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On this episode, we have a special guest, Ryan Roy, the President of CCM, Crisis Case Management. CCM, Founded in 2000, is a highly recognized complex behavioral consultancy whose behavioral health specialists have helped families and institutions navigate out of crisis and into long-term wellness. He dives into the experience, compassion, and coordination of CCM's team and how they empower their client's unique needs and provide them with the direction and referrals they need.
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The importance of dads being involved in the lives of kids! Ryan was abandoned by his father when he was only 5 years old. Ryan healed trauma and turned his greatest fear (parenting a child) into his biggest passion. Ryan's mission is to help all fathers become more involved in their children's lives. Ryan reaches dads through podcasting, speaking, coaching, writing, online events, and in-school programs If your audience includes parents, Ryan will inspire them and give them the tools they need to raise confident, secure, and children. Ryan believes parenting, when done right, makes every other aspect of life easier and more fulfilling. The importance of dads being involved in the lives of kids! https://www.facebook.com/watch/hashtag/dads?__eep__=6%2F&__tn__=*NK-R (#Dads) https://www.facebook.com/watch/hashtag/fbi?__eep__=6%2F&__tn__=*NK-R (#FBI) https://www.facebook.com/watch/hashtag/fathers?__eep__=6%2F&__tn__=*NK-R (#Fathers) https://www.facebook.com/watch/hashtag/fbidads?__eep__=6%2F&__tn__=*NK-R (#FBIDADS) https://www.facebook.com/watch/hashtag/ryanroy?__eep__=6%2F&__tn__=*NK-R (#RyanRoy) https://www.facebook.com/watch/hashtag/parenting?__eep__=6%2F&__tn__=*NK-R (#Parenting) See less
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On this Houston Sports Talk podcast, Round Rock Express voice Mike Capps joins Host Robert Land to talk about his new book ‘Grinders: Baseball's Intrepid Infantry'. Capps tells the stories of former Astros OF Jason Lane & 1B Deacon Jones. He talks about getting scouted by Red Murff, who discovered Nolan Ryan. Capps shares his favorite Nolan Ryan story, remembers Roy Oswalt's minor league days and tells about covering the police beat for Ch. 2 KPRC in the 70's.Subscribe on Youtube, Spotify, Google & Apple.Link to buy ‘Grinders: Baseball's Intrepid Infantry' - http://stoneycreekpublishing.com/grinders.html
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In today's episode, Ryan Roy shares the processes of launching a podcast and getting your first hundred downloads / listeners. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR The 5-step process in creating a podcast Why use social media to promote your podcast How to get a good launch in eight weeks How to build the following people that truly care RESOURCES/LINKS MENTIONED Anchor RSS.com Libsyn Buzzsprout Ep3: How To Launch A TOP Show - Free Course 3/6 ABOUT RYAN ROY Ryan Roy is a Husband, and father to 2 young boys. He is the Owner of Justify or Just Do It Coaching – Focusing on Accountability and Taking Action. He is the author of the Amazon Best Selling book Be The Dad You Wish You Had. His current project is FBI Dads – FBI Stands for Fathers Being Involved – a program that helps fathers have a deeper connection with their children. CONNECT WITH RYAN IG: @bethedadyouwishyouhad Website: FBI dads Podcast: FBI Dads CONNECT WITH US Thinking about creating and growing your own podcast but not sure where to start? Visit GrowYourShow.com and Schedule a call with Adam A. Adams!
Ryan was abandoned by his father when he was only 5 years old. Ryan healed trauma and turned his greatest fear (parenting a child) into his biggest passion. Ryan's mission is to help all fathers become more involved in their children's lives. Ryan reaches dads through podcasting, speaking, coaching, writing, online events, and in-school programs If your audience includes parents, Ryan will inspire them and give them the tools they need to raise confident, secure, and children. Ryan believes parenting, when done right, makes every other aspect of life easier and more fulfilling.
On today's show I'm speaking with Ryan Roy, leader of FBI Dads about how men can become more involved in their children's lives and schools. Men are often told there isn't interest in their participation at school, but that's not the reality Ryan has found. He shares his experiences, and great stories about FBI Dads and provides some great ideas for how us guys can become the heroes to our wives and children.Ryan is the leader of FBI Dads, and FBI means Fathers Being Involved. It's a comprehensive program that helps fathers to have a deeper connection with their children. He is the owner of Justify or Just Do It Coaching, focused on accountability and taking action, and is the author of the best selling book Be The Dad You Wish You Had, which you can find on Amazon. Questions Answered:What was your journey of growing up abandoned by your father to where you are today?Hoe have you healed from the past trauma of what happened with your father?Why and how should someone forgive a person who has hurt them in the past?What was the origin of FBI Dads and how has it become what it is today?How did you change the style of communication so men got exactly what they needed?What happens during an FBI Dads event?What is the benefit of a father reading in a classroom?Can you share a memorable story from one of your events?How does a man who is going through difficult times still be an effective leader?How can a man become a hero to his wife and kids in just 4 minutes a day?What's it like knowing you're building the next generation of great leaders?How can someone start an FBI Dads program at their local school?Important Links:Learn about FBI Dads here.Get the Dad's Daily 4, for free, here.Purchase Doug's book: Be the Dad you Wish You Had at Amazon here.THE FELLOWSHIP BROTHERHOODAn exclusive community of like-minded Christian men, who meet each week to learn, laugh, hold each other accountable, and walk through life together.Join this exclusive brotherhood here.THE BASECAMP EXPERIENCEFour days and three nights of life-changing and intense training for Christian men in the glorious mountains of Colorado.Apply for this Adventure here.Join the free Significant Man RECHARGE men's FB Group here.Subscribe to the Significant Man YouTube channel here. Connect directly with Warren here.Purchase Warren's books here.
Pacifico talks with better parenting advocate Ryan Roy about how to be the parent for your kids that you needed as a child.---Law, The Universe, And Everything is a show featuring leaders from the fields of law, business, sports, medicine, spirituality, music, marketing, entrepreneurship, cannabis, blockchain, and beyond. We talk about anything and everything as long as its interesting. No topic is off limits so it's a bit like Joe Rogan meets Tim Ferriss but the host has better hair. Law, The Universe, And Everything is a production of The Soldati Group. All opinions expressed by the host and podcast guests are solely their own opinions and do not reflect the opinions of The Soldati Group. This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only. These discussions do not constitute legal or investment advice.------Law, The Universe, And Everything is sponsored by Prosperitas, an animated video agency that can help you bring your company's ideas, values, products, and messages to life with the power of engaging videos. Whether you strive to win more customers, engage or educate your audience, Prosperitas will craft each video specifically targeted to fit your brand and vision. Visit ProsperitasAgency.com today to learn more and discover how Prosperitas can create the best videos your company has ever had to help increase conversion rates and drive more sales.---------Today's episode is brought to you by MarketingForAttorneys.com, which helps attorneys and law firms to clarify and upgrade their marketing and messaging to help grow their firms while reducing reliance on pay per click advertising. Visit MarketingForAttorneys.com to book your free consultation today.------Books MentionedBe The Dad You Wish You Had by Ryan Roy: https://amzn.to/3gszPkbThe King James Bible: https://amzn.to/35pBEIaHow to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie: https://amzn.to/3gteiYAThe expectant father by Armin Brott: https://amzn.to/3q19mgKHappiest baby on the block by Harvey Karp: https://amzn.to/3wzfjDW---Show Notes:00:00 Show Intro01:04 MarketingForAttorneys.com01:21 Guest Intro – Ryan Roy02:12 Interview Begins02:26 Overcoming childhood trauma06:15 The power of being present11:29 Dad's Daily Four16:07 The importance of fostering autonomy in children21:29 Breaking the cycle of violence in parenting humans23:55 Defining what type of parent you will be29:18 The importance of letting your children fail31:41 Ryan's favorite things about parenting33:56 Ryan's perspective on failure35:47 The best investments Ryan has made36:50 How to find mentors38:10 Ryan's billboard40:14 Ryan's book recommendations44:44 The kindest thing anyone has done for Ryan46:17 Show Outro
How was the episode last week? If you are a dad, did it resonate with you? If you are parenting with a dad, what takeaways did you get to apply into your relationship? Let me know! I would love to hear your comments. And for this week, we will be listening to the second installment of the Feature on Fathers Series. Dads, just like Moms, are human beings with fears and uncertainty in life.In this episode, I want you to know that you do not have to live in fear. We are here to support you and guide you every step of the way. And so to help us understand what Dads undergo and the fears that bind them, I have invited a new friend and colleague to talk about parenting as a Dad. His name is Ryan Roy. He is an accountability coach, a husband, and a father of two boys, ages nine and three. He is committed to being a better father and helps parents take action in making the changes they want in their lives.Ryan is heavily involved with his community and has created The FBI Dads (Fathers Being Involved) Program. For fathers and those who identify as one who wants to be involved in this, visit his website www.fbidads.com and join his Facebook community, FBI Dads (Fathers Being Involved). If you want to spend more time with your kids but you don't know how, get the "Dad's Daily 4". This is a free workbook for busy dads who have trouble finding extra time for their kiddos. DOWNLOAD IT HERE!He is also on Instagram @fbidads and Twitter @FBI_Dads. So, go ahead and follow him!Find show notes for this episode here: www.laurafroyen.com/podcast
How was the episode last week? If you are a dad, did it resonate with you? If you are parenting with a dad, what takeaways did you get to apply into your relationship? Let me know! I would love to hear your comments. And for this week, we will be listening to the second installment of the Feature on Fathers Series. Dads, just like Moms, are human beings with fears and uncertainty in life. In this episode, I want you to know that you do not have to live in fear. We are here to support you and guide you every step of the way. And so to help us understand what Dads undergo and the fears that bind them, I have invited a new friend and colleague to talk about parenting as a Dad. His name is Ryan Roy. He is an accountability coach, a husband, and a father of two boys, ages nine and three. He is committed to being a better father and helps parents take action in making the changes they want in their lives. Ryan is heavily involved with his community and has created The FBI Dads (Fathers Being Involved) Program. For fathers and those who identify as one who wants to be involved in this, visit his website www.fbidads.com and join his Facebook community, FBI Dads (Fathers Being Involved). If you want to spend more time with your kids but you don't know how, get the "Dad's Daily 4". This is a free workbook for busy dads who have trouble finding extra time for their kiddos. DOWNLOAD IT HERE! He is also on Instagram @fbidads and Twitter @FBI_Dads. So, go ahead and follow him! Find show notes for this episode here: www.laurafroyen.com/podcast
Fatherhood. The most important and impactful job a male will ever have in his life. Life Coach Ryan Roy strives to ensure men understand the role of being a father. If you are a parent, or are interested in becoming one in the future, this is a conversation that you do not want to miss. How to connect with Ryan: ryanroy.me bethedadyouwishyouhad.com/freebook fbidads.com Free 7 Day ‘Daily Four' Challenge: fbidads.com/kyle
It's Forgiveness Friday!!! Tune in to hear forgiveness stories from everyday people like you and me. We all have experiences of giving and receiving forgiveness. Sharing them can support someone else on their path to understanding forgiveness. *Forgiveness Stories may contain sensitive topics and language. Please monitor if you are susceptible to being triggered or listening with young people*THIS WEEK:Ryan Roy, founder of FBI Dads, (FATHERS BEING INVOLVED), shares his story of forgiving his father. If you would like to connect with Ryan please see the links below. Contact Ryan Roy;ryanroy.mebethedadyouwishyouhad.comfbidads.com fbidads2020@gmail.comStay Blessed and Remember... You too can be forgiven.Please Bless Us by leaving a 5 Star Review Buy The Forgiven Merch:Shop – The Forgiven PodcastVisit our Website:The Forgiven Podcast – Bible Scandals RetoldFollow Us On Instagram:https://instagram.com/theforgivenpodcast?igshid=15ol0f5dkwd49Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theforgiven)
In this episode Ryan Roy, author of Be The Dad You Wish You Had and founder of FBI Dads, joins me again to discuss breaking down generational barriers that can hinder our ability to be the best dads for our kids right now. We talk about forgiveness, positivity, and pushing beyond our past experiences. It's a great conversation. I hope you enjoy it! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/beingadadonpurpose/support
Ryan Roy is the leader of FBI Dads, a coach and author of Be the Dad You Wish You Had. Being a dad was the last thing he wanted to be and now he is thriving! He loves helping dads be involved. Have you ever been afraid of failing as a father? If your dad wasn't involved in your life, how could you be a meaningful part of your kids life? What type of guy is an FBI Dad and how can that help you be the dad you wish you had? Check out the weekly challenge at the end of the episode. The Daily 4 Download HERE Buy Ryan Roy's Book HERE Buy my wife's kids books HERE Join The Journey of a Christian Dad FB Community HERE
