I Have ADHD Podcast

Ever feel like your brain is a messy closet with the light off? In this episode, we flip the switch.I break down the simple but powerful practice of thought downloads—what they are (and aren't), why they're crucial for ADHD minds, and how they help you build self-awareness, emotional regulation, and clarity. This isn't journaling. It's not a productivity hack. It's mindfulness for your messy, magical brain.You'll learn:Why “thinking about your thinking” is hard with ADHD (and what to do about it)The difference between a brain dump and a thought downloadHow to start a thought download (even when you “don't know what to write”)Prompts to get you unstuck and curiousThe surprising way this 5-minute practice can change everythingGrab a pen. It's time to meet your mind.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

Buckle up, because this episode is a fast-paced, wide-ranging Q&A where I answer as many of your ADHD questions as I possibly can! These questions were submitted on Instagram, and I had the best time flying through them and sharing real, practical insights from my ADHD brain to yours.We cover everything from medication, motivation, and prioritization to emotional regulation, rejection, brain dumps, and massage-induced thought spirals (yep, really). If you've ever felt stuck, scattered, or simply curious about how other ADHD adults navigate life—this one's for you.It's a fun, casual, info-packed episode that touches on so many of the topics we all wrestle with—don't miss it.Some of the questions I answer:Tips for eating more during the day instead of binging at nightHow to “trick” your brain into being more drivenHow to gently educate your loved ones about ADHDHow to prioritize when you have a million ideasAnd lots more…This is a great episode to play while cleaning, driving, or walking—casual, quick, and totally relatable.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic GreensCozy Earth

Ever sat on the couch knowing you “should” do something… but just couldn't? Welcome to the ADHD task initiation struggle. It's real—and no, it's not laziness.In this episode, we dive into:What task initiation actually is (hint: it's an executive function)Why starting can feel impossible for ADHDers + AutisticsThe brain science behind motivation, dopamine, and urgencyEmotional blocks like fear, shame, and perfectionismSimple, ADHD-friendly tips to finally get moving (without needing willpower!)From micro-steps to dopamine rewards, we're breaking it all down so you can stop spiraling and start… well, starting.This Episode's Resources: The Ultimate Guide to ADHD and Task Initiation Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

Struggling to get organized? You're not broken — you're just an ADHDer with a real, overwhelmed brain.In this episode, we're ditching the shame spiral and unpacking why staying organized is so hard for ADHDers… and what actually helps. Spoiler alert: It's NOT more bins.If your home feels like a disaster zone, this one's for you. We'll talk about:Why executive dysfunction—not laziness—is the real culpritHow emotional regulation (not time management) is the secret key to organizingThe connection between trauma and clutterWhat Marie Kondo got right… and what she totally missedThe ADHD-friendly 3-pile system that actually worksHow to help your kids without losing your mindWhy decision fatigue is derailing your declutteringAnd how to redefine “organized enough” for your actual lifeThis episode is packed with practical strategies, permission slips, and empowering reminders that your messy house is not a moral failing.Listen now, take what resonates, and leave the guilt behind.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokCozy Earth

Feeling like you're stuck in survival mode? Can't keep up with the laundry, your inbox, or... your life? You're not alone—and you're not broken. This episode is the loving wake-up call (and gentle nudge) you didn't know you needed.We're breaking down what it really means to be low-, mid-, and high-functioning with ADHD—and why wherever you are on that scale is totally OK. This is your roadmap to rise, slowly but surely.✨ What we cover:Low vs. mid vs. high-functioning ADHDWhy meds matter (but aren't magic)The basics: water, sleep, movement, hygieneExercise = brain boost (science says so!)Journaling to calm the chaos

In this episode of the I Have ADHD podcast, I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Ari Tuckman to talk about one of the most layered and misunderstood topics in the ADHD world: productivity—and how it's tangled up in our relationships, our childhoods, and the expectations we carry from society.We dove deep into how our early experiences shape the way we function (or struggle to function) as adults with ADHD. So many of us grew up feeling like we were “too much” or “not enough,” and those messages often turn into people-pleasing patterns and unrealistic productivity standards that are so hard to shake.Ari and I explored what it really means to be productive—not based on hustle culture or external pressure—but in a way that feels aligned with our personal values, goals, and life circumstances. We also talked about how this plays out in relationships, and how important it is to communicate openly with our partners about what's going on beneath the surface.We touched on the emotional labor of living with ADHD, the frustration of not meeting expectations (especially our own), and the real need for self-compassion as we navigate personal growth. Because here's the truth: being in relationship with yourself—and with others—requires space for change, grace for the messiness, and a deep understanding that we're always evolving.This episode is for anyone who's ever felt like they're not measuring up, who's navigating the push-pull of productivity and self-worth, or who's simply trying to do the best they can with the brain they have. I hope it helps you feel seen, understood, and a little less alone in the process.Ari's website Buy Ari's book here Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

If you've ever felt like your struggles with ADHD make you "less than"—this one's a must-listen.We're diving deep into Shame Resilience Theory (thanks, Brené Brown!) and unpacking why ADHDers are especially vulnerable to toxic shame. Spoiler: It's NOT because you're lazy or broken (even if you've been made to feel that way).✨ We're covering:Why shame thrives in secrecy—and how to stop feeding it.The real reason ADHD tasks feel SO loaded with guilt and moral judgment.How shame travels in families (

