The Men's Self Help Podcast

This encore presentation explores the five signs you may need to take a break from social media.  Visit this link for show notes on the Guy Counseling blog.   

Do you struggle with people getting under your skin? Are you easily triggered by certain comments or topics? Hoping to create positive change? In this episode sponsored by Better Help, Dr. John explores how to stop letting people get under your skin. You'll hear about the story of Austin, a young man who lost his temper on a train. Discover approaches to counseling including EMDR and Internal Family Systems (parts therapy) as part of healing past wounds. Do you have an internal protector, deep inside, trying to keep you from the source of your hurts? If trauma and pain are part of your past, you'll want to listen to this episode. Important Links Use this link to get a special offer for listeners of the podcast with Better Help. Visit Good Therapy to learn about EMDR Link to episode 38 on how Karma wants your dreams to come true. Learn about Internal Family Systems (parts therapy). Follow Dr. John on Social Media Guy Counseling on Instagram Guy Counseling on Facebook John's website and newsletter sign up

Are you trying to change an unhealthy behavior? Do you drink too much, eat too much or smoke too much? Is there a part of you who has come to realize your relationship with gambling, porn or shopping is toxic? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John explores the process of change and how using the REST technique may be helpful. REST is the acronym for RELAX, EXAMINE, SET YOUR INTENTION, and TAKE ACTION and it comes from the world of DBT or Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Learn how using REST may offer a powerful brain hack by allowing you to ease into creating change in your brain's pleasure center. Important Links Better Help – Show Sponsor To learn about the special offer for listeners of the Men's Self-Help Podcast, use this link Learn about DBT and a technique to help control anger. Listen to episode 33 to learn more about DBT. Help Guide on Addiction: A Harvard Health Article with a discussion about the brain's pleasure center and information about the nucleus accumbens as mentioned in the podcast. Click here to read the article Learn about positive psychology and how it can be used as part of counseling and coaching to help a person create change. Visit the Positive Psychology podcast. DBT Skills Workbook This workbook was mentioned in the pod. Visiting this link will brink you to Amazon. If you buy this book with this link, the podcast receives an affiliate commission. Click to go to Amazon. Follow Us on Social Media Click here to follow on Facebook Click here to follow on Instagram Click here to follow on Twitter  

Trying to discover your life purpose? Does it feel like your life lacks meaning? In this episode, Dr. John goes over five specific strategies to help you find yourself and your life purpose. Using a combination of story telling with insights from Carl Jung, you can find out new things about yourself and train your brain to stimulate your Reticular Activating System, the part of the brain that is concerned with awareness.  As part of the show, you'll also learn about a men's resource for generating inner-happiness and awareness around your purpose.  Finally, learn about the special guide Dr. John has put together as part of your self-care routine - for guys.   Important Links Click here for a special skin care guide for men, created by Dr. John Top 7 reasons men seek out therapy - Episode 37 Free personality assessment from 16 personalities. The Reticular Activating System from University of Minnesota The Daily Gratitude Journal for Men (Click here for Amazon) Other Links Guy Counseling on Instagram Guy Counseling on Facebook Dr. John's website and newsletter sign up

Do you feel your mind is wired for anxiety? Do you constantly worry about failing? Are you looking for concrete ways to create positive change? In this episode, Dr. John explores the relationship between your thoughts, your brain and anxiety. Discover why fight, flight or freeze can be so powerful. Learn several easy-to-use coping techniques for creating calm as part of reprograming your anxious mind. Resources Mentioned in Podcast Health Line Article on how some form of anxiety can be traced to a chemical imbalance.  Link To Episode 31: Comat Negative Self-Talk Link To Episode 35: How To Quickly Get Out of a Funk Link to Medical News Daily: Four Squared Breathing Book Suggestion Re-Wire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic and Worry. Visit Amazon Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1

What is karma was working behind the scenes to make you happy? In this episode, Dr. John looks at the concept of pronoia, which is the opposite of paranoia and asks you to imagine what your life would be like if the universe was conspiring to make your dreams come true.  Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1

