And it's, I think this has done just a fantastic job of making the game difficult while keeping the game powerful.Justin: Yep, Yeah, I agree. And it's again. It's a little hard to judge because we're three weeks, two weeks into it, into the league, so it's still got a bit of legs behind it before we see how it all plays out. But so far it's been a positive experience.Tyler: Yeah, the one thing I really like about this new endgame for Metamor are not for many more, but the conquers of the atlas is that you are going to see the same bosses that you're gonna fight it. The end throughout the atlas. Not just that. Yeah, and I think that is so good. G has tried to make this game more accessible to new people over and over without making the game easier. And the huge problem that a lot of new people, if they made it to t fifteens and sixteen's, which they would be able to clear a T 15. No problem. They'd crush the Boston problem than they'd meet a guardian and they get crushed. And this new method that they have of fighting the same boss but then in multiple tears as you get further and further into the atlas. It's nice because you're now familiar with the boss as it's getting harder, and I think it's a lot more accessible to new people. And I think they did a really good job considering that, too.Justin: I think it'll be curious to see how that plays out as we get further into the Alice, because for me, I it's hard for me to say I definitely agree with you. It's cool that you're already hitting endgame bosses in like tear fours and fives, and that's just gonna you know, you're gonna only able to expand on that as you get further along. But I haven't gotten there yet, so it's hard to say, Yeah, I'm loving it It just as much when I'm into your 15th and 16th yet So that's cool. Yeah, it has been good so far. All right, so here's a question for you. We'll start. We'll start with the negative side first just because I know you're a positive positive guy. So, yeah, what was your least favorite league? And why of those four? And it's kind of hard because I know madam, or so new, but I highly doubt it. It will be the one. But which of those we've got 3.6 a synthesis. 3.7. His legion 3.8 is blight. And then the current 3.9 metamorphose, which was your least favorite league. And whyTyler: synthesis was easy to ignore if you didn't like it. Legion. I really liked the mechanics, but my specific build didn't get fixed for a month. I think my least favourite was blight. Now I really liked blight, but there's the common sense of making your meta being capable of doing your mechanic, and they didn't coincide at all and because I'm a console player and G knows about their console games, and they need to be able to make their game for the least efficient platform that they release it on. I think blight was my least favorite because I couldn't play it on my favorite platform.Justin: Yeah, okay, so for me, my least favorite would be It's probably synthesis. But it's kind of unfortunate for me to say that because I played synthesis much, much longer than blamed much longer, I would say almost twice as long as Blake. I played synthesis, and that was because I loved the changes to spells. It made the milk fund to play. But I absolutely hated the league mechanic. I just could not. I didn't like it. It wasn't fun at all. Where is Blight it? Ah, it almost seemed a little bit too easy. And I didn't have any interest in the the the Blight mechanic. So and that literally was the endgame. Yeah. You know, as you leveled, there wasn't anything new that you were introducing towards the end game. And so I found a burnt out real fast, but synthesis for me. If I'm looking at it, from a league perspective, I hated. Synthesis is engaged. I did not like any of the the nexus stuff. I felt completely lost all the time on that one, like figuring it out. So for me, that that was me I loved, absolutely loved the actual plane of that league and the skills and the reworks and stuff. One of my favorites. But the actual lead mechanic to me was the blight wasn't poorly done. It wasn't that the league mechanic was poorly done. It just I didn't interest me, was great. But the synthesis league mechanic, to me was a little bit shortsighted and definitely wasn't one of my least favorite ones. But now let'sTyler: move away from the brightest guys so I could see how synthesis confuses you.Justin: I know I like simple, simple. So let's move awayTyler: from you go. You go first on this one, you go first.Justin: Okay, So this is gonna be our favorite, which was our favorite league. And why you go legion for sure. I'm really liking meta morph. I can't say for sure until the end of this league where they'll line up Legion introduced so many Malay where he works that I've been working for. Well, we're looking forward to forever. And so I tend to lean more towards the mainly type skills. It's just more fun for me, and I loved a lot of the changes that they did and Legion League Mechanic was was dummy proof. It was It was so simple to play. I wasn't a really big fan of that hole. Put the five things and I did it, you know, I played it. I did beat the one with all five, and but I felt like it was so forced to go that the cyclone route, if you really want, especially once the headhunter had dropped it. It made it really easy to go, and I just have a couple swords and put on the belt in the hallway. But the the lead mechanic to me, was a lot of fun. It was within the map. Side is what I'm referring to like. It made it very, very easy to just play the atlas to just play my build. Maley was strong, and so for me, as a Finnish league, it's the only one I can compare it to, because anymore so far has actually been a lot of fun, but we're like 23 weeks in, so I can't really give it the top for me. So what about you?Tyler: Catch for me was it's meta morph. Really, I know we're only that into it, but it's ah, it's harder right now. I know. Adding all the resists in defense for enemies is isn't necessarily for the league itself, right? That's just core. Game change is kind of like the endgame. But coupling that with adding bosses that you can choose how difficult they are you could specifically choose rewards like I want more rare items are away. Should I do, ah, unique item or should I do more currency drops and you're actually guaranteed at least something of what you've chosen. Now you don't know what the body parts are gonna offer you money from all of your options. You you're picking your rewards, which is so great in a game like this, you're picking the difficulty based on the reward, which is so great you can pick the location in the map where you're gonna fight. Um, it's just it's awesome. And I love one thing that, like I mentioned before about G one in this game. Hard, but people wanting to clear it in the blink of an eye. This slows the game down, right? Like we've we've talked who will get to excel con in a bit. But one thing that they really wanted to do with Pee wee, too, was really slow. The game down. And this is a huge step in that direction, even a year before Pee Wee to comes out is you're slowing down these enemies air rough. You need a really good build to destroy the really hard metamorphose and a moderately leveled build. Or one that's still trying to find its gear, still trying to find that right to weapon full of mods that they would boost their DPS quite a lot. It's gonna be a challenge, and you're and you're making tough choices. I love Metamor for that, and it's and it's metamorphose itself is stable, rock solid, stable, right? A lot of the issues that have come out with 3.9 have actually been with a new endgame, not with metamorphosis thing. It's been bug free, but I just think it's been the most stable. It's been the most exciting. It's the most. I'm spending time looking at my screen, choosing what I want to do. It's not just blind. I love it. I absolutely love it.Justin: Who are the 3.9 for you? That's nice. Yeah, alright, it's a legion. I do like metamorphic. We'll see how it plays out. Okay, so you actually brought it up. But let's one of the final things that they talked about in their development plan for 2019 was Excel Con. So x o Khan was obviously a huge deal for people who like Path of Excel. Ah, whether you went or not, just the idea that they were doing it was awesome. The fact that this indie development game was going to be, you know, has grown to the size of holding its own conference or a game. And then not only are they doing it, but they're gonna hold it in literally the for this place, every other country on Earth, that that's awesome. The fact thatTyler: a good turnout they had to increase what they had to upgrade their venue.Justin: I think I heard when we were so we I got to go, which was awesome. I went with my son, who's Ethan and and we I mean, we had a blast. He definitely had a huge, really, really good time when he was there. And I know me and you had talked about possibly going and it just didn't work out. But, ah, the I can't remember the number I want to say It was around 1313 100 people, is what we were told out was there, which is insane, especially given a huge percentage of those were not local. And when I was looking it up just out of curiosity, the closest besides Australia, the closest place that you could fly from was 12 hours away, which is just It just made me laugh because it's yeah, it literally is the furthest place away from everywhere else on Earth. Besides, you know, the people in Australia. But when we were in a cool when we were down there, I'll just quickly throw this in there when we were down there, actually made a reddit post because I was floored at the way that the people that were there were acting towards each other and the community sort of just in general. It really took me back to beta days of P o E. It just was Everybody was friendly. Everybody was hanging out, you know, like they're just was It was a really cool vibe there. And that's coming from, Uh, no, I'm not old, but an older guy. I mean, I think probably the average age I would have guessed was probably 27 28 there. But it was just cool. Like people were Tibor Super friendly. I mean, Ethan, he's 18. He had a blast, so it was a really cool experience. And then, uh, well, I mean, we should get to really the 22 major announcements, I guess maybe three. So we had 3.9, which was obviously this expansion in the whole change to the conquerors of the atlas. A cool, cool announcement that came out mobile announcement. Saving the big one for the mobile announcement was hilarious, because I remember sitting in the theater and watching people figure, you know, are they out of their minds, like, is this is this really is Are they lying? Everybody kind of thought, you know, until you saw how much you know they had the fall guy, which was hilarious. in their video and ah, and then Christmas, becauseTyler: that's his job to raid.Justin: Oh, it was so well done, though. It was so well done. I hope it was his idea, because I think that that it was one of the funniest titles for anybody in theTyler: whole in anyJustin: of the videos. TheTyler: mobile fall guy, Global fallJustin: guy. But it was a good view. And then Chris kind of talking afterwards about how it was hard to announce this last year made me crack up.Tyler: Oh, that he was so nervous. What? Cono Not sure what they were going to do.Justin: Yeah. And then, of course, the huge p o e. To which was, you know, the pre announced four point. Oh, but is actually gonna be path of exile, too. So I'm curious. What? What did you think? I mean, the ex con was so big, we can't cover obviously all of it. But now what? What was sort of yourTyler: overall? So for those listening, Justin, Nathan got to go. I, of course, did not get to, but we were messaging quite a lot throughout the entire conference, and it was really cool to get their perspective of to what was happening when what I could see. And so I was watching on Twitch and YouTube, and I got to see a lot of the interviews that Justin you think you can get to see while they were there because you could just can't see everything live. But they only had one channel that was streaming some of the interviews. And so I think obviously my favorite part of ex Sal Khan was the path of exile to announcement. But the best part of that was when I think it was Chris that came out after when Chris he was almost crying and he was having such a hard time controlling his emotions and his love for his game, his passion for the community that plays. He was so overwhelmed with people's excitement over what they were doing and their excitement to play even more and get more. I just can't imagine what it would be like. They