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► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)Why does the person you love the most also trigger you the most?‘Shouldn't love with this person be easy?'Well, I'll give you the answer straight away: It's not a coincidence. It's how love actually works.Your partner isn't there just to make you happy, they're in your life to mirror your insecurities and vulnerable parts and make you grow through them. But knowing that, reveals the true underlying question: What's below these painful triggers?What do they reveal about us?And how can we grow through them so we don't feel so angry, hurt, upset and ashamed anymore?► Links and Resources:Signs of an HSP: https://youtu.be/DPrgxLzFnxI?si=NsuitgFJiHkZkgo9The Highly Sensitive Man: https://youtu.be/8LbQhAVXE3U?si=oJ43rcTt0k5W_nyq ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro 00:58 Why The Person You Love Triggers You Most02:48 What's Below These Painful Triggers?03:03 1. High Sensitivity05:39 2. Painful Patterns From The Past10:46 3. Insecurities & Vulnerabilities12:59 How Can We Grow Through Our Triggers► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠ (Ad)Over the past 13 years, I ended five long-term relationships — all from my side.But did these relationships really have to end like that? Or did I push myself — and the people I loved — into unnecessary suffering and heartbreak?If you're watching this right now, you might be in a similar place. Being in a relationship that feels overwhelming or Exhausting, asking yourself the same question: Could this relationship be saved… if I just understood the right things?In this video, I'm sharing 11 things I deeply wish I had known about love and relationships before I walked away five times. And this isn't about telling you to stay or to leave. It's about helping you pause — and see more clearly — before making a decision you can't easily undo.If you're on the edge right now, this video might change how you see your relationship.► Links and Resources:You Can't Change Them Video: https://youtu.be/JUu4MkLvrK4?si=v_LlvgwYC6DfTuSIStop Conflict in Your Relationship: https://youtu.be/dF2QYyxqJjM?si=-AbNzIXXBP85O91e ⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro 01:37 Lesson 1: You're Not Struggling Because “You Didn't Meet The Perfect Partner Yet”04:36 Lesson 2: Trying To Change Your Partner Is Already Part of The Problem07:10 Lesson 3: Chemistry & Hobbies Won't Save Your Relationship09:43 Lesson 4: You Can't “Win” A Fight11:39 Lesson 5: A Challenging Partner Is A Good Partner15:52 Lesson 6: Your Relationship Pain Is Trying To Tell You Something19:37 Lesson 7: Most Relationships Don't End Because “They're Broken”21:56 Lesson 8: It's Often Not Your Partner, It's Your Patterns25:17 Lesson 9: But What If Your Values Were Built on Emotional Survival?28:45 Lesson 10: Unconditional Love Isn't How Adult Relationships Work30:43 Lesson 11: Why You Will Choose The Wrong Person► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass ⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠ (Ad)Do you sometimes feel disappointed because your partner doesn't just know how you feel?You expect them to sense your mood, your needs, or what's wrong, but without you saying a word. But when they don't, it hurts… and creates pressure on both sides.In this episode, we talk about why empathy is not mind-reading, how this expectation silently damages relationships, and what actually helps partners understand each other better.► Links and Resources:Why You Don't Feel Seen Episode https://youtu.be/6g6IiIwnPWA?si=dzP-tm70BkvJGPLV ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro - The Invisible Test02:08 Silent Expectations05:58 Solutions: From Being Guessed To Being Known► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: https://understandable.net/masterclass (Ad)► Access My Premium Course: https://understandable.net/course/ (Ad)Why do you keep ruining great relationships?Every. Single. Time.The problem is not that you can't find good people.It's that every time a relationship starts to feel good… something goes wrong.You want a stable, long-term relationship.But instead you find yourself in heartbreak, frustration and anger about yourself.And the most confusing part is this:it's not the toxic relationships that fall apart.It's the ones that actually had potential, where you felt: this time, it's different!► Links and Resources:Conflict Resolution Video: https://youtu.be/PxiDnxXC2p8?si=g69xLC_ZXLgVRo4rAvoidant Attachment Style Video:https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8Relationship Anxiety Video: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=gNSR9w1DpkVv7QTgHow I Overcame My Commitment Issues Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SUECZtfGkEMTrauma Bond Video: https://youtu.be/J70RwIER2BQ?si=-Qxp_lwNVYMD9sgo► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:19 Why You Keep Ruining Great Relationships03:11 1. You're Not Ready for a Real Relationship Yet11:05 2. Closeness Feels Like a Trap (Avoidant Attachment)16:19 3. Your Anxiety Runs the Relationship (Anxious Attachment)20:51 4. Pain Was Your First Language of Connection► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Attraction is a beautiful thing. We all desire it.We all want to feel pulled toward someone.Attraction is often what brings people together in the first place.It gives relationships energy.Yet, there are moments, where attraction suddenly becomes… dangerous.Maybe you're already in a relationship.Maybe you've built a life with someone toxic.And yet there is this pull toward a person you'd be better off not being attracted to.► Links and Resources:Limerence Video: https://youtu.be/cZ344b-d7DA?si=zE93uPeP9YjIRcSWAnxious Attachment Video: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=vTxyvwzQS-xfYEXZ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Sirens and Sailors02:20 Why We're Hearing The Call05:00 Solution: How To Not Fall For The Temptation06:10 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Sometimes, there's a wild dragon in our mind.It makes our head turn small problems into something that feels threatening. Creating a big disaster and making our thoughts catastrophizing. The dragon can awaken at any time.When we get triggered — by our partner, our boss, or even by ourselves — our calm state gets hijacked.And suddenly, it feels like a fire-breathing dragon takes over our thoughts.It twists how we see things.It exaggerates danger.And if we're not careful, we don't just have the dragon in our mind — we become it.We say things we don't mean.We assume the worst.We hurt other people — and ourselves — often without even realizing it.► Links and Resources:Negativity Bias Article: https://thedecisionlab.com/biases/negativity-bias ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 The Inner Dragon04:25 Why The Dragon Exists07:50 How To Tame The Dragon10:46 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ (Ad)Why do intimate relationships always feel so emotionally overwhelming?I've been wondering about that question ever since I started dating.Somehow, relationships always felt more difficult for me than they seemed to be for other people.Not for everyone, but there is definitely a group of people who doesn't understand my specific challenges with it.► Links and Resources:Regulation in Isolation Episode: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=dCqQr20jMrTEE2RKYou Can't Change Them Episode: https://youtu.be/JUu4MkLvrK4?si=AfBjjLIw7nAj8CDbSense of Self Article: https://www.healthline.com/health/sense-of-selfThe Four Points of Balance: https://jamesmchristensen.com/blog/david-schnarchs-four-points-of-balance ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro - Relationships Feel Emotionally OverwhelmingRelationships Feel Emotionally Overwhelming03:39 Why Your Relationships Feel Emotionally Overwhelming10:05 How To Feel Less Emotionally Overwhelmed In Relationships11:19 The Four Points Of Balance► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Emotions are just states that constantly change. No emotional state stays forever. Also emotions are survivable. This is what my therapist always said. You are not the emotions, which are the clouds, you are the sky that's always there, no matter which emotion arises.