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Whether in the workplace, or in your home space, navigating relationships can be overwhelming! No one wants to feel like they’re walking on eggshells, or hoping that the other will magically improve. Proper attention to insights, attitudes, & effective co

Judy Herman


    • Dec 20, 2022 LATEST EPISODE
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    Episode 050: How to Amputate Fear in Parenting & Family Life - Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2022 25:43


    This father-daughter duo are known for their commitment to being an inspiration and using each day to awaken to learn. A family with values to stand up for what is right to be brave even when no one is looking, they are teaming up to share their powerful perspectives through conversations that matter. Daughter, Ashley Register a University of Northern Colorado alumna is a dedicated and seasoned event planning professional as well as a singer and songwriter among her many talents and skillsets currently serving as Event Manager for the Westin Company in Atlanta, GA. And Father, John Register is a Silver medalist, two-time, two-sport Paralympic Athlete, two-time Olympic trials qualifier, combat Army veteran, amputee, and the founder of the United States Olympic and Paralympic Committee's now defunct Paralympic Military Sports Program. Register uses his life experience as an inspirational speaker to inspire people to hurdle adversity, amputate fear, and embrace a new normal mindset to win life's medals. Together the pair create a powerhouse unique synergy in conversation that challenges the audience to open their sphere of influence and mindset through the lens of their respective lens.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: Naming fear will destroy it Planting seeds to grow a legacy Opening opportunity for our children when they're qualified Opportunity opens more doors than hard work Reminder that parents are human, too Parents need to show up & listen to their children The importance of extending grace & lifting others Where you focus is where your energy goes   Connect with John and Ashley: Links Mentioned: Website: https://johnregister.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/jfregister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnfregister/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JohnFRegister LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnregister/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiG9MrQUc3AogdmIlMArT3w For Judy's resources and connection: Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 049: How to Amputate Fear in Parenting & Family Life - Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2022 27:28


    John Register and his daughter, Ashley Register share what it means to stand up for what is right. This is one of a two-part episode series on “How to Amputate Fear in Parenting and Family Life.” Daughter, Ashley Register is a dedicated and seasoned event planning professional as well as a singer and songwriter in Atlanta, GA. Her Father, John Register is a Silver medalist, Paralympic Athlete, Olympic trials qualifier, combat Army veteran, and amputee. As a professional speaker, he inspires people to hurdle adversity, amputate fear, and embrace a new normal mindset to win life's medals. Here is what to expect on this week's show: How overcoming the trauma of becoming an amputee, mixed with fear and doubt, influenced faith and family values.  A healthy perspective of young adults is to see their parents as fellow humans who are also going through life. The importance of tuning into each child's uniqueness and exposing them to experiences that shape them as adults. How the accumulation of family convictions led to Ashley's courageous leadership in a peaceful protest. Advocating for black lives matter and being in harms way, she experienced her dad's support. Connect with John and Ashley: Links Mentioned: Website: https://johnregister.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/jfregister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnfregister/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JohnFRegister LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnregister/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiG9MrQUc3AogdmIlMArT3w For Judy's resources and connection: Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 048: How to Create Psychological Safety in the Workplace

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2022 38:32


    Adam Nemer is the founder of Simple Mental Health, a leadership Consulting firm that helps improve employee satisfaction, productivity, and retention by creating mental health literate and psychologically safe mental well-being cultures. As a CFO and executive who struggled with severe depression, anxiety, and panic, Adam speaks to leaders about how they can help the 20% of their employees who struggle with a diagnosable mental illness. Here is what to expect on this week's show: The importance of breaking the stigma of mental illness to help employees receive the help they need. How do we need to redraw the line of appropriateness in offering help to the 20% of employees struggling with mental illness? Why mental health first aid training needs to be as common as CPR training Mental health literacy is necessary for creating an environment where people can perform their best. The more we create space for telling our stories, the more our organizations can be bastions of mental well-being.    Connect with Adam Nemer: Website: https://simplementalhealth.com Adam's Phone: 503-970-2050 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/simplementalhealth_/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mentalsimple LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/simple-mental-health/ For Judy's resources and connections: Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 047: 3 Reasons to Pause: Sanity for Leaders & their Families

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2022 35:38


    Tim and Adele Richardson have been a couple since 1987. Tim is a nationally recognized leadership, sales and service speaker who's been entertaining and engaging audiences for over 30 years. Adele is a stay-at-home mom who homeschooled their six children. They recently became first-time grandparents and someday hope to lead couples' retreats.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: The secret to a long marriage is to celebrate together and keep dating each other. As entrepreneurs, allow your children to see what you do. The value of the pause and how it can create sanity for leaders and their families. Why it's important to pause and ask, "what's next?" The power of pause, when and how to pause.   Connect with Tim & Adele Richardson: Links Mentioned: http://timrichardson.com   Tim & Adele Contact: Twitter: https://twitter.com/TimRichardson Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TimRichardsonCSP LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/timrichardsoncsp/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKeR1I5AsQX5eCzqPzEsBmg   For Judy's resources and connection: Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 046: 5 Powerful Practices from adversity to adventures

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2022 29:09


    Andy is a committed father and family man after serving in the Navy and owning a successful business. Struggling with family adversity, and remarriage, Andy and his wife were faced with what became a seven-year battle to save their son's life. Together, and with help, they WON. Twenty-year-old Drew is happy, healthy, and doing great! Born out of these experiences, Andy created Always Adventure. He helps overwhelmed parents live happier, healthier, and more fulfilling lives. Now as an author, speaker and coach, he's also involved in the non-profit organization Fathers and Families Support Center. Here is what to expect on this week's show: How one family endured intense adversity during their son's adolescent and life-threatening years. The importance of pursuing the right kind of help. Andy's quote “They loved him with our heart” makes self-nurturing and a healthy practice of letting go possible.  We are not the sum total of the worst decision we've ever made.   Connect with Andy: Website: https://alwaysadventurelife.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AlwaysAdventureLife/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4Lf2aqjF1GEYsk_fuRq_NA LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andy-way-b65a50167 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/always_adventure_life/ Residential Treatment Center mentioned: https://www.embarkbh.com   For Judy's resources and connection: Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Ep 045: 3 Ways to Be Authentic in a Difficult Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2022 12:50


    Judy brings us another solo episode based on her personal and professional experiences. Also, it's the season for upcoming holidays and family gatherings. She reminds us of previous episodes will enhance your authentic life as you move through difficult relationships.  Along with her professional speaking and writing, Judy helps families and leaders change complaints into cooperation in their 9-5 jobs and 24/7 lives.  Here is what to expect on this week's show:  Definition of authenticity which is sometimes overused and misunderstood.  How the “good, bad, and ugly” of relationships are mirrors to our blind spots.  The value of recognizing our common humanity.  Techniques for emotional protection in the presence of the difficulty.  Recognition of the various levels of toxicity within difficult relationships.  Connect with Judy: Ask Judy: https://www.judycounselor.com  Info about her speaking: judyspeaker.com  Active social media: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/judykherman/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JudyHermanRelationships  More resources and connection:  Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 044: How to Recognize the 5 Horseman of Messy Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2022 17:52


    Judy K Herman is hired by leaders & organizations so they can increase psychological safety and workplace flow. With her expertise in mental health and wellness, she enables positive vibes in relationships using a 90-second formula, without the pain or frustration of losing control. She's the author of the top ten finalists “Beyond Messy Relationships” which is like psychotherapy in story form. Her innovative speaking, counseling, and coaching includes virtual and outdoor retreat experiences. Here is what to expect on this week's show: Definition of the four horsemen How criticism and defensiveness play off each other What it means to stonewall Judy's Fifth Horseman A recap of episodes that example the horsemen How the formula of breathing fresh A.I.R. (Awareness, Intentionality, Risk of Growth) is a beginning point to healing Connect with Judy: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/judykherman/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/judycounselor/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JudyHermanRelationships For Judy's resources and connection: Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 043: Exposing Emotional Abuse: How To Break Free From Marital Confusion

