A Man's Journey Through Divorce

What if the path to healing after divorce wasn't about fixing what's broken, but instead expanding your awareness of who you really are? My guest today is Michael Tierno, co-founder of the Universal Awareness Fellowship, and he joins us to share how psychedelics and other expanded states of awareness helped him move through divorce—not by avoiding the pain, but by facing it fully and finding meaning in the process.Listen in as we talk about the emotional weight of divorce, the shift from control to surrender, and how slowing down helped him see life in a new way. Michael offers a powerful perspective on using inner exploration as a catalyst for deep, lasting transformation.For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/b38a5a2k

What does it look like to stay steady when everything around you is uncertain? As a stepfather and solo parent juggling multiple responsibilities, my guest today opens up about what it really means to show up with consistency—even when you're stretched thin emotionally and financially.Listen in as David and I break down the emotional and financial weight of being the primary breadwinner, the mental resolve it takes to keep showing up for your kids, and how tools like reframing, breathwork, and tapping can help ground you when nothing feels certain.For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/yabatz88

What does it take to make a gutsy move when everything feels uncertain—when you're navigating divorce, transition, or a life that no longer fits? LauraAura, dynamic mindset coach and host of The Gutsy Podcast, joins me to explore how we can quiet the external noise and reconnect with the deeper voice that fear, doubt, and obligation often drown out.Listen in as we break down how to shift the ‘mind junk' that holds us back, why tuning into your intuition is more powerful than waiting for the perfect plan, and how even the smallest gutsy moves—like saying yes to yourself—can spark real, lasting change. This episode is your reminder that bravery doesn't always roar; sometimes, it whispers, “This way.”For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/yjyn3ehs

Are you holding onto a dream that's keeping you stuck in pain after divorce? As men, we unconsciously build dreams around marriage, fatherhood, and providing, and when those dreams are shattered by divorce, the emotional fallout can feel like a death of the self. It's not just the loss of a relationship—it's the unraveling of an identity we spent years, even decades, constructing.But sometimes, the only way forward is to let the old dream die so that something more authentic can be born in its place. Listen in as I share reflections about my own divorce, how to break free from the identity shackles it can impose, and how embracing the "death" of these illusions can open the door to a more peaceful, grounded, and present life. For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/585bbrhs

What happens when your marriage is over—but you're still living together? Today we're tackling one of the most draining parts of the divorce experience: living in invisible divorce. It's that space where the marriage is broken, but divorce hasn't happened yet, and the household is steeped in unresolved tension and silent suffering.Listen in to learn how small mindset shifts and practical actions can break the cycle of reactivity, frustration, and blame. We'll also explore the concept of “pattern interruption,” why judgment keeps you stuck, and how letting go of control can sometimes open up unexpected solutions.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/mam4r85x

Are you facing the overwhelming decision of hiring a divorce attorney and unsure where to start? For many men, the legal side of divorce feels like foreign territory, layered on top of emotional turmoil and financial uncertainty. But getting this step right can set the tone for everything that follows.In this episode, I sit down with Jaime Davis, an experienced family law attorney, to break down what you really need to know before hiring a lawyer. We cover how to approach separation with clarity, why therapy and building a strong support team matter, and the often-misunderstood world of litigation, mediation, and settlement.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/mvspu6ve

Have you just heard the gut-wrenching words "I want a divorce"—and now find yourself overwhelmed and unsure where to turn? For many men, the breakdown begins long before those words are spoken. It's slow, often invisible, and recognizing that truth is the first step toward healing.In this episode, I share my own story—the moment I heard the news, the emotional storm that followed, and the quiet disconnection that had been building for years. We'll talk about why giving yourself space to process is essential, as well as how this painful turning point might become the doorway to unexpected clarity, freedom, and growth.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/mv64yd35

Do you feel like you're doing everything right during your divorce, but still stuck in the same painful patterns? Here's why awareness alone isn't enough to create the change you desire, and why real growth begins when you start living with intention.Listen in as I talk about the powerful virtues — patience, curiosity, honesty, perseverance, and love — and how embodying them can shift the way you approach the challenges of divorce. I'll also share lessons from my coaching experience with men across the country who are working through the deep emotional layers that divorce unearths.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/3en8656s