► Links and Resources:Polyvagal Theory Video:https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro - Inside the Emotional Storm01:43 Why Is The Emotional Storm So Powerful?03:59 Calming The Storm► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about why avoidant partners stonewall,what you can do if you feel you don't feel heard and seen for the thousand's time because they always go coldAnd on the flipside, what avoidants can do if they find themselves constantly stonewalling during vulnerable conversions.► Links and Resources:Avoidant Attachment Style Video:https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18Emotional Dysregulation Video: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BAHow to Resolve Relationship Conflict Like a Secure Person: https://youtu.be/PxiDnxXC2p8 Stonewalling Examples Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/coolguides/comments/1hw6a4a/a_cool_guide_on_stonewalling_and_how_to_deal_with/ The 4 Horsemen by Dr. John Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/ Stonewalling, Grey Rocking & Narcissism: https://sherrygaba.com/navigating-relationships-with-narcissists-stonewalling-vs-gray-rocking/ Adult survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx ⁠⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:47 What Is Stonewalling?03:21 Why Stonewalling Hurts Our Relationship05:06 Stonewalling Vs. Grey Rocking07:48 Stonewalling And Avoidant Attachment09:28 The Stonewalling Cycle13:55 Stonewalling And The Nervous System16:30 The Hidden Psychology Behind Stonewalling18:48 How To Deal With Stonewalling Like A Secure Person► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Some of the things you call red flags might actually be the healthiest signs you've ever seen.If you grew up in a difficult environment where these following greenflags were not familiar or even dangerous, that's not surprising.Because when chaos was normal, when you got hurt, safety can feel wrong.Calm feels boring. Consistency suspicious. And closeness can feel dangerous.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 7 Dating Red Flags, That Are Actually Green00:33 1. They Don't Always Respond Right Away02:40 2. They're Not Very Active on Social Media04:12 3. They Have Close Friends of the Opposite Sex05:59 4. They Value Their Own Space and Independence07:50 5. They Say What They Think Directly09:48 6. They're Genuine, Not Constantly Charismatic11:38 7. They Don't Always Make You Feel Comfortable13:37 From Red To Green16:00 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about 7 Trauma-Driven Green Flags, That Are Actually RedYou might think you've found the one — they're kind, attentive, emotionally open… But what if those ‘green flags' are actually coming from unresolved trauma?Therefore today, I'll walk you through 7 behaviors that look like emotional maturity or even love but are secretly warning signs rooted in anxious attachment, fawning, codependency, or toxic shame.If you're someone healing from CPTSD, this might just change how you see "healthy" relationships forever.► Links and Resources:The Secret To STOP Fighting in Your Relationships: https://youtu.be/dF2QYyxqJjMSpiritual Bypassing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiritual_bypass ⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:11 Flag 1: They Always Want To Be With You05:46 Flag 2: They Never Get Mad At You12:10 Flag 3: They Open Up About Everything On The First Date16:42 Flag 4: They Always Put You First19:00 Flag 5: They See You As Their Entire World21:39 Flag 6: They Communicate So Well During Conflict, But Nothing Ever Changes25:22 Flag 7: They're Obsessed With “Healing” ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)In this video, I explore attachment styles, how to identify a secure partner, and the dynamics of trauma bonding.► Links and Resources:Fear of Commitment Video: https://youtu.be/SUECZtfGkEM?si=mKymbK-Sh2jeFVD1Chaotic Attachment Video: https://youtu.be/-BFW7lVd8Yk?si=asZKMwEpWoPtradmTrauma Bonding Article: https://www.sandstonecare.com/blog/trauma-bonding/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:13 Dating With CPTSD10:09 Dating With An Avoidant Attachment Style13:40 Dating With An Anxious Attachment Style16:17 Dating With A Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style18:43 Trauma Bondings In CPTSD Dating21:19 Why Secure Love Feels Boring24:05 Dating with a Secure Attachment Style27:01 How To Find a Secure Partner27:30 Step 1: Start To Reclaim Your Own Sense Of Self First30:15 Step 2: Continuously Shed A Light And Question Your Triggers31:39 Step 3: Start To Become A More Securely Attached Person Yourself34:08 Step 4: Date Like A Secure Person Would► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)There is a way to crush you pink glasses for someone now.But let me warn you up front: This way is not good advice, neither will it end your romantic obsession problems long term.Still, it works if you want to stop intrusive thought about someone instantly.The solution is: Get more options!Get another or even better - more surfaces for your projections of your fantasies aka limerent objects► Links and Resources:Limerence While in a Relationship: https://youtu.be/UOZLmQkBFMMChatGPT as Therapist Video: https://youtu.be/JRo6PgSiB3w?si=jX8TGEKH1q0LSFE_Detachment & Letting Go Video: https://youtu.be/WUJu3dVIUZ0?si=WhQ51parSClkzTSD► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:18 Way 5: Truly Want (Decide) To Move On07:50 Way 4: Use AI-Tools As A Neutral Mirror13:58 Way 3: Accept What It Means To Be Over Your L.O.16:11: Way 2: Understand What Your Inner Child Truly Needs (And Never Got)19:30 Way 1: Be Prepared To Sit On A 3-Legged Chair (Get A Life)20:56 Pillars Of Stability/Leg 1: Health22:02 Leg 2: Wealth/Work22:42 Leg 3: Social Life24:00 Leg 4: Options25:13 Leg 5: Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)You might believe that being in a happy marriage or relationship makes you immune to limerence.But still, I've read the following story about limerence while in a relationship in one or another version hundreds of times online.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:21 Limerence While In A Relationship03:37 The Perspective Of The Partner05:42 Why Was She Risking Her Marriage?08:17 How Limerence Forms While In A Relationship13:31 What To Do?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ (Ad)What is at the root of limerence, aka romantic obsession, aka love addiction? Ladies & Gentlemen, it is NOT just loneliness or a quirky crush.Therefore, today I'm taking you on a deep dive through the 10 layers beneath the surface down to the dark root of limerence.► Links and Resources:Self-Soothing Through Fantasies: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=yN_lWce2OJ57hmkaAnxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=PZijKMhWOOJiL2Tf Love Addiction Article: https://greymattersjournal.org/love-addiction/Basic Needs: https://blanchethouse.org/5-levels-of-human-needs/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:30 Level 1: The Obsessive Crush04:26 Level 2: Mixed Dating Signals06:54 Level 3: Dopamine Addiction & OCD08:46 Level 4: Unmet Emotional Needs11:41 Level 5: Projection: The Idealized Fantasy16:49 Level 6: Fear Of Rejection/Intimacy19:43 Level 7: Attachment Wounds21:28 Level 8: Childhood Trauma/Neglect23:19 Level 9: Low Self-Worth/Shame25:07 Level 10: Nervous System Dysregulation► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=PDm6Sk9WuPx6Rjp4► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:25 What Does It Mean If You Don't Feel Seen?04:00 Introspective Perception08:40 Extrospective Perception10:00 Society & Culture11:30 Childhood & Relationships13:00 Love Languages19:00 How To Feel More Seen21:50 How To See Others MoreFinal Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ (Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about 10 signs it's a trauma bond and not real love.But I won't just throw these signs at you, I want you to truly understand the background psychology of a trauma bond.This is why I take you into the roller coaster relationship of Mary.We will see how a trauma-bonded relationship forms, how it builds up, and then slowly but gradually crashes into emotional suffering, codependency and addiction - sign by sign.Plus, in the end, we will also explore what real love actually might look like.