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We often crave to be loved perfectly, yet human love is naturally imperfect. And while it's normal for us to unintentionally let each other down now and again, actions of betrayal are in a different category altogether. When those we count on most betray us, the body, mind, and spirit are deeply traumatized. The etymology of the word "betrayal" takes us to its roots of intentional deceit, unfaithfulness, and treachery--all of which remind us of the magnitude of betraying trust. Betrayal, as the antithesis of trust and love, can destroy a relationship that took years to build. There is almost nothing more devastating than discovering that someone you counted on--a person you trusted deeply to love and care for you--has deceived you. Whether we are betrayed by a romantic partner, family member, friend, or other trusted person, betrayal can cut us to the core. How can we heal from the pain of betrayal? Join Dr. Carla and betrayal expert Dr. Debi Silber for a wisdom-filled exploration of betrayal, trauma, and the journey into healing. This insightful episode focuses on the traumatic effects of family betrayals. The impact of betrayal within romantic relationships is also highlighted. Listener discretion is advised.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Dr. Debi Silber:Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and HappinessFrom Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You LoveThe Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life CrisisThe Rebuild Roadmap: A Personalized Blueprint to Heal Yourself and Transform Your RelationshipsA Pocket Full of Mojo: 365 Proven Strategies to Create Your Ultimate Body, Mind, Image and LifestyleThe Lifestyle Fitness Program: A Six Part Plan So Every Mom Can Look, Feel and Live Her BestConnect with Dr. Debi Silber:Website: https://thepbtinstitute.comPodcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcastLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilberYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DebiSilberLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.To learn more about Dr. Silber check out these links: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Watch Dr. Debi's Recent TEDx Talks! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/
Let me share with you some pretty astounding statistics about our topic today. This causes 81% of people to feel a loss of personal power after this experience. 94% deal with painful triggers. 71% have low energy. 47% have weight changes. 84%...Have an inability to trust. 67% Prevent themselves from becoming involved in deep relationships. Today we're here to discuss the topic of betrayal and its IMPACT. Betrayal is a trauma unlike any other because betrayal happens when those you are closest to and trust the most BREAK that trust...it becomes so personal and is, therefore, extremely difficult to heal from and can cause a tremendous feeling of loss and sense of self. The reality is that trust CANNOT be repaired...it can only be REBUILT. Our guest today, Dr. Debi Silber, is the founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, and 2-time #1 International Bestselling Author of "Trust Again", "The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis" AND "From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love". and her podcast "From Betrayal to Breakthrough" is also globally ranked. Dr. Debi has completed a PhD on how we experience betrayal and has made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. We'll share these discoveries with you in our podcast today. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. So buckle in, girl. This is a JUICY episode in which Dr. Debi teaches us to: Look at trust like a brick wall. Trust cannot be repaired. It CAN be rebuilt...brick by brick by brick. It it the betrayers job to rebuild that brick wall...not the person who was betrayed. Learn that betrayal is not our fault, it IS our opportunity. In every betrayal, we learn something about the negative narrative that we are telling ourselves perhaps, unknowingly. Until that lesson is learned, you may experience repeat betrayal. If nothing changes...nothing changes. Betrayal is a different type of trauma. When a betrayal happens, your world is shattered...your ability to trust, your sense of self and worthiness. This type of trauma requires a complete rebuild or transformation that is deliberate and intentional. There are 5 predictible stages to betrayal and healing: Stage 1 events leading up to the betrayal that can be mired in the neglect of spiritual and emotional connection. Stage 2 the actual receiving of the news of the betrayal...D-Day. Your stress response has been triggered and you're in a state of overwhelm Stage 3 Survival Mode...this is where most people feel stuck and stay. This is where the numb, avoid, and distract ourselves with food, work, alcohol etc... Stage 4 recreating a new identity...taking with you on this journey of transformation the best parts of you and leaving behind the parts that are no longer serving you Stage 5 healing, rebirth. and new world view. If you understand the "roadmap" you can navigate the healing process in a faster, better way. 5. Face it...Feel it...Heal it... The only way is through it. It may be easy now...but, hard later. Hard now...and easy later. Either way, you must navigate all of the steps to be healed. If you've suffered a betrayal, leave us a review and let us know what you've done to become stronger. Share this episode with a friend! We truly apprciate your ongoing support! You can find Dr. Debi at: Website | ThePBTInstitute.com tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/DebiSilber/ Make sure we're connected: FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife
Let me share with you some pretty astounding statistics about our topic today. This causes 81% of people to feel a loss of personal power after this experience. 94% deal with painful triggers. 71% have low energy. 47% have weight changes. 84%...Have an inability to trust. 67% Prevent themselves from becoming involved in deep relationships. Today we're here to discuss the topic of betrayal and its IMPACT. Betrayal is a trauma unlike any other because betrayal happens when those you are closest to and trust the most BREAK that trust...it becomes so personal and is, therefore, extremely difficult to heal from and can cause a tremendous feeling of loss and sense of self. The reality is that trust CANNOT be repaired...it can only be REBUILT. Our guest today, Dr. Debi Silber, is the founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, and 2-time #1 International Bestselling Author of "Trust Again", "The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis" AND "From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love". and her podcast "From Betrayal to Breakthrough" is also globally ranked. Dr. Debi has completed a PhD on how we experience betrayal and has made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. We'll share these discoveries with you in our podcast today. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. So buckle in, girl. This is a JUICY episode in which Dr. Debi teaches us to: Look at trust like a brick wall. Trust cannot be repaired. It CAN be rebuilt...brick by brick by brick. It it the betrayers job to rebuild that brick wall...not the person who was betrayed. Learn that betrayal is not our fault, it IS our opportunity. In every betrayal, we learn something about the negative narrative that we are telling ourselves perhaps, unknowingly. Until that lesson is learned, you may experience repeat betrayal. If nothing changes...nothing changes. Betrayal is a different type of trauma. When a betrayal happens, your world is shattered...your ability to trust, your sense of self and worthiness. This type of trauma requires a complete rebuild or transformation that is deliberate and intentional. There are 5 predictible stages to betrayal and healing: Stage 1 events leading up to the betrayal that can be mired in the neglect of spiritual and emotional connection. Stage 2 the actual receiving of the news of the betrayal...D-Day. Your stress response has been triggered and you're in a state of overwhelm Stage 3 Survival Mode...this is where most people feel stuck and stay. This is where the numb, avoid, and distract ourselves with food, work, alcohol etc... Stage 4 recreating a new identity...taking with you on this journey of transformation the best parts of you and leaving behind the parts that are no longer serving you Stage 5 healing, rebirth. and new world view. If you understand the "roadmap" you can navigate the healing process in a faster, better way. 5. Face it...Feel it...Heal it... The only way is through it. It may be easy now...but, hard later. Hard now...and easy later. Either way, you must navigate all of the steps to be healed. If you've suffered a betrayal, leave us a review and let us know what you've done to become stronger. Share this episode with a friend! We truly apprciate your ongoing support! You can find Dr. Debi at: Website | ThePBTInstitute.com tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/DebiSilber/ Make sure we're connected: FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife
Betrayal is different than other types of trauma, because it's the self that gets shattered in betrayal. Healing from betrayal must be deliberate and intentional. Unfortunately, most people get stuck in one of the early stages of healing and never experience a full healing. Join my guest, Dr. Debi Silber, as she breaks down how to move through the stages of healing towards your own powerful transformation.Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Resources:Connect with Dr.Debi:LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/debisilber/Website: thepbtinstitute.com/YouTube: youtube.com/c/debisilberPodcast: thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/Mentioned in the episode: Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome? : ted.com/talks/debi_silber_do_you_have_post_betrayal_syndromeTrust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness: goodreads.com/book/show/51472418-trust-againFrom Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love: goodreads.com/book/show/59449893-from-hardened-to-healed