were saying that they, for the longest time there was like four people. Only the people that were allowed in his office without knocking knew that 4.0 was actually gonna be p o. B two and it was only hey was saying that it was just nobody knew and for that to just get off their chests for them to be able to talk about everything. It was one of my other favorite moments along with Chris. Almost crying in a good way was when Jonathan maybe maybe this quick maybe was both. But I think it was Jonathan. He sat down for one of his, um, interviews, twitch interviews, and he was so calm. He was just so exciting, was so relaxed and he just said, Ask me anything. There's no more secrets And he was just so happy to just talk about anything. And I thought that was really cool because there's so much that's still going to come. And I mean, when you compare this to the Deauville for announcement, it just blows it out of the water. And the things that these are even comparable G was thinking about for even longer, It seems. It's just It was It was so exciting. I can't wait for another 19 ascendancy classes while we're on the subject.Justin: Yeah, it's gonna be cool. So I haven't I mean, you know this story and there's There's obviously a few of our friends that we know locally and that our family, friends and stuff no, this story and very few people outside of that would obviously know about this. Besides, there was a picture, but one of my one of my favorite sort of experiences when we were there because there were a lot, I mean, just that being in New Zealand on its own was amazing. That that country is beautiful. Yeah, but we were the day before the exile con event we had run into about, I don't know, we had met just because Ethan wanted to go out and do all of the meet ups and stuff, and I was following along with him. We met quite a few people on Dhe, some really, really cool people while we were out there that we hung around with and, you know, would go for lunch and go exploring with. And so we were. We were walking with three other guys to other guys. I don't remember. There were I think there were four or five of us, but we were walking down one of the main streets right by where X Sal Khan was gonna be taken taking place. And as we're walking down the street, this guy's walking towards us and he's wearing a path of exile shirt and right off the battles I cooled. My God, that's Chris And he's just by himself. He's just walking up. But the funniest part is he kind of looks at our group and he sees that. I think four of the people in our group are wearing path of XL shirts and at this, or jackets or something. And at this point path of exile like or a story? The ex con event hasn't started yet. There's not likeTyler: the next day or something. It'sJustin: gonna be the next day. There's not a ton of people down, like in that area yet that are, you know, path of exile people. And so he looks over at us and he smiles and he's like, Hey, guys! And so you know, will you stop? We're like, Oh, hey, how's it going? And he he pulls his phone out. He's like, Do you guys mind if I take a picture with you and in my head I'm thinking, What the hell? And it didn't seem like everybody else was grasping that it was him. And the thing is, he had shaved like he was freshly shaved, which is not his normal look at all. And so we're kind of like, Yeah, sure for sure. And so he takes his phone, puts it into the selfie and holds it up high and takes a picture of himself with, like the 45 of us standing behind him, smiling and he turns around. He laughs, and he's like he mentioned the fact that, you know, a bunch of us were wearing path of exile stuff and he hit. The comment was, I need to take a picture so I can show people that people give a shit about my stuff. And of course it made his life. And so then he kind of looks at us for a second awkwardly is like, Do you guys want a picture? And in my and I'm like I grabbed Ethan. I pushed him. I'm like, Yeah, of course we want a picture like get in there. And so we take this picture of the four of them standing with Chris Wilson just in the middle of the street, and he's like, Thanks, guys, have a great you know, conference and was so great seeing you. He takes off and even kind of looks a measly and he's familiar. LikeTyler: what? Who is that like, Oh, my God, that's Chris Wilson.Justin: And he freaks out. Like what? It was a lot of fun, and he was So he was so nice. He actually recognized us when he was when Ethan was in line to go and get his signature, he wouldn't. God is like map signed by a bunch of the developers and stuff. And so he took pictures with him again. But, yeah, it was It was fun. It was It was a lot of fun. It was really cool to watch. You know, stuff happened through him as well. So yeah, it was cool. But so your favorite announcement would have been purely toTyler: announcement there was. I mean, there was so much interesting stuff that we've talked about in other episodes and that we have lined up for the future episodes. But my favorite announcement was most definitely peewee to her entire. Do that.Justin: Yeah, it was very cool. It was a fun to sort of hear the reaction, which I'm sure people experienced it anywhere they were if they were listening and cared about path of excel, just the idea that they were coming up with two and that it was gonna coincide with one andTyler: yeah. Oh, just so I have three very specific things that excite me. Ah, lot of appeal. We too. But what is it that you are looking? I mean, we have I know we have, Ah, an episode coming up about this. But what is short, Quickly. What are a couple of things that really excite you about beauty too? Well,Justin: I feel like a lot of it'll safer. Probably a future episode. But I would say right off the top of my head, I just love the idea of a new story line. Okay, you know, just that whole new I've been playing path of exile for a long time. So and as of you and it's it's kind of cool to think that there's gonna be an entirely new storyline to follow. There is way too much for me to say what like my actual favorite stuff is, and we'll talk about that obviously coming up, But yeah, I think just the idea that there's a whole new storyline that's gonna be coming along isn't is very cool. What about you?Tyler: Slower paced game play? New gym system. 19 newest sentences. The fact that they're going to have what was a 38? It was 19. That's currently 19 right yet 631 Yet Okay, so 38 sentences that are going to be different and all have the ability to have multiple place 1000 builds within each. That's mind going.Justin: It'll be cool to see if there's 38 different ones. That's aTyler: lot. Oh my goodness, I e My brain's exploding thinking of voting.Justin: So yeah, so I mean, overall, though with the information that they gave on exile con and and sort of, their announcements back in 20 the beginning of 2019 for it, I would say it was a hit. Think they kind of nailed it? It really seemed to go Well, they seem to be really happy with how it went. And everyone that I ran into and spoke to their just loved it like every single person had a blast. Sweet. Oh, yeah. It was really good.Tyler: What about mobile? You gonna play?Justin: I have played it. You played it while I was there is true. It was It's cool. You know what? They've done a really good job with it. It's It's It's very simple to play very simple to just, you know, play with you with your thumbs. I'm not a mobile game person. I don't tend to play very many games on the mobile. If I was made me, I can't think of maybe flying. I tend to do work that when I'm flying. So I don't know, Maybe if I was maybe if I was just looking for something to do, it's simple enough to pick up and it will be free. So I'm sure I will install it. Uh, hopefully, hopefully by the time that they come out with it, it doesn't try to set your phone on fire because it runs very, very hot. They gave phones that you could test with, so I don't know what what models of these phones they were, but your hands were like, Yeah, it's like you took something out of the oven by the time you had played it for about 2025 minutes. Yeah. Would you playTyler: it mobile I'll download it if my phone can handle it. Um, but I'm I'm just it really impressed. Yeah, I'm excited for it. I'll give it a shot. I'll try and make time for you, But I'm I'm not gonna go out of my way because I play on call. It's a land PC as well, but I'm excited to try it. I hope my phone complaint, and if it does, I'll definitely forced myself. Thio, give us some time and I'm sure it'll be great. One of my favorite lines from Path of exile to, though, was when I think it was, Chris said. We don't care if it's successful, but if it's not, we don't care. If we make money like they don't even have micro transactions lined up for it, they might not. Even I don't think we're going to. It's just a game. It's just free and it's We wanted to be a really good mobile game if it makes money, fine. But they don't even see how it's going to make money. And if it doesn't okay like it's a mobile game for mobile people, that's all it is and I thought that was really cool because it solidifies. I remember the rage when Xbox came out with as the first console, the first non PC platform for Pee Wee, too, and a lot of PC land exploded in rage. And so PlayStation had a much friendlier release, of course. And so it's it's nice for PC players or just console only players to know that that they're not going to be overlooked because of a new focus of income. So if the false really cool,Justin: especially because there could have been that's right now like there is a there's a lot of money that can be made a mobile. So the fact that they're not putting the focus on it is really nice. Well, so yeah, I would say, I would say with their development notes from 2019 I'm really excited to see what the 2020 ones will come out with it in the next few days because they stayed true to damn near everythingTyler: they were spot on. Yeah, I think the only thing that it will be a little bit off and by no criticism at all is just their timeline for Pee Wee, too. I think it's 21. You were reading it. It was like some time in 2020. Maybe early. Maybe not Now they're thinking, but absolute earliest is the very end of 2020 Likely 2021. But peewee to always any time of year. I'm just too excited.Justin: Yeah, I feel like I heard it going all the way up to 3.12. So I'm you know, that gives at least three more leagues. Nine more months. Eso maybe the very, veryTyler: end. Well, we'll see. I don't really care. I'll release it over Christmas Tree. Oh, man,Justin: I hope they do so bad. That's the December release. Oh, merry Christmas. Be a means fixing only p o e one will continue to work on. That would be the best Christmas gift. Oh, we could talk about so much. Yeah, All right. So let's let's end this one off. I think this was this was cool that it was fun to look back. It's sort of what they did in 2019 and and now, and sort of give us an idea of what to look forward to for 2020. So we wanted to do a giveaway. I think it's gonna be fun. We're gonna make it super simple. There's gonna be two ways to enter in a post a reddit post on the show notes. All you got to do is post on that. Tell us what league was your favorite and why we don't care. Which was the your least favorite. Let's keep positive, that's what Red it's four positivity. 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That's right. So that's where it is. Read it. Tweet us sick. What you wanna win will announce the jury in Episode eight, which is two more episodes ofTyler: waste. I'm gonna win. It's permanent. Win.Justin: Yeah, you're kicked out anyway, guys, Thanks so much for listening to Episode six of Forever Exiled A Path of Exile podcast. This has been a really good time. And I hope you guys all have a super safe New Year's Eve and a good New Year's Day following. After that, I am one of your host, Justin a K Tagz.Tyler: I'm Tyler. Wrecker of Days. Oh, was I supposed to finish? Okay, well, it added at something in, um, hang on. Okay, then. I'm Tyler. Wrecker of days. Be safe this holiday week. No, no, no.Justin: What are you talking? You know what, everyone.Tyler: No, no, no. What? I was going to say somethingJustin: about your name again. I'm just gonna cut it anyway. But give me No, don't say that part again. Just give me half a second before you start speaking, but don't make it so.Tyler: No, no, no, no. This isJustin: actually now gonna be our troll. That'd beTyler: awesome. No, I wanted people to be safe on New Year's Eve. Get stupid. And for some reason, people seemed Forget that at New Year's Eve. But anyway, trying to anyone better would you, um, we appreciate all the listen. Some thanks for your time. Have a happy New Year's. Eve was safely safe. You want todo sure record and I know I'm going to say it, but you have all these notes that are distracting me about my filters. All I want to talk aboutJustin: is what is what happens when I throw on our troll on you that you have to doTyler: what you have just playing as I'm still talking about how I'm gonna do a note. True. What? What way would you say?Justin: Listen, I think the intro every damn time you have do you do do it? Yeah, because otherwise, but this is what our ingenuityTyler: I'll do the next time I'll do Episode sevenJustin: you can't recognize or six in You started with five because the intro change in Episode five you started with Rokko, remember? Thanks.Tyler: No, I don't. Yes, it's the widow. I don't remember. Thanks. Yeah, thanks. Uh, well, um, all right, Well, what can I say? Thank you very much for the listens, everybody. We greatly appreciate it. And again, if you have any encouragement or criticisms for us, please let us know on Twitter or on Reddit after one of our posts and we'll see you on episode seven.Justin: Make sure to check out the show notes below. If you've got any questions or concerns, nobody has concerned. I don't care if they have concerns. Heather clarified. Give make sure to check outTyler: Larkin and put this all owed on the same day that you were ready. I was ready. You weren't ready.Justin: I'm not gonna cut any of this is gonna be the longest. Whatever. You just you build like a needy and I'm previously on yourself. I forgot I was loved. Make sure to check out the show notes. For more information about today's episode, you confined us online at www dot forever exiled dot com as well as on Twitter at forever exiled 82Don't forget to find us at www.foreverexiled.com and @ForeverExiled82 on Twitter