► Links and Resources:Limerence Episode: https://youtu.be/mmNjDwdPwOA?si=kSFn2nNBgBf6Mx3kTrauma Bond Article: https://www.sandstonecare.com/blog/trauma-bonding/Codependency Series by Tim Fletcher: https://youtu.be/yesXC_ibRKE?si=r4JO6JGdscfuJU0c People Pleasing and Healthy Conflict Video: https://youtu.be/ZhExIeU3Bys?si=6pxiypHRDxaAldEW► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:48 What Is A Trauma Bond?04:40 Sign 1: The Honeymoon Phase (Love Bombing)06:44 Sign 2: Unwritten Rules08:52 Sign 3: Honesty Is Dangerous13:17 Sign 4: Gaslighting14:37 Sign 5: Double Standards15:46 Sign 6: Enmeshment And Codependency19:34 Sign 7: Cause For Pain, Source For Healing21:44 Sign 8: Emotional Responsibility24:00 Sign 9: Abuse Escalation29:15 Sign 10: Addiction (The Crash)31:19 What Is Love?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)In this video I show you a live roleplay where I simulate a conflict with my “wife” and try to resolve it using Nonviolent communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg. I'm sharing this with you not because I'm so good in conflict resolution, but because I'm so bad in it. I was avoidant my whole life and I'm lacking this skill the most. I'm scared as hell of conflict and currently learning this skill I think this is one of the most important skills for relationships to learn.So maybe it saves your relationship or marriage and you don't have to run away anymore.► Links and Resources:Nonviolent Communication Book (Ad): https://amzn.to/4ohDQIh ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:00 Why DOESN'T Conflict Resolution Always Work Out Easily?04:10 How Relationship Fight Resolution Looks Like In Real Life05:45 Nonviolent Communication09:30 Live Roleplay18:40 Learnings From The Roleplay► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)⁠► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode!Here's the thing: We all hate conflict in our relationships.And it's these days when we fight with the person we love most, that hurt us and make us suffer the most.But what if there is a way to stop fighting in our relationships?Even prevent fights before they happen?In this episode, I will introduce you to an often forgotten approach to achieve exactly that: A relationship with less fighting & conflict.Plus, as a bonus, in the end of the video, I demonstrate this solution in a live roleplay with a Custom GPT I built.► Links and Resources:Video People Pleasing and How Conflict Heals Relationships: https://youtu.be/ZhExIeU3Bys?si=tU5VgGUQz2SaQJIK Article Michael Lukas Moeller: https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Lukas_Moeller ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:56 Why We're Fighting04:00 The Toxic Fighting Cycle08:49 How A Healthy Relationship Looks Like13:15 Where The Disconnection Happens15:39 The Real, Mutual Talk17:41 “Zwiegespräch” Dialogue20:50 Nonviolent Communication► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about a surprisingly simple technique to resolve conflict like a secure person.We explore why we fight and how our attachment style is linked to that.But more importantly, I'll show you a simple technique that works to handle conflict like a secure person.And I demonstrate this solution in a live roleplay with a Custom GPT I built.► Links and Resources:Nonviolent Communication Book: https://amzn.to/4nu5b9Z *Ad► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:14 Why We Fight03:58 Conflict and Insecure Attachment11:55 Escalation Scale16:28 About The Technique16:44 Nonviolent Communication21:22 Live Roleplay30:46 Live Roleplay Results ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about 10 Signs That Immediately Tell You Someone Is a Covert Narcissist.Grandiose narcissists are often more obvious to spot, but there is another type that is more hidden.We talk about what covert narcissism is,10 signs how you can spot one that I ranked from most obvious to least obvious, and what to do if you identify one.► Links and Resources:HSP and Narcissists Episode: https://youtu.be/4iVbi9euL3k?si=TVaaPCU44ay8JH6FNarcissism Phenotypes Paper: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/40679663_Pathological_Narcissism_and_Narcissistic_Personality_Disorder ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:12 Covert Narcissism Vs. “Regular” Narcissism04:43 Sign 1: They Are Hypersensitive To Any Kind Of Criticism06:27 Sign 2: They Are Chronic Neurotics 07:44 Sign 3: They Are Anti-Social09:53 Sign 4: They Don't Want Others To Succeed11:08 Sign 5: They Are Far Up On The Spectrum Of Judging12:39 Sign 6: Aggression Comes Out Of The Backdoor14:56 Sign 7: The Play The Moral Victim17:09 Sign 8: They Strut Around But Don't Take The Risks19:24: Sign 9: Grandiosity Comes Out Of The Backdoor20:47 Sign 10: They Weaponize Your Insecurity23:02 What To Do, If You're In A Relationship With A Covert Narcissist? ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about 8 life areas to declutter to calm chaos & overwhelm and release emotional baggageIn the beginning we discuss the controversial if trauma is responsible for a lot of the clutter in our lifeAnd we explore in depth all of the 8 areas and come up with solutions to declutter► Links and Resources:Traumatic and stressful life events in hoarding article: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8312593/Hoarding and Trauma article: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2211364917301793 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:46 Clutter And Trauma10:32 Household Clutter13:58 Time/Capacity Clutter16:23 Career Clutter19:04 Financial Clutter21:56 Physical Health Clutter25:16 Relationship Clutter28:24 Emotional Clutter36:05 Mental Clutter► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)While working with 4 different therapists in the past years, I've learned a ton of powerful self-care habits.Here are my top 7, ranked from least to most impact, to reclaim self-worth.But surprisingly, habits 6 and 7 are the simplest effective at the same time.► Links and Resources:Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/qqDURsvDZmM?si=iQdhxHnDYiQ_o4GS ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:33 Habit 1: Wordless Mirror-Work2:53 Habit 2: Re-Regulation Tools & Resources06:01 Habit 3: Express Needs08:31 Habit 4: Wear Clothes That Feel Like You09:59 Habit 5: Daily Boundary Check-In11:43 Habit 6: Use A Grounding Reminder App13:31 Habit 7: Set A Reminder For Your Sense Of Self► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)If your relationships look like this: One moment you're deeply connected — the next, you're pulling away and don't want any contact with that person.Or you have the feeling that you are somehow addicted and dependent on another person.This isn't just drama.But it's the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding — a pattern that's especially common if you grew up with chaos, neglect, or emotional unpredictability.In this video, we'll explore why love can feel like a roller coasterHow all this is linked to an anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment styleWhich role narcissistic abuse plays in all of thatand how to finally break free from the chaos… to master real, secure connection — even if you never saw that growing up.► Links and Resources:10 Signs of a Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=Hakj_BVayQasc134 Intermittent Reinforcement Article: https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-whyTrauma Bonding Video By Tim Fletcher: https://www.youtube.com/live/xIf4uJ94r3o?si=4C1KYflrBZs_dxtM► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:02 What is Trauma Bonding?04:33 How Childhood Trauma Creates This Pattern07:06 The Role of The Narcissist 09:47 Challenges in Breaking Free11:48 How To Rebuild Healthy Relationships After a Chaotic Childhood12:00 Step 1: Clarity For The Trauma-Bond13:05 Step 2: Get Away From Any Toxic Relationship13:53 Step 3: Understand What A "Healthy" Partner Is15:07 Step 4: Find The Right People For You Healing16:00 Step 5: Dance The Connection/Autonomy Dance► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)If you're on social media these days, everyone tells you the same thing: 'Just listen to your gut feeling.'But I want to say the opposite is true.Because what if your strongest intuition — your so-called gut feeling — is actually coming out of a past wound?This is true for everyone who experienced childhood trauma.In this video, I'll reveal to you 7 clear signs that it's trauma — not your intuition — speaking.My goal is that after this video you can tell for sure if it's your gut instinct speaking, or a past trauma reaction.Plus, I'll share some of the best tools, techniques, and strategies I've learned over four years of therapy to help you reconnect with your true gut instinct.