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Website: thepbtinstitute.com Podcast: From Betrayal To Breakthrough Instagram: @debisilber LinkedIn: @Debi Silber Twitter: @DebiSilber Facebook: @Debi Silber Youtube: @Debi Silber Episode Chosen by Mary Alzammar, Marketing Communications Manager: Mary Tarez is a Syrian-American working writer and graduate of the University of the Pacific from Stockton, CA. Mary spent a lot of her time in college advocating for low-income students in underrepresented communities. Mary works as The Only One In The Room's Marketing Communications Manager where she applies her talents to our weekly newsletter. Mary is working to publish a collection of poetry where she speaks about the struggle and growth coming from a traditional Arab family home. Finding Mary Alzammar: Istagram: @marytarez Email_ m_alzammar@u.pacific.edu Watch Laura's new TEDx Talk: Confessions From The Only One In The Room PATREON SHOUT OUTS: Mercedes Cusick LMFT, Website: www.mercedescusick.com, IG: @recoverhealbloom Check Out How To Do The Pot Thanks to Kathleen Hahn Cute Booty Lounge is made right here in the USA, by women and for women. The company is incredible, female, and minority-owned and all of their leggings make makes your booty look amazing. Go to https://cutebooty.com/ today! Embrace your body, love your booty! Join our Patreon: Become an Only One In The Room patron by joining us on Patreon! Starting at only $5.00 per month, you'll get bonus content, access to outtakes that the general public will NEVER see, extremely cool merch, and depending on what tier you get, monthly hang time with Scott and Laura. Join our Patreon today at https://www.patreon.com/theonlyonepodcast Be sure not to miss our weekly full episodes on Tuesdays, Scott Talks on Wednesdays and our brand new series On My Nightstand on Fridays by subscribing to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. Join our Only One In The Room Facebook Group if you'd like to ask a question of any of our upcoming guests for this series. Also visit the website www.theonlyonepod.com for the latest from our host Laura Cathcart Robbins like featured articles and more. We love hearing from you in the comments on iTunes and while you're there don't forget to rate us, subscribe and share the show! All of us at The Only One In The Room wish you safety and wellness during this challenging time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Hello! Please allow me to introduce you to Dr. Debi Silber the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from their health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. To learn more about Debi, please reach out to her website at https://thepbtinstitute.com/debi-silber Share with someone who needs to be inspired and empowered. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe. Best Health, Mo Akins
On this episode of The Author Factor Podcast I am having a conversation with psychologist and author, Dr. Debi Silber. Debi is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist and a health, mindset and personal development expert.She is the author of six books, including Trust Again, and is the two-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman and From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love.Debi is dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Website: thepbtinstitute.com Podcast: From Betrayal To Breakthrough Instagram: @debisilber LinkedIn: @Debi Silber Twitter: @DebiSilber Facebook: @Debi Silber Youtube: @Debi Silber Special thanks to our sponsors: Framebridge It's so easy - frame your photos or send someone the perfect gift. Go to Framebridge.com and use promo code ONE to save an additional 15% off your first order. PATREON SHOUT OUTS: Mercedes Cusick LMFT, Website: www.mercedescusick.com, IG: @recoverhealbloom Check Out How To Do The Pot Thanks to Kathleen Hahn Cute Booty Lounge is made right here in the USA, by women and for women. The company is incredible, female, and minority-owned and all of their leggings make makes your booty look amazing. Go to https://cutebooty.com/ today! Embrace your body, love your booty! The Student Performance Podcast In these episodes we dive deep into the science of concepts that you never knew had such a big impact on your wellbeing as a student. Things like exercise, meditation, sleep, nutrition, cold-exposure all of which will not only transform your life in the classroom but will help you live a more fulfilled life outside of it as well. Join our Patreon: Become an Only One In The Room patron by joining us on Patreon! Starting at only $5.00 per month, you'll get bonus content, access to outtakes that the general public will NEVER see, extremely cool merch, and depending on what tier you get, monthly hang time with Scott and Laura. Join our Patreon today at https://www.patreon.com/theonlyonepodcast Be sure not to miss our weekly full episodes on Tuesdays, Scott Talks on Wednesdays and our brand new series On My Nightstand on Fridays by subscribing to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. Join our Only One In The Room Facebook Group if you'd like to ask a question of any of our upcoming guests for this series. Also visit the website www.theonlyonepod.com for the latest from our host Laura Cathcart Robbins like featured articles and more. We love hearing from you in the comments on iTunes and while you're there don't forget to rate us, subscribe and share the show! All of us at The Only One In The Room wish you safety and wellness during this challenging time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Had a great conversation with Dr. Debi Silber about betrayal and all the way it impacts our lives in big and small ways. I loved how clear and upfront she is about betrayal and how that honesty gives her freedom and power to help other people. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Social Media ● Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com ● Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ ● Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform ● Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber ● Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ ● Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber ● Podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ ● TikTok: @debisilber Offer: Are you healed or hardened? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/healed-or-hardened-quiz/
"Trust can't be repaired, but it can be rebuilt." - Dr. Debi SilberWelcome to Linda's Corner. In this episode, Dr. Debi Silber teaches us how to trust again after we've experienced betrayal. Dr. Debi is a holistic psychologist, personal development expert, bestselling author, TedX speaker, and the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. She's been on Fox, CBS, and The Dr. Oz Show. You can learn more about Dr. Debi and what she offers at her website ThePBTinstitute.com. You can find her books From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create an Life You Love and Trust Again: Overcome Betrayal and Regain Health, Confidence and Happiness on Amazon. Some of the highlights Dr. Debi shares:What is post betrayal syndrome and how do we know if we have it? How unhealed betrayal impacts our health, work and relationshipsHow betrayal is different from other types of traumaWhat is Post Betrayal Transformation and how do I do it?What are the 5 stages from betrayal to breakthrough?At what stage do most people get stuck?How do I learn to trust again?Why staying stuck is a choiceAnd morePlease share, subscribe, leave a rating and review, visit the Linda's Corner website at lindascornerpodcast.com and/or follow on youtube, facebook, instagram, and pinterest @lindascornerpodcast. Thanks!Also please visit the Hope for Healing website at hopeforhealingfoundation.org for free resources to increase happiness, build confidence and self esteem, improve relationships, manage stress, and calm feelings of depression and anxiety.
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Check out Debi and the PBT institute below: https://thepbtinstitute.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Want to learn more about Dylan or book a session, check out his website: www.dylansessler.com Dylan Sessler P.O. Box 549 Brookfield, WI 53008-0549 ____________________________________________ Socials: Email: invictus.dev.grp@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dylan_sessler/ Tik Tok: https://tiktok.com/@dylan_sessler Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dylansessler LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dylan-sessler-69a29b19a/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dylan_J_Sessler --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Debi Silber Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 024: Betrayal: Coping, Healing, and Choosing to Grow Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. Here is what to expect on this week's show: The three groundbreaking discoveries that Debi uncovered while studying betrayal, and after being betrayed by her immediate family, and, a few years later, her husband Using the trauma that follows being betrayed as an opportunity for growth and transformation The difference between PTSD and Post-Betrayal Stress Syndrome, and a detailed breakdown of how the symptoms manifest in those who suffer from it The five stages of coping with betrayal, and how knowing them can help you avoid succumbing to the weight of the trauma Utilizing willpower and commitment to overcome your post-betrayal trauma and reclaim your life Connect with Debi: WEBSITE: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/debisilber TWITTER: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kdsamuel LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Watch this Interview Live: Live Interview Click Here Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Dr. Debi Silber Website: Click Here Want more great ways to support the channel. Consider becoming a VIP Youtube Channel Sponsor and reap some really awesome perks....TODAY! Subscribe & Sponsor Here! Want to see this and many more interviews LIVE! Subscribe to our Youtube Channel: Click Here You can support the show via several different ways. You can support us on Youtube or on our newest platform "GLOW" just by clicking the link below: Support the Show
In this episode, I interview Dr. Debi Silber on the 5 steps to heal betrayal. She goes through each one and as you listen to the episode you can see where you are at, and how to heal from them. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from their health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. FREE QUIZ "Are you healed or hardened?" More Resources: Facebook Group Instagram Website --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriveher/support
