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The 2025 RB class is SO DEEP we had to split the group into two pods. For this second part of the RB class, Matt Harmon and Charles McDonald look at the late day two and day three sleeper RB prospects that could be instant fantasy contributors if they land in the right spot. In this pod, Harmon and McDonald do a deep dive on Cam Skattebo, RJ Harvey, Bhayshul Tuten, Devin Neal, DJ Giddens, Damien Martinez and Ollie Gordon II. Harmon and McDonald believe one day three RB prospect could be the steal of the draft. (2:45) - Matt Harmon goes on a rant about Joe Milton hype after he was traded to Dallas Cowboys (8:30) - Cam Skattebo: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits (15:45) - RJ Harvey: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits (23:45) - Bhayshul Tuten: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits (30:55) - Devin Neal: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits (37:05) - DJ Giddens: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits (41:45) - Day 3 guys to know: Damien Martinez, Trevor Etienne, Jaydon Blue, Ollie Gordon II  Subscribe to the Yahoo Fantasy Forecast on your favorite podcast app:

We continue our draft deep dive with Matt Harmon and Charles McDonald on the pod. The 2025 RB class is SO DEEP we are splitting the group into two pods. For the first part, we look at the 'top 6' RB prospects and do a massive breakdown of the jewel of the class in Boise State RB Ashton Jeanty. Harmon and McDonald also breakdown Omarion Hampton, TreVeyon Henderson, Quinshon Judkins, Kaleb Johnson and Dylan Sampson in this pod. (3:40) - 2025 RB class as a whole: Is this one of the best ever? (8:35) - Ashton Jeanty: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits (30:15) - Omarion Hampton: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits (38:35) - TreVeyon Henderson: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits (45:30) - Quinshon Judkins: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits (53:20) - Kaleb Johnson: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits (59:40) - Dylan Sampson: Strengths, weaknesses, player comps and best fits  Subscribe to the Yahoo Fantasy Forecast on your favorite podcast app:

It's been a while since we've done a dive into media, so—here goes! Friend of the show Charles Siegel joins for Pooka for a discussion of how video games and tabletop games inform and resemble each other. We go through a shortlist of ten titles for inspiration to round out this series of episodes (for now) (the other big one is music, and no way are we getting the rights to do that one). In our opinion, each of these games features a variety of elements that tie into those of Changeling: the Dreaming. Obviously, there are a lot more out there, but a shortlist seems sufficient for our purposes. We're of the opinion that video and tabletop games inform each other If you'd like to acquaint yourself with the titles in question, behold some videos: American McGee's Alice (2000) — opening video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oSMZsT4UhyQ Braid (2008) – trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uqtSKkyJgFM Final Fantasy (so many years) — here's the piano collection for FFVI as one example of Uematsu's music: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6SJisxnVFZo Kingdom of Loathing (2003 – present): https://www.kingdomofloathing.com/ Persona 4 (2008) – opening video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h73LvR8V2LA Pokémon Go (2016 – present) – one of many rare Pokémon hunts: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MLdWbwQJWI0 Psychonauts (2005) – trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aDbDShqvc_o Tandem: A Tale of Shadows (2021) – trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKiv1skvUJQ Untitled Goose Game (2019) longplay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gruIyw_AHYE Yume Nikki (2004) – longplay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yr4iJL1LZwY Meanwhile, Charles can be found around the following parts of the interwebsphere: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/charlessiegel Storytellers' Vault: https://www.storytellersvault.com/browse.php?author=Charles%20Siegel Tellurium Games: https://www.tellurium.games/ As for ourselves, drop us a line at any of the following: Discord: https://discord.me/ctp Email: podcast@changelingthepodcast.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100082973960699 Mastodon: https://dice.camp/@ChangelingPod Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/changelingthepodcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ChangelingThePodcast your host Pooka G (any pronoun/they) used to tear it up at Dance Dance Revolution and is still proud of that A+ on "So Deep". You have no chance to survive make your time. HA HA HA HA. —Cats, Zero Wing

His Shared Slut posted by JessicasEroticRambloings ; narrated by Ava;Welcome To Steamy Stories PodcastShe gets a night with a black stud.Posted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the ► Podcast at Steamy Stories.One day I got home from work, and my boyfriend had forgot to shut down his laptop. I figured I would do it for him but when I touched the trackpad the screensaver quit and I was staring at a porn website. I wasn't surprised that he looked at porn while I was out but I was kinda surprised when I noticed it was all videos of white girls with black guys. My boyfriend was as white as white can be so I was certainly surprised to find out what obviously turned him on. After he got home and we were in bed together I decided to bring up the subject and I asked him why he liked black men Fucking white girls. He was so embarrassed at first but I kissed him and told him I wasn't angry but just that I was curious as to why it turned him on. He told me his buddy Mike had once told him that he was a lucky guy to be dating a girl like me and ever since then my boyfriend hadn't been able to get the image of Mike and me having sex out of his head, and that every time he imagined the scene it made his cock hard.His buddy Mike was a very good looking black guy and the thought that he found me hot kinda turned me on too. Then my boyfriend just blurted out that if Mike was interested would I wanna have sex with him, adding that he would want to watch it happen. I stared at my boyfriend kinda shocked he had just said what he had said but the idea of him wanting to watch his buddy Fucking me just got me so damn hot. I went straight down on my boyfriend and sucked his cock hard until he moaned and spurted cum into my mouth. Two evenings later he came home and Mike was with him. My boyfriend sat down on the couch but Mike approached me and took my hand in his, lifting my hand and kissing it as he told me that he would love to be with me if I wanted him in return. I glanced at my boyfriend and he nodded his head at me telling me he wanted this to happen. A sudden rush of complete excitement washed over me and I kissed Mike on the lips. He kissed me and immediately started to undo my shirt and push down my shorts leaving me in my little bikini that I had been wearing laying out in the sun.He took me in his arms as we kissed which felt wonderful as his big arms wrapped around me. He was so strong and fit with an amazing physique. I slid my hands up his chest and held his face as we kissed, his hands running all over my back and over my ass. I glanced over at my boyfriend and saw he was rubbing his hand against the bulge in his pants. I pulled off Mike's shirt as my little hands slid over his incredibly sexy body. I think my boyfriend was expecting that his buddy was just going to bend me over and shove his big black cock into me and Fuck me like a little horny slut. Mike had other ideas as he stripped and picked me up carrying me to the bed.He slowly pulled off my bikini and slid beside me on my bed, spooning behind me as his hands slid up my legs, over my tummy, my tits, as I turned my head to kiss him. Umm Mike wanted to make love to me and oh god I wanted him too. He slid his hand between my legs as he felt how wet I already was, sliding his fingers into my pussy as I grinded my ass back against his big hard cock. I reached back and wrapped my fingers around his cock caressing and feeling how big and hard he was. Umm I needed him inside me.He moved closer against me and lifted my leg as he slowly slid his cock between my pussy lips, oh, I reached back to dig my nails in his side as he slid slowly and deeply filling my pussy with thick cock. Slowly he Fucked me as he held me in his arms, his hands on my tits, sliding all over me as we kissed. He made love to me for so long, making me cum multiple times on his cock as he slowly Fucked me so deep. My boyfriend hadn't been able to hold out any longer and had cum hard as he stroked his cock. He watched us for a few more minutes then left the room leaving me with Mike as he made love to me all afternoon.After so many orgasms in his arms it was his turn and he didn't pull out before cumming so hard and deep inside my pussy. His cock so deep as he moaned and held my tits as he pumped so much cum into me. After laying together for a while I got up and wrapped a silk robe around me saying I was going to make some coffee. I walked down and my boyfriend was sitting at the kitchen table as I poured two cups of coffee. I kissed my boyfriend and said thankyou before I walked back upstairs with the cups of coffee and climbed back into bed with Mike.By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr. Nanny DutiesI get to keep up with the JonesPosted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the Podcast at Steamy Stories.I was interviewing for a job as a live in nanny for a family in the city. I had arranged the interview with Mrs. Jones who had told me to show up without a bra on. That was a bit of a strange request but I did as she had asked and wore a thin sweater with no bra underneath.I arrived at the house and Mrs. Jones invited me inside. I was feeling super nervous about the interview and even more so because I knew my nipples were clearly visible beneath my thin sweater. She asked me a few basic questions about my previous jobs as a nanny before telling me that her husband, Mr. Jones, would be home soon and that he would be asking me the important questions. She then told me that she was going to be getting me ready for him. Getting me ready for him?I had no idea what she meant but I soon found out as she opened up a closet and pulled out some rope and a small red silk scarf. Mrs. Jones told me to turn around and put my hands around my back and when I did she bound my wrists together with some of the rope. I asked her why she was tying my wrists together but she just told me to be quiet and then tied the scarf into a gag before fastening it around my head to stop me from talking. She then walked in front of me holding a pair of scissors and proceeded to cut my sweater open from bottom to top, exposing my tits. I gasped in shock as she cut my sweater open but she just said she would buy me a new one and laughed. More of the rope was wrapped around my body above my tits and then tied behind me pinning my arms behind my back. She then smiled and told me I was now ready for her husband's questions. I had no idea how I was supposed to answer any questions if I was gagged but I was soon about to find out exactly what kind of answers her husband would be looking for. Mr. Jones arrived home moments later and walked into the room to find his wife sitting next to a bound brunette. He greeted his wife with a kiss and asked her what my name was. She told him that this was Jessica and she was interviewing for the nanny position. He walked up to me and put his hands on my tits as he stared into my eyes. His fingers started circling my nipples and I was amazed how hard my nipples suddenly became under his touch. He seemed very pleased at this response as he smiled and gave each nipple a little pinch before he started to slap my tits with his hand. I gasped into the gag as my hard nipples throbbed from each hard slap from his hand. My nipples were becoming even harder. He then slid his hand down inside my pants and started to rub my pussy through my panties. My eyes went wide as I felt his fingers pressing against my slit through the fabric.Mrs. Jones then asked him if I was wet yet and he told her that I was starting to get very wet indeed. It was very true. I suddenly felt like I had no control of how my body was responding to his every touch. Mr. Jones then pulled me over to the couch and pushed me down over the side as he pulled down my pants then pulled my panties down around my knees. He spanked my ass and told me not to move as he walked back to his wife. I could see them from the corner of my eye as Mrs. Jones started to unfasten her husband's pants before tugging them down allowing his hard cock to spring free from its confinement. She rubbed her fingers over his length then put her mouth over his cock, sucking him for a few minutes as he stroked her blonde hair. She lifted her head and I heard her tell him that his cock was ready to continue my interview. Mr. Jones walked back behind me and I felt him rub the head of his cock along my wet slit. He then said that it was time to discover if I was worthy before he slammed his cock into my pussy, pulling back then taking a few more hard thrusts to get his cock fully buried balls deep into my tight wet hole. I squealed into the gag at the force of his thrusts as his cock fully filled my pussy. He was so rough as he just slammed inside me, grabbing my long hair and yanking my head back as he Fucked me. Mrs. Jones walked in front of me and it felt like her husband was taking out some serious sexual frustration on my tight pussy. Mrs. Jones bent down to my eye level then told me how she had never been able to handle the kind of rough sex that truly satisfied her husband, and that as well as being a nanny to their children I would be her husband's Fuck toy.She asked me if I would like that and even though I couldn't speak because of the gag, the screams I let out as I came all over his huge cock were the answer she was hoping for. My entire body trembled as he Fucked an orgasm out of me. As I screamed he spanked my ass hard and told his wife how my pussy was trying to suck the cum from his balls. He suddenly pulled out as Mrs. Jones knelt down beside me and took his cum load into her open mouth, her husband stroking his cock and groaning in pleasure, spraying his seed onto her tongue. Mrs. Jones swallowed his cum as I was still bent over the couch with my cum dripping from my pussy. Mr. Jones pulled his pants up and told his wife to hire me as I would do very nicely. After he left she untied me and hired me as their new nanny-slash-Fuck toy.By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr. The BeastA nocturnal visitor wants more womenPosted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the Podcast at Steamy Stories.The moaning had begun hours ago, as it always did, faint and muffled through the numerous walls. At first it had been hard to make out, but steadily it had drawn nearer, and Jess knew it would soon find her. Her mother told her it was only a matter of time.For months, Jess had to lie awake at night, listening to the screams and moans of her mother down the hall as the Beast visited her. The hall was long and Jess's was the last room at the end, with her sisters' rooms ascending in age toward her mother's. At that distance, only the loudest calls from her mother could be heard, but heard they most certainly were.At first it had only visited her mother, but the Beast could not be satisfied, and soon her eldest sister, Penelope, volunteered to be added to his visitation routine to offer her mother some relief. Penelope's yelps and wailing were somewhat more audible than her mother's, but the struggle was still mostly muted through the walls. Penelope's sacrifice lessened the burden upon her mother, but it was still not enough for the Beast, and Jess's mother and sister were always unable to walk the next day.After a few weeks of this, Susanna then offered herself to the Beast after Penelope, and Jess could hear Susanna call out curse words as the Beast ravaged her, still ravenous after tearing after her mother and eldest sister Penelope. Still it was not enough, and the three women, though now somewhat ambulatory in the morning, still required much rest to recover.Martina then stood with her elder sisters, and as her room was even closer, though still separated by one last room, Jess could now hear thumping and bumping of furniture against the walls and floor. Their scuffle apparently ranged all over the room, but it did not sound like Martina was able to escape. Still, the four women were exhausted the next day.Only just weeks ago, Jess's next-oldest sister Diana, had stepped up. The Beast was actually with her now, and as Jess lay in her own bed listening, the sounds were her clearest preview yet of what was to come. Diana shrieked and grunted as the Beast threw her around, at one point pinning her to the wall just on the other side of Jess's room. Jess rubbed her clit even harder in anticipation as she listened to the Beast pound away.She had worked herself up into quite a wet mess between her legs in the past two hours, trying to imagine what delicious torture the Beast was dealing to her elder sisters and mother. Sometimes she would take her fingers away and just lie there, almost able to feel the heavy thumps next door reverberating through the woodwork of the house and into her bed frame, not quite enough to push her edging into an orgasm.Finally, Jess heard the sound of her sister limply collapsing to the floor as the Beast roared yet another climax. He was not yet satisfied, though, and Jess felt her heartbeat quicken as his heavy footsteps came for her next. They stopped just outside her closed door. Jess lay still, her fingers deep inside her soaked-to-transparency panties, clutching her swollen, juicy pussy, waiting for the right moment.Then the door opened. There, in the faint light of the hallway, stood the Beast. His brawny body glistened with sweat, and his chest heaved as he panted. His cock hung between his legs, not fully hard but still heavily engorged. It literally dripped with a cocktail of cum.As his shimmering silhouette moved into her room, Jess twitched in devilish delight, and it sent her over the edge, cumming before he'd even touched her. He watched her spasm as he circled the bed, a fire of delight in his eyes as he took in her writhing body. “Come here, little girl,” he growled, then grabbed her legs and spun her around. Jess gasped as she realized his cock had turned fully erect already and was poking at her tortured labia. He didn't wait for her to finish her orgasm before he shoved his full length deep inside of her. So Deep.For an unknowable number of minutes, air wouldn't enter her lungs. Jess's hands grasped wildly at random things, trying to get a grip on something, anything. The Beast was inside of her, hammering her, relentlessly invading and filling her, and she just couldn't breathe. At long last, something unlocked in her chest and she gasped a deep intake of air, its scent a mixture of wood and sweat. Pleasure and pain mingled as one, and Jess now finally understood. It wasn't just the Beast who couldn't be satisfied. Jess now knew, as her mother and sisters had for some time, she would never find a lover equal to her stepfather.Clawing her wits together, she wrapped her legs around his torso, pulling him deeper into her even as he stretched her wider, joining her mother and sisters in their determination to ensure he never found a better haunt.By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr.

