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Featuring Jpop by way of italo disco, and I could not be more excited about it. Track listing (and where to buy these tracks):  0:00 John Rocca, “I Want It to Be Real” — Apple Music • Spotify • Amazon 8:48 Pineapples, “Come On Closer” — Apple Music • Spotify 14:18 Evelyn Barry, “Take It as a Game” — Apple Music • Spotify • Amazon 20:11 Paul Paul, “Good Times” — Apple Music • Spotify 25:07 Katy Gray, “Hold Me Tight” 30:22 Maurice McGee, “Do I Do” — Spotify 37:52 Claudja Barry, “Born to Love” — Apple Music • Spotify 41:53 Janelle, “Don’t Be Shy” — Apple Music 46:17 Jeanie Tracy, “Time Bomb” — Apple Music • Spotify 51:01 Company B, “Fascinated” — Apple Music • Spotify • Amazon 55:40 Frida, “I Know There’s Something Going On” — Apple Music • Spotify • Amazon 62:40 Anri, “Dancing With the Sunshine” — Apple Music • Spotify 66:05 Red Monster, “Hold Me Tight” 71:05 Jullan, “Electric Day” 75:49 Yoko Oginome, “Dancing Hero” — Apple Music • Spotify 79:29 Yu Hayami, “Heart wa Modoranai (Get Out of My Life)” — Apple Music • Spotify 86:30 Toronto, “Your Daddy Don’t Know” — Apple Music • Spotify • Amazon This whole thing is put together by me, Drew Mackie. Follow me on Twitter. I'm on Instagram too. Also listen to the Spotify playlist that inspired this podcast. If you have a recommendation for a song you think should be played on the show, hit me up on Twitter or leave me a voicemail by calling ‪(970) 823-4726 — or 970 82 DISCO. I may play your recommendation on a future show. Have a look at the official website for fancy people. The original art for this podcast was designed by Sarah Wickham, who rocks. Check out her art and also buy her stuff. Subscribe: Mixcloud • iTunes • Stitcher • Libsyn • Google Podcasts  Listen to the Spotify playlist that spawned this podcast.

This is the episode that no one asked for but you know you have to try it all and some ppl have said that my voice is nice to this episode is for those people and for those people only. I am very pleased to announce that it was terrible and I know everybody thought that it was terrible in the first place so it doesn't matter. But anyways i hope you guys like it and i will never stress this enough guys i want your likes i want your subscribes i want all of that i don't need it but I WANT IT. lol i don't know maybe I'm just high maintenance so if you are my future boyfriend i hope you are rich and successful just like me so we can rule the world together. omg where is this intro even going anyways hope you liked it again. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/tianyi6/message

This episode touches on creating a burning desire for your goals! We talk about the progression from I WANT IT to I NEED IT to I HAVE TO HAVE IT.

Welcome to Episode 19, where we interview our friends Rachel Ambrose and Anthony Johnson from Nurses United. How does a new political campaigning group work? And what can every nurse do to get involved? More info at nursesunited.org.uk Subscribe: Apple: podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/rmn-…ly/id1490747777 Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/5cEpeEoREdU…W8QTyk32lnNnsAyg SoundCloud: @rmnbehavingbadly Pocket Casts: pca.st/gpwq3n48 Google Podcasts: podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cDovL…L3NvdW5kcy5yc3M Stitcher: www.stitcher.com/podcast/rmn-behaving-badly Intro music is: I Want It by EpiJay ( music.apple.com/us/album/high-level-ep/605743629) Outro music is: Egmont Overture by Kevin MacLeod Link: filmmusic.io/song/3702-egmont-overture License: creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this extra-long episode, Stuart and Ed are joined by the esteemed Elizabeth Anionwu who, after her pioneering work on sickle cell anaemia, the Mary Seacole statue and appearing on Desert Island Discs, can now finally say she's reached the lofty peak of being on our wee show. You can find out more about Elizabeth's work here: https://www.elizabethanionwu.co.uk/ Join in more nonsensical leftie chat on Twitter: The pod is: https://twitter.com/RMNBBpodcast Stuart is: https://twitter.com/stueymckenzie Ed is: https://twitter.com/edfreshwater Previous episodes, blog, links to our social media and shownotes are available from our website: www.rmnbehavingbadly.co.uk Intro music is: I Want It by EpiJay ( https://music.apple.com/us/album/high-level-ep/605743629) Incidental music is: Peaceful by Luca Fraula Link: https://filmmusic.io/song/5169-peaceful License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Outro music is: Aunt Tagonist by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3392-aunt-tagonist License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Spices, passion, the desert sun. India is HOT - and so are our stories today! Even if you’re just listening, have some water or refreshing sharbat close by! CREDITS: McKenna Parker (Writer, Producer, and Editor) and Ismael Byers (Writer, Producer, and Editor) HOST: Anjali Balakrishna STORYTELLERS: Anjali Balakrishna, Naomi Tsai, Dominique DuTremble, Mantasha Khaleel, Sahana Afreen, Tenzin Tsagong, Chenam Barshee MUSIC CREDITS: The Quiet Life by Matt Large | Hurricane Season by Sarah, the Illstrumentalist | I’ll Be Your Helper by Martin Klem | Odyssey by [ocean jams] | Treat Me Right by Lionel Quick | The Challenge by | Notes to Self by Gavin Luke | Leave a Mark by Leumoti | Magellanic Clouds by Rand Aldo | Vaxla by Isberg | Duck in a Box by Jobii | You See My Soul by Lukas Amil | Pale by Ennio Mano | Sweet Fall by Moon Craters | Confused Mind by Stationart Sign | It’s Not That Serious by Arthur Benson | Paris in Spring by Travant 33 | It’s Not Mine but I Want It by Leimoti | Clouds Above by | She Was My Annie by Blue Topaz | Aquerala by Cornelio | Querida by Cornelio | Simple Pleasantries by Arthur Benson | Fresh Squeeze by Daniel Fridell | How to Tango by Arthur Benson | Odd Behavior by Arthur Benson | Jello Walking by Arthur Benson | Skilled in the Arts by Yi Nantiro | Escucha Mi Salsa by Son Habana | In the Peak Bar by Oakwood Station | Confidence is Key by Arthur Benson | #letschaat #podcast #podcasting #storytelling #audio #newpodcast #fellowship #stories #humaninterest #US #India #SouthAsia #development #socialsector

This episode Stuart and Ed talk about the comedown from weeks of pandemic lockdown, the challenges for nursing and public health until eventually they just lose it at the sheer ridiculousness of inept leadership and start giggling. It's been a tough few weeks, after all... maybe we need that goat to come visit again? All of these episodes are made possible by our wonderful patrons; their generosity pays for hosting, technology, live shows and supporting our guests. If you'd like to join them in supporting the show, visit patreon.com/RMNBehavingBadly. Don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Spotify, Apple or wherever you find podcasts. Intro music is: I Want It by EpiJay ( https://music.apple.com/us/album/high-level-ep/605743629) Outro music is: Oppressive Gloom by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4174-oppressive-gloom License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Stuart and Ed are joined by award-winning author and rapper Darren McGarvey (aka Loki) to discuss his book "Poverty Safari" and the intersection of inequality, poverty and mental health in this dynamic and thought-provoking episode. You can join in the debate about mental health nursing and social issues by following us on Twitter @RMNBBpodcast, @StueyMcKenzie and @EdFreshwater. Darren is on Twitter @lokiscottishrap, his website is darrenmcgarvey.com his award-winning book Poverty Safari is available from Luath Press, and is also available on Audible. Be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Anchor, PocketCasts, Soundcloud and all the other places where a pod might be cast. Go on and share the links with all your friends. This podcast is made possible thanks to our patrons which send us a few quid every month to keep things going and growing. In particular we want to thank Becky Hoskins, Cecilia Wigley, Daisy H, Derrick Tyson, Jennie Lee Sims, Lauren Kennedy, Lee Oughton, Maureen Dolan, Sarah Hivey, The Venerable Lady Ali Upton, Billy Drysdale, Dionne Daniel, Katie Sutton, Nat Frater, Natalie Brooks, Paul Jebb, Paula Shiels, Phil Noyes, Shari Auldyth, Rod Thomson and Andrea Spyropoulos. . If you'd like to join them and support the work of the podcast, visit patreon.com/RMNBehavingBadly. Intro music is: I Want It by EpiJay ( https://music.apple.com/us/album/high-level-ep/605743629) Outro music is: Too Cool by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4534-too-cool License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Stuart and Ed talk mental health, nursing and politics, and are joined for this free live show by acclaimed singer/songwriter Murdo Mitchell and Britain's Got Talent winner Lee Ridley, aka Lost Voice Guy. Thank you for joining us for the third LIVE! show of RMN Behaving Badly, and extra special thanks to our amazing guests Lee Ridley aka Lost Voice Guy and Murdo Mitchell. Keep on arguing and calling out the nonsense on Twitter @RMNBBpodcast, Stuart is @StueyMcKenzie and I'm @EdFreshwater, Lee is @LostVoiceGuy and Murdo is @MurdoMitchell. If you need a goat in a virtual meeting, get yourself to https://www.cronkshawfoldfarm.co.uk/goatsonzoom and follow @CronkshawFold because there’s nothing quite so wonderful as having a goat on Zoom. Our website rmnbehavingbadly.co.uk where you can find show notes, our blog, sign up to the mailing list, link to our social media accounts and listen to all our previous episodes. Lee's book is available from that evil megalith Amazon or his website lostvoiceguy.co.uk You can buy Murdo's CD by punting a tenner to him at paypal.me/MurdoMitchell and he'll even pay the postage. Huge thanks to our patrons who make the podcast and our live shows possible, and a special shout out to Rod Thomson, Becky Hoskins, Daisy, Jennie Lee Sims, Lauren Kennedy, Lee Oughton, Sarah Hivey, the venerable Ali Upton, Billy Drysdale, Katie Sutton, Nat Frater, Maureen Dolan , Paul Jebb, Paula Shiels, Phil Noyes, Natalie Brooks and Shari Auldyth. You can join these fine colleagues and many more by visiting patreon.com/rmnbehavinbadly We are of course a topical podcast relying on daft people doing the wrong thing for our content, so a special shout out to Matt Hancock and the Conservatives for their continued ineptitude; without them we'd have far less to talk about. Although, of course, we'd sooner have a health minister we could cheer on and wasn't about as much use as one of his stupid apps. Please make sure you subscribe to this podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Stitcher, PocketCasts, SoundCloud and all the other places where a pod might be cast. Leave us a review on iTunes too, we're only in this for the ego boost. Intro music is: I Want It by EpiJay ( https://music.apple.com/us/album/high-level-ep/605743629) Outro and incidental music by Kevin McLeod: Comic Hero by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3532-comic-hero License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Pixel Peeker Polka - faster by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4220-pixel-peeker-polka---faster License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Join us again on June 13th where we'll be joined by acclaimed rapper and author Darren McGarvey; we'll be talking inequality, mental health, and probably mentioning Liaison Coordinators. If you want to be fully prepped, buy his book Poverty Safari right now and send in your questions. Once again thanks for listening and, until we see you again, stay well, stay safe. Speak to you soon.

