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► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)Damn, I love these reddit posts!That's actually a pretty lighthearted way to start such a heavy topic.But here's what those funny posts don't show you — the dark side of limerence.Because this isn't just a quirky crush or intense attraction.No, Limerence is actually a form of love addiction.And it can cause real emotional pain, self-abandonment, and obsession.So today, we're breaking it down. I created a roadmap for that. We'll start with the most subtle sign No 1…and end with the biggest — but also the most invisible No 10.And most importantly — throughout the signs, you'll also see how to recognize limerence, understand it, and begin to finally let it go. ► Links and Resources:Limerence & CPTSD Episode: https://youtu.be/LZ-IFevq90o?si=2UNR7TxqDv2PFpiaLimerence & Self-Regulation Episode: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=vTLRifpT75jQXmvgHypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=LrXDwC8UDowCL_3VAnxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=HJYM3_IGuWfsAFtcMaladaptive Daydreaming Article: https://www.adhdcentre.co.uk/adhd-maladaptive-daydreaming-common-signs-of-adhd/Limerent Object Article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:28 Limerence04:56 True Love07:33 Sign 1: You Feel High When They Text… And Crash When They Don't.08:52 Sign 2: You Fantasize More Than You Interact.10:06 Sign 3: You Ignore Red Flags Because The Fantasy Feels Too Good.11:29 Sign 4: You Overanalyze Everything They Say/Do.12:49 Sign 5: You Base Your Worth On Their Interest Or Attention. 14:27 Sign 6: You Feel Urgent Fear Of Losing Them - Even If You Barely Know Them.15:51 Sign 7: You Confuse Longing With Love.17:32 Sign 8: You Hold Onto Breadcrumbs, Not Mutual Care.19:04 Sign 9: You Don't Feel Safe - Just Addicted.20:29 Sign 10: You Lose Yourself In The Idea Of “Them”. ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)Some people say we've lost our ability to focus because ADHD is on the rise. Others say the real problem is dopamine addiction — and that a detox is the only fix.And some are convinced it's unresolved childhood trauma disrupting our attention.I wanted to find out for myself… and what I discovered was surprising.Because: There's actually one shared mechanism in the brain behind all three.In today's video, we'll uncover what that is — and how you can finally reclaim a laser-sharp focus.► Links and Resources:Signs of ADHD Video: https://youtu.be/-WJo7Seemzk?si=pY_4-9WVTMhJZPztFirst Video of Trauma Series: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=cjxBA0t4BdEWW-i6 Executive Dysfunction Article: https://www.additudemag.com/what-is-executive-function-disorder/Dopamine & ADHD Article: https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-dopamineBBC Social Media Article: https://www.bbc.com/news/technology-44640959Dopamine Burnout Article: https://www.proactivepsychiatry.com/post/dopamine-burnout-how-overstimulation-is-draining-your-motivation-and-happiness ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:50 ADHD04:12 Dopamine Addiction07:50 Trauma15:00 The Link18:19 How To Focus Again19:20 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)Do you sometimes just wish to “be normal”? Hang out with people?Not needing to isolate and distance yourself constantly?Well, then you first have to understand why you behave like this. So, maybe you are just a bit avoidant, or even have some form of avoidance personality disorder.Or anywhere between, of course.Today, we're uncovering the differences between an avoidant attachment style and an avoidant personality disorder, plus what could be between them, and at which point avoidance and isolation become pathological.► Links and Resources:Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxAvPD Article: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9761-avoidant-personality-disorder Avoidant Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=oL-CQTmdCmMVBaNLIntroversion vs. Autism Video: https://youtu.be/Y9IL7EJma0o?si=mIip9jMLJDJEuQTWUnderstanding HSP Playlist:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLR7cijfpiNQGuGzInp1Jzf3XcGBKrab17&si=WbpXmoQMEjthb0SCBecoming a Securely Attached Person Episode: https://youtu.be/wq6sRKNdUsE?si=d_ozwMGTou2awMN3► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:30 Avoidant Attachment Style05:03 Experiential Avoidance06:28 Demand Avoidance07:51 Avoidant Personality Disorder10:32 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)Do you regularly experience unexplainable pain or physical symptoms like brain fog and migraines, a dull feeling in your stomach, or a strange pressure in your chest?And are these symptoms strangely tied to your relationships, dating scenarios, social situations, your everyday working life or just appear throughout the day?Than chances are high, that you frustratedly ran from doctors office to doctors office, but no healthcare professional ever had a reason what's actually wrong with you.Now let me tell you the reason, WHY most physicians can't explain these symptoms, and it's all written down in here: It's because, they are actually not physically caused, but psychologically.Here are 10 Body Symptoms that are probably linked to your Mental Health and unresolved childhood trauma.► Links and Resources:10 Signs of an Avoidant Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=gB7NsSVDazWKbzWeHypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=HVMw6PX5VETztefgTherapy Podcast: https://youtu.be/7sh2uHxWbKk?si=GTwkL4zSpqvZIBRuDissociation Episode: https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg?si=fGrC009rfvAxBqob Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxRestless Legs: https://jcsm.aasm.org/doi/10.5664/jcsm.7096Pelvic Pain: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37308317/Gut Issues: https://www.jstor.org/stable/26636155Lower Back Pain: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25179418/Chronic Back Pain: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8118090/Heart Disease: https://www.heart.org/en/news/2020/04/28/traumatic-childhood-increases-lifelong-risk-for-heart-disease-early-deathBruxism: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36056716/Teeth Grinding Article: https://prestigeveteranmctx.com/bruxism-and-ptsd/Migraines: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22533684/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19124690/ Functional Somatic Syndromes: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/05/110516121732.htm ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:34 Overview04:04 Symptom 1: Foot Pain & Restless Legs06:39 Symptom 2: Pelvic Pain & Tension08:18 Symptom 3: Stomach Issues10:08 Symptom 4: Lower Back Pain11:47 Symptom 5: Chest Tightness And Heart Palpitations13:53 Symptom 6: Neck And Shoulder Pain15:52 Symptom 7: Throat Constriction And Chronic Sore Throat17:54 Symptom 8: Jaw Clenching19:38 Symptom 9: Tension Headaches And Migraines21:38 Symptom 10: Brain Fog And Chronic Fatigue24:12 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)You know what's insane?People who never did anything wrong in their lives, but just have been themselves as children, feel ashamed and anxious in their adult lives.Many of us who come from a childhood with judging, criticizing, and screaming parents don't actually know what anxious and shame-free relationships feel like.But the truth is: there is a life on the other side: happy, fulfilled, and non-shame-based relationships are possible - also for you.How? I will show you throughout today's video, which is, to give you an overview - video no 6 out of 8 of my series on the core symptoms of CPTSD. (all the other links below)► Links and Resources:Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxCycle Of Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/e0W9c_1lSHU?si=1U1iRdG8hC9MYgPfWhy We Avoid & Isolate Episode: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=NAPzARicULRiXMxQShadow Work Episode: https://youtu.be/xPSEl9sOd9I?si=gAkxt4yBWWwv8wiP► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:57 Toxic Shame02:55 Toxic Shame Vs. Anxiety04:41 Toxic Shame Storytelling05:55 The Consequences Of A Childhood Full Of Trauma08:56 Consequences Storytelling20:21 Is It Possible To Work Through And Heal Anxiety & Toxic Shame?15:31 Solutions for Toxic Shame► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Have you ever wondered what really “counts” as childhood trauma?Most people think of only the “big, obvious” things.But the reality is—trauma can take many different forms.And some of them are quiet. Even Hidden.BUT here's the thing - they can leave scars just as deep.That's why today, we're zooming out—and exploring 10 different types of childhood trauma together.Some of them you might already recognize.Others might surprise you.One is definitely missed by most people.And along the way, I'll also show you what you can begin to do about it - because understanding your trauma is the first step toward healing it.Definitely watch until the end, because every type we'll cover matters—and each one can open a door toward greater understanding, compassion, and change for yourself, or your loved ones.