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► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share with brutal honesty, what avoidant would say in a dating phase or relationship, if they were actually honest.► Links and Resources:The Moment I Decided to Change Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=1s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction to Avoidant Honesty01:46 Understanding the Avoidant Mind02:25 The Dating Phase Illusion06:05 Relationship Conflict and Avoidance08:30 The Breakup and Regret Cycle15:10 Hitting Rock Bottom19:52 Ideas for Partners► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I get vulnerable and share with you how avoidant attachment shows up in the bedroom.► Links and Resources:Avoidant Attachment Darkest Coping Mechanism Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLyK-Yi1QpE► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:38 Childhood Origins06:08 The Dating Phase07:14 The Rollercoaster Phase09:44 The Mechanical Phase13:03 The Drought Period16:02 Solutions and Healing20:03 Setting Boundaries► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I present the full timeline to you, the avoidant goes through when you dump them. But I also present another timeline...► Links and Resources:Why They Lose Feelings Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHOxRnU4pEU&t=3s No Contact Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A9xqR6zfBIk&t=13s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:21 Stage 0: Pre-Breakup Dynamics06:28 Stage 1: Initial Breakup Shock09:59 Stage 2: Denial and Anger12:27 Stage 3: Recovery and Reflection15:27 Stage 4: Loneliness and Regret18:03 Stage 5: The Crawl Back19:35 Moving Toward Security► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share with you what happens when YOU dump an avoidant first.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Lose Feelings Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHOxRnU4pEU&t=3s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:56 The Avoidant Mindset05:02 1. Unaware Avoidant Reaction09:18 2. The Mixed Reaction14:05 3. Shock and Fear17:15 Evaluating Potential18:17 Your Perspective22:23 Building Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I talk about the avoidant's idea of a healthy relationship.► Links and Resources:Complex Trauma, Complex Needs Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx Why Avoidants Have No Clue What They Need and Feel: https://youtu.be/YoerBrHSdUI?si=8_lsOdJd_bPAM7e7 Overcompensation Through Missing Puzzle Piece Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7kGDhim-YlY ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction03:11 The Role of Needs06:55 Core Affected Needs13:50 Expressing Emotional Needs19:20 Seeking Support and Acceptance29:10 The Need for Consistency33:30 Avoidant Identity, Values and Core Beliefs47:18 Practical Relationship Advice► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I share 5 early signs of healing from my own therapy-journey with you.► Links and Resources:This Makes Avoidants Actually Stay Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkVmvMkZUI4&t=1s Catastrophic Dragon Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_lwt0bcXGA ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:26 Sign 1: Panic Is Gone06:55 Sign 2: Trusting the Future09:27 Sign 3: Questioning Inner Beliefs13:59 Sign 4: Sharing Vulnerable Needs17:32 Sign 5: Overcoming Defiance22:59 Conclusion► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I reveal the full timeline of how an avoidant or emotionally unavailable ex comes back.► Links and Resources:The Moment I Decided to Change Video: https://youtu.be/NkVmvMkZUI4?si=M2H195oaNQWTkl9e ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:33 Stage 0: Why They Leave10:12 Stage 1: No Contact14:14 Stage 2: Reconnection17:18 Stage 3: Dating Again19:56 Stage 4: The Decision24:08 Building Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build secure relationships, without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain how to respond when an avoidant comes back after rejection, after a breakup or after no contact.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Come Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4umBMT2pBpY&t=10s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro03:30 Why Avoidants Return11:54 Ask This One Question16:15 Breaking the Chasing Pattern26:34 Developing a Solid Self30:41 The Dragon Metaphor36:05 Setting Healthy Boundaries40:40 Conclusion and Resources► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain WHEN different types of avoidants come back.