In this episode, I interview Dr. Debi Silber on the 5 steps to heal betrayal. She goes through each one and as you listen to the episode you can see where you are at, and how to heal from them. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from their health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. FREE QUIZ "Are you healed or hardened?" More Resources: Facebook Group Instagram Website --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriveher/support
Have you experienced betrayal? If you answered yes, you aren't alone. Most people have experienced betrayal in an area of their lives. Have you healed from the betrayal you've experienced? This episode is a great place to start. Listen in as Olivia interviews Dr. Debi Silber. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Are you healed or hardened? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/healed-or-hardened-quiz/The site: https://thepbtinstitute.comContact Olivia Email - olivia@oliviatmcook.com Links and Freebies - https://linktr.ee/OliviatmcookFree 20 Minute Strategy Session - https://calendly.com/oliviatmcookcoaching/strategy-session
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Betrayal is a different type of trauma for two reasons: 1. It feels intentional, it is rejection which is different than if you lose someone you love. 2. There are a collection of symptoms (physical and mental) and time does not heal them. Today Dr Debi Silber the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute a holistic psychologist and author shares her insight into betrayal. And there is a lot. During her recent PHD study she learned the 5 stages of betrayal. 1. Set up stage where you ignore your feelings. 2. Shock and trauma-your world view is shattered. 3. Survival instincts emerge. This is the place where most people get stuck. In this stage people do not trust anyone, or they think maybe they deserved it. This stage can last for years and often people can call more distrustful relationships into their lives. 4. Finding and adjusting to a new normal. If friends and loved ones don't rise they don't come with you. 5. This is where the healing is with a re-birth, self love, mind healing and a new world view. The questions you can ask yourself if you are feeling stuck in number 3 are: am I numbing or avoiding feelings if so how? What am I pretending to see, what will my life look like in 5 years if I do nothing? What can life look like if I change? If you have been betrayed you need to rebuild self trust in your truth. If you chose to trust the betrayer again It is up to the betrayer to build that trust brick by brick. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Find Dr. Debi here: Website Facebook Instagram Linkedin After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. Koski Law & Mediation offers: 1. A simple streamlined approach to Divorce with a peaceful outcome. 2. Attorney turned Mediator with a modest flat fee and unlimited communication. 3. At your side from start to finish and beyond. Website: Instagram: Linkedin: Facebook:
Betrayal can affect your entire life - work, health, and even your relationships. While we've heard it before, “time heals all wounds”, Dr. Debi Silber joins me today with proof that this is not true. It doesn't matter if your betrayal happened decades ago, you can still experience post betrayal syndrome today. Listen in as we discuss how to heal from betrayal in your relationship and experience freedom on the other side. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Social media and contact information: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/damagedparents/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/damagedparents/support
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Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz. https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Music by: Artist: PRYCES Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/pryces/music-is License code: HBXBWG2KFT3LQJBG
What happens after a betrayal? And what qualifies as a betrayal? Is it when your sister breaks a promise or your parents fail to accept your partner? Is it when a friend fails to be there for you during a time of need? Is it when someone keeps the truth from you for years yet claims it's not a lie? [00:00] We've all been betrayed by someone in our lives. Some small betrayals happen regularly. Others, the big ones, the hurtful deeply painful ones aren't as easily forgotten or overlooked. But when betrayal happens from someone you love there are some big decisions that are made. Consciously or unconsciously they're made. We don't stay the same. Even if we were to pretend we could, after a betrayal everything changes. Does a relationship go on, can it? Can you get past it? Are there degrees of betrayal? Some for which there's no healing? And others that are easier to move through? I ask my guest these questions today. And we'll have questions for you too. In fact, if you're able you may want to take the quiz even before you listen. The link is in the show notes to find the quiz. Those show notes are: … “after a betrayal.” My Guest: Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from their health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Questions we answer in this episode: [03:40] Who decides what qualifies as a betrayal? [06:00] Tell us about betrayal-why does it hurt, what does it impact, what does it create? [07:33] How does an unhealed betrayal impact our health, work, and relationships? [09:58] How do we know if we haven't healed from a betrayal? [14:14] What are the 5 stages from betrayal to a breakthrough that were discovered in your study? [22:27] What do we need to do to move forward and heal after a betrayal experience? [33:33] What were the 3 discoveries you made during your study? What's post betrayal syndrome and how do we know if we have it? What's Post Betrayal Transformation and how is it different from posttraumatic growth? What are the questions we can ask ourselves to see if we're numbing/avoiding/distracting ourselves? [34:59]How can we learn to trust again after a betrayal? Connect with Debi and take her quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/healed-or-hardened-quiz/ She's Social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Additional Resources: 5 Day Flip
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most Dr. Debi Silver joins us in this episode to discuss betrayal, post-betrayal symptoms, is post-betrayal transformation trust, among captivating other topics. You simply cannot afford to miss this incredible episode. Sit back, relax, and take it all in. In this Episode You'll Learn: [08:10] Who Dr. Debi Silber of Are You Hardened or Healed is? [11:39] Why does betrayal hurt, and what does it impact and create? [12:59] Dr. Debi Silber's three discoveries on Are You Hardened or Healed? [15:45] how an unhealed betrayal impacts our health, work and relationships? [ 17:59] What is post-betrayal transformation, and how does it differ from post-traumatic growth? [19:33] How do we know if we have post-betrayal syndrome? [20:21] What questions can we ask ourselves to determine if Are You Hardened or Healed? [26:08] -Why trust can be rebuilt but not repaired/The power of forgiveness [29:53] From betrayal to breakthrough, what are the five stages? [34:45] How do we know if we haven't healed from a betrayal What do we need to do to move forward and heal from a betrayal experience? [37:22] Why do the majority of people stay in stage three of healing rather than moving on to the transformation stages? [52:40] Learn about the work that Dr. Debi is currently doing. [54:04] Spiritual awakening and betrayal Quotes: “Betrayal nonetheless. The way it works is the closer and the more we depend on someone, the deeper the betrayal.” [13:42] “The Universe speaks. They keep handing them to you until you listen. Yeah. So, it has to be self-sabotage, because we don't want to listen” [16:15] “But betrayal is such a different type of life crisis. And it's not to say, which is better, which is worse, they all stink” [17:04] “We know when it comes to betrayal, you cannot count on time to heal it.” [20:48] “Those who have been betrayed, don't give a rat's ass if they betray others. Because it's kind of like, you know, hurt people hurt people.” [23:45] and betrayal will show you who someone truly is. It also has the opportunity to wake them up to who they temporarily became.” [24:11] forgiveness we've always heard has so much to do with us. Reconciliation has so much to do with that other person.” [27:00] forgiveness is something one of the most underestimated underutilized tools that we can possibly use in this world in this lifetime.” [27:48] just because it's familiar, doesn't mean it's good, but it's familiar.” [33:50] “Just because it's comfortable doesn't mean it's good.” [38:59] “Very, very small steps but that truth will set you free if you're not going to speak it. If you're not going to acknowledge it and face it. It is going to continue to eat you up.” [44:56] Links Mentioned: Connect with Dr. Debi Silber: Instagram: debisilber LinkedIn: Debi Silber Facebook: Debi Silber Website: PBT Institute YouTube: Debi Silber Resources Florence William book titled Heartbreak Free gift: Are you healed or hardened? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/healed-or-hardened-quiz/
How does betrayal affect our health, work, and relationships? Dr. Debi Silber is a pioneer in the field of betrayal and how it affects people's lives. She helps us clarify why betrayal hurts, what are its impacts, and what it can create. Through her Ph.D. study, she shares three discoveries about betrayal that clarifies its nature and consequences. As she shares her insights on the stages associated with betrayal, we learn where we are along our own healing journey, and how to transform our experiences into opportunities for growth. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love.Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.You can connect with her at The PBT Institute where you can find her TEDx talks and take her Post Betrayal Syndrome QuizFor more about Dr. Lee, please visit:Website: www.holisticpsychiatrist.comYouTube: The Holistic PsychiatristClick on the Holistic Updates Sign up for weekly stories and insights: Holistic UpdatesTo schedule consultations or appointments, call her office at 240-437-7600The content provided by this podcast is for informational purposes only and has not been approved by the U.S. FDA. This podcast is not intended to provide personal medical advice, which should be obtained from a medical professional.