Blue October first started in the mid-to-late ‘90s, when two former high school chums Justin Furstenfeld and Ryan Delahoussaye, set out to create an alternative rock band that has since gone on to have more than eleven Top 40 singles across eight studio albums. Popularized by their platinum-certified album Foiled (2006), which features the hit singles “Hate Me” and “Into the Ocean,” the group has continued to evolve… shifting from a far more pensive sound to one that is more optimistic and reflective of lead singer/songwriter/guitarist Justin Furstenfeld’s transformation—which will also be the focus of his soon-to-be-released documentary film, I Want It. Once known for their stormy dynamic and self-destructive tendencies, Blue October couldn’t be more distinct from the band it once was, which is why their forthcoming studio album, I Hope You’re Happy, looks to push the envelope even further with a whole new approach. Last year, I had an opportunity to speak with Furstenfeld one-on-one before a recent solo performance in New York City to discuss his transformation, the documentary, and the band’s ninth studio album. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/offner/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/offner/support

  This week I’m postulating on why many of us spend so much time chasing after the next shiny new thing, whether that’s a bit of technology or whatever, or feel we have to wait for the planets to come into JUST the right alignment before we can even consider getting out there and doing something that we really want to do. For filmmakers, and I’ve discussed this several times with Ian O’Neill from the How They Did It Filmmaking Podcast, this comes down to the topic of just shooting with what you’ve got. That’s using the locations, contacts, equipment and cameras that you have easy access to, and not forever procrastinating over it. Before we move into that though - last week I introduced you to 6 productivity extensions for Google Chrome which will make you more efficient and effective. For a topic which - as I approached it - felt somewhat “dry” I must admit that I really got into it. I take these extensions for granted as I use them all the time, but they made a great episode. The call to action encouraged you to try the extensions and see how they worked for you. I wouldn’t have suggested them if I didn’t use them myself and I do believe that they will really make a difference to your productivity when working online - so listen back if you missed it and let me know how you are getting on and if you are digging them as much as I do. As always I must say that I do really love the interaction with listeners that comes with this podcast and that the show is on twitter @filmproprodpod or on Facebook @filmproproductivity if you want to send a message. My personal accounts on Instagram and Twitter @fight_director – Alternatively you can communicate via the official website at filmproproductivity.com/contact. Have you ever been in a position where you know you need to do things to move forward but instead you find yourself doing anything but? I talked about it a few weeks back in the procrastination episode, but I want to look at it in a bit more detail here today. I often find myself stalling rather than doing when it comes to filmmaking and I have a fairly extensive list of excuses that I can call up to ensure that I won’t get out there and just do it. The number one reason for me, and living in Scotland this is a fairly legitimate one, is because of the weather. I’m forever looking out of a window at pouring rain and thinking… I’ll do it tomorrow. It’s not that I don’t have wet weather gear and rain covers for my cameras - I do – It’s that I can vividly imagine how much of a pain it might be and I stop myself before I start. I also very often say to myself - I don’t have time, or more realistically, I don’t have enough energy – Check back to episode 18 for a full breakdown of that one. Lack of mental energy manifests itself as a kind of overwhelming tiredness, which makes staying in and doing administrative work, or frankly nothing productive at all, just that bit more attractive than going out with a camera. It’s an odd one though as it can drop on me like a cloud even when I’m feeling quite keen to do it and it ensures that I often avoid not only going out to shoot something of my own but that I won’t socialise or interact with others The next excuse that I can pull out of the hat, and I have many more in there, is that I don’t have the kit. I’m saving up to buy a specific thing, such as a lens or a filter or an add on like a monitor or other shiny new toy and I say to myself, I’ll just wait till I can get that “thing” and then it will all be easier and better. And oftentimes it’s not the kit that’s the problem it’s my knowledge, or lack thereof, of how to use that kit. I’ll be like, I could take this camera out but I don’t intricately know how this really works and so I find an excuse instead to faff about with it indoors rather than just doing whatever it is I had planned to do. Ultimately I can muster a general feeling of – “I’M NOT READY-NESS”. A feeling that the planets are not yet in alignment - but someday soon, all will be well and the time will be just right. I convince myself that when this happens or that happens or when I get this latest piece of kit – Then and only then, somewhere down the line, will I be ready to do whatever it is I plan to do. What’s the quote though that I’ve used before – “SOMEDAY is not a day of the week”. Some of you may say to yourselves. I can’t do such and such a thing because I have kids, or because I have a dog or because I have to do something that’s maybe not particularly urgent but that’s on your mind and it’s just kicking at you for attention. Well, today’s episode is about tackling this form of procrastination and just getting on with things. I’ll also look at why some of us get caught up in a cycle of “Keeping up with the Jones’s” and why just getting out there and doing it is likely to be far easier than we think it is. Lastly, I’ll look at why just shooting with what we have at hand or proceeding with plans even when the planets are not perfectly aligned is essential for our productivity. By researching this topic I’m kind of hoping to get myself out of a bit of a rut too – At the moment I’m putting off on my filmmaking plans as I am determined to record this show – and it’s so important to me that it is shoving all other things into a big pile in the corner of my mind. And you thought I did this podcast to help you? Ahhh you fools, I’m offering up this show up for my own benefit as much as yours - so let’s get into it! LESSON Robert Rodriguez famously said, “Every director has at least 10 bad films in them.” And that’s not just an amusing quote – it’s actually very closely linked to the topic of today and it mirrors the sentiment of my oft-quoted Hemingway one, “the first draft of everything is shit.” You see if the reason you find yourself stalling rather than getting out there and doing stuff is because you fear that your work will not be perceived as, in inverted commas “good enough” then you need to take courage from the words of those that have gone before you, like  Rodriguez and Hemingway, and accept that what you are about to film, or build or write or make might not be good enough to stand beside the works of Spielberg or indeed Rodriguez or Hemingway - but that you have to get out there do it anyway. The first quote that I used in this podcast was that the journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step, and that journey is as true for a film pro, a screenwriter or whatever as it is for anyone else. And if you are a regular listener to this show you will recognise that I am covering old ground but let me digress for a minute or so more on this as its important. Whether it’s the fear of failure or the fear of success or the drive to achieve an unattainable perfection it all adds up to the same thing. If you can’t just get out there and do it and possibly fail at what you do, you will never succeed, because you will never start. The American writer, publisher, artist, and philosopher Elbert Hubbard once said: “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” And that is as true today as when he said it. Elbert Hubbard died in 1915 by the way so this isn’t new information. In all your excuses, for not doing what you want to do, fear of failure, fear of looking silly or incompetent or of being imperfect or criticised by others is highly likely to be the reason behind it. Elbert Hubbard also said There is no failure except in no longer trying. C.S. Lewis said Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement. Napoleon Hill said Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure. And I’ll finish up on this point with this quote from Eric Zorn, who said “Fear of failure is a ticket to mediocrity. If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not pushing yourself. And if you’re not pushing yourself, you’re coasting.” There are literally hundreds of quotes out there that say the same thing if you ‘re not moving forward, if you’re finding excuses and stopping yourself from trying - if it’s all because you simply fear failure - then GET OVER IT AND SEIZE CONTROL. And before you start hitting me with excuses – It IS that easy. Now that I’ve tackled that old chestnut, let’s have a look at a very specific issue which I feel stops filmmakers in particular, and certainly some film pros that I know too from getting stuff done. The Canadian novelist W.P. Kinsella said, “Success is getting what you want; happiness is wanting what you get.” What I’m specifically talking about here is the constant need for doing everything with bigger and better equipment. It’s what I call Shiny New Thing Syndrome, and when I made that name up I had no idea that it actually is a thing! There’s an article in Entrepreneur.com that says that at its core, shiny object syndrome (SOS) is a disease of distraction, and it affects entrepreneurs specifically because of the qualities that make them unique. ... It's called shiny object syndrome because it's the entrepreneurial equivalent of a small child chasing after shiny objects. In their context, they crave new technology, or sometimes just new business opportunities, and once they get it, they immediately lose interest and start chasing the next thing. Nathaniel Hawthorne said, “Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.” And I’m firing quotes about happiness at you here as I believe that is in effect what we are seeking when we hunt for that next shiny new thing. This is one that I find myself struggling with now and again and I know I’m not the only one because I see it come up on forums and social media posts. Many of you listening may have reached for that perfect piece of shiny new equipment because without it you feel you can’t move forward - whether it’s a camera, or a computer or a piece of software or even a new idea or opportunity - whatever - but then when you get it, you realise that it wasn’t that which was holding you back – it was something else. I’ve been wondering about this phenomenon - I wonder if I have unwittingly built up a “keeping up with the Jones’s” habit that I am unable to kick. Perhaps not every listener knows that saying - “Keeping up with the Jones’s is an idiom in many parts of the English-speaking world referring to the comparison to your neighbour as a benchmark for social class or the accumulation of material goods. To fail to "keep up with the Jones's" is perceived as demonstrating socio-economic or cultural inferiority.” Wikipedia helped me with that description btw. I believe that my own shiny new thing syndrome is borne of watching YouTube reviews about tech. No sooner have I watched a review of a new piece of kit, that I want it. I mean not all the time obviously but often enough for me to be aware of it. Then when I get that thing - the lens or the camera or the piece of software I’ve lusted after - a new video I come across says – look over here – this one’s better. I’m not trying to keep up with fellow filmmakers, who may be the Jones’s in this scenario, I’m trying to keep up with my own microwave mentality (see episode 23) of just wanting the next shiny thing that catches my eye because somewhere at the back of my mind, I convince myself that I need it. Again when I look at this with my HIGHER LEVEL THINKING HEAD ON, I soon realise that my inner I WANT IT attitude of “lusting after material things that will somehow make everything better” - IS A LOSING BATTLE. Because I know in my heart that using material items to boost my confidence is only ever temporary.  