Today we're talking emotional flexibility, why black-and-white thinking is holding you back, and how one tiny phrase (borrowed from parenting wisdom!) can radically change how you relate to yourself and others: “Two things can be true.”You'll also get:A cheat-code app for building emotional intelligence (perfect for ADHD brains)My spicy take on that viral New York Times ADHD article A heartfelt message for anyone struggling with a late diagnosis And yes… the spicy podcast review that called me racist and sexist against white men It's messy, it's honest, it's full of laughs and truth bombs. Basically, it's classic ADHD.Hit play now—because this episode might just change how you see yourself (and the world)Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

Rejection hurts—especially when you have ADHD. For years, the term Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) has helped many of us put language to that experience. But in this episode, I explain why I'm no longer using that term—and what I'm saying instead.We'll cover:What rejection sensitivity actually isWhy it makes total sense (and it's not a disorder)What's problematic about the term RSD...in my opinionWhat the research really says about rejection and ADHDHow trauma, therapy, coaching, and yes—medication—can all helpThis episode is validating, spicy, and rooted in both lived experience and science. Let's talk about rejection sensitivity in a way that empowers us to heal.Resources Mentioned:Journal of Pediatric Psychology study on ADHD and peer rejectionDr. Dodson's updated Additude article on RSDWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic GreensCozy Earth

In this episode of the I Have ADHD podcast, I have the absolute pleasure of sitting down with autism expert and clinician Dr. Robert Naseef to explore the deeply personal and complex relationship between autism and ADHD. Together, we reflect on the key differences between these two neurodivergent identities while celebrating the importance of self-acceptance and understanding.We also touch on AuDHD, the experience of having both ADHD and autism—a dual diagnosis that is more common than many people realize. We explore what it looks like in real life, how it can be misunderstood, and why recognition of this intersection is so important.Dr. Naseef shares his powerful journey as a father of a child with autism, and we talk about what it really means to support parents who are walking a similar path.Our conversation touches on the primary traits of autism, the unique social experiences of autistic adults, and why embracing neurodiversity is so essential.This episode is heartfelt, hopeful, and full of validation. Whether you're parenting a neurodivergent child or navigating your own neurodivergence, I hope you walk away feeling more connected, more informed, and more empowered.My non-speaking autistic son and "Rainman"Tariq NaseefA Humanistic Perspective on AutismDon't Mourn for UsUniquely Human PodcastWe are All On the Same SideIf My Son Could SpeakDon't Divide the Autism SpectrumReal Boys Cry

Think you know ADHD? Think again.In this solo episode, I'm breaking down 10 surprising truths about ADHD that most people (even professionals!) get wrong. From misunderstood symptoms to powerful treatment outcomes, we're going deep—but keeping it real, relatable, and research-backed.You'll learn:Why ADHD is one of the most treatable mental health conditionsThe truth about calling ADHD a “superpower”How support systems make all the differenceWhat messed-up sleep has to do with your symptoms Why rejection hits SO hard (and what to do about it)Why “just get organized” is the worst advice everAnd yes, the A-list celebrities who have ADHD tooWhether you're diagnosed, self-diagnosed, or ADHD-curious, this episode is packed with the insight, validation, and clarity you've been craving.Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokCozy Earth

Making and keeping friends as an adult with ADHD can be really hard. We tend to move fast—bonding quickly, oversharing early, and sometimes getting burned. In this episode, I'm sharing two powerful (and practical!) skills that can help you build friendships that feel safer, steadier, and more fulfilling: going slow and listening better.If you've ever felt like friendship is either all in or all out, this episode is your gentle reminder that connection doesn't have to be chaotic. You can take your time. You can build trust. You can listen—and be heard.

Friendship as an adult is hard—and when you have ADHD, it can feel almost impossible. The impulsivity, the overthinking, the struggle to set boundaries or trust your gut... it's a lot. But you can build strong, supportive friendships—and it starts with knowing what to look for (and what to avoid).In Part 1 of this two-part series, we're breaking down:Why friendships can be uniquely challenging for ADHDersHow to recognize red flags before you waste time on the wrong peopleWhat green flags to look for in a healthy, balanced friendshipHow to make new friends as an adult (without it feeling totally overwhelming)Why it's important to go slow and avoid the overshare/overinvest spiralYou'll walk away with a better understanding of what makes relationships feel safe and energizing—and how to stop settling for less than you deserve.

If you're parenting with ADHD, you already know—it's a lot. The meltdowns (sometimes yours), the forgotten school forms, the overstimulation, the guilt spiral after snapping at your kid… and then the vow to do better next time.In today's episode, we're talking about how to be a good enough parent, even when ADHD makes it hard. You'll learn the 5 essential building blocks every ADHD parent needs (hint: perfection is not one of them), and how to model one of the most powerful relationship skills there is: repair.Because here's the thing: ADHD brains mess up sometimes. We say the wrong thing, lose our cool, or zone out when our kid really needs us. That doesn't make you a bad parent. What matters most is what you do next—and this episode will show you how to turn those moments into meaningful connection.We'll also talk about:The heritability of ADHD (and what that means for your family)Why understanding your own ADHD is key to raising resilient kidsHow to ditch the guilt and embrace accountabilityWhat “good enough” parenting actually looks likeThe 5 R's that help ADHD parents build trust, connection, and confidenceYou don't need to be perfect—you just need to show up, own your mistakes, and keep trying. And guess what? That's exactly what your kid needs to see.Want more support on your parenting journey? Join the FOCUSED coaching membership—doors are open! 

