That's a Hard Pass

I WOULD FORMALLY LIKE TO APOLOGIZE FOR THE NONSENSE YOU'RE ABOUT TO OR ARE GOING TO WITNESS- but happy holidaze, everyone! You know we're a festive bunch

We took a little week off, but here we are with something new for you!We get a lot of questions on how we record, if we edit and stuff SO HERE WE ARE. BARING IT ALL. R A W. lmao the uncircumcised version

IN OUR LONG ONGOING RELATIONSHIP SERIES: Sliding in the DMs, Asking for a date, DTR'ing (tba) and now Second Chances... How many chances are too many? Do we believe in 2nd chances, or is it a one-and-done type of deal? Or like ALL THINGS- is it situational? Is it different if it's a romantic relationship vs a friend? Where do you think each of us falls on the spectrum of forgiving to not? DM us your guesses :)**Make sure to Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Follow us on Spotify, and Rate us 5 Stars***Don't forget to follow us on Instagram and TikTok @ThatsA_HardPass*Feel free to DM us if you're debating whether to give someone a second chance and we'll steer your in the right direction :D

We all know the toxic manipulators gaslight... But did you know it's possible to gaslight YOURSELF

We always keep it 100% on this podcast and talk about stuff WE care about but also share funny stories we think YOU'LL love! This week's episode is brought to you by Tequila shots and Long Island Iced Teas... The content writes itself! Kind of like those drunk texts you wake up to that you sent your ex #yikes But like all things in this life, it's happens to the best of us, it is what it is- just delete the number, bestie! Stay hydrated out there

So we told you how to slide in the DMs... But now what?? Don't worry, your girls got you covered

Like most things in life, friendships only seem to get more complicated as we get older. Making friends (*sweats*) and even keeping friends. Anything in life worth keeping around is work. Clinical Psychologist and Friendship expert, Dr. Miriam Kirmayer says, "Choose people who choose you." Friends feed the soul and if those friendships are worth it, fight like hell; And if they're not, know when to quit.  Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music**Make sure to Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Follow us on Spotify, and Rate us 5 Stars***Don't forget to follow us on Instagram and TikTok @ThatsA_HardPass*Feel free to DM us if you have any questions or comments

CW: In today's episode, we discuss topics that some listeners may find triggering or disturbing e.g. Depression, SuicideAm I depressed, or is it just winter? Could it be both. Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD, OR seasonal depression is something that affects more than 10 million Americans. It's hard to pinpoint what exactly makes us SAD- the weather, the lack of sunlight, the lack of social life! It can be triggered by ANYTHING and MANIFEST differently. It's just important to keep on chugging and make it through to Spring. We're almost there ♡Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music**Make sure to Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Follow us on Spotify, and Rate us 5 Stars***Don't forget to follow us on Instagram and TikTok @ThatsA_HardPass*Feel free to DM us if you have any questions or comments

Okayyyy, so Valentine's Day just happened. And if you're as single as a pringle, my advice is..... don't be scared- slide in the DMs!! This week, we discuss the WORST DMs we've ever gotten, the best, and how we think we're sliding in. Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music**Make sure to Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Follow us on Spotify, and Rate us 5 Stars***Don't forget to follow us on Instagram and TikTok @ThatsA_HardPass*~Feel free to DM us RESPECTFULLY (lol) if you have any questions or comments~

Hair done every 3 monthsNails done every 3 weeksTherapy every weekOil change every 5,000 miAll of the above are normal things we do for upkeep. Sometimes you really DO just need an objective 3rd party professional to tell you how it is. HOT TAKE: PhD is more equipped to handle the drama than BFF.  This week, follow as Jess, Jas and Pam talk about their individual mental health journeys, whether it be: seeking help or finding alternative ways to feel better, the struggles of insurance in the United States, and fighting that ever-living stigma of "mental illness."Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music**Make sure to Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Follow us on Spotify, and Rate us 5 Stars***Don't forget to follow us on Instagram and TikTok @ThatsA_HardPass*~Feel free to DM us if you have any questions or comments~

Part II of our delicious period talks. Last week, we touched on regulating periods, seeing the proper doctor, how old we were, etc etc. THIS WEEK, we get into the nitty gritty, what menstruating products we use, sexy things, bleeding through and where people put their blood