► Links and Resources:Avoidant attachment style: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=0WTU_U9e4heGU2yRChildhood Trauma Treatments Episode: https://youtu.be/UaslCkvMpws?si=glMb5RZtulsTQBU2Disorganized Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=thkzIc-jKBIGDWDSWorking Through Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/FpNODQ7xYJg Working Through Anxious Attachment: https://youtu.be/lbLG9432BkY Working Through Fearful Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/leT0-kFOSR0 Becoming Securely Attached: https://youtu.be/wq6sRKNdUsE► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:39 Type 1: Emotional Neglect Trauma04:00 Type 2: Bullying07:09 Type 3: Complex Trauma09:05 Type 4: Attachment Trauma/Early Childhood Trauma10:57 Type 5: Physical Abuse Trauma13:08 Type 6: Medical Trauma15:12 Type 7: Systemic Trauma17:15: Type 8: Disasters19:50 Type 9: War-Related Trauma22:36 Type 10: Grief Trauma► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Have you ever felt like you want to be close to someone more than anything—and yet, at the same time, you feel panicky and overwhelmed of getting close?Like part of you craves intimacy… while another part is scanning for the first sign of betrayal, rejection, or abandonment?It's because —especially early trauma—shapes the way we attach, connect, and even perceive safety and danger in others.In today's episode, we're going to break this down together:What is the core symptom behind interpersonal instability?How does trauma fundamentally rewire the way we attach to others?And how can you start managing those overwhelming emotional reactions in relationships without losing yourself► Links and Resources:Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxFirst Episode of Attachment Series: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=_gjZE9dEfe2OBXgmPolyvagal Theory Episode: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=0OH70XrtI-QJ0SJpBrain Activation in CPTSD: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/344886575_The_sense_of_self_in_the_aftermath_of_trauma_Lessons_from_the_default_mode_network_in_posttraumatic_stress_disorderBrain Dysregulation Episode: https://youtu.be/-WJo7Seemzk?si=Kauyo-gNMF9ZPMjRFragmented Memory Episode: https://youtu.be/i1SF4Dhu3m0Working Through Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/FpNODQ7xYJg Working Through Anxious Attachment: https://youtu.be/lbLG9432BkY Working Through Fearful Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/leT0-kFOSR0 Becoming Securely Attached: https://youtu.be/wq6sRKNdUsE► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:28 Series Overview02:09 What Is Interpersonal Instability?03:54 How Does Trauma Shape Our Attachment?08:14 How Can I Differentiate Between Genuine Relationship Issues And My Trauma-Induced Perceptions?13:41 How Can I Manage Intense Emotional Reactions In Relationships Effectively?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Have you ever felt a wave of anger, panic, or irritation hit you so fast, you couldn't stop it—even if you wanted to?Maybe you then snapped at someone. Or shut down completely.Maybe you felt ashamed right after… but couldn't stop it in the moment.That's emotional dysregulation.And for many of us with complex trauma, it's not about “overreacting”—it's about a nervous system that never learned safety.In this episode, we'll look at:Why CPTSD makes emotional regulation so difficultHow to recognize and manage the triggers behind these intense reactionsAnd what it actually takes to feel safe again—inside your body, and in your relationships► Links and Resources:Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxPolyvagal Theory Episode:https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=0OH70XrtI-QJ0SJpAnxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=yP6f0T9ivKO59QaLAvoidant Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=1tkZzchAlLeeGaGh12 Re-Regulation Tools Episode: https://youtu.be/i05BWtgjYRw?si=uP08IxAKAxsMhyGx► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:28 Series Overview02:09 What Is Interpersonal Instability?03:54 How Does Trauma Shape Our Attachment?08:14 How Can I Differentiate Between Genuine Relationship Issues And My Trauma-Induced Perceptions?13:41 How Can I Manage Intense Emotional Reactions In Relationships Effectively?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)What if the way you were treated growing up wasn't just “normal”… but actually emotional abuse you were never taught to recognize?Because here's the truth—emotional abuse isn't always loud.It doesn't always look like yelling, insults, or obvious control.Sometimes, it's the silence.The subtle digs. The emotional distance. The constant sense that something's wrong—but you're the one being “too sensitive.”And if you grew up in an environment like that—especially with complex trauma—it's easy to miss the signs entirely… and carry the wounds into adulthood without even knowing it.In today's episode, we're going to talk about:What emotional abuse really is, and why it matters so much for CPTSD survivors7 hidden signs that most people overlook—but that shape how we see ourselves and our relationshipsAnd what you can finally do now, as an adult, to start breaking the cycle and healing from it► Links and Resources:Avoidant Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=PS3Bn5WzPQBGVU0UDisorganized Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=YbWs2mlPIguVcon2Healthy Conflict Episode: https://youtu.be/ZhExIeU3Bys?si=KCvnw_AUnEIom2lN ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:41 What Is Emotional Abuse And Why Does It Matter So Much For CPTSD Survivors04:16 Sign 1: Being Shamed For Having Needs Or Emotions06:35 Sign 2: Conditional Love And Approval08:28 Sign 3: The Disguised Put-Downs: Jokes That Hurt10:04 Sign 4: The Silent Treatment As Punishment12:52 Sign 5: Your Feelings Were Dismissed Or Used Against You14:55 Sign 6: Feeling Like The “Bad One” For Setting Boundaries16:28 Sign 7: Emotional Neglect18:12 What Can You Do About Emotional Abuse And Childhood Trauma?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Do you believe what you're thinking about your past?Are you convinced that what you know about your childhood is true?Well, then this episode might be a brainwash for you, because what I'm telling you today is that the truth that you might believe is actually a lie.Because - and many don't know about this - if you experienced childhood trauma in your past, your memories from these tough times might be fragmented, buried, or disrupted - and your brain did that, to protect you.So in this video, we will uncover how trauma causes altered memory and memory disorders.How this can cause issues with attention and focus (and how that might be linked to ADHD)And we talk about what you can do specifically about issues with memory and attention.► Links and Resources: Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxHypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StIAvoidant Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18Disorganized Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8ADHD & CPTSD Episode: https://youtu.be/limKlx4h_F412:07:09 Signs It's CPTSD, Not ADHD: https://youtu.be/N1UM0y77Jw4 The Whitebook: https://www.racgp.org.au/getattachment/4ab6102c-67d9-4440-9398-a3ae759164ef/Abuse-and-violence-Working-with-our-patients-in-general-practice.aspx► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:09 Fragmented Memory And Altered Attention, What Is That?05:31 Why You Can't Trust Your Thoughts And Memories, If You Have A History Of Trauma11:04 Altered Attention, Focus Issues, And The Link With ADHD13:16 What We Can Do About It ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Have you ever been in a situation where you felt an overwhelming wave of fear, sadness, or panic—seemingly out of nowhere?Your heart races. Your body tenses. You feel trapped, unsafe, like something is terribly wrong… but you have no idea why.You might think it's an anxiety or panic attack.But here's the thing:What you're experiencing is probably a flashback—a moment where your body and emotions are re-living something from the past, that your mind doesn't consciously remember.And to make this important topic more understandable, in this video, we're going to talk about:How you can tell if it's a specific type of flashback or a panic attackWhy your nightmares might be re-experiencing trauma—even if they don't seem to be.And about the most effective grounding techniques to calm emotional flashbacks and intrusive memories—so they stop controlling your life.Because you deserve to feel safe again.► Links and Resources:Toxic Shame Episode:https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI?si=usI7UV5S1sfsKnSSAdult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxPTSD UK Flashbacks: https://www.ptsduk.org/what-is-ptsd/understanding-ptsd-flashbacks-and-triggers/REM-Sleep & Trauma Study: https://psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/appi.ajp.159.10.1696Emotional Flashback Management By Pete Walker: https://i.ibb.co/k2y7rWW/Emotional-Flashback-Management.jpg► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:33 Series Overview02:12 How Do I Know If It's A Flashback, And How To Distinguish Between Different Types Of Flashbacks?05:52 Flashbacks Vs. Panic Attacks07:29 Why Do I Experience Vivid Nightmares? (That Often Don't Directly Point Towards Trauma)10:21 What Are The Most Effective Grounding Techniques To Calm Emotional Flashbacks And Intrusive Memories?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Are you right now suffering from severe emotional heartbreak? Or are you trying to overcome a dating situation where someone is not loving you back or ghosting you? Or did you lose someone you truly loved just recently?Whatever your situation is. The skill you need the most right now is to detach and let got.But here's the truth—letting go isn't just about time passing… Detachment is about breaking the invisible ties that keep you emotionally bonded.Detachment is hard and fundamentally a survival skill.So in this video I will try to outline carefully:Why detaching is so difficult for us human beings, even when you know it's overHow to stop obsessively thinking about the other person and break free from the mental loops that keep us pulling backAnd a strategy on how to emotionally detach without feeling empty, lonely, or like you lost a part of yourself► Links and Resources:Codependency Episode:https://youtu.be/OSeR88YWwhU?si=ml8HkGb82O222vORLimerence Episode: https://youtu.be/gDz8U2zaF0A?si=rrqtz-_6Fmh-zkkpRegulating Through Fantasies Episode: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=wUik1iAai_O-36Pq► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:46 Why Is It So Hard To Let Go Of Someone?06:12 How Do You Stop Obsessively Thinking About Them All The Time?12:22 How Do You Emotionally Detach And Let Go?