Podcasts about William Glasser

What drives people to perform at their highest level? Contrary to popular belief, it's rarely money or status. During this thought-provoking solo episode, I reflect on my transformative conversation with Dan Johnson, who built a non-profit organization with over 10,000 dedicated volunteers. His powerful insight? When you lead with genuine humility and humanity, people will walk through fire for you.At the heart of true motivation lie three fundamental pillars: purpose, ownership, and mastery. Purpose goes beyond lofty organizational visions to connect daily tasks with meaningful outcomes. Ownership transforms people from passive task-completers into active co-creators who drive results. Mastery addresses our innate desire for growth and skill development in areas that matter.Yet beneath these pillars runs something even more profound – our deeply human need to feel seen, heard, valued, and connected to something larger than ourselves. As leaders, we have the privilege of satisfying these needs through simple but powerful daily actions: giving the gift of purpose through context and meaning, presence through undivided attention, trust through empowerment, and growth through development opportunities.This approach aligns perfectly with established psychological frameworks like William Glasser's Choice Theory and Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs, confirming that true leadership isn't about control but connection. When we prioritize people before processes, purpose before policies, and meaning before metrics, we don't just get good work – we inspire extraordinary performance.What gift will you give your people today? Subscribe to the Leadership Project on YouTube and follow us on social media as we continue our journey to learn together and lead together.Send us a textSupport the show✅ Follow The Leadership Project on your favourite podcast platform and listen to a new episode every week!

One of the most powerful shifts we can make when addressing student behaviour is to stop lecturing and start leading. Instead of telling students what they did wrong, we need to ask the right questions to guide them toward reflection, accountability, and change.Lecturing rarely leads to buy-in. It is one of William Glasser's seven disconnecting habits, and without realising it, we often fall into this trap—especially in the heat of the moment. The result? Students tune out, nod along without truly listening, or push back entirely.In this episode, I explore how shifting from lecture mode to guide mode creates a more productive and effective approach to behaviour chats. I provide real-world examples of common classroom scenarios and show you exactly how to replace lecturing with guiding questions that encourage self-reflection and responsibility.Listen in as I discuss:Why lecturing does not create real behaviour change. The importance of student buy-in.How to shift from telling to questioning. Using questions to encourage reflection and accountability.Practical examples of guiding language. What to say instead of lecturing in common behaviour situations.Have a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!Resources and links: Take the "What's Your Teacher Type" Quiz Join The Behaviour Club My book! It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp Browse all resources on TPT Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change' Connect with me: Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables Check out my website

Send us a textUnlock the secrets to transforming your therapy practice with the revolutionary approach of choice theory. Explore how Dr. William Glasser's groundbreaking work shifts focus towards internal motivations, offering a fresh perspective on human behavior. By mastering the five basic needs—survival, love and belonging, power, freedom, and fun—gain insights into how these needs drive our actions and the crucial role of internal control in fostering self-efficacy and responsibility. Discover the power of the quality world, perceived world, and total behavior as guiding principles for aligning your actions with your vision of personal fulfillment. Through Sarah's compelling journey, witness how choice theory can profoundly impact personal relationships. Struggling with isolation, Sarah uses practical techniques like the WDEP system to reevaluate her actions and successfully meet her need for connection. Follow her as she reclaims her social life, highlighting the potential of choice theory to empower individuals in making effective choices that resonate with their quality world. This episode promises to equip you with actionable tools to guide clients in navigating interpersonal challenges, illustrating the transformative impact of taking personal responsibility and fostering positive relationships.If you need to study for your national licensing exam, try the free samplers at: LicensureExamsThis podcast is not associated with the NBCC, AMFTRB, ASW, ANCC, NASP, NAADAC, CCMC, NCPG, CRCC, or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.

Book your free session directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com In episode 418 of The OCD and Anxiety Podcast, Robert James delves into the profound impact of choice on managing OCD. Drawing inspiration from Viktor Frankl's existential philosophy and William Glasser's reality therapy, this episode explores how recognizing and utilizing our ability to choose can empower us to live more fulfilling lives despite the challenges of OCD. James discusses the significance of Frankl's quotes on the space between stimulus and response, emphasizing the potential for personal growth and freedom. He also introduces the principles of reality therapy, highlighting the importance of meeting basic human needs through positive choices. Tune in to learn how embracing the concept of choice can help reclaim your life from the grip of OCD, fostering a sense of empowerment and resilience Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.    

In this episode I'm talking about how stress and anxiety serve us. It may feel like these emotions are out of your control, simply burdens to bear, but over time, I've come to understand that these feelings are actually signaling unmet needs. We'll explore how our behaviors—like worry, anxiety, and hypervigilance—are often attempts to meet these needs, drawing on the theories of Abraham Maslow and William Glasser's basic needs (survival, belonging, power, freedom, and fun) By reframing our understanding of stress and anxiety, we can learn to manage them more effectively, This episode breaks down how unmet needs drive our behaviors and emotional responses, offering practical insights to shift our perspectives and build resilience.Understanding this can help us shift our perspective and develop skills to better manage these emotions. We'll discuss how unmet needs can trigger stress responses and how recognizing these patterns can lead to healthier coping strategies. We discuss how this cycle can become a part of our identity, acting as a barrier to joy and pleasure. By identifying which of our basic needs are going unmet, we can break free from this cycle and transform our relationship with stress and anxiety. By the end of this episode, you'll have a new perspective on your stress and anxiety and tools to address them more effectively. Support the Show.Resources:Manage Your Stress MentorshipDiscovery call You can find more about Brain-Body Resilience and JPB:On the BBR WebsiteOn InstagramOn FacebookSign up for the BBR newsletter

Send us a Text Message.Unlock the secrets to taking control of your life with reality therapy, a revolutionary approach that challenges traditional views on mental illness. Have you ever wondered why some people seem to navigate life's challenges with ease while others struggle? Discover how reality therapy empowers individuals to meet their fundamental psychological needs—like survival, belonging, power, fun, and freedom—by focusing on personal responsibility and effective behavior choices. In this episode of License Your Exams, Eric breaks down the eight essential steps of reality therapy and discusses pivotal concepts like positive addiction, failure identity, and success identity, providing invaluable insights for those prepping for licensing exams.Join us as we unpack how reality therapists, following the philosophies of William Glasser, help clients take actionable steps to gain control over their environments and achieve greater fulfillment. From establishing trust and setting goals to creating actionable plans and enforcing accountability, learn how this therapeutic model rejects excuses and focuses on the present to foster meaningful change. Whether you're a student, professional, or simply curious about new approaches in therapy, this episode will equip you with a thorough understanding of how reality therapy can transform lives by insisting on effective behavior and personal accountability.If you need to study for your national licensing exam, try the free samplers at: LicensureExamsThis podcast is not associated with the NBCC, AMFTRB, ASW, ANCC, NASP, NAADAC, CCMC, NCPG, CRCC, or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.

Send us a Text Message.As instructional coaches and school leaders, we sometimes struggle to understand why teachers resist change or exhibit unproductive behaviors. In this episode we explore the research behind Choice Theory! Developed by psychiatrist William Glasser, Choice Theory emphasizes that people's behavior is driven by their desire to fulfill five basic needs. These needs include: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom, and fun. By understanding these needs, you can empower teachers by recognizing that their behaviors stem from these needs, allowing educators to address the root cause rather than just the behavior itself. Choice Theory ResearchLooking for learning opportunities over the summer?  Check out our free, topic-based Podcast Playlists.Podcast Sponsor:Free Sibme Coaching AppRelated Episodes: #37: Understanding Human Motivation#87: Beyond Confusing Behavior: Understanding How Teachers Tick Using the EnneagramLet's Stay Connected!Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

Inspired by the groundbreaking work of Dr. William Glasser, this podcast delves into the principles of making deliberate and empowered choices to shape our mental health, relationships, and overall wellness, in todays episode we are going to explore Reality Therapy and Choice Theory.Reality Therapy: A New Approach to Psychiatry""Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom.""Start with Why." As we move into June and Men's Mental Health Month, we underscore the importance of mental health support and the resources available to those in need. This podcast is for anyone looking to take control of their life, understand their needs, and make choices that truly reflect their goals and values.Much Love x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welp… it's happening.The past 670 days have led to me being able to say this next sentence….NEXT MONTH MY BOOK, 'IT'S NEVER JUST ABOUT THE BEHAVIOUR', IS FINALLY HITTING THE SHELVES!!It feels like a lifetime ago since I signed the contract above the title ‘author'. The imposter syndrome was real. Author? Me? How the hell am I going to pull this off? Especially because the person who signed on that line was a very pregnant Claire about to head into the chaotic unknown of parenthood for the first time.So I guess it was a lifetime ago. I was a different person in my pre-mother, pre-author life. But the best news? The imposter syndrome is well and truly gone. It's Never Just About the Behaviour is everything I wanted it to be and more. When writing it, I kept coming back to these main goals.To empower you to take the action you can take when you walk into your classroom. To feel supported, confident and equipped to turn your own space into an island of safety and support for each one of your students. To know that, when challenging behaviours inevitably pop up, you'll be able to respond to them effectively and calmly. Allowing you to do the job that you got into the profession to do, and do it damn well. To teach.To celebrate the release, over the next 7 weeks, there will be a weekly Podcast episode based around each of the pillars of the book - think about it as a VIP sneak peek to dip your toes on (or even make sure it is for you before you take the plunge and purchase… but I have a feeling it is for you if you are on this list). This first episode right here is based on the first pillar, Get Curious! In this episode I…Introduce the overarching approach to classroom management I take in INJATBExplain why being curious about our students' behaviour is essential for understanding and addressing it effectively.Give you a quick overview of something from the behaviour backpack: William Glasser's five basic needs—love and belonging, fun, power and mastery, freedom, and survival—and how they drive behaviour.What this looks like in the classroom: I discuss how unmet needs can manifest in student behaviour and what you can do about it, and share practical strategies to help you stay curious and empathetic, even in challenging situations.Other episodes of the podcast I reference throughout:Episode 31: The Why That Drives Our Behaviour - The Good, Bad, and UglyDive deeper into Glass's Five Basic Needs and understand how they influence behaviour.[Listen to Episode 31]Episode 63: Blame My Brain - What's Behind Those Big, Bad, Bold, and Downright Baffling Behaviors?Explore the connection between stress responses aHave a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!Pre-order a copy of my book ‘It's Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management Other ways I can support you in your teaching practice: Download the freebie '71 Behaviour Response Prompts' Download my free guide: Addressing Misogyny in the Classroom Follow me on Instagram for daily micro-professional learning and support Connect with me on LinkedIn

In this episode, Marcela breaks down children's 5 Basic Needs according to the research of Dr.William Glasser. You will leave knowing your child a lot more and knowing how to best respond to their emotional needs. -Correct Any Behavior With Ease Online Workshop

