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Hey there, Explorers! Dive into this enlightening conversation with Dr. Debi Silber, a renowned author and TEDx speaker, who specialist in the field of betrayal trauma. The acclaimed Dr. Debi Silber, dives deep into the burning topic of betrayal. What a ride it's going to be! From her genesis as a betrayal specialist after confronting her own personal torments, to her trailblazing discoveries on this very misunderstood trauma, Silber doesn't hold back! Ever thought of betrayal as a distinct kind of trauma? Sit back and let Dr. Silber do the unraveling. Uncover her theory of post-betrayal transformation and the real human toll betrayal takes. With insights from her brand-new book, "trust again," and the shocking facts from her post-betrayal syndrome quiz, this is an episode you can't afford to miss! But that's not all! Explore the common mental and physical symptoms of betrayal, the struggle of building meaningful relationships and trusting oneself post-betrayal. Dr. Silber also uncovers the vital role of deliberate, intentional healing. This is a conversation that is raw, real, and transformative - just what you need to relax and reflect. So what are you waiting for? Tune in NOW and experience first-hand Dr. Silber's ground-breaking work. Trust us, it's worth the hype! Topics Discussed: - Betrayal trauma and its effects - Post-Betrayal Transformation - The Five Stages of Healing - Dr. Debi Silber: Specialist in betrayal trauma and author of seven books Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness: Debi Silber (amazon) https://geni.us/TrustAgain Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ The PBT Institute: An institution referenced in the discussions. FREE RESOURSES: 12 day Self-reflection course - https://lorrainenilon.com.au/ Please Subscribe, (Rating, likes and comments) - All of these are the #1 thing that will help us ask more people the important podcast question "what does humanity need to acknowledge and understand to evolve" and will continues to attract "interesting" guests to this podcast. Every single one of you explorers matters to us. A lot ! Enjoying the content and want to show appreciation: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/LorraineNilon
In this episode of “The Journey of My Mother's Son” podcast, I sit down to talk with Dr. Debi Silber. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. In her own words, Dr. Silber explains… “I can speak to how an unhealed betrayal impacts your health, relationships, work and life. I have 2 audiences: one who is struggling to heal from a painful betrayal. The other has figured out how to survive their experience and they've resigned themselves to believing that the physical, mental and emotional place they're currently in is as good as it gets. They've settled for a body, level of health, work, relationships and lifestyle that keep them "safe", stuck and small.” To find out more about Dr. Silber, check out her website at www.thepbtinstitute.com.
In this interview with Dr. Debi Silber we discuss recovering from betrayal and post betrayal syndrome. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most.
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. She is a holistic psychologist and a recognized personal development, health, mindset, and empowerment expert. She's a speaker, coach, and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis. Her most recent book is Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. Find more of Dr. Debi and take her free post betrayal syndrome quiz at https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/About Sarah K. RamseyJoin Sarah's FREE Facebook Group “Finding Love & Success After A Toxic Relationship” Before trying Sarah K Ramsey's programs her clients were super embarrassed because on the outside these women appeared to have it all. However, these women had a secret...they still felt mentally chained down by their toxic partner or parent.Most women think talk therapy is the only way to heal! Unfortunately, these women waste years trying to figure out how codependency works or rehashing their past in an office week after week trying to pick apart their childhoods. But, Sarah's clients aren't “most people.” They know overachievers aren't just looking to talk about their problem, they are looking for an action plan to SOLVE their problems!Check out this FREE Presentation where Sarah reveals how she does it! Check out what others have said about SarahContact Sarah
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Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. We do a deep dive into the five steps of transformation, and it's a great presentation. You'll walk away with a much better idea about why you have blocks and resistance points, regardless of whether you have experienced a betrayal in your life or not! Dr. Debi's website (including access to her upcoming 5 day intensive program): https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Follow the LOA Today podcast: https://www.loatoday.net/follow
“If you have an idea, it's because you're the one to see it through.” – Dr. Debi SilberToday's featured international bestselling bookcaster is mom, wife, holistic psychologist, TEDx speaker, and the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute, Dr. Debi Silber. Dr. Debi and I have a high-energy chat about her book, “Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness”, and how an unhealed betrayal impacts our health, work, and relationships. Key Things You'll Learn:How she became an expert on betrayalHow betrayal is predictableHow betrayal affects your bodyHow betrayal show up in your relationships, work, and lifeThe five stages from betrayal to breakthrough Dr. Debi's Site: https://thepbtinstitute.com/Dr. Debi's Books: https://www.amazon.com/Debi-Silber/e/B002BRDG5G?ref_=dbs_p_pbk_r00_abau_000000 The opening track is titled, “Harbinger” by Asis Galvin. To listen and purchase the full track, click the following link. https://asisgalvin.bandcamp.com/track/harbinger You May Also Like… 170 - "Live & Love Beyond Your Dreams" with Riana Milne (@RianaMilne): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/170-live-love-beyond-your-dreams-with-riana-milne-rianamilne/ Ep. 455.5 – “From Triggered to Tranquil” with Dr. Susan Campbell (@drsusan99): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-4555-from-triggered-to-tranquil-with-dr-susan-campbell-drsusan99/ Ep. 328 – “The Greatest Secret” with Hale Dwoskin (@sedonamethod): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-328-the-greatest-secret-with-hale-dwoskin-sedonamethod/ 290 – “The Forgiveness Solution” with Rev. Misty Tyme (@Rev_Misty_Tyme) #C2H: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/290-the-forgiveness-solution-with-rev-misty-tyme-rev_misty_tyme-c2h/ Ep. 440 – “Healer: Reducing Crises” with Elizabeth Power (@ElizabethPower): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-440-healer-reducing-crises-with-elizabeth-power-elizabethpower/ Ep. 425 – “An Imperfect Pilgrim” with Suzanne Ludlum (@SuzanneLudlum): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-425-an-imperfect-pilgrim-with-suzanne-ludlum-suzanneludlum/ 276 – “Over My Dead Body” with Jen Gaudet (@jen_coaching): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/276-over-my-dead-body-with-jen-gaudet-jen_coaching/ 75 - "Life Falls Apart, But You Don't Have To" with Julie Potiker (@JuliePotiker): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/75-life-falls-apart-but-you-dont-have-to-with-julie-potiker-juliepotiker/ Ep. 500 – “Life Reset” With Dr. Foojan Zeine, Psy.D., MFT (@DrZeine): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-500-life-reset-with-dr-foojan-zeine-psyd-mft-drzeine/ Ep. 478 – “Fear Traps” with Dr. Nancy Stella: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-478-fear-traps-with-dr-nancy-stella/ Ep. 471 – “How to Turn Suffering Into Something Good” with Darci Steiner (@DarciJSteiner): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-471-how-to-turn-suffering-into-something-good-with-darci-steiner-darcijsteiner/ Ep. 419 – “Overcoming Toxic Emotions” with Leah Guy: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-419-overcoming-toxic-emotions-with-leah-guy/ Ep. 380 – “The Simplicity of Self-Healing” with Lisa Warner: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-380-the-simplicity-of-self-healing-with-lisa-warner/
IS A FORMER BETRAYAL STUNTING YOUR LIFE OR BUSINESS? TODAY I have with me Dr. Debi Silber who having suffered the pain of betrayal, did all she knew to heal when another deep betrayal occurred. Shattered and devastated she set out to discover what was happening inside of herself. This led to her transformation and three groundbreaking discoveries. Now she is the founder and CEO of The PBT Institute where others come to heal and be transformed. Bio: Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Have you suffered betrayal? Take this quiz and find out where you're at in the healing process: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ https://thepbtinstitute.com/ https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Resources Coaching with Danielle Visit website Additional resources: My book Emerging With Wings on Amazon My book Because You Matter on Amazon Facebook - where the live interviews take place first @daniellebernock https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ Instagram @dbernock https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou Twitter @dbernock https://twitter.com/DBernock LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ TikTok @dbernock https://www.tiktok.com/@dbernock Some links I use are affiliate links where I earn a small commission at no cost to you. #betrayaltrauma #traumaispersonal #crisis #innerhealing #transformation #pbtinstitute #dothework #becauseyoumatter #loveyourself #youareloved #daniellebernock #thatladyontheinternetwholovesyou --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/victorioussoulspodcast/message
Post Betrayal Transformation-an Informative Interview with Dr. Debi Silber#mentalhealth #fidelity #betrayal #advice #TedTalks #happiness #love #forgiveness #strengthDr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most.Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransformLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilberYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/c/debisilberThe Vibes Broadcast Network - Podcasting for the fun of it! Thanks for tuning in, please be sure to click that subscribe button and give this a thumbs up!!Email: thevibesbroadcast@gmail.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/listen_to_the_vibes_/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thevibesbroadcastnetworkLinktree: https://linktr.ee/the_vibes_broadcastTikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMeuTVRv2/And Now!!! The Bandmates' club, Supporters of the channel: Matthew Arrowood Host of The ONLY Brocast podcast:https://youtube.com/channel/UCsfv1wWu3oUg42I2nOtnMTADon Hahn of In the Margins: https://www.youtube.com/c/InTheMarginsBukas Siguro: https://www.youtube.com/c/BukasS%C4%ABgur%C3%B8Will Scoville of Ranch Rehab DIY: https://www.youtube.com/c/RanchRehab
Dr. Debi Silber is the CEO and Founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute.She is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book:The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis,Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness,and her forthcoming book From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love.Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal.In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past any blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome?Take the Quiz:https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/Resources:Website https://thepbtinstitute.comSocial Media profiles:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransformTwitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilberLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilberConsider Supporting The Show!For just the cost of a cup of Joe click the link below:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/laquitastoolboxContact LaQuita Monley:If you would like to be a guest on "LaQuita's Toolbox, please schedule a 15-minute discovery call with me.https://calendly.com/laquitamonley/podcast-pre-booking-callEmail: podcast@laquitamonley.com
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Today I'm joined by Dr. Debi Silber the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute for an in-depth discussion of how we heal betrayal. Dr. Silber's research has shown that betrayal is an experience that does not behave like any other experience out there. It also makes transforming through the betrayal very different from other work and growth we might go through. We discuss not only why this is, but also how to fully heal from it. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach, and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. To connect with Dr. Debi Silber, get access to her quizzes and find her books visit: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ and check out the healed or hardened quiz at www.healedorhardenedquiz.com To connect with Dr. Alex further visit: www.emergentwomencoaching.com Send an email to Dr. Alex- dralex@emergentwomencoaching.com Get $230 off an initial consultation https://www.emergentwomencoaching.com/voucher-7421 Get more free trainings and connect with our private community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/trwcommunity Be sure to check out our website, follow us on Facebook, Linked In, and Instagram.
Betrayal trauma typically refers to the lingering pain and turmoil experienced after: betrayal by a parent or other childhood caregiver. betrayal by a romantic partner. How do you recover from the pain of being hurt, gaining trust back and becoming a better version of yourself? Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 ground-breaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. She joined me this week to tell me more. For more information: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ LinkedIn: @Dr.DebiSilber Twitter: @DebiSilber YouTube @DebiSilber Instagram: @debisilber
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made three groundbreaking discoveries that changed how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach, and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks. Dr. Debi Silber - https://thepbtinstitute.comChris Anderson - https://pencilleadership.com Support the show (https://paypal.me/pencilleadership)
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach, and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. https://thepbtinstitute.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/richard-lamonica/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/richard-lamonica/support
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Mind, Body, and Soul series on the Success InSight Podcast.The Mind, Body, and Soul series celebrates the journeys and stories from health & wellness professionals who are committed to helping their clients and patients realize their physical, emotional, and spiritual courage and well-being.Our guest today is Dr. Debi SilberDr. Debi Silber is the founder of www.ThePBTInstitute.com, a holistic psychologist, recognized health, mindset, empowerment, and personal development, expert. Debi is the host of the From Betrayal to Breakthrough Podcast - The podcast is all about helping those who've been betrayed heal physically, mentally, and emotionally. It's a combination of information, education, inspiration, conversation, hope, love, and healing. It's conversational but listeners want to be sure their time is well spent so they appreciate actionable tips/strategies.Debi is the author of the six books, including her most recent:From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love (Sept. 2021).Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness Hardcover – (Oct. 2020The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis (Feb. 2017)The Unshakable Woman: The Workbook (Jun. 2017)The Five Stages from Betrayal to BreakthroughStage 1 - Focus on thinking and doing, not really prioritizing the feeling and being.Stage 2 - The breakdown of the body, the mind, and the worldviewStage 3 - Development of survival instinctsStage 4 - Finding and adjusting to a new normalStage 5 - The body starts to heal. Self-love, self-care, eating well, exercise, etc.To learn more about Debi and her work, visit her website at https://thepbtinstitute.com/You can also learn more about Debi on the following social sites:FacebookLinkedInTwitterYouTubeInstagramWatch her most recent TEDx talk: "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?"Success InSight is a production of Fox Coaching, Inc.
