Imperfect Love

If you're a pet lover, it's natural to want your fur baby to be around forever. Even the thought of losing your animal best friend--a source of constant companionship, unconditional love, and joy--can be tough. And when that end does come, the pain can be truly heart wrenching and even immobilizing. From personal and professional experience, I've found that the loss of a pet--and the grieving process that follows--can be one of life's most devastating and hard-to-move-on-from events. In truth, there is something so indescribably sacred and precious about the human and pet companion bond that our hearts--so stuck in grief--can find it difficult to move on. Yet life calls us to move forward, to find peace, and, in time, maybe even a new friend to care for and love. Join Dr. Carla and NYT bestselling author and pet grief specialist, Jon Katz, who will support us in understanding and healing from pet loss. Topics discussed include dogs, pets, companionship, pet loss, death, support animals, emotional support, loss, grief, cancer, dying, vets, veterinarians, psychotherapy, farms, farm animals, anthropomorphism, connection, love, compassion, awareness, cycle of life, relationships, kindness, perspective, and pain.Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with Jon Katz:Website: https://www.bedlamfarm.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bedlamfarm/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/authorjonkatzYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/katzatbedlamfarm/videosBooks by Jon Katz:Going Home: Finding Peace When Pets DieSoul of a Dog: Reflections on the Spirits of the Animals of Bedlam FarmThe New Work of Dogs: Tending to Life, Love, and Family

Are you securely attached? Do you generally feel safe, at ease, and emotionally connected in your intimate relationships? If not, there's a good chance that you struggle with issues related to insecure attachment—often known as avoidant, disorganized, and anxious attachment styles. But take heart; if you're wrestling with attachment issues, trust that it's not your fault–your attachment style was on its way to being formed before you could even talk. Yet, if not addressed, attachment issues can manifest in many challenging ways throughout life. Perhaps you have a pattern of being plagued by chronic relationship anxiety, hyper-dependence, fear of abandonment, or irrational jealousy. Or, at the other end of the spectrum, maybe you're consistently told you're emotionally disconnected, dismissive, or hyper-independent. But no matter what you're struggling with, I'm here to assure you that you can rewire your brain and create healthy relational patterns. Today's expert offers practical wisdom that can help you earn the secure attachment style—and healthy connection—you deserve. Join Dr. Carla Manly and expert Trevor Hanson for an empowering journey into what it takes to create healthy, safe relationships--starting with the relationship you have with yourself! Topics discussed include attachment style, attachment, secure attachment, insecure attachment, dismissive attachment, avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, communication, emotional abuse, abusive relationships, family of origin, family dynamics, avoidance, coping strategies, healing, inner child, boundaries, self-love, self-growth, inner-child healing, jealousy, conflict, triggers, ruptures, connection, and vulnerability. Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your FriendDate Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Oracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazon Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Every daughter wants a loving, close relationship with her mom. Yet, in real life, sometimes the mother-daughter relationship is fabulous, sometimes it's so-so, and sometimes it is downright horrible. And in cases where a mother engages in controlling, narcissistic, or other abusive behaviors, the cost to the daughter can be exceedingly high. The road to recovery--to discovering or reclaiming your voice and self-determination--can be long and challenging. But the good news is that you can take steady steps forward to heal your heart, soul, and life. Join Dr. Carla and psychotherapist Katherine Fabrizio for a compelling journey into the realm of narcissism, borderline personality disorder, difficult mothers, and how you can heal yourself and (possibly) the mother-daughter relationship.Topics discussed include relationship dynamics, attachment, narcissism, narcissistic supply, motherhood, daughters, psychological resilience, criticism, approval, borderline personality disorder, BPD, narcissistic personality disorder, defenses, superiority, defense mechanisms, appropriated daughter, abandonment, autonomy, intrusive, culture, patriarchy, mother-daughter relationship, personality traits, diagnosis, intergenerational wounding, intergenerational transmission of violence, agreements, contracts, self-work, personal evolution, and healing.Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with Katherine Fabrizio:Website: https://daughtersrising.info/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katherinefabrizio/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegooddaughter/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@katherine.fabrizioYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kkfabrizio/aboutBook by Katherine Fabrizio:The Good Daughter Syndrome: Help For Empathic Daughters of Narcissistic, Borderline, or Difficult Mothers Trapped in the Role of the Good Daughter Daughters Rising: Rising above the hidden messages of shame, guilt, and self-doubt passed down from mother to daughterLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

We often expect love and relationships to be easy--and perfect--but the best of relationships are much like a bountiful garden that needs regular doses of tender loving care. And, like the weeds that can strangle and overtake a healthy garden, issues such as blame, resentment, and chronic conflict can ruin even the most promising relationship. Over time, I've come to see that imperfections are a natural part of all relationships, and that it's how we handle the imperfections and stumbles that make all the difference. Today, I'm joined by an Emmy-award winning couple, Sean Kanan and Michele Kanan, who offer a guiding light through their new relationship books and deeply love-filled paradigm. With the mantra, "Two hearts. One soul," as their foundation, Sean and Michele bring an abundance of honesty, depth, wisdom, and vulnerability to this compelling episode.Topics discussed include betrayal, love, relationships, marriage, infidelity, affairs, extramarital affairs, adultery, dating, honesty, genuineness, self-development, self-awareness, rules, agreements, attachment theory, secure attachment, anxious attachment, insecure attachment, film, television, conflict, fighting, communication, trust, safety, security, healing, convenienceship, origin story, growth, curiosity, priorities, work, career, film, movies, Emmy® awards, Cobra Kai, Karate Kid, family, success, children, blended family, blended families, divorce, resentment, blame, shame, worthiness, self-love, inner strength, becoming, unbecoming, healing, authentic self, and forgiveness.Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter/X: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Sean and Michele Kanan:Way of the COBRA Couples Way of the COBRA: Unleash Your Inner BadassWelcome to the Kumite: Way of the COBRA Connect with Sean and Michele Kanan:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sean.kanan/Twitter/X: https://x.com/seankanan Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Do you know what magical action has the power to boost your mood, bolster your immune system, banish stress, lessen pain, and foster connection? If you guessed "laughter," you're on target. Research consistently shows that laughter truly is one of life's best medicines, yet our stress-filled lives tend to leave little space for self-care and the healing power that laughing brings. And especially if you tend toward perfectionism or depression, getting a good dose of laughter might be the furthest thing from your mind and even non-existent on your to-do list. But there are simple steps each one of us can take to foster more laughter--and reduce stress--each day. Join me and stress expert Professor Pete Alexander for a mindful exploration into the uplifting power of laughter. Topics discussed include mental health, physical health, perfectionism, stress, parenting, attachment, insecure attachment, secure attachment, diabetes, heart health, hospitalization, inflammation, cortisol, endorphins, neurochemicals, laughter yoga, yoga, EMDR, MER therapy, toxic perfectionism, stress relief, stress relief activities, work, burnout, mindset, play, joy, immune system, self-care, fulfillment, happiness, and balance. Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Support/informational links are in the show notes. Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Professor Pete Alexander:Lighten Your Day: Fast, Easy and Effective Stress Relief for When Sh*t Happens - Internet Marketing Tips for Busy Executives: Simple Ways to Improve Your Internet PresenceConnect with Professor Pete Alexander:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stressexpert/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/petealexander/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHHO6IiWyn56aURq585fxVALove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