Allyson is passionate about celebrating the strengths in the staff and students she serves. She has been an educator for over 20 years, spending 15 of those years as a school leader. She has worked with students from preschool through high school, and is currently an elementary principal. She is transparent, vulnerable, eternally optimistic, and she doesn't ask questions unless she is open to the answers.Despite the fact that she never wanted to step foot in a school again after graduation, there is no where else she'd rather spend her days. You will find her dancing with students in the hallways in the mornings with her JammyPack, and in classrooms throughout the day. She doesn't have a chair at her desk because you won't often find her there.Allyson's background includes being certified in William Glasser's Choice Theory, being a Certified Trauma-Informed Practitioner in Education, and she is the author of The Path to Serendipity. In addition, she serves on the Executive Board of Directors for the Michigan Elementary and Middle Schools Principals Association as the State and Federal Relations Coordinator.Allyson is a dynamic speaker who fills the room with energy. She specializes in captivating presentations that are emotional journeys for all present. The participants are laughing, crying, surprised, and reflecting throughout their time together. She often incorporates multimedia technology tools to support the interactive format. There is no doubt that participants walk out of her keynotes or presentations changed, with new perspectives, new goals, and strategies to implement right away.Popular topics from Allyson Apsey:Finding Your Own Path to SerendipitySupporting Students, Staff and Families Affected by TraumaLeading From the Inside OutEmbracing ChallengesBuilding Strong, Positive RelationshipsCreating Need-Satisfying Environments Where People ThriveLeading Through LearningBringing the Fun Back to our Hard WorkA Grateful, Hopeful, and Joyful LifeLeading the Whole TeacherOwn Your Story In addition to this list of topics, Allyson can customize a presentation for your organization or event.

In this enlightening episode of Street Strong, we dive deep into the concept of positive addictions and how they can dramatically transform our lives. Join us as we explore the groundbreaking work of renowned psychiatrist William Glasser, whose insights into human behavior have paved the way for a revolutionary approach to mental health and resilience. Whether you're struggling with negative habits or looking for ways to boost your motivation, this episode is a treasure trove of practical tips and inspiring stories. What You Will Discover: Positive Addictions: Understand what positive addictions are and how they differ from their negative counterparts. Building Resilience: Strategies to enhance your ability to cope with stress and adversity. Motivation Techniques: How to cultivate a drive that aligns with positive life changes. Craving and Withdrawal: Navigating the challenges of overcoming negative habits. Hope and Transformation: Real-life examples of individuals who have replaced detrimental addictions with life-affirming activities. Practical Tips: From establishing routines to finding a supportive community, learn actionable steps to cultivate positive addictions. Legacy of William Glasser: Delve into the psychiatrist's work and how it continues to influence the field of mental health today. We explore the depths of addiction that hijack our minds and lead us on destructive paths, and how we can transcend and transform cravings into forces for personal development. We delve into the intriguing concept of 'positive addiction. This episode offers practical tips and examples on cultivating positive addictions, empowering listeners to reinvent their lives with the right mindset, treatment, and community support. We, at Street Strong, believe in harnessing the strength of shared stories and learnings. We strive to spark hope, challenge what's possible, improve mental health, and motivate everyone to become their best selves. This is our journey of igniting a revolution, one spark at a time. In addition, explore the practicalities of 'Positive Addictions. This episode provides actionable insights to incorporate the principles of positive addiction into everyday life, shifting from unhealthy dependencies to enriching practices. Learn from a  life-changing example, using faith as a significant positive addiction that helped overcome his past. This episode goes beyond a simple guide to positive addictions, serving as a catalyst for self-reflection and transformation. At Street Strong community, we believe in the power every individual possesses to redefine their narratives, steer away from harmful addictions and lead a fulfilling life. So, immerse yourself in our community, share your experiences, ask questions, and be a part of our future conversations. Together, let's shape a future of healthier, happier lives through the power of positive addictions.

"Trust me!' We've all heard it, and probably said it. But how do you build a culture of trust at work, or in a classroom? David Langford and host Andrew Stotz talk about how inclusive decision-making inspires trust, and leads to better outcomes. TRANSCRIPT 0:00:02.5 Andrew Stotz: My name is Andrew Stotz, and I'll be your host as we continue our journey into the teachings of Dr. W Edwards Deming. Today I'm continuing my discussion with David P. Langford, who has devoted his life to applying Dr. Deming's philosophy to education, and he offers us his practical advice for implementation. Today we continue our discussion of Dr. Deming's, 14 items that he discusses in New Economics about the role of a manager of people after that manager has been through the transformation. This is on the third edition of The New Economics on page 86, and in the second edition on page 125. Now, today we're talking about point 10, which is a simple and short point, and it reads as follows, "He creates trust, he creates an environment that encourages freedom and innovation." So we decided to title, this one, "Trust Me." David, take it away.   [laughter]   0:01:02.3 David Langford: Thanks, Andrew. Good to be back again. So, yeah, this point it seems simple when you just read through it, and it seems logical like all managers of people would want to create trust with their people, but it's not like it happens automatically, [chuckle], and I think a lot of managers of people do things inadvertently, hopefully they're inadvertently, where they create distrust and stress, etcetera. One of those most obvious things is performance evaluations, "Trust me, and then I'm going to rank you amongst people in the department, and then we're going to have a prize for the top person and/or a bonus or something else within that."   0:02:03.6 DL: And people learn that you're not really interested in improving the product, the service, the classroom, the function of what's going on, you're really interested in who's pleasing you. [chuckle] And that's how you get a promotion, and that's how you move up is like, they'll... The old saying, "It's not what you know, it's who you know." And, I think that's really the heart of what Deming's getting at here, that you're supposed to create an environment of trust. And it doesn't just... It's not a pill you take and where you just all of a sudden you can say to people all you want to "trust me," [laughter] but it's over time, when you find out, "Are you trustworthy?" And if you prove not to be trustworthy, either you can't keep things confidential or you talk behind people's backs, or you, you know, any of those kinds of things, over time people start to realize you're not somebody to be trusted.   0:03:16.3 DL: I often heard Deming say things like, "If you create an environment where people can't trust you, pretty soon you're only left with the people who can't get another job." [laughter] "Can't go someplace else, because you're just not trustworthy." Well, the same thing happens in a classroom, a classroom teacher that is not trustworthy and can't build trust among a classroom of students, won't get the very best from those students. Pretty soon they'll only do what the teacher wants to be done, and then that's it. They won't think on their own. They won't... Deming is talking about they won't become innovative in what they're doing, because you're not a trustworthy person managing the class. And so how do you do that? How do you build trust over time? Well, a big part of that to me is involving people in the decision-making process. On the previous points, in this section that we're working through, Deming talked about, the role of a good manager and a leader and etcetera, and those kinds of things. Ultimately, you still have the formal position, right?   0:04:43.2 DL: And it's your job or in some cases, you're next on the line, if you don't make a good decision. But the more you can involve people in that process of making decisions, number one, you're going to come out with a better decision, because you just get more brains looking at a situation in ways that you just never thought about before. And number two, it's sort of a double-edged sword, not only did you get a better decision but whatever decision you do come up with gets implemented to a higher degree. So when I'm teaching teachers to do this with classrooms with students, I always tell them, you know, if you involve students in a decision-making process, and let's say that it doesn't turn out well, it wasn't a good decision.   0:05:42.8 DL: You win both ways, right? Because it wasn't just your decision. And it's the same way with a manager in a company. If it's just your decision and something doesn't work, people will just let it fail, they'll just let it not work because they had no part in it. They don't really care if it works or not. And they'll just let you, gladly let you fail in some cases and not bail you out. But if it's our decision and we all use some tools and processes and took the time to actually work through and figure out the best solution to something, then if things start to go wrong, people, because they have such strong trust in you and the organization, they're going to pick up the pieces. They're going to do stuff to make even a bad decision work, because they have ownership in it, and they're a part of that process.   0:06:45.3 AS: I wanted to briefly talk about trust because, it's such a interesting word and concept that I think we may just brush over. I remember reading a book by Dr. William Glasser called "Reality Therapy", and he worked with prisoners and others through his psychiatry. And one of the things he always talked about is that a key sign of mental illness, which he didn't... He actually said there was no such thing as mental illness. He said basically the issue was that that person did not have a trusting relationship with anybody, and therefore it was so hard... So then all the mental problems and emotional problems they went through were coping mechanisms.   0:07:29.8 AS: And that really rang true. And I think about my friendships with my best friend, Dale, who we run - he runs the coffee business. And I think about the relationships with my mom and dad and my sisters, and I can say none of them ever betrayed my trust. And I think I thought that was normal. But when I talked to my father just before he died, I asked him, "What is the accomplishment" of many accomplishments, including getting his PhD and being successful and all that? And he said to me... I said, "What is your number one? What are you most proud of?" And he said, "I built a trusting family." And now as I've grown, you know, and I've looked at that more, I really realized that is rare. And I want to just highlight that trust is rare.   0:08:19.2 AS: And the second way I want to highlight that is that, I teach in my ethics course, which I just teach ethics and finance all the time at university and for CFA, what I say... I ask people to raise their hand. I ask them, think about how many people you truly trust. If you had a really... And I want everybody who's listening and viewing, let me ask this question. How many people do you truly trust? If you had a secret, something that you did not want to get out to the world, but you felt like you needed to tell somebody, how many people would you trust? And the answer to that after asking thousands of people that question is about one or two. And my point, and I say academic research can oftentimes be interpreting surveys. That's a survey. That's some research. And what does it tell us? It tells us that trust is rare. And so when I hear the word trust, and I think about what he's saying, "He creates trust, he creates an environment that encourages freedom and innovation." I think that's extremely hard thing to do, and it's not happening much in this world.   0:09:38.5 DL: Well, you want that freedom and innovation because in a company that's creating new products or new ideas or things like that, and people are freely distributing or giving you those ideas. And so unless you have that sort of fertile ground for creating new ideas and innovation, you're just not going to get there. It pretty much means that everything has to be a top-down decision-made process of doing something. And you want tremendous growth. It's the same way in a classroom. It's interesting that we think that, "Oh, we have to do great trustworthy kinds of things." But it happens in such simple ways. Like a teacher might say, "Oh, well just take 10 minutes to finish this." And, uh, then a half an hour later they return back to what they were working on and stuff. Students quickly learn, you're not trustworthy, [chuckle] 10 minutes means 10 minutes. And I often tell teachers, just have a little stop watch or a little timer or something, and when you do something like that and you say, "Okay, we're going to take 20 minutes to work on this," then just set a timer. It'll keep you on, trustworthy, and it'll keep them on track as well and people will know, okay, we're there.   0:11:15.5 AS: Yeah. And I think the other thing I would say is when you're standing in front of a group of students teaching you have to really understand that they trust almost no one. And so...   0:11:26.1 DL: Yeah, that's true.   0:11:26.3 AS: They're observing your every action. And I say that they trust almost no one from my survey of people that I've been surveying asking this question. And maybe even ask your students, ask them a question such as, "How many people do you trust?"   0:11:44.2 DL: Yeah. Well, I've been involved as a student myself, and an assignment was given or a timeline, "Have this by Friday or be ready to discuss this by Friday." And then you get to Friday and the teacher doesn't follow through. And you've put in all this work and effort to be ready for Friday. And it's, "Oh, well, we'll just put that off until Monday." Well, you're not building trust, you're actually taking trust away. Stephen Covey says, "You're not adding to the bank of trust." [chuckle]   0:12:17.5 AS: And it is a bank and it is cumulative. One last thing about trust that I was thinking about is, you know, for managers right now in businesses, and I'm sure it's the same in education, it's all about KPIs and measurements. And one of the real destructive things of these measurements is they destroy trust, because the manager of people is sitting behind a desk looking at a chart and graph and not understanding a person's situation and basically blasting them. I think that it's possible if we could get to where some managers want to be, that you could implant some sort of electrical stimulus, so that if somebody doesn't hit their KPI, you just give them a volt, you give them a shot of electricity and say, "That's a reminder that you haven't, didn't hit your KPI." And I think about the relationships that I have of trust, and none of them were built through KPI. So I like the...   0:13:23.8 DL: No point, they already you have it.   0:13:26.1 AS: Yep. Maybe a good ending point. Anything you would add?   0:13:30.5 DL: Yeah. No, it's just on the surface this seems so simple. But what Deming often talked about Profound Knowledge, and the word profound means deep knowledge and understanding. So it's taking these points that he accumulated basically over a hundred years. And he makes it so simple, "Hey, just think about this, just do this and things will get better." So, trust me.   0:14:00.8 AS: Trust me. So I'm going to wrap this up by first asking the listeners and the viewers, how many people do you trust? And I want you to think about the people around you. Are they any different than you? They probably trust one or two people. And some people will say, "I trust no one." And an important part of this point, number 10, is to recognize that trust is rare and rare is valuable. David, on behalf of everyone at the Deming Institute, I want to thank you again for the discussion. And for listeners, remember to go to deming.org to continue your journey. Listeners can learn more about David at langfordlearning.com, and this is your host, Andrew Stotz. And I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes from Dr. Deming. I just never get tired of this quote. "People are entitled to joy in work."