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Have you ever felt on such high alert mode that picked up on the tension in someone's voice before they even spoke, or felt like your body felt electrized & tensioned… even if there was no obvious reason?Maybe you've been told you're just too sensitive, or that you're overreacting. But deep down, you know something is off. Your mind never stops, your body never fully relaxes—and no matter how safe things should feel, it's like your system just won't ease.So, what is hypervigilance really? And how do you know if it's a symptom of childhood trauma… or just your highly sensitive nervous system?And if it's from trauma, how does it affect your relationships?Well, today, we'll uncover the truth about hypervigilance, why it happens, and—most importantly—the most effective ways to manage and reduce it so you can finally feel at peace in your own body.► Links and Resources:Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxPolyvagal Theory Episode: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=KqfKns7ngiXYQoGwHSP Episode: https://youtu.be/J5Ys0iYRitg?si=6qfiY9KcC4RuGImu► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:37 Series Overview 02:29 Hypervigilance: What It Is And How It Feels Like05:31 Hypervigilance Or Just A Sensitive Nervous System?08:11 Hypervigilance And Relationships12:19 Solutions For Hypervigilance► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)I recently came across that idea, that we as human beings are all just children inside, living in adult bodies.Or in other words, that growing up does not mean we're leaving our inner child behind.This might fundamentally change how you see the world.Now, if you are open for this idea, then in today's video I'd like to invite you to a quick mind experiment where we explore this idea together.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:58 Mind Experiment04:01 Basic Needs Of A Child05:12 What Being A Child In An Adult Body Would Mean For Us► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)If you are insecurely attached, so have an avoidant, an anxious or a fearful-avoidant attachment style, the big question is:IS IT POSSIBLE TO WORK THROUGH AND TRANSFORM AN INSECURE ATTACHMENT STYLE AND RESOLVE TOXIC RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS AND THE SYMPTOMS OF CHILDHOOD TRAUMA?I'll give you the answer straight away:Our attachment style is not determined like for example our Myer's Briggs Personality Type.Therefore, we have the ability to change and transform our attachment patterns in many areas.Usually, we need to go through these 4 stages that I will explain to you in detail in this video.And I will introduce you to the big 3 skills you need to learn and nurture in order to transform insecure attachment & live healthier relationships.► Links and Resources:Journey To Secure Attachment Blog Article: https://exquisite.love/blog/journey-to-secure-attachmentThe 4 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=4kYlgVNI2HiLSbyGCodependency Episode: https://youtu.be/OSeR88YWwhU?si=adqBVXyu7AV-oMopToxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/ELUfIk0lzxU?si=iqiQDtYL1VhhK255Polyvagal Theory Episode: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=KqfKns7ngiXYQoGw99 Positive Beliefs Episode: https://youtu.be/YKaFLo_USU0?si=thC3Rjz14czki1DsAttachment Styles Series:Episode 1/8: Avoidant Attachment Style: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18Episode 2/8: Working Through Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/FpNODQ7xYJgEpisode 3/8: Anxious Attachment: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpYEpisode 4/8: Working Through Anxious Attachment: https://youtu.be/lbLG9432BkYEpisode 5/8: Fearful-Avoidant Attachment: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8Episode 6/8: Working Through Fearful Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/leT0-kFOSR0Episode 7/8: Secure Attachment: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/YXdW4mwwogoEpisode 8/8: Becoming Securely Attached: https://youtu.be/wq6sRKNdUsE► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:29 The Path From Insecure To Secure AttachmentFinal Thoughts03:52 Stage 1: Unconscious Insecurity05:54 Stage 2: Conscious Insecurity08:12 Stage 3: Conscious Security10:51 Stage 4: Unconscious/Natural Security13:50 How To Transform Insecure Attachment14:17 Skill 1: Self Regulation17:53 Skill 2: Self-Care20:02 Skill 3: Self-Resourcing21:05 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)In the last six episodes here on this channel, we talked about all the insecure attachment styles that often are the consequence of a traumatic childhood.Around 40% of the population belong to that group of insecurely attached people, according to attachment expert Heidi Priebe.But - that also means that at the same time, the majority, so 60% of us are actually securely attached.And while securely attached people mistype as anxious, avoidant or fearful-avoidant, it's highly interesting to look at 10 signs today, that you're a securely attached person, who may attract healthy relationships.► Links and Resources:The 4 Attachment Styles Episode:https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=eph_m17ILcFl1qYVHow Honest Conflict Builds Intimacy Episode: https://youtu.be/ZhExIeU3Bys?si=aixr-TVX2a8b-UhM Limerence Episode: https://youtu.be/gDz8U2zaF0A?si=fZkv0Mty0_w1sHyI Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/ Attachment Styles Series:Episode 1/8: Avoidant Attachment Style: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18Episode 2/8: Working Through Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/FpNODQ7xYJgEpisode 3/8: Anxious Attachment: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpYEpisode 4/8: Working Through Anxious Attachment: https://youtu.be/lbLG9432BkYEpisode 5/8: Fearful-Avoidant Attachment: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8Episode 6/8: Working Through Fearful Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/leT0-kFOSR0Episode 7/8: Secure Attachment: 10 Signs: https://youtu.be/YXdW4mwwogoEpisode 8/8: Becoming Securely Attached: https://youtu.be/wq6sRKNdUsE► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:33 How Does Having A Secure Attachment Style Feel Like?05:03 Sign 1: You Understand That Other People's Emotions Are Not A Reflection Of You & Don't Take Them Personally07:49 Sign 2: You Address Issues & Conflict Directly And Calmly10:59 Sign 3: You Welcome Love In All Forms - Giving And Receiving With Ease12:28 Sign 4: You Emphasize & Connect Deeply With Others While Maintaining Emotional Balance14:22 Sign 5: You Embrace Both, Independence And Interdependence In Relationships17:13 Sign 6: You Trust Yourself And Your Instincts When It Comes To Relationships18:51 Sign 7: You Set Clear Goals And Collaborate In A Way That Respects Your Needs And Others' 20:18 Sign 8: You Naturally Seek And Accept Support When Needed23:01 Sign 9: You Feel Secure & In Your Comfort Zone Whether You're Single Or In A Relationship26:05 Sign 10: You Bounce Back With Strength And Wisdom After Relationship Challenges28:47 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Is it possible to work through and heal the wounds of a fearful-avoidant attachment style?When you read into the fearful-avoidant attachment style you often get the hopeless message that it's really difficult or even impossible to manage and overcome the symptoms.Fairly, it won't be easy, but if you have this attachment style and truly put the work in, I believe that long term improvements are possible and will make your relationship-life healthier.To give you some approaches and a starting point, I brought together 5 ways to work through a fearful-avoidant attachment style.► Links and Resources:The 4 Attachment Styles Episode:https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=eph_m17ILcFl1qYVPolyvagal Theory Episode:https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=wk-SaHl2jetGtYEu A simple 3-Step Process To Actually Work On Yourself Episode: https://youtu.be/mWr7CG-RlrI?si=xfgLSGA7TC3DV6eM Shadow Work Episode:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPSEl9sOd9I► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:26 Fearful-Avoidant Attachment: You Are Not Alone! 05:42 Approach 1: Re-Regulating The Dysregulated Nervous System09:12 Approach 2: Integrating The Anxious & Avoidant Shadows14:18 Approach 3: Inner Child & Re-Parenting Work19:06 Approach 4: Establish Secure Relationship Habits24:44 Approach 5: Practising Safe, Secure Connections27:06 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)The fearful-avoidant attachment style is the one style that is the most often mistyped one.While there are around 18 - 20% of people having an avoidant attachment style and 18 - 20 % having an anxious attachment style, only 1 - 2% of the population actually has fearful-avoidant characteristics according to attachment expert Heidie Priebe.By saying that, all attachment styles can exhibit both behaviors in certain situations.And to understand the actual difference between an anxious or avoidant and the fearful-avoidant attachment style, I have prepared 10 signs that you might have a fearful-avoidant attachment style.► Links and Resources:Attachment Style Quiz:https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/The 4 Attachment Styles Episode:https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=eph_m17ILcFl1qYV10 Signs of Trauma from Childhood Episode: https://youtu.be/5VwTxkjO5Ak?si=oxwsC7OzcSEaaE72 High Sensation Seeker Episode: https://youtu.be/fkA4o9ECdGE?si=1v9lNUVUgrjw1-Ry► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:55 How Does Havign A Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style Feel Like?05:06 Sign 1: You Doubt Your Worthiness For A Healthy Relationship07:54 Sign 2: You Long For Connection But Struggle With Commitment10:35 Sign 3: You Over-Analyze Relationships And Motives13:04 Sign 4: You Swing Between Taking Too Much And Too Little Responsibility15:27 Sign 5: You Prefer Others To Open Up Emotionally Before You Do17:35 Sign 6: You Chronically Fear Abandonment And Rejection19:25 Sign 7: Your Logic And Emotions Often Feel Out Of Sync23:04 Sign 8: You're Emotionally Ambivalent Towards Independence24:32 Sign 9: You Frequently Seek Intensity And Emotional Highs28:08 Sign 10: You Love Deeply But Struggle To Fully Integrate Relationships Into Your Life29:59 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)If you can identify yourself with an anxious attachment style, today I have good news for you!There are ways to work through & heal the wounds of an anxious attachment style.Therefore today, I'd like to share 5 possible approaches with you.