Unyielding

As I navigate through a deeply personal and challenging time, today's episode signifies a monumental shift in my life, one that I know will leave a lasting impact. In the midst of this, I've made the decision to take a break from recording to focus on being present with my family. While I'm away, I'll be hand-picking some of my most cherished past episodes to share with you in the hope that they bring you comfort and inspiration during this time. Thank you for your patience and understanding.

Have you ever found yourself trying to do all the right things with your child, pouring all your love and so, so much energy into parenting, only to start to question if you are even on the right path? Sometimes, even our best intentions can steer us off course.In this episode, we cover:An audiobook revelation that challenged my perspective on parenting.The comparison trap we often fall into as parents.Reevaluation of societal normsParental pressure and guiltThree things to think about if you are struggling with your teenClick here if you are interested in receiving information about the opportunity to join an online support group with other moms who "get it".

Are you exhausted, barely keeping your head above water, wondering if the next wave of fear will be the wave that finally takes you out? Well, friend, reframing is one powerful way you can start to protect your peace. In this episode we'll cover:Exploring how discomfort accompanies every decision to embrace change or venture into something new.Starting a new path involves confronting pain and discomfort, questioning ourselves, and pushing through doubt.Each fear we experience presents an opportunity to overcome challenges, build resilience, and deepen self-understanding.Recognizing the tendency to join the "crazy train" of fear-driven thoughts and actions.Acknowledging and recognizing all the different roles we play as a parent and the ONE we don't.Introducing a fear mapping process to help reframe perspectives and navigate challenges.Click here to have my Fear Mapping PDF sent to your email inbox.

In today's episode, we are going to take a look at some common fear triggers. How many of them resonate with you? We'll discuss the vicious cycle of fear, and what I've learned about the role of mirror neurons in my relationship with my teen. I'll also share some ways that I've been trying to break the cycle of fear in my own life & improve communication with my teens and adult children.___________________________________________________________________________About Through The Hard:"Through The Hard," originally titled Unyielding, is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—a parent-led non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.Explore Additional Support:SCHEDULE a time to meet with me by clicking hereDELVE into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)ACCESS local and national resources: Pathways ResourcesREAD insightful articles on our blog: Pathways BlogFIND answers to common queries: Pathways FAQConnect with Us:JOIN our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network FacebookSTAY connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network InstagramFor personalized support, reach out via email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

As we step into a new year, there's NO BETTER TIME to kickstart healthy habits and cultivate self-compassion. In this special rerun of Episode 32, we revisit an insightful discussion with Megan Dahlman, a Certified Trainer, Nutrition Coach, and mom of boys. Megan shares invaluable insights for moms navigating challenging seasons of chaos and uncertainty, emphasizing the crucial first steps on their self-compassion journey.Key Takeaways:Initiating Self-Care: Megan guides us through the initial steps moms can take to prioritize self-care amid chaotic circumstances.Unexpected Benefits: Discover the unforeseen positive outcomes that emerge when you invest energy in your healing journey.The Mind-Body Connection: Explore the significant role your body plays in influencing your mental health and overall well-being.Links from the Original Episode:YouTube channel: VigeoFit YouTubeInstagram: Megan Dahlman's InstagramFREE Jumpstart Tips: VigeoFit Jumpstart TipsJumpstart 30 Course: VigeoFit Jumpstart Course___________________________________________________________________________About Through The Hard:"Through The Hard" is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.Explore Additional Support:Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement)Access local and national resources: Pathways ResourcesRead insightful articles on our blog: Pathways BlogFind answers to common queries: Pathways FAQConnect with Us:Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network FacebookStay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network InstagramFor personalized support, reach out via email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Welcome to the final episode of 2023, where we take a reflective journey through some of my favorite clips of Through the Hard and Unyielding. Join us as we revisit the memorable moments and lessons learned.....Segment 1: Episode 10 Moving Through the Unknown with PurposeSegment 2: Episode 27 Embracing Imperfection: Why You Need to Let Go of the Need to Fix Your TeenSegment 3: Episode 12 What No One Tells You About Youth ProbationSegment 4: Episode 37 React Less, Respond More: Parenting Tips for Mindful CommunicationSegment 5: Episode 35 The Role of Self-Reflection in the Healing ProcessSegment 6: Episode 13 When the Challenge Changes You - Blake's StorySegment 7: Episode 41 The Learning Curve: Stage 2 of Learning to Parent a Teen in CrisisSegment 8: Episode 38 Connection vs. Control: Finding the Right Balance in Your Parenting ApproachAs we close this chapter, I'd like to extend my sincerest thanks for allowing me to be a small part of your parenting journey. May the coming year bring joy, discovery, and shared wisdom. Thank you for being a part of our podcast community. Wishing you hope and healing in the year ahead!___________________________________________________________________________About Through The Hard:"Through The Hard" ,originally titled Unyielding, is proudly presented by Pathways to Hope Network—an empathetic non-profit organization committed to providing free support and nurturing a sense of community for parents navigating the challenges of teens in crisis.Explore Additional Support: Delve into our website: Pathways to Hope Network (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Access local and national resources: Pathways Resources Read insightful articles on our blog: Pathways Blog Find answers to common queries: Pathways FAQ Connect with Us: Join our community on Facebook: Pathways to Hope Network Facebook Stay connected on Instagram: Pathways to Hope Network Instagram For personalized support, reach out via email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