► Links and Resources:What Makes Avoidants Come Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WViklne-zM8&t=119s&pp=0gcJCUELAYcqIYzv Limerence Video: https://youtu.be/gDz8U2zaF0A?si=IiO-D4TOXO82kucM The Neuroscience Behind Why They Pull Away: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pv5K9dbfp84 Dismissive vs Fearful Avoidant Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gouD0FnR6qE&t=4s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 When Avoidants Return02:04 Group 1: Regulating Avoidants Timeline11:35 Group 2: Ambivalent Avoidants Timeline23:19 Group 3: Loving Avoidants Timeline28:38 Final Message and Reflection► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build secure relationships, without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I talk about how a secure person handles an avoidant pulling away.► Links and Resources:Relational Needs & Standards Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHOxRnU4pEU&t=3s The 3 Types of Avoidants (Why They Come Back) Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WViklne-zM8&t=961s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Overview02:20 Typical Avoidant Dating Scenario03:20 Why Avoidants Pull Away08:00 Major Difference Between Secure & Avoidant Person12:00 How a Secure Person Handles an Avoidant Pulling Away20:30 Was It Your Fault?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build secure relationships, without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Here's why most avoidants come back after no contact and how to respond to their comeback► Links and Resources:No Contact Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A9xqR6zfBIk&t=13sRebound Relationship Video: https://youtu.be/QrhTOoAai_M?si=G8Z4AcXbOLvsXePk ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction to No Contact02:03 What Is No Contact03:55 Why Avoidants Return09:11 Your Growth During Separation13:19 How to React When They Come Back17:14 Assessing True Change20:04 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I share with you what happens if you actually stop chasing an avoidant.► Links and Resources:The Psychology of an Avoidant Man During No Contact Video: https://youtu.be/690-YYeWwVY Rebound Relationship Video: https://youtu.be/QrhTOoAai_M ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:45 Type 1: Unaware Avoidants06:47 Reaction to Stopping the Chase14:03 Type 2: Healing Avoidants16:58 The Magic of Space24:12 Is It Worth Chasing?27:15 The 110% Commitment Rule► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I try to break down the Avoidant Ick (Flaw Zoom). I also explain the link between the flaw zoom, high standards and why avoidants lose feelings.► Links and Resources:Why Avoidants Have No Clue What They Need Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YoerBrHSdUI ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Understanding Avoidant Ick04:55 The Flaw Zoom Mechanism13:44 The Three-Level Filter16:45 Two Protection System Types22:14 Societal Influence on Attraction31:14 Five Pillars of Relational Needs37:23 Love Versus Compatibility40:43 Defining Your Standards► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build secure relationships, without losing yourself: https://understandable.net  (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this one I share how a secure person responds to breadcrumbing.► Links and Resources:Avoidant Breadcrumbing Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVoakqE9UXg&pp=0gcJCUwLAYcqIYzv ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:24 What is Breadcrumbing?05:58 The Psychology of Breadcrumbing07:45 Insecure vs. Secure Responses to Breadcrumbing14:21 Story: When I Was Chasing Crumbs25:20 Why We Can't Stop Chasing Crumbs30:56 How to Stop Chasing Breadcrumbs► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I share with you what avoidant breadcrumbing really means and why avoidants practice it.► Links and Resources:Avoidant vs Narcissist Video: https://youtu.be/uADzIhUsuKc► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Understanding Avoidant Breadcrumbing01:33 Identifying Breadcrumbing Patterns05:38 The Avoidant Psyche (Filling the Void)08:43 The Need for Validation14:11 3 Types of Breadcrumbs19:40 3 Breadcrumbing Tests26:00 Solutions for Breadcrumbing► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I share with you the three different reasons of what makes avoidants always return after a breakup, rejection or no contact phase.► Links and Resources:Limerence vs Love Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmNjDwdPwOA&t=2s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Why Avoidants Return01:35 Three Types of Avoidants04:02 Group 1: Unaware Avoidants11:14 Group 2: Immature Avoidants16:08 Group 3: Loving Avoidants20:19 Hope for a Relationship22:30 Healing and Moving Forward► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Here's the avoidant regret timeline. The actual one!► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:22 Before the Breakup07:40 Stage One: Relief13:32 Stage Two: Realization17:17 Stage Three: New Normal18:15 Stage Four: Idealizing21:21 Stage Five: Actual Regret23:43 What Regret Means26:35 Your Healing Timeline► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I share the psychology of an avoidant man during the no contact phase with you.