What does true prosperity mean after divorce? As someone who built a career in financial planning, I had long equated prosperity with wealth and stability. But going through my divorce stripped me of that illusion and opened the door to something far more meaningful.Listen in as I share the raw, unfiltered truths I learned about attachment, control, and the illusions we cling to when we think money equals security. I open up about how my divorce shattered the carefully constructed image of financial success I had built—both personally and professionally—and how that unraveling, painful as it was, cleared space for real wealth.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/y534pppt

Was your relationship truly built on love, or was it held together by loyalty? This is one of those conversations that's raw, real, and often uncomfortable, but also incredibly freeing once you start peeling back the layers of truth.Listen in as I unpack the emotional fog, the self-judgment, and the common cycle of trying to make sense of it all, while showing you a new lens with which to view your situation. If you've recently been hit with the news of divorce, or you've been silently stuck in a marriage that no longer feels right, this episode is for you.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/3kektxr2

What happens when the life you've built starts to unravel, and you're left questioning everything you thought you knew about yourself? Today, we dive into the raw, real impact of divorce, especially for men—how it challenges your identity, your role, and everything you once thought was secure.In this episode, I'm joined by Gary, a listener of the podcast, who is coming on the show to share his story of getting through one of the most emotionally and mentally challenging seasons of his life. Listen in as we talk openly about hidden trauma, the weight of holding it all in, and how to finally shift from just surviving to truly healing.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/3tmzs67v

How do you rebuild your life and family after divorce when you're still healing yourself? In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and fellow coach, Ed Robinson, to tackle that question and more. You may know Ed as a seasoned executive and leadership coach, but today, he's joining us not to talk about performance or leadership, but to share his personal story of divorce and healing.Listen in as we talk about the emotional rollercoaster of divorce, parenting through pain, and finding purpose again on the other side. You'll hear Ed speak with raw vulnerability about solitude, self-reflection, and eventually, rediscovering his worth.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/3j99y9ph

Divorce can leave lasting legal, mental, and emotional scars that are tough to heal from. The key to recovery, however, is learning to let go. Though it may be easier said than done, letting go is essential for redirecting your energy, finances, and time toward building a brighter future for yourself and your family.Listen in to hear why we find it difficult to let go, as well as how resistance is delaying your healing. I also discuss the role of ‘faith' in the 5F model and how to navigate unexpected twists in your divorce journey. You'll come away with practical steps to help you start letting go and healing from divorce.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/5n99nyft

Divorce doesn't have to be a war zone.In this episode, I sit down with three top professionals in the collaborative divorce field—Suzy Eckstein (family law attorney), Natalie Goldberg (divorce coach & child specialist), and Margie Hofberg (mortgage expert)—to break down how collaborative law offers a healthier, more solution-focused approach to divorce.Listen in as we discuss how this method fosters better co-parenting, financial clarity, and long-term stability for families.You'll learn the benefits of this approach, why having a well-structured divorce agreement is crucial, and how the collaborative process can help even the most contentious divorces.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/yn32zfj7

Divorce brings tough financial decisions, and one of the biggest is what to do with your home. Should you keep it, sell it, or refinance? And how do you sort through mortgage options while balancing credit, support payments, and financial stability?In this episode, I sit down with Amy Bell, Certified Divorce Lending Professional and  Mortgage Planning Specialist, to break down what you need to know about housing transitions during divorce. Listen in to learn how child support and alimony can affect mortgage approval, how to avoid common mistakes when it comes to credit, and more.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/mr3pk587

What's the hardest part of divorce? In this episode, I explore the deeper, often overlooked reasons that divorce can feel so challenging. Beyond the legal battles and financial worries, there are three layers of divorce that impact us: divorcing the spouse, divorcing the shared dreams and possessions, and divorcing the identity we've built within the marriage.Listen in as I break down how each layer affects our emotional state, as well as how they create an undercurrent of fear, uncertainty, and attachment that can make the divorce process feel overwhelming. You'll hear what you can do to stay strong as you confront these challenges and Stoic principles that can help as you navigate divorce.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/m6uxrjbd