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2022 46:39


    Natalie Hoffman is the author of Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage as well as the host of the Flying Free podcast. She helps women of faith find hope and healing from hidden emotional and spiritual abuse. Here is what to expect on this week's show: The definition of covert abuse Who abusers target in relationships Why it is important to be willing to be wrong How our past is part of the package of who we are supposed to be Connect with Natalie: Links Mentioned: Website: www.flyingfreenow.com Guest Contact Info: Instagram: @flyingfreesisterhood Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/flyingfreenow/ TikTok: @flyfreenatalie For Judy's resources and connection: Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 042: Secrets to an Unstoppable Business & Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2022 40:51


    Kyle and Ariel Tresch are husband-and-wife digital marketing consultants, who have built a thriving relationship AND many thriving businesses together. After helping companies scale their teams & revenue by tens of millions of dollars, the happy couple suddenly found themselves in a dark place -- as the everyday stresses of business began to take a toll on their relationship. Kyle and Ariel chose to fight for their marriage. In doing so, they pioneered a brand new approach to doing life and business in a way that has allowed their relationship to flourish and their businesses to skyrocket. Today - they are founders of a coaching company called Couplepreneurs™ where Kyle & Ariel equip other entrepreneur couples with the proven strategies they need to rapidly scale businesses to 7 figures or more (while going on more date nights than ever before). Here is what to expect on this week's show: How to combine business and marriage into a unified purpose that creates a flowing partnership. Growing through tension, friction, and conflict can show us the need to bust through old beliefs. The value of re-examining traditional marital roles in order to synchronize as a couple in business & life. Respecting each other's giftedness for partnership and unified purpose. The necessity of identifying faith, clarity, and hierarchy of values   Connect with Kyle & Ariel Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/couplepreneurscommunity Instagram: https://instagram.com/couplepreneurs_official For Judy's resources and connection: Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Media Page - https://www.judycounselor.com/judy-herman-professional-bio/media/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 041: Alzheimer's & Caregiver Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2022 30:11


    Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 041: Alzheimer's & Caregiver Relationships Cheryl Blanchard is a licensed social worker, certified dementia care specialist, and a certified case manager. She has worked with seniors for several years in a variety of roles. She has focused most of her training on caring for those with Alzheimer's Disease, along with their families. Cheryl provides information on caring for a loved one with a dementia diagnosis. She also supports caregivers. Here is what to expect on this week's show: Definition and misconceptions about Alzheimer's and Dementia Common complications with care giving and family relationships Breaking through denial in order to prepare for progressive stages of the illness. How to edit a vow that was previously promised in order to care effectively for the loved one while staying well as a caregiver.   Connect with Cheryl: Links Mentioned: Website: https://www.alztennessee.org/ Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/AlzTN Twitter: https://twitter.com/alztn?s=21&t=Cvt3TqgNo0mmBamxl4rpXw Instagram: https://instagram.com/alzheimerstn?igshid=MDE2OWE1N2Q= Hire Judy to Speak, plus additional resources:   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 040: Severe Mental Illness & the Partnered Marriage Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2022 31:20


    Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman   Episode 040: Severe Mental Illness & the Partnered Marriage Part 2   This is Part 2 of my conversation with Mark Lukach. He is the author of the international bestselling memoir My Lovely Wife in The Psych Ward.   If you haven't yet, make sure you go back to the previous episode. We talk about the care-giving season of Mark and Giulia's young marriage.   This episode is “Severe Mental Illness and the Partnered Marriage.” We talk through how to maintain a sense of family when you know that crisis and trauma might be on a loop cycle.   Mark first wrote about Giulia in a New York Times "Modern Love" column. He has also shared their story at The Moth Main Stage, and at a TEDx conference.   My Lovely Wife In The Psych Ward is the product of 5 years of Mark's writing. He shows how mental illness redefined his marriage to Giulia, and ultimately affirmed the power of love.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: Learning to maintain a sense of family while in a loop cycle of severe mental illness. A pathway toward accepting and embracing the reality of the mental illness while realizing its after affects. How reciprocal perspectives are necessary for sustaining the relationship. Resilience and healing through the written word. Necessity of self-care and individual therapy for the non-ill spouse. Wellness factors required for partnered teamwork and preparation.   Connect with Mark: Website: http://www.marklukach.com For Judy's resources and connection:   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 039: Severe Mental Illness & the Care-Giving Marriage Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2022 29:18


    Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman   Episode 039: Severe Mental Illness & the Care-Giving Marriage Part 1   This episode and the next are part 1 and 2 of a topic that touches many of us. “Severe Mental Illness.” In part 1 we're addressing the care-giving season of a young marriage. In part 2 we address the growing partnership of Mark & Giulia Lukach. This is a remarkable story. You'll want to be sure and tune into both parts. Mark Lukach is the author of the international bestselling memoir My Lovely Wife in The Psych Ward. His freelance writing has been published in the New York Times, The Atlantic, Pacific Standard, Wired, and other publications. He is currently the ninth grade Dean at The Athenian School, where he also teaches history. Mark lives with his wife, Giulia, and their sons in the San Francisco Bay area. Here is what to expect on this week's show:   ·      The unexpected onset of severe mental illness in a young married couple. ·      How psychosis and recovery changes the husband/wife partnership into care-giver/patient. ·      Necessity of therapy and support for the caregiver. ·      The role of denial and the condition of anosognosia. ·      What's needed in partnered healing. Connect with Mark: Website: http://www.marklukach.com For Judy's resources and connection:   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 038: 3 Unexpected Surprises from Better Relationships, Better Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2022 11:28


    Judy K Herman helps families and leaders change complaints into cooperation in their 9-5 jobs and 24/7 lives. She's been doing that all her life at various stages from her family of origin to 40 years of marital experiences with two husbands (not at the same time.) Her second career as a psychotherapist specializing in relationships followed seasons of homeschooling her four (now adult) children.   She's the author of top ten finalist “Beyond Messy Relationships” published in 2019. Her weekly podcast “Better Relationships, Better Life” features influencer experts and courageous couples.   The book and podcast have become “therapy beyond the four walls of her counseling office.” Judy is among the top 3 marriage counselors in Chattanooga. She is licensed in Tennessee and Georgia. Her innovative counseling and coaching includes virtual and outdoor retreat packages.   When she's not having backyard adventures with her 5 young grandchildren, you can find her exploring her own adventures. Part of that is honing her craft as a speaker and writer. The other part is international travel along with facilitating retreats and mastermind groups.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: • What lights you up? • What are the common themes in your life? • What does it mean to be willing to evolve? Connect with Judy: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/judykherman/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ instagram: https://www.instagram.com/judycounselor/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JudyHermanRelationships For Judy's resources and connection:   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 037: Finding Fun & Flow Through Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2022 35:25


    Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman   Episode 037: Finding Fun & Flow Through Life   Jody Lentz facilitates better teams, better meetings and better decisions. His creative communication and innovative approach helps organizations think, plan and act strategically. His passion is engaging organizations to create high-performance, low-drama work cultures.   Jody's clients span the government, higher education, entrepreneurial and corporate realms. One of his proudest business achievements has been on a team developing “Serious Play,” a product for the LEGO company. Based in Nashville, Jody and his wife of 34 years have three adult sons and two grandchildren.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: ·      Tapping into fun and wonder in family and business. ·      The difference between a facilitator and a consultant. ·      Take work seriously. But don't take your life too seriously. ·      Injecting play and light-heartedness in everything you do. ·      Balancing creative flow to avoid stuck-ness or boredom in your relationships and career. ·      Mentioned the book: “Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience” by Mihaly Csikszentmilhalyi     Connect with Jody:: Links Mentioned: www.JodyLentz.com http://www.thinkwithyourhands.com/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jody-lentz-bna For Judy's resources and connection:   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 036: Post-Divorce Bliss: Ending Us & Finding Me

