Project Loving Myself

Ever notice how you keep waiting for permission… permission to change, to want more, to outgrow the version of you that everyone else feels comfortable with?The guilt. The roles. The quiet voice that says, “It's too late” or “You should be grateful.”In this episode, I sit down with Pearl Mashour, Master Women's Empowerment Coach and founder of Female Fluence, for a powerful conversation about reinvention, confidence, and reclaiming your voice at any age. What unfolds is an honest look at how inherited expectations, emotional age, and old narratives keep women small, and what happens when you finally decide that your growth matters more than approval. This is not about blowing up your life overnight. It is about giving yourself permission, one brave decision at a time, to become the woman you were always meant to be.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why reinvention is a choice, not a timeline✨ How guilt keeps women trapped in roles they have outgrown✨ The truth about midlife as an awakening, not a crisis✨ Why confidence is a practice, not a personality trait✨ How emotional healing unlocks your next level of powerIf you have ever felt behind, too old, too late, or unsure if you are allowed to want more, this conversation will remind you that your power does not expire and your next chapter is still yours to write.Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand the patterns that keep you shrinking instead of rising.Connect with Me

Do you feel like life suddenly sped up and you didn't get the memo?One minute you're shedding old versions of yourself, and the next everything feels urgent. Decisions. Desires. Movement. Pressure to act now.In this episode, we talk about what's really happening beneath that rush.We explore the transition from the Year of the Snake into the Year of the Fire Horse and why this new energy can feel exciting and overwhelming at the same time. Because momentum without self-love doesn't feel like progress. It feels like chaos.This isn't about slowing your life down. It's about learning how to move forward without burning out, self-abandoning, or repeating old patterns at a faster speed.Episode Resources✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the protection pattern that shows up when love and life start moving fast.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why the Year of the Snake asked you to let go before you could move forward✨ What Fire Horse energy brings and where it can quietly trip you up✨ How self-love becomes your reins when life speeds up✨ Why chemistry and urgency are not the same as alignment✨ How to move with clarity, power, and peace instead of pressureIf you've felt ready for your next chapter but afraid of repeating the same story,this episode will help you understand how to move differently this time.Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to unpack the patterns that make you rush, chase, or spiral and learn how to move forward from self-trust instead of fear.Connect with Me

Ever notice how Valentine's Day can make love feel like a report card?Who got the flowers, who made the effort, who felt chosen, and who quietly questioned their worth.In this episode, we're not canceling Valentine's Day. We're reclaiming it.We talk about how love slowly turned into a scoreboard and what shifts when you stop measuring your worth through gestures, effort, or being chosen and start becoming your own source of love, safety, and devotion.This isn't about giving up on love. It's about changing the way you experience it.Episode Resources✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the emotional pattern that turns days like Valentine's into pressure instead of connection.✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to gently release the old heartbreaks still shaping how you love today.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why Valentine's Day triggers feelings of being chosen, compared, or left behind✨ How love quietly turned into proof instead of presence✨ What “being your own Valentine” actually means in real life✨ A simple self-love ritual you can do whether you're single or partnered✨ How choosing yourself first changes how you show up in relationshipsIf you've ever felt disappointed on Valentine's Day even when “nothing is wrong,”this episode will help you understand why and offer a different way forward.Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to unpack the emotional patterns Valentine's Day tends to activate and learn how to create safety, clarity, and self-trust in your relationships again.Connect with Me

