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► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠ (Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠ ⁠(Ad)Links & Resources: 10 Signs of Complex PTSD: https://youtu.be/rc4NqZQV5hA?si=wSuXmBqKgsOCukBi Reddit Stonewalling: https://www.reddit.com/r/coolguides/comments/1hw6a4a/a_cool_guide_on_stonewalling_and_how_to_deal_with/Dissociation: https://growththruchange.com/blog/why-dissociation-happens-and-steps-toward-healing/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:05 Weakness Zoom (Deactivating Strategies)06:18 Isolation/Avoidance11:22 People Pleasing15:40 Anger/Rage19:08 Stonewalling22:26 Emotional Numbing27:28 Withholding Affirmations29:30 Romanticizing The Past31:54 Hyper-Independence34:40 Privacy As A Shield► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠ (Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠ (Ad)Links & Resources: Why You're So Sensitive To Criticism: https://youtu.be/e8FKISPF__0?si=FP2qWIwIUzUp79CQTrauma Bond: https://youtu.be/J70RwIER2BQ?si=5JMBZGVwgKUW1gY- ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:11 What Is Fear of Commitment Again?04:24 Sign 1: You Have Unrealistic, Not High Just Standards08:31 Sign 2: You Focus On Their Flaws, Instead Of Their Good Sides12:01 Sign 3: Doubts And Insecurities Appear, When Everything Goes Well16:44 Sign 4: There Is Conflict, But Not “War”19:45 Sign 5: You Sabotage The Relationship, But Not Because Of Incompatibility► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: https://understandable.net/masterclass (Ad)► Access My Premium Course: https://understandable.net/course/ (Ad)Here are 5 Habits To Stop Letting Other People's Mood Control You. No Fluff, just practical habits that strengthen your boundaries.Why The Smallest Criticism Breaks You Episode: https://youtu.be/e8FKISPF__0?si=rLYl-PuiMEVV4K_u► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:56 Why Other People's Mood Control You10:36 Habit 1: Pause Before You React13:50 Habit 2: Walk With a Better Posture17:07 Habit 3: Having a Routine20:16 Habit 4: Do More, of What You Need24:10 Habit 5: Reconnect With Your Own State► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Links and Resources:Why You Don't Feel Seen Video: https://youtu.be/6g6IiIwnPWA?si=BWVNopJCfPlRKFuIResolve Conflict With Compassion Video: https://youtu.be/xDgdKnCC1HM?si=-33iPJdOqOsvRgax ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Why We Sabotage Great Relationships?02:56 What Is Triggering The Pattern?05:42 Why Relationships Feel Like a Loss of Control?11:58 Why Is It So Hard To Stop Sabotaging Love?15:49 Is There a Better Way Instead of Sabotaging Love?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)In the past decade, I ended 5 long term relationships because of my commitment issues.When I met my current partner, I decided to break this pattern.In this video, I share everything I've learned on my journey of getting over avoidant attachment.I'll take you through the 7 stages every avoidant goes through and give you some new perspectives to ponder on.If you follow along through all the steps, I'm nearly 100% sure you will leave this video with a huge aha and a ton of practical ideas how to start healing your avoidant attachment patterns.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠► Links and Resources:Limerence and Romantic Fantasies:https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=_eJeTGlwFcBBCBaLYou're Not Your Emotions: https://youtu.be/67QybhTEUMM?si=NLaxhT9KjecfupoC ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro 00:51 What Avoidant Attachment Feels Like03:59 How Secure Attachment Feels Like07:45 Stage 1: Avoidant Beliefs and Values12:37 Stage 2: Deep Desire for Conflict Free Love15:26 Stage 3: Dating and Limerence21:39 Stage 4: The Shift25:58 Stage 5: Pulling Back32:06 Stage 6: The Breakup39:39 Stage 7: Recover and Reset► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)Why do you always push away the people you love?Especially when things get close and serious?If you clicked on this video, there are probably two possibilities why you're here:1) You are currently dating someone or are in a relationship that asks for more commitment, and you started to push the other person that you really like away.2) You know someone, maybe your friend, brother, sister, or the person you're dating, who is suddenly turning cold and pulling away.Either way, it's very honest and brave of you, that you care and want to figure out, why the reactions happen.You don't just judge yourself or the other person, and want to look for support and real answers.The reason why you or the person you love pushed someone away is in both scenarios definitely the same.And in this episode, we first of all answer the question, what's the main reason for this.But more importantly, afterwards we'll also explore if there is an actual solution for thisAnd if so, how you can practically stop to push away the people you love to finally be in a stable, secure relationship.