His Shared Slut posted by JessicasEroticRambloings ; narrated by Ava;Welcome To Steamy Stories PodcastShe gets a night with a black stud.Posted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the ► Podcast at Steamy Stories.One day I got home from work, and my boyfriend had forgot to shut down his laptop. I figured I would do it for him but when I touched the trackpad the screensaver quit and I was staring at a porn website. I wasn't surprised that he looked at porn while I was out but I was kinda surprised when I noticed it was all videos of white girls with black guys. My boyfriend was as white as white can be so I was certainly surprised to find out what obviously turned him on. After he got home and we were in bed together I decided to bring up the subject and I asked him why he liked black men Fucking white girls. He was so embarrassed at first but I kissed him and told him I wasn't angry but just that I was curious as to why it turned him on. He told me his buddy Mike had once told him that he was a lucky guy to be dating a girl like me and ever since then my boyfriend hadn't been able to get the image of Mike and me having sex out of his head, and that every time he imagined the scene it made his cock hard.His buddy Mike was a very good looking black guy and the thought that he found me hot kinda turned me on too. Then my boyfriend just blurted out that if Mike was interested would I wanna have sex with him, adding that he would want to watch it happen. I stared at my boyfriend kinda shocked he had just said what he had said but the idea of him wanting to watch his buddy Fucking me just got me so damn hot. I went straight down on my boyfriend and sucked his cock hard until he moaned and spurted cum into my mouth. Two evenings later he came home and Mike was with him. My boyfriend sat down on the couch but Mike approached me and took my hand in his, lifting my hand and kissing it as he told me that he would love to be with me if I wanted him in return. I glanced at my boyfriend and he nodded his head at me telling me he wanted this to happen. A sudden rush of complete excitement washed over me and I kissed Mike on the lips. He kissed me and immediately started to undo my shirt and push down my shorts leaving me in my little bikini that I had been wearing laying out in the sun.He took me in his arms as we kissed which felt wonderful as his big arms wrapped around me. He was so strong and fit with an amazing physique. I slid my hands up his chest and held his face as we kissed, his hands running all over my back and over my ass. I glanced over at my boyfriend and saw he was rubbing his hand against the bulge in his pants. I pulled off Mike's shirt as my little hands slid over his incredibly sexy body. I think my boyfriend was expecting that his buddy was just going to bend me over and shove his big black cock into me and Fuck me like a little horny slut. Mike had other ideas as he stripped and picked me up carrying me to the bed.He slowly pulled off my bikini and slid beside me on my bed, spooning behind me as his hands slid up my legs, over my tummy, my tits, as I turned my head to kiss him. Umm Mike wanted to make love to me and oh god I wanted him too. He slid his hand between my legs as he felt how wet I already was, sliding his fingers into my pussy as I grinded my ass back against his big hard cock. I reached back and wrapped my fingers around his cock caressing and feeling how big and hard he was. Umm I needed him inside me.He moved closer against me and lifted my leg as he slowly slid his cock between my pussy lips, oh, I reached back to dig my nails in his side as he slid slowly and deeply filling my pussy with thick cock. Slowly he Fucked me as he held me in his arms, his hands on my tits, sliding all over me as we kissed. He made love to me for so long, making me cum multiple times on his cock as he slowly Fucked me so deep. My boyfriend hadn't been able to hold out any longer and had cum hard as he stroked his cock. He watched us for a few more minutes then left the room leaving me with Mike as he made love to me all afternoon.After so many orgasms in his arms it was his turn and he didn't pull out before cumming so hard and deep inside my pussy. His cock so deep as he moaned and held my tits as he pumped so much cum into me. After laying together for a while I got up and wrapped a silk robe around me saying I was going to make some coffee. I walked down and my boyfriend was sitting at the kitchen table as I poured two cups of coffee. I kissed my boyfriend and said thankyou before I walked back upstairs with the cups of coffee and climbed back into bed with Mike.By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr. Nanny DutiesI get to keep up with the JonesPosted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the Podcast at Steamy Stories.I was interviewing for a job as a live in nanny for a family in the city. I had arranged the interview with Mrs. Jones who had told me to show up without a bra on. That was a bit of a strange request but I did as she had asked and wore a thin sweater with no bra underneath.I arrived at the house and Mrs. Jones invited me inside. I was feeling super nervous about the interview and even more so because I knew my nipples were clearly visible beneath my thin sweater. She asked me a few basic questions about my previous jobs as a nanny before telling me that her husband, Mr. Jones, would be home soon and that he would be asking me the important questions. She then told me that she was going to be getting me ready for him. Getting me ready for him?I had no idea what she meant but I soon found out as she opened up a closet and pulled out some rope and a small red silk scarf. Mrs. Jones told me to turn around and put my hands around my back and when I did she bound my wrists together with some of the rope. I asked her why she was tying my wrists together but she just told me to be quiet and then tied the scarf into a gag before fastening it around my head to stop me from talking. She then walked in front of me holding a pair of scissors and proceeded to cut my sweater open from bottom to top, exposing my tits. I gasped in shock as she cut my sweater open but she just said she would buy me a new one and laughed. More of the rope was wrapped around my body above my tits and then tied behind me pinning my arms behind my back. She then smiled and told me I was now ready for her husband's questions. I had no idea how I was supposed to answer any questions if I was gagged but I was soon about to find out exactly what kind of answers her husband would be looking for. Mr. Jones arrived home moments later and walked into the room to find his wife sitting next to a bound brunette. He greeted his wife with a kiss and asked her what my name was. She told him that this was Jessica and she was interviewing for the nanny position. He walked up to me and put his hands on my tits as he stared into my eyes. His fingers started circling my nipples and I was amazed how hard my nipples suddenly became under his touch. He seemed very pleased at this response as he smiled and gave each nipple a little pinch before he started to slap my tits with his hand. I gasped into the gag as my hard nipples throbbed from each hard slap from his hand. My nipples were becoming even harder. He then slid his hand down inside my pants and started to rub my pussy through my panties. My eyes went wide as I felt his fingers pressing against my slit through the fabric.Mrs. Jones then asked him if I was wet yet and he told her that I was starting to get very wet indeed. It was very true. I suddenly felt like I had no control of how my body was responding to his every touch. Mr. Jones then pulled me over to the couch and pushed me down over the side as he pulled down my pants then pulled my panties down around my knees. He spanked my ass and told me not to move as he walked back to his wife. I could see them from the corner of my eye as Mrs. Jones started to unfasten her husband's pants before tugging them down allowing his hard cock to spring free from its confinement. She rubbed her fingers over his length then put her mouth over his cock, sucking him for a few minutes as he stroked her blonde hair. She lifted her head and I heard her tell him that his cock was ready to continue my interview. Mr. Jones walked back behind me and I felt him rub the head of his cock along my wet slit. He then said that it was time to discover if I was worthy before he slammed his cock into my pussy, pulling back then taking a few more hard thrusts to get his cock fully buried balls deep into my tight wet hole. I squealed into the gag at the force of his thrusts as his cock fully filled my pussy. He was so rough as he just slammed inside me, grabbing my long hair and yanking my head back as he Fucked me. Mrs. Jones walked in front of me and it felt like her husband was taking out some serious sexual frustration on my tight pussy. Mrs. Jones bent down to my eye level then told me how she had never been able to handle the kind of rough sex that truly satisfied her husband, and that as well as being a nanny to their children I would be her husband's Fuck toy.She asked me if I would like that and even though I couldn't speak because of the gag, the screams I let out as I came all over his huge cock were the answer she was hoping for. My entire body trembled as he Fucked an orgasm out of me. As I screamed he spanked my ass hard and told his wife how my pussy was trying to suck the cum from his balls. He suddenly pulled out as Mrs. Jones knelt down beside me and took his cum load into her open mouth, her husband stroking his cock and groaning in pleasure, spraying his seed onto her tongue. Mrs. Jones swallowed his cum as I was still bent over the couch with my cum dripping from my pussy. Mr. Jones pulled his pants up and told his wife to hire me as I would do very nicely. After he left she untied me and hired me as their new nanny-slash-Fuck toy.By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr. The BeastA nocturnal visitor wants more womenPosted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the Podcast at Steamy Stories.The moaning had begun hours ago, as it always did, faint and muffled through the numerous walls. At first it had been hard to make out, but steadily it had drawn nearer, and Jess knew it would soon find her. Her mother told her it was only a matter of time.For months, Jess had to lie awake at night, listening to the screams and moans of her mother down the hall as the Beast visited her. The hall was long and Jess's was the last room at the end, with her sisters' rooms ascending in age toward her mother's. At that distance, only the loudest calls from her mother could be heard, but heard they most certainly were.At first it had only visited her mother, but the Beast could not be satisfied, and soon her eldest sister, Penelope, volunteered to be added to his visitation routine to offer her mother some relief. Penelope's yelps and wailing were somewhat more audible than her mother's, but the struggle was still mostly muted through the walls. Penelope's sacrifice lessened the burden upon her mother, but it was still not enough for the Beast, and Jess's mother and sister were always unable to walk the next day.After a few weeks of this, Susanna then offered herself to the Beast after Penelope, and Jess could hear Susanna call out curse words as the Beast ravaged her, still ravenous after tearing after her mother and eldest sister Penelope. Still it was not enough, and the three women, though now somewhat ambulatory in the morning, still required much rest to recover.Martina then stood with her elder sisters, and as her room was even closer, though still separated by one last room, Jess could now hear thumping and bumping of furniture against the walls and floor. Their scuffle apparently ranged all over the room, but it did not sound like Martina was able to escape. Still, the four women were exhausted the next day.Only just weeks ago, Jess's next-oldest sister Diana, had stepped up. The Beast was actually with her now, and as Jess lay in her own bed listening, the sounds were her clearest preview yet of what was to come. Diana shrieked and grunted as the Beast threw her around, at one point pinning her to the wall just on the other side of Jess's room. Jess rubbed her clit even harder in anticipation as she listened to the Beast pound away.She had worked herself up into quite a wet mess between her legs in the past two hours, trying to imagine what delicious torture the Beast was dealing to her elder sisters and mother. Sometimes she would take her fingers away and just lie there, almost able to feel the heavy thumps next door reverberating through the woodwork of the house and into her bed frame, not quite enough to push her edging into an orgasm.Finally, Jess heard the sound of her sister limply collapsing to the floor as the Beast roared yet another climax. He was not yet satisfied, though, and Jess felt her heartbeat quicken as his heavy footsteps came for her next. They stopped just outside her closed door. Jess lay still, her fingers deep inside her soaked-to-transparency panties, clutching her swollen, juicy pussy, waiting for the right moment.Then the door opened. There, in the faint light of the hallway, stood the Beast. His brawny body glistened with sweat, and his chest heaved as he panted. His cock hung between his legs, not fully hard but still heavily engorged. It literally dripped with a cocktail of cum.As his shimmering silhouette moved into her room, Jess twitched in devilish delight, and it sent her over the edge, cumming before he'd even touched her. He watched her spasm as he circled the bed, a fire of delight in his eyes as he took in her writhing body. “Come here, little girl,” he growled, then grabbed her legs and spun her around. Jess gasped as she realized his cock had turned fully erect already and was poking at her tortured labia. He didn't wait for her to finish her orgasm before he shoved his full length deep inside of her. So Deep.For an unknowable number of minutes, air wouldn't enter her lungs. Jess's hands grasped wildly at random things, trying to get a grip on something, anything. The Beast was inside of her, hammering her, relentlessly invading and filling her, and she just couldn't breathe. At long last, something unlocked in her chest and she gasped a deep intake of air, its scent a mixture of wood and sweat. Pleasure and pain mingled as one, and Jess now finally understood. It wasn't just the Beast who couldn't be satisfied. Jess now knew, as her mother and sisters had for some time, she would never find a lover equal to her stepfather.Clawing her wits together, she wrapped her legs around his torso, pulling him deeper into her even as he stretched her wider, joining her mother and sisters in their determination to ensure he never found a better haunt.By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr.

His Shared Slut posted by JessicasEroticRambloings ; narrated by Ava;Welcome To Steamy Stories Podcast She gets a night with a black stud. Posted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the ► Podcast at Steamy Stories. One day I got home from work, and my boyfriend had forgot to shut down his laptop. I figured I would do it for him but when I touched the trackpad the screensaver quit and I was staring at a porn website. I wasn't surprised that he looked at porn while I was out but I was kinda surprised when I noticed it was all videos of white girls with black guys. My boyfriend was as white as white can be so I was certainly surprised to find out what obviously turned him on.  [[MORE]] After he got home and we were in bed together I decided to bring up the subject and I asked him why he liked black men Fucking white girls. He was so embarrassed at first but I kissed him and told him I wasn't angry but just that I was curious as to why it turned him on. He told me his buddy Mike had once told him that he was a lucky guy to be dating a girl like me and ever since then my boyfriend hadn't been able to get the image of Mike and me having sex out of his head, and that every time he imagined the scene it made his cock hard. His buddy Mike was a very good looking black guy and the thought that he found me hot kinda turned me on too. Then my boyfriend just blurted out that if Mike was interested would I wanna have sex with him, adding that he would want to watch it happen. I stared at my boyfriend kinda shocked he had just said what he had said but the idea of him wanting to watch his buddy Fucking me just got me so damn hot. I went straight down on my boyfriend and sucked his cock hard until he moaned and spurted cum into my mouth.  Two evenings later he came home and Mike was with him. My boyfriend sat down on the couch but Mike approached me and took my hand in his, lifting my hand and kissing it as he told me that he would love to be with me if I wanted him in return. I glanced at my boyfriend and he nodded his head at me telling me he wanted this to happen. A sudden rush of complete excitement washed over me and I kissed Mike on the lips. He kissed me and immediately started to undo my shirt and push down my shorts leaving me in my little bikini that I had been wearing laying out in the sun. He took me in his arms as we kissed which felt wonderful as his big arms wrapped around me. He was so strong and fit with an amazing physique. I slid my hands up his chest and held his face as we kissed, his hands running all over my back and over my ass. I glanced over at my boyfriend and saw he was rubbing his hand against the bulge in his pants. I pulled off Mike's shirt as my little hands slid over his incredibly sexy body. I think my boyfriend was expecting that his buddy was just going to bend me over and shove his big black cock into me and Fuck me like a little horny slut. Mike had other ideas as he stripped and picked me up carrying me to the bed. He slowly pulled off my bikini and slid beside me on my bed, spooning behind me as his hands slid up my legs, over my tummy, my tits, as I turned my head to kiss him. Umm Mike wanted to make love to me and oh god I wanted him too. He slid his hand between my legs as he felt how wet I already was, sliding his fingers into my pussy as I grinded my ass back against his big hard cock. I reached back and wrapped my fingers around his cock caressing and feeling how big and hard he was. Umm I needed him inside me. He moved closer against me and lifted my leg as he slowly slid his cock between my pussy lips, oh, I reached back to dig my nails in his side as he slid slowly and deeply filling my pussy with thick cock. Slowly he Fucked me as he held me in his arms, his hands on my tits, sliding all over me as we kissed. He made love to me for so long, making me cum multiple times on his cock as he slowly Fucked me so deep. My boyfriend hadn't been able to hold out any longer and had cum hard as he stroked his cock. He watched us for a few more minutes then left the room leaving me with Mike as he made love to me all afternoon. After so many orgasms in his arms it was his turn and he didn't pull out before cumming so hard and deep inside my pussy. His cock so deep as he moaned and held my tits as he pumped so much cum into me. After laying together for a while I got up and wrapped a silk robe around me saying I was going to make some coffee. I walked down and my boyfriend was sitting at the kitchen table as I poured two cups of coffee. I kissed my boyfriend and said thankyou before I walked back upstairs with the cups of coffee and climbed back into bed with Mike. By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr.  Nanny Duties I get to keep up with the Jones Posted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the Podcast at Steamy Stories. I was interviewing for a job as a live in nanny for a family in the city. I had arranged the interview with Mrs. Jones who had told me to show up without a bra on. That was a bit of a strange request but I did as she had asked and wore a thin sweater with no bra underneath. I arrived at the house and Mrs. Jones invited me inside. I was feeling super nervous about the interview and even more so because I knew my nipples were clearly visible beneath my thin sweater. She asked me a few basic questions about my previous jobs as a nanny before telling me that her husband, Mr. Jones, would be home soon and that he would be asking me the important questions. She then told me that she was going to be getting me ready for him. Getting me ready for him? I had no idea what she meant but I soon found out as she opened up a closet and pulled out some rope and a small red silk scarf. Mrs. Jones told me to turn around and put my hands around my back and when I did she bound my wrists together with some of the rope. I asked her why she was tying my wrists together but she just told me to be quiet and then tied the scarf into a gag before fastening it around my head to stop me from talking. She then walked in front of me holding a pair of scissors and proceeded to cut my sweater open from bottom to top, exposing my tits. I gasped in shock as she cut my sweater open but she just said she would buy me a new one and laughed. More of the rope was wrapped around my body above my tits and then tied behind me pinning my arms behind my back. She then smiled and told me I was now ready for her husband's questions. I had no idea how I was supposed to answer any questions if I was gagged but I was soon about to find out exactly what kind of answers her husband would be looking for.  Mr. Jones arrived home moments later and walked into the room to find his wife sitting next to a bound brunette. He greeted his wife with a kiss and asked her what my name was. She told him that this was Jessica and she was interviewing for the nanny position. He walked up to me and put his hands on my tits as he stared into my eyes. His fingers started circling my nipples and I was amazed how hard my nipples suddenly became under his touch. He seemed very pleased at this response as he smiled and gave each nipple a little pinch before he started to slap my tits with his hand. I gasped into the gag as my hard nipples throbbed from each hard slap from his hand. My nipples were becoming even harder. He then slid his hand down inside my pants and started to rub my pussy through my panties. My eyes went wide as I felt his fingers pressing against my slit through the fabric. Mrs. Jones then asked him if I was wet yet and he told her that I was starting to get very wet indeed. It was very true. I suddenly felt like I had no control of how my body was responding to his every touch. Mr. Jones then pulled me over to the couch and pushed me down over the side as he pulled down my pants then pulled my panties down around my knees. He spanked my ass and told me not to move as he walked back to his wife. I could see them from the corner of my eye as Mrs. Jones started to unfasten her husband's pants before tugging them down allowing his hard cock to spring free from its confinement. She rubbed her fingers over his length then put her mouth over his cock, sucking him for a few minutes as he stroked her blonde hair. She lifted her head and I heard her tell him that his cock was ready to continue my interview.  Mr. Jones walked back behind me and I felt him rub the head of his cock along my wet slit. He then said that it was time to discover if I was worthy before he slammed his cock into my pussy, pulling back then taking a few more hard thrusts to get his cock fully buried balls deep into my tight wet hole. I squealed into the gag at the force of his thrusts as his cock fully filled my pussy. He was so rough as he just slammed inside me, grabbing my long hair and yanking my head back as he Fucked me. Mrs. Jones walked in front of me and it felt like her husband was taking out some serious sexual frustration on my tight pussy. Mrs. Jones bent down to my eye level then told me how she had never been able to handle the kind of rough sex that truly satisfied her husband, and that as well as being a nanny to their children I would be her husband's Fuck toy. She asked me if I would like that and even though I couldn't speak because of the gag, the screams I let out as I came all over his huge cock were the answer she was hoping for. My entire body trembled as he Fucked an orgasm out of me. As I screamed he spanked my ass hard and told his wife how my pussy was trying to suck the cum from his balls. He suddenly pulled out as Mrs. Jones knelt down beside me and took his cum load into her open mouth, her husband stroking his cock and groaning in pleasure, spraying his seed onto her tongue.  Mrs. Jones swallowed his cum as I was still bent over the couch with my cum dripping from my pussy. Mr. Jones pulled his pants up and told his wife to hire me as I would do very nicely. After he left she untied me and hired me as their new nanny-slash-Fuck toy. By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr.  The Beast A nocturnal visitor wants more women Posted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the Podcast at Steamy Stories. The moaning had begun hours ago, as it always did, faint and muffled through the numerous walls. At first it had been hard to make out, but steadily it had drawn nearer, and Jess knew it would soon find her. Her mother told her it was only a matter of time. For months, Jess had to lie awake at night, listening to the screams and moans of her mother down the hall as the Beast visited her. The hall was long and Jess's was the last room at the end, with her sisters' rooms ascending in age toward her mother's. At that distance, only the loudest calls from her mother could be heard, but heard they most certainly were. At first it had only visited her mother, but the Beast could not be satisfied, and soon her eldest sister, Penelope, volunteered to be added to his visitation routine to offer her mother some relief. Penelope's yelps and wailing were somewhat more audible than her mother's, but the struggle was still mostly muted through the walls. Penelope's sacrifice lessened the burden upon her mother, but it was still not enough for the Beast, and Jess's mother and sister were always unable to walk the next day. After a few weeks of this, Susanna then offered herself to the Beast after Penelope, and Jess could hear Susanna call out curse words as the Beast ravaged her, still ravenous after tearing after her mother and eldest sister Penelope. Still it was not enough, and the three women, though now somewhat ambulatory in the morning, still required much rest to recover. Martina then stood with her elder sisters, and as her room was even closer, though still separated by one last room, Jess could now hear thumping and bumping of furniture against the walls and floor. Their scuffle apparently ranged all over the room, but it did not sound like Martina was able to escape. Still, the four women were exhausted the next day. Only just weeks ago, Jess's next-oldest sister Diana, had stepped up. The Beast was actually with her now, and as Jess lay in her own bed listening, the sounds were her clearest preview yet of what was to come. Diana shrieked and grunted as the Beast threw her around, at one point pinning her to the wall just on the other side of Jess's room. Jess rubbed her clit even harder in anticipation as she listened to the Beast pound away. She had worked herself up into quite a wet mess between her legs in the past two hours, trying to imagine what delicious torture the Beast was dealing to her elder sisters and mother. Sometimes she would take her fingers away and just lie there, almost able to feel the heavy thumps next door reverberating through the woodwork of the house and into her bed frame, not quite enough to push her edging into an orgasm. Finally, Jess heard the sound of her sister limply collapsing to the floor as the Beast roared yet another climax. He was not yet satisfied, though, and Jess felt her heartbeat quicken as his heavy footsteps came for her next. They stopped just outside her closed door. Jess lay still, her fingers deep inside her soaked-to-transparency panties, clutching her swollen, juicy pussy, waiting for the right moment. Then the door opened. There, in the faint light of the hallway, stood the Beast. His brawny body glistened with sweat, and his chest heaved as he panted. His cock hung between his legs, not fully hard but still heavily engorged. It literally dripped with a cocktail of cum. As his shimmering silhouette moved into her room, Jess twitched in devilish delight, and it sent her over the edge, cumming before he'd even touched her. He watched her spasm as he circled the bed, a fire of delight in his eyes as he took in her writhing body. “Come here, little girl,” he growled, then grabbed her legs and spun her around. Jess gasped as she realized his cock had turned fully erect already and was poking at her tortured labia. He didn't wait for her to finish her orgasm before he shoved his full length deep inside of her. So Deep. For an unknowable number of minutes, air wouldn't enter her lungs. Jess's hands grasped wildly at random things, trying to get a grip on something, anything. The Beast was inside of her, hammering her, relentlessly invading and filling her, and she just couldn't breathe. At long last, something unlocked in her chest and she gasped a deep intake of air, its scent a mixture of wood and sweat. Pleasure and pain mingled as one, and Jess now finally understood. It wasn't just the Beast who couldn't be satisfied. Jess now knew, as her mother and sisters had for some time, she would never find a lover equal to her stepfather. Clawing her wits together, she wrapped her legs around his torso, pulling him deeper into her even as he stretched her wider, joining her mother and sisters in their determination to ensure he never found a better haunt. By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr.