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2022 43:18


    Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman    Episode 036: Post-Divorce Bliss: Ending Us & Finding Me   Jude Walsh is the author of the award-winning Post-Divorce Bliss: Ending Us and Finding Me. She is a creativity and life coach. And she helps women, either post-divorce or at a turning point in their lives, identify and realize an optimal new life. She writes self-help, personal essay, and romance. In addition to writing and coaching, she teaches legacy and journal writing classes. Here is what to expect on this week's show: Physical health concerns dealing with the jolt of betrayal in a long-term marriage.  The crucial importance of self-care and letting go  Necessity of a marriage autopsy through the divorce process  Creating new traditions and new life experiences for post-divorce bliss. Connect with Jude: Links Mentioned: http://secondbloomcoaching.com/ jude@secondbloomcoaching.com Subject line “Bonus” for a PDF to help through the holidays.  Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/secondbloomcoaching LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jude-walsh-49508b165 For Judy's resources and connection: Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 035: Beyond Messy Relationships: Divine Invitations to Your Authentic Self

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2022 50:28


    Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 035: Beyond Messy Relationships: Divine Invitations to Your Authentic Self Rebecca Greene is back (see episode # 12) now on the other side of the microphonewith Judy. From one therapist to another, Rebecca brings thought-provoking questions after reading Judy's book, “Beyond Messy Relationships.” Their common professional trainings and careers led them to a “soul-sisterhood” connection. Both have been hosts and guests on each other's podcasts. Both share common values on marriage, family, and relationships.  Rebecca's Whinypaluza Vlog has over 3.7 million views. On this episode, she is masterful at bringing out Judy's intense and dramatic story. With 40 years of marital experiences to two different husbands, Judy shares the catalyst for writing her book. Issues addressed include divorce, re-marriage, mental illness, abortion, and resilience. Tune into the conversation behind the curtain of an “uncoupled” relationship therapist.  Here is what to expect on this week's show: How confronting and releasing shameful secrets can become transformational moments in our lives. How to use a resilience formula - AIR: Awareness, Intentionality, Risk of growth The value of reframing narratives of painful endings. i.e. divorce vs. ‘natural completions.'  Relationship advice for those caring for loved ones with mental illness.  The need for support regardless of the shame of secrecy or “imposter syndrome.” Our lives are more than the initials behind our names and more than the roles we play (as spouse, parent, mother, etc.)  Connect with Rebecca: Blog  https://www.whinypaluza.com/ Book  https://bit.ly/WhinypaluzaBook Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting Instagram https://www.instagram.com/becgreene5/ @becgreene5 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@whinypaluzamom?lang=en @whinypaluzamom Links Mentioned: Get your signed copy of Beyond Messy Relationships https://www.judycounselor.com/beyond-messy-relationships/ For Judy's resources and connection: To hire Judy as a speaker – https://www.judyspeaker.com Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 034: Deepening Connection Through Listening, Creativity, and Risks of Growth

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 30, 2022 41:07


    Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman   Episode 034: Deepening Connection Through Listening, Creativity, and Risks of Growth   John Noltner is an award-winning photographer who has worked on four continents, gathering stories of human courage, grace, and resilience. He has produced projects for national magazines, Fortune 500 companies, and non-profit organizations. His multimedia art project, A Peace of My Mind, reflects his belief that art and storytelling can help individuals, organizations and communities articulate their deepest values and encourage action toward building social capital and community connections.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: ·      How stressful events can lead to creative connection ·      Tuning into your passion is becoming aware of what feeds your soul ·      The importance of navigating risks and becoming open to uncertainty ·      Peace is rooted in listening in which another person feels seen and heard with a story that matters ·      Openness to conversations broadens our understanding of the world   Links Mentioned: https://www.broadleafbooks.com/store/product/9781506471211/Portraits-of-Peace www.apomm.net Twitter https://twitter.com/apeaceofmymind1 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/apommstories/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/A-Peace-of-My-Mind-186355973157/ For Judy's resources and connection:   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 033: Redefining Normal: Thriving Partnership While Parenting Special Needs Children

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2022 50:02


    Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman   Episode 033: Redefining Normal: Thriving Partnership While Parenting Special Needs Children   Wendy and Bob Andersen are an entrepreneurial couple whose lives have shifted dramatically with the discovery of their newborn son's rare genetic disorder. They learned to partner through major decisions in order to meet the needs of their family.   Wendy soon found her passion advocating for her family and other families who are also going through extraordinary means to care for their children. As a public speaker, she's a woman who isn't afraid to speak truth to power or challenge the status quo if it means creating more equity and respect for all.   Wendy & Bob are a couple who have learned and are living a life of Redefining Normal.     Here is what to expect on this week's show: ·      The importance of a solid partnership when the unexpected happens and life turns upside down. ·      How adapting to the challenges of a special needs child brings hope to other families. ·      The value of setting intentions while letting go of the results. ·      Why it's vital to redefine normal ·      Advice for families with special needs children while honoring their unique challenges.   Connect with Wendy: www.wendyandersenpresents.com https://www.facebook.com/WendyAndersenRedefiningNormal/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-andersen-867a1041   For Judy's resources and connection:   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 032: Corporate Leadership Wellness at Work & at Home

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2022 35:33


    Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 032: Corporate Leadership Wellness at Work & at Home Dennis & Angela Buttimer, are professional speakers, leadership consultants, and yoga teachers. Both have been featured in various media outlets as experts on human behavior in the workplace. They've authored two books, CALM: Choosing to Live Mindfully, and Inspired: 365 Days of Mindful Mojo. Their TEDx talk is entitled “Defusing Stress with Mindful Mojo.” Dennis has a coaching practice. Angela is a psychotherapist who loves to cook and dance in the kitchen. Together, they've learned to integrate their marriage and business together.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: ·      What corporate leaders need for their emotional and relational wellness ·      The necessity of implementing strategies for stress management ·      Why a growth mindset is crucial for a growing company ·      The importance of busting through isolation during dark times ·      How a trusted community is necessary in order to get through difficulties and loss   Connect with Dennis and Angela: www.pathtobestself.com www.bookmotivationalspeakers.com LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/dennis-buttimer-19108b2/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/angela-buttimer-ms-cvp-lpc-28021a19/   For Judy's resources and connection: Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://judykherman.as.me/ComplimentaryCall LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 031: How to Align Your Best Self in Relationships and Business

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2022 46:15


    Episode 031: How to Align Your Best Self in Relationships and Business Jeff Krahl is an international business consultant, speaker, corporate strategist & trainer, best selling author, and certified high-performance coach with over 25,000+ hours of empowering clients in breaking through their limiting beliefs so they can live their ideal business and life. He's proven Fifth Power Formula has helped CEOs, financial advisors, marketing agencies, sales teams, individuals, and more over the last 19 years. His purpose in life is through integrity, fun, and happiness. He empowers others to live an extraordinary life beyond their believes and live a life of endless possibilities.     Here is what to expect on this week's show: ·      How past relationships subconsciously affect new relationships in the workplace or personal life. ·      Grounding yourself in your purpose. ·      Cultivating and nurturing true partnership in personal and professional relationships. ·      Having the awareness to be your best self. ·      Advice for the isolated leader.   Connect with Jeff: Links Mentioned: www.JeffKrahl.com Guest Contact Info: Twitter www.twitter.com/jeffkrahl Instagram www.instagram.com/jeffkrahl Facebook www.facebook.com/Jeff.Krahl/ LinkedIn www.LinkedIn.com/in/jeffkrahl Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 030: Healing Childhood Trauma to Overcome Addiction

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2022 44:16


    Episode 030: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots: From Addictions to Awareness Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a Christian counselor and coach certified in treating Problematic Sexual Behaviors. Eddie has worked with professional athletes and television personalities among his many clients. He is the creator of the Inner Child Model for treating Problematic Sexual Behaviors, a unique approach that focuses on identifying unresolved childhood pain points and teaching individuals how to process emotional distress in healthy ways. His treatment method has been endorsed by many leaders in this field. Here is what to expect on this week's show: Ways addictive behaviors form out of unresolved childhood trauma from the past Why it takes 18 months to five years for healing and freedom from addictive behaviors to create transformation and new ways of being The importance of describing emotions and learning to be with “difficult” emotions. The benefits of a fully engaged life with increasing self-awareness and purpose.   Connect with Eddie: WEBSITE: www.strugglingmen.org WEBSITE: www.abundantlifecounselingga.com WEBSITE: www.innerchild-sexaddiction.com WEBSITE: www.SexuallyPureMen.com LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/capparucci/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/InnerChildRecoveryProcess TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ECapparucci?lang=en   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com   Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta...   Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 029: Side Splitting Humor, Success & Connecting with Imperfection in Marriage & Family