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Website: thepbtinstitute.com Podcast: From Betrayal To Breakthrough Instagram: @debisilber LinkedIn: @Debi Silber Twitter: @DebiSilber Facebook: @Debi Silber Youtube: @Debi Silber Special thanks to our sponsors: BetterHelp: BetterHelp is a great, affordable option for professional counseling done securely online. As a listener, you'll get 10% off your first month by visiting betterhelp.com/one Best Fiends: Join us and the millions of Americans who are already playing this game. Download Best Fiends for FREE on The Apple APP store or Google Play. That's friends without the R, Best Fiends. Voyage et Cie: Voyage et Cie's curator Melanie Apple has cultivated a passion for notable moments using the sense of smell. Voyage et Cie is the ultimate luxury blend of travel, fragrance, and design. Each original fragrance is created by Melanie, 100% organic and natural which will transport you on a journey. Visit https://www.voyageetcie.com/ and enter the code: HON to get your 10% off your purchase! PATREON SHOUT OUTS: Rose Pricks Podcast: Check out their latest episode here Storytime J aka Jason Williams: Check out his YouTube channel here Join our Patreon: Become an Only One In The Room patron by joining us on Patreon! Starting at only $5.00 per month, you'll get bonus content, access to outtakes that the general public will NEVER see, extremely cool merch, and depending on what tier you get, monthly hang time with Scott and Laura. Join our Patreon today at https://www.patreon.com/theonlyonepodcast Be sure not to miss our weekly full episodes on Tuesdays, Scott Talks on Wednesdays and our brand new series On My Nightstand on Fridays by subscribing to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. Join our Only One In The Room Facebook Group if you'd like to ask a question of any of our upcoming guests for this series. Also visit the website www.theonlyonepod.com for the latest from our host Laura Cathcart Robbins like featured articles and more. We love hearing from you in the comments on iTunes and while you're there don't forget to rate us, subscribe and share the show! All of us at The Only One In The Room wish you safety and wellness during this challenging time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The pain of Dr. Debi Silber's personal experiences of betrayal led her to studing the psychology of transformation & human potential and to conducting her own PHD research on how we experience betrayal and the potential it can hold for healing, change and growth. In this episode, Dr Silber talks frankly about how unhealed betrayals can negatively impact our future relationships, and what we can do about it to heal and move forward. KEY TAKEAWAYS The pain of betrayal is unlike any other pain, because it feels so intentional. It is magnified because this pain was caused by the decision of someone we trusted. Post Betrayal Transformation is the complete and total rebuild of your life and of yourself after an experience of betrayal. After betrayal, emotionally, 88% feel extreme sadness. 83% feel overwhelming anger. 82% feel hurt. 80% experience anxiety. 79% feel stress. And yet despite these feelings, life must somehow continue. BEST MOMENTS 'Boundaries were always getting crossed' 'Because it is so intentional, we take it so personally' 'It takes a complete and total rebuild of the self' VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher ABOUT THE GUEST Dr. Debi Silber - Holistic Psychologist, Health, Mindset and Personal Development Expert Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Debi understands the demands of the busy woman because she's one too. Managing The PBT Institute®, teaching, speaking, coaching, mentoring and writing, she's also married to her husband Adam for 28 years, is the proud mom of Dani, Dylan, Camryn and Cole (24, 23, 20 and 18) and is the proud mom of 6 dogs, Scooby, Nike, Roxy, Gigi, Brody and Kasey. Website - https://thepbtinstitute.com/ FB - https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/debisilber ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn's personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world's leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life' centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Happiness Solved with Sandee Sgarlata. In this episode, Sandee interviews Dr. Debi Sibler. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman and From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Connect with Dr. Debi: debi@debisilber.com Sandee's Group Coaching: https://sandeesgarlata.mykajabi.com/happiness-solved-for-everyone-sp Connect with Sandee www.sandeesgarlata.com Sandee's book: www.sandeesgarlata.com/the-book Podcast: www.happinesssolved.com www.facebook.com/coachsandeesgarlata www.twitter.com/sandeesgarlata www.instagram.com/coachsandeesgarlata
Dr. Debi Silber is the CEO and Founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute.She is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book:The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis,Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness,and her forthcoming book From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love.Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal.In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past any blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome?Take the Quiz:https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/Resources:Website https://thepbtinstitute.comSocial Media profiles:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransformTwitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilberLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilberConsider Supporting The Show!For just the cost of a cup of Joe click the link below:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/laquitastoolboxContact LaQuita Monley:If you would like to be a guest on "LaQuita's Toolbox, please schedule a 15-minute discovery call with me.https://calendly.com/laquitamonley/podcast-pre-booking-callEmail: podcast@laquitamonley.com
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast, From Betrayal to Breakthrough, is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Watch my Recent TEDx Talks! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i... Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ My contact information: chrisdtgordon.com @chrisdtgordon Chris DT Gordon's TAG and POP Shop: https://chris-dt-gordons-tag-and-pop-store.myshopify.com/ Hand-wavy wonderfulness: @nateberan
If you've ever been betrayed, you understand the utter shock and devastation of being blindsided. Betrayal is terribly painful, and though no one wants to study betrayal, this week's podcast guest did exactly that. Debi Silber experienced two betrayals back to back. It began with a really painful family betrayal, and a couple years later it happened again. This time it was her husband. After looking at the two experiences Debi couldn't help but wonder, what is the common denominator? This question set Debi on a journey to understand what holds us back, what helps us heal, and what happens to us physically, mentally, and emotionally when the people closest to us lie, cheat and deceive? Debi found 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changed her health, her family, her business, and her life, and she's sharing her wisdom with us today. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman and From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Learn more about Debi by visiting her website at https://thepbtinstitute.com/ and be sure to take her ‘Healed or Hardened' Quiz here. You can also follow Debi on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram.
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Mind, Body, and Soul series on the Success InSight Podcast.The Mind, Body, and Soul series celebrates the journeys and stories from health & wellness professionals who are committed to helping their clients and patients realize their physical, emotional, and spiritual courage and well-being.Our guest today is Dr. Debi SilberDr. Debi Silber is the founder of www.ThePBTInstitute.com, a holistic psychologist, recognized health, mindset, empowerment, and personal development, expert. Debi is the host of the From Betrayal to Breakthrough Podcast - The podcast is all about helping those who've been betrayed heal physically, mentally, and emotionally. It's a combination of information, education, inspiration, conversation, hope, love, and healing. It's conversational but listeners want to be sure their time is well spent so they appreciate actionable tips/strategies.Debi is the author of the six books, including her most recent:From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love (Sept. 2021).Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness Hardcover – (Oct. 2020The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis (Feb. 2017)The Unshakable Woman: The Workbook (Jun. 2017)The Five Stages from Betrayal to BreakthroughStage 1 - Focus on thinking and doing, not really prioritizing the feeling and being.Stage 2 - The breakdown of the body, the mind, and the worldviewStage 3 - Development of survival instinctsStage 4 - Finding and adjusting to a new normalStage 5 - The body starts to heal. Self-love, self-care, eating well, exercise, etc.To learn more about Debi and her work, visit her website at https://thepbtinstitute.com/You can also learn more about Debi on the following social sites:FacebookLinkedInTwitterYouTubeInstagramWatch her most recent TEDx talk: "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?"Success InSight is a production of Fox Coaching, Inc.