► Links and Resources:The 4 Attachment Styles Episode:https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=eph_m17ILcFl1qYVRegulating Through Fantasies:https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:29 Why Classic Couples Counselling Will Not Be On This List?04:06 Approach 1: Re-Parenting The Anxious Inner Child08:32 Approach 2: Bringing Reality Into Fantasy14:02 Approach 3: Shadow Work: Integrating Anxious Wounds18:33 Approach 4: Inner (Anxious) Work23:47 Approach 5: Establish Secure Relationship Habits► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Are you always a bit more committed than the people you date or are in a relationship with?And have you find it difficult to even find someone who is interested in building a real relationship?Well, than you may have an anxious attachment style (or it's because of the shitty dating behaviors these days - who knows).In the case that you are regularly the more needy and clingy part, the 10 signs that we reveal in today's video may be truly eye opening for you.This way, you will uncover a ton of blindspots of an anxious attachment style.► Links and Resources:Attachment Style Quiz:https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/The 4 Attachment Styles Episode:https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=eph_m17ILcFl1qYVLimerence Episode:https://youtu.be/gDz8U2zaF0ARegulating Through Fantasies:https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:26 Series Overview02:43 How Does Having An Anxious Attachment Style Feel Like?04:24 Sign 1: You Are Always Trying To Feel Good Enough06:10 Sign 2: You Feel Like You're Loving More Than Others08:22 Sign 3: You Feel Responsible For Fixing Other People's Emotions09:25 Sign 4: You Love Deep Talk (And Hate Smalltalk)10:56 Sign 5: You Put Potential Partners On A Pedestal12:27 Sign 6: You're People Pleasing In The Early Stage Of Your Relationships13:39 Sign 7: Your Relationships Take Up A Lot Of Your Headspace18:22 Sign 8: You Fear Of Being Too Much20:16 Sign 9: You Are Self-Regulating Through Fantasies22:42 Sign 10: You Have Poor Boundaries23:42 Solutions25:04 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Maybe you watched the last episode about avoidant attachment and screamed: OMG Yes, this is so me!Here are 5 ways to work through and manage an avoidant attachment style.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Links & Resources:The 4 Attachment Styles Episode:https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=4z5PvBpgQvg6o6fKToxic Shame Episode:https://youtu.be/ELUfIk0lzxU?si=GPNZPdmgpvt0f1XjFear of Commitment Episode:https://youtu.be/Xf1iuvoO0lM?si=Sdv_oPzGIBdsmIMoIFS-Therapy Episode:https://youtu.be/xNViG2xhHGg?si=XAMmSxxxePHz2hoo► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro03:09 Why Classic Couple's Counselling Will Not Be On This List?04:35 Approach 1: Working With The Avoidant Inner Child11:47 Approach 2: Shadow Work: Integrating Avoidant Wounds19:45 Approach 3: Body-Based Resolution For Avoidance-Driven Symptoms23:40 Approach 4: Inner (Avoidant) Parts Work26:37 Approach 5: Avoidant Attachment (Repair) Exercises► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)The dismissive, avoidant attachment style is by far the type which is most often blamed for causing relationship issues.At the same time, avoidantly attached people are also the ones who are misunderstood the most. - By others and by themselves.Therefore, today we will unfold 10 signs of a dismissive avoidant attachment style -And by doing so, also revealing some very significant blindspots of avoidantly attached people.I am sure you will feel exposed more and more as we go through the signs.► Links and Resources:CPTSD & The 4 Attachment Styles:https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=qJZ3Edj8pl3kdV39Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper:https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxSchema-Theory:https://www.schematherapy.com/id73.htmAvoidant Attachment & Schema Theory Paper:https://bmcpsychology.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40359-023-01172-9Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Book *Ad:https://amzn.to/4aAk3y4Gender Differences & Attachment:https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9312160/Attachment Style Quiz:https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:24 Series Overview02:55 How Does Having An Avoidant Attachment Style Feel Like?06:37 Sign 1: For You, Love Means, Not Demanding Someone08:42 Sign 2: You Don't Understand What It Means To Be Vulnerable10:15 Sign 3: You Detach When Things Get Too Emotional11:57 Sign 4: Radical Personal Responsibility Is One Of Your Core Values15:22 Sign 5: You Downplay Conflict And Avoid Confrontation18:30 Sign 6: Intimate Relationships Create Constant Pressure20:58 Sign 7: You Are Very Protective Around Your Own Life Decisions, While Your Relationships Are Negotiable23:40 Sign 8: You Can Meet Your Partners Practical Needs, But Not Their Emotional Needs25:32 Sign 9: For You, Emotional Dependence Equals Weakness26:25 Sign 10: You Want A Relationship, But Don't Find A Partner Who Fits Your High Standards29:01 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Do you fall in love often and then build a bright future fantasy with people you usually barely know, become super needy and clingy right in the beginning? Then chances are high, that this bright fantasy that you build also comforts and excites you. But did you know that what you're experiencing here is actually not love? Did you know that people with childhood trauma regularly use romantic obsession as a tool to self-regulate and cope with their pain from the past? Well then today, I have 6 eye-opening signs, that you may be using limerence and the fantasy with another person as a way to re-regulate yourself. How this can work and what you can do about it, we'll find out in today's video. ► Links and Resources: 10 Common Symptoms of Childhood Trauma Episode: https://youtu.be/5VwTxkjO5Ak?si=0IrKBw3gcDDryTSu Fear of Commitment Episode: https://youtu.be/Xf1iuvoO0lM?si=geY5sdZACPGmWVEZ Limerence Episode: https://youtu.be/gDz8U2zaF0A ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:44 What Is Limerence? 04:32 Limerence & Neediness 07:39 Sign 1: You Feel Anxiety And Panic, That In Reality, The Other Person (Limerent Object) Is Different From Your Fantasy 12:40 Sign 2: Your Intensity Of Limerence Varies, Depending On Your Phase In Life 14:26 Sign 3: Your Sense Of Self Worth & Purpose Revolves Around The Limerent Object 17:17 Sign 4: You Feel Anxiety Or Panic, When The Limerent Object Is Out Of Reach 19:19 Sign 5: You Prefer Spending Time Thinking About The Limerent Person, Than Actually Spending Time With Them 20:44 Sign 6: Your Romantic Obsession On Another Person Is A Substitute For True Connection And Intimacy 21:40 Solutions 24:53 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)"Limerence is like being a lost puppy, begging any stranger to love you enough to undo the past's lack of connection."I found this comment on YouTube and nearly 6000 people can't be wrong.Limerence doesn't mean love. It means non-stop obsessing about someone you often barely know.And this - is not healthy. It's rooted in early trauma and insecure attachment pattern s.This link between childhood trauma, attachment wounds and romantic obsession is so valuable to understand and this is why we will uncover it in this video.Furthermore, I will also show you how you can distinguish between limerence and real connecting feelings and I share an approach with you, what you can do to resolve & stop obsessive infatuation once you're in such a situation.► Links and Resources:Cycle of Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI?si=V5qLjXHy-XBi5hCqCodependency Episode: https://youtu.be/OSeR88YWwhU?si=tmybOcvMqeXBrPwr► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:01 Understanding Limerence04:12 Signs Of Limerence06:03 Limerence And Attachment 13:33 Limerence And Childhood Trauma23:37 Limerence Or True Connecting Feeling?23:51 Distinction 1: Limerence Appears In Your Head, Connection & Sexual Desire Appear In Your Body 25:10 Distinction 2: It's Limerence When You Fantasize About Someone When You Are Alone, Instead Of Spending Real Time With Them25:59 Distinction 3: Limerence Disappears As Quickly As It Came27:39 Distinction 4: Limerence Is More Intense Than A Crush And Has An Obsessive Character29:04 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) When was the last time you were furious with your partner, a good friend, or a parent? I mean, so mad and full of resentment, that you were raging, wanting to smash things and scream? 