Dive deep into the heart of every tantrum, question, and giggle. This episode explores Dr. William Glasser's Five Basic Needs and how they shape our children's behaviors. Discover simple, actionable tools for each need, turning challenging moments into opportunities for connection. Need personalized Guidance from a professional parenting coach? CLICK HERE to apply to HIC Parenting Education Agency

In this episode of the podcast Walk the Talk America's clinical team dives into the work of Dr. William Glasser! Jake Wiskerchen leads the first half giving you a background on Dr. Glasser's work and the five basic needs. Then the group explores how his five basic needs of survival, belonging, power, freedom, and fun relate to gun ownership.

Hey friend, We've got a great episode and a free guide for you today.  http://www.StenMorgan.com/commitment Commitment: A Daily Practice, Not a New Year's Resolution We often think of commitment as a once-a-year event, but it's actually a daily and weekly practice. It's the missing piece in achieving our goals and desires, and it's all about follow-through and execution. The Natural Ability to Make Things Work Ever wondered why some people seem to have a knack for success? They've figured out a level of commitment that allows them to quickly determine what will work and what won't.   The Five Levels of Commitment We explored a framework by Dr. Robert Wubbolding and William Glasser that outlines five levels of commitment. From "lack of commitment" to "whatever it takes," understanding these levels can help us filter decisions and overcome our natural tendencies.  The Danger of Half-Hearted Commitment The fourth level of commitment, characterized by a higher level of effort but still falling short of true commitment, is the most dangerous. It's easy to justify lack of success by saying we tried our best, when in fact, we didn't. Pushing Beyond Perceived Limits We are capable of much more than we realize. By pushing beyond our perceived limits and fully committing to our goals, we can achieve results beyond our initial expectations. The Power of "Whatever It Takes" The highest level of commitment, "whatever it takes," involves cutting off all exit routes and staying committed to the goal no matter what. It's a level of commitment demonstrated by successful individuals and one that I personally experienced when starting my business. Seeking Input and Feedback Before pursuing a level five commitment, it's crucial to seek input from others. Feedback from a team, partner, or spouse can ensure that our commitment is aligned and that we're not blindly chasing an unattainable goal. I hope these insights spark your curiosity and inspire you to listen to our podcast. Remember, commitment is not just about achieving success, but also about redefining our best and pushing through challenges. Use your commitment guide to find out your true level of commitment.  http://www.StenMorgan.com/Commitment Sten J. Morgan, CFP®, ChFC®  

On this weeks episode we speak with William Glasser, President/Founder of Language World. For the past 23 years, his Rancho Cordova-based agency has served Northern California's linguistic needs with a team of 110 employee interpreters, over half of whom are certified by the Certification Commission for Healthcare Interpreters or the National Board of Certification for Medical Interpreters to serve in complex medical and behavioral health assignments. The company also provides interpreters for conferences, parent-teacher meetings, political polling and other events and situations. 

Joseph Emet joins us again to talk with Dr. Zohara about meditation in general, but specifically walking meditation.  They also review his 2016 book Finding the Blue Sky: A Mindful Approach to Choosing Happiness Here and Now, TarcherPerigee, 2016.  In this book Emet recounts his own journey toward wellbeing and happiness through mindfulness. These steps are outlined clearly in the book: Each chapter starts with a Zen story, and continues with a set of exercises for applying that teaching to real-life situations. Like Jon Kabat-Zinn, Joseph had his introduction to the mindfulness tradition through Zen. He trained with Roshi Robert Aitken in Hawaii, and then continued with Thich Nhat Hanh in Plum Village (France). At the end of his training, Thich Nhat Hanh appointed him a teacher in his tradition of Zen. Joseph Emet started the Mindfulness Meditation Centre in 1997. Since then, he has trained several thousand people in mindfulness practices in large and small groups, for organizations, and in private sessions. Emet holds a Doctorate in Music from Boston University. He has been certified in Reality Therapy Counselling with Dr. William Glasser, and has been a Fulbright scholar. He is also a long time T'ai Chi practitioner.  This interview was recorded in 2022. http://mindfulnessmeditationcentre.org Hosted by Dr. Zohara Hieronimus.  Produced by Hieronimus & Co. for 21st Century Radio®.  Edited version provided to Nightlight Radio with permission.

It's back to school! DYRK is dedicating a special week to sport. Because moving and doing regular physical activity is important for our physical and mental health! Listen again to our episodes about sport! Muscle dysmorphia, also known as bigorexia or reverse anorexia, is an obsession with bulking up by working out. It's caused by a person's belief that their body is too skinny or lacking in muscle. The term “exercise addiction” was coined by psychiatrist William Glasser in the 1970s. More recently, it has been recognized as a potentially harmful condition. This addiction usually affects those who exercise excessively, mainly endurance sports participants and bodybuilders.  How does it affect their mental health? What cause muscle dysmorphia?  In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions ! To listen to the latest episodes, click here: What is tagskryt, the Scandinavian sustainable travel trend? Is it time the UK acknowledged its role in the slave trade? Why do we sneeze? A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance In partnership with upday UK. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joseph Emet joins us again to talk with Dr. Zohara about meditation in general, but specifically walking meditation.  They also review his 2016 book Finding the Blue Sky: A Mindful Approach to Choosing Happiness Here and Now, TarcherPerigee, 2016.  In this book Emet recounts his own journey toward wellbeing and happiness through mindfulness. These steps are outlined clearly in the book: Each chapter starts with a Zen story, and continues with a set of exercises for applying that teaching to real-life situations. Like Jon Kabat-Zinn, Joseph had his introduction to the mindfulness tradition through Zen. He trained with Roshi Robert Aitken in Hawaii, and then continued with Thich Nhat Hanh in Plum Village (France). At the end of his training, Thich Nhat Hanh appointed him a teacher in his tradition of Zen. Joseph Emet started the Mindfulness Meditation Centre in 1997. Since then, he has trained several thousand people in mindfulness practices in large and small groups, for organizations, and in private sessions. Emet holds a Doctorate in Music from Boston University. He has been certified in Reality Therapy Counselling with Dr. William Glasser, and has been a Fulbright scholar. He is also a long time T'ai Chi practitioner.  This interview was recorded in 2022. http://mindfulnessmeditationcentre.org Hosted by Dr. Zohara Hieronimus.  Produced by Hieronimus & Co. for 21st Century Radio®.  Edited version provided to Nightlight Radio with permission.

Joseph Emet joins us again to talk with Dr. Zohara about meditation in general, but specifically walking meditation.  They also review his 2016 book Finding the Blue Sky: A Mindful Approach to Choosing Happiness Here and Now, TarcherPerigee, 2016.  In this book Emet recounts his own journey toward wellbeing and happiness through mindfulness. These steps are outlined clearly in the book: Each chapter starts with a Zen story, and continues with a set of exercises for applying that teaching to real-life situations. Like Jon Kabat-Zinn, Joseph had his introduction to the mindfulness tradition through Zen. He trained with Roshi Robert Aitken in Hawaii, and then continued with Thich Nhat Hanh in Plum Village (France). At the end of his training, Thich Nhat Hanh appointed him a teacher in his tradition of Zen.Joseph Emet started the Mindfulness Meditation Centre in 1997. Since then, he has trained several thousand people in mindfulness practices in large and small groups, for organizations, and in private sessions. Emet holds a Doctorate in Music from Boston University. He has been certified in Reality Therapy Counselling with Dr. William Glasser, and has been a Fulbright scholar. He is also a long time T'ai Chi practitioner.  This interview was recorded in 2022.http://mindfulnessmeditationcentre.orgHosted by Dr. Zohara Hieronimus.  Produced by Hieronimus & Co. for 21st Century Radio®.  Edited version provided to Nightlight Radio with permission.