Today we have an incredibly important episode. My guest is the founder of Post Betrayal Transformation (PBT) Institute; a holistic psychologist; and a health, mindset, and personal development expert. She's been on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more. She is also the best-selling author of the book, The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis, and her newest book, Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. Dr. Debi Silber is an incredible leader when it comes to understanding the psychology, physiology, and mindset that we need to be able to approach the idea of betrayal. In this episode, Debi shares her own life experience with betrayal, the five stages of betrayal that you should know about, and the one stage of betrayal in particular where we all get stuck: the stage that prevents us from healing, moving forward, and living a life with meaning. This conversation was truly enlightening and I cannot wait for you all to tune in to hear Dr. Debi Silber's wisdom. Key Takeaways: [1:03] About today's episode with the incredible Dr. Debi Silber! [2:47] Welcoming Dr. Debi Silber to the podcast! [3:13] Debi shares her story and what led her to the work that she is doing in this world. [4:48] What is betrayal? [6:40] What happens physiologically when you get betrayed? Debi shares how betrayal shows up in us emotionally, physically, and mentally. [9:56] Are some people more susceptible to the symptoms of betrayal? [11:12] The difference between betrayal and grief, and an intro to the five stages of betrayal. [12:24] The five stages of betrayal. [17:14] How do we move through these five stages of betrayal? What is stopping us? [18:32] Debi shares what happened for her when she moved through the five stages of betrayal and came out the other side. [19:46] What conversations does Debi have with her children regarding betrayal? What has she taught them about it? [22:13] How can you recognize if you haven't healed from a betrayal? And what are the first steps you could take to heal? [23:41] How to differentiate between having healthy boundaries vs. having trust issues. [25:44] What are some of the commonalities of those who lean into the experience of healing from betrayal as opposed to letting it define who they are. [27:18] Debi shares the third groundbreaking discovery she made with regards to changing how long it takes to heal. [28:30] Debi shares a universal message on those currently experiencing betrayal in today's world. [33:40] Debi's key performance indicators! [35:16] Where to learn more about the work Debi is doing in this world. [35:40] Thanking Dr. Debi Silber for joining The Entrepology Podcast! Mentioned in This Episode: The PBT Institute IMPACT LIVEs — November 18th‒21st, 2021 More About Dr. Debi Silber Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist; a health, mindset, and personal development expert; the author of the #1 bestselling book, The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis; and her most recent book, Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made three groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach, and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. Connect with my Guest: Website: ThePBTIinstitute.com Social Media: Facebook & Instagram @debisilber If you enjoyed our conversation and would like to hear more: Please subscribe to The Entrepology Podcast on Stitcher or iTunes. We would also appreciate a review! Come Join Your Community on The Entrepology Collective Facebook Page! They say that you're the product of the five people with whom you spend the most time. Imagine you could spend time with hundreds of fellow entrepreneurs and go-getters looking to up-level their business, body, and mindset! Come hang out with us on Facebook and let us collectively inspire and support you towards your vision of contribution, your commitment towards better health, and your journey of mindset mastery. We're in this together! Come join us today! CALL TO ACTION Do you think you may be struggling with post-betrayal syndrome? Take the free quiz over on Dr. Debi Silber's website at ThePBTIinstitute.com/Quiz to learn more. Tweetables: “If anything is going to have you wake and realize what matters, it's losing everything that matters.” — Dr. Debi Silber “I studied betrayal; what holds us back, what helps us heal, and what happens to us … when the people closest to us lie, cheat, and deceive. That study led to three groundbreaking discoveries which changed my health, my business, my family, and my life.” — Dr. Debi Silber “I define [betrayal] as the breaking of a spoken or unspoken rule. And every relationship has them. The more you trust and the deeper you depend on them, the deeper the betrayal.” — Dr. Debi Silber “We've all been taught that time heals all wounds and I have proof that that is not true.” — Dr. Debi Silber “There are five stages [of betrayal] that we will go through from the place of walking in with symptoms of post-betrayal syndrome to that … completely healed state called post-betrayal transformation.” — Dr. Debi Silber “We even know what happens physically, mentally, and emotionally at every one of those stages [of betrayal] and what it takes to move from one stage to the next. Most people … are stuck in stage 3 … — and transformation doesn't even begin until stage 4!” — Dr. Debi Silber “Unless we can imagine something other than what we currently experience, we're stuck.” — Dr. Debi Silber
This week on Divorce & Beyond, Dr. Debi Silber, the Founder of the Post-Betrayal Transformation Institute is back to visit with Host, Susan Guthrie, and she is here to help you break free from the victim mentality that can accompany the betrayal of a loved one, including adultery and financial infidelity. Dr. Debi is a holistic psychologist whose ground-breaking research on the topic of betrayal and recovery led her to identify the four stages of betrayal and create a program to help people move beyond the pain and heal so that they can thrive and be happy again. Unfortunately, many people find themselves stuck in Stage 2 of the process, dwelling in the victim role, the hurt, anger and rage. There are many valid reasons to remain in this space but they will keep you from moving forward and beyond the betrayal to live a healthy and happy life. In this episode, Dr. Debi outlines the four stages of the process and shares tips and insights into the "whys" and "hows" of healing and learning to trust again. She herself has been down the path and healed and that in and of itself is a story worth listening to this episode for! As a VERY SPECIAL GIFT for listeners of Divorce & Beyond, Dr. Debi is giving away THREE of HER BEST-SELLING BOOKS to one very lucky person. Just listen to the episode all the way to the end to learn how to win! Contact Dr. Debi: www.pbtinstitute.com Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Get Dr. Debi's Books: Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/ The Unshakable Woman: https://amzn.to/3DlJzFK The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook: https://amzn.to/3qCXJi8 New book: From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love: https://amzn.to/321sFhX MORE INFORMATION ABOUT THIS WEEK'S SPECIAL GUEST: DR. DEBI SILBER Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. 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Dr. Debi Silber is a holistic psychologist! She is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute, and a health, mindset and personal development expert! She the author of the #1 bestselling book- The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis. Her latest book is called Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made groundbreaking discoveries that changes our perception on how long it takes to heal from trauma. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals, as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most! And be sure to take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz here!Find Dr. Silber at-https://thepbtinstitute.com/
Dr. Debi Silber is the CEO and Founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness, and her forthcoming book From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past any blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/ Support the show
Experiencing betrayal is one of the most complex interpersonal, personal, psychological, and emotional experiences we can undergo. My special guest, Dr. Debi Silber, describes how her personal experience with the trauma of betrayal became the starting point for her personal growth and professional expertise in the area of betrayal.In this jam-packed episode, you will hear how Dr. Silber's research into the stresses and symptoms suffered by people who have been betrayed showed her how betrayal is distinctly different, and more shattering an experience than other types of stressful events. Dr. Silber describes both the symptoms of Post-Betrayal Syndrome and the 5 predictable phases of Post-Betrayal Transformation in clear and interesting detail; she also shares her own story of reconciliation after betrayal. Dr. Debi Silber is the CEO and Founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness, and her forthcoming book From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx, and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach, and author dedicated to helping people move past any blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.Timestamps: [3:41] The start of Dr. Silber's experiences with trauma and betrayal[6:32] The reason why betrayal is so traumatizing[10:43] The stunning results of Dr. Silber's research on the symptoms of betrayal[16:20] The 5 stages of Post-Betrayal Transformation[25:46] Dr. Silber answers the question, “Can trust be repaired?”__________________________________________________________For more information on the Make Time for Success podcast, visit:https://www.maketimeforsuccesspodcast.comConnect with Us!Dr. Christine Li -Website: https://www.procrastinationcoach.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/procrastinationcoachInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/procrastinationcoach/Dr. Debi Silber -Website: https://thepbtinstitute.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransformLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/
#32 - In this episode, I'm honored to have a conversation with Dr. Debi Silber. She is the CEO and Founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness, and her forthcoming book From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You Love. Dr. Silber shares her 3 groundbreaking discoveries on how we experience betrayal and the 5 stages a person goes through on their way to heal. Her insights will help anyone who is stuck and may not even realize it. Dr. Silber has been on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past any blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Links mentioned in this episode can be found below. Her new book is out now - From Hardened to Healed (https://thepbtinstitute.com/fromhardenedtohealed/) Quiz to find out what stage you may be in: Healedorhardenedquiz.com Hope you enjoy this episode! Don't forget to Follow this podcast so you can be notified when the latest episodes are released. Love the podcast? Give us a rating and review!
We've all experienced betrayal in one way or another. Do you know if you've healed and are ready to share your story? Or you're still carrying it around and sabotaging your own success? Dr. Debi Silber shares a simple way to figure it out. Dr. Debi is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset, and personal development expert. She is the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis. Her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Follow her here: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber
In this episode I speak with Debi Silber about betrayal, both in her personal experiences and evidenced by research. We discuss about post betrayal syndrome (and the stages of this), how to heal from betrayal and open your heart to love and trust again. About Debi: Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Where to find Debi: The site: https://thepbtinstitute.com The latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Gifts: Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Trust Again: Download your free chapter: https://thepbtinstitute.com/freegift/ Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/ Contact: Dr. Debi Silber: Debi@PBTInstitute.com Kisha Stephens: Kisha@PBTInstitute.com Where to find me: beckycrepsleyfox.com Instagram - @becky_crepsley_fox TikTok - @becky_crepsley_fox Clubhouse - @becky_c_fox Facebook - Becky Crepsley-Fox
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Today on the show, we talk about Post Betrayal Syndrome, the impact betrayal trauma has on the body and the psyche, and how people can heal from intimate partner betrayal through a process called Post Betrayal Transformation.
Betrayal is a form of trauma. Like any trauma, it impacts our health. But there are elements of betrayal that make it unique. I'm joined by Dr. Debi Silber to talk about what she learned about Post-Betrayal Syndrome from her own experiences and research. The five stages from betrayal to breakthrough are: Neglected emotions/intuition Shock The emergence of survival instincts Adjusting to a new normal Healing, rebirth, and a new worldview About Dr. Debi Silber Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. She is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis, and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made three groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach, and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. How Our Bodies and Minds Hold on to Betrayal When faced with a betrayal, many people find themselves in one of three groups. There are those who try to avoid their feelings through numbing or distractions. Others deny the experience altogether. In the third group are people whose betrayer faces no consequences at all. Debi explains how people in these groups often experience a further deterioration of relationships as well as illness. Physical, mental, and emotional issues are common elements of post-betrayal syndrome. Debi shares how this will go unresolved until we face the root cause head-on. In her research, Debi has seen the impact of unresolved betrayal. Many people experience gut issues, energy deficits, and weight fluctuations. They may also experience overwhelm, anxiety, shock, and an inability to concentrate. When these combine, it's no wonder that betrayal has long-lasting effects. Moving Through the Stages of Betrayal Through her extensive research, Debi identified the stages of betrayal and how people move beyond it. It often starts with neglected emotions and ignored intuition. People then experience shock. When betrayal is discovered, our worldview is shattered, and mental, emotional, and physical health suffers as a result. This is followed by the emergence of survival instincts. However, many get stuck in this stage and fail to heal fully. They then adjust to a new normal and establish new boundaries. This is when we leave behind what wasn't serving us and seek out new comforts. Healing doesn't really come until the final stage - developing a new worldview. This occurs when we move past surviving and construct new rules and viewpoints based on the entire experience. Have you experienced a betrayal that still affects you? What new boundaries and worldview has emerged from it? Leave a comment on the episode page! Call the Integrative Health and Hormone Clinic today and schedule your first appointment at 319-363-0033. Quotes “Because it feels so intentional, we take it so personally. The entire self needs to be rebuilt. Rejection, abandonment, confidence, worthiness, belonging, trust - they're shattered.” [8:28] “We've been taught time heals all wounds. I have the proof that's not true.”[9:47] “I'm not saying that betrayal was our fault. What I've come to learn is it really is our opportunity.” [23:38] “Transformation begins when you tell yourself the truth.” [34:42] In This Episode What led Debi to research betrayal [1:40] What betrayal actually is and how it impacts our health [6:20] Moving beyond betrayal to begin healing [12:30] How to know if you have post-betrayal syndrome [22:00] How transformation can occur after a betrayal [25:50] Identifying if you are numbing rather than healing [33:20] Links & Resources The Magnificence of Magnesium Get 10% off Magnesium Chelate: Magnesium Post-Betrayal Transformation Institute TEDx: "Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome?” Take the PBT Institute Quiz Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis Find Your Longevity Blueprint Online Follow Your Longevity Blueprint on Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn Get your copy of the Your Longevity Blueprint book and claim your bonuses here Find Dr. Stephanie Gray and Your Longevity Blueprint online Follow Dr. Stephanie Gray on Facebook | Instagram | Youtube | Twitter | LinkedIn Integrative Health and Hormone Clinic Podcast Production by the team at Counterweight Creative Related Episodes Episode 63: Childhood Trauma and Healing Episode 21: How Trauma Affects Your Health
