Doorknob Comments was named for a phenomenon that sometimes happens at the end of a therapy session, when the patient may mention something important and riddled with conflict, right as you’re walking out the door. Equal parts frustrating and enlightening, it surfaces key issues which may--or may not!-- get addressed anytime soon.
Dr. Fara White & Dr. Grant Brenner
The Doorknob Comments podcast is a truly remarkable and enjoyable listen. Grant and Sara, the hosts of the show, bring together erudition and humor in a way that makes each episode fly by. The conversations prompt deep questions and provide insightful insights into therapy and mental health. It is an absolute pleasure to listen to this podcast, as it not only entertains but also educates with the same level of profundity as academic journals in the field.
One of the best aspects of The Doorknob Comments podcast is its ability to cover fun, insightful, dynamic, inspiring, eloquent, accessible, various, informed, and informative conversations about therapy and mental health. Grant and Sara are engaging hosts who captivate listeners with their knowledge and expertise. The selection of content is exciting and cutting edge, ensuring that every episode brings something new to the table. Additionally, the production quality of this podcast is top notch, making for a seamless listening experience.
The worst aspect of this podcast can be difficult to find since it offers so many positive attributes. However, some listeners may find that there are times when the discussions lack depth or delve too much into surface-level analysis. While this may not be an issue for most people who prefer easily digestible content, those seeking more intellectual rigor might feel unsatisfied at times.
In conclusion, The Doorknob Comments podcast is a valuable resource for anyone interested in therapy and mental health topics. It covers important aspects we all deal with within ourselves but often refrain from discussing openly. The hosts create a welcoming environment where listeners can gain meaningful insights while being entertained. Overall, this podcast stands out among others in its genre and deserves high praise for its content quality and impact on its audience's understanding of these important issues.
In today's episode of Doorknob Comments, Fara and Grant are joined by Kate Werble, a longtime friend of Fara's and founder of her own New York City art gallery. They talk about the intimidating world of contemporary art, breaking down the mystique of the gallery scene and offering practical advice on how to begin engaging with galleries. Kate emphasizes that looking at art is a skill developed over time, encouraging curiosity over expertise for newcomers interested in learning how to engage with art. Finally, they talk about what art is ultimately about and what it offers psychologically. We hope you enjoy it. Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Kate Werblehttps://www.katewerblegallery.com/https://www.instagram.com/kate_werble_gallery/?hl=enDr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In today's episode of Doorknob Comments, Grant and Fara sit down with Dr. Glenn Saxe to discuss the development and impact of Trauma Systems Therapy (TST), a model that addresses both emotional regulation in traumatized children and the complexities of their social environments. Dr. Saxe highlights how TST's open-source approach has allowed practitioners worldwide to innovate and adapt the model for diverse settings, from child welfare to refugee care. The conversation explores the importance of honoring intergenerational wisdom while adapting to new challenges like cyberbullying and the digital age. They also touch on the promise of causal data science to advance psychiatric research and the need to embrace complexity rather than oversimplify mental health solutions. We hope you enjoy. Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Glenn Saxehttps://med.nyu.edu/faculty/glenn-saxehttps://med.nyu.edu/departments-institutes/child-adolescent-psychiatry/trauma-systems-therapy-training-center Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/If you like our podcast, please leave a review! Thanks in advance!