► Links and Resources:Commitment Issues Video: https://youtu.be/SUECZtfGkEM?si=0NIn5fjYfkHL1SANSomatic Symptoms Video: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=gEKaF2NUR899j1mLHypervigilance Video: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=B07c4KL8NprA8B-S Neuroception Article: https://khironclinics.com/blog/polyvagal-theory-neuroception-the-fundament-of-feeling/► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:00 Personal Story02:47 Real Gut Feeling: Location & Sensation Breakdown05:28 Why You Can't Trust Your Gut Feeling08:14 Sign 1: You Overthink And Expect The Worst, Even When Things Are Calm09:16 Sign 2: You Struggle To Trust People, Even If They've Never Hurt You10:52 Sign 3: You're Afraid They Might Leave, Even If Nothing's Wrong11:55 Sign 4: You Overreact To Small Things, And It Feels Huge In The Moment12:46 Sign 5: You're Always On Alert, Even When There's No Visible Threat13:55 Sign 6: You Avoid People Or Places, And You're Not Sure Why15:44 Sign 7: You Feel Uneasy When Things Are Actually Calm17:16 How To Reconnect With Your Real Intuition19:32 Tools, Skills & Resources For Regulating Trauma Responses► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Are you in this situation right now, where you desperately wish nothing more, than that a specific person in your life would change?Maybe your partner who keeps shutting down emotionally?Your dad who's slowly destroying himself with unhealthy habits?Or Your daughter making decisions that feel absolutely impossible to watch?If you're feeling the urge right now that's it's your job to fix them, to somehow save them — then this episode is for you.Because here's the honest truth upfront:You can't change them. And you shouldn't try.I know that might feel like giving up.But you can do something instead - and this is what we're talking about in this video.► Links and Resources:Between Stimulus and Response Lies Our Freedom Episode: https://youtu.be/XGJFXLEfdpc?si=zBO77fGiQViBEmTW► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:52 3 Saver Roles You Play, When Trying To Fix Someone You Love05:20 Why It Was Never Your Job To “Fix” Them06:47 Trying To Fix Someone? Try These 3 Steps!13:19 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Sometimes our emotional world, feels like a battlefield.So do you often feel like you're fighting an invisible war inside your own body?Like sounds, lights, and emotions are too much?No one might see it, BUT you're not alone.This is sensory overload caused by complex trauma which causes you to be easily triggered, feeling overwhelm ed and burned out.In this video, we'll break down why your nervous system feels like a battlefield, what the causes behind your overwhelm and shutdown are and a ton of resources I collected during years of therapy that can help you surviving and calm you down.► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Episode:https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StIHSP vs. ASD Episode: https://youtu.be/sib1ok3a6-w?si=E2gIexDhZedOh9VNSensory Overload and PTSD Paper: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9720153► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:0000:52 Personal Story02:09 Understanding CPTSD And Sensory Overload04:50 CPTSD Vs. Neurodivergence Vs. Sensory Sensitivity08:25 Identifying Your Unique Triggers10:32 Re-Regulation & Grounding Techniques10:53 Technique 1: The 5-4-3-2-1 Technique11:17 Technique 2: Movement Skills11:58 Technique 3: Shower Technique12:55 Technique 4: Emergency Exit Technique13:33 Sensory Overwhelm Self-Care Routines14:05 Routine 1: Create A Low-Stimulation Environment15:23 Routine 2: Nervous System Hygiene = Daily Self-Care16:58 Routine 3: Communicate Your Sensory Needs & Set Boundaries18:24 Long Term Healing► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)There is one reason, why so many of us are feeling not good enough.No matter how much you achieve or how many people tell you otherwise, you still sometimes just want to disappear, because you're feeling so degraded and thinskinned.But the thing is: That voice inside you that keeps saying, ‘You're not enough'… it didn't start with you. You weren't born believing that. It was planted there — and it's been shaping the way you see yourself ever since.And in today's video, we're going to look at where that belief really comes from, what toxic shame actually is, how it can quietly control every area of your life without you even realizing it… and most importantly, what you can do to finally break free from it.► Links and Resources:Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI?si=Ndp7XgXXWlqMazoN► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:05 Where “I'm Not Good Enough” Comes From03:48 Toxic Shame: The Root Of It All10:04 Why You Keep Ending Up In The Same Pain11:33 How To Stop Feeling “Not Good Enough” 12:17 Step 1: Realize: It Was Never Your Fault! 13:01 Step 2: Replace Self-Criticism With Compassion14:33 Step 3: Train Yourself To Interrupt The Cycle As Often As Possible15:25 Step 4 : Create New Relationship Experiences16:30 Step 5: Use Re-Regulation-Tools And Resources► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)What if your constant battle with shame, burnout, or the feeling that something's wrong with you… isn't actually about you? But what if it's about your childhood? In this video, we're unmasking one of the most important studies on trauma ever conducted (interestingly enough I've never talked about it here on the channel before) — the famous ACE Study — Adverse Childhood Experiences.We'll uncover what it reveals about how your childhood silently rewired your brain, your body, and your entire sense of self.How this is affecting nearly every area of your adult lifeAnd most importantly: what you can do to break free from the patterns from your past and stop passing the trauma to the next young generation.► Links and Resources:Physical Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=jIcStaNgfG5zNu2-Hypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=EFEcJAmUOYVA1Mj- ACE Study Full Paper: https://www.ajpmonline.org/article/s0749-3797(98)00017-8/pdfDr. Vincent J. Felitti: https://drvincentfelitti.com/ ACE Study CDC: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/about.html ACE Study Results CDC: https://www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.htmlCanadian ACE: https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/85-002-x/2022001/article/00016-eng.htm ACE and Cancer: https://www.nature.com/articles/s44184-025-00138-6 ACE and Depression: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0165032724001484 ACE and Suicidality: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6220625/ACE and Life Outcomes: https://therapyinanutshell.com/ace-study/ Trauma and Brain Change: https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-024-06306-w ACE Quiz: https://americanspcc.org/take-the-aces-quiz/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:55 Why The ACE Study Mattered So Much02:38 The 10 ACE's04:21 ACE Study Findings: Trauma is way more common than we think05:44 How ACE's Drastically Sabotage Your Adult Life08:44 What Trauma Does To The Brain And Body10:42 Not All Adversity Is Bad11:58 Healing From The Consequences Of ACEs12:06 Step 1: Awareness & Re-Connection With Yourself13:42 Step 2: Relearning Safety Through Relationships14:43 Step 3: Rebuild The Skills You Were Never Taught► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Today we're talking about: 10 Things People with Trauma Do Without Realizing.