Following through is hard enough when everything goes right—but what about when life happens? When motivation was there, the plan was solid, and then… BAM. A curveball knocks you off track. If you have ADHD, you know how hard it is to re-engage after a disruption. So how do you recover without spiraling into guilt and frustration?In this episode, I'm sharing practical strategies for getting back on track when life throws you off course—plus, what to do when you are the reason you didn't follow through. We'll also dig into fascinating research on why working out is literally harder for ADHDers (yep, science backs us up!) and answer a listener's question about emotional regulation. And don't miss it—I'm also giving you an amazing resource that will make follow-through so much easier.

Ever been so locked into a task that the world around you fades away? That's hyperfocus, one of the most misunderstood aspects of ADHD. Some call it a superpower—but is it really? In this episode of the I Have ADHD Podcast, I break down what hyperfocus actually is, how it impacts ADHDers, and why it's not the magical productivity hack some people think it is.What You'll Learn:Why hyperfocus looks like the opposite of ADHD but still causes major challengesThe hidden cost of hyperfocus (spoiler: neglecting responsibilities, basic needs, and loved ones)The dreaded hyperfocus hangover—why you crash after an intense sessionWhy hyperfocus can't be controlled or summoned at will—and why that mattersHow ADHD medication can help with self-regulation and balanceI also share a free resource that every ADHDer needs: "10 Things I Wish My Doctor Told Me When I Was Diagnosed with ADHD (But Didn't)." Grab it now! Additional Episode Recourses:ADHD Pharmacotherapy and Mortality in ADHDStudy FetchWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok

In this solo episode of the I Have ADHD podcast, we're covering a little bit of everything—because, let's be honest, ADHD brains thrive on variety!First up: BOREDOM. Ugh. It's uncomfortable, frustrating, and makes us want to do literally anything else. But here's the hard truth—boredom is the price we pay to get what we want out of life. If we want success, fulfillment, and progress toward our goals, we have to learn to sit with the discomfort instead of running from it. I break down exactly how to do that without self-sabotaging.Next up: romantic relationships. I answer a listener question about relationships and dive into how to navigate an ADHD + Neurotypical pairing. Finally, let's talk movement. We all know exercise is good for us, but did you know it can actually boost your brainpower? I break down a fascinating new study that shows just 30 minutes of exercise can significantly improve cognition for adults with ADHD. Yep, moving your body isn't just great for managing emotions—it can actually help you think more clearly, focus better, and get stuff done. Tune in to find out why this works and how to make it a part of your routine (even if motivation is a struggle).If you're ready for a mix of tough love, insight, and encouragement, hit play—this one's for you!Raising Kids, Raising Yourself: The Empowered ADHD Parenting CourseWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

Struggling to keep up at work with ADHD? Wondering if you should tell your boss?

In this must-listen episode, Dr. Marcy Caldwell joins us for a deep dive into the wild and sometimes frustrating world of ADHD. We're breaking down what ADHD really is (spoiler: it's NOT just about being distracted), why self-regulation is so tricky, and how masking can leave people feeling exhausted and unseen.Ever felt like you know what to do but just can't seem to do it? Yep, we go there. We also tackle the unique ways ADHD shows up in women, the surprising pain of boredom, and the myths that need to be busted ASAP. Plus, we explore what a late diagnosis means—especially for women who've spent years wondering, Is it just me? (It's not.)If you've ever wanted to understand ADHD on a deeper level—whether for yourself or someone you love—this conversation is packed with insights, real talk, and strategies to help ADHD brains thrive. Don't miss it!The Center for ADHD and ADDeptWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

In this raw and personal episode, I open up about my journey with alcohol dependency—how I struggled with moderation, what finally pushed me toward sobriety, and the surprising ways it transformed my ADHD experience. If you've ever wondered about the connection between ADHD and alcohol use, this is a conversation you won't want to miss.I also dive deep into Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)—what it is, how it shows up in kids (and adults!), and why traditional parenting strategies often backfire. I share what I've learned from my own experiences and offer a fresh perspective on supporting kids with PDA by understanding their nervous system and need for autonomy.Plus, we're tackling some big, often-ignored topics:

Y'ALL. This is wild. I had the insane honor of speaking at SpaceX (yes, the rocket-launching SpaceX!!) about ADHD, and I have so much to tell you.In this episode, I'm sharing:✨ What it was like to speak at SpaceX (and why my ADHD brain almost short-circuited)✨ Your voicemails!—including how to actually support friends with ADHD and why boundaries might just save your sanity✨ The surprising genetic link between ADHD & dyslexia (who knew?!)✨ My current fave journaling resource and why it's a total game-changer for ADHD brainsIf you have ADHD (or love someone who does), you NEED to hear this episode. Grab a snack, get comfy, and let's dive in.

