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Why do some people heal from betrayal and rebuild their lives, while others stay stuck in pain and resentment for years—or even decades? In this powerful episode, we speak with Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation (PBT) Institute, about the three groundbreaking discoveries from her PhD research on betrayal.Dr. Silber breaks down the specific symptoms of betrayal trauma, explains why time alone doesn't heal it, and outlines the five predictable stages of healing she's observed in over 100,000 participants. If you've felt like you're stuck, looping through pain, or numbing out to avoid facing what happened, this conversation is for you.You'll walk away with clarity, encouragement, and a path forward—no matter where you are in the healing process.If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!
Send us a textAre you trying to heal from a betrayal? If you have survived a narcissistic relationship then you have experienced betrayal. Often repetitive, devastating breaches of trust.This week, Dr. Debi Silber joins us to discuss how to rebuild renewed confidence after betrayal. She outlines the five stages of betrayal recovery as well the common pitfalls that keep survivors stalled from fully healing after abuse. Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Dr. Silber?
Join me today as Dr. Debi Silber and I discuss Post Betrayal Transformation.Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award winning speaker, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.
Personal drama or personal trauma? One and the same? What is it, and how does it shape your health and happiness? Let's explore the connection between everyday irritations and deeper trauma. From bad hair days to betrayal, uncover how personal drama impacts your well-being and how to move past it to live the life you deserve. My Guest: Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st). An international bestselling author and acclaimed speaker on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice). Her podcast, From Betrayal to Breakthrough, is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. She empowers others to overcome betrayal and reclaim health, happiness, and confidence. Questions We Answer in This Episode: What is betrayal? How does it show up? [00:05:00] How does betrayal impact your health, work and relationships? [00:05:50] Why do we stay stuck? [00:18:30] How can our biggest crises become our greatest gifts? [00:21:50] Who needs healing most, the betrayed or betrayer and how are these paths similar or different? [00:23:30] Connect with Debi: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ On Social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ The latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ Other Episodes You Might Like: Healing Trauma to Lose Weight: What if it's Not Stress? https://www.flippingfifty.com/healing/ The Hidden Reason for Belly Bloat: https://www.flippingfifty.com/reason-for-belly-bloat/ Your Brain Better | A No Negative Side-Effects Method https://www.flippingfifty.com/your-better-brain/ Resources: Flipping 50 Membership: https://www.flippingfifty.com/cafe Flipping 50 STRONGER 12-week program: https://www.flippingfifty.com/getstronger Discovery Call with Debra: https://www.flippingfifty.com/wellness-coaching-for-life/
Betrayal is one of the most painful of human experiences. Left unhealed, it can impact our teen's health, schoolwork, and relationships. As parents navigating the teen years, it's important to know how these wounds form and how to help our teens navigate through the healing process. On today's podcast, we'll dive into the 3 discoveries that shed light on betrayal, along with providing a research-based, proven, and predictable way to heal from all of it. Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award winning speaker, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Tell us about betrayal: Why does it hurt, what does it impact, and what does it create? The breaking of an unspoken promise. What were the 3 discoveries you made during your study? Post-betrayal symptoms will follow you throughout your life unless you heal it. How does an unhealed betrayal impact our health, work, and relationships? What are the questions we can ask ourselves to see if we're numbing/avoiding/distracting ourselves? How do we know if we haven't healed from a betrayal? What do we need to do to move forward and heal from a betrayal experience? How can we learn to trust again? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com The latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber
Life is messy. Things happen that just don't make sense. Emotions run high and things get said that ruin relationships. Friends and family members we love and trust do things that hurt us and we do the same to them. We do things that we know aren't right, we lie and allow our perspective to dictate what we believe to be true. And that's just scratching the surface of the complicated nature of our relationships! I didn't even touch on the realities of politics domestic and abroad, international relations, or historical realities. Life. Is. Messy. It's part of living in this world as broken and marred by sin as ours is. But thankfully, mercifully, and sovereignly, God's Word reflects the brokenness of our world and cuts through it with truth we desperately need. As we continue our look at the life of David in our series "The Great Exchange" we come to a passage of Scripture that is complicated to say the least. It's high on the list of most hard-to-read, and gets to the heart of our brokenness, the complicated nature of life, the unfortunate reality of betrayal, and the devastatingly deplorable results of sin. But in the midst of the deep darkness of this story, the light of God's sovereignty shines through, and gives us a hopeful confidence to cling to in the messiness of life. How ever your week has gone, whatever burden you're carrying from the week behind, God has truth for us to cling to in our brokenness. Series: The Great Exchange Jordan Coros Message 6- From Betrayal to Confidence - part 1 Harvest Bible Chapel Text: 1 Samuel 21:1-9; 22:6-23 October 20, 2024 I can be confident amid all the brokenness knowing… 1. Life: complicated (21:1-9; 22:6-8) David and Ahimelech https://www.ligonier.org/learn/devotionals/david-and-ahimelech Was it wrong for David to eat the showbread in 1 Samuel 21:1–6?https://www.gotquestions.org/David-showbread.html Human need must not be subjected to barren legalism. Leon Morris 2. People: betray (22:9-19) 1 Samual 14 Acts 5:29 1 Samual 15:9 Matthew 24:10 Reproaches from those who have been intimate with us, and trusted by us, cut to the quick; and they are usually so well acquainted with our peculiar weaknesses that they know how to touch us where we are most sensitive, and to speak so as to do us most damage. Charles Spurgeon, Treasury of David Micah 7:5-7 3. God: redeems (22:20-23) Ephesians 1:7 Galatians 1:4 Most of the time, we too don't know how the Lord will cause “all things [to] work together for good" (Rom. 8:28). Instead, as those who live by faith—faith in a good and gracious Father, a loving Savior, and a comforting Spirit—we trust that he is good. And rather than seeking answers to all our questions, we seek instead to live in the light of Christ's cross, where good reigns eternal amidst the dark and evil chaos of the world he came to save. Chad Bird, Limping with God: Jacob and the Old Testament Guide to Messy Discipleship
Dr. Debi Silber is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, and now she's on MY little podcast to tell you how you can heal, too! This interview will impact your life in ways unimaginable. Come be inspired, LISTEN TODAY! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amandablackwood Find this guest online: ALL of Dr. Debi Silber's books: https://amzn.to/46SjwEu The site: https://thepbtinstitute.com The latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber TRIGGER WARNING: In this episode I'm talking with a trauma survivor about their history and recovery. Suicide, child abuse, and PTSD are common themes. Pairing of guest and podcast provided by #PodMatch. To book yourself as a guest through Podmatch sign up using this link: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/amanda Check out ALL of the books written by the podcast guests this season. As an Amazon influencer, I might earn commissions on qualified purchases! I do NOT get paid for the podcast. As always you can support the podcast with PayPal or Venmo donations, or by purchasing one of my books! PayPal authoramandablackwood@gmail.com OR donate through the donation page at https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=9AT5NQ8C474SY Venmo @DetailedPieces Find my books: https://books2read.com/ap/xej5pN/Amanda-Blackwood Shop the ABTS Etsy for signed books, original art prints, and more! https://www.etsy.com/shop/LadyBlackwoodShop Get access to previous seasons and exclusive content with a subscription! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amandablackwood/subscribe NEW!!! Watch this episode on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyX6CW82tzFOqYNBkGixqe81NrdEHJjWD
Have you ever felt betrayed by someone? Many of us have, and it's often a deeply painful experience that leaves a lasting impact on our lives. Betrayal can be tough to navigate, but it's possible to heal and even transform it into a positive turning point. If you're struggling with betrayal or seeking to overcome it to rebuild your life, this episode is for you. I'm thrilled to be joined by Dr. Debi Silber, who will help us unpack the complex emotions surrounding betrayal and guide us through the healing process. Topics covered in this episode include: What it really takes to experience a post betrayal transformation How to recognize if your body is holding onto trauma from a betrayal The five stages of healing after betrayal and where people get stuck The groups of people that will never heal from their betrayal- and why The one crucial step you need to reach the final stage of healing and achieve true transformation Full show notes are available at https://epicyou.com/podcast/ Resources Mentioned: Get a copy of The Body Keeps The Score: https://amzn.to/4dfNyFw Visit Dr. Silber's website: https://thepbtinstitute.com The latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU TEDx: “Stop Sabotaging Yourself”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro Listen to The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ Follow her on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Follow her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Follow her on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Follow her on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Follow her on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber If you're loving this podcast, please rate and review it to help others create their own Epic Life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/drink-less-lifestyle/id1534950157 Have a question or topic suggestion for future podcasts? Contact me via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsherryprice/ Check out and subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.sherryprice Do you have questions about EpicYOU or Tone in 10? Send me an email: sherry@epicyou.com
Are you ready to break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, trust, and love again? Welcome This Week's Guest Debi Silber Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award winning speaker, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling… The post From Betrayal to Breakthrough With Debi Silber |234 appeared first on Melissa Vogel.
Healing from Betrayal with Dr. Debi SilberIn this episode of From Betrayal to Breakthrough: Insights from Dr. Debi, we are joined by Dr. Debi, the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day, celebrated annually on September 1st. Dr. Silber is an award-winning speaker and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. […] The post From Betrayal to Breakthrough: Insights from Dr. Debi Silber appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.
In this special "From the Archive" episode, Susan Guthrie, top family law attorney and mediator, sits down with Dr. Debi Silber, the Founder of the PBT (Post-Betrayal Transformation) Institute, to discuss the trauma caused by betrayal and the path to healing and a better future. Dr. Debi shares her expertise on moving beyond betrayal, the five stages of healing, and offers invaluable tips to start your healing journey. Highlights from the Episode: What is betrayal and why is it so devastating? Why does Dr. Debi say that "even though it happened to you, it's not about you?" The five stages of betrayal and healing: Where are you? Three reasons people don't heal from betrayal How failure to heal can be like an addiction Top tips to start the healing process About Our Guest: About Our Guest: Dr. Debi Silber, Ph.D. is the founder of The PBT® (Post-Betrayal Transformation®) Institute, National Forgiveness Day, and runs a WBENC-Certified WBE company. A holistic psychologist and personal development expert, she authored Trust Again and The Rebuild Roadmap, and hosts the globally ranked podcast From Betrayal to Breakthrough. Her Ph.D. study on betrayal has made groundbreaking discoveries, and she's dedicated to helping people overcome betrayal and other blocks to achieve health, happiness, and success. Important Links and Resources: Dr. Debi Silber's TEDx Talk: Do You Have Post-Betrayal Syndrome? Take the "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz": PBT Institute Quiz - Discover if you have PBS, what stage you are in, and receive tips for healing by email. The PBT (Post-Betrayal Transformation) Institute: PBTInstitute.com Please Note: This is an archive episode, so some of the links and offers mentioned in the episode may no longer be valid. 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In this episode, Dr. Debi Silber, along with Evan Hirsch, explores how to deal with the feeling that your body has betrayed you, and other forms of betrayal. Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award winning speaker, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Struggling with unexplained symptoms? It could be post-betrayal syndrome. Take Dr. Debi Silber's quick quiz to find out and start your healing journey: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Want to learn more about Dr. Debi Silber? Feel free to check out: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Stay connected with Dr. Debi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber . For more information about Evan and his program, Click Here. Prefer to watch on Youtube? Click Here. Please note that any information in this episode is for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice.