We often believe that our given family--the ones we are connected to by birth--should be our greatest friends and allies. And it's normal for us to expect our family members to love us and keep us safe. Yet, in real life, many people discover that negative family dynamics affect them in the most troubling ways. If this resonates, you may have experienced the deep pain of feeling outcast or isolated by the very ones you love with all your heart. So, whether you feel as if you don't belong in your family, your friend group, work setting, or any other area of your life, you'll find wisdom, support, and comfort in this uplifting episode. Join Dr. Carla and mental health expert J.F. Benoist--author of the best-selling book, Addicted to the Monkey Mind, and his newest book, Avive la Vie--An Adventure in Belonging, for a powerful journey into self-discovering, self-growth, and the art of being free. Topics discussed include relationships, family, estrangement, disconnection, anxiety, fear, love, family dynamics, gaslighting, abuse, boundaries, self-care, self-love, self-growth, addiction, suicide, alcoholism, emotional safety, self-connection, correction, criticism, parenting, attunement, secure attachment, insecure attachment, anxious attachment, self-worth, lovability, friendship, friends, connection, community, pets, interconnection, and imperfection. Please note that this episode contains sensitive material including a mention of suicide; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with :Website: https://www.jfbenoist.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jfbenoist/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCr0zvG3DruBIWT_esqixaBg/videosBooks by J.F. Benoist:Avive la Vie : An Adventure in BelongingAddicted to the Monkey Mind: Change the Programming That Sabotages Your LifeLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Money. Hard work. Privilege. Inheritance. Entitlement. Motivation. Success. All of these words can bring up a host of thoughts and feelings. Some of them tend to have positive connotations, yet many of them are super-charged with negativity. Shows such as "Succession" have brought fresh attention to the realm of the uber wealthy and the dramatic flavor of issues such as family feuds, excess, sibling rivalry, manipulation, and mental health issues including addiction. But, as many of Shakespeare's works describe, family dynamics can get particularly mucky when wealth and privilege are part of the picture. Join Dr. Carla and expert Jessica McGawley as we unravel some of the threads of the important and challenging issues that often affect us regardless of our socioeconomic status. Topics discussed include family relationships, inheritance, money, wealth, empowerment, Gen Z, Millennials, entitlement, privilege, conflict, suicide, savings, spending, giving, donating, gratitude, appreciation, kindness, boundaries, strength, extinction burst, neurolinguistics, shame, children, intergenerational patterns, family dynamics, and love. Please note that this episode contains sensitive material including suicide; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyConnect with Jessica McGawley:Website: https://www.jessicamcgawley.com/LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/jessicamcgawley

Soul Statements: A Love-Filled Tool for Creating Healthy Communication and Deeper IntimacyDo you feel like your partner doesn't hear you? Is communication a major stumbling block in your intimate relationships? From Dr. Carla's experience and loads of research, she has found that communication struggles cause tremendous (and unnecessary) disconnection and hurtful ruptures. Could a few minor shifts help you create the healthy communication and emotional connection you crave and deserve? You bet! By harnessing the power of mindfulness and neurolinguistics, powerful change is on the way! You have the power to shift your relationships by creating greater self-awareness, self-love, and healthy communication habits. Join Dr. Carla and NLP (neurolinguistic programming) practitioner Corey Lyon Folsom for a powerful exploration into the art of claiming your personal power, honing your communication skills, and shifting your relationships for the better. Author of the powerful book "Soul Statements," Corey notes, "Soul Statements are a direct and immediate tool to counter unhelpful thoughts and self-sabotage. They are a way to claim your personal power and 'revolve around your own axis.' Soul Statements deepen intimacy by up-leveling communication." Topics discussed include NLP (neurolinguistic programming), conflict, self-sabotage, personal power, soul statements, meditation, nature, self-awareness, self-love, self-care, self-regulation, parasympathetic nervous system, stillness, safe space, inner calm, relationships, relationship coach, bullying, abuse, time-outs, communication, self-development, self-growth, reactivity, gaslighting, stonewalling, helplessness, distress, negative thoughts, feelings, mindfulness, emotions, self-talk, self-communication, spirit vow, empathy, courage, self-acceptance, self-sourced, and emotional intimacy. Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Corey Lyon Folsom:Soul Statements: A Love Coach's Guide to Successful CommunicationConnect with Corey Lyon Folsom:Website: https://corerelationship.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coreylyonfolsom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coreFLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Do you feel like you're the victim of ageism? Or--whether you're 30, 40, 50, or beyond–that you are too old to make your dreams come true? In Dr. Carla's work with thousands of people (as well as her own life journey), she has found that fears about aging can creep into our minds and cause anxiety and immobilizing self-doubt. And, as the benefits of youth are overemphasized in societies around the world, it's easy to go down the rabbit hole of feeling unworthy, no longer relevant, or stuck. But you have the power to age well–body, mind, and spirit–by making a few positive, simple shifts in your life. Getting older doesn't mean that you're no longer attractive or valuable. You don't need to be a victim of ageism or self-ageism! In fact, many find that their more mature years are the most vibrant and liberating. In today's episode, we'll dive into how YOU can live your best, most joyful life at every age! Join Dr. Carla and expert Bill Webb, author of "So Much Left: Adventuring, Living, Working, Loving, and Creating Beyond 50" for an uplifting journey into the wild and wonderful journey of healthy aging. From exploring the secret to being sexy (at every age) to how movement fosters positive energy, this episode offers the "secret sauce" for loving yourself at every age. Topics discussed include aging, maturity, confidence, sexiness, movement, positivity, body-mind-spirit, yoga, stretching, photography, work, life roles, models, career, film, volunteering, exercise, walking, running, hiking, group support, support groups, friendships, support, positive change, and connection. Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Bill E. Webb:So Much Left: Adventuring, Living, Working, Loving and Creating Beyond 50Image of the DragonMovie by Bill E. Webb: SunlightConnect with Bill E. Webb: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bill.webb_srproductions/Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