3 days ago? Last week? Or are you right now? Well, this is actually not normal anger. It's probably emotional dysregulation caused by a childhood full of trauma. Today, you will understand why and how constant anger and resentment are linked to PTSD And in the end, I talk about how to resolve resentment and anger. ► Links and Resources: Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx Emotional Dysregulation Episode: https://youtu.be/S53LMUfE10Q?si=2m2Ckj67pevF4JEf People Pleasing Episode: https://youtu.be/ZhExIeU3Bys ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:07 What Is Constant Anger/Resentment/Yelling/Drama 05:49 Where Does Constant Anger/Resentment/Yelling/Drama Come From 09:04 Understanding Constant Anger/Resentment/Yelling/Drama Runs Your Relationships 09:18 The Adaptive Pathway 10:57 The Avoiding/Repressed Pathway 16:06 How To Resolve Constant Anger/Resentment/Yelling/Drama ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Why do we people please? Well, people pleasers subconsciously wish to create harmony & validation in their intimate relationships by agreeing on or doing things, the other person wants. What they are not aware of is, that these things they agree on or do are not always aligned with their own needs & boundaries and therefore cause a resentment reaction in them. But even worse, this behavior works not in favor, but against people pleasers and even harms intimate relationships. In this video, we dive deep into intimate relationship dynamics and understand why people pleasing ruins our relationships And we will reveal how non-people pleasers and securely attached individuals use honest conflict to heal their relationships. ► Links and Resources: ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro 01:08 What Is People Pleasing? 02:27 How People Pleasing Ruins Your Relationship-Life 04:07 People Pleasing And The Central Nervous System 05:43 How People Pleasing Shows Up 07:12 1. The People Pleasing Pathway 08:51 2. The Self Abandonment Pathway 09:51 3. The Conflict Pathway 12:37 Healthy Conflict And Intimacy 16:23 People Pleasing And Ego Stories 17:21 People Pleasing Solution 20:22 Pathways Of Intimacy ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) How does toxic shame feel like? - It's when you are around people, and you feel a strong resistance when trying to be yourself. - It's when you deep inside don't feel good enough. - It's when you can't look yourself in the eye in the mirror. - It's when you feel disgusted by yourself, feel not lovable, wrong and just want to disappear. Toxic shame is a heavy topic and I warn you, this video can be very overwhelming for some of you. But, at the same time, shame in complex trauma is also very poorly understood. This is why today I'd like to reveal how it feels like, where it comes from, how it influences every aspect of your life and ideas, how to manage toxic shame. ► Links and Resources: Cycle of toxic shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI?si=CSp0qZ585hLo8EpE ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:29 How Does Toxic Shame Feel Like? 05:03 What Is Toxic Shame? 06:01 Where Does Toxic Shame Come From? 07:50 Cycle Of Toxic Shame 12:32 How To Heal From Toxic Shame 13:05 Step 1: Create Awareness 13:40 Step 2: Create A Safe Environment 18:03 Step 3: Create Self-Acceptance 20:39 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Why do we isolate and push people away? Safety? Stability? Regroup, Revitalize, Recharge? Today we talk about 7 common reasons, why we prefer solitude over socializing. And at the end, we talk about what we can do if we do feel lonely at some point. ► Links and Resources: YouTube Comment about Relationship with a Narcissist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?si=SButRu-Ad93QZIvP&v=OlOkxtc-uqw&feature=youtu.be ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:40 Reason 1: Avoidant Attachment 05:11 Reason 2: Disorganized Attachment 08:56 Reason 3: Narcissistic Abuse 11:11 Reason 4: Childhood Trauma Symptoms 15:00 Reason 5: Neurodiversity 18:14 Reason 6: Introversion 19:35 Reason 7: Inauthenticity 22:19 Solutions 24:13 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) There are certain personality types that seem to attract narcissists in their lives like a magnet. These are: - People who had a traumatic childhood - Highly sensitive people/empaths - Neurodivergent people - Successful people/overachievers - and People with an anxious/disorganized attachment style We explore each personality and why they're so in attraction with narcissists in detail. But, if they know how to spot a narcissist early, they can (and should) break the attraction instantly So in the end of this video, I'll give you the 3 biggest signs/redflags of a narcissist to look out for. ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:20 Personality 1: Childhood Trauma Survivors 07:12 Personality 2: Highly Sensitive People 09:21 Personality 3: Neurodivergent People 12:21 Personality 4: Successful People 15:57 Personality 5: Anxiously & Disorganized Attached People 19:41 3 Big Signs To Spot A Narcissist Early ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Do you sometimes feel like an alien? Like the whole world overwhelms you? And do other people always tell you: “You're too sensitive?” Well, then you might be a highly sensitive person, who perceives stimuli more intensely. But strangely, though, that's not enough. On top of that, somehow we as highly sensitive people magically attracted a traumatic childhood. We seem to struggle more and recover less from past wounds. Why that is the case and what you can do about it, you will see in this video. ► Links and Resources: The Highly Sensitive Person Book *Ad: https://amzn.to/3Bp7SXN Genogram: https://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/genogram Therapy for Highly Sensitive People Podcast: https://youtu.be/7sh2uHxWbKk?si=GdXAmKtQKLpEhK-D HSP vs. Autism: https://youtu.be/sib1ok3a6-w?si=vIMdu8WGg6Q8Gn8O Highly Sensitive Children Podcast: https://youtu.be/tqodXCQU2PE?si=8yEf-0jtk2LGyMc2 When To End a Relationship: https://youtu.be/Th6BaWiUkm8?si=fp9kauti5udXOs2l ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:04 What Are Highly Sensitive People? 06:24 Why Sensitivity Attracts Trauma 06:39 Reason 1: The Highly Sensitive Person Is The Alien 11:04 Reason 2: The Highly Sensitive Person Has The Highest Emotional Capacity 13:18 Reason 3: The Highly Sensitive Person Often Is The Scapegoat 16:20 Reason 4: The Highly Sensitive Person Attracts The Narcissist Like A Magnet 19:15 Solutions ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Do you know this one truth about complex childhood trauma? “What happened - was not your fault.” We all know this rationally, but we don't feel this emotionally. Instead, we have all these weird symptoms that make us dysfunction in our daily lives. Often we can't even explain them and feel at the mercy of our own body. This feels absolutely frustrating. In order to resolve these symptoms, you have to understand them first. This is what we do today: We go through 10 common symptoms of complex trauma from childhood. I will explain each of them and then give you relatable examples. And in the end, I will also offer you solutions to the symptoms. ► Links and Resources: Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx Dissociation Episode: https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg?si=PQseKTWKdXzoeEBS Fear of Commitment Episode: https://youtu.be/Xf1iuvoO0lM?si=IiPdyWWpf_0DvsP1 When To End a Relationship Episode: https://youtu.be/Th6BaWiUkm8?si=vhLjtp8d8Wpn_DDW Why We Isolate Episode: https://youtu.be/y9uRcNJcOuc?si=kQ8HwiCtTz_4xa_9 ADHD Episode: https://youtu.be/N1UM0y77Jw4?si=hlm-BNQdIH3ilxJd Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI?si=jH7yVgqSKPIzNuKo Re-Regulation Resources Episode: https://youtu.be/i05BWtgjYRw?si=wI26vDo6U9U2E6b2 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:10 Symptom 1: Are You Chronically On High Alert (Around Other People)? 03:13 Symptom 2: Do You Often Disconnect From The World Around You? 05:33 Symptom 3: Do You Struggle With Regulating Intense Emotions? 08:16 Symptom 4: Do You Have Medically Unexplainable Body-Symptoms? 11:28 Symptom 5: Do You Feel Flawed, Wrong And Worthless? 14:37 Symptom 6: Do You Experience “Panic Attacks” Regularly? 17:29 Symptom 7: Do You Exhibit The Same Bad Behavior As Your Parents, Or Do You Magically Attract Partners Who Are As Dysfunctional As Your Parents? 20:08 Symptom 8: Do You Avoid Relationships And Social Engagement? 22:16 Symptom 9: Do People Often Tell You, Things Are Waaaaay Different, Than You See Them? 24:31 Symptom 10: Do You Struggle With Body-Image And Addictions? 26:10 Solutions ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Get Access To Our Courses & Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) “Feel your feelings. Allow your emotions.” Ever heard these advices? Well, then let me tell you, that this is not a good idea for everyone in every situation. Because, especially if you had a childhood full of trauma, you may sometimes feel angry & furious about little things or just start crying in everyday situations. This is emotional dysregulation, and it's caused by early trauma. And on top of that, we often feel shame & guilt around these emotions. So what can we do? Today, I show you 7 ways on how to control these emotional outbursts. You will learn that it's not your fault if you have these intense emotions, and which skills you need in order to feel less thin-skinned and dysregulated. ► Links and Resources: Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 0:00 Overview 01:00 Emotional Dysregulation Stories 04:05 What Is Emotional Dysregulation? 07:29 Where In Childhood Is Emotional Dysregulation Rooted? 