Ever notice how love doesn't usually fall apart with a bang…but with a quiet ugh?A text that didn't come. A plan that slipped. That weird moment where you realize you're disappointed again and you don't even know why.In this episode, we talk about that feeling. The one that shows up when you're doing your best to be chill, understanding, emotionally mature… and somehow still feeling unseen.This isn't a “lower your standards” talk. And it's definitely not a “just be grateful” lecture.We're unpacking the invisible scorecards, unspoken expectations, and mental contracts we carry into relationships without realizing how much pressure they create for us and the people we love. Because when love starts feeling like a performance review, nobody wins.Episode Resources✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the protection pattern that turns expectations into disappointment.✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to release the emotional habits that keep love feeling heavy instead of supportive.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why expectation often disguises itself as love✨ How keeping score quietly drains connection✨ The difference between appreciation and settling (yes, there is one)✨ Why asking for what you need doesn't make love less meaningful✨ How to keep your standards without living in constant disappointmentIf you've ever thought,“Why do I feel disappointed when nothing is technically wrong?”This episode won't hand you a script but it will help you see what's really happening beneath the surface.Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to unpack the expectations you're carrying in love, understand where they come from, and learn how to ask for what you need without resentment or self-abandonment.Connect with Me

Ever notice how overthinking feels like protection… until it quietly becomes the thing keeping you stuck?The spirals.The what-ifs.The mental gymnastics that make love, decisions, and even joy feel heavier than they need to be.In this episode, I sit down with Joelle Yuvienco, voice artist, events host, and the heart behind Paano Kung, a podcast that has become a refuge for overthinkers navigating love, life, and vulnerability. What unfolds is an honest conversation about emotional patterns, self-sabotage, shame, and the quiet courage it takes to choose yourself again, especially when certainty is nowhere to be found. Rather than fixing overthinking or rushing to clarity, this episode invites you to slow down and notice what your thoughts have been trying to protect you from, and what happens when you finally listen instead of running.Episode Resources✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the emotional pattern quietly influencing how you overthink, connect, and show up in love.✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to release the unresolved emotional weight that keeps pulling you into the same relationship cycles.✨ Connect with Joelle Yuvienco through her Paano Kung podcast on Spotify and follow her on Instagram at @joelleohwell.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why overthinking often comes from a desire to feel safe✨ How shame and self-blame quietly shape our decisions in love✨ What changes when you stop repeating patterns and start choosing differently✨ The role vulnerability plays in healing and connection✨ Why growth doesn't mean arriving, but expanding into who you're becomingIf you've ever felt stuck between fear and possibility, or caught in the loop of asking “What if?” instead of living “Why not”, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand your emotional patterns in love.Connect with Me

Ever notice how love can feel exciting one moment… and suddenly unsafe the next?A delayed reply. A slight shift in tone. That tight feeling in your chest you can't logic away.In this episode, we sit with those moments.Not to fix it. Not to label it. But to understand why it shows up.Instead of giving you another “just trust it” pep talk, this conversation explores the quiet patterns that shape how you show up in love, the emotional rules you may be living by without realizing it, and why some connections feel harder than they should… even when nothing is technically wrong.Episode Resources✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the pattern quietly influencing how you love✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to release the heartbreak influencing your current relationships.In this episode, we explore:✨ Why your body reacts before your mind catches up✨ The difference between intuition and old emotional habits✨ How past experiences can echo into present relationships✨ Why closeness can feel confusing instead of comforting✨ What changes when you stop fighting your reactions and start listening to themIf you've ever asked yourself, “Why does this keep happening?”This episode won't rush you to an answer—but it might help you ask a better question.Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand your emotional patterns in love.Connect with Me

Ever notice how some patterns don't feel like yours… they feel inherited?The people-pleasing. The overachieving. The quiet pressure to be “good” at the expense of what you actually feel.I'm joined by John Wang, author of Big Asian Energy, for an honest conversation about generational patterns (especially Asian ones), cultural conditioning, and the survival roles many of us learned to play. We unpack why self-abandonment is often praised as a virtue, how these patterns shape our relationships and self-worth, and what healing looks like without rejecting your culture or your past.If you've ever felt torn between honoring where you come from and loving who you're becoming, this episode reminds you: you don't have to choose one over the other. You get to be a pattern-breaker with compassion, clarity, and choice.Episode Resources