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro 01:22 #1 Reason You Push Away The People You Love07:17 You're Not Broken10:16 How Can You Stop Pushing Away the People You Love?11:16 Step 1: Strengthen Your Sense Of Self16:20 Step 2: Practice to Sense and Express Your Emotions, Needs, and Boundaries21:30 Step 3: Learn to Stay In Relationships Without Losing Yourself► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)For most of my life, I deeply longed for a warm, stable, loving relationship.But instead of feeling safe and connected, I was constantly triggered in my relationships.First being needy in the beginning, then panicking when things got too close.In fact, I broke up five times, leaving behind a lot of heartbreak.And I didn't understand back then that I wasn't “just needing space.”I was avoidantly attached and scared of commitment.But after working with four different therapists…after years of uncomfortable self-work…Today, I finally live together with my current partner, and I feel like I've arrived in a safe relationship where I don't want to run away anymore for the first time in my life.And if I could move from attachment wounds… to building real emotional safety…Then I want to show you exactly how.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro 01:16 Habit 1: Make Emotions And Needs Visible05:26 Habit 2: Stop Trying To Fix Each Other07:53 Habit 3: Name Patterns In Real Time10:38: Habit 4: Listen And Pause During Conflict14:02 Habit 5: Practice Vulnerability Instead Of Protest16:34 Habit 6: Stay True to Yourself, Even If It Feels Wrong19:42 Habit 7: Prioritize Love Over Perfection► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)Why does criticism hurt so much?I bet you know situations like these: You're having dinner with the person you love.Everything seems great, but then they say: "You didn't ask me how my day was. It felt like you don't care."A solid statement, that kicked you out of you calm mind.In your ears that sounded like an accusation. Even worse, like a judgement.You feel criticized, at the same time hurt and offended.Your thoughts start spiraling.Why didn't you ask, idiot?Why did you FAIL this one.You feel ashamed.Anxiety kicks in. What if they now think I don't love them, because I forgot to ask?But then your inner guard raises it's voice:You heat up and feel irritated.Why do they even expect me to ask how their day was? Mine was exhausting and I just forgot to ask.. Why do they always expect things from me? It's unfair.When you can identify with this example, first of all, I'm not here to expose you.If you react like this, it's totally understandable, because there are good reasons for it.Therefore today, in this video, I'm going to share 5 surprising reasons, why the smallest comment or criticism completely breaks you.► Links and Resources:Self-Care Habits for HSPs / Neurodivergents: https://youtu.be/LdWEM_ZTZYM?si=15FaXVGsEMXC4hyp10 Signs of CPTSD: https://youtu.be/nH6mOBoqCsc?si=lQiDt7xNmbtjpfpD ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro 01:23 Reason 1: You're Overwhelmed From Work And Life 02:46 Reason 2: Emotional Burnout04:19 Reason 3: You're Highly Sensitive /Neurodivergent05:31 Reason 4: Childhood Trauma07:32 Reason 5: Unstable Sense of Self► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)Why does the person you love the most also trigger you the most?‘Shouldn't love with this person be easy?'Well, I'll give you the answer straight away: It's not a coincidence. It's how love actually works.Your partner isn't there just to make you happy, they're in your life to mirror your insecurities and vulnerable parts and make you grow through them. But knowing that, reveals the true underlying question: What's below these painful triggers?What do they reveal about us?And how can we grow through them so we don't feel so angry, hurt, upset and ashamed anymore?