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On this Live Greatly podcast episode, Kristel Bauer sits down with Stephanie Harrison, author of New Happy: Getting Happiness Right in a World That's Got It Wrong. Kristel and Stephanie discuss old happy versus new happy and how striving for the old happy can lead to frustration and a lack of fulfullment. They also discuss what can really lead to true happiness. Tune in now!  Key Takeaways From This Episode A look into Stephanie's book, New Happy: Getting Happiness Right in a World That's Got It Wrong Old Happy versus New Happy How striving for the old happy can lead to unhappiness What can support true happiness About Stephanie Harrison: STEPHANIE HARRISON is the creator of the New Happy philosophy. Her work has been featured in publications such as CNBC, Fast Company, Forbes, and Harvard Business Review. She is the founder of The New Happy, a company helping individuals, companies, and communities apply this philosophy in their lives. The New Happy's art, newsletter, podcast, and programs reach millions of people around the world every month. She has a Masters Degree in positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. Previously, she was the Director of Learning at Thrive Global.   Connect with Stephanie Website: https://www.stephanielharrison.com/  https://www.thenewhappy.com/  Get Stephanie's Book, The New Happy https://www.thenewhappy.com/book  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanieleighharrison/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/newhappyco/  https://www.instagram.com/stephaniehson/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenewhappy  Book Mentioned in the Episode, Have You Filled a Bucket Today? A Guide to Daily Happiness For Kids https://www.amazon.com/Have-Filled-Bucket-Today-Bucketfilling/dp/099609993X/ref=asc_df_099609993X/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=693370501882&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1814763867630958241&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9021455&hvtargid=pla-405693445325&psc=1&mcid=3e69ee84f97d34c19a1e1472af58e4f7&gad_source=1  About the Host of the Live Greatly podcast, Kristel Bauer: Kristel Bauer is a corporate wellness expert, popular keynote and TEDx speaker, and the host of top-rated podcast, “Live Greatly,” a show frequently ranked in the top 1% for self-improvement. Kristel is an Integrative Medicine Fellow & Physician Assistant with clinical experience in Integrative Psychiatry, giving her a unique perspective into optimizing mental well-being and attaining a mindset for more happiness and success in the workplace and beyond. Kristel decided to leave clinical practice in 2019 when she founded her wellness platform “Live Greatly” to share her message around well-being and success on a larger scale.  With a mission to support companies and individuals on their journeys for more happiness, success, and well-being, Kristel taps into her unique background in healthcare, business, and media, to provide invaluable insights into high power habits, leadership development, mental well-being, peak performance, resilience, sales, success, wellness at work, and a modern approach to work/life balance. Kristel is a contributing writer for Entrepreneur and she is an influencer in the business and wellness space having been recognized as a Top 10 Social Media Influencer of 2021 in Forbes. A popular speaker on a variety of topics, Kristel has presented to groups at APMP, Bank of America, Commercial Metals Company, General Mills, Northwestern University, Mazda, Santander Bank and many more. She has been featured in Forbes, Forest & Bluff Magazine, Authority Magazine & Podcast Magazine, has contributed to CEOWORLD Magazine & Real Leaders Magazine, and has appeared on ABC 7 Chicago, WGN Daytime Chicago, Fox 4's WDAF-TV's Great Day KC and Ticker News. Kristel lives in the Chicago area with her husband and their 2 children.  She can be booked for speaking engagements worldwide. To Book Kristel as a speaker for your next event, click here. Website: www.livegreatly.co  Follow Kristel Bauer on: Instagram: @livegreatly_co  LinkedIn: Kristel Bauer Twitter: @livegreatly_co Facebook: @livegreatly.co Youtube: Live Greatly, Kristel Bauer To Watch Kristel Bauer's TEDx talk of Redefining Work/Life Balance in a COVID-19 World click here. Click HERE to check out Kristel's corporate wellness and leadership blog Click HERE to check out Kristel's Travel and Wellness Blog Disclaimer: The contents of this podcast are intended for informational and educational purposes only. Always seek the guidance of your physician for any recommendations specific to you or for any questions regarding your specific health, your sleep patterns changes to diet and exercise, or any medical conditions.  Always consult your physician before starting any supplements or new lifestyle programs. 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Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Love Languages: How to Love Our People by Speaking Their Language  (based on The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lastsby Dr. Gary Chapman).Some deep things we cover:What are the 5 Love Languages?  I'm glad you asked! 1) Acts of Service 2) Words of Affirmation 3) Gifts 4) Quality Time 5) TouchPhyllis and Julie Take the Love Languages Quiz: Find out the results!Are We Monolingual or Multilingual?  Can we speak more than one love language?  And do our love languages change depending on who we spend time with?Ruling Out Love Languages: Identify which ones you can live without and the last one standing is probably your primary love language.We Give Love the Way We Receive Love: How can we translate those love languages so we can feel loved and how can we love others the way they would like to be loved?Showing Love Sometimes Means Cleaning Up Cat Vomit: If your loved one's love language is acts of service, sometimes you need to suck it up and do the gross things that they can't quite tolerate. A Cultural Aspect: Phyllis didn't hear the words “I love you” growing up because it was not a part of her culture.  The “Frommers”: Learn what this term means in Phyllis' family and hear more about her kids' love languages.Have You Filled a Bucket Today? A children's book about what it means to love and be kind.Take-aways:Write down a few memories of a time you felt really loved by a loved one.  