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 26, 2022 43:34


    Ken Davis Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Side Splitting Humor, Success & Connecting with Imperfection in Marriage & Family Ken Davis is a best-selling author, frequent radio and TV guest, and one of the nation's most sought-after inspirational and motivational speakers. His books have received national critical acclaim, and he has been the keynote speaker for hundreds of major corporate and faith-based events. As the president of Dynamic Communications International, Ken teaches speaking skills to corporate executives and ministry professionals. He and his wife, Diane, reside in Franklin, Tennessee, near their two daughters and six grandchildren. Here is what to expect on this week's show: Moving past the cruelty and trauma of childhood, and choosing love and self-respect over pain and self-doubt How a sense of humor can be relationship superglue Voicing ways your partner can improve without bringing them down or making them feel bad Recognizing the long-term effects the COVID lockdown had on your family life Using therapy to avoid your repeating parents' childrearing shortcomings How ADHD can affect a long-term relationship in one or both partners   Connect with Ken: WEBSITE: https://www.kendavis.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/kendavis.comedy TWITTER: https://twitter.com/kendavislive   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com   Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta...   Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 028: Healing Relationship Injuries Through Invitation

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 19, 2022 35:18


    Cheri Timko Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 028: Healing Relationship Injuries Through Invitation Cheri Timko is a Relationship Coach who helps women deepen their connection with their current partner so they can have the relationship they long for. She has been happily married for 20 years. She is a veteran psychotherapist and homeschool mom to three teenage daughters. Here is what to expect on this week's show: Critical differences between relationship coaching and relationship counseling The difference between a deep and shallow relationship injury, ways that those injuries can carry over into new relationships, and the many factors and strengths behind every couple's unique healing process Adding new elements to the script or dance of your relationship through invitation, rather than criticism Tips for when one partner in a relationship seems to be doing all the tracking and maintenance, and the other won't acknowledge the need for work or transformation Conceptualizing a marriage as a sacred space where you can be who you are and work together with your spouse to get where you want to be   Connect with Cheri: WEBSITE: https://www.cheritimko.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/synergycouplescoaching LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cheri-timko-44559b211/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/synergy.couples/   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com   Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta...   Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 027: Balancing Entrepreneurial Ambition and Love: Lessons from Yoga, Coaching, and Married Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 12, 2022 44:54


    Michael and Jill Knouse Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 027: Creative Connection from Corporate to Coaching, Yoga, & Married Life Michael Knouse is a business and executive coach. He helps impact-focused entrepreneurs and leaders breakthrough to new levels of performance and fulfillment without pushing harder.  Jill Knouse is a Holistic Business, Life + Wellness Coach. She has built a successful business teaching, coaching, leading trainings, and hosting retreats around the world. Jill and Michael blend their vast work and life experience together to support their clients in leveling-up all aspects of their lives and livelihood.   When not cheering their clients on to victory, Michael and Jill can be found exploring the trails of the Pacific Northwest and adventuring with their two lovable dogs (Dug and Addie). Here is what to expect on this week's show: • How two individuals on a personal and professional journey of growth learned to have a great partnered relationship.  • The importance of renewing yourself from previous relationships and moving forward with a clear purpose.  • It's possible to enjoy the integration of business and personal adventures together.  • How yoga and body movement contributes to relief of tension and irritations. The importance of therapy and intimate communication.    Connect with Michael and Jill: MICHAEL: WEBSITE: https://www.michaelknouse.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMichaelK/ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/MichaelKnouse LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelknouse INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/michaelknouse/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/msknouse1968   JILL: WEBSITE: https://www.jillknouseyoga.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/jillknouseyoga/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Jillknouseyoga LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jill-knouse-81a48070/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoXx-yGaohrJ1SqLtu69lA TWITTER: https://twitter.com/jillknouseyoga   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com   Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta...   Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 026: Conscious Loving Ever After: Midlife & Beyond

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 5, 2022 48:08


    Gay and Katie Hendricks Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 026: "Conscious Loving Ever After: Midlife & Beyond"  Gay and Katie Hendricks have been pioneers in the fields of body intelligence and relationship transformation for over 40 years. They have trained hundreds of coaches around the world with powerful body intelligence skills. They've enhanced fields from medicine to sports psychology, education, and personal growth. Together & singly they have authored more than 40 books. Title include such bestsellers as Conscious Loving, The Big Leap, Conscious Loving Every After: How to Create Thriving Relationships at Midlife and Beyond and The Genius Zone. They have appeared on more than 500 Television & radio programs including Oprah, and 48 Hours.  Here is what to expect on this week's show: • The necessity of breaking through mythologies of long-term relationships.  • Replacing boredom with the magic of discovery and commitment to creativity.  • Three questions to distinguish whether your relationship will thrive or dive. • Why honesty, responsibility, and creativity bring ease and flow to the relationship. • Seeing each other as an appreciation project can end blame and criticism.  • It's not about renewal, but rather it's about discovering and integrating your relationship. • Number one priority is connection by moving beyond fear and into the flow of life.  Connect with Gay, Katie, and the Hendricks Institute: WEBSITE: https://hendricks.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/hendricks.gay/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/relationshipadvice YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/hendricksinstitute TWITTER: https://twitter.com/hearts_harmony Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 025: Navigating Relationship Ecosystems with Radical Self-Awareness

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2022 39:12


    Rebecca Wong Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 025: Navigating Relationship Ecosystems With Radical Self-Awareness As a licensed clinical social worker, Rebecca Wong is certified in Relational Life therapy (RTL) and Developmental and Relational Trauma Therapy (DARTT). She loves helping people get real and reconnected in their relationships. Rebecca hosts the Connectfulness Practice podcast and co-hosts the Why Does My Partner podcast. She resides in New York's Hudson Valley with her husband, daughters, and a handful of four-legged furry mischief-makers.  Here is what to expect on this week's show: • How to see relationships as an ecosystem while considering that we either pollute or clean up the ecosystem. • As opposed to “healthy” relationships, secure relationships are about connection, disconnection, and repair. • Our task is to increase self-awareness and observe oneself in the relationship. • Relationships can bring up trauma that hasn't been integrated into the flow of our developing brains. We can learn how to integrate at any stage of life rather than numbing the pain. Connect with Rebecca: WEBSITE: https://connectfulness.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/connectfulness/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/connectfulness YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSCFN-u2rISucbLmTDNIY6A TWITTER: https://twitter.com/connectfulness LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/connectfulness/ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/connectfulness/ Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/          Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 024: Betrayal: Coping, Healing, and Choosing to Grow

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2022 38:44


    Debi Silber Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 024: Betrayal: Coping, Healing, and Choosing to Grow Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal.  Here is what to expect on this week's show: The three groundbreaking discoveries that Debi uncovered while studying betrayal, and after being betrayed by her immediate family, and, a few years later, her husband Using the trauma that follows being betrayed as an opportunity for growth and transformation The difference between PTSD and Post-Betrayal Stress Syndrome, and a detailed breakdown of how the symptoms manifest in those who suffer from it The five stages of coping with betrayal, and how knowing them can help you avoid succumbing to the weight of the trauma Utilizing willpower and commitment to overcome your post-betrayal trauma and reclaim your life   Connect with Debi: WEBSITE: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/debisilber TWITTER: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kdsamuel LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com   Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta...   Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 023: Breaking Free from Secrecy and Shame, pt. 2: Healing for Children and Faith Communities