300th EPISODE, BABY!!!! Today, I'm sitting down with Maddie Novy, a teacher who also has ADHD, to talk about what it's really like to juggle the demands of a classroom while managing this unique brain.Maddie shares her story, including:Her personal ADHD journey and how she's handled medication ups and downs.The challenges of planning and problem-solving as an educator (spoiler: it's not easy!).How perfectionism has shown up in her work—and what she's doing to overcome it.The art of staying emotionally regulated while working with kids who are full of BIG feelings.If you're an educator with ADHD, or just curious about how to thrive in a challenging profession with this diagnosis, you're going to love this conversation. Maddie's insight and encouragement will leave you feeling seen and supported.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

It's just me today, y'all, and you know what that means—it's going to be a wild ride! Buckle up, because in this solo episode of the I Have ADHD Podcast, I'm diving into the juicy (and sometimes chaotic) topic of following through when you have ADHD. Spoiler alert: it's HARD. But don't worry, I've got some tips for you. I'm sharing my personal struggles, some real talk about why it's so tough for us ADHDers to follow through, and how we can start shifting that narrative. We're talking about:✨ Why having a clear vision matters.✨ How to find your “why” (because motivation doesn't just show up on its own).✨ The art of saying NO (and meaning it).✨ Emotional regulation—because meltdowns, anyone?It's just you, me, and my unfiltered ADHD brain on full display. There's laughter, honesty, a little oversharing, and—most importantly—practical tips you can actually use TODAY.If you've ever struggled with starting, finishing, or following through on literally anything, this episode is for you. Let's figure this out together. Press play now and enjoy the ride!Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

Ever feel like the world just doesn't get what's happening inside your brain? In this episode of the I Have ADHD Podcast, I sit down with my client and colleague Dr. Priyanka Rao, and we dive headfirst into the wild, twisty world of ADHD and autism—especially how it shows up in women.We're talking about the real stuff—like why it's so dang hard to get diagnosed, the silent battles happening behind the scenes, and why neurodiversity-affirming care is a game-changer (spoiler: it's life-changing). Dr. Rao opens up about her late-in-life diagnosis and lets us in on what she wished she knew sooner.Oh, and hormones? Yep, they're in the mix too. We cover how they mess with ADHD, the overlap with autism, and—most importantly—how you can speak up and advocate for yourself during assessments.I also unpack some heavy hitters: perfectionism (ugh), why self-diagnosis is totally valid, and how the mental health field needs to step it up when it comes to cultural competence and understanding neurodivergent brains.This episode is packed with insights, personal stories, and practical tips to help you feel seen, heard, and ready to take on the world (or at least that overdue to-do list).www.ashamh.comwww.asha-coaching.com@ashacoachHit play and let's get into it!Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok

In this episode, I sit down AGAIN with the amazing Dr. Jessica McCarthy to dive into the wild, messy, and beautiful world of parenting with ADHD. We're getting real about emotional regulation (for us and our kids), that constant dance between connection and control, and why making repairs with our kiddos is pure magic.We unpack the unique challenges ADHD parents face—like, why is parenting so dang hard sometimes?! Plus, we talk about how having some kind of framework (even if we ADHD-ify it) can be a lifesaver. Oh, and teaching emotional regulation to our kids? Yep, it's as hard as it sounds, but we've got thoughts on that too.There's also a lot of love for being flexible, giving yourself grace, and remembering that developmental appropriateness isn't just a buzzword – it's key to surviving the rollercoaster of parenting. If you've ever felt like you're screwing it all up, this episode is here to remind you that you're not alone—and you're probably doing better than you think.Grab your coffee (or hide in the pantry for a little break) and let's dive in!Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

THIS WEEK ONLY: Use code FOCUSED75 for $75 off your first month in FOCUSED! A few months ago, I shared an Instagram reel about the struggle ADHDers have when it comes to hearing, and THOUSANDS of you responded. If you relate to the phrase, "I can hear but I can't HEAR", you're going to get so much out of this episode! Today we're discussing the intersection of auditory processing issues and ADHD, emphasizing the common struggles faced by adults with ADHD in processing verbal information. Since this is a solo episode, we get into lots of other topics, too, but you know that means you gotta buckle up because a wild ride is about to be had by all! Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

Sign up for my free class HERE! In it, we'll dive into WHY your to-do list is broken, and how to fix it. I can't wait to see you there on Monday December 30!Today's episode dives into the challenges of follow-through and the impact that shame has on our ability to get the things done. I share with you own experiences of unfinished tasks, and one in particular that still plagues me to this day. Buckle up because this is a solo show which means it's a little unhinged and all over the map - just like every single one of us with ADHD!Watch this episode on YouTubWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

Today we're talking all things ADHD and procrastination. Longtime FOCUSED member and certified FOCUSED ADHD Coach, Steev, joins me to share his story and discuss the struggles he's faced as a late-diagnosed ADHDer. We dive into the challenges of procrastination, particularly in the context of ADHD. I've never met an ADHDer who didn't struggle with procrastination, so buckle up and let's go. Find more information about Steev on his website http://damnhealthydose.com/Watch this episode on YouTube to see us in our Eagles gear! Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

Dr. Nachi (Michael) Felt, Ph.D. is an ADHD & Executive Functioning specialist who has lectured at Yale University School of Medicine, and is a professor at Columbia University where he teaches Psychopathology and co-directs the Cognition and Neuroscience Research Lab. In this episode, Dr. Felt talks about the ADHD 'Cycle of Ambiguity,' and introduces his 'Felt Five' method for creating clarity and aligning with personal values.Learn more about Dr. Felt and his work at adhddoctor.org. Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok

Dr. Jessica McCarthy, a licensed clinical psychologist and neuropsychologist specializing in ADHD assessments is here to discuss the assessment process, the importance of finding the right clinician, and the steps involved in obtaining an ADHD diagnosis. Dr. McCarthy shares insights on how to navigate the often daunting assessment experience, emphasizing the need for a supportive and understanding environment. The conversation also touches on personal experiences with ADHD, the role of lifestyle in managing symptoms, and the importance of comprehensive testing to understand individual challenges. Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