How to Craft the Love Relationship of Your DreamsAre you feeling stuck in a dead-end relationship? Do you want more in your romantic life but are afraid to let go of what you have? From a lack of sex or emotional intimacy to ongoing conflict, issues often arise in relationships that leave one or both partners feeling distressed. And in my work with individuals and couples, I've found that many people can't decide if it's best to leave a romantic relationship or stay in it for the long haul. It's no easy matter. And, the truth is, no one can tell you what path you should take; the decision--as hard as it might be--is ultimately up to you. In this episode, I'm joined by an international relationship and intimacy coach Ken Blackman who will help us dive deep into knowing when you might want to commit fully--or when you might want to let go. Topics discussed include sexual intimacy, infidelity, sex, connection, emotional connection, love, marriage, dating, love life, agreements, conflict, red flags, dealbreakers, divorce, commitment, betrayal, office romance, emotional infidelity, infidelity, narcissism, NPD, narcissistic personality disorder, abusive relationships, gaslighting, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, spiritual abuse, communication, meditation, and mindfulness.Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Additional links are in the show notes.https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/++++Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter/X: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyConnect with Ken Blackman:Website: https://kenblackman.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kenblackmancoach/Twitter/X: https://x.com/KenBlackmanFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/KenBlackmanPersonalLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kenblackman/Medium: https://medium.com/straight-talkersLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Do you tend to procrastinate or have other habits that work against you? Do you want to have stronger willpower? As a clinical psychologist, Dr. Carla has found that most of us have at least a few hardwired habits that keep us from being our best selves and living our best lives. So, whether you're feeling defeated by broken resolutions or stressed by a habit that keeps you feeling stuck, she can assure you that it's possible to shift your life for the better. Today, we'll dive into the art and science of getting unstuck with a habit change expert who will highlight five powerful habits you can embrace to create a life you love. Join Dr. Carla and habit coach Chris Loper for a powerful discussion about the simple shifts you can make to create healthy, lasting changes that improve your overall well-being. Topics discussed include willpower, healthy habits, neuroplasticity, flow state, multi-tasking, mono-tasking, social media, technology, strategy, deep work, exercise, sleep, sleep hygiene, sobriety, self-improvement, self-growth, transformation, habit replacement, optimal frustration, social accountability, anxiety, compartmentalization, AA, support, and self-soothing. Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Additional links are in the show notes.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Chris Loper:Wood Floats and Other Brilliant Observations: A Humorous MemoirConnect with Chris Loper:Website: https://becomingbetter.org/Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Do you believe in miracles? Does the idea of manifestation seem real and within your reach, or does it sound more like an impossibility? Can a positive mindset make a powerful difference in helping your dreams come true? From my experience, I believe you can learn to manifest–to foster your potential and abundance–by tuning into your personal idea of prosperity. Of course, the process of manifestation doesn't mean that all your dreams will instantly come true. But the concept of manifestation can help you lean into–and draw toward you–your best possible life.Join Dr. Carla and Manifestation and Results Coach Scott Haug for an empowering discussion about the little mindset changes you can make to help your dreams come true. Topics discussed include self-growth, miracles, meditation, achievement, the law of attraction, manifestation, mindset, dreams, empowerment, authenticity, self-help, prosperity, prosperity magnet, relationships, research, abundance, and gratitude. Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyConnect with Scott Haug:Website: https://scotthaug.com/home Instagram: https://manifestwithscott.com/scott-instagram Twitter: https://x.com/ScottHaugCoach Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/scotthaugfan LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/scott-haug/ YouTube: https://manifestwithscott.com/scott-youtube TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@scotthaugofficial Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Do you feel as if life is passing you by as you rush through one day after another, missing the glimmers that make it worthwhile? I've found that many people feel as if they are barely living – they wake up, work, eat, and sleep – a hum-drum cycle that is repeated joylessly day after day. And, if you add pressure, stress, anxiety–and more stress – into the mix, life can feel purposeless and overwhelming. But hope is on the way! Research shows that you CAN create new, uplifting cycles that foster well-being simply by noticing life's little joys. Join me and renowned mental health expert Deb Dana for a deep dive into the gentle, life-changing power of glimmers. Topics discussed include neurobiology, co-regulation, trauma, complex trauma, dysregulation, regulation, sympathetic nervous system, parasympathetic nervous system, relationships, triggers, glimmers, overwhelm, anxiety, stress, hope, Polyvagal Theory, Stephen Porges, autonomic nervous system, patterns of protection, fight-flight response, safety, connection, neuroception, and healing. Please note that this episode contains sensitive trauma-related material; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Deb Dana:Glimmers Journal: Reflect on the Small Moments That Bring You Joy, Safety, and ConnectionConnect with Deb Dana:Website: https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/ Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Are you hungering to discover your soulmate, twin flame, or a dream-come-true partner to be your lover and best friend? Do you struggle with finding a romantic partner who feels attractive, compatible, and real? If so, you're in the company of millions of souls around the world who yearn to find lasting–if naturally imperfect–love. What are the secrets to finding your ideal mate? Today, join me and renowned former eHarmony matchmaker Dr. Christie Kederian for a tantalizing journey into what it takes to find true love. Topics discussed include dating, marriage, soulmates, dating apps, online dating, priorities, chemistry, compatibility, red flags, childhood, family, unresolved trauma, attachment, secure attachment, insecure attachment, anxious attachment, preoccupied attachment, dismissive attachment, self-growth, self-love, self-awareness, self-development, commitment, long-term relationship, matchmakers, matchmaking, friendship, faith, values, priorities, religion, spirituality, sexual attraction, attraction, eHarmony, Bumble, celebrities, celebrity matchmaker, and imperfect love. Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Dr. Christie Kederian:10 Dates to Your Soulmate: A Celebrity Matchmaker's Guide from First Swipe to ForeverConnect with Dr. Christie Kederian:Website: https://drchristiekederian.com/ Instagram: instagram.com/TheDateDoctorChristie Facebook: facebook.com/TheDateDoctorChristie LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drchristietcharkhoutian TikTok: tiktok.com/@TheDateDoctorChristie Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Improve Your Body Image with Self-Compassion and Self-LoveWhen you look in the mirror, do you love the reflection you see, or do you pick parts of yourself to pieces–or even your entire physical being? Do you dislike–or even loathe–the body that is your home? In today's hypercritical, perfection-oriented world, your body image–and capacity to love yourself–might be suffering from silent comparison to the impossibly oh-so-perfect ideals that litter social media and TV screens. If you're exhausted from trying to contort yourself to be someone–or something–you're not, this healing, uplifting episode with two top-notch body image experts is for you. Join Dr. Carla and mental health clinicians Deb Schachter and Whitney Otto for a compassionate journey into the steps you can take to gently understand and heal from the hold of a negative body image. Discover how to unpack your body's story and all the wisdom it has to offer! Topics discussed include body image, body dysmorphia, eating disorders, disordered eating, anorexia nervosa, binge eating, eating disorder treatment, negative thoughts, self-compassion, IFS (internal family systems), CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), mindfulness, group therapy, self-awareness, and self-discovery. Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Book by Whitney Otto and Deb Schachter:Body Image Inside Out: A Revolutionary Approach to Body Image Healing Connect with Whitney Otto:Website: https://whitneyottocoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/whitneylpost Connect with Deb Schachter:Website: https://debschachterlicsw.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deb-schachter-363b206 Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Bring Lasting Love, Intimacy, and Joy into Your Romantic Relationship!Romantic relationships! We love them, sometimes we hate them, and in many cases, we just put up with them. We are told that romance should be easy, but heart-connected relationships require loads of devotion and mindful effort. While there isn't a magical cure for relationship blues, there are steps we can each take to create a loving connection and lasting joy. So, whether your romantic relationship is new or decades old, you and your partner will enjoy tips from today's guest, intimacy expert Susan Bratton. Topics discussed include emotional connection, emotional intimacy, communication, sexual intimacy, sex, values, priorities, soulmates, relationships, marriage, connection, golden rule, partnership, dating, love, kindness, consideration, sexual soulmates, bedroom communication, lovemaking, neurolinguistic programming, mindfulness, and intimate wellness. Please note that this episode contains sensitive and adult material; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Additional links are in the show notes. Get the help you need:https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/ Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your FriendAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Books by Susan Bratton:Relationship MagicSexual Soulmates: The Six Essentials for Connected Sex Connect with Susan Bratton:Website: https://susanbratton.com/Instagram: https://instagram.com/susanbrattonTwitter: https://twitter.com/susanbrattonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/trustedhotsexadvisortomillions/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanbrattonBetter Lover: https://betterlover.com/

It's time to break free from fear and step into the power of your authentic self. Do you constantly read others to see if you're loved, safe, or seen? Do you feel anxious and emotionally compromised to the point where you feel unimportant, stuck, or chronically dissatisfied? We often settle for situations–and relationships–that work against our mental, spiritual, and physical well-being because we are afraid. Yet, I believe that within each one of us is a voice–an inner flame–that, once embraced, has the power to foster change. Join me and expert Shauna Brittenham Reiter for an inspiring journey into how you can create a free, fulfilling, and joy-filled life. Topics discussed include attachment, secure attachment, attunement, insecure attachment, avoidant attachment, ambivalent attachment, anxious attachment, preoccupied attachment, emotional health, powerlessness, helplessness, emotions, feelings, financial power, monetary power, self-empowerment, empowerment, trauma, wildfires, LA fires, children, relationships, home, family, triggers, breathing, wellness, emotional regulation, reactivity, nervous system, fight or flight response, intergenerational patterns, and co-regulation. Special Note: Segments of this podcast delve into the impact of the 2025 wildfires in the Los Angeles area and may be triggering for those who have experienced or been associated with a natural disaster; listener discretion is strongly advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Shauna Brittenham Reiter:You Are the Boss of You: Cultivate the Mindset and Tools to Live Life on Your TermsConnect with Shauna Brittenham Reiter:Website: www.helloshauna.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shaunabrittenhamreiter/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shauna-brittenham-reiter-679814246

Do you feel stressed and anxious more often than not? Could mindfulness be the key to feeling better? Do you wish you could find a few simple strategies to help you get off the hamster wheel of anxiety and find greater ease, balance, and joy? Dr. Carla Manly has found that many people feel chronically overwhelmed by the internal and external pressures–and expectations–that have become part of today's busy world. And she's here to let you know that a few simple, mindful changes can help shift your life for the better. Positive changes are waiting for you in this life-changing episode with Dr. Carla and Dr. Pete Economou, psychologist, renowned Rutgers University professor, author, and performance consultant. Topics discussed include mindfulness, acceptance, imperfection, CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), attachment theory, EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing), relationships, stress, anxiety, stress reduction, Zen, meditation, change, neurobiology, balance, well-being, and journaling. Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Additional links are in the show notes. Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your FriendAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Books by Dr. Pete Economou:Mindfulness Workbook for Beginners: Exercises and Meditations to Relieve Stress, Find Joy, and Cultivate GratitudeMeditation Journal for Anxiety: Daily Meditations, Prompts, and Practices for Finding Calm Connect with Dr. Pete Economou:Website: https://officialdrpete.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officialdrpete/Twitter: https://x.com/officialdrpeteLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/peter-j-economou-4b4000a/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCttLuWm8DMiD8Vt--lOPhZg/featuredTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@officialdr.petePodcast: https://wheneastmeetswest.us/Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Are you exhausted by chronic mental gymnastics, those anxiety-inducing, topsy-turvy cognitive gyrations that get in the way of what you want to be thinking and doing? Dr. Carla Manly has found that people are increasingly plagued by obsessive or negative thought patterns that foster anxiety, depression, and stress that can lead to severe burnout. The secret to creating a healthy mindset--and the positive changes that follow–can be found in the art of gently training your mind to intentionally choose thoughts and behaviors that work for you–rather than against you. Join Dr. Carla and self-care expert Dr. Nekeshia Hammond for a delightful journey into learning how to create thought patterns that reduce anxiety while also boosting inner peace and joy! Topics discussed include mindsets, awareness, holistic self-care, emotions, secure attachment, insecure attachment, anxious attachment, preoccupied attachment, burnout, burnout prevention, self-care, spirituality, support, feelings, obsessive thoughts, ruminations, breathing, CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), thought replacement, thought stopping, thought leaning, neuroplasticity, neurobiology, fight or flight, sympathetic nervous system, parasympathetic nervous system, breathing exercises, and panic attacks. Please note that this episode contains sensitive trauma-related material; listener discretion is advised. Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Additional links are in the show notes. Get the help you need:https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your FriendAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Book by Dr. Nekeshia Hammond:Mindset Training: Conquer Your Mind and the Rest Will Follow Connect with Dr. Nekeshia Hammond:Website: https://drnekeshiahammond.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drnekeshiahammond/Twitter: https://twitter.com/dr_hammondFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrNekeshiaHammond/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drnekeshiahammond/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/drnekeshiahammond