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 14, 2022 27:45


    Dave and Kirsten Samuel, pt. 2 Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 023: Breaking Free from Secrecy and Shame, pt. 2: Healing for Children and Faith Communities  This episode is part two of our continued conversation with Kirsten and Dave Samuel. Their marriage has moved through the effects of pornography, clinical depression, and PTSD. Together, they speak and educate about the millions addicted to porn. They bring hope through their own story of God's redeeming grace.  Kirsten D. Samuel is a professional writer who has two published books: Choosing a Way Out: When the Bottom Isn't the Bottom and 5 Lies Moms Believe: Be the Mom Your Child Believes You Are. Dave Samuel is an audio production specialist. The couple have been married 40 years with three grown children and twelve grandchildren. Here is what to expect on this week's show: • How to see love as an active choice, not an emotion.  • Addictions are medicating behaviors to numb emotional pain from childhood.  • Pornography is a progressive addiction accompanied by the dangers of isolation. • The importance of being vulnerable with your children, respecting daughters and calling sons into manhood. • Honoring differences and growing into transparency together. • What's necessary for accountability partners and creating a trusted support system. • The necessity of transformation and creating a new marriage. • The process of writing is cathartic and good for your mental health. Connect with the Samuels: WEBSITE: https://www.kirstendsamuel.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kirstendsamuel Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kdsamuel LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirsten-d-samuel Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/          Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 022: Part 1 - Breaking Free From Secrecy and Shame: Pornography, Addiction and Marriage.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2022 25:55


    Dave and Kirsten Samuel, pt. 1 Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 022: Part 1 - Breaking Free From Secrecy and Shame: Pornography, Addiction and Marriage. Kirsten D Samuel, professional writer, was at a loss for words when her husband, Dave Samuel, audio production specialist, confessed his addiction to pornography. The months ahead revealed the bottom was deeper still as she was diagnosed with clinical depression and PTSD.   After 14 years, Kirsten now serves wives wounded by pornography. She lives each day with her recovered husband as they choose authenticity, love, faith, fun, and forgiveness. Kirsten and Dave openly speak about the millions addicted to porn and God's redeeming grace. Dave and Kirsten have been married 40 years with three grown children and twelve grandchildren.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: A deeper look into a marriage torn by pornography addiction. The shame of being found out in the workplace and myths about secret recovery. How childhood violation and early exposure to pornography affects adulthood. What one couple's healing journey was like. The effects of including adult children in the healing process.   Connect with the Samuels:   WEBSITE: https://www.kirstendsamuel.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kirstendsamuel Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kdsamuel LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirsten-d-samuel   Connect with Judy:   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com   Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta...   Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 021: Changing the Stigma of Couples' Therapy: The Gottman Method

    Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2022 40:37


    Dana McNeil Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 021: Changing the Stigma of Couples' Therapy: The Gottman Method.   Dr. Dana McNeil is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and founder The Relationship Place. She is a certified Gottman therapist and trains others in the Gottman methodology. Dr. Dana contributes regularly to media publications such as Business Insider, MSN, Yahoo, Bustle, Parade, Oprah Living, Martha Stewart Living, Reader's Digest, and AARP. Dr Dana is the resident relationship expert on the Cox Communications show “I Do.”   Here is what to expect on this week's show:   Why it's important to break the stigma of counseling and change the face of couples therapy.   Conflict is normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Yet, it's necessary to learn ways to grow and move through it.   When couples discover problems, most wait an additional six years before seeing a therapist.   The Gottman method, an evidence-based therapy, provides tools to help couples become “masters” rather than “disasters.”   How to change attitudes from furious into curious.   Connect with Dr. Dana:   WEBSITE: https://danamcneil.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drdanamcneil/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/DrDanaMcNeil LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dana-mcneil-shutt-77b44415 THE RELATIONSHIP PLACE WEBSITE: www.sdrelationshipplace.com   To connect with Judy:   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com   Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta...   Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 020: Stop Fixing Your Marriage: Instead be a Change Agent

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2022 40:33


    Samantha Kaaua Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 020: Stop Fixing Your Marriage: Instead be a Change Agent Samantha Kaaua is an author, speaker, licensed marriage therapist. She is the founder of The GEMMS, an international coaching and training company. The focus is helping women to overcome their biggest blocks and unlock their greatest potential. Samantha co-authored the book “Short Sweet & Sacred” which became an international #1 bestseller on Amazon. She is a leading expert on relationships and is on a mission to help restore trust and faith in the world!   Here is what to expect on this week's show: How dark circumstances in relationships or health can lead to increased opportunities for growth. The value of moving out of blame and into seeing the problem as a gift of awareness. Why it's crucial to learn life lessons for personal wholeness before exiting a marriage. How relationships naturally seek stability. Your individual growth does affect the partner's choices. Change can positively affect the family system in one of two ways: transformed togetherness or natural completion.   Connect with Samantha and the GEMMS: WEBSITE: https://www.thegemms.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thegemmscoaching/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/thegemmscoaching/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyE-vsX7aKH0Ln96nxiSc2Q   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com   Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta...   Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 019: Navigating Cross-Cultural Marraige: Faith, Culture, and Tradition

    Play Episode Listen Later May 17, 2022 33:35


    Bob and Dorice Horenstein Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 019: Navigating Cross-Cultural Marraige: Faith, Culture, and Tradition Bob and Dorice Horenstein have a strong partnership enhanced by their faith, traditions, and culture. Bob is the Director of Community Relations of the Jewish Federation of Greater Portland. Dorice is a relationship speaker and certified Positive Intelligence/Mental Fitness coach. She is the best-selling author to a multiple award-winning book Moments of the Heart: Four Relationships Everyone Should Have to Live Wholeheartedly. Bob supports Dorice in her message that Positivity is an "inside out” practice. It instills calm, laser focus along with success and growth. Together, they have a daughter and two sons along with their beloved one-legged dog.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: ·     Ways in which family faith traditions can contribute to a strong foundation in doing life together in marriage. ·     The importance of establishing your own identity and nuances as a couple that's distinct from the extended family culture. ·     How important it is to adapt to each other's growth in order to enjoy a growing, sustainable and long-term marriage partnership. ·     Ways in which courageous steps into the unknown can be vibrantly life-giving transitions for your marriage.   Connect with Bob and Dorice:   DORICE'S WEBSITE: https://doricehorenstein.com/ DORICE'S TWITTER: https://twitter.com/Doricemoments DORICE'S FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Speakerdoricehorenstein DORICE'S YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs_5yAD2szClrg5yclXTCCA DORICE'S LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/doricehorenstein/ BOB'S LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bob-horenstein-91662646/   Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com   Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta...   Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 018: The Seven Rings of Marital Happiness

    Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2022 41:27


    Jackie Bledsoe Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 018: The Seven Rings of Marital Happiness Jackie Bledsoe is an author, podcast host, and speaker who's reached over 100,000 couples with his bestselling book, The 7 Rings of Marriage. He helps couples build strong marriages and families, so they can positively change their family tree. He's also an entrepreneur who shares what he's learned from starting a blog, writing a book, and turning it into a business. He and his wife, Stephana, are the founders of Happily Married Couples, a marriage training platform and community that helps couples connect and communicate while leading them through a powerful and proven marriage success path. Here is what to expect on this week's show: You can have a happy marriage even if you've had challenging circumstances such as being young and pregnant.  It's important to seek out and be open to marriage mentors. You can progress in your communication skills in order to build transparency.  Happy marriage is not a static condition or a perfect marriage. Rather, it means that you're blessed with life partnership. The 7 Rings of Marriage help you identify and grow through various seasons and stages. Writing can be a great mental health and wellness practice for your marriage. Connect with Jackie: WEBSITE: http://jackiebledsoe.com/ WEBSITE: https://happilymarriedcouples.com/ TWITTER: https://www.twitter.com/JackieBledsoeJr/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/JackieBledsoeJr/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/jackiebledsoejr/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackiebledsoejr/ Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 017: Insider Tips About Couples Counseling