Have you ever wondered why some men seek out therapy? Are you in counseling now and curious to know if other guys are struggling with the same issues are? In this episode, Dr. John reveals the top 7 reasons men go into counseling. As part of the show, he also answers a listener email from a man who has become dependent on using alcohol to become socially lubricated before going out on a date. Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1

Do you ever wonder what women say about men in therapy? What are some of the common themes that come up when it comes to men? Can knowing about some of these topics help you in your relationships? In this episode, Dr. John walks you through seven common themes that women touch on about men in the counseling office. Some of these may seem like common sense. Others may cause you to pause and reflect. You can use these topics to better help you understand the women in your life. This week's listener email comes to us from a man who is struggling with dating app fatigue and is tired of being rejected whenever he puts himself out there. Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Men's Skin Care Guide: Men's Skincare Guide Made Simple Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1

At some point, all of us fall into a funk. In this episode, I'm going to give you 7 of my tips for pulling yourself out of a funk BEFORE it turns into a rut! Learn how to help boost your mood quickly and create positive change. Episode infused with some of the teaching of Dr. William Glasser, the Father of Reality Therapy and Choice Theory. Show Notes on the www.guycounseling.com blog.  William Glasser Choice Theory  https://wglasser.com/what-is-choice-theory/ Loving Kindness Meditation Study https://guycounseling.com/positive-thoughts-happiness-study/ Follow us on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1/ Follow us on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/guycounseling/     

Everyone knows positive thinking can be helpful, but what happens when it doesn't work? Can you make yourself feel worse by forcing happy talk? In this episode, Dr. John explores the downside to positive thinking and how trying to deny your feelings can be harmful. Learn about an alternative called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Also, you'll hear from a listener who describes himself as overweight and can't experience intimacy unless he's wearing a shirt. Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1   

Do you suppress your anger? When you do express these feelings, do you blow up on people, like your partner, children, or coworkers? Looking for practical tools to create change? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore will teach you two POWERFUL tools from the world of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that can be used as coping strategies. Learn how to channel your anger into a discussion with the aim of getting your needs met. As part of the discussion, you'll also learn why anger is not a dirty word. This week's listener email comes from a man who is struggling with an inability to urinate in public places and isn't sure what to do. Learn about shy bladder syndrome, also referred to as paruresis. Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1

Do you have a partner that never initiates sex? Has it caused you frustration and confusion? Are you hoping to create change? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast sponsored by Better Help, Dr. John uses a metaphor to explore the concept of “It's always Been This Way” and then takes a deep dive into how reframing the question can cause a mental shift – and change. You'll also hear from a listener who wants to know if it is OK to try and date someone he hooked up with from an app. Show notes can be found on the Guy Counseling Blog. Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1/ Follow on FB: https://www.facebook.com/guycounseling/ Follow on Twitter: https://twitter.com/guycounseling

Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Has it caused you to derail? Hoping to learn how to combat it? In this episode, sponsored by Better Help, Dr. John Moore creates a metaphor with your mind being a train and how – if you aren't careful – your thoughts can act as objects that can lead to derailment. You'll learn 7 concrete ways from combatting negative thinking, plus several resources. You'll also hear from a listener who is having difficulties with adjusting to life as the pandemic eases. Re-entry anxiety and FOMO are discussed. Show notes for this episode can be found on the Guy Counseling blog. Show Notes - www.guycounseling.com Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1    

You may have heard of the term erotic hypnosis, but does such a thing exist? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast sponsored by Better Help, Dr. John explores the topic of hypnosis and offers listeners a working definition. He then moves on to explaining what erotic hypnosis is – and what it is not. Examples and resources are shared as part of the experience. You'll also hear a listener email from a man who is having problems with his libido. Show notes can be found on the Guy Counseling blog. Follow on Instagram @guycounseling1 Facebook --> https://www.facebook.com/guycounseling Twitter @guycounseling

Struggling with perfectionism? Looking for practical ways to create change? In this episode, Dr. John Moore explores some of the causal reasons behind perfectionism, which are largely linked to early childhood. In addition, you'll be offered 7 straightforward ways to dial down perfectionism in your own life. As part of the show sponsored today by Better Help, you'll hear an email from a man who is feeling shame around his weight gain and wanting to exercise but isn't sure what to do. Visit the guycounseling.com website. 