This episode features a conversation with my guest, Ryan Roy, who is the leader of an amazing movement called FBI Dads (Fathers Being Involved). Ryan opens up about his relationship with his father, and the way it continues to motivate him in his family and professional life. Ryan is the author of the book, "Be The Dad You Wish You Had", and it's available by clicking on the highlighted title of the book. This conversation is for any father wanting to get more involved with their children, but do not quite know how to get started. Thank you for joining us! You can listen to this episode and all previous episodes on MyZipStream for free!Theme MusicDreamweaver by Sound ForceFrom Premium BeatShow MusicLast But Not Least by Chelsea McGough New News by King PongInto The Dust by Jessie VillaFrom Soundstripe
In this interview, Ryan Roy discusses breaking down generational barriers, gives some insight into encouraging and expressing love to your kids, and much more. It's a great interview! BE THE DAD YOU WISH YOU HAD: fbidads.com/freebook DADS DAILY 4 -Just Say I Love You -Tell your kids you believe in them -Tell your kids you trust them -Tell your kids you are proud of them --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/beingadadonpurpose/support
In this episode we had best selling author Ryan Roy join us for a great conversation! He is man of faith, husband, father or two sons, coach, speaker, and author. There were many topics that we discussed on this episode and I know you will get something out of this one. Be sure to check out his contact information in the show notes for some great resources and some of them are free! Leonel Colón Facebook Account: https://www.facebook.com/leonelcolon Rebekah Colón Facebook Account: https://www.facebook.com/rebekahlc27 Ryan Roy's Contact Information: Coaching Services - justifyorjustdoit.com Free Copy of his book - Fbidads.com/freebook Dad's Daily Four - fbidads.com/leonel Podcasts and a slew of other things - bethedadsyouwlishyouhad.com Search "Parents Initiative" to follow our social media accounts on Facebook and Instagram. Like what you hear? Know of someone that could benefit from it? Do us a huge favor and share this podcast with others. Give it a review. Hit the subscribe button. Would like to have us present Parents Initiative at a local event? Contact us through our website. If you would like to support this ministry, you can click on the link provided: https://paypal.me/ParentsInitiative?locale.x=en_US
Ryan Roy is a Husband, and father to 2 young boys, ages 3 and 9. He is the Owner of Justify or Just Do It Coaching – Focusing on Accountability and Taking Action. He is the Author of the Amazon Best Selling book Be The Dad You Wish You Had His current project is FBI Dads – FBI Stands for Fathers Being Involved – It’s a program that helps fathers have a deeper connection with their children. Ryan's story is compelling and he is an example to all of us of what can be done with the right attitude and effort. He reminds us that genetics and environment are only influences in our lives and it is up to us to change our response to those influences. Take notes. The Bully Proof Classroom The Anti Bullying Premium Podcast Membership --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/james-burns5/message
As well as sharing his personal story, Ryan Roy has some extremely valuable encouragement and guidance for parents, especially dads. From being abandoned by his father when he was just five years of age to being a champion for hundreds of other fathers, Ryan's story is inspiring. http://bethedadyouwishyouhad.com/https://www.facebook.com/bethedadyouwishyouhad-2701537033209816 https://fbidads.com/ http://www.ryanroy.me/ (This transcript is intended as a guide only. It may not be 100% correct.) Emily Olsen Wherever there are shadows, there are people ready to kick out the darkness until it bleeds daylight. This is Bleeding Daylight with your host Rodney Olsen. Rodney Olsen Thanks for listening to this very important episode of Bleeding Daylight. As well as sharing his personal story, today’s guest has some extremely valuable encouragement and guidance for parents, especially dads. I am convinced that sharing this episode will be of great benefit to many families.Please subscribe to Bleeding Daylight and connect with us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. The struggles we face, the hurts we experience, will generally push us one of two ways. They can continue to harm and destroy us long after the events that initially caused us damage, or they can be the driver for transformation. Of course, even when we take the road of transformation, there's no guarantee that it will be easy or painless. Today's guest has not only seen transformation in his own life, he's actively empowering others towards transformation. Ryan Roy, welcome to Bleeding Daylight. Ryan Roy Hey, thank you so much, Rodney, for having me. I'm excited to be on the show today and share a little bit of my journey. Rodney Olsen The hurts in your life began so very early. What are your earliest memories? And how did they begin to shape you all that time ago? Ryan Roy Well, we jumped right in, didn't we? So you know, one of my earliest memories is when I was five years old. It was right before Christmas that year. It was the day that I realized that my father had abandoned me. I was laying in bed, my parents had been divorced. And I had spent the weeks with my father. And I admit I was spending a weekend with my mother. And because I was such a good kid. And it was right before Christmas. I was sharing with my mother what presents I wanted under her tree at her house and, and what presence that Santa was going to deliver at my dad's house. And in that moment, my mom said she had to share something with me. And what she shared is that I would no longer be going to my father's house. In that moment, she assured me that Santa would bring all the presents to her house. I think that was her way of comforting me at the time. Many years later, I did some personal development. And they asked me, What did I do in that moment? How did I react? And my response was, I believe I was just strong from my mother. That's no burden that any five year old should have to put on, we should never have to be at that age strong for our parents. So it was a very, I guess, challenging time and I grew up and I realized that through life. I've always tried to be really strong for others as I was at that five year old. So that challenge continues throughout life today, even though I'm very conscious of it. Rodney Olsen You weren't the only child in the family but there was a big age difference, I believe between you and your siblings. Ryan Roy Yeah, so I was it will get a little bit deeper into the story. But my mother gave birth to five children, but she had multiple marriages. So in and out of marriages, there was actually a total of 10 of us. And I was the baby of everybody and my next closest sibling in age was seven and a half years older than I. Rodney Olsen What was it like going forward from there, as you say your parents had already been divorced. But there's still this being brought up in that time of your mom being a single parent, I guess in and out of marriages. What did that mean for you as a child? Ryan Roy Oh, I guess it It created a level of instability, right finances were challenging. As my mom had five of us. You know, me being the youngest. She was at her last marriage. But there were still men that came in and out of her life. My siblings were older. They were experimenting with things that fortunately, I never experienced. But, you know, I watched my brothers get arrested. I remember hearing a conversation where my sister probably around 15 or 16 years old got rushed to the hospital because she was found drunk in a snowbank. I saw you know, my brothers and even my sister do drugs, smoke marijuana, snort cocaine. It's not not an environment, necessarily that you would ideally for a young man to grow up witnessing. I will say this though, my mother just worked really hard, and did the best she could. She wasn't part of that. Like my mother never drank a drink in her life never did a drug in her life. She did smoke cigarettes, but that was the extent of her use in any way. Rodney Olsen I'm always interested to find out when people discover that what they're experiencing is not normal. Because when we're immersed in it, that's all we know. So for you, this must have seen like, well, this is how everyone leaves. When did you realize it wasn't? Ryan Roy Yeah, you know, Rodney, that's a fantastic question. And thanks for asking it. I think at a young age we I grew up in in Connecticut, for those of you who are unfamiliar, Connecticut is in the northeast of the United States. And then we we moved when I was seven and a half years old down to South Florida, which is in the bottom southeastern portion of the United States about a 1500 mile difference. And at that point, I was in the third grade. And I started, you know, I think around that age third and fourth grade as children, we start to do sleepovers at other people's houses, and things of that nature. And I, I slept over a friend's house. And there wasn't the chaos. As as I will describe it today, there wasn't the in and out of people in and out of the house there there was there was structure. There was consistency. There was, you know, my mom worked long hours. So there was always food in the house, but I kind of had to fend for myself at a very young age. Mom was there. And she cooked us a meal and asked us what we wanted to do. And, and there was a bedtime, and there was a bath time. And I went back home. And I was like, well, that's not what I normally experience. So I think I would have to say around third or fourth grade, you know, 7, 8, 9 years old. Rodney Olsen Was that a sense of hope for you in knowing that things could be different? Or was it more a case of Well, that's how everyone else has got it. But this is how I'm stuck. Ryan Roy You know, another fantastic question. I think, as time went on it, I don't think in that moment, I thought it was a sense of hope but I realized there was another way. And if I were to find that, then it would probably be a better way of living. And I think it was a sense of hope. Because I knew there was another way of living that was, for lack of a better term more comfortable than the way I was living. And it was something that I could strive for, because I didn't just see it on television, right? I actually witnessed it. And it was just happening two blocks down the road at my friend's house, Rodney Olsen You say that you saw your siblings go through things that they shouldn't have been going through through dangerous and risky behavior. And you managed to stay out of that. What did you do in the place of that kind of behavior to to keep yourself away from it? Ryan Roy You must have done this once or twice, because these are actually really fantastic questions. I witnessed what it was doing to my mother at a young age. So as she was dealing with them going in and out of, you know, jail, or juvie, or detention centers, or whatever it may have been, or in and out of hospitals. I just I think she had a conversation, she goes, I hope you never do this to me. And I think that always stuck with me, if she didn't actually have that conversation. I had it with myself, I didn't want to hurt my mother the way they were hurting. So I always, again, trying to protect my mother didn't want to have that experience happen for her. So what I did, personally, is I dove into sports. Now again, my mom didn't put me in Little League or soccer or anything like that. But at school, I would show up to school early and a bunch of friends and I would play American football. for two hours before school even started. At lunch, we'd play football and after school, I would play football. And as I got older that led into I live really close to a beach, heading to the beach, a mile down the road and playing beach volleyball. Rodney Olsen I'm still wondering, though, for this young man that we're talking about who has experienced such a fractured life to this point. There's this sense of empathy that you have for your mother and you're not wanting to disappoint, I guess part of it is is wanting that acceptance and wanting that from your mom. But but it's an empathy that sounds like it goes beyond that. Where do you think that's come from? Ryan Roy Oh, my mom's a pretty amazing woman in a lot of ways, right? She has gone through a lot of hard things herself, and not not knowing that at that age. I think my mother, always even though it was extremely busy, always took the time to sit and talk. I feel as though what little time she had free. She actually spent teaching me really important life lessons. So when my siblings were going through some of that in and out of jail and things of that nature. I remember her at a very early age, you asked about my earliest memories. This is another early one probably right around that time, maybe five and a half, six years old, where she had a conversation with me about right and wrong. She says Listen, I've done my job. I taught you right from wrong. And there's consequences for actions in life. And I think it's because one of my brothers had just got arrested that week. And she was frustrated. And she just wanted to share this lesson with me. So she went through a series of questions. She goes, is this right or is this wrong? And she literally, I answered them all she goes, You answered every single one of those right? I've done my job. It's your choice. That when you make a choice to do something, whether it's right or wrong, you get to suffer the consequences and she actually went through She goes, listen, Ryan, you can do anything you want in life, as long as you're willing to suffer the consequences, both positive and negative. If she says, so if you were to kill somebody, what could happen? I was like, I guess you could go to jail for life? She goes, yes. So you can do that if you want to. She goes, I don't suggest it. But you can do it, knowing there's a consequence. I think I've always known about consequences based on that or even thought about consequences. So that helped me growing up, hey, do I want to do recreational drugs with my friends or not? There's a consequence to that. And I've seen what the consequences are that in my own family's life. And that's just one conversation I have with my mom, there's so many that she just sat with me, and taught me simple life lessons. So