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2022 49:17


    Shane Birkel Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 017: Insider Tips About Couples Counseling As a Certified Relational Life Therapist, Shane Birkel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. He hosts a weekly podcast called the Couples Therapist Couch which is all about the practice of Couples Therapy. He has also created the Couples Therapist Inner Circle which is a membership that provides community, education, and personal support for Couples Therapists. He regularly creates videos about relationships for his followers on TikTok and Instagram.   Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, where Shane gives us insider tips about couples counseling.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: Any relationship issue has to do with something that's going on inside yourself. Conflict doesn't indicate failure. Rather it can help you confront your own fear and self-doubt.  It's important to get clarity about what you want. And be willing to be open & curious to the therapy process.  Timing is important when establishing good boundaries in your relationship. There's values and differences between couples and individual therapy.  Since things do get stirred up and it is hard work, therapy is also life-changing which makes your life and relationship better.  Connect with Shane: WEBSITE: https://shanebirkel.com/ TWITTER: http://www.twitter.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Shane-Birkel-Counseling-1438476286394931/ Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 016: Journey Beyond Divorce

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2022 43:56


    Karen McMahon Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 016: Journey Beyond Divorce Karen McMahon is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce.  She began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into an incredible new life. Karen leads a national team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce.  Karen is the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility” and creator of JBD's exclusive 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program.    Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, where Karen:   Here is what to expect on this week's show: Tips on staying courageous through the long, difficult, emotionally trying process of getting a divorce The financial implications of getting divorced, and the new, exciting business opportunities that may await you after separating from your spouse How the growth and positive transformation can be worth the messiness of separation Mentally moving past the societal stigmas of divorce Living a fulfilling post-divorce life, full of growth and transformation Connect with Karen: WEBSITE: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenmcmahon/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/journeybeyonddivorce INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/journey_beyond_divorce/ PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-beyond-divorce-podcast/id1261400624 12 STEP DIVORCE RECOVERY PROGRAM: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/12StepRecoveryProgram FREE RAPID CALL RELIEF: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/rapid-relief-call Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 015: Embracing Change for Lasting Connection

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2022 43:19


    Chris and Shelly Chamberlin Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 015: Embracing Change for Lasting Connection Married for 32 years, Christopher and Shelly Chamberlin were college sweethearts! They are owners/operators of Chamberlin Real Estate and LionHeart Transformative Coaching. When they are not busy facilitating transformative breakthroughs or brokering real estate dreams, they enjoy world travel and outdoor adventures through the four seasons of Colorado and the Rocky Mountains. Christopher and Shelly parented two sons, (now adults). They have one grandson and a miniature dachshund named Cooper. Both are lifelong students of mindset and transformation in pursuit of the highest levels of experience, growth, and contribution.  Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, where Chris and Shelly unpack ways they are Embracing Change for Lasting Connection: Here is what to expect on this week's show: How going back to your core values can ground you together when experiencing times of drifting apart.  The value of expanding and attracting growth in yourself and in your spouse. Accepting each other's differences while learning to adapt to changes Why it's important to ask each other why are we married? Acknowledging that you have choices can reinforce your commitment to each other.  Connect with Chris and Shelly: FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ChamberlinRealEstate/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/chamberlinrealestate/ Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 014: No Blame, No Shame

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 12, 2022 34:34


    Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 014: No Blame, No Shame Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and the founder of The Marriage Restoration Project, where couples find new hope & create a happier, deeper connection in 2 days with his “No Blame, No Shame” couples therapy & workshops. Rabbi Slatkin is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, a Rabbi, and a father of 5. He is an advanced Clinician in Imago Therapy and Getting the Love You Want ™ Workshop Presenter.     Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of relationship and parenting advice:   Here is what to expect on this week's show: How Rabbi Shlomo and his wife Rivka turned their experience with Imago therapy into the foundational guide for the Marriage Restoration Project Why connection and a feeling of safety are key to open and honest communication in a relationship Where Rabbi Shlomo thinks people who feel like Imago therapy hasn't worked for them should start looking Ways in which the different stages of parenting can impact a relationship over time What to do if one partner is doing more work on the relationship than the other  Connect with Shlomo, Rivka, and the Marriage Restoration Project: WEBSITE: https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/themarriagerestorationproject/ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/shlomoslatkin INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/marriagerestorationproject/ Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 013: Groundbreaking Science to Heal Emotional Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2022 51:11


    Doug Noll Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 013: Groundbreaking Science to Heal Emotional Abuse Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator. Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to become peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons.     Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life: Here is what to expect on this week's show: ● How disregarding a child's feelings is emotional abuse. ● Supporting evidence in the Kaiser ACE Study measures the lasting impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences  ● Most people haven't developed ways to distinguish & express emotions from their family of origins.  ● Why it's important to know the difference between affect and emotions ● We can learn techniques to calm intense anger in another person. ● All domestic violence is related to alexithymia (inability to describe, express & distinguish emotions) For resources and a free e-book related to this podcast go to:  https://dougnoll.com/podcast/judyhermanpodcast/ Connect with Doug: LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougnoll/ Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 012: The Whinypaluza Traditional Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 29, 2022 45:35


    Seth and Rebecca Greene Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 012: The Whinypaluza Traditional Marriage Seth Greene is a nationally recognized direct response financial services marketing expert, the CEO of Market Domination LLC, and co-host of the Sharkpreneur podcast. Rebecca Greene LCSW-R is a Top 100 Mommy blogger and host of the Whinypaulza podcast. With their combined experience in marketing, podcasting, and married life, these two make a perfect entrepreneurial couple!   Listen to this insightful interview with Seth and Rebecca on Better Relationships, Better Life, where :   Here is what our conversation touched on in this week's show: How faith and learning from past relationships give clarity about common goals in marriage.  Great partnerships are possible with traditional marriages (vs. egalitarian marriages). Growth mindsets and clearly defined roles give stability to the entrepreneurial couple & family. Adjustments and challenges with becoming new parents. Seth shares his first-time experiences as a new dad. Rebecca shares how the family contributes to her blog and podcast.  How to balance career and family time.  Connect with Seth: Website: https://marketdominationllc.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarketDominationLLC YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/APMFunnel LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/market-domination-llc/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/market_domination_llc/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/mktdominationus Connect with Rebecca: Website: https://www.whinypaluza.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/whinypaluzaparenting/ Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 011: Breaking Up & Becoming Better - Conscious Uncoupling

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 22, 2022 45:54


    Katherine Woodward Thomas Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 011: Breaking Up & Becoming Better: Conscious Uncoupling Katherine Woodward Thomas is the New York Times bestselling author of Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After and Calling in “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attracting the Love of Your Life, as well as an award-winning marriage and family psychotherapist. Over the past two decades, Katherine has taught thousands of people around the globe to create conscious, loving relationships. They learn skills for deeper connections, health, and happiness. Katherine developed training programs: Certifications for “Calling in The One” Coaches , and “Conscious Uncoupling” Coaches. She provides ongoing supervision to a vibrant community of therapists and coaches from around the world. She's a Billboard charting, #1 iTunes jazz artist with her CD, Lucky in Love, which was co-written and co-produced with The Brothers Koren.    Listen to this insightful interview with Katherine on Better Relationships, Better Life, : Here is what to expect on this week's show: ● We're moving from hierarchy to equal power in relationships. ● Conscious uncoupling is not just a pretty word for divorce. But rather it replaces attitudes of hostility in order to create peace in the family system.  ● The simple and elegant steps to uncoupling is a process of growing awareness.  ● Spending years in “healing,” can lead to over-identification of the trauma story. Instead, we can develop character and become our best selves.  ● It's important to change hostile terms like “X” in order to show grace to former spouse and create harmony for the children and extended family. ● Skills in the program can deepen intimacy and even save some marriages. Connect with Katherine: WEBSITE: https://katherinewoodwardthomas.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/katherinewoodwardthomas TWITTER: https://twitter.com/KatWoodwardThom INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/katherinewoodwardthomas/ Connect with Judy:  Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 010: Oprah and the Pioneers of Connection Beyond Conflict