Ever notice how big milestones don't always make you want to pop champagne… they make you stare at the ceiling and think, “Wow. That was a lot.”Episode 250 is not a victory lap or a greatest-hits episode. It's a pause. A real one. The kind where you look back at 250 conversations about love, healing, boundaries, self-worth, and becoming yourself and ask, “What actually worked… and what was I just tolerating?” Spoiler: self-love isn't cute quotes or morning affirmations. It's the unglamorous practice of choosing yourself when it would be easier not to.Instead of giving you another “do better this year” pep talk, this episode pulls together the patterns that kept showing up again and again across 250 honest conversations. Consider it your Self-Love Cheat Sheet not for perfection, but for real life. The messy, evolving, sometimes-what-even-is-this chapter you're probably in right now.Episode Resources✨ PLM 250 Celebration | January 14 | Manila (BGC)A Start the Year in Your Power talk and guided meditation where we pause, reflect, release, and intentionally step into the version of you that's ready for what's next.

Ever notice how a new year arrives with a silent demand to be different?To fix something. To upgrade yourself. To become “better” without really checking in with where you actually are.This episode is a guided meditation created to help you pause, ground your body, and reconnect with the version of you that knows her worth without needing to prove it.Instead of forcing your new year's resolution, this meditation invites you to embody them. To meet the woman you're becoming and realize she isn't waiting in the distance — she's already here.Episode Resources✨ join my free 3-hour Self-Love Roadmap workshop on January 10 to turn your inner clarity into a grounded, self-love–led plan for 2026 across the areas that shape your life.In this episode, you'll learn how to:✨ Ground your nervous system and settle into your body✨ Release old roles, expectations, and versions of yourself you've outgrown✨ Connect with a more confident, self-trusting version of you✨ Anchor into a guiding word that sets the tone for the year ahead✨ Begin the year from presence, not pressureIf you're tired of starting the year feeling behind, rushed, or disconnected from yourself,this meditation offers a quieter beginning — one rooted in your empowerment, not performance.Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to explore the emotional patterns shaping how you show up.✨ Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see where your energy may need more care and support.Connect with Me

When a very public “perfect couple” falls apart, it quietly shakes something in all of us.If they couldn't make it… what does that say about love? About soulmates? About us?And during the Christmas season — when everything feels louder — the love stories, the breakups, the questions we don't usually say out loud — those doubts tend to surface even more.This episode is a gentle but honest conversation about why love doesn't always last — and why that doesn't mean love isn't real. It explores what happens after the spark fades and real life begins, and how relationships unravel when growth is avoided, not when love is absent.Episode Resources✨ Join me in my free 3-hour Self-Love Roadmap workshop on January 10 — a guided space to reflect on the relationship patterns this year revealed and turn that awareness into a grounded, self-love–led plan for 2026 in the 6 key areas of your life.In this episode, you'll learn how to:✨ Understand why love can end even when it was real✨ Reframe breakups and growing apart without self-blame or cynicism✨ See relationships as growth contracts, not fairy tales✨ Recognize how avoiding inner work quietly erodes connection✨ Recommit to yourself so love has space to evolve instead of fractureIf you've found yourself wondering, “Is love even real anymore?”This episode offers a steadier truth: love is real — but it isn't static. It's a living practice that asks us to grow, not just feel.Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to explore the emotional patterns this season has revealed.✨ Take the Self-Love Scorecard tto see where you may be abandoning yourself inside love.Connect with Me

Ever notice how life hands you a plan… and then immediately laughs and does the opposite?You asked for an elephant-sized breakthrough, and instead you got a hippopotamus-shaped detour. Cool. Love that for us.When things don't show up the way you expected, it's easy to think something's gone wrong.But what if nothing's wrong and life is just offering you a different lesson than the one you ordered?This week, I'm taking you with me to the African bush, where a simple phrase cracked me wide open:“What the bush gives, the bush gives.”Translation? You don't control what appears. Your only job is to notice what's in front of you… and trust that it showed up for a reason.Episode Resources✨ Download The Year-End Self-Reflection Journal to gently explore where you are, what this season has been teaching you, and what you're ready to release as you move forward.In this episode, you'll learn how to:✨ Trust the timing of your life instead of resisting it✨ Reframe detours, delays, and disappointments as meaningful guidance✨ Release the need to control outcomes and open yourself to what's unfolding✨ Recognize what this season is truly asking you to learn✨ Stop chasing what you think you want and start honoring what's actually hereIf you've ever wondered, “Why isn't life giving me what I asked for?”This episode offers a softer, wiser question: “What if this is exactly what I need right now?”Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand the emotional patterns this season has revealed.✨ Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see where you may be resisting yourself instead of supporting yourself.Connect with Me