Subscribe for more Videos: http://www.youtube.com/c/PlantationSDAChurchTV Deeper Dive Theme: JWald, Dawn, Anisa, Tyler and Mikey discuss how grace has impacted their lives. We also learn why Mikey wants to be a combination pastor/chef, how Tyler lives in a divided football household & Anisa makes it clear we'll be hearing from her again in the not to distant future Episode Title: God's Amazing Grace Host: JWald & Dawn Williams Guest: Anisa Seymour, Tyler Palmer, Lorenzo Michael "Mikey" Hernandez Key text: https://www.bible.com/bible/59/JHN.3.16.esv Key text: https://www.bible.com/bible/59/JHN.13.34-35.esv Key text: https://www.bible.com/bible/59/ACT.2.42-47.esv Notes: https://www.bible.com/events/701636 Sermon Podcast: https://soundcloud.com/plantationsda/gods-amazing-grace Sermon Video: https://youtu.be/3IYRBV0jlMQ Date: October 2, 2019 Dawn and JWald's Deeper Dive Questions to Anisa: What is God's great gift of grace? What was the anniversary in your sermon and when was it? Were you scared when you preached? Why do you want to be a gospel singer when you grow up? Will we be hearing from you again Anisa? How you do join the children's ministry? What do you do at children's ministry Dawn and JWald's Deeper Dive Questions to Tyler: What does love one another mean to you? What's it like to have a divided football household? How does football tie in to unconditional love? Why do you want to speak another language? Which language? Why do you want to go to Harvard? Dawn and JWald's Deeper Dive Questions to Mikey: What was it like to have all of your uncle's family living with your already large family? Were you're jealous when your cousins were there? Will you be a pastor in the future? If so, why? Why do you want to be a chef? Tags: #psdatv #psdapodcast #podcast #AdventistPodcast #ChristianPodcast #AdventistPodcasts #grace #amazing #God #love #loving #free #freedom #change #grow #promise #fellowship #heaven #GodsAmazingGrace #UnconditionalLove #GodsLoveIsBeyondMeasure For more information on Plantation SDA Church, please visit us at http://www.plantationsda.tv. Church Copyright License (CCLI) License Number: 1659090 CCLI Stream License License Number: CSPL079645 Support the show.

Subscribe for more Videos: http://www.youtube.com/c/PlantationSDAChurchTV Deeper Dive Theme: JWald, Dawn, Anisa, Tyler and Mikey discuss how grace has impacted their lives. We also learn why Mikey wants to be a combination pastor/chef, how Tyler lives in a divided football household & Anisa makes it clear we'll be hearing from her again in the not to distant future Episode Title: God's Amazing Grace Host: JWald & Dawn Williams Guest: Anisa Seymour, Tyler Palmer, Lorenzo Michael "Mikey" Hernandez Key text: https://www.bible.com/bible/59/JHN.3.16.esv Key text: https://www.bible.com/bible/59/JHN.13.34-35.esv Key text: https://www.bible.com/bible/59/ACT.2.42-47.esv Notes: https://www.bible.com/events/701636 Sermon Podcast: https://soundcloud.com/plantationsda/gods-amazing-grace Sermon Video: https://youtu.be/3IYRBV0jlMQ Date: October 2, 2019 Dawn and JWald's Deeper Dive Questions to Anisa: What is God's great gift of grace? What was the anniversary in your sermon and when was it? Were you scared when you preached? Why do you want to be a gospel singer when you grow up? Will we be hearing from you again Anisa? How you do join the children's ministry? What do you do at children's ministry Dawn and JWald's Deeper Dive Questions to Tyler: What does love one another mean to you? What's it like to have a divided football household? How does football tie in to unconditional love? Why do you want to speak another language? Which language? Why do you want to go to Harvard? Dawn and JWald's Deeper Dive Questions to Mikey: What was it like to have all of your uncle's family living with your already large family? Were you're jealous when your cousins were there? Will you be a pastor in the future? If so, why? Why do you want to be a chef? Tags: #psdatv #psdapodcast #podcast #AdventistPodcast #ChristianPodcast #AdventistPodcasts #grace #amazing #God #love #loving #free #freedom #change #grow #promise #fellowship #heaven #GodsAmazingGrace #UnconditionalLove #GodsLoveIsBeyondMeasure For more information on Plantation SDA Church, please visit us at http://www.plantationsda.tv. Church Copyright License (CCLI) License Number: 1659090 CCLI Stream License License Number: CSPL079645 Support the show.

Tyler Harris has sold over 8,000 life insurance policies face-to-face in about three and a half years. He runs two agencies, over 140 agents, he runs two podcasts, and he says he's just an ordinary guy doing extraordinary things. Tyler Harris   Stefan: Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the show Respect The Grind with Stefan Aarnio. This is show where we interview people who have achieved mastery and freedom through discipline. We interview entrepreneurs, athletes, authors, artists, real estate investors, anyone who has achieved mastery and examine what it took to get there. Stefan: Today on the show, we have a superstar, Tyler Harris. He's sold over 8,000 life insurance policies face-to-face in about three and a half years. He runs two agencies, over 140 agents, he runs two podcasts, and he says he's just an ordinary guy doing extraordinary things. Tyler, welcome to the show, Respect The Grind. Tyler: Thanks for having me, Stefan. It's a pleasure to be here. Stefan: Yeah, man. It's really great to connect with someone like yourself. You know, we got a lot of real estate people on the show, I'm an investor myself, so I've got into house flipping, and that's been my thing. But super cool to have a life insurance person on the show. Stefan: Now people who are out there wanting to make money, one of the biggest things I find with my audience is a lot of people want to make 100 grand, they want to get into sales, they want to hustle, they want to grind. They're younger, they don't know what to do. Why did you choose to get in the insurance space of all things? Tyler: That's what I love about the whole story, and it's what I preach about when you have the average person that says, "Well I don't really do something that interesting. Why should I put myself out there on social media." I'm like, "Aye, I sell life insurance. There's nothing interesting about that whatsoever." Tyler: But man, mine was purely out of circumstance. Some mentors came into my life when I was at a really bad place. I was broke, I was in debt, depressed, had gone through a business failure, a marriage failure. These mentors came into my life and really breathed life back into me. I joke around today and say that if they were selling rubber bands at the time, that I'd be sitting here with you guys as the greatest rubber band salesman of all time. Stefan: One gong right out of the gate for comedy, man. Good for you. Tyler: They happen to be in the insurance business, and gave me an opportunity. Quite frankly, it was exactly what I needed because it was transactional, fast-paced, and it gave me the ability to build my confidence back very quickly. I put in effort, I got a reward, I put in effort, got a reward. That became an addicting process to see how much reward I could get out by the effort put in, and it just so happened that insurance was the product that we were selling. Stefan: Eight thousand life insurance policies. That's a big number, man. How many people do you have to meet with a day to make that kind of sale? Tyler: It's an insane amount. We have developed a very, very narrow niche and built a system around going all in on that niche. That's the biggest thing that I preach to people, is developing a system around working with the people that you want to work with, but developing a system in a way to where every word that comes out of your mouth, it's like if you're speaking to someone that speaks Spanish but you're speaking German, it's gonna be difficult to sell that person. But if you speak Spanish to them, then they're gonna be able to make a buying decision a whole lot quicker. Tyler: We know exactly what to say, how to say it, what to wear, what to have in our hands, the motions that we go through, the certain clothes that we use to be able to extremely efficiently sell and do a whole lot of volume. That's been the precursor to that volume. But at the end of the day, a system is all good and well, but it's the hard work that goes into that system. We've had plenty of people that have come in, and we've given them the magical system, and they've done nothing with it. The rest is left up to the individual, and the amount of hard work that they're willing to put into it. Stefan: You know, I love what you said there. There's two things I love. You say, "Rich in the niche, rich in the niche," we're Canadian, so we like to throw some French in there, rich in the niche, rich in the niche. Stefan: I got a question for you, Tyler. I've been training people for six years. I'm a real estate investor, I was buying, fixing, selling houses. I came from the private equity world. I was good at raising money, eye for design. I'd flip up to 30 houses a year, and people would see that and they'd go, "Man, I want to flip houses like Stefan," so I start coaching people. Stefan: Now I learned a dark thing when I started training and coaching people, and the dark truth that I discovered, maybe you can confirm or deny this dark truth, is that 50% of the people just do nothing. You sign up 10 guys, and half of them just literally do nothing. They buy the cake mix, but they never make the cake. They buy the IKEA furniture, they never build the bed, or whatever. Do you find that number to be ... Is it 50%, no matter what they just don't do anything? Tyler: I think it depends on what your process is. With our recruiting process, yeah, 100% in the beginning we found that. We have gotten laser focused and have gotten our recruiting process down to a science to where we know when we bring someone on, that they've got a 90 plus percent probability of succeeding, and it's through about eight different layers of a recruiting process to weed out those people. But that's only being done through trial and error of the beginning of running through a million of those 50%-ers. Stefan: Right, right, right. Yes. Tell me about the recruiting process. Eight layers of weeding out the guys. Let's hear about that. This sounds like you're joining the Navy Seals when you're joining Tyler Harris for insurance. Let's hear it. Tyler: It's almost that tough. But number one, all of our recruiting efforts, it's all done through Facebook. That's the only place we recruit from. When they come in, they got to submit an application, and then they've got to upload their resume. They've got to answer a bunch of essay questions. Then they go to their first interview, which is face-to-face with our head recruiter here in