to me, that was her showing me love. But she took the time to give me that love, and frankly, wisdom. And I always wanted to respect her for it. Rodney Olsen And there's something incredibly empowering about choices and consequences, rather than just Oh, don't do that. No reason, when we start to understand that if she was empowering you even at that young age, Ryan Roy Absolutely. We could call it what it is. But as a as a believer, and a man of faith. I look back, and I feel as though I could have gone so many different directions in life. But I always feel like I had God's hand on my shoulder even though I didn't have a relationship with him. Early on in my life. As I look back, there's so many choices I could have made and we can say that, you know, mom gave me that wisdom but I think God gave her that wisdom to impart onto me. Rodney Olsen Where does life lead from here? You're into sports? And I imagine that you becoming quite good at it. Does that lead any way for you? Ryan Roy Yeah, absolutely. As as we described, it was kind of an escape for me. None of my siblings had ever gone to college. College wasn't something that was ever spoken of in my household. It was like, hey, you're going to go through school. Your job is to go through school. That's what mom knew in school was to graduate from high school. That was the expectation there were no further expectations. But because I drowned myself, in sport, I spent so many hours on a beach playing volleyball. I did get pretty good at it. And at some point, in my junior year in high school, I was offered a scholarship to play volleyball in college. And very unexpected. I remember when the scout came to the school to watch my teammate who is a senior play, how it's trimming up a little of emotion. I've never seen a coach. I got to play them. Excuse me. I have to play my best game because I want Josh to get this scholarship. Oh, I played my best game that day. Statistically, I was a setter. And I had I think my best game prior to that was like 23 assists. And I had 46 that that night. Josh had an incredible game. After the game coach went and sat with the the coach that came to scout him. Coach was a mentor of mine. We'd often get on the phone after a game, talk about the game talk about how we can improve. Talk about the upcoming opponent. And I said so as Josh could get scholarship. And he says yeah, goes but I have some good news for you. They want you too. A very pivotal point in my life. Rodney Olsen It's obviously very powerful when there's a man of influence who's putting their faith in you something that you've not had to this point in your life here. Absolutely. Ryan Roy And he was actually a friend of mine. He was much older than I he had gone to the same school. We hadn't attended school at the same time. And he was just four years older than I and he came to coach the volleyball team. I knew him from playing on the beach. And I trusted him to guide me right because I had no other guidance. So the camaraderie of playing on a team being needed wanted, and being a significant part of a team played a very instrumental role at that point in my life, because like I said, not only did it get me a scholarship, but prior to that, it gave me purpose. It gave me a reason to go to school because school was a place for me to go play football for whatever reason The academic part of it wasn't important. It wasn't stressed in my house right survival was more important. often say I was, you know, in survival mode I was worried about if I was going to come home to a house that had, you know, a VCR stolen and sold for drugs, or if another one of my brothers was being arrested, or if, you know, I didn't know what I was going into when I went home. So leaving for school early to play football and staying after school, late to play football, or go to the beach and play volleyball, was because I didn't really care to be at home, having a structure of once we got into high school, and there were structured sports in high school, and having a coach pour into me, and I'll share this, we actually won a championship. And being a focal point of that championship team, and then relying on me was a big why for me to show up to school because the academic portion wasn't difficult for me. It just wasn't much of interest to me. Rodney Olsen So you've learned what it's like to have people who believe in you who trusting you, who are helping you to put this structure in place. But I'm sure that there's still this yearning to connect with not just a father figure, but your father did you try and reach out to your dad? Ryan Roy Yeah, so going through school, graduating, getting a degree can get you multiple degrees, I got two degrees coming out of college, did a double major, getting my first job being much more successful than I thought I would be just a few years earlier, I had this yearning to share that with the man who created me, I can honestly say, even to this day, even with all the reflection, that I don't think I ever had the strong desire, prior to that point, to reach out to my father really know who he was. But at this point, I consider myself successful. And I wanted to share that with the person who created me, I had this thought of, wow, I'm a pretty amazing guy. And I've done a lot of good things, there has to be a man out there that created me that would want to know this. And that would want to be proud and say, Hey, I'm proud of you, son. So I knew my mother knew who he was. I knew she knew where he was. And I went to her and I said, Mom, I need to know. And I need to meet my dad. And I want and I'm gonna go do this. As I know where he is, and I know how to connect with him. I just want to give you an opportunity to share your side of the story because I've never asked, because I don't I want to give you that opportunity. So is there anything that I should know? And mom basically said, some superficial things, you know, didn't work out. And, you know, in what I do remember, because there wasn't anything significant in that conversation is her saying and tell him that he still owes me a couple years of child support. And my immediate thought was, oh, man, I thought to myself, I'm not gonna ask him to pay child support. That's what I'm not, I'm not going there for that. That's something you would have to do. Long story short, shortly after that, I go, I meet him. I sit in his living room. And we have a four hour discussion. And I think it was just my sales pitch of what a great person I had become. I showed him my accolades from school, I showed him my degrees, I showed him pictures of my big office overlooking downtown Miami. And then at the end of the conversation, and he just listened, and I thank him so much for this. I listened. He listened to me for all that time. And I said, and I just have one question. After all this, why did you not reach out? Why did you not want to be a part of my life? And he says, I don't want to bad mouth. Your mom. She's obviously done an amazing job as you're an amazing young man. But you asked me a good question. And I want to tell you my truth. As much as I would like for you to be my son. I don't believe that you are. And he gave me his reasons. And in that moment, Rodney, I think I was strong once again. And all I said to him, as I said, that's your belief in Are you willing to take a DNA test to prove it? Because I would like to know. And he agreed to do so. So we took a DNA test and six weeks later it came back. That's it He was not my father, which led to a lot of hurt and betrayal from mom and 10 years of a lot of anger as she didn't want to answer my questions. But as I brought it to her attention, she very nonchalantly once I got the DNA test back and told her that he wasn't my father, she very nonchalantly said, My biological father's name, which brought up even more anger, because I told you, I gave her that opportunity to share anything that I might need to know going in to meet the man on my birth certificates. You know, so I was hurt, anger felt betrayed. I had been what I felt is abandoned by my father at age five. Now I'm being betrayed by my mother, not a lot of answers over the next 10 years and I just like, like I did in high school, I buried myself in a career in work, and felt lost. Rodney Olsen I can't imagine how much that would have heard because there's this mom, who has always been there not always done the greatest job, but certainly always tried to do the greatest job. And to find at that point, that she had misled you towards who your father was, it must have been a deeper. Ryan Roy Yeah, absolutely. It was a deep hurt and a lot of anger. I'm one who likes to communicate, and I probably didn't communicate. as best I communicated as best I could, at the time with the hurt that I had. But there were a lot of letters asking for answers, or a lot of phone calls, or a lot of Mom, please explain to me what went on. Because I was just trying to figure it all out, and again, had this hole in my heart. So, so much so that I was in and out of relationships with women. And I almost vowed to myself subconsciously, that I was never going to have children of my own, simply because I didn't think that I wouldn't be a good father necessarily. I thought that I didn't have an example of what it looked like to be in a healthy relationship, I didn't know what that looked like, and feared that I wouldn't be able to stay in a relationship and therefore anyone I brought into the world may experience the same experience I had, and that is of a broken parent household. And I didn't want to bring somebody into that experience, knowing the hardships that it caused myself. Rodney Olsen You mentioned before that even at that point, you weren't a person of faith, but that you knew God was working in the background. And I strongly believe that God had something else in store for you because you weren't going to stay without a steady relationship or without steady children were you? Ryan Roy No, it wasn't and thank God for that. I told you, I buried myself in work and and I suffered some hardships in that as I didn't have a lot of guidance and mentorship. So although I became successful, in a lot of ways that people would consider success, a lot of money, cars, houses, it all fell apart in 2008. When the real estate collapse happened in the United States, I suffered a bankruptcy, as I had multiple properties as I was flipping real estate at the time, buying houses fixing up and selling them. And it was a low point in my life, because I was at least good at that. And I wasn't even good at that anymore. I was I told you I never really did drugs. I never drank. But for a six month period, I must say that I sat at a bar, wallowing in my own stuff. I didn't share with anybody what was going on in my life. At the end, it was six months knowing I had to file for bankruptcy and every last dollar dwindling on what bank accounts I had. And the credit cards knocking at the door in the debt just amounting to seven figures. I had a conversation with myself. And it's interesting because it was right before Christmas again, as the new year was about to roll around. And I had a conversation with myself at this point. I didn't have a relationship with God. But I said Ryan, this is not you. You know better you can do better. And sitting at a bar for way too many hours each day. And each night is not ever going to get you where you could go you're a fighter, you've always been a fighter. So on January one, my friend I was giving myself another week through the holidays to to get through this you are going to turn over a new leaf and become your old self again and stop this drinking foolishness that you're going through. I had that conversation with myself I believe it was December 23 on December 28. This bar I went to I'm an avid football fan as you not only did I play but I enjoy the game. So at this bar that I hung out They had a sports, it was a sports bar, I would go and watch the game there. And that day, my wife walked into that bar. And she was wearing my team's jersey, she happened to sit two stools down from me at the bar, and the person in between was an acquaintance of hers and an acquaintance of mine. I think God planted her in my life that day. Not only that, I told you, I gave you a date of January 1. January 1 was our first date, if you would, it was actually it's actually her birthday also. So it's pretty amazing. I believe our God has a sense of humor. And I think that day, he was chuckling just like you just did. Rodney Olsen That's a strong move, having the first date on her birthday. Well done for that. Ryan Roy Thank you. I was pretty aggressive and not shy. You know, I worked quickly, but uh, you know, I was still in a state of brokenness, I wasn't looking for a relationship, I don't think she was either. She had come out of a relationship recently herself, I had come out of a relationship six, seven months earlier, myself, I don't think either one of us were looking for that. And that was the beauty of this relationship. We weren't masking anything. We had really deep conversations about life, we had really deep conversations about what we thought we wanted in life from a partner, right? I think when we're younger, we talk about what we want. And I think as we grow older, and go through some relationships, we started understanding, there's certain things that we won't accept, or tolerate. And we create these real expectations of what it looks like to be in a relationship as opposed to these false like, oh, he has to be six to enhance them, for the girl. And you know, and for the guy like she has to be, you know, she has to laugh at every single one of my jokes and be really cute and, and whatever those expectations that people put on that are superficial when they're young, her things were, I need my man to respect me, my previous relationship. He wasn't abusive physically, but he was verbally, right, he spoke to her poorly. And she's like, I will not put up with that. For me. I just can't even pinpoint it now, because I don't know what those relationships look like. Because at this point, I have a 12 year successful relationship and a 10 year successful marriage. So I don't I don't even remember what a very unhealthy relationship looks like. Because it's very much a part of my past. And I thank God for that. Rodney Olsen You're married and still you have in the back of your mind that you don't necessarily want children because you don't want to see those same mistakes repeated. Ryan Roy Yeah. So I'll tell you as it started getting serious with my wife and I, as we started realizing we