THINGS will never bring us happiness or contentment in the long run as we know inside that we will have to keep on spending to keep that “high” going and every time we think we are close, the bar gets set even higher. As soon as you buy the latest gadget or device, a newer, cooler one comes out. We need to make our financial decisions based on what we want and what we can afford, not on what we think we should do to keep up with an ever-developing world of technology. By living within our means we can find contentment with the things we already have rather than chasing what we don’t. We need to cut that behaviour loose and focus on what’s really important in our lives and work —family, friends, etc. If we stick to our own goals, financial ones as well as creative, and the things that bring us joy, we won’t feel the need to keep up with anyone else. I always say shopping is cheaper than a psychiatrist. said Tammy Faye Bakker This is what others might call RETAIL THERAPY of course and it short-circuits our creative flow. I’m hoping that this is a topic which makes sense to you out there. I’m going it might seem, a bit off-piste here, but I feel it’s worth taking this just a little further. You see shopping also boosts our dopamine levels, the brain chemical responsible for making us feel pleasure. So this shiny new thing syndrome is not only a huge procrastination excuse, but we get rewarded for it with a "shopping high." The problem is, of course, that this “HIGH” doesn't last, and then we're left with the original problem, that of avoidance of the tasks at hand, plus we have a bill to pay. This isn't necessarily a bad thing though. If you can afford what you’re buying it’s no big deal. In fact, Psychology Today researchers found that 62% of shoppers have purchased something just to cheer themselves up. They call it “retail therapy” because shopping can make some of us feel a lot better - especially when we’re feeling down or stressed out. The real problem comes when you're using shopping as a crutch to avoid doing your work or when you're spending more than you can afford and running up debt. I’m grateful to say that I’ve never been that far gone, but I am still aware that I spend when I don’t necessarily have to. If you do find you have a problem with emotional spending like this, there are ways to beat it. The first key to curbing retail therapy is understanding what drives you to spend. What moods or things will tempt you to make unplanned purchases? If you know your spending triggers, you can find ways to combat and/or avoid those spending temptations entirely. Monitor Your Spending to Find “Emotional” Purchases. The only way to know about all your emotional spending habits is by tracking your daily spending. Use the 48-Hour Rule. One way to reduce emotional spending is by using the 48-hour rule. This is a simple — but effective — way to deal with spending temptations. Instead of dropping a specific “want” into your shopping basket, you write down the item’s name and price on a notepad. Give yourself 48-hours to think about a  specific purchase decision and its impact on your monthly budget. Remove Spending Apps like eBay or Craigslist or Amazon from Your Phone and Unsubscribe to Emails Encouraging You to Spend. Many people have found budgeting to be a proven way to reduce overspending. You should stick to an overall monthly budget that will force you to save (or invest) a certain amount each month — while spending on things you need and paying down debt. Budgeting is the key to avoiding retail therapy. Treat Yourself with Small Purchases (Within Your Budget) – Put aside a “fun” budget that allows you to make purchases with freedom and without regret. There’s nothing wrong with emotional spending if you have it as part of your budget and can keep your overall financial goals on track. You only get in trouble when you put yourself into debt and lose control. And I’ll leave it at that for now. I can’t go into a “shoot with what you’ve got” topic, without going back to Robert Rodriguez and his book Rebel Without  Crew. I’ll link to this in the show notes but please be aware that it’s rather dated. Rodriguez made El Mariachi in 1995 and although his story is inspiring and awesome, in technology terms and distribution wise at least, it’s far less relevant now than it once was. The basic message from the book is though is still essentially vital MAKE A FILM WITH THE RESOURCES YOU HAVE TO HAND IN THE PLACE WHERE YOU LIVE. In other words, SHOOT WITH WHAT YOU’VE GOT. AMAZON AFFILIATE LINKS - REBEL WITHOUT A CREW US: https://amzn.to/2NoQ1Tc  UK: https://amzn.to/2SYfIQr  He famously said in his 10-minute film school video which I’ll link to in the show notes, but he said “Don’t dream about being a filmmaker, You are a filmmaker. Now let’s get down to business.” And he says “…get experience, you’ll learn more from picking up a camera from your own mistakes than you will learning about it in film school.”, and if that doesn’t short circuit your fear of failure excuses then I don’t know what will. Robert Rodriguez says “Creativity, not money, is used to solve problems.” And so once you’ve beaten your fixation on the next shiny new thing and stopped procrastinating with a ton of reasons for why you SHOULDN’T make your first film, or write your first screenplay or compose your first score or whatever your creative drive is, then take a leaf out of Rodriguez book and MOVE FORWARD WITH WHAT YOU’VE GOT. Rodriguez tells aspiring filmmakers to become technical – to learn the tools of the trade. If you don’t he says you might become overly reliant on the techies who may or may not be interested in realizing your vision. He later asks. “Anyone know how to write?” The audience shrug and he says “No? Good. Everyone else writes the same way. Start writing your way. That makes you unique.” And I’ll come back to that uniqueness later on folks as it’s an essential core message in all of this. In the video, Rodriguez pushes on and says - you want to make a cheap movie, but how do you make a cheap movie? He says to list the Actors, locations, props, and equipment you can get hold of. What do you have around you? What talents do your actor friends have? and What roles were they born to play? A Doctor? A scientist? A bong head? A cop? A guitar player? He says - you have a dog? Make a movie about your dog! What locations can you get access to? A Nightclub? An Office? A Factory? Old folks home? Make a movie about that. What props can you get hold of? A burger van? A Wheelbarrow? A stepladder? He says to take that list of things you can get hold of and build your story around that. He had a guitar case, a turtle and a small Texan town at his disposal when he was starting out, and, with that, he strung together the story of El Mariachi. On the topic of shiny new things he states “You don’t want anything too fancy. Fancy equipment makes for lifeless, dull films, lacking in that reckless, adventurous spirit of the newbie moviemaker. ” He talks about equipment and he says shoot with what you have. He used a camera which to my eye now is big and bulky but to him, at that time it was fast and light. He says don’t spend your own money on kit, but find some monkey who owns one and borrow it or rent it for not a lot – again the message is shoot with what you can get your hands on. He goes further than that and says add life to your film by getting rid of the fancy stuff. Get rid of it and shoot fast and light. He goes further still and says DON’T OVER LIGHT and that’s a problem I’ve seen on low budget sets. Their lit within an inch of their life and they take so long setting it all up that they’ve barely any time left to shoot the movie once it’s done. I’m kinda kidding but at the same time – I’m not. And by shooting low budget and in the 20 plus years since, Rodriguez has maintained creative control over just about all of his movies because he doesn’t go in too deep. He doesn’t overstretch and lose control. This is a bit more of a filmmakery episode than I usually do, but I believe there are messages within this for all creatives and hope you’ve found it useful. SUMMING UP I want to end with that core message about uniqueness that Robert Rodriguez talked about earlier on. He also said “All those years I had been making movies because I loved movies, and that's what made all the difference. If you're doing it because you love it you can succeed because you'll work harder than anyone else around you, take on challenges no one else would dare take, and come up with methods no one else would discover, especially when their prime drive is fame and fortune. All that will follow later if you really love what you do. Because your work will speak itself.” He says your work will speak for itself, and that’s a vital part of what filmmaking is. I’ve been sidetracked for a couple of years, quite happily to some extent, but I’ve been side-tracked away from creating my own work and it left me with a feeling of dissatisfaction in the end. Series one was loosely themed around moving on from burnout to badass or words to that effect, but this series is loosely themed around making sure that you follow your own path and dreams and vision and the secret of success in being a creative I have come to believe is maintaining, protecting and being able to deliver work which has your own uniqueness to it. As creatives, it’s our unique voices that will win us awards, not keeping up with the Jones's, or that shiny new bit of kit. It’s standing up and offering something new and unique. And saying. I made this. Herman Melville said It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation. I say, it is through originality, that you will truly find success and ultimately happiness. CALL TO ACTION As a call to action this week and if you want to follow Robert Rodriguez example then make that list of your accessible resources, write a brilliant film that exploits them, then plan to shoot and edit with what you’ve got. If you’re not a filmmaker, take from this what lessons you can and use it as inspiration to push you forward in the achievement of your own dreams and creative projects. ENDING I’ll end with one final quote from Robert Rodriguez, he’s got plenty of them and they are all gold. He said It's easier making a smaller film like El Mariachi. There are no budget worries because there is no budget. There is no crew problem because there is no crew. And if you screw up, no one is around to see you screw up -- so it's no longer a screw up. …So don't give me any money, don't give me any people, but give freedom, and I'll give you a movie that looks gigantic. unquote Thanks again for choosing to spend your valuable time here with me. Please - take control of your own destiny, keep on shootin’, and join me next time on Film Pro Productivity. The music you can hear right now is Adventures by A Himitsu You can view the show notes for this episode on the official website filmproproductivity.com Please follow my personal account on Twitter and Instagram @fight_director or follow the show on Twitter @filmproprodpod or on Facebook @Filmproproductivity Thanks for supporting the show by subscribing, spreading the word and leaving an AWESOME review. Thanks: A Himitsu Music: Adventures by A Himitsu https://www.soundcloud.com/a-himitsuCreative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported— CC BY 3.0 http://creativecommons.org/licenses/b... 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In episode 25 I finally start filming my podcasts, the video will be up in a few days on YouTube and you will see it all went wrong. I have been concentrating on the visual side of things like using PhotoMirage and Photoshop it's very exciting. I have also been Melodyning my vocals to death hahah. Listen to the podcast to hear what all this means. Also I'm sorry but you will hear the world premiere of my new song I Want It! Still working on the vocals. Got a long way to go but at least I am still trying for better or worse! hahahaahah Thanks for listening. I love hearing from you so if you have any comments or questions please feel free to contact me on the social media platforms listed below. PLEASE LIKE, SHARE, COMMENT and SUBSCRIBE. LISTEN TO MY PODCAST HERE Anchor: https://anchor.fm/sia-nas iTunes Podcasts: http://bit.ly/DiaryofaHipHopArtist Spotify: http://bit.ly/DiaryofaHipHopArtistSpotify Google Podcasts: http://bit.ly/sisnasgooglepodcast Breaker: https://www.breaker.audio/sia-nas Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id1423820 Pocket Casts: https://pca.st/Gw8w Overcast: http://bit.ly/sianasovercastpodcast PodBean: http://bit.ly/sianaspodbeanpodcast RadioPublic: https://radiopublic.com/sia-nas-GMa2mp Stitcher: http://bit.ly/sianasstitcherpodcast TuneIn: https://tunein.com/radio/Diary-of-a-Hip-Hop-Artist-p1219970 CHECK OUT MY MUSIC Spotify Artist Page: http://bit.ly/sianasspotify Itunes Artist Page: http://bit.ly/sianasitunes YouTube Channel: http://bit.ly/sianasyoutubechannel SoundCloud Songs: https://soundcloud.com/sia-nas SoundCloud Beats: http://bit.ly/sianasbeatsoundcloud FOLLOW ME https://www.instagram.com/sianassongs https://twitter.com/sianassongs https://www.facebook.com/sianassongs https://www.snapchat.com/add/sianassongs SUBSCRIBE Subscribe to my channel to keep up to date with my latest videos. http://bit.ly/sianasyoutubechannel