house. Tyler: From there, they're given a script that they have to go memorize in 24 hours, and then they have to come back 24 hours later and interview via Zoom, and perform that script. That script is similar to one of our sales processes. They've got to be able to perform that, then from that we give them some feedback that our head recruiter gives them some feed back on what they could have done better, and then they have to go perform that script again the next day on video to see if they can actually follow some instruction and follow some feedback. Tyler: From there, we go through and in-depth personality profile assessment. It's the one that we found that works by far the best. It takes all of them and throws them together, and puts them on steroids. Stefan: Which one's that? Tyler: It's through TTI, through a group called The Rainmaker Group, and it's incredible. It's the only one that actually has a patent tying the results to actual brain research. Myers-Briggs can't say that, strength finders can't say that, none of the other DISC can even say that. Tyler: But this one is pretty remarkable, and we have created basically a money ball style system of grading the recruits, and knowing what the probability is of them being able to succeed. They're gonna do that. They also have to do a two-minute phone call pitch on why they're the best fit, and we make them at the end do a video pitch as to why they are the best fit for that particular territory. We take all of that, we bring it to our meeting that we do, just got out of it on Friday mornings. There's six of us that watch the video of the person, hear all the information, hear that money ball grading score, and we make a decision. From there, they go to one last interview with our Director of Training, and from there we make a final decision on somebody. Stefan: Wow. I'm gonna give that a gong. That is probably the best recruiting process I ever heard. I got a very tough one myself. We make people do four book reports. They have to read all of the books, so I guess it's five books. I've written five books. They got to read five books and do book reports, and they got to pretty much be ready on day one to come in and sell. But yours is damn good, man. Stefan: Now let me ask you this, Tyler. What's the failure rate if 100 guys sign up for your recruiting process, how many make it to the end? Like two? Tyler: Maybe three, but it's low. It's two or three, and we like it that way. It's much more cost effective that way 'cause we invest heavily. The insurance industry, it's notorious for just churn and burn, bring a bunch of people on, see if they can stick for a few months and then invest in them when [inaudible 00:07:53] bring them onboard, our training and onboarding process is intensive, and it's expensive on our side. We want to make sure that the people that we bring on and we invest heavily in have the greatest possibility of giving us a return on that investment. Stefan: That's awesome. I love it. It's almost the opposite of what you'd see in the industry. I've been running a sales team now, so we do high-ticket coaching and consulting in the real estate space. I've gone through, I've collapsed five phone teams, I've failed five times. The sixth time I got a good team. Stefan: What's the key to running a good sales team? Is it having a great manager? Is it great training? Is it great recruiting? Is it all of the above? What do you think is the linchpin there to make it work? Tyler: It's certainly all of the above, but I think the most important is having the leadership, having them lead by example, and having them have been in the field. The CEO, myself, and my other two partners, there's four partners in this business, we all have been in the field, and we all excelled at an insanely high level. We know what it's like. We're not afraid to go out today and go sell with the agents. Tyler: To me, there's a big issue in the sales industry as a whole, and its current credibility versus past credibility. The way I like to talk about it in sports terms is you've got a guy that makes it into the NBA. He plays for X number of years, he's a all-star, a couple championships, retires, makes it to the Hall of Fame, then becomes a coach. He's able to coach that team because he has these insane accolades to be able to use past credibility. Tyler: What the reality is, in most organizations, they haven't been around long enough to have that level of past credibility, so it has to all be about what are you're doing right now, versus what have you done. I just want to be the hardest worker in the room at all times so that the people that I'm telling to do something, I can never tell them to do something that I am not doing myself or haven't done. Stefan: I'm gonna give you a gong for that. It's all about the integrity, man. You wouldn't ask someone to do something you haven't done yourself. Stefan: Now let me ask you this, Tyler, how important ... It sounds like you guys [inaudible 00:10:06] some technology in your training and technology in your recruiting. How important is technology to what you're doing right now? Tyler: Technology is huge. It gives us the ability to onboard our agents all over the country at one time. We use a bunch of different ... We're huge with role play. Role play, role play, role play, role play. It's the biggest asset as far as training sales people, and we have some software that we use for that. We're constantly having people certify or re-certify using that role play software. Tyler: But even down to the agents that are in the field writing the policies. Everything's done through e-app now. They're able to right at that application, have that thing submitted and have a commission check in their bank account 48 hours later. Whereas that process used to take a lot longer when you have paper applications having to be sent through the mail, and processed, and all that. It makes everything a lot more efficient. Tyler: To me, the biggest thing, especially when a salesperson is first coming onboard, you got to get a check in that person's hand as quickly, as humanly possible. Technology enables us, from a training perspective, to get them completely certified and ready to sell faster, but also that e-application process gets those commission checks into their bank faster, which builds that belief, and that's when they'll really go all in. Stefan: I love the word you use there is belief. I find that the biggest thing with no matter what you're training on is we train people to flip houses, and a lot of them have the dream of flipping a house, a lot of them watch the videos with flipping the house, they read the book about flipping a house, they come to the seminar. But until they go into the field with their coach, and see it, and touch it, and taste it, and smell it, and feel it, then they believe in Disneyland. Do you find that's the same thing with training insurance guys or sales guys, is that they got to watch someone do it so they believe it and they see it? Tyler: Yeah. I agree. They've got to watch someone do it, but they've also got to go out and do it themselves before they get to certain aspects of the training as well. Tyler: We have a boot camp training that we bring them into our home office, and it's like drinking from a fire hose for two and a half days. But we strategically put that in the process once they have been out in the field, and they've had a few weeks of success and failure. We want someone that's gotten their teeth knocked in a couple of times, a bloody nose here and there, so that now when we bring them back to training, and we can really refine those skills, now they're being able to learn things based on experience, "Oh yeah, when I was in that situation, when I did get that objection, that's how I should have handled that." Tyler: In the past, we were doing all of this training upfront, then sending them out. But some of the training you have to be in that environment first to really understand the importance as you're going through that part of the training to understand that, "Hey. Man, I've experience this a couple of times. Now I know how to handle it. When I experience this again I've got it." Stefan: Yeah, I love that. It's all about building up that bank of stories, and the stories make the beliefs, and the beliefs make the reality. I think that's really powerful. Stefan: Now Tyler, let me ask you this. Sounds like you're in almost a blue ocean strategy. You're doing something that I've never even seen or heard of anybody doing what you're doing, which is super cool. Do you think that for mastery, let's just say you're a master right now, do you think it's more important to be a master right now on the creative side or the discipline side? 'Cause I think the creativity and discipline blended creates mastery, but what do you think is more important? The creativity or the discipline? Tyler: It's a great question. I think at the end of the day discipline is what takes you there. People ask me all the time, they're like, "Man, how do you stay so motivated? You always seem so motivated." With the amount of content that we put out, I understand that could come across that way, but I always answer them, I'm like, "I'm not all that motivated. There's plenty of days where I wake up and I don't feel motivated. But it's the discipline, it's doing the stuff that you know you're supposed to do even when you don't feel like it." Tyler: To me, you can build a team that can provide the creativity that you need, you can build an environment that can provide aspects of creativity for you, but discipline is something that you've either got it or you don't. To me, I would take a person with discipline over creativity any day. Stefan: Yeah, the creativity is the starving artist. If you're delivering the daily bread, as you say, that's one of your podcasts, The Daily Bread, you got to go out there and do those daily bread actions. Stefan: One thing that I notice when I'm training people all the time, Tyler, is that I got a bunch of sales agents right now, and I'm training real estate investors. I notice that everybody has a fear of the phone. The key to success, I believe, if you're in sales, is making X number of phone calls a day, whether that's 50 or 100, or whatever that number is for that industry. Why are people afraid of the phone? Why are they afraid of picking it up, and making offers and proposals? Tyler: We see it all the time. I think it's because people don't understand the numbers in the beginning. If you haven't had the longevity of a few years of running those numbers, and knowing that, "Hey, I just know if I make this many calls, I'm gonna set this many appointments, which is gonna lead to this many sales. It doesn't matter if the last three were no, I know that if I make X number of more calls, then there will be this many yeses. It just always turns out that way." But when you don't have that, that experience on the backend, and when you're first getting started, then it just seems like this monumental task to go do, and that phone freaking weighs a million pounds. Tyler: To me, I think you have to build some level of competition. They got to be driven by something other than just self-driven. They got to be driven by, "Hey, what's this guy doing, and how am I gonna make more calls than him or her so that I can win this daily competition, weekly competition, monthly competition?" Organization is always fostering healthy competition where I love every person on our team, but I want to destroy them on a daily basis. That's how all of our agents feel. Stefan: Yeah. That's really important. We expanded our team. We went from three agents to six agents. We got a small little sales team here. It was interesting 'cause we put them in two different rooms, and as soon as we split the rooms for whatever reason, people stopped working. Then we crammed them all back into one room, and a room that's made for four guys, put six guys in a room for four, and suddenly the pressure ... I don't know what it is. They got a feel of the sweat, they got to hear the bell ringing, they got to feel it, they got to see it. I don't know what it is with people. Stefan: I'm a self-motivated person myself, so I go and I work. I'd say maybe there's one other guy in company, the manager, he's a self-motivated guy. But everybody else for whatever reason needs constant whipping. Why is that? Tyler: I think it's human nature. A lot of that ... Stefan: Gong for human nature. Tyler: A lot of that has to go back to the recruiting process, making sure that you got the right person. You're not gonna get the wrong person to do the right thing. It's just not gonna happen. I think a lot of that is based