► Links and Resources:Signs of an HSP: https://youtu.be/DPrgxLzFnxI?si=NsuitgFJiHkZkgo9The Highly Sensitive Man: https://youtu.be/8LbQhAVXE3U?si=oJ43rcTt0k5W_nyq ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro 00:58 Why The Person You Love Triggers You Most02:48 What's Below These Painful Triggers?03:03 1. High Sensitivity05:39 2. Painful Patterns From The Past10:46 3. Insecurities & Vulnerabilities12:59 How Can We Grow Through Our Triggers► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠ (Ad)Over the past 13 years, I ended five long-term relationships — all from my side.But did these relationships really have to end like that? Or did I push myself — and the people I loved — into unnecessary suffering and heartbreak?If you're watching this right now, you might be in a similar place. Being in a relationship that feels overwhelming or Exhausting, asking yourself the same question: Could this relationship be saved… if I just understood the right things?In this video, I'm sharing 11 things I deeply wish I had known about love and relationships before I walked away five times. And this isn't about telling you to stay or to leave. It's about helping you pause — and see more clearly — before making a decision you can't easily undo.If you're on the edge right now, this video might change how you see your relationship.► Links and Resources:You Can't Change Them Video: https://youtu.be/JUu4MkLvrK4?si=v_LlvgwYC6DfTuSIStop Conflict in Your Relationship: https://youtu.be/dF2QYyxqJjM?si=-AbNzIXXBP85O91e ⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro 01:37 Lesson 1: You're Not Struggling Because “You Didn't Meet The Perfect Partner Yet”04:36 Lesson 2: Trying To Change Your Partner Is Already Part of The Problem07:10 Lesson 3: Chemistry & Hobbies Won't Save Your Relationship09:43 Lesson 4: You Can't “Win” A Fight11:39 Lesson 5: A Challenging Partner Is A Good Partner15:52 Lesson 6: Your Relationship Pain Is Trying To Tell You Something19:37 Lesson 7: Most Relationships Don't End Because “They're Broken”21:56 Lesson 8: It's Often Not Your Partner, It's Your Patterns25:17 Lesson 9: But What If Your Values Were Built on Emotional Survival?28:45 Lesson 10: Unconditional Love Isn't How Adult Relationships Work30:43 Lesson 11: Why You Will Choose The Wrong Person► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass ⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠ (Ad)Do you sometimes feel disappointed because your partner doesn't just know how you feel?You expect them to sense your mood, your needs, or what's wrong, but without you saying a word. But when they don't, it hurts… and creates pressure on both sides.In this episode, we talk about why empathy is not mind-reading, how this expectation silently damages relationships, and what actually helps partners understand each other better.► Links and Resources:Why You Don't Feel Seen Episode https://youtu.be/6g6IiIwnPWA?si=dzP-tm70BkvJGPLV ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro - The Invisible Test02:08 Silent Expectations05:58 Solutions: From Being Guessed To Being Known► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Free Relationship Masterclass: https://understandable.net/masterclass (Ad)► Access My Premium Course: https://understandable.net/course/ (Ad)Why do you keep ruining great relationships?Every. Single. Time.The problem is not that you can't find good people.It's that every time a relationship starts to feel good… something goes wrong.You want a stable, long-term relationship.But instead you find yourself in heartbreak, frustration and anger about yourself.And the most confusing part is this:it's not the toxic relationships that fall apart.It's the ones that actually had potential, where you felt: this time, it's different!► Links and Resources:Conflict Resolution Video: https://youtu.be/PxiDnxXC2p8?si=g69xLC_ZXLgVRo4rAvoidant Attachment Style Video:https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8Relationship Anxiety Video: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=gNSR9w1DpkVv7QTgHow I Overcame My Commitment Issues Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SUECZtfGkEMTrauma Bond Video: https://youtu.be/J70RwIER2BQ?si=-Qxp_lwNVYMD9sgo► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:19 Why You Keep Ruining Great Relationships03:11 1. You're Not Ready for a Real Relationship Yet11:05 2. Closeness Feels Like a Trap (Avoidant Attachment)16:19 3. Your Anxiety Runs the Relationship (Anxious Attachment)20:51 4. Pain Was Your First Language of Connection► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Attraction is a beautiful thing. We all desire it.We all want to feel pulled toward someone.Attraction is often what brings people together in the first place.It gives relationships energy.Yet, there are moments, where attraction suddenly becomes… dangerous.Maybe you're already in a relationship.Maybe you've built a life with someone toxic.And yet there is this pull toward a person you'd be better off not being attracted to.