were falling in love she she wanted to have a very serious conversation with me. And she says to me, one day, she says, Well, how do you feel about having children? And like any smart man, I asked the question, Well, how do you feel because I knew how I felt right? It was one of my biggest fears to have children. And she says, Well, if it's a deal breaker for you, I need to share this because the doctors told me as I had an ovarian cyst at one point in my life, that there's a 5% chance that I would ever be able to bear children only a 5% chance. Internally, Rodney, I did a fist pump. I think I did a backflip I probably had the biggest grin on my face internally, I showed my poker face and at that point, because I'm falling in love with a woman that will never have the ability in my mind. For me to face my greatest fear. Not going to have to have children. We love to travel. We're having a great time together. She has a solid foundation, her career. I'm going through a little bit of turmoil, but I know I'm going to get back on my feet. She's chosen to stop by my side as she knew all the challenges I was facing financially, and some of them emotionally Hause. Like, wow, this is great. I've hit the lottery. So I chose to marry her. She said yes. I chose to ask her. She said yes. And on our wedding night. She says what are we going to do about this kid thing? And in my mind, I'm like, well, you said you have a 5% chance. And I said to her, I said, let's just do we do, let's enjoy each other. Let's have fun. And whatever happens happens. And six weeks later, we conceived in our New Year's Eve that year 2010. Going into 2011, we got the pregnancy test back positive and I realized that I was about to be a father. And I was ecstatic. But that fear was still there. And that fear turned into a positive. And I said not only am I going to be fully present, but I'm going to make the choice to be a dad that I wish I had, I just define that as being fully present. Rodney Olsen And so that's the the track that you're wanting to be on, I guess there's still some nervousness. But at least you've decided within yourself, things are going to be different, you're going to be the dad that you wish that you had had. So how did that turn out? Ryan Roy Well, thus far, I like to think I'm doing a pretty good job. And I'll share a quick story of my nine year old as I have two boys now, both of them are absolutely amazing. They're the loves of my life, being a father is one of the greatest gifts God could have ever given me. And I'm so grateful for it, because it allows me to live, relive my childhood, in a lot of ways through them, right, we get to play sports, we get to do things. But I get to see the joy in my boys, and it's not an escape for them. Right? When we just have conversations like my mom had with me, I hear a lot of my mom's wisdom come out of me. But it's in a completely safe space where they know that they're loved, they know that they're safe. And I think those are two of the most important things that any child can have, in order to have whatever they define as success as an adult. I'll tell you this quick story that my son shared with me just the other day, he has some friends that are dealing with some challenges. One of his best friends lost his mother two years ago to a massive heart attack, she was only 42 years old. So I can only imagine what that young man is going through being raised just by his father, and basically having witnessed his mother passing at, you know, seven years old when that happen. And because of that, I think he's out lashing towards my son a little bit. And I think there's a level of jealousy, right. And we we talked through that, you know, he's jealous. And we went through the reasons. And he said, I said, Does that make sense to you? hurt people hurt people, and he's hurt right now. And he's not doing it because he doesn't like you. I think he's actually doing it because he admires you. I said, so let's just sympathize and empathize with where he is. I'm not saying what he is doing is right. But do you ever have a sense of jealousy towards somebody else? He says, Why would I ever want to be somebody else? I love who I am. So that leads me to believe that I'm on the right path of whatever I'm doing as a parent. But how did I get there? I didn't have a father. I had a mother who worked long hours and did her best. There was food on the table. It was a roof over our head, there were some very intentional conversations. But that day to day, that moment to moment, I was there to guide myself. Or, as I like to put it, I watched what my brothers and sisters did, and vowed not to do that. Do you see a common theme there? And thank you for that in this interview, because I just discovered that for myself. I went to the experts. I read every magazine, there were actually a couple parenting podcasts that I listened to 910 years ago at this point, I asked my friends who I thought had a grasp on this parenting thing. Because they had children themselves. I actually went to Facebook and asked every single person on my Facebook that I went to high school with that had kids, I private message, every single one of them and I said if there was one nugget as a parent, you'd like to pass on, what would it be. And I got some golden nuggets out of that. I just researched what it looked like to be a good dad. And then I took what my gut said to be a good dad. And I formulated into being fully present, have schedule have structure, tell them and show them that you love them in so many other simple, simple, simple lessons that I try to use absolutely every day of this parenting journey. Rodney Olsen So all along, you're gathering this advice, you're putting these things into practice. And you're probably feeling Yeah, I'm doing okay, sense of nervousness, but I'm doing okay. But of course, you were abandoned by your father at the age of five. So as you're approaching your son's fifth birthday, Was there some extra nervousness there? Was there something special that that happened at that time, that let you know you're on the right track. Ryan Roy So approaching his fifth birthday, I had started talking to, unbeknownst to me a number of Christians just based on my, my profession, and surrounding myself and they were surrounding themselves with me. And one of my clients, a Christian. We're on a client call one day, and he says, Hey, Ryan, can I just ask you a personal question? I said, Sure. He goes, have you ever given yourself to the Lord? And I was like, I go, you know, we've been attending church. I'm trying to have a relationship. If I don't know what that looks like I said, if you mean going and getting baptized, you know, I haven't really done that. And he says, Have you ever said the Lord's Prayer? And I said, I don't think I have he goes, Well, if you don't think you have you probably haven't. He goes, let me ask you a few questions. So sure, he goes, do you believe that Jesus died on the cross? so that you could be forgiven for your sins? I said, Yeah, I believe that. He goes, do you believe that they they put them in a tomb, and he was there for three days was again, I believe that that's what it says in the Bible. You believe that he rose again? I said, I do. And he goes, do you believe that? He's here for your salvation and to guide you? I said, I do. He says, Well, do you want to say a prayer with me and accept Him into your heart? And I said, is that what I need to do? He goes, if you want to have eternal life, that's part of the process. I said, then let's do that. And we did it on the phone that day, and it just so happened to be August 30 2016. And my son's birthday is August 31. The amazing thing is years later, not even years, maybe months later, I was talking to my friend there, my client at the time and friend now. And we were reminiscing about that I said, You know, I didn't really realize that at the time. I didn't realize the impact that I didn't know what I was doing. He goes I know you didn't most people don't. I go but it was, as I went and looked at my journals, I said it was the day before Christian's fifth birthday. He goes, that is so amazing. He goes I gave myself to the Lord. The day before his youngest daughter's fifth birthday. Another God funny. I think he looks down on us. And he laughs He goes, Yeah, I have this all I have this plan. I'm orchestrating it. And yeah, it's just amazing. How if we really look how God shifts in our life, and how he works in her life, and if we really pay attention, that he's always there, Rodney Olsen You have taken the fears, you've taken the nervousness about parenting, and you've decided, Hey, there might be some others in the same boat. And so you've been making a difference for other dads in helping them to come to terms with what being a dad is about. Maybe you can tell us a little about that. Ryan Roy Yeah, so there's no coincidence, right? God has a plan. And I had just given myself to the Lord, my son had just started kindergarten. So he just entered school. They had a program at the school called fathers being involved. And I was super excited to be a part of this group. When I sign up for the mailing list, there weren't a lot of names on the list. But I thought my wife and I had just gotten to the school early as they had open house and and I waited patiently by my computer to wait for an email from this father's being involved group. They said there was a meeting, I showed up to the meeting. And it was just me and the guy who sent out the email. And I said, well, where are all the dads? And he says, you know, although it's called fathers being involved, it just doesn't seem like the dads want to be involved. And I knew in my heart of hearts, that was false, because I felt a certain way about that I wanted to be involved. I had been involved for the last five years. In everything my son didn't, I wasn't going to stop because there was a broken program at the school. So I decided to take over the FBI dads group, and I've grown it from me and that guy, to over 400 dads are on our mailing list. And pre COVID when we were doing in person events, we average over 155 dads showing up to a breakfast event, where we do an interactive lesson with the kids, we laugh, we joke, we scream, we yell, we eat a doughnut, we talk, we have the dads look into their kids eyes and tell them why they're proud of them. And it's just been a tremendous success, so much so that it's received some accolades. And there are people at the county and state level asking how we get this into more schools. Rodney Olsen I really believe that most dads want to do a good job, but they really don't know how. So here you are, you're starting to hand him the keys, what sort of a response you're getting back from, from both those dads and some of the kids Ryan Roy Well the dads. It's amazing because I get these emails that just say simple things like thank you so much. I know this has had a huge impact on my relationship with my daughter or my son. I've had responses or dads come up to me and say, you know, I didn't know where I fit in at the school. But I feel super comfortable coming to these events. And there's so much fun. The kids I hear through the dads but the kids often won't let the dads miss an FBI dad's event right and FBI stands for fathers being involved. Just hearing the stories of the dads saying like they won't let me go. From the counselors at the school and the teachers and the administration. They say they absolutely love seeing the hallways crowded with dads, what a great problem to have. Our biggest problem on an FBI dad's breakfast is opening the doors to the school early, and parking. Because the carpool line is just crazy that morning. And I see the Facebook feeds for the school that say, oh, it must be an FBI dad's breakfast for the moms and they say it in a positive way. Right. It's great to see so many dads flood the hallways, we're glad that we had such a positive impact. The test scores in the school have gone up, the camaraderie in the school has gone up. Not only do we have the dads come to breakfast, but we have the dads do reader days where after a breakfast we have the dads disperse into the classrooms and read to the kids. So to have 60 dads fill 60 classrooms and read has been a tremendous impact. And then a couple times a year, we get the dads to roll up their sleeves and do things that we absolutely love to do, which is you know, pressure cleaning school drop pine straw pull weeds. We're doing a project right now where we're we're rebuilding an outdoor stage at the school. And the dads really, really, really feel a part of the community of the school, not just dropping them off or picking him up occasionally at the carpool line. Rodney Olsen It's a remarkable response to this program that that you're implementing there along with others as well. And I've got to say, Ryan, that while your earthly father didn't want to walk the journey of life with you, I get the feeling that your heavenly Father is just continuing to smile. And he's filling that gap, although I'm sure there's still some pain there, that your heavenly Father is filling the gap that was left when your earthly father walked away is that the experience for you? Ryan Roy The experience for me, once I gave myself to the Lord and trusted and started to really have a relationship with Him through studying his words, getting in men's groups and understanding other men's experience with God and, and talking through that with them and, and surrounding myself with fellow Christians while still being a part of the world, so that I can impact with my story, those who may not have a relationship with God, the best way that I can describe it. And I wholeheartedly hope everybody has this experience when they choose to have a relationship with our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ is a sense of peace and that peace helped me define my purpose, because I was able to listen without distraction. And I believe God's purpose for me is to help heal the father child relationship here on Earth, while I'm here to really pour into that. And it's so simple. And I think men fear this so much, because we don't want to fail that things that a lot of men don't show up. Or they show up the way they believe society has told them to show up, like go earn a paycheck. And just like our Heavenly Father, and what you desire, and what I desire, and whatever little girl and every little boy and whatever adult on this planet desires is to be loved. Through actions and through words. And if we could just show up and have those simple conversations like my mom had with me, because I know my mother loved me, although she wasn't perfect. Because I know she poured into me because she said so. And she did so through her actions. I think just showing up and telling our kids like we do at an FBI dads breakfast, son, daughter, I am proud of you because in finish it that sentence, often for our children. And then follow that up with a I love you. Which is followed up with in many ways, words and actions, I believe in you. And I trust you. Because I think those are all the things that our heavenly father say to us every single day. And if, as parents, we could say those four things. I'm proud of you. I love you. I believe in you. And I trust you through your actions and words. I think the journey becomes a lot easier for you as a parent and for your child receiving that love. And I think that's what God's put me on this planet and that's what my purpose is to relay that message to as many people as I possibly can. Rodney Olsen Ryan I'm going to put some links in the show notes at bleeding guideline dotnet so that people can get in touch with you find out more about FBI dads or even to have a look at your book that you wrote about being the dad I wish I had. What's the easiest place for people to find you? Ryan Roy Yeah, the easiest way is just that bethedadyouwishyouhad.com that has my podcast that has pretty much anything you need. If you want to know more about FBI dads, you could go to FBIdads.com. Those are the two best ways to get hold of me, Rodney Olsen Ryan, it really has been a delight to talk to you to hear your story, to hear some of that pain, that very real pain that's there but to also hear the healing and the transformation and now the transformation that you're bringing into the lives of others. Thank you for spending some time on Bleeding Daylight today. Ryan Roy Thank you, Rodney for having me. Emily Olsen Thank you for listening to Bleeding Daylight. 