C'est la rentrée ! Maintenant Vous Savez consacre une semaine spéciale sport. Parce que bouger et faire une activité physique régulière est important pour notre santé physique et mentale ! Réécoutez nos épisodes qui parlent de sport ! La bigorexie est une addiction maladive au sport. Elle a été identifiée dans les années 70 par William Glasser et est reconnue dangereuse par l'OMS depuis 2011. Cette dépendance survient généralement après une pratique excessive et se voit surtout parmi les pratiquants de sport d'endurance et de culturisme. Quels sont les signes pour reconnaître la bigorexie ? Qu'est-ce qui déclenche la maladie ? Quand la pratique du sport est-elle jugée excessive ? Ecoutez la suite de cet épisode de "Maintenant vous savez". Un podcast écrit par Thomas Nöel. A écouter aussi : Qu'est-ce que la flamme olympique ? Que sont les Jeux paralympiques ? Qu'est-ce que le sportwashing ? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Virtue is a restraint of harmful actions and words" - Rabbi Finley Rabbi Mordecai Finley, PhD is the worlds only Rabbi who is also a Black Belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. He is a self described existential counselor. In this episode, I have a wide ranging conversation with the Rabbi about a 10 year plan to end gun violence in the United State, using his model of Virtue, Rationality, and Wisdom, then we move into a discussion of the different ways to achieve connection with your soul through the practice of depth. Rabbi Mordecai Finley is the rabbi and co-CEO of Ohr HaTorah Synagogue. He co-founded the synagogue with his wife Meirav Finley in 1993. Rabbi Finley received his doctorate in Religion-Social Ethics from the University of Southern California. In addition to his work at Ohr HaTorah, he served as a Professor of Jewish Thought at the Academy for Jewish Religion, California Campus , where he taught Liturgy, Jewish Mysticism and Spirituality, and Professional Skills. He is former president and former provost of the AJR. He currently on hiatus from his teaching at the AJR/CA Rabbi Finley also has a small counseling practice, where he focuses on wisdom, virtue, and managing consciousness. He specializes is interpersonal relationships. As Rabbi Finley does not do traditional psychodynamic counseling, his clients are typically short term and see results immediately if they work the teachings. Rabbi Finley integrates into his counseling practice insights from many schools and traditions, most notably:  Philosophy, Stoic and Neo-Platonism) Jung and neo-Jungians (especially James Hillman) plus a range of modern psychological schools of thought, especially Roberto Assagiolli, William Glasser, Albert Ellis and Byron Katie. He also has background in object relations theorists as well as existential and humanist psychology. Through his doctorate in Religion, as well as his own spiritual search, he has familiarity with other religious-spiritual traditions: Hindu (especially Patanjali and Raja Yoga), Tibetan Buddhism, Zen Buddhism, and Sufi Mysticism.  Noted for his unique teaching skills, his eloquence and ability to simply and clearly articulate truths about the human condition through teaching Bible, mysticism, Kabbalah, spirituality, and moral psychology, he has changed many people's lives. What you'll learn in this episode: Rabbi Finley and Derek come up with a 10 year plan to end gun violence in the United StatesHow to apply Vitue, Rationality, Wisdom, and Depth in your lifeNew ways to think about poetry, magic, the soul, and spiritual experiencesHow martial arts relates to spiritualityHow to identify your spiritual personalityThe use of the willParenting practice and problem solving Quotes "Virtue is a restraint of harmful actions and words" - Rabbi Finley "I'm interested in changing the culture of conflict with de-escalation"- Rabbi Finley "There is no short cut to human transformation"- Rabbi Finley "It is very un fulfilling to lead an accommodating life"- Rabbi Finley "In a way, you have to know your spiritual personality"- Rabbi Finley "Connecting with the world of the soul takes work"- Rabbi Finley "Holy words name experiences"- Rabbi Finley "Training has to be rigorous and specific"- Rabbi Finley "Never abandon your gift"- Rabbi Finley Continue the adventure: Rabbi Mordecai Finley's website Rabbi Mordecai Finley's Instagram Rabbi Mordecai Finley's Facebook Rabbi Mordecai Finley's Twitter Rabbi Mordecai Finley's YouTube Channel You'll also love these episodes: Jon Jandai | Life Can Be So Easy: Farming, Earthen Building, Community, Seed Saving, and more… Joel Salatin | Regenerative Farming, Community Building, Templates of Abundance, and more Michael Thornhill | Founder of Casa Galactica, Ayahuasca Retreat Center, on Healing Trauma and Channeling Interdimensional Beings Robert Michael | Know Your Rights – Freedom,

In this series on Therapy Tip of the Week, we'll provide psychologists, counsellors and psychotherapists one practical tip in each episode. My idea of giving you this is not so much as to prescribe to you what you should be doing, but to describe possibilities, to give you ideas that can inspire you to create your own ideas in the practice of psychotherapy. My hopes of doing this is that it may widen the palette of possibilities to allow you to see a wide array of different things that you could do that is not restricted by particular theoretical models, but tapping into various schools of therapy that can help you in a synergistic and integrative way. By exploring these various tips of the week, I hope that you get to think about how to construct first principles that will guide you in your work as well. In this episode, I talk about one idea relating to William Glasser's 5 Basic Needs: 1. Survival 2. Love and Belonging 3. Autonomy 4. Freedom 5. Fun For the video version, go to https://youtu.be/1v1XxBGFdUc  ⏳ Time Stamps: 1. Intro (00:00) 2. Capturing Your Weekly Therapy Learnings (01:29) 3. 5 Basic Needs (02:18) i. Survival (03:27) ii. Love and Belonging (3:49) iii. Autonomy (04:20) iv. Freedom (04:34) v. Fun (04:57) 4. A Clinical Example ✍️ Shownotes: 1. darylchow.com/frontiers/weeklytherapylearnings 2. William Glasser Reality Therapy / Choice Theory 3. Check out the Frontiers of Psychotherapist Development website: darylchow.com/frontiers 4. Note: Any personally identifiable information in clinical examples used are changed, in order to protect their confidentiality and privacy.

What is muscle dysmorphia? Muscle dysmorphia, also known as bigorexia or reverse anorexia, is an obsession with bulking up by working out. It's caused by a person's belief that their body is too skinny or lacking in muscle. The term “exercise addiction” was coined by psychiatrist William Glasser in the 1970s. More recently, it has been recognized as a potentially harmful condition. This addiction usually affects those who exercise excessively, mainly endurance sports participants and bodybuilders.  How does it affect their mental health ? What cause muscle dysmorphia ? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions ! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here : Is running actually bad for our joints and bones? Is drinking decaf bad for my health? What is the dangerous Blackout challenge on Tiktok? A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. In partnership with upday UK. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. William Glasser told about the time when he was preparing to give his son a bath.  At that time the little boy was five years old.  The Glassers had two tubs--a large one that would have allowed the little boy to kick and splash and a smaller one which had been used when he was little.  The little boy asserted his rugged individualism--otherwise described as "stubborn independence"--and announced that he wanted his bath in the small tub even though he knew the larger tub was easier to fill.

Today's show features an interview with the co-founder of Last Night's Game, Amy Siegfried, in "Call to the Bullpen." Host Josh McKinney talks to Amy about her sports background, her time as a student at Arizona State University, her stint as Director of Community Affairs for the Arizona Diamondbacks, the inspiration behind Last Night's Game, the challenges of starting a company, how to stand out as a woman in sports, and more. Before the interview with Amy, Josh recognizes Happy Athlete with Sean Conley in "Podcast Shout-Out" and discusses some crazy NBA rules in "Off-the-Wall." After the interview, stick around for the debut of "Two Truths and a Lie" and try to guess which statement about Josh is a bold-faced lie. Show Layout: Podcast Shout-Out (1:15) Off-the-Wall (3:26) Call to the Bullpen (7:41) Two Truths and a Lie (42:43) CONNECT Twitter: https://twitter.com/SuperJMac32 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/QuartersJosh/ *** Hear more from Josh McKinney on the Substantiate Podcast with William Glasser. Josh joined William for a hypothetical draft of "The Office" characters playing softball.

Hayden and Matt go over the sweet sixteen/elite eight and give their thoughts on why the final four is just a bunch of "blue bloods" despite all of the double digit seeds that made it far this year. The brothers also talk some NBA: where did the Celtics come from and can we consider the Jazz and one-and-done? Also on the show is our special guest: William Glasser from Substantiate podcast on all platforms!

Hi All! This is Episode 78! (Season 2:24) We begin the 3rd book of the 5 Books of Moses, known as Leviticus (Vayikra). Much of the book revolves around issues of the pure and impure, the holy and unholy. Our topic this week: On Behavior Change What do a Stanford professor, an ultra-athlete and a 13th-century Rabbinic scholar have in common? Take a listen as we begin to think and speak about how we can change our behavior no matter our age and current direction. Super interesting stuff! Hey, I'd love your feedforward (it's a more future-focused term than feedback), so hit me up with your thoughts, questions, ideas and suggestions for the future! Always looking to learn and grow. Happy Learning! Quote of the Week: 'If you want to change attitudes, start with a change in behavior.' -William Glasser

Host Josh McKinney welcomes fellow podcaster William Glasser of the Substantiate Podcast to 4 Quarters with Josh McKinney! After answering questions about the NFL, the NBA, and Major League Baseball in "McKinney's Mailbag" and sharing tidbits about today's date in "This Day in Sports History," Josh is joined by William in "Call to the Bullpen," during which they discuss the NBA (what's wrong with the Los Angeles Lakers, NBA title contenders, MVP favorites, and more) and the MLB lockout. William also sticks around for "Happily Ever Drafter" as he and Josh draft five-player basketball teams made up of characters from the Marvel Cinematic Universe. Show Layout: McKinney's Mailbag (1:07) This Day in Sports History (9:08) Call to the Bullpen (12:37) Happily Ever Drafter (54:08, although the Marvel conversation starts at 48:03) CONNECT Twitter: https://twitter.com/SuperJMac32 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/QuartersJosh/

Explicamos nesta etapa os 70% e 50% das características da metodologia ativa que devem ser trabalhadas com os alunos.

Vamos fazer um total de 4 podcast falando desta pirâmide e o que contém nela, nos acompanhe aqui.