► Links and Resources:Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=cnxWk5WsT8GveNk8Social Anxiety Episode: https://youtu.be/h17cBx7b5UQ?si=wASNhO_rR6nXNsRP High Tension Episode: https://youtu.be/J5Ys0iYRitg?si=zVsAWD08GAbHssfq Somatic Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=Bc-e28H4xMfai2DdTrauma vs. ADHD Episode: https://youtu.be/limKlx4h_F4?si=lOol2BfEfFZhXyUd ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 What You Will Learn02:10 1) To Them Closeness Feels Like A Threat04:16 2) They Need A Lot Of Alone Time07:07 3) They Are Highly Successful10:46 4) They Travel A Lot13:21 5) They Don't Ask For Help17:32 6) They're Always Tensioned / On High Alert21:00 7) They Feel Guilty For Everything At Any Time25:05 8) They Have Unexplainable Physical Symptoms28:06 9) They Appear To Have It All Together30:55 10) They Appear Off / Inattentive33:30 The Link With The Nervous System (Poly Vagal Theory)37:00 Healing Trauma Symptoms42:50 Outro► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)In the past 5 years, I've worked with 4 therapists on my childhood trauma, which was hijacking my relationships and causing constant anxiety.But while therapy helped me making a lot of progress and becoming a more confident and self-aware person, it didn't completely fixed my trauma symptoms.I always felt like there is some puzzle piece missing.But after spending nearly 4.000 $ on therapy, I had to try something new.And surprisingly, while doing that, I finally found it. The missing piece!What I finally learned, what my 4 therapists couldn't teach me, I will share with you in today's video.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:58 My Healing Journey So Far04:09 Lesson 1: Re-Connecting With Yourself06:06 Lesson 2: Stop Masking, Express Your Emotions07:45 Lesson 3: Communicating Needs08:36 Lesson 4: Setting Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty09:42 The Missing Puzzle Piece That “Fixed” Me13:35 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Do you ever find yourself replaying that one conversation from three weeks ago… again?You know, the one where you said that “wrong” thing and now your brain won't let it go?You're lying in bed, exhausted but your mind is still running a marathon of “what ifs” and “why did I say thats?”You obsess over a tiny mistake… and suddenly it feels like your whole character is on trial.What if I told you… that relentless mental noise isn't just overthinking.But it might be trauma - for example from childhood.In this video, we're unpacking the hidden link between complex trauma and overthinking — and how to finally break free from the cycle that's been hijacking your peace for so long.► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=pcSnqYXr4b93QDN_ Shaolin Master Shi Heng Yi on Overthinking: https://youtu.be/kgF_GqyfSMI?si=Vo1b2AdN4R9TvoacOverthinking Article: https://www.talkiatry.com/blog/why-do-i-overthink-everything ⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:04 Overthinking02:30 How Overthinking Feels Like03:42 The Hidden Root: Trauma05:57 The Cycle Of Overthinking08:30 How To Break The Cycle Of Overthinking10:18 Step 1: Name It, To Tame It10:57 Step 2: Re-Regulation Resources12:30 Step 3: Boundaries With Your Thoughts13:34 Step 4: Self-Containment► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Do you associate intimate relationships with panic, overwhelm, chronic gut pain or the feeling of being trapped?Well, then you're not alone. I had this for years and my biggest wish was to just “feel normal” and relaxed with my partner.But the good news is, there is a way to make relationships not feeling so painful and anxiety driven anymore.After a handful of exhausting breakups and through years of therapy I figured out 5 game changing lessons, that completely transformed my relationship life.Therefore in this video today, I will reveal to you why intimate relationships might overwhelm you in the first place and what exactly you can do to finally feel safer.► Links and Resources:Physical Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=0JBQbqOVUHVI_vQLHypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=tHy3yB4DUlBO12EF 4 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=8L1AFSK39AvABNoXSensory Processing Sensitivity Article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_processing_sensitivity► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:56 The Uneasy Gut Feeling02:55 What's Behind The Overwhelm07:55 Lesson 1: Understanding My Sensitive Nervous System10:18 Lesson 2: Understanding & Expressing My Needs12:37 Lesson 3: Learning To Name My Emotions14:22 Lesson 4: Understanding My Lack Of Boundaries 16:24 Lesson 5: Building Inner Holding (Self-Containment)► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Do you know that painful feeling when you have to cross a busy city center and it feels like all eyes are on you?Or that intense discomfort walking into a room full of people at a party that is already in full swing, like you're exposed, like you don't belong there?That's the quiet torment of social anxiety. And if you've felt it, you're not alone.But… what if it didn't have to be this way?What if you could feel calm, grounded — even confident — in those same situations… without having to fake it?In today's episode, I'll break down the hidden trauma cycle behind social anxiety.And by the end, I'll show you two powerful ways to begin breaking free from it — for real.► Links and Resources:Joseph Campbell Quote: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/11602-the-privilege-of-a-lifetime-is-being-who-you-are► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:52 Why Social Anxiety Is Often About Trauma, Not Shyness02:45 The Cycle Of Social Anxiety04:40 Beating The Cycle Of Social Anxiety14:57 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Have you always thought of yourself as “a shy person”?Do you prefer quiet spaces? Social events exhaust you? And do you need a lot of alone time to recharge?What if… that's not just introversion?What if something deeper — something fear-driven — is hiding behind your so-called introvert personality?Today, we'll uncover five signs that you might not just be introverted…But you're actually dealing with social anxiety.We will clarify common misconceptions about these two and you will also learn, where your social anxiety actually has its roots.► Links and Resources:Trauma and Social Anxiety Article: https://psychcentral.com/ptsd/childhood-trauma-social-anxietyPhysical Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=ub35EEp2hZDyTDbK Inner Tension Episode: https://youtu.be/J5Ys0iYRitg?si=TeSWbbBGtA3vEspW Hypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=732jl86Z8oVoDq65► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:52 Why We Mix Up Introversion & Anxiety02:19 Introversion03:28 Social Anxiety04:30 5 Signs You're Not Just “Shy” 04:84 Sign 1: You Feel Physically Tense In Social Settings06:11 Sign 2: You Cancel Plans Out Of Panic, Not Peace07:52 Sign 3: You Crave Connection But Fear Being Seen09:34 Sign 4: You're Hyper-Aware Of How You're Being Perceived11:16 Sign 5: You Shape-Shift To Avoid Judgement12:55 Misconception 1: Introverts Are Antisocial13:09 Misconception 2: Social Anxiety Is A Weakness13:38 Misconception 3: You Just Need To "Get Out Of Your Shell"17:14 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Over the past decade, I ended five long-term relationships. And each time, I convinced myself I was better off alone.But what I didn't realize back then was this: That my relationships didn't work wasn't about my partners. It wasn't even really about me.It was unresolved childhood trauma, quietly hijacking my gut feelings, sabotaging my relationships, and shaping how I showed up in love.In today's video, I want to uncover how early emotional wounds act like a hidden puppet master in our relationships… What's truly behind your attachment style… And how you can finally break the cycle of painful patterns and partners that never feel safe.Ready for some real “aha” moments?