Learn the signs and symptoms of obsessive thinking, also referred to as rumination. Click here to access shownotes with informational links for episode 28. You can also visit the show's website at guycounseling.com to access the shownotes. 

Searching for ways to create physical intimacy in your relationship? In this show, Dr. John walks listeners through the technique of sensate focus. Learn how to bring that feeling of closeness and intuitiveness back to your love life. Learn about a 10% discount to listeners of the podcast with BetterHelp. Visit show notes on the blog for handouts and resources.

Do you struggle to find the motivation to reach goals, like exercising, eating healthier or learning a new skill? Does depression get in your way of motivation? In this podcast, Dr. Moore explores goal attainment using the "As If" technique. He also responds to a listener email regarding the idea of moving in together before getting married. 

Do you struggle with shame? Are you looking for healthy ways of working through? Trying to up your self-esteem? In this podcast, Dr. John explores the issue of toxic shame and explains: 1. What shame is 2. How it manifests psychologically and physiologically 3. Concrete steps for working through See Show Notes for specifics on this topic and links to helping resources. 

In this podcast, learn how to reduce anxiety and cope with stress through Autogenic Training (AT). Discover a new way to create calm from within. Narrated by Dr. Moore, listen as he guides you through an amazing experience while teaching you a tool for coping with anxiety. Copy of narration available in show notes. This anxiety podcast is designed as a tool for healthy coping. 

In this episode, learn about the concept of self-worth and how perception is projection. Discover 7 unique ways to boost your self-esteem. See this page on Guy Counseling for complete show notes on this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast. 

Using metaphor, Nordic myth and elements from popular culture, this recording is designed to enhance sexual confidence and boost self-esteem in other life areas. The recording is "G" rated and does not contain any offensive language. See show notes to learn more on this Viking Meditation to learn more. 

Struggle with self-esteem? Looking to increase your level of confidence? Need to be more assertive? In this episode, Dr. Moore guides you through a guided imagery meditation through self-hypnosis. Affirmations are included to help boost feelings of self worth.  Learn how to create your personal circle of confidence and experience inner strength. To learn more, visit this post from Moore's website on Creating a Circle of Confidence. If you like this podcast, please leave a review. Your feedback is greatly appreciated. 

Do you struggle with achieving your goals? Here's 7 common mistakes with goal setting that may be sabotaging your changes at success. Informational links with handouts to help you stay on track to goal attainment.  

Have you recently found yourself back on the dating scene? Do you struggle with confidence and dating? In this episode, Dr. John Moore explores 7 unique ways you can increase your confidence in the world of dating. As part of the show, Dr. Moore calls on the resources of Chicago psychologist Dr. Tyler Fortman and shares 7 ways to boost self-esteem when dating.  Click here to review complete show notes with resources on Guy Counseling.  If you liked this podcast, please leave a review. Your feedback is greatly appreciated! 

How do you know when it's time to take a break from social media? How much is too much time spent on Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat? Dr. Moore offers 5 warning signs that it may be time to take a break from social media, particularly for those who struggle with a mental health issue like anxiety or depression.  Listener email shared from man who has OCD and isn't sure if he should tell his girlfriend.  Click on show notes for taking a break from social media 

Do you attract unhealthy people to your life - romantic partners that are toxic? Have you been dating the same "type" of person, over and over again? If so, you aren't alone. In this episode, Dr. Moore examines the issue of attraction and romance and how early childhood experiences have a way of influencing us in the here and now.  When listening, you'll learn 5 steps that you can take to break the cycle.  Also in this show, you will hear about a man in Wyoming who identifies as straight but has strangely found himself physically attracted to another man.  RESOURCES FROM SHOW Confusing Love with Obsession (Amazon) Loving Kindness Meditation (Guy Counseling) More Men Than You Think Identify As ‘Mostly Straight' (The Cut) Kinsey Institute - Research on Sexual Orientation  