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. She is a holistic psychologist and a recognized personal development, health, mindset, and empowerment expert. She's a speaker, coach, and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis. Her most recent book is Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. Find more of Dr. Debi and take her free post betrayal syndrome quiz at https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/About Sarah K. RamseyJoin Sarah's FREE Facebook Group “Finding Love & Success After A Toxic Relationship” Before trying Sarah K Ramsey's programs her clients were super embarrassed because on the outside these women appeared to have it all. However, these women had a secret...they still felt mentally chained down by their toxic partner or parent.Most women think talk therapy is the only way to heal! Unfortunately, these women waste years trying to figure out how codependency works or rehashing their past in an office week after week trying to pick apart their childhoods. But, Sarah's clients aren't “most people.” They know overachievers aren't just looking to talk about their problem, they are looking for an action plan to SOLVE their problems!Check out this FREE Presentation where Sarah reveals how she does it! Check out what others have said about SarahContact Sarah
Episode 252 - Interview with Dr. Debi Silber on Betrayal and Marriage Work Check out Dr. Debi Silber's resources below: Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute Check out Dr. Debi's Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz. Biography Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. Find the YouTube Video at: https://youtu.be/UZtqPlFh6i0
Have you, a family member, or friend, ever suffered a betrayal (or perhaps many) that has scarred your life, health, or other relationships? Betrayal comes in many forms, from your family, friends, or even co-workers. Betrayal is a very heavy subject; feeling betrayed can last even a lifetime. Sometimes it seems like we just can't move forward, let alone take the chance it might happen again. In today's Self-Heal podcast episode, you'll learn more about betrayal and how you can help yourselves cope with it to start your self-healing journey. Today we are joined by Dr. Debi Silber, whose expertise and message is so needed in the world, more than ever. Dr. Debi is the founder of the post betrayal transformation Institute, and is a holistic psychologist, a health mindset and personal development expert. She's the author of the number one best-selling book, “The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis”, and now her newest book, “Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness”. Dr. Debi's recent PhD thesis was on how we experience betrayal, and it made three groundbreaking discoveries that changed how long it takes to heal. Are you struggling to trust? You may have Post Betrayal Syndrome. Find out and take the quiz here. https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Topics Discussed: The 3 Discoveries of betrayal Symptoms of post betrayal syndrome Connect with Dr. Debi Silber: Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/debisilber Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/DebiSilber/_created/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Medium: https://medium.com/authority-magazine/dr-debi-silber-of-the-pbt-institute-5-things-you-need-to-heal-after-a-dramatic-loss-or-life-1598b0b47d08 -- SUBSCRIBE: iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-heal-with-dr-irene/id1561226627 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1pxldTJY5MZmneyz8IpSvm Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFTN-EU3umbz_0d0GFwk_Bw Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/show/selfheal-with-dr-irene TuneIn: https://tunein.com/podcasts/Health--Wellness-Podcasts/Self-Heal-(with-Dr-Irene)-p1421793/ Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cDovL3NlbGZoZWFsaW5nLm1pbmRzaGFyZWNvbGxhYm9yYXRpdmUubGlic3lucHJvLmNvbS9yc3M Deezer: https://www.deezer.com/show/2461592 Connect with us! Website: https://drirenecop.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drirenecop/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drirene.health180/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.irenec/?hl=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFTN-EU3umbz_0d0GFwk_Bw
Aeriol sits down with Debi Silber, Founder and CEO, The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute to get into the nitty gritty of how to heal from the emotional trauma of betrayal. Debi shares her own powerful story of life before betrayal and her transformed life after! Lean in for this juicy conversation. Tell us a little bit about the work you do: It's a full service online space to help people heal (physically/mentally/emotionally) from the betrayal of a family member, partner, friend, coworker, self. I did a PhD study on betrayal which led to 3 groundbreaking discoveries-changing everything we know about betrayal and what it takes to fully heal. More about the discoveries and my message in my most recent TEDx talk: "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU . How or why did you begin doing the work that you do?: After 2 painful betrayals (my family and then my husband) I was desperate to heal. At 50 with 4 kids, 6 dogs and a thriving business, I enrolled in a PhD program in transpersonal psychology (the psychology of transformation and human potential). While I was there, I did a study on betrayal-what holds us back, what helps us heal and what happens to us (physically, mentally and emotionally) when the people closest to us lie, cheat and deceive. That study led to 3 groundbreaking discoveries which changes everything we know about betrayal and what it takes to heal. I learned that there's a roadmap for full and complete healing so I wanted to share it with anyone struggling. That's become The PBT Institute.What SUPER TIP or piece of advice would you like to share with the world?: At the root of what's preventing so many people from showing up fully is an unhealed betrayal (from a family member/partner/friend/coworker/self). It's impacting her health, work, relationships, mindset, level of confidence, ability to trust and so much more. You can heal from ALL of it and turn your trauma into transformation. Now there's a proven and predictable way to get there.Guest Bio: Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most.What is the best way for our Podcast Listeners to reach you?: Our quiz: Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinsHealing Vibes with AeriolAeriol Ascher BodyMindSoul.TV & Media Network founder, producer, host and Empowered Self-Care book compilerHealing Body Mind and Soul Network Find the healing body Mind and soul network at BodyMindSoul.TV Get your self-mastery journal and self-mastery oracle deck for special pre-order price at: selfmasteryset.aeriolascher.comAeriol Ascher BodyMindSoul.TV & Media Network founder, producer, host and Empowered Self-Care book compilerHealing Body Mind and Soul Network Find the healing body Mind and soul network at BodyMindSoul.TVSupport the show (https://buymeacoff.ee/aeriol)
Are you afraid to take risks? Do you often doubt your capabilities? If you are, it might be a sign that you're easily swayed by other people's opinions. The people you frequently spend time with have the biggest influence on how you think and behave. This means you should surround yourself with people who inspire you to become your best self and play bigger! Hi, I am Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, we will be discussing how others can hold us back from achieving our dreams, and learn what it takes to regain confidence in ourselves. In This Episode Understand the power of the people around you Discover what's getting in the way of your success Find out how you can play bigger Transcription Hi there, Dr. Debi here with another Dose of Dr. Debi. Are you playing small? I'm asking that because I just found that that's exactly what I've been doing. You may be doing it too so I'm going to tell you a story. You may have heard; “We are the five people we spend the most time with.” So, if you are with people who inspire you to play a bigger game, you will be inspired by that. If you are spending time with people coming from lack and scarcity, it will hold you back. Not only will it hold you back, it's going to have you question your ideas and plans if you are even considering doing something. I'm actually in two different mastermind groups. I'm purposely in those groups because it helps me stretch, and think bigger and grow. I had this idea, and it seemed so crazy and I'm thinking, I can't even share this with them, they're gonna think I'm nuts. But think about it. Any great idea at first was considered nuts until it was okay. But I shared this idea to my group, and to me it seemed so huge. Within minutes, I heard: “Wow, did you think about doing this and did you think about adding that and what about this way and that way.” It made me realize how small I've been playing. I only know that because when we're in our own head, or when we're dealing with people who's who are playing smaller, we can really get caught up in this. I'll never forget a couple of years ago, I was planning a, an event. I was going to do a one day event. And it was terrifying for me I had never done a one day event but in this group I was in, that was part of what we do- you put on a one day event. I'm thinking okay here we go (well, actually they taught us how to do a three day event, and I was playing really small, by just putting on one day event.) It was my first one and I thought, Okay, we're gonna do this one day event, and it's just going to be fabulous. And just fantastic. So I had speakers that I had booked. I got vendors I got sponsors. I was so excited about this. I got the perfect outfit, I mean this thing was just all about transformation and it was going to be the most incredible day. So I had gotten together with a group of people, and we're all sitting around a table. You know when you're all sitting around all taking turns with the question: “What's new with you?” “What's new with you?” “What's new with you?” Well it was my turn. And my event was what was new with me. So I'm going on and on and on and on. And then… Have you ever done that, where you are speaking, and then all of a sudden, you hear how quiet it starts getting? I was busy telling all about this event, and they're kind of looking at me like; “Oh, are you sure you want to do that?” “That's a lot of personal development.” “I mean, asking people to take the day off of work?” “Wow on a Friday and it's $97? That's a lot for something like that. Are you sure you want to do this?” This was totally well meaning. They were trying to spare me the embarrassment, the loss of money. So I started getting really scared because I had never done an event, and I know they were looking out for my best interest. I'm thinking, you know, they're right, they're probably right. So, and I'm thinking okay so I still have time to cancel the venue I'll lose my deposit but, okay, and I'll cancel the speakers before they booked their flights, and I'll tell the vendors, we're postponing it or something and I'll cancel them too, and the sponsors and I have it all figured out. Then I left. I remembered that I am part of this other group so I thought I'd reach out to them and throw it out to them and see what happens (we were in a private Facebook group at the time). I said, you know, it seems just way too big and way too scary, (which means familiar), and you know it's not too late for me to cancel, and how would you go about canceling this? Within about five minutes, I start hearing; “Only one day? Why isn't it two days you have such amazing content?” “It should at least be $197! That's a lot of value for $97!” Are you sure you don't want to raise it to $197?” “Ugh! It's in New York? I wish I was in New York, I'd be there in a minute!” Oh, wow. I looked at the two messages I was receiving. And if I didn't have access to that other group, I would have canceled it in a minute. (Just to close the loop for you on that story. It was an amazing day. It was an incredible experience. And I was so glad I did it.) But if I only had access to the group that was well intentioned, trying to talk me out of it, or looking out for my best interest, I never would have done it and I wouldn't have grown. So my question to you is: Who are you spending your time with? Because it will affect every single thing that you do. Are you playing small? Like I said, I just came back from this event, and I caught myself playing small. I was thinking about this new program I'm designing and this next evolution of my business and I'm thinking, it just sounds so big and so crazy. And it really wasn't at all. It only seemed that way because of what I had been telling myself and what I'd been telling some of the people I had been sharing it with. So, if you have an idea, and you know when it's an idea that does seem crazy. You feel something. It's like your soul's on fire and you know that feeling. It doesn't feel like a chore, or an obligation. It feels like a passion, and then you think: I'm crazy, I can never do that. What Am I nuts? Yes, that's where you need to be a part of a group, or you need to be with like-minded friends that you feel comfortable in sharing something like that with. Because, if you share that to the wrong group, you will cancel, you will think you're crazy, and you just won't do it. But, with the right people, they will help stoke that flame. Before you know it, that one idea that you had in your head will become a reality. I also have two visuals that I picture if I have a good idea but it just seems too big and too scary or too hard. Two things that get me over them. Okay. The first one is I picture my idea now floating around in a thought bubble. And then I picture someone looking up like: “Wow, that's a good idea!” and snatching it. That was my idea, and now it's somebody else's. And if that one doesn't get me, I picture this. I picture sitting my four kids down (they're older now, but when they were younger this was great), and telling them: “You know that idea I had? It was just too hard. I'm not doing it.” And I imagine my four kids are looking at me like: “It was too hard? Is that all you got mom?” So, if one of them doesn't get me over the hump, usually the other one does. To wrap this up. The first thing: If you have a dream, an idea, and inspiration, it's because you're the one who's supposed to be doing it. That's the first thing. The second thing: Be super careful who you share these things with. The right person or the right people will inspire you to go for it. Other people who just don't get it, don't understand, (and they could be totally well intentioned, trying to spare you the embarrassment, the humiliation, the money, whatever it is), they'll have you second guessing yourself in a minute. The third thing: Play a bigger game. Here's where you find that like-minded friend, that group, and that's certainly what we do within The PBT Institute, it is a group like no other. So of course if you're struggling to heal from betrayal and the devastation of a family member, a partner, a friend, a coworker, self, that's where you need to be. But I just really wanted to give you this little reminder, if you're not playing big enough. It's time. So, if you are struggling with betrayal a few things I'd love to suggest to you. Of course, the first one is Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Click here for the book and bonuses. I also have another book coming out very, very soon. And it's really exciting. Not ready to share it just yet because I want to make sure a couple of pieces are in place before I do, but all good stuff. So play a bigger game that's what you're here for. Don't let anybody talk you out of your vision or your dream, and thank you so much. Come back next time, I have a few more little nuggets I want to share in the next few weeks with future Doses of Dr. Debi. Bye. Resources Mentioned PBT PodcastsPost Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and HappinessTrust Again Free Gift
Today I'm chatting with Dr. Debi Silber, the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. In this episode we discuss:What betrayal is, and what it isn't.The link between self-betrayal and betrayal by othersPost-betrayal syndrome and the startling number of symptoms that people experience from itThe difference between trauma and betrayalPost-betrayal transformationThe difference between repairing and rebuilding trust in a relationship after a betrayalThe 5 stages of healing betrayalInsecure childhood attachments and their connection to further betrayal later in lifeTo find out more about The Reactive to Regulated Mother Course --> https://christabevan.com/regulatedmotherFor more from Dr. Debi Silber -->Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/Trust Again: Download your free chapter: https://thepbtinstitute.com/freegift/Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/To connect deeper, join the “virtual village” on Facebook at –> facebook.com/groups/theradicalmothervillageFollow me on Instagram –> instagram.com/radicalmothervillageGrab a FREE copy of the Calm Mom Strategy –> christabevan.com/calmmomGet started with a free 20-minute consult to see how I can support you on your journey of mothering radically –> http://christabevan.com/free-20-minute-phone-consultA radical mother is a woman poised in her power ready to disrupt cycles of generational trauma running through her family like wildfire. She's working to improve her life, the lives of her children, and shape the landscape of her community. If that's you - you're in the right place. This podcast is designed to connect you with resources, inspiration, and the reminder that you are not alone as you embark on your journey of radical mothering.I'm your host Christa Bevan and I'm a certified TRE provider (which stands for tension & trauma releasing exercises), trauma-informed yoga instructor, and also a dynamic self-care coach for moms. And of course, a fellow radical mother. My approach to this work blends neuroscience-backed tools and heart-centered intuition.Did you enjoy today's episode? Be sure to head to Apple Podcasts to subscribe, rate & review the show. Not only do these help me know you're enjoying the content, but they help this work be seen by even more Radical Mothers that need it in their lives too.