I'm here today with FOCUSED member Matt Ciciarelli who lost his job as a Marketing Director in November of 2023 and has been navigating life for the last year as an unemployed father of 3. A few months ago Matt decided he needed to do whatever it took to help his family out financially, and he's been digging graves ever since. Matt shares his experiences from diagnosis to navigating family dynamics, employment challenges, and the impact of COVID-19 on his mental health. You're going to be so inspired by Matt's resolve and his determination to evolve into the man his wife and children need him to be. I am always impressed by my clients, and Matt is no exception. Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

MY HERO Dr. Tamara Rosier is here to discuss her new book, 'You, Me, and Our ADHD Family.' The conversation delves into the complexities of relationships within ADHD families, the challenges of rejection sensitivity, and the importance of understanding oneself to foster healthier connections. Dr. Rosier shares her insights on navigating family dynamics, the significance of cycle-breaking, and the distinction between safe and toxic relationships. The episode emphasizes the need for emotional regulation and transformational thinking in overcoming the struggles associated with ADHD. In this conversation, Kristen Carder explores the themes of survival versus transformational thinking, the importance of witnessing others' experiences, and the processes of reaching, repairing, and reconnecting within family dynamics, especially in the context of ADHD. She emphasizes the significance of understanding emotional boundaries and the journey of parenting, highlighting that it's never too late to make amends and grow from past experiences.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

Self-awareness is one of our deficient executive functioning skills and it can REALLY hold us ADHDers back if we're not careful. Feel like you make the same mistakes over and over? That's in part because of lack of self-awareness. Feel like you don't know yourself, who you are, and what you want? Yeah, that's because your self-awareness isn't great. In this episode, my client Joe Corpus is here to discuss his path to self-awareness and the crucial role that acceptance played in the process. Joe was diagnosed with ADHD as a child but told by his mother that he was "fine" and "didn't need medication." What ensued was decades of feeling disconnected from others, but mostly disconnected from himself. Joe shares his journey of developing self-awareness and how this can only be done with a hefty dose of self-acceptance. And the pathway? Well, you may not like it (I sure don't!): GRIEF. We talk about it all...you're going to feel so nurtured by this episode, I just know it. Joe Corpus is from Houston Texas. He owns a small, full-service gardening company dedicated to the stewardship of a limited number of high-end residential properties. Joe has been a part of FOCUSED for  10 months. He was diagnosed with ADHD approximately two years before the pandemic.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok

Liz Poggi went from what her doctor labeled as "the worst case of undiagnosed ADHD I've ever seen" to someone who helps people with ADHD achieve to their goals on a daily basis. Our discussion will address societal skepticism about ADHD and the clarity that a diagnosis brings. Together, Liz and I explore the role of medication, community support, and structured routines that incorporate mindfulness and movement to boost motivation. We'll tackle misconceptions linking ADHD with laziness and address the stigma of feeling unlovable due to past experiences.You're not going to want to miss this heartfelt episode! Follow Liz on Instagram - LizPoggiLiz's Website - LizPoggi.comWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

I've got another solo show for you this week and as always you're going to need to strap in for the ride! First: I'll explain the concept of living in survival mode and help you to work your way out of the dumpster fire that is your ADHD life. Then, I answer YOUR questions! We discuss how to transition smoothly between tasks and how to advocate for yourself. Have a question for me? Call 1.833.281.2343I AM SUPER EXCITED ABOUT THE RESOURCE OF THE WEEK - so make sure to tune into that around minute 38:00. We discuss this research on sunlight helping us sleep better, and lastly, I share what triggered me (hint: my Instagram comments). We end on a spicy note, as usual. Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

I've got a solo show for you today and you know what that means - buckle up because it's a rollercoaster of ADHD madness! In this episode, I explore how ADHD impacts long-term goal setting due to prioritization issues and working memory deficits. I share personal strategies that have worked for me, such as creating urgency and seeking external motivation. A recent change in Apple's download metrics inspired me to explore new avenues for my own long-term goals like YouTube and in-person episodes.Then we answer some of your call-in questions, I share some resources with you, and of course, we wrap it up with what triggered me this week. If you have ADHD or you think you might, join me for this action-packed show. And if you want my help with your ADHD, join FOCUSED!Watch this episode on YouTubeHave a question for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok

Dr. Robert Melillo is a clinician, professor, brain researcher, and best-selling author of the book Disconnected Kids. I think you'll find this conversation fascinating. Dr. Melillo challenges the conventional view of ADHD, presenting it not just as a biochemical imbalance, genetic, or underdeveloped prefrontal cortex, but as a developmental imbalance between the two hemispheres of the brain. During our conversation, Dr. Melillo breaks down the three subtypes of ADHD—inattentive, hyperactive-impulsive, and combined—linking them to different brain regions. We explore how the right hemisphere plays a crucial role in attention, while the left is more associated with hyperactivity and impulsivity. Our discussion touches on the intricate interplay within brain regions like the basal ganglia and prefrontal cortex, with a nod to the influence of environmental factors and epigenetics. We emphasize the importance of early childhood development and how retained primitive reflexes can impact neurodevelopment. Movement, as Dr. Melillo points out, is vital for brain growth. As we wrap up, Dr. Melillo highlights the importance of a comprehensive, personalized approach to enhancing brain function in adults with ADHD. By focusing on exercises and sensory activities, we can improve communication between brain hemispheres and address imbalances. This episode is one that might make you go, "HMMMMMM" - and I'm all for that. Enjoy! Watch this episode on YouTube Want help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok AG 1 by Athletic Greens