Have you recently found out your girlfriend cheated on you? Not sure what do to? In this podcast, Dr. Moore offers 10 coping strategies in the aftermath of infidelity. He also answers a listener email from a man who doesn't understand why his girlfriend never initiates in the bedroom.  Resources Mentioned In Show: Intuition and gender Journal of Personality and Psychology on gender and intuition Cheating stats Bustle cheating info 10 Tips When You Learn She Cheated Guy Counseling website - Cheating My Girlfriend Never Initiates Article Guy Counseling website - Initiates     

Assertiveness – it's a topic that comes up from guys a lot in counseling. Most men want to know “How can I be more assertive?” In this podcast, Dr. Moore explores this topic in detail. As part of the discussion, he'll contrast the differences between being assertive and being aggressive. In this show, you will learn: • A working definition of assertiveness • How assertiveness and aggressiveness differ • 7 unique assertiveness skills you can build for the future. Dr. Moore also answers a listener email from a man who wonders if he has a problem with alcohol. A quick overview is offered that examines the differences between use, abuse and dependence with a substance. See complete show-notes on Guy Counseling: https://guycounseling.com/assertiveness-skills-drinking/

Do you struggle with PTSD? Wondering about the symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder? Curious about what this mental health challenge is all about? In this podcast, Dr. Moore explores PTSD in detail. You'll learn a basic definition of Post-Traumatic Stress and 5 things to consider when trying to find help. Resources mentioned in the show: Long Term Deployments and Stress (military) https://www.slideshare.net/johndmoore1/long-term-deployments-and-stress Diagnostic Criteria for PTSD https://www.brainline.org/article/dsm-5-criteria-ptsd PTSD Rates and Gender from Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201809/why-women-have-higher-rates-ptsd-men National Center for PTSD https://www.ptsd.va.gov/gethelp/peer_support.asp PTSD Support Groups (In person and online) https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/blog/staying-ahead-of-ptsd-finding-support-groups-or-networks/ PTSD Support Groups on Psychcentral https://psychcentral.com/resources/Post-traumatic_Stress/Support_Groups/ The Hidden War: PTSD and The Front Line https://www.amazon.com/Hidden-War-PTSD-Front-Lines/dp/1604152680 Veterans Who Horseback Riding Help Work Through PTSD https://guycounseling.com/veterans-ptsd-horseback-riding/ O*NET Career Profiler https://www.mynextmove.org/explore/ip What's Your Career Personality Type (Psychcentral) https://blogs.psychcentral.com/life-goals/2018/05/career-personality-type/

Do you say yes to everyone? Are you taking on more than you should but can't say no? Is it causing you problems emotionally and physically? If so, you may have people pleasing syndrome as the result of being a people pleaser. Learn 10 signs you may have this problem plus what to do about it. Show Highlights: 10 traits of people pleasers How people pleasing happens in people 10 symptoms of people pleasing syndrome 3 ways of moving through the problem Resources: 10 symptoms of people pleasing from Amy Morin on Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201708/10-signs-youre-people-pleaser Visit Guy Counseling www.guycounseling.com The Disease To Please: Ending People Pleasing Syndrome See Amazon: https://amzn.to/2I5b505 Cheating Survey by GSS -Who Cheats https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america  

What kind of lover are you? In this podcast, we examine six love styles as offered by the sociologist John A. Lee. We also explore how the past can influence our attachment style in the here and now. A listener email is also shared where he reveals serious penis shame. Resources: Lee's Love Styles: http://www.psychologycharts.com/six-love-styles.html Love Style Quiz based on Lee's work: http://courses.washington.edu/psii101/geninfo/lovetest.pdf NYT article on Lee's Love Styles: https://www.nytimes.com

Feeling stress? Need some help with developing a stress management program? Here's 5 tips. In this episode, we also discuss an email from a listener who was told by his girlfriend that she no longer finds him attractive. What to do when someone you are dating reveals they aren't into you. How stress effects the body from the Mayo Clinic https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress-symptoms/art-20050987 Mindfulness Bel (Zen Bell) https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/mindfulne