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Are you empowering those around you, most importantly your kids? Many times, we limit our children, team members, or those we encounter to our expectations of them. In that the question arises, am I leading to be first or am I striving to be a servant leader? Let’s be honest, all of us, you included are leaders in some capacity. Are you sowing seeds of doubt in those you come-upon? OR Are you helping them build their success in their strengths?Coach Paul’s interview today is with a take-charge, trail-blazing leader that has many accolades in connecting and empowering dads with their children. One way he has done this is through expanding the astonishing FBI Dads program, not only in his own community, but for each and every one of us. This phenomenal man has also written the powerful book “Be the Dad You Wish You Had”, and is an astounding accountability coach. Ryan Roy is a lifelong leader that defines being a leader as one that shows up for themselves at a high level and does it for the right reasons. [08:25] Coach Paul asks Ryan the deep question of where his take-action leadership style came from. Join in now to hear the answer, get answers for some of your tough leadership questions, and get empowered with some of the enlightening antidotes Ryan has to share with you. For Ryan’s free book go to http://bethedadyouwishyouhad.com/ Ryan Roy’s contact info.:http://www.ryanroy.me/ https://fbidads.com/paulReach Coach Paul Ybarra:FREE DOWNLOAD: bit.ly/iamfreedownloadWEBSITE: www.setfreelife.netFACEBOOK: facebook.com/coachpaulybarra facebook.com/wakeupinthewordbit.ly/facebookwearecommunityIG: https://www.instagram.com/coach.paulybarra/YOUTUBE: bit.ly/recoverycoachyoutubeLIKE PAGE: https://www.facebook.com/coachscornerpodastEmail: identityofonecoaching@gmail.comWant to be interviewed? https://calendly.com/setfreelabproductions/record-podcast
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Ryan Roy is an accountability coach and he is the owner of Justify or Just Do It Coaching which serves clients from all over the world. Ryan is also a speaker and he hosts the podcast, Be the Dad You Wish You Had. He has also authored a book named after his podcast, and he is committed to being a better father and helping others through parenthood. Ryan is heavily involved with his community and builds others up through action plans rather than mere words and the desire to see the next generation thrive. Ryan is a husband and father of two boys, ages one and seven. In this episode… Being a parent is a challenging job but it can also be extremely rewarding. You may lose track of your child's favorite toy or sock, but the quality time you spend with them will far outweigh trivial shortcomings. Helping your child to pursue and develop their passion can open doors to countless possibilities in their lives. Ryan Roy, author and host of Be the Dad You Wish You Had podcast, was raised in a single-parent household. And he says that if there was one takeaway from his childhood that he really holds on to today, it was the importance of spending quality time with your kids and encouraging them to pursue their dreams. In this week's episode of Pencil Kings, Mitch Bowler talks with fellow podcaster and author of Be the Dad You Wish You Had, Ryan Roy. They discuss how parents can teach their kids to become better people, the importance of showing interest in the activities your child finds captivating, and how you can best support your child in pursuing his passion. Ryan also shares the value of spending time with kids and why it’s important to teach kids the value of process and passion early on. Stay tuned.
On today's episode I get a chance to talk with Ryan Roy, author of Be The Dad You Wish You Had, life coach, and the face of his school's FBI - Fathers Being Involved. We talk about about raising kids, being and having a great spouse, and living in a way that protects and preserves your goals as a parent. To learn more about Ryan's book go to bethedadyouwishyouhad.com
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Best Selling Author Ryan Roy tells his story of abandonment by his father and his conscious decision to navigate fatherhood from a place of connection, support and “pouring in” to his boys.Twitter – bethedadyouwishInstagram – bethedadyouwishyouhadFacebook – Be the dad you wish you had - private group www.Justifyorjustdoit.com – coachingwww.Bethedadyouwishyouhad.com – free book just pay shipping (hard copy)Ryan Roy is a Husband, and father to 2 young boys, ages 1 and 7. He is the Owner of Justify or Just Do It Coaching – Serving clients all over the world. He recently became an Amazon Best Selling Author of the book “Be The Dad You Wish You Had”. He just launched his Daily Podcast -” I don’t know JACK About parenting.” – That can be found on iTunes, Spotify, Google Podcasts And Anchor.He is offering a FREE copy of the book to our listeners at www.bethedadyouwishyouhad.com/aaron
Dr. Joe White is a nationally know, Author, speaker and business consultant. Joe has a true entrepreneurial spirit and it has allowed him to join the ranks of those entrepreneurs who can boast that they have never worked a 9 to 5 job throughout their adult life. His professional experience has quite varied Dr. White has sharpened his skills in several capacities. From serving as CEO and COO of million dollar companies, to speaking on stages across the country. In 2001 he started a real estate investment company buying and selling houses through out North Carolina. In 2005 he took to the stages across the country selling his Real Estate Course “How to Make 5,000 to 10,000 a month wholesaling real estate”. The course taught the successful strategies he learned and developed on buying and selling properties with little to no money down while running his company. During the 2005 lecture tour, he was asked to be the keynote speaker at the 2005 graduation of the Breakthrough Bible College in Temple Hills, Maryland. Where he was bestowed with an honorary Doctorate of Humane Letters during the graduation. Sault after for his advise and insight by business start ups, celebrates and large corporations. For over 20 years he has served the entrepreneur community. Launching events like The Triad Entrepreneur Pitch Tank the number one business event in the Triad area of NC, serving on boards such as Benaiah Holdings Group a OTC publicly traded venture capital firm and serving as the NC reparative for CEO Space International, the business conference ranked #1 in the world by Forbes and Inc. magazine as” the conference entrepreneurs can't afford to miss. Dr. White is also the co-author of The Best selling book Concrete Jungle Success Strategies for the Real World, which also features best selling author and star of the movie The Secret Bob Proctor. Dr. Joe White is currently avalible for business consulting, real estate investing coaching and speaking engagements nationally and internationally. With topics ranging from Business Strategy, Goal Setting, Real estate Investing and Entrepreneurship. To Book Dr. Joe White or get more information email admin@drjoewhite.com or visit www.drjoewhite.com Here's the Transcript of the Interview Hugh Ballou: Welcome, everybody. The Nonprofit Exchange is about goals today. I am attending a conference and have a little bit of noise in the background. While our guest today, Joe White, is speaking, I will be muting myself so there is no noise in the background. I have known Dr. Joe White for a number of years. He is an expert in real estate. He is also an expert in leadership and goal-setting, among other things. About a year or so ago, I asked him to participate in my Nonprofit Leadership Empowerment Symposium and teach the module on goal-setting. He was so good it was better than me doing it. I invited him to come on the Nonprofit Exchange and talk about goal-setting. Joe, we have shared one of your books, the anthology, but I believe you have a book that is more about goals. Feel free to talk about that book. Joe White, welcome to the Nonprofit Exchange. Joe: Thank you, Hugh. It is good to se you again. Hugh: We have our co-host Russell Dennis who is having some technical issues, but he will be on here to ask you some really hard questions later. He is streaming it live to Facebook. Dr. White, would you tell us about yourself, especially your background working with leaders and setting goals? Joe: Hugh, one of the things I always tell people that is unique about me is I am a person who has never had a job in my adult life. In not having a job or set occupation or set system, I pretty much had to figure out goals and systems and things like that at a very early age. What made me make that decision was when I had my first kid. I was thinking to myself without an college education, What can I do to mak sure my first daughter had the type of life I felt like she deserved? I knew entrepreneurship and business would be what I needed to do. I quickly started reading. I still to this day go through about four books a week. I study everything from business to entrepreneurship to real estate to religion to spirituality. I use all of that information and put it into different systems I use to help myself and my clients. I have been doing that since the age of 16, 17. I always had some way of making income that I would create myself just basically out of my head. I did real estate for a number of years. I took every course you could probably think of, every boot camp, workshop. Quickly made a million dollars in real estate. Switched from real estate to mental health for a while. Then I started doing speaking, consulting, and things like that, working with clients around the world, helping them be better in the areas of entrepreneurship and real estate investment. Hugh: That's more than I had previously known about you. Joe: It's something a little different. Hugh: Absolutely. That is why I invited you on today so we could learn some more about these different areas of expertise. Let's talk about this topic of goals. Everybody writes goals. Very few people accomplish goals. I wanted to hone in on this particular piece because I have seen you teach this before. Why have you gravitated to this as one of the topics that you teach? Joe: I think that one of the things I feel like I am known for is making things simple for entrepreneurs and businesspeople because every business has its own language. If you were to go to Spain or Mexico and you didn't speak Spanish, you couldn't get a lot accomplished. What I try to do is make things simple. One of the first steps I think everybody needs to learn is how to set proper goals: the foundation of which everything in your business and your life is built upon. I feel like that was the best place to start. I read Think and Grow Rich when I was 14 years old. I have been setting goals ever since. I always learn something new. I am constantly studying. It is not like I learned about goals then and I stopped. I constantly study it. What I did was simplified the major techniques of goal-setting so that the average person could understand. Hugh: I have seen you present a short lesson on this. Are you prepared to give us Joe White's overview of setting and achieving goals? Joe: I am. Hugh: Well, I am going to be all ears. I am going to listen for a little bit. Russell has been known to take notes and come back with a really hard question, so be prepared. Joe: I'm ready for you, Russ. So Hugh, what I will tell you is the system that I use for goal-setting, I call GPS. Just like you have a GPS in your car or on your phone, the purpose of the GPS is to guide you from one point to the destination you are looking to go to. I feel like GPS was the appropriate title for what I consider to be my goal-setting system. That stands for when I do that. When I say GPS, in this particular case, GPS stands for Goals, Purpose, Steps. Sometimes I interchange “system” with “steps” because sometimes we go through the steps, and sometimes we put a system in place in order to get what we actually need to get. What is a goal? It's something you want to achieve in your life, in your business, in your personal life, or wherever it is. Most people die within five years after retiring. The reason why they die is because if we are not growing, we are dying. If you lose your purpose for life, what I am saying is you are probably going to die shortly after. Now, some people, if they retire, they will switch to something else, whether it's taking care of their grandkids or going to another part-time job. But if we are not constantly working toward something, it's like there is no reason to live. Goals are that important to our life. What we focus on is