On today's episode of Doorknob Comments Fara and Grant are joined by Dr. Michael Levin, the Vannevar Bush Distinguished Professor of Biology and the Director of the Allen Discovery Center at Tufts University. Dr. Levin publishes across developmental biology, computer science, bioengineering, and philosophy of mind, with work spanning from fundamental conceptual frameworks, to applications in birth defects, regeneration, and cancer. Fara and Grant discuss Dr. Levin's groundbreaking research, how he came to his research interests, and the potential linkages or applications his research might have for the future of therapeutic care.We hope you enjoy.Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Michael Levinhttps://thoughtforms.life/https://drmichaellevin.org/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
On this episode of Doorknob Comments, Fara and Grant focus on why people often struggle to do things that are good for them while continuing habits that might be harmful. They discuss the concept of multiple self-states or personality parts that can sometimes conflict with each other, leading to procrastination, guilt, and difficulty in enjoying leisure activities. The conversation touches on topics such as the challenges of balancing productivity with self-care, the role of brain activity in procrastination, and the importance of self-reflection in understanding one's own motivations and behaviors. Throughout the episode, Fara and Grant draw on psychoanalytic theories, personal experiences, and clinical observations to offer insights into how individuals can better navigate their internal conflicts and make more constructive choices. We hope you enjoy. Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
On today's episode of Doorknob Comments, Grant and Fara sit down with Erica Krakovitz, a clinical psychologist and marriage and family therapist, to explore the complexities of relationships, self-trust, and emotional healing. They dive into the patterns that keep people stuck in toxic dynamics, the role of intuition in recognizing red flags, and how different therapeutic approaches—like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and EMDR—can help people rebuild their sense of self. Whether you're navigating heartbreak, questioning your relationship, or simply curious about how therapy works, this conversation sheds light on the deep psychological forces that shape our connections with others.We hope you enjoy.Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Erica Krakovitzhttps://www.drkrakovitz.com/https://www.instagram.com/drericakrakovitz/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
On this episode of Doorknob Comments, Fara and Grant are joined by Professor Nir Eisikovits, a philosopher and the founding director of the Applied Ethics Center at UMass Boston. They delve into the intersection of artificial intelligence, ethics, and psychotherapy, exploring how AI technologies can impact therapeutic practices. The discussion highlights the growing loneliness crisis and the potential role of chatbots in providing accessible mental health support, while also addressing the ethical implications and potential hazards of automating therapy. Professor Eisikovits shares insights from his research on the moral dilemmas surrounding technology and war, questioning whether AI can genuinely replicate human empathy and emotional connections in therapeutic settings. The episode raises critical questions about the future of psychotherapy in an age increasingly influenced by AI advancements.We hope you enjoy it! Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Nir Eisikovitshttps://www.umb.edu/directory/nireisikovits/https://prostheticgods.podbean.com/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode of Doorknob Comments, Fara and Grant are joined by Mark Solms, a renowned neuropsychologist and psychoanalyst. Dr. Solms discusses his groundbreaking work in neuropsychoanalysis, which bridges the gap between neuroscience and psychoanalysis. He shares insights from his 30-year project of retranslating Freud's complete works, including previously untranslated neuroscientific papers, revealing how this process has deepened our understanding of Freud's ideas. The conversation explores the fundamental role of emotions and consciousness in brain function, the importance of understanding subjective experience in mental health, and the potential future of artificial consciousness. Dr. Solms also touches on the relevance of Freud's work in modern neuroscience and psychotherapy, offering valuable perspectives for both professionals and those undergoing psychotherapyWe hope you enjoy it.Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Mark Solmshttps://x.com/Mark_SolmsDr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode of Doorknob Comments, Fara and Grant Brenner are joined by Sharon Thomas, the founder and CEO of MAIA Education Resource Center. Sharon is a child development and learning specialist with expertise in one-on-one academic interventions and school and college placement. With over two decades of experience, she shares her insights on school placement, learning challenges, and the crucial role of executive function skills in achieving academic success. Sharon discusses the delicate balance between schools, parents, and students, providing valuable guidance on navigating the complexities of the education system from kindergarten through college.We hope you enjoy.Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Sharon Thomashttps://www.maiaeducation.com/info@maiaeducation.com212-426-3742Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode, Grant and Fara are joined by Joe Feldman, the president and founder of Cover My Mental Health, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping patients and their families secure proper insurance coverage for mental health services. Joe began advocating for access to mental healthcare after facing challenges related to insurance denials for his daughter's residential care. During the conversation, Grant and Fara discuss these obstacles with Joe and explore the role that Cover My Mental Health plays in helping everyday people access the mental healthcare they need. Be sure to check the links in the show notes for more information and resources!We hope you find it enjoyable.Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Joe Feldmanhttps://covermymentalhealth.org/Joe's Email: joe@covermymentalhealth.comDr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/Other Resourceshttps://www.nami.org/support-education/publications-reports/survey-reports/the-2024-nami-workplace-mental-health-poll/https://www.psychiatry.org/news-room/apa-blogs/write-effective-letters-of-medical-necessityhttps://www.thekennedyforum.org/blog/10-steps-to-securing-insurance-coverage-for-mental-health-care/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/202410/getting-insurance-to-cover-mental-healthhttps://covermymentalhealth.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Medical-necessity-letter_best-practices-2024-11.pdfhttps://journals.lww.com/practicalpsychiatry/fulltext/2021/07000/providing_a_routine_medical_necessity_letter_to.7.aspx
In this episode, Grant and Fata are joined by Dr. Scott Shapiro. Dr. Scott Shapiro, a leading expert in Adult ADHD trained at Harvard Medical School, provides specialized care in New York City, combining psychopharmacology, medical psychiatry, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. He also is a Corporate Executive Coach, helping professionals enhance their performance, productivity, and communication skills. Dr. Shapiro shares his expertise as a specialist in Adult ADHD, its treatment, and practical strategies to help individuals overcome their challenges. We hope you enjoy. Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Scott Shapirohttps://www.scottshapiromd.com/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode, Grant and Fara delve into the topic of insight. They discuss its meaning, the benefits of having insight, and the various ways in which insight can be lacking. They also explore strategies for enhancing one's insight into their mental health and the role of therapy in encouraging patients to critically engage with their mental illness. We hope you find it enjoyable.Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode of Doorknob Comments Grant and Fara are joined by Angie Tekriwal, owner of Silver Lining Counseling LLC and counselor specializing in treating adolescents, young adults, and families at her private practice in Montclair, New Jersey. Angie is also a mother and a good friend of Fara. They talk about the impact of media consumption on kids, inside scoop on the mom experience, and a range of other subjects.We hope you enjoy it!Resources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Angie Tekriwalhttps://www.angietekriwal.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode, Grant and Fara dive into the animated film Inside Out 2, exploring its creative depiction of emotions and the educational value it offers. They begin by providing a synopsis of the film, followed by an in-depth discussion on how emotions like anxiety and sadness play a crucial role in the protagonist Riley's conflicts and emotional growth. The conversation also touches on the portrayal of emotional frameworks in the film and how they reflect real-life therapeutic approaches. As always, they wrap up with some thoughtful closing remarks and doorknob comments.We hope you enjoy it.In This Episode[0:00] Introduction[1:20] Episode Overview[2:00] Synopsis of Inside Out 2[5:00] Exploring Emotional Representation and Educational Themes[12:40] Anxiety's Impact on Riley's Journey[15:40] Anxiety as a Manifestation of Insecurity[19:00] Sadness and Emotional Integration[21:00] Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Depicted in the Film[23:00] Which Emotion Takes the Lead?[29:20] Navigating Social Challenges and Stereotypes in Adolescence[33:10] Linking Gendered Social Dynamics Back to Childhood[36:15] Final Thoughts and Closing RemarksResources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode, Grant and Fara are joined by Dr. Alexey Tolchinsky, a clinical psychologist, adjunct professor at George Washington University, and clinical fellow of the International Neuropsychoanalysis Association. He works with neurodiverse patients and young adults struggling with life transitions. Today, they discuss his peer-reviewed research, namely what he refers to as narrative fallacy in psychotherapy. Dr. Tolchinksky explains what he thinks are the dangers of narrative fallacy in psychotherapy, how it plays out between therapists and patients, and ways that we can consider re-thinking ingrained narratives in the therapeutic encounter.We hope you enjoy it.In This Episode[0:00] Introduction[1:30] Episode Overview[04:40] Alexey's Journey into Clinical Psychology[6:10] The Concept of Narrative Fallacy[13:10] Narrative Fallacy in Clinical Setting: ADHD and Anxiety[21:15] Achieving Patient Wellness[24:50] Data vs. Theory-Driven Practice[28:40] Applying Narrative Fallacy in Therapy[34:30] Static and Dynamic Diagnostic Tools[44:40] Potential for Dynamic Tools in TherapyResources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Alexey Tolchinkskyhttps://montgomerycountypsychologist.com/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode, Grant and Fara are joined by esteemed neurophysicist and authority on brain imaging, Dr. Karl Friston. His revolutionary impact on studies of the brain derives from his inventive use of probability theory to analyze neural imaging data. They discuss how we might think about psychotherapy from the point of view of Dr. Friston's work and briefly touch on artificial general intelligence, AGI, through Karl's work on VERSES AI.We hope you enjoy!In This Episode[0:00] Introduction[1:35] Episode Overview[02:30] Journey into Brain Imaging Research[6:30] Mathematics and Brain Processing[12:10] Active Inference