Anyone who is well versed in betrayal is likely to have experienced a seismic shift in not only how they start to see themselves - but also in their new vision of the world. Perhaps you find it difficult to trust others again; Maybe you shield yourself from entering into close relationships or Possibly you struggle to trust yourself and your decisions. Whatever your experience - it's likely that left unprocessed and unaddressed, the betrayal is likely to still leave it's mark, years or even decades later. In this episode, I chat with Dr. Debi Silber about my own experiences and how - even though I thought I had worked through my own betrayal story - there are still issues that need to be addressed. Dr Debi discusses Post Betrayal Syndrome and the necessary stages that we need to go through in order to ensure we are no longer jaundiced by the betrayals that might previously have haunted us. Want to know more? Then Grab a cuppa - and keep listening! ~~~ More about Dr. Debi : Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute https://PBTInstitute.com She is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development speaker, author and mentor who helps people heal from Post Betrayal Syndrome. She's the author of the Amazon #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis. Debi has contributed to The Dr. Oz show, FOX, CBS, The Huffington Post, Forbes, Psychology Today, Health, Shape, WebMD, and Glamour to name a few. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal detailed : what holds us back, what helps us heal and what happens to us (physically, mentally and emotionally) when the people closest to us lie, cheat and deceive made three groundbreaking discoveries. Her proven process, birthed from those discoveries, has helped thousands of people fully heal from betrayal; enabling them to thrive in their relationships, work, health and life. ~~~ How to Contact Dr Debi Silber: Dr. Debi Silber Founder: The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Host of The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ Watch my Recent TEDx Talks! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Books mentioned during this episode : From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis ~~~~~ DON'T Forget : If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations :
In todays episode, we meet with world renowned Dr. Debi Silber, and discuss the effects, stages, and healing of being betrayed. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman and From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Books:https://thepbtinstitute.com/books/ Website:https://thepbtinstitute.com QuizHealedorhardenedquiz.com Connect with Debi on Social Media!Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransformTwitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilberLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilberThanks For Listening!*Support Us*Heartbreakhillpodcast.com*Like Us on Facebook*https://www.facebook.com/heartbreakhillpodcast*Join Our PRIVATE Facebook Group*https://www.facebook.com/groups/2573656376187960*Follow Us*IG: @heartbreakhillpodcastTwitter: @hbhillpodcast*Contact Us!*hbhp@heartbreakhillpodcast.com*Shop*Rosegoldlenses.comSupport the show (https://paypal.me/hbhpodcast?locale.x=en_US)
This week on Divorce & Beyond, Dr. Debi Silber, the Founder of the Post-Betrayal Transformation Institute is back to visit with Host, Susan Guthrie, and she is here to help you break free from the victim mentality that can accompany the betrayal of a loved one, including adultery and financial infidelity. Dr. Debi is a holistic psychologist whose ground-breaking research on the topic of betrayal and recovery led her to identify the four stages of betrayal and create a program to help people move beyond the pain and heal so that they can thrive and be happy again. Unfortunately, many people find themselves stuck in Stage 2 of the process, dwelling in the victim role, the hurt, anger and rage. There are many valid reasons to remain in this space but they will keep you from moving forward and beyond the betrayal to live a healthy and happy life. In this episode, Dr. Debi outlines the four stages of the process and shares tips and insights into the "whys" and "hows" of healing and learning to trust again. She herself has been down the path and healed and that in and of itself is a story worth listening to this episode for! As a VERY SPECIAL GIFT for listeners of Divorce & Beyond, Dr. Debi is giving away THREE of HER BEST-SELLING BOOKS to one very lucky person. Just listen to the episode all the way to the end to learn how to win! Contact Dr. Debi: www.pbtinstitute.com Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Get Dr. Debi's Books: Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/ The Unshakable Woman: https://amzn.to/3DlJzFK The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook: https://amzn.to/3qCXJi8 New book: From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love: https://amzn.to/321sFhX MORE INFORMATION ABOUT THIS WEEK'S SPECIAL GUEST: DR. 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Betrayal can affect your entire life - work, health, and even your relationships. In a previous episode, I explored how to heal from betrayal in your relationship. This episode focuses on how to heal from betrayal within yourself. Joining me to discuss post betrayal syndrome and post betrayal transformation is Dr. Debi Silber. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman and From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. You've heard it before, “Time heals all wounds.” But, Dr. Debi Silber has proof that this is not true. It doesn't matter if your betrayal happened decades ago, you can still experience Post Betrayal Syndrome today. However, if you are willing to do the work, you can move through all five stages of healing in order to get to post betrayal transformation and experience freedom on the other side. Show Highlights Betrayal is different from other life crises. (7:27) Post Betrayal Syndrome: a collection of symptoms that are very common in betrayal. (10:48) Why do we get stuck after we have been betrayed? (17:02) If you are going to fully heal from a betrayal, you will go through five predictable stages. Dr. Silber shares these five stages. (22:08) When you face it, feel it; you can heal it. (31:44) After the shattering of trust, it cannot be repaired. But it can be rebuilt. (37:34) The difference between resilience and transformation. (38:07) What to look for in a therapist for post-betrayal healing. (49:51) Learn More About Dr. Silber: Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman and From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Resources & Links: Should I Stay or Should I Go - Money Survey by Kate Anthony and Amanda Steinberg Dr. Debi Silber's websiteDr. Silber on Facebook Dr. Silber on Twitter Dr. Silber on LinkedinDr. Silber on InstagramDr. Silber on YoutubeAre you healed or hardened? Take the quiz TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE DIVORCE SURVIVAL PROGRAM As one of the pioneers of the divorce coaching industry, I've been helping women (most of whom are moms) navigate the divorce process for the last decade. AND NOW, FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER, ALL OF MY DIVORCE WISDOM IS AVAILABLE IN ONE ONLINE PROGRAM. This program is 100% for you if… You're a mom looking for a clear roadmap to a divorce that won't destroy your kids You're looking for answers and a roadmap You understand that divorce is a long game You're willing to put away your boxing gloves You want this to be a respectful and collaborative process in service of your kids You understand that divorce is, first and foremost, an emotional process and you're ready to ‘go there' Are you ready to learn from one of the world's top divorce experts and set yourself on the path towards the best possible outcome? YEAH, Y'ARE!!!
Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman and From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. The Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz Do You Have Post-Betrayal Syndrome TEDx Talk Stop Sabotaging Yourself TEDx Talk Thepbtinstitute.com Are You Healed or Hardened Quiz Book Your Complimentary Consultation with Dr. Brandy Victory, D.C.
Dr. Debi Silber is the CEO and Founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness, and her forthcoming book From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past any blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/ Support the show
We often do things unconsciously to preserve our memories of precious people who have gone before us. Sometimes, remembrance takes the form of bad habits that we need to break. But how can you stay connected with your departed loved ones without getting yourself stuck? My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, we will be discussing how you can be intentional in incorporating new beliefs and behaviors into your routine while maintaining that deep connection with your loved ones. In This Episode Find out how people keep their pain alive Understand the root cause of some bad habits Learn how to get unstuck and move forward Transcription Hi there, welcome to another Dose of Dr. Debi. So this was coming up within The PBT Institute with some of our members and I'm wondering if it's something that may be happening to you. I want to make sure I share it so this way, if it's something you're doing, you know why. Have you ever felt like you're stuck, you feel so stuck, you're doing the work, you're trying to change your beliefs, you're trying to incorporate these new habits into your routine and there is just something about it that no matter what you do, you cannot move forward? And what happens is you keep trying these new things, you keep getting aggravated and discouraged and thinking; “I don't get it. I'm doing everything, why am I still stuck?” Well here's something that I've found and this is my over 30 years of coaching. I have seen this come up a few times, and I'm wondering if it's something you may be doing. I remember years ago when I was working with someone and she explained this version of herself she wanted to be. Beautiful, fit, healthy, successful. I mean it was this amazing image. I asked her where she was right now, and she described herself and she wasn't really eating well, she didn't have the best belief system in place, she was settling for relationships and work that she wasn't really happy about. And she smoked cigarettes. I asked her; “What's up with the cigarettes? That version of you that you described, I can't imagine that version of you smoking cigarettes.” She didn't know either, and she was really stuck so I started diving deeper and I said; “Tell me about your about your relationships.” And she started talking and I know I'm probing deeper and trying to get to the root of things, and all of a sudden she starts talking about her mom and her mom passed away from lung cancer from smoking. I remember at that very moment, thinking to myself, Hmm, I wonder if she's smoking as almost to keep that bond. And that legacy going. So before I had a chance to stop myself, I blurted it out and I said; “Do you think you're smoking has anything to do with your mom?” And she looked at me, it was that deer in the headlights look and I know we're onto something. And I kept going and I said; “Well, would your mom want you to smoke? And she said; “Absolutely not.” And we realized, she was grieving and mourning the loss of her mom and it was almost like if she kept smoking, that would continue that bond. So we don't want to break those bonds, if that's all we have left. So I shifted the conversation and asked: “What would happen if, instead of the bond, being that you continue to smoke, what would it be like if instead, in honor of your mom, you stopped smoking? So, it still had to do