The nature of reality may be a complex philosophical question, but from a psychological viewpoint, reality is largely a question of adaptation to the truths of our inner and outer worlds. How well do we manage psychic life and the electric bill? Science fiction writer Philip Dick pithily states: “Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn't go away.” Multiple realities challenge us. We live in shared social realities, from embracing niceties to being steeped in beliefs and a need to belong. We also may access the objective realities of verifiable facts and scientific data. And we experience subjective realities of emotion, intuition, and unconscious influences. We can feel our feelings, differentiate between levels of reality, and choose which to apply to a particular situation or decision. Unclouded acceptance of reality is medicinal. Here's the dream we analyzed: “I found myself somehow back living in the attic of a property I managed years ago, an old parish house. I was very comfortable with this and glad to be there. A high school sweetheart came to visit unexpectedly, and we fell into our old way of being together rather quickly. We had been very close when young, and in real life, we maintained contact for years, though at the time of this dream, we had not spoken for a long time. I was excited at the prospect of rekindling our relationship anew as adults and was a little nervous. She asked where she could smoke a cigarette, and I suggested the roof. It was a warm, inviting night, and although I had quit smoking decades ago, I felt young again and accepted her offer of a cigarette. We were on a flat roof with a parapet. She went to sit on the parapet wall and purposefully leaned back, intentionally flinging herself off of the roof. There was a dreadful moment of suspended time before I heard her body hit the ground many floors below. Terrified, I started running down the flights of stairs toward ground level. At one of the landings, I encountered the building's plumber, an older man I had known for years who was working on some old piping. I started to tell him what just happened, but he knew already, and with incredible calm, told me there was nothing to be done and to just forget about it. This hardly registered as I continued my frantic flight down the stairs, only to discover that the stairwell never ended or that I was somehow lost, even though there was only one way down. The further I went, lights were burnt out and the steps increasingly irregular, forcing me to slow down and test each step." REFERENCES: C.G. Jung. The Function of Religious Symbols. Collected Works, Volume 18. William Glasser, M.D. Reality Therapy: A New Approach to Psychiatry. https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060904143/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_YDK0SZAZS3Y5JB8X5QYJ  RESOURCES: Learn to Analyze your own Dreams: https://thisjungianlife.com/enroll/

Sean Conley and William Glasser draft teams of Star Wars characters to play in a football game and discuss the keys to success for each team.Additionally, Sean shares his experiences in the NFL including playing catch with Barry Sanders and locker room dynamics.Guest: Sean ConleyThe Point AfterWebsite: seanconley.netInstagram: @seanconley2Email Newsletter Sign-up (Weekly on Thursdays):https://substantiate.mailchimpsites.com/weekly-email-subscribeIF YOU ENJOYED THIS EPISODE:LEAVE US A 5 STAR RATINGWRITE A REVIEWSHARE THIS WITH A FRIENDSHARE THIS ON SOCIAL MEDIASubstantiate Social Media:Instagram: @substantiatepodTwitter: @substantiatepodWebsite: https://www.substantiatepod.com/email: substantiatepod@gmail.com

We are currently going through a spiritual crisis. We live in a time that is dominated by a materialistic and mechanistic world view. In our current culture consumption is prized more than compassion, power is valued more than peace and status is deemed more important than connection to spirit. We witness the results of this every day in the wrecking of our own wellbeing and of the planet. How can we find a way out of the crisis? It starts with ourselves. It starts within. It starts with the examination of who we truly are and with the evolution of our hearts. And my guest today is a man who has dedicated his life to spiritual growth and healing. Rabbi Mordecai Finley is the co-founder of Ohr Ha Torah Synagogue in Los Angeles. He holds a doctorate in Religion and Social Ethics, he is a historian, a philosopher and a spiritual psychologist. He is also a United States Marine Corps veteran, the founder and former President of the Academy for Jewish Religion and the world's only rabbi with a black belt in jiu-jitsu. His teachings are informed by his full and eclectic life and by the many schools and traditions he studied, amongst them the ancient wisdom of the Kabbalah, Stoicism and Neo-Platonism, the principles of Carl Gustav Jung and a range of modern psychological schools of thought such as William Glasser, Albert Ellis and Byron Katie. Rabbi Finley's mission is to serve the greater good of all, sharing his wisdom about the truths about the human condition. And today he generously shares this wisdom with us. In this episode, you'll discover: -What it means to "examine" our life...03:30 -Rabbi Finley's take on the ego and the self...08:55 -How we know when we're run by a negative ego state...12:15 -How Rabbi Finley describes his counseling model...14:40 -How to break through unhealthy cycles of the mind...18:40 -How high school keeps young people in an immature mindset...22:50 -Similarities between Compton and the Marine Corps in curbing the ego...27:30 -How martial arts informs Rabbi Finley's ministry as a rabbi...31:55 -Repression of our souls is the root cause of our misery...35:20 -Things are so bad today...compared to what?...40:24 -How praying to bring healing to God ultimately brings healing to the self...43:50 -The good rabbi's best practices in life...50:18 -And much more... https://www.rabbifinley.com (Rabbi Finley's website)

It's that time again - the greatest time in fact, because a fresh, new episode of The Lennon Courtney Podcast has arrived!This week our special guest is friend of the podcast, TV and radio presenter Zoe Hardman. Zoe hosts the very popular Weekend Breakfast on Heart Radio in London and is also the co-creator and presenter of chart-topping parenting podcast, Made By Mammas. In this episode we talked to Zoe about everything from motherhood to menopause and perhaps most importantly, how she first met Brendan!We hope you love this week's chat and if you do, please leave a positive review and 5 stars here. It takes seconds but really helps the podcast grow.Make sure you also scroll down the show notes for some resources on menopause and early menopause.Until next Thursday, stay safe!Sonya and Brendan.RESOURCESRead more on Zoe's experience hereKellogg's initiative on menopause and fertility in their workplaceMenopause clinics in Ireland newsRead - Choice Theory by William Glasser. Buy here or borrow from your local library. Follow Lennon Courtney on Instagram, Twitter and FacebookFollow Brendan on Insta and Twitter and Facebook. Follow Sonya on Insta and Twitter. Shop the latest Lennon Courtney 'Doyenne Collection' at Dunnes Stores.Social media is managed by Julie Gartland. Katie Laffen created and performed our theme music 'Walkin' On It and the podcast is produced by Esther O'Moore Donohoe. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this third segment of the 4-part series on well-being, Jennifer Hogan and Allyson Apsey discuss taking steps to have healthy bodies and healthy minds. Join Jennifer and Allyson on their journey to well-being. Well-being is listening to your heart, your mind and your body and then taking specific action based on what you hear. This careful listening and action steps lead to us becoming the best version of ourselves. This contributes to our own personal satisfaction with life and allows us to be the people we want to be for everyone around us. The roadmap to personal well-being looks different for everyone, but there are some universal truths and ideas that can help us all. We look forward to exploring them in this four-part series. This is part three in our series. We'll talk about self-efficacy and how it impacts our well-being. In this episode you'll discover: -The top three responses educators across the country give as their answer to the question, "What might make a teacher feel unsafe at school?" -The definition of self-efficacy by psychologist Albert Bandura, whose social learning theory is used in classrooms today. -How goal-setting, positive affirmations, and William Glasser's Behavior Car can help improve self-efficacy -A simple yet powerful "Reflection & Projection" exercise that can be added to one's self-efficacy toolbox. Resources from this episode: Self-Efficacy by Albert Bandura Increasing transformational leadership through enhancing self‐efficacy - Journal of Management Development Albert Bandura's Social Learning Theory at SimplyPsychology.org What we do and how we think determine how we feel at Serendipity in Education Happier Podcast by Gretchen Rubin You are always enough at TheCompelledEducator.com

Invest Your Best – This episode is sponsored by Better Help.  Join over 1 million who have taken charge of their mental health. Receive 10% off your first month by visiting: http://www.betterhelp.com/IYB~ Welcome back to season 4 of the "Invest Your Best" podcast. On this episode, Ali discusses prioritizing living your best life by defining what it is that you want and setting intentions in your life. Are you somebody who lets life happen to them or for you? By defining William Glasser's "Choice Theory," this episode breaks down our basic needs that drive motivation, as well as defining our "quality world picture" in order to visualize and define what it is that you want. If you are somebody who wants to prioritize living your best life then this is the episode for you in order to understand the very first step and defining what it is you want. ~“Invest Your Best” shirts & sweatshirts NOW AVAILABLE! https://www.bonfire.com/store/invest-your-best/~Purchase the "Invest Your Best -- A Mental & Physical Welllness Journal" - https://www.amazon.com/Invest-Your-Best-Journal-Ali/dp/B099179TZC/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=invest+your+best+journal&qid=1626364042&sr=8-3~Follow Ali Kay:Website: https://www.investyourbestwithalikay.com/Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/alexandrawille/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexandrawilleProduced by: Will Retherford, Citizens of Sound

Hey guys and welcome back to the show as I am your host, Joshua Unangst, and today CourtSideHeat is bringing on a special guest that will be breaking down what it would look like and how realistic it would actually be for NBA players to play in the NFL. Something interesting, right? This debate and/or conversation will be put to rest after William Glasser and Joshua go through this. Plus, we will be talking about NBA-related topics and the number one thing forgotten in today's generation of sports. Check out his podcast (Substantiate: Hypothetical Sports Matchups): https://www.substantiatepod.com/1283276 Substantiate Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/substantiatepod/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SubstantiatePod Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/SubstantiatePod-105846294518916 Website: https://www.substantiatepod.com/ Check out the podcast that I was guesting on: https://www.substantiatepod.com/1283276/9325240-wk-5-nfl-matchups-playing-basketball-ft-joshua-unangst Join our Elite Membership and all the perks for $3 dollars here: courtsideheat.com/membership-join/ The podcast is from Monday's to Friday's at 8 A.M.

On today's podcast Ryan talks to Rabbi Mordecai Finley about what he learned from his encounter with an active shooter at the LAX airport in 1978, what our obligation to the common good looks like in the modern world, the Stoic's obligation to remaining rational and responsible within society, and more. Rabbi Mordecai Finley is the rabbi and co-CEO of Ohr HaTorah Synagogue. He co-founded the synagogue with his wife Meirav Finley in 1993. Rabbi Finley integrates into his counseling practice insights from many schools and traditions, most notably: Philosophy, Stoic and Neo-Platonism) Jung and neo-Jungians (especially James Hillman) plus a range of modern psychological schools of thought, especially Roberto Assagiolli, William Glasser, Albert Ellis and Byron Katie. He also has background in object relations theorists as well as existential and humanist psychology. List your product on AppSumo between September 15th - November 17th and the first 400 offers to go live will receive $1000, the next 2000 to list a product get $250. And everyone who lists gets entered to be one of 10 lucky winners of $10k! Go to https://appsumo.com/ryanholiday to list your product today and cash in on this amazing deal.Uprising Food have cracked the code on healthy bread. Only 2 net carbs per serving, 6 grams of protein and 9 grams of fiber. They cover paleo, to clean keto, to simple low carb, to high fiber, to dairy free to grain free lifestyle. Uprising Food is offering our listeners ten dollars off the starter bundle. that includes two superfood cubes and four pack of freedom chips to try! go to uprisingfood.com/stoic and the discount will be automatically applied at checkout. SimpliSafe just launched their new Wireless Outdoor Security Camera. Get the new SimpliSafe Wireless Outdoor Security Camera, visit https://simplisafe.com/stoic. What's more, SimpliSafe is celebrating this new camera by offering 20% off your entire new system and your first month of monitoring service FREE, when you enroll in Interactive Monitoring. Just go to https://simplisafe.com/stoic to claim this deal.Novo is the #1 Business Banking App - because it's built from the ground up to be powerfully simple and free business banking that Money Magazine called the Best Business Checking Account of 2021. Novo makes banking easy and secure - you can manage your account in Novo's customizable web, android, and iOS apps with built in profit first accounting and invoicing. Get your FREE business banking account in just 10 minutes at https://banknovo.com/STOICSign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://DailyStoic.com/signupFollow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookFollow Rabbi Mordecai Finley: Website, Instagram, Twitter, FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I interview board certified coach, Phil Lynn, about his ideas on parenting. Phil has some training and had studied William Glasser's Choice Theory psychology, so if you recognize some Choice Theory in this interview, don't be surprised. Phil and I discuss how to "get" your kids to obey you, dealing with sibling rivalry, how to keep your kids from "misbehaving," developing win/win/win solutions when you and your kids are in conflict and how and why to establish your own parental boundaries. If you are interested in speaking with him or attending one of his parenting workshops, see his website at http://www.phillynn.com/ (www.phillynn.com) or http://www.thetreasgroup.com/ (www.thetreasgroup.com).  #ChoiceTheory #parenting #settingboundaries #parentchildrelationship #podcast #lifeequalschoices

How to rage against the theft of your financial future. A destructive tradition!