Here on That's a Hard Pass, we think it's NECESSARY to talk about all the things: the good, the bad, the bloody. Menstruation is often something too taboo to discuss openly, so here we are. BLEEDING OUT IN THE OPEN for u ❤️ Bleeding once a month is NORMAL, NATURAL and nothing (you hear me? N O T H I N G) to be ashamed of. We had SO much we wanted to share, we had to break it into 2 parts!Stay tuned for the 2nd half of this period talk out NEXT WEEKSpecial thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music**Make sure to rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts and Spotify***And follow us on Instagram and TikTok @ThatsA_HardPass*

...we're just rotating the homies at this point.NEXT WEEK WE PROMISE WE'LL ALL BE TOGETHERWelcome to the Taurus Episode ♉️This week, Jess and Pam discuss PDA (public displays of affection

Another week, another 2 man episodeWILL WE EVER BE TOGETHER AGAINstay tunedIn this week's episode, Jas and Pam talk about the struggle of being in their mid-20's. Some people are blacking out every weekend, going out, swiping & some people are getting engaged, married or having babies!! WeEeEee just happen to be the former

CONTENT WARNING: Today's episode contains some potentially sensitive and triggering content so listeners discretion is advised. We will be mentioning eating disorders, self harm, body dysmorphia, body image & more.Episodes like this are why we made the podcast. We're here to talk about what needs to get talked about, creating a safe place to talk about the taboo, and helping you feel a little less alone. Jas and Jess discuss their individual relationships with food- the good, the bad, the unhealthy. U9% of the population worldwide (ANAD.org) and we don't talk about it enough. If you have any questions or simply need someone to talk to, DM us on Instagram @thatsa_hardpass***BUT if you are in a crisis and need help immediately, text “NEDA” to 741741 to be connected with a trained volunteer at Crisis Text Line. You can also CALL or TEXT (800) 931-2237***Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music

On TikTok, @eveculling encouraged people to have sex on the first date. So, should we have sex on the first date? After 3 dates? 15 DATES????? What are the implications of each? Should the "when" affect how you view someone? Does "wHaT wErE lOoKiNg FoR" affect our decision for when? We answer all of these in this week's episode!Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music

We've all gotten that (probably drunk) text at 3 in the morning asking what we're doing

We're back with the same same but different! We got so many

Dating is HARD!! We know...But we're hoping this episode helps you think about what's truly unacceptable:

HAPPY HALLOWEEK, EVERYONE! This week, to spice it up, we're telling...VIRGINITY STORIES. Sorry to all the family and friends that may be permanently scarred by this content but itiswhatitis ¯_(ツ)_/¯ Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music

We talked about the glamorization of OVERworking in college, but how has that translated to our adult jobs? In this week's episode, we talk about how over-working shouldn't be expected. Going "above and beyond" should not be the standard, so why are we so hard on ourselves? Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music

College can be SO much fun!  But it's not always sunshine and rainbows. Half the battle is balancing out your life and figuring out what that looks like for YOU. For the first time (maybe in your entire life) you're running the game. So, what does that look like? Prioritizing what's important to YOU- it probably looks different than your friend/boyfriend/parent/sibling's priorities.Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music

We've all seen the classic "I'll have a Sex on the Beach/Margarita/Cosmo," in movies and TV, but what does it all mean? Going to a bar for the first time can be daunting!- Especially if you don't know what you're doing... AND you don't want to get up all the way to the bartender and just "UH UH UH IDK!" Don't worry, we gotchu. We did some research for you and here are our findings. Learn what to order, bar terms, and some life hacks that could save you a couple dollars! Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music

We saw a TikTok trend where all the incoming college students are noOoOot adjusting well- y'all good? Going to college is ALWAYS an adjustment (tbh i can't even imagine doing school while in a panini).  In this week's episode, we talk about our first semesters at college- going to community college, commuting to school, or moving into a 4-year college. Special thanks to Dan Henig for our Intro & Outro music