Have you ever felt like a betrayal left a lasting scar on your soul? This week's Life of Love episode features Debi Silber, the beacon of hope for anyone who's faced the sting of deceit. She's not just the founder of National Forgiveness Day and the 'From Betrayal to Breakthrough' podcast host; she's a living testament to the power of overcoming the darkest of times. Join us as she takes us through her journey of personal pain and how it fueled her mission to help others heal, transforming their deepest wounds into sources of strength.Betrayal can sneak up and shatter our world, but healing doesn't have to be a solitary struggle. Through my conversation with Debi, we unveil the unrecognized Post-Betrayal Syndrome, a condition affecting countless individuals, as evidenced by her research on over 95,000 people. With Debi guiding us through the five stages of healing, we shed light on the journey from the initial shock to a place of newfound wisdom and peace. It's a roadmap for anyone searching for the light at the end of the tunnel, proving that the path to recovery, while complex, is lined with predictable milestones.Our heart-to-heart doesn't stop at identifying the problem; it's about constructing a brighter future post-betrayal. We contemplate the art of mending and redefining relationships, starting with the one we have with ourselves. The poignant stories shared, including my own tale of re-marriage, serve as powerful examples of how boundaries, self-reflection, and a dose of transpersonal psychology can lead us from victimhood to a life brimming with vibrancy and true happiness. So, tune in, and let's embark on this transformative journey together, with Debi's wisdom and the support of the PBT Institute lighting the way. https://thepbtinstitute.com/Support the showLink to Support this Channel: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2153284/supporters/newJulie's Book: https://amzn.to/3K2ZS05Julie's Website for more information, comments or requests: https://lifeofloveandjoy.comPromo Code for Free Audio Book on Audible: https://amzn.to/45YUMdHMy Book: Life of Love a Joyful Guide to Self and Sensuality
In this insightful episode, Debi Silber, PhD and founder of the PBT Institute, shares her expertise on overcoming the profound effects of betrayal. Drawing from personal experiences and her groundbreaking research, Silber unveils the stages of Post Betrayal Transformation, offering hope and actionable strategies for healing. Discover the connections between betrayal, health, and personal growth, and learn how to reconstruct a stronger, more resilient self after trust is shattered.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:The psychological differences between betrayal and other traumas.Key discoveries from Dr. Debi Silber's studies on betrayal.The PBT Institute's approach to facilitating stages of overcoming betrayal.Strategies for strengthening personal boundaries to prevent future betrayals.The importance of addressing betrayal at its root for true healing.Episode References/Links:The PBT InstituteDebi Silber TikTok Debi Silber Facebook Debi Silber X.comDebi Silber LinkedinDebi Silber InstagramDebi Silber YouTubeGuest Bio:Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. DEALS! 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I have the proof that when it comes to betrayal, that's not true.Lesley Logan 0:27 Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:09 Okay, I got some hot topic and this is gonna feel a little juicy but maybe not at all, actually. But, when I discovered today's guest and what they talk about, I was like, oh, yeah, we have not talked about this not in a high-level way. We've definitely had guests come on, who have shared how they're betrayed in their life, and then how they've made it to where they are today just inspire you to be it till you see it. But we've actually never had a like expert on the topic of betrayal. And I really enjoyed it. I feel like I just went to a whole study class on betrayal. I feel like I'm really aware of it. And I already have three people I want to share this episode. It's not even ready yet. I just I'm like literally finished recording it. And I'm like, oh my gosh, I have to send this to this person, I have to send this to this person. And so my hope is, is that today's episode, betrayal not only educates you. And maybe what you're going through what's keeping you from being until you see it is an old betrayal. And that can really suck to admit to, you know, like to, to think that like 20 years ago, something happened to you and you haven't yet healed from that. And I just to make sure you know that that's okay. You're not the only one. You're not the first person. You're not the last person. But hopefully with today's guest, Dr. Debi Silber, we can start to heal. And we can all go from a place of being betrayed and wanting to take over our lives to actually making it make our lives right where they can be. And so this episode goes through a lot of statistics, a lot of information as symptoms you might be feeling in your life that could all be from a betrayal in your life and also the ways you can get out of it. So I'm really excited for this episode. I think it's gonna be really awesome. And again, I do think it's one of those ones you're gonna share with your friends right now because I'm about to send this information to mine. So have an amazing day and I cannot wait to hear your takeaways. And here's Dr. Debi Silber. Lesley Logan 3:09 All right, Be It babe. I'm really excited for today's topic. Actually, I don't think we've even discussed this topic on the podcast and it is 100% aligned, aligned with us being until we see it. So we have Dr. Debi Silber, here. She is an amazing person who has truly forged her own path and is helping people on the topic of betrayal. So Dr. Debi Silber, will you please introduce yourself and tell everyone who you are and what you rock at?Debi Silber 3:33 Sure, looking forward to this conversation. So I am the founder and CEO of the PBT Post Betrayal Transformation Institute, I mean, clearly you don't study something like betrayal unless you have to. So I'm in business over 30 years - health, mindset, personal development, and then I had a really painful betrayal from my family thought I did everything I needed to do to heal from that. And then it happened again, a few years later, this time it was my husband, that was the deal breaker got him out of the house, looked at the two experiences thinking well, what's similar to these two, of course, me, but what else? And I realized, you know, boundaries, were always getting crossed, never took my lead seriously. And I am one of those people that believes if nothing changes, nothing changes. So here it was four kids, six dogs, a thriving business and I said, you know, a book wasn't gonna get me out of this jam, I needed a whole Ph.D. in it. So I did I enrolled in a Ph.D. program in transpersonal psychology, the psychology of transformation and human potential. Because I was changing so much I didn't quite understand it. He was too, wasn't ready to look at that. And then it was time to do a study. So I studied betrayal. What holds us back what helps us heal and what happens to us physically, mentally and emotionally when the people closest to us lie, cheat and deceive? That study led to three groundbreaking discoveries which changed my health, my family, my work, my life.Lesley Logan 4:51 Okay, I mean, crazy amazing. No, not that I would ever wish betrayal on anybody but like, thank goodness, we're able to take your betrayal and make it what it is because I, if you start to think about the different things that could happen to you that can really prevent you from living the life you want to live and betrayal is this one thing where you can see people in your life or maybe someone listening right now, like that is the thing that's keeping them from showing up in the world. Because the last time they did it, they got betrayed or whatever. So I just think that like, this is an amazing topic, can we just like, go down to the 101 of what betrayal is just in case people are like, I've never been betrayed before, my life is fine.Debi Silber 5:33 Sure. Yeah and then maybe it is. Well, I define it as the breaking of a spoken or unspoken rule, and every relationship has them. So the way it works is the more we trust, and the more we depend on that person, the deeper the betrayal. So for example, a child who is totally dependent on their parent, and the parent does something awful. That's going to have a different impact than let's say, your best friend sharing your secret, you're co-worker taking credit for your idea. Still a betrayal, different level of cleanup. Lesley Logan 6:00 Yeah, yeah. So you know. Yeah, I mean, that's a really interesting way of putting it like the stronger the bond, the deeper the betrayal. Okay, so then you start to go through and try to figure out what works to heal from betrayal. Obviously, there's some things that people can do that are better than others, like, what is the process of like? Is it first just recognizing that you've been betrayed? Is it going within? Is it you screaming and yelling at the other person?Debi Silber 6:27 Yes, yes, yes. You know, it's all of those depending on where you're at, the first thing is, you know, you have to know where you know what betrayal does, and that's where that's where the discoveries really came in. So I'm happy to share what they are, because that'll give such context to what we're talking about. So at first I was studying and like, I had a feeling betrayal was a different type of trauma, then, you know, death of a loved one disease, natural disaster, like I had been through death of a loved one. And I've been through disease, and I was like, You know what? Betrayal feels different. I didn't want to assume that it was the same for everyone in my study, so I asked them, if you've been through other types of trauma, traumas, does betrayal feel different for you unanimously? This one, oh, my gosh, it's so different. And here's why. Because it feels so intentional. We take it so personally. So the entire self gets shattered and has to be rebuilt. rejection, abandonment, belonging, confidence, worthiness, trust, like they're all demolished and have to be rebuilt. Like for example, if you lose someone you love, you grieve, you're sad, you mourn the loss, life will never be the same. But you don't question the relationship. You don't question the trust, you don't question your sanity, betrayal, has you questioning all of it. So that type of healing needed its own name, which is now called post betrayal transformation, that complete and total rebuild of your life and yourself after an experience with betrayal. So that betrayal is a different type of trauma, that was the first discovery. The second one was, we actually discovered that there's this collection of symptoms, physical, mental, and emotional, so common to betrayal, it's now known as post betrayal syndrome. And it what's so interesting is we've had, I don't know, easily 95,000 plus people take our post betrayal syndrome quiz on our site to see to what extent they're struggling. We've all been taught time heals all wounds. I have the proof that when it comes to betrayal, that's not true. There's a question on the quiz that says is there anything else you'd like to share? And people write things like, you know, my betrayal happened 35 years ago, I'm unwilling to trust. My betrayal happened, you know, 10 years ago feels like it happened yesterday. My betrayal happened 15 years years ago, I feel gutted. So we know you cannot count on time. Or you can't even count on a new relationship to heal betrayal. Healing needs to be deliberate and intentional. And, you know, I'm happy to share some of those stats from the quiz if that would serve you.Debi Silber 6:33 Yeah, I am like, fascinated. Because you, we've all seen it, like we've all had that family member who like something happened to them. And they were never, they were never the same again. And it can be so easy, like, oh my gosh, like they could just have like, gotten over it. Like they should just get over it. And part of me is like maybe like, for some reason, my brain is going like betrayal. At some point, you might even think that you betrayed yourself. Like, it's almost like, it's like you could reverse the betrayal that you did it to you. Because I trusted them. Oh, I I didn't listen to that red flag that I've had, like, you start to like, take it on as you did it to you.Debi Silber 9:35 And everything you're saying about the stuckness, I'm going to talk about that in the third discovery. But yeah, I mean, these symptoms are so classic for post betrayal syndrome, and here's the thing, we associate it because let's say the betrayal happened years ago, you know, we're like, well, clearly it's not from that. Oh, but yes, it is. And but we think because it was so long ago, it's got to be from aging. It's got to just be from daily stress. No, it's not. It's from an unhealed betrayal. So. Lesley Logan 10:01 Let's go to the next one. I love this. Yeah. Debi Silber 10:03 Yeah. So do you want me to read the stats? Lesley Logan 10:06 Yeah, let's read it. Debi Silber 10:07 So, out of 95,000 plus people, men, women just about every country's represented, 78% constantly revisit their experience, 81% feel a loss of personal power, 80% are hypervigilant, I mean that's exhausting, 94% deal with painful triggers. These are the most common physical symptoms: 71% have low energy, 68% have sleep issues, 63% have extreme fatigue, your adrenals have tanked, 47% of weight changes. So in the beginning, maybe you can hold food down, later on you're an emotional eater, you're using food for comfort, 45% have a digestive issue and that could be anything Crohn's, IBS, diverticulitis, constipation, diarrhea, bloating, anything. The most common mental symptoms: 78% are overwhelmed, 70% are walking around in a state of disbelief, 68% can't focus, 64% are in shock, 62% can't concentrate. So imagine you can't concentrate, you have a gut issue, you're exhausted. You still have to feed your kids. You still have to work.Lesley Logan 11:16 Oh, and all this is compounding. So like, and what's crazy to me is like, it's the majority, of all this is like a majority. So it's not like, some people have betrayal experiences and some people experience, it's like, well, they're all pretty much experiencing these things. And it's just, that is, all of that is exhausting. And you got to show up and then you have these expectations on yourself, and you can't meet them. So that's another spiral.Debi Silber 11:40 Oh, yeah, you're so right. And that's not even the emotional issues. So emotionally, 88% experienced extreme sadness, 83% are very angry and you just bounce back and forth between those two emotions all day