► Links and Resources:Limerence Episode: https://youtu.be/gDz8U2zaF0A?si=yYn1F-uIbJS0mIWt ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:37 Two Types of Avoidants02:45 The Self-Unaware Man06:51 Self-Unaware No Contact Timeline15:00 The Self-Aware Man16:51 Self-Aware No Contact Timeline22:33 Evaluating Your Relationship► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain how to tell if someone has narcissim or an avoidant attachment style.► Links and Resources:Can Patients With Narcissistic Personality Disorder Change? Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38949659/ Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Progress in Understanding and Treatment: https://psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/appi.focus.20220052 Earned Secure Attachment Paper: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/00332941241277495 Prevalence of Narcissism Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20579503/ The first 10,000 Adult Attachment Interviews Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19455453/ Deactivation Video: https://youtu.be/fi-wUf36e9k?si=MsjjB-DCVic0sUPY 8 Phases How I Healed Avoidant Attachment Patterns Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4SrSolyrSCQ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:49 How Many People are Avoidant vs. Narcissistic?03:41 Narcissism vs. Avoidant Attachment Behaviors21:43 The Overlap: Similarities26:18 Can They Change and become available for Relationships?29:30 How To Change: What Actually Matters► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! The most personaly yet. I describe my last break up phase and the day I decided to change.► Links and Resources:Limerence Video: https://youtu.be/gDz8U2zaF0A?si=4qCYZ7saWj3pPgu7 Missing Puzzle Piece Video: https://youtu.be/7kGDhim-YlY?si=OWT50rFjoO2gB1_8 Why Avoidants Have no Clue What They Need & Feel Video: https://youtu.be/YoerBrHSdUI?si=6nUYCvwwIDiyqjhV ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Before I Decided To Change07:10 The Moment I Decided To Change18:16 Did I Come Back to My Ex?19:30 The Honest Reason Avoidants Pull Away26:00 What an Avoidant Needs to Change► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Many of you asked for the rebound phase. Here it is: The Avoidant's Rebound relationship doom cycle.► Links and Resources:Deactivation Strategies Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:0:00 What About The Rebound Phase?01:38 Stage 0: Before Breakup09:52 Stage 1: Preparing the Springboard13:24 Stage 2: Breakup17:12 Stage 3: Honeymoon Period18:51 Stage 4: Trigger Phase20:32 Stage 5: De-Fantasizing22:28 The Final Act► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: ⁠https://understandable.net⁠ (ad)Welcome to today's episode! ► Links and Resources:The 4 Attachment Styles Video: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=geD4YVZE7wA7LJDz Stonewalling Video: https://youtu.be/v4KaUMysJ2g?si=jPRsBcKc6Bluf9NN Deactivating Strategies Video: https://youtu.be/plHD7OMc-cc DiDefinition Dismissive Avoidant: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-dismissive-avoidant-attachment-5218213Definition Fearful Avoidant: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-fearful-avoidant-attachment-5207986 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:00 The 4 Attachment Styles03:02 What Is A Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style?03:56 What Is A Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style?04:18 Differences05:52 Dismissive Avoidant Attachment23:12 Fearful Avoidant Attachment31:03 Similarities► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I explain the 4 things avoidants do if they don't ever come back.► Links and Resources:Deactivation Strategies Video: https://youtu.be/fi-wUf36e9k► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:0:00 Overview01:44 Ghosting08:00 Communicating Break up13:10 Slowly Fading Out15:40 History Rewriting► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I explain the #1 reason why avoidants return after rejecting someone.► Links and Resources:When They Realize They Lost You Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mr4HePymTMI&t=207s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Why Avoidants Return03:20 2 Minor Reasons for Returning08:10 Avoidant's Ambivalence: Connection or Pulling Away?12:10 The Rebound Phase15:50 No 1 Reason They Return after Rejecting You (The Missing Puzzle Piece)22:20 Building Interdependence25:30 Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Doom Cycle► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I break down the neuroscience behind avoidant attachment patterns.