what we get. That is why it's important to find things that we have to focus on for achievement. What really makes us happy—and it's hard to define happiness—is seeing progress. Something about progress in human beings makes us happy or feel fulfilled. If you think about it, why I say that, I'll give you an example. When we are growing up, most of the time in the house where we live, our mom would mark with a marker over your head how tall you were. You just couldn't wait every month to see if you had grown. I used to be that small, and now I'm this tall. I was three feet, and now I'm four feet. We would get happy or excited to see that we had grown an inch or two inches and see how tall we got. That was progression. That was a way of measuring progression. We didn't understand that was almost like goals because a lot of people will say, “I can't wait to get as tall as Dad or my brother.” We were really setting goals. We were using the notches on the door or on the wall as a way of measuring that and showing progression. That is basically what I'm talking about when I'm talking about GPS. Let's set a goal. Let's measure the goal. Let's put a system in place for getting that goal and knowing if we are on track or off track. The other thing that I love to tell people about is what's called goal alignment. This is what I really talked a lot about, Hugh, at your event. Most people understand the basics of goals. What they don't understand is there has to be a balance to goals. You just can't have a goal to make a million dollars and not have other goals. I will give you some examples and tell you what I'm talking about. I set goals in every major area of my life. Just like a car has to be aligned, if you drive a car and the car is not aligned, when you start to go fast, the car will start to shake. If you go off the road, you could crash. Something bad could happen because you are going fast and you haven't aligned the car. The same thing happens in our life when we don't align our goals. You have to set goals in all the major areas of your life, not just in the financial area or the weight loss area. You have to set goals in your physical area. The reason why that is important, and I will give you examples on how goal alignment works in each of those areas, is if I don't set a physical goal to exercise and take care of my health and go to the doctor and get checkups, if I am working on these financial goals and my business goals, and I get sick or have a heart attack or something else, all of those goals now crash. Then my #1 focus will have to be on my health, so I have to have health goals. In my spiritual life, I have to have spiritual goals because a lot of times that is where fulfillment comes in, that is where balance comes in. My family life: if I don't take care of my kids, there are so many people who are wealthy who have problems with their kids where their kids are on drugs or whatever is happening. The kids are getting in trouble. When that comes up, now you have to take your focus off the business and money and build those kids. They are in trouble because you didn't make taking care of your kids or teaching your kids part of your goals. Part of my goals are physical and spiritual and family and friends. I don't know about you, but I know we have all had a situation with a friend where we say, “I really need to call this person,” and then something happens. The friend passes, God forbid, and you feel really bad because you feel like you didn't call that friend or family member before they passed. We have to have goals in the friend area. We have to have goals in the spouse area. How many people do you know who have been successful in business, and then they get a divorce and lose it all or lose half or lose the focus? Now later on they are regretting it, “I am enjoying the money, but I wish I had a better relationship with my wife or my kids.” There has to be goals in every single area of your life. You have to look at where these different areas are, where these different roles and responsibilities lie. I am a father, I am a son, and I am a business owner. You have to set goals for each of those. If you don't, what happens is you are going to have a crash in another area that will take away from you achieving those goals. That is what goal alignment is, and that is why that balance is super important. A lot of people don't think about that when they think about goals. The next thing is the P. Do you have a question, Hugh? Hugh: This is good stuff. You got my attention when you said people die five years after they retire. That is why Russ and I never retire. We keep pushing the inevitable later and later. This is so good. People set goals without the realization of what is the benefit. How is it going to benefit me in my life? You talked about that a little bit. Go ahead. This is extremely valuable stuff. Before you end, I want to focus on personal goals and corporate goals. We are leading a charity, church, or synagogue, so those are organizational goals. Very often, we don't write personal goals. Then compare the two. Let me not interrupt you any more. This is really good stuff. They can comment. Russ, is your audio working yet? I don't know if his audio is working yet. Are you there? Russell Dennis: I'm going to try. Can you hear me again? Hugh: Yes. Glad you're here. Just know, Joe, that he is capturing sound bites in his brilliant way. He will have a chance to come back with questions. Russ, if it's okay, we'll let him finish his presentation part, and then I'd like to throw it to you for a few questions, if that works for you. Russell: That will work. Hugh: All right, Joe, go on. Joe: Those are called areas of management. Everybody has two main areas of management, which are the personal areas of management and your business areas of management. Each of those areas has to be aligned. You want to balance out your business area. What are the key elements in business that make you successful and set goals in those areas? What are the key elements you need for your personal life? Set goals in those areas. I used to think, I only need a business goal or a sales goal or a money goal. But I quickly learned I had to balance all those areas in business and personal. Going to the P in GPS, the P stands for purpose. It is your why. I can tell you about setting all these goals, but it doesn't make a difference if you don't have a why. The why is the gas in the tank of the car. It's what makes things go. If I tell you, “Don't touch the stove,” we would tell little kids not to touch the stove, the first thing they say is, “Why?” “Because it's hot.” Maybe they don't understand at first, but the moment they touch the stove, they quickly understand that it's hot. That is the motivation, the why. Why don't we run red lights? Why does everybody stop at a red light? Because you will get a ticket. That motivates us not to do it. We have to understand with anything we're doing what's our why. Why are we doing this? What feeling, reward, are we going to get from actually achieving that goal? That is going to be the motivation for us to act. If we don't understand that why, we often don't achieve the goal. One of the most average, normal goals that everyone wants to set is how to lose weight. The problem becomes a lot of times the why isn't strong enough. The why isn't more powerful than the ice cream sundae. Sometimes we have to do a deep dive within ourselves and figure out why we want it. Sometimes it's not important enough to us. We're okay with where we are. Sometimes people don't go after that goal. We definitely want to build a strong why. The S is Steps or System. If you remember before there was GPS, everyone would pretty much have a map. We would get these maps from the gas station. How we would gauge if we took a trip to Winston-Salem, where I live, to Orlando, Florida, where Hugh is now, is we would look at the map and see the different cities along the way. I would see in an hour and a half I would be in Charlotte. Then I'll be in Georgia. Then I'll be in Jacksonville. Then I'll be in Orlando. That was a way of us gauging we were going in the right direction. Sometimes when my GPS screws up and it sets me on the wrong road, it will reroute me back the right way. That happens to us sometimes, too, when we are doing goals. We start going the wrong direction, and we have to reroute ourselves to go back in the right direction. I'm saying all that to say if we have a goal to lose 30 pounds, we want to plan stops along the way. We want to say, “Okay, in one month I am going to lose ten pounds. Month two I am going to lose pounds. Month three I am going to lose ten pounds.” When we gauge or check, we know we are headed in the right direction. If we're not, we know we need to do something different. We need to exercise more or diet more or whatever it is we need to do. But that is just a way of gauging if we are going in the right direction. The other thing is systems. A lot of times you don't have to think of everything yourself. There are systems already in place created by other people that allow you to just plug and play. I am a big fan of systems. I listen to Dave Ramsay and use his budgeting system. There are different dieting systems. If you think about a company like McDonald's, every Big Mac at every McDonald's tastes the same way. That is because they have a system in place to make it the same no matter where you go. There are systems in every area of life that you can plug and play that will help you get the result you are looking for. Again, that goes back to that why. If you don't have a strong enough why, you don't move forward in the systems and actually do the things you are supposed to do. Questions, Russ? Russell: Good day. Thanks for joining us. Can you guys hear me okay? Hugh: We can. Russell: Excellent. I love the GPS. It's really a good direction. We rely on these for our cars. We rely on them to keep us going the way that we're going. It's important to put the right information in the GPS, so the why is really critical. How long have you been using the GPS system, and what sort of success have you had with the people you work with in explaining this system? It certainly sounds like something that people, once they hear about it, get. Joe: I have been using it for five years. I use it a lot of times on projects. I have a lot of clients I work with. Some are celebrity clients. I am working on projects, whether they are movies, television shows, major real estate projects, or projects for hedge funds. Pretty much, even though they are all big strategic projects, some are small or some are up to ten million, the premise is till the same. There is a goal they want at the end: if it is a movie, to get the movie made; if it's a TV show, to get the season filmed; if it is a real estate project, to raise the money in order to buy the land. It's the same process, GPS. I have used that process with major clients to regular people. Russell: Do you find that people who work with this system enjoy using it? Whether the results they have gotten using the GPS system as opposed to what they have tried before. Joe: What I find is that people like things they can relate to something else. What helps us understand something is when we can say, “Okay, this is sort of like this.” When you can say, “Okay, I get it because I can think of a map and destinations and directions. It's pretty simple.” The current project I am working on is for a large television show with a celebrity who has been on TV for years. We use the system for funding and getting the project done. We had great results and raised half a million dollars. I am using the system now with a former NBA player. He is raising five million dollars, and we have had great progress. We are still in the middle of it. I have used it for myself for years. I used it also on my kids. I don't tell my kids what to do anymore because they are all in college, but I coached them. This is one of the things I coached them on. What are your goals? What type of grade do you want to get in this class? How many hours do you ned to put in? How much do you need to study? What do you need to study in? Things of that nature. I am working on my daughter now who is taking the bar. We are using GPS to get her prepared for the bar. Her goal is to pass the bar and start to practice law. So far, we are having great success with her as well. Russell: The thing with this system that makes it so beautiful is that it's simple. But it can be deceptively simple because of the concept. Have you found people that stumble with it or just stumble grasping the simplicity of it and applying it to their goals? Joe: I think that goes back to that why piece. Most things to do with success are easy anyway. We all pretty much know what we need to do. If we need to lose weight, we know that we need to move more and eat less. What stops us from doing that is not having a strong enough why. You want something that you shouldn't have more than you want the results that you want. I don't think it's so hard; I think the discipline comes into anything you want to achieve. Anything you really want, there is an element of discipline. I always think about people who pray but never take any action. There is a funny story I heard about a woman who wanted to win the lottery. She would get up every single morning for a year and say, “God, please let me win the lottery today. I hope I win that million dollars.” She kept doing it for a year. By the end of the time, He said, “Listen, lady, I need some help. At least buy a ticket.” Often that's what I find a lot of people do. They don't buy a ticket. Russell: When people come to you, they probably have gotten to know who you are. When people come to you, where do they typically find themselves? Is a typical person that comes to you someone who is already a high performance person, or do you get people who are stuck personally and professionally looking for solutions? Joe: I think a lot of people find me when they have vision confusion. They have a vision of something they want, but it's almost like they don't know how to get it. I do believe a good coach doesn't really give you the answers, but a coach pulls the answers out of you that are already there but you just don't believe that those are the answers. With anybody I work with, from celebrities to my kids, I find they all have the same similar issues. They know the answers; you just have to pull them out of them. Russell: Okay. I think people have an inherent genius and they get blocked. You talked about the word “belief.” I think that's critical because I have had