10:52 Emotional Dysregulation And The Central Nervous System 13:37 Emotional Dysregulation & Toxic Shame 19:23 Strategy 1: Stop-Command 21:28 Strategy 2: Write And Relax 23:45 Strategy 3: Walk Away 25:14 Strategy 4: Exit Persona 27:17 Strategy 5: Boundaries 32:11 Strategy 6: Compassion 33:37 Strategy 7: Humor 34:30 Outro ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Have you always believed that you have certain problems & symptoms that no one else has to deal with? Well, then please don't freak out when you hear about the 15 issues in today's video. Because these are actually very specific to people with childhood trauma. So I will present to you the 15 symptoms now one by one Explain to you how they are related to early trauma (You will be surprise how applicable they are) And in the end I will give to you some treatment ideas to break free from these symptoms. ► Links and Resources: Shame Persona by Tim Fletcher: https://youtu.be/IOQTfqUdypc?si=c-gibU9ZxGTztT7K Why We Isolate Episode: https://youtu.be/y9uRcNJcOuc Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI?si=-DZBRIY9rJGy3BxF Stone Age Sleepers Episode: https://youtu.be/FgW9a16Ntt0?si=uoLei0VNhH8Z0cYN 15 Trauma Treatments Episode: https://youtu.be/UaslCkvMpws?si=DzSlWTZKnw2CKkjX ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:55 Symptom 1: Indirect Grief And Resentment 03:48 Symptom 2: The Hypervigilant Sleeper 08:07 Symptom 3: The Naked (Sphinx) Cat 15:25 Symptom 4: Phantom Criticism 20:39 Symptom 5: The Race Car Driver 22:35 Symptom 6: The Joker 24:17 Symptom 7: Maladaptive Daydreaming 26:22 Symptom 8: Ditto 28:50 Symptom 9: Micromanaging Conversations 31:56 Symptom 10: Calmness Before The Storm 34:32 Symptom 11: Emotional Delay 37:33: Symptom 12: Hurry Up For No One 42:09 Symptom 13: Rejection Overdrive 43:55 Symptom 14: If X, Then Y Formula 47:09 Symptom 15: Hypervigilance Fatigue 49:27 Solutions Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) If you can relate to my story and you also sometimes meet people who say that isolation is unhealthy and wrong, please send them this video here. They have to understand, that for people like us, who are introverts, highly sensitive, traumatized or neurodivergent other people are the trigger. Other people are the source of the wound and the overstimulation and overwhelm we experience. And isolation is a way to help us to re-regulate. For better understanding, in today's video, I have put together 10 reasons, why we isolate and need time alone. I try to explain every single reason in a compassionate and understandable way. ► Links and Resources: The 4 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA Polyvagal Theory Episode: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0 Emotional Dysregulation Episode: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BA Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Why I Was Isolating For My Whole Life 03:43 Reason 1: We Want Safety, Stability & Peace! 06:46 Reason 2: A “Narcissist” Destroyed Us 09:01 Reason 3: We Are Auto-Regulators & Self-Soothers (Avoidant Attachment) 11:14 Reason 4: Our Attachment-Style Is Disorganized/Chaotic 13:52 Reason 5: We Have Missing Boundaries 17:57 Reason 6: We Feel Chronically Dysregulated And Hypervigilant 21:56 Reason 7: We Are Introverts 23:39 Reason 8: We Are Highly Sensitive 25:44 Reason 9: We Are Neurodivergent (Autism/ADHD Etc.) 27:52 Reason 10: We Are Depressed 31:22 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Today, I tell you the story of Betty. If you can identify yourself with her story, you now may have an answer: You could be someone with Childhood Trauma and Adult ADHD. To help you gain clarity, today, I will present to you 7 clear signs that you have both of these conditions. I also want to explore how a traumatic childhood can activate ADHD in adults. And in the end, I want to discuss solutions and treatments for people who are affected. If you think you may have CPTSD and ADHD, stay with me, because this one can be truly helpful for you. ► Links and Resources: ADHD & PTSD Article: https://neurodivergentinsights.com/adhd-infographics/adhd-and-trauma Emotional Dysregulation Paper: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41398-021-01666-3 How PTSD activates ADHD: https://www.additudemag.com/ptsd-symptoms-adhd-diagnosis-difficult/ Why We Isolate Episode: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4 Emotional Dysregulation Episode: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BA Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 The Story Of Betty 03:22 Intro 05:05 What Is ADHD? 06:18 What Is CPTSD? 07:29 Sign 1: You Grew Up With Undiagnosed ADHD 09:43 Sign 2: You Dissociate In Social Situations 12:01 Sign 3: You Spend More Time In Your Head, Than In Reality 14:09 Sign 4: You Are Highly Sensitive To Everything And Everyone 18:17 Sign 5: Emotional Dysregulation Is Your Second Name 21:30 Sign 6: You Use Drugs And Substances To Regulate Stress 25:17 Sign 7: You Are Trapped In A Cycle Of Shame And Guilt 27:59 CPTSD VS ADHD: Venn Diagram 29:52 How Trauma And ADHD Can Activate/Trigger One Another 32:55 Solutions ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) There is A LOT - OF - SCIENCE on the brain-differences in ADHD and CPTSD. BUT, let's not just talk about science, but about how do the two conditions show up and differ in the real world? How does someone with an ADHD brain operates, compared to someone with a Trauma influenced brain? Today, we are taking a closer look at 9 signs of adult ADHD in comparison to similar signs of childhood trauma. We are also discussing the neurological differences behind these two. And in the end, I'll show you the venn-diagram again. ► Links and Resources: Article ADHD vs PTSD: https://neurodivergentinsights.com/misdiagnosis-monday/adhd-vs-or-and-ptsd Default Mode Network: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Default_mode_network DMN In ADHD: https://psychiatryonline.org/doi/pdf/10.1176/appi.neuropsych.15060142 DMN IN PTSD: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/344886575_The_sense_of_self_in_the_aftermath_of_trauma_Lessons_from_the_default_mode_network_in_posttraumatic_stress_disorder ADHD Diagnostic Trends: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9616454/ CPTSD vs Neurodivergence Episode: https://youtu.be/_6iWTEjN40M Dissociation Episode: https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:11 What Is ADHD? 03:33 What Is CPTSD? 04:45 Brain Differences 12:29 Sign 1: Struggles With Focus, Not Triggered By Trauma 15:00 Sign 2: Physical Hyperactivity / Restlessness 17:44 Sign 3: Impulsivity, Not Driven By Trauma Response 19:30 Sign 4: Forgetfulness, Not Linked To Avoidance 22:06 Sign 5: Difficulty With Time Management 24:04 Sign 6: Interest Based Motivation 26:51 Sign 7: Emotional Reactivity, Related to Stimuli, Not Flashbacks 29:18 Sign 8: Zoning Out Due To Boredom, Not Dissociation 30:44 Sign 9: Hyperfocus 34:31 Solutions ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Is it Complex Trauma or ADHD? There are some signs which are very strong indicators for complex trauma, not for ADHD. Still, those two conditions are often not that easy to distinguish from one another. Therefore, many of you asked for a comparison between ADHD & Trauma and this is, why today we'll discuss 7 Signs that it's Complex trauma and NOT ADHD. And in the end, I will also present to you a full Venn-Diagramm of CPTSD vs ADHD. ► Links and Resources: Paper Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx Shame Model By Tim Fletcher: https://youtu.be/IOQTfqUdypc?si=agnObwF40Vluxzn2 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA Dissociation Episode: https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg Isolation Episode: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4 CPTSD vs. Neurodivergence Episode: https://youtu.be/_6iWTEjN40M CPTSD Treatments Episode: https://youtu.be/UaslCkvMpws ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:02 What Is CPTSD? 03:10 What Is ADHD? 04:50 Sign 1: Attachment Problems 08:01 Sign 2: Hypervigilance, Not Hyperactivity 12:14 Sign 3: Emotional Flashbacks And Dissociation 18:30 Sign 4: Low Self-Esteem 21:17 Sign 5: Toxic Shame And Guilt 27:04 Sign 6: Avoidance, Not Inattention 30:20 Sign 7: Physical Symptoms 33:55 CPTSD VS ADHD - The Venn Diagram 36:41 Solutions 38:36 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Do You have a moral obligation to fix your issues and childhood traumas before you bring children into this world? Many people say YES, Absolutely! Why? Because Trauma and abuse are passed down through generations unless someone breaks the wheel. Period. Still, since nearly 1 in 3 people are influenced by childhood trauma and many won't resolve it, does that mean that a huge part of our population is responsible to stay childless? And would that cause a population decline as a consequence? And if not? Are we then becoming an increasingly sick society? This, and much more, we will cover in today's episode. ► Links and Resources: Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx Transgenerational Trauma & Trauma History Models: https://youtu.be/ELp8yYBN0t0?si=leG8SMf0-rrSoX5L ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:07 Should You Sort Out Your Trauma Before Having Kids? 05:38 Are Unhealed Parents Part Of The Reason We Have So Many Problems In The World? 09:28 Trauma Or No Trauma? Kids Or No Kids? 11:34 How Does Trauma Impact Parenting? 12:07 What To Do If You're Already A Parent Dealing With Trauma? 13:21 How To Break The Wheel? 16:49 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Do you sometimes feel easily triggered, overly sensitive or thin-skinned? This could be, because you are trapped in a cycle of unmet needs, weak boundaries and constant resentment. BUT, now comes the thing! Many people can't link this behavior with their bigger struggle: They have a super hard time meeting their own needs and wants. Well, today, you have the chance to unlock exactly that. You will understand why you struggle so much to meet your needs and wants Where these feelings of being easily triggered, overly sensitive and being permeable come from (linked with CPTSD) And I will give you a 3-step solutions-plan on how to break free from this cycle and reach the life you've been longing for—one where your needs & wants are finally heard and met. ► Links and Resources: The 4 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=mEs5w_T2I4JG4XMO The Toxic Cycle of Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI?si=mnySu66PA2UfHXKr ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 0:00 Overview 1:18 What Are Needs? 5:47 What Are Wants? 6:26 Why We Struggle So Much With Meeting Our Needs? 