long it's debilitating, 82% feel hurt, 80% have anxiety, 79% are stressed. Just a few more. Here's why I wrote the book Trust Again, 84% have an inability to trust, 67% I hope that landed, that's huge, 67% prevent themselves from forming deep relationships because they're afraid of being hurt again, 82% find it hard to move forward, 90% want to move forward but they don't know how.Lesley Logan 12:22 Yeah, like, it's like this. There's, it's not like they don't want their life back. But they don't know the next steps. Because moving on, everything we've ever been told, just get over it, you'll meet someone else or like, it's that hurt people hurt people. So they were just hurting. Like, it's none of that stuff is really helpful for you to build trust again. And also. And the thing about trust, which I'm sure you talked about in your book, and we can go into that is like you like to build trust, you have to trust like you actually have to be vulnerable in the beginning of a relationship. So that trust is built, but people want trust to be there before they're vulnerable once they've gone through something like that. And so, is that kind of why you, is that what you talk about in the book Trust Again, is that like, one of the things?Debi Silber 13:07 It is what, it definitely is one of the things and just to wrap up the post betrayal syndrome stats, think about it, you didn't hear me say one thing that said, you know, 20% 30%, these numbers are super high. They're also not necessarily from a recent betrayal. So this could be from that parent who did something awful when you were a kid, this could be from the girlfriend or boyfriend who broke your heart in high school. So think about this, that person may not know care, remember, they may not even be alive. And here we are decades later with these symptoms, because we haven't healed it from way back then. That's the trick. That's the crime. The good news is you can heal from all of it, which was the third discovery.Lesley Logan 13:47 Yeah. So okay. I do want to know how we can heal from it.Debi Silber 13:50 Yeah, and then and then I'll circle back to if you want, how to know, you know, when you said about, you know, being willing to trust and unwilling and, and putting the big wall up and all those things maybe I can (inaudible). So the third discovery, this, to me was the most exciting. And what was discovered was while we can stay stuck for years, decades, a lifetime and so many people do, if we're going to fully heal, and by fully heal, I mean, symptoms of post betrayal syndrome that I just shared to that completely rebuilt place of you're whole, healed, complete of post betrayal transformation. To get from one to the next, we're going to move through five proven predictable stages. And what's even more exciting about that is we know what happens physically, mentally and emotionally. At every one of those stages. And we know what it takes to move from one stage to the next. Healing is entirely predictable. Happy to go through the stages if you want. Lesley Logan 14:50 Yeah, I do. I love this. I had no idea it could be so predictable. So I want to hear. Debi Silber 14:55 And that's the thing. I mean, there's a roadmap now for it. And so it's all mapped out in Trust Again, it's all we do within the PBT Institute. It's where all of our coaches are certified in, moving people through the five stages, but I'll share them briefly here. So, stage one, if, you can imagine four legs of a table, the four legs being physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. What I saw with everybody, me too, was a heavy lean on the physical and the mental thinking and doing and kind of neglecting or ignoring the emotional and the spiritual, feeling and being. Well, if there's a table with only two legs, it's easy for that table to topple over. That's us. Stage two, shock, trauma, D Day, discovery day, the scariest of all of the stages. And this is the breakdown of the body, the mind and the worldview. Right here, you got the news, you've ignited the stress response, you are now headed for every single stress-related symptom, illness, condition disease. Your mind is in a complete state of chaos and overwhelm. You cannot wrap your mind around what you just learned. This makes no sense. And your worldview has just been shattered. Your worldview is your mental model, the rules that govern us that prevent chaos, don't go there, trust this person, this is how life works. And in one earth-shattering moment or series of moments. Every rule you've known and you've held to be real and true, is no longer the bottom has truly bottomed out from you. And the new bottom hasn't been formed yet. I remember a study participant saying you know what it feels like. It felt like, it felt like every negative emotion you can imagine, getting punched in the stomach and losing a child and a crowd all at the same time. It's awful. Think about it. Lesley Logan 16:30 Like you're searching, you're searching and searching, you're adrenaline's going to find something. And you just been like crippled at the same time. So you can't even do it. Yeah, that is so (inaudible).Debi Silber 16:51 Yeah, it's visceral. So but think about it. If the bottom were to bottom out on you, what would you do, you'd grab hold of anything or anyone you could to stay safe and stay alive. And that stage three, survival instincts emerge. It's the most practical out of all of the stages. If you can help me get out of my way, how do I survive this experience? Where do I go? Who can I trust? How do I feed my kids? Here's the trap, though. Stage three, by far hands down is the most common place we get stuck. You know, so many people in this stage and I will explain it you will see. This is the place we get stuck and here's why. Once we've figured out how to survive our experience, because it feels so much better than the shock and trauma of where we just came from, we think it's good. And be like, okay, I got this. And because we don't know there's anywhere else to go. We park here, we plant roots here we're not supposed to. But we don't know that. And four things have, a transformation doesn't even begin (inaudible) work. But we don't know anything about that. So we plant roots here. And these four things happen. The first thing is, we start getting all these small self-benefits from being here. We get our story. We like our story. We get to be right, we like being right, you know, we get a target for anger, we get someone to blame. We don't have to do the hard work of learning to trust again. Can I trust you? Should I trust you? Forget it, I'm not trusting anybody. So we plant deeper roots. Again, we're not supposed to but we don't know. And now because you know that you know we're here longer than we should be. We start thinking things like well, you know, maybe you're not that great. Maybe you deserved it. Maybe this maybe that. So we plant deeper roots. And now because these are the thoughts we're thinking, well this is the energy we're putting out. Like energy attracts like energy. So now we start calling situations, circumstances and relationships towards us to confirm yep, this is exactly where you belong. Lesley Logan 18:49 Yeah, it's like cognitive bias whatever yeah, right it's a whole like you're just I think this, I see this, it's proved me correct.Debi Silber 18:58 And your mind will find you as much confirming evidence as you want to see and then you also the misery loves company crowd comes along now to. Here's also where you find that support group that like in an awful club where it's like this happened to me oh, you think that's bad? This happened to me? And now you found your people. Yeah, so your (inaudible) to grow because you don't want to outgrow your people. The longer you're here the harder it gets to leave because this becomes your identity. It gets worse but I'll get you out. Because you feel so bad, but you don't know there's anywhere else to go you resign yourself right here you're like this stinks but like I have to get through my day. You have to, I have to go to work, I have to be with my kids. So right here is where you start using food, drugs, alcohol, work, TV, keeping busy whatever it is to numb avoid and distract yourself. So think about it. You do it for a day, a week, month now to happen a year, 10 years, 20 years. I can seriously see someone 20 years later and say you know that emotional eating you're doing or that drinking you're doing, do you think that has anything to do with your betrayal? And they would look at me like I'm crazy. (Inaudible) 20 years ago, all they did was put themselves in stage three, and stay there. Does that make sense? Lesley Logan 20:10 Yeah. Oh, it totally does. And I think like, it's so interesting because the the world would have you think, oh, well, if you're emotionally eating, then you should just eat fewer calories and like, go deal with your emotions. But it's like, it's not even. It's not a, it's not a conscious awareness that those two go together. And also, you just try to mask that, like, oh, I'll just eat less. It sets you up for failure, you're going to screw up, because that's just human just gonna happen. And so then you're even more, you're stuck, because you're like, I'm not even.Debi Silber 20:43 Right. And that's why it's so common to stay there. And you know, it's interesting, because Trust Again maps out the five stages, but that's why I wrote (inaudible) hard to heal them, like you've been through the worst of it already. What in the world are you doing staying stuck in stage three, from harmed to healed is just for stage three, because that's where most people live at stake for life. And you and if you remind me, I'll get back to I want to get people out of stage three. But if you're me, like how do you know if you're in stage three? I'll tell you. Anyway, if you are willing, willingness is a huge word right here. If you are willing to let go of the small self-benefits, grieve, mourn the loss, bunch of things you need to do, you move to stage four. Stage four is finding and adjusting to a new normal. So here's where you acknowledge, I can't undo what happened. But I control what I do with it. Just in that decision, you're turning down the stress response, you're not healing just yet. But at least you just stop the massive damage you've been creating in stages two and stage three. Stage four feels like if you've ever moved, if you've ever moved to a new house, office, condo, apartment, whatever, all your stuff's not there. It's not cozy yet. But you're like, okay, okay, we've got this, stage four feels like that. But think about it, if you were to move, you don't bring everything you know, you don't take those things that don't represent who you want to be when you're in your new space. And what I found was, there's this one spot in moving from stage three to stage four. If your friends weren't there for you, you don't take them with you. You've outgrown them. And it's so common, people say to me all the time, I've had these friends 10, 20 years is it me? Yes, it is. You're undergoing a transformation and if they don't rise, you don't bring them, very common. Lesley Logan 22:30 That and that's probably the hardest part. I'm sure in your work, you see people who have a hard time letting go of those friends. I've had them for so much of my life. And it's like, if but if it's true, if they're not rising up with you, if they're not, if they're not willing to stop telling the story as well, if they're not willing to stop being stuck. It's not that you're being a dick, not taking them with you. It's like actually part of you becoming the person here. So you've always wanted to be. If you loved being in stage three you would stay there, but you're not loving it.Debi Silber 23:02 That's it. And here's the thing, do you know how often I'll see somebody sabotaging their growth, because they don't want to outgrow their betrayer or they don't want to outgrow the friends they need in that stuck place. So they'll find themselves constantly sabotaging their success, so that they stay with the familiar known, the only benefit is that it's familiar. That's the only thing. But because it's familiar, they will you know, it's not worth healing and rebuilding themselves because of the known familiar but what's waiting for you in Stage Four and Stage Five is mind-blowing. So let me get to stage five, and then I'll tell you what we see. So stage five, once you've settled into this new mental space, you've made it cozy, you've made it home, you move into the fifth most beautiful stage and this is healing, rebirth and a new worldview. The body starts to heal. Self-love, self-care, eating well exercise, you just couldn't do that before you you know, you don't have the bandwidth. Your mind is healing, you're making new rules, you're making new boundaries, you know, based on the road you just traveled and you have a new worldview based on everything, you see so clearly and so differently now. And the four legs of the table in the beginning it was all about the physical and the mental by this point, were solidly grounded. Because we're focused on the emotional and the spiritual too. Those are the five. Lesley Logan 24:24 Yeah, this is really cool. So because I, I feel like you know, the whole reason this podcast exists is that people think that they have to fake it till they make it and like I'm not about that because like I think that like acting as if you're the person that you want to be allows you to make decisions like that person would. And so when I was, what I was attracted to this topic so much is that like, I see so many people with all the tools they have all of them they actually have the goals, they have the things and they keep self-sabotaging or staying stuck or playing small or replaying a story. Well, last time I tried to do something this happened to me, and so, I love that you found these five, and also all these things that like, I think so many people are walking around from betrayal symptoms, not just like, you know, like depression is a symptom of betrayal. It's not that you know, so I feel like we're going around trying to heal symptoms, and not actually the cause of the problem. Is that what your studies all found? Debi Silber 25:21 It is 100%. Because think about it, like, for example, 45% of everybody betrayed has a gun issue, you could go to the best good doctor on the planet, I'm friends with many of them, right? But here's the thing, that the amazing protocols they recommend will only take you so far, if there's an unhealed betrayal at the root of it. Unless and until you heal that, that's the issue. Or let's say, you know, you've in the beginning you you couldn't hold food down, and later on, you become an emotional eater, then you try to lose weight. Well, and you try all these weight loss things, that's not the issue or you can't sleep. So