► Links and Resources:Limerence Video: https://youtu.be/cZ344b-d7DA?si=zE93uPeP9YjIRcSWAnxious Attachment Video: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=vTxyvwzQS-xfYEXZ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Sirens and Sailors02:20 Why We're Hearing The Call05:00 Solution: How To Not Fall For The Temptation06:10 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Sometimes, there's a wild dragon in our mind.It makes our head turn small problems into something that feels threatening. Creating a big disaster and making our thoughts catastrophizing. The dragon can awaken at any time.When we get triggered — by our partner, our boss, or even by ourselves — our calm state gets hijacked.And suddenly, it feels like a fire-breathing dragon takes over our thoughts.It twists how we see things.It exaggerates danger.And if we're not careful, we don't just have the dragon in our mind — we become it.We say things we don't mean.We assume the worst.We hurt other people — and ourselves — often without even realizing it.► Links and Resources:Negativity Bias Article: https://thedecisionlab.com/biases/negativity-bias ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 The Inner Dragon04:25 Why The Dragon Exists07:50 How To Tame The Dragon10:46 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ (Ad)Why do intimate relationships always feel so emotionally overwhelming?I've been wondering about that question ever since I started dating.Somehow, relationships always felt more difficult for me than they seemed to be for other people.Not for everyone, but there is definitely a group of people who doesn't understand my specific challenges with it.► Links and Resources:Regulation in Isolation Episode: https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=dCqQr20jMrTEE2RKYou Can't Change Them Episode: https://youtu.be/JUu4MkLvrK4?si=AfBjjLIw7nAj8CDbSense of Self Article: https://www.healthline.com/health/sense-of-selfThe Four Points of Balance: https://jamesmchristensen.com/blog/david-schnarchs-four-points-of-balance ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro - Relationships Feel Emotionally OverwhelmingRelationships Feel Emotionally Overwhelming03:39 Why Your Relationships Feel Emotionally Overwhelming10:05 How To Feel Less Emotionally Overwhelmed In Relationships11:19 The Four Points Of Balance► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Emotions are just states that constantly change. No emotional state stays forever. Also emotions are survivable. This is what my therapist always said. You are not the emotions, which are the clouds, you are the sky that's always there, no matter which emotion arises.► Links and Resources:Polyvagal Theory Video:https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro - Inside the Emotional Storm01:43 Why Is The Emotional Storm So Powerful?03:59 Calming The Storm► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about why avoidant partners stonewall,what you can do if you feel you don't feel heard and seen for the thousand's time because they always go coldAnd on the flipside, what avoidants can do if they find themselves constantly stonewalling during vulnerable conversions.► Links and Resources:Avoidant Attachment Style Video:https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18Emotional Dysregulation Video: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BAHow to Resolve Relationship Conflict Like a Secure Person: https://youtu.be/PxiDnxXC2p8 Stonewalling Examples Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/coolguides/comments/1hw6a4a/a_cool_guide_on_stonewalling_and_how_to_deal_with/ The 4 Horsemen by Dr. John Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/ Stonewalling, Grey Rocking & Narcissism: https://sherrygaba.com/navigating-relationships-with-narcissists-stonewalling-vs-gray-rocking/ Adult survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx ⁠⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:47 