► Links and Resources:Paper Neuroscience of human social interactions and adult attachment style: https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/human-neuroscience/articles/10.3389/fnhum.2012.00212/fullPaper Individual Attachment Style Modulates Human Amygdala and Striatum Activation during Social Appraisal: https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0002868Paper The neural substrates of social emotion perception and regulation are modulated by adult attachment style: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22217336/ Deactivation Strategies Video: https://youtu.be/fi-wUf36e9k?si=jcZEkDLsrvBeif8hHow I Finally Healed my Avoidant Attachment Video:► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:43 In Childhood, Developing Brain Learns Painful Lesson01:30 The Amygdala06:20 The Prefrontal Cortex08:49 The Cortisol System09:30 The Striatum11:15 The Deeper Limbic System12:20 Adulthood13:34 Deactivation Strategies16:00 How To Overcome Avoidant Attachment Patterns► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I describe how the moment feels when an avoidant realizes they lost their partner.► Links and Resources:The Neuroscience Behind Avoidant Attachment Video: https://youtu.be/pv5K9dbfp848 Phases of How I Healed my Avoidant Attachment Patterns Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4SrSolyrSCQ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:10 The Dating Phase02:26 The Deactivation Switch06:30 The Breakup Moment08:50 The Exact Moment of Realization12:18 Emotional Cycle Visualization18:00 Three Avoidant Motivations22:00 Moving Toward Security► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build stable, secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! Today I talk in detail about the 8 phases I went through to heal my avoidant attachment patterns.► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Video: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=9Ozu57DhbewJs8Ir► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Overview02:40 Phase 105:47 Phase 208:00 Phase 311:13 Phase 414:45 Phase 518:05 Phase 620:58 Phase 723:03 Phase 8► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Build secure relationships without the push and pull: https://understandable.net (Ad)Welcome to today's episode! ► Links and Resources:Sex, Porn, Affairs Escape Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLyK-Yi1QpE&t=28s&pp=0gcJCQQLAYcqIYzv ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:22 When Does The Pull Back Response Show Up?07:45 How Does The Avoidant Attachment Threat-Detection System Work?11:36 De-Activation Strategies That Sabotage Your Love Life21:22 How To Work Through The Deactivation Pattern► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► First Ever Avoidant Attachment AI: https://understandable.net (Ad)► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:0:00 Overview02:42 Stage 0 - Pre Breakup13:05 Stage 1 - No Contact, but Invisible Connection16:40 Stage 2 - The First Attempts of Re-Connection20:00 Stage 3 - Dating again22:50 Stage 4 - The Decision► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► First Ever Avoidant Attachment AI: https://understandable.net (Ad)Welcome to today's episode!► Links and Resources:My First Love Video: https://youtu.be/9eiwcLrGRxw?si=E14yIArh4l1NDhNt Limerence & Regulation Video: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=dAFc_v2YENhmq9sF► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction01:35 Pathway 1: Genuine Desire07:46 Pathway 2: Seeking Security12:06 Pathway 3: Inner Confusion16:22 Taking Responsibility and Healing► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► First Ever Avoidant Attachment AI: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net⁠⁠ (Ad)► Links and Resources:Intuition vs. Trauma Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTxfxZHD4v4&t=54s ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro - 7 Brutally Honest Lessons From A Healed Avoidant00:52 Lesson 1: When You Go Cold, You Don't Lose Feelings, You Deactivate02:42 Lesson 2: In Dating, Healthy Love Will Feel Boring06:00 Lesson 3: Your Partner Usually Isn't Too Much, You're Just Too Overwhelmed08:35 Lesson 4: You Can't Heal Your Avoidant Attachment Wounds Just By Understanding Them11:35 Lesson 5: It's Often Not The Wrong Partner, It's Yor Fear Of Engulfment Giving You The Urge To Escape14:49 Lesson 6: Freedom Isn't Your Highest Value Or Your Truth, You Just Build Your Identity On Your Coping Mechanisms18:44 Lesson 7: You Aren't “Not Made For A Relationship”, You Are Just Afraid What Happens When You Show Your Real Self In Connection► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► First Ever Avoidant Attachment AI: https://understandable.net (Ad)► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 The Number One Sign00:53 The Initial Dating Phase02:15 When Things Get Real03:51 The Panic Reaction04:51 Roots of the Reaction07:39 Navigating Conflicting Emotions08:32 Overcoming Avoidant Patterns► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► First Ever Avoidant Attachment AI: https://understandable.net (Ad)► Links and Resources:I Replaced My Therapist With an AI Video: https://youtu.be/JRo6PgSiB3w?si=L4ya20bGY8lEIPLo► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:38 Why I Built This AI03:52 Benefits of AI Reflection07:42 Privacy and Data Security10:23 AI vs. Professional Therapy12:44 Live AI Demonstration19:48 How You Can Access It► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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