► Links and Resources:Emotional Dysregulation Episode: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BA?si=dkhPhvMPJxzTZj14I Overcame My Avoidant Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/6jyaHgwGYbk► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:01 How Trauma Sabotaged My Relationships04:11 How Trauma Shapes Love05:44 How Trauma Hijacks Your Emotions 05:51 Hijacked By Traum: Your Emotions08:42 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Behaviour09:53 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Attachment Style11:09 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Value Compass12:48 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Identity 13:26 The Cycle17:13 How To Break The Cycle17:38 Step 1: Create Awareness For What's Going On19:53 Step 2: Understand Your Attachment Style21:41 Step 3: Stop Chasing Only What Feels Familiar 23:58 Step 4: Learn The Skills For Healthy Love 26:09 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ ⁠(Ad)Maybe you're like me — you grew up thinking your childhood was “good.”There was no big trauma. Not much screaming and fights, no chaos.Your parents were around. You had everything you needed… on paper.But what if I told you that a childhood that looked good can still leave deep emotional wounds?In my case, it wasn't just the “bad” things that happened — It was the good things that didn't.The safety, the attunement, the emotional presence I never knew I was missing sometimes.If you feel emotionally numb, unworthy, or like you never quite belong —this might be yours too.In this video, I'll share how I discovered the hidden impact of emotional neglect, the surprising ways it showed up in my life and ruined my relationships, and the 5 steps I actually needed to go to heal and finally build real, connected relationships.And let me tell you: It wasn't just therapy!► Links and Resources:How I Overcame My Commitment Issues: https://youtu.be/6jyaHgwGYbk Love vs Limerence: https://youtu.be/mmNjDwdPwOA?si=_gPstbGBPxkpIPwb I Replaced My Therapist With ChatGPT: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRo6PgSiB3w&t=229s► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:01:12 What Emotional Neglect Is 03:45 How Emotional Neglect Showed Up In Me09:58 The Moment I Understood Emotional Neglect11:43 How I Overcame Emotional Neglect23:51 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ (Ad)Have you ever snapped over something small — especially with someone you love — and then felt terrible about it afterwards? You're not a bad person. But there is a reason for that anger.In today's episode, we're going to uncover the real reason why you keep exploding over the tiniest things — especially in your closest relationships. And here's the truth: it's almost never about the other person or what triggered you in the moment.Sounds confusing? We'll break down what's really going on inside you — and what it actually takes to stop these reactions for good. Not by suppressing your emotions or forcing yourself to 'stay calm'... but by understanding and healing the root cause.⁠ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:59 Anger In Close Relationships03:21 The Real Reason For Your Anger05:34 Identifying Your Triggers09:07 How To Break The Cycle► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Do you feel like something's always a little off —like your emotions hit too hard, or not at all…and no one sees the battle you're fighting inside?That might not be anxiety. Or burnout.It could be Complex PTSD —the result of prolonged emotional trauma that never had space to heal.In this video, I'll walk you through every core CPTSD symptom from the most common to the least known — clearly, quickly, and in real human language. But trust me, the last one is sometimes even missed by professionals!► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Episode:https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=Hyy6p_4o1cLYmrx-How I Overcame Avoidant Attachment Episode:Dissociation Episode: https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg?si=kE0UyssKllrskiCH Disorganized Attachment Style: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=NJM8ebzQmpYZfU0tSomatic Symptoms: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=YXJUFNCV3YpiCurF ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:53 CPTSD Simply Explained01:54 Symptom 1: Big Emotional Swings02:19 Symptom 2: Always On Edge03:09 Symptom 3: Overreacting To “Small” Things04:53 Symptom 4: Trouble Sleeping05:26 Symptom 5: Reliving and Experiencing The Past06:02 Symptom 6: Avoiding Anything That Feels Unsafe 06:46 Symptom 7: Zoning Out Or Numbing07:43 Symptom 8: Push-Pull Relationships08:36 Symptom 9: Toxic And Abusive Relationship Drama09:28 Symptom 10: Body Pain, But No Doctor Knows Why10:22 Symptom 11: Harsh Inner Critic11:15 Symptom 12: Substance Abuse12:00 Symptom 13: Bullying12:56 Symptom 14: Space Out Or Losing Focus13:34 Symptom 15: Missing Memories And Forgetfulness14:35 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ (Ad)In the past 10 years, I sabotaged five long-term relationships. At first I thought it was my intuition - my gut feeling - telling me I hadn't met the right person yet. But through therapy, I discovered something deeper:It wasn't my partners. It was me.Specifically, my avoidant attachment style… and a deep, hidden fear of commitment I didn't even know I had.In this video, I'm sharing the full story of how I went from running away from intimacy… to finally being able to stay—emotionally, mentally, and physically—in a real, loving relationship.You'll learn why closeness can feel terrifying when you're avoidantly attached, how we self-sabotage without knowing it, and most importantly:The breakthrough that finally helped me stop fearing love.► Links and Resources:Physical Pain Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=FZvH__BWNZtkemOVAnxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=dZ46bDFhdfgWBCQx Ego Defense Mechanisms: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK559106/► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:06 Signs You're Having Fear Of Commitment/Avoidant Attachment05:10 What Is Fear Of Commitment/Avoidant Attachment?07:16 Ego Defenses And Protection Mechanisms12:05 Deep Beliefs & Identity Illusion14:50 Wrong Partner Or Avoidant Attachment?16:25 Overcoming Avoidant Attachment & Stopping Commitment Fears► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)I've been digging into these topics for years now:Trauma, specifically Complex PTSD,Neurodivergence, aka Autism and ADHDand also Depression, the number one mental health struggle of our sick society.And here's what hit me:Even though these conditions seem totally different…they all have one surprising thing in common.There's a hidden overlap — and most people, including professionals, miss it.But here's the twist that is interesting for YOU and me:That overlap doesn't just explain why so many of us are misdiagnosed……it also reveals a whole new way to actually manage and heal what you're going through.And I'll show you exactly how at the end of this episode, after we dived into each of these three.► Links and Resources:Avoidance Episode: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=eNtPPfjQnaMJcNdw Hyposensitivity Episode: https://youtu.be/A6USY9ECbkM?si=N2iJqqzuf8QGtKVt Borderline vs Bipolar Episode: https://youtu.be/KuYopjLnGLs Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxDepression Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15953797/ Nature vs Nurture in PTSD: https://news.yale.edu/2020/10/01/nurture-trumps-nature-determining-severity-ptsd-symptoms Nature vs Nurture in Autism/ADHD: https://www.sequoiabehavioralhealth.org/blogs/nature-vs-nurture History of Depression: https://www.verywellmind.com/who-discovered-depression-1066770 ADHD & Depression: https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Attention_deficit_hyperactivity_disorder ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:01 Overview: Trauma, Autism/ADHD, Depression02:35 Trauma08:40 Neurodivergence14:03 Depression18:22 The Overlap22:11 Managing And Healing24:46 Solutions Storytelling29:11 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ (Ad)“I got misdiagnosed with borderline, when I actually had bipolar disorder”“I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder years ago, but this was a misdiagnosis.”“I was misdiagnosed with bipolar depression, when I had BPD”.These stories are more common than you'd think.Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder overlap so much - that even professionals get confused - even tho we can see real differences in the brain between them.But how can you actually tell the difference?And more importantly — what do they feel like from the inside for those who are affected?Today, we're going to break this down in the simplest way possible.► Links and Resources:ADHD Video with Hyperfocus: https://youtu.be/HOCbK52R9eg Borderline criteria article: https://www.verywellmind.com/borderline-personality-disorder-diagnosis-425174Bipolar criteria: https://www.mdcalc.com/calc/10196/dsm-5-criteria-bipolar-disorderBrain differences: https://www.mdpi.com/2079-9721/7/3/49 Gunderson Video: https://youtu.be/h15OnmUqFj8?si=-Et1m3vVaJsON4eR BPD Parent Video: https://youtu.be/WoO4VMWjIuo?si=7Fa0uO1BJP0z3qg9BPD in Women Podcast: https://youtu.be/KHgt7qiiPkw?si=CfmbONJTveFP9-yz Bipolar Docu: https://youtu.be/HOCbK52R9eg ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:23 Borderline vs. Bipolar - What's The Difference?04:00 Borderline (BPD): What It Feels Like06:24 Experience 1: Unstable Relationships07:05 Experience 2: Identity Struggles07:37 Experience 3: Emotional Volatility08:28 Experience 4: Impulsivity09:10 Experience 5: Self-Harm/Suicidal Ideation10:14 Bipolar Disorder: What It Feels Like13:17 Experience 1: Mood Episodes13:46 Experience 2: Depression14:36 Experience 3: Mania or Hypermania17:18 BPD vs. BD: The Overlap22:42 BPD/BP vs. Other Conditions24:33 Why This All Matters25:22 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)I've worked with four therapists over the years for my own CPTSD.I've read the books, done the work, and researched dozens of methods to heal from complex trauma.But here's the hard truth I had to face:Most CPTSD treatments don't actually work.At least, not for the kind of deep, long-term wounds many of us carry.But… some approaches to me at least did improve my symptoms drastically.And in this video, I'll share which therapies were a waste of time… and which ones actually helped me to successfully work through my childhood trauma and finally let me again embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence.► Links and Resources:CPTSD & Substance Abuse: https://www.verywellmind.com/connection-trauma-and-substance-abuse-7269368 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:30 Medication03:16 Cognitive Behaviral Therapy (CBT)04:42 Talk Therapy & Couples Counselling06:20 Which Therapies Do Work and Why?07:55 Re-Regulations Tools & Resources10:00 Building True Inner Safety12: 33 Outro► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Last week, my therapist messaged me that she finally had capacity again. I responded kindly… but told her I don't need sessions right now. But the truth is: after 4 years of real therapy… I've started using ChatGPT instead.Yes — you've heard that right. I replaced my therapist with an AI. And no, this isn't clickbait. Therefore today I will share with you why I turned to ChatGPT, what it did to my mental health But also the deeper concerns we all need to talk about when using AI for healing.But let me tell you this up front: the results were shocking.► Links and Resources:Therapy for Highly Sensitive People: https://youtu.be/7sh2uHxWbKk?si=Mwy6NLDEByVC1aTf Avoidant Attachment Style Video: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=hu5uNNmhLzLfjv5SLLMs: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Large_language_modelAGI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Artificial_general_intelligenceWired ChatGPT Article: https://www.wired.com/story/chatgpt-poem-forever-security-roundup/TheGuardian Article: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/mar/02/can-ai-chatbot-therapists-do-better-than-the-real-thing?utm_source=chatgpt.comAlbertatech Concerns: https://youtube.com/shorts/ARIt2684fiM?si=mXUaWXOe4cddqUpsSebastian Teller Experience: https://youtu.be/h2DJVwlr9S8?si=tyE3alV1WN4zntdu► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:57 The Problem With Classical Therapy03:37 Chat GPT For “Therapy” Experiment06:53 Therapy VS. ChatGPT 12:08 Ethical & Personal Concerns17:05 Reasons To Work With An AI-Self Help Assistant?19:24 Will AI Replace Therapy?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)ASMR. Millions and millions and millions of views. Whis pering. Ripping. Stirring a bowl of ramen. It's so mainstream now, even car commercials and vogue cover models are doing it.But seriously… why are we so obsessed with this stuff that is weirdly comforting for one person yet so discomforting for others?What's actually going on in your brain when you feel that tingle?And what do ASMR, Bob Ross, trauma therapy, and yes, even porn all have in common?► Links and Resources:EMDR Video: https://youtu.be/x8f0535zyK4Bob Ross: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bob_RossASMR in Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sleepless-in-america/201809/what-is-asmr-and-why-are-people-watching-these-videosSlate Bull and Car Commercial:

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ ⁠(Ad)If you haven't been living under a rock lately… you've probably seen this everywhere: EMDR therapy.Prince Harry is using EMDR to cope with his past. Miley Cyrus credits it for her healing. Even Sandra Bullock has opened up about her experience with it.EMDR is rapidly gaining mainstream attention — but is it truly a miracle, or just another overhyped trend?As someone who's worked with multiple therapists on childhood trauma, I've spent years searching for effective healing methods. So when I first heard about EMDR, I had to try it.Some moments felt genuinely transformative. But others left me questioning everything. In this video, we'll explore the full truth about EMDR: its origins, the science, the controversy — and yes, the personal stories, including my own.And what you maybe don't expect: The dark and surprising story of its founder… which almost no one talks about. So — is EMDR the breakthrough it claims to be? Or is there something deeper beneath the surface? ► Links and Resources: 15 Trauma Treatments: https://youtu.be/UaslCkvMpws?si=u0lqaj2rAqQz0KdEPVT-Episode: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=-D1bPftsdgTjY0Xq Prince Harry EMDR: https://www.emdria.org/blog/prince-harry-speaks-out-about-his-experience-with-emdr-therapy/Miley Cyrus EMDR: https://meaww.com/miley-cyrus-reveals-eye-movement-therapy-really-helped-her-healSandra Bullock EMDR: https://www.accessonline.com/articles/sandra-bullock-reveals-she-uses-emdr-therapy-i-was-so-scared-to-do-it-exclusiveEMDR Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKrfH43srg8Francine Shapiro: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/07/11/science/francine-shapiro-dead.htmland https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Francine_Shapiro Pseudoscience Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11098395/ Dr. Roger McFillin Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6ysuiHyy7TGOnFZlOWeU9l?si=i6ieKqDwRP6zk8ihj5bCoQNLP article: https://efektasgroup.com/why-nlp-is-criticised/ Self-Administered EMDR Video: https://youtu.be/DALbwI7m1vM?si=syoWZLAM_s2HXTp7 Neuro Transmission Video EMDR: https://youtu.be/PZmvk30gJEQ?si=UdY65__84e57bjOMVagus Nerve: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vagus_nerveEMDR Fingers: https://riverpointbehavioral.com/blog/emdr-what-it-is-how-it-works-and-its-phases/EMDR WHO: https://www.who.int/news/item/06-08-2013-who-releases-guidance-on-mental-health-care-after-traumaEMDR APA: https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/treatments/eye-movement-reprocessing ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:01:22 What Is EMDR?04:37 The Controversy About EMDR07:29 Why Do So Many People Swear By EMDR?08:54 When EMDR Doesn't Work16:21 Does EMDR Really Work?17:41 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)Damn, I love these reddit posts!That's actually a pretty lighthearted way to start such a heavy topic.But here's what those funny posts don't show you — the dark side of limerence.Because this isn't just a quirky crush or intense attraction.No, Limerence is actually a form of love addiction.And it can cause real emotional pain, self-abandonment, and obsession.So today, we're breaking it down. I created a roadmap for that. We'll start with the most subtle sign No 1…and end with the biggest — but also the most invisible No 10.And most importantly — throughout the signs, you'll also see how to recognize limerence, understand it, and begin to finally let it go. ► Links and Resources:Limerence & CPTSD Episode: https://youtu.be/LZ-IFevq90o?si=2UNR7TxqDv2PFpiaLimerence & Self-Regulation Episode: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=vTLRifpT75jQXmvgHypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=LrXDwC8UDowCL_3VAnxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=HJYM3_IGuWfsAFtcMaladaptive Daydreaming Article: https://www.adhdcentre.co.uk/adhd-maladaptive-daydreaming-common-signs-of-adhd/Limerent Object Article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:28 Limerence04:56 True Love07:33 Sign 1: You Feel High When They Text… And Crash When They Don't.08:52 Sign 2: You Fantasize More Than You Interact.10:06 Sign 3: You Ignore Red Flags Because The Fantasy Feels Too Good.11:29 Sign 4: You Overanalyze Everything They Say/Do.12:49 Sign 5: You Base Your Worth On Their Interest Or Attention. 