In this episode of Through the Hard, we dive into the topic of control and over-functioning in parenting. It's something many of us struggle with, and it can have negative effects on our teens. I often find myself in that same place, trying to control every aspect of my teen's life, thinking it is the best way to protect them. But I'm learning that it's so important to find a balance. Our teens need some freedom to make their own choices and learn from their mistakes.That's where the concept of balanced oversight comes in. Finding that sweet spot between being too controlling and not being involved enough. Providing guidance and support without taking over their lives. Listen as we discuss seven practical tips to help you practice finding a balance between control and your own freedom. It won't happen overnight, but patience and practice can create a healthier dynamic with your teen.Resources mentioned in the podcast:Register for the 4 Principles for Fighting Fear workshop HEREArticle by Dr. Amy Johnson: Don't Make it Happen, Allow it to HappenAdditional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth in crisis or facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

In this episode of Through the Hard, we dive into the topic of control and over-functioning in parenting. It's something many of us struggle with, and it can have negative effects on our teens. I often find myself in that same place, trying to control every aspect of my teen's life, thinking it is the best way to protect them. But I'm learning that it's so important to find a balance. Our teens need some freedom to make their own choices and learn from their mistakes.That's where the concept of balanced oversight comes in. Finding that sweet spot between being too controlling and not being involved enough. Providing guidance and support without taking over their lives. Listen as we discuss seven practical tips to help you practice finding a balance between control and your own freedom. It won't happen overnight, but patience and practice can create a healthier dynamic with your teen.Resources mentioned in the podcast:Register for the 4 Principles for Fighting Fear workshop HEREArticle by Dr. Amy Johnson: Don't Make it Happen, Allow it to HappenAdditional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth in crisis or facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Today's Parenting Teens Through the Hard episode is a heartfelt throwback from last year. We're diving into the challenges we all face during the holiday season while caring for a teen in crisis. Your experiences and emotions are valid, and we're here to explore them with compassion and understanding. Join us as we discuss the many conflicting emotions we experience and offer a few suggestions on how to approach setting boundaries, avoiding problematic gifts, planning how to handle difficult conversations, and creating new traditions to bring joy. Despite the hardships we are experiencing, this holiday season is still an opportunity to find moments of peace, reflect on what's important, and remember that your efforts in being there for your child are remarkable and truly make a difference.Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Friend, today, we're going to delve into a topic that might tug at the heartstrings a bit – the profound importance of vulnerability in parenting, particularly during these challenging teenage years. Together, we'll dive a little deeper into this concept I like to call "heart talk." A gentle, intimate dialogue rooted in trust and authenticity, a space where we can really connect with our teens. Because, you see, parenting during these years can be quite a tender journey.You and I are going to explore those areas where our teens find it tough to open up to us. It's a reminder for us, as parents, to acknowledge our own imperfections, set expectations that are filled with compassion, and, most importantly, honor the boundaries our teens set.Our teens are navigating a maze of changes and challenges, and we have the opportunity to be a comforting presence – a lighthouse guiding them through the waves. It's a call for us to understand that vulnerability isn't a weakness; it's a strength that fosters profound connections.Let's embrace the reality that parenting teenagers is no easy feat. Through the mist of discomfort, we are learning to be there for our teens with open hearts and arms. So, mama, let's gently step into the realm of vulnerability. Let's open up those channels of communication, even if it feels heavy. Because in those quiet, somber conversations lies the potential for healing and understanding. Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