you start taking something for sleep, or your adrenals have tanked and you're taking something like some sort of adrenal support, they're all wonderful, right? But at the root of it is that unhealed betrayal. But when you move out of stage three into stage four, and five, what we see constantly within the PBT Institute, that's where you are ready for a new level of relationship with someone entirely new or with a completely revamped person of the person who hurt you. That's when we see new levels of health. That's where if I tell you how many businesses get birthed in stages four and five, the PBT Institute, that was a stage five thing, you don't have access to all of that newness when you're stuck in your trauma. You get your story, but that's really just about all you're getting. Lesley Logan 26:43 Yeah. Yeah. So hurt me wonders. Like, do you think there's some people who have particularly like, locked the betrayal so much that they're, they're almost in denial that their problems are from betrayal like it? Some of these things might have happened when they were children? Some of these things happen when they're adults. How do you go about like understanding what betrayal you need to heal from if you're not aware? Like, I mean, people might think like Lesley, you're crazy. No, like, if my partner had cheated on me, that's a very obvious betrayal. But there might be some betrayals that like happened to you that were kind of can you're conditioned to so you don't even call it that you think it was your fault. So I guess I'm just wondering if, if there's like some ways to figure out if betrayal is what you're going through?Debi Silber 27:27 100%. So take a look at your health, your work, your relationships will see it in these three areas all the time. For example, in your relationships, I'll see an unhealed betrayal in one of two ways. The first is a repeat betrayal. The face has changed, but it's the same thing. You keep going from boss to boss to boss, friend to friend to friend, partner to partner and partner, like what the heck is it me? Yes, it is, not in that it's your fault. In that it's your opportunity, there is a gigantic lesson waiting to be learned. You are lovable, worthy and deserving. You need better boundaries in place, whatever that lesson is, until and unless you get that you're gonna have opportunities in the form of people to teach you. Like, for example, in my case, I had a painful betrayal from my family. And then I was like, all right, let me just heal from this. I think I'm over it, I'm good. And then my husband, but look at what I did here for me, I never did anything for myself, I wasn't even on my own like to-do list, you know, for me to enroll in a Ph. D. program. I didn't know who was gonna pay for it. I didn't know how I was going to manage the time. If I tell you how many people said I was full-blown crazy, right? But in making such a radical decision for me, it completely changed my life. And just to close the loop on my story, so everybody knows. Healing and rebuilding is always a choice whether you rebuild yourself and move on and that's what I did with my family wasn't an option to rebuild with them. Or if the situation lends itself if you're willing, if you want to you rebuild something from the ground up new as two entirely different people. That's what I do with my husband. So not long ago as two totally different people, we married each other again. Debi Silber 29:10 Oh my God. Debi Silber 29:12 New house, new dress, and our four kids is our bridal party. Betrayal will show you who someone truly is. It also has the opportunity to wake them up to who they temporarily became not that you need to do anything with that. But yeah, what most people do though is they're so afraid of the complete and utter death and destruction of the old as the only way you birth the new.Lesley Logan 29:37 This is, I'm happy to hear that because it sounds like you both had to go through some things for that to actually come back and like refine each other in massive ways. And I'm sure it wasn't easy. I I like that you break down to like, health, you know, that like relationships and I think the third one was work or was that family? Debi Silber 29:58 Yeah, I'd love to show and explain how it shows up in different areas? So in relationships, it's going to show up in one of those two ways, in repeat betrayal, that is an unhealed betrayal lesson has not been learned. The second way is the big wall goes up, like nope, been there done that no one's getting near me again. And we think that's coming from a place of strength. And it's not, it's coming from fear. Our heart was so hurt that we are unwilling to risk that level of vulnerability, because we just can't fathom the thought of that level of pain again. So we would rather keep everyone at bay, than take the risk of that pain. That's an ideal betrayal. We see it in health, people go to the most well-meaning, very good doctors, coaches, healers, therapists to manage a stress-related symptom illness, condition, disease, at the root of it, like we said before, is that unhealed betrayal. And we see it at work too, where let's say you deserve that raise or promotion. But you don't have the confidence to ask because your confidence was shattered in the betrayal. Or you want to be a team player. You want to be a collaborative partner, joint venture partner, but the person you trusted, the most proved untrustworthy. How do you trust that boss, that co-worker that partner, you see? It's just everywhere, everywhere? Lesley Logan 31:18 Yeah, I was just listening to a podcast the other day, and this girl had wrote in a question like, I want to ask for a raise. My raise last time was like 3%. And I really, I feel like I should be making 10 or 15,000 more than I'm making, I feel that people are, but I like had some mistakes in my past jobs. And all I was thinking is like, not at this job. You've been fine at this job. You can ask for the rate and they're like telling her like, you should be looking at what they're paying you way too little for this, you should be looking at these things. And all I could think is like, this poor person is carrying on some weight on their shoulder as if it's like, I mean, the way she said it was as if she'd like killed someone her past job. And it was, I doubt it.Debi Silber 31:57 Yeah. And you know, when you say that, and the first thing that comes to my mind is worthiness and confidence shattered. That's a betrayal. I'm sure, I'm sure. I wish I could speak to her because I'm sure that's what's at the root. Lesley Logan 32:09 Yeah, I feel like okay, you guys, you guys study all these people. But I feel like almost you don't go through life without like, no one gets flipped through life being unscathed. I feel like betrayal can happen. So some of it so intentionally, I guess maybe it's unintentional as well. Even the people who are cheating on their spouses, like (inaudible) they intentionally I'm betraying this person, but like, it feels so personal like we talked about the beginning, that I feel like it can happen in a lot of different instances just by being part of the world. So I guess I'm wondering, like, is there a way to prevent betrayal?Debi Silber 32:42 You know, integrity? Yeah, here's and that's the thing. It's, it's such a part of our of our lives. And, you know, you wonder, it's like, Why in the world, would this be such a part of our lives, I kind of look at it as it gives you an opportunity to completely catapult yourself to a level of you, you never even thought possible, you know what it's like, it's like, you know, my kids used to love Legos, right? So imagine there's a Lego structure sitting in a corner of the living room, it's that good. It's just there. It's been built, right? And then one day, it's just completely knocked down. Rebuilding yourself, and transforming after betrayal is like looking at that Lego structure and say, you know what, I don't want to use that piece, I don't want to build it that way. I'm gonna use this, I'm gonna do it like that. And you are recreating everything. And betrayal lends itself to creating an entirely new version of you, where you take all the parts of you that you love, and you leave behind everything that no longer serves, like if the old you settled, if the old you tolerated, you know, stuff that this version of you doesn't want to if the old you didn't speak up for yourself, whatever it was, you have so many opportunities after betrayal, because everything's been leveled to decide who it is you want to be. And this isn't just having to do with another person. This is with yourself. Like, for example, after my betrayal, I realized, you know, I was so hard on myself, I was always such a, like, I was criticizing myself and so critical. And you know what? I don't want to do that anymore. So I decided that after betrayal, I used to always do things that I would call so stupid and so dumb, like, I'd get lost wherever I go. It's just part of what I do. They just get lost. And I decided, You know what, I'm just not going to call myself those names. So now when I do those same things, it's simply adorable.Lesley Logan 34:39 Yes, what a kind of way to talk to yourself.Debi Silber 34:42 I'll get lost just as I always do. And now I'm like, you're just so adorable. You see what I mean? So it's like you get to rebuild whatever you want. That's the opportunity but you never access that stuff. When you're stuck. Because you're like I have my story. It's like think about it. I had very powerful story all the people that I trusted all betrayed me. But look at the story now, you know, the books, the TEDx talks, the Institute, thousands of people, to the certified coaches, like, it's a way better story.Lesley Logan 35:12 Yeah. Okay, one more question. Um, now that you've gone through this, and like you've helped all these people who recover and get to stage five, do you find that people who've gone through stage five, if betrayal happens to them, again, they handle it? They don't have to go through all the stages again, or like, do we have to go, we have to, like, we feel all the feelings. Debi Silber 35:34 It's two things. It's number one, it doesn't, it doesn't happen that way, again, because your BS meter is so strong and so sharpened, that you don't attract those types of people in your lives. If you do, there's another lesson needing to be learned. But the good news is you have the tools to get right, you get through it so much more quickly. And like the emotional trajectory of this is like this, and you you breeze through it so much faster. It's like, first, you are so profoundly sad. You're like, oh, my gosh, how could they do this to me? You know, you're heartbroken. And then it moves towards anger, where you like, how do you do that to me, like, what, and that's actually healing. And then you get to this place of almost like pity, like, really, that's like, that's what you have to do. That's actually a really, really great place. Because it's almost as if you were in the picture. And now you're out of the picture, looking at it, seeing it for what it is and realizing it's not you. So that's huge. And then you move, you keep going with the healing, you move towards compassion, when you're in compassion, you're good, that's when you're healed. That doesn't mean you excuse it, you're setting yourself up for it again, none of that, it just means you have completely healed and use the situation to create the most healed healthy, whole, complete version of you.Lesley Logan 36:54 Oh, I love that I that. There's something like very promising and hopeful about that because it, it means you don't have to repeat all of the stuckness and the level three, and you can move through it faster. And I think like you are right, the opportunities are so key. Every person listen, I feel like some of the, you mentioned earlier, some of the best things that have ever been invented have come through people healing from something, you know, I just interviewed a guest who lost her husband to cancer. And she wrote because of how she noticed how people treated her during his cancer. And then after she read a book on like, here's how you help people, and you're going through something, and like, I feel like, you know, we can, it can be so easy. Why is this happening to me, but also not that you'd ever want, like, wish for bad things to happen to you. But my goodness, like, the things that do come from the shit are helping so many more people. And you get to have this incredible journey around you and learn from these lessons. And it doesn't have to be your story. Debi Silber 38:02 Right? Oh, you're so right. And it's so true. Think about it, you know, the most the best health experts. I know, they've been in the worst of health situations and they created their own concoction and healed from it. Someone who's you know, so great at helping you with, let's say finances, maybe they were broken, they came up with their whole recipe. So it's I feel like we have an obligation if we've been through something and we've sort of created a path. How do you not share that like when the five stages showed up? I'm like, How do I keep this myself? You know, so I put the five stages in a program and it blew up and then everyone wants to work with me and lead. Well, how do I do that? So I created our certification program because I wanted to get these five stages out to everybody. And then that blew up and I was like, Wait a second. I did the research. I know what works. I know what doesn't work. What would happen if I put everything that has proven to work under one roof. And that's the PBT Institute. Lesley Logan 38:55 So amazing. You're doing incredible things. Oh my gosh, Debi, this is I feel like so enlightened. I feel like I've got tools. I hope our listeners do too. I could keep talking to you. We'll have to definitely probably revisit this topic again with you soon. But we're gonna take a brief break and find out people can work with you. Lesley Logan 39:12 Now. Okay, where do you hang out? Where's the best place people get your books, people can work with you if they've gone through betrayal? Debi Silber 39:20 Yeah, everything can be found in the PBT as in Post Betrayal Transformation, the PBTinstitute.comLesley Logan 39:26 Perfect. Okay, you've given us some amazing tools and just so much information that I think will help everybody be it till they see it even in the midst of a betrayal. But before I let you go, bold, executable, intrinsic, targeted steps people can take to be it till they see it. What do you have for us?Debi Silber 39:42 You know, I would say if you're stuck in stage three, these are four questions I invite you to write down that's my way of saying write these down. Ready? First one, am I numbing, avoiding distracting? If so hell call yourself on it? Do you walk into the refrigerator, the kitchen, open the fridge and not the least bit hungry like what's going on? Do you go into a room put a TV on because you're desperately trying to drown out the sound of your own thoughts? Call yourself on it. Number two, what am I trying not to see? Call yourself on it. Am I trying not to see that health issue that needs my attention? That relationship issue? The job I hate? Third question, what's life that will look like in five to 10 years if I keep this going the same way you're dealing with it or not dealing with it, play it out. How does it look? The fourth question, what can life look like in five to 10 years if I change now? Not saying it's easy. Transformation begins when you tell yourself the truth.Lesley Logan 39:46 Yeah, and also like you can't, you can't be it till you see it if you don't have some ideas of where you want to like where you want to go to some sort of dream of something that can be on the other side of amazing. I invite you guys to write those questions down and go through it myself. A.k.a., do it. Oh, my gosh, Debi, thank you so much for being here. Y'all, how are you going to use these tips in your life? Please make sure you share this episode with a friend who you know who is going through some betrayal. You know, that person is that person stuck in stage three that you're like, oh my gosh, I wish I could just pull them out. Just send them this episode. You know, you don't have to tell them why you could just send it to them. And please tag Dr. Debi Silber, the Be It Pod and let us know what your takeaways are. We love hearing what these are because it does allow us to see the impact that we're making in your life. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 41:25 That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. 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Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Dr. Debi is also a WBENC-Certified WBE (Women's Business Enterprise) and the founder of National Forgiveness Day, celebrated annually on September 1st. Website: thepbtinstitute.com Social media handles: The latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: youtu.be/iyqOR69dHiU TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: youtu.be/XX30i6nC7ro The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: thepbtinstitute.com/podcast TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber Instagram: www.instagram.com/debisilber Youtube: www.youtube.com/debisilber
Después de una pausa de siete años, el festival emergente ⚡️Goth Fest⚡️ ha resurgido con más fuerza que nunca. Desde los oscuros rincones de la escena underground, el ⚡️Goth Fest⚡️ ha vuelto para satisfacer los apetitos de los amantes del genero mas feroz del planeta. En esta segunda edición, el festival ha reunido a cinco bandas de diversos géneros del metal, cada una con su propia interpretación y energía. Desde el Hard Rock hasta el Death Metal. Platiquemos de lo que sucedió el pasado 18 de Febrero del 2024 con From Betrayal to Vendict, Sick Nebvla, Algos, The Folly Three y Zadic
Después de una pausa de siete años, ⚡️El GothFest ⚡️ regresa con una explosión de energía y una alineación que promete satisfacer incluso a los más ávidos seguidores del género. El GF24 presenta cinco bandas que encabezarán el cartel de este año: From Betrayal to Vindict, Sick Nebvla, Algos, The Folly Three y Zadic. Cada una de estas bandas ofrece un enfoque único y apasionante del metal en diferentes sabores, desde las melodías melancólicas y letras introspectivas de From Betrayal to Vindict hasta la ferocidad y la intensidad visceral de Sick Nebvla, pasando por matices progresivos, y alternativos con Algos, The Folly Three y Zadic
Are you ready to take your relationships to the next level and become a more radiant version of yourself? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Debi Silber, a transformational psychologist, speaker, and author of the book "The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis." Dr. Debi shares her insights and expertise on building radiant relationships that help you become your best self.During our conversation, Dr. Debi covers topics such as:The importance of building a strong foundation for any relationshipHow to identify and overcome limiting beliefs that may be holding you back from creating the relationship you desirePractical tips for effective communication and conflict resolution in relationshipsThe role of vulnerability in building deeper and more meaningful connections with othersStrategies for creating healthy boundaries and maintaining self-care while in a relationshipWhether you're single, in a new relationship, or have been with your partner for years, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable tips to help you build more radiant relationships and become a more radiant version of yourself. Tune in now to learn from Dr. Debi Silber!Learn more about Dr. Debi Silber at https://thepbtinstitute.comRegister for her PBI program https://mypbtinstitute.com/~access/a1...Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/Learn more about Debi SilberDr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Ways to work with Rachel Varga!FREE 30-minute Biohacking For Ageless Beauty Training! https://www.theschoolofradiance.com/freebiesDownload Radiance: The New Skin Science on Audible!Book a One-on-one with Rachel Varga for customized skin care, rejuvenation guidance, and ongoing support! https://www.theschoolofradiance.com/consultation and use code Podcast15!Shop skincare, make-up, hair/skin/nail supplements, grooming tools, dermal rollers, and much more! https://alwaysradiantskinshop.com/Register for my next weekly LIVE and FREE Masterclass on various topics where I answer your questions! https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwuceioqTwiE9O1K1fF1vnLqZBlCvPdkDWc The video replays (which are highly interactive) are available on my skin shop for a small fee here!Join Seasonal Skincare Expert Tutorials on skincare, makeup, hair care (and growth), biohacking, clean peels, pre and post-rejuvenation tips, dermal rolling, and advanced at-home technologies for the face and body! https://www.theschoolofradiance.com/Join The School of Radiance Membership for your personal radiant transformation by cultivating resilient radiance through detoxing from environmental toxins, enhancing communication, enhancing relationships, etiquette, and much more: https://www.theschoolofradiance.com/membershipAs a disclaimer, please note that the information shared in this podcast and interview is not to be taken as medical advice, and it's always important to consult with your physician before making any lifestyle changes. Rachel disclaims any responsibility for inaccurate credentials of guests or information used that may cause harm.Thank you for tuning in to this episode of The School of Radiance with Rachel Varga (formerly The Rachel Varga Podcast and The Always Radiant Skin Podcast)!Rachel Vargainfo@theschoolofradiance.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
The Highly Sensitive Empath and Betrayal: • Highly sensitive empaths often struggle deeply with betrayal because they can feel and anticipate the emotions of others. • Betrayal hits them hard, leading to a profound sense of pain. • Dr. Debi discusses the unique dynamics between narcissists and highly sensitive empaths, highlighting their differences in empathy levels. The Journey to Healing: • Despite the initial crash, highly sensitive empaths can embark on a journey of healing. • By working through the five secrets of betrayal to breakthrough, they can find peace, joy, and fulfillment. • Dr. Debi emphasizes the importance of not getting stuck in stage three by endlessly retelling the betrayal story without a plan for moving forward. The Five Stages of Healing: • Dr. Debi outlines the five stages of healing from betrayal: stage one through stage five. • She discusses the transition from stage three to stage four, which is action-oriented and focused on personal transformation. Coffee Chats and Couples Counseling: • Dr. Debi hosts open Q&A sessions called "Coffee Chats" in the PBT Institute, where members can ask questions. • She shares insights on couples counseling after betrayal, emphasizing the need for validation and understanding. Transforming After Betrayal: • After betrayal, there is an opportunity for personal transformation and the birth of a new self. • Dr. Debi highlights the importance of healing physically, mentally, and emotionally. • She encourages individuals not to settle for just being "okay" with the betrayer but to focus on personal growth and change. Join the PBT Institute: • To navigate the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough, Dr. Debi recommends joining the PBT Institute, which offers tools, support, and a supportive community. • The goal is to help individuals become confident, healthy, peaceful, and happy on the other side of their healing journey. Thank you for listening to this episode of "From Betrayal to Breakthrough." Here's to your breakthrough! For more information and resources, visit the PBT Institute website: PBT Institute
Betrayal. It's a harsh word that carries a heavy burden. We've all faced it in one form or another, and its aftershock can be devastating. But what if I told you, it could also be transformative? Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation™ Institute, joins me to explore the complex realm of betrayal and its aftermath, sharing her own personal journey of overcoming betrayal and the wisdom she gained along the way.Together, we reveal the profound impact of betrayal, and the unique opportunities it presents for personal growth. Discover the common symptoms of post-betrayal syndrome, and the enlightening research findings on the transformational power of overcoming betrayal. You'll learn about the different stages of healing, the potential pitfalls, and how to move forward towards transformation. With Dr. Silber's expert guidance, you'll discover how to navigate the healing stages, rebuild your life after a betrayal, and recognize the potential signs of unhealed wounds.But our exploration doesn't end there. We delve deeper into the intricate process of healing, examining how betrayal affects various areas of our lives, including our relationships, health, and work. Dr. Silber shares insights from her three-month program at the PBT Institute, specifically designed to aid individuals on their journey through the healing stages. We also tackle the concept of self-betrayal, stressing the importance of making a concerted effort to overcome it. Intrigued?Listen in for an enlightening discussion on post-betrayal transformation and be sure to check out the PBT Institute for more resources.About our Guest:Dr. Debi Silber is an award winning and 2-time TEDx speaker, the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute, host of the podcast From Betrayal to Breakthrough which is globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts, is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author.https://thepbtinstitute.com/Join our private Facebook community for BONUS content to ignite your own Relaunch: https://www.facebook.com/groups/232280334811612/Interested in being a guest on the ReLaunch Podcast or booking Hilary as a guest? Email us at hello@therelaunchco.comFind Us on Your Favorite Podcast App - https://the-silver-lined-relaunch.captivate.fm/listenThe ReLaunch Your Magic Retreat is the ultimate event that will guide you in manifesting a heightened level of success even if your entrepreneurial spirit has fizzled out. Register now at: https://www.therelaunchcocourses.com/ReLaunch-Your-Magic
Rebuilding trust after betrayal is a challenging and complex process that requires effort and commitment from both parties involved. Welcome to another enlightening episode of ‘From Betrayal to Breakthrough', where we dive deep into the intricate process of rebuilding trust in relationships. In this episode, Dr. Debi guides us through the challenging journey of healing for both those who shattered trust and those grappling with its aftermath. Dr. Debi shares profound insights and practical advice, offering a beacon of hope for individuals seeking to mend the fractures in their relationships. One pivotal piece of guidance involves offering a sincere and heartfelt apology for those responsible for breaking trust. Taking full responsibility is the crucial first step toward reclaiming personal power and initiating the healing process. This challenging moment also serves as an opportunity for self-reflection. Dr. Debi encourages us to assess what we were tolerating that no longer serves our well-being. By identifying non-negotiables and establishing boundaries, we can regain control over our lives and cultivate a healthier future. Healing is a time-consuming process, and Dr. Debi emphasizes the importance of patience with oneself and the overall journey. Regardless of the choice to grant another chance or move on, focusing on personal healing is important. Join us on this episode as Dr. Debi imparts valuable insights, empowering you to navigate the intricate path of restoring shattered trust and moving forward toward a brighter, more fulfilling future. It's time to heal, grow, and rediscover the strength within. Key Takeaways: [00:01:31] Taking responsibility for shattered trust. [00:03:14] Pulling others up. [00:05:54] Healing from betrayal is possible. Memorable Quotes "If you're the one who shattered the trust, apologize sincerely. Go for it. Don't hold back. Go for it. Own it. Take 100% full and complete total responsibility. It's how you take your power back. And it's the road to start healing." – Dr. Debi Silber "Be really careful of the support that you get because the wrong support does more harm than good." – Dr. Debi Silber Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: thepbtinstitute.com
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On today's episode I speak with Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the Post Betrayal Institute, and holistic psychologist, about how to heal from betrayals in our lives. It is a powerful episode that walks us through betrayal, and how we can rebuild ourselves and our lives as we heal from the hurt. Whether you've been betrayed by a family member, spouse, friend, co-worker, or other person recently or decades ago you will get so much out of this episode.Some of the topics covered:How to heal from a betrayalWhy betrayal is a different type of crisis There are 5 Stages to heal from betrayalThere are a collection of symptoms common to people who experience betrayalHow an unhealed betrayal is impacting your health, work and relationships todayConnect with Dr. Silber at thepbtinstitute.comAbout Dr. Silber:Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, The Rebuild Roadmap, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts.