On this episode of the Just the Tip podcast, Jesse is joined by her friend Candice to discuss relationship timelines and how to get the relationship you want. The post Just The Tip Podcast Season 2 Episode #4: I Want It, I Got It appeared first on Tinder District.

Welcome to the episode 13 - the first one of the year with a new format and talking about my new beat I Want It, and getting inspiration from Carole King, Russ, Logic and Gary Vee. I also talk about living your best life and having courage and facing your fears. Thanks for listening. I love hearing from you so if you have any comments or questions please feel free to contact me on the social media platforms listed below. PLEASE LIKE, SHARE, COMMENT and SUBSCRIBE LISTEN ON YOUTUBE https://youtu.be/J-_9A1k01G8 LISTEN TO MY PODCAST HERE Anchor: anchor.fm/sia-nas iTunes Podcasts: bit.ly/sianasitunespodcast Google Podcasts: bit.ly/sisnasgooglepodcast Breaker: www.breaker.audio/sia-nas Castbox: castbox.fm/channel/id1423820 Overcast: bit.ly/sianasovercastpodcast PodBean: bit.ly/sianaspodbeanpodcast RadioPublic: radiopublic.com/sia-nas-GMa2mp Stitcher: bit.ly/sianasstitcherpodcast CHECK OUT MY MUSIC Spotify Artist Page: bit.ly/sianasspotify Itunes Artist Page: bit.ly/sianasitunes YouTube Channel: bit.ly/sianasyoutubechannel SoundCloud Songs: soundcloud.com/sia-nas SoundCloud Beats: bit.ly/sianasbeatsoundcloud FOLLOW ME www.instagram.com/sianassongs twitter.com/sianassongs www.facebook.com/sianassongs www.snapchat.com/add/sianassongs SUBSCRIBE Subscribe to my channel to keep up to date with my latest videos. bit.ly/sianasyoutubechannel

TO ENTER AND WIN THE GIVEAWAY on IG, Find the post on Thrival Nutrition’s Instagram with Carrie’s podcast quote + be the first to say I WANT IT! You’ll get a FREE SIGNED copy of Carrie’s new book! Today’s podcast, we sit down with Carrie Harper talking about diastasis recit! She is an expert in this area mamas + you’ll love this episode, this is what you’ll learn… What made her first attracted to working with women who had diastasis recti What her new book teaches Tidbits that is inside her new book that you might find REALLY surprising What you can do before or during pregnancy to help reduce/prevent diastasis recti Grab our Multivitamin on Amazon! About Carrie Carrie Harper is a fitness professional with over 20 years of experience in group and personal training. She is a writer, speaker, and teacher in all things fitness and a specialist in pre and post natal fitness. Carrie has spent the last 10 years studying and developing therapy systems to help post natal women recover from childbirth, particularly from the very common core injury, Diastasis Recti. She made the Diastasis Recti Recovery and the new best selling book “Flatten my Postpartum Belly” Connect with her on her website, Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube! Connect with Lahana on her blog, Facebook, and Instagram.

In this episode Karl Benton & Jason Eli talk, laugh, remember, listen to and analyse at the development of UK Soulful music from the years 2000 to 2017. UK Soul has become a little less distinctive due to music in general becoming more of a melting pot since the explostion of the availability of music online and also the ease of international collaboration brought about by the internet. Nevertheless there still remains a distinct UK flavour on many of these tunes. Artists on this include Omar, Reel People, Blacktonez, Mahalia and more. Tracklist "One Hundred and Rising" Incognito "Pleasure Ride" Blacktonez "Forgive Me (D-Influence Radio Mix)" Lynden David Hall "These Words (Dwele Remix)" Natasha Bedingfield  "The Sun (Dwele's Motor City Remix)" New Sector Movements "She's Gone Away" Sean Escoffrey & Sir Piers "In The Sun (Club Mix) (Feat. Angela Johnson)" Reel People "Get Off" Don E. "I Want It to Be" Omar "It Will Be (feat. Tony Momrelle)" Reel People "Spread That" Sillohette Brown "Drawing Board" Terri Walker "Beautiful Contradiction" Beverly Knight & Musiq Soulchild "In My Bed (CJ Mix)" Amy Winehouse "Only Trying To Tell You" Puma Blue www.groovadelica.com "No Pressure" Mahalia "Don't Wanna Be Found (feat. Taye Williams & Pearce)" Jason Eli PHOTO of Beverly Knight 

I Want It by Writer's Block Music Group and No Fridays For Me

Week 17 — I Want It by Writer's Block Music Group and No Fridays For Me

Such good intentions to discuss the fancy foods to aspire to but Anita Sarkeesian (@femfreq @anitasarkeesian) and I discover that we really want to dork out about being Armenian. And so it came to pass. She’s got a great site dedicated to looking at pop culture from a feminist angle which, since it’s never done that way… is fascinating. You will come for Anita and stay for the beginning of friendship.  #jococruise Enjoy. AD: use DORK on checkout and get $50 off selected Mattresses. You gotta WANT IT. I WANT IT. Donate to The Dork Forest at or 14:50 Swedish Bread.  63:30 Armenian Comedy   My album “I Am Not the Hero of This Story” available on , and hard copy if you want it signed on the website. As well as TDF tshirts, standup shirts and other CDs and just videos of my comedy. Premium eps of TDF are taped live and available here:   USE THE AMAZON banner when you order your own dorky goodness. Audio leveling by Patrick Brady  Music is by Mike Ruekberg  Website design by Vilmos: www.

Episode 44 - Give Me That Bacon! - Seriously. I Want It...Now. In this episode Stephanie discovers the world of bacon! Seriously. She loves her bacon. Mounds and mounds of bacon. For Stephanie, it can't get much better than having loads of bacon on her plate. Stephanie talks about her special love for this all-time very favorite meat that most American's love just as much as her. We also did some research discovering a few online stores that sell all the special bacon delicacies just in case family and friends don't know what to get Stephanie for her birthday (hint, hint...Mom and Dad...it's bacon). Get all the facts and then get some special bacon products including bacon jewelry, bacon clothing, chocolate covered bacon and the "Bacon of the Month Club". *Now, in doing this episode, Stephanie realizes that there are some that might find bacon not to their liking so we promise to make it up to you. Perhaps by choosing a non-meat food product. Any suggestions? For those bacon lovers, get in that comfy recliner right now and sit back with a beautiful glass of southern sweet tea and enjoy this episode. Then go make a bacon sandwich! All you need is bacon and bread. Easy peasy. Get The Book (We added some that sounded good): 101 Things To Do With Bacon Bacon 24/Seven Bacon Nation Everybody Loves Bacon Everything Tastes Better With Bacon I Love Bacon Some Bacon Gifts For The Loved One's In Your Life Bacon Playing Cards "You Had Me At Bacon" / Hoodies and Shirts Mystery Bacon Goodie Box - Original, Uber and Kids' Bacon Of The Month Club http://www.hormel.com/Brands/Black-Label-Bacon.aspx *Now go quickly and get the Talk, Tales and Trivia App: Talk, Tales and Trivia App *Write a review (by clicking on the "Ratings and Reviews") after you click here *Here's a massive thumbs up and a huge thank you to our Audio Engineer, Cartoonr. I highly recommend him. See the link below: Cartoonr page on fiverr.com *Intro/Outro music is "Happy Go Lucky" by Scott Holmes *Fill out this really cool survey so we can see who's listening and make Talk, Tales and Trivia even better (250 submits needed!): https://survey.libsyn.com/talktalesandtrivia Please visit our Patreon page to contribute to this here podcast: https://www.patreon.com/talktalesandtrivia iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/talk-tales-and-trivia/id1144007260?mt=2&ls=1 iHeart Radio: http://www.iheart.com Stiticher: http://www.stitcher.com Google Play Music: TalkTalesAndTrivia Twitter: https://twitter.com/TalkTalesEtc Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/talktalesandtrivia/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talktalesandtrivia/ *Contacttalktalesandtrivia@gmail.com