and its Relevance to Psychotherapy[24:10] Therapeutic Alliance as Computational System[27:50] Revising Entrenched Beliefs Through Therapy[32:20] Trauma, Condition, and Altered Rationale[55:00] Mindfulness and Managing Prediction Errors[1:00:00] Consciousness and Selfhood[1:04:35] Verses AI and the Future of PsychiatryResources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Karl Fristonhttps://profiles.ucl.ac.uk/2747-karl-fristonhttps://www.verses.ai/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode, Fara and Grant approach the sticky subjects in therapy, such as: billing, scheduling, boundaries, connection... and whether I really AM my therapist's favorite patient!! They provide insights into the challenges associated with managing this relationship and offer guidance on how to effectively communicate with your therapist. How do you bring up your concerns? Is it wrong to feel emotionally or romantically attracted to your therapist? This episode covers a wide range of topics to hopefully ease some of your anxieties.We hope you enjoy.Key Takeaways:Therapists, like anyone else, have their unique ways of approaching therapy based on their training and sensibilities.If you ever feel uncertain or have questions about your therapy, please don't hesitate to bring them up with your therapist. It's important to work through any concerns in your relationship with your therapist, and they are there to take them seriously and support you.In This Episode:[0:00] Introduction[01:00] Episode Overview[03:15] Getting to Therapy on Time (...or not)[07:30] Balancing Scheduling and Boundaries[12:10] Adapting Therapy Practices[15:10] Professionalism and Remote Therapy[19:40] Ethical Boundaries in Therapist-Patient Relationships[24:50] Handling Multiple Sources of Advice[31:47] Am I Your Favorite??[38:53] Therapeutic ObligationsResources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode, Grant and Fara have a conversation with Dr. Robin Stern, the Co-Founder and Senior Advisor for the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. Dr. Stern is also the author of The Gaslight Effect and the host of The Gaslight Effect Podcast. They delve into Dr. Stern's journey in exploring gaslighting, the common tactics used by gaslighters in relationships, the role of shame and isolation for victims, and much more. Drawing from her 30 years of experience in treating individuals, couples, and families, Dr. Stern offers valuable insights into gaslighting dynamics and the steps to reclaiming one's narrative.We hope you enjoy!Key TakeawaysThe longer you're in a relationship where you're second-guessing your reality and accommodating the other, the harder it is to leave.Many times shame can begin to creep into gaslighting relationships. Victims might be ashamed to bring their gaslighters behavior up to family and friends, and can further isolate themselves.In This Episode[0:00] Introduction[1:05] Episode Overview[02:30] Robin's Journey to Exploring Gaslighting[10:10] Red Flags and Disavowal[17:15] ‘Stage 3' of Gaslighting[18:40] Masquerading Gaslighting in Relationships[22:10] The Role of Isolation and Shame[24:30] Reclaiming Reality and Pushing Back[27:40] Gaslighting vs. Other Forms of Dysfunctional Communication[30:40] Navigating Behavioral Intention[33:55] What about Gaslighters?[35:40] Closing ThoughtsResources and LinksDoorknob Commentshttps://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Robin Sternhttps://robinstern.com/https://howwefeel.org/Dr. Fara Whitehttps://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brennerhttps://www.granthbrennermd.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode, Grant and Fara discuss the recent criticism that therapy has faced following the release of several publications, particularly "The Therapist Who Hated Me" by Michael Bacon. They delve into the dynamics of the therapist-patient relationship in various therapeutic approaches and the potential challenges that may arise. They emphasize that there is no universal solution for therapy and stress the importance of evaluating treatment options to find what works best for each individual. We hope you find this discussion insightful and enjoyable.Key Takeaways No treatment is perfect, it is important to evaluate what's happening in therapy. Negative therapeutic experiences are valid, but hopefully shouldn't be the only experiences "Therapy is first and foremost meant to help facilitate development in a good direction" In This Episode [0:00] Introduction [01:10] Episode Overview [04:50] "The Therapist Who Hated Me" and Melanie Klein [08:05] Exploring the Therapist/Patient Relationship [13:30] Finding the Right Fit, the Right Treatment [17:30] Boom in Popularity for Therapy [25:00] Different Definitions of Mental Health Care [27:15] Countertransference of a Therapist [34:30] Negative Experiences in Therapy [37:00] Evaluating Your TreatmentResources and LinksDoorknob Comments https://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Fara White https://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brenner https://www.granthbrennermd.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this podcast episode, George Grombacher, a seasoned finance professional, joins psychiatrists Fara and Grant to explore the psychological dimensions of financial behavior. They discuss how childhood experiences and observed behaviors from adults shape our financial habits, whether we lean towards saving or spending. Grombacher emphasizes the need to confront limiting beliefs about money, drawing parallels between people's discomfort with finances and math. The conversation touches on the impact of trauma on self-care, including financial health, and the importance of designing a life aligned with personal values. Grombacher's journey from a corporate environment to a more creative financial advisory role illustrates the transformative power of addressing one's relationship with money.Key Takeaways Childhood experiences and observed financial habits shape