on these personality profile assessments that we do, and figuring out what their motivators are. If they're not money motivated, then what is their motivation? Tyler: We've learned so much through this process of really understanding our agents, and what their behaviors, their motivators, to understand how to get them to do the things that they maybe don't feel like doing, but we know that are gonna lead them towards success. We know that, "Hey, what's that extra 10 grand this month? What are you gonna do with that money?" Then we get them to start visualizing these things. I'm gonna give to this organization, I'm gonna be able to buy this, I'm gonna be able to go on this trip. Tyler: As we're going into 2019, an extra 50 grand, an extra 100 grand, what does that look like? What are you gonna do with that money? Let's go ahead and plan that trip, let's go ahead and plan out, let's go look at some properties 'cause you said you want to do some real estate investing this year, let's go look at a few properties, let's get some pictures of those properties. You make it a much more real than just, "Hey, Johnny. Pick up the phone because you've got to meet your quota." Stefan: I love that, the visual indicators so that they can see it, and they can believe it, and they can tell themself a story about how they're gonna have it. I think that's super powerful. Stefan: Now, what are some of those personality indicators? Tyler, you mentioned that money motivated is one. If you're gonna be in sales, you better be money motivated 'cause otherwise you're just gonna do human nature, and stay at home and do nothing. I've got a theory actually that the natural state of humanity is poverty. You can't really fix poverty 'cause it's natural, it naturally occurs in nature, and unnatural forces like training, and pain, and all other things drive people to succeed. What do you think of that theory? Tyler: I've never heard that before. That's interesting. I think the majority of behaviors are gonna be learned behaviors, but there are things that are just born in somebody that you're not gonna be able to change. A lot of that is resiliency. That's a huge one that we look for, is this person gonna get knocked down and be able to get back up? Tyler: Mojo loss is a big one with resiliency. When someone lose .... Stefan: What's mojo loss? What does that mean? Tyler: When someone gets a few nos and they get their dick in the dirt, they just can't overcome it, they can't pick up that phone again, or they can't go on that sales call the next day, and it takes massive coaching. Quite frankly, it's not cost efficient to deal with an agent that has the propensity for a lack of resiliency or for that mojo loss. Tyler: To us, it's so important. When we start to even sense that someone's losing their mojo, when they're starting down that downward spiral, we do, it's like all hands on deck to make sure that we can do everything that we possibly can on the front-end to make sure that they get right back in the game, because if they start down that process, they're gone. It's just the beginning of the end. Stefan: That's interesting. You know what, I heard a really scientific term there, dick in the dirt. I've never head that one before. When the guy gets his dick in the dirt, he's got a dirty dick. Tyler: That's it. Stefan: It's almost like it sounds like you're having an intervention with the guy when he gets into the downward spiral, into the pit of despair. What are some of the things you do to pull him out? 'Cause I think this is one of the biggest things, man. I think that what you're talking about right now is why people fail. I always ask on the show, why do people fail? It seems to me like there's an isolation, there's a pain, they get into pain, then they start numbing the pain. Stefan: I had one guy who was a hardcore drug addict. I don't know what he was. It was gambling, prostitution, or something. He was wasting all his money. [inaudible 00:20:24] gave him 10 grand. The next day he needed a $100,000 advance, always. The guy had some sort of addiction. It seems that when people get pain and they're isolated, that's when this downward spiral really happens. How do you keep them from being isolated. Tell me some of these intervention techniques that you're using to get these people back on the bus. Tyler: Isolation is the beginning of the end. When communication starts to go away, then we just know that person's on their way out. There's a couple of things that we do. Tyler: One thing that I personally do with our agents is I do coaching with them. We call it LIFE goals. LIFE stands for L is love, which is relationships; I is influence, which is the mind; F is finance, which is the business; E is energy, which is the body. We've constantly got three goals in each of those four areas for every 90 days. I take them through this process where I hold them accountable. Every 30 days, we're on a Zoom call, and I'm just literally going through each goal, and I'm saying, "Hey, Stefan. It says here we're gonna do date nights every Saturday night with your wife. How was your date nigh Saturday?" Tyler: Well, we couldn't do it this Saturday. Well, okay, what happened? Because this says mandatory date night every Saturday, so what happened? Well, we couldn't get a baby sitter last minute, yada, yada, yada. Okay. Stefan: I hate the babysitter, I hate the babysitter objections. Dude, it's 50 bucks or 30 bucks. Come on, man. Tyler: Yeah, and we take it a step further and we'll say, "Okay, great. Let's get on care.com," or whatever website, "and let's find you a second or third babysitter than you can have in your arsenal so that doesn't happen again. Hey, while we're here, let's go ahead and plan out your date for this coming Saturday?" We got on here that you're not doing carbs and sugar. How's that been going for you? Well, you know, it's Christmas season. They had this party the other night. Stefan: Dang. Tyler: I just hold them accountable to teach these areas. Tyler: It's funny, the business portion of that conversation is the least. But what we know is that a byproduct of winning in the other three areas is always gonna be an increase in production. Stefan: You know what, I feel like I'm meeting my brother here from another mother. I mean, I'm up here in Winnipeg, you're down in South Carolina. I've got my team on a thing called the High Performance Journal. It's three goals, 90 days. It's a 90-day journal, daily, weekly monthly. I said, "Look, here's the deal. You got your health goal, you got your wealth goal, you've got your relationships/happiness goal." I used to be like, "Oh, do whatever you want for your three goals, like two money, or one health." I was like, "No, man. The holistic thing, it's health, it's wealth, it's relationships." Stefan: Now influence. You said love, influence, finance, and energy. What was influence again? Tyler: That's the mind. We got a lot of people that for the very first time in their entire lives, they're meditating, they're reading books, they're listening to the podcast, they're doing all these things to feed their mind. Stefan: Yeah. I love that, man. I just got into mediation two weeks ago. I'm 32, I feel like it's too late, but it's never too late. I use this headband. I put the headband on, it measures my brain. You ever tried that? Tyler: I have. I have, yeah. It's awesome. I use Headspace. It's worked pretty well for me. I think I've logged in 4,000+ minutes this year on that thing. I just got started this year. This year is the first time I had ever meditated. I made fun of it for the longest time. I'm like, "There's no way I'm gonna sit. I've got ADD." I'm just thinking, "Sitting down for 10 minutes sounds like a nightmare," but it's been life changing for me. I absolutely love it. Tyler: When you're doing the first thing in the morning, if you can start your day on your terms ... Stefan: Oh. Bro, [crosstalk 00:24:01] I'm getting shivers over here, man. Tyler: Start ... Stefan: Stop seducing me, man. I'm getting shivers. Tyler: Well I mean, for so long I just literally from the second that I opened my eyes, it was chaos. It was self-induced chaos. It was I felt rushed, late, behind. I started thinking about it, I'm like, "Late for what? Rush to what? I control my schedule. Why do I feel like it's instant chaos 'cause I'm reaching for my phone, and I'm looking at notifications, and I'm responding to text messages and emails." Taking that first 10 minutes of the day, on purpose, with a purpose, for me, it changes everything. It changes the outlook of the entire day, and honestly, it's been life changing. Stefan: Something I made my team do with the journals, I said, "Look team, so everybody's on a journal, everybody, even including the secretary, bookkeeper, everybody's on the journal." Then I said, "Okay, team," this is what I said last week. I said, "I want you to book your sleep in your calendar. Minium six hours, just book it in your calendar, so 10:00 p.m. to 5:00 a.m., or whatever. Just book that in. Sleeps on there." Stefan: Then I said, "We're gonna have three hours booked as your core 10 items." There's 10 I wanted them to do every day. I said, "Book three hours before you come to work, that's your time." You've got your six hours of sleep, you've got your three hours for your core 10 items, and I prescribe them 10 items which include a lot of these, love, influence, finance, energy, they got to discover something, they got to declare it, they got to meditate, they got to revelate, they got to fitness and fuel their body. I even got down to sex and [inaudible 00:25:30], manager your sex energy 'cause you start wasting that, you're gonna be totally messed at some point. Stefan: I said, "Look, you got your sleep, you got your core 10, then you got eight hours of work, you got then, and then you got another five to seven hours for you." I said, "I don't care what you do with the day, but you got your core 10, you hit your core, hit your sleep, everything else is just out there." Stefan: Now what's some of the things ... Let me ask you this, Tyler, since I'm a new student of meditation, I think it's gonna be a life thing for me. I actually am going to the jungle here for 40 days. I'm gonna meditate like crazy, I'm gonna grow a beard like you bro, I see you on camera. It's a great beard. What are some of the epiphany, or some of the divine wisdom you've got from the source from meditating? 'Cause to me, it's been huge. What are some of your biggest things you've found? Tyler: Gratitude. Stefan: Bro, you're just hitting gongs everywhere, man. Gratitude, tell me about it. Tyler: That's it. Yeah, as a part of the meditation, I do a gratitude journal afterwards. I just jot down three, four, five things. I try to make them different things every day that I'm grateful for, and spending that time just by myself, and just gratitude. Completely grateful for all the opportunities, all the things that I have. Some day I'm writing down, "I'm glad that I woke up in a warm house with a roof over my head and food in my stomach," some of the basic necessities. Then some days I'll take it, what I look at as level 2.0, and I'll be grateful for the things that I don't have yet, as though I already have them. That visualization has been huge for me. Tyler: But it's gratitude, man. Every single person that is listening or watching this has so much to be grateful for. There's someone else on the other side of the planet that's praying for the things that we complain about every single day. It just drives me crazy. We have so blessed, but it's all about perspective. I think that meditation gives me that 10 minutes of perspective to just focus on what's really important, focus on what I already have, and focus on where I'm headed. That's really it, man. Tyler: There's a lot of power just in that process of doing something that I said I was gonna do, first thing, and starting my day that way, that anything that actually comes from the meditation is just icing on the cake. Stefan: Wow. Wow. Now when you're meditating, Tyler, are you a mantra guy or do you just focus on your breath? What's something that you do? Tyler: I've tried a bunch of different things. Again, I'm ADD. For me to sit in silence is a little difficult. I like a lot of the guided stuff. I do use Headspace just because again, competition-wise, I love being able to show people how many streaks, how many days in a row I've done it, how many minutes, like keeping track of that kind of stuff. But I like the guided stuff because I'm certainly no expert in meditation. If you can tell me how to breath, tell me what to think about, tell me how to sit, I'd do a lot better with that than just sitting in silence and