Divorce is complicated enough on its own, but when children with special needs are involved, the complexity of co-parenting and planning for the future is even greater. You can't afford to just “get it over with”—you need a plan that works not just for today, but for years down the road.In this episode, I sit down with Erik Feig, founder of Feig Mediation Group, to talk about how mediation can help families transition smoothly while prioritizing the unique needs of their children. Listen in to learn what it takes to tackle decisions that can feel overwhelming, how to create a solid co-parenting plan, and what you can do to manage stress along the way.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/34xj5u46

Divorce can be one of the most trying times in a person's life, especially when it involves children and the complexities of custody arrangements. It's a time marked by emotional turmoil, financial strain, and the uncertainty of the future. So how do we manage all of that in a healthy way?In this episode, you'll get to sit in on a live coaching session with my anonymous guest, "Ivan," as I help him manage his anxiety and worries around preparing for his final custody hearing. Listen in as we work through his fears, discuss strategies to stay centered, and use mindset techniques to help him show up as his best self in court.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/2dtc78am

Divorce is often seen as a turbulent chapter in life, overshadowed by feelings of fear, separation, and scarcity. But what if we could rethink this transition as an opportunity for positive growth? Just as marriage begins with love, unity, and prosperity, divorce can also be guided by these powerful energies.In this episode, I'll share key points of a presentation I attended, where a Florida circuit court judge discussed his role and some of the limitations that he faces as he presides over a docket of cases within the family court. Listen in to learn how to bring positive energy into divorce, as well as how collaborative divorce can remove the adversarial approach of the traditional legal battle.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/3nt9f8vu

Many people cling to their legal entitlements during divorce, seeing them as non-negotiable rights. However, as negotiation expert Derrick Chevalier reveals in today's episode, this mindset can leave both parties worse off. Through his work with the Comprehensive Negotiating Strategies Universal Framework (CNSUF), Derrick demonstrates how focusing solely on what you're “entitled to” often results in higher costs, damaged relationships, and missed opportunities for better solutions.Listen in as he shares tips for keeping your emotions in check during divorce proceedings, the value of viewing divorce from the child's perspective, and more. You'll also learn how a stay-at-home parent's contributions—when calculated at retail value—can sometimes exceed the breadwinner's salary, challenging traditional views of financial contributions in marriage and divorce settlements.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/7eb47j52

Divorce can strip away more than just a relationship—it can challenge your identity, self-worth, and sense of purpose. For Ben, a listener and coaching client, overcoming this painful transition led to profound personal growth, a renewed connection with his children, and a rediscovery of freedom and happiness.Listen in as Ben reveals how moving back to his childhood home 800 miles away became a catalyst for change, as well as an important mindset shift that can make all the difference. You'll hear what it takes to free yourself from the expectations of others, how you can find healing, and more.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/2fwzcc52

Divorce can be one of life's most painful transitions. While it's common for people to want to avoid this pain, the truth is that pain itself can be the element that opens a new level of freedom, self-discovery, and prosperity.In this episode, I explain why resisting your pain only hardens your heart and drains valuable resources, such as time, energy, health, and money. Instead, I'll show you how welcoming and flowing with the pain can help cleanse you of old, limiting beliefs and guide you toward genuine growth.For show notes and more, visit: https://tinyurl.com/mr376jap

Divorce can leave you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and emotionally drained. In this episode, Steve invites Jenna D'Annunzio, an EFT practitioner and holistic business coach, to share how the Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping) can help you deal with these emotions.Listen in as Jenna explains the science behind tapping, as well as how it impacts your body and mind. You'll learn why this technique is especially powerful during moments of emotional intensity (e.g., mediation, co-parenting conflicts, or grieving the end of your marriage) and how it can help you reclaim control and focus in turbulent times.For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/ya9xhasz

Life's most challenging transitions—like divorce, career changes, or blended families—often come with overwhelming emotions and attachments. This episode explores the “detachment theory” and its role in overcoming stress and reclaiming energy for personal growth.My guest Jay, a former client, shares his inspirational experience of enduring workplace toxicity, blending families, and building healthier relationships by focusing on internal growth and letting go of control.Listen in to gain actionable tools like detachment exercises and emotional awareness techniques that help you redefine success and deepen connections with those you love.For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/dznnae5w

Divorce can be difficult, but the energy you bring to it can significantly impact your healing, co-parenting, and future. This episode tackles the "fault trap"—the common tendency to blame an ex, which ultimately hinders your own recovery.Discover how to break free from this cycle using practical tools and strategies, including reflective exercises and role-playing, to foster a healthier transition for yourself, your ex, and especially your children.For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/ynwn35h9