Do you wrestle with feelings of being too dependent or--at the other end of the spectrum--overly independent? If you, or someone you love, struggles with finding the ideal balance between these two poles, you're not alone. Given society's tendency to foster the ideal of independence (or hyper-independence), many individuals, couples, and families struggle with discovering the ideal level of interdependence that fosters safety and the ability to individuate, bloom, and grow. Join Dr. Carla and mental health expert Manami Yamamoto, LMFT, for a gentle conversation about the art of creating healthy interdependence. Topics discussed include enmeshment, secure attachment, insecure attachment, anxious attachment, boundaries, emotional awareness, emotional struggles, balance, autonomy, personal freedom, collectivism, individualism, interdependence, codependency, co-support, boundaries, cultural needs, cultural differences, hyper-independence, and anxiety.Please note that this episode contains sensitive trauma-related material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Additional links are in the show notes.PTSD Hotline: https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ptsd-hotline/NAMI Helpline: https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter/X: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyConnect with Manami Yamamoto:Website: https://www.manamiyamamototherapy.com/, https://www.bluehummingtherapy.org/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/manami.h.yamamoto/, https://www.instagram.com/bluehummingtherapy/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/manami.therapy/, https://www.facebook.com/bluehummingtherapy/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/manami-yamamoto-lmft-61703214/Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Do you look for hidden messages in dreams, oracle cards, or even tea leaves? If so, you're not crazy and you're surely not alone. It's natural–and often very comforting–to gain “mystical” insights and assurances that help us navigate this wild journey of life. In fact, the art of studying dreams and other forms of psychological and spiritual analysis has been practiced by humans for thousands of years. When we mindfully slow down to listen to our dreams–to really pay attention to them–we can discover their messages. From helping you get unstuck to showing you a path forward, dreams have the power to help you learn, grow, and lead your best life.Join Dr. Carla Manly and dream expert Dan Lawrence—psychoanalyst and consultant—for an eye-opening exploration of the fascinating realm of dreams, imagination, and the creative world. Topics discussed include dream analysis, relationships, the body-mind-spirit connection, numinosity, imagination, psychotherapy, synchronicity, depth psychology, Carl Jung, dream architecture, technology, patterns, dream technology, creativity, play, intergenerational patterns, the intergenerational transmission of violence, tarot cards, oracle cards, Zen, mat surfing, and dreams.Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling “911” or “988” (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Additional links are in the show notes.NAMI HelpLine: https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy from Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Fear-Carla-Marie-Manly/dp/1641701218Date Smart: https://www.amazon.com/Date-Smart-Transform-Relationships-Fearlessly/dp/1641704675Aging Joyfully: https://www.amazon.com/Aging-Joyfully-Optimal-Relationships-Fulfillment/dp/1641701412The Joy of Imperfect Love: https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Imperfect-Love-Creating-Relationships/dp/1641709057 Oracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1757477615/imperfect-love-reflection-oracle-cardsAmazon: https://www.amazon.com/Imperfect-Love-Reflection-Oracle-Cards/dp/B0D1Z5M4YK Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Connect with Dan Lawrence:Website: https://www.theunthoughtknown.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/_theunthoughtknownLinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/dan-lawrence-1537271b

Have you ever felt truly and deeply alone? That you are completely isolated behind thick walls or an invisible shell–even when surrounded by a crowd of people or friends? Humans–like most other animals–thrive when they feel connected to others. So it makes sense that loneliness–which is very different from making a choice to spend time alone–negatively impacts physical and psychological health. As research shows us that connection is the key, I've reached out to a top expert on connection for insights on this important topic. Join Dr. Carla Manly and Dr. Adam Dorsay, author, podcaster, TEDx speaker, and connection expert, for a compassionate exploration into the realm of loneliness and the steps we can take to increase connection. With loneliness at epidemic levels, we can all use tips on how to foster healthy relationships to boost mental, emotional, and physical health. Topics covered include: introversion, loneliness, solitude, mindfulness, compassion, mirroring, cognitive flexibility, cognitive rigidity, black-and-white thinking, resiliency, anxiety, stress, depression, bullying, pets, relationships, spirituality, pandemic, loneliness epidemic, and friendship. Check out these impactful TEDx talks by Dr. Adam Dorsay:Friendships in Adulthood: 5 Things to KnowEmotions: The Data Men Miss Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your FriendAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Book by Dr. Adam Dorsay:Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love Connect with Dr. Adam Dorsay:Website: https://dradamdorsay.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dradamdorsay/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-dorsay-psy-d-a582a2/Podcast: https://dradamdorsay.com/superpsyched-dr-dorsays-podcast/Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

No matter your age, gender, socioeconomic status, or other factors, parenting is no easy task. Yet we often expect ourselves to be the ideal, stress-free parents who know how to do it all easily and perfectly. Contrary to the images we see on social media and in the fairytale landscapes in our minds, parenting can be one of life's most challenging journeys. And, all too often, just when we think we have things under control, a new life stage or situation crops up to remind us that nothing in life is perfect—especially the ups and downs of parenting. Is it possible that one of the greatest secrets of parenting is the art of relaxing, finding autonomy, and diminishing anxiety? Join Dr. Carla and Stanford-trained clinical psychologist, parenting expert, and author, Dr. Emily Edlynn for a heartfelt discussion focused on learning to parent with grace, joy, and imperfection. Topics explored include attachment theory, secure attachment, attunement, self-awareness, stress, anxiety, self-determination, and the power of building autonomy, competency, and relatedness. Please note that this episode contains sensitive material (e.g., a parent's cancer diagnosis); listener discretion is advised. Resources are listed in the show notes.Get the help you need: https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helplinehttps://www.cancer.org/support-programs-and-services.htmlhttps://www.cdc.gov/childrensmentalhealth/features/supporting-parents.html Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Book by Dr. Emily Edlynn:Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children Connect with Dr. Emily Edlynn:Website: https://www.emilyedlynnphd.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dremilyedlynnTwitter: https://twitter.com/DrEmilyEdlynn Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrEmilyEdlynnLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emily-edlynn-phd-0610072Podcast: https://offtheclockpsych.com