staring at the wall. Tyler: But I feel like that'll progress over time. I've tried some of ... I did a podcast with David Meltzer, who's just freaking incredible. He talks a lot about the particular meditations that he's doing, and there's a bunch of different things that I want to get into in 2019, but for me it's just starting the day intentionally. Stefan: Yeah, man. It's huge. You either come at the day with your agenda, or the day comes at you with its agenda. One of the two is gonna take over. Stefan: One thing that's been new to me that has been a revelation in the last two weeks for me is do versus be. We're here on the Respect The Grind show, and you've got hustler in the background, or hustle or something, and I think we live in a world where it's do, do, do, do, do. Respect the grind is do, do, do. Hustle is do, do, do, do, do. We're masculine so we want to do, do, do things, and what are you doing, and how can I do that? Stefan: I think the other opposite side of that is the feminine, which is be. Who do you have to be? That's more about essence rather than doing. How important is it to have that essence and the being to go with the doing? Tyler: Do a lot of that with the visualization. I just have a deep understanding that the person that's gonna accomplish the goals that I have for 2019 is a different person than the person that's talking to you right now. Stefan: Gonging that up. Tyler: In order for me to do those things, I'm gonna have to be someone else. Then it's just a journey in becoming that person. I know the person that I have to be to accomplish those things, and that person's gonna have to level up, that person's gonna have to go through some challenges, that person's gonna have to expand in a number of different ways, but I am constantly chasing after that next version of myself. Tyler: I think that's a big encouragement for those that are going through tough times, is that when you're in the middle of a struggle, if you can understand that there's purpose in this, like I'm going through this for a reason, and there is a blessing on the other side of it, but until I become the person that can receive that blessing, it's not gonna happen. I actually have to change who I am in order to get out of this, and step out of this obstacle, step out of this pain, step out of this struggle, and step into the blessing that's on the other side. Tyler: It's easy to say in hindsight when you've been through it a number of times. You know when you tell somebody that and they're in the middle of it, they're like, "Screw you. That doesn't take the gun out of my mouth. You don't understand what I'm going through." I would just tell that person, "Yes I do." It's always the same. It's always the same no matter how hard, no matter how difficult, there's always a blessing on the other side of it, and I am of the mind that the harder it is, the bigger that blessing is. Stefan: Man, you just dropped a lot of wisdom there. I love what you said, the harder it is, the bigger the blessing. I noticed on the show from interviewing so many successful people the lower the low, the higher the high. Tyler: Absolutely. Stefan: You know the lady who was living in her car, or the guy who's totally, totally bankrupt, or whatever is usually where that guy rebounds equally high. I think that's from Think and Grow Rich. Inside of every failure is the seed of a greater success. It's interesting. Stefan: There's a lot of people out there that don't really want to fail, they don't want to try, they don't want to see how dark the darkness is, they just want the light. What do you think of that attitude? Tyler: I take it to a weird place where I'm almost envious of other peoples' low, low, low, lows. When I hear somebody's story now, like the other day, I had lunch with a guy. We sat down, and we didn't know each other, we had connected through Instagram. We sat down for lunch, and he just unloaded just what was going on in his life lately. It was heavy. He's going through some stuff. At the end of just unloading this information, he says, "So what do you think about that?" My response was, "Dude, I'm so freaking excited." He's like, "Okay." Completely caught him off guard. I was like, "Man, I can tell by your tone that you've made that switch." Tyler: That's the big, it's the if you've made that switch. But no matter how low, the lower it gets the better. If you can make that switch it's directly proportionate to how high you can fly. To me, it's so exciting to watch that in someone. Someone that has right when you know they've made that transition, and they're starting that upward trajectory, they're almost on the other side of it, those are the best stories. Those are the stories that we pay to watch, and that's what life's about, is overcoming obstacles. Everybody loves an underdog story. Man, I get envious sometimes. I'm like, "Man, I wish my lows were that low. I wish I had that story." Tyler: I wish there was some college course or some mastery program we could create where we just absolutely destroy your life at a young age, like at 20 to 25, just destroy every aspect of your life, and then help you rebuild it so that you can go on. I'd much rather experience it at 25 than 55, and go on and live a great life. Stefan: Wow. You know what, dude we're getting deep. We're getting deep now, man. Talking about it, it reminds me of the movie Fight Club. You ever seen Fight Club? Tyler: Oh yeah. Stefan: Yeah, so that one part in the movie, and actually I wrote a book called Hard Times Create Strong Men, it just came out. The last of it, hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, weak men create hard times. It's the cycle of history. Stefan: That one part in Fight Club, where Tyler Durden goes to the convenient store, and he pulls that little Asian guy out from the desk, and he throws him in the back alley, and he points a gun at him, and he says, "What do you want to be in your life? What do you want to do?" The guy's like, "I want to be a vet. I want to be a vet." He says, "All right Raymond K. Hessle," and he pulls out his wallet, and he takes his ID. He like, "I got your ID, and tomorrow if you're not on your way to becoming a vet, I'm gonna show up at your house and I'm gonna kill you." Stefan: The narrator is like, "Oh my God, what are you doing? You're ruining this guys life." He's like, "No, tomorrow Raymond's breakfast is gonna taste better than ever, and the colors will be brighter, and the birds will be singing because he's gonna be on the exact path of what he wants to do with his life, and he can say goodbye to this job at 7/11," or whatever. What do you think of that story? Tyler: Dude, it's incredible. I could not agree more. People don't need more information, they don't need more motivation, they don't need more inspiration, they need clarity. They need clarity in what they really want, like what they actually want. I love taking people through that process. You say like, "Hey man, what's your goal? What do you want?" I want to be financially free. What in the world does that mean? Stefan: Yeah, what the fuck? Tyler: They're like, "Well, you know." I'm like, "So tell me, what does that look like when you're financially free?" Well it's when I'm no longer a slave to debt. Okay, that's still ambiguous. We're getting closer. What does that look like when you're no longer a slave to debt? Stefan: Yeah, what does it mean? Tyler: We take through this process, where you just keep asking why, and what does that look like, but why? But really, but why do you want that? But why, why, why? When you dig down deep, all of a sudden you realize that the person really just wants to ride horses again because they had a horse when they were ... Stefan: Multi gong for that. Tyler: They had a horse when they were growing up, and they found so much joy riding freaking horses, and now they're in this corporate environment, and they're killing themselves with work every day, and their relationships are terrible, and they really just have no outlet to find peace again. It's like, "Oh, got it. Because you said you wanted to be financially free, but now we know, you just want to buy a freaking horse. Let's figure out how much does a horse cost, and where are you gonna keep it?" Stefan: Three thousand bucks. Tyler: Yeah. Let's do that. Tyler: Or you find out that it's, I want to be able to pick my kids up from school, and I want to be able to take this many weeks of vacation, and I want to live in this house. But until you get clear with what you actually want, it's a absolute joke to try to put together a plan to get somewhere, you don't know where you're going. Stefan: Dude, we're hitting bed rock here. We're getting so deep, we're hitting the bottom. I think what you're saying is so relevant. I can tell you Tyler, you're the real deal, man. I got to praise you, I got to appreciate you, I love having guys like you on the show. Sometimes you get a dud, you're a stud, man. Sometimes you get duds, but no, this is stud day today. Stefan: One thing that I think is super crazy, I'm really going through a lot of changes right now myself. I notice that our reality goes through the lens of our beliefs. Then our beliefs are controlled by our stories. There's a lens, on a lens, on a lens. You got reality, which is this is a cup. I got a cup here sitting on my table. That's reality. But then there's a belief about that, that comes from a story, and then inside the story when you're stuck, there's a lie. To fix somebody or make them move forward, or make them unstuck, or make them do whatever they got to do, you got to find that story, change the story, which changes the belief, which changes the reality, and edit out that lie. What do you think of that piece of wisdom that I've downloaded in the last two weeks. Tyler: It's extremely deep, but it's extremely important. Something that I'm certainly no expert on, but it's something that I'm extremely interested in, and it's given me a lot of compassion learning, is this whole law of first truths. The reason I say it gives me compassion because let's just take an extreme example. Tyler: Let's say you've got a guy that's racist. He's racist. Okay. The whole world would just say, "That guy is racist, and let's get in an argument." Okay, great. But why is that guy racist? Well it probably goes back to a moment when that guys was four years old, riding down the road in a car with his dad, and his dad looked over and saw someone on the side of the road and said, "That person," whatever that person was, color, ethnicity, "we hate those people." Stefan: Right. It was like Lion King, everything the light touches is our kingdom. He goes, "That's the dark space. We don't go there." Tyler: Exactly. In that moment, that four year old learned that we hate those people, not why, but just that we hate those people. Stefan: That's the story. Tyler: It's been developed over time, and through their culture, and that's the way they are. Tyler: It's given me a lot of compassion. That's an easy example to use. It's given me a lot of compassion for that person that normally society would say, "Well I hate that person, 'cause that person thinks this way." No, I don't hate that person. I hate that that person went through that situation to bring them up in a way that would make them think that, but until you take that person all the way back, like you said, until you unfold that story and figure out where the lie was, which in that moment, that was the lie in that person's story, is when that was told to them, and they just believed it because it was their dad and that's just what they said. They understood it and they believed it, and it became true. Figuring out where that lie is in their story and being able to rebuild from there. Tyler: But until you go all the way back, you're never gonna solve the root problem. That's probably one of the biggest problems we have in society today, is you got a lot of people that have never gone through that process, and they just think that the louder they yell, the somehow more truer the words become, which is absurd. Stefan: Yeah, we got a world now where everybody's got their own media channel, right? You hear the people who scream the loudest. Stefan: I remember Howard Stern was saying that in the old days, Howard is one of the biggest radio people in the world. He used to be offensive in the '90s. Nowadays he said he's tame 'cause everybody's got their own channel, and he just blends in now, which is crazy. Stefan: Now I was out with a girl last week, and it was a really interesting conversation, 'cause we talked about the stories and lies, I said, "You know, you're a beautiful girl. Why don't you marry? Why don't you