In episode 48, we're diving into a topic that's pretty important on this parenting journey through the hard: talking openly and genuinely with our teenagers.You know, as parents, it's crucial to get a handle on our own emotions and fears before we embark on those deep heart-to-heart chats. Think of it like learning a new dance – it takes time, understanding, and a solid connection.In this episode, I've got some down-to-earth strategies to share to help you get closer to having deeper conversations with your teens. We're also gonna chat about the whole influence-versus-control deal – trust me, it's a game-changer.And because some of us may need a little more help, I've got a cool resource for you. Listen to find out how you can snag a free PDF loaded with journal prompts designed to get you ready for those heart-to-heart talks. Plus, stay tuned for an upcoming workshop where we'll tackle those fears head-on while learning from each other's stories and experiences.⚡Sign up for our FREE Workshop 4 Principles for Fighting Fear on November 9th here!

In Episode 47, I give you an inside glimpse of the content for Day 1 of our recent workshop on The Four Principles for Fighting Fear, specifically in the context of parenting teenagers. As a parent, I understand how fear can sometimes hinder our ability to parent our teens effectively. That's why I want to share a personal "cheat code" for managing fear and becoming a more confident parent.You see, parental fear is often rooted in love. We want the best for our teenagers, and we worry about their well-being. But sometimes, this fear can hold us back from making the right decisions or giving our teens the freedom they need to grow.Learn to identify and understand your own fear triggers - the situations or thoughts that make you feel the most fearful as a parent. By recognizing these triggers, we can start to address them head-on.Join me as we explore ways to fight fear and become more effective parents to our teenagers. Together, we can create a nurturing and supportive environment while giving us the peace of mind we deserve.⚡Sign up for Day 2 of our FREE Workshop 4 Principles for Fighting Fear on November 9th here!Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 46In this episode of our podcast "Parenting Teens Through the Hard," we are talking about the importance of understanding the changing dynamics of communication with our teens and how crucial it is for us to adapt. We all know that our teens are heavily influenced by their peers, technology, and social media. However, it's essential for us to remember that our voices still hold immense value in their lives. We need to find ways to connect and communicate effectively with them.A key aspect we focus on is modeling healthy communication and empathy. Empathy acts as the anchor line that connects us in our communication with our teens. By understanding their perspective and showing empathy, we can build a stronger bond with them.Today's teens face numerous challenges and pressures, and it's our responsibility as parents to provide understanding and empathy. We need to create an environment where they feel safe to open up and share their thoughts and feelings.Building trust and open communication is vital.  So, let's embark on this journey together, exploring the world of communication with our teens. By adapting to the changing dynamics, understanding the generation gap, and practicing empathy, we can strengthen our relationships and guide our teens through the hard times.Register for the 4 Principles for Fighting Fear workshop HEREAdditional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 45Title:  Time to Get the "F" Out:  The Journey from Hurt Parent to Healed ParentWhat will you pursue in the middle of this mess that might somehow justify all your suffering?In this episode, we are opening our eyes to one of the biggest struggles we experience as parents of teenagers or young adults in crisis. Whether we are dealing with teen behavior issues, addiction, failing grades in high school, manipulation, or isolation, there is a heaviness that creeps in around us with no intention of leaving anytime soon. Join us as we discuss how we go from hurt parents to healed parents and learn about a unique opportunity coming to you in October 2023!Timestamps:The challenges of parenting teens in crisis [00:00:02]Discussion on the difficulties parents face when their teens are in crisis and the importance of a supportive community.The role of fear in parenting [00:01:26]Exploration of how fear can dictate our actions as parents and lead to constant stress and anxiety.The pressure to fix everything and fear of failure [00:02:53]Discussion on the pressure parents feel to find solutions to their child's problems and the fear of failure that comes with it.The need for a supportive community [00:15:20]Emphasizes the importance of having a supportive community to help navigate challenges and overcome fear in parenting.The upcoming four-week online workshop [00:17:02]Introducing an upcoming workshop focused on four foundation principles to help parents operate from a place of calm and healing.Shifting away from control and finding purpose in suffering [00:19:33]Encouraging listeners to shift their mindset away from control and view their experiences as opportunities for growth and purpose in their lives and the lives of their children.Register for the 4 Principles for Fighting Fear workshop HEREAdditional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 44Title: From Seed to Harvest: Finding Peace in The Process of Parenting TeensOur children are like flowers. They all bloom at different times. Maybe it's not their season? Maybe it is? Maybe all their growth is happening in the roots? Maybe they need more of something? Maybe they need less?Our job is to tend the garden and wait.This summer, in my stroll around the yard, I took a little inventory of how each of my plants was doing.  