When your soul keeps nudging you to do something bigger with your life, who actually says, “Sure, let me blow up my whole comfort zone real quick?” No one. But sometimes life gets so uncomfortable that staying the same feels scarier than changing.What if choosing yourself doesn't require a dramatic leap, just an honest moment of, “Okay Universe, fine… I'm ready.”And to make this whole conversation even juicier, I'm joined by someone who lived this shift from the inside out and made it hilarious in the process: Baus Rufo, comedian, content creator, and host of Dogshow Divas and Kaya Pa Ba podcast. He clawed his way out of burnout and into the most honest version of himself, and he's here to tell you what happens when you stop playing it safe. Episode ResourcesDownload the Year-End Self-Reflection Journal Pages to get honest about where you are, what needs to shift, and who you're becoming.In this episode, you'll learn how to:Catch the body signals that scream “you're out of alignment”, even if your life looks good on paperHeal the belief that you're unsupported so you can finally start supporting yourself Befriend your inner critic instead of letting it run your life like a toxic micromanagerReclaim your creativity, even if you think you “lost it” somewhere between meetingsTake zero-pressure steps toward a life that feels more authentic, playful, and aliveTrust your timing instead of spiraling about being “too late” to start anything newIf you've ever thought, “Am I running out of time?”, this episode flips that fear into something much bolder: “I'm not too late. I'm just finally choosing what I want.” Get Started HereBook a Relationship Clarity Call to uncover the emotional patterns shaping your love life.Take the Self-Love Scorecard to to see where you may be putting yourself last.Connect with Me

When a year drags you through plot twists you never signed up for, who actually says, “Wow, what a blessing”? No one. But sometimes the moments we'd rather erase end up revealing truths we were finally ready to hear.So what if endings aren't just for resolutions and champagne toasts… but also for releasing the heaviness, the pressure, and the stories you've quietly carried all year long? This week, we're grounding into real reflection. The grown-up kind. The kind where you look back at your year, take a deep breath, and say, “Okay Universe, I survived that… but also, rude.”Episode Resources✨ Download The Year-End Self-Reflection Journal to help you end the year with clarity and compassion.In this episode, you'll learn how to:✨ Look at your year with honesty and compassion instead of pressure✨ Recognize the lessons your highs and lows have been trying to teach you✨ Release old energy, old expectations, and old versions of yourself✨ Anchor into your truth and reconnect with who you're becoming✨ Enter the new year not with forceful resolutions, but with clarity and peaceIf you've ever ended a year thinking, “What even was that?”, this episode helps you shift into something softer and wiser… “This is who I am now, and here's what I choose moving forward.”Get Started Here✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to understand the emotional patterns this year brought up✨ Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see where you've been neglecting youConnect with Me

When life knocks you on your butt, who actually says “thank you”? No one. But sometimes the stuff we avoid the most ends up teaching us the best lessons.So what if gratitude isn't just for the cute, calm moments… but also for the mess, the heartbreak, and the plot twists that make you wonder if the Universe is trolling you?This week, we're talking about real gratitude. The grown-woman kind. The kind where you laugh, cry, roll your eyes, and say, “Okay Universe, I get it… kind of rude though.”Episode ResourcesBook a Relationship Clarity Call to uncover the deeper emotional imprint you've been carrying without realizing itTake the Self-Love Scorecard to reveal blind spots in how you've been caring for yourself — the ones you don't even know you're neglectingUse the Gratitude Prompts in this episode when you need grounding instead of a cliché pep talkIn this episode, you'll learn how to:How to honor the moments that broke you without pretending you're okayThe simple science behind why “thank you” calms your whole systemA five-minute practice that turns pain into perspectiveTiny gratitude rituals for tough daysWhat to say when you can't even fake gratitude yetIf you've ever thought, “Why is this happening to me?”, this episode helps you shift into something stronger and a little sassier… “Why not me, and what is this here to teach me?”Connect with Me