with her mom, it still had to do with that deep connection, but now she's doing something really positive with it instead of really something negative. It was the last cigarette she ever smoked. And it came up again recently where one of our members was stuck, just so stuck doing all the work, doing all the right things, and just stuck. And so I brought this up again. And it was a family issue going way, way, way back where playing a certain role, and acting in a certain way, would keep this legacy alive. And so then I asked; “Now that this person is on the other side, would they want you playing small would they want you staying safe would they want you not living the best of your ability and becoming your highest and best? “Well of course not.” “So what if, instead of keeping that bond going by keeping those beliefs going, and even though that's all we have left with that person, we keep ourselves, sort of locked in our own cage because this is, this is what we have and we don't want to eliminate and, get rid of that bond we have with them. What if instead we did this in honor of them.” It was one of those experiences again where I just saw her face light up. And I knew at that moment, that was one of the biggest needle movers that was keeping her stuck in Stage three, talking about the five Stages from betrayal to breakthrough. That's what was keeping her stuck in Stage three, and having her move right into stage four. I see this with so many people all the time. We're not staying stuck because we want to. Sometimes we need the tools, we need the resources. we need just the insight or shift. Sometimes we just needed it to be bad enough, I did two TEDx talks and I remember talking about this and the first one, Sop Sabotaging Yourself saying that when the pain of where you are, becomes greater than the fear of the unknown, that's when we jump. And that's when we make those changes and sometimes it takes, pain, sometimes it takes realization, sometimes it takes, insight, sometimes it just takes being so sick of your own story, whatever it is, it's all good, as long as you take a look and make those changes that can support you. So, just a classic reason why we stay stuck that can be a little bit hidden and we may not really know, and I've seen it many times, so I wanted to be sure to share that with you. Speaking of Stage three, the new book: From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love, is now available, and we created a really fun quiz, to go along with that, which is to see which force of nature, you are, and it will. It's the most simple quiz ever, and you will know exactly where you are within those five Stages and then I will guide you appropriately based on exactly where you land. I really invite you to take the quiz and you'll find that it healedorhardenedquiz.com So just go to healedorhardenedquiz.com Take that quiz and find out which force of nature you are. And it may be really enlightening for you. So if you're stuck, there's usually a good reason for it. And, you know, it's, here's where those traumas are the greatest shakeups because they invite us to question everything, but sometimes it is just that new idea that new insight that new awareness. So, if that's what's going on with you, where you were keeping the pain alive, keeping the bad habit, alive, keeping the staying stuck alive now you know because of that tie you have with that person. What would happen if you turned it into the honoring of that person where you're doing something really positive, with that scenario. Just like I mentioned with my client with the cigarettes. So, I hope that helps, again, take that quiz so you see which force of nature you are, and you got to find that at healedorhardenedquiz.com . I'll see you next time. Resources Mentioned PBT Podcasts Healed or Hardened Quiz Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness Trust Again Free Gift healedorhardenedquiz.com
Experiencing betrayal is one of the most complex interpersonal, personal, psychological, and emotional experiences we can undergo. My special guest, Dr. Debi Silber, describes how her personal experience with the trauma of betrayal became the starting point for her personal growth and professional expertise in the area of betrayal.In this jam-packed episode, you will hear how Dr. Silber's research into the stresses and symptoms suffered by people who have been betrayed showed her how betrayal is distinctly different, and more shattering an experience than other types of stressful events. Dr. Silber describes both the symptoms of Post-Betrayal Syndrome and the 5 predictable phases of Post-Betrayal Transformation in clear and interesting detail; she also shares her own story of reconciliation after betrayal. Dr. Debi Silber is the CEO and Founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness, and her forthcoming book From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx, and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach, and author dedicated to helping people move past any blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Timestamps: [3:41] The start of Dr. Silber's experiences with trauma and betrayal[6:32] The reason why betrayal is so traumatizing[10:43] The stunning results of Dr. Silber's research on the symptoms of betrayal[16:20] The 5 stages of Post-Betrayal Transformation[25:46] Dr. Silber answers the question, “Can trust be repaired?”__________________________________________________________For more information on the Make Time for Success podcast, visit:https://www.maketimeforsuccesspodcast.comConnect with Us!Dr. Christine Li -Website: https://www.procrastinationcoach.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/procrastinationcoachInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/procrastinationcoach/Dr. Debi Silber -Website: https://thepbtinstitute.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransformLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/
#32 - In this episode, I'm honored to have a conversation with Dr. Debi Silber. She is the CEO and Founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness, and her forthcoming book From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love. Dr. Silber shares her 3 groundbreaking discoveries on how we experience betrayal and the 5 stages a person goes through on their way to heal. Her insights will help anyone who is stuck and may not even realize it. Dr. Silber has been on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past any blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Links mentioned in this episode can be found below. Her new book is out now - From Hardened to Healed (https://thepbtinstitute.com/fromhardenedtohealed/) Quiz to find out what stage you may be in: Healedorhardenedquiz.com Hope you enjoy this episode! Don't forget to Follow this podcast so you can be notified when the latest episodes are released. Love the podcast? Give us a rating and review!
A painful experience such as abuse, abandonment, or betrayal can have a profound impact on various aspects of our lives. It can leave us feeling stuck and full of self-limiting beliefs, or it can present an opportunity for growth and transformation. Ask yourself: have your experiences left you healed...or hardened? My name is Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, I will be discussing the healed-or-hardened spectrum, explore its possible manifestations in your life, and what you can do if you find yourself hardened. In This Episode Understand what “hardened” and “healed” mean Discover how it looks like if you healed versus hardened Identify where you are at in your transformation journey Transcription Hi there, Dr. Debi here welcome to another Dose of Dr. Debi. Today's question is: Are you healed, or are you hardened? This is a little bit of a preview of my upcoming book From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life you Love. So let's start with a few definitions. According to the dictionary “hardened”, is to confirm in disposition, feelings, or actions. To be hardened to is to make callous and to toughen. So for our purposes, it doesn't necessarily mean that you're angry or bitter, it can mean that old baggage is just bogging you down. It can mean that limiting beliefs and behaviors have created beliefs that are keeping you stuck and preventing you from seeing things another way. So how do these beliefs show up? Well, they show up in almost every area of life. For example, you may see it in relationships, and it could look like this: A previous belief that you're less than, unworthy, broken, or not enough in some way has you settling for behavior you'd never tolerate if you felt better. A previously painful experience (like abuse, abandonment, or betrayal) has you believing that it's simply how relationships work, so you need to find a way to accept it. A previous experience with a toxic friend, boss, or coworker has you believing there's nothing that can be done about it, so do your best to accept the toxic behavior. Those beliefs keep you in a painful place, and the longer you stay in that spot, the worse it gets. Please know that I'm not saying to flee the minute relationships get uncomfortable; that's not what I'm saying at all. It's often the discomfort that helps us grow, and it can actually take relationships to the next level of trust and intimacy. What I am saying is that the belief that there's nothing you can do about it, or nothing better you can hope for, coupled with the resignation that prevents you from believing/saying/doing anything different, slowly hardens you. “Healed,” on the other hand, is to make sound or whole. To make well again, to restore, and to correct. Using the examples above, here's how they'd look if you were healed versus hardened: A previous belief that you're less than, unworthy, broken, or not enough in some way had you settling for behavior you'd never tolerate if you felt better. It dawns on you that you are worthy, deserving, and lovable. You start by giving yourself all the love you may never have received in the past, so you realize how wonderful you are. From that space, you can't help but radiate love, because that's who you are. Since like energy attracts like energy, you can't help but attract that same love you've been giving others right back to you. A previously painful experience (like abuse, abandonment, or betrayal) had you believing that it's simply how relationships work, so you need to find a way to accept it. You've done your research; you've done the work to heal, and you realize that “even though it was done to you, it's not about you.” While that time in your life was intensely painful, all you've done to move through it has created a version of you that's whole, healed, healthy, and transformed. A previous experience with a toxic friend, boss, or coworker had you believing there's nothing that can be done about it, so you do your best to accept their toxic behavior. It occurs to you that this was exactly the push you needed to either speak up or start that business you've been longing to start. You find your voice, and in doing so, you subtly change the rules around how people treat you. You simply don't tolerate toxic behavior, and the more you work to grow through it, the more you realize that you've been personalizing their behavior when it actually has nothing to do with you. You see it so clearly, and instead of seeing through the eyes of anger, you're compassionate, because you realize: “Hurt people, hurt people.” It doesn't excuse the behavior; you're still not tolerating it, but you see where it's coming from, and it doesn't hurt you anymore. Where have your experiences left you? Not sure? No worries, that's what my newest book: From Hardened to Healed is all about. See, nothing is wrong or a problem unless it's preventing you from being, doing, or having what you want. So often, we consider ourselves healed from various types of crises such as heartbreak or devastation of some kind (i.e., abuse, neglect, financial crisis, divorce, death of a loved one, disease, a tragic accident, or betrayal). We believe we've healed because time has passed, or because those people are no longer in our lives. While removing those people from our lives can help (such as in the case of a toxic relationship), that doesn't mean that they still don't have a toxic hold on your mind and heart. Join me because I'm going to be unpacking all of this, during a book launch party for my new book from Healed to Hardened on October 5, from 12 to 2pm Eastern time so you can see for yourself, for yourself, if you're healed, or if your experiences have left you hardened. The good news is you can heal from all of it. So to join me at this book launch party, click here. You're going to want to RSVP. And when you read that page you're going to see, you can become eligible for all kinds of really fun prizes. There is no reason to stay stuck. The good news is, you can heal from all of it. Your experiences have created the incentive the motivation and all you need to move in the direction towards the, the health, the body, the lifestyle, the life you want and I'm here to help you however I can. Join me for the book party here. I can't wait to see you there. Please share this with anybody who's stuck, that person who says: “That's just the way it is. This is as good as it gets.” I'm talking to that person. That's who needs this book, and who can benefit from this book party. Thanks so much and I'll see you then. Resources Mentioned Book Launch Party! PBT PodcastsPost Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and HappinessTrust Again Free Gift