Ahead of his debut EP on Delve Deeper later this month Finest Wear delivers a mix of upfront Deep House featuring two tracks from his upcoming DD release in 'Into My Soul' and 'Raw To Da Core'. Cenzo Scoglio aka 'Finest Wear' A DJ/producer from London and his warm, atmospheric, restrained & imaginative sound is truly timeless and simply just keeps progressing forward. With previous releases on Nordic Trax and Colour & Pitch amongst others Cenzo is looking forward to a huge year with a release on Large as well as his DD outing a sign he is going to make an big impact in 2017. Tracklist: 1. Theo Kottis - ‘Future Eyes’ - Anjuna Deep 2. Eric Shans - Is It Tonight’ - Colour & Pitch 3. Finest Wear - ‘Into My Soul’ (Deeper Mix) Delve Deeper 4. Black Loops - ‘Feel The B’ (Carlo Remix) Neovinyl Recs 5. Johnny Fiasco - ‘I Want It’ - Nordic Trax 6. Soul Inscribed & Irfan Rainy - ‘Soul Shine’ - Papa Recs 7. Saison - ‘Call Me’ - Large Music 8. Finest Wear - ‘Raw To Da Core’ - Delve Deeper 9. Paul Rudder - ‘Feeling You’ - Large Music 10. Deejaykul - ‘Call Me’ - Swedish Brandy

Intimacy is one of the deepest needs of the human heart. We all crave it and we all enjoy it when we experience it in our marriages. Today, you need to pause and consider how you’re doing on the intimacy in your marriage. We experience and express intimacy in different ways, so think of this as an intimacy checkup. You go to your family doctor for your annual physical, well, today is your annual relational! Intimacy Self-Evaluation We put together a self-assessment which is a perfect tool to go along with this article. Download and work through the self-evaluation of how intimacy is working in your mind, your heart, your soul, and your body, and you’ll have a picture of where your strengths lie and also where your growth areas are.I Want It! Intimacy is a full person experience: it’s your mind, heart, soul and body all in one. In the world of marriage research, we talk about cognition, emotion, physical intimacy, and spiritual intimacy. Rather than get all “woo woo” talking about intimacy, we want to keep it very real. Intimacy is nothing more than an exchange or a mutual interaction.[i] It’s a sharing between two people. You can share your thoughts, your emotions, your spirituality, and your body. When you share all of those things in a deep way then you have deep intimacy. We’re going to go into each of these areas one by one so you can consider how you’re doing and if it is an area where you need to open up more. But first a caveat: If you’re in an abusive marriage, more intimacy is not going to help. You need safety in order to share more intimately. If you give intimacy to someone who is not safe, you’re really giving them knowledge. And knowledge is power, and if that power is abused it is going to lead to even more hurt. On the other hand, if you’re both healthy people – even if your marriage is unhappy and distressed and you both get your ugly on – becoming more intimate and showing your softer, deeper emotions and thoughts will give your spouse something easier to embrace. If this is reciprocated, you start to create healing and something new and much healthier in your marriage. Cognitive Intimacy: Sharing Your Thoughts Ever used the expression, “A penny for your thoughts!”? Think about that request: we say that when we want to know someone more intimately. When we say “a penny for your thoughts” we’re asking to be invited into the world of their mind. Here’s a good quote from a study in 1993: “The amount of personal information individuals disclose is positively related to how intimate they consider their relationship and positively related to marital satisfaction.”[ii] Remember, we defined intimacy as an exchange. In cognitive intimacy, or in the context of our minds, this is just an exchange of information. When we disclose our thoughts to one another, this is cognitive intimacy. Caleb gave me a man's perspective on this. He said often he has WAY more stuff going through his head than what he verbalizes. (I tend to think out loud, so this is a foreign concept to me…) He has to put sincere effort into disclosing his thoughts. He’s not holding back intentionally, he’s just in his head. But here’s the deal: self-disclosure significantly predicted ratings of intimacy by husbands and wives on a day to day basis, meaning that you feel more intimate if you’re sharing what’s going on in your head. There are a few parts that go with this and you need all of the following parts in order to do this type of intimacy well:[iii] Obvious, but you have to share your thoughts. This is called initial disclosure and is the starting point. Your spouse needs to do the same. The next critical point is called partner responsiveness which just means that the listener has to audibly and visibly react to the disclosure in a way that is relevant to the content that has been shared. Respond in a way that is relevant and that communicates that you understand, you care, and you confirm your spouse’s perspective.

Mandean is delivering the dopest hip hop – old and new – in his summer wrap up episode. DOWNLOAD Radio Edit #112 – That’s That Shit Tracklist: Fabolous – Summertime Shootout Masta Ace, Your Old Droog – 3000 Avenue X Cormega, PMD, Pretty Ugly – Same World Little Vic, Roc Marciano – I Want It …

Nicholas and Amanda answer your questions on Facebook Live! This episode is all about work ethic, gettind down into your purpose and passion, and how to inspire other people.  They answer a question from Andrew about "how bad do I want it" and Wes about "how do you inpsire others". Nicholas and Amanda chat about how to make a huge impact in your daily life  In this episode you will learn: What your passion is and how to inspire others  Find out the true meaning behind "How Bad Do You Want It?" and what that means to us The key to success no one is talking about  How to gain trust with others and make an impact  Snap us what your How Bad do I Want It moment was ! Amanda's Snapchat and Nicholas's Snapchat Submit your questions here 

We know for some of you, this episode is going to be a tough one. We’re going to speak the truth in love because we’re committed to integrity, but at the same time we want to give you hope because this IS hope, and recovery of your marriage IS possible. If you’re at the point where you think your marriage is fine, I hope you will take from this post the need to be proactive. Don’t want until you’re wondering if you can recover your marriage to take action – take action now! A Marriage Checkup If you want an objective evaluation of your marriage, download this assessment tool. Even if you feel your marriage is doing great, this might highlight some blind spots you weren’t aware of, so that you can work on them. Remember it’s only a measurement tool: what you do with the information is what really matters!I Want It! Personally, we don’t believe that any marriage is ever beyond recovery. We do believe that in some cases, like an abusive marriage, it is not safe to recover the marriage until the abuse issue is addressed thoroughly. We do not have any judgment for folks that have decided to move on – we’re not God and it’s not our job to judge that – but if you’re out there today and you just want someone to tell you there’s hope, then listen, there is hope! We’re going to talk about a number of things that challenge that hope, but we will end up with some things that you hope, so stick with us. Indicators That a Marriage is Moving Beyond Recovery Research indicates that the following behaviours may be warning signs that a marriage is headed past recovery and towards divorce. A Lot of Spouse Hostility Hostility without warmth is a major warning sign that your marriage longevity is seriously threatened. A study was conducted of over 400 couples married an average of 18 years. The study went on for five years and looked into the hostility of these marriages, the divorces that happened, and the quality of the interaction between spouses.[i] Hostility became a theme in the marriages that ended, so let’s look at hostility for a moment. The researchers looked for the frequency of how often a spouse had: gotten angry been critical shouted or yelled, ignored their spouse threatened to do something that would upset their spouse tried to make him or her feel guilty, or said that their spouse had made him or her unhappy. On the other hand, warmth looked like times when their spouse had: asked for his/her opinion listened to his/her point of view let them know that he or she cares acted in a loving and affectionate manner let them know that s/he is appreciated helped them something important to him/her had a good laugh with them, or acted supportive or understanding. Here’s what they found: “In every instance, greater marital instability was associated with more hostility and less warmth in marital interactions.”[ii] This warmth vs. hostility dynamic was so apparent that the researchers were able to predict with an 80% level of accuracy which couples would divorce the following year. All they had to look for was high levels of hostility and lesser levels of warmth. The researchers summarized their findings with the following statement, “Couples observed to exhibit high levels of hostile, angry, critical, stubborn, inconsiderate, defiant, or rejecting behavior that is not counterbalanced by considerate, cooperative, or affectionate behavior were more likely to perceive high levels of hostility in their marital interactions, were more likely to have unstable marriages, and were more likely to actually separate or divorce.”[iii] All that to say, that hostility needs to be counterbalanced with warmth in a marriage, or it will have lasting negative effects. We all get our ugly on once in a while unfortunately, but if those times are balanced with a lot of warmth and affection, it will serve your marriage much better. Significant Ambivalence and Lack of Responsiveness