What category of love language does it fall into?  Chances are, this is one of your primary love languages.Take the Love Languages quiz here: The Love Language™ Quiz and then have a conversation about it with a loved one.  What would it look like to learn each other's love languages?We want to have a conversation with you!  Here's how to connect with us:1. Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.2. LIKE and FOLLOW us on:  FB: @sodeeppeeps OR Instagram @thatssodeeppod3. Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-08844. Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.com Be sure to RATE and REVIEW if you liked this podcast.  You can also FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE.  Click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced:The 5 Love Languages - Book Smart Podcast Oprah and Dr. Gary Chapman: The Five Love Languages - Oprah's Super SoulDo you know the 5 love languages? The Love Language™ QuizHave You Filled a Bucket Today? - McCloud, Carol, Messing, David

Subscribe: iTunes I  Spotify I Google Play Music   Panelists Include: J de laVega is an advocate for social justice and a believer in presence creating possibility. She hopes to one day transcend reality and take her final form as a Lisa Frank character. Carol McCloud, the "Bucket Lady" is the author of ten books, which began with ever-popular Have You Filled a Bucket Today? in 2006. By trade, Carol is an early childhood specialist and emotional intelligence trainer. Anitra Rowe Schulte is the author of the picture book Dancing with Daddy and the forthcoming picture book Willow and Bunny. A former newspaper reporter and publicist, Anitra loves asking questions, digging into feelings, and using her imagination to better understand the world. She lives in Geneva, Illinois, with her husband, Dan, three young daughters, and kitty cat Pancake. Dan Saks is a musician, author and music educator specializing in early childhood education. He has lived and taught in New York City, Mexico City, and Switzerland and has traveled the world as a performing musician. He currently lives with his partner and two daughters in Brooklyn, New York, where he hosts and produces Noodle Loaf, a popular music education podcast for kids. A 2020 Webby Honoree and Common Sense Media “Best Podcast for Kids”, Noodle Loaf musically empowers children through play, laughter and lots of singing. Saks has also written a three-book series celebrating diverse families: Families Belong, Families Can and Families Grow published by Rise x Penguin Workshop, each of which was named a "Best Book" by Amazon.

Have You Filled a Bucket Today? A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids is written by Carol McCloud with illustrations by David Messing and published by Bucket Fillosophy, an imprint of Bucket Fillers, Inc. in 2016. This story presents a simple metaphor for staying happy even when things go wrong!

Part two of Episode 12- To further teach children respect this week we chose to read a great children's book "Have You Filled a Bucket Today?" Written by Carol McCloud and illustrated by David Messing https://www.bucketfillers101.com Part one: https://anchor.fm/dadsclass/episodes/Revisiting-Teaching-Children-Respect-and-Current-Events-Dads-Class-June-3--2020-ef0o7g ===== Schedule ===== Join us LIVE on Mixer (https://mixer.com/DadsClass) New episodes Fridays Top 5 Tuesdays happen ... well on Tuesdays Special classes occur at random (they take time to make you know) ===== Other Fun Links ===== Website: http://bit.ly/DevinPearce Extra Life 2020: https://www.extra-life.org/participant/Devin-Pearce Merch shop: https://teespring.com/stores/dads-class Want to get to know me and my family a little better? Check out our family vlog for our hobby of Geocaching here: https://youtube.com/cacheflokeepers ===== Keep In Touch ===== Facebook: https://Facebook.com/DadsClass Twitter: https://twitter.com/DadsClass Twitter: https://twitter.com/CrownEss0 Twitch: https://Twitch.tv/crowness0 Email: CrownEss0@Gmail.com ===== Podcast Availability===== Anchor: https://anchor.fm/dadsclass Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Breaker, Pocket Casts and RadioPublic --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dadsclass/message

With this month’s theme being recovery — and not just in the IGNTD space, but nationally — I thought it would be the perfect time to continue the conversation about recovery and what it means to recover.   The official government definition of recovery reads, “A process of change through which individuals improve their health and wellness, live a self-directed life, and strive to reach their full potential.” And what I think is so critically important with this definition is that it does not mention abstinence at all. For a lot of people, recovery tends to be synonymous with abstinence and 100% sobriety, when it really should be the process of simply improving your life.   It is really incredibly powerful what can happen when someone enters recovery, so this week, I’m going to talk about three ways that I see recovery as being very different from this stereotypical ‘abstinence definition’ many people assign to it. I hope you’ll join me in increasing awareness around the stigma of mental health and substance use!   