What Is Stonewalling?03:21 Why Stonewalling Hurts Our Relationship05:06 Stonewalling Vs. Grey Rocking07:48 Stonewalling And Avoidant Attachment09:28 The Stonewalling Cycle13:55 Stonewalling And The Nervous System16:30 The Hidden Psychology Behind Stonewalling18:48 How To Deal With Stonewalling Like A Secure Person► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)Some of the things you call red flags might actually be the healthiest signs you've ever seen.If you grew up in a difficult environment where these following greenflags were not familiar or even dangerous, that's not surprising.Because when chaos was normal, when you got hurt, safety can feel wrong.Calm feels boring. Consistency suspicious. And closeness can feel dangerous.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 7 Dating Red Flags, That Are Actually Green00:33 1. They Don't Always Respond Right Away02:40 2. They're Not Very Active on Social Media04:12 3. They Have Close Friends of the Opposite Sex05:59 4. They Value Their Own Space and Independence07:50 5. They Say What They Think Directly09:48 6. They're Genuine, Not Constantly Charismatic11:38 7. They Don't Always Make You Feel Comfortable13:37 From Red To Green16:00 Final Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about 7 Trauma-Driven Green Flags, That Are Actually RedYou might think you've found the one — they're kind, attentive, emotionally open… But what if those ‘green flags' are actually coming from unresolved trauma?Therefore today, I'll walk you through 7 behaviors that look like emotional maturity or even love but are secretly warning signs rooted in anxious attachment, fawning, codependency, or toxic shame.If you're someone healing from CPTSD, this might just change how you see "healthy" relationships forever.► Links and Resources:The Secret To STOP Fighting in Your Relationships: https://youtu.be/dF2QYyxqJjMSpiritual Bypassing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiritual_bypass ⁠► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:11 Flag 1: They Always Want To Be With You05:46 Flag 2: They Never Get Mad At You12:10 Flag 3: They Open Up About Everything On The First Date16:42 Flag 4: They Always Put You First19:00 Flag 5: They See You As Their Entire World21:39 Flag 6: They Communicate So Well During Conflict, But Nothing Ever Changes25:22 Flag 7: They're Obsessed With “Healing” ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)In this video, I explore attachment styles, how to identify a secure partner, and the dynamics of trauma bonding.► Links and Resources:Fear of Commitment Video: https://youtu.be/SUECZtfGkEM?si=mKymbK-Sh2jeFVD1Chaotic Attachment Video: https://youtu.be/-BFW7lVd8Yk?si=asZKMwEpWoPtradmTrauma Bonding Article: https://www.sandstonecare.com/blog/trauma-bonding/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:13 Dating With CPTSD10:09 Dating With An Avoidant Attachment Style13:40 Dating With An Anxious Attachment Style16:17 Dating With A Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style18:43 Trauma Bondings In CPTSD Dating21:19 Why Secure Love Feels Boring24:05 Dating with a Secure Attachment Style27:01 How To Find a Secure Partner27:30 Step 1: Start To Reclaim Your Own Sense Of Self First30:15 Step 2: Continuously Shed A Light And Question Your Triggers31:39 Step 3: Start To Become A More Securely Attached Person Yourself34:08 Step 4: Date Like A Secure Person Would► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)There is a way to crush you pink glasses for someone now.But let me warn you up front: This way is not good advice, neither will it end your romantic obsession problems long term.Still, it works if you want to stop intrusive thought about someone instantly.The solution is: Get more options!Get another or even better - more surfaces for your projections of your fantasies aka limerent objects► Links and Resources:Limerence While in a Relationship: https://youtu.be/UOZLmQkBFMMChatGPT as Therapist Video: https://youtu.be/JRo6PgSiB3w?si=jX8TGEKH1q0LSFE_Detachment & Letting Go Video: https://youtu.be/WUJu3dVIUZ0?si=WhQ51parSClkzTSD► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:18 Way 5: Truly Want (Decide) To Move On07:50 Way 4: Use AI-Tools As A Neutral Mirror13:58 Way 3: Accept What It Means To Be Over Your L.O.16:11: Way 2: Understand What Your Inner Child Truly Needs (And Never Got)19:30 Way 1: Be Prepared To Sit On A 3-Legged Chair (Get A Life)20:56 Pillars Of Stability/Leg 1: Health22:02 Leg 2: Wealth/Work22:42 Leg 3: Social Life24:00 Leg 4: Options25:13 Leg 5: Self-Worth► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠ ⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)You might believe that being in a happy marriage or relationship makes you immune to limerence.But still, I've read the following story about limerence while in a relationship in one or another version hundreds of times online.► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:21 Limerence While In A Relationship03:37 The Perspective Of The Partner05:42 Why Was She Risking Her Marriage?08:17 How Limerence Forms While In A Relationship13:31 What To Do?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠ (Ad)What is at the root of limerence, aka romantic obsession, aka love addiction? Ladies & Gentlemen, it is NOT just loneliness or a quirky crush.Therefore, today I'm taking you on a deep dive through the 10 layers beneath the surface down to the dark root of limerence.► Links and Resources:Self-Soothing Through Fantasies: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=yN_lWce2OJ57hmkaAnxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=PZijKMhWOOJiL2Tf Love Addiction Article: https://greymattersjournal.org/love-addiction/Basic Needs: https://blanchethouse.org/5-levels-of-human-needs/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ ⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:30 Level 1: The Obsessive Crush04:26 Level 2: Mixed Dating Signals06:54 Level 3: Dopamine Addiction & OCD08:46 Level 4: Unmet Emotional Needs11:41 Level 5: Projection: The Idealized Fantasy16:49 Level 6: Fear Of Rejection/Intimacy19:43 Level 7: Attachment Wounds21:28 Level 8: Childhood Trauma/Neglect23:19 Level 9: Low Self-Worth/Shame25:07 Level 10: Nervous System Dysregulation► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)► Links and Resources:Hypervigilance Episode: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=PDm6Sk9WuPx6Rjp4► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:25 What Does It Mean If You Don't Feel Seen?04:00 Introspective Perception08:40 Extrospective Perception10:00 Society & Culture11:30 Childhood & Relationships13:00 Love Languages19:00 How To Feel More Seen21:50 How To See Others MoreFinal Thoughts► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠https://understandable.net/⁠ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠ (Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about 10 signs it's a trauma bond and not real love.But I won't just throw these signs at you, I want you to truly understand the background psychology of a trauma bond.This is why I take you into the roller coaster relationship of Mary.We will see how a trauma-bonded relationship forms, how it builds up, and then slowly but gradually crashes into emotional suffering, codependency and addiction - sign by sign.Plus, in the end, we will also explore what real love actually might look like.► Links and Resources:Limerence Episode: https://youtu.be/mmNjDwdPwOA?si=kSFn2nNBgBf6Mx3kTrauma Bond Article: https://www.sandstonecare.com/blog/trauma-bonding/Codependency Series by Tim Fletcher: https://youtu.be/yesXC_ibRKE?si=r4JO6JGdscfuJU0c People Pleasing and Healthy Conflict Video: https://youtu.be/ZhExIeU3Bys?si=6pxiypHRDxaAldEW► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:48 What Is A Trauma Bond?04:40 Sign 1: The Honeymoon Phase (Love Bombing)06:44 Sign 2: Unwritten Rules08:52 Sign 3: Honesty Is Dangerous13:17 Sign 4: Gaslighting14:37 Sign 5: Double Standards15:46 Sign 6: Enmeshment And Codependency19:34 Sign 7: Cause For Pain, Source For Healing21:44 Sign 8: Emotional Responsibility24:00 Sign 9: Abuse Escalation29:15 Sign 10: Addiction (The Crash)31:19 What Is Love?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: https://understandable.net/ (Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: https://understandable.net/book/ (Ad)In this video I show you a live roleplay where I simulate a conflict with my “wife” and try to resolve it using Nonviolent communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg. I'm sharing this with you not because I'm so good in conflict resolution, but because I'm so bad in it. I was avoidant my whole life and I'm lacking this skill the most. I'm scared as hell of conflict and currently learning this skill I think this is one of the most important skills for relationships to learn.So maybe it saves your relationship or marriage and you don't have to run away anymore.