Has your inner voice been quashed or silenced? Do you feel small or unseen due to the forces of your upbringing, relationships, or society? Do you wish you could take up space, speak your truth, and show up as your authentic self without fear or making apologies? Dr. Carla has found that many people have lost the courage–or never developed the ability–to use their authentic voice because they learned (often early on in life) that they had to be quiet, "good," or obedient in order to be loved or found worthy. But she's here to help you discover that the opposite is true: Genuine love–for the self and with others–comes from the freedom of knowing and expressing your inner truth. By discovering and embracing the power of your own vibrant voice, you can set yourself free to live fearlessly–if imperfectly. Join Dr. Carla and autonomy expert Dr. Soha Al-Jurf for a heartfelt exploration into the power of your inimitable voice. Topics discussed include personal identity, self-exploration, authenticity, emotional experiences, individuation, autonomy, feminine and masculine archetypes, voice rehabilitation, speech-language pathologist, relationships, love, connection, personal freedom, alignment, empowerment, spirituality, soul, boundaries, self-love, and self-discovery. Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised. Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline).Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Soha Al-Jurf:Even My Voice Is Silence: A Palestinian-American Woman's Journey "Back Home"Connect with Soha Al-Jurf:Website: https://www.sohaaljurf.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sohaaljurf/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/soha-al-jurf-a031261a/Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Embrace Positive Affirmations to Boost Positivity, Self-Esteem, and Inner Strength!Affirmation is a powerful tool for resilience. We're often expected to be positive and upbeat no matter what is going on in our lives. At the very least, we generally feel compelled to put on a happy face for the world. Yet, in real life, it's not always easy–or in truth, even natural–to be positive all the time. And for those who face daily challenges such as discrimination, low self-worth, isolation, a lack of support, or mental health issues, life can feel very lonely, dark, and bleak. Although there's no simple cure for these challenging issues, a daily practice of healthy affirmations can truly help foster self-esteem, empowerment, and a sense of belonging. Join Dr. Carla and affirmation expert Jess Vosseteig, author and illustrator, for an uplifting exploration of the power of positive self-messages. Jess's work focuses on inclusivity, empowerment, and creating conversations surrounding feminism and the Queer community. Jess has worked with many top companies including Simon & Shuster, Ulta Beauty, and FB/Meta. Topics discussed include self-messages, affirmations, mental health, isolation, community, depression, anxiety, hope, mindfulness, positivity, self-love, inclusivity, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity, LGBTQ+, suicide, suicidality, the Queer community, societal norms, feminism, and personal empowerment. With a focus on education and empowerment, Jess brings messages of wisdom, compassion, and nonjudgment. Please note that this episode contains sensitive material including a mention of suicide and suicidality; listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline).Get the support you need:https://www.thetaskforce.org/https://www.ncfr.org/resources/resource-collections/support-resources-lgbtq-individuals-and-familieshttps://www.thetrevorproject.org/https://www.lgbthotline.org/Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Jess Vosseteig:Affirmations for Queer PeopleConnect with Jess Vosseteig:Website: https://www.jessvossart.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessvoss_art Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Family is one of the most fundamental aspects of human existence. From birth forward, we're often indoctrinated to embrace the values and priorities prized by our parents and caregivers. In many foundational arenas—from religious and spiritual beliefs to social and political norms—our families and intergenerational patterns have a profound influence on our lives. Yet, from Dr. Carla's personal and professional experience, she's found that our beliefs and needs often change as we mature and explore who we are as individuals. Ideally, those we love choose to support and honor our chosen personal identities and belief systems, but, sadly, many families are torn apart as differences arise. It seems that love cannot always conquer all. Join Dr. Carla and expert Lyn Smith Gregory for a captivating exploration into the heart of family estrangement, individuation, and healthy connection. Topics discussed include boundaries, rebuilding relationships, divorce, estrangement, healthy communication, emotional intelligence, spiritual and religious transitions, trauma, political differences, gender identity, sexual orientation, and individuation.Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised. Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. Get the help you need:https://www.nami.org/https://www.ncfr.org/resources/resource-collections/support-resources-lgbtq-individuals-and-familiesBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Lyn Smith Gregory:We Were Smiths: Escaping the Shadow of Joseph Smith's Mormon Legacy Connect with Lyn Smith Gregory:Website: https://lynsmithgregory.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lynsmithgregory/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lyn.s.gregory.9LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lyn-smith-gregory-773b7b7a/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW7sel_-sBP6Y100HOGKA2A Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

We often learn early in life to use food as a coping strategy, which can lead to destructive dieting patterns. In today's stressful, perfection-oriented world, the tendency to see food as both friend and enemy—a two-faced fixture that wields the power to reward, soothe, tempt, and haunt—can be amplified. While some people simply eat to live, others find themselves struggling daily to find a healthy relationship with food. And for those who weren't raised in food-neutral families, the journey can be especially tough. When battles with food loom large in the psyche, mental and physical health are negatively impacted. Can we heal the diet culture force by rethinking our relationship with food? Join Dr. Carla and clinical psychologist, registered dietician, and certified fitness expert Dr. Supatra Tovar for a mindful exploration of the steps you can take to shift your relationship with food to create lasting psychological and physical well-being. Topics discussed include nutrition, mental health, medication, semaglutide products, fitness, exercise, disordered eating, dieting, binging, trauma, mindfulness, attachment issues, and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Notes: Personal opinion, not medical advice, is offered in this podcast; consult your medical practitioner for advice. As this episode contains sensitive information, listener discretion is advised.Get the help you need:https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/get-help/https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Supatra Tovar:Deprogram Diet Culture: Rethink Your Relationship with Food, Heal Your Mind, and Live a Diet-Free LifeMindfulness Cookbook for Busy PeopleConnect with Dr. Supatra Tovar:Website: www.drsupatratovar.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsupatratovar/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drsupatratovar LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drsupatratovar/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@my.anew.insight TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drsupatratovar Podcast: https://anew-insight.com/anew-body-insight-podcast/ Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Mindfully Move Your Way into Optimal Physical and Mental Health!We naturally want to believe that we are living consciously and engaging in practices that foster optimal health and well-being. However, challenges and stressors of real life can easily take us down a path into anxiety, negative moods, depression, isolation, cloudy thinking, emotional dysregulation, confusion, and myriad physical symptoms including pain. In the process, we often lose (or perhaps never had) the core healing element of somatic awareness. Yet, as research tells us, mindful movement has the power to foster lasting well-being. Join Dr. Carla and renowned somatic expert Dr. Martha Eddy, founder and director of the Dynamic Embodiment Somatic Movement Therapy Training program and author. Dr. Eddy, who has taught at many prestigious universities including Princeton, Columbia, Barnard, and NYU, brings a wealth of experience and research-back strategies that foster healing and overall well-being. Topics covered include mental health, anxiety, depression, somatic awareness, proprioception, conscious action, creativity, dance, yoga, self-awareness, self-regulation, self-expression, TBI (traumatic brain injury), stroke, brain fog, healing, social determinants of health, and the importance of support and community. As this podcast may contain sensitive information, listener discretion is advised. If you need support, please contact your healthcare provider.Get the help you need:https://dynamicembodiment.org/https://www.nami.org/https://www.ninds.nih.gov/health-information/disorders/traumatic-brain-injury-tbiBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Martha Eddy:Mindful MovementDynamic Embodiment® of the Sun SalutationConnect with Dr. Martha Eddy:Website: https://drmarthaeddy.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarthaeddy/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmarthaeddy/ YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@bodyminddancingtm7734 Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Create a Happier and Healthier Life by Embracing the Art of Self-Awareness!Frazzled? Unfocused? Emotionally dysregulated? Although we want to be stable and caring partners, parents, employees, bosses, and friends, it's easy to get stuck in unproductive patterns and erratic behaviors that seem beyond our control. And despite our inborn capacities and environmental influences, we expect ourselves to naturally have excellent focus, time management skills, and emotional intelligence. Yet, in truth, human issues–including neurodiversity and environmental influences–can make it tough (or seemingly impossible) to handle life's myriad tasks and stressors with ease. In fact, most of us can benefit from support and guidance to learn the skills and strategies that will help us get out of our own way and maximize our capacities. Join Dr. Carla and neurodiversity expert Dr. Gretchen Pound for an uplifting journey into the art of using self-awareness to create a happier and healthier life. Topics discussed include focus, impulsivity, emotional regulation, anger management, self-awareness, mindfulness, stress tolerance, time management, self-confidence, emotional regulation, neurodiversity, ADHD, ASD (autism spectrum disorders), yoga, somatic awareness, breathing exercises, and mindfulness. Note: Listener discretion is advised as sensitive topics are discussed.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyConnect with Dr. Gretchen Pound:Website: https://www.healthierlifecoaching.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr._gretchen Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gretchen.poundLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gretchen-pound-ph-d-7220baaLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com

Emotional vampires specialize in sucking up your energy, joy, and inner peace. At their core, emotional vampires are empty, and their self-centered behaviors take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being. Yet with solid awareness and healthy boundaries, you'll be able to spot emotional vampires and keep them from negatively impacting your life. As emotional vampires lack psychological boundaries and emotional intelligence, we'll explore the importance of embracing healthy boundaries and good self-care as you break free from their toxic dynamics. Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your FriendAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com