His Shared Slut posted by JessicasEroticRambloings ; narrated by Ava;Welcome To Steamy Stories Podcast She gets a night with a black stud. Posted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the ► Podcast at Steamy Stories. One day I got home from work, and my boyfriend had forgot to shut down his laptop. I figured I would do it for him but when I touched the trackpad the screensaver quit and I was staring at a porn website. I wasn't surprised that he looked at porn while I was out but I was kinda surprised when I noticed it was all videos of white girls with black guys. My boyfriend was as white as white can be so I was certainly surprised to find out what obviously turned him on.  [[MORE]] After he got home and we were in bed together I decided to bring up the subject and I asked him why he liked black men Fucking white girls. He was so embarrassed at first but I kissed him and told him I wasn't angry but just that I was curious as to why it turned him on. He told me his buddy Mike had once told him that he was a lucky guy to be dating a girl like me and ever since then my boyfriend hadn't been able to get the image of Mike and me having sex out of his head, and that every time he imagined the scene it made his cock hard. His buddy Mike was a very good looking black guy and the thought that he found me hot kinda turned me on too. Then my boyfriend just blurted out that if Mike was interested would I wanna have sex with him, adding that he would want to watch it happen. I stared at my boyfriend kinda shocked he had just said what he had said but the idea of him wanting to watch his buddy Fucking me just got me so damn hot. I went straight down on my boyfriend and sucked his cock hard until he moaned and spurted cum into my mouth.  Two evenings later he came home and Mike was with him. My boyfriend sat down on the couch but Mike approached me and took my hand in his, lifting my hand and kissing it as he told me that he would love to be with me if I wanted him in return. I glanced at my boyfriend and he nodded his head at me telling me he wanted this to happen. A sudden rush of complete excitement washed over me and I kissed Mike on the lips. He kissed me and immediately started to undo my shirt and push down my shorts leaving me in my little bikini that I had been wearing laying out in the sun. He took me in his arms as we kissed which felt wonderful as his big arms wrapped around me. He was so strong and fit with an amazing physique. I slid my hands up his chest and held his face as we kissed, his hands running all over my back and over my ass. I glanced over at my boyfriend and saw he was rubbing his hand against the bulge in his pants. I pulled off Mike's shirt as my little hands slid over his incredibly sexy body. I think my boyfriend was expecting that his buddy was just going to bend me over and shove his big black cock into me and Fuck me like a little horny slut. Mike had other ideas as he stripped and picked me up carrying me to the bed. He slowly pulled off my bikini and slid beside me on my bed, spooning behind me as his hands slid up my legs, over my tummy, my tits, as I turned my head to kiss him. Umm Mike wanted to make love to me and oh god I wanted him too. He slid his hand between my legs as he felt how wet I already was, sliding his fingers into my pussy as I grinded my ass back against his big hard cock. I reached back and wrapped my fingers around his cock caressing and feeling how big and hard he was. Umm I needed him inside me. He moved closer against me and lifted my leg as he slowly slid his cock between my pussy lips, oh, I reached back to dig my nails in his side as he slid slowly and deeply filling my pussy with thick cock. Slowly he Fucked me as he held me in his arms, his hands on my tits, sliding all over me as we kissed. He made love to me for so long, making me cum multiple times on his cock as he slowly Fucked me so deep. My boyfriend hadn't been able to hold out any longer and had cum hard as he stroked his cock. He watched us for a few more minutes then left the room leaving me with Mike as he made love to me all afternoon. After so many orgasms in his arms it was his turn and he didn't pull out before cumming so hard and deep inside my pussy. His cock so deep as he moaned and held my tits as he pumped so much cum into me. After laying together for a while I got up and wrapped a silk robe around me saying I was going to make some coffee. I walked down and my boyfriend was sitting at the kitchen table as I poured two cups of coffee. I kissed my boyfriend and said thankyou before I walked back upstairs with the cups of coffee and climbed back into bed with Mike. By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr.  Nanny Duties I get to keep up with the Jones Posted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the Podcast at Steamy Stories. I was interviewing for a job as a live in nanny for a family in the city. I had arranged the interview with Mrs. Jones who had told me to show up without a bra on. That was a bit of a strange request but I did as she had asked and wore a thin sweater with no bra underneath. I arrived at the house and Mrs. Jones invited me inside. I was feeling super nervous about the interview and even more so because I knew my nipples were clearly visible beneath my thin sweater. She asked me a few basic questions about my previous jobs as a nanny before telling me that her husband, Mr. Jones, would be home soon and that he would be asking me the important questions. She then told me that she was going to be getting me ready for him. Getting me ready for him? I had no idea what she meant but I soon found out as she opened up a closet and pulled out some rope and a small red silk scarf. Mrs. Jones told me to turn around and put my hands around my back and when I did she bound my wrists together with some of the rope. I asked her why she was tying my wrists together but she just told me to be quiet and then tied the scarf into a gag before fastening it around my head to stop me from talking. She then walked in front of me holding a pair of scissors and proceeded to cut my sweater open from bottom to top, exposing my tits. I gasped in shock as she cut my sweater open but she just said she would buy me a new one and laughed. More of the rope was wrapped around my body above my tits and then tied behind me pinning my arms behind my back. She then smiled and told me I was now ready for her husband's questions. I had no idea how I was supposed to answer any questions if I was gagged but I was soon about to find out exactly what kind of answers her husband would be looking for.  Mr. Jones arrived home moments later and walked into the room to find his wife sitting next to a bound brunette. He greeted his wife with a kiss and asked her what my name was. She told him that this was Jessica and she was interviewing for the nanny position. He walked up to me and put his hands on my tits as he stared into my eyes. His fingers started circling my nipples and I was amazed how hard my nipples suddenly became under his touch. He seemed very pleased at this response as he smiled and gave each nipple a little pinch before he started to slap my tits with his hand. I gasped into the gag as my hard nipples throbbed from each hard slap from his hand. My nipples were becoming even harder. He then slid his hand down inside my pants and started to rub my pussy through my panties. My eyes went wide as I felt his fingers pressing against my slit through the fabric. Mrs. Jones then asked him if I was wet yet and he told her that I was starting to get very wet indeed. It was very true. I suddenly felt like I had no control of how my body was responding to his every touch. Mr. Jones then pulled me over to the couch and pushed me down over the side as he pulled down my pants then pulled my panties down around my knees. He spanked my ass and told me not to move as he walked back to his wife. I could see them from the corner of my eye as Mrs. Jones started to unfasten her husband's pants before tugging them down allowing his hard cock to spring free from its confinement. She rubbed her fingers over his length then put her mouth over his cock, sucking him for a few minutes as he stroked her blonde hair. She lifted her head and I heard her tell him that his cock was ready to continue my interview.  Mr. Jones walked back behind me and I felt him rub the head of his cock along my wet slit. He then said that it was time to discover if I was worthy before he slammed his cock into my pussy, pulling back then taking a few more hard thrusts to get his cock fully buried balls deep into my tight wet hole. I squealed into the gag at the force of his thrusts as his cock fully filled my pussy. He was so rough as he just slammed inside me, grabbing my long hair and yanking my head back as he Fucked me. Mrs. Jones walked in front of me and it felt like her husband was taking out some serious sexual frustration on my tight pussy. Mrs. Jones bent down to my eye level then told me how she had never been able to handle the kind of rough sex that truly satisfied her husband, and that as well as being a nanny to their children I would be her husband's Fuck toy. She asked me if I would like that and even though I couldn't speak because of the gag, the screams I let out as I came all over his huge cock were the answer she was hoping for. My entire body trembled as he Fucked an orgasm out of me. As I screamed he spanked my ass hard and told his wife how my pussy was trying to suck the cum from his balls. He suddenly pulled out as Mrs. Jones knelt down beside me and took his cum load into her open mouth, her husband stroking his cock and groaning in pleasure, spraying his seed onto her tongue.  Mrs. Jones swallowed his cum as I was still bent over the couch with my cum dripping from my pussy. Mr. Jones pulled his pants up and told his wife to hire me as I would do very nicely. After he left she untied me and hired me as their new nanny-slash-Fuck toy. By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr.  The Beast A nocturnal visitor wants more women Posted by jessicas erotic ramblings. Listen to the Podcast at Steamy Stories. The moaning had begun hours ago, as it always did, faint and muffled through the numerous walls. At first it had been hard to make out, but steadily it had drawn nearer, and Jess knew it would soon find her. Her mother told her it was only a matter of time. For months, Jess had to lie awake at night, listening to the screams and moans of her mother down the hall as the Beast visited her. The hall was long and Jess's was the last room at the end, with her sisters' rooms ascending in age toward her mother's. At that distance, only the loudest calls from her mother could be heard, but heard they most certainly were. At first it had only visited her mother, but the Beast could not be satisfied, and soon her eldest sister, Penelope, volunteered to be added to his visitation routine to offer her mother some relief. Penelope's yelps and wailing were somewhat more audible than her mother's, but the struggle was still mostly muted through the walls. Penelope's sacrifice lessened the burden upon her mother, but it was still not enough for the Beast, and Jess's mother and sister were always unable to walk the next day. After a few weeks of this, Susanna then offered herself to the Beast after Penelope, and Jess could hear Susanna call out curse words as the Beast ravaged her, still ravenous after tearing after her mother and eldest sister Penelope. Still it was not enough, and the three women, though now somewhat ambulatory in the morning, still required much rest to recover. Martina then stood with her elder sisters, and as her room was even closer, though still separated by one last room, Jess could now hear thumping and bumping of furniture against the walls and floor. Their scuffle apparently ranged all over the room, but it did not sound like Martina was able to escape. Still, the four women were exhausted the next day. Only just weeks ago, Jess's next-oldest sister Diana, had stepped up. The Beast was actually with her now, and as Jess lay in her own bed listening, the sounds were her clearest preview yet of what was to come. Diana shrieked and grunted as the Beast threw her around, at one point pinning her to the wall just on the other side of Jess's room. Jess rubbed her clit even harder in anticipation as she listened to the Beast pound away. She had worked herself up into quite a wet mess between her legs in the past two hours, trying to imagine what delicious torture the Beast was dealing to her elder sisters and mother. Sometimes she would take her fingers away and just lie there, almost able to feel the heavy thumps next door reverberating through the woodwork of the house and into her bed frame, not quite enough to push her edging into an orgasm. Finally, Jess heard the sound of her sister limply collapsing to the floor as the Beast roared yet another climax. He was not yet satisfied, though, and Jess felt her heartbeat quicken as his heavy footsteps came for her next. They stopped just outside her closed door. Jess lay still, her fingers deep inside her soaked-to-transparency panties, clutching her swollen, juicy pussy, waiting for the right moment. Then the door opened. There, in the faint light of the hallway, stood the Beast. His brawny body glistened with sweat, and his chest heaved as he panted. His cock hung between his legs, not fully hard but still heavily engorged. It literally dripped with a cocktail of cum. As his shimmering silhouette moved into her room, Jess twitched in devilish delight, and it sent her over the edge, cumming before he'd even touched her. He watched her spasm as he circled the bed, a fire of delight in his eyes as he took in her writhing body. “Come here, little girl,” he growled, then grabbed her legs and spun her around. Jess gasped as she realized his cock had turned fully erect already and was poking at her tortured labia. He didn't wait for her to finish her orgasm before he shoved his full length deep inside of her. So Deep. For an unknowable number of minutes, air wouldn't enter her lungs. Jess's hands grasped wildly at random things, trying to get a grip on something, anything. The Beast was inside of her, hammering her, relentlessly invading and filling her, and she just couldn't breathe. At long last, something unlocked in her chest and she gasped a deep intake of air, its scent a mixture of wood and sweat. Pleasure and pain mingled as one, and Jess now finally understood. It wasn't just the Beast who couldn't be satisfied. Jess now knew, as her mother and sisters had for some time, she would never find a lover equal to her stepfather. Clawing her wits together, she wrapped her legs around his torso, pulling him deeper into her even as he stretched her wider, joining her mother and sisters in their determination to ensure he never found a better haunt. By jessicas erotic ramblings, for Tumblr.

In Matthew 8, we can read of a city that has learned to coexist with two demon-possessed men, and they have changed their ways of traveling, settling, and even where they take their herds because of how violent these men are. We read how Jesus comes in, immediately casts them into a herd of nearby pigs, and the problem for this entire city is solved. We think, “That's great!” The city's people, on the contrary, come out and implore him to leave. They would rather coexist with the demons and have their pigs than live without the problem, this stronghold that had taken place and affected their way of living. We could think, “Aren't they grateful he did that for them?” But what about that stronghold within you? Have you buried something SO DEEP, it is a no-fly zone for ANYBODY to go there? What if, in one word, Jesus could completely root that out and heal you from that deep-set trauma, burden, pain, whatever it is? Wouldn't you invite Him in to take it from you?   Monologue: Autumn shares how her daughter's last opening night for the musical she is in went.  Message: Autumn engages listeners to compare what strongholds they have let themselves coexist with to the citywide, deeply set problem found in Matthew 8. Question: “Do you believe in generational sin, like a sin that is passed down from one family member to another?” Praise Report: A listener shares how she is experiencing a renewed spirit within her from a personal interaction with God through a meeting with her pastor.    Bible References: Matthew 8:28-34   Links from the show BOOKS: www.autumnmiles.com/resources SPEAKING: www.autumnmiles.com/speaking MERCH: autumnmiles.square.site   If you have a question for Autumn, testimony to share, or other inquiry for the Autumn Miles Ministries, click here and fill out the form, or send us an email at hello@autumnmiles.com    Join us on social media! Facebook: www.facebook.com/TheAutumnMiles/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/autumnmiles/   Click here to join our weekly and monthly newsletters and get updates on our podcast and exclusive content! If you feel led to give to the Autumn Miles Ministries, click here to donate. Thank you for supporting Autumn Miles Ministries!