► Links and Resources:Nonviolent Communication Book (Ad): https://amzn.to/4ohDQIh ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:00 Why DOESN'T Conflict Resolution Always Work Out Easily?04:10 How Relationship Fight Resolution Looks Like In Real Life05:45 Nonviolent Communication09:30 Live Roleplay18:40 Learnings From The Roleplay► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)⁠► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode!Here's the thing: We all hate conflict in our relationships.And it's these days when we fight with the person we love most, that hurt us and make us suffer the most.But what if there is a way to stop fighting in our relationships?Even prevent fights before they happen?In this episode, I will introduce you to an often forgotten approach to achieve exactly that: A relationship with less fighting & conflict.Plus, as a bonus, in the end of the video, I demonstrate this solution in a live roleplay with a Custom GPT I built.► Links and Resources:Video People Pleasing and How Conflict Heals Relationships: https://youtu.be/ZhExIeU3Bys?si=tU5VgGUQz2SaQJIK Article Michael Lukas Moeller: https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Lukas_Moeller ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:56 Why We're Fighting04:00 The Toxic Fighting Cycle08:49 How A Healthy Relationship Looks Like13:15 Where The Disconnection Happens15:39 The Real, Mutual Talk17:41 “Zwiegespräch” Dialogue20:50 Nonviolent Communication► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about a surprisingly simple technique to resolve conflict like a secure person.We explore why we fight and how our attachment style is linked to that.But more importantly, I'll show you a simple technique that works to handle conflict like a secure person.And I demonstrate this solution in a live roleplay with a Custom GPT I built.► Links and Resources:Nonviolent Communication Book: https://amzn.to/4nu5b9Z *Ad► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:14 Why We Fight03:58 Conflict and Insecure Attachment11:55 Escalation Scale16:28 About The Technique16:44 Nonviolent Communication21:22 Live Roleplay30:46 Live Roleplay Results ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about 10 Signs That Immediately Tell You Someone Is a Covert Narcissist.Grandiose narcissists are often more obvious to spot, but there is another type that is more hidden.We talk about what covert narcissism is,10 signs how you can spot one that I ranked from most obvious to least obvious, and what to do if you identify one.► Links and Resources:HSP and Narcissists Episode: https://youtu.be/4iVbi9euL3k?si=TVaaPCU44ay8JH6FNarcissism Phenotypes Paper: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/40679663_Pathological_Narcissism_and_Narcissistic_Personality_Disorder ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:12 Covert Narcissism Vs. “Regular” Narcissism04:43 Sign 1: They Are Hypersensitive To Any Kind Of Criticism06:27 Sign 2: They Are Chronic Neurotics 07:44 Sign 3: They Are Anti-Social09:53 Sign 4: They Don't Want Others To Succeed11:08 Sign 5: They Are Far Up On The Spectrum Of Judging12:39 Sign 6: Aggression Comes Out Of The Backdoor14:56 Sign 7: The Play The Moral Victim17:09 Sign 8: They Strut Around But Don't Take The Risks19:24: Sign 9: Grandiosity Comes Out Of The Backdoor20:47 Sign 10: They Weaponize Your Insecurity23:02 What To Do, If You're In A Relationship With A Covert Narcissist? ► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today's episode, where we talk about 8 life areas to declutter to calm chaos & overwhelm and release emotional baggageIn the beginning we discuss the controversial if trauma is responsible for a lot of the clutter in our lifeAnd we explore in depth all of the 8 areas and come up with solutions to declutter► Links and Resources:Traumatic and stressful life events in hoarding article: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8312593/Hoarding and Trauma article: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2211364917301793 ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:46 Clutter And Trauma10:32 Household Clutter13:58 Time/Capacity Clutter16:23 Career Clutter19:04 Financial Clutter21:56 Physical Health Clutter25:16 Relationship Clutter28:24 Emotional Clutter36:05 Mental Clutter► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)While working with 4 different therapists in the past years, I've learned a ton of powerful self-care habits.Here are my top 7, ranked from least to most impact, to reclaim self-worth.But surprisingly, habits 6 and 7 are the simplest effective at the same time.