Codependency is a term that gets thrown around a lot. What’s a little freaky about it is that we all have a touch of this in our lives. We’re not here to put people in buckets, but to help you make sense of the world around you. If codependency is part of your world, here is some great advice on how to shift to a healthier place in your marriage. What is Codependency? Codependency is actually surprisingly hard to define. Perhaps the easiest way to get a succinct, lightweight but accurate definition is to google the phrase “codependency jokes”. If you’re worried that you may be codependent, and you have a good sense of humour, you may actually find some help there. But to those of you who realize this is part of your world, it’s no joke. It’s serious. It’s really hard sometimes, and it’s a bewildering world to try to navigate your way out of. One more thing – going back to what I mentioned earlier, we’re not here to put people into buckets. Actually, it can sometimes be very unhelpful to put people into buckets. It tends to give people a label, and then we treat people according to their label. It fails to honour your individuality, your personhood, the fact that you too are created in the image of God and you are, like everyone else, a valuable fallible child of God. So, please don’t think we’re just trying to stick you in a bucket and give you a label. What we’re hoping to accomplish is to help those of you are who in codependent relationships to begin to make sense of your world. We want to give you a starting point that you can work from. If you’re feeling lost, your way out starts with understanding where you are today. Am I Codependent? To help you, we created a self-assessment that you can download and complete to score yourself. It’s adapted from a professional tool but you’ll be able to complete this and get a sense of where you’re at in terms of the likelihood of codependence being a significant part of the way that you interact with your spouse or family or origin. So, if you’re wondering, “Is this me?” make sure you get a copy of this free assessment!I Want It! Ok, back to our definition. It’s rather difficult to define codependency, but here is a fairly recent definition from the research: Codependency “involves relationship patterns, with two people meeting each other’s needs in dysfunction ways.”[i] That’s good, but pretty generic. Some other researchers define codependency as “a pattern of compulsive behaviors that is motivated by dependence on another’s approval and is designed to find a sense of safety, identity, and self-worth.”[ii] These are more tangible dynamics. They go on to identify some of the traits and patterns that can be found in codependent individuals. Codependent individuals place their self-esteem in their ability to “control and influence the behavior and feelings of others.” This attempt to control can actually look like the codependent individual catering to the needs of another person. However, often the codependent individual can never do enough, and their attempts are neglected and resented by those they cater to. The codependent person then feels inadequate, feeling like they need to do more. Doing more often does not work, and the codependent individual turns to denial, rationalization, and projection. “As these defenses are used more often, persons become unable to recognize their true feelings, and they become unable to understand and take care of their own personal needs.”[iii] This is where we have a lot of compassion because it ends up feeling very disorientating – something doesn’t feel right, but you can’t figure out what or why. At the same time, what’s confusing is that there are parts of this that are normal – taking care of others is a good thing, right? And I feel better about myself when my hubby is distressed and I can help him find joy again. The key here is recognizing there is so much ‘catering to’ that it is dysfunctional.

Hello, all, and welcome to the next installment of the podcast that says “vintage electronics: I WANT IT”.  I’m Randy Kindig and I’m your host.  This episode is the first of a 2-parter on the Hewlett Packard HP-41 line of programmable calculators.  The HP-41 is a seminal example of programmable calculators from the late 70’s and into the 80’s and is still very desirable and sought after today.  I was lucky enough to find 2 gentlemen to co-host who are well-known among the active HP calculator community that exists today: Richard J. Nelson, who has written, edited, and published as much HP-41 material as anyone ever.  And Gene Wright who is on the HP Handheld Conference Committee and he was a TI fan before becoming “hooked” on the HP-41.  In this first part on the HP-41, I interview the co-hosts and then we cover the history of the calculator line in detail.  Next month, with the same co-hosts, we will cover Web sites, emulation, software, and much more. To start out, as usual, I will cover my new vintage computer acquisitions, a little news, and some feedback. I hope you enjoy this and please let me know what you think. Links Mentioned in the Show: New Acquisitions Kim UNO - http://obsolescence.wix.com/obsolescence SpartaDOS X Supercart - https://www.bitsofthepast.com/?product=super-spartados-cartridge News New TI Newsletter - Yesterdays News by Ralph Rees - http://atariage.com/forums/topic/251850-yesterdays-news/?hl=%2Byesterdays+%2Bnews#entry3507067 https://storybundle.com/tech - “Nerd History Bundle” A Microsoft Life by Stephen Toulouse - http://www.amazon.com/dp/0557735297/?tag=flodaypod-20 Gates by Stephen Manes and Paul Andrews - http://www.amazon.com/dp/0671880748/?tag=flodaypod-20 Fire in the Valley by Michael Swaine and Paul Freiberger - http://www.amazon.com/dp/0071358927/?tag=flodaypod-20 Terrible Nerd by Kevin Savetz - http://www.amazon.com/dp/1939169003/?tag=flodaypod-20 Irregularity by Jared Shurin - http://www.amazon.com/dp/0992817218/?tag=flodaypod-20 The Google Way by Bernard Girard - http://www.amazon.com/dp/1593271840/?tag=flodaypod-20 Priming the Pump by David Welsh and Theresa Welsh - http://www.amazon.com/dp/0979346800/?tag=flodaypod-20 Book site for Priming the Pump - http://www.microcomputerpioneers.com/ Upcoming Shows Last Chicago CocoFest - http://www.glensideccc.com/cocofest/ April 23 & 24, 2016, Heron Point Convention Center, Lombard, IL KansasFest  - July 19-24, 2016 - https://www.kansasfest.org Atari Party - Saturday, July 30, at 12 PM - 5 PM in PDT, Mary L. Stephens Davis Branch Library, 315 E 14th St, Davis, California 95616 - https://www.facebook.com/events/1069851796370777/ VCF west - Aug 6-7 - http://www.vintagecomputerfederation.org/uncategorized/vcf-west-is-back/ VCF midwest — Sep 10-11, Elk Grove Village, IL - http://vcfed.org/wp/festivals/vintage-computer-festival-midwest/ PRGE Oct 21-23 http://www.retrogamingexpo.com TI International World’s Faire - Sat. Oct. 15 at Evanston Public Library Feedback a two-minute pitch video for The Secret History of Gaming on the Mac being written by Richard Moss - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2tL2kC3QqeU The Secret History of Gaming on the Mac Web site - https://unbound.co.uk/books/macgaming Interview and History Gene’s TI-58/59 Failures and Maintenance Tips Web site - http://www.rskey.org/gene/calcgene/59diag.htm Contains probably the most information about the HP 41 series out there:   http://hp41.org/ The HP 41CL replacement CPU board web page:  http://www.systemyde.com/hp41/ Keith Jarett, "HP 41 in Orbit," Personal Computing (October/November 1984), pp. 50-54. - http://web.archive.org/web/20000621003759/http://www.nasm.si.edu/nasm/dsh/artifacts/GC-hewlett-.htm HHC (HP Handheld Computer) Conference - http://hhuc.us/ References “The HP-41 System – 30 Years Old” by Richard J Nelson - http://h71028.www7.hp.com/enterprise/downloads/The%20HP-41%20System%20V3.pdf Wikipedia - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/HP-41C  

The definition of mixed feelings: Watching your mother-in-law drive off a cliff in your brand new car. Ha ha ha. We all joke about the infamous mother-in-law, but life with her doesn’t actually have to be so terrible. Here are three ideas for how to structure your relationship, as a couple, with your parents and in-laws for the greatest benefit to your marriage. Before we begin, we have a few caveats: if you or your spouse has a parent with a personality disorder, or with substance abuse issues, or even with a non-diagnosable challenge (such as really poor boundaries), you are going to have to take what we say and really scrutinize it carefully to see what will work for you and what won’t. Another reality is that some of you are taking care of aging parents in your home. Again, you’re going to have to nuance what we say here to your situation because there are stresses related to caregiving that would be in effect if that was anybody in your home, never mind a parent or in-law. None of us have perfect in-laws nor are we going to be perfect in-laws ourselves; but today we speak to the broader context of having reasonably healthy, imperfect parents and in-laws. Getting Along With Your Mother in Law Yes, cows do fly. This bonus worksheet is morethan just tips – it gets you thinking through some of the challenges around your in-law relationships and considering new ways of coming to those problems. You don’t want to miss this download!I Want It! How In-laws Influence a Marriage You may be asking the question, “So, I have a few issues with my in-laws – does that actually impact my marriage?” The research says, “Yes! It does.” A study from 2001 looked at the marital success compared to discord with in-laws in nearly 300 wives and 300 husbands. They found that: “The quality of the in-law relationship did predict the stability, satisfaction, and commitment expressed by the spouses in the study.” It is hard to predict causation, but in plain English they are saying that your in-laws can make your marriage painful. For wives specifically, your perception of marital success is predicted by discord with mother-in-laws (MIL) and father-in-laws (FIL). For husbands specifically, this was only noted with the relationship towards the FIL.[i] We’re not sure why there is a difference there, but the point is that it is helpful to your marriage to have good relationships with your in-laws! It doesn’t mean that if you don’t, your marriage is going to fail, but there is an impact there and it is measurable. So, if your spouse is complaining about your parents and the relationship, you need to take that seriously. We’ve now seen that in-laws definitely influence marriage satisfaction, so let’s look at three principles that should guide our in-law relationships. Principle 1: The Autonomy of Family Units When marriage was established at the beginning of creation, God’s instructions were that a man should leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife. Now, exactly what that looks like is going to be largely informed by your culture. We’re speaking out a white, north American background here, so if you’re from another culture the same principle is true, but how you might apply it will look a little different – keep that in mind! The research comes to a very similar conclusion: “The new family has the task of forming a stronger, autonomous bond than the two from which the partners originated. If partners are unable to accomplish this task, their union may be threatened.”[ii] It was even studied way back in 1954 and found that marriages were more likely to be cohesive if the couple was autonomous and had little conflict with their parents.[iii] So the research and the biblical principle are aligned, and that is where I am pointing out that we need to observe this principle of autonomy. The predominant responsibility is on the man to leave and cleave. This is leadership, but he is especially responsible to make his bond to hi...