After divorce, many men find themselves caught between competing pressures: societal expectations pushing them to "get back out there," internal doubts about their readiness, and uncertainty about dealing with a dating landscape that's radically changed. In this episode, I'm joined by certified sexologist Kevin Anthony to talk about how the approach back to intimacy isn't just about physical connection; it's about healing, self-discovery, and learning to be vulnerable again.Tune in as Kevin breaks down the key steps to rebuilding your intimacy, why healing takes time, and how to know when you're truly ready—regardless of when society says you should be. This episode is a must-listen if you're ready to take back your power to approach dating and sex from a place of strength and confidence.For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/2vyxe433

When facing divorce, Nick found himself overwhelmed—juggling full-time parenting, a demanding career, and an impending custody transition that would reduce his time with his children to just 20%. However, through his work with me, Nick discovered that divorce isn't just about surviving the logistics; it's about fundamentally reconnecting with yourself.His story illustrates how the principles of stoicism—controlling what you can control, maintaining the right perception, and being your highest self—can guide you through divorce's darkest moments. Listen in to learn how to manage both physical and mental wellness during a divorce, as well as what it means to work your divorce from the inside-out, rather than outside-in.For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/36x5mxy6

What if divorce wasn't just an end, but a powerful opportunity for personal transformation? In this episode, I'm flipping the script on how we see divorce, revealing it as a life-altering transition—not just a transaction. I'll introduce a proven model to help you navigate the divorce process and tackle the emotional and psychological challenges that come with it. Whether you're struggling with financial uncertainty or emotional turmoil, today's actionable advice will help you manage your divorce with resilience and take back control of your life. Listen in to hear how overcoming unresolved trauma and shifting your mindset can lead to better decisions and healthier outcomes. You'll learn what you can do to turn this tough chapter into a chance to heal, grow, and reclaim your power.For show notes and more visit: https://tinyurl.com/4p5jf3hw

After three years and over 100 coaching episodes, A Man's Journey Through Divorce returns with an exciting relaunch and a fresh new direction.While the original episodes' straightforward advice on common divorce challenges resonated with listeners, I'm now expanding the show to include professional guest experts and anonymous stories from men going through divorce. It's a chance for us to explore specific areas of expertise—and to do some live coaching around real issues men are facing right now.New episodes drop every Monday. Two episodes each month will be interviews, while the other two will continue the solo coaching format you've come to know.I'm excited about this new chapter, and I can't wait to bring you even more helpful perspectives and stories to help you deal with your divorce.

In this episode, Steve Schleupner is joined by Dr. Stacey Betancourt, a specialist in brain development and childhood trauma, to discuss how children process the divorce transition based on their developmental stages. Together, they explore the critical role of stability, consistency, and co-parenting in helping children navigate the emotional and psychological challenges of divorce. Dr. Betancourt shares insights into how a child's brain evolves from birth through adolescence, emphasizing the importance of parental behavior, communication, and structure during this turbulent time. Steve reflects on his own experiences and discusses the pitfalls of co-parenting, the challenges of maintaining stability across households, and the potential impact of parentification on children. The episode concludes with actionable advice for parents to support their children's well-being and foster resilience through a thoughtful, unified approach.

Creating an Effective Parenting Plan is one of the most challenging aspects of divorce, and when not done thoughtfully, it can lead to significant post-divorce conflicts. In this episode, I sit down with Tina Keyes, a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, Certified Divorce Coach®, Certified Co-Parenting Specialist, and Trauma-Informed Certified Coach. Tina shares her expertise in helping parents of minor children navigate their co-parenting relationships with reduced stress, conflict, and legal expenses. We explore how to prioritize parenting plans in mediation, common oversights parents make when crafting these agreements, and best practices for creating and implementing successful plans. Tina also delves into how contentiousness impacts parenting negotiations, the harmful use of children as pawns in divorce, and strategies to prevent such dynamics. Tune in for invaluable insights from a seasoned expert dedicated to making divorce less traumatic for families.