I noticed the ones that seemed a little further along this year than they were this time last year and the ones that, after several years, were still not producing the way I thought they should. And suddenly, I was so struck by how much parenting teens and young adults is like tending a garden that I knew I had to share it with you. Join us as we discuss... Your child's zone. Starting at ground level. How to soften the seed. The DANGERS of overwatering. Getting to the roots. Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 43Title: The Learning Curve: Final Stage of Learning to Parent a Teen in CrisisAs we heal the parts of us that, even in the midst of chaos, need to grieve over the loss of the family we dreamed would be ours, we get better at parenting. We learn to be ok with holding the reins a little looser because holding them tight never seems to bring our child closer.  And through this beautiful process of losing and finding, we stumble upon our sweet spot.In today's episode, we discuss the 4th and final stage of learning.  At this stage, our skills are developing and becoming ingrained in us through repetition. They begin to line up with what feels right to us. Our actions and reactions, even if they don't always yield the results we hope for, are more incongruent with what's important to us, and it starts to feel more natural and effortless.Join us to learn more about…. Stage 4: Unconscious Competence. Parenting and Shepherding - what they have in common. The growth required of us. Links from today's show:Dr. Russell Barkley: 30 Essential Ideas Every Parent Needs to Know (Parents of ADHD Children)Skills of a Shepherd by Kim GoodingAdditional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 42Title: The Learning Curve: Stage 3 of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis“Parenting is not your purpose. It's preparing you for your purpose.”We often make the learning process more complicated than necessary because of the negative feelings we experience when as parents, we make mistakes.  Ironically, not doing it right and making mistakes are actually vital steps in the learning process.In today's episode, we are moving on to explore conscious competence parenting, which is stage 3 of any learning process.Join us to learn more about…. Stage 3: Conscious Competence. How to tell when you've reached stage 3. Two benefits you'll experience. A few tips on what to practice at this level. Links from today's show:Gary Thomas' book Sacred Parenting: How Raising Children Shapes Our SoulsDr. Becky BaileyDr. Becky Bailey YouTubeAdditional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 41Title: The Learning Curve: Stage 2 of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis“Awareness is the first step in healing.”Dean OrnishToday's episode is another bite sized episode, perfect for a quick walk around the neighborhood. The second of our mini series on the four stages we go through as we learn to parent a teen in crisis. These stages take us through the learning curve we face as we develop the skills needed in order to feel more confident in our parenting abilities.In this episode, we explore conscious incompetence parenting, which is stage 2 of the learning process and I'll give you a few tips on how to become more effective during this stage of parenting.Join us to learn more about…. Stage 2: Conscious Incompetence How to tell when you've reached stage 2 The beautiful element added to our journey once we reach this stage Tips to help you move through this stage effectively and more Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 40Title: The Learning Curve: Stage 1 of Learning to Parent a Teen in Crisis“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”Maya AngelouHey….You made it! I wondered if you would find the time this week, friend. I know that right now, you are juggling all the things, and finding a little time to shut off the chatter in your brain is challenging.Today's episode is bite-sized. Just about 20 mins from beginning to end to kick off a little mini-series we are doing on the four stages we go through as we learn to parent a teen in crisis. These stages take us through the learning curve we face as we develop the skills needed in order to feel more confident in our parenting abilities.Join us to learn more about…. Stage 1: Unconscious Incompetence The common feelings we experience The challenges we face. Helpful tips to get through stage 1 and more... Below are links from todays show: Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Juvenile Court System Part 1 Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Juvenile Court System Part 2 Into the Unknown: What to Expect-From Yourself Into the Unknown: What to Expect-From Your Marriage/Relationship Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Siblings Into the Unknown: What to Expect-Your Child Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 39Title: ParenTEENg Decisions: The #1 Factor That Should Be Guiding Them.“Everyone we meet is both our student and our teacher.”Today's episode is a countdown of the four factors that guide our parenting decisions.  