Psychologist, author, and ADHD expert Dr. Ari Tuckman is here to talk about the unique productivity challenges faced by adults with ADHD. Dr. Tuckman and I discuss how ADHD-related productivity issues go beyond typical procrastination and time management struggles. We cover effective management strategies like proper diagnosis, medication, education, coaching, therapy, and foundational self-care practices including sleep, diet, and exercise. Establishing routines and prioritizing tasks can significantly enhance productivity and reduce overwhelm.This episode is a treasure trove of knowledge for anyone navigating life with ADHD!Want more from Dr. Ari Tuckman? Check out his website!Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have a questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok

I'm trying out a new solo show style this week, and I hope you love it! I've got a bunch of fun segments for you: First, I tell you all about my trip to Oxford University for a conference on Trauma with some of the biggest names in the industry (Gabor Mate, Bessel van der Kolk, Richard Schwartz, etc). Traveling is always a mixed bag for me - exciting and exhausting, and we dive into it all Next, I share the resource of the week: The Brick Then I answer listener questions! We cover these 3 topics: How do I pack for travel as an ADHDer?Should I go to my estranged family's birthday party?How do I easily manage evening time with kids? (LOL)We dive into this research study about Adverse Childhood Experiences and ADHD. And lastly, I go on a spicy rant about how Dr. John Delony says that ADHD is "JUST" the body's response to chaos. Excuse me no. Get outta here with that. It's a wild ride today, I hope you enjoy! Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have a question for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok AG 1 by Athletic Greens

Psychotherapist Whitney Goodman is here today to talk about a crucial topic for many of us: navigating family-of-origin relationships as an adult with ADHD. We dive deep into the challenges and complexities neurodivergent individuals face within their families, especially during significant life transitions.Whitney and I discussed how poor communication skills can create friction within families, especially when parents are skeptical about ADHD diagnoses. We emphasized the importance of supportive parental responses and self-awareness for strengthening family bonds. Generational differences in emotional health awareness were another focal point, with older generations often suppressing feelings while younger ones advocate for open expression.The message is hopeful: personal growth can be a pathway to healing relationships.Whitney Goodman - Calling Home Watch this episode on YouTube Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram

This episode is personal for me. Over the past six months, I've explored the ADHDer's inner critic intensively, drawing insights from influential books like “Healing the Shame That Binds You,” “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving,” and “Rethinking Adult ADHD.” While the inner critic isn't a formal symptom of ADHD, it profoundly impacts those of us with the disorder.In this episode, we start by examining how negative self-talk, often rooted in childhood criticism and toxic relationships, affects adults with ADHD. This inner critic can lead to self-hate and hypervigilance, causing toxic shame and hindering personal growth. I share my own struggles with shame rumination and the challenge of cultivating a positive inner voice, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion.To combat negative self-talk, I suggest strategies like journaling, verbalizing criticisms, and using thought-stopping techniques. Recognizing and documenting positive aspects of life can foster a healthier self-perception. Additionally, support systems like trauma-informed therapy and specialized coaching programs play a vital role in managing the inner critic and associated shame.Managing the inner critic is challenging but achievable with the right strategies and support systems. Want my help? Join FOCUSED for an entire course with a step-by-step process on how ADHDers can quiet their inner critic. Here are the 2 studies I mention In the episode: Peer Functioning in Children with ADHDPeer victimization in children with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity DisorderHang out with me on Instagram Watch this episode on YouTube

In this episode we are diving deep into the world of adult ADHD, addressing common misconceptions, and highlighting the unique characteristics that make adult ADHD so distinct. I break down 10 of the symptoms of ADHD and explain in detail how they show up in your daily life. If you think you might have adult ADHD or you want a refresher on what it means to have ADHD, you're going to love this ep! Symptoms ListDiagnostic CriteriaCoaching for adults with ADHDCome hang out with me on Instagram

Meet my sister, Adrienne Himelright. In this episode, we dive deep into our shared experiences with ADHD and the all-too-familiar challenges of people-pleasing. Adrienne opens up about her struggles, including sharing a story where people-pleasing led her to drain her retirement account. Adrienne coaches people every single day on how to stop people-pleasing and in this episode, she shares a step-by-step process of how ADHDers can STOP people-pleasing. She even has a resource for you on her website Meet my sister, Adrienne Himelright. In this episode, we dive deep into our shared experiences with ADHD and the all-too-familiar challenges of people-pleasing. Adrienne opens up about her struggles, including sharing a story where people-pleasing led her to drain her retirement account. Adrienne coaches people every single day on how to stop people-pleasing and in this episode, she shares a step-by-step process of how ADHDers can STOP people-pleasing. She even has a resource for you on her website. Adrienne Himelright Coaching Find Adrienne on Instagram HERECome hang out with me on InstagramAthletic Greens by AG1.