Hey Sister!   Have you been dealing with some anxiety and just accepting it as a normal part of life? Maybe something inside of you has been questioning if it truly is normal, why it's there, and if there could be natural ways to reduce it.   This message goes SO DEEP that we had to split it into two parts. In Part 2, tune in to hear Biblical ways to crush anxiousness as well as Dr. Jamie's favorite natural remedies to support the body in working optimally.   Please share this with a friend and leave us a review to bless others with this message!   In His Grace, Bekah   Medical Disclaimer: The information presented in the For the Love of Hormones Podcast is for information only and is not intended to substitute or act as medical or mental health advice. Win Free Coffee (or matcha

Hey Sister!   Have you been dealing with some anxiety and just accepting it as a normal part of life? Maybe something inside of you has been questioning if it truly is normal, why it's there, and if there could be natural ways to reduce it.   This message goes SO DEEP that we had to split it into two parts. In Part 1, tune in to hear about what the Bible says about anxiety, common causes of anxiousness, and natural ways to kick it to the curb!   Please share this with a friend and leave us a review to bless others with this message!   In His Grace, Bekah   Medical Disclaimer: The information presented in the For the Love of Hormones Podcast is for information only and is not intended to substitute or act as medical or mental health advice.   Win Free Coffee (or matcha

Ritual 1 of wealth magick has some powerful stuff. As a preliminary thought, this video has DEEP insight into the background of the ritual 1 and some of wealth magick in general. It is VERY IMPORTANT to note that some of this stuff is SO DEEP that it's not required to know it before doing the ritual for the first time. It's better to digest this information in hindsight, but for anyone curious about this topic, feel free to listen in as we go through it. Sit back, grab a cup of your favorite beverage, and enjoy the podcast as we dive into the history of wealth magick, background of the first working, and more.And here is the latin: We descend from the heavens, So that we might ascend and descend, moving between the two Not by being discovered in the light (I'm pretty sure this is the translation) The body, in the signs, from the elements Nothing is by chance The world was at my table Iron from the stone To the sky, buds sprout And it comes, after this, the future They are not my bones I watch, the place is in between So that walking by way of fire It sets time in motion

Recovery from body hatred and disordered eating provides many layers of learning that unfold uniquely and spontaneously. “Trusting the Process” means that we all work through these experiences and issues in our own way. We can trust that our process is exactly right for us and we don't have to waste precious time comparing ourselves to others. Marcella RaimondoFor a decade in my teens and early twenties I battled with anorexia nervosa. As a queer, cisgender, able-bodied woman of color, I struggled in my recovery because my story did not mirror those in mainstream eating disorder textbooks and biographies.After reading the testimonials of women of color and queer women in A Hunger So Wide and So Deep, by Becky Thompson, I found voices that resonated with my own life experiences. I began to realize that a huge gap exists in the treatment services for underrepresented and underserved folks with eating disorders. My life's calling and social justice spirit came out of this experience.Website: https://marcellaedtraining.com/Email: Marcella@marcellaedtraining.com ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

The best celebrity interview ever, Memphis police video of Tyre Nichols killing, Paul Pelosi attack video & 911 call, TJ Holmes & Amy Robach fired by ABC, Damar Hamlin "speaks", and the Confessions of a Casting Director remembers Rock Hudson & Robert Reed. Damar Hamlin is still pretending to not be dead. In your face, Juanita Broaddrick. A police chase in Milam County Texas leaves 3 dead. Memphis cops beat Tyre Nichols to death. All of it was caught on tape. Memphis PD shuts down their SCORPION unit in response. Looting ensued. Some people are saying there are 6 good reasons to resist arrest. The cousin of BLM founder Patrisse Cullors, Keenan Anderson, was killed following an altercation with LAPD. The Paul Pelosi attack video has been released. The 911 call he made was also released featuring a 911 operator who cannot take a hint. David DePape made a bizarre call to KTVU. TJ Holmes and Amy Robach have been BLOWN OUT. We remember the exact moment TJ realizes he's going to nail Ho-bach. They are so in love now that they're doing the 'Bachelor Leap'. Drew Crime: 20/20 cover the murder of Shele Covlin. One of the suspects in the Madi Brooks rape has been arrested for ANOTHER rape. 48 Hours featured the Ally Kostial murder. Sports: Jim Harbaugh met with the Denver Broncos again... after saying he was staying at Michigan. Josh Gattis BLOWN OUT by the University of Miami. Instagram Updates: Chet Hanks remains SO DEEP. Matthew Rondeau desperately wants you to see the base of his shaft. Grab your EXCLUSIVE NordVPN Deal by going to nordvpn.com/dams to get up a Huge Discount off your NordVPN Plan + 4 months for free! It's completely risk free with Nord's 30-day money-back guarantee. Joel Thurm is spilling all the hot action in Sex, Drugs & Pilot Season: Confessions of a Casting Director. The Washtenaw County Board of Commissioners awarded a $1.2M contract to a nonprofit run by felons. Oops. Kanye West is being investigated for battery for taking and throwing a woman's phone. The cameras love following Buster Murdaugh around during his father's murder trial. Pamela Anderson's 15th husband, Jon Peters, claims he's going to leave her $10M when he dies. Jon Peters is quite the cocksman. RIP Tom Verlaine. Drew is super bummed about this list of aging rock stars. In honor of the late Lisa Marie Presley, we remember the charming interview of Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie with Diane Sawyer. Visit Our Presenting Sponsor Hall Financial – Michigan's highest rated mortgage company Social media is dumb, but we're on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter (Drew and Mike Show, Marc Fellhauer, Trudi Daniels and BranDon).

Have you heard about the Five Keys of Unbound? If so, well you are going to love this episode about going deeper with the Keys. If not, you'll still in for a wonderful treat.  The Five Keys are simple responses to the good news that help us to cooperate with God's grace.  Each key helps us to access this grace and unlock the door to greater freedom.The first three keys, Repentance and Faith, Forgiveness, and Renunciation,  are about responding to the gospel.  Those keys are about turning to Jesus and expressing faith, and more deeply experiencing the power of His kingdom released into our hearts. Then the last two keys are Authority and The Father's Blessing. These are really about the ministry of the Holy Spirit.These keys work intimately together to both give expression to a person's heart as they cooperate with what God's doing, but also to proclaim the good news over a person's life.These keys are SO SIMPLE, yet SO DEEP.  Every time we minister to someone, we learn something new along the way!Join Matt and Jenn as they take us Deeper with the Keys and get into the layers of repentance, the less obvious need for forgiveness, and the power of revelation in renunciation. Listen as they dive into learning not only about blessing a person's identity, purpose, and destiny, but taking it further by blessing areas in their lives that have been discouraged, hidden, or cursed. Whether you are new to Unbound or have been leading ministry sessions for years, you will hear some profound insight and beautiful testimonies,  and you'll be inspired along the way.Renunciation ListA Ring on Our Finger podcast The Overview of the Five Keys talkLeadership Conference informationVisit our websiteFind upcoming eventsSupport the mission of Heart of the Father!Your donation directly supports and enables our evangelizing mission.We are a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization.Give online or call us at 610-952-3019 to change lives today!Find us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramExplore with us on TwitterRelease: September 2022Music by Christian Harper.Artwork by Rosemary Strohm at Command-S.

Another installment of the club rewind series. Join me as we go back in time, back to the clubs, back to the late 80s and early 90s.This mix will feature Robin S, Barbara Tucker, Duane Harden, Erick Morillo, Fast Eddie, and much more!PLAYLIST1. New Generation/Simply Majestic2. Learned My Lesson/Charlene Smith3. Show Me Love/Robin S.4. Tell Me Why (Butcher's 12" Mix)/Monik Garo5. Beautiful People/Barbara Tucker6. You Could Have Been With Me Last Night/Primitive Fire7. The Boy/Ralphie Muniz8. Umph Dat/SAGAT9. Mamba Mama/Circle Children10. Get Get Down/Paul Johnson11. So Deep, So Good/M&M12. Power House/Duane Harden13. Unbe/Erick Morillo14. We Call it Acieed/D Mob15. Yolanda/Reality16. Yo Yo Get Funky/Fast Eddie17. This is House Music/Chicago18. Get Busy/Mr. Lee19. Robi-Rob's Boriqua Anthem"/C+C Music Factory

Subconscious Realms Episode 90 - Social Chaos & Quantum Portals - Raven Keefer. Ladies & Gentlemen, As usual, we talk about ALL the things you aren't supposed to: Social Chaos, Ahriman influence today, Solar/Earth effects on people, and the gambit, including quantum portals, the real ones. Basically, we have yet another Extraordinary Episode Unleashed..Duality?! Technological Evolution? This one goes DEEP, SO DEEP...

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Making Decisions: Are You A Satisficer or a Maximizer? Some deep things we cover:What kind of decision makers are Phyllis and Julie?How does people pleasing factor into decision making?Decision Fatigue: This occurs when there are too many options and your brain can't quite process it all.Hard Choices vs. Big Choices: Not all big decisions are hard and not all small decisions are easy.  “On Par” Decisions:  Sometimes decisions are hard to make because what you're choosing between have equal pros and cons.  When Pros and Cons Fail to Help You Make a Decision…Try Ruth Chang's “A.U.T.H.O.R.” Hack:A - Ascertain what matters in the choiceU - Understand the pros and cons of the alternatives T - Tally up the pros and cons (these 3 steps lead you to agony so now you need more steps.)H - Home.  Settle into the fact that this is a hard choice.O - Open yourself up to the possibility of making a commitment to this choice. R - Remake or Realize yourself as someone who has committed. Make yourself into someone who has the most reason to make this choice.7. The worry of “Am I Making a Mistake?” can prevent us from making a decision: Getting in the “right” or “wrong” mindset can keep us stuck. 8. Who Can You Commit to Being? Might be a better question when making big life choices.9. Are You a Maximizer or a Satisficer? Do you evaluate and stress over every single detail of a decision or are you usually okay with a “good enough” decision?     Take-aways:Roasted Brussel Sprouts or Carrot Sticks: Sometimes decisions don't need to be that hard.  You don't have to roast brussel sprouts when a bag of carrot sticks will suffice. If you're a maximizer like Phyllis, practice satisficing.  Good enough is good enough!A.U.T.H.O.R. - Ask yourself who you can commit to being and then be the person who has the most reason to make that decision.  Be the author of your life choices! We want to have a conversation with you!There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps OR Instagram @thatssodeeppodText us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-0884Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.com Be sure to RATE and REVIEW if you liked this podcast.  You can also FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE.  If you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:How To Make A Hard Decision - Life KitWhy Is It Difficult to Make Decisions? | Psychology TodayDecision-Making | Psychology Today5 Steps for Overcoming IndecisionArmchair Expert

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Vulnerability - Part 2: Why Do We Armor Up? How Can We Show Up Authentically and Find Communities Where We Belong? (based on work by Brene Brown). Some deep things we cover:Fitting In vs. Belonging: When you fit in, you change yourself to enter the community.  When you belong, you show up as you are and are embraced by the community.Vulnerability in Parenting vs. Authoritarian Parenting: Phyllis is experimenting with parenting by being a human next to her kids by being vulnerable with boundaries.Phyllis wonders if the armor that she used as a child still serves her as an adult.Masculine and Feminine Norms: According to Brene Brown, a shame trigger for masculine norms is weakness and for feminine norms it is imperfection.How does perfection show up for Julie and Phyllis?Phyllis discusses how insecurity causes her to armor up.Julie discusses why she armors up when it comes to her partnership.Self Talk: Do you engage in guilt talk or shame talk?  Which one is better?A Mantra to Combat Imperfection: Brene Brown uses this one and Phyllis has adopted it too: “I don't want to be right.  I wanna get it right.”How do we create inclusive spaces so people can be a part of the conversation? Take-aways:What Armor Can We Do Away With That No Longer Serves Us?  Where Does Perfection Show Up in Our Lives? We want to have a conversation with you!  There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:1. Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.2. LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps OR Instagram @thatssodeeppod3. Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-08844. Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.com Be sure to RATE and REVIEW if you liked this podcast.  You can also FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend.  If you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Vulnerable Definition & Meaning - Merriam-WebsterTaken for Granted: Brené Brown on What Vulnerability Isn't (transcript) | TEDBrené Brown on What Vulnerability Isn't - Taken for Granted | Podcast on Spotify

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Vulnerability - Part 1: What it is and What it isn't (based on work by Brene Brown) Some deep things we cover:TW: Phyllis and Julie share some raw thoughts and feelings after the school shooting in Uvalde.  Please take care of yourselves and skip the first 8 minutes of the podcast if you need some space to process. There is No Courage Without Vulnerability: Brene Brown defines “vulnerability” as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure.Vulnerability in the Workplace: Being invulnerable at work can hamper connection with coworkers and yet being overly vulnerable can hijack productivity.  Vulnerability can be appropriate in a work setting with the right boundaries.  Vulnerability Without Boundaries is Not Vulnerability.The Messy House: Sometimes when we are overwhelmed we are a bit like a messy house.  We overshare because we don't have a good grasp on our “stuff” so it can spill out onto people. The Mask: What is the mask we put on to protect ourselves instead of showing up as our authentic selves? You Don't Need to Cry to be VulnerableThe Color Spectrum of Authenticity: If we imagine ourselves as a color, showing up as our authentic selves can mean showing up in a different shade depending on the relationship and the moment.   Take-aways:Vulnerability = Sharing with Boundaries + Intention of ConnectionRemember that vulnerability is not emotional dumping or oversharing.  Before you share something personal figure out your intention.  Is what you're about to share something that will help build a stronger connection with your friend?  And is this relationship an appropriate one to share at this level of depth?   Connect with us!1. Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.2. LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps OR Instagram @thatssodeeppod3. Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-08844. Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comBe sure to RATE and REVIEW if you liked this podcast.  You can also FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend.  If you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:"Vulnerable"  - Merriam-WebsterTaken for Granted: Brené Brown on What Vulnerability Isn't (transcript) | TEDBrené Brown on What Vulnerability Isn't - Taken for GrantedWays to advance solutions to end gun violence: 1. Urge your senators to pass gun safety legislation now. Moms Demand Action has a form you can fill out and the message will go directly to a senator in your state.2. Donate to any of the following organizations: Moms Demand ActionEverytown for Gun Safety Brady Campaign

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about The Power of Music to Create Human Connection. Some deep things we cover:Phyllis and Julie share how music was such a joyful part of their upbringing.Phyllis and Julie love to dance! I see a virtual dance party in our future.Music is Ancient: It is embedded in so many cultures and has been with us since the beginning of time.Phyllis loves Encanto and Julie loves Moana: If you like these movies then we can be friends.  If you don't then we need to talk.Music is Amazing: It connects us to ourselves.  It connects us to others.  It's a universal language. It's infused in everything.  It helps you feel your feelings.  It's powerful. It's human.Take-aways:Let music be your medicine and companion.  If we are having trouble feeling our feelings, let's have music help us.  Instead of scrolling through our phones, let's find a song that can keep us company.We want to hear from you!  What is your relationship with music?  What was music like in your household growing up?  What are your favorite songs?  What songs resonate with you now?  What songs capture high and low moments in your life?  What are the stories behind those songs?  Tell us your stories:Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps OR Instagram @thatssodeeppodText us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-0884Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, be sure to RATE and REVIEW.  You can also FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend.  Click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieMusic and Artists we referenced in the episode:Original maori haka danceIn the streets of Kharkiv, Ukraine-2022  -  Bach Cello Suite no  5 in C minorAll Of You (From "Encanto"/Lyric Video)Norah Jones - Come Away With Me The Corrs - Runaway Jason Mraz - The RemedyIndia.Arie - Video Stevie Nicks - Edge of SeventeenThe Greatest Showman Cast - This Is Me Glen Hansard, Marketa Irglova - Falling Slowly Sarah McLachlan - Angel Sara Bareilles - BraveLizzo - Good As Hell Ways to bring awareness and advance solutions to end gun violence: Wear Orange on June 3rd-5th and look for an event near you.Check out these organizations and see how you can get involved: Moms Demand ActionEverytown for Gun Safety Brady Campaign

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Love Languages: How to Love Our People by Speaking Their Language  (based on The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lastsby Dr. Gary Chapman).Some deep things we cover:What are the 5 Love Languages?  I'm glad you asked! 1) Acts of Service 2) Words of Affirmation 3) Gifts 4) Quality Time 5) TouchPhyllis and Julie Take the Love Languages Quiz: Find out the results!Are We Monolingual or Multilingual?  Can we speak more than one love language?  And do our love languages change depending on who we spend time with?Ruling Out Love Languages: Identify which ones you can live without and the last one standing is probably your primary love language.We Give Love the Way We Receive Love: How can we translate those love languages so we can feel loved and how can we love others the way they would like to be loved?Showing Love Sometimes Means Cleaning Up Cat Vomit: If your loved one's love language is acts of service, sometimes you need to suck it up and do the gross things that they can't quite tolerate. A Cultural Aspect: Phyllis didn't hear the words “I love you” growing up because it was not a part of her culture.  The “Frommers”: Learn what this term means in Phyllis' family and hear more about her kids' love languages.Have You Filled a Bucket Today? A children's book about what it means to love and be kind.Take-aways:Write down a few memories of a time you felt really loved by a loved one.  What category of love language does it fall into?  Chances are, this is one of your primary love languages.Take the Love Languages quiz here: The Love Language™ Quiz and then have a conversation about it with a loved one.  What would it look like to learn each other's love languages?We want to have a conversation with you!  Here's how to connect with us:1. Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.2. LIKE and FOLLOW us on:  FB: @sodeeppeeps OR Instagram @thatssodeeppod3. Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-08844. Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.com Be sure to RATE and REVIEW if you liked this podcast.  You can also FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE.  Click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced:The 5 Love Languages - Book Smart Podcast Oprah and Dr. Gary Chapman: The Five Love Languages - Oprah's Super SoulDo you know the 5 love languages? The Love Language™ QuizHave You Filled a Bucket Today? - McCloud, Carol, Messing, David