blockages. It's really a matter of what I believe would actually happen. So when you meet a person and they are in that place and it is clear to you that the belief is the problem, how do you approach getting them on track? Seeing the possibilities when they are stuck? Joe: I think that there is something I use called the power of questions. Anytime there is something wrong, pray first. Then if you sit down with a piece of yellow paper and write the numbers 1-50, I say to write 50 ways to make this happen. Let's look at the top three ways you come up with and read those top three ways every day. There is something, too, about the subconscious mind. That is when we go back to reading Think and Grow Rich. Normally I fall asleep with it playing on my audiobook, and I will wake up and play it again. Building that subconscious mind, that self-confidence, doing affirmations, redoing it every single day to build your confidence and faith in yourself, and then going back to those solutions that you know you should use and implement them. I was seeing something on Facebook the other day: Motivation gets you in the game; execution keeps you there. Russell: It is about executing. It is about taking action. For me, I have had to act my way out of these blockages more than anything else. Once you get somebody to believe, do you start on the small scale, or do you just say we are going to go into this at full speed? Do you start at a small scale and build small victories? Or does that approach vary from person to person? Joe: I think it varies from person to person because different people need different things. I have had celebrities that you would think would be much further ahead than the average person, and they really aren't. Everybody has different strengths and weaknesses. Most people do a SWAT. What are your strengths and weaknesses? We talk about that. We need to look at if we need to strengthen the strengths or the weaknesses first. That is normally where the first place I start is. Are you the right person to be doing certain things? There are some things you maybe shouldn't do. Maybe if you are bad at accounting or bad at money, instead of getting stronger at budgeting, maybe you need to bring in someone who is already strong at that, a CFO or something like that, to handle that particular issue. Everybody we deal with a little bit differently. Russell: Okay. I think it's probably better to work from your strengths. Sometimes we can burn a lot of energy working on weaknesses. Do you find that that is a big part of the roadblock? Too much focus on the weakness. Joe: Most definitely. Recently, I was doing a lot of studying on how to do Wordpress to do my own website development. I felt myself spending so much time on that. I said, “You know what? The time I am spending on trying to learn this, I could have hired somebody and been doing something that actually matters that makes me money.” It's not that it's not important, and I like to be able to update it; I've got that part. Some of the design, it's not a good use of my time to learn how to do all of that. I think we all have to look at what things we should remove from our day or remove that we don't do. There's something I call the time-money equation. Is this the time I'm spending off the money I will make doing the major things that I do? If it's not, I don't need to do it. That may be cleaning the house, cutting the grass, washing the car, whatever it is. The majority of our time needs to be spent on what h most important things for me to do to make progress. Russell: That's a good way to measure. Does the time spent actually pay for itself? Does it pay for itself? Everybody has got a little bit of a different value. Do you tend to move people toward monitoring value? Is it personal core values? How do you help people prioritize that cost and that value, that time spent? Joe: I think there are different currencies. Sometimes we only speak of money as currency. Time is a currency. Health is a currency. So I think we have to look at what the most important currency is. Do you want to free up your time so you can work on the other areas that we talked about with your goals, keeping that system in balance? Now I am going to stop doing the things that I'm not good at. I'm going to outsource them. I am going to focus on freeing up the currency that is time so I can spend it with my family, friends, wife, or whomever, so I can achieve the goals in those other areas we talked about that are important. There are all kinds of currencies. I don't want to think money is the only currency. Some people's goals are not to make lots of money; they want to make enough money to be comfortable but to have enough time to spend with their family and enjoy life. There is a balance we all have to find. Russell: I believe that people just don't have money for the sake of having money. What are the things that money are going to allow me to do? That might mean spending more time with family. That might mean vacationing. That might mean providing help or actually spending time working on a cause that is important to them. It's a little bit different for everyone, I believe. As a group, I know you work with people from many different walks of life. Do you find that people who are what I call difference-makers—my friend Wendy Lipton-Dibner says they are people with the heart space. They are either faith-based or working with a charity. Do you mind that these folks are more conflicted than folks that work in the corporate area, or are the problems universal, regardless of the type of profession a person takes on? Joe: I think they're universal. There may be the different currencies they are looking for. But I think it's universal what they're actually looking for. Some people in the heart space are looking to make a difference in as many lives as possible. Other people are looking to make money, and maybe they use that money to make a difference. It depends on the individual. Russell: How common is it when a person is sort of stuck professionally for it to be a personal heart space type of manner? Do you find that most of the blockages, regardless of what they are, can be traced to personal confusion or blockage? Joe: I think sometimes we want to repeat the same act but the show has moved on. What I mean by that is things change. When you look at commercials that have the ‘60s, ‘70s, ‘80s, and ‘90s, you will start to see a big change in fashion, but also the energy, how everybody looks. I think every ten years, the world changes. If you don't change in that ten-year space with the world, you will often get left behind. Then you're stuck because you're still trying to use what worked in that ten years in this ten years. I look at some of the changes that are coming up, and I see a lot of people who are stuck. We have a system where they are doing self-driving trucks. In the next six years, they are probably going to get rid of 60-70% of truck drivers. We get self-driving cars. We have screens on restaurants that are going to be taking orders. If you are still trying to drive a truck, and 70% of the work is gone, then of course you are going to be stuck. I think what happens to people that we are not adapting. One of the blogs I am working on writing right now is what would happen if you got fired today? It's one of the reasons I am really big on entrepreneurship and why I love working with entrepreneurs. There is not the job security that we used to have. So many jobs are going overseas, technology. I think that we have to adapt with the times. We have to always be growing. Going back to when we were talking about how when people don't grow, they die. I think that there are a lot of people I come across who haven't read a book since high school. They spend all their time either working or watching TV. Hugh: Russ, those are really good questions. I was going to encourage you to make them harder and harder. What Russ and I know to be true, and I have discovered this about Joe a while back, is that we in SynerVision—Russ is one of the WayFinders in SynerVision—reframe a consultant to be a WayFinder, but we also reframe strategies that aren't working. I would want to know from Joe a couple of things. Russ, maybe you had a couple more and I interrupted you. I'm sorry if you do. But may I ask two right here? Russell: Go for it. Hugh: It's piggybacking on what you are setting up so well. What are some of the things people do that are wrong that hurt them? What are some of the worst practices? You are giving us some best practices. What are some of the things that people should avoid doing? Russ, I will give it to you, and then you can take us out. We are in the last 15 minutes of the interview, so I will let you do a wrap, if you will. Joe: I would say number one is not being consistent. Sometimes you have the start/stop issue. They start something, they do it for a week or two, and they stop. If you start losing weight and working out, then you stop, of course your body will go back to where it was before, and then you are starting over. When they start over, they get discouraged or they can't find that same why that actually motivated them the first time. The other thing is to listen to people who don't have their best interest at heart. A lot of times, what happens is when you start to make progress in your life, that makes people around you who aren't making progress uncomfortable. If you can do it, then they have to look at themselves and say, “Why aren't I doing that?” It's much easier to stomp on your dreams or tell you you shouldn't be wasting your time losing weight than it is to actually do something themselves. I think that when we are starting to make change, we have to start to be friendly but not familiar. What I mean by that, even with family, sometimes we have to distance ourselves, or just show up at the Thanksgiving dinner but maybe in between that we don't talk as much because we are working on our goals. We don't need anything to taint that process or contaminate it. We need to stay focused on it and we need to stay consistent. Russell: Some people won't lift you up. It's hard to leave people behind. I think that's kind of a common problem. If I change, I am going to start losing people. That becomes a personal challenge that creates an inner conflict. One of our running jokes that I have with Hugh is that when I am standing in a room and I look up and realize that I'm the smartest guy in there, I run like hell and find myself another room because there is that disconnect. I know the work you do has a way to build accountability as part of that system. Do you find that a lot of people make commitments to others they don't make to themselves? In those instances, how do you help them work around that? Joe: I deal with that all the time. As a matter of fact, a coach is almost like a paid accountability partner. What I find a lot of people, and I'm guilty of this, too, is we will keep promises to others, but we won't keep them to ourselves. When you don't keep promises to yourself, that is actually what starts to kill your self-esteem and your confidence. Now you don't have confidence in your own word. If you kept breaking promises to your kids, eventually they won't believe what you say. If you do that to yourself on a constant basis, say I'm going to lose weight or I am going to make $10,000 and it doesn't happen over a period of time, you actually lose confidence in yourself. Whether you feel it or not, it's actually happening. What I believe you should do is either make a public declaration, like going on Facebook and saying I am going to do this by this time, because normally people will say something about it. Or you have an accountability partner who checks in with you once a week, and you tell them what you did toward your goal that week; maybe you do the same thing for them. Or you pay somebody to be accountable to. When I had a trainer, I felt like he was trying to kill me. I don't know if he had life insurance on me or what was going on. He would ask me every single week, “Let me see your food journal. What did you eat?” That accountability does help. Russell: I have an accountability coach. Wonderful guy. Hugh knows him. He has become a very good friend: Ryan Roy. The name of his business is Justify or Just Do It. His reasons are results. I think there is a level of comfort that comes from finding a reason why something didn't happen. Sometimes what we do doesn't work, but do you find that you come across a lot of people that would rather be in that comfort zone than actually really looking at results? Is excuse-making something that happens frequently? Joe: I think we all do that at times. We make an excuse as a way of keeping ourselves comfortable, but it's not getting us closer to our goals. I think that one of the reasons we have to measure constantly is when we measure something, there is no way we can deny that we are not getting results. The other thing is sometimes you have to come up with multiple ways of measuring. I go back to losing weight because it's something we can all relate to. I know I want to do it. But I realize that sometimes I would work out super hard, eat right for a whole week, and I wouldn't lose one single pound. What could happen is I would get discouraged, say this isn't working, and go eat the ice cream sundae. Then I start realizing, You know what? Maybe what I have to do is measure inches, too. I have to take a tape measure and measure the inches in the areas I want to lose because maybe I'm not losing pounds but inches of fat. Or maybe I'm gaining muscle. One of the things to prevent being discouraged or getting in the zone like feeling something isn't working is we have to find multiple ways to measure if we are making progress. There are multiple ways to see the growth. Russell: One of the things that Ryan has said to me is it took me a while to wrap my mind around the idea of celebrating small things. It doesn't matter how small. It's celebrate. That's what I like about your GPS system because you are talking about pulling things apart. That's what we try to advocate. Pull things apart. Take the larger goal. Pull it apart. Get smaller, more manageable. These little things add up to success. You get momentum. What are some of the ways that you help people build that momentum so that they are actually moving forward and are looking at things that can be measured? Joe: I think that any time you start a goal, you need a springboard. You need a way to have at least a small succession in a short period of time so the motivation stays high for you to continue. I go back to losing weight. It may be that