Hoping to build build mental toughness? Trying to up your confidence? In this show, we examine 7 skills you can build to increase mental toughness that are rooted in reality. Tips offered through the writings of Dr. Alan Goldberg in his book "Sports Slump Busting": https://www.amazon.com/Sports-Slump-Busting-Alan-Goldberg/dp/1625504756 Article on building mental toughness from Guy Counseling: https://guycounseling.com/mental-toughness-skills-1210/ Previous podcast on 8 ways to build self-esteem

Do you struggle with self-esteem? Hunting for ways to boost your confidence? Here's 8 ways to create positive change in your life and feel better about yourself. In this podcast, learn: -8 self-esteem hacks based on suggestions from Dr. Brian Luke Seaward, author of Managing Stress: https://www.amazon.com/Managing-Stress-Principles-Strategies-Well-Being/dp/1284126269 - Learn about cognitive restructuring and the Beck Institute. https://beckinstitute.org/ - Use cognitive restructuring in your own life. Here's a handout from Therapist Aid: https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-guide/cognitive-restructuring 10 Steps To Increasing Self-Esteem https://guycounseling.com/confident-man-10-steps-to-higher-self-esteem/

10 Things Depression Doesn't Want You To Know I wrote this on Psychcentral several years ago. Here's the link: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/life-goals/2014/11/10-things-depression-doesnt-want-you-to-know/ National Alliance On Mental Illness Learn about different mental health issues, including depression. https://www.nami.org/ DSM 5 Depression Criteria https://www.psycom.net/depression-definition-dsm-5-diagnostic-criteria/ National Suicide Hotline https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ If you are in crisis and this you might hurt yourself or someone else, call 911 right now or go to your local emergency room . 

Ever feel like you are a fake? Do you question if you are really qualified to be doing what you are doing? If so, you may have imposter syndrome. Learn all about imposter syndrome, what causes it, the typical signs, and 7 things you can do about it. Change is possible in your life and so are new beginnings. 5 types of imposter syndrome traits explored based on Dr. Valerie Young's work: https://www.themuse.com/advice/5-different-types-of-imposter-syndrome-and-5-ways-to-battle-each-one Hacks for working through, including building a circle of confidence as shared on Guy Counseling: https://guycounseling.com/circle-confidence-excellence/ Shout out to Dr. Margret Rutherford with Self Work: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/selfwork-podcast/ Shownotes on Guy Counseling https://guycounseling.com/e6-imposter-syndrome-podcast/

Do you struggle with self-esteem? Want to work out but intimidated by more muscular people? Trying to change your body but can't get past your anxiety about going to the gym? In this podcast, we explore body image issues, fear, and exercise. Learn 5 ways to move past gym fears so you can build the body of your dreams. If you are a man who just can't get over the hump of feeling intimidated by other guys at the gym, this podcast is for you. Shout out to Quads Gym in Chicago: www.quadsgym.com/

What is anxiety? Where does it come from and how do you cope with it? This podcast explores anxiety and fear and assesses acceptance as a coping strategy. Do you struggle with anxiety? Gain new insights. Be sure to visit www.guycounseling.com

What is a Type A personality? In this podcast, we explore the six primary traits of Type A Personalities. In this podcast, you will learn: - Traits of Type A personalities. - Health risks for "Type A". - Coping with Type A personality types. Learn all about Type A's. Click to listen and then visit www.guycounseling.com

Trouble sleeping? Learn a new skill by engaging in self-hypnosis with this guided meditation. Train your body to relax and fall into a deeper, more meaningful sleep.

Do you struggle with irrational beliefs? Have you engaged in thinking distortions? This audio recording accompanies the post "10 Ways Irrational Thinking Increases Learn about thought distortions and more at the Guy Counseling Blog on this post: https://guycounseling.com/ten-irrational-thinking-anxiety/

Body image affirmations through guided imagery with Dr. John Moore