GUESS WHO'S BACK & BETTAHHH THAN EVAAA? Welcome to Season 2 of That's a Hard Pass! In this episode, we go over how our summers went even with the panorama going on: how we traveled, travel restrictions, what we did to cope with not having a "normal" summer, and more! We don't even know what "normal life" is anymore, but it's okay, we're all in this together

MERCURY IS FINALLY DIRECT!! Rejoice, all my witchy babes! The three of us have differing levels of *spirituality* and what it means to us. We discuss if carnelian will truly give us the hot girl summer, if palm readers read facial expressions or our futures, or if it's truly all a self-fulfilling prophecy thanks to the powers of suggestion!! This is our last episode until September so make sure give them all a re-listen and let us know what you think! Make sure to like, subscribe and rate us 5 STARS. Also DM us on Instagram @Thatsa_hardpass with your sun, moon and rising signs ;) Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro and outro music, Subway Dreams. 

Ah the "talking" stage of dating is definitely something our generation just randomly created. As if dating isn't hard enough, let's add a pre-relationship and pre-dating stage to it to make it more complicated! The girls talk about their own relationships, what they think the talking stage is, how long it lasts, and more! Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro and outro music, Subway Dreams. 

Happy Pride Month everyone!! Jess is part of the LGBTQIA+ community and was able to share some of her experiences in this episode. All of us have family or friends apart of the community and we are always trying to become better ally's for our loved ones. We want everyone to know you are deserving of love, no matter what. Stay proud

ELECTRIC BOOGALOO! There was so much more we wanted to discuss about being a First-Generation American daughter, that we had to make a Part2. We hope this mini-series is informative and enlightening for you guys. Making fun of accents, appropriating cultures, or fetishizing - we talk about it allllll. DM us @thatsa_hardpass on IG if you want to hear more English intros read in Spanish/Chinese lolSpecial thanks to Dan Henig for our intro and outro music! 

From running away, turning off locations, being the mom, or just making bad decisions in general, we cover our drunken escapades in this week's episode. All three of us have our drunk qualities, find out who you are more like ;)Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro and outro music! 

On this week's episode, Pam & Jas tackle the topic of interracial dating. Being the daughters of immigrants and gossipy families, who we date is always a topic of conversation. Being born and raised in America, we were taught to love people of all skin colors, but interracial dating always sparks some interesting conversations. The girls talk about their dating history and discuss their experiences in interracial relationships & dating. Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro & outro music, Subway Dreams. 

We hear a lot about the famous "bro code" but does it even exist? For this week's episode, we needed a some male perspective. And thanks to our social media, @thatsa_hardpass on insta we got a little (so follow us if you want to give your opinions) ;)  We get into what they believe 'bro code' really is. From talking with friend's exes, calling dibs, hooking up with your friend's old flings, and much more. Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro and outdo music: Subway Dreams

He's gonna catch em all, cause he's Danny Phantom. Speaking of people ghoing ghost... This week, we're talking all about break ups. Getting dumped via text, snap, getting ghosted, breadcrumbed, whatever- We talk about our go-to methods, our preferences, and other paranormal activity.Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro & outro music: Subway Dreams. 

On this week's new episode, the girls tackle the infamous question: Does body count matter? We discuss some answers that received from our listeners and the reasoning behind their answers. Do you need to share your body count with a partner? Does a higher body count mean you're better in bed? What counts as a body? Listen to this episode and find out what we have to say! Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro & outro music: Subway Dreams. 

*Trigger Warning: This week we will be discussing sensitive topics related to sexual assault*April 2021 is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. While discussing sexual assault is never comfortable, it is important. In this episode, we discuss hook-up culture, saying no, and how to be an ally. We hear you. We believe you. And we will always stand with you. National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673Or to chat online with a trained staff member who can provide you confidential crisis support go to online.rainn.org

On this weeks' episode, Pam and Jasmine share their weight loss and health journeys. We discuss our struggles with our weight from a young age, and how we've found a safe and healthy way to lose weight! The most important thing is to be healthy and happy at the end of the day :) Special thanks to Dan Henig's Subway Dreams for intro & outro music. 