Ever ask yourself, “Why won't my body let this go… even when I'm doing everything right?”Because a lot times, the weight we carry isn't physical. It's emotional.In this episode, we explore how unprocessed emotions get stored in the body, why they show up as physical weight or stubborn symptoms, and how your nervous system plays a bigger role in your health than any diet ever could.Episode Resources✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call to uncover the emotional root of what your body has been holding.✨ Take the Self-Love Scorecard to see how deeply you've been caring for yourselfYou'll learn:✨ The emotional patterns that keep your body in protection mode✨ Why willpower and “good habits” aren't enough✨ How stress, grief, resentment, and unspoken feelings translate into physical weight✨ Simple ways to help your nervous system soften so your body can finally let go✨ Why compassion––not pressure––is the key to real releaseThis conversation is your reminder that your body isn't working against you. It's communicating with you. It's asking to be heard before it can let anything go.Connect with Me

We're talking about the lies we tell—the tiny white ones, the polite ones, and the quiet ones we whisper to ourselves just to get through the day.Because every lie—no matter how small—costs you connection. With others. And with yourself.We're unpacking why honesty feels so hard (especially in relationships), how to speak your truth without blowing things up, and why it might be the most freeing thing you ever do.Episode Resources✨ Take the Love Blocks Quiz so you can unlearn the patterns that keep you playing small.✨ Book a Relationship Clarity Call and uncover what your truth is really trying to tell you so you can stop pretending and start living fully.In this episode, you'll learn how to:✨ Recognize the 4 core reasons we lie—and what each one is really protecting✨ Break free from the world's most common lie ✨ Tell the truth in a way that heals, not harms✨ Use a simple honesty framework that builds trust instead of tension✨ Hear what your body is trying to tell you when you're not being honest with yourselfIf you've ever felt like you're living half-truths just to keep everyone else comfortable, this episode is your reminder: peace doesn't come from being perfect—it comes from being real.Connect with Me

We talk a lot about “moving on,” but what does that actually mean when your heart still replays the good parts like a broken Spotify loop? This week's episode is for anyone still low-key haunted by an old love, a “what if,” or a story that should've ended years ago but somehow keeps sneaking into your present...Because you can't move on if you're still waiting for closure — you heal by choosing yourself.In This Episode, You'll Learn:✨ The sneaky reason you can't stop thinking about your ex (hint: it's not about them)✨ How to stop feeding the fantasy and finally see the relationship for what it was✨ The difference between closure and clarity — and why one sets you free✨ How to shift your energy from overthinking to actual healing✨ A few spicy mindset flips that'll make you say, “Oh… I get it now.”This episode isn't about moving on — it's about moving through the ache, the memories, the mess — and coming out softer, wiser, and way more in love with yourself on the other side.Get Started Here: Enroll in the Relationship Detox Program — release the past and reopen your heart in 5 days. Use code: REDOXFR at checkout to get it free.Book a Relationship Clarity Call — get personal guidance on what's really keeping you stuck.Take the Self-Love Scorecard — find out if your self-love is thriving or quietly surviving.So if your heart's been craving clarity more than closure, this episode is your sign to finally tune in and set yourself free. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I just need more balance in my life” is the modern-day mantra for I'm one meltdown away from booking a one-way flight to Bali. ✈️We've been told that if we can just balance everything — work, relationships, family, self-care — we'll finally feel calm. But balance? That's the real burnout.Because life isn't meant to sit perfectly still while you juggle all the pieces. This episode is your permission slip to stop performing balance and start practicing presence. To trade the pressure of “having it all together” for the peace you actually want.