At some point, all of us fall into a funk. In this episode, I'm going to give you 7 of my tips for pulling yourself out of a funk BEFORE it turns into a rut! Learn how to help boost your mood quickly and create positive change. Episode infused with some of the teaching of Dr. William Glasser, the Father of Reality Therapy and Choice Theory. Show Notes on the www.guycounseling.com blog.  William Glasser Choice Theory  https://wglasser.com/what-is-choice-theory/ Loving Kindness Meditation Study https://guycounseling.com/positive-thoughts-happiness-study/ Follow us on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1/ Follow us on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/guycounseling/     

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I had a conversation with Ms. Kristina Crooks, a certified ontological coach to learn more about what ontology is and how it's used in personal development through coaching. It was interesting to learn that unlike coaches that work with you on one piece of the puzzle, an ontological coach works on all aspects of the human being. Thank you for watching! 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This will encourage other people to listen and allow us to grow as a community. The bigger we get as a community, the bigger the impact we can have on the world. Sign up for Joe's email newsletter at: https://joecostelloglobal.com/#signup For transcripts of episodes, go to: https://joecostelloglobal.lybsyn.com Follow Joe: https://linktr.ee/joecostello Transcript Joe: My guest this week is Christina Crooks and ontological performance coach Christina and I met on Club House and I joined a couple of her rooms and I found what she does. Very interesting. Ontological coaching takes an in-depth exploration into who you are being. Part of her process is one, where are you currently to define your short, medium and long term goals? Three, what are you committed to for what needs to be added to remove or transform, to align you? Being with your doing ontology is the art and science of being a human being. First coined by Aristotle with Christina, she will help you create a design life where your vision becomes your reality. Christina uses what she calls a five point star concept, which targets your spiritual, emotional, mental, physical and financial aspects of your life. I very much enjoy this interview and I hope you do as well. Once again, thank you for listening. Now enjoy this interview with Miss Christina from.   Joe: Everyone, I want to welcome my guest today is Christina Crookes.   Joe: Christina and I met on the new app called Clubhouse. Some of you may be on it. Some of you may not be yet. But to be honest, I don't know how I landed in one of her rooms, but she invited me on stage.   Joe: We got the talking and we had a little conversation a couple of days later through Zoom just to get to know each other. And she does oncological coaching. Right, that I that I see that right. OK, got it correct. And and then when I was in one of your groups, I saw there was a bunch of people in there that are sort of part of your family in the same coaching arena. And I went and looked it up and and I don't totally get it. So I'm glad you're here to explain it to me.   Joe: One sentence I read said, some have said that ontological coaching is coaching to the human soul. You can take it from there and run with it. But I'm very interested in what it is that you do and how you help people and how you got into this. So actually, let's start there.   Joe: Why don't you give me the backstory on how you got into the coaching that you're now doing?   Kristina: Awesome. Yeah, thank you, Joe. I got into it because I've always been a student of personal growth and I've always been interested in the brain and how human beings work and understanding our psychology and our behaviours. So I've I've consistently, over the course of my adult life, sought out different ways to learn that.   Kristina: And I think it probably really started when I was in high school Learning about Choice Theory by Dr. William Glasser. And it's very similar to the hierarchy of needs. And I found it fascinating. So we would teach this to teachers and administrators.   Kristina: And it was it was a way for them to understand their students and understanding that they were trying to meet their needs and however they behaved or performed in their classrooms. And so it started in education. And I thought, I love this. I love this kind of work and what this is all about.   Kristina: And then fast forward several decades. And I was always looking for new understandings and new ways to put into place. And then I started going to something called Wisdom 2.0. It's a conference that happens in San Francisco, in New York every year.   Kristina: Last year, I think, was probably the last live when they'll do for a little while and this year it's happening virtually and I started meeting all kinds of different people and I started putting more connecting more dots, more and more and more.   Kristina: And then I started doing and then I started coaching on my own. But I was I was not yet trained for it. And I knew there was something missing. So I was searching and searching. And I had met many people through Facebook and Facebook lives and things like that. And I came across a friend of a friend that he posted. Something that it said something like, my coach advised me to share all the growth I've had in the last 20 something years of being a coach, and he shared all the things he was free from.   Kristina: And I realized that the entire list he had were things that resonated with me. And some of them I had worked through and some of them I was still working on, and then others were blind spots I hadn't identified yet. And but they resonated and I went, I need to know I need to know this man. So I reached out to him through a private message and I said, I want to know you.   Kristina: Can we have a caller? Can we meet? We only lived forty five minutes from each other. So we said, yeah, let's let's meet. How do you want to do that? And I said, let's go for a hike, which is really funny because he actually told me later he hates hiking. So it was just hilarious. But he said yes to something he's not a fan of.   Kristina: But come to find out, meeting him a couple of times, he had at that point he had been a coach for nearly twenty seven years, was one of the founders from a coaching organization called Accomplishment Coaching. There's two that teach ontological coaching. And I didn't know what it meant either. I just knew it was interesting. And I liked him and I wanted to know what he knew. And I hired him as my coach. I worked with him for almost two years. And the beauty of working with a coach every week for that length of time in the in the many layers we worked together was that I learned what was missing in how I was coaching people. Firstly, I was vastly under trained and under skilled as a coach. And there's a very low entry point for coaches. Lots of people can call themselves a coach without knowing what they're doing.   Joe: And I was one of them is one of them. And the market is flooded with those people right now.   Kristina: It is. It is. And so it's funny because now I find myself I have to catch my own intolerance for that and have compassion that they really want to help people. But I encourage I encourage people all the time. If you're interested in being in that field, please go get trained. Please find a good coach that knows what they're doing. They can guide you through that process because you will be your first student and your first coach. That's the right term. And so I was I began working with him and it was really funny because when I started working with him, I wanted to know all of the philosophy because the philosophy of ontology goes back to Aristotle. And he he was it was really about understanding your relationship to the world around you and asking good questions. And that, for me, checked the box of having gone seven years ago when I was going through my divorce to a place called the Option Institute on the East Coast. And it's part option institute and part of the Autism Centers of America. And I have several friends whose children are autistic and they go there regularly. But I wanted to go for option institute. An option was very much a philosophy on life and how your environment can change when you see with different eyes and you look at it differently and change your relationship to it and your context that you're identifying things and and discovering. And so that that was in alignment with choice theory many years before. And then when I found my coach, it was in alignment with Option Institute, all all around options and choices and how we choose to show up for our life.   Kristina: And then I went through Landmark of what Landmark Worldwide, which is very much based in ontology. And they they do it in a much more masculine way and a little bit more aggressive way than I do. But or even my coach is incredibly gentle. And I started working through all these things that I had noticed. I had been blocked for me. And one of my things was that I know I love to have the answer. And there's actually neuroscience that backs that up. We get a hit of dopamine and adrenaline and maybe a few other neurotransmitters that reinforce us being right and people telling us, oh, you're right. Oh, you're right. So I was addicted to that and I still love it. But by talking about saying that I love it, I can I can identify when it happens so that I'm not stuck in that pattern. And I I consistently put myself in spaces where I'm not the smartest person in the room by design. So working with him and being professionally trained as a coach changed the game for me. And it changed my life not only how I found and operated with clients and discover new clients, but how I operated in my own life with my partner, with my relationship with time, my relationship with money, my relationship with how I worked for others, and how I worked with others. My relationship with failure. All of those things, and at that same time, I was working at a small special needs school, doing all the business development, so I was applying it constantly with the kids I was working with.   Kristina: I was applying it with the the California Department of Education and how I operated in that and noticing when I was in resistance and frustrated with how the school systems work. And I was able to constantly change my context. And that doesn't mean it was always simple and easy. But I had different tools. My toolbox was growing. And I think the biggest thing that shifted in that process was I kept going back to what is the difference between a really good a really good friend that can operate with you on all these different levels and a coach, because I was having great conversations, but it wasn't necessarily leading to an outcome. And that's action, being able to take purposeful and intentional action every day and being able to supply them with concrete actions that I can say to them, how about how about we try this? What do you think about this action? And I used to ask it that way. Now I just give them actions based on what I know about them. But it's never homework. And people can then get on the court of their life and go and apply the things they're learning, regardless of whether it's perfect or not. That's not the goal. The goal is to be in action with your life so that you're constantly in a yes and conversation with the world around you and identifying what works and what doesn't work. And so ontology is really about our relationship with everything externally, being in alignment with what's happening in terms of, wow, OK, that's a lot.   Joe: Yeah, it is.   Joe: And it seems like a really good time for you and I to talk in my own life. You know how things just show up, right? I assume they show up at the right time. Right. That's the hope is that all of these things show up at the right time when you're prepared for it or you can handle it, or it's time for you to take the next step or whatever the case might be.   Joe: And I'm going through I'm beyond a midlife crisis because, you know, it's like I just had my fifty ninth birthday. So next year is a big one.   Joe: When I do things, I do them well and I'm hard on myself and I want to do want to be really, really successful with all that I do. So I'm going through a lot of things right now on my own. I'm trying to say, OK, well what is it that I, I want to offer the world?   Joe: How can I serve? And at the same time. The financial piece of it is a large portion of it, and I heard someone say the other day, I watched the video and how we're almost internally programmed right at a young age and whatever that means for each person. And so you literally could have. The Matrix is set up where you need to break out of certain habits that have been formed internally through your system. However you're wired, however, I forget how it was played, but really well. But it's like you might have adversity to financial freedom. There might be something internally that you just keep blocking. But the fact that you can't go out and become very wealthy and help to serve others. And if we just talk about money for a second, because you mentioned it in, there were different aspects, right? You mentioned money. And and then like three other things, I forget what they were, time, money, time and my relationship with others. OK, so let's just talk about the money for a second, if you don't mind. So I don't mind. OK, so I don't know where it comes from, but we think of maybe making too much money or wanting to make money or wealth or all of that in in a, in a it's like a dirty word. And I don't know where it comes from. I don't know how we get it. So maybe you can if you've dealt with this with clients and even dealt with over time.   Joe: Ok, so let's pick that apart, because I think that's a big that's a big thing. And and I'm interested in knowing who would come to you and need that sort of help. And I would assume pretty much everybody, because we all seem to have problems.   Joe: Everyone's got funny money stories. Yeah. So Zoom story around money.   Joe: So I'm going shut up and let you talk about what you do with that sort of thing.   Kristina: Yeah. And you're good. That's that's awesome. There's two things I'd say to that.   Kristina: One, I've picked up a new saying recently that I learned from a new friend of mine named Glen. And he he has spoken of this this phrase that I is part of my toolbox. Now, if you don't know why you believe what you believe, those aren't your beliefs.   Kristina: If you don't know why you believe what you believe, those aren't your beliefs. And so often we pick up things from our families and things from culture and things from society that we feel we should believe that we take on into our beingness. And things like money is money is bad or money is dirty. Or if I especially for healers and people in the space of healing that if I charge or if I charge a certain amount now I'm just manipulating people. Now I'm just taking advantage. That's a really common belief set of if I'm going to do this, I should just give it away and do it for free. Well, when when people are in the healing profession, what I say a lot of times is you do a disservice to people when you don't get them to put their money where their mouth is because they won't show up the same way. If you and you can think about the times that you pay for something versus go to a free event, if it's a free event, you think it's not a big deal if I don't show up. But if you pay for it, you're going to be in that seat or on that call or in that conversation because you've paid for it. You want to get what you paid for. So it's that there's a transaction that happens in that. And when people are very relationally based, they don't want to mix the transaction into it. It feels awkward. It feels awkward because it goes against a lot of the belief systems that are one of the pillars for that category of people.   Kristina: There's nothing wrong with it, just identifying that it's a blind spot and it's something that's keeping you stuck. So I see wealth as a five point star and I see wealth as spiritual, emotional, mental, physical and financial. And if your financial health is out of whack, it's going to send off bells for your wellness. Because when you're doing something that is a paid service, that when one exercise I use with clients all the time, that seems to be helpful, which is good because I love it. I love using it. So I'm glad it helps them. Think about the last time you paid for something that you loved paying for, whether it was a massage or a plane ticket somewhere or an experience or a coach, whatever that thing was. I loved being able to pay my coach. I loved being able pay to go to Wisdom 2.0, even though it was several hundred dollars. So and there's other events that I've been to that have been much more than that. And and I was so grateful to do that. Well, if if you've done a lot of things that you were regretful of, that may be impacting your own money story. And most of the beliefs that we form happened around seven to ten or somewhere in there, because that's when as children, that's when we start to identify that we are separate from the world around us at seven years old.   Kristina: And so we start identifying what we need to do and what we need to say to be part of our communities and get connection because it's a natural ingrained human need to connect with other people. So we do things that. Leave us feeling connected if we come from a family like I came from a family that didn't that was incredibly judgmental of people that were really wealthy and felt that it was they were vapid and all these different things. So it's so for me, it was difficult to address the money story because I felt the same way that a lot of people that are healers who come to me feel. I have felt that I've stood in that place and there was a switch that happened where I went, Oh. In order to get their full commitment in the work we're doing and then be committed to themselves, they have to make this investment. It's a high quality investment. And I had a client say that to me in the last year. I said, what made you decide to invest in coaching specifically with me? And he said, you're high quality. And I wanted a high quality investment as well. But then I put that I backed it up. I it was it's not about me. So even though that feels good, like I just rub it all over my ego, it's at the same time it wasn't about me. It was about this person making a budget for something that was for them.   