our approach to money and views on success and relationships. "Doorknob comments" can reveal deep-seated feelings and attitudes towards money. Emotional barriers and negative beliefs about money can hinder financial success. Overcoming financial challenges can improve self-confidence and discipline, impacting overall well-being. Financial self-care is crucial, especially for those with past traumas Money management is about achieving a balance in life, not just in financesIn This Episode: [[01:03] Introduction to George Grombacher [02:10] George's background and philosophy [04:37] Negative beliefs about money [05:40] George's career journey [07:40] Connection and collaboration [09:21] Financial challenges and seeking help [12:39] Common financial mistakes and debt [16:14] Designing the life you want [17:48] Wealth accumulation and financial mindset [21:10] Balancing present enjoyment and future planning [22:37] The evolution of money personalities [25:47] Intergenerational transmission of trauma [27:09] Understanding limiting beliefs [28:55] Impact of childhood experiences on financial habits [32:20] Psychological aspects of financial decision-making [35:03] Positive spillover effect of financial empowerment [37:12] Seeking mental health support for financial well-being [38:22] Financial success and personal responsibilityResources and LinksDoorknob Comments https://www.doorknobcomments.com/George Grombacher https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgegrombacher/ https://moneyalignmentacademy.com/about-us/Dr. Fara White https://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brenner https://www.granthbrennermd.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
Join hosts Fara and Grant on the latest Doorknob Comments podcast episode, where they delve into the intricate dynamics shaping the therapist-client relationship. They dissect the subtleties of this bond, emphasizing its profound impact on therapy efficacy. Ethical dilemmas like confidentiality and intervention in client danger are explored, alongside the significance of self-awareness and transparent communication. The episode navigates the therapist's role in addressing risk behaviors and physical health, while tackling challenges posed by clients with trauma or depression. The paramount importance of prioritizing client well-being resonates throughout the discussion.P.S. Remember, therapy is a journey we take together, and every step reveals new horizons. Let's discover them together. Tune in now and let's continue the conversation.Key Takeaways Dynamics of the therapeutic relationship Ethical considerations: confidentiality, intervention Client autonomy and decision-making empowerment Potential pitfalls of therapist self-disclosure Addressing unspoken and unconscious aspects of therapyResources and LinksDoorknob Comments https://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Fara White https://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brenner https://www.granthbrennermd.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
Tune in to the latest episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast, where hosts Fara and Grant take a candid dive into the intricate world of love and dating, perfectly timed for the approaching Valentine's Day. From dissecting the dynamics of romantic relationships to scrutinizing the impact of social media on our perceptions of love, they leave no stone unturned. Drawing parallels from the relationships of celebrities like Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce, they shed light on the societal pressures to find "the one."But amidst the age-old topics, they bring a refreshing perspective, discussing the fascinating psychological concept of "doorknob comments" and advocating for personal growth and self-acceptance. With insights from therapists, they provide practical advice that listeners can implement in their own lives.Join Fara and Grant as they navigate through the complexities of love and relationships, offering a blend of wisdom, humor, and relatability that is sure to resonate with audiences.Key Takeaways Societal norms often create unrealistic relationship expectations. Establishing personal boundaries is essential in the face of external pressures. Social media tends to portray idealized relationships, distorting individual expectations. Understanding empirical findings on relationships can provide valuable insights. Celebrity relationship narratives may inadvertently influence personal relationship views. Effective communication, trust, respect, and mutual growth are cornerstones of healthy relationships. The phenomenon of "doorknob comments" highlights the challenge of expressing deep emotions and the stigma attached to singlehood.In This Episode: [00:00:00] Understanding our needs [00:01:11] Romance and dating [00:02:21] Occupational hazards of therapy [00:04:07] Impact of social media on relationships [00:20:37] Core features of romantic relationships [00:22:46] Responsive Dating [00:24:02] Love Bombing and Authenticity [00:27:36] Pacing and Mutual Needs [00:35:10] Communication and Relationship Dynamics [00:37:18] Openness and GrowthResources and LinksDoorknob Comments https://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Fara White https://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brenner https://www.granthbrennermd.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