Dr. Debi Silber, Founder and CEO, of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation Institute) comes on to Witchcraft & Wellness to discuss Betrayal and the many steps to healing. We talked all about betrayal and what it looks like, the five stages, the symptoms, and Dr. Debi shares how she came across the amazing discovering of healing betrayal. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Dr. Debi invites you to take the quiz below to see if you suffer from Post Betrayal! https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ You can check Dr. Debi out with the links below! https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ https://thepbtinstitute.com https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform
At some point, most everyone gets betrayed by someone. You may think you get over it in time. But did you know that the betrayal you thought you got over twenty years ago can still be wreaking havoc on your life today? It's called Post Betrayal Syndrome and it's the subject of this week's episode of Dream Power Radio. My guest, holistic psychologist Dr. Debi Silber, inspired by the betrayal she suffered in her own life, has studied this for years and has developed a system for healing from betrayal. She explains:•what Post Betrayal Syndrome means and how it affects you•the 5 stages of betrayal•why most people get stuck at stage 3•what makes it hard to heal from betrayal•how to regain trust after a betrayalIf you feel stuck in life, it just might be because of that long ago betrayal. Learn how you can recover and create a new transformative life in this powerful episode of Dream Power Radio. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. Website: https://thepbtinstitute.comFind out if you're suffering from Post Betrayal Syndrome. Take the test at https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Dr. Debi Silber, Founder and CEO, The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute: https://thepbinstitute.com . The only full service, online space to heal physically, mentally, and emotionally from the betrayal of a family member, partner, friend, coworker, self, etc. Website: https://thepbinstitute.com Facebook: hTtps://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://Twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: htts://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: htts://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber
Unhealed betrayal can affect you physically, mentally, and emotionally, taking a toll on your daily life and even manifesting itself in your business. So, how do you know if your emotional baggage is impacting your work? Are there tell-tale signs you must watch out for? I am Dr. Debi Silber and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, I'll be discussing how unhealed betrayal can sabotage you and prevent you from reaching your goals. You will also learn how to identify the barriers to your success so you can overcome them. In This Episode Discover the 7 ways unhealed betrayal can impact your business Learn the first step needed to make a change in your life and heal from betrayal Find out how stress is affecting you Transcription Hi there, Dr. Debi here with another Dose of Dr. Debi. So, you know I always talk about betrayal and how it impacts us physically, mentally and emotionally and it affects our, our health, our work, or relationships? So today I want to talk about seven ways in which unhealed betrayal is impacting your business. It's common to think that a betrayal of a family member, partner, friend, or coworker impacts us personally. Here are seven ways in which unhealed betrayal is impacting your business. 1: Confidence. Think about it, a betrayal shatters our confidence, one minute we can feel safe and secure then a painful discovery of betrayal can shatter that sense of safety in an instant. Think about how that impacts your business if confidence is shattered. How comfortable are you asking for the sale, asking for the raise, introducing yourself at a networking event, or making a call to someone you're hoping to collaborate with? Confidence is crucial in business and without it, it's really, really challenging to convey your message in a way that you want it to come across. 2: An unhealed betrayal dramatically impacts your health and level of energy. Once the stress response is ignited from this type of pain, you're headed for just about every single stress-related symptom, illness, condition, disease. Some of the most common symptoms left in the wake of a betrayal are digestive issues, and by that, I mean anything from Crohn's, IBS, colitis, constipation, diarrhea, you name it. Extreme exhaustion, brain fog, mental confusion, insomnia, anxiety, sadness, anger and depression too. That's just to name a few. So, managing these symptoms while managing your business, in addition to any other responsibilities you may have like raising your kids running your household, taking care of elderly parents, can make running a thriving business, near impossible. 3: Body. One of the most common physical symptoms of an unhealed betrayal is weight. As of now, we've had about 25,000 people take the Post Betrayal Syndrome quiz to see to what extent they're struggling, and 47% of them have weight changes. In the very beginning, maybe they can't hold food down. Later on, they may be using food for comfort. So, while immediately after that painful discovery, it may be really impossible to hold food down, after that you're using food as the way to soothe, calm, numb, relax. It's a way to self-medicate from the pain that the betrayal can cause. The stress alone can drive fat storage, particularly around your midsection. So, think about doing videos, speaking, networking, or any other aspect of your business that requires you to be seen. Not feeling comfortable in your own skin, means you're not putting yourself out there the way you need to, and it's affecting the amount of people who know about you and what you do. 4: Self-esteem. A betrayal shatters our self-esteem, along with our sense of worthiness. Because betrayal feels so intentional, we take it so personally. So, this direct hit, has us questioning, our very worth. So, imagine how that impacts your business. If you don't feel a profound sense of worthiness, it shows in the way you speak and communicate who and what you do. And if you don't believe in yourself, how can anyone else? the direct. This directly impacts how many people are convinced that you are the one that can help them in the very specific way they need. Without your own conviction, how can anyone else feel convinced that you can help them? 5: Ability to trust another person is a big one. One of the most profound implications of a betrayal is the shattering of trust. After we've been betrayed, we don't trust in others and we hardly trust ourselves. We question ourselves asking: “How do we not know this?” “How can I be so blind?” “How did I not see this coming?” So, think about it, when we don't trust ourselves, we don't trust in our decisions, and we don't trust in our own judgment. This makes it challenging to know if we're making healthy or unhealthy business decisions. We also lose our trust in others, so we're afraid to be a team player, do joint venture or collaborative projects and we question: “If the person I trusted the most proved untrustworthy, how can I trust that boss/collaborative partner/JV partner If I don't know them nearly as well?” 6: Beliefs. Your belief system is formed by the repetition of something someone said enough times that eventually, it became your belief. It doesn't make it right, it doesn't make it true. It doesn't make it anything, but yours. It makes it your belief. If you've been betrayed, this breaking of the spoken or unspoken message often leaves us with the belief that we're not valued, not enough, not capable enough, lovable enough, just plain enough. And, we have between 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts a day, with about 80% of those thoughts being negative. Imagine how a negative belief system is affecting you. From the thoughts you think to the actions you take, if your belief system has you feeling you're unworthy undeserving or lacking in some way, how is that impacting the way you speak with prospects or the way you're getting your message out to others? You see how this all works? 7: Finances. When you add up all of the ways that an unhealed betrayal impacts you physically, mentally and emotionally, it's so easy to see how it's going to affect just about every area of life. It impacts your performance, your ability to convey your message with conviction and confidence, the energy you have to convey that message, and ultimately, your finances. I mean sure, it may drive you to that whole “I'll show them” kind of emotion as you dive into your work in order to create financial abundance. But when that soil, that desire it's birthed from is negative, that satisfaction from it is short-lived. You'll hear me say this over and over and over again. Awareness is the first step towards making changes, and the gift in a traumatic experience, (yes I said gift) is that transformation-you becoming a healthy, healed, whole and complete upgraded version of you is waiting on the other side of your trauma. That version never would have emerged had it not be from the experience. So, with going through something painful, the worst of it happened already. You owe it to yourself to heal. You want to fuel it with a healthy desire to fully heal. And when you do, watch your body, your mind and your business transform. It's a really good opportunity to take a look at your business, or how you're showing up at work, and see how your betrayal is impacting you. Here's the thing, it could have happened decades ago, but take a look and ask, is it showing itself in my confidence, is it showing itself in my health, is it showing itself in the way I put myself out there? It likely is showing itself in some way, even if it's in those stress-related symptoms, illnesses, conditions, even disease. I remember working with a woman who was very stressed. She was coming to me for weight loss, and everybody was losing a kind of predictable amount of weight each week. Well, she wasn't. And then she said; “You know, I'm really going through a hard time, I need to take a break” which was totally fine. She came back a month later when the stress was down, and she said; “You know, the weirdest thing was, I didn't change anything about my eating and I lost seven pounds this month!” I'll never forget that and what it really showed was when your body feels that need to hang on to that weight, if it's holding on to it to protect you in some way, or if you just have cortisol just raging through your system, and it's driving fat storage to your middle, it's going to keep weight on. So much of the reason why the weight stays there has to do with the thoughts we think, the stress we're under. So take a look at all of it, and see how is your stress is impacting you. How is your unhealed betrayal impacting you, and how is it showing up in your business? If you liked this episode, be sure to subscribe, rate and review and if Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness would be something that you're interested in, you can get the first chapter from me. You can find it here. If you want the whole book, get it from this link because then when you get it from Amazon and come back to this link, I give you the most amazing bonuses to go with it. You can find Trust Again Here. Thanks so much for being here, for being a part of A Dose of Dr. Debi as part of the From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast, and I'll see you next time. Resources Mentioned PBT PodcastsPost Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and HappinessTrust Again Free Gift
About The Guest:Dr. Debi Silber Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist. Dr. Silber is a health, mindset, and personal development expert, as well as an award winning speaker and coach. She is the author of the #1 bestselling book: “The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis,” and her newest book, “Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness.” She has appeared on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and many more. To read more about Dr. Debi Silber, go to: thepbtinstitute.com About The Host: Tonia DeCosimo is the founder of P.O.W.E.R.- Professional Organization of Women of Excellence Recognized and editor-in-chief of P.O.W.E.R. Magazine. She is also an author, columnist, entrepreneur, and women's empowerment advocate. With 30 years in the publishing and advertising business, Tonia enjoys listening and learning from powerful women. She believes that their hard work and dedication deserves acknowledgement and recognition. One of Tonia's passions is to inspire and empower women and help them become their best. https://toniadecosimo.com/about-tonia-1 (Read more..)
Forgiveness is an important step to rebuilding-either yourself or a broken relationship. While this act can bring the forgiver peace of mind and frees them of hurt, anger, and blame, the process can take an incredible amount of effort and time. For many people, it is a constant struggle to let go of past grudges and lingering resentment. Is there a way out of these negative emotions to move forward? What can you do if forgiving a person who wronged you is proving to be difficult? I am Dr. Debi Silber and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, we will be discussing forgiveness and the importance of understanding your motives for wanting to be more forgiving. We will also tackle what acceptance means and how it can lead to healing when you aren't ready to forgive. In This Episode Realize the benefits of forgiveness Discover the common reasons why we withhold forgiveness Understand the difference between forgiveness and acceptance Transcription Hi there, Dr. Debi here and welcome to another Dose of Dr. Debi as part of the From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast. You know, this has been coming up a lot within The PBT Institute, so I wanted to bring it up because I have a feeling this may serve you. So often we want to move towards forgiveness. We've heard forgiveness is for us, not the other person. We've heard we'll feel so much better when we forgive, and we struggle with it so much. So I'm going to talk about today, the difference between moving towards acceptance versus forgiveness. So if you're struggling with forgiveness, give yourself a big sigh of relief because maybe acceptance is an easier way to go. So that's the topic for today. Just to break down forgiveness, a little bit. Yes, we've heard, it's in our best interest to forgive because it's true. We release the pain and the power that this has had over us so that's a that's a benefit. We struggle with it though because we think if we forgive, are we setting ourselves up for it to happen again? Are we a sucker? Are we a pushover? Withholding forgiveness also gives us a sense of control. When we've been betrayed, when we've been lied to, or deceived, life spins out of control. We want to grab on to anything that gives us a feeling like we have the reins like we're getting some measure of control back into our lives. Withholding forgiveness, believe it or not, can feel like one of the things that we have control over. So, there are so many reasons why we would withhold forgiveness. Also, let's face it, our egos are badly bruised and withholding forgiveness, gives us a sense of power, like; “I'll show you” kind of thing. And that's just our ego talking and you know it's been badly bruised and it's flexing its muscle a bit. But here's the thing. Yes, forgiveness is all about us. Yes, it releases the power the pain has over us. Yes, it prevents us from spending so much time on the past and harnesses that time, so that we can work towards the future. That's the idea. We want to heal and we give ourselves the best possible opportunity. When we forgive, it's not about them, it's about us. And the biggest difference I would say is, when it comes to forgiveness, is that's largely about us. When it comes to reconciliation. that's largely about the other person. You still don't have to do anything if you don't want to. But when it comes to forgiveness, it really doesn't matter what's going on on the other end of it, it doesn't matter if they agree, it doesn't matter if they apologize, it doesn't matter if there's deep regret, remorse, apology, guilt, all of these things. It really doesn't matter. It's about us and it's that release we feel when we do forgive. It's interesting. I really thought forgiveness was going to be this one big grand ta-da moment. No, it's layers and stages and I remember even in my own journeys with both of my betrayals. You forgive then you take it back, you forgive, you take it back, you forgive you take it back. And that was really hard. I was working with my badly bruised ego that whole time. And when we really forgive you truly do feel free. But, if you're not ready for that, that's ok. I see so often where people try to forgive too early and it backfires every time. So check the reasons why you want to forgive. If the reason is because you just want this over with, you just want to put it behind you, but you haven't really processed it, it's going to backfire. I remember reading one study, when I was doing the study on betrayal and in the study they said; “If you feel safe and valued and you forgive, you feel better. If you do not feel safe and valued and you forgive you feel worse.” So take a look at your own situation. Are you forgiving just to get it over with? Just to put it behind you? Just because it's too chaotic if you're not going along with everything? Take a look at your intentions. Why you want to forgive? Because I'll tell you there were three groups in the study who did not heal, and the group where the betrayer had very little consequences, whether it was out of financial fear, religious reasons (that was a big one), not wanting to break up a family, fear of change, fear of the unknown, whatever it was, they just tried to put it behind them. I only saw two things with this one group. Number one, a further deterioration of the relationship. And two, this group by far was the most physically sick. Your broken heart can't handle that. So be aware of the reason why you're choosing to forgive. But here's what I want to offer. If forgiveness feels too challenging right now for where you are. An alternative is acceptance. With acceptance, again, that's just for you, but what that does is it gets you out of this lock, out of this holding pattern. With acceptance, it's one of the biggest needle movers moving you forward. As you know I talk about the Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough. And when we are in Stage Three, which is the most common place to get stuck, most people land there and stay there. One of the greatest ways to move yourself forward, even just a little bit, is acceptance. It's one of the classic things that I saw when people would move from Stage Three to Stage Four. Because they were accepting their scenario. This was where they said; “I can't undo my betrayal, but I can control what I do with it.” And here's where that acknowledgement, that acceptance, moved them forward. It's the Stage Three people, the ones who are stuck in Stage Three, they were like; “Nope, I am not accepting this. I have my story and I'm sticking with it.” You've heard me talk about this and if you want me to talk more about stage three, let me know. This is the stage, we don't even realize it, we wind up getting stuck in and transformation doesn't even happen until Stages Four and Stage When we want to move out of that