Are you plagued by thoughts of school shootings, terrorism, or other acts of violence? If fear, anxiety, and intrusive thoughts about violence permeate your dreams or waking hours, it's possible that PTSD or what is unofficially termed Pre-Traumatic Stress Disorder is at work in your body and brain. Today's episode with medical expert Dr. Nina Cerfolio will answer your questions about the causes and impacts of cycles of violence and acts of terrorism while also paving a road toward healing and improved mental health for us all. Join Dr. Carla and Dr. Nina as they explore the realm of violent events and the steps that can be taken to make the world safer and healthier. Topics covered include trauma, PTSD, 9/11, Ground Zero, social media use, bullying, mass shootings, school shootings, suicide, suicidality, schools, psychiatric illness, gun violence, parenting, mental health systems, school systems, anxiety, depression, stress, and the positive effects of small acts of kindness. Please note that this episode contains sensitive mental health and trauma-related material including suicidality and suicide; listener discretion is advised. Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Additional links are in the show notes.Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com

Emotional eating can be difficult to cure due to an often confounding mixture of emotional, psychological, physiological, and societal factors. We often expect ourselves to be thin, fit, and perfect on the outside, and when our physical appearance doesn't meet–or exceed–societal standards, we tend to fault ourselves. We can even become filled with shame that leads us to extremes such as chronic fad dieting, depriving ourselves of food, binge-eating, or exercising to the point of depletion. The more we strive toward the fictional ideal of perfection, the more we feel broken inside. These cycles, which are heavily perpetuated by our dualistic society, create incredible harm. Is the cure to discover what is eating away at you inside? Can you create healthier eating habits by understanding the mystery of why we eat the way we do? Are there strategies you can follow so that you never go on a diet again? Join Dr. Carla and food psychology expert Dr. Nina Savelle-Rocklin for a fascinating exploration into the world of disordered eating, eating disorders, and her decades of work in the realm of curing binge eating disorder. Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised. Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. For assistance with eating disorders, please contact your healthcare provider. See the show notes for additional information including this link: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly

We want—and expect—family ties to last forever. From infancy forward, we naturally seek lasting bonds that will make us feel safe and loved. Yet, sadly, as people change and move through life, family ties can fray and even break—sometimes permanently. Such fractures are sometimes for the best, especially when abusive dynamics are causing substantial harm. However, when the cause of estrangement is a mystery—when family members feel cut off without cause—ongoing pain and suffering result. Can (or should) family estrangement be healed? Join Dr. Carla Manly and Aimee Palmer, founder of Parents of Estranged Adult Children (PEAC), for a deep look at the causes of estrangement, the grief it creates, and how healing might be possible. This powerful interview discusses a range of topics from healthy boundaries and the effects of social media to the importance of hope and support. Please note that this episode contains sensitive information including the discussion of physical abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse, spiritual abuse, trauma, depression, loss, and grief; listener discretion is advised.Get the help you need:www.peacinternational.orghttps://www.peacinternational.org/resourceshttps://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyConnect with Aimee Palmer:Website: www.peacinternational.orgLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aimee-j-palmer-12388a4a E-mail: aimee@peacinternational.orgLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

We're told that we should be happy and that we deserve to have it all. And we often feel that we've failed ourselves if we aren't happy 24/7—and if we haven't managed to get everything we're supposed to need and want. I've found that the overly high expectations we set for ourselves (plus those set by family, friends, and society) tend to work against that most lasting and delightful goal of all—the ability to experience deep, sustainable joy. How can we release expectations that don't serve us to create greater well-being? How can we turn inward to find our north star—the guiding light that allows us to be our best selves and live to the fullest? Join me and Dr. Jennifer Guttman to explore the six secrets of true joy and satisfaction. Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Book by Dr. Jennifer Guttman:Beyond Happiness: The 6 Secrets of Lifetime Satisfaction Connect with Dr. Jennifer Guttman:Website: https://www.guttmanpsychology.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/guttman_psychologyTwitter: https://twitter.com/JenniferGuttmanFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/JenniferGuttmanPsychologistLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferguttmanYouTube: http://youtube.com/c/DrJenniferGuttmanTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@guttman_psychology

We never expect—much less want—to find ourselves caught up in abusive relationships or toxic dynamics such as trauma bonding or gaslighting. In fact, traumatic bonding, which involves abusive power and control coupled with cycles of intermittent reward and punishment, can create or worsen serious mental health issues including anxiety, depression, and bipolar disorder. Sadly, many of those affected—largely women—become stuck in abusive relationships due to low self-worth, shame, and deep fears of stigmatization. Today, we're joined by trauma expert and former wife of The Wolf of Wall Street, Dr. Nadine Macaluso, who will be sharing her vast expertise on destructive relationships, narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and other emotionally manipulative behaviors. As Dr. Nadine notes, "In abusive relationships, we often forfeit the self for the sake of the relationship identity." Listener discretion is advised as this episode contains sensitive information related to trauma, abusive relationships, and abusive dynamics. Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Get the help you need:https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ptsd-hotline/https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsdhttps://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988 Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Book by Dr. Nadine Macaluso:Run Like Hell: A Therapist's Guide to Recognizing, Escaping, and Healing from Trauma Bonds Connect with Dr. Nadine Macaluso:Website: https://drnae.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealdrnadine/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/therealdrnadine/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drnaelmftLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

We often expect ourselves to be everything, everywhere, all at once for everyone, yet such high expectations can lead to being mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually out of balance. In the constant race to achieve more and be more, stress, anxiety, depression, and a host of physical issues often set in. From headaches and stomach issues to sleepless nights and chronic exhaustion, the price we pay for a lack of healthy balance is exceedingly high. Our relationships with others suffer when we do not tend to the self with loving care. Can meditation, gratitude, and tuning into the self create the healing our bodies, minds, and spirits so desperately need? Join Dr. Carla Manly and wellness expert John Jaarsveld to discover the art of creating internal and external balance through mindful self-attunement and self-care. Embracing a body-mind-spirit approach to overall health, John illuminates small, actionable steps we can all take to become more in sync with what works best for us. As a wellness advocate and acupuncturist based in the Netherlands, John brings decades of experience, wisdom, and joy to this extraordinary episode. As John wisely notes, "We make a lot of small choices that lead us in the wrong direction. We can train ourselves to listen to the inner compass by starting with the small things." These are essential reads on acupuncture and health:Kiiko Matsumoto's Clinical Strategies books and additional publicationsDance to the Tune of Life: Biological RelativityThe Spark in the Machine: How the Science of Acupuncture Explains the Mysteries of Western Medicine Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Connect with John Jaarsveld:Website: http://itchi-go.nlInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/acupuncture_john_jaarsveldFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/john.jaarsveldLinkedIn: https://nl.linkedin.com/in/john-jaarsveld-acupunctureLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com

We're constantly learning more about the world of neurodiversity and how to appreciate that every person's brain works differently. Yet, given the pressure to conform—to perceive, process, and utilize information in the "right" way—millions of people feel as if they don't fit in (or can't cope in)—today's world. Fortunately, we are making great strides in understanding, embracing, and encouraging respect for neurodivergent individuals by emphasizing that "different" does not equate to "deficient" or "broken." Those who are not given the individualized attention and support they deserve often suffer from constant self-doubt, a lack of confidence, and poor self-esteem. When we learn to see beyond a diagnosis and tune into each individual's unique needs, mental and physical health tend to thrive. Join Dr. Carla Manly and medical expert Dr. Raun Melmed who will be sharing his expertise on ADHD, autism, anxiety, and neurodivergence. This captivating episode may be especially helpful for adults, parents, and children affected by ADHD. Get the support you need:https://add.org/https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helplinehttps://www.corticacare.comhttps://autismcenter.org Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Books by Dr. Raun Melmed:Marvin's Monster Diary: ADHD Attacks! (But I Rock It, Big Time)Timmy's Monster Diary: Screen Time Stress (But I Tame It, Big Time)Marvin's Monster Diary 2 (+ Lyssa): ADHD Emotion Explosion (But I Triumph, Big Time)Marvin's Monster Diary 3: Trouble with Friends (But I Get By, Big Time!) Connect with Dr. Raun Melmed:Cortica Bio Page: https://www.corticacare.com/bios/raun-melmed-mdSARRC Bio Page: https://autismcenter.org/raun-melmed-mdLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/raun-melmed-2358082Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com

There was a time in the not-too-distant past when aging was honored and seen as a natural part of life. Yet in today's world, we've come to fear aging as if it's a dark monster we must fight in order to be loved, seen, and respected. The culture of eternal youth eats away at our well-being on many levels. It creates an increasingly consumptive and expensive demand for youth-fostering surgeries and products. And for young and old alike, the youth culture feeds mental health issues such as low self-worth, depression, anxiety, and isolation. It also fosters ageism and self-ageism, issues that affect us all. The less we honor and embrace every stage of life, the more we marginalize parts of ourselves and our communities. How can we create the understanding, unity, and changes we need? Join Dr. Carla and ageism expert Lindsey McDivitt—writer and advocate for intergenerational understanding—as they explore the importance of joining together to combat ageism.