Join Fara and Grant on the latest episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast as they dive deep into the beautiful complexities of intercultural marriage. Le like to think that love knows no borders, but what about the hurdles that come with actually making it work? Together, they explore the ups and downs of love across cultures, from navigating emotional expressions to dealing with societal pressures and language barriers.In this heartfelt conversation, Fara and Grant emphasize the importance of open communication and understanding each other's cultural backgrounds. They share personal anecdotes and insights, highlighting the need for creating a shared cultural space within the relationship.And it's not just about the couples – they also touch on the broader societal challenges that impact all relationships. From there, they discuss the role of therapy in helping couples navigate these cultural complexities and build stronger bonds.Ultimately, this episode is a reminder of the power of empathy, negotiation, and respect in fostering healthy and thriving intercultural partnerships. Tune in for heartfelt stories and valuable advice that will resonate with anyone in love, regardless of cultural differences.Key Takeaways Intercultural marriages are Increasing due to globalization Partners from different cultural backgrounds may experience and express emotions differently Intercultural couples may face societal resistance or familial pressures Effective communication about cultural values and expressions is vital Couples can create a "third culture" within their relationship The Journey of Intercultural marriage Is both challenging and enrichingIn This Episode: [01:05] Intercultural marriage and its rising prevalence [02:30] Challenges in intercultural relationships [10:16] Impact of cultural values on relationships [17:24] How cultural backgrounds impact the expression of emotions [23:42] US cultural perspective on friendship vs Russian and Lithuanian cultures. [26:03] Family and societal attitudes in Intercultural relationships [33:30] Creating a third culture in intercultural relationships [36:12] Evidence-informed relationship practiceResources and LinksDoorknob Comments https://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Fara White https://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brenner https://www.granthbrennermd.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast, we are excited to sit down with Dr. Edward Shapiro, a distinguished author and psychoanalyst.During our conversation, we discuss his book "Finding a Place to Stand.” We explore the significance of family dynamics, institutional roles, and citizenship. He highlights the value of self-reflection and the challenges of leadership in a polarized society. Dr. Shapiro also shares a story illustrating the importance of action in confrontational situations. His book serves as a testament to the value of this learning process and is a recommended read for anyone interested in leadership, group relations, and active citizenship.Key Takeaways Engaged citizenship is vital for a cohesive society and involves active listening and open-mindedness. Group relations conferences provide insights into organizational dynamics and the role of authority. Leadership requires courage to act in challenging situations, as illustrated by a social worker's story. Learning from others and self-reflection enhance leadership. Asking “How are they right?” rather than “How am I right?” is a paradigm shift for effective listening and collaboration.In This Episode: [04:30] Experiences and journey to Austin Riggs [14:30] Therapy and its role in family dynamics [19:49] The family as an institution [22:39] The book's idea in addressing societal issues [24:28] The concept of good citizenship [30:10] Group relations conferences and their impact [45:19] "Why do I have to do this?"Notable Quotes [12:47] “People resist impatient people who are labeled by others as one of the problems of family dynamics.” - Ed [19:49] "The family is an institution and like any institution, it has a mission on behalf of society, and that mission is development - Ed [38:32] "I don't know that everybody wants to be a leader. Many people are afraid of leadership because of what's happened in their families around taking up leadership roles. We always bring our family role into our organization.” - EdResources and LinksDoorknob Comments https://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Edward Shapiro https://www.edwardrshapiro.com/ Finding a Place to StandDr. Fara White https://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brenner https://www.granthbrennermd.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast, we are thrilled to be joined by psychoanalyst and author Johanna Dobrich.In our conversation, Johanna discusses her book "Working with Survivor Siblings" and her research into the unique challenges faced by individuals who grew up with chronically or severely disabled siblings. The conversation examines the profound impact these sibling relationships have on personal development, the influence of parental dynamics, and the necessity for therapists to understand these complex peer relations. The episode also addresses the effects of medical trauma on families, highlighting the importance of increased awareness and therapeutic support for all members affected.Key Takeaways Sibling relationships significantly influence personal development, especially when one grows up with a sibling who has chronic or severe disabilities. Survivor siblings face unique challenges, including balancing their own needs with the demands of their sibling's disability. Therapeutic approaches should be more nuanced and tailored to address the specific needs of survivor siblings. The resilience and strength of survivor siblings highlight the human spirit's capacity to cope with and adapt to challenging circumstances.In This Episode: [01:46] Understanding sibling relationships/sibling rivalry [14:43] Defining survivor siblings [16:34] Impact of chronic medical conditions [22:20] Sharing life with a sibling [26:00] Siblings who disrupt family dynamics/troublemaker siblings [30:08] Transmission of trauma and attachment [33:24]The importance of children feeling delighted by their parentsResources and LinksDoorknob Comments https://www.doorknobcomments.com/Johanna Dobrich https://www.johannadobrich.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/johannadobrich/ Working with Survivor SiblingsDr. Fara White https://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brenner https://www.granthbrennermd.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