IGNTD Recovery Month Promotions: Week of September 2: IGNTD Hero “Nohab” Reset Program Scholarship Application (bit.ly/IGNTDScholarship) This week we launched a scholarship application with a deadline of September 30th. That’s right - we are giving away 10 scholarships to our “Nohab” Reset Program that gives you full-year access to the course that will help you discover your path to true success, identify your subconscious barriers, and reset your subconscious scripts. With this program, you also get our Complete Support Package that includes our happy hour live video chats with Dr. Jaffe and other recovery coaches, a call with your own private Accountability Coach, two-week email support and motivation, and one-month private group membership and support. PLUS additional expert sessions to master your beliefs with Bruce Lipton & Shaman Durek. Week of September 9: 21-Day Challenge Lifetime Access for $97! Week of September 16: IGNTD Hero Nohab Reset Program for only $147 (50% off) Week of September 23: Are You Really an Alcoholic? Workshop on sale for $10   Topics Discussed: [:40] About the National Recovery Month. [2:54] My stance on recovery. [3:18] A recent experience I had on a recovery podcast who did not share my same stance with. [5:23] SAMHSA’s official definition of recovery. [7:05] What I’m going to be covering today: the three areas in our life that recovery center around (physical, mental, and emotional). [8:11] Starting with the physical aspect of recovery, I speak about what my health was like physically during peak addiction and how it has changed in recovery. [12:11] A story of a woman I saw when I first had my old treatment center and how she changed, physically, in recovery. [13:55] The mental shifts people experience in recovery and my own personal experience with how my mind and perspective changed. [17:12] The mental improvement someone in our IGNTD Recovery program made. [18:50] The emotional aspect of recovery and what I experienced in my own journey. [21:07] An example of the emotional aspect of recovery from a client I worked with. [23:09] Summarizing my key points about the three aspects of recovery. [24:09] What to look forward to in the IGNTD world — including discounted workshops and a giveaway! [25:45] Screenshot this episode, tag me, and be sure to tag anybody you know who’s struggling!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) National Recovery Month Picture from my Instagram from when I was in my 20s, peak addiction Have You Filled a Bucket Today?, by Carol McCloud and David Messing IGNTD Episode: “Getting Personal: A Conversation with my Sister”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com

"Hey, my DVC sisters and brothers!" If you're a member of any of the DVC Facebook groups, that's all the introduction you need to realize our guest for this episode is none other than Mr. Kevin McCloud. I consider Kevin "The Happiest DVC member on Facebook!" Kevin has the gift of packing pixie dust into pixels and filling our Facebook streams with pure joy. I find it ironic that Kevin shares a last name with the author of “Have You Filled a Bucket Today? A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids.” Just like the posts, Kevin brings happiness and joy to episode 028 and its sure to fill your bucket!

In Episode 6 of The Oxygen Mask we talk about wading through the mountain of information, options, advice, and opinions that come along with an autism diagnosis. Where do you begin?! Often we parents feel the need to jump in with both feet, read all the articles (hello, late night Google sessions), explore every therapy, make every appointment and do everything possible in the name of helping our child. But at what expense? Is it worth it? We'll talk about how to be discerning with information overload and employ Oxygen Mask techniques to make healthy choices. (Spoiler alert:  Permission granted to not do all the things!) Show notes: Beth mentioned Temple Grandin’s Thinking in Pictures. Have You Filled a Bucket Today? by Carol McCloud Notice and then try to nudge your thoughts toward these mindfulness attitudes. The Oxygen Mask conversations are filled with gentle reminders and examples rooted in mindfulness. Communities Engaging Autism will be offering fall 2019 and spring 2020 Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction for Special Needs Parents! This is a wonderful opportunity to practice breathing exercises, several types of meditation, yoga, Qigong, and more alongside supportive peers and facilitators. The goal is to see what works for you and to support you in carrying it through your day-to-day. The Velcro and teflon analogy comes from Rick Hanson. See details. Note: Dates/locations listed are for on our past offering. 2019-2020 dates/locations will be announced on Facebook or via our newsletter and blog. Reach out with questions!

Have an abundance mindset.  How can you life in a way that recognizes the Law of Attraction, and raise your children to be generous in life? Listen to this episode on iTunes, Stitcher, Google Play, TuneIn, YouTube, Spreaker or your RSS Feed Where are the @FieldTripGypsies this week?  Rockin it in Miami after a few weeks in the Florida Keys! Wanna check out Nathan’s orb spider?   Here you go “If you want love and abundance in your life, give it away.”  Mark Twain This quote pulls the focus off of the individual and puts it on the world.  Give freely and abundantly, and it’s amazing what comes back to you. This is a daily practice - not just one and done.  It’s regular emotional tithing. Here is last weeks’ blog post: "Natural Consequences, Discipline…or Punishment" Are you asking for a kush life, but not recognizing the opportunities that develop your perspective? Expectations are premeditated resentments.  Be open to the opportunities that may be around you that you don’t expect. There are little signposts - or alerts - along the way that can affirm your path. Original Post on abundance: 10 Essential Lessons For Life: The Abundance Mentality  “I can play country…but I’m hippie at heart.”  Nathan Logsdon If you want more coming in, open yourself up to invest in others. When we only look at the surface, we lose.  Look deeper for true connection. If you haven’t checked it out yet, explore the Namaste Personality Snapshots for your family. Want to visit Nashville?  Well, here is our house on AirBnB Co-Creating At It’s Best - Dr. Wayne Dyer, Esther Hicks, and Abraham:  “Use whatever excuse you can to vibrate in harmony with those things you’ve been saying you want.  And when you do, those things that are a vibrational equivalent flow into your experience in abundance.    Not because you deserve it, but because it’s the natural consequence of the Law of Attraction.  That which is like unto itself is drawn.”  Esther Hicks You follow your fears.  If you are stuck living in the fear of losing something, or something horrible happening…or living in the past pains…switching this script makes a huge impact on what your future will hold.  Once you are able to love yourself, you are able to love people beyond what you dreamed possible.  It boils down to accepting that you are who you are, and you have a purpose in this life. The kid’s station on Pandora is the “It’s A Hard Knock Life Radio” Sometimes we gain wealth only to “Ebeneezer Scrooge” it.  (Nathan) Flip the script.  Change your perspective and point of view.  And for your children, don’t let your fears get in the way of them embracing life.  Don’t fill them with a world of “can’t”.  There is a world of “can.” Sometimes we can get so lost in our own misery that we forget there are others out there.  Everybody has a story. Have You Filled a Bucket series Want a full gift guide of books for kids?  Check this out: https://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/book-gift-ideas-kids/ “Where your focus goes, energy flows.”  Tony Robbins We choose “Logsdon Love Day” every day.  Every day is an opportunity to celebrate what we have.  To be grateful.  Not just an obligatory holiday feel-good.  As you pour into others, its amazing how rich you will feel. It doesn’t mean you have to hold onto every gift out of obligation.  Pay it forward. And when you give, give and let go.  Don’t hold on to the expectations of how it will be received. Help each other.  Love each other.  Love yourself, and give grace. Your challenge - Pick someone every day to give to.  No agenda, no reciprocity, no reason.  Give randomly and generously just because.  Give anonymously.  This is a wonderful little book to share with the girls about Santa when they start to question it all. I love that what it highlights is that yes, Santa is real, and it's a name for people who give in secret. The focus isn't in the person, but what being "Santa" is really about. It's about being secretive because the real gift of giving is the joy it gives to others. It states "Saint Nicholas was the first Santa Clause, but anyone who shares the SPIRIT of the holiday through giving is a Santa”.  Check out “The Wonderful Truth About Santa” Four key areas we discussed: Drop your expectations.  Abundance may come in a different way than you anticipated. Don’t have a scarcity mentality.  Don’t attract your greatest fears. Fill people’s buckets.  Look for how you can give and invest in others. Accept giving with gratitude.  Not just for what the gift is, but that someone else thought of you - be a gracious receiver. Care for some Q&A?  Hit us with any questions you have, and we’ll send you a personal email response back and may address it on a future podcast!  Simply email Ashley directly at Ashley@MamaSaysNamaste.com And remember, if you’re liking what you hear, we want to hear from you!  • Subscribe, rate and review on iTunes • Post your comments/questions in the Mama Says Namaste Facebook Community • Email Ashley directly at ashley@MamaSaysNamaste.com *Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Episode 41, When a Parent Feels Judged   In This Episode:   What does it mean with someone feels “judged”?  When you feel something in your heart that your mind knows isn’t true.  It can wreak havoc on family relationships. One thing that I remember from a pre-marital training called Pre-Cana was the emphasis of not sharing personal disagreements and issues with friends and family members.  When personal conflicts occur and get resolved within the couple relationship, but close members of the inner circle are made privy to one side of the issue, long after the issue is over, the knowledge of that deep, personal feelings of their often skewed (because they only heard one side of the argument) perception lingers.  And, the relationships suffer as a result.  It can’t be unheard, unfelt or undone. Feeling judged isn’t something that everyone deals with though.  Some people are more impacted by their caring what people think of them.  It has a lot to do with how we are wired, our own life experiences and the things that we feel to be true about ourselves.  When it can have a big impact is when someone feels judged, whether perceived or real, by multiple people.  It can feel painful, especially if the parent is already conscious of a need for improvement in that area anyway. It’s important to distinguish between reality and perception.  Sometimes it can feel like others are judging us simply because we are judging ourselves.   Or if we have been judged or called out on a certain issue before, when it comes up again an emotional response could be triggered. It’s really helpful to see it for what it is. If it’s really painful, do a check in with yourself to determine if you need some healing in that area.  If big emotions come from a situation of feeling judged, it’s almost certain that the feelings link to another situation.  If that situation hasn’t been fully processed and healed from yet, you may be more at risk for feeling judged.  When people feel judged, sometimes they close up to risk their vulnerability and that is when maladaptive behaviors start to form and relationships start to suffer. Putting it into perspective can make a difference.  Looking at the source and thinking through the facts can be incredibly helpful with putting it in to a healthy perspective.   I love Brené Brown’s books.  In her works, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong and The Gift of Imperfection she speaks a great deal about vulnerability. Vulnerability is  feeling free to be authentic, daring to follow your dreams, being true to yourself and your values at the risk of being judged.  When we can be vunerable, we can be more creative, we can parent better, we can love more fully, and a gazillion other things that aren’t possible if we live in that space of fear of judgement. So, why do people judge?  Quite simply, I believe it’s a character defect to go around judging everyone else.   I’m certainly not saying that I’ve never done it.  I’ve gotten so much better over the years and with my years of training and experience in this field.  It is common unfortunately, but it can be “fixed”.  When you stop judging others, you ultimately end up feeling good about yourself.  Way back in the early days of this podcast, I had an episode on about “How to Nurture Kind Kids” with Carol McCloud the author of Have You Filled a Bucket Today book.  The link is in the show notes http://jackieflynnconsulting.com/03-nurturing-genuinely-kind-kids-with-carol-mccloud/  one of the big messages in this book is that when we are kind to others, we ultimately make ourselves happy in the process. In this world, there’s no such things as a “perfect parent”.  