9:49 Emotions & Needs 14:13 Why Is It Incredibly Important To Get Your Needs Met? 19:10 Step 1: Identifying & Prioritizing Your Needs 21:58 Step 2: Setting Clear Boundaries 23:57 Step 3: Practice Self-Compassion ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Reading these comments underlines how emotionally important this topic is for everyone affected by Autism and/or HSP. It also pinpoints the confusion and lack of research we face regarding the two concepts. In the past two episodes, we assumed that HSP and ASD are different things and discussed each side of them. Today, I want to assume that the Highly Sensitive Person and Autism Spectrum Disorder are the same thing, merged together in one condition. We will explore that spectrum, that I will call Highly Sensitive Autism (HS-AS). In order to do that, today I will present to you 10 Traits of this combined condition And in the end of this video, we will see together, how realistic such a condition will be. ► Links and Resources: Affected Brain Areas of Neurodivergence: https://www.thetransmitter.org/spectrum/brain-structure-changes-in-autism-explained/ Neurodivergence Or CPTSD-Episode: https://youtu.be/_6iWTEjN40M?si=YTHzbjJQJDADVqVW Hyposensitivity Episode: https://youtu.be/A6USY9ECbkM?si=EI5gbVH1oHekdmLF ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:33 What Is HSP/SPS 02:36 What Is ASD? 03:10 The Overlap 09:27 Trait 1: Hyposensitivity And Hypersensitivity 11:22 Trait 2: Hypoempathy And Hyperempathy 12:39 Trait 3: Rigid Routines And Cognitive Flexibility 13:39 Trait 4: Emotional Dysregulation And Emotional Intensity 14:21 Trait 5: Context Independence And Context Dependence 15:49 Trait 6: Isolation And Introversion 16:59 Trait 7: Social Confusion And Social Skills 19:28 Trait 8: Hyperconnective Processing And In-Depth Processing 21:33 Trait 9: Dispositional Focused Development And Environmental Focused Development 22:37 Trait 10: Special Interests And Broad Interests 23:43 Venn-Diagram ASD VS. HSP 24:22 The Highly Sensitive Autism Spectrum 25:50 Highly Sensitive Autism Spectrum - Disorder or Trait? 28:11 Final Thoughts - Beyond Science ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Autism vs Highly Sensitive Person. Yep, again! Do you have Autism, or are you just a highly sensitive person? From my observations and experiences here on YouTube, there are many people who misdiagnose themselves as having Autism Spectrum Disorder, but instead the majority of them are just having a sensory processing sensitivity. The last episode here on this channel discusses that broadly. Nevertheless, there are for sure some people, who actually have autism (ASD). In order to get a clear understanding of autism spectrum disorder (ASD), here are 9 big signs, that it's actually ASD, not just HSP. We also discuss the overlap of both conditions, visualized in a venn-diagram at the end of the episode. And in the episode next week, we will explore how a diagnosis of ASD+HSP could look like, if those are basically the same thing. ► Links and Resources: Last episode about HSP vs. ASD: https://youtu.be/sib1ok3a6-w ASD Spectrum: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202208/autistic-linear-spectrum-pie-chart-spectrum Reframing Autism Article: https://reframingautism.org.au/introduction-to-autism-part-1-what-is-autism/ Autism in Females Article: https://www.mdpi.com/2227-9067/9/2/272 Undiagnosed Autism: https://youtu.be/nAfqKQNrlmg The Highly Sensitive Person: https://hsperson.com/ AQ50-Test: https://embrace-autism.com/autism-spectrum-quotient/ Meltdown, Shutdown, Burnout Episode: https://youtu.be/_DuzKTeWBqQ Hyposensitivity Episode: https://youtu.be/A6USY9ECbkM Re-Regulation Episode: https://youtu.be/i05BWtgjYRw ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:21 What Is ASD? 02:47 What Is HSP/SPS? 04:08 The Overlap 07:06 Sign 1: You Have A Hyperconnective Processing Style 09:21 Sign 2: You Have Hypo- Or Hypersensitivity 10:30 Sign 3: You Have Hypo- Or Hyper-Empathy 11:28 Sign 4: Your Thriving And Development Are Primarily Influenced By Your Neurodiversity 12:28 Sign 5: You May Be Challenged By Social And Interhuman Connection 13:57 Sign 6: You Have A Low Cognitive Flexibility 14:44 Sign 7: You Experience Meltdown, Shutdown and Burnout 17:02 Sign 8: Your Thinking And Perceiving Are Context-Independent 18:25 Sign 9: You Use Self-Soothing And Stimming To Regulate Yourself 19:30 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Uhhhh - The Highly Sensitive Person vs Autism. Are you just highly sensitive, or are you autistic? We discussed that question a lot here before on this channel. But as the topic of autism became more popular recently, I see a lot of people misdiagnosing themselves through content on social media. I talked with my therapists about that as well. And what they told me is: NO, not anyone who can identify themselves with traits of ASD actually has a mental disorder like autism. And YES, sensitivity is a trait that causes autism related symptoms and increases the chance for complex trauma as well. Therefore, today I want to introduce you to 7 signs, that you are a highly sensitive person and not autistic. We also discuss the major differences between a highly sensitive disposition and clinically diagnosable autism spectrum disorder. This video is also the first one of three part series on HSP vs autism. ► Links and Resources: HSP vs. Autism Video: https://youtu.be/RXd7r5wV5CQ?si=qho9r2aSJjmUSfrr Elaine N. Aron: https://hsperson.com/ Autism Spectrum: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202208/autistic-linear-spectrum-pie-chart-spectrum Sensory Processing Article: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20203139/ What is Autism Article: https://reframingautism.org.au/introduction-to-autism-part-1-what-is-autism/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:09 What Is HSP/SPS? 03:50 What is ASD? 05:19 The Overlap 08:33 Sign 1: Your Style Of Processing Is More “In-Depth” 11:30 Sign 2: You Have A Particular High Sense Of Empathy 13:10 Sign 3: Your Thriving And Development Are Primarily Influenced By The Environment 15:28 Sign 4: You Have A Strong Need For Social Connection 16:44 Sign 5: You Are Cognitively More Flexible 17:42 Sign 6: You Have A Heightened Emotional Awareness 18:35 Sign 7: You Think Context-Dependent 19:43 Venn Diagram: Overlap HSP And ASD 21:26 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) ► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Pssst. Not everyone's childhood trauma is obvious to see. In fact, the signs can be subtle… or the person is very trained in hiding them. BUT, if you know what to look for, you can identify pretty reliably that someone had a rough childhood. In the past episode, I presented to you 10 obvious signs that someone had a traumatic childhood. Today, we take a look at 10 subtle, more hidden signs. As we go through them, you might recognize these signs in yourself, a close friend, or even a family member. So in the end, we talk about what you should do in such a situation. ► Links and Resources: 10 Obvious Signs of Childhood Trauma Episode: https://youtu.be/8YBmH74w584?si=6KwI6_XqCAVJJZUB The 4 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=dDN-IrHOpdseCczu ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 0:39 Why Is It Hard To Tell, Someone Had A Traumatic Childhood? 3:00 Sign 1: They're “So Mature For Their Age” 4:36 Sign 2: They're Conspiracy Theorists 5:59 Sign 3: They're High-Performers And Achievers 8:04 Sign 4: They're Highly Independent 10:06 Sign 5: They Rarely Share What Happens At Home 10:59 Sign 6: They Seek Every Kind Of Attention 12:48 Sign 7: They Take On A Lot Of Responsibility 14:53 Sign 8: They Have A Fear Of Being Hugged Or Touched 15:53 Sign 9: They Overcompensate With Laughter 16:31 Sign 10: They Seem Like They Have It All Together 17:34 What To Do, If You Identified That Someone Had A Rough Childhood? ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) What do you think, how easy is it to tell, that someone had a traumatic childhood? The answer is: It's often very obvious to recognize from the outside… BUT: for those who are affected, it's not that easy to tell at all This is why today we zoom out a bit and explore 10 signs together, that immediately tell you, that someone had a traumatic childhood And maybe this someone might be you, yourself, or your brother, partner or best friend. ► Links and Resources: Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) CPTSD Episode: https://youtu.be/rc4NqZQV5hA?si=6W9RDdSZ8BGlgwXB Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI 4 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=3GwVJIm8uC0ibSsO ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 03:42 Sign 1: They Normalize Abuse And Maltreatment 05:48 Sign 2: They Suddenly Feel Vigilant/Alert/Scared 10:39 Sign 3: They Go Out Of Their Own Way To Make/Keep Everyone Happy 12:06 Sign 4: They Are Always Apologizing 13:42 Sign 5: They Have An Unhealthy/Insecure/Unstable Relationship With Their Parents 16:07 Sign 6: They Have No Sense Of Achievement 17:30 Sign 7: They Have A Major Lack In Self-Confidence/Self-Esteem 18:34 Sign 8: They Can't Accept Compliments 20:13 Sign 9: They Seek Unreachable Partners & Relationship-Drama 21:28 Sign 10: They Catastrophize / Always Think About The Worst Case Scenario 23:18 Solutions ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community & Download the Full List: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) People with a tough childhood often have a buffet full of negative beliefs that they tell themselves every day. That can make our lives pretty hard. But, luckily, sometimes just being reminded to specific positive beliefs, is enough to wake us up from the illusion we're living. This is why I created this list of 99 positive beliefs, that can shake you up and remind you, that life is beautiful, and that you are worthy and lovable. ► Links and Resources: Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 1:30 99 Positive Beliefs 09:48 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) Do you feel, think, and behave the same way around other people as you do when you are alone? Or do you feel the need to pretend, to play a role and act very differently than normal? This behavior could be a result of toxic shame, that may hold back your true authentic self and chains you to an exhausting role-play you have to perform on a daily basis. Especially insecurely attached people and CPTSD survivors are often affected by toxic shame. But, they are often not aware, that they behave out of a shame-bound self and identity. This is why, in today's episode, we will explore and understand what toxic shame actually is. I will share 5 typical signs of toxic shame with you. And in the end, I will give you a 3-step solution plan on how you can finally break that cycle of toxic shame and start healing your wounds. ► Links and Resources: Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) John Bradshaw - Healing The Shame That Binds You: https://amzn.to/3TwcCQU (ad) Tim Fletcher: https://www.youtube.com/@TimFletcher Heidie Priebe: https://www.youtube.com/@heidipriebe1 Toxic Shame Persona by Tim Fletcher: https://youtu.be/IOQTfqUdypc?si=OGEV5odgbyj0G-KT Re-Regulation Tools Episode: https://youtu.be/i05BWtgjYRw?si=miV_L3NIbbTqXHsU Dissociation Episode: https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg?si=b1RNIGTpEuCQlrJf Limerence Episode: https://youtu.be/LZ-IFevq90o?si=tFtBoRjvXRPBAhRl Codependency Episode: https://youtu.be/OSeR88YWwhU?si=vljpHGm7mCtcN6Xj ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:41 What Is Shame? 