Let's explore the profound lesson that betrayal teaches us in this new episode of "From Betrayal to Breakthrough." Whether it's learning to love ourselves, setting better boundaries, or prioritizing our own needs, each betrayal presents an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Dr. Debi shares her personal experience and research on post-traumatic growth, revealing how betrayal felt distinct and prompted her to investigate further. She also shares one of our member's journeys of betrayal from her mom, which unknowingly affected her marriage. Through self-reflection and a commitment to change, she's now ready to make a change and prioritize herself. Many of us struggle with speaking up and prioritizing our needs due to a fear of shaking up those around us. This episode challenges that mindset and encourages you to embrace change, even if it means upsetting others. Remember, it's better to upset yourself than to sacrifice your own well-being for the sake of others. Join in now as Dr. Debi explores the power to write the script for how people treat us and the importance of seeking help in rewriting it. Discover the power of change and the version of yourself that is waiting to be created and discovered. Tune in for valuable insights and resources to support your own transformation journey. Key Takeaways: [00:01:36] Post-betrayal transformation. [00:03:35] Shaking up and upsetting. [00:05:23] Trust feels different than expected. Memorable Quotes "But betrayal gives you the opportunity to create a version of you that never would have had the opportunity to exist and be created had that experience not happen.” – Dr. Debi Silber "That's what truth and trust feels like. There's no deception. There's no pretending that there's something that they're not or someone that they're not. They're just authentic and real." - Dr. Debi Silber Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/
Betrayal, it can be devastating to the victim and ruin their lives as we carry it with us everywhere we go. Many Empaths are still tying to make sense on how to forgive and move on after betrayal. We take a deeper dive into the five stages of betrayal in greater detail in this episode in order to help you move on. It can be done! My next guest Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Don't miss this episode! https://thepbtinstitute.com Please support my work: https://anchor.fm/oncallempath/support Top 10 Recovery Podcast On The Web Rank https://blog.feedspot.com/trauma_podcasts/ Over 150+ Guests WorldWide For Coaching: Rajmontage@protonmail.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/on_call_empath https://linktr.ee/oncallempath Youtube Channel: https://youtu.be/p0lDLstiiYM Disclaimer-This podcast's subject matter, which contains sensitive medical and mental health issues, is for entertainment purposes and does not constitute medical, legal, or any other type of professional advice. If you have any health concerns, please see a doctor or medical professional. Intro credit: Covert Narcissist Info IG Please support my work: https://anchor.fm/oncallempath/support Top 10 Recovery Podcast On The Web Rank #4 https://blog.feedspot.com/trauma_podcasts/ Over 150+ Guests WorldWide For Coaching: Rajmontage@protonmail.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/on_call_empath https://linktr.ee/oncallempath Youtube Channel: https://youtu.be/p0lDLstiiYM Disclaimer-This podcast's subject matter, which contains sensitive medical and mental health issues, is for entertainment purposes and does not constitute medical, legal, or any other type of professional advice. If you have any health concerns, please see a doctor or medical professional.
Betrayal is a deeply painful experience that can shatter our sense of trust, security, and self-worth. Whether it's infidelity in a romantic relationship, deceit from a close friend, or betrayal in any other form, the aftermath can leave us feeling lost and broken. However, it is possible to rebuild and advocate for ourselves after betrayal. In this empowering episode of "From Betrayal to Breakthrough," Dr. Debi sits down with Attorney, TEDx Speaker, and Betrayal Recovery Expert, Lora Cheadle. Together, they dive into the topic of advocating for yourself after infidelity and discuss the importance of setting boundaries, redefining your identity, and trusting your truth. They explore how betrayal can change us, both for better and for worse, and how it uncovers the truth of who we are and our potential for growth and healing. Lora opens up about her personal journey of betrayal and the invaluable lessons she learned along the way. She offers powerful insights and strategies for navigating the difficult stages of betrayal and redefining your identity. Lora's message is one of hope and resilience, reminding us that we will be more than okay, and that we have the potential to create a life filled with love, meaning, purpose, and deep connection. Whether you've experienced betrayal or simply want to learn more about personal growth and healing, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies for moving forward. Don't miss out on this transformative conversation! Key Takeaways: [00:02:18] Discovering self-worth after betrayal. [00:05:18] Living for me. [00:08:11] Redefining boundaries and pushback. [00:10:45] Prioritize self-care and set boundaries. [00:12:55] Choosing your heart. [00:15:20] Finding your passion. [00:16:44] Acceptance leads to growth. [00:19:59] Betrayal uncovers the truth. [00:22:01] Opportunity to transform through trauma. [00:23:23] Flaunting your fetish. Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/ Links Mentioned In This Episode https://loracheadle.com/betrayal-recovery-guide/ https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Memorable Quotes "I could be miserable and bitter, I could hate these other women, I could hate my husband, I could spend the rest of my life telling this story about this horrific thing that had been done to me, and where I was entitled to be a victim, I could test that story for the rest of my life, or I could actually start living for me.” – Lora Cheadle "Living for me means I am the only one that is going to advocate on my own behalf. Nobody else is ever going to come in and say, ‘Oh, you look tired. Why don't you go take a nap? I'm going to make you a cup of tea and hand you this book. Will you sit here and read?' That's up to me to determine what I need and to create that space and those boundaries to get it." - Lora Cheadle
When we experience betrayal, it's an opportunity for us to redefine who we are and how we want to show up in the world. This is a sacred and personal time that should not be rushed or influenced by others' agendas. Take the time to reflect, heal, and rediscover your true self. In the latest episode of "From Betrayal to Breakthrough," Dr. Debi dive deep into the topic of redefining and rewriting the rules after experiencing betrayal. Whether it's a personal or professional betrayal, it's crucial to take this time seriously and be mindful of who you surround yourself with during this delicate period. It's also essential to recognize that tolerating abuse, whether it's emotional or otherwise, comes at a significant cost. We must prioritize our healing and well-being by seeking the right tools, support, and community to move through the five stages of betrayal to achieve breakthrough. At the PBT Institute, we provide a safe space for individuals to heal and transform their lives. Remember, redefining our lives, healing from betrayal, and embracing change are all within our reach. You deserve to live a life filled with confidence, health, peace, and happiness. We're here to support you every step of the way. Key Takeaways: [00:01:29] Redefining and rewriting the script. [00:04:09] Rebuilding after betrayal. [00:05:13] Don't tolerate abuse, seek support. Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Memorable Quotes "And I'm so proud of the ones who are diving in, doing the work and doing something really good with something really painful.” – Dr. Debi Silber "If rebuilding is in the cards, rebuild right. If not, become your best. There's so much at stake by tolerating abuse. You need the right tools, support, and the right community to move through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough." - Dr. Debi Silber
The Impact of Betrayal and How to Heal with Dr. Debi Silber Betrayal can come in many forms, whether it's a broken trust in a relationship, a deceitful act by a close friend, or a professional betrayal. No matter what form, the fact is, it hurts and experiencing it feels so much more painful than many other kinds of trauma. Helping us explore the why behind that today, along with how we can move past betrayal and bring healing is my dear friend, Dr. Debi Silber. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, The Rebuild Roadmap, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Inside this episode: The 3 discoveries made during Debi's study on betrayal How an unhealed betrayal impacts our health, work and relationships Questions we can ask ourselves to see if we're numbing/avoiding/distracting ourselves How to move forward and heal from a betrayal experience Betrayal is a deeply painful experience, but it is possible to heal and find a new sense of self. By understanding the impact of betrayal, embracing the healing process, and seeking support, you can begin your journey toward resilience, growth, and confidence. Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Learn More & Connect with Debi! Visit her website Connect on Instagram Check out her podcast, From Betrayal to Breakthrough To Your Success, Love, Louise
The Impact of Betrayal and How to Heal with Dr. Debi Silber Betrayal can come in many forms, whether it's a broken trust in a relationship, a deceitful act by a close friend, or a professional betrayal. No matter what form, the fact is, it hurts and experiencing it feels so much more painful than many other kinds of trauma. Helping us explore the why behind that today, along with how we can move past betrayal and bring healing is my dear friend, Dr. Debi Silber. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, The Rebuild Roadmap, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Inside this episode: The 3 discoveries made during Debi's study on betrayal How an unhealed betrayal impacts our health, work and relationships Questions we can ask ourselves to see if we're numbing/avoiding/distracting ourselves How to move forward and heal from a betrayal experience Betrayal is a deeply painful experience, but it is possible to heal and find a new sense of self. By understanding the impact of betrayal, embracing the healing process, and seeking support, you can begin your journey toward resilience, growth, and confidence. Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Learn More & Connect with Debi! Visit her website Connect on Instagram Check out her podcast, From Betrayal to Breakthrough To Your Success, Love, Louise
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, The Rebuild Roadmap, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thriving-in-chaos/message
I got to interview Dr. Debi Silber Dr. Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. We spoke about: 00:35 Origin story .2:21 Repeat betrayal. 5:10 Wall coming up from a place of fear. 8:00 Before it happens. 8:25 Shock trauma. 9:35 Survival instincts emerge. 14:25 Self Sabotage. 16:40 Healing 23:15 Betrayal waking up the betrayer. 27:15 A waste of trauma. 27:55 Betrayal of expectations. 28:48 Even Though it's happening to you it has nothing to do with you. *Disclaimer: The views and opinions on Roman Prokopchuk's Digital Savage Experience are those of the guest's alone as their own, and the host's alone as his own. Information provided by the guest is fact checked to the best of our abilities. By providing background information to the show, the guest acknowledges that it is as accurate as possible. The show does not endorse, promote, or is in association with the guest's business interests.*
Dr. Debi Silber didn't set out to become an expert on healing from betrayal. But when life handed her one too many opportunities, she decided to re-tool, go back to school, and did research on healing from it.Today, she's the founder of the Post-Betrayal Institute and the host of From Breakthrough to Betrayal Podcast.(Connect with Dr. Debi Silber at the PBT Institute or From Betrayal to Breakthrough Podcast.)You will learn:Therapy is often beneficial, but clients may get stuck repeating the same story again and again without moving forward.According to Dr. Debi, healing from betrayal occurs in five distinct steps that are key to resolving old wounds.Sometimes relationships have to be reconstructed after betrayal to be successful.Listen to another story of an alternate route to healing from betrayal HERE with guest Angela Howard here.Lizbeth's links Support the podcast and Lizbeth's writing for $2 or $5 a month on Patreon HEREOR Buy Lizbeth a Coffee Lizbeth's memoir Pieces of Me: Rescuing My Kidnapped Daughters is now a TV movie, #Stolen By Their Father on Lifetime, now streaming on Roku, Vudu, Hulu, and Amazon Prime. Interested in seeing if you and Lizbeth would partner well for 1:1 coaching? Sign up for one free session to see. Need a motivational speaker? Sign up HERE to talk with Lizbeth about your needs.