We make mistakes, it gets messy sometimes, and it is a work in progress.  Give yourself permission to be real, to be human.  In this space of authenticity, you can model that genuine you to life and problem solving.  While it’s not always pretty, it can help you raise a confident child that feels free to be their authentic self.  Free to love and live without having guards up.  If you haven’t done so yet, listen to my episode 29 “How Taking Advice From Other Parents Can Be Like Wearing Their Skinny Jeans” on this topic. The link is in the shownotes  http://jackieflynnconsulting.com/29-how-taking-advice-from-other-parents-can-be-like-wearing-their-skinny-jeans/ In a couple of other episodes, I mentioned the quote “HURT PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE”.  I think for this topic of when parents feel judged, it’s helpful to look at who’s doing the judging.  In Brené Brown’s book, Daring Greatly, she mentions one of Teddy Roosevelts quote “in the area” from a speech that he gave that still holds true today.  It’s an excerpt from his speech "Citizenship In A Republic" that he                                           delivered at the Sorbonne, in Paris, France on 23 April, 1910. Here it is: It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. So if the person that’s doing the judging isn’t “in the arena” then their judgment, aka “opinion” doesn’t really count.  They don’t get to take up valuable real estate in my brain.  But if they are someone in the arena, worthy of me caring about their opinion, then I take it with a filter.  I keep what is helpful and filter out what is not.  This was a profound lesson in my life.  If you haven’t read her books or watched her Ted Talks yet, I highly recommend that you do as soon as possible.  Her concepts can help you get through tough times, as well as raise your resiliency levels to other people’s judgment. 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Parenting in the Rain, Episode 3 In This Episode:   Carol McCloud’s book, “Have You Filled a Bucket Today?”  has a message of “ Have you done something nice for someone today?”. Children tend to understand this concept well when explained in this context.   Metaphorically speaking, everyone is born with an invisible bucket. Children not only need love, but they need to be TAUGHT how to love others.  As parents, we can teach them how to love others through showing them through our actions, as well as explaining to them the concept of “filling” and “dipping” into our metaphorical buckets. One of the main tenets of this bucket filling concept is that when we help others, we fill others’ buckets (help them to feel good), when we are unkind, we dip into others’ buckets (contribute to their unpleasant feelings).  In turn, when we help others to feel good, we help ourselves to feel good. When we help children to reflect on their actions through statements such as “Did you fill a bucket today?”, they often learn how to be kind, which helps them to be happier long term. Carol made some changes recently in her original “Have You Filled a Bucket Today?” book to include the concept of “put a lid on your bucket” when others are disrespectful or hurtful to you in some way.   When people are in pain, it is hard to be bucket filler.   This bucket filling concept teaches children that sometimes it is hard to fill buckets (be nice to others) when we have an empty bucket ourselves.  It gives them an understanding of how to navigate through the times when others’ just aren’t nice to them.  It also teaches children how to resolve their emotional pain and move toward feeling better through kindness.  This is an empowering message. This bucket filling concept originated with Donald Clifton.  He coined “bucket filling” and “bucket dipping” verbiage. In essence, this concept is based in the notion that people feel better about themselves when they are kind to others.  Our words and actions affect others. It is important to teach our children that everyone will not always be nice to them or treat them with respect.  A short one-liner, such as “use your lid” can let your child know how to respond in a healthy way when people are unkind.  The use of a metaphorical lid is a way of not letting other people dip in to your bucket and take out your good feelings.  It helps children to understand that the way that people treat others is a reflection of how they (the other person) is feeling inside. (Do they have an “empty bucket”?) This is an important concept because if we don’t teach them otherwise, they may start to believe that something is wrong with them when people are unkind to them.   Giving our children opportunities to treat others with kindness is so important.  Many people volunteer, donate clothing and food, and do other things to help support this concept and ultimately nurture genuinely kind children. Carol mentions that whatever you focus on, you get more of.  In essense, when you teach people “what to do”, you get a better result than when you focus on “what not to do”.  So, teaching children to be kind is so much more effective than focusing on “don’t be mean”. When kids realize that people that don’t treat them kindly have an “empty bucket”, it still stings, but it also can ignites feelings of compassion and empathy.  These traits are important in regard to nurturing kind kids.   These character traits set them up for relationship success now and in the future.  For some, it may take some time to develop that understanding though. The moments that we don’t think matter, really do matter.  Our children are aware of how we treat others and use that for their “How To Act in Life” guide.  Even relatively small acts such as smiling at someone, saying thank you to the cashier, having a positive facial expression when you first see your child in the morning and such, can make a huge impact on how children treat others, and ultimately themselves.    Statements such as, “Who’s bucket can you fill today?” or  “I wonder what I can do to fill her bucket?”,  supports the intentionality of being kind.   As parents, statements such as “Let me tell you some of the reasons I love you so much” , “I love the way you light up when you are talking about your play at school”, and such is a great way to fill our children’s buckets, as well as our own.