perpetual holding pattern, we need to accept where we are. And that's actually what Stage Four is. Finding and Accepting a New Normal. Here's where you acknowledge, I cannot undo my experience, but I can control what I do with it. I see this so often now in this whole time period that we're going through, with COVID and everything else. There are some people that (and I'm not minimizing COVID at all. I had it. I've lost people I've loved. I am not minimizing it at all.) What I'm saying here though is, there are some people who look at this time period, and they say; “Oh my gosh the COVID 15! I gained all this weight.” “I haven't been social, I haven't been able to get out of my house, it's the worst thing ever.” Then there are the other people who accept it. This is what is so what can I do with it? So some people are like; You know what, I finally had the time to clean out my house, you know, all those closets I've been neglecting.” “I finally have a chance to be on Zoom, FaceTime, connect on the phone, I can be more social than ever!” “I don't even have the travel time, I can go from one call to the next.” “I only have to iron or steam the front of my shirts!” “I could be closer to my family, I could spend more quality time.” Those are the people that are accepting. Those are the people that are moving forward, where the other people are just kicking and screaming and staying stuck. You know it reminds me? Think about the strength of a tree. If it's rigid and unbending, it'll break. The real strength is when there's a little bit of flexibility, there's a little bit of acceptance, of movement. It's the tree that's flexible, it's the tree that bends, that's the one that withstands all the storms. It's the one that is so rigid and unbending, that's the one that breaks. So if you find forgiveness is way too big of a stretch for you right now, and I get it. I appreciate it. I understand exactly where you are. You have every right to stay stuck, you have your story. You've been wronged, you've been duped, you've been lied to, you've been betrayed, I get it. I've been there. Forgiveness has nothing in the world to do with that other person. It has everything to do with making you feel better. Forgiveness makes you feel better. If you're not ready for it, what I would love you to, to consider his acceptance, where it's a step closer. And it's just a step closer to your freedom, where you're realizing I cannot undo this experience, but I control what I do with it. So I hope that helps and check in with me next time, I'm going to give you all kinds of tips, tools strategies to move past this. Now, if you like the show, subscribe, rate and review so you don't miss an episode! Share it with your friends, anybody who could benefit. And if you'd like to try a chapter of Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness, You can find you can sample a chapter here. If you want to get the whole book, don't just get it from Amazon, get it from this special link because this way you can get the book plus a lot of bonuses. Thanks so much, I'll see you next time. Bye. Resources Mentioned PBT PodcastsPost Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and HappinessTrust Again Free Gift
Life is filled with endless opportunities and every day is a chance to steer yourself toward a more fulfilled and happier life. But how many times have you held yourself back from experiences and opportunities? How many times have you given up on your dreams or passions because you thought they were unattainable or you were too busy? If you could wind the clock back, would you? What if I told you that it's never too late to make drastic changes in your life? I am Dr. Debi Silber and welcome to another episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, we will be discussing how we often prevent ourselves from achieving what we are truly capable of and why it's never too late to pursue our life's calling or make significant changes in our lives. In This Episode Listen to Dr. Debi as she shares the moment that changed her life Understand the importance of reflecting on your personal journey Learn why it's never too late to start something new or make changes in your life Transcription Hi there. Welcome to another Dose of Dr. Debi and today I wanted to talk about how it's never too late. And the reason why I want to talk about that is, you know on Facebook, sometimes you get those “memories” that show up on your timeline? Well, I had a memory show up, and it was such a milestone for me. It impacted me so much that I shared it. It impacted everybody who saw it. I put it in my weekly newsletter, and I got a lot of great responses from there, too. I thought I would share it with you, with the hopes that it'll inspire you, too. I actually want to read what I wrote, and then I want to talk a little bit about it. A meaningful memory popped up on my Facebook timeline today. I find that we're so busy thinking about what we need to do, what we haven't done, and what we could do better. Yet, when we take the time to reflect on where we were a month, a year, 5 years ago, we often realize how much we've done, how resilient we are, and more importantly, who we've become because of what we've been through along the way. When this “memory” showed up on my timeline, it was a great time to reflect on a personal journey of trauma to transformation, and coming out of it with the inspiration for what I'm blessed to say, has helped thousands of others do the same. Life is filled with so many opportunities to see how resilient we are. These things don't happen because we're unlucky or we're destined to live a painful story as victims of what's happened to us. Things simply happen, and it's what we do with these things that matter most. Yes, we can have our story, but becoming the hero or heroine of our story is a much better story. It's through “opportunities” in the form of negative experiences, toxic relationships, and painful exchanges that we can let that define us, or we can find the strength to slowly and steadily rise above. I love that saying by Eleanor Roosevelt: “A woman is like a tea bag – you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.” Well, my tea bag self has been in hot water a few times in the form of the loss of loved ones, a disease that nearly ended my life, and heartbreaking, soul-crushing betrayal. Each experience had its own unique healing protocol, and each one left me with insights and strength gained from moving past them. How would I define the healing process? Messy, uncomfortable, kind of like an “ugly cry”. Definitely not graceful or pretty, yet there's something so beautiful about the process of self-discovery, especially when you can look at it from the other side and see from a healed space how strong, resilient and powerful you've become because of it. After my painful betrayal, I was desperate to understand how the mind works, why people do these things, and how I can heal. I realized that boundaries were being crossed and I never took my needs seriously. Something had to change and that was me. So, at 50, with 4 kids, 6 dogs, and a business, I enrolled in a PhD program. I honestly had no clue how I'd manage it, pay for it or find the time to go through it. But since “nothing changes if nothing changes,” that betrayal was the catalyst for my life to change more than I would ever realize. Talk about the unknown—have you ever done something without having any idea what would show up? Where, you felt so guided to do something, say something, try something without having any idea why? Yep, that's exactly what happened and the pull was so strong that I just decided to go with it. So here's what my Facebook memory reminded me of, and I invite you to consider what memories you can think about to remind you of what you've been through, too. 1 - My 79-year-old fellow graduate friend who got his PhD along with me, letting me know that I can never use the excuse “you're too old to do something” ever again 2 - Family to celebrate this milestone with 3 - Getting “hooded” as part of the PhD ceremony 4 - The minute after giving the commencement speech for my class and knowing that the words I just spoke would serve as the inspiration behind my book, Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. 5 - My study chair, who said: “Debi, I believe you've discovered a process here,” and then the 5 stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough was birthed. That was such a life-changing moment. And I'm sharing this because we don't realize what happens when we're in motion. I remember one of my mentors saying, and if you've listened to these shows long enough, watch the shows enough, you'll hear me say: “You can't steer a parked car.” And it's so true. It's only when we're in motion do things happen. And, “You can't course-correct standing still,” which is what another one of my mentors said and it's so true. We need to be in motion to see these things. And so often I see people who say: “Well, I'm just too old to do something.” You just heard it here, my 79-year-old fellow graduate friend picked up and got his PhD at 79. I thought I was crazy getting mine at 50, but 79! Or I always think of Louise Hay of Hay House. Louise started Hay House at 60. Or sometimes I'll look up athletes later in life and you see that they started in their 50s, in their 60s, and here they are looking and feeling so great. I see it so often where people are just so settled in their ways. Is it really too late? I just told you about my 79-year-old friend and Louise Hay starting Hay House at 60. Is it really too late? Or, is that your way of saying: “I don't know if I have the energy, the strength, the wherewithal to change what I've already created.” I think so often that's more the case, coupled with: “You know, I don't know if I have what it takes to do this.” This means we just haven't pushed ourselves far enough because you're so much stronger than you think, you're so much more capable than you think. And it's only when your “tea bag self” is in water, does it get tested. There's something so often that you've been meaning to do, that's on your list, that you would love to do, try, become. What's stopping you? When you think about it, what's stopping you? Is it that it'll cause a bit of a shake-up with the people around you? Is it that it would cause you to change a well-oiled machine that you already have in motion? Is it that it would cause you to learn something new? What is it? And here's the thing. I'll do a whole other show on this too, regrets stink. You know, when you look at the end of the road and when you look back, if you didn't do that thing, try that thing, become that version of you…what's that going to feel like? I remember reading something about going back to school later in life. And I think it was somebody going back to become a doctor later in life and everyone said: “Oh my gosh you'll be like 60 by the time you get there!” And the man said: “Well, if all goes well, I'll be 60 anyway, and this way I can be a doctor when I get there.” So the whole idea is, what are you preventing yourself from starting because you think it's too late? I would really take a look and say: “What COULD life look like if I take this on and play it all out?” Yes, it may upset the applecart with something you have going. It may, maybe, upset a few people. It'll, maybe, inconvenience a person or two. But I also invite you to question this. How often is it that you've put yourself last for everybody else's sake? I see this with women and I see this so often with moms. Guys, you do this too but I see this particularly with the women. Where we take care of everyone else and if everyone else's needs are cared for, it's at that point that we take a look and say: “Okay, it's my turn.” Well, by that point, there's no time, energy, effort left for our own self-care. We're depleted, we're exhausted, there's nothing left. So when you look at it and you feel that sense of unease, that calling. You know it's real when you see someone else do it and you may get jealous. You may be envious and you may find reasons to put that person down for doing it. But secretly you're saying (and I remember someone else saying this, too): “When you're complaining about something, it's because you know you can do it and you're not.” And I invite you to look at, let's say criticizing someone else. Use that same thinking. You're criticizing someone else because you know you can do it and you're not. This is just a big call to action here to take a look at how you're living, what you're doing, and more importantly what you're not doing. I'm not saying at all, don't be happy with where you are or that you're never supposed to feel comfortable, and you're never supposed to be proud of where you are. That's not it at all. What I'm saying is when there's that calling inside of you, when you know there's more, and when the reason you're not doing it is because it would take too much energy, because it's too hard, because it would be an inconvenience to other people because I'd have to say no to something else. All of those reasons (which are very likely very often excuses), where the person you're inconveniencing the most, is you. For example, when I went back for that PhD, were my kids affected? Of course, they were. I wasn't as available as I normally was but who was I really inconveniencing? Me! I missed out on many beautiful, sunny days and I couldn't go out and be with everybody because I was studying, I was writing, whatever it was. Was it worth it? 100% and I have a feeling if I asked my 79-year-old fellow graduate friend, he would say the same thing. So, from here, I would suggest, take a look at what is gnawing at you. It could be something as simple as growing that garden, taking that class, speaking to that person, whatever it is. And then when you say to yourself: “It's too late. I'm too old,” take a look, my 79-year-old fellow graduate friend because he's here to prove it. Louise Hay was here to prove it. Take a look at all those adult athletes later in life, they're all here to prove it. It's never too late and you're never too old. I hope this inspires you. If you like this show, subscribe, rate, review, and tell everybody you know. And if it would serve to download a chapter of my book, Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness, you can just get the first chapter of that just to see if you like it. You can just find that here. Of course, there's the most incredible membership community waiting for you as well. And you'll find everything there at The PBT Institute. There truly is no community like it. We have live daily classes with our certified coaches. We have programs 24/7 that literally walk you through the Five Stages of Betrayal to Breakthrough, which was one of the discoveries in the study. So staying stuck has now become a choice. You can literally walk through the different stages, we have masterclasses with the most brilliant experts. I'm in their teaching Q&A, forums with the most incredible community all there to lift and inspire. We look at the community as training wheels until you don't need them. It's the same thing. You're not meant to stay in there forever. You're meant to get your job done, learn to feel safe again, love again, trust again, and then you're good. Then you move along. Tune in next time for a lot more, I'll talk to you then. Bye-bye.
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award-winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. 3 top tips for my audience: 1. Betrayal is a unique type of crisis that requires a unique type of healing 2. To fully heal from a betrayal, we go through 5 proven and predictable stages 3. There's a collection of symptoms so common to betrayal it's known as Post Betrayal Syndrome-likely many of the symptoms we have stemmed from that or those experiences Connect with Debi: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber Wait, there is more!!! Have a look at www.mystepstosobriety.com to see which other books and projects I am involved in! And follow me on Instagram, Podcast, LinkedIn and Facebook! https://www.instagram.com/adifferentlifestory https://stephanneff.podbean.com/ https://www.facebook.com/adifferentlifestory https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephan-neff-author/
Hi listeners! Today we sat down with Dr. Debi Silber and had an intimate conversation about betrayal and how it affects your mind, body, and the others around you. We also talked about overcoming a crisis and how they are an opportunity for growth. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute (PBT), a holistic psychologist, a keynote speaker, two-time TEDx speaker, entrepreneur, podcast host, and author of the books “The Unshakable Woman” and “Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness.” You can find more about Dr. Silber at https://thepbtinstitute.com - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber - Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ - YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/debisilber - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform You can check out her podcast From Betrayal To Breakthrough With Dr. Debi Silber - Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6VRwZj8to6glEoEQWyQ2x6 - Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-betrayal-to-breakthrough/id1441968059?ls=2&mt=2 Email us your questions and suggestions to podcast@donttellmygrandma.com Website: www.ajourneyforwisdom.com Twitter: twitter.com/ajourney4wisdom Instagram: instagram.com/ajourneyforwisdom YouTube: Don't Tell my Grandma Pinterest: pinterest.com/ajourneyforwisdom Please consider supporting us on Patreon at patreon.com/donttellmygrandma Sound effects from zapsplat.com