Have you considered how diabetes medication might affect your mental health and body image? While managing diabetes, it's essential to recognize the potential psychiatric implications of these medications.In this episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast, Fara and Grant discuss the psychiatric effects of a new class of diabetes medications. They examine research on these drugs, their role in mental health treatment, and the influence of social media and celebrity endorsements. Additionally, they address the medications' impact on weight loss, mental health, body image, and the challenges related to misuse and strict regulations.Key Takeaways Diabetes medications have shown potential psychiatric benefits, suggesting new treatment possibilities for mental health disorders. Social media and celebrity endorsements can both positively and negatively influence the public's perception and use of these medications. The use of diabetes medications for weight loss raises concerns about mental health and body image, highlighting the need for a balanced approach to weight management. Prescribing controlled substances presents a challenge for healthcare providers, who must navigate between preventing abuse and ensuring patient access to necessary treatments. The interconnection of medication, mental health, and societal factors is complex and requires ongoing research and responsible communication.Notable Quotes [02:40] "My review of the psychiatric literature is that it's equivocal; there's no strong evidence that these medications will be helpful with anxiety and depression." - Grant [10:20] "I think it's really important whenever we start any medicine to think about what role we want this to have in our lives. Being tethered to a medicine when we don't know what it's going to look like 20 or 30 years from now is not something that I would recommend." - Fara [25:05] “A lot of medications that turned out to be good for people were designed for one thing. And then we noticed that they helped with another thing.” - Grant [31:05] "We will never know what the effects are of not attending to a baby's needs, but I see people every day who are struggling because they didn't have their needs met." - FaraResources and LinksDoorknob Comments https://www.doorknobcomments.com/Dr. Fara White https://www.farawhitemd.com/Dr. Grant Brenner https://www.granthbrennermd.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/DisclaimerPlease note that we offer insights for educational purposes, not as medical advice. For diabetes or related concerns, consult healthcare professionals for personalized guidance. This podcast is no substitute for professional medical expertise. Enjoy responsibly.
In this episode, Grant and Fara discuss the topic of masochism. They explore what it means, how it shows up in our social media habits during difficult times, its connection to "doom scrolling", and strategies for coping with our potentially masochistic tendencies as we prioritize our mental health.We hope you enjoy.
In this episode, Fara and Grant talk about the endings and transitions of therapy. They talk about why saying goodbye in therapy can be tough for both therapists and patients, highlighting the significant importance of the process. They share practical advice on how to navigate the challenges of therapeutic termination, providing an approach to closure that suits individual needs. It's an insightful conversation that encourages reflection on the various aspects of concluding therapy.We hope you enjoy.
In today's episode, Fara and Grant have a conversation with Dr. Jonathan DePierro, an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, and the Associate Director of the Center for Stress, Resilience and Personal Growth. Dr. DePierro talks with Fara and Grant about the research his team conducts on resilience, and how we might more productively think about resilience in our everyday lives through practice.We hope you enjoy!
Today, Grant and Fara are joined by Keith Wasserman, who is a producer and a major figure in the film "Dear Ani". In this episode, they have a conversation with Keith about his life, the process of making the film, and his relationship with and understanding of his experiences of mania. "Dear Ani" is a journey that explores music, art, and mania. We hope you enjoy listening to this episode of the podcast.You can follow Keith on Instagram at @the_deep_wink. You can also follow us on Instagram at @doorknobcomments, and check out our TikTok account at doorknobcommentspodcast. Don't forget to visit our website too!
In this episode, Grant and Fara talk about something that psychoanalysts call enactment. They talk about the positive and traumatic experiences that shape enactments, and how we can use these moments for learning and therapeutic benefit—not only during therapy but also in everyday life. We hope you enjoy.
In this episode, Grant and Fara talk about transitioning into winter. They reflect on some of the physical and mental changes that might happen during the winter season, and how we can better react to these changes: seeking help, understanding and listening to our bodies, and more. We hope you enjoy.
In today's episode, Fara and Grant explore the concept of authenticity. They interrogate what it means to be truly authentic, what people strive for when they aim to live authentically, and how we socially make sense of and understand what we call authentic behavior. We hope you enjoy.
In this episode, Fara and Grant are joined by Dan Rocker, the President of the International Paruresis Association, and the Co-Director of the Shy Bladder Center. Dan Rocker is an expert on Paruresis (significant urinary hesitation and inhibition) and breaks down some myths and misconceptions about the social phobia. We hope you enjoy!Follow us on Instagram at @doorknobcomments, on TikTok at doorknobcomments, and visit our website DoorknobComments.com.