If your childhood was traumatic, you might expect yourself to have forgotten or moved past the difficulties and challenges you endured. Yet, from my clinical and life experiences, it is clear we never recover from childhood trauma – or any other form of it – unless we purposefully engage in mindful healing. We are told that "time heals all wounds." But in reality, those wounds only worsen when they are marginalized or ignored. Unresolved childhood issues are unfortunately carried into adult life, where they negatively impact relationships and are transmitted intergenerationally through parenting and other formative relationships. Can self-work be the cure?Join Dr. Carla Manly and trauma expert Dr. Robyn Koslowitz for an uplifting journey into the vital realm of healing from childhood trauma. Through the lens of attachment theory, dive deeper into key issues such as secure attachment, insecure attachment, self-discovery, trauma, PTSD, self-work, post-traumatic parenting, and the healing power of personal growth.Please note that this episode contains sensitive trauma-related material. Listener discretion is advised.Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).

We want to believe that our healthcare system will be there for us when we need it. And we rightly expect that those entrusted with our care can (and will) do everything in their power to give us the care we deserve. Yet, unfortunately, I—and millions of others—have found that our healthcare system is terribly broken. When we are too sick, fragile, weary, or ill-equipped to self-advocate and push forward—the times when we need support the most—the system often fails us terribly.From alcoholism and opioid addiction to anxiety, depression, and schizophrenia, countless people are suffering without any hope of support. Our prisons and unhoused (homeless) populations are filled with individuals who suffer from underlying mental health issues. Those who are without financial resources often suffer the most, although no demographic is immune to this problem. What can we do to make a difference? Dr. Alice Feller, physician, advocate, and author of American Madness: Fighting for Patients in a Broken Mental Health System, offers a wise, shining light. When healthcare becomes big business, humanity loses in the long run. As Dr. Feller notes, “We need to get together and have a political change. We need to take medicine out of the for-profit realm.”Get your copy of Dr. Alice's book on Amazon or Barnes & Noble!Get the help you need:https://www.nami.org/advocacy/policy-priorities/improving-health/medicaid-imd-exclusionhttps://www.aa.orghttps://al-anon.orghttps://na.orghttps://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helplinehttps://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ptsd-hotlinehttps://www.sossobriety.orghttps://www.aasecular.org Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Book by Dr. Alice Feller:American Madness: Fighting for Patients in a Broken Mental Health System Connect with Dr. Alice Feller:Website: https://www.alicefellermd.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556805335369LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-feller-m-d-751b3a132

We often believe that we need to change who we are to be loved and accepted. Yet, in the process of shape-shifting to meet others' needs and expectations, we often lose the very core--the true heart--of who we are. The cost to the self can be devastating. I have come to believe that those who truly understand what it is to love and be loved don't ask us to compromise our imperfectly wonderful selves and the values that make us who we are. How can we stand strong in ourselves despite external pressure to conform to what others want or need? Join Dr. Carla Manly and expert Dr. Nick Literski for a captivating exploration of how issues such as the Peter Pan Syndrome can foster conflict and resentment in relationships. Discover how to shift these common concerns into powerful growth opportunities. Using a lens that employs psychology, myth, folklore, and storytelling, we are guided into experiencing deeper connection with the self and others. Professor, attorney, spiritual guide, and shamanic practitioner, Dr. Literski brings a wealth of expertise to this intriguing episode!Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com

We want those we care about to feel safe, loved, and secure, and we naturally want the same for ourselves. Yet in today's chaotic world, millions feel anxious, isolated, unseen, and unloved, particularly after the pandemic—which took many people's lives off course—feelings of hopelessness, confusion, disappointment, and shame abound. Often-silent expectations from others (and from ourselves) can add another layer of stress. From educational and career goals gone awry to lost friendships and broken dreams, many self-isolate, self-soothe, or resort to finding comfort, meaning, and connection in the virtual world—foraging for relationships online and through social media. However, this unfulfilling chase can exacerbate persistent feelings of emptiness. As loneliness and mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and suicidality skyrocket, can we embrace the skills that will help us and those we love to navigate this strange new world in healthy, connective ways? Join Dr. Carla Manly and neuropsychologist Dr. Sherry Kelly for an engaging look at how our lives—and our brains—are shaped by trauma, expectations, and perceptions. Please note that this episode contains sensitive mental health and trauma-related material including suicidality and suicide; listener discretion is advised. Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Get the help you need:https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ptsd-hotlinehttps://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline Begin your journey: https://mindandheartcoaching.comGet your copy of Dr. Sherry's new book here: https://yourtigerinside.com Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Book by Dr. Sherry Kelly:Your Tiger Inside Connect with Dr. Sherry Kelly:Website: https://mindandheartcoaching.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherry-skyler-kelly-phd-47b01816aLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com

When life feels stressful, dark, or challenging, we often tell ourselves--or are told by others--that we should just toughen and carry on. Yet, from my professional and personal experience, I've learned that compartmentalizing or burying our struggles only makes things worse in the long run. When we ignore our needs for mental, emotional, and physical safety, we can worsen underlying issues such as anxiety or unresolved trauma. On the positive side, I've discovered a mental health toolkit that helps foster genuine healing. Join me, Dr. Carla Marie Manly, and trauma medical expert Dr. Christy Gibson, for a heartfelt journey into the realm of trauma, anxiety, and the healing process. As physician Dr. Christy notes, "It took me so many years to recognize trauma underlies so much of physical and mental ill health that I saw. It took more years to learn why this happens in individuals and families and communities, especially those placed at risk in their social positions. It's now time to share what can be done at all these levels – to provide some hope and a solution focus. Without hope, trauma intensifies.” Please note that this episode contains sensitive trauma-related material; listener discretion is advised. Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Additional links are in the show notes. Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Book by Dr. Christy Gibson:The Modern Trauma Toolkit: Nurture Your Post-Traumatic Growth with Personalized Solutions Connect with Dr. Christy Gibson:Websites: https://www.christinegibson.netInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/moderntraumatoolkitLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christine-gibson-mdFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/gibtrotterMDYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.christinegibsonLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com

Division between generations is not a new issue, yet the disconnect between Gen-Z and older generations can lead to social alienation, interpersonal conflict, and even serious mental health issues. Some see Gen-Z as an overly anxious, stressed group with poor coping skills, a lack of interest in working hard, and destructive screen time overuse. Yet Gen-Zers have so much to offer, and their strengths are often not recognized by those around them. Can open communication be a key tool that helps bring us all together? Can we use our imperfections to foster open, honest interactions that nurture healthy growth? Join Dr. Carla and John Schlimm, a Harvard-trained educator, author, mental health awareness advocate, artist, and Gen-Z expert, for a delightful dive into the simple steps we can all take to improve our connection to ourselves and the wonderful generations around us. This podcast episode explores the power of communication, compromise, attunement, curiosity, play, and learning in boosting mental health, relationship quality, and intergenerational connection. Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Books by John Schlimm:What Would Gen-Z Do?: Everything You Don't Know About Gen-Z but ShouldTHE SMILE THAT CHANGED THE WORLD (is yours)The Star Jumped Over the Moon Connect with John Schlimm:Website: https://johnschlimm.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-schlimm-9566b94a/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JohnSchlimmInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnschlimm/Twitter/X: https://x.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2FjohnschlimmLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Love. Addiction. Sobriety. Trauma. Death. Grief. Each of these six seemingly simple words holds vast meaning and power, yet – when absorbed collectively – they pack a powerful punch that can bring us to our knees. Most of us have loved someone – or have been that someone – who has struggled with addiction. And some of us have felt that shattering pain of losing a loved one to the force of addiction. When this occurs, the suffering and guilt can feel too much to bear. Can love, creativity, and self-growth be enough to pull us through? Join Dr. Carla Manly and best-selling author and award-winning advocate Alicia Cook for a heartfelt journey into the world of love, addiction, death, grief, and healing. Listener discretion is advised as this interview addresses addiction, death, and other highly sensitive topics. It also discusses factors related to addiction such as abuse, PTSD, alcoholism, opioids (e.g., heroin), fentanyl, and recovery.Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Additional links are in the show notes.