Many people shy away from things that make them uncomfortable so they sweep the issue under the rug instead of facing it head-on. The thing is, the predicament doesn't go away. And by ignoring it, the problem can actually become bigger than it has to be. Aside from that, avoiding lingering issues forces you to miss out on the opportunity to overcome them and build confidence from the experience. So how do you avoid taking the path of least resistance? How can you learn to embrace challenges? I am Dr. Debi Silber and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, we will be tackling the mantra, “Hard Now, Easy Later,” and how you can apply this mindset to your daily life. In This Episode Understand the difference between “easy now, hard later,” and “hard now, easy later.” Discover areas in life where you've applied these mantras Find out how you can remind yourself to choose the “hard now, easy later” option Transcription Hi there Dr. Debi here and here is another Dose of Dr. Debi as part of the From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast. There's a saying, and I'm not kidding, it's my 30th year in business and this is a saying that I have been using for 30 years. It applies to every single topic in life, and I want to share it with you. I have a feeling if you embrace this mantra, you will see so clearly how you're showing up and more importantly, what you can do to change what isn't working for you. Ready? Easy now, hard later. Hard now, easy later. Take your pick, it's going to be one of those two. So here's what I mean and you can use it for anything. Let's take weight loss for example. Easy now: “there are the cookies and I want them.” Hard later: “I can't button my pants.” Or, hard now: “I really want those cookies, but I really want to feel good too.” Easy later: “Huh, look how great my clothes fit me!” You see, it works with any topic. For example: “I don't want to have that awkward conversation, so I'm just going to pretend that everything's okay,” that's easy now, hard later. Or: “Wow, this issue is still lingering” (hard now), “I don't want to have that awkward conversation but I know I need to in order to clear the air” (easy later). And then after that conversation, “Wow, with a clearer understanding, we both understand where each other is coming from!” I run The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute, and I see it so clearly within our Institute and it shows up in so many ways. Here's the experience of easy now: “This is really uncomfortable. This is really painful. I just don't know what to do. So I'm going to use food, drugs, alcohol, work, TV, keeping busy, or reckless behavior to numb, avoid, or distract from this pain that is so painful to feel or face.” Hard later: “It's still there. My challenge is still there. The problem is still there. I don't feel any better about my experience.” On the other hand, hard now: “This is one of the most challenging things I've ever faced. I am facing demons and slaying dragons and this is really, really hard.” And then easy later: “Wow, you know, by facing it and feeling it, I'm healing it! I'm moving through this experience, I'm seeing how strong I am. I'm seeing how capable I am. Things that used to completely derail me, no longer do. I'm becoming more confident. I'm putting boundaries in place that I never did before. And I'm seeing things so differently. And the more I extract myself from that situation, the more I remove myself from the experience, the more clearly I see it. And even though it happened to me it's not about me.” You see, we see so many things when we do the “hard now, easy later.” But let's face it, that's uncomfortable. And so many of us don't want to be uncomfortable. So we just kind of get by, and we think: “Okay, well you know what, I'll just move through this taking the path of least resistance.” If you've noticed, it doesn't go away. So what would it take for you to try the “hard now, easy later,” as opposed to “easy now, hard later”? Take a look at how you've handled things before. I remember a mentor saying: “How you are in one area is how you are with everything.” So, there may be many other areas of life where you chose “easy now.” And you're sitting there with the “hard later.” This becomes a habit. And, what I see so often is that this mountain gets bigger and bigger to climb because as we're avoiding these things, it's just becoming too much to take on. Then it just becomes bigger and bigger and bigger, and then the fear of it just makes it bigger than it is. It makes it bigger than it needs to be. As opposed to when we opt for the “hard now.” This may sound something like: “I don't know how I'm going to get through this thing. I'm going to go over, around, through it. But, I am getting to the other side.” And, whether that means chipping away at it ever so slowly, that's okay. As long as you do something, incrementally, every single day to move you in the direction you want to go. At least you're challenging this big obstacle that in the past may have completely derailed you. Like I said, this could be for health, it could be for relationships, it could be for business. Any topic you choose, you can apply this. But what I see so often is, so many of us, opt for that “easy now.” And yes, it may make the moment a bit easier, but if you notice, things don't change. That issue doesn't go away, and it also erodes our confidence. How is confidence built? It's built by having a challenge, taking it on, and then you look back and you're like: “Oh, look at me! Look what I just did!” That gives you the confidence to try something else because now you have that example of: “Wow, that was something I didn't want to do and I did it!” Whether it was having that difficult conversation, making that phone call, not having those cookies, whatever it is. When you do it, you see you've survived it, and you notice how you feel. You probably feel a little bit more confident. You feel more self-assured. You feel like: “Okay, you know what? I can do hard things. I can do challenging things. And when I do, I feel better. I feel a sense of relief.” Typically, it's not as bad as what we perceive in our minds. Our minds can go crazy, where we build something up so much bigger than it needs to be. Have you ever experienced this? I mean something as simple as, maybe, there was a dessert and you just were imagining what it was going to taste like. You were trying so hard to control yourself. Has it ever happened to you where you go ahead and you have a taste of that dessert and it wasn't even as good as you thought? By trying it, you realize: “Wow, it's no big deal.” Well, so often that happens when we take on those challenging things. We have that conversation, we make that phone call, we don't run from that situation, but we move towards it. Here's also where we need support and I caution you that you want support from the right type of people because the wrong type of support does more harm than good. We see this within The PBT Institute all the time. Well-meaning, or not so well-meaning, people may try to help you. But what happens is, they're coming from their own lens. They're coming from their own set of experiences. And do they have a hidden agenda why they may want or not want you to do something? That's likely. So, I always caution that when you're looking for that additional support, see where that person stands. What do they have to gain or lose by being completely objective? And that'll give you a hint for who may be a good person to reach out to when you're in need. But most importantly, really what I wanted to cover today was: “Hard now, easy later. Easy now, hard later. Take your pick because it's going to be one of those two.” And I really invite you that as you go through your week, and as you're moving through your day, and here comes that challenge (and it will show up, it always does), what's your go-to? Is it “hard now”? Is it: “Alright, here we go,” which builds confidence and you feel more empowered, self-assured. Or is it “easy now”? With that, you say something like: “You know what, forget it.” Now, it's one thing when you're just easygoing and it doesn't matter to you, then it's like: “Oh, who cares.” For example, if a bunch of people are going out for dinner and they say: “Where do you want to go?” And you say “I don't care, it doesn't matter to me.” So that's where it's like that, whatever works for everybody else. But, when it's something important, that's when you speak up, that's when it's “hard now.” You may say something like: “Yes, this is uncomfortable (who likes confrontation?) I don't like it, but I'm going to speak up, I'm going to say what's on my mind. I'm going to have that difficult conversation because I need to set my own boundaries. I need to be true to myself.” That leads to “Easy later.” Now you feel: “Now it's clear, it's clear what my boundaries are, it's clear what I'm willing to accept and not accept.” Do you see? So, for this week, I would say put a rubber band on your wrist and snap the band. It's not to hurt you, but to remind you when you find yourself opting for the “easy now.” I would say go for the “hard now,” which leads to the “easy later.” And I'll just give you one analogy, you know I love analogies. So, I may have shared this in the past but it's just so clear. Let's say you have a messy room, messy garage, and there it is. You just avoid it at all costs. Who wants to be in there? It's a big ol' mess and you think it's not vying for your attention. Oh, but it is. You avoid it all you can. But then, think about it. That's the “easy now.” And then there's the one day where you say: “You know what? That's it, I'm going in.” Think about what happens. You roll your sleeves up, you grab your garbage bags and you're like: “Ok, here we go.” And actually, if you think about it, in the beginning, it's worse. It's worse because things were all over the place. You go: “I'm going to donate that, toss that, fix that.” And then you put everything back, that's left. And you stand back and look at how great it looks! You want to call everybody over and say: “Look in my garage!” You're so proud of it. That was the “hard now” leading to the “easy later.” Think about it, you have this sense of pride and empowerment that you couldn't have had unless you dove in and did the work. Now because you dove in and did the work, you feel good, that's the “easy later.” So again it's: “Hard now, easy later. Easy now, hard later. Take your pick. It's going to be one of those two.” And I would love to hear from you to see. Did you notice you were opting for more of the “easy now”? And has it been leaving you with “hard later”? Or, have you chosen something that could potentially be “hard now,” leading to the “easy later”? I would love to hear from you to find out how that goes for you. If you are enjoying this podcast, please subscribe, rate, and review. Tell your friends, tell everybody you know, And my book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness is available if you want to give it a try. You can download your free chapter here. Thanks so much, I'll see you next time. Bye. Resources Mentioned PBT PodcastsPost Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and HappinessTrust Again Free Gift
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If you are someone who has suffered a betrayal, you will definitely want to listen to this episode. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most.Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz. https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/
Our thoughts quickly become our beliefs when we reinforce them with our feelings. In turn, these beliefs become our reality. They can affect us profoundly in so many ways and drive the things we do. You might be left wondering, is there a way to alter your perception? Can you possibly train your mind to think differently? The answer might surprise you. I'm Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to another exciting episode of “A Dose of Dr. Debi.” Today, we will be discussing how you can be intentional when making conclusions about yourself and your life. In This Episode Understand how you become what you think Find out what your beliefs are and how your environment shaped them Learn how you can rewire your beliefs and create new realities Transcription Hi there, Dr. Debi here with A Dose of Dr. Debi. So today I want to talk about beliefs and here's why. I had a conversation with one of our members in The PBT Institute just yesterday, and she was talking about having this great sense of unworthiness. It's been plaguing her whole life and she's in her 50s. For the last 50 something years, she's always felt unworthy, and she's wondering if she could ever change how she feels. The answer is absolutely 100%, yes you can. But first, we need to look at our beliefs. Here's the thing, your beliefs are no more than the repetition of an idea from someone you trust. Someone that you trusted (a parent, teacher, someone in a religious capacity) said something to you enough times, and it became your belief. You may have taken it on and kept repeating it to yourself when they stopped saying it. It doesn't make it good or bad. It doesn't make it right or wrong. It doesn't make it true, but it makes it yours. And once these beliefs are laid down, we don't question them. But what happens is, it doesn't start as a belief. It starts as a thought, and the meaning we give to something fuels it and can turn it into a belief that serves us or not. These beliefs are formed from something mild to something traumatic. I'm going to give you an example of something that could have been mild, but can be turned into something that can play you your whole life until you're aware of it. Let's say you're a little kid and you had some earth-shattering news to share with your mom. You race into the kitchen and she's on the phone, so she “shushes” you. For her, it didn't mean anything. But at that moment you could have made that to mean, “I don't matter.” And then you know what you do? You take that thought, and then you feed it. You fuel it with some emotion, you put some feeling behind it. You keep thinking about it over and over — you add more feeling, more emotion, and your mind wants to prove you right. So when you've done that enough times, your mind thinks: “Oh I didn't realize you wanted to keep this going. No worries, I'll just stick this in your subconscious and keep it running as a subconscious program. You go about your business.” Now we have between 60 to 80,000 thoughts a day. The majority of them are negative. If you have some version of, “I don't matter,” or “I'm not worthy,” running as a subconscious program throughout your day, can you see how that's going to show up? It shows up in what you do, in what you say, how you act, how you interact, how you react, what you wear, and what you eat and all of it. And what happens is the longer we do that, it becomes who we are. Then we will constantly find confirming evidence to support it. We have relationships that support it, we make decisions that support it and it becomes who we are. So what I wanted to give to you today was a way to see what's under the hood here. What are these subconscious beliefs and behaviors that may be holding you back? Because it's not what you consciously think; these are subconscious beliefs and behaviors that are driving every single thing you do. If you've ever seen a picture of an iceberg, only about 10% is above the surface, 90% is below. What's wrecking the ship, if you were to crash into it, it's not the 10% above, it's that 90% below. What's taking you off course from where you want to be is that 90% below. Here's something I want you to write down: I'm so… I can't… I'll never… When you have some time, free flow that and see what shows up. Whatever shows up, those are your limiting beliefs. Once you've done that, find the one that gives you the biggest emotional charge, like maybe you wrote, “I'm so lazy”, or “I'll never get out of debt,” whatever it is for you. The one that really gives you that charge, encircle it. So now you know that's the biggest one you want to work on. The next step would be this. Some people like affirmations, I kind of have a little bit of an issue with some of the affirmations that people are saying because here's what happens. If your mind can't grab hold of it, it will just kick it out. For example, there's a 300-pound woman, and she says, “I'm a lean, mean fighting machine,” and then her mind is like “No you're not”, and kicks the thought right out. But let's just say it's true that that 300-pound woman is eating healthier every day. Every time she says “I'm so fat,” when she gets dressed, “I'm so fat,” when she sees herself in the mirror, “I'm so fat”. Whenever she can catch herself thinking “I'm so fat”, what if instead, she says: “Wait a second, I'm eating healthier every day. I'm eating healthier every day.” If she were to just say the opposite of “I'm a lean mean fighting machine”, then her mind thinks: “No you're not.” But if she catches herself (and she's only going to catch herself a fraction of the time) — but if she catches herself when she says: “I'm so fat. Wait a second. I'm eating healthier every day. I'm eating healthier every day.” What happens there is, you start laying down these tracks in your brain when you repeat something over and over and over and over. If every time she catches herself saying; “I'm so fat” and she says instead: “Wait a second. I'm eating healthier every day. I'm eating healthier every day. I'm eating healthier every day.” What's happening is that she's forming and creating a new neural track, a new belief. Over time, the old “I'm so fat” loses its charge as the new belief starts to take over. She's laying down a new track and then from there, “I'm eating healthier every day” becomes the new belief until she can do the next one. I call those bridges, and we do that within The PBT Institute and it works beautifully for people. If you can't come up with something for the one that gave you the greatest charge, here's another idea. Let's say the one with the biggest emotional charge was, “I'll never get out of debt.” You insert possibility. That can be your bridge, and it would sound something like this. When you find yourself thinking: “I'll never get out of debt,” you say: “What if I can?” You didn't say, “I'm rich,” which the mind would have a hard time grabbing onto. What you did instead was you inserted possibility. So if that bill comes in and it triggers: “I'll never get out of debt,” what if you insisted and you reminded yourself to say: “What if I can?” “What if I can?” “What if I can?” “Wait a second, what if I can?” Do you see? With repetition and consistency, the old belief of “I'll never get out of debt” loses its charge. The bridge of possibility “What if I can?” takes over and you're laying down a new track. Now, how do you know what your beliefs are? You can write those things down that I said earlier: I'm so... I can't... I'll never... Take a look around your environment. Everything you have right now is a living breathing example of the beliefs you have. Your beliefs took you right here to where you are. It's a representation of the beliefs you hold. So, if you want something very different, it's going to take a new set of beliefs. It has to be intentional. It has to be on purpose. This doesn't happen. Just as if you don't have muscles, and all of a sudden, you want to have this very different physique. You're going to have to work out at the gym and create a new workout routine. You need a different mind routine. So with repetition and consistency, you're going to have to be ruthless every time that old belief comes up. You're going to have to insert that belief. You can wear a rubber band around your wrist, and every time you say the old belief, you snap it. Not to hurt you, but to remind you to insert that new bridge. Here's what I recommend. Write down: I'm so… I can't… I'll never… Do a brain dump of everything that shows up. Encircle the one that gives you the greatest emotional charge. From there, create that bridge — that believable statement you can insert and hang on to long enough so that the old belief loses its charge. The new bridge takes over and becomes the new belief until you can create something new. That's it for today. So with that please subscribe, rate, review, and if you would like a chapter of Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness which is my book which walks you through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough, teaches the four-step trust rebuilding process, my very vulnerable stories in there, all of it. If you just want to sample it just to see, what you're going to do is click here and it's yours. If you want the book and great bonuses, you can get that here. Please tell everybody you know about the show if this would serve them, The from Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast, A Dose of Dr. Debi. I'll see you next time. Bye. Resources Mentioned PBT PodcastsPost Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and HappinessTrust Again Free Gift