(This is one of a part of a series of WORDS TO LIVE BY. This series grew out of a workbook I first made for my young daughters and discussed at the dinner table. These Words include values, good ideas, and Words to aspire to….and learn from….enjoy!) Today’s Word To Live By: Encouragement – Definition: help, support - Antonyms: denunciation, derision, deterrent, discouragement Years ago I was unemployed for the first time in my life and I struggled to find a new job. Frankly, I applied everywhere and I would have taken just about anything. The Lehman Bros. “thing” happened and I just was in a funk anyway, so it was tough. I finally did find a good job at a solid company. I had a boss that was very encouraging, very supportive. Many people on the team were also encouraging, helpful, etc. I had a tough time getting out of my own ‘funk’ and getting back the confidence and esteem that I once had. Part of the job required me to go away for training with others from around the country. I really enjoyed the whole experience and think about those people and times fondly. I recall that first day at training. We were all pushed outside of our comfort zone, which was good but hard. I knew no one. I was struggling to do well…. we all had to do a few different tasks, presentations, calls, proposals, etc. etc. “The finest gift you can give anyone is encouragement. Yet, almost no one gets the encouragement they need to grow to their full potential. If everyone received the encouragement they need to grow, the genius in most everyone would blossom and the world would produce abundance beyond the wildest dreams. We would have more than one Einstein, Edison, Schweitzer, Mother Theresa, Dr. Salk and other great minds in a century.”—Sidney Madwed Then, one of the other ‘students’ just like me, made a comment. I wish I could remember exactly what he said. I think that I was just plain shocked, I wasn’t expecting it. Anyways, he encouraged me that I did some things well, others things were good but could improve, and gave me lots of encouragement. He stated how he had struggled with the same thing and was right there with me. He didn’t gain anything by helping or encouraging me – at least none that I could see. He was just being a good guy. Others in our group seemed to continue to encourage each other. I found myself doing it more than usual. We became a cohesive group and stayed in touch for quite a long time after, which was unusual, I’m told. I think back in grade school, in high school, college, and in life. Sometimes, like the example above, I don’t remember what someone said specifically, but I definitely recall times when people offered encouragement. It may have been something small like spelling a word, hitting a ball, doing a chore. It sometimes was bigger things like a relationship, a job, a big financial challenge. I can see and feel those words of encouragement. They still warm my heart today. I think about times when I encouraged others. First, it feels good to me when I think about supporting others. Second, I frankly am a little sad that I didn’t do it more often. I know that I want to do it more in the present and future. It isn’t that hard, is it? Encouragement, support, help isn’t that hard to offer is it? Real friends are loving in an unconditional manner. They accept you for your faults, the quirky things that you do or so, and regardless of what you “do for them.” Friends offer support. Friends are a good influence. Friends offer encouragement. We need to choose our friends carefully. It doesn’t matter their income, status, style, or dress. I try to be a good friend too, but again I sometimes feel that I am lacking here. Tony Dungy, NFL coach, player, and author, said once, “Peer pressure works in both directions.” Do we encourage? Do we support? Do we set a good example? Do we provide a positive influence to others? Are we complainers? Do we point out others weaknesses or kick them while we are down? Or do we help them up and give them a gentle push when they need it? Encouraging others is about helping them focus on what they’re doing right, what’s going right in their life, and what good things they have to offer. We can encourage others by helping them see the donut and not the hole. We can be positive. Encouragement can be specific words like “you can do it.” Sometimes it might be a silent action of setting an example. Sometimes it is simply a sign of solidarity. I believe that we’re each created for a reason, that we have a purpose. It may be something big and cool like writing a bestseller, saving a life, or something spectacular. Or it may be simply giving that one person, maybe even a stranger, that little bit of encouragement one day in our life. Maybe its about that one little comment that we gave our friend, which seemed almost inconsiquential to us, that literally saved their life as they were going through their challenges. I recall a tough time when many people around me seemed to question me, put me down, and I questioned myself, I made some bad choices and I was feeling low. Then I happened to think about two little statements – one statement my father said to me once about his own struggles and basically amounted to being “if I can do it Jim, then you certainly can do it….”. Another one was from a teacher of mine….I’m sure he made the comment almost in passing and probably forgot about it soon after, but his words of encouragement have helped me keep moving on for years and I even thought about it again this morning when I had something come up. Life can be tough, it can offer challenges, right? We can lift each other up, we can tear down, or we can do neither, just passing through life without input or gusto. We all need encouragement. We need support. Humans need this sort of thing from our friends and from strangers. There are studies that show that when we encourage, support or help others, it not only helps that person’s spirit, mind and body, we the encourager benefit. Endorphins and other good things flow in our bodies and theirs – we both feel good. But wait, it’s not over yet – studies also show that observers, people who watch you and I encourage another person – also benefit – they have many of the same ‘feel good’ benefits. All three parties win. We all receive the benefit of encouragement. There is an article titled “19 Healthy Reasons to Help Others” that states “If you see someone who is drowning and throw him a rope, he gets a benefit, no question about it. But you might, too. Your body might flood with feel-good chemicals that have a deep evolutionary heritage. You might get a little extra buffer from life’s stresses. Your heart might beat a little healthier. Your immune system might perk up. Your mood might lift.” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/07/28/health-benefits-of-volunteering-helping-others_n_909713.html#s316118&title=Helpers_Live_Longer There is a great book for children – but we all can benefit from reading it – about helping others such as I just mentioned. It is written by Carol McCloud – Have You Filled a Bucket Today: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids….except it should just say “for people”. As I mentioned above, sometimes I just don’t think about encouraging others as much as I should, or as I’d like to ….. but I certainly want to ….. I’d love to provide a positive influence on others each and everyday. When was the last time you made a call, wrote a letter, said something along the lines of encouragement? Can you mentor someone? Is there even something little or anonymous that you can do? Encouraging others leaves a wonderful trail of great memories in our lives and the lives of others. Like the memories I spoke of above from loved ones and from strangers, these memories will hang around for years and for decades. Let’s create some encouraging memories, let’s create some goodwill and do unto others what we’d like done to us. “When the need for encourament words or inspirational words come, it does not matter who is saying them or why but what becomes vital is to feel encouraged, motivated and inspired to take what ever life throws as you.” No matter where you are in life or what your consequences are, you can give….and I bet when you give, you’ll receive something back too. What can you do to encourage yourself? Ask great questions – empowering questions. Think about past successes, reflect on good things in life, talk nicely to yourself. What can you do otherwise? Do you know of an encouraging book? Watch a good movie (like Rocky)? What are some encouraging songs and music that can kick start your day? What are some ways that you can encourage yourself in the morning? In the car? What people in your life encourage you? Did you thank them? Can you return the favor? Can you emulate them to help others? How can you build habits around encouragement? Can you challenge someone? Can you mentor? can you just lend support? I challenge you to make your life a masterpiece. I challenge you to join the ranks of those people who live what they teach, who walk their talk. - Tony Robbins BELOW ARE TWO “HOW TO” ARTICLES ABOUT ENCOURAGEMENT. ENJOY! The Below is An Article from Livestrong.com How to Encourage Someone Jan 23, 2010 | By Jae IrelandJae Ireland specializes in keyword research and internet marketing. Getting her start with a small internet marketing firm in 2005, she has since designed and written for well over twenty commercial and informational websites. Her areas of interest and expertise include fashion, parenting, home improvement and health and fitness. Whether it’s a friend, family member or coworker, encouraging someone can help spur them to be better versions of themselves. It may be for a better life, a promotion or to help them through a debilitating illness, but you have the power to keep the future bright and keep your friend working toward her goal. While you may think encouragement is only about kind words, true encouragement requires tough questions, honesty and support for someone who is trying to accomplish a goal. Step 1 Be honest about the process, says InsiderReport.com’s Michael Angier. Encouragement doesn’t have to be about false positive notions. If the progress isn’t happening as fast as your friend would like, be honest and let him know that he’s right, but he has better control of the situation when taking it slow and steady. Telling the truth can help give another opinion on how to accomplish the task at hand. Why Men Pull Away 10 Ugly Mistakes Women Make That Ruins Any Chances Of A Relationship CatchHimAndKeepHim.com Sponsored Links Step 2 Find the positive in every experience. Your friend may feel discouraged because of a recent failure, but point out what she’s learned from the failure and how she can use it to her advantage. Encourage her to learn from her mistakes and become better for them. Step 3 Ask intelligent questions about the progress of the goal. You may have a friend who is depressed about an illness, so you can ask questions about the prognosis so that you know how to encourage, whether it’s for a cure or for living a full life while he can. Asking questions about a project for work or school can help your friend see places where he needs to improve for a better project overall. Step 4 Look for positive progress along the way, even if it isn’t exactly the progress your friend was originally looking for. Any small success should be celebrated to encourage your friend to keep moving forward. Be your friend’s biggest supporter when it comes to accomplishment, cheering her on until she accomplishes her goal. Step 5 Send notes of encouragement to stay in touch and keep your friend motivated. ThinkOfProsperty.com recommends that you send a card or a letter to offer your encouragement, send an email or drop by with words of encouragement and a hug to keep the progress moving and to show your lasting support. Read more: http://www.livestrong.com/article/75762-encourage-someone/#ixzz26xV44TB3 —– THE BELOW IS FROM http://powertochange.com 19 Ways to Encourage Others Written by Stacy Wiebe Learn how to develop an encouraging heart 1.Encouragement goes straight to the heart.In fact, the word itself comes from a combination of the prefix “en” which means “to put into” and the Latin word “cor” which means heart. ◦Knowing what a big difference encouragement makes in your own life, what can you do to help others “to take heart” when the going gets tough and way feels long? 2.Become aware of what encourages you, and do those same things for others. 3.Learn individuals’ “love language”-the special way in which they feel most valued. In his book, The Five Languages of Love, Gary Chapman explains that not everyone’s emotional needs are met in the same way, and that it’s important to learn to speak others’ love language. The five love languages are: words of affirmation, spending quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. 4.If an encouraging thought comes to mind, share it! It may not have the same effect if you wait. Don’t let shyness hold you back. Instead, form a new habit: “Encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today…” (Hebrews 3:13). 5.When you introduce someone, add a few words of praise for the person’s abilities, accomplishments, about how they’ve helped you or about the nature of your relationship. It’s encouraging to be praised in front of others.* 6.When someone is discouraged or hurting, offer specific, practical help. If you ask, “How can I help?” the person might be at a loss to answer. It’s better to ask, “Would it help if I…(specific action) or say, “I would like to…(specific action)?* 7.Remind fellow Christians of the specific promises of God and characteristics of God. We may know something with our mind, but need to be reminded in our heart. The Apostle Peter wrote, “I will always remind you of these things, even though you know them and are firmly established in the truth you now have” (2 Peter 1:12). 8.Write someone a note to tell them that you’re praying for them. Tell them what you’re praying. You can pray specific Scriptures for individuals such as Romans 15:13, “[I pray that] the God of hope [will] fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” 9.Make celebration a more regular part of your relationships. Celebrate others’ victories, large and small-with a note, with coffee together, with a special meal, a congratulatory phone call or just a high-five! 10.Be specific when you offer words of praise; it makes your encouragement more credible and concrete “You did a great job at…” “I really appreciate that you…” “I was really impressed that you…” 11.Encourage other believers with a reminder of Christ’s coming. It redirects our thinking to an eternal perspective and ultimate deliverance from the sin and death. “We who are still alive and are left will be caught up in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage each other with these words” (1 Thessalonians 5:17b-18). 