Stacy Scott is a feng shui practitioner and decluttering expert who has so much wisdom to share about how our environments impact our self-concept and personal growth. You won't want to miss this transformative conversation! We delve into the influence of childhood experiences on adult behaviors related to clutter. Stacy shares insights on how chaos and even trauma from our early years can shape our relationship with our living spaces. She also touches on the pitfalls of striving for minimalism, cautioning that it can sometimes lead to neglecting our self-worth. The conversation takes a critical look at societal pressures, particularly on women and mothers, to maintain perfect homes. Instead of unrealistic expectations, Stacy advocates for support and understanding. For those of us with ADHD, maintaining morning routines and managing clutter can be incredibly challenging. Stacy offers practical advice and emphasizes the importance of addressing the shame and overwhelm that often accompany these struggles. We also critique the rigid norms of minimalism and cleanliness that society imposes on us. The takeaway? You're allowed to be messy! You can find Stacy Scott on Instagram, TikTok and YouTube!Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE. AG1 by Athletic Greens

Join me in welcoming my friend and colleague, Paula Engebretson! In this episode, we dive into productivity strategies, managing emails, and how tools like ChatGPT can make a difference in our daily lives. Paula's focus on productivity and my passion for personal growth blend perfectly in this engaging and insightful conversation.One of the highlights of our conversation is the practical advice Paula provides on email management. She breaks down different types of emails and offers strategies to keep your inbox clutter-free. From thought downloads to responding to emails from the bottom up, Paula's tips are game-changers. We also touch on the emotional complexities tied to unsubscribing and how grounding processes can help manage feelings of overwhelm and anxiety.We dive into additional strategies for managing deadlines and tasks, emphasizing the importance of setting realistic timelines and using techniques like “body doubling” for productivity. Paula introduces ChatGPT as a valuable tool for individuals with ADHD, aiding in communication, planning, and time management. I share how ChatGPT has enhanced my professional communication, helping me draft emails and create show notes from podcast transcripts. It's like having a supportive friend that aids in idea iteration and communication improvement.This episode is packed with resources for managing prioritization and productivity, including Paula's own “I'm Busy Being Awesome” podcast and various coaching options. Whether you're looking to improve your email management, understand your ADHD strengths, or find new tools to boost productivity, this episode has something for everyone.Podcast episode link: Episode 255: An ADHD ChatGPT GuideWorkbook: https://imbusybeingawesome.com/chatInstagram: ImbusybeingawesomeTikTok: ImbusybeingawesomeCome hang out with me on Instagram and TikTok! AG1 by Athletic Greens

I'm thrilled to share a deeply insightful conversation with my mentor, Africa Brooke. Africa's latest book, “The Third Perspective,” dives into the complex realms of self-sabotage and censorship, and in our discussion, we unpack the significance of moving beyond binary thinking in today's society.In this episode, Africa and I explore the evolutionary roots of societal pressures to conform and the vital importance of brave expression and embracing nuance, especially amidst the increasing intolerance we see around us. We delve into the personal challenges that come with non-conformity, particularly for those of us with ADHD or from dysfunctional backgrounds. Africa sheds light on the internal conflict between being authentic and staying safe, emphasizing how self-censorship in relationships often leads to deep dissatisfaction.One of the standout moments in our conversation is Africa's reflection on her open letter, “Why I'm Leaving the Cult of Wokeness,” which she penned during the pandemic. This letter critiques the intense societal pressures surrounding racial justice and public health debates, touching on the painful conflict between staying true to oneself and feeling like a traitor to others. We also tackle the implications of cancel culture and the paramount importance of authenticity over conformity.Africa and I discuss the intricacies of identity, activism, and the unique pressures faced by women online, particularly the phenomenon of “context collapse.” This is where our curated online personas can lead to misunderstandings. We advocate for acknowledging personal contradictions and fostering curiosity and awareness, especially for neurodivergent individuals who may struggle with black-and-white thinking.I hope you found this episode as enlightening and empowering as I did. Africa's insights are a powerful reminder of the importance of authenticity, bravery, and nuance in our lives. Why I'm Leaving the Cult of WokenessThe Third Perspective More about Africa BrookeHang out with Kristen on Instagram HERE. 

I'm celebrating my 20th wedding anniversary with my husband Greg by having him on the podcast today! We'll be diving into the ups and downs of our relationship, how we've navigated the challenges brought on by the early pandemic, and how we've grown individually and together over the past two decades. So, grab your favorite beverage, get cozy, and join us for an intimate conversation about love, life, and ADHD.We've both learned so much about compassion, communication, and the importance of accepting each other's flaws. We've grown a lot in managing conflicts and emotional regulation, and today, we're sharing some insights from a recent disagreement that actually showcased our improved conflict management skills.As parents of neurodivergent children, we've had to shift our expectations and communication strategies. Instead of trying to force habits, we've learned to accept our children's inherent traits, which has made a world of difference in our family dynamics.Greg and I also want to offer some advice for maintaining a successful marriage, especially when ADHD is part of the equation. We can't stress enough the importance of grace, mercy, apologizing, compromising, and making time for connection. Long-term partnerships are complex, but with proactive communication, mindfulness, and understanding each other's emotional experiences, they can also be incredibly rewarding.Come hang out with me on Instagram HEREAG1 by Athletic Greens