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Loneliness: What Is It?  How Does It Feel?  And What Can I Do About It? Some deep things we cover:What is Loneliness? Mental health professionals define it as the gap between the level of connectedness that you want and what you have.  It turns out that loneliness is incredibly subjective.Loneliness is a Distress Signal: Just like hunger tells us we need food and thirst tells us we need water, loneliness tells us we need connection.We Often Don't Recognize That We Are Lonely: Loneliness is tricky to identify because we have these “weapons of mass distraction” called phones that help us numb out our need for connection.Work Centered Lives vs. People Centered Lives: Our world does not put people first.  It puts work first and we are lonelier and sicker than ever.  What would our world look like if we truly put people first?Tend and Befriend Instinct: It turns out that in times of distress, people often help one another.  Helping others is a great way to cure a lonely heart.Take-aways:Loneliness is Often Masked by Overwhelm, Boredom or Feeling Unsettled:  If you're scrolling through your phone aimlessly, chances are, you might be lonely.  What can you do to feel more connected?  What kind of connection are you wanting and how can you achieve that?Lend a Hand When You're Lonely: Find ways to volunteer or help out a friend when you're feeling lonely.  It turns out that helping someone else feel like they matter helps you feel like you matter.Find Common Ground: If you struggle to find ways to connect with your loved ones, lean hard into the things that you do connect on.  By leaning into the areas where you do connect, you are building the groundwork for deeper relationship. We want to have a conversation with you!There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:1. Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.2. LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps  OR Instagram @thatssodeeppod3. Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-08844. Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.com If you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:How to Know You're Lonely - How to Build a Happy Life | Podcast on SpotifyHow loneliness is damaging our healthTogether: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World - by Murthy MD, Vivek H

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Forgiveness: Why Forgive and Forget is NOT the Goal. Some deep things we cover:Apologies and Forgiveness are not a Gift Exchange: They are separate processes that happen for people on their own time.  They take work, time and patience.Forgiveness is the deliberate decision to release feelings of anger, resentment or vengeance.  Forgiveness is work that you do for yourself. It is a pathway to inner peace.Forgive and Forget is not Possible: This saying seems to again highlight our society's inability to process and integrate unpleasant emotions into our lives.  We need a new catchphrase!  Forgive and Integrate?  Forgive and Flourish?  Help!  Can Forgiveness Be Just as Compelling as Revenge on TV? We see it in soap operas, in reality TV shows, in movies…why is revenge so compelling?  Forgiveness can be sexy too!  Forgiveness = The New Revenge?Decision Based Forgiveness & Emotional Forgiveness: What is the difference?  What are We Really Asking for When We Ask for Forgiveness?  Apologizing and Forgiveness are Key Components of Healthy Relationship With Your Loved Ones: In a healthy relationship, we sometimes need to hold in tension our desire to reconnect and also give space for the other person's process to forgive.Take-aways:Forgiveness is not a destination.  It is a journey.Forgiveness is an internal pathway to peace.Sometimes when you ask for forgiveness, you may not get it.We want to have a conversation with you!There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:1. Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.2. LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps & Instagram @thatssodeeppod3. Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-08844. Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.com If you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:5 Ways to Forgive People (Even Those Who Don't Apologize) | Savvy PsychologistForgiveness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness - Mayo ClinicForgiveness | Psychology TodayWhat is Forgiveness? (+9 Science-Based Benefits)What Really Feels Better, Forgiveness Or Revenge? New Research Has An AnswerWhich Is More Empowering, Forgiveness or Revenge? | Psychology TodayOprah Winfrey: FORGIVENESS - Oprah's Super Soul | Podcast on Spotify 

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Fake Apologies vs. True Apologies: What's the Difference? Some deep things we cover:Fake Apologies: Conditional apologies, blanket apologies, silencing apologies…we've heard them all and done them all.True Apologies (according to Dr. Harriet Lerner): Do not include the word "but". Keep the focus on your actions and not on the other person's responseDon't overdo. Don't get caught up in who's more to blame or who is right or wrong. Do not serve to silence someone. Apologies are the Beginning of Conversations…not the End.Apologizing to Your Children Builds Connection.Take-aways:Separate an Apology from Raising an Issue: If you're going to raise an issue, then raise an issue.  That's okay.  If you are going to apologize, then apologize and mean it.  Separate the two.  These are two different conversations.Apologize When You Feel Remorse and Make it Specific: This is where “fake it ‘till  you make it” is not a great plan.  If you don't feel remorse then you have some work to do before you apologize.  Apologies are a Gift to the Other Person and to Yourself:  When you give a gift, you need to do some work to prepare it.  Don't just throw it in a used grocery bag and toss it to the other person.  Take the time to do the emotional work necessary to really prepare the gift for yourself and for the other party.  Your relationship will be better for it.We want to have a conversation with you!There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:1. Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook2. LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps  OR Instagram @thatssodeeppod3. Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-08844. Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.com If you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Harriet Lerner and Brené - I'm Sorry: How To Apologize & Why It Matters, Part 1 of 2 - Unlocking Us with Brené Brown13 Fake Apologies Used By Narcissists | Psychology TodayWhy Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts: Lerner PhD, HarrietOut of Control: Why Disciplining Your Child Doesn't Work and What Will: Tsabary, Dr. Shefali

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. We discuss topics that help us connect more deeply with ourselves and with those we care about because we believe that connection is the antidote to a lonely heart.  Today we are talking about Toxic Positivity (based on the work by Susan David in Emotional Agility). Some deep things we cover:The “Everything Happens for a Reason” Mantra: In an effort to make people feel better with phrases like this one, we actually make people feel worse by trivializing their pain.Myths and Truths about Unpleasant Emotions:Myth: Unpleasant Emotions are Something to “Get Over.”  If you're not happy then you're doing it wrong. Unpleasant emotions are an obstacle to perpetual joy. Truth: Unpleasant Emotions Contain Beacons of Meaning. We are hardwired to feel unpleasant emotions.  It is 100% human.  Unpleasant emotions point us towards what we value most.“Emotions are Information.  They are NOT Directives.” - Susan David: Emotions don't own you.  You own them.  Ditch Bottling and Brooding.  Embrace CURIOSITY. Getting curious is a healthy way to interact with your feelings.  There is rich learning to be had when you ask why. Take-aways:Hold up there, Little Miss Sunshine: Allow space for folks who are feeling it without jumping in with our toxically positive statements.  Be a good listener. Feel It All but You ARE NOT the Feeling: Remember that emotions are information, not directives.  You are in control and the feelings can help guide you. Get Down to the Granular Level: The more specific you are, the more information you get about what you care about.  We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  Connect with us!1. Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook2. LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps Instagram @thatssodeeppod3. Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-08844. Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.com If you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:What Is Toxic Positivity?'Toxic Positivity' Is Real — and It's a Big Problem During the PandemicThe Dangers of Toxic Positivity, Part 1 of 2 - Brené BrownSusan David: The gift and power of emotional courage | TED TalkWhen The Body Says No – Chapter One - Dr. Gabor MatéInside Out (2015 film) - Wikipedia

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about What We Can Learn From Our Regrets.Some deep things we cover:Reclaiming Regret: We are joining author Daniel Pink in reclaiming regret as a useful emotion for our humanity.The Beautiful and Ephemeral Quality of Life: Regrets can be painful because there are moments that we cannot get back once they are gone.Phyllis & Julie Get Deep About Their Regrets: We talk about some of our regrets and how these regrets speak to what we value now.Abandoning Our Sisterhood for Bad Romance: We explore the messages that have reinforced the lie that our value lies in the eyes of men instead of in our own hands.We Discuss the 4 Types of Regret from Daniel Pink's Book The Power of Regret: a) Foundation regret b) Boldness regret c) Moral regret d) Connection regret When We Crack Open Our Regrets We Uncover Meaning: Could it be that in exploring our regrets, we find what we value most in life?Take-aways:Don't be afraid of regret. Understand that it is a feeling that has evolved with humanity that is supposed to point us toward the most important things in our lives.Look within the regret and find the meaning it is pointing you towards.  What do you value now more than ever because of a regret in your life?   We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.LIKE and FOLLOW us on Facebook: @sodeeppeeps & Instagram @thatssodeeppodText us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-0884Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Daniel H. Pink: 4 kinds of regret -- and what they teach you about yourself | TED TalkThe Power of Regret - Brené BrownREGRET: What if we'd done things differently? - We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle | Podcast on SpotifyTop five regrets of the dying | Death and dying | The GuardianKathryn Schulz: Don't regret regret | TED TalkRegrets, I Have A Few | Hidden Brain : NPR

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are celebrating our 20th episode with 20 Questions with Phyllis and Julie!  We hope you enjoy it and get to know us a little better :) Find out:What subjects Phyllis and Julie were bad at in school.What Phyllis and Julie find hard that most people find easy.What Julie's pets would sound like if they could talk.What Phyllis and Julie think are essential for a long term relationship.Whether or not Phyllis and Julie think aliens exist.And much more! Take-aways:No real takeaways!  We just hope you enjoyed this conversation and maybe try some of these questions with some of your friends or acquaintances to take the conversation deeper.  Let us know if there are other questions you have for us that we didn't answer.  We would love to hear from you and we will address your questions in upcoming podcasts! We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps Instagram @thatssodeeppodText us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-0884Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Awkward Silence

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today's episode is titled Feedback: It's Everywhere…So Why Do We Get it Wrong?Some deep things we cover:Feedback is Life: Understanding feedback helps us grow and connect to each other.First Understand Feedback: Don't take feedback at face value.  Before reacting to feedback, ask questions.  Three Categories of Feedback: Appreciation, Coaching and Evaluation.Cross Transactions: When we are asking for one type of feedback and we get another type it creates conflict and disconnection.Human Intelligence is Organized Around Stories: Computers manage and access data but human intelligence is organized around stories.  Beware: we often think our interpretation of data is the data itself.Feedback is a Two-Way Street: Even if you package it well, it can be received poorly.Phyllis' Jekyll and Hyde Way of Giving Feedback: Phyllis unpacks how she tried to use appreciation to compensate for her hypercritical feedback.Pushing vs. Pulling: Pushing happens from the feedback giver and may not create the change desired in the feedback receiver.  Pulling happens from within the feedback receiver and that is where the real change happens.Honest Mirrors and Supportive Mirrors: We need both types of friends who reflect the truth but also provide us with the support we need to change.Take-aways:Take a Mirror Inventory: List the supportive mirrors and the honest mirrors in your life.  We need both types of people to help us grow.Ask For What You Need: Use the 3 categories of appreciation, coaching and evaluation to ask for what we need when we are wanting feedback.  Delay Judgment and Get Curious: Ask clarifying questions about the feedback you're receiving so you can properly understand the story that the feedback giver is giving you.  We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps  Instagram @thatssodeeppodText us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-0884Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Let's Talk: Make Effective Feedback Your Superpower: Huston, ThereseThanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well: Stone, Douglas, Heen, SheilaThe Essentials: Giving Feedback - Women at Work | Podcast on SpotifyDr. Nicole LePera (@the.holistic.psychologist)

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Unsolicited Advice Part 2: What Motivates Us to Give Advice? Some deep things we cover:We are a Helpful Species: We made it this far because people know how to work together and collaborate.  Advice can be a way that people try to help.But Sometimes We Can Be Unhelpful (oops!): There are times when we give advice out of our own neediness and our own powerlessness.  We may not feel like we have control or agency in our own lives so we give advice to feel a sense of power or emotional validation.Let Me Give You Advice to Make You Stop Talking: Sometimes friends ruminate on a problem and we give advice in hopes of stopping the flow of complaints.  We discuss a more direct approach that may be worth a try.Being Teacher All the Time: There are folks who want to be teacher ALL THE TIME.  It can be excruciating.  We share some thoughts on how to try to view them with compassion and also let them know that you don't need their advice. Take-aways:Relationship Balance: Ask yourself if your go-to people can also go to you and vice versa.  Are there people who come to you but you can't go to them?  How does it make you feel in these relationships?  How do these relationships work for you?  If they don't work for you, what needs to shift?Check Your Motivations Before/During/After Giving Advice: Find friends who can help you grow in these areas.  If you find yourself spouting advice because your life is a bit chaotic and you're feeling needy…acknowledge that, apologize and ask for help.  You can check your motivations at any point in the process.Have Faith in People: Trust that others are on their journeys and they don't need you to advise them every step of the way.  Try encouragement in lieu of advice.  You may find it might just yield better results. We want to have a conversation with you!  Here's how to connect with us: Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.LIKE and FOLLOW us on:  Facebook @sodeeppeeps Instagram @thatssodeeppodText us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-0884Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced:Let's Talk: Make Effective Feedback Your Superpower: Huston, ThereseThanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well: Stone, Douglas, Heen, SheilaThe Essentials: Giving Feedback - Women at Work | Podcast on SpotifyTypes of Unsolicited Advice That Cause StressHow to Handle Unwanted Advice by Setting Boundaries

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Unsolicited Advice: The Thing We Love to Give And Hate to Receive. Some deep things we cover:How do you feel when people give you unsolicited advice?Relationship Triggers: Sometimes you can't take advice simply because of the relationship you have with the person who is giving the advice even if the advice is sound.Three Categories of Feedback: Appreciation, Coaching and Evaluation.Love and Belonging VS. Growth: Sometimes these can be opposing forces inside our hearts and minds.All Advice is Autobiographical: We inevitably give advice to others through the lens of our own lives.  It is unavoidable.We see you New Moms!  People are talking at you all day everyday but we want you to know that you're killing it!Being a Friend to Our Friend's Who are Stuck in a Bad Relationship: We talk about how tricky it is to speak truth, hold space and keep boundaries so we can help catch our friends when they are ready. Take-aways:To the Advice Giver:Remember that all advice is autobiographical.  You are approaching your friends from your lens and your life experiences and attempting to speak into their lives.  Try a more curious approach and try to understand their lens before jumping in. To the Advice Receiver: Before sharing, think about what you need: When you share with a friend, you can sometimes open yourself up for advice even if what you need is just to process your feelings.  Try to figure out what you need before sharing so that you can ask for what you need and your friend can be a better friend to you.Surround yourself with loving and encouraging people: Good friends encourage, support and speak truth.  Find those people and spend as much time as you can with them so that you can become the best you that you can be.***We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-0884Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comJoin our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook @sodeeppeepsInstagram @thatssodeeppod If you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Let's Talk: Make Effective Feedback Your Superpower: Huston, ThereseThanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well: Stone, Douglas, Heen, SheilaThe Essentials: Giving Feedback - Women at Work | Podcast on Spotify

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Complaining: Why do we do it?  And does it really make us feel better?Some deep things we cover:Complaining is Contagious: We all do it.  Three Types of Complaining: We discuss the difference between venting, problem solving, and ruminatingChecking in with the “Complaint Receiver”: You often need to complain TO someone BUT are they in a head space to receive your complaining?What is the difference between healthy venting vs. emotional dumping?“I need to process this”: a way to shift your complaining into problem solving.It's not you it's me: Our complaints are often about us and our triggers and not about others.F Bombs in Journals: Phyllis shares how she emotionally dumps into a journal and how that helps her.Take-aways:When you find yourself wanting to complain to someone, first figure out what you need.  Do you need to emotionally dump?  Do you need appreciation?  Do you need to vent?  Do you need to figure out why something is bothering you?  Before you complain, check in with the person who you are complaining to.  See if they are in a head space to receive your complaint.  If they are, then ask for what you need.  If they are not, consider journaling or going for a walk.  In general, the most healthful and helpful way to “complain” is to problem solve or "process."Pay attention to how often you complain.  Pay attention to who you complain to.  Pay attention to if the conversations you are having are “complaint heavy” and if so, think about why and how you might have different conversations. We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:Text us or leave us a voicemail: 805-288-0884Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comJoin our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.LIKE and FOLLOW us on: Facebook: @sodeeppeeps Instagram @thatssodeeppod If you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Go Ahead and Complain. It Might Be Good for You. - The New York TimesThe Difference Between Venting and Dumping | Psychology TodayComplaining, for Your Health - The AtlanticDoes Complaining Damage Our Mental Health? | Psychology TodayIs Complaining Good or Bad For You?