We talk his book, business advice and a lot more. I am 71 years old and married. By the age of 28 I had built a successful construction business. I then decided to leave business and spend time with my family working together in simpler things. I shortly started an indoor farming business, which became successful. I sold it and replicated it in Florida. I eventually sold that one too, and moved back to NYC. I later started a daily car rental agency in New York. Drawing upon my business experiences I quickly grew the company from four vehicles to 78. After a successful run of seven years I then sold it. After a lifetime of showing others how to easily deal with their various financial situations, in both business and personal matters, I wrote the book, “It’s My Money & I Want It! self-published, by “Serving The People Press”. It is now in its 2nd edition and is available as both a paperback and an ‘E’ book on my WEB SITE: www.HarrisHelps.org http://claimfinancialhealth.com/ https://twitter.com/Harrishelpsorg https://www.facebook.com/pages/Its-My-Money-I-Want-It/118193414943552 https://www.linkedin.com/in/harris-helps-a520185b

So, you want less sex than your spouse does. Is that a problem? Well, it turns out that’s a question for your spouse. But if it is a problem, today we’re going to help you navigate your way through this delicate issue. Maybe you haven’t heard the terminology ‘low desire versus high desire’. Many marriages will have sexual desire discrepancies in which one spouse desires more sex than the other spouse. Often, but not always, the husband is high desire and the wife is low desire. If your marriage is the other way around, and the wife is high desire and the husband is low desire, that’s fine too! There is no judgment on low is bad or high is good, we just need to be aware that in almost every marriage there is a difference in sexual desire. That is not a bad thing. It just is what it is. It can be a pain point though, if we don’t know how to handle it or we think it is a bad thing. The spouse with low desire often wants to meet the desire of the other spouse, but feels unable to do this when they just don’t desire sex. So what should they do? That’s the dilemma… Are You the High Desire Spouse? The focus of this post is the low desire spouse – if you’re the high desire spouse, we have a one-page document for you because your role is critical too. Become a patron of our show today and download “Tips for High Desire Spouses” now. The three ideas in the PDF will help you get what you want more of: sex and intimacy.I Want It! Let’s start by looking at the nature of sexual desire, then the problems that sexual desire discrepancies can cause in marriage and finally look at practical ways in which the low desire spouse can move forward. The Nature of Sexual Desire In 2003, Levine wrote an influential article entitled The Nature of Sexual Desire in which he defines sexual desire as “the sum of the forces that lean towards and away from sexual behavior”[i]. He states that sexual desire is made up on three components: Drive – “a biological component which has an anatomy and neuroendocrine physiology.” This is just about how you’re made, how you’re wired, and how the chemicals in your body balance out. For example, we know that testosterone levels in men affects sexual desire. Testosterone levels, in turn are affected by things like obesity, depression and more. Motivation – “the psychological component” which is influenced by three things: Personal mental states such as joy or sorrow. Often we talk about “not being in the mood”. This is usually a reference to how our motivation is affected by our current emotional state. Interpersonal states such as mutual affection, disagreement, or disrespect. How well are we getting along? Or how much non-sexual intimacy are we experiencing? Social contexts such as relationship duration and infidelity – other factors from the circumstances of our lives. All three of these affect our motivation! Wish – “the cultural component that reflects values, meanings, and rules about sexual expression that are inculcated in childhood.” This can be huge for people of faith. We hear time and again of couples where a spouse was taught for the first 20 years of his/her life that sex was bad. Then they get married and are expected to become sexually active but cannot switch the belief that “sex is bad” over to “sex is good” because they made some wedding vows. Issues can come up in one or multiple of these areas to lead to issues in desire: drive, motivation and wish (or beliefs). The Cost of Sexual Desire Discrepancy in a Marriage Now that we know the nature of sexual desire, let’s look at the type of issues that come up when we’re not aligned. A study in 2014 of 1054 married couples looked at the associations between sexual desire discrepancy and four relationship outcomes (how satisfied the couple was with their marriage, how stable their relationship was, how much conflict they had, and how much positive communication they had)[ii]. The study compared how much sex couples actually had...

On this episode of Smart Companies Radio with host Kelly Scanlon, you'll meet Harris Glasser, a successful businessman and entrepreneur with over 50 years of practical and personal business experience, shares his tips and tricks on this episode of Smart Companies Radio. Glasser says his lessons didn't come from a book but from real life experiences. At the age of 28, Harris had built a successful construction business. Later he started an indoor farming business, which became successful. He sold it and replicated it in Florida and eventually sold that one as well and moved back to New York City where he started a daily car rental agency in New York. After a successful run of seven years, he sold it as well and after a lifetime of showing others how to easily deal with their various financial situations, in both business and personal matters, he wrote the book, “It’s My Money & I Want It! To hear more shows hosted by Kelly Scanlon visit our archives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The difference between negativity and positivity in marriage is the difference between a marriage filled with nagging, complaining, and criticism versus a marriage that is filled with affirmation, gratitude, and positive emotions. Let’s look at how negativity can be damaging to our marriages and then look at some specific strategies for bringing positivity into play. Negativity Impacts Mood and Marital Satisfaction We may not even realize how the negativity we are expressing in our marriages is actually hurting our own mood and marital satisfaction. There is a really neat study that examined the “saying is experiencing effect.” This phenomenon is pretty much just what it sounds like: you experience what you say or hear. They ran four experiments to look at mood before and after complaining or affirmation. While this study wasn’t specifically for marriage, they found it true to human nature that: Complaining leads to decreases in mood. Affirmation leads to increases in mood. The effect on mood was equally strong for both complaining and affirmation. This effect was found after listening to others affirm or complain. This effect was also found after hearing one’s own affirming or complaining communication.[i] Another study that looked at marriages over a 13-year period found that negativity in the marriage was directly associated with marital dissatisfaction. As negativity increased, dissatisfaction with the marriage increased. This makes it pretty clear that when we bring negativity into our marriages it impacts both our mood in the short term but also really begins to erode our marital satisfaction over the long term. This is critical because negativity doesn’t have to be a huge blatant thing. It can just be subtle or minor or more about a bit of an attitude. It’s like cholesterol that just builds up over time. It’s not as momentous as a broken leg but after a while you find yourself in a crisis. A How-To You may have realized you have some negative habits in your marriage and aren’t sure what to do with them. To talk about them with your spouse seems negative, but you don’t want to live with them anymore. What to do? Listen to the bonus audio clip that deals specifically with how to give helpful feedback to your spouse.I Want It! Expressing Gratitude and Appreciation Will Strengthen your Marriage Stop and think for a moment. When was the last time you pointed our directly to your spouse, without any sarcasm or joking, but sincerely expressed something to him or her that you appreciated? We all want more of this, right? You’re maybe hoping that your spouse would give you more. I get that! But, how much are you GIVING? You can only change yourself directly. We’ve noticed in our marriage that this gratitude and appreciation thing is a cycle – the more you give the more you get. We go in and out of this cycle all the time, but we’re trying to be more in than out. We’re looking for those moments when we can say, “I really appreciate how you handled our daughter in that difficult situation” or “Thanks for doing my laundry – again!” One of the classic cycles we get into as couples is the demand/withdraw cycle. Probably 80% of the time (or more) it is the wife demanding and the husband withdrawing.  It looks like an attacking wife and a husband distancing himself.  Because the demand/withdraw cycle usually has a negative effect, a study from last year looked at how gratitude impacted these demand/withdraw patterns. They found that expressing gratitude to your spouse is a practical process that both promotes and protects the quality of your marriage.[ii] What is really neat about that is that anyone can do gratitude and it will have a positive impact on your marriage. To take this further, a study from 2012 found that: People who feel appreciated by their romantic partner report acting more appreciative towards their partner in return. (That’s the positive cycle happening)

So, we all know the old saying, “You can’t change your spouse, you can only change yourself”. Well, apparently that saying isn’t 100% true. You can actually leverage your self-care to feel better about yourself and consequently, improve the well being of your marriage. Self-care is integral to the health of our marriages. There are not a lot of studies to 100% prove the link between self-care and marriage where, for example, they study exercise and measure marital outcomes, but we want to look at the overall idea of taking good care of ourselves by eating well, exercising, sleeping and making leisure time because this does become a marital issue. You see, when we fail to take care of ourselves, our mood, stress levels, and emotional responses all suffer. This, in turn, has a detrimental effect on the people around us. Think about how this works. Husband is stressed so doesn’t sleep well. This causes the wife not to sleep well. As husband gets tired, he becomes more quiet and withdrawn; as wife gets tired, she gets grumpy. Soon there is an attacker-withdrawer cycle going on. (Don’t ask me how I know this.) The research, as well as real-life, shows us that emotions, hormones, moods and stress levels of a couple are intimately tied together. This comes into play through a phenomenon in marriage that is known as coregulation. Take Care of Yourself Work through the key areas of self care with this self-guided worksheet. Available to our patrons (become a patron today to receive immediate access).I Want It! Coregulation in Marriage Coregulation is the dynamic, reciprocal interchange between partners across multiple biological systems.[i] That just means that we influence each other’s emotions and well-being. This is an important dynamic at play in our marriages and it is happening automatically all the time. You don’t even think about it! It goes in both directions so that spouses can pull each other up or pull each other down. The good part of this is that it helps us stay in sync and hopefully reach out to each other and lift each other up. Coregulation Ties Spouse’s Emotions Together A study in 2008, looked at how couples affected each other after spending time apart pursuing their own activities. They found that if a couple scored high on interpersonal insecurity (ie. They felt insecure about their relationship) then if one spouse reunited with negatives emotions the other spouse got on board with those negative emotions right away. On the other hand, if the husband was the type of guy who was willing to see his wife’s perspective and they came back together with softer negative emotions (like sadness or gloominess) then they would also match emotions. There are other variables at play, but the point is that any couple’s emotions are interconnected pretty quickly when they reunite after pursuing individual activities.[ii] For example, if the husband gets home and the wife is angry, he’s likely to get on board with that. If she is sad, he’ll join her in her sadness. We don’t want to oversimplify because there are other variables at play, but the point is that generally, we do have this emotional pull on each other. We are – to some degree- tied at the hip when it comes to emotions. Coregulation Ties Spouse’s Hormones and Moods Together It’s funny what studies researchers think up sometimes… Saxbe and Repetti took saliva samples to measure cortisol levels in 30 married couples, multiple times a day over three days. “How’s your marriage? Just spit in this little cup right here.” They found that a couple’s cortisol levels (cortisol is the 'stress' hormone) moved together. They also found that couples’ mood moved together.[iii] The same thing was found when another study looked specifically at stress levels and compared the genders. It was found that wives had a greater impact on husbands than husbands did on wives. It actually was noted that high-stress levels on the wife’s part had a pretty significant impact on th...