In this episode, Fara and Grant talk about the way narratives shape self-identity. They discuss the constraints of certain personal narratives, the effects of trauma on narrative construction, and how altering our perspective on these narratives might offer us more mental and emotional clarity. We hope you enjoy.
In this episode, Grant and Fara discuss intrusive thinking. What it may or may not mean, and ways to make sense of these thoughts. They touch on personal experiences with intrusive thoughts, research on the phenomenon, and pigeons! We hope you enjoy it.
In this episode, Fara and Grant talk about ways that people make, grow, and end friendships. They discuss the anxiety around reaching out to new people, the difficult conversations that can come with holding friends accountable, and how we might part ways when we feel wronged in existing friendships.
Today, Grant and Fara talk about navigating those early stages of talking about a relationship: defining the relationship, having a conversation about where things stand, and communicating what we mean to the other person. Are we dating? Netflix-N-Chilling? Just hanging out? Should we even put a label on it? It can be tricky, but hopefully, this episode provides useful tips to help navigate these sometimes sticky situations.
In this episode, Grant and Fara talk about Therapy Speak outside of the clinical setting and explore the potential benefits. Join in to hear more about the interactional setting of the therapy session and what might be lost in translating this therapy speak to everyday life.
In today's episode, we're going to talk about the trials and tribulations facing people in the middle and upper middle classes as they try to work out what is meaningful in life. Is it about worldly success, money, and the schools you go to? Is it about how you live and how spend your time and with whom? We'll be exploring the television series, Fleishman Is in Trouble, as an entry point for our conversation.
Today we cover what we see as some of the noise and disinformation around mental health treatment. We explore social media's benefits and pitfalls as a space for learning about potential remedies: from giving patients greater autonomy and information, to unsafe substance usage with potentially harmful outcomes.We hope you enjoy it and take something away.
Today we talk all about motivation and New Year's resolutions. The episode was recorded early in January, but the conversation may be even more important today. Throughout the episode, try to reflect on some of the goals you may have set for yourself this year. And if you're struggling with some of these goals, how might you reframe your motivations in a healthy manner? Thinking about the benefits can help respark motivation! And remember to give yourself credit for the progress you've made!
In this episode, Fara and Grant discuss recent mental health initiatives in NYC for hospitalizing unhoused people, school policies that may be harmful or stigmatizing to students, and the foundations of stigma and the implications for individuals and society.
Welcome Back to Season 2 of Doorknob Comments! Fara and Grant talk about taking time off and coming back strong.
As we wrap up season 1 of Doorknob Comments, Fara and Grant discuss the importance of taking calculated breaks as an act of self compassion and care.
Dr. Niobe Way talks about her research showing the crucial importance of friendship for boys. Friendship is healthy and normal for boys even though they may be taught as they get older to play cool. There are many simple things parents and educators can do to alleviate the problem. Find more here: https://steinhardt.nyu.edu/people/niobe-way https://www.tedmed.com/speakers/show?id=729990 https://twitter.com/niobe_way
Fara and Grant discuss Terror Management Theory, which helps us understand how we cope individually and collectively when fears of death are heightened, and ways people can cope with mortality and help others around them do so as well.
In this episode, co-hosts Fara and Grant talk about their experience as psychiatrists who practice therapy. Listen in as we discuss important themes including the difference between treating illness and pursuing personal development, how to balance clinical care with coaching and self-help, and other key considerations in the complex, evolving landscape of wellness and self-care.
Fara and Grant speak with Jacob Appel, psychiatrist, author, and bioethicist, about important ways that the therapist-patient relationships may feel like a friendship (or just feel confusing). Well-intentioned actions may have unintended consequences when they cross the boundaries between clinician and friend. Dr. Appel helps give us clarity on how to manage when these moments come up, and advises us on how to preserve the treatment and act in the best interest of the patient. Find more on Dr. Appel here: https://www.mountsinai.org/profiles/jacob-m-appel
Fara and Grant host a wide-ranging conversation about the many things to think about as kids are returning to school as COVID continues to linger, ranging from complex emotional considerations, to social factors, to the political context, and beyond.
Fara and Grant speak with therapist and psychoanalytic candidate-in-training Hannah Weiss about therapy during the pandemic, video and in-person, our relationships with our bodies, and the future of psychoanalysis. Read more: Hannah Weiss: https://hannahweiss.org/index.html Chicago Psychoanalytic Institute: https://chicagoanalysis.org
Fara and Grant discuss reasons it can be so hard to change even when we know what needs to happen, ways to become more aware when we don't know, and ways we can connect our dots to catalyze growth and change.