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Finding Your Inner Mentor (Based on the work from Playing Big by Tara Mohr). Some deep things we cover:The Inner Critic is not the only voice inside of you.  There is a wiser and gentler voice and that is the voice of the Inner Mentor.The Role of Imagination in Empowerment: You CAN become what you haven't seen in the outside world.  You just need to see it in your inside world.Outer Mentors and Inner Mentors: Society has no problem telling women that their own voices are not enough.  We have been trained to seek outside sources for the answers when the truest, most perfect answers are within each of us.  Take-aways:Carve out 30-45 minutes to visualize your Inner Mentor.  Choose one of the meditations in the resources below.  Find a quiet space, take a deep breath and begin.  If you find your mind wandering or if you fall asleep, that's okay, you're just tired.  Try again another day.  You can prep yourself by taking a warm bath.  Pour yourself a mug of warm tea.  Do what you need to help you relax.  Things to keep in mind from Playing Big:Explore and pay attention to symbols that come up.Don't take the vision too literally.  If the vision shows that you are pregnant, it may not mean literally.  It may just mean opportunity or abundance lie ahead.Keep your inner mentor to yourself…at least for a while...it is precious and yours.Post visualization journaling questions from Playing Big:Write about any images, feelings & words that came to mind as you visualized.What was her true name?  Look up the origin, root & meaning.What was her presence like?What did she look like?What was her home like?What was her parting gift to you?  Take some time to journal and answer these questions.  Now that you know what your Inner Mentor looks like, allow this more fully expressed, authentic version of yourself to pull you forward into who you will become.We want to have a conversation with you! There are many ways to connect with us.  Here are some of them:Join our That's So Deep Community Group on Facebook.LIKE and FOLLOW us on Facebook: @sodeeppeeps LIKE and FOLLOW us on Instagram @thatssodeeppodLeave us a voicemail: 805-288-0884Email us: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Supplemental Exercises & Tips for Playing Big by Tara MohrA Future Self Guided Visualization - Meet Your Inner MentorPlaying Big, Tara Mohr's Women's Self-Development BookSimplify: Ken Page: Meet Your Inner MentorLean In Book

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about What Your Inner Critic Sounds Like and How to Get it to Shut Up (Based on the work from Playing Big by Tara Mohr).Some deep things we cover:Inner Critics are like buttholes.  We've all got one!Inner Critics are the Risk Aversion Department of your brain.Inner Critics are more concerned with safety than truth: They'll tell you anything to keep you safe from emotional risk.What does the Inner Critic sound like?Harsh, rude and mean.Binary: Black and white thinking. No gray area.Sexist Body CriticalA Broken RecordAn Outer Critic that you have internalized: a parent, a sibling, a coach etc.If your inner critic is getting hysterical, it may mean that you're on the edge of a breakthrough.  Keep going!Take-aways:Now that we know what the Inner Critic sounds like, what are some ways we can get it to quiet down?  Here are some tips from Tara Mohr's book Playing Big: Name and describe your critic:  Take a minute to breathe and journal.  Give your critic a name and identify their personality traits.  What are their features?  What kind of car do they drive?  What does their voice sound like?  How do they take their coffee in the morning?Take the “I” out of the inner critic and talk about them in the 3rd person:  Instead of saying “I'm freaking out!” try “my inner critic is freaking out right now!”  The inner critic is “a” voice but it is not “the” voice.  Ways to Minimize the Inner Critic's voice:Physically walk out of the room when your critic starts talking.Locate the voice in your body and imagine it receding into space.Pantomime putting all the criticisms in a box and moving it out of the room.Imagine a volume dial in your mind and see yourself turn the volume down. We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Playing Big, Tara Mohr's Women's Self-Development BookShadow Work: Benefits, How To, Practices, & Dangers The Goop Podcast - How to Defeat Your Inner CriticThe Science of Happiness: Episode 2: Quieting Your Inner Critic

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about the Growth Mindset.Some deep things we cover:Fixed Mindset vs. Growth Mindset: What is the difference?Neuroplasticity: Your brain has the ability to change and grow new neural pathways!Watch Out For Overgeneralizations: I am terrible at math!  I suck at sports!  We've all said things like this to ourselves.  These overgeneralizations assume that we are innately bad at something and hinders growth.The Power of Yet: Adding yet to the end of the sentence is a tried and true trick used by growth minded educators everywhere - “I can't do that…yet.”Process Phrasing vs. Noun Phrasing: Instead of “You're so smart!” try this “I can tell you've spent a lot of time learning about this subject.”Acknowledge and appreciate how far you have come: Don't compare yourself to others.  Instead, think about where you started and give yourself credit for how far you've come and all the progress you've made.Take-aways:The Journey to a True Growth Mindset:Identify the areas where you have a fixed mindset: The first step is to get out of denial and get comfortable with confession.  It's okay.  We're all a mixture of both fixed and growth mindsets.Identify when your fixed mindset is triggered: When you feel that pit in your stomach or the lump in your throat and the negative self-talk starts…it's a sure sign that your fixed mindset is showing up.Name your fixed mindset persona: Whether it is Bossy Betty or Freaked Out Phil, we all have a fixed mindset persona that shows up. Naming her/him helps us create a little separation so we can address that inner critic and start to minimize her voice.Take your persona along for the journey of growth: Okay, Freaked Out Phil, you're coming with me!  Thank your persona for her feedback and tell her that you're on the path towards growth so hop on or get off the train!  We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you! Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Carol S. Dweck: Books, Biography, Blog, Audiobooks, KindleCarol Dweck || The Latest Science of Growth Mindset - The Psychology Podcast | Podcast on SpotifyThe Happiness Lab: How to Adopt a Growth MindsetThe Trouble With Bright Girls | Psychology Today

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time.  This is the third episode in a series where we explore Our Complicated Relationship To Our Stuff.  Today we are closing out our series with Core Values and Gratitude.Some deep things we cover and some take-aways:Values Lists: Find a list of values and journal about which ones resonate with you.Highlights and Lowlights: Think about the highlights (values expressed) and lowlights (values suppressed) in your life and see if you can identify any core values in there.People You Admire: Who do you admire and what values are they expressing?  What is it about them that draws you in? Big dreams: Who do you want to become and how will your values get you there?Put On Your “Perspectacles”: Make the ordinary extraordinary by shifting your perspective.Be Grateful for SPECIFIC things: They can be big or small but be thankful for the specific and see how it changes your mood and your outlook on life.We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you! Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Dare to Lead List of Values - Brené BrownTake the Upgrade: 26 - Identifying Your Core Values as in Brene Brown's Dare to Lead and Listener Q&AGlennon Doyle wants you to stop being grateful, thank you very much Give Me Gratitude or Give Me Debt | MomasteryPersonal Values Assessment5 Core Values Quizzes to Identify What's Important to YouEpisode 44: Gratitude with Omar Brownson | Simon Sinek

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time.  This is the second episode in a series where we explore Our Complicated Relationship To Our Stuff.  Today we are talking about Why We Still Want More Even Though We Already Have Too Much. Some deep things we cover:Blame it on Evolution: Humans have a scarcity impulse and we are wired for survival.Buying Feels Good: Keep the dopamine hits coming!  Buying stuff lights up the pleasure centers in our brains and we can't get enough.We Feel Special: Our inner treasure hunter feels validated when we find an item that no one else has.We Seek Novelty: We get bored and often want something new to keep our lives interesting.We Are Vulnerable to Advertisers: Advertisers exploit our insecurities and know how to use products to make us feel inadequate and keep us wanting more.The Target Effect: You know how it is.  You go into Target for some batteries and come out with a new pair of shoes and some sunglasses.Control Restoring Activities: Instead of buying something to cheer ourselves up, what alternate activities could we choose to restore control and improve our mood?How Touch Impacts Our Buying: Look with your eyes, people, not with your hands!What is the relationship between Bargain Shopping and Being Frugal?  We unpack how these two behaviors are NOT one and the same. Take-aways:1. Understand the Deeper Why Of Your Buying Habits: Do you have a strong scarcity impulse?Are you a dopamine fiend?  Does the rush of a purchase feel good?Do you like the feeling of winning?Do you buy because you feel sad?Understanding the deeper why is the first step in figuring out if your purchasing habits help you get more of what you want in your life.   2. Try to Self Regulate. Before you make a purchase, ask yourself 2 questions:Do I need this item?Will I use it in the long run?3. You don't have to do this alone!  Grab a friend and listen to our podcast together.  Discuss, connect and grow together and then tell us all about it.  Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Want Stuff? Why We Are Driven to Buy More | Psychology TodayThe Psychology of Bargain Shopping | PYMNTS.comOld Spice | The Man Your Man Could Smell LikeWhy does shopping feel so good? - BBC WorklifeFrugal Definition & Meaning - Merriam-WebsterExtravagant Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time.  This is a first in a series where we explore our complicated relationship to our stuff.  Today we are talking about why we hold on to stuff and why it is so hard to let it go. Some deep things we cover:Our Stuff Represents Memories: A loved one passing, a childhood memory, a time when you were happy.Our Stuff Represents A Past Identity or a Future Self: Someone you once were or someone you hope to be.Love Language of Gift Giving: Buying things for people is how you show and receive love. If you don't accept or keep the gifts then it shows disrespect and lack of gratitude.Culture of Consumption: We are immersed in stuff and it is hard to avoid.Money and Time: It is hard to face the money and time wasted on the things we bought.Regret and Failure: Each time we see an item we no longer use, we see our own failures and poor decision making.Not Wanting To Be Wasteful: Sometimes the things we have are perfectly usable even if they have been sitting on a shelf for 7 years so it feels wasteful to get rid of them.Decision Fatigue and Overwhelm: Our ability to make good decisions can deteriorate over time because there is just so much to sift through.  It is easier to just shove items back in the closet than to continue. Take-aways:Understand the Deeper WHY: We aren't asking you to get rid of the items that you are holding on to but we are asking you to ask the deeper why.  Why are you holding on to these things?  Are you holding on to a past identity? Do the items represent a fantasy self or a future self?  Do your things hold your hopes and dreams?  Are you not wanting to be wasteful?  Is it hard for you to face the time and money that you have spent on these items and you can't quite stomach the failure?  Understanding the deeper why is the first step in figuring out how to let things go.  Once you understand the deeper why, then you can begin asking yourself if holding on to these things align with your Core Values.  If the items don't fit into the life you are wanting to create for yourself, then maybe it is time to graciously let them go and make space for the abundance that awaits you. We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Simply and Fiercely: https://www.simplyfiercely.com/blog/Mari Kondo: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing (The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up) Maxwell Ryan: Apartment Therapy - Sample

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time.  Today we are CALLING ALL CONTROL FREAKS! Some deep things we cover:What is the relationship between uncertainty and control?What makes control freaks so freaky?  The answer: anxietyPrimary Control and Secondary Control:  Do you try to change the world to fit yourself or do you try to change yourself to fit the world?How does our control make the people in our lives feel?  It makes them feel like we don't trust them.  And if we can't trust then how can we truly love?Control vs. Surrender: AKA print out the Serenity Prayer, tape it on your mirror and recite it EVERY. DAMN. DAY.  (See resources below)Take-aways:Wait out the stress cycle instead of jumping in to control someone's actions.  Try some of the tips on the Distress Tolerance Skills worksheet to help you get through it.Remember that you have your own Thoughts, Feelings, Actions loop.  Allow others to have their own loop and allow people to go through their own process.Make a Borrowed Rules list.  Do you still follow the rules you were taught?  Which rules continue to be worth following and which ones don't?We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you! Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Distress Tolerance Skills5 Ways to Stop Being a Control Freak | Savvy PsychologistControl Freaks — Kelly Hanlin McCormickSerenity Prayer Printable - Hungry Happy Home

This week Jasmine is diving deep about how she is approaching the new year along with letting you know what to expect for season 2 of the She's So Deep podcast. Grab your floaties!

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time.  Today we are: DECONSTRUCTING NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS! Some deep things we cover:Life is hard enough!  Let's not make it harder with well intentioned but unrealistic resolutions!  Phyllis and Julie share some thoughts on reimagining the new year and setting us up for success. Go with the natural rhythms of life: Don't go jogging in the snow if you live in the Midwest!  Maybe it's time to hibernate and reflect.Identifying our CORE VALUES and how they align with our goals.Types of Resolutions: 1) Results  2) Habits  3) Holistic 4) CessationAbundance Mindset vs. Scarcity Mindset: How to let go of things to make space for what matters to us most.Fresh Start Effect: It's okay to restart as many times as you need.Set Mini Goals: Focus on the next step, not the whole mountain!Tweak your goals until you're excited: Make it fun!Threat goals vs. Challenge goals: Phyllis shares some stories about her demotivational parenting threats.Accountability: Write your goals down or sign a social contract with a friend.  Scary but effective!Take-aways:This week, let's figure out our CORE VALUES and align them with our intentions and goals.  Time to bust out the journal or go for a reflective walk!Reflect upon times you felt the most joyful, alive and present.  What were you doing?  What do you think was the core value?Make a list of the things you value most (core values).Make some mini goals or intentions for yourself this year. Cross check with your core values.  See if they align.  If they do, great!  If they don't, toss ‘em! Tweak your goals until they feel exciting and fun!  Revisit and restart as many times as you need! We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:004 SP Why Your New Year's Resolutions Fail (and How You Can Change the Pattern) - The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health 276 - 4 Psychology Hacks to Help You Stick to Your Goals - The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health Simply and Fiercely: https://www.simplyfiercely.com/blog/

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time.  Today we are having a conversation about HAVING A CONVERSATION!Some deep things we cover:Interrupting means:You DON'T care: Interruptions can mean poor listening and show lack of care.You DO care: In certain cultures, interruptions and overlap can show engagement and that you do care about the conversation and relationship.Monologuing - When people talk AT you instead of talk TO you, it can leave you feeling used, upset and lonely.Talk Time Awareness: Are you aware of how much you are talking compared to how much the other person is talking?Mutual Curiosity: You can only build deeper bonds with people if there is MUTUAL curiosity and interest in one another.Check-ins and Rewinds: If you find yourself talking a lot, you can always check-in and rewind.  Let your friend know you feel self conscious about talking too much and see if you can bring the focus back on them.Generosity: Sometimes Phyllis' mind is like a “disorganized house” and she finds she can be more generous in conversation when her house is in order.Small Talk SUCKS! Let's stop talking about the weather and start talking about our favorite smells! Conversations are the little knots that build the bridge of relationship: Relationships take patience and are built one conversation at a time.  TMI: When is sharing too much just too much? If you experience what Brene Brown calls the “vulnerability hangover” then it is a sure sign that you have shared too much.Take-aways:Try having ONE good conversation with ONE person this week.  Practice the following: Ask good questionsGet curiousBring awareness to your talk timeTry not to make the conversation about yourselfTry a wacky conversation starter: Free Gift — Awkward SilenceWe want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you! Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and we can't wait for our next deep conversation!Love, Phyllis & JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:Glennon Doyle: We Can Do Hard Things Episode 22 | Momastery : Real Talk: How can we begin to use conversation as a key to unlocking each other?Steven Benbow: 20 Benefits of Conversation — Awkward SilenceAdam Grant: Adam Grant StatusDr. Ellen Hendrickson: How to Deal With Loneliness“vulnerability hangover” - Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability | TED Talk

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time.  In this episode, we talk about CONFLICT.  There was a lot that we covered in this episode so the list is longer than usual.  Hope you come away with some take-aways!Some deep things we cover:Phyllis sees conflict as an opportunity for connection and understanding yourself.Julie is a lover not a biter: Julie talks about how she would respond when her younger sister would bite her.Responding vs. Reacting: What is the difference?Reconciliation: What does it mean to reconcile with a person?Four Types of Conflict: Aggressive, Passive, Passive Aggressive and Assertive.  Which type are you?  Which type should we aspire to?Timing is everything: Phyllis shares how her anxiety can hijack the timing of a conflict.Apologies are the key to reconnecting.Conflict is a skill: You can practice and get better at it.Unified Detachment: Shifting our perspective from oppositional to collaborative.Soft Feelings vs. Hard Feelings: Which ones do bring into a conflict?  Take-aways:Unified Detachment: Start with a shared goal.  When you are in a conflict, instead of seeing the conflict as something that is coming between you and your person, think about being on the same team and tackling it together.Listen to Understand: Instead of preparing your own remarks, soften your heart and set your thoughts aside momentarily.  Be present for your person.  Try to listen to understand what they are trying to convey to you.  Choose Words that are Worthy of the Light of Day: It's hard to filter when you are in the heat of the moment but take the time to find words that communicate your feelings but also honor the relationship.  It's hard to un-say words once they are said.  We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  Please leave us messages, art, poetry, feedback, insights, vents, questions, possible topics...all of it! Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, FOLLOW US, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming,Phyllis and JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:How to Stop Avoiding Conflict | Savvy PsychologistUnified Detachment: UNHEALTHY CONFLICT VS. HEALTHY CONFLICTReconciliation Definition & Meaning - Merriam-WebsterWe Can Do Hard Things Episode 07 - FIGHTING WELLArmored Versus Daring Leadership - Brené BrownFierce Conversations by Susan Scott

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time.  This is the second of a two part episode on BOUNDARIES and PEOPLE PLEASING.  If you missed the first episode on BOUNDARIES, feel free to go back and listen to it.  In today's episode, we tackle the topic of PEOPLE PLEASING.  Some deep things we cover:What is People Pleasing? - Phyllis and Julie discuss whether or not they are people pleasers.  Any guesses? Back Talk vs. Self Advocacy - How Phyllis allows her kids to negotiate with her and sometimes has flexible boundaries.Being honest vs. making excuses - Why do we do that?  Phyllis and Julie go through 10 Signs You're a People-Pleaser (Psychology Today) - See if you relate!  Find out which mannerism Julie has picked up from Phyllis :) False Choice - Dry hamburger or refreshing sushi?  How false choice sets us up to become people pleasers.Borrowed Beliefs - Uncovering how much of our childhood and adulthood is about pleasing our parents and learning how to find out who we are and what we want as humans. Take-aways:Beliefs List - Take a piece of paper and divide it into 3 columns.  In the first column, write down BORROWED BELIEFS.  In the second column write down DEVELOPING BELIEFS. And in the third, write down ACTUAL BELIEFS.  Take a moment to think about the beliefs you were raised with and write them down in the first column.  Now, think about your actual beliefs that you hold true for yourself and write them down in the third column.  And for any beliefs that are still evolving, write those down in the second column.  What did you learn about yourself while doing this exercise?  Were there any surprises?  Call us or write to us and let us know! We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  Please leave us messages, art, poetry, feedback, insights, vents, questions, possible topics...all of it!  Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, you can FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE or SHARE with a friend and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and can't wait for our next deep conversation!Yours in Becoming, Phyllis and JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:People pleaser Definition & Meaning from Merriam Webster.“Thank you for waiting” vs. “I'm sorry I'm late”: We pulled this idea from Kristen Bell and Monica Padman's podcast called We Are Supported By.  Disappointing ourselves or disappointing others: Glennon Doyle has very developed and thoughtful ideas surrounding disappointment.  You can hear more of her thoughts on her podcast We Can Do Hard Things.10 Signs You're a People-Pleaser: This is the article from Psychology Today that we were referencing.