have a relationship." She goes, "Oh, I don't want to be my parents." I go, "Okay, so what about that? Why?" We go deeper, "Oh, I don't think my dad should have had kids." I go, "Okay, so you shouldn't have been born. Okay. I get that. Your dad shouldn't have had kids." Stefan: I say, "Okay, why?" She said, "Well he didn't know how to raise us, and he was a dad, and didn't do all this stuff." I said, "Well, from your dad's perspective, do you think that he loves you but doesn't know how to love, and everything he does, ever day is his best choice?" Everything he does, even the dumb stuff, he thinks that's the best thing at the time. He's running around on this earth doing what he thinks is best, even though he's totally messing it up. Maybe he's got an 80% or 90% mess up rate, but he still loves you." Stefan: It was interesting 'cause that whole perspective flipped in that second. When you think of it from the other person's perspective, my own parents, they love me, they love each other, they couldn't figure it out. There's things they didn't know how to do, there's things that they still don't know how to do, they're just people, they aren't perfect. What do you think of that technique of looking at the story from the other person's perspective in some of your traumas to maybe reverse that or change the story? Tyler: It's huge man. It's empathy. It's being able to hold space for someone and be able to not judge, and not necessarily even try to fix. I think there's a huge problem now, especially with men. There's a problem where men don't have these conversations, men don't have real conversations. They walk around and, how are you? Great. Hey what's up man, how are you? Awesome. Hey man, how are you? Can't complain. Tyler: Meanwhile, they hate their wife, their kids despise them, their business is barely staying afloat. They're on thin ice in all areas, but they keep this alpha male, keep charging like I'm good. Everything's good. Everything's good. The reality is they need those vulnerable conversations with people that they could trust, that don't judge, that will just listen. It's an epidemic with men. Tyler: It's one thing that I'm super passionate about is creating environments for those conversations to occur because I think it's so important. We can't do life alone. I think so many of us are trying to, especially men. It just doesn't work. It just doesn't work. I think it's an extremely important thing that you just said. You've got to have other eyes on your situation because there's things that other people will see that you don't. Tyler: But that being said, there's something that I learned from a guy, he has this thing called The Art of Conversation that he discusses. He travels all over and speaks. He gave me this line to use in situations when I'm talking to people. It's been pretty transformational in the conversations that I've had. Tyler: When someone's explaining to you something they're going through, a struggle a problem, when they're done speaking, just to be able to ask them one question. It is, "Hey, do you mind if I give you some feedback on that?" That one question just opens everything up, because quite frankly, they may not want your feedback, they might want you to try to fix it, they're just trying to vent, and they just need to get this off their chest, and they're just trying to work through it themselves. That's fine. Tyler: But if they say, "Yeah. I'd love to hear your feedback," then they're giving you permission to try to give your viewpoint on what they're going through. That's been a really valuable lesson that I've learned in conversation lately. Stefan: Dude, this is a deep show. I really got to give you some props, Tyler. This is a great conversation, man. I wish we were going for two hours today, but we both got actual businesses to do. We can't just play around on the podcast. Stefan: I got a couple questions I ask everybody on the show. Tyler: Sure. Stefan: One of them is, if you can go back to the beginning, let's say 15 year old Tyler, what's a piece of advice you would give yourself? Tyler: Be patient. Stefan: Oh man, I'm giving that a gong. That's gong Friday here. Tell me more about being patient, 'cause I think that's a lost art form in today's world. Tyler: As I alluded to in the beginning of the show, it was just four and a half years ago I found myself in a really, really bad place. I was completely broke, had a bunch of debt, I had been through a failed marriage, a wife that had had an affair. I was led through about a year of just turmoil to me landing in divorce, business failure. I was just in a bad place, all around. I was out of shape, I was depressed. At that time, I was 28, 29 years old. Tyler: You had these pictures in your head of what you're gonna look like when you're 30. What's life gonna be like at 30? I see so many people. Whether it's 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, what's life gonna look like then? When you do that to yourself, you start feeling like you're behind, you start feeling like you need to play catch up, you start feeling like the odds are stacked against you, and it creates bad decisions, it creates riskier decisions than you should, and it just can really, really take someone into a bad place. Tyler: But what I would tell people is to be patient. It doesn't matter if you're 20, 30, 40, 50, 60. If you're still breathing, you've got time. There's so much more time than people realize. I'm 33, and I feel like I'm 23. I know people that are 43 that feel like they're 23, 53 they feel like they're 23. You've got so much freaking time. Tyler: The last part I'll say to that is, everything can change so quickly if you're just patient. It's almost like the more patient you are, the fast it comes, which really doesn't make any sense. But I've just found it to be true in my own life. The times where I felt the most patience, things progressed quicker. The times where I felt rushed, things took longer. If you can just believe that, if you can just hear my voice and just say, "Okay, I'm just gonna believe that, because this guy says it's true, he's experienced it," if you could just believe it, then just try it. Get yourself ... Tyler: Unfortunately it's one of those things where if you pray for patience, God doesn't give you patience, he gives you the opportunity to be patient. That could be frustrating at times. But it's in those opportunities to become patient that you really prove yourself, that you really are able to develop, like we were talking about in the beginning, the disciplines that will ultimately carry you toward your success. Tyler: Patience is huge because when you're in that feeling of being behind, or feeling like you've got so much to do to catch up, man, that's a hopeless feeling. I've been there. Man, I'd hate for somebody to feel like that when they don't have to. You don't have to feel that way because you have plenty of time. There's plenty of reasons and things that are gonna happen to make you feel pain. That's not one of them. Yeah, it's just patience. To say patience is virtue is obviously cliché, but man, this is so freaking true. Stefan: I think it's a book, The Richest Man in Babylon, where Arkad is teaching he's the richest man in Babylon. He's teaching these kids about money and he said, "One of the ways to lose your money is to expect too high of a return from it." That's the same thing. If you're expecting too high of a return, you're rushing, as you're saying, rushing through life, you're gonna lose your life. I think that it's so interesting. Time, money, all that stuff is the same, and be patient. I can hear the meditation coming out your voice, man. Live in the moment. Stefan: Tyler, top three books that changed your life, man. What are they? Tyler: Top three books. I love The Four Agreements. I love ... Stefan: Bro, I've got to stop you. You're the third person in the last 24 hours that has said that book. Tyler: Oh, really? Stefan: Yeah. I don't what, is the universe is bringing that book into my world? I just [inaudible 00:48:59] last night, so you're the third person, 24 hours that said The Four Agreements, The Four Agreements. My secretary last night at midnight was saying Four Agreements. I was like, "Oh man. I got to get the book, dude." Tell me about it. Tyler: It's meant to be. Qbq! Qbq! is a big one for me, the Question Behind the Question. I truly believe that your life, the success of your life will be determined by the level and value of questions that you ask yourself and others. That's a freaking incredible book. Tyler: I'm reading one right now though that I'm getting obsessed with, which Atomic Habits by James Clear. I am really enjoying that one, so that ones gonna be a big one for me for next year. Stefan: What's an atomic habit? Is that microing down your habits, or what? Tyler: It really is. It tells a story about a guy that lost 100 pounds, and the first six weeks, all he did was get ready to go to the gym, go to the gym, and then five minutes later go home. We're like, "Well how in the world did he lose all this weight?" Well you can't develop a habit that doesn't exist. You can't increase or enhance a habit that doesn't exist. For six weeks, he developed a habit of going to the gym. Stefan: Just going. Tyler: Then he built upon that habit, and now he's lost 100 pounds, and he'll keep it off because now that habit is ingrained in him. Tyler: So many of us, especially as we head into this new year, so many of us, we get these new goals, and let's just use the exam of working out. You haven't worked out in a year, but January 1, I'm gonna go workout for two hours, and then January 2, I'm gonna go workout for two hours. I'm gonna be so sour on January 3 and 4 that I don't go back for three months. It's just always what happens. Tyler: There's a system that he details out about these habits, and about different hacks really, like combining habits with things that you're already doing, which is very interesting. Making habits enjoyable, and just all these different aspects of habits, but what has been a little bit of theme in this show is it's those habits that create the disciplines. It goes hands in hand. Stefan: You know what, you're coming back to patience. It's coming back to patience, it's coming back to those small wins compound. You know what's something I've always said to people who are training is, "We can multiply you, we can't add." Whatever you're doing, we can multiply by two or three or four, but if you're a zero, you multiply zero by two, it's still zero. Right? Tyler: Yup. Absolutely. Stefan: Last question today for the people at home, Tyler. What is the one thing that young people need to succeed these days? Tyler: What is the one thing people need to succeed these days? Stefan: Yeah, we're talking 18 year olds, 19 year olds. People who are just coming into the game now, and maybe they're obsessed with Instagram, or maybe they're obsessed with Facebook. They're young kids, they got all sorts of ideas. What's the one thing you'd say to those young kids starting out? Tyler: Man, they just got to be willing to do the work. You got to be willing to do the work. The idea that you're somehow gonna stumble into success is a joke. If you have the audacity to want to live an extraordinary life, or have extraordinary things, have extraordinary success, then it's gonna take an extraordinary amount of work. That's the only way you get there. One of my favorite sayings of all time is that, "If you seek discomfort, the world will deliver you pleasure. If you seek comfort, the world will deliver you pain." Stefan: Wow. That's deep. Tyler: I've gotten to a place in my life where I'm just constantly searching for ways to make myself uncomfortable, and getting comfortable with the uncomfortable, if that's possible. But putting the work in when you don't feel like it, when it doesn't make sense, all those things, they're uncomfortable. But that's what ultimately will get you to whatever success is to that person. Get clear on that, and then just be willing to absolutely put the amount of effort in that's required. Stefan: Wow. Tyler, you know it's been an absolute pleasure speaking with you, man. You are a evolved spirit. I really appreciate this. Stefan: How could people get in touch with Tyler if they want to know more? Tyler: Yeah, so Instagram, Facebook are the main spots. It's @tylerharrispage. You can go to tylerharrispage.com. It's got all my links there. Would love to connect with everybody, I respond to every single message that I get. I would love to talk to people. Stefan: Tremendous. Tyler, thanks so much for being on the show. Respect the grind, brother. Tyler: Absolutely. Thank you for having me.  