It’s easy to feel entitled to certain rights and benefits from our marriages. That entitlement always seems to be there but is never helpful in creating a great marriage. Take hope though,  there is a better way - it's called sacrifice. Gary Thomas’ book “Sacred Marriage” speaks to this when he asks the question, 'What if marriage was more about making you holy than making you happy'? He confronts the idea that we think marriage should make us all goo-goo ga-ga happy but instead we run smack into our own humanity, and our own sin. The beauty of marriage is that is in an opportunity to have these ugly things brought to light and then work on putting them out of our lives and thereby experiencing transformation through the power of the Holy Spirit in our marriage. So let’s take a look at entitlement and how this can damage our marriage, then, how to, instead, move towards giving sacrificially to one another. Our premise is, that at the end of the day, giving sacrificially benefits both myself and my spouse and also my marriage as a whole. A Sacrificial Marriage Download our convicting, searching worksheet that will help you take your sacrificial love to the next level.I Want It! The Problem of Entitlement in Marriage Very simply, entitlement is about what I think I deserve from others. It’s about my expectations. In a marriage, entitlement really stinks because marriage is supposed to be about an entity called “us” and yet entitlement is about the entity called “me”. Yet, the irony of it is, in marriage the intensity of entitlement feelings is unique and amplified compared to other relationships. Tolmacz looked at this and noted that couple relationships have two very specific dynamics that make them prone to unique issues around entitlement: Couple relationships have a high level of intimacy Couple relationships generate wants, needs, and expectations. He found evidence from clinical settings and practice shows that entitlement influences the quality of our marriages, and the level of satisfaction we each experience in our marriages.[i] Caleb has found the same thing – when helping distressed marriages heal and recover, there is always some unhealthy entitlement in the mix that has caused the distress. What is particularly interesting about this study from Tolmacz is that he found that gender is a huge factor in the issue of relational entitlement and that women are especially affected. This relates to the identity roles we bring to our marriages as men and women where women are socialized to be concerned about meeting the needs of others. This is a great trait but leads to the depreciation of their own wishes, needs, and self-worth and consequently, they are more prone to being on the receiving end of the entitlement problem. This gets more serious though as this same researcher found that entitlement contributes to desire for a divorce, and does more so among men and women in making the divorce decision. Generally speaking, is entitlement was a weapon, men are holding it, and women are on the receiving end of its brutality. It gets even more severe too. There are numerous studies linking entitlement with violence in intimate partner relationships. Abusive men use a sense of entitlement to give an excuse for their violence towards women. Not only that but men who feel entitled to their wife’s body act more violently than other men. So, realize, that while we experience and express entitlement at some pretty basic and relatively innocent levels, it also has this really dark, dark side to it. For that reason, even if you are not anywhere near that severe end of the spectrum, we’re asking you to take it very seriously. Husbands, this is a challenge primarily for you - Make sure you get the worksheet. For the part of our audience that shares our Christian faith – let’s look at Ephesians 5 for a moment. This is a chapter which abusive men who like to use the Bible like a stick – which is not how it was ever i...

Free Your Mind   On the chilled, progressive and tech side of Deep House. I suggest grabbing a book or setting yourself on a task and let the music take you through its ebbs and flows. “Free Your Mind” is a nice chilled cerebral journey with a thinly disguised oniric dimension.   The best I can describe it is: “ this is a nice little tight package”. It took a while to get the level of consistency I felt it deserved but I finally achieved telling the musical story I wanted to share. It may not be perfect but from my point of view, it has a lot of internal logic. There are many original tunes in the set, which like the “I Wish You Were Here” previous mix are from producers and artists I did not know before. I entice you to grab a decent pair of headphones or listen on a good Hi-FI system. The production, mastering and layering of all those tracks is simply superb. Free Your Mind and take the jounrey..   Playlist: Intro It's a Dream (Reality Mix). Alexander Metzger If Your Girl Only Knew (Nikos Kalogerias & Panos Str Soundcloud Remix) [Xtian The Aura Edit feat. Todd Williams]. Nikos Kalogerias feat. Aaliiyah 2013 You’re so High (Original Mix.) Eli and Fur 2013 Bakerboy (Original Mix). Gunjah 2013 I Want It (Original Mix. Hot Lipps Inc 2012 Out Of Reach (Dub Mix vs. Club Edit). Jody Wisternoff feat. Jonathan Mendelsohn 2013 Fading Nights (Artenvielfalt Remix).  Parra for Cuva feat Anna Naklab  2013 Micro Man (Original Mix) [Xtian Splinter in Your Mind Edit feat. DJ Phenix]. Jelly for The Babies      2013 I Wish You Were Here (Harlem Knights Remix). John Creamer, Stephane K, John Creamer & Stephane K feat. Nkemdi 2013 Sunrise Collective (Original Mix vs. Jeremy Juno Remix) . Appa Glas 2013 The Monster (Original Deep Mix). Sour Den feat Veela 2012 The Nighttime (Jimmy Galle Remix. Manu Riga 2011 Trippin’ (Original Mix). Redondo 2013 Free Your Mind (Original Mix). Eli and Fur Outro Splinter in Your Mind. DJ Phenix   Highlights: I chose to headline the set with this soundcloud remix of Aaliiyah's “If  Your Girl Only Knew” from Nikos Kalogerias a DJ from Zakyntos (Greece) to give him a shout. https://soundcloud.com/dj-nikos-kalogerias Check his soundcloud page. Nikos gets his talented fingers on big tunes and the result is ALWAYS high quality. “You’re so High” fitted perfectly in the “Free Your Mind” spirit, I love the vocalist and have discovered Ellis & Fur. I will be following them from now on. “Bakerboy” from Gunjah great chilled deep track with an amazing production, inspired pads and begging for a mash-up with Buena Vista Park.. Please someone out there with talent pick it up and do it! “I Want It” a cookie french little number which reminds me of a nursery rhyme fititng snuggly in the oniric dimension of the set. Listen to the driving bassline and the superb production. "Out of Reach" Jody Wisternoff feat. Jonathan Mendelsohn. I have sat on this track for almost a year. I think the main reason for the delay was the fact that I knew Mendelsohn from "King of My Castle" fame and expected another anthem  track.. But the atmosphere of the track, the clinical beats, the ever present synth pads and the overlayed melodies should have made me realize this track is well worth a listen by a wider audience.. "Fading Nights" Parra for Cuva feat Anna Naklab ..Whoah.. distorted bassline, clever beats, multi-layered production. Not sure if I know if this is house, indie even maybe trance. But I know you needs immense talent to produce such a complex track with no real melody and pass my melodic centric internal test.. "Micro Man" from Jelly for The Babies.. Instrumental deep and progressive gem, which may not have needed the Xtian vocal edit.. but you have to admit it was begging.. "I Wish You Were Here" from John Creamer, Stephane K, John Creamer & Stephane K feat. Nkemdi.. Just the credit reads like the House Hall of Fame.. John creamer AND Stephane K!!! I have used this tune in a previous mix but I LOVE this remix, deep but bouncy with a discrete key riff which sweetens what is effectively a techie number and those bongoes in the background.. Pure Inspiration! Not even mentioning the chill out rainforest sample driving into the break.. House heaven as commented on my podcast.. "Sunrise Collective" from Appa Glas.. another indie/prog tunes with a bouncy house undertone.. The tempo of the set was picking up and those two cuts dropped like they were jsut made to be there.. Ebbs and Flows.. exactly what I was looking for.. Again amazing production and massive bassline.. This is clever house at its very best.. "The Monster" from SourDen feat Veela. Is it Trip House or is it Trance? I have no idea but but perfectely fitted for this foray.. Complex track with no defined melody and every oniric journey needs a "Monster".. "The Nighttime" from Manu Riga is the point in the set when I crossed the rubicon and went into Trance.. ( I so want to do a new trance set but can't find enough new quality tunes").. I love this kind of Trance and if you call it Progressive House well let me dream and call it Trouse.. Trippin’ from Redondo... One of the three gems of this set. DO NOT MISS IT! You all know the original but this is a tease track and any DJ worth his salt should have it in its bag.. Any set could start with this and take the punters straight into stratosphere.. let alone that Trippin' and a "Free Your Mind" set were a a no brainer.. ( thank you the added categories Cour and Subtext..). Finally "Free Your Mind" from Eli and Fur. Believe it or not the track came as an after thought.. I had used the splinter in your mind and aura samples and then thought to add the second Ellis and Fur track once I had chopped the original mix and had another 5 minutes to go.. A deep and progressive little number so logical as and end tune and still with magnificient production. OK enough.. I visibly like this one.. I hope you will as well.. Enjoy. Next one hopefully a happy trancy trouse one..  Xtian P.S.: I will go on a little tangent reflecting on the creative process, answering a message from Umich Iasking me how do I select tunes for a set. I actually have no idea how others do it but here is the sequence of my not-so-creative process. All my music collection is categorized between genres and sub-genres, then sorted by keys and bpm. Nothing unusual! The one thing I do, which others may not is to I include 2 extra categories: - One is “Colour” … do not ask me how I chose and what I mean for I could not articulate it but I will say that the tunes you hear in “Free Your Mind” were in the dark blue category. - The other category is “Subtext”, which is what the vocals tune are about ( Political, Love. Happiness, Sex, etc..) or if instrumental track how it makes me feel. This set Subtext was Sadness and Mind. Once I have decided on a soundscape (for this one I wanted dark, brainy), I make a simple query with tight constraints (usually no more than 8 bpm difference, sometimes only 3 to 4 harmonized keys and a “date added” constraints to keep the set current and a rating of 4 to 5. I lthen peruse the results of the query, keep 18/20 tracks and try to build in my head a start, core and end. This structure I owe to my Gallic schooling upbringing  The French education system is very, very big on writing plans.. Execution is not quite as much of a focus! The first draft is done in one go on Traktor. I just get into it and mix for 2 hours. This one took 4 versions for I deleted some tunes which were too “happy” and played around with the order to achieve maximum consistency. The rest is just “tweaking and adding effects. If anyone is interested what you are listening to is V.4z (most of the edits to cut it down to a CD format).. I usually do not allow myself to go beyond z.. If I need the Greek alphabet for the set to be uploadable, it is time to shelve it to the dark recesses of my HD! Here is your answer UMich!