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2022 41:43


    Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy K. Herman Episode 010: Oprah and the Pioneers of Connection Beyond Conflict Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are internationally-respected couple's therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. In addition, Harville has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! The pair are also the co-creators of Imago Relationship Theory & Therapy, as well as Safe Conversations®, an organization that contributes to the creation of a relational culture through the distribution of new insights from the relational sciences.   Listen to this insightful interview with Harville and Helen on Better Relationships, Better Life, :   Here is what to expect on this week's show: ●    You'll hear light-hearted conversations about Harville and Helen's influence on Judy as an Imago Relationship therapist and how this interview brings out the “hidden” Oprah in her. Their first appearance on the Oprah Winfrey show was the program that won Oprah her first Emmy award!  ●    The definition of Imago Relationship Therapy, and how it can benefit not only couples, but also individuals, business partners, corporations, congregations, and more. ●    Helen shares how Harville was first in the history of the world to teach skills of dialogue. He was instrumental in the development of the relational sciences becoming teachable. ●    Living with wonder is a sign of brain health. Dialogue activates all of the lobes of the brain by creating structure to regulate emotions. ●    For those with mental illness, skills of dialogue can provide structure to slow down and calm the mental chaos. Everyone is seeking to be safe and connected. ●    The concept of sacred space between two people coincides with philosopher Martin Buber's “I - thou” vs. “I – it.” ●    Helen and Harville are currently working with Adrien Kennedy, former chair of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) https://nami.org/About-NAMI. She envisions the impact of dialogue on the world being powerful enough to end mental illness as we know it today. ●    Created by Harville and Helen in 1980, Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is one of the most influential models of therapy in the world today, practiced in 63 countries by over 2,500 therapists! To find out more: 1.   If you're a therapist who wants training, or a couple who wants Imago Relationship therapy, go to https://imagorelationships.org/ 2.   Join the global social movement to bring Safe Conversations to the whole world by 2030. Go go to https://safeconversations.com/ 3.   Connect with Harville and Helen: WEBSITE: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/harvilleandhelen TWITTER: https://twitter.com/HarvilleHelen INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCf_6FDOjokkjsRkZJr-tcgA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 009: Simple Ideas That Will Save Your Marriage: Part 2, It Still Takes Two

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2022 30:50


    Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com   Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta...   Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/   Stan Tatkin, pt. 2 Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 009: Simple Ideas That Will Save Your Marriage: Part 2, It Still Takes Two Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship RX, Wired for Dating, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships.   Listen to part two of this interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin on Better Relationships, Better Life, packed with simple ideas that will inspire you co-create a secure relationship. Nature, culture and history throughout time gives evidence of the necessity of equal partnership for survival and growth. It's not easy and it still takes two.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: ●    Our instinctual inclination towards teamwork can save relationships, and turn enemies into friends ●    How to honor both spouses in the partnership as “equal power and equal authority.” Otherwise it's not sustainable. ●    The necessity of your unique relationship set of ethics that both spouses agree to that's not to be reckoned with. ●    Why a relationship is less of a skill set and more of a practice   Connect with Stan: WEBSITE: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/PactTrainingInstitute TWITTER: https://twitter.com/DrStanTatkin INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/stanleytat LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/pub/stan-tatkin/11/233/281   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 008: Simple Ideas That Will Save Your Marriage and Your Life: Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 1, 2022 25:41


    Relationship Stress Quiz - https://www.judycounselor.com Complimentary Clarity Call - https://JudyKHerman.as.me/Complimenta... Linked In - https://www.linkedin.com/in/judykherman/ Stan Tatkin, pt. 1 Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 008: Simple Ideas That Will Save Your Marriage and Your Life: Part 1 Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship RX, Wired for Dating, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships.   Listen to part one of this insightful interview with Stan Tatkin on Better Relationships, Better Life, full of the influences that helped shape the PACT institute, and some of the wisdom that Stan and his team can share:   Here is what to expect on this week's show: ●    How Stan utilizes his research in psychobiology as a foundation for his work with the PACT institute and in relationship therapy ●    How Stan went from drumming protégé to working with couples ●    The evolutionary and historical reasons why people long to be in paired relationships ●    Ways of thinking about relationships so that one member is not at risk of being eclipsed or absorbed by the other, where both partners can keep their individual identities while also supporting one another ●    The many different spiritual and philosophical traditions that influence Stan's work and the PACT foundation ●    Habits and rituals that you can form with your partner that will remind them of your mutual support, even if the two of you go to bed upset with one another   Connect with Stan: WEBSITE: https://www.thepactinstitute.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/PactTrainingInstitute TWITTER: https://twitter.com/DrStanTatkin INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/user/stanleytat LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/pub/stan-tatkin/11/233/281   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 007: How the Enneagram Helps Increase Marital Satisfaction

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2022 43:47


    Chad and Shelley Prevost Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 007: How the Enneagram Helps Increase Marital Satisfaction Chad (an Enneagram 4) is a writer, publisher, author coach, and certified Enneagram practitioner with advanced degrees in creative writing, literature, and theology. He's participated in writing and literary arts communities in New York, Austin, Atlanta, and Chattanooga and now spreads his passion for the Enneagram throughout the Southeast.   Shelley is the Co-founder of Big Self School, a personal growth school supporting the mental and emotional wellbeing of leaders through coaching, consulting, a podcast, and events. She is a licensed therapist, educational psychologist, leadership coach, and Enneagram practitioner. She has 25 years of clinical and coaching experience combined with 10+ years as a business coach and startup executive to help leaders be their wisest and most authentic selves.   Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of relationship tips rooted in the Enneagram typology personality system.   Here is what to expect on this week's show: ●    What the Enneagram is, and how people are using it to guide their personal and professional lives ●    How Chad's background in theology and Shelley's background in psychology compliment each other's personality and work lives ●    How the Enneagram is different from other personality tests such as the Myers-Briggs ●    How Chad and Shelley met, how they've used the Enneagram to improve each other in their 23 years of marriage, and how they came to found Big Self School ●    Why the Enneagram is not the final step in self-understanding, and further steps that you can take to build upon what the Enneagram has revealed ●    How a solid sense of self-awareness can lead you to healthier habits, and better relationships   Connect with Chad and Shelley: WEBSITE: https://www.bigselfschool.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/bigselfschool TWITTER: https://twitter.com/bigselfschool LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/big-self-school INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/bigselfschool/   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 006: Beyond Destructive Marriages: Clarity Towards Self-Respect & Dignity

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2022 39:02


    Leslie Vernick Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 006: Beyond Destructive Marriages: Clarity Towards Self-Respect & Dignity Leslie is a popular speaker, author, licensed clinical social worker and relationship coach. She has over 35 years of experience helping individuals, couples and families heal, rebuild or grow their relationships. Growing up in a broken home with an abusive mom, Leslie has learned first hand how difficult it can be to act in a Christ like way with a destructive person. Whether coaching, speaking or writing, Leslie gently leads people to make real changes in their lives. She loves to help women learn to confidently speak their own thoughts and feelings in a constructive way, encounter God's peace and presence in the midst of suffering or difficult loss, and develop the discipline to turn dreams and desires into reality. Leslie is the author of seven books, including the best selling, The Emotionally Destructive Marriage and The Emotionally Destructive Relationship. Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of tips for managing trauma and working towards healthy outcomes in your relationships. Here is what to expect on this week's show: ●    The two things that Leslie, who has been married for over 46 years, knows you need to keep a marriage strong and long-lasting ●    Ways in which Leslie has pushed back against traditional Christian teaching about marriage to stand up for women who may find themselves abused, depressed, or desperate in their marriages ●    How to learn and grow from abusive encounters or toxic relationships, rather than trying to change the toxic traits in the other person ●    Lessons from Christian theology that people from all religious backgrounds can learn from, and apply to their relationships ●    Ways that past traumas and mental illnesses can manifest in a relationship, and tips on how to navigate their influence to work towards the healthiest result Connect with Leslie: WEBSITE: https://leslievernick.com/ FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/LeslieVernickFanPage TWITTER: http://twitter.com/leslievernick PINTEREST: http://pinterest.com/leslievernick LINKEDIN: http://www.linkedin.com/pub/leslie-vernick/1/a70/404 YOUTUBE: http://www.youtube.com/user/leslievernick INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/leslie.vernick/     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 005: How High Energy Fun Can Strengthen Your Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2022 44:05