Episode 61!Meet today's guest, Dr. Debi SilberDebi is a holistic psychologist, health, and mindset speaker, author and mentor helping people move past betrayal. She is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and the author of “Trust Again.” She is a 2-time, #1 International bestselling author of: “The Unshakable Woman” and “From Hardened to Healed” and hosts the leading podcast: “From Betrayal to Breakthrough”. Debi shares the lessons learned from her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal where she discovered 3 groundbreaking lessons that change our understanding of how long it takes to heal. Enjoy! --------------------------------------------------------------------------------Catch up with Dr. Debi Silber here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/Thanks for listening! Eric Sardina Executive Life Coaching Feeling stuck, empty or out-of-sync at work, at home, or in your relationships? As a business and life coach, I help individuals work through these feelings towards authentic lives of meaning and purpose. I also work with organizations to optimize their teams and individual contributors. Interested in working with me or learning more? Connect with me below: Website: https://www.ericsardina.com - book a free, 15-minute strategy session. https://calendly.com/ericsardina/8-session-authentically-you-discovery-call-website-linkFollow me on: Instagram: @Eric_sardina26.2 Facebook: Eric SardinaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericsardina/ Affiliate: LMNT hydration drink mix: get a free sample pack with your first order by using this link: http://elementallabs.refr.cc/ericsardina
About Dr. Debi Silber: Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. What We Discuss In This Episode: TDr. Debi talks about betrayal-why does it hurt, what does it impact, what does it create? What are the 5 stages from betrayal to breakthrough that were discovered in your study? What's post betrayal syndrome and how do we know if we have it? How does an unhealed betrayal impact our health, work and relationships? What's Post Betrayal Transformation and how is it different from posttraumatic growth? What are the questions we can ask ourselves to see if we're numbing/avoiding/distracting ourselves? How do we know if we haven't healed from a betrayal? How an unhealed betrayal impacts your health, work and relationships? Why we sabotage ourselves and how to stop. Free Resources from Dr. Debi Silber: Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz. https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Connect with Dr. Debi Silber: Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/debisilber Connect with Lynne: If you're looking for a community of like-minded women on a journey - just like you are - to improved health and wellness, overall balance, and increased confidence, check out Lynne's private community in The Energized & Healthy Women's Club. It's a supportive and collaborative community where the women in this group share tips and solutions for a healthy and holistic lifestyle. (Discussions include things like weight management, eliminating belly bloat, wrangling sugar gremlins, and overcoming fatigue, recipes, strategies, and much more so women can feel energized, healthy, confident, and joyful each day. Website: https://holistic-healthandwellness.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/holistichealthandwellnessllc The Energized Healthy Women's Club: https://www.facebook.com/groups/energized.healthy.women Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lynnewadsworth LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lynnewadsworth Free Resources from Lynne Wadsworth: 5 Simple Steps to Gain Energy, Feel Great & Uplevel Your Health: Are you ready to create a Healthier Lifestyle? Would you like to feel lighter, more energized, and even add joy to your life? If it's time to find more balance of mind~body~soul, then I've got the perfect FREE resource to help. In this guide, you'll find my most impactful strategies and I've made applying them in your life as simple as 1-2-3 (plus a couple more) to help you create a healthier, holistic lifestyle. Uplevel your holistic health and wellness and download the 5 Simple Steps to Health here: https://holistic-healthandwellness.com/5-simple-steps-to-a-healthier-you/ How to Thrive in Menopause: Hot flashes? Low Energy? Difficulty with weight management? If MID-LIFE & MENOPAUSE are taking their toll then I've got a solution for you! I've taken all my very best strategies and solutions to help you feel energized, vibrant, lighter & healthy, and compiled them into this FREE resource! Thrive in midlife and beyond - download my guide here: https://holistic-healthandwellness.com/thrive-through-menopause/ Did You Enjoy The Podcast? If you enjoyed this episode please let us know! 5-star reviews for the Living Life Naturally podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Pandora, or Stitcher are greatly appreciated. This helps us reach more women struggling to live through midlife and beyond. Thank you. Together, we make a difference!
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute, a coaching firm helping people overcome betrayal from a loved one. Using a hands-on approach, Debi and her team take their clients through the 5 stages of betrayal to ensure transformative healing and the ability to achieve breakthrough. Learn more at https://thepbtinstitute.com Check out Debi's podcast From Betrayal to Breakthrough Follow our podcast on Facebook @TheOptimalLifePodcast If you enjoyed this episode, you might also like: Ep. 251 - Julie Hall :: Care for Self Ep. 197 - Carrington Smith :: Blooming through Trauma Ep. 165 - Joshua Shea :: Overcoming Porn Addiction
MPF Discussion with Dr. Debi SilberHealing From Betrayal with Dr. Debi Silber About Dr. Debi Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. On this episode of My Perfect Failure (Healing From Betrayal) Dr. Debi provides groundbreaking insights on the steps we can all take to transform our lives after we experience the most devastating of Betrayals. Some of The Areas We Cover• Dr Debi explains Betrayal and why it hurts so much.• Dr Debi describes her 5 stages she has developed from betrayal to breakthrough.• We discuss Post Betrayal Transformation• How unhealed Betrayal impacts our health, work and relationships.• Dr Debi explains how recovery from Betrayal gives us the opportunity to build something entirely new. Contact Dr. Debi The site: https://thepbtinstitute.com The latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilberPurchase Dr Debi's Book: Trust Again: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Trust-Again/dp/B08CPN42DT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=11G4G0WBI12LK&keywords=trust+again+dr+debi+silber&qid=1681576548&sprefix=Dr.+Debi%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-1 Please Leave A Review Like this show? Please leave us a review here, even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Paul: Contact Details · Work with me: paul@myperfectfailure.com · MPF Website: http://www.myperfectfailure.com/ · Insta: follow: https://www.instagram.com/myperfectfailure/ · Twitter: https://twitter.com/failure_perfect · Facebook MPF Private Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/377418129517757
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.To learn more about Dr. Silber check out these links: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Watch Dr. Debi's Recent TEDx Talks! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/
In this impactful conversation, Dr. Silber talks about betrayal and the stages of moving through it to heal from it, recover from trauma, and start to trust others and yourself again.On today's episode, we talk about:1. The Impacts of betrayal, why it persists, and the importance of healing from it.2. Three groundbreaking findings and statistics about betrayal that you should know.3. Destroying the unhelpful myths of “time heals all wounds” and “misery loves company.” 4. The transformative benefits of identifying and overcoming the 5 stages of betrayal trauma.5. Actionable steps you can do to rebuild trust after experiencing betrayal.About Dr. Debi SilberDr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough, is globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Connect with Dr. DebiWebsite: The PBT Institute Resources mentioned in this episodeThe PBT InstituteSupport the show!Want to learn more about us? Visit our website at www.periodtopause.com or send an email to amanda@periodtopause.comFollow us on Instagram: @periodtopauseFollow our Facebook Page: Period to Pause
Let me share with you some pretty astounding statistics about our topic today. This causes 81% of people to feel a loss of personal power after this experience. 94% deal with painful triggers. 71% have low energy. 47% have weight changes. 84%...Have an inability to trust. 67% Prevent themselves from becoming involved in deep relationships. Today we're here to discuss the topic of betrayal and its IMPACT. Betrayal is a trauma unlike any other because betrayal happens when those you are closest to and trust the most BREAK that trust...it becomes so personal and is, therefore, extremely difficult to heal from and can cause a tremendous feeling of loss and sense of self. The reality is that trust CANNOT be repaired...it can only be REBUILT. Our guest today, Dr. Debi Silber, is the founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, and 2-time #1 International Bestselling Author of "Trust Again", "The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis" AND "From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love". and her podcast "From Betrayal to Breakthrough" is also globally ranked. Dr. Debi has completed a PhD on how we experience betrayal and has made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. We'll share these discoveries with you in our podcast today. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. So buckle in, girl. This is a JUICY episode in which Dr. Debi teaches us to: Look at trust like a brick wall. Trust cannot be repaired. It CAN be rebuilt...brick by brick by brick. It it the betrayers job to rebuild that brick wall...not the person who was betrayed. Learn that betrayal is not our fault, it IS our opportunity. In every betrayal, we learn something about the negative narrative that we are telling ourselves perhaps, unknowingly. Until that lesson is learned, you may experience repeat betrayal. If nothing changes...nothing changes. Betrayal is a different type of trauma. When a betrayal happens, your world is shattered...your ability to trust, your sense of self and worthiness. This type of trauma requires a complete rebuild or transformation that is deliberate and intentional. There are 5 predictible stages to betrayal and healing: Stage 1 events leading up to the betrayal that can be mired in the neglect of spiritual and emotional connection. Stage 2 the actual receiving of the news of the betrayal...D-Day. Your stress response has been triggered and you're in a state of overwhelm Stage 3 Survival Mode...this is where most people feel stuck and stay. This is where the numb, avoid, and distract ourselves with food, work, alcohol etc... Stage 4 recreating a new identity...taking with you on this journey of transformation the best parts of you and leaving behind the parts that are no longer serving you Stage 5 healing, rebirth. and new world view. If you understand the "roadmap" you can navigate the healing process in a faster, better way. 5. Face it...Feel it...Heal it... The only way is through it. It may be easy now...but, hard later. Hard now...and easy later. Either way, you must navigate all of the steps to be healed. If you've suffered a betrayal, leave us a review and let us know what you've done to become stronger. Share this episode with a friend! We truly apprciate your ongoing support! You can find Dr. Debi at: Website | ThePBTInstitute.com tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/DebiSilber/ Make sure we're connected: FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife
Let me share with you some pretty astounding statistics about our topic today. This causes 81% of people to feel a loss of personal power after this experience. 94% deal with painful triggers. 71% have low energy. 47% have weight changes. 84%...Have an inability to trust. 67% Prevent themselves from becoming involved in deep relationships. Today we're here to discuss the topic of betrayal and its IMPACT. Betrayal is a trauma unlike any other because betrayal happens when those you are closest to and trust the most BREAK that trust...it becomes so personal and is, therefore, extremely difficult to heal from and can cause a tremendous feeling of loss and sense of self. The reality is that trust CANNOT be repaired...it can only be REBUILT. Our guest today, Dr. Debi Silber, is the founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, and 2-time #1 International Bestselling Author of "Trust Again", "The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis" AND "From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love". and her podcast "From Betrayal to Breakthrough" is also globally ranked. Dr. Debi has completed a PhD on how we experience betrayal and has made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. We'll share these discoveries with you in our podcast today. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. So buckle in, girl. This is a JUICY episode in which Dr. Debi teaches us to: Look at trust like a brick wall. Trust cannot be repaired. It CAN be rebuilt...brick by brick by brick. It it the betrayers job to rebuild that brick wall...not the person who was betrayed. Learn that betrayal is not our fault, it IS our opportunity. In every betrayal, we learn something about the negative narrative that we are telling ourselves perhaps, unknowingly. Until that lesson is learned, you may experience repeat betrayal. If nothing changes...nothing changes. Betrayal is a different type of trauma. When a betrayal happens, your world is shattered...your ability to trust, your sense of self and worthiness. This type of trauma requires a complete rebuild or transformation that is deliberate and intentional. There are 5 predictible stages to betrayal and healing: Stage 1 events leading up to the betrayal that can be mired in the neglect of spiritual and emotional connection. Stage 2 the actual receiving of the news of the betrayal...D-Day. Your stress response has been triggered and you're in a state of overwhelm Stage 3 Survival Mode...this is where most people feel stuck and stay. This is where the numb, avoid, and distract ourselves with food, work, alcohol etc... Stage 4 recreating a new identity...taking with you on this journey of transformation the best parts of you and leaving behind the parts that are no longer serving you Stage 5 healing, rebirth. and new world view. If you understand the "roadmap" you can navigate the healing process in a faster, better way. 5. Face it...Feel it...Heal it... The only way is through it. It may be easy now...but, hard later. Hard now...and easy later. Either way, you must navigate all of the steps to be healed. If you've suffered a betrayal, leave us a review and let us know what you've done to become stronger. Share this episode with a friend! We truly apprciate your ongoing support! You can find Dr. Debi at: Website | ThePBTInstitute.com tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/DebiSilber/ Make sure we're connected: FB | Dear Midlife and IG | @DearMidlife
What holds us back, what helps us heal, and what happens to us physically, mentally and emotionally when the people closest to us lie, cheat and deceit us? Dr. Debi Silber shares 3 groundbreaking studies on betrayal and the path to healing. "Betrayal can show you who someone truly is, but it also wakes someone up to who they temporarily became!" - Dr. Debi Silber Learn more about Dr. Debi Silber and the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute.Take the Betrayal Quiz.Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Grab Your Copy NOW - Amazon Best Seller - Intuitive Goddess by Jill O'Boyle LET'S CONNECT Here To Help You, Let's Talk - Free Clarity Chat with JillLET'S GET SOCIAL https://linktr.ee/JillOBoyleLinkedIn Profile
Betrayal is different than other types of trauma, because it's the self that gets shattered in betrayal. Healing from betrayal must be deliberate and intentional. Unfortunately, most people get stuck in one of the early stages of healing and never experience a full healing. Join my guest, Dr. Debi Silber, as she breaks down how to move through the stages of healing towards your own powerful transformation.Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Resources:Connect with Dr.Debi:LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/debisilber/Website: thepbtinstitute.com/YouTube: youtube.com/c/debisilberPodcast: thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/Mentioned in the episode: Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome? : ted.com/talks/debi_silber_do_you_have_post_betrayal_syndromeTrust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness: goodreads.com/book/show/51472418-trust-againFrom Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love: goodreads.com/book/show/59449893-from-hardened-to-healed
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"When the pain of where you are becomes greater than the fear of the unknown, you jump." - Dr. Debi SilberFacing betrayal can be shocking and heartbreaking. Learn how to move on and cope with pain through this podcast episode on surviving betrayal with Dr. Debi Silber. Better Help : Empath get 10% off your first monthFuture Fitness: Get their first month of personal training for FREEBetrayal by a trusted person, whether it is a family member, friend, or lover, can be one of the most shocking and heartbreaking experiences in life. This episode will cover the three stages of healing and different methods of dealing with betrayal, as well as provide advice on how to move on and cope with the pain it brings.Learn about the 5 stages of Healing from Betrayal. Today I share a conversation with Dr. Debi Silber. She is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts.Follow guest and host on Instagram: @debisilber@ravenscottshow Follow & DM me "free gift" on Instagram: FOR FREE How to Set Powerful Boundaries workshopLimited time Free Ebook Empath & The Narcissist Book : Claim your 60% off membership for just $8.25 a month for the whole year of 2023! Join the Empath Healing Community now! Buy my Healing Guidebook Empath & The Narcissist Hardcover,Paperback, Kindle,Audible : Book free call to have Madhvi show you how to shift stagnant energy in your subconscious to abundance - Emotion Code FREE Inquiry CallMusic YouTube Library: Believe by Neffex#betrayal #narcissist #breakup #toxicrelationships #narcissism #narcissist abuse toxic relationships break up narcissistic personality disorder narcissistic abuse covert narcissist narcissists narcissistic mother how to spot a narcissist mental health Signs you are done depression narcissistic relationship being an empath empathy empaths
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Website: thepbtinstitute.com Podcast: From Betrayal To Breakthrough Instagram: @debisilber LinkedIn: @Debi Silber Twitter: @DebiSilber Facebook: @Debi Silber Youtube: @Debi Silber Episode Chosen by Mary Alzammar, Marketing Communications Manager: Mary Tarez is a Syrian-American working writer and graduate of the University of the Pacific from Stockton, CA. Mary spent a lot of her time in college advocating for low-income students in underrepresented communities. Mary works as The Only One In The Room's Marketing Communications Manager where she applies her talents to our weekly newsletter. Mary is working to publish a collection of poetry where she speaks about the struggle and growth coming from a traditional Arab family home. Finding Mary Alzammar: Istagram: @marytarez Email_ m_alzammar@u.pacific.edu Watch Laura's new TEDx Talk: Confessions From The Only One In The Room PATREON SHOUT OUTS: Mercedes Cusick LMFT, Website: www.mercedescusick.com, IG: @recoverhealbloom Check Out How To Do The Pot Thanks to Kathleen Hahn Cute Booty Lounge is made right here in the USA, by women and for women. The company is incredible, female, and minority-owned and all of their leggings make makes your booty look amazing. Go to https://cutebooty.com/ today! Embrace your body, love your booty! Join our Patreon: Become an Only One In The Room patron by joining us on Patreon! Starting at only $5.00 per month, you'll get bonus content, access to outtakes that the general public will NEVER see, extremely cool merch, and depending on what tier you get, monthly hang time with Scott and Laura. Join our Patreon today at https://www.patreon.com/theonlyonepodcast Be sure not to miss our weekly full episodes on Tuesdays, Scott Talks on Wednesdays and our brand new series On My Nightstand on Fridays by subscribing to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. Join our Only One In The Room Facebook Group if you'd like to ask a question of any of our upcoming guests for this series. Also visit the website www.theonlyonepod.com for the latest from our host Laura Cathcart Robbins like featured articles and more. We love hearing from you in the comments on iTunes and while you're there don't forget to rate us, subscribe and share the show! All of us at The Only One In The Room wish you safety and wellness during this challenging time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week on The Less Stressed Life Podcast, I am joined by Dr. Debi Sibler. In this episode, we discuss betrayal and learning to trust again.KEY TAKEAWAYS:What is post-betrayal syndrome & how to know if you have itHow betrayal is a different type of trauma & what counts as betrayalThe stages of post-betrayal syndrome & how to heal from itGUEST SHARED HELPFUL TIPS ON:How to move past resistance to healHow to learn to trust again post betrayalWhat happens when one partner wants to change/grow & the other doesn'tABOUT GUEST:Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.WHERE TO FIND : Website : https://thepbtinstitute.com The latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/WHERE TO FIND CHRISTA:https://www.christabiegler.com/On IG: instagram.com/anti.inflammatory.nutritionist/Shop our Favoriteschristabiegler.com/shopLoving the podcast? Leave us a review and ENTER OUR GIVEAWAY NOW!Sharing & reviewing this podcast is the BEST way to help us succeed with our mission to help integrate the best of East & West empower you to raise the bar on your health story. Just go to https://reviewthispodcast.com/lessstressedlife
An unhealed betrayal impacts our health, work, and relationships. Unfortunately, too many of us know first hand what it feels like to be betrayed. On this episode, my guest is Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute. Debi is a holistic psychologist, the author of Trust Again, and International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Connect with Dr. Debi Silber and the Post Betrayal Transformation institute:The site: https://thepbtinstitute.comThe latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiUTEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransformTwitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilberLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber
Are you aware of the stages of betrayal? Did you know that low energy, gut issues, weight gain, and more can be attributed to the impact of betrayal, even from situations more than 20 to 30 years ago? Betrayal is an important topic, and we're exploring the stages of betrayal and how to heal from it in this episode with Dr. Debi Silber. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Listen in as we talk about: [3:30] Why Debi decided to study betrayal [5:00] What betrayal can look like [6:45] The three discoveries of betrayal [9:10] Statistics around betrayal [12:30] The stages of betrayal [17:35] How to get out of the effects of betrayal Resources mentioned in this episode: From Betrayal to Breakthrough Podcast Debi's Books Notes from Natalie: Sign Up for Natalie's Newsletter Collaborate here! Connect with Debi Instagram Twitter Facebook https://thepbtinstitute.com Connect with Natalie Tysdal On Instagram On YouTube On Facebook Website
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Website: thepbtinstitute.com Podcast: From Betrayal To Breakthrough Instagram: @debisilber LinkedIn: @Debi Silber Twitter: @DebiSilber Facebook: @Debi Silber Youtube: @Debi Silber Special thanks to our sponsors: Framebridge It's so easy - frame your photos or send someone the perfect gift. Go to Framebridge.com and use promo code ONE to save an additional 15% off your first order. PATREON SHOUT OUTS: Mercedes Cusick LMFT, Website: www.mercedescusick.com, IG: @recoverhealbloom Check Out How To Do The Pot Thanks to Kathleen Hahn Cute Booty Lounge is made right here in the USA, by women and for women. The company is incredible, female, and minority-owned and all of their leggings make makes your booty look amazing. Go to https://cutebooty.com/ today! Embrace your body, love your booty! The Student Performance Podcast In these episodes we dive deep into the science of concepts that you never knew had such a big impact on your wellbeing as a student. Things like exercise, meditation, sleep, nutrition, cold-exposure all of which will not only transform your life in the classroom but will help you live a more fulfilled life outside of it as well. Join our Patreon: Become an Only One In The Room patron by joining us on Patreon! Starting at only $5.00 per month, you'll get bonus content, access to outtakes that the general public will NEVER see, extremely cool merch, and depending on what tier you get, monthly hang time with Scott and Laura. Join our Patreon today at https://www.patreon.com/theonlyonepodcast Be sure not to miss our weekly full episodes on Tuesdays, Scott Talks on Wednesdays and our brand new series On My Nightstand on Fridays by subscribing to the show wherever you listen to podcasts. Join our Only One In The Room Facebook Group if you'd like to ask a question of any of our upcoming guests for this series. Also visit the website www.theonlyonepod.com for the latest from our host Laura Cathcart Robbins like featured articles and more. We love hearing from you in the comments on iTunes and while you're there don't forget to rate us, subscribe and share the show! All of us at The Only One In The Room wish you safety and wellness during this challenging time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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