Kristina: Most people don't have a budget for coaching or personal growth, so it comes out of something else. They have a budget for their car, for their house, for their bills, for their kids. But they don't create a budget for them. And the core of everything that I do is self-love and and being in alignment with yourself so that every choice you make, every action take is based on this alignment with self-love and self-respect and self esteem. And if you're out of whack inside, you're going to make choices that are out of whack and you're going to see it reflected back to you and your environment. You're going to have a breakdown in relationship breakdown, in communication, breakdown in your money. There's going to be something that is not working. And that's how you know. But Breakdown is the predecessor to break through. So when you're able to look at that from a place of non judgment or just be aware that you're judging the crap out of it, either one works. But be curious about what's happening. Like, ha, I'm trying to do this outcome. But the key word is trying because it's not happening. I'm not having this outcome yet and I'm not being this outcome and I'm here and I want to get there. So how do I close that gap? And the gap is in baby steps. Baby steps are still steps. And there's a great quote by Luisa.   Kristina: That says a thousand mile journey begins with a single step, and so when it comes to reprogramming ourselves and looking at new belief systems and taking on a new way of being, it's a collection of small steps that we've taken.   Kristina: And a lot of times when people are addressing something large, like how they relate to money, which is a large thing, they they think, oh, if I if I change my beliefs, it's all going to work out. Right. Well, you can change how you think, but then you have to put it into action. You have to practice it. You have to fall down many times and done is better than perfect. So you you. Take on a new belief and replace a new belief, you start trying it out, testing it out and see what works and what doesn't and observe yourself. And so in talking about money, the other thing is that people can go the opposite where they charge a vast amount of money, make a lot of money, but it's not fulfilling because they're, again, not in alignment. So they're using someone else's system or they're doing it in a certain way that maybe does killing people or does do something that's just out of alignment with what's true. And so they're making a lot, but they're unhappy because that happens to people can be wildly financially successful, but their relationships are falling apart or they're they're not in a good relationship with their children or their partner or their friends. And so they're running this racket of their life that looks like they're successful, but they're not because their relationships are a shambles. So in order to be truly wealthy, you really have to have all five points. That's a really big, long answer.   Joe: No, no, it's it's great. And. I think you hit a good point, because we hear so much these days, the conversation is mindset, right? And it's mindset. It's asking the universe and letting the universe know that these are the things that you want and then stacking on top of that. Telling the universe, thank you, I'm grateful for what you did deliver, and so the more you're grateful about those things, the more those things will come your way.   Joe: So I know all of this sounds fufu, but lately I've been really trying super, super hard to change my mindset about stuff. And I've always been grateful. I've never had a problem with being grateful about stuff. I mean, you drive by a homeless person and I come home at night and go, oh, God, I get to sleep in a bed and I have a roof over my head and I can go to a refrigerator and pull out food when I'm hungry. And so all of those things go through my mind all the time.   Joe: And by no means am I in any sort of financial distress. I make a great living and I'm happy. My ultimate goal would never to even be thinking about money like I have enough of it that I just don't ever have to think about it. That is kind of like this pie in the sky for me, where not only do I have enough or I don't, but what is enough? I that's right. It's a relative term. Yeah. So I don't that's, that's not a good term but. I never want to think financial freedom. Yeah, I just never want to think about it. That would be awesome to be able to have that amount of money, to not think about it and be to help family and friends and then charities and all of those really cool things.   Kristina: So when it comes to when it comes to that kind of financial freedom, there's there's a line between. A couple of things that you mentioned, there are certain weak words that we have a vibrational words, but then there are ones like hoping, wishing and wanting. And if you're hoping for something, you're just going to get more hoping. If you're wishing for something, you're going to get more wish. If you're wanting something, you're going to get more need and wanting. So the mind set piece is absolutely there. The key is to not end up in a place of denial and to be aware of where you currently stand in your financial status. What are you doing? What are your current behaviors? Taking inventory of that. And when it comes to mindset mixed in with that. There's one phrase that totally drives me crazy. And people say all the time positive vibes only. And they say that in context to a lot of things. But it can be around money to positive vibes only. And what it does is it's a toxic positivity, as though you're not supposed to talk about at all the things that are challenging for you. The key is to absolutely talk about the things that are challenging for you and do not stay there, recognize that's where you are and that's what's happening and that's what you're doing. And that a part of you is created the reality that surrounds you without turning that into total blame and shame storm.   Kristina: And so recognizing where you're at and then being able to go. OK, so what do I need to add, remove or transform in order to get maybe what are my liabilities and what are my assets? What do I currently have outgoing and what do I have incoming. Where is their block? Is it my my management of money that it just can't I just can't hold on to it, or is it my ability to generate. Am I having a problem generating or is it not having work like am I, am I having problems working with people and I'm changing jobs all the time. Like what is it, what, what are some of the bottlenecks that are keeping me small and keeping me hold back and what am I afraid of? So if you start and that's what ontology is all about, is looking at what are the best questions to ask to move this from judgment? Because judgment is a brick wall. It's just this is the it's a right and wrong thinking, black and white thinking that keeps you stuck in an old pattern. But if you can transform that into curiosity without asking yourself the right questions, you can start to move that energy in a way that is more playful and fun, even if it's a hard topic.   Joe: We talk about mindset, but you made a really good point is that it's not just mindset, but it's action.   Kristina: You can sit here all day long and think of all unicorns and rainbows, but unless you do something and put one foot in front of the other, it's never going to never going to materialize. Right. So that's the other key point. You people sit around and think happy thoughts and. Absolutely. Yeah. What are the type of people that come to you and want to work with you?   Kristina: It tends to be creative leaders, OK? People that come to me tend to be creative leaders and creative entrepreneurs that are either running a team in their company or just background is in sales and business development. So I understand that realm and now I apply it to what's happening internally and how do we get into action, because if you really want to simplify it, the key points that I always hit on with people are what are your beliefs? What are your intentions? So what's in the past? Where do you want to go and what are the actions that we're taking to close that gap? And that's that processes with every growth mindset rather than fixed in the way of being lifelong students and learners. And they're curious on how they get to their next big leap and their next level and how they can live into their zone of genius. And so my job is that if I see people as balls of yarn and it's a matter of teasing away the yarn that is covering up the beautiful sculpture underneath, and once we can tease all of that out, now you get to operate from your truth and from who you really are and what lights you up. And it means you're going to risk you're going to risk being seen. You're going to risk showing up. And there'll be days that you have to be disciplined in the actions that you take and the movements that you make so that you can close that gap because it won't just happen to you. It's in co created relationship with you and the world around you.   Joe: So if someone was to pick. A coach, and they say that most people just think when they when someone says to them, hey, you should be you should be being coached by someone, you need a business coach. Right? You need a personal coach. You need something. How do people choose? The type of coach that they would work with, you specialize in something, the work that you do, it's just you're not a generic coach, right? So how do people understand that they need to come to you as opposed to just picking a business coach?   Kristina: Yeah, that's a great question. OK. Always when I'm trying to.   Kristina: Yes, it's a great question and it's always when I'm trying, I work with a lot of creative people that have a lot of tricks to go with the things. They're high performers. They've had successes before. So they know what that feels like. They have that historical data that we can we can push on for future endeavors and a set of tools that they've already built that I can help them apply that to other arenas. So to distinguish who I am, since a lot of people don't know what a what ontology is or what an ontological coaches' that helps you really get in on your performance. So if you know where you're going and you have a clear vision of what that is, what you're trying to identify, what the steps are to get there. I'm not. My job is to not be the expert of you. Your job is to be the expert of you. So I'm just reminding you that you're the expert of you and your life and we're just teasing it out and going, OK, what works? What doesn't, what works, what doesn't, what works, what doesn't? Where where is your zone of genius and where is it not? Where is the inspiration and where is the obligation and how do we identify the differences of those things? Because people come to me for a whole host of different reasons. Then life shows up.   Kristina: When you have a very specific coach that is niched, they don't always operate at all the speeds. So they they're very good at maybe writing a business plan or doing the business stuff. But then if you have a breakdown in your relationship, they can't they can't support you. They're wanting someone that could operate at those levels and could move with me because I move in all those different arenas because I'm a human being. Last I checked, all of those things happen at this time. So I. So when I work with someone, I work with the whole human being. And we work on their business. We work on their relationships. We work on how they're relating to their lobby, because when that is in alignment, anything is possible. The rest, you can go find someone to help you with a business coach. If you want to be more specific, if you need someone that's just working on energy work and you want to go find an energy coach or an energy intuitive, you could do that. If you need a naturopathic doctor, you go find that. So those are definitely niching into specialties, but mine is the whole human being in front of me. And how do we get you solid so that no matter what you're approaching, you have a regex into the world? That's my my every so and my Zoom genius.   Joe: You help. Anyone that is completely confused about their purpose. Does that ever come into play in what you do?   Kristina: I can support people in that, but I typically don't bring those on its clients because it's it's a long road and there are coaches that work with that. More specifically, I I want people that know their vision and know where they want to go. They're just having trouble identifying what the next steps are. That's because that's my my lane, that's my zone of genius. So I can support people with answers or questions or exploring it here and there, but I usually don't bring them on as a long term client. Perfect.   Joe: That makes sense. And that's what's cool is that you have a lane and you stay in it. And that's what makes your coaching so good, is that you're not trying to be everything to everybody.   Kristina: Right. And I think sometimes people, they think they don't know what their vision is actually. Do they just have multiple visions and they're not sure which one to focus on. So it's actually pretty rare to find people that are floundering and don't know what their vision is. Those people don't tend to gravitate to me because they're looking for an external answer of someone to fill a void in them. And I will not speak to someone smallness. I will only speak to their greatness. So if they they learn pretty quickly that if that's something that's offensive to them, they don't want to hang around me, I won't reinforce someone's smallness. That's perfect.   Joe: So there are three things that you brought up earlier. It was the financial, the time and personal right. Relationships, relationships. OK, so we talked about financial. What about time?   Kristina: So when it comes to time, people are either overly rigid or always late and then there's everything in between. But I used to very frequently fall into the always late category and and it was to keep it PG for people watching. My coach said to me, when you're always late, you're either flew to the other person or a few to yourself. And it was so shocking to my system for him to put it in that kind of. So that's how it's being, how it's showing up. I need to look at my relationship to that. And what I was doing was I was overcommitting to so many things. I was missing things all the time and or I was getting too absorbed in one thing and then being late to something as I am surrounded by a lot of people that take their time really seriously. And they're they're very integrity with their time. And if I was late to them, it was offensive. And that's understandable because now I'm on the opposite end and I could notice myself feeling that if people are late for me or they miss a scheduled time and they've blocked time on my calendar, it's super disrespectful. And when you take responsibility for your beingness in time and space and how you're showing up, it changes the game. And it's and I say that in. Whenever I say changing the game, I just what I'm really saying is it changes the full context and how you relate to the world and when you're clean in how you operate in time, you start attracting other people that are clean and how they operate in their time and their own integrity. So if they say they're going to be there, they show up and they're there. If they say they can't, then they are. If they're if they can't, they say they can't. So you start operating at a much higher vibration where people are true to their word and being whole and complete in who you're being, which is taking full accountability for your behavior and your actions.   Joe: Perfect and loved how you explain that. Perfect. So the other piece is relationship awesome. Yeah.   Kristina: Relationship in the context of the people and the things that we're committed to. So not just relationship like an intimate relationship, but it's it's really it's too thick. Two different things that people run into all the time, their relationships, their actual relationships with other people and then their commitments to different things. And all of these these four things, money, time, commitments and relationships, they all bleed into one another. And if you're out of integrity or if you're in break down in your relationships, it's likely going to affect your time and your money. If you're out of integrity and your money, it's going to affect your relationships or your other commitments. So when it comes to relationships, recognizing your impact on other people. So, for example, in a clubhouse room, if someone comes in to they come on to speak on a stage, but they're going to the moderators are going in order.   Kristina: And that person launches into say something, say, hey, can I just jump in? And they don't wait for an answer. And then they launch into a 15 minute story. It's impactful on the rest of the room. And now you're you're you're basically saying, I don't care what anyone else has to say. I only care about what I have to say and the sound of my own voice, because you didn't even wait to find out if that's OK. So noticing in your impact on other people around you is what I what I'm usually referred to when I say relationships.   Joe: Yeah, there's a lot of that going on. Yes. Yes. So is there anything that I miss that you want to talk about?   Kristina: No, I feel pretty complete. I mean, I can I can talk all day long.   Joe: So if someone would like to work with you, how what's the best way for them to get in touch with you?   Kristina: So the easiest way is probably just go to my website, Christina Crookes, dot com, and you can book a call right on there. You can book a complimentary coaching call and experience what that's like. And you can iman all the social media platforms. They can send me a message that way. So find me on Facebook and send me something through messenger. You can find me on Instagram and send me a message that way. But the easiest is to get on my calendar and we'll have a conversation and talk further about what's what's happening. OK, perfect.   Joe: I appreciate you being here with me today. And it was fun for me to learn more about what you do. And I hope that you continue to change lives with your coaching and help people get through various stages in their life. And I guess the key is to love themselves to self-love is super important. I think we're finding that more and more each day. So I appreciate your work on that. Totally. Thank you. Kristina Crooks, thank you so much for being on the podcast. I appreciate you. Glad I met you. And Clubhouse, we will continue our conversations there. It would be awesome to have another conversation, but thank you again for being on the podcast. Thank you.