Welcome to Nerdy Thursday. Shaun and Mitch are joined my Bryan and Tyler to discuss the first Lord of the Rings movie : The Fellowship of the Ring. While opinions on this movie clearly separates them all into two teams, they had a lot of fun recording together. Featured this week: ~~Introduction of Tyler ~~What kinda beers are they drinking ~~Can you guess what movie hasn’t seen this week? ~~Breath of the Wild comparisons ~~Everyones thoughts on the movie ~~Blow holes in this movies logic? It’s maggiiiccccc. ~~Best archer in movies? ~~Disney movies ~~DnD / Pathfinder ~~#18ForButtStuff ~~Mixing movies and games together ~~World of Warcraft ~~New Caller! ____________________________________________________________________________________ Cowabunga Breakfast ——> The Invention of Nerdy Thursday Bryan Betz ——> Our Logos instagram.com/nerdy_thursday ——> Our Insta Nerdy Thursday ——> Facebook and Twitter (413) 418-0076 ——> Our Number

My guest today is Tyler Morgan ( https://www.bfgpartners.com/tyler-bio ) , Vice President at BFG Partners ( https://www.bfgpartners.com/ ). BFG Partners invests in entrepreneurs that build exceptional businesses in the better-for-you food, beverage, and consumer products space. Some of their investments include Olipop, Quinn Snacks, and Bear Naked. I really enjoyed my time with Tyler where we discuss his due diligence process, effects of COVID within CPG and the evolution of BFG. Without further ado, here's Tyler. The Consumer VC Summit: February 23-25 Full Lineup and to purchase tickets: *Summit.theconsumervc.com* ( https://app.redcircle.com/shows/3af1af78-a3bd-428f-a8f8-947073d6388c/ep/0fb856e1-7f1c-4c67-8a98-4c414cd58645/Summit.theconsumervc.com ) Enter *CONSUMERVC* at checkout for 20% off A couple of books that inspired Tyler: Ship of Gold in the Deep Blue Sea ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/080214425X?camp=1789&creativeASIN=080214425X&ie=UTF8&linkCode=xm2&tag=theconsumervc-20 ) by Gary Kinder Endurance: Shackleton's Incredible Voyage ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0465062881/ref=as_li_tl?camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0465062881&ie=UTF8&linkCode=as2&linkId=ae389698cb72f3b2cffce764a92a6c35&tag=theconsumervc-20 ) by Alfred Lansing Some of the questions I ask Tyler - * What was your initial attraction to consumer products? * Wellness in hospitals * What was your interest when it came to investing and venture capital? * Tell me a bit about BFG it seems like you did a rebrand. What are your focus areas? * Why did you expand to invest in other consumables? * What are some current trends that you're most interested in? Food as medicine * There are so many brands out there since it's never been easier to start a brand then at any other point in time. What's your evaluation process to judge if a brand might be able to cut through the noise? * Walk me through your due diligence process? * What makes a compelling brand? * What's one thing you would change about Venture capital? * Do you only invest in brands that have an online presence? * in store demoing * What's one thing that you would change about venture capital? * Do you only invest in companies that are DNVBs or do invest in companies that are already in retail? * What's one book that inspired you personally and one book that inspired you professionally? * What's the best piece that you've received? * What's one piece of advice to founders?

I'd like to thank Natalie Dillon for introducing me to today's guest Tyler Handley ( https://twitter.com/Tyler_Handley ) , co-founder and CEO of Inkbox ( https://inkbox.com/ ) , the tattoos for now. These are temporary tattoos that last for 1-2 weeks and fade as your skin naturally regenerates. We talk about the state of the tattoo market - both temporary and permanent, opportunity he saw at the early stages, how he was able to fundraise and scale. I'll be honest, before our conversation, I knew nothing about the tattoo market before this conversation, so this was certainly an eye opener for me and an insightful conversation. You can follow Tyler @tyler_handley ( https://twitter.com/Tyler_Handley ). You can also follow your host, Mike, on Twitter @mikegelb ( https://twitter.com/MikeGelb ). You can also follow for episode announcements @consumervc ( https://twitter.com/ConsumerVc ). One book that inspired Tyler personally is Endurance ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0465062881?camp=1789&creativeASIN=0465062881&ie=UTF8&linkCode=xm2&tag=theconsumervc-20 ) by Alfred Lansing. One book that inspired Tyler professionally is Good to Great ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0066620996?camp=1789&creativeASIN=0066620996&ie=UTF8&linkCode=xm2&tag=theconsumervc-20 ) and Built to Last ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060516402?camp=1789&creativeASIN=0060516402&ie=UTF8&linkCode=xm2&tag=theconsumervc-20 ). On this episode I ask Tyler - * What attracted you to entrepreneurship? * What led you to founding Inkbox? What problem were you trying to solve? * How were you able to measure if this was a real need? * In the early stages, how did you think about your target audience? * How did you approach building your supply chain in the beginning? * What led you to fundraising? * How did you approach fundraising? * Early on, what were some of the tough questions from investors? * Do artists apply to be Inkbox? * We spoke before about how you did a rebrand, in the beginning you were trying to be a tech company you didn't have deep brand guidance. Talk to me about that pivot and if you could give an example of trying to be too tech in the beginning. * Talk to me about the $2.5 million investment to release a new product. Talk to me about why that was so important. * How has COVID affected Inkbox? How has your strategy changed? * Talk to me about the future of Inkbox. What are you most excited about? * What's one piece of advice that you have for folks looking to start a B2C type business?

[// Pregenerate link to episode ahead of time: - clicktotweet.com- sharelinkgenerator.com]: # It turns out... we had a lot to say about Disney theme parks, so enjoy part two (I guess it _isn't_ such a small world after all)! Next episode, we have our finale, talking about fans of Yuri with Erica Friedman! ## Where can I learn more about Tyler? Tyler happens to run his own podcast, [Ride Rehab](http://riderehab.com), where he and his co-hosts put themselves in the role of Disney imagineers (i.e. the folks that make rides) and figure out how they would update different attractions at Disney! You can find lots of details about that via [Twitter](http://twitter.com/riderehab) or [Instagram](http://instagram.com/riderehab) both @RideRehab. And, if you haven't got enough of Tyler, you can check out his personal art (as he _is_ a comic artist and illustrator): [tylermannart.com](http://tylermannart.com) or [@TylerMannArt](https://twitter.com/TylerMannArt) on Twitter. ## Episode outline ### The Verdict **T is in.** Originally wasn't thinking it would be interesting... but a lot more interested after hearing Tyler talk. **G is in.** In it for the dole whip. **Z is in.** Intrigued by the immersiveness on offer. **Tyler is in.** You can take the experience to as much of a level as you want to. ### This week's spotlight **[DisneyBound](http://disneybound.co/)** > DisneyBound is meant to be inspiration for you to pull together your own outfits which work for your body and wallet whether from your closet or local mall. **[Dreams Take Flight](http://www.dreamstakeflight.ca/)** > **Dreams Take Flight** is a national volunteer charitable organization dedicated to providing the trip of a lifetime to medically, mentally, physically, socially or emotionally challenged children. With the aid of Air Canada, other national and local organizations and businesses, money is raised to make the dream a reality in Vancouver, Edmonton, Calgary, Winnipeg, Toronto, Ottawa, Montreal and Halifax. Funds not required for its primary purpose can be gifted by Dreams Take Flight to other registered charities that benefit physically, mentally or socially challenged children and are within the policies adopted by Dreams Take Flight Canada. [// Plugs go here ]: # [// Race Against Time ]: # ### Famous Last Words This week's famous last words around *next week's* fandom, Yuri! **Z** Is there a Japanese version of Tanya Chalkin's "the Kiss"? **G** Who is Yuri for? **T** What is the first canonical Yuri manga? **Tyler** What is the primary focus of Yuri (since Yaoi seems to be focussed on the seme / uke relationship)? ## Where can you find us online? We are everywhere! Most notably though, we like to hang out in a few places on social media: - If you want to be part of our podcast (or just want to check us out), we record our podcast LIVE on [twitch.tv](http://twitch.tv/thenickscast) every Monday at 20:00 Eastern Time! - For all the latest updates, check us out on [Facebook](https://facebook.com/thenickscast) or [Twitter](https://twitter.com/thenickscast) - To see the latest hijinx from our conventions or even our daily lives and adventures, check us out on [Instagram](https://instagram.com/thenickscast) - For our latest convention updates, *Let's Plays*, and other in-real-life video, [check out our YouTube channel](http://youtube.com/thenickscast) - We're also on [iTunes](https://itunes.apple.com/podcast/fanthropological/id1163621210), and [Google Play](https://play.google.com/music/m/Icmngxz7yhaoivdvivvf6q6c2pu?t=Fanthropological), and would love it if you could leave a review and rating! - if you want to reach us, and for some reason none of those work for you, try [nick@thenickscast.com](mailto:nick@thenickscast.com) - You can check out [our website](http://thenickscast.com); that will mostly bring you back to this stuff. - Everything is `thenickscast`, so if you can't