04:18 What Is Toxic Shame? 15:56 Toxic Shame And The Central Nervous System 18:55 5 Signs That You Suffer From Toxic Shame 19:29 Sign 1: You Regularly Lose The Connection With Yourself 21:55 Sign 2: You Avoid Close Relationships 22:27 Sign 3: You Often React Defensive & Guarded 25:15 Sign 4: You Are Confusing Between Your True And Your Persona Self 26:47 Sign 5: You Have Addictive Behaviors 28:08 How To Break The Cycle 34:38 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) The need to be alone is felt by many of us. But is it because there are suddenly a lot of introverts among us? Or is it because many of us use isolation to cope with our distrust in other people and the world? In other words: Isn't isolation just another sign of a learned avoidant attachment style? In today's episode, I'd like to find that out. So we compare avoidance and introversion I talk you through 5 signs it's actually avoidance, not introversion And in the end, we look for an answer to the question, if we NEED or more LIKE to be alone and what we can do about it. ► Links and Resources: Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Shadow Work Episode: https://youtu.be/xPSEl9sOd9I?si=zwGwdZGhOBD_SIk4 Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx The Muse Article: https://www.themuse.com/advice/the-scientific-answer-that-explains-why-introverts-need-and-cherish-their-space ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:31 Introversion 02:30 Avoidance 04:33 The Need To Be Alone 11:15 Do Introverts Need Alone Time? 15:12 Sign 1: You Believe That People & Relationships Mean Pain 17:37 Sign 2: Other People Trigger You Emotionally 18:21 Sign 3: You Can't Set Healthy Boundaries 19:26 Sign 4: You Are A Self- Or Autoregulator 20:31 Sign 5: You Feel Panic If There Is No Place To Withdraw 20:59 Solutions 23:26 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) A member of our community recently did a post on our skool platform asking if Low Level Dysregulation exists and what you can do to re-regulate. Well, there are mild, moderate and severe forms of dysregulation and there are thousands of re-regulation tools, skills and resources. BUT, not all Re-Regulation tools work for everyone. So, in today's video, I tried to summarize and rank 12 groups of effective re-regulation tools, skills & resources, that I tried myself during therapy and/or researched in the past years. I will rank them using a tierlist from S for super to F for fail, having the goal in mind to stop or reduce acute dysregulation as an effect of complex trauma or neurodivergence. And in the end of the video I will crown one as the best tool and one as the worst of worst according to that goal. ► Links and Resources: Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) CPTSD Treatments Tier List: https://youtu.be/UaslCkvMpws?si=d3FWuAPcaTaAmAMk Self-Administered EMDR: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DALbwI7m1vM&t=218s Self-Hypnosis By Andrew Major: https://www.youtube.com/@andrewmajor-strongerminds ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:15 The Tierlist Explained 02:06 Criteria 02:52 What Is Dysregulation? 04:36 Skill 1: Feeling And Touching 06:05 Skill 2: Mind Skills 07:29 Skill 3: Bilateral Skills 09:29 Skill 4: Seeing 11:03 Skill 5: Listening 13:13 Skill 6: Smelling 14:25 Skill 7: Sense Of Balance 15:33 Skill 8: Pain 18:37 Skill 9: Social Skills 21:42 Skill 10: Tasting And Eating 23:27 Skill 11: Movement 26:06 Skill 12: Soft Skills 27:58 The Best And The Worst Tool ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) “Noone understands me..” “I can't trust anyone!” “Isolation feels safe.” I read a ton of core beliefs like these on YouTube. Many times, those are a direct result of a shattered childhood. But often people have no clue how much these core beliefs hold them back from recovering their early trauma. This is why today I made a list of 7 of the most common core beliefs that hinder your CPTSD healing journey. We also discuss what you can do if you feel that you have such core beliefs And in the end talk about how to break them to get a new, more positive set of core beliefs and finally embrace your full potential for healing. ► Links and Resources: Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) Tim Fletcher Model: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IOQTfqUdypc Episode CPTSD & Isolation: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=D3z3LChESNRIov1P Episode 4 Attachment Styles: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=TaOdW7rQyPXeh-1S Episode Fear of Commitment: https://youtu.be/Xf1iuvoO0lM?si=7h5urduKZ7mMgW_T Episode Shadow Work: https://youtu.be/xPSEl9sOd9I ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:59 Why Can Core Beliefs Hinder Your Healing Journey? 05:34 Where Do Unfavorable Core Beliefs Come From? 08:13 Belief 1: Other People Only Love Me, If… 11:10 Belief 2: I Am Bad/Wrong/Not Ok. 14:39 Belief 3: Isolation Is Safe. 17:37 Belief 4: A Harmonious Relationship Is A Secure (Good) Relationship 22:46 Belief 5: Other People Don't See/Hear Me 24:53 Belief 6: Other People Demand From Me 27:13 Belief 7: I Shouldn't Do/Feel/Need… 30:00 Contrary Positive Core Beliefs 36: 21 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) Are you struggling with the same recurring triggers in your relationships for years? You feel that your partner is not showing their emotions and is holding back, or your partner is too close and doesn't have their own social life. Now, in order to fix this, have you seen couples counselor after couples counselor and yet hardly make any progress? Well, then classical therapy is probably not the solution to your problems. But, there is an alternative, which I see popping up more and more often. And it's called shadow work. Today, I will show you why classic couples counselling is 1) not the right approach for many people who have those conflicts. And 2) is often not even promoting healing of attachment problems. Today's episode is like peeling an onion. We will slowly bring the blind spots of anxious and avoidant attachment to light. And in the end, you will be left with a clear understanding of the core, which displays the actual patterns that are the hidden cause of your triggers. ► Links and Resources: 4 Attachment Styles: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=3srOnSywlQezz1uF Shadow Work on Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/Jung/comments/gnoo76/the_opposite_of_the_shadow/ The Pleasure Principle: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pleasure_principle_(psychology) Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:45 Why Are Anxious And Avoidant Attachment Styles So Problematic? 06:45 What Is Shadow Work? 13:04 The Anxious Shadow 14:55 The Avoidant Shadow 19:03 Why Do Anxiously And Avoidant Attached People Attract Each Other? 32:18 Shadow Work To Heal 39:30 Solutions To Start Healing Now 40:49 Final Thoughts ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
► Join Our Skool-Community: https://understandable.net/join/ (Ad) There are a ton of treatments, therapies, techniques and eventual solutions for healing early trauma. BUT, not many of them work well. PLUS we're all individuals and therefore may need different approaches. So, in today's video, I tried to analyze and rank 15 popular CPTSD treatments & solutions, that I tried myself and/or researched in the past years. I will rank them using a tier list from S for super to F for fail, having the goal in mind to achieve the MOST EFFECTIVE long term trauma recovery. And in the end of the video I will crown one as the best treatment and one as the worst of worst according to that goal. ► Links and Resources: Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad) EMDR & PTSD Article: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5623122/ EMDR on Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/comments/14won79/what_are_the_most_effective_types_of_therapy_for/ Self-Administered EMDR: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DALbwI7m1vM&t=218s Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx Psilocybin & PTSD: https://med.nyu.edu/departments-institutes/population-health/divisions-sections-centers/medical-ethics/education/high-school-bioethics-project/learning-scenarios/ptsd-treatment-psychedelics IFS-Therapy Episode: https://youtu.be/xNViG2xhHGg?si=lCrpcReq8El3wnoa ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable ► Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:02 The Tierlist Explained 02:10 Ranking-Criteria 03:57 Top Down & Bottom Up Strategies Explained 06:01 Psychoanalytic Therapy 08:36 Cognitive Therapy 11:49 Classic Talk Therapy 13:59 EMDR 17:24 Hypnotherapy & Self Hypnosis 26:08 Somatic Therapy 29:15 Exposure Therapy 33:04 Systemic Therapy 36:36 Safe Community & Relationships 40:08 Art And Music (Therapy) 44:08 Writing And Journaling Techniques 47:44 Re-Regulation Skills & Resources 50:16 MBSR (Mindful Based Stress Reduction) 52:17 Psychedelics 55:03 Medication & Prescription Drugs 57:26 The Best And Worst Treatment ► Reach Out To Me :) E-Mail: info@understandable.net ► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
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