We often crave to be loved perfectly, yet human love is naturally imperfect. And while it's normal for us to unintentionally let each other down now and again, actions of betrayal are in a different category altogether. When those we count on most betray us, the body, mind, and spirit are deeply traumatized. The etymology of the word "betrayal" takes us to its roots of intentional deceit, unfaithfulness, and treachery--all of which remind us of the magnitude of betraying trust. Betrayal, as the antithesis of trust and love, can destroy a relationship that took years to build. There is almost nothing more devastating than discovering that someone you counted on--a person you trusted deeply to love and care for you--has deceived you. Whether we are betrayed by a romantic partner, family member, friend, or other trusted person, betrayal can cut us to the core. How can we heal from the pain of betrayal? Join Dr. Carla and betrayal expert Dr. Debi Silber for a wisdom-filled exploration of betrayal, trauma, and the journey into healing. This insightful episode focuses on the traumatic effects of family betrayals. The impact of betrayal within romantic relationships is also highlighted. Listener discretion is advised.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Dr. Debi Silber:Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence, and HappinessFrom Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck, and Create a Life You LoveThe Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life CrisisThe Rebuild Roadmap: A Personalized Blueprint to Heal Yourself and Transform Your RelationshipsA Pocket Full of Mojo: 365 Proven Strategies to Create Your Ultimate Body, Mind, Image and LifestyleThe Lifestyle Fitness Program: A Six Part Plan So Every Mom Can Look, Feel and Live Her BestConnect with Dr. Debi Silber:Website: https://thepbtinstitute.comPodcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcastLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilberYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DebiSilberLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com

We often believe that if we try harder and harder to be the perfect partner, parent, friend, or employee, we will somehow create a trouble-free life and gain the love, safety, and respect we crave. Yet when we chronically strive for perfection, we tend to create more self-judgment, anxiety, and stress. Unfortunately, this toxic dynamic can foster a nasty inner critic whose negative commentary harms the self and those around us. And all too often, the fear of judgment, disapproval, not being loved, or disappointing others feeds the beast of perfectionism. Can gentleness, grace, and imperfect love be the antidote? Join Dr. Carla and psychotherapist Debra Fox Gansenberg for an uplifting exploration of how to make friends with your wonderfully imperfect self and free yourself from toxic comparisons, shame, and blame! As the co-author of How to Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids and Be Okay with It and as an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy expert, Debra brings a wealth of clinical experience to this dynamic episode.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Debra Fox Gansenberg:How to Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids and Be Ok with It: Real Tips & Strategies for Parents of Today's Gen Z KidsConnect with Debra Fox Gansenberg:Website: https://newbeginningscounselingservice.comLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com

Gaslighting. It's an increasingly common term that dates back to a 1938 British Play, Gas Light, and subsequent movies focused on the power of manipulation in relationships. In the original play, a manipulative husband makes his wife feel as if she's going insane by telling her that perceptions are inaccurate when she notices that the house lights are mysteriously dim. In today's world, the term is used to describe manipulative actions that are geared toward making a person doubt their perceptions and sense of reality. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that impacts mental health in lasting ways, yet it can be difficult to spot this toxic behavior and heal from its pernicious effects. Join Dr. Carla and Dr. Robin Stern, licensed psychoanalyst, author, and co-founder of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. As the author of The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide, Dr. Stern brings her wisdom and wealth of experience to help illuminate the dark realm of gaslighting and how to find emotional healing. With strength, increased emotional intelligence, and support, you can learn to spot gaslighters and recover from the toxic impact of gaslighting. Note: This episode contains sensitive information; listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is suffering from abuse, please reach out for support immediately. In the United States, you can reach help 24/7 by calling 911, the Suicide or Crisis Hotline at 988, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. No form of abuse is acceptable; you deserve to feel safe, loved, and supported. Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manly Books by Dr. Robin Stern:The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life The Gaslight Effect Recovery GuideEmotional Intelligence For School Leaders Connect with Lisa Sugarman:Website: https://robinstern.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403aInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinsternFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drrobinsternTwitter/X: https://x.com/RobinSSternPodcast: https://robinstern.com/podcast/podcast-player Important Resource: How We Feel App: https://www.thehotline.org

Anxiety has a way of weaving itself into our bodies, brains, and lives. Struggles with anxiety often begin in childhood and, by adulthood, can become firmly entrenched in our lives. With many mental health issues on the rise--from anxiety, depression, and chronic stress to suicide--it's time to pause to find actionable strategies to help us diminish life's stressors and cope in healthy ways. We often feel defective and struggle in silence, yet healing can be found in reaching out for support and learning to listen to our true needs. The more we destigmatize mental health problems by sharing our stories in supportive environments, the more we can find the path to well-being. Join Dr. Carla and mental health expert Lisa Sugarman for an empowering and uplifting journey into the art of connection and healing. Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Lisa Sugarman:How to Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids And Be Ok With It: Real Tips & Strategies for Parents of Today's Gen Z KidsUntying Parent Anxiety (Ages 5-8): 18 Myths That Have You in Knots—And How to Get FreeLIFE: It Is What It IsConnect with Lisa Sugarman:Website: https://lisasugarman.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-sugarman-16925b69Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisa_sugarmanFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheLisaSugarman/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thelisasugarmanTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thelisasugarmanLinktree: https://linktr.ee/thelisasugarmanLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Secrets. Lies. Truth. Confessions. We often learn to hide parts of who we are--including the mistakes we've made along the way. Yet, I've found that keeping secrets--the dark, shamed-filled ones--can lead to depression, anxiety, and the tendency to be untrue to the self and others. One lie, even a small one, can lead to a web of lies that makes telling the truth (or even seeing the truth) seemingly impossible. Yet when we face our imperfections--including any untruths we've told--we set ourselves free from anxiety, shame, and doubt. Whether holding a secret about past misdoings, negative habits, health issues, or trauma, the failure to share a vital truth can cause irreparable harm. Indeed, the corrosive effects dark secrets can create substantial damage that is often difficult to heal. Yet, due to factors such as shame and a fear of rejection, many people hide the very truth that could set them free. Join Dr. Carla and Mirror Talk mental health advocate Tobi Ojekunle for a soulful conversation about the courageous, freeing journey of honesty. From white lies and toxic secrets to emotional maturity and acceptance, this episode navigates the challenging realm of betrayal and dishonesty in relationships. When we are loved for who we are now--despite the mistakes we make along the way--we can continue to evolve in the most wonderfully imperfect ways.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your FriendAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanlyTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanlyFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362bYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBook by Tobi Ojekunle:Confessions: Can You Keep A Secret?Connect with Tobi Ojekunle:Podcast: https://mirrortalkpodcast.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/MirrorTalkPodcastTwitter/X: https://twitter.com/mirrortalkTOYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mirrortalkpodcast

It can be easy to fall into indifference, hopelessness, or despair when we're met with roadblocks over and over again. Yet I've found that--even in those low spots when we feel as if we'll never bring our dreams to life--the shining lights of hope and faith can help us move forward toward the goals that bring us greater love and purpose. Is it possible to manifest what we truly desire? As a true optimist who diligently works to manifest my dreams, I believe that we do have the power to create a life filled with joy and delight. And though challenges still come even when the powerful forces of passion, purpose, and love are at work, we can learn how to navigate the forces that keep us stuck. Join Dr. Carla Manly and self-fulfillment expert Julia Griffin for an uplifting journey into discovering how to harness your passion to manifest your heart's deepest desires.Books by Dr. Carla Manly:Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyJoy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsConnect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyConnect with:Website: https://onetrueself.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/julia.b.griffin.9Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2FonetrueselfYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjRPGtbu4F0kEy6VldixaeA