No matter how much we plan our lives, the unexpected happens, leaving us completely dumbfounded. When we're feeling lost and don't know what to do next, it can cause deep fear, dread, and anxiety. But while our state of confusion may feel as if it's a roadblock to getting to where we need to be, it actually serves a purpose for our breakthrough. It allows us to dig deeper within ourselves and search more vigorously for clarity. My name Dr. Debi Silber and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, I will discuss how confusion can lead to new insights and possibly, an entirely different direction with opportunities that you could have never even imagined before. In This Episode Understand what happens when there's a shakeup in your life Discover why confusion is good Learn how what to do when you're in intense confusion Transcription Hi there and welcome to another Dose of Dr. Debi. I want to talk about something today that I see a lot. It's something that, if you don't know it's coming, it can be a little frightening, maybe very frightening. But, if you understand it ahead of time, it can make you feel a little bit more comfortable. When I see people healing, I see this a lot. It's this intense confusion. We think confusion is a bad thing, it's actually a really good thing. Here's what I mean. Life as you had known it is going along and you know where to go, you know where to be, you have your routine mapped out, etc. It's sort of predictable. Everything is going as it's been going, and then all of a sudden there is this complete disruption of life as you've known it. And if that's not as big of a shake up as you need, what also happens is it gives you the opportunity to question everything. It's that intense of a shakeup that it wakes us up out of this numbness, out of this sort of stupor, that we may have been in, and it gives us an opportunity to ask ourselves questions like: “What am I doing?” “What am I feeling?” “What have I been tolerating?” We begin to look at what's working, what's not working, and all of these questions come up. It's intensely, confusing. But, that's good! Because what happens is, once the dust settles, it's going to allow for clarity and possibly an entire new direction that you never would have had access to, had that not happened. Insights that you never would have had access to, had that not happened. You know I love giving analogies so this is one that comes to mind. I write about it in Trust Again, where I explain how this confusion is a good thing. And it's kind of like this. Imagine you're running in one direction, you are just running and running and running as fast and as far as you can, like Forrest Gump running. You're just going, going, going, going, going. Then all of a sudden you realize; “Wow, I don't think this is the right direction. This no longer serves, I'm kind of done with this.” Think about what happens. What happens is you slow yourself down. You turn, you pivot, and then you begin to move in a different direction until you pick up speed and now you're running in a completely new and different direction. This direction may possibly serve you so much better. That confusion that we feel that feeling like we had it all together, we knew exactly what we were doing, we had it all figured out and now it's like we can't even tie our shoes, like we can't fight our way out of a paper bag. We just can't figure any of this out. That's like the running in the one direction, the “wait a second, this doesn't serve, I don't think this is right. I don't think this is what I want to do, where I need to be. It's not in my best interest anymore.” So you stop and you pivot and you redirect before you take off in the new direction that's going to take you where you're now ready to go, where it is that you're meant to be, at this point in your life. So that's what this confusion is about and I wanted to just to be sure to share that because I know how painful that confusion can be. I remember feeling it myself, I knew exactly what my life plan was, and what my business was and I had it all figured out. And then the betrayal happened, and my entire life as I had known it came to a complete crash. Everything that I thought I knew and I thought I wanted and I thought I had all figured out was completely destroyed. But in that complete and utter death and destruction of the old (and you've heard me say this) allows for the birth of something new. And when that dust settled, and when I started to see things a bit more clearly, when I was now in a mindset of willingness to say; “What the heck do I do with this, where do I go now what do I do?” Well, that's when I got the insight, and the idea for The PBT Institute. So, you are setting yourself up for amazing downloads and insights, and all kinds of wonderful things with this confusion. Although you may be in that place of confusion right now, (and I know how hard it is) stay with it, because when that dust settles, the clarity will come, and possibly a new direction, a new insight, a new awareness that you never, ever had anywhere in your realm of consciousness. You're ready for it now. So, I just wanted to be sure to explain that so you know what this means, if that's what you're experiencing. Now there are so many exciting things coming up! One is the release of my new book, here's a picture because the book isn't ready yet. From hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love. Now, this book is because one of the three discoveries that were made in my PhD study was that while we can stay stuck for years, decades a lifetime (and so many of us do), if we're going to fully heal we're going to move through five now proven predictable Stages. And what's even more exciting about that is, now we know what happens physically, mentally and emotionally, at every one of those Stages, and we know what it takes to move from one Stage to the next so healing truly is predictable. All of the five Stages are mapped out in Trust Again. So you have access to all of that. And you can get that book, and all of the bonuses that go with it by clicking here. This way you get the book, and all the goodies that go with it. But what I found was, most people get stuck in Stage three, and that's where they stay for years, decades a lifetime. So, From Hardened to Healed, is for those of you who are stuck in Stage three (when you know the five Stages you'll know exactly what Stage you're stuck in) but I'm going to be talking all about it at the launch of the book From Hardened to Healed so I would love it if you could join me for our book launch party! We're having a big party to celebrate the release of this new book, and it's going to be on October 5, from 12 to 2pm, Eastern Time. Nine to 11 Pacific. To join us at the book launch party click here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/bookparty/ that's where you'll RSVP to get on the list. I'm having our certified PBT Coaches and Practitioners there who will walk themselves through the five Stages so you know what it looks like and you know what each Stage, looks like. It's just going to be an incredible celebration of possibility, and of course I'm going to have all kinds of prizes and bonuses, too. So, reserve your seat for the book party by clicking here. October 5th. It's going to be a very special day. It's an incredible book that will move you forward out of Stage three into Stage four or five and beyond. Once again, just to recap, if you're feeling stuck, good chance you're in Stage three, that confusion is very likely that Stage two, Stage three, and can also, the dust settles, reveal Stage four. When the dust settles you're ready for your new path, and what you're meant to do, and what you're meant to do with your experience turning your biggest crisis into your greatest gift. Remember what I did. I didn't do anything you couldn't do, I just went through this intense pain and said; “There's got to be a reason for this, and if I can heal I'm taking everybody with me.” Now your insight may be much different. You may discover something very unique, from your experience, and that's what will be revealed when that dust settles and of course if I can help you with that, and if The PBT Institute can help you with that, that's what we're here for. So join us at the book party, and I'll see you next time. Thanks so much, and share the podcast with anybody who who'd benefit. If you're stuck, if you've had a betrayal, trust issues, trust has been broken, don't stay stuck. The worst of it is over already. You owe to yourself to heal, you deserve to heal. I'll see you next time. Bye. Resources Mentioned Book Party! From hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love. PBT Podcasts Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness Trust Again Free Gift