12.Realize the power of presence. Just being there is encouraging! When you’re with others, you’re telling them that they’re important. The Apostle Paul closed his letter to the church at Colosse promising to send his friend Tychius “that he may encourage your hearts” (Colossians 4:8b). 13.If you’re part of a church, Bible study or fellowship, be committed to showing up. Your simple presence encourages others that they are part of a community of faith and that they are not alone. That’s why the writer of Hebrews says, “Let us not give up the habit of meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another-and all the more as we see the Day approaching” (Hebrews 10:25). 14.If someone you know is working on a large project, send her a single flower to encourage her at the beginning of the project, and a full bouquet when it’s done.* 15.Use encouragement as an outreach. If anyone should be known for being an encourager, it should be the Christian. Write a letter of appreciation to people at work, your apartment manager, your child’s teacher or your doctor. Often when we interact with these people, we are asking for their services. Take time just to say thank you!* 16.If you really want to encourage someone who gives you excellent service, write a letter of commendation to the person’s boss.* 17.We could learn something from the way team athletes freely pat, touch and high-five each other in competition. Touch is a powerful encouragement. Be sure to be sensitive in this area, though. Ask someone if you can hug her first. And be careful to be above reproach with persons of the opposite sex. 18.When you see someone making positive changes in their lives, affirm them. “You seem to have a really great attitude about…” “It may be that I’m just starting to take notice, but I see that you’re…” “Do you think that you are becoming more…?” 19.Tell people how they’ve encouraged you! 20.more at http://powertochange.com/experience/life/encourage/

From Deepak Chopra “The universe operates through dynamic exchange… giving and receiving are different aspects of the flow of energy in the universe. And in our willingness to give that which we seek, we keep the abundance of the universe circulating in our lives.” This quote is from Chopra’s book “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success”. I recommend it. Nothing is static in our lives, right? Our bodies, minds, families, friends, etc. Even though which seem static are not- the mountains and the earth. There is an exchange or giving and taking, back and forth, right? So is it with energy too, correct? Life is the flow of things in a harmonious manner. Generally our bodies, nature, seeks balance. In the book Chopra talks about the work “affluence”. He says it comes from the word affluere….which means “to flow to”. The word affluence means “to flow in abundance.” We use money as a representation of something – energy, product, service, etc.Interestingly enough Chopra also points out that the word currency comes from the Latin word “currere”. which means “to run” or to flow. So, at least in reference to money, if we stop the circulation of money (or anything else) and if we intend on holding onto the money or to hoard it, then the energy will stop its circulation back into our lives. “Like a river,” says Chopra, “money must keep flowing, otherwise it begins to stagnate, to clog, to suffocate and strangle its very own life force. Circulation keeps it alive and vital.” Any healthy relationship, service, existence is a give and take, right? There is balance in all things. A tiny mustard seed can grow into something large. A kernel of corn can produce many more….yet we can’t hoard the seeds. The more you give, the more you receive, says Chopra…..because you will keep the abundance of the universe circulating in your life. Chopra also points out that the ‘intention behind your giving and receiving is the most important thing.’ OK – I read this a few times. I actually read this when I was very tight financially. I owed a few credit cards, was behind on things, and I was hoarding money so I could buy gas one week. I was not clear how I could practice this law. Chopra gave some good examples though - “If you want joy, give joy to others; if you want love, give and learn to love. If you want material affluence, help others to become materially affluent. In fact the easiest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want.” So when we wait in the line at the grocery store and see that weird looking person, or that person taking too long, or anyone…..why not give them a blessing – the same blessing or prayer that perhaps we’d desire. A simple prayer or wish. We can stand there and stare at the person who is being a pain, taking too long, letting their kids touch all the things on the shelf, etc. We can grumble to ourselves and pass judgement. We can stand there and wallow in our own particular problem or issue. Or we can send a prayer, a wish for peace, a wish for abundance their way. How would that change your world? Chopra talks that we are all localized bundles of energy and information – and consciousness. We are bundles of though in a thinking universe…and thought has the power to transform. So what can you do today? I’d suggest that we start and make a decision that anytime you come into contact with anyone, give them ‘something’. Maybe nothing material – maybe a prayer, wish, compliment, smile, etc. Chopra points out that things like caring, attention, affection, appreciation are some of the most powerful and precious gifts that we can offer. I know that I have,….and still do… say something to myself like “How can I give to others when I don’t have enough myself right now?” Write a note, make them laugh, share a good story, ask – really ask – about them and their dreams. The more you give, the easier it is. The more you’ll get a hang for it and the more confidence you’ll have. There is no scarcity on love, joy, happiness, or abundance. By its very nature, the word abundance means overflowing – we can’t run out. We have an overabundance of so many things in our lives that we can all give. Giving flips a switch whereby we’re not tense, closed, and concerned but open, warm, and inviting. Giving makes us feel more confident than when we hold back or hoard. If you seek peace, give it. If you seek help, offer it. If you seek friendship, be a friend. Giving sends our minds and hearts a signal that things are ok, things will be OK. In closing, I am reminded by a child’s book that I used to read to my daughters, “Have You Filled a Bucket Today: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids ” by Carol McCloud. If you have a child, buy it. If not, you should still read it the next time you’re at the library or B&N. If you “fill someone’s bucket” you fill your own bucket, and everyone observing you gets their buckets filled. There are actually studies that show our endorphins improve when we help another person – and observes get a nice splash of endorphins too. I leave by giving you a blessing for peace and prosperity. www.onewebstrategy.com