William Glasser argued that all choices are made to satisfy five basic needs: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom, and fun. Dr. J examines how we make choices. Our choices come with results or consequences. Be confident in your choice and respect those with different views.Support the show (https://paypal.me/jgrod210)

This week Mel & Kel had a heart-to-heart about fake happiness.Does everyone fake happiness? Do we teach our own children to do it? Is it permissible to fake happiness? When is it okay? When does it cross the line?These girlfriends untangle all kinds of thoughts this week! Not only on fake happiness.A whole other conversation was prompted when Mel asked Kel if she believed there were "good addictions" a person could have. Kel knows this topic all too well and offered up some valuable understanding.Apparently, this is a HEATED topic in the world. Who knew? One doctor, back in the 1970s, wrote a BOOK on this topic: Positive Addiction by Dr. William Glasser. Other doctors have criticized those who call good behavior an addiction. Are There Positive Addictions? by Dr. Peg O'Connorin PsychologyToday. What are YOUR thoughts on this topic? Mel & Kel would love to know. And what do your girlfriends think? Please be sure to share this link and start your own deeper and more fulfilling conversations. But most importantly, do you struggle with addiction? Here's an article outlining the 10 Patterns of Destructive Addictive Behaviors.Share some love this week. Mel & Kel send you theirs! ❤️️WEBSITE melandkelshow.comFACEBOOK @themelandkelshowINSTAGRAM @themelandkelshowHelpful and honest reviews are always welcomed and never disappoint! Click HERE to leave yours. Just look for "Write a Review" where all the others are listed. 

Hi, Soul Sisters! It's a beautiful Monday here in TX and I'm excited for a few reasons!   1.  Breck comes home today after 10 days away! 2.  We're painting our house this week, which I've been waiting on for the past 5 months as I've driven myself crazy over colors.  (If you want some professional help like I did, I highly recommend KyleMInteriors.com for some personal color consultation!) 3.  Christmas is next week and I get to see my whole family!!!     Today, we're getting a little into some psychological theory, which I always find interesting, by looking at William Glasser's Choice Theory.    Now, I will say, his theory has been criticized as being cold and not sensitive to the dynamic and emotional experience of us humans, but he also offers a lot of great perspective too.  For instance, he claims that we are all trying to satisfy 5 basic human needs:  1. Survival 2. Love and Belonging 3. Power 4. Freedom 5. Fun   I'd agree with that, but I'd also add in purpose too :)   He goes on to talk about the importance of relationships in our lives, which I'm a huge proponent for, and hoe we can choose to engage in 7 Caring Habits or 7 Deadly ones. The 7 Caring Habits are: 1. Supporting 2. Encouraging 3. Listening 4. Accepting 5. Trusting 6. Respecting 7. Negotiating Differences The 7 Deadly Habits are: 1. Criticizing 2. Blaming 3. Complaining 4. Nagging 5. Threatening 6. Punishing 7. Bribing or Rewarding to Control   There's a lot more here too, of course, but I point you to his website if you're interested in learning more.  For today's purpose, I'd like to invite you to reflect on what you're choosing for yourself.     If you find yourself in s difficult situation, I want to remind you that we may not always have control of our circumstances, but we are in control of ourselves. We can always choose our thoughts, our self-dialogue, and our perspective and that will, in turn, change the way we feel and what we do instead.  The power is yours!   I'll see you in a few days for a great TT episode.  Until then, what are you choosing for yourself this week?   xx

Buddha's Book of Meditation: Mindfulness Practices for a Quieter Mind with Joseph Emet Mindfulness meditation is an increasingly popular form of an ancient and powerful technique for reducing stress, elevating one's mental state, and improving the practitioner's overall quality of life. Award-winning author and mindfulness meditation teacher Joseph Emet now takes you down a step-by-step path to integrate this potent form of meditation into your daily life. Offering tips, techniques, and practices from mindfulness meditation—coupled with stories from the author's life as a teacher—Buddha's Book of Meditation guides you to a life teeming with the benefits of regular meditation practice. This volume also includes original music by the author that the reader can access through their device or the web—calming the mind and enhancing the meditation experience. Joseph started the Mindfulness Meditation Centre in 1997, because he had found the practice of mindfulness very helpful in his own life, and wanted to share it with others. On January 14, 2003, he was invited by Thich Nhat Hanh to receive the Lamp Transmission as a Dharma teacher. His Dharma name is Dwelling in Peaceful Concentration. He has been trying to live up to that name ever since. Joseph has trained several thousand people in mindfulness practices in large and small groups, for organizations, and in private sessions. Joseph holds a Doctorate in Music from Boston University. He has been certified in Reality Therapy Counselling with Dr. William Glasser, and has been a Fulbright scholar. He has been a long time T'ai Chi practitioner with Master Lee Shiu Pak, one of the original Yang school students. For more information visit: http://www.mindfulnessmeditationcentre.org/