In this episode, I sit down with Junie Moon, a transformative love coach and expert in shadow work, to explore the complexities of starting over in a new relationship after divorce. Together, we discuss the importance of navigating the phases of transition—Ending, Neutral Zone, and New Beginning—and why so many people rush into new relationships without healing. Junie sheds light on the distinct ways men and women prepare for love, the transformative power of shadow work, and how to shift from relationships based on need to those of purpose. We also tackle the challenge of balancing the thrill of new romance with the demands of parenting, self-care, and work, while maintaining healthy boundaries. Whether you're ready to dive back into dating or just starting to heal, this conversation offers invaluable insights for creating a love that lasts.Check out the Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.Enter to win The Relationship Toolkit Course Junie mentioned on the show visit: https://midlifeloveoutloud.pages.ontraport.net/RTKCONTEST-podcast

In this podcast episode, I host LauraAura, a dynamic mindset coach, speaker, and host of The Gutsy Podcast. Together, they explore the challenges and opportunities divorcees face when seeking transformative change during a tumultuous period. Laura shares her insights on navigating the “Messy Middle,” the uncertain space between letting go of the past and stepping into a new future, and offers practical advice for identifying the right path when everything feels unclear. The conversation highlights spiritual paradoxes, like "slow down to speed up," and how they play a crucial role in creating meaningful, gutsy transformations. Laura also discusses the courage required to pursue a life that feels alive, even when met with resistance from loved ones, emphasizing the importance of silencing external noise to embrace true desires. The episode is an empowering guide for anyone ready to step out of their comfort zone and into a life of authenticity and fulfillment. To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.

In this episode, Steve is joined by Cherie Morris, a lawyer-turned-coach specializing in divorce mediation, co-parenting, and blended family coaching. Together, they dive into the complexities of co-parenting post-separation and explore ways to achieve better outcomes for children amidst contentious dynamics. Cherie offers insights into overcoming the myth that courts can fix co-parenting struggles, the challenges faced by couples who struggled as co-parents during marriage, and the added stress when a new partner enters the family dynamic. Steven and Cherie also tackle issues of triangulation and provide practical advice for step-parents navigating co-parenting roles. Cherie's expertise shines as she shares strategies to help families transition to healthier, more collaborative co-parenting. To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.

In this episode, I reflect on key patterns observed over the past three years with men navigating divorce, and share insight why the common challenges exist. Many listeners describe long-standing "invisible divorces," feeling trapped in unhappy, often sexless marriages for the sake of family or finances. Upon being left, they're blindsided by feelings of betrayal and unfairness, especially in cases involving parent alienation or financial strain. Men who initiate divorce face guilt and the desire for an amicable split, often met with resistance. Across the board, men seek validation quickly in new relationships, struggle with financial worries, and need short-term, focused support to push through. As we close out 2024, I'm excited to announce a refreshed podcast format launching on December 23—featuring higher-quality audio and video episodes, with monthly guests offering both professional insights and real-life divorce stories.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

In this episode, I sat down with Carol McKelvey, an experienced therapist and family mediator, to explore the complex issue of parental alienation from her unique vantage point. Carol, who has spent much of her career in behavioral health, transitioned into mediation to support families through divorce with an insightful, balanced approach. We delved into the subtler tactics of parental alienation—behaviors that often go unnoticed in court or mediation. Carol shared her perspective on how even subtle actions, like undermining the other parent's decisions in front of children, constitute alienation, and why these less overt forms can be particularly damaging. She offered practical advice for parents facing alienation on how to effectively advocate for their interests in mediation, along with insights on how the dynamic shifts when legal counsel is present. Throughout, Carol emphasized her role in restoring harmony when tensions run high, underscoring the importance of mediators in helping families reach resolutions that serve the best interests of everyone, especially the children. To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.

Feeling financially trapped in marriage is a growing concern for couples who want to divorce but face the harsh reality of supporting two households. This episode explores how the cost of living—beyond just inflation—creates financial stress, impacting time, energy, health, and family prosperity. By breaking down real-life situations, from those barely getting by to couples who seem well-off but face financial tightness, this episode emphasizes the importance of assessing your financial situation early. Discover how taking proactive steps can transform the trap into an opportunity for better planning and a more amicable post-divorce life.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Gary Salyer, transformational relationship mentor and author of Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Create the Love You Deserve. Together, we unpack the concept of the "Invisible Divorce," examining why so many couples allow their relationships to drift into this space without actively working on the issues. We dive into the crucial moment of accepting when a marriage isn't working, explore how "relationship rights" are often infringed upon—leading to the breakdown of trust—and discuss the painful topics of betrayal and how to regain trust safely to open the door to future relationships. Lastly, we cover how to avoid repeating past relationship mistakes, setting the foundation for healthier connections moving forward. If you're looking for a deeper understanding of these critical relationship dynamics, this episode is for you. To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.