    Matt and Linda Lutz Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 005: How High Energy Fun Can Strengthen Your Marriage Matt and Linda Lutz are a dynamic couple with an out of the ordinary life story who are passionate about unearthing the true potential buried deep within individuals and organizations. They have spent the last 30 years together in business and are still alive [and happily married] to tell about it. The majority of that time they spent 24 hours/7days a week together starting and running businesses, including a non-profit organization, owning rental property, and 21 years building and pastoring a church in NC.  Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of tips for a long-lasting and healthy marriage: Here is what to expect on this week's show: ● How Matt and Linda went from meeting at a karaoke bar to a healthy, long-lasting marriage ● How Matt and Linda continually go back to their core values of spontaneity, fun, and adventure.  ● They described their parenting as unique by integrating their children into their “before children” lifestyle.  ● What Linda means when she says that one of the secrets of a healthy marriage is to “never doubt in the darkness” ● How Matt's strong sense of cooperation was drilled into him in the Marine Corps, and how those lessons still help him in his relationships today  ● Why sometimes, you need to disregard any expectation for your life set before you by anyone else and live your own passions  Connect with Matt and Linda: WEBSITE: https://mattandlindalutz.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/mattandlindalutz/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/matt-and-linda-lutz/       Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 004: Yin and Yang of Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2022 36:01


    Chloe Ballatore Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 004: Yin and Yang of Relationships Chloe Ballatore is a Relationship & Communication Expert; and a graduate of Princeton University and the WANT Institute. She uses tools derived from Eric Berne's Transactional Analysis (author of THE GAMES PEOPLE PLAY) and Pat Allen's (of MILLIONAIRE MATCHMAKER) Androgynous Semantic Realignment. In simpler terms, this means she helps people change their lives and get the love they want by balancing their yin and yang energies. She is her own first success story and is now twenty years married. Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of relationship and parenting advice: Here is what to expect on this week's show: ● The ancient philosophies that serve as a foundation for Chloe's work ● A look inside Chloe's books ● The circumstances that made Chloe want to become a relationship & communication expert, and how they affected her marriage ● Impactful communication tips from Judy and Chloe that you can bring to your relationship ● Tips on raising a family in a way that breaks with generational family patterns of that you don't want to repeat Connect with Chloe: WEBSITE: https://chloesconsciousnesstraining.squarespace.com/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chloe-ballatore-ab80755/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoLqAmbtotYclh-lmebobdA INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/chloes_consciousness_training/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 001: The ADHD Effect on Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2022 35:44


    Melissa Orlov Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman Episode 001: The ADHD Effect on Marriage  Melissa Orlov is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com, and author of two award-winning books on the impact of ADHD in relationships - The ADHD Effect on Marriage (2010) and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD (2014). She is considered one of the foremost authorities on the topic of how ADHD impacts adult relationships. A marriage consultant, Melissa helps ADHD-affected couples from around the world re-balance their relationships and learn to thrive through her seminars, consulting and books. She also teaches marriage counselors and other professionals about effective marriage therapy for couples impacted by ADHD. Orlov blogs for Psychology Today and at www.adhdmarriage.com, where she also hosts a large community of adults learning about ADHD in relationships. She has been interviewed by many, including the New York Times, CNN, Today, and US News and World Report. You can find her at ADHDmarriage.com.  Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of information about ADHD, and methods that couples can use to manage it when one or both partners are diagnosed: Here is what to expect on this week's show: ● Exploring what ADHD is, and dispelling some pervasive myths ● Ways in which an unnoticed, undiagnosed ADHD can manifest later in a person's life  ● How untreated ADHD can affect a relationship, and ways that ADHD marriage specialists like Melissa help couples manage it together ● Why learning as much as you can about ADHD is the best way to start working with it   ● What it means to be “subclinical”  Connect with Melissa: WEBSITE: https://www.adhdmarriage.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ADHDMarriage/ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/msorlov PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ADHDMarriage/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKgnjLa_jk3lO7-13p7qQng Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 003: The Difference Between Couples Coaching and Couples Counseling

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2022 50:13


    Dr. Robin Buckley, CPC, helps high-achieving clients thrive in their careers and relationships. She is an author, public speaker, and cognitive-behavioral coach who works with executive women and high-performance couples. Her proprietary coaching model uses a business framework and cognitive-behavioral strategies to support clients in creating and executing concrete, strategic plans for developing their careers and relationships. The founder of Insights Group Psychological & Coaching Services, Dr. Buckley has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and served as a doctoral professor and dissertation chair for students in business, leadership, education, and healthcare. She has published two books, including Voices From the Village: Advice for Girls on the Verge of Adulthood. Dr. Buckley is a columnist for Entrepreneur.com and has been featured as an expert on multiple media platforms, including Thrive Global, Authority Magazine, Nike, various podcasts, News Radio 96.7, and WGN Radio 720. Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of information about relationship coaching that you may not expect:   Here is what to expect on this week's show: How the values that Dr. Buckley's parents instilled in her led her to a life of counseling, coaching, speaking, and writing. How her PhD helped her develop professionally as a coach, even when coaching wasn't a regulated field like the mental health industry. Turning points that led Dr. Buckley to coach high-achieving women as well as couples. Advice she would give to her younger self. The best time for couples to seek coaching. Ways in which Dr. Buckley helps entrepreneurial couples develop strategic plans for successful marriages using mission statements and business terminology.   Connect with Robin: WEBSITE: http://www.drrobinbuckley.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/findingthepowerwithin/ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/DrRobinInsights INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drrobinbuckley/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-robin-buckley-8257277/         Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Episode 002: Choosing Respect and Embracing Differences: Wisdom from a Seasoned Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2022 47:30


    Dan is author of the New York Times best-selling 48 Days To The Work You Love. Over 140,000 people have subscribed to his weekly newsletter, and his 48 Days Podcast consistently ranks in the top 1% of all podcasts. His 48DaysEagles.com community is viewed as an example around the world for those seeking to find – or create – work they love. Dan has been married to Joanne for over 52 years. They have three grown children, seventeen grandchildren and live in their version of paradise in Osprey, Florida. Joanne, has been Dan's raving fan, speaker at their live events and an integral piece to the success of their thriving 48 Days community. She is an accomplished artist, speaker, blogger and author of five children's books and co-author of Be Your Finest Art. Her most recent book, Creating a Haven of Peace, describes the decorating ideas, meals, games and celebrations that built her family's respect, laughter and lasting relationships.  Listen to this insightful episode of Better Relationships, Better Life, full of tips for building a resilient and healthy marriage: Here is what to expect on this week's show: How Dan and Joanne met in college determined to change their branch of the family tree. They chose to create a haven of peace beyond traumatic experiences and religious expectations of their family of origins. Dan & Joanne have nurtured respect, positivity and connection with their grown children & grandchildren. They are intentional to maintain a healthy mental diet by staying away from negativity that permeates our culture through news media and TV. They don't do regret. Instead, they live in the present moment with plenty of grace for themselves and others. Their ritual of playing board games and cards have enriched their family relationships.   Connect with the Millers: WEBSITE: https://www.48days.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/dan.miller.1829405 TWITTER: https://twitter.com/48DaysTeam JOANNE'S WEBSITE: https://joannefmiller.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Trailer: Welcome to the Better Relationships, Better Life Podcast!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 4, 2022 1:04


    Welcome to the Better Relationships, Better Life podcast! Many entrepreneurial couples feel exhausted and disconnected during their most crucial times at home. Unresolved conflicts are "swept under the rug" while marital tension affects the whole family. Maybe you keep hoping for change, but realize you're walking on eggshells. Nothing has worked long term.  Relationship expert, Judy K. Herman is here to help as the host of Better Relationships, Better Life podcast. She interviews courageous and resilient counselors, coaches and influencers. Based on her 40 years of marital experiences and clinical counseling, you'll hear the authentic journeys of those who have been there.  Moving through betrayal, mental illness, and divorce, Judy is the best-selling author of Beyond Messy Relationships. As an advocate for human resilience, she invites you to gain clarity to co-create better relationships and align with your better life.  You can choose to live peacefully and purposefully without regrets. Breathe fresh A.I.R. through Awareness, Intentionality, and Risks of growth. You're so worth it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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