Dyslexia expert Natalie Brooks joins me today to dive deep into the interplay between ADHD and dyslexia, exploring the importance of recognizing multiple neurodiversities. Natalie shares her personal experiences with dyslexia and sheds light on its overlap with ADHD. Get ready for an enlightening conversation that uncovers the challenges and triumphs of living with multiple neurodivergencies.Natalie critiques common misconceptions about dyslexia, particularly the notion that dyslexic individuals are overly verbose yet struggle with clarity and editing. She contrasts her supportive educational journey, aided by a dedicated dyslexic unit, with her parents' negative experiences due to undiagnosed conditions.Obtaining a dyslexia diagnosis as an adult is another crucial topic we touch upon, acknowledging the financial and personal challenges it entails. Natalie emphasizes that while a formal diagnosis can provide exam accommodations, self-identification is often accepted in workplaces. She shares her own journey towards an ADHD diagnosis, highlighting the validation received from knowledgeable friends and the varying needs for recognition among individuals based on their past experiences.As we wrap up this insightful episode, Natalie and I emphasize the importance of confidence building and healing within supportive communities. We encourage you to connect with others facing similar struggles to foster self-acceptance and personal growth. Dyslexia In AdultsInstagram - dyslexia_in_adultsCome hang out with me on Instagram HERE

Andrea Ashley is the host of the Adult Child podcast. She's blazing the trail in recovering from addiction and Complex PTSD. Andrea and I dive into a heartfelt conversation about the intricate web of ADHD, trauma, dysfunctional families, and Complex PTSD. Andrea shares her powerful personal journey, from growing up in a dysfunctional family to her profound realizations about trauma and healing.Reflecting on her past, Andrea discusses her mother's alcoholism and how she was unfairly scapegoated within her family. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing deeper family issues and seeking help, explaining how accumulated experiences contribute to trauma, rather than just major events.We delve into the concept of Complex PTSD, childhood shaping beliefs, and the impact of emotional neglect on self-development. Andrea's healing journey is a central theme, highlighting inner child work, coping mechanisms, and the launch of her own podcast. She talks about dealing with abandonment wounds, self-care, and the challenges and growth involved in the healing process.We also touch on Andrea's struggles with phone addiction, attention span issues, and her ADHD diagnosis. She explains how social media and intense content preferences have impacted her addiction and shares her efforts to reduce shame by being open about her story. Andrea underscores the importance of community healing through support groups for childhood trauma and neurodivergence.I hope you find today's conversation with Andrea Ashley as enlightening and inspiring as I did. Her journey of self-discovery, healing, and growth is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. If you're dealing with similar issues, know that you're not alone and that seeking help can make all the difference. Don't forget to check out Andrea's podcast her community, The Shitshow. Are You An Adult Child? Laundry List of Adult Child BehaviorsToxic Family TestAdult Child PodcastAndrea's Shitshow Community

Scroll down for all links mentioned in today's show!For the longest time, I denied having any trauma, but through therapy and a ton of research, I've come to realize its significant impact on my life and my ADHD.In today's episode, I discuss what trauma is and provide definitions and resources, especially focusing on Complex PTSD and its links to ADHD. One of the key takeaways is understanding how our experiences and the way we handle them can shape our mental health. For example, proper support and validation can prevent traumatic outcomes, as highlighted by trauma expert Peter Levine.I also delve into various types of trauma and the importance of creating safe environments. This is particularly crucial for neurodivergent individuals like us, as unhealed emotional wounds can have profound effects on how we show up in the world. I even share a personal story about my son to illustrate how validation, support, and protection can prevent lasting trauma.A significant part of our conversation revolves around the ongoing debate about whether ADHD is caused by trauma or genetics. While unaddressed trauma can mimic ADHD symptoms, it's crucial to differentiate and understand both. We explore Complex PTSD and how emotional flashbacks can resemble the ADHD trait of emotional dysregulation. I also talk about the trauma responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and share my personal experiences, including how I've often suppressed my true self for safety.Finally, I recommend some fantastic resources such as books by Dr. Bruce Perry and Pete Walker, and even suggest trauma assessments. I can't emphasize enough the importance of seeking therapy with a trauma-informed therapist. Addressing our past wounds is essential for personal growth and overall well-being.This episode is a deep dive into a subject that's both personal and universal. Recognizing and addressing trauma can be a pivotal step in our journey with ADHD. Thank you for joining me in this exploration. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you through this. What Happened to YouComplex PTSD From Surviving to ThrivingThis book is also free with a Spotify subscription Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) Questionnaire Multidimensional ADHD Symptom ProfilesToxic Family Test 

In today's episode, I'm joined by the woman who trained ME as a coach, the incredible Sara Fisk. Sara helps people pleasers stop avoiding difficult conversations, and let me tell you, we GET INTO IT on this episode. From understanding ADHD symptoms in adulthood to dealing with perimenopause, this conversation covers it all. We also explore the concept of being an “ex good girl,” focusing on self-care and moving away from people-pleasing behaviors. Sara shares her reflections on her Mormon upbringing, achievements, and the challenges of moving from a rule-based system to making choices based on personal preferences. For both of us, our ADHD diagnoses clarified a lot of past behaviors related to rejection sensitivity and constant pleasing. This shift has allowed us to make decisions for our personal satisfaction rather than conforming to societal norms.Throughout our conversation, we delve into the importance of prioritizing personal values over seeking approval from others. We discuss how shame, anxiety, and fear can impact decision-making and the need to embrace our emotions. Sara's training in somatic experiencing and internal family systems has helped her redirect self-criticism and assert control over her decisions and emotions. We highlight the significance of building an internal dialogue, working with emotions, setting boundaries, and being assertive, especially for individuals with ADHD.We wrap up our conversation by emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance, authenticity, and navigating emotions with compassion. Sarah and I share our personal experiences of embracing vulnerability and finding strength through prioritizing our needs in relationships. It's been such a powerful discussion, and I hope you find it as enlightening as I did. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and there's a whole community here to support you.Get in touch with Sara Fisk Hang out with me on Instagram here!