Betrayal has detrimental effects on the sufferer's physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Healing is possible, and there are five Stages every person must work through to fully heal. However, many people tend to linger in the third Stage; they get comfy there, get stuck, and have a hard time lifting themselves up to the next Stage. Hi, I am Dr. Debi Silber and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, we will be discussing the five Stages of going from betrayal to breakthrough—and why it is important not to get stuck in Stage 3. We will also tackle what you can do to successfully move through each Stage. In This Episode Learn about The Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough Discover what's getting in the way of Post Betrayal Transformation Find out how you can avoid getting stuck in your healing journey Transcription Hi there, another Dose of Dr. Debi. Today I'm talking about getting unstuck. For the past few years I've been teaching about the Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough and just to back up a bit. If you aren't familiar, I did a PhD study that made three groundbreaking discoveries. One was that well we can stay stuck for years, decades, a lifetime and so many of us do, if we're going to fully heal, (going from symptoms of Post Betrayal Syndrome to this whole healed, strong, empowered state of Post Betrayal Transformation), both of those were the other discoveries, we will go through five now proven predictable stages. What's even more exciting about that is, we even know what happens physically, mentally and emotionally at every one of those stages, and we know what it takes to move from one stage to the next. That discovery was so exciting, because that was the moment we realized healing is predictable. If we are willing to do what it takes to move from one Stage to the next, we will predictably heal. So, in teaching The Five Stages and moving people through The Five Stages one thing has become incredibly clear. The most common Stage to get stuck in is Stage three. People stay in Stage three for a lifetime! I want to briefly go through what The Five Stages are so you can see which Stage you're in. See if you may be stuck in Stage three. Most importantly, I have something very exciting to share with you - a better way to move through it. So here are The Stages. Stage one is like a setup stage, and I saw this with every study participant including me too. If you imagine four legs of a table-(the four legs being physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) what I saw with everybody was a real heavy lean on the physical and the mental and really not prioritizing the emotional and the spiritual. What does that look like? It looks like we're really good at thinking and doing, not really prioritizing the feeling and being. We're in our head, we're not in our hearts. If we only have two legs of a table, it's easy for that table to topple over. That's us. Stage two, by far the scariest of all of the stages. This is the shock, D-day (discovery day), and it's the breakdown of the body, the mind and the worldview. This is like where that person you trusted takes the mask off and reveals who I've been this whole time. It's a complete shock. So, with that, we ignite the stress response and we're headed for just about every single stress related symptom, illness, condition, disease. Our mind is in a complete and total state of chaos and overwhelm-we cannot wrap our mind around the information we just learned. This makes no sense. And our worldview shattered. Our worldview is our mental model, the rules that govern us and prevent chaos (ex: don't go there, trust this person, this is how it works, etc.). Then, in one earth-shattering moment or series of moments, everything we've known to be real and true is no longer. The bottom has truly bottomed out on us. I remember one of my study participants saying about Stage two: “It feels like every negative emotion you can imagine, getting punched in the gut, and losing a child in a crowd, all at the same time.” It's hard, it's horrible. So imagine if the bottom were to bottom out on you, what would you do? You'd grab hold of anything and everything you could to stay safe and stay alive and that stage three, survival instincts emerge. Stage three: It's the most practical of all of the stages. “If you can't help me get out of my way.” “How do I survive this experience?” “Who can I trust?” Where do I go?” “How do I feed my kids?” It's that practical. Here's the trap. Once we figured out how to survive, because it feels so much better than the shock and trauma of where we just came from, we think it's good. And because we have no idea there's a Stage four and Stage five, we start planting roots here. We set up camp here. We figure; “Well okay, this is, I have to make this work.” And we start planting these roots in this spot. We're not supposed to be here long, but we don't know that. Then, four things start to happen. The first thing is we start getting these “small self” benefits. We get to be right, we get our story, we get someone to blame, we get a target for anger, we don't have to do the hard work of learning to trust again; “Can I trust you?” “Should I trust you?” “Forget it I'm not trusting anybody.” We start planting deeper roots. Then because we're here longer than we should be, the mind starts doing things like; “Well, maybe you deserved it.” “Maybe you're not all that great”, maybe that's maybe that. We plant deeper roots. Now because this is what you're thinking and this is the energy you're putting out there, like energy attracts like energy. So now you're calling situations and circumstances and people towards you to confirm; “Yep, this is exactly where you belong.” And you plant deeper roots. The misery loves company people-they start showing up now too so you plant even deeper roots. It gets worse but I'll get you out of here… J. Because it feels so bad, and you have no idea there's a Stage four and Stage five (transformation doesn't even begin until Stage four), because you have no idea and you think this is it, right here is where you resign yourself to thinking, “Well, I guess this is as good as it's going to get so I'd better find a way to be ok with it. So right here is where you start using food, drugs, alcohol, work, TV, keeping busy, social media, reckless behavior, whatever it is, to numb, avoid, distract yourself from what's really painful to feel or face. So think about it. You do that for a day, a week, a month (now it's a habit), a year, 10 years, 20 years. I can see someone 20 years out and say: That emotional eating you're doing (or that drinking you're doing or than numbing in front of the TV you're doing), do you think that has anything to do with your betrayal or the shattering of trust? They would look at me like I'm crazy, and you say; “That happened 20 years ago!” But do you see? All they did was put themselves in a Stage three holding pattern in stay there. That's why Stage three is the most common place to get stuck. I'm going to share with you what Stages four and five are, and then I'm going to come back to stage three for a very important reason. If you're willing to let go of the “small self” benefits and everything you get with it, (grieve mourn the loss, a bunch of things you need to do), you can move to Stage four. Stage four is finding and adjusting to a new normal. Here's where you acknowledge; “I can't undo my experience, but I can control what I do with it.” And I always use the example of if you've ever moved to a new house, office, condo, apartment - your things aren't all there, it's not quite cozy yet, but it's going to be okay. And, you know, when you're in this space, you start turning down the stress response. You're not physically healing just yet, but at least you stop the massive damage you'd been causing in Stages two and Stage three. What's also interesting to Stage four is, if you were to move, you don't take everything with you. You don't take the things that don't represent who you want to be when you're in that new space. And what I found was if your friends weren't there for you, you don't take them with you, you've just outgrown them. People say to me all the time; “What the heck! I've had these friends 10, 20, 30 years. Is it me?” Yes it is. You're undergoing a transformation, and if they can't be there in the way you need them, you're not taking them with you. When you settle into this space, you're making it cozy. you make it mentally “home”, you move into the fifth most beautiful stage and this is healing, rebirth and a new worldview. Stage five: The body starts to heal. Self-love, self-care, eating well, exercise, etc. You didn't have the bandwidth for that earlier, now you do. Your mind starts healing. You're making new rules and new boundaries based on your experience. And, you have a new worldview based on what you see so clearly now. Also, the four legs of the table, (remember in the beginning it was all about the physical and the mental). By this point were solidly grounded, because we're focused on the emotional and the spiritual too. Those are The Five Stages. Now, within The PBT Institute, we move you through The Five Stages. Our certified coaches are all certified in The Five Stages, our signature programs move you through The Five Stages. My book Trust Again moves you through The Five Stages. Because I found that most people get stuck and stay stuck in Stage three, I just wrote another book, and this time it is all about Stage three. So if you're new to the Stages, Trust Again will walk you through all of them. You'll hear my story, my study participants stories, you'll learn the four step trust rebuilding process and more. If you know you are stuck in Stage three, you're going to want to join me, because I am celebrating the release of my newest book: From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love. This is for those of you who are stuck in Stage three. So, I decided I am having a book launch party because this is a time to celebrate. We can't change what we're unaware of. So I want you so aware of where you are, so you can do something about it. In these times of chaos, chaos as far as COVID and everything else going on in the world, lots of people are stuck in Stage three. (Even though The Five Stages are for betrayal, they really apply to any life crisis or even a set of limiting beliefs that have gotten you only so far.) You can see the Stages even as it relates to COVID. Think about it, there are some people who are so stuck, and I get it. I'm not minimizing it at all. I had COVID, I've lost loved ones, I understand, the devastation of it. But there are some people who are just complaining: “I gained the COVID 15.” “I don't see my family.” “I haven't seen anybody and it's so terrible and it's so awful.” They have their story, that Stage three story. Then, there are some people who look at it very differently. They've moved to Stage four, they're a bit more flexible Being rigid and you break, be flexible and you bend. With the more flexible, you're hearing things like; “I cleaned out my house.” “I'm more social than ever on zoom on FaceTime.” “I only have to iron or steam the front of my shirt J.” Some people are adjusting and adapting and being okay with it. They have clearly moved to Stage four. Others are stuck in Stage three. It applies to so many different things. So, this book launch is October, 5th, and that is the release of From Hardened to Healed. And what I want to do is invite you to a free book launch party, where we're going to be celebrating. I'm going to have all kinds of contests, and you're going to want to participate because I have some really fun, prizes. So, if you find that you are stuck in Stage three, awareness is the first step so that you can do something about it. You do not have to stay stuck at all, it is proven it is predictable to move through the Stages. I did the study so I can share that with you. Yes, we know how to move from Stage three to four to five and beyond. It's all very exciting. So I'd love to invite you to the book launch party, and what you do for that is RSVP at the https://thepbtinstitute.com/bookparty/ . It's going to be an incredible celebration. That is the day you're going to want to be there because that is the day I am going to be having amazing prizes, I'm having some of my coaches who are going to be there, and they're going to show you how, how it looked when they were in their Stage three of their five stage journey, and what they did to move through it. It's nothing that you can't do. I didn't do anything you couldn't do. I just realized; “This this feeling is terrible. What can I do to move forward?” I'm sharing everything that I know. So join us for the book party. It's going to be on October 5 But you need to RSVP, and to do that, and then find out on that book page, how to be eligible for these great prizes that promise you they're good. https://thepbtinstitute.com/bookparty/ . I'll see you there. Resources Mentioned PBT Podcasts https://thepbtinstitute.com/bookparty/ Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness Trust Again Free Gift
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