Betrayal. There are many people who have experienced this. What many of us don't know is that there are stages we go through.I remember having the link to Dr. Debi Silber's TEDx talk in January of 2019 sent to me from a friend who knew what I had experienced. It was life changing. Although I was near the end of my stages, it transformed my thoughts to help me get to the end stage. A year and a half later here I am interviewing this amazing lady! Dr. Debi explains the 5 proven predictable stages of post betrayal and speaks to being stuck in the 3rd stage.How does this relate to bulimia? It was my being stuck. And I was stuck for 30 of my 30 years of my struggle with bulimia in that world of betrayal. And we also spoke to forgiveness... a very big part of the betrayal. And the being safe and valued before forgiving. Forgiveness has to come when you are truly ready.Dr. Debi has a short quiz on her website which will give you an indication of your stage in the post betrayal transformation. You can find this at www.pbtinstitute.com. You can also listen to her Podcast Teh PBT Institute at https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/Watch her Recent TEDx Talks! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro More about Dr. Debi Sibler:Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most.For further support for bulimia you can visit my group on FB at https://www.facebook.com/groups/bullimiaddict Find me on Instagram @bullimiaddict and @bleepbulimia Blog https://www.bullimiaddict.com To sign up as a guest on my podcast visit https://www.bleepbulimia.com You can also visit us on FB at https://www.facebook.com/groups/bleepbulimia New Release Kindle or Signed Copy! How To Have Your Cake & Not Eat It All Too - A Guide To Adult Bulimia RecoveryBE A GUEST/FIND A GUEST Start for Free! PODMATCH is innovative, provides easy communication and dashboard scheduling! My pick of the month!Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show (https://paypal.me/iamthatgal)
Trust is a crucial aspect of any relationship and having someone—such as a family member, loved one, or friend—shatter it can leave the victim completely heartbroken and devastated. But is there a way to heal from the pain? Can trust that has been broken be rebuilt? Is it possible for someone to get close to you and your heart again? I am Dr. Debi Silber and welcome to another insightful episode of A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, we will be discussing how to regain confidence in yourself and others, and learn what it takes to feel safe, trust, and love again. In This Episode Understand what happens when trust is broken Discover the 4-step trust rebuilding process Find out how you can learn to trust again Transcription Hi there, Dr. Debi here, another Dose of Dr. Debi. So today I wanted to talk about trust, and if you have trust issues, I get it. The shattering of trust is so foundational. It rocks you to your core. It shatters your sense of safety and security. So if you're wondering why is this affecting you so much? Why is it hitting you so hard? That's why. The very person or the very people who gave you that sense of safety and security could be the very ones to shatter it and take it away. It's devastating, and it leaves us with trust issues until we heal them. What so often happens is, trust is shattered, and we're so uncomfortable with that feeling. We just want it to go away so we're like, "Forget it, I'll just trust that person again." And we wonder why it backfires and we wonder why we, we are struggling with this whole idea of trust. I have a four-step trust rebuilding process. Of course, in the book Trust Again, I go through it in much greater detail, but I wanted to share it with you because I think this could help get you started with trusting again. So, the trust rebuilding process is four levels. When trust is shattered. A few things happen. Obviously, we don't trust the person who was lying, deceiving, we don't trust them. But we don't trust ourselves either, because we think things like: "I'm a bright person why did I not see? How did I not know? How could this go on right under my nose?" We have all of these questions, and because trust is so foundational, it shatters the very foundation, so it has to be rebuilt from the foundation. So, the way to build trust with a rock-solid foundation, you would need to start by rebuilding that very foundation. To do that starts with something as simple as something that you are so sure about. Something that you could be so sure about is how we start rebuilding level 1. I'm talking about something as simple as "Will the sun rise?" And every morning you check, "Will the sun rise? I don't know. I don't believe it." You look up into the sky and sure enough, there it is. Maybe you still don't feel you can count on that so you check again. Sure enough, there it is. And you see it. You do that enough times until you can feel really comfortable and confident in knowing that yes, the sun will rise. Now you have a foundation to stand on. From that space, you need to learn to trust in your wise inner guide, in your intuition, in your gut. What happens is, you get that gut feeling that something doesn't feel right, but your mind talks out of it. So we have to learn, again, to trust the gut. I had a mentor once who said that your gut is 10,000 times more perceptive than your mind. But we listen to the mind and it's like this unruly 10-year-old who is just making all kinds of demands, who doesn't know better, but because it's carrying on, we listen. Our intuition will never speak to us that way. It speaks in a soft, gentle way. You know when you get that feeling that knowing but we turn it down? We don't trust it, we don't listen, but we need to strengthen that again. So how do you do that? You want to get a sense of what trust feels like for you and it's different for everybody. So, choose something that feels like trust, and real, and truth to you. Maybe two babies laughing, a dog wagging his or her tail. What is it for you? What does that feel like? What does trust feel like for you? How does it feel in your body? Open, expansive, loving? Whatever it is, remember that feeling, because that's what trust feels like for you. On the other hand, what does a lack of trust feel like for you? What does deception, feel like for you? Get that felt sense where do you feel that in your body. Does it feel tight? Does it feel close, constricted? How does it feel? Think of D-Day (discovery day) or whatever it is for you where you felt that feeling of what a lack of trust feels like. How did it feel? That's what a lack of trust feels like for you. So now you know what trust feels like, and you know what a lack of trust feels like. So, when you're going about your day, and you're speaking with someone, which feeling are you getting? When someone is telling the truth, everything is aligned. The thoughts, behaviors, actions, the mannerisms, what they're saying, feeling, the energy being sent, is all aligned, is all congruent. But, have you ever noticed those people where they're saying something, but you're getting a very different energy? Maybe the words are okay, but the energy, the body language the mannerisms don't match? It's incongruent. Maybe they're smiling, but their eyes aren't smiling. It's not like a Botox thing, it's like a weird creepy thing. Trust that. Everything needs to be congruent. So, now you know what trust feels like and you know what a lack of trust feels like. You're strengthening your wise inner guide, you're strengthening your intuition. That would be the second level. If you've strengthened the very foundation, so you know you have something to stand on, then you strengthen your intuition, your wise inner guide, now from there you go to the third level. The third level is rebuilding trust in yourself. You need to rebuild trust in yourself because after the shattering of trust, after betrayal you don't trust your own decisions, you don't trust your own judgment, you don't trust yourself. So you need to learn how to do that again. So to do that you give yourself little tasks, and little things to do and you do it. I'm going to drink that glass of water and then you do. I'm going to make that phone call and then you do. I'm going to go to sleep 10 minutes earlier and then you do. I'm going to work out today and then you do. I will not call my ex and then you don't. Whatever it is, you're learning and you're teaching yourself that your word is law. If you say something, you mean it. You trust yourself. So when you say something. That's the rule. So think about it. Now you have a foundation to stand on. You trust your gut. You know what truth feels like you know what a lack of truth feels like. You trust what your gut is telling you. Now you trust yourself, you could feel that sense of safety and security, it's almost like you have these invisible bodyguards around you. Only from that space do you now carefully and cautiously trust in others. Do you see how when you do it this way you have a bit of a base? You have some safety and security around you. But what we often do is we don't do those other three levels, we just want to go back to trusting the very person who hurt us, and we wonder why we don't feel safe. That's one of the reasons why it doesn't work. I look at trust like a brick wall. And that brick wall can take decades to build the only way I know it can be built is brick by brick by brick. Every opportunity someone has to show that they're trustworthy represents a brick in that wall. Then in that one earth-shattering moment or series of moments (death by 1000 cuts), many lies, whatever it is, the wall is completely taken down. So that's why people ask me can trust be repaired? I don't think so. Can it be rebuilt? Yes, it can. But the only way it can be rebuilt is the same way it went up the first time, brick by brick by brick. So that's why it takes time. That's why trust is sacred and precious. And that's why we take such a hit when it's shattered. But here's what also happens. We just want to be okay with that person again because this feels so awkward or uncomfortable. Let's say, the betrayer, or the person who shattered trust, they broke that brick wall. And then, we're the ones who were affected by it and then we say the equivalent of "It's okay, I'll rebuild it." What's that about? No, trust is a process. Trust is sacred. To build trust, it's intentional; to rebuild trust, that takes a lot of work. It takes a lot of work for the person, whose trust was shattered to be willing to allow for that other person (if they're willing if they want to). You can look at the pile of bricks and say: I don't have the least bit of interest in watching that thing get rebuilt and walk away. If you want to stick around to watch that be rebuilt, however, you have to be willing, and the other person has to be a really good bricklayer. Every opportunity showing that they're trustworthy represents one brick in the wall and it's going to take time to rebuild. So, that's the four-step trust rebuilding process I go through, it's so much deeper in Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. If you want to just try, just download a chapter, you can do that too by clicking right here. What I'm going to do is give you a free chapter so you get a sense of what the book is like, and then if it resonates with you, you can always grab the book. The whole idea in the book is I go into so much more detail of that four-step trust rebuilding process, the five stages of betrayal to breakthrough with experiential activities, moving you through the five stages, you have all of my study participants' stories in there. So, this way you can see who you resonate with my stories in there. And, and this way you see you're not alone. You're not crazy, you can heal from all of it. If you're enjoying the show, I hope you are, subscribe, rate and review. And please tell anybody who could benefit to join us. So here we are A Dose of Dr. Debi, as part of the From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast. I'll see you next time. Bye. Resources Mentioned PBT PodcastsPost Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Membership Community Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and HappinessTrust Again Free Gift
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most.Questions: • Tell us about betrayal-why does it hurt, what does it impact, what does it create? • What are some physical symptoms of betrayal, some emotional and mental symptoms? • What are the 5 stages from betrayal to breakthrough that were discovered in your study? • What's post betrayal syndrome and how do we know if we have it? • What's Post Betrayal Transformation and how is it different from posttraumatic growth? • What are the questions we can ask ourselves to see if we're numbing/avoiding/distracting ourselves? • How do we know if we haven't healed from a betrayal? • What do we need to do to move forward and heal from a betrayal experience?-How can we learn to trust again? Gift for you: Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/
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Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/
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Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/
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The pain of betrayal is so heart-wrenching that we are often left dazed and confused as to how to work through all the hurt and move forward. You may find yourself wondering—am I moving in the right direction to get past the trauma that I’ve experienced or am I stuck and will this treachery always leave me vulnerable? Dealing with this internal turmoil comes with many challenges. And to rise above it entails knowing where we stand and what is in store for us. I am Dr. Debi Silber, and welcome to A Dose of Dr. Debi. Today, I am incredibly pleased to share a road map that can significantly help in your learning and healing journey. In This Episode A brief recollection of the discoveries I made when studying betrayal A discussion on the proven stages of betrayal trauma and recovery A look into what happens physically, mentally, and emotionally at these stages Transcription Hi there, welcome to another Dose of Dr. Debi I'm Debi Silber. So, in the last episode, I was talking about the three discoveries that were made in my Ph.D. study. One was that healing from betrayal is very different than healing from other life crises like the death of a loved one, disease, natural disaster, so it needed its own name, which is now called Post Betrayal Transformation. Why is it different? It's different because betrayal feels so intentional, we take it so personally so the entire self has to be rebuilt; rejection, abandonment, belonging, confidence, worthiness, and trust all need to be rebuilt. When they are, you are in a complete and total state that is different from where you were before, and that state is called Post Betrayal Transformation. The second discovery was that there's this collection of symptoms (physical, mental and emotional), so common to betrayal is known as Post Betrayal Syndrome. We have that quiz on the site https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ to see to what extent people are struggling. We've had over 18,000 people take it at this point and it's staggering to see the symptoms left in the wake of this type of experience, but you can heal from all of it. If you're interested in that quiz you can find it at: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ . The third discovery, and that's what I want to talk about today, is that while we can stay stuck (and so many of us do), for years, decades, even a lifetime, if we're going to fully heal, (we're going to, going from that place of Post Betrayal Syndrome to that place of Post Betrayal Transformation), we're going to go through five now proven predictable stages. What's really exciting about that is, we know what happens physically, mentally, emotionally at every one of those stages, and we know what it takes to move from one stage to the next. What makes that so great because now healing is predictable there's a roadmap. What I'd like to do today is go through those five stages, And what I invite you to do is see where you land. Now before I go into that though, I want to just talk about how betrayal has so many faces. So, here are a few. So a very common one is infidelity, right. And when I talk about betrayal, it's really the breaking of a spoken or unspoken rule. Every relationship has them. So in a marriage, the rule is that we're going to be faithful to one another, and when that's not the case, that's a betrayal. It could be your coworker taking credit for your idea. The rule was you were going to present something, let's say to the boss together, they go ahead on their own and do it. Well, that's a betrayal. It could be that you and your best friend have an unspoken rule; “Your secret's safe with me.” And then all of a sudden, they tell your secret and they break that that sacred trust. The way it works is, the more we trust, and the more we depend on that person, the deeper the betrayal. So for example, a child who's completely dependent on that parent and the parent does something awful, that's going to have a deeper and bigger impact than let's say your coworker taking credit for your idea. Not to say that that doesn't hurt you, but the different magnitude and level of cleanup, that's needed after something like that. So I want to go through the five stages and pay attention to see which Stage you're in. Now, this is what's so interesting because you may be saying; “Well my betrayal happened, years ago,” watch how even though it happened years ago, most likely, you're stuck in the most common Stage, which is Stage three. And here's the thing too. These don't necessarily have to be the gigantic betrayals, it could be what we call “death by 1000 cuts”. It could be the; “Oh it's no big deal, betrayal,” oh, yes it is. It's a big deal to you, so just pay attention to where you land. So the first stage is like a setup stage and if you can imagine four legs of a table, the four legs being physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual, what I saw with every single study participant, me too, was a real heavy lean on two legs and neglecting the other so which legs were those? We’re leaning on the physical and mental and kind of neglecting the emotional and the spiritual. So what does that look like? It looks like we're really good at thinking and doing and not really paying as much attention to the feeling and being. Why is that important? Because it's in the feeling and being where our intuition lies, and we turn that down. We turn that down because we're so busy, and the only way we can get things done is if we become almost machine-like so we can get things done throughout the day. That's not saying that if you're busy, it's a setup for betrayal, it's just what I consistently saw. Stage two, by far, hands down the scariest of all of the stages, this is D-Day, discovery day. This is the shock to the body in mind. This is where it feels like that person takes a mask off saying; “This is who I've been this whole time.” It is a complete and total shock, and it's the breakdown of the body, the mind, and the worldview. The minute you’re shocked like that you've ignited the stress response. So now you're headed for just about every single stress-related symptom, illness, condition, and disease. Your mind is in a complete state of chaos and overwhelm — you cannot wrap your mind around what you just learned, this makes no sense. And your worldview is shattered. Your worldview is your mental model (these are the rules, this is how it works, don't go there, you can trust this person, etc.). In one moment, or series of moments, your entire worldview has just shattered. The bottom has bottomed out on you. And, a new bottom hasn't been constructed yet so it's terrifying. But think about it; if you were walking down the street, and the bottom were to bottom out on you, what would you do? You would grab hold of anything and everything you could to stay safe and stay alive and that Stage three, survival instincts emerge. It's the most practical of all of the stages; “How will I survive this experience?” “If you can help me get out of my way.” “Where do I live, what do I, what do I do, how do I feed my kids?” “Who