► Links and Resources:Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/qqDURsvDZmM?si=iQdhxHnDYiQ_o4GS ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:33 Habit 1: Wordless Mirror-Work2:53 Habit 2: Re-Regulation Tools & Resources06:01 Habit 3: Express Needs08:31 Habit 4: Wear Clothes That Feel Like You09:59 Habit 5: Daily Boundary Check-In11:43 Habit 6: Use A Grounding Reminder App13:31 Habit 7: Set A Reminder For Your Sense Of Self► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)If your relationships look like this: One moment you're deeply connected — the next, you're pulling away and don't want any contact with that person.Or you have the feeling that you are somehow addicted and dependent on another person.This isn't just drama.But it's the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding — a pattern that's especially common if you grew up with chaos, neglect, or emotional unpredictability.In this video, we'll explore why love can feel like a roller coasterHow all this is linked to an anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment styleWhich role narcissistic abuse plays in all of thatand how to finally break free from the chaos… to master real, secure connection — even if you never saw that growing up.► Links and Resources:10 Signs of a Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=Hakj_BVayQasc134 Intermittent Reinforcement Article: https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-whyTrauma Bonding Video By Tim Fletcher: https://www.youtube.com/live/xIf4uJ94r3o?si=4C1KYflrBZs_dxtM► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:02 What is Trauma Bonding?04:33 How Childhood Trauma Creates This Pattern07:06 The Role of The Narcissist 09:47 Challenges in Breaking Free11:48 How To Rebuild Healthy Relationships After a Chaotic Childhood12:00 Step 1: Clarity For The Trauma-Bond13:05 Step 2: Get Away From Any Toxic Relationship13:53 Step 3: Understand What A "Healthy" Partner Is15:07 Step 4: Find The Right People For You Healing16:00 Step 5: Dance The Connection/Autonomy Dance► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

► Start Our Premium Course Trial: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Download the Free Workbook full of Re-Regulation Resources & Writing techniques: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/book/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)If you're on social media these days, everyone tells you the same thing: 'Just listen to your gut feeling.'But I want to say the opposite is true.Because what if your strongest intuition — your so-called gut feeling — is actually coming out of a past wound?This is true for everyone who experienced childhood trauma.In this video, I'll reveal to you 7 clear signs that it's trauma — not your intuition — speaking.My goal is that after this video you can tell for sure if it's your gut instinct speaking, or a past trauma reaction.Plus, I'll share some of the best tools, techniques, and strategies I've learned over four years of therapy to help you reconnect with your true gut instinct.► Links and Resources:Commitment Issues Video: https://youtu.be/SUECZtfGkEM?si=0NIn5fjYfkHL1SANSomatic Symptoms Video: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=gEKaF2NUR899j1mLHypervigilance Video: https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=B07c4KL8NprA8B-S Neuroception Article: https://khironclinics.com/blog/polyvagal-theory-neuroception-the-fundament-of-feeling/► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:00 Personal Story02:47 Real Gut Feeling: Location & Sensation Breakdown05:28 Why You Can't Trust Your Gut Feeling08:14 Sign 1: You Overthink And Expect The Worst, Even When Things Are Calm09:16 Sign 2: You Struggle To Trust People, Even If They've Never Hurt You10:52 Sign 3: You're Afraid They Might Leave, Even If Nothing's Wrong11:55 Sign 4: You Overreact To Small Things, And It Feels Huge In The Moment12:46 Sign 5: You're Always On Alert, Even When There's No Visible Threat13:55 Sign 6: You Avoid People Or Places, And You're Not Sure Why15:44 Sign 7: You Feel Uneasy When Things Are Actually Calm17:16 How To Reconnect With Your Real Intuition19:32 Tools, Skills & Resources For Regulating Trauma Responses► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.