In episode 128, we dive into a question many ask but few can clearly answer: "How do I know when I'm ready to date after divorce?" This episode explores the complexity of dating readiness, especially when sexual connection and validation seem intertwined with post-divorce recovery. We'll break down the layers of dating motives—from fulfilling sexual needs to seeking deeper intimacy and partnership—while reflecting on how post-divorce dating can sometimes muddle personal growth. Through personal stories and reflections, we discuss how true readiness isn't defined by time but by acceptance, boundaries, and an openness to love. Tune in to find clarity on whether you're truly ready to open yourself to a new relationship.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

In this episode, I'm joined by Susan Shofer, a Divorce Coach specializing in Parent Alienation, who has worked with thousands of cases. We dive deep into the complexities of parent alienation, exploring how the alienating parent often exhibits traits of borderline personality disorder, making them resistant to change and always steps ahead. Susan shares critical insights on recognizing subtle alienation tactics and signs, such as the "friendship" approach that disrupts parenting roles and creates a damaging "good-cop/bad-cop" dynamic. Tune in to learn how to navigate these challenging situations and protect your relationship with your child.To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.

In this episode, we explore how resistance keeps us from fully moving forward in divorce. Often rooted in fear-based beliefs, resistance convinces us that stepping into the unknown will lead to negative outcomes. We'll look at how this manifests in different areas of life—like family, finances, and health—and discuss practical ways to recognize and overcome these barriers.By understanding the role of resistance and taking inventory of where it shows up, we can begin to shed the weight of our past and embrace a more empowered future. Tune in and let's unpack what's holding you back.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

In this episode, I reflect on the struggles faced by the Gray family a year ago, before the Apalachee school shooting, particularly the emotional toll the father endured as he navigated divorce and sought to guide his family through pain and uncertainty. Drawing from my own experiences, both as a father and as a child of divorce, I share personal insights into the instability and insecurity faced by the son, creating a heartfelt connection with listeners who may be facing similar challenges. Through this compassionate lens, I encourage everyone navigating divorce to find strength in their journey, knowing they are not alone.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

In this episode, we explore the three distinct paths divorce can take: Transaction, Transition, and Transformation. The Transactional path focuses on the court's decree, often leaving unresolved contention and future conflicts. The Transitional path seeks a healthier process, emphasizing shared responsibility, healing, and long-term prosperity for both parties and their families. Finally, the Transformational path is a personal journey that breaks free from societal expectations and toxic dynamics to embrace a life of authenticity and growth. Join us as we challenge you to approach your divorce with a transition mindset, ensuring your post-divorce success exceeds the limits of your past relationship.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

Join us for an enlightening conversation with former Texas Associate Court Judge and Family Lawyer Michele Locke as we explore the complex issue of parental alienation. In this episode, Michele shares her unique perspective from the bench, discussing the limitations of a judge's authority and what truly lies within their control. We also tackle the controversial tactics of "bulldog attorneys" who use parental alienation as a strategy—and why they often succeed. Packed with valuable insights, practical advice, and actionable tools, this episode is a must-listen for any parent facing the challenges of alienation. To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.

In this episode, we dive into the powerful influence of archetypes and constraints during divorce. We'll explore how inherited beliefs and societal expectations can hold you back, and discuss practical ways to break free from these limitations. Whether you're struggling with financial, emotional, or time constraints, this episode offers insights and divorce support to help you navigate this challenging time and start rebuilding your life with confidence. Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