Let's talk about S E X, baybee- siiiike, we're talking about not having sex ;) On this episode, we have a special guest and close friend of ours, Zhané Bradford,  on to talk to us about her choice to stay abstinent even in a society that sees sex as more casual. We ask her questions about her choice and how her decisions have affected her relationships.  Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro and outro music, Subway Dreams. 

Because I hurt myself....FALLING FOR YOU

WORKING JOBS .... get your mind out of the gutter. We are just reminiscing on our first jobs as teenagers. If you have had a job already, I bet you can relate to some of these cringey stories. And if you are new in the job world, we give some good advice ;) Special thanks to Dan Henig's Subway Dreams for our intro & outro music. 

I'm addicted to you, don't you know that you're toxic?? Britney said it best yall. We're talking all about toxic friendships this week! Sometimes you're the toxic one, sometimes you have a toxic friend, but we've all been there at some point. It's important to recognize the signs, and do what's best for you! Special thanks to Dan Henig's Subway Dreams for our intro & outro music.

You're looking for a solid 20 minutes of debauchery!! Another day, another swipe. Dating in quarantine is close to impossible, but hey. Here we are doing the best we can! Swipe right and listen in to hear all the gory details from meeting strangers on the internet all for a chance at loOoOove; The good, the bad, the crusty. Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro & outro music, Subway Dreams.

Does overthinking burn calories? Getting to the gym can be hard. Honestly, working out in general is a struggle. All three of us have been trying to be healthier and it sure has been a journey. Screw society's standards and just do you.But always remember, if you have a body... you already have your beach body ;) Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro & outro music, Subway Dreams.

Happy Valentine's Day!

Join us on our tattoo journey! We talk about all the taboo around the tattoo. Times are changing and so are everyone's opinions on tattoos. We each have a couple tattoos and wanted to discuss our own opinions and experiences. Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro & outro music, Subway Dreams.

We're back at it with the second part of our growing up in the 90s episodes! This episode's filled with our favorite throwback music and artists and what social media was like when we grew up. Does anyone remember My Space, AIM or ooVoo?? It's crazy how much things have changed just in our lifetime!Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro & outro music, Subway Dreams.

*Trigger Warning: This week we will be discussing sensitive topics related to sexual assault*Sexual assault is never a topic that is easily discussed, but important to talk about. This episode we talk about how, when, and why we share our stories. We hope that by being opened with you all, you never feel alone. Trauma and healing are not easy, but we will get through it together.We hear you. We see you. We believe you. And we will always stand for you. National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673

2021 IS AMONG US! What better way to start the new year than reminiscing on some of the best years everrr! The three of us were born in the later part of the 90's and wanted to share with you some of the key aspects on what it means to be a 90's baby. And if you know, you know ;) Come join the nostalgia train. BUT since there was so much we wanted to talk about, we decided to break it up into two parts. Stay on the look out for Part ✌

As a little bonus, we thought it'd be funny to share some bloopers with yall! Recording a podcast sail is never smooth sailing, but always a good time. The episodes we publish are after rounds of editing & cutting audio down, so here's some raw unfiltered audio for yall to enjoy! Usually we keep it pretty PG, but there is some cussing in this one, so fair warning! Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro & outro music (Subway Dream)

WE MADE IT! We survived 2020! Join us while we close out this year by reflecting on what a crazy year it has been: the pandemic, quarantine, social distancing & more! 2020 has taught us a lot of valuable lessons, and we're ready to take those lessons with us into the new year but leave 2020 behind. Bring on 2021, New Year Resolutions & more That's a Hard Pass episodes (; See yall in 2021! Special thanks to Dan Henig for our intro & outro music (Subway Dreams).

Happy Holidays! We hope you are enjoying the last couple weeks left in 2020. It may be tough this year, but we are trying to remember the holidays are for appreciating the little things. We kept this episode short and sweet, now go enjoy your loved ones and take some jello-shots... for those of age!!! Special thanks to Dan Henig's "Subway Dreams" for our intro & outro music.

This week, we tackle what it means to be a daughter of immigrants: the hardships, the language barrier, being "different" and some pretty funny stories. We didn't always appreciate our cultural backgrounds, but now that we're grown, that's changed. Special thanks to Dan Henig's "Subway Dreams" for our intro & outro music.