Hello So Deep Peeps!  Welcome to That's So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time.  In this episode, we tackle the topic of BOUNDARIES.  This is the first of a two part episode so stay tuned for our next episode where we talk about BOUNDARIES and PEOPLE PLEASING!  Some deep things we cover:Where did Phyllis and Julie first learn about boundaries and personal space? Julie discusses what it was like growing up in a big family and sharing one bathroom.  Phyllis shares some cultural values of growing up with parents who immigrated from Hong Kong.How do Phyllis and Julie define boundaries?  What is a “one-sided friendship”?  And how do boundaries come into play?  Phyllis comes to the defense of nurturers.  Why it is hard to have boundaries when you're a nurturing person.What are our non-negotiable boundaries?  Phyllis discusses what a non-negotiable boundary looks like surrounding conversation about her daughter's body. Take-aways:Think about what your “non-negotiable” boundaries are and write them down.  Why are these your non-negotiables?Think about what your more “flexible” boundaries are and write them down.  Why are you willing to be more flexible surrounding these boundaries? We want to have a conversation with you!The whole point of this podcast is to facilitate and encourage deeper conversations and we want to hear from you!  Please leave us messages, art, poetry, feedback, insights, vents, questions, possible topics...all of it!  Here is how you can reach us:Voicemail: 805-288-0884Email: sodeeppeeps@gmail.comIf you liked this podcast, give us a LIKE or a SHARE and if you don't want to miss an episode, click that BELL so you can be notified right away when the next episode releases.  We love you and can't wait for our next deep conversation!Love,Phyllis and JulieResources and articles we referenced in the episode:10 Tips for Setting Healthy Boundaries by Nicole Arzt, LMFT

Jasmine grabs her floatie along with guest, Michaela to dive deep on defining Health. She's So Deep is about challenging the notions of the superficial world while diving deep into our truths.