What if forgiveness isn't about letting someone off the hook but finally setting yourself free?

How many nights have you laid in bed, wide awake, solving problems that don't even exist yet?We call it “being prepared,” but really, it's just our anxiety doing the cha-cha on repeat. You're not solving problems—you're just exhausting yourself in the name of control.This week, we're getting real about worry: why it feels so addictive, what it's really protecting you from, and how to finally break free from the mental hamster wheel that's been stealing your peace. Because let's be honest—your brain deserves a vacation, not another late-night worry meeting that could've been an email.

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to keep promises to everyone else… but when it comes to yourself? Poof. Out the window.You'll drag yourself to that 8 a.m. meeting, show up for a friend's late-night drama, and say yes to commitments you never wanted to take on. But when it comes to your workout, an early bedtime, or precious family time? Suddenly, you're “too busy,” “too tired,” or convincing yourself it's okay to say “just this once.” This is a slippery slope into self-neglect.Here's the hard truth: the toughest boundaries aren't the ones you set with other people—they're the ones you set with yourself. And every time you break them, you chip away at your own self-trust. Ouch.But, hey, if you're ready to break this cycle, join me in Reconnection: The Inner Child Healing Workshop Every Woman Needs on October 11 to uncover the patterns you didn't even realize were running your life.This week on Project Loving Myself, we're getting real about why the promises you make to yourself are the only ones that actually matter—and how to stop ghosting yourself like a bad Tinder date.

What if every twist, detour, and messy chapter in your life isn't a setback, but rather an upward spiral guiding you closer to your true self?

The walls you built to protect your heart? They might be the very same walls keeping love out.What if the “red flag scanning,” second-guessing, and pulling away you call self-protection are actually signs that your past wounds are still making your choices for you?This week on Project Loving Myself, I'm revealing why real safety in love isn't about hiding behind walls—it's about discernment. And how healing shifts you from choosing out of fear… to choosing from your worth.

What if your dreams didn't disappear—they just got buried under guilt, responsibilities, and all the ways life told you to play small?This week on Project Loving Myself, we're exposing the hidden dream killers that quietly steal your vision—and showing you how to bring your dreams back to life. Joining me is transformational coach Anushree Kini, a Mindvalley Certified Life Coach and Marisa Peer Certified Rapid Transformational Coach, who helps women use visualization to shift their identify, dissolve guilt, and step into the lives they were meant for. Translation: she guides you to become the woman your future keeps calling you to be.

What if the “bad habits” you keep beating yourself up for—perfectionism, people-pleasing, second-guessing—aren't flaws at all?What if they were actually survival strategies your younger self created to feel safe… and you've just been carrying them into adulthood?This week on Project Loving Myself, we're exposing the hidden childhood roots of the patterns that shape your relationships, career, and even how you see yourself.

The Summer Solstice Portal Is Opening… Are You Ready to Rise?In this episode, Sanaiyah invites you to pause at one of the most powerful energetic checkpoints of the year—the Summer Solstice. More than just the longest day of sunlight, this sacred portal is your cosmic permission slip to realign, reflect, and redirect.Whether you've been on autopilot, craving clarity, or simply feeling the nudge to reset—this episode is your sacred space to breathe, recalibrate, and reconnect with your power.

Why You Can't Just “Move On”—And What to Do Instead

Are You Stuck in the Past? Here's Why. ⏳You say you're ready for love, but deep down, are you still holding onto “the one that got away”? If you catch yourself replaying old memories, comparing new partners to your ex, or secretly hoping they'll come back… you might be trapped in The Memory Chaser love block.In this final episode of the Love Blocks Series, Sanaiyah breaks down why clinging to the past keeps you from the love waiting in your future. If you've ever struggled to move on, blamed yourself for a breakup, or believed you lost your only shot at love—this episode will be a wake-up call. It's time to let go, heal, and finally make space for something new.

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