In this episode titled "Ending of Unequals," we explore the raw and complex emotions of navigating a divorce. Steve reflects on his marriage, where loyalty often overshadowed love, and shares the fears and uncertainties that arose when his partner left. From concerns about staying amicable and the impact on their children, to the anxiety of seeing their ex move on and his own ability to find love again, the journey is fraught with emotional turmoil. Through spiritual coaching and insights from Phil Stutz's "Philosophy of Events" in Lessons for Living, he recalls how he confronted adverse events and focused on spiritual growth. Join us for a heartfelt discussion on finding resilience and self-acceptance amid the challenges of ending an unequal relationship.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now."A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon. Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

In this episode, we delve into the critical importance of creating a holistic divorce plan that encompasses physical and mental wellness, finances, and family transitions. Divorce is often unplanned, occurring during one of life's most challenging periods. We explore why it's difficult to plan amidst emotional turmoil, unfamiliarity, and court-driven timelines. Yet, these very reasons highlight the necessity for a comprehensive strategy. We'll discuss how a well-rounded divorce plan can support your health, provide knowledge, and ensure effective routines. We'll contrast a standard financial plan with a divorce plan that addresses psychological and emotional aspects. Finally, we'll introduce the 5F Model, emphasizing the interconnectedness of fitness, fervor, family, and finances, illustrating how a thoughtful investment in divorce planning can yield significant returns during and after the divorce process.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now."A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on PatreonFind my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

Couples often attempt to resolve their marital issues on their own. When tensions rise, they turn to a couple's counselor, usually when it's already too late. As they approach divorce, the same pattern emerges: “We'll figure this divorce out ourselves.” The typical mindset is to only hire professionals to finalize the divorce. In this episode, Steve discusses the crucial role of aligning with the right support throughout the entire divorce transition process, including pre-mediation, mediation/settlement, and post-divorce.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now."A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon.Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

In this insightful episode, we delve into the emotional journey of divorce, starting with the often intense feelings of anger that initiate the process. Anger, while a powerful catalyst for change, can also hinder our ability to fully transition and find closure. Drawing on concepts from William Bridges' seminal book, Transitions, we explore how many divorcees struggle to complete the "Ending" phase due to unresolved anger.Join us as we discuss the importance of looking beneath the surface of anger to uncover the underlying sadness. By addressing this deeper emotion, we can begin to accept the divorce, allowing ourselves to truly complete the ending phase and move forward. Whether you're going through a divorce, know someone who is, or are simply interested in the psychology of major life transitions, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for achieving emotional resolution and finding peace.Tune in to learn how to transform your perspective on divorce and embrace the journey towards a new beginning.Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now."A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

In this podcast episode, we explore the transformative power of asking, "What would love do now?" during the challenging experience of divorce. Through personal stories and practical advice, we delve into how this guiding question can help you make positive choices, practice forgiveness, and turn pain into a journey of healing and growth. Join us as we uncover ways to navigate divorce with grace, embrace love in non-traditional forms, and create a foundation for a brighter future. Transform your divorce experience for long-term success.Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now."A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on Patreon Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

In this enlightening episode, we delve into the transformative power of divorce, often viewed only as a challenging phase, but actually a profound opportunity for personal growth and change. Our discussion centers around how the application of universal laws can not only help you navigate your divorce with resilience but also enable you to adopt a proactive strategy for positive transformation in your life.We explore the seven universal laws starting with the Law of Mentalism, emphasizing that everything begins in the mind; what you envision, you can manifest. The Law of Correspondence tells us that our external reality reflects our internal state, setting the stage for understanding how our thoughts influence our life trajectory. The Law of Vibration reminds us that everything is energy and resonates at specific frequencies, which attracts like energies—highlighting the importance of maintaining a positive energy even in tough times.We also discuss the Law of Cause and Effect and how this plays out in the dynamics of relationship conflicts, the Law of Polarity and its role in overcoming self-sabotage through understanding, and the Law of Rhythm that teaches us to find peace in the natural cycles of life. The Law of Gender emphasizes the balance of masculine and feminine energies within us, crucial for holistic healing during and after a divorce.Finally, we walk through the Sequence of Transformation—how watching your thoughts, words, actions, habits, and ultimately your character, can lead to a destiny filled with positivity and prosperity. This episode is packed with insights on making your divorce a pathway to a stronger, wiser you. Join us to discover how to plant the seeds of your desired destiny during one of life's most significant transitions. Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy.Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now."A Man's Journey Through Divorce" Patreon page gives listeners access to target support that matches where they are in the divorce process. Support Resources on PatreonFind my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.