you have a week where there is a cleanse or a fast. It's a little simpler to do, and it gets off three to four pounds. All of a sudden, you kickstart everything. When I am teaching real estate, I give my students a kickstart course, which is a simple course with four to five simple instructions that allows you to go out and see progress instantly so you are motivated to continue. Russell: That's it. Sometimes it's hard. We have to look back. That's the beauty and importance of making instant win. When somebody hasn't been doing things, they start working with you and they're not stuck, but you go a week and they are just on fire. You talk to them a few days or a week later, and they don't just have a list, they start off with a list of three things. The next time you talk to them they have War and Peace in front of them. How do you help them manage that process? Does it go from one thing to the extreme to the other? They're enthusiastic; you don't want to dampen that. But how do you reel that in as it were to keep somebody from overextending themselves? Joe: That's the catch. When we were first talking about GPS, we talked about setting goals in multiple areas of your life. They have to crash sometimes. Something happens in the personal life because you didn't set a goal in that area. All of a sudden, you can't focus on the business life. Or something is happening physically because you didn't set goals in that area. That is why those crashes come up. If you align, that doesn't happen as often. What I mean by that is if you think about a lot of pro athletes who didn't study finance, all of a sudden they get a contract with millions of dollars. Life starts to go fast, and now you see all those other issues. They didn't focus on their spirituality, so issues come up. They didn't focus on learning their financial piece about money, so now they start having money problems. When they leave the NBA or NFL, they're broke. They didn't align everything, so when life starts to go fast, a crash happens. We have to balance out all those areas in our life and set goals in those individual areas from financial to physical to spiritual to family to spouse to home to auto. When I have my system in place, I have home, auto, style, fashion, everything because there has to be a balance in there that all of these things are important to my life. If I neglect them, there will be a consequence at some point in time. That's the crash: the consequences from not actually balancing everything out. It's simple, but it's complicated. It's simple because all you have to do is sit down with a piece of paper and say, “What do I want in my physical life? What do I want my health to be like? What do I want my relationship with my creator to be like? What do I want my relationship to be like with my kids? Am I once a week going to take my kids on a date?” Sometimes couples do date night; what about your kids? Have a date night with your kids where you are going to take two hours once a week to spend with each kid because you are going to have two to three kids and not know them as individuals. You have to have that individual time as well. Or what about your spouse? After being in a relationship for so many years, you start to be more like roommates than lovers. There is no romance. That's because you didn't set a goal for that to happen. You didn't focus on that, so it didn't come to fruition. I saw Hugh on his birthday, and he was out on a date with his wife at a concert. Go, Hugh! That's GPS in the works. It worked. Keeping the juices going. Russell: I'm just wondering if he said to her, “Honey, you should probably drive because I've had a little bit. Because of my age and mental condition, I've forgotten my way to the theater.” She probably said, “Turn on the GPS.” Joe: That's probably exactly what happened. Hugh: My wife taught me harassment is a form of affection. I'm getting some of that now. Russell: I only torture people I love. Speaking of people that we love… What happened to me is I said I was going to do some things. Your family may hear some of these grand ideas and schemes and go, “Ah yeah, there he goes again.” There could be a little skepticism from those who are close to us. It's easy for a bachelor like me, but if you get somebody that is married and they have a family, sometimes that natural resistance that we have within ourselves, it comes from people around us. What are some ways you help people address that? That is very real. There is a lot of pressure with children, spouse, and other obligations. Joe: I believe every new ideal is born drowning. When you first come up with something in the first few minutes, the moment that you come up with it, it's best not to share it. It's better to fully develop it. Someone could say something negative, and it automatically starts to kill that dream because you haven't fully completed a vision. If you are going to share that idea, don't share it with anybody who is going to say something negative right away. Go to your support system. Go to your mastermind. Go to the people who are going to tell you how to make it happen, not the people who are going to tell you what could happen if you start to move in that way. I always believe if I come up with a great idea, I don't even want to share it. If I come up with a new book idea, there are certain people I am not going to share it with, except for a Hugh or a Russ who are going to say, “Joe, you should do this with that,” and they start pouring into that idea, breathing life into it, giving me positive feedback. Russell: That's important. Use the support systems that are available and keep it moving. Hugh? Hugh: I have a contrasting perspective on that. Sorry there are people being loud around me. My A of SMART goals is accountable. I find there is power in sharing it. I find motivation in like you said, Joe, when you write a goal and people go, “Let me connect you with some people. I can help you with that.” That is one powerful way of motivating ourselves with our goals, by sharing it. Another one is what Russ brought up, sharing it and people go, “You're going to do what?” I call that motivation. Watch me! There is a twist on that piece. I think you can win. We are coming up to our last five minutes here. Russ, do you have any more questions? Or do you want to let Joe do a final tip or piece of advice for people? Russell: There is a lot. I could spend all day asking questions. But I would really love for Joe to put a nice bow on it and talk to people because they face all of these doubts. As I said before, their system is deceptively simple in the concept of its intent. Taking that initial step, taking that initial step no matter how overwhelmed you are. I would love to have you talk to people about how they can do that, how they can fight that fear and move through that. Joe: Going through the system like you said is really simple. Figure out what you want in your goal. Hugh spoke briefly about SMART goals. You could easily, and I'll be happy to put a link up to a SMART goal sheet people can use. SMART goals is that the goal should be specific, measurable- What is the A, Hugh? I forgot. Hugh: Accountable. Joe: He said it before. Accountable. The goal should be realistic and time-sensitive. I will put up some SMART goal sheets on my website that you can use when setting your goals. I like to keep things simple, and that is why I came up with GPS. Know your goal, know why you want that goal, and know the steps to getting there. Simple steps. If it's five steps or ten steps, whatever the steps are. One of my goals is to help 100 people make $10,000 in real estate investing. To anyone who is on the actual podcast, if they will go to drjoewhite.com/freegift, I am going to put up the SMART goal sheets. I will give them a book on actual goal setting, and I will give them my free real estate kickstart course. That is quite a bit of stuff. Drjoewhite.com/freegift. They can have all of that stuff if they go there. Russell: I put that link up in the chat. That's great stuff. That's wonderful. Hugh: We'll make sure that link is in the notes for the podcast and on the page for the Nonprofit Exchange at thenonprofitexchange.org. We will put those links on that page. Russell: Yeah, I've got it in the chat here. This is wonderful stuff, Joe. I love your system. I am going to go have a look at that. Love to talk to you a little bit further. Joe: Most definitely, Russ. I am here to help anybody I can. I enjoy helping. I think service is super important. I want to serve and be a servant and help in any way I possibly can. We all have some things we want to achieve. We all want to be better. I would just say to everybody that now is the time. If not now, when? That is what I always ask people. Russell: Now is the time. Hugh? Hugh: Time is now. The time is now. Russ, those were really good questions. Joe, I teach goals, but like I said earlier in the broadcast, Joe did this module in my workshop in Raleigh. He did a better job than I do teaching my modules. I wanted to have him here to do that. When Russ does a module, he does a better job than me. One way I look really good is surround yourself better than you are, which is what Russ talked about earlier. Joe, thank you so much for being a guest today. Russ, thank you for being my co-host in this and crafting such great questions. Joe, we will put your information on the podcast and on the site. Thank you for the offer and the free gift for people. Joe: Thank you, Hugh. Have a great trip and a great time in Florida. Hugh: I'm loving it. Thank you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Tough Stuff – Episode 45 – Parenting Woes Hanz and Lisa with their special guest Ryan Roy talk about a few topics that you just may relate to. - Flu, Amtrak Autotrain - Solar Eclipse - Is Parenting Hard? - Taking time, “Me” time Join us in this episode and let us know your experiences on any of the topics we discussed as we would love to hear your feedback. You can find Ryan Roy at www.RyanRoy.me Lisa Bechtol at www.LisaBechtol.com Hanz Freller at www.HanzFreller.com Don't forget to check out The Tough Stuff Facebook page at www.facebook.com/thetoughstuff Thanks for listening and join us next time on the “The Tough Stuff.” #SaySomething #DontQuit #icare
The Tough Stuff – Episode 44 – Adventures Of Parenting Hanz and Lisa with their special guest Ryan Roy talk about a few topics that you just may relate too. - To Reveal or Not? - Love Is Spelled Time - Shout Outs Join us in this episode and let us know your experiences on any of the topics we discussed as we would love to hear your feedback. You can find Ryan Roy at www.RyanRoy.me You can find The Tough Stuff on Facebook at www.facebook.com/thetoughstuff , iTunes, Castbox, You can find Lisa Bechtol at www.LisaBechtol.com and Hanz Freller at www.HanzFreller.com Thanks for listening and join us next time on the “The Tough Stuff.” #SaySomething #DontQuit #icare
Abandonment Talking about the tough subjects, that need to be heard. On this episode, Hanz and Lisa along with guest Ryan Roy, Accountability Coach and owner of Justify or Just Do It Coaching will discuss their experiences of abandonment, from different perspectives. Abandonment can be a result of a traumatic experience from childhood, death of a family member, divorce and others areas that we will discuss. During this episode, we will explore some strategies that we used and may assist you in moving forward. Join us on our Facebook page www.facebook.com/thetoughstuff You can find Lisa Bechtol at www.LisaBechtol.com and Hanz Freller at www.HanzFreller.com Thanks for listening and join us next time on the “The Tough Stuff.” #SaySomething #DontQuit
Moving Millennials | Oxygen For A Generation Of Game-Changers
In our fourth conversation with this week’s Millennial Mentor, Andrew Sorlie, Andrew pulls back the curtain on the way he sets goals for himself and for Stature Films. Andrew is a huge believer in having incredibly specific goals, and writing them down on paper. Today, Andrew walks us through some of the goals he has set and achieved over the years, and discusses how he’s changed the goal-setting process as he’s gained experience. There are a bunch of nuggets and take-aways in this episode, and it’s definitely one to bring a pen and notebook to. Tune in, subscribe, and set your goals! In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why having 3 years of projections down on paper is a powerful way to set intentions for your business The importance of breaking down your goals into 90 day increments Why prioritizing goals in categories outside of your career or business can move you forward in your career and your business Why you should consider giving your list of goals to somebody else Resources Discussed Stature Films Episode 90 with Ryan Roy Continue the conversation with me in these ways: Email at dave@movingmillennials.com and follow me on Twitter @_daveanderson. Visit http://www.movingmillennials.com/127 for complete show notes, to download The Manifesto, and to receive your free ebook, 'The Millennial Mentors: Volume 1'.
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Moving Millennials | Oxygen For A Generation Of Game-Changers
Ryan Roy is an Entrepreneur, an Accountability Coach, and an amazing father to his young son Christian, and husband to his beautiful wife, Lisa. We’re lucky to have Ryan with us this week sharing his story about how he moved from flipping houses, to finding his true calling as an Accountability Coach. We'll cover a few very important topics this week. We’ll discuss Accountability, Habit Forming and the Power of One, the difference between being Committed versus being Interested, and a new perspective on New Years Resolutions. Ryan has SO much wisdom to share, and he doesn’t hold back in our conversations this week. Thanks for tuning into the show, and for spreading the word. Have an amazing week. Do what MOVES you. In This Episode, You Will Learn: How a four-day camping trip changed the course of Ryan’s entire career The true value of a Coach The difference between an Accountability Partner, and an Accountability Coach Why sometimes it’s important to pay attention to the ‘pitch’ at the end of a personal development seminar Resources Discussed Ryan’s website: http://justifyorjustdoit.com Continue the conversation with me in these ways: Email at dave@movingmillennials.com and follow me on Twitter @_daveanderson. Visit http://www.movingmillennials.com/86 for complete show notes, to download The Manifesto, and to receive your free ebook, 'The Millennial Mentors: Volume 1'.
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