14:27 Sign 6: You Feel Urgent Fear Of Losing Them - Even If You Barely Know Them.15:51 Sign 7: You Confuse Longing With Love.17:32 Sign 8: You Hold Onto Breadcrumbs, Not Mutual Care.19:04 Sign 9: You Don't Feel Safe - Just Addicted.20:29 Sign 10: You Lose Yourself In The Idea Of “Them”. ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)Some people say we've lost our ability to focus because ADHD is on the rise. Others say the real problem is dopamine addiction — and that a detox is the only fix.And some are convinced it's unresolved childhood trauma disrupting our attention.I wanted to find out for myself… and what I discovered was surprising.Because: There's actually one shared mechanism in the brain behind all three.In today's video, we'll uncover what that is — and how you can finally reclaim a laser-sharp focus.► Links and Resources:Signs of ADHD Video: https://youtu.be/-WJo7Seemzk?si=pY_4-9WVTMhJZPztFirst Video of Trauma Series: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=cjxBA0t4BdEWW-i6 Executive Dysfunction Article: https://www.additudemag.com/what-is-executive-function-disorder/Dopamine & ADHD Article: https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-dopamineBBC Social Media Article: https://www.bbc.com/news/technology-44640959Dopamine Burnout Article: https://www.proactivepsychiatry.com/post/dopamine-burnout-how-overstimulation-is-draining-your-motivation-and-happiness ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:50 ADHD04:12 Dopamine Addiction07:50 Trauma15:00 The Link18:19 How To Focus Again19:20 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)Do you sometimes just wish to “be normal”? Hang out with people?Not needing to isolate and distance yourself constantly?Well, then you first have to understand why you behave like this. So, maybe you are just a bit avoidant, or even have some form of avoidance personality disorder.Or anywhere between, of course.Today, we're uncovering the differences between an avoidant attachment style and an avoidant personality disorder, plus what could be between them, and at which point avoidance and isolation become pathological.► Links and Resources:Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: ⁠https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx⁠AvPD Article: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9761-avoidant-personality-disorder Avoidant Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=oL-CQTmdCmMVBaNLIntroversion vs. Autism Video: https://youtu.be/Y9IL7EJma0o?si=mIip9jMLJDJEuQTWUnderstanding HSP Playlist:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLR7cijfpiNQGuGzInp1Jzf3XcGBKrab17&si=WbpXmoQMEjthb0SCBecoming a Securely Attached Person Episode: https://youtu.be/wq6sRKNdUsE?si=d_ozwMGTou2awMN3► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:30 Avoidant Attachment Style05:03 Experiential Avoidance06:28 Demand Avoidance07:51 Avoidant Personality Disorder10:32 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)Do you regularly experience unexplainable pain or physical symptoms like brain fog and migraines, a dull feeling in your stomach, or a strange pressure in your chest?And are these symptoms strangely tied to your relationships, dating scenarios, social situations, your everyday working life or just appear throughout the day?Than chances are high, that you frustratedly ran from doctors office to doctors office, but no healthcare professional ever had a reason what's actually wrong with you.Now let me tell you the reason, WHY most physicians can't explain these symptoms, and it's all written down in here: It's because, they are actually not physically caused, but psychologically.Here are 10 Body Symptoms that are probably linked to your Mental Health and unresolved childhood trauma.► Links and Resources:10 Signs of an Avoidant Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=gB7NsSVDazWKbzWeHypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=HVMw6PX5VETztefgTherapy Podcast: https://youtu.be/7sh2uHxWbKk?si=GTwkL4zSpqvZIBRuDissociation Episode: https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg?si=fGrC009rfvAxBqob Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxRestless Legs: https://jcsm.aasm.org/doi/10.5664/jcsm.7096Pelvic Pain: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37308317/Gut Issues: https://www.jstor.org/stable/26636155Lower Back Pain: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25179418/Chronic Back Pain: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8118090/Heart Disease: https://www.heart.org/en/news/2020/04/28/traumatic-childhood-increases-lifelong-risk-for-heart-disease-early-deathBruxism: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36056716/Teeth Grinding Article: https://prestigeveteranmctx.com/bruxism-and-ptsd/Migraines: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22533684/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19124690/ Functional Somatic Syndromes: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/05/110516121732.htm ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:34 Overview04:04 Symptom 1: Foot Pain & Restless Legs06:39 Symptom 2: Pelvic Pain & Tension08:18 Symptom 3: Stomach Issues10:08 Symptom 4: Lower Back Pain11:47 Symptom 5: Chest Tightness And Heart Palpitations13:53 Symptom 6: Neck And Shoulder Pain15:52 Symptom 7: Throat Constriction And Chronic Sore Throat17:54 Symptom 8: Jaw Clenching19:38 Symptom 9: Tension Headaches And Migraines21:38 Symptom 10: Brain Fog And Chronic Fatigue24:12 Solutions► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Get Access To Our Courses & Community:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/join/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)You know what's insane?People who never did anything wrong in their lives, but just have been themselves as children, feel ashamed and anxious in their adult lives.Many of us who come from a childhood with judging, criticizing, and screaming parents don't actually know what anxious and shame-free relationships feel like.But the truth is: there is a life on the other side: happy, fulfilled, and non-shame-based relationships are possible - also for you.How? I will show you throughout today's video, which is, to give you an overview - video no 6 out of 8 of my series on the core symptoms of CPTSD. (all the other links below)► Links and Resources:Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspxCycle Of Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/e0W9c_1lSHU?si=1U1iRdG8hC9MYgPfWhy We Avoid & Isolate Episode: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=NAPzARicULRiXMxQShadow Work Episode: https://youtu.be/xPSEl9sOd9I?si=gAkxt4yBWWwv8wiP► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform!YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:57 Toxic Shame02:55 Toxic Shame Vs. Anxiety04:41 Toxic Shame Storytelling05:55 The Consequences Of A Childhood Full Of Trauma08:56 Consequences Storytelling20:21 Is It Possible To Work Through And Heal Anxiety & Toxic Shame?15:31 Solutions for Toxic Shame► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents a therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.