can I trust?” It's that practical. Here's the trap. Because Stage three, feels so much better than the shock and trauma of where you just came from, you're like; “Whew! Okay.” You start planting roots here. You're not meant to be here long, but you have no idea there's a Stage four and Stage five waiting. So in your mind, you're thinking; “I’d better find a way to make this work now.” Now a few things start happening. The longer you stay, the harder it is to leave because the first thing that happens is you start getting these “small self” benefits from being here. You get to be right, you get a target for your anger, you get someone to blame. You get sympathy from everybody you tell your story to, you get a very powerful story, you get to be right. You don't have to do the hard work of learning to trust again; “Should I trust you? Should I just you? Forget it. I won't trust anybody.” You see, you start planting roots, the longer you’re there. Now, the mind starts doing things like; “Well, maybe you're not all that, maybe you deserved it.” See? The mind starts playing some tricky games with you. Planting deeper roots. Now, because “like energy attracts like energy,” now you're calling situations and circumstances and people towards you to confirm that this is where you belong! It gets worse. (I'll get you out of it, don't worry). Because you don't like it, you don't feel good here at all, you don't like the people coming towards you, you don't like what your mind is doing, you don't even like the story you're telling, it feels bad, but you have no idea there's a way out, and you don't know Stage four and Stage five (transformation hasn't even happened yet which happens in Stages four and Stage five). Because you don't even know that, here's where you start using things like food, drugs, alcohol, work, tv, keeping busy, reckless behavior. And now think about it. You do that for a day, a week, a month. Now it's a habit, a year, Five years 10 years 20 years…. I can see someone 20 years out and say; “You know that emotional eating, or that drinking, or that numbing in front of the TV? Do you think that has anything to do with your betrayal?” They would say; “Oh my gosh, that happened years ago!” But do you see? They've put themselves in this perpetual holding pattern since that day! If you're willing to let go of your story, grieve, mourn the loss, a bunch of other things you need to do, you can move to Stage four. Stage four is finding and adjusting to a new normal. Here's where you recognize; “I cannot undo this betrayal, but I can control what I do with it.” I always use that example. If you've ever moved to a new house, office, condo, apartment, whatever, all your stuff isn’t there, it's not quite cozy yet, but it's going to be okay. When you're in this space, mentally and emotionally, you're turning down the stress response. You're not physically healing just yet, but now you've stopped causing the massive damage you were causing in Stages two and Stage three. Here's what's so interesting about Stage four as well. If you were to move, you don't necessarily take everything with you. You don't take the things that don't represent who you want to be in that new space. And what I found so interesting to Stage four was that if your friends weren't there for you, they're not coming with you through this transformation. People say to me all the time; “What the heck, I've had these friends for years, I feel like I don't belong. I feel like I don't fit. is it me?”Yes, it is. It's you because you're undergoing this transformation. You're making all kinds of new rules, new boundaries, reassessing who you want in your life, what kind of relationships you're willing to have and willing to tolerate. If it was one-sided where you were just giving and they were just taking, you're not having that anymore. You're changing. Now, when you've settled into this space, you've made it your home, you've made it okay, you can move into the fifth most beautiful Stage, and this is healing, rebirth, and a new worldview. In this stage, the body starts to physically heal. You've turned down the stress response. So now you want to eat well you want to exercise, self-love, self-care is important to you now. You didn't have the bandwidth for any of that earlier — you were surviving. Now you do. Your mind starts to heal and you're making new rules new boundaries, based on the road you've just traveled. You have a new worldview, a new mental model based on your entire experience, based on everything you've learned and everything you've seen. Remember the four legs of the table? We were only all about the physical and the mental. By this point, were solidly grounded, because we're focused on the emotional and the spiritual too. Those are the five stages. So here's what I invite you to do if you haven't already, it's all spelled out here in Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and Happiness. If you go to https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/ , you can get the link to Amazon, but I want you to know that link because come on back, enter your receipt and I have all kinds of gifts for you. So this way you can you can enjoy the gifts, along with the book. You can get the book in hardcover, Kindle, and audible and read it. So this way, you'll hear my story, you'll, you'll go through the five Stages with all kinds of experiential activities, I have the four-step trust rebuilding process (which I'll be teaching you too). I have all of my study participants’ stories in there, so you can read what they've done. When I did this study, I had to write that dissertation, it was about 500 hours of research and 250 studies, and then when you have this research committee, I just did a numbers game and I thought; “I can't justify all of that research and all of those hours, and only my research committee gets to read it?!” So I made it much more reader-friendly, and that's what Trust Again is, so you get the benefit of all that research. It's all in there. You'll see exactly why the symptoms you have are linked to betrayal, where they came from, why they're there. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to heal from it. What I want to leave you with today is this; You're not crazy, you're not alone, and you can heal from all of it. I truly look at betrayal as one of the most painful of human experiences, Like I said, this was the person, these were the people who said; “When all those other people are making you crazy, I got you, you're safe with me.” And when that's the very person who shatters that sense of safety and security it's terrifying. So, we got to, you're not alone. You're not crazy, and you can heal from all of it. So, tune back in again next time, because I'm going to be giving you so many more tools, processes, strategies, solutions, so you can take your trauma, and turn it into transformation. Because when it just stays on you, you know, you were just the recipient of this, it's like a bad game of hot potato. No, no, no, we don't do it that way. The experience already happened, you've already experienced the worst of it, we're going to do something really good with it. So that's what's coming. Well thank you so much and I'll see you next time. Bye. 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Have you tried everything like changing what you eat, intermittent fasting, ketosis, working out regularly, even getting to bed at a normal time and yet you are not seeing any benefits?What if I were to tell you that your weight loss resistance or your lack of energy, or your sleeping problems or even your brain fog was not due to you nutritional habits, or exercise routine.What if it was due to a past betrayal you experienced?That past betrayal could even be 40 years ago and it’s still affecting you. WOWOn todays episode we are blessed to have Dr. Debi on who is a betrayal expert. Dr. Debi is to betrayal as Brene Brown is to shame. Learn how betrayal can be impacting your health, work and relationships.Dr Debi shares the top physical, emotional and mental symptoms that can appear when we are dealing with betrayal based off of her 13,000 participant research study. From there we dive into what are the 5 stages we go through after being betrayed. Betrayal might not be what you think, spouse or partner cheating on you, parents not giving you the love and affection you needed. It could be your coworker lying and taking credit for your idea or work, family member not showing up when plans were made. We have all been betrayed, it’s how it affects us that matters.BioDr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she’s an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most.www.thePBTinstitute.com
In today's episode, you will discover key insights including:Healing from betrayal is different than any other type of crisis, there's a collection of symptoms you're likely struggling with due to an unhealed experience (even if it happened decades ago)You will understand:+ Why you've been stuck, what it's costing you and how to change.+ 5 Stages you will go through to heal+ How to identify what is + Find out what are the process is from symptoms of post betrayal to post betrayal TRANSFORMATION + Much, much, more! To be honest I (Gez Perez) was transfixed to Dr Debi's wisdom!Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most.For more go to: www.gezperez.com/podcast-showHere are the links below for you to connect with Dr Debi:Website: https://thepbtinstitute.comThe latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“ - Click HEREThe From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransformTwitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilberLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilberSupport the showThank you for listening and we value your support on our podcast show. For events/ collaboration/ media - send us an email at teamthrive@gezperez.comFor sponsorship opportunities and business shoutout promos - send us an email at teamthrive@gezperez.comMore information: https://gezperez.com/about
In this episode, I talk with Dr. Debi Silber, who is the founder and CEO of the PBT Institute, which she founded to help people go through a post-betrayal transformation. She defines betrayal as a breaking of spoken or an unspoken rule in a relationship; the more you trust that person, the deeper the betrayal. After her own pain, Debi went on a personal journey to heal, and in that process, got her PhD, and studied people who had gone through a similar experience, and uncovered the steps necessary to not just get past, but to actually grow through the pain. When the person who gives you safety and security shatters it, the pain is tattooed on your heart, and the healing one goes through after a betrayal requires many different levels and layers. Betrayal impacts you physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, and you need a mutli-faceted approach to get to the truest healing. When trust is shattered, in addition to not trusting others, you don’t even know how to trust yourself, and getting back to self-trust is one of the paramount - and first - steps in creating a healing transformation. Tune in to hear Debi’s story and her deep wisdom, as she walks us through the 4 steps to rebuild your sense of self, your life and ability to be in healthy relationships once again. Debi is the author of The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. To learn more: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/ Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/
My guest on today's show is Dr. Debi Silber. Debi is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis. Her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals, as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most.In this episode, Dr. Debi shares her 3 groundbreaking discoveries, and provides her 5 stages of healing from betrayal.Check out her website for more information about her coaching programs or take her quiz to get started on your own healing journey. To connect with Dr. Debi on social media: @debisilber.
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Betrayal strikes at the core of our capacity to love and trust, violating the fundamental expectation that the person we love won't intentionally hurt us. The trauma from betrayal can imbed itself in our psyche affecting our health, jobs, confidence and happiness. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. Dr. Debi is a dynamic blend of personal experience, academic studies and 30 years as a holistic healer. She's the real deal and I can't wait to share our conversation with you so let's get to it! Get in touch with Dr. Debi: https://thepbtinstitute.com Get in touch with Kristen Brown: https://kristenbrown.org
In this episode of How Humans Heal, Dr. Doni got to speak with Dr. Debi Silber! She is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she’s an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. In this episode we talk about: What is Betrayal? How betrayal can get us stuck in survival mode How to know if betrayal is negatively affecting your health What Dr. Debi discovered in her research of people who experienced betrayal The key steps to get out of survival mode and transform your health and your life by recovering from betrayal Dr. Debi’s new book – Trust Again The online and virtual support program Dr. Debi created to help you be successful And more! Connect with Dr. Debi: Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Post Betrayal Transformation Institute: https://thepbtinstitute.com https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform https://twitter.com/DebiSilber https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Connect with Dr. Doni: Facebook HTTPS://FACEBOOK.COM/DRDONIWILSON Instagram HTTPS://INSTAGRAM.COM/DRDONIWILSON YouTube HTTPS://YOUTUBE.COM/USER/DONIWILSONND Weekly Wellness Wisdom Newsletter: HTTPS://DOCTORDONI.COM/WWW Books and Resources: Stress Warrior Book (FREE) HTTPS://DOCTORDONI.COM/STRESSWARRIOR Stress Warrior Stress Resiliency Facebook Group (FREE) HTTPS://FACEBOOK.COM/GROUPS/STRESSWARRIOR 7-day Stress Reset (FREE) HTTPS://DOCTORDONI.COM/STRESS-RESET HPV & Cervical Dysplasia Guide (FREE) HTTPS://DOCTORDONI.COM/HPV-AND-CERVICAL-DYSPLASIA-GUIDE/ Personalized Solutions: If you’d like to meet with Dr. Doni one-on-one for your health, request a Health Breakthrough Session: HTTPS://DOCTORDONI.COM/BREAKTHROUGH To get an idea of more comprehensive options, read about Dr. Doni’s Signature Consultation Programs: HTTPS://DOCTORDONI.COM/SERVICES
034 - Betrayal & Sleep Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, finances, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. “Betrayal & Sleep” Betrayal is something that almost everyone might resonate with in some way. It is such a unique niche. What brought Debi into this area of expertise? What is betrayal? Why does it hurt, what does it impact, what does it create? This sounds like a powerful emotion that can potentially destroy sleep. What are some physical symptoms of betrayal, some emotional and mental symptoms? What are the 5 stages from betrayal to breakthrough? What's post betrayal syndrome and how would you know if you have it? What's Post Betrayal Transformation and how is it different from post traumatic growth? How do we know if we haven't healed from a betrayal? To be able to sleep, you need to be able to trust and feel safe. How can you learn to trust again, in order to move beyond betrayal and restore sleep? What do we need to do to move forward and heal from a betrayal experience? For more on Debi Silber you can follow her: Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Links to books: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/ Related Episodes: 001 - How to Move Past Worry & Restore Sleep with Dhru Purohit 005 - Sleep, Depression and Aromatherapy with Joanna Rusling 018 - Stress, Anxiety & Sleep with Dr M.J.Thomas, Psychiatrist -For more on Deepa: Deepa is a Yoga therapist for over two decades and a Functional Nutritionist for five. She brings together her experience in therapeutic & transformational yoga and deep learning in nutrition based on the principles of functional medicine to her practice Phytothrive. The focus has been on merging together the deep science of the functional world with the deep symbolism of ancient wisdom. She has a masterful understanding of the human anatomy with cohesive understanding of physiology to offer what can be classified as true bio-individual mind, body & spirit nutrition. Having a son with a rare adrenal condition gave her a deep insight into the working of the adrenals and the stress response, as it relates to all health and sleep. Her articles have been shared by Dr Mark Hyman, MD, a 13 times NY Times Bestselling Author twice. She also gave the opening speech on Health Hacks at Amazon Web Services & YourStory HeathTech 2019 to heads of healthcare start-ups in India. Deepa has twenty years of experience in wellness, where she has focus on sleep nutrition, women's health, detoxification, skin health and adrenal function. She is in the YourStory100 Digital Influencers Of 2020. Weekly Newsletter:
Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she's an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, finances, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most. The site: https://thepbtinstitute.com the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ the book: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/ Healthy Through the Holidays - https://mailchi.mp/3951c47ca242/healthy-through-the-holidays --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/margaret-steffie/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/margaret-steffie/support
When a loved one breaks our trust, the trauma on our self-esteem can prevent us from moving forward with an open heart. Of course, you don't need me to tell you that—everyone has had their heart broken… But betrayal never visits alone. With it come shame, and when we hide from shame and never let it heal, the guilt never stops growing. When will you trust again? How can you feel confident in knowing who you can and can't let in? My dear friend Dr. Debi Silber joins me on the show today. Holistic psychologist Debi is the founder of the Post-Betrayal Transformation Institute. She's also the author of #1 bestselling book The Unshakable Woman: Four Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life after a Life Crisis. This week's episode is for the broken hearted. For those feeling stuck in the process, you can find the tools inside this episode to help you reclaim your trust in others and open yourself up again. Click the play button to learn more… DOWNLOAD THE RAISE YOUR FREQUENCY MEDITATION NOW! What you'll find inside this episode… Why do we stop trusting ourselves too? Moving from injustice to peace… Forgiveness isn't what you think! Trust can't be repaired… But it can be rebuilt. The 5 stages of betrayal More resources for your high-vibe life… Order your copy of Debi's new book Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health Confidence, and Happiness Download your 7-Step blueprint to powerful communication at TheSoulFrequency.com/Alignment Join me for The Soul Frequency Experience at TheSoulFrequency.com/Experience Follow me on Instagram @TheSoulFrequency LISTEN TO MORE SOUL FREQUENCY SHOWS! Send me your questions and show topic requests to info@thesoulfrequency.com. Follow me on Facebook and on Instagram. WANT TO SHARE THE SHOW? – share this show through iTunes and many other podcast directories. WANT TO LEAVE US A REVIEW? – leave us a review in iTunes! I would love to hear from you!! As always, my hope for you is that you love big and live abundantly! xo
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