For a decade in her teens and early twenties Marcella battled with anorexia nervosa. As a queer cisgender woman of color, she struggled in her recovery because her story did not mirror those in mainstream eating disorder textbooks and biographies. After reading the testimonials of women of color and queer women in A Hunger So Wide and So Deep, by Becky Thompson, she found voices that resonated with her own life experiences. She began to realize that a huge gap exists in the treatment services for underrepresented and underserved folks with eating disorders. Marcella's life calling and social justice spirit came out of this experience. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lucia-matuonto/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/lucia-matuonto/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For a decade in her teens and early twenties Marcella battled with anorexia nervosa. As a queer cisgender woman of color, she struggled in her recovery because her story did not mirror those in mainstream eating disorder textbooks and biographies. After reading the testimonials of women of color and queer women in A Hunger So Wide and So Deep, by Becky Thompson, she found voices that resonated with her own life experiences. She began to realize that a huge gap exists in the treatment services for underrepresented and underserved folks with eating disorders. Marcella's life calling and social justice spirit came out of this experience. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lucia-matuonto/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/lucia-matuonto/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you want to make your characters and writing pop? There are some pro techniques to enhance a character and connect the reader with her/him. One of them is using Deep POV. Join us for a discussion on Deep POV. What is it? How do you do it? And when are there times you can purposefully not use it? We've got you covered in this episode! To check out the K-Lytics report we mentioned, head over to https://k-lytics.com/dap/a/?a=7419&p=k-lytics.com/epic-fantasy And you can check out our book Plot Development here: https://books2read.com/Plot-Development Tune in for new episodes EVERY single Monday.   SUPPORT THE AM WRITING FANTASY PODCAST! Please tell a fellow author about the show and visit us at Apple podcast and leave a rating and review.   Join us at www.patreon.com/AmWritingFantasy. For as little as a dollar a month, you'll get awesome rewards and keep the Am Writing Fantasy podcast going.  Narrator (3s): You're listening to The Am. Writing Fantasy Podcast in today's Publishing landscape, you can reach fans all over the world. Query letters are a thing of the past. You don't even need. And literary agent, there is nothing standing in the way of making a living from writing. Join two best selling authors who have self published more than 20 books between them now on to the show with your hosts, Autumn Birt and Jesper Schmidt. Jesper (31s): Hello, I'm Jesper. This is episode 125 of The Am Writing Fantasy Podcast. And it's now time to discuss Deep point Of view, how we can Help you Story. I think that should be an interesting conversation, Autumn. Autumn (50s): I think so. I liked this one because you know what I like to put up the point of view, and this is like one of my favorite aspects of writing. And so we were just looking at what people liked as well on the, some of the pastor podcast episodes. And it seems like the ones that have to do with writing crafts are quite popular together with our very silly monthly ones where, where we just like go out on something as well. Those are my two favorite podcasts. So I'm with the listeners and I guess it means we have to do more of them. Right? Jesper (1m 22s): Probably we shouldn't do it like two or three times a month with it just to at least a half. I, that might be a bit too much, Autumn (1m 29s): but we can't have a whole, like there has to be a month dedicated to podcast in a room with nothing but a stupid tub, top 10 list. Jesper (1m 42s): All right. Maybe not, but we'll be fine, but how are things going on you and all of them. Autumn (1m 50s): I don't know if they are good as you know, but the listeners might not be as I just got back from a trip from seeing my parents, which I haven't been down to their house since like pre pandemic, of course, because we are a good little kids, but it was so nice and also so hard because they seem to have, like, it seems like everyone saying like the pandemic was like, what a century. They seem to age on way too much. On the last year, it was just terrifying. But you know, they take their naps and I got to spend some time with them and we went, we did go out, I got my first vaccinations, you know, 50%, 80% protected. I know it's a lot. So I have my next one scheduled. Autumn (2m 30s): And so we, we did go to work to do breweries and we went out just a little bit and then it could be a huge tide dinner or, you know, I'm a foodie yellow food. So I was making potstickers and Tom got gum, like Nike pronounce it Now, but I made it a coconut based supe. And it was just, honestly, it would be nice to go and visit your parents again after such a long while. Oh, it was eight drank too much beer drank too much wine, ate too much sugar. It's all of a good thing. It was a lot to like, exactly. You got to hang out with my folks. And they were definitely, they are definitely my, some of my favorite people on the planet. So it was really excellent. Autumn (3m 10s): And I got to see my nephew and he gave me, and I don't know if you saw the picture I shared on Instagram and Facebook, he gave me a 4k monitor, a 32 and just give it to monitor. So I, well, he wasn't using it and he does coding. He does, he was doing a little bit of a graphic design, but he's going more into coding. So it was like, I don't need for K to read code has got to monitor. I was like 24 inch side by side. He's good. But yeah, he didn't need this one anymore. And he knows I've been doing graphic design on my 13 inch Mac pro. And then it gives me this more as you put it, it was like, I could bring it to you, but it takes up my whole bag. Autumn (3m 51s): Wow. So I'm so excited. It was like the best late birthday present ever. It is fast. Spectacular. I have it. Yeah. I have to find a place to put it in our cabin Jesper (4m 4s): because it's too big for a table. Autumn (4m 7s): Yeah, exactly. It is. It is too big for a table. And so yeah, we were in, and we don't have a ton of wall space cause this captain has a ton of window. So like you don't get there or there are, so I can't wait though. And I already, yeah, I already was playing with a cover on it and going, Oh, I need to fix that. I couldn't even see it before. So, and it was a wonderful trip, Jesper (4m 30s): But we also have a trip that we went to visit my brother and his wife this past weekend, which is probably the first trip we've had in close to a year, I would say too to COVID-19 as well. And it was really nice. And the, the, the weather was good enough for us to sit outside a car, a couple of hours on the terrorist as well. So that was, that was good. Yeah. I like that. Yeah. But also over the past week, I've started watching a new show on Amazon prime. Have you watched the American gods? Autumn (5m 5s): Oh, no, I haven't. Not at all. I have seen it a little bit too. It, Jesper (5m 8s): I am only two episodes a season, but I would have to say, I mean, I avoided For, I don't know quite why, but for awhile I just felt like, know, it's not my thing. I don't want to watch it, but then I thought, yeah, okay, I'll give it a shot. And I started watching it. It's really good. I mean, after the first two episodes, so I'm like, Oh my God, I'm hooked. You know what? It's like, it delivers Autumn (5m 34s): Its kind of the way Jesper (5m 35s): That we liked to ride stores as well. Do you know? It it's very easy. You don't quite understand what's going on it. So it's kind of a bit of a mystery thing going on in there. Like, and, and the main character does not understand either. So he is trying to figure out what is going on here? Why are these people so weird? Did this? I think they are God, but they are behaving really weird and they can do all kinds of supernatural things, but it's not over done. Like is just small things. Like he flips a coin and every time it lands on heads, for example, just like every single time, just small stuff like that. And I still don't quite understand after two episodes of what they're trying to do and what does God actually wants the main character to do. Jesper (6m 15s): I don't know. And, and so that's the main character doesn't know either, but I like it. It is very intriguing and I want to watch more. Autumn (6m 28s): Oh cool. Well that's my husband has some trainings through may. Like he'll be gone half the month at two different times, so maybe I'll go check it out, but it sounds like it will keep me in touch with, Narrator (6m 38s): We can go on to the internet with The Am Writing Fantasy Podcast. Jesper (6m 43s): So back in episode 122, so that's not that long ago, but we had Alex Newton on from K Lytics and she had some great market research about the FANTASY Shamara and Alex were so incredibly kind afterwards that he should be at the latest detailed Fantasy market report with me. So I thought I would summarize the conclusions from that report here for everyone's benefit. Right. Autumn (7m 13s): Nice. Yeah, that sounds great. I can't wait to look at it when you summarize it and I know Jesper (7m 18s): You don't mind them. So I've picked out like what is like maybe eight, seven, eight different key points here that I thought I could just a waffle off here and hopefully be a bit helpful as well. Excellent. So first of all, after that, A romance in thrillers Fantasy remains the third highest selling Shamrock of The on the Amazon Kindle platforms. So, and during the first COVID-19 lockdown period, there was a very clear and very sharp drop in sales of APEC fantasy novels. Jesper (7m 58s): But the good news is that here in 2021 sales have been trending upwards again. So I don't know why people don't want to read Fantasy when they're on lock down, but I will hold it against them. I'll I'll have a grudge about that. Autumn (8m 14s): Yeah, I agree. I mean, seriously, you're stuck at home and maybe it's like too, like you can't go out and be in a fantasy world for a long time. Jesper (8m 23s): I would go. So the Epic Fantasy market is quite large. K Lytics measured around 800,000 a month in royalties being paid for Epic Fantasy. So that's pretty good. Mmm, wow. But it also shows actually there is in the top of the Epic FANTASY Shaundra, the competition is quite hard up there. So it means that it, it, it is a pretty good to write it in because there was a lot of readers, but to be on the bestseller lists and the two earn like on the top of the top of the chart, you have to sell a lot of books. Jesper (9m 12s): So it's not easy to get to the top of those lists, but, but at least there was a lot of readers. So I think that's good news. Autumn (9m 22s): Yeah. Yeah. That is good news. I mean even a small piece of a very big pie. It was a piece. It still tastes good. Yeah. Jesper (9m 30s): Maybe depending on what kind of pie it is. I guess I don't like Apple. Is that enough? It's true. I feel like most people like Apple. Yeah. Autumn (9m 40s): Well, you know, its kind of bland. Yeah. Well it, over here that there was a few States where they built cheddar cheese on top the top of the pie and I ain't touching that. Can Jesper (9m 50s): We do like a chocolate pie? Is that possible? Autumn (9m 54s): We Can do chocolate. I prefer coconut, but we can do a chocolate coconut and that'd be good. Yeah. Jesper (9m 59s): I don't think this is in Decatur or K Lytics report. So the next one and this one will interest you Autumn. So if one looks at the top 250 covers in the best seller list, then about half of them show symbols or scenery on the cover as opposed to any characters. Wow. Autumn (10m 26s): That's so interesting. It was surprising for me because me as a reader, I look at it and I'm like, eh, you know, what does it tell me about the Story? It's a pretty Fantasy picture, kind of interesting, but every time I've used a symbol picture as well. So I find it as interesting as well, Jesper (10m 43s): Because then it goes onto say that 23% of covers shows a male, usually like warrior type of character on the cover. Whereas 14% shows a female character. But the interesting part though, is that okay if you compare the sales rank between the books that has a female character on the cover, versus those that has a male character on the cover, the female covers actually tend to rank higher than the ones with a male Now. And I think that's a very interesting to know as, as well. 'cause if you look at the fact that there is 23% of the mails on the covers, you might go to the conclusion to say, Oh, well that means that it's better to have the males on the cover it, but actually it's the opposite. Jesper (11m 32s): It's better to have females. Autumn (11m 35s): Yeah. What do you need to have more, have more female cover? We have an Elvin female assessment. Yeah. Jesper (11m 43s): Got it. Autumn (11m 44s): Yeah. Well we can do, how can I put her into book one? Alright. We won't get in to cover a spectrum and other good Jesper (11m 52s): News for those who write military, that's a category on Amazon and hear the sales rank versus competition ratio is quite in your favor. So in other words, it's a pretty good category to publish your books in. So I think that's a good information to have if you're right. That kind of book. Autumn (12m 17s): Yeah. Yeah. Or if you're thinking of writing that down Jesper (12m 20s): Pricing, so $3, $3 99 and $4 99 is the most frequent price point among FA Epic fantasy books on Amazon. But the highest yielding price point is nine 99 followed by seven 99, which I think is pretty good news for us because we are planning to sell around six 99, seven, nine to nine or something like that. So that's pretty good. That is the highest, highest kneeling price point. Autumn (12m 52s): Yeah. That is really interesting. I'm surprised you think. Why do you think that counts box sites are those individually books? Jesper (12m 59s): I think it is. I think in part it has to do with the traditionally published books where the chart's more and there are, that's probably a school's to data in a bit, I guess M but what it does prove though, is the people who are willing to pay the higher price point for books a day. So if you make sure that your covers are indistinguishable from the traditional publishing, meaning that they look just as a professional, then there is, there should be no reason why people wouldn't want to buy it. And at six 99, seven 99 or something like that, even nine 99. I know we talked with the actually twice, I think, but way back when this podcast was a YouTube channel, we talked to Joseph Malick twice and he sells his, all his books are at nine 99. Jesper (13m 49s): So it's yeah, it's a possible, right. But anyway, three 99, four 99, that's the most frequent price points. So if you want to stay within the frame of what people are used to, then that's probably the price point to go for it, but we are going to sell out books a bit higher than that, but it's up to you. Of course. Autumn (14m 7s): Sounds exciting. And also Jesper (14m 10s): About two thirds of all the Epic fantasy books are outside Kindle unlimited. Autumn (14m 20s): Hm. Yeah. Interesting. So there's only a third that are in Kindle unlimited. Oh it's so that is, it makes me wonder if the people, if that's a smaller pool so that they are actually doing well, there's less competition. Or if readers just prefer to be outside of it, you know, there are wide, these books are, or why it's not a hundred a month. Jesper (14m 40s): I can only say got my gut feeling. Is that a, I think there is room to play in Kindle unlimited. If you put Epic FANTASY in there. I think, I think that you can get a new readers because there's not enough Epic fantasy books in Kindle unlimited. They want to read. So I think it's probably a pretty good place to place your books, but that is just my gut feeling. I don't have any data to back that up. So there is a ton more stuff in this report. So if you are curious, do you have listener? I should. Yes. Did you go and check out the full report is mighty helpful in order to understand what is working and what is trending in the Epic Fantasy market. Jesper (15m 23s): And I only gave you the highlights here. So we'll add a link in the show notes so that you can check it out yourself. The full report will cost you $37, but it is well, well worth it and on to perhaps a good place to stop is with a definition. Autumn (15m 47s): Why is it? Oh, that's all it's boring sometimes. You know, I think it was a very good way to start though. It's true. Well, it should be, it helps to clarify things, but yeah. So Deep point of view that has usually referring to a third person limited, which I think that sounds even more confusing point of view. So a third person is when you use, he, she, his, her, you know that tight, but rather than I, which is a first person and limited means not omniscience. You literally are like Writing along on the character. Scholder you can only see, hear, feel, touch what that character feels seasoned here is in touch. Autumn (16m 27s): So if someone has a running up to the character from behind the character is not going to see it, they're going to see what's in front of them, like their best friend standing up in throwing an X and thinking, Oh my God, why is he is trying to get out of my best friend or trying to kill me? Well, really throwing an ax at the, you know, the ogre coming up from behind. So those are the types of stories we're talking about. So if you write it in first person and your property, you are already limited and you are already sort of in a Deep point of view, your really grounded anchored into that character. So what we're doing is we're looking at anchoring the reader into a character, but using third-person now, why is a third person useful for Fantasy Writing? I know, you know this one, right? Jesper (17m 9s): Well actually, before getting that far, I was also thinking that, Oh, maybe I I've tried to prepare some examples just to a few prepare. I always plan things on them. Why do you keep pointing out things? Autumn (17m 29s): Yeah, because I think I just looked at the title of the day and said, Oh yeah, I'm good to know Jesper (17m 33s): This way. I plan things. It was just to try to give you a couple of examples of that. So maybe, maybe make it a bit more real, but basically you, so we are trying to, with the point of view, we are trying to sort of hit a style of writing where we immersed to read as much as possible into the point of view character. And I think it's basically like, if you imagine watching your favorite films or TV shows, you know, we are trying to mimic in the Writing that we only experience in CS and knows what the character knows a and thereby we are limiting the narrative, so to speak. Jesper (18m 19s): So I tried to make one of each, so an example where we have like a third person limited, like that's what most of us Fantasy authors normally. Right. And then another example with a Deep point of view. And I don't know how well I'm going to succeed here. So you'll have your own, my edit there anyway, Autumn. So you will have to edit stuff. Okay. This is the regular third person limited. Okay, ready? I need to do my voice storytelling my voice. I probably can't keep that up without a laughing. Okay, fine. Are you hurt the King's voice? Booming in the great hall, calling him in the way he had come to know signifying the King's anger. Jesper (19m 7s): What had he done wrong? Fi find out. I didn't know yet if a familiar unease ceased his stomach. Okay. So that was like third person limited, pretty standard regular. And now my attempt of a transforming the same scene into a Deep point of view. So, and now you are the editor here. Remember the penetrating force of the King's voice echo throughout the great hall. Find out, felt it in his bones. And as he had so many times before, what has he done wrong this time? Come here right now. Jesper (19m 47s): Shout at the King as if he was nothing but a laptop find out it felt the knot twisting and tightening in her stomach with every step toward the red faced man. Autumn (19m 60s): Yeah. That's perfect. Congratulations. I think that's fantastic. I think it's pretty obvious. Yeah. Jesper (20m 5s): Obvious. Which one is the most engaging, right? Autumn (20m 11s): Oh yeah. The second one that was just, I mean, you know, to me, it's so brilliant because you really, you feel it. It's not, you're not just being told what's is going on with the character or what he's thinking and feeling that you kind of, you feel it, you were like, Oh, the gut twisting, you know, the anxiety. It, it heightens to me like, if I'm thinking of it as an art terms, it's upping the contrast, your getting that really kind of gripping engagement, what you don't get with just regular sort of center or a third person limited. Yeah. You definitely don't get up. Jesper (20m 42s): All righty. You, you feel the blood boiling and all of that stuff right in that that's the way anger or the sadness or whatever the character feels that we feel it that's at least that's how I feel like Deep point of view, just bring so much more to the story. I actually learned what act in preparing, because yes, I do prepare for these episodes, all of them. But in preparing for this episode, I a, I actually learned that a star, this a Deep point of view Writing is actually only became popular in WRITING like 20 to 30 to 40 years ago. I didn't know that before or researching this. So that's that I find that quite interesting. Autumn (21m 26s): Yeah. I mean, before that, even if you look at Tolkin, it is technically omniscient, even though you're mostly staying with Frodo, but there are times token head hops because you know, no one else what other people are doing. They had more of a Narrator type of voice. Now we have more of a character. Yeah. Jesper (21m 46s): You told her why is that in the beginning? It is. It's much more akin to what you normally see in movies. And so on. I mean, I know of course you don't get under the skin of the characters in the movies, But, but watching the character's in a movie, you sorta get the feeling about their feelings. Right. So it's different from being told that The, then he went there and then he did this and, and so on. Autumn (22m 12s): Exactly. And it's, I mean, that's where you have those little tension. I think it really ups the tension to be in the point of view, even in movies, you had that moment where you might dwell on something like just the breathlessness or if a panting I have watched a movie recently were the whole seen was black. And you had just heard someone say breathing, that's a Deep point of view. So that is when you're just, everything is down to just that one little focus. And because it is so tension, field and emotion field, you really engage with the character. If the bad news is, if you hate the character, you really like, Oh, I don't think engage with this character. But if you like the character, if you were rooting for them, Oh, you are just like grip in the book or the Kindle. Jesper (22m 52s): Now I talk to my son. Well, so far away from what you were saying early on that, I completely forgot now. Autumn (23m 1s): Oh, well, why, why are there to see the author specifically writing in third person verses first person? Or what's the better angle that this is? What is the main mode? I do know there are some first-person stories out there, but majority of the authors are the right person. Jesper (23m 17s): You think the last part of it is because we like to have multiple point of view characters. And so when we write the third person limited, it, it allows us, for example, between chapter's to switch to another character. And then we are getting inside the head of that character. But if you were writing in the first person, you can see call every character. I then it would be pretty confusing for the reader who is I now? And then this is all of a sudden another person. So yeah, as you said, a fantasy novels do exist with a first person, but they are, they are pretty limited a that there is not that many of them, I think in the grand scheme of things. Yeah, Autumn (23m 55s): No, mostly urban fancy. Yeah. I think urban fantasy is mostly an AI-based Story, which surprises me. And even when I write from urban Fantasy and I always stick to a third person because I like characters that that's what Epic Fantasy I can think of Tolkien, how many doors and every one that was running her off onto this quest, all of the hobbits. I mean, there were so many characters. You could not write that in first person or he could do like, who are we here? What are we talking about? You know, I'm in small, I've got to just stick with a small, we're fine. Right? Jesper (24m 27s): Yeah. But I think as well for us, for this whole thing to actually work, you have to know your point of care, point of view characters really, really well, because otherwise you, you simply won't be able to write their personal point of view about what's going to happen. So yeah, there's a step. Autumn (24m 50s): Yeah. There is that you definitely its up and things, a notch because when you're in Deep point of view, everything comes as if it was from that character. So even your word choice, one of my examples is I had a character who hated her father. So every time I'm in her point of view, should, did she ever think of even her father, his father? No. She thought of him his first name as father. She would never say daddy or dad, because that is, you know, that's an emotional resonance. And so it is literally picking every choice your metaphors become from that character. So we should do that anyway, but you really have to do it with the point of view. Autumn (25m 30s): So you have a character that is a sailor. Is there gonna be thinking someone has a S their tents like taught the rigging? There are not going to have some things, you know, Oh, their stress, like a farmer or under the hot son. That's not what they are familiar with. You, you have to be very specific with every word choice so that you're just kind of pulling the reader in to this very narrow window of what it is like to live in. Yeah. Jesper (25m 51s): Not only that also in terms of the character's personal and motivations and the background of the character, or even, you know, like something happens and a character don't like it. Okay. So you need to know, well, the reason he doesn't like it, this because a so-and-so happened in the past and it brings back back bad memories and stuff like that sort of thing. You can not see it into the narrative unless you know it, so it puts more demand on you to have a new character creation process to really know them. Of course, a in the plotting guidebook, we wrote, we have a whole section that we'll talk you through this. We will put the link to that won in the show notes as well. Jesper (26m 32s): So, so if your interest that you can check it out at any rate, or whether you follow a guidebook all, or you do it by yourself, I think the main point is just that you really need to understand all those details about the, or otherwise it's going to be very hot. You can ride the point of view, but it's going to be very hard to do it well, unless you know those things. Autumn (26m 54s): Yes. And it does, it's going to take practice anyway. But yeah, and I think one of the other things is like you mentioned your, Your have this character reacts a certain way because of something that happened in the past, but not always jumping back into that flashback, or even explaining like acted, you know, aggressively or said, I don't want to hear about that being. And then he has, and then you'd do that character. He thinks about the time that blah, blah, blah, you don't do that. In the point of view, you don't go wander off into character thoughts either. You, you really it's picking and choosing what is going to be related to the reader slowly and over a time. And it should come out in the other dialogue or a, maybe you'll do a flashback later, or you'll have something else to explain why that reaction is. Autumn (27m 38s): You can allow that the reader to be a little bit like, Oh, well, I don't know why they did that. Exactly. But it's an obvious trait. Something triggered this emotion. And that is definitely one of the writing techniques to is that you actually get rid of things. Like he thought he wondered hee all those little verbs. It says the character is thinking that no one of these just do it. You have that thought, Oh yeah, you do this action. You don't think about doing it, right. Jesper (28m 4s): Yeah. At least some of what you said there. I think that that applies just as well to the third person limited you, you should try to not wander off into all these kinds of other explanations as well. And that's not specific to Deep point of view where so much I think it's yeah. It's, it's just good Writing. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Autumn (28m 27s): Yeah. Geez. You both said it. Yeah. Too funny. Jesper (28m 31s): But is there, I was just wondering, because you're being the editor here. So if, for example, let's say I'm being the listener here. Now I wrote, I wrote my first draft and now I'm sitting down and I want to edit it and I want to make sure it is Deep point of view. Well, enough if I can say it like that. So is there anything you would say, like, this is a sort of the check list or these other things that you should be top five things you should be looking for? Something like that. It is. Is there any, anything you do when you edit all of them too, to make sure that, that the product is well in or written well, and the point of view? Autumn (29m 21s): Absolutely. And I mean, the first one I think is taking out those things, like he thinks like, when she feels like if you had to sentence, like he, you know, if he feels a sweat of sweat beat on his forehead, no, you just go straight to sweat. What does it feel when a sweat runs down out of that hit right on his skin. Yes, exactly, exactly what you try to really imagine what it would feel like to do that. And you cut out those words that he feels, and he thinks, because those are actually create a little barrier between the character and the reader. And the whole point of the point of view is to just remove that barrier. And another thing is you often see people say like, he thinks about this, or he thinks that she is an idiot. Autumn (30m 8s): No, it would literally be like, she's an idiot. That would be the character thought you would start doing those little introductory phases because it is literally like journaling in third-person. You want it to seem like you were just totally seated in that. Yeah. Jesper (30m 22s): Yeah. I think that is exactly the key. Right? If you imagine yourself, when you're riding, if you imagine how I am inside the character, I wouldn't say to myself, I'm thinking, I would just think it right. Autumn (30m 35s): I know exactly. If you wouldn't write it in first person, you won't write it in a Deep point of view. And so, yeah, like I think about going to the grocery store now, don't you just go to the grocery store and that is how it works. And those are the important little clues. And even like I said, the Italian is a lot of ice. Sometimes get readers who will read back when I stuff it's like, well, this is a thought it should be an Italian as well. You don't have to do that at the point of view, it should come across very naturally. If you want to see some really good Deep point of view, go read some George RR Martin. He is an expert at really anchoring into a character's head and really feeling like that world comes alive through that character. Autumn (31m 18s): And that is, you know, you really make sure you dwell on the other senses, seeing what else is going on so that you have the thinking, the feeling of the touching, the tasting, all of those things are very much alive and nuanced throughout every single chapter. Yeah. Jesper (31m 34s): Yeah, absolutely. And I think actually, I don't know if, if, if, if you agree with me here, but I'm almost thinking like isn't a lot of this really a bit of just a mindset shift on your approach to Writing rather than it is like a new technique as such. That's, that's almost how I think about it. Autumn (31m 59s): I think it is. It is just realizing that the reason for this person is so spectacular is that you are really just with one character and you feel so connected with that character. And that's what gets you turning pages is because you want to see what happens to that character. So this was being able to do that exact same thing and those exact same emotional pools, but with multiple characters. And again, though, this is where you need to be careful or is that you then don't want to have 10 character's in your story. You want to keep it as limited as possible. And when it really becomes hard is when you switch to a character you don't like, or like the villain, you want to do the best you can to be that character, his voice, and show the world through their perspective. Autumn (32m 47s): And that's why it works so fantastic. When you have those gray characters that you have a good characters that have some bad falls and bad characters that had some really good ones that you can show that they are really doing all of the wrong things, but for the right reasons. And that's where it's so impactful. It, it makes the stories. I think the ones that are really linger with you after you closed the book are the ones that are written and Deep point of view because you just really can not get these characters out of your head. And when you're writing it, you really can't get these characters. Knowing that Jesper (33m 19s): That's also a challenge in the sense that we recently completed our first a reader magnet on a short story where the character, he is one of the Ember dwarves and I was setting, which means that the end, but wolfs are not very nice, you know, setting a no. And then the third thing is that as people know, I can actually be quite a challenge to write a character like that because he can come across as not being very nice. He's not very likable necessarily because that's the way he is. That's a part of their culture. Jesper (33m 59s): So it was a bit of a challenge to write it in a way whereby the Rita actually understands where the guy's coming from, you know, the, that they understand, like he's not doing these things or he doesn't view things this way because he wants to be evil or anything like that. It is just, that's the way he grew up. That's, that's part of his culture. And of course, Deep point of view is excellent at explaining those things. But at the same time, it's also a bit of a challenge to, to nuance it a bit so that it doesn't come across as well as to blatant, because it's quite easy to sort of say, like, you're saying, well, we use grocery shopping before. Jesper (34m 42s): Right. But, but if it was, you know, if it was something set Fantasy related, like it all peoples all humans, I hate to humans or whatever. Right. And then it's very easily to just say that and move on. But then you're also leaving the reader with the feeling like this is a complete idiot, this person, right. I don't like that, that character. So I guess is what I'm trying to say and what I'm talking to, what else is probably as well that you need to be a bit mindful about how you do it as well, too. So you can just do not end up coming across as it will assholes. Basically. You don't want that either, right? Autumn (35m 22s): No, no. I think that's a really important, I mean, if for some reason maybe this is, it speaks poorly of me, but I have often been able to get into my villains easier than a few other characters. I had one that was a politician and an extrovert, and he could just whip off these speeches and to get into his mind. Cool. I mean, it felt like it was a contortionist, but that's just what you're trying to put on this other person's skin and its even more. So you have to understand how they act, why they act, how they would see things and why do they care about the things they do, even if its completely different from you and you'd have to avoid explaining it from an outside perspective, like, Oh, humans are horrible and just go all out. Autumn (36m 6s): But most humans, you know, and then going into a rant about what's going on with humans, no, you have to be like humans, there's stupid meat sacks. You know, you have to, they're always carrying about things that yeah. You know, like money and whatever, and that's not what the door is square or whatever it is. You have to stick really deeply into that mindset of that character in that race. And you really, like you said, you really have to have all of that, figure it out to start writing. And even when I used to have to get to the Deep point of view, if the character was an already alive in my head, I would have to do some journaling. I would have to do some day before story is, I'd call it like the day before they ended up in the novel and I would write those in first person and I'd be like, Oh, you know, that's why this character is acting this way. Autumn (36m 49s): And that's why we are that way. When you start on page one, when they enter the story, you are like, you already have that figured out, you know, their mindset and you can kind of push yourself into it because you really do have to almost right a little bit before you start writing to really understand the character or go back and add it in when you edit, because that's the other thing to look for is going back and, you know, checking over all your work and seeing where that mindset could be better, where you can cut out words where you can really make sure it's coming from the character as a worldview and their lens of how the world works and what they're really aiming. You know? Jesper (37m 26s): Yeah. The thing that I find quite difficult with the point of view is for example, in the novel's we are currently riding, we have a, a goddess and when you are dealing with basically a deity, you know, some, somebody who is, who is just not all of our world and probably have motivations and drives that we don't even understand. They are. I, I really feel with her when writing her and I feel is very, very difficult to, to do other than basically more standard third person limited around her because I don't know how she feels. Autumn (38m 16s): No, but I think it in its own way, I think that's kind of exciting because with their person limited versus Deep point of view, so you have a character that's kind of unknowable and you just kind of change how they're being portrayed, especially because you know, if that character is maybe not a good point of view, but you hear it, see them more and dialogue, or even if you are in their mind, but its kind of less clear and less anchored that's you can do that purposefully to make this character seem more unknowable. And it's a very slight difference, but you can use these to your advantage. And I think that's sort of, what's cool about it is that you don't have to have every single character anchored in to your point of view. Autumn (38m 60s): If you have one that is more lofty, you can keep them out of it. And one of the neat things is, is if you are a misleading character and they are firmly believed that EI is going to happen and that is what they're aiming towards and that as maybe the lie they have been told, but they believe at a a hundred percent. And so the reader will believe at a a hundred percent all the while, you know, see you is what's gonna happen and you have this huge shift, it can be so much more dramatic and maybe you shouldn't delay it in light to your reader is, but it's so much fun to lie to your readers and Deep point of view. And it's believable because there's not that omniscient pull back where you are kind of like hinting at it. Autumn (39m 41s): The character is going full tilt towards believing. This is true. And they kind of get a carpet whipped out from under there. So yeah, Jesper (39m 49s): You can have some of those a bit like what the character didn't know was blah, blah, blah, that you sometimes see that in some, I think you all can do this as well. Sometimes. Like what Frodo didn't know at this point in time was out at the door. That kind of thing is no go in and Deep point of view. Autumn (40m 8s): No. And I think a lot of writer's think that, that his building the tension, But 2 million that is completely remove the emotion of right. It's maybe you would have, yeah. You have a little bit of curiosity, four. It, but it's so much more like get you a gasp when the character is just yanked a different direction that you didn't see coming. But when you hear like this lady's little clues, but what if he didn't know it was over on the Shire? Oh, you know that's, if you're just suddenly pulled out of the story, I don't know if that character's head and its just not as much fun. You can actually put the book down at that point and a lot going on. Yeah. Jesper (40m 41s): Yeah. I would say that a guy in conclusion, I think I would pose a challenge to the listener. You know, if, if you're never written in Deep point of view before, try it out, it doesn't have to be perfect. That's fine. But just try it out. Try to imagine yourself in the skin of the character and Right. What you feel, what you hear, what you see, what you teach or taste, what you can touch and that's, that's what you are allowed to. Right? Nothing else. You are not allowed to say. He didn't know this, that he didn't know that. Or explain this in that like you would normally you have to go with what the character knows and feels and tried to write a chapter like that and compare it to your other chapters. Jesper (41m 28s): And I almost want to say with certainty that you will find that it's, Autumn (41m 37s): You'll find, you'll find that you resonate with the character more. You'll find those more action. There is a lot less. Tell me a lot more sho and it'll just be like, you'll be like, wow, this is, this is pretty good. And if you don't come back and let us know what I want to see the difference because I firmly believed the point of view. Those are the stories that I love to read. And they're the ones I loved to write. And I think you'll find other readers react differently. If you show me what you wrote to someone else. Well, no matter what you think, if you show it to someone or a reader, see what they say, which one? So I don't know. Is there any like, did we miss some important elements here when it comes to the point of view a Autumn? Autumn (42m 20s): I don't think so. The line is going to readers. I had hopping. I was just like doing that. I would love misleading my readers. I have to admit it. And just that it's an important way of showing even your evil characters. It really is a useful technique. Or even if you then switch to a third person, limited for a, some characters that are much more unknowable, it can be really okay. So next Monday we actually are gonna talk about one of my favorite topics because we are going to talk about creating a magic system. Narrator (42m 54s): And if you like what you just heard, there's a few things you can do to support The Am Writing Fantasy Podcast. Please tell a fellow author about the show and visit us at Apple podcast and leave a rating and review. You can also join Autumn and Yesper on patrion.com/ Am. Writing Fantasy for as little as a dollar a month. You'll get awesome rewards and keep The Am Writing Fantasy Podcast, going to stay safe out there and see you next Monday.

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