Together we talk about the benefits & challenges that we experience with each one of these factors.Join us to learn more about…. Family dynamics in parenting. Peer Influence The Benefit of Book and Media On The Job Training and more. Parenting Books and Resources: The Whole Hearted Parenting Manifesto by Brene Brown Loving Detachment by Dr Wayland Meyers Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist's Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization helping parents navigate the emotions and uncertainty of parenting a teenager facing criminal charges and getting them on their path to healing. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 38React Less, Respond More: Parenting Tips for Mindful Communication“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”Carl Jung“And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, “This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this!” And each day, it's up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart, and say, “No. This is what's important.”Iain ThomasIn today's episode, we talk about the important roles that connection and control play in our relationship with our teens. With control seeming to be our default as parents, it's important that we stop and ask ourselves what it might be costing us. Listen along as we dive into the SUPERPOWER most of us aren't utilizing in our parenting game and how to begin activating it.Learn more about…. A recent poll I took asking parents with adult children what they would do differently. The three layers of behavior change.  Who you'd like to become in this season. The difference between control and connection. How to shift the things you are focusing on. Remember, you're child is no longer the project; you are. Practice this for the next two weeks, and let me know how it's going: Spend a few days challenging yourself to focus on the positive (however small it may be) vs. the negative. The negative things shout and demand our attention, so they are easy to spot. Be a studier of the positive. Look for them and take the time to be grateful for them. Trust me; they are there. Spend a few days focusing on working together to solve a problem with your teen vs confrontation and control which only leads to defiance. Spend a few days documenting the 1% improvements you made during the day. Links from the show: Episode 37: React Less, Respond More: Parenting Tips for Mindful Communication Atomic Habits by James Clear  "I want to handle this well" Phone Wallpaper Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 37Title:  React Less, Respond More: Parenting Tips for Mindful CommunicationSometimes it can feel like we are full-time firefighters. We rush from one crisis to the next, never really fixing problems, just trying to slow down the spread. Today we talk about the difference between reacting and responding and give you some practical advice on how you can begin the process of being more mindful of the things that are important to you in your relationship with your teen.Learn more about … How urgency has a tendency to overthrow the things that are really important to us. How to identify when you are reacting and when you are responding.  How control is costing you connection. How to respond when you feel yourself in reactivity mode. The barriers that will present themselves as you work towards responding to your teen more than reacting.  Practice getting out of reactivity mode and into response mode for the next two weeks by following the steps below:  Hit pause and focus on breathing. “I want to learn to handle this well; I will do nothing until I have calmed down.”   "I want to handle this well" Phone Wallpaper Once calm, grab a sheet of paper and write down the following: What happened?  What's the impact/fear?  What might happen next?  What is the desired outcome?  What actions should be taken?  Let me know how it's going by sending a DM on social media or an email using the email listed below.Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Subscribe for weekly encouragement) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 36Title:  3 Benefits of Practicing Self-Care With A FriendFriendship is a key coping mechanism for life's tougher moments

Show-notes Episode 35The Role of Self-Reflection in the Healing ProcessJournaling is simply thinking through your fingers

Show-notes Episode 34Title: Finding Inner Peace: Self-Care Through Journaling and Prayer“I write because I don't know what I think until I read what I wrote” Flannery O'ConnorIn this week's episode, we are continuing to plant seeds of self-compassion with our guest Leif Holmes.  Leif is a pastor and has been with his wife, Laura, for over 30 years. Together they raised three kids.  Listen as he shares his thoughts on journaling, how it ties beautifully into our goals for self-care and all the benefits he's discovered as part of the practice. This episode's takeaways: The unique way Abraham Lincoln created his own version of journaling. Journaling provides us a window into the motives of our own hearts. Don't overthink it. Journaling doesn't have to be writing. And much more…. Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

We took a poll and asked parents with children in crisis how they practiced self-care.Here are the Poll Results: 1. Excercise/Physical Movement 2. Spending Time with Friends 3. Counseling/Groups/12 Steps 4. Prayer/Meditation/Journaling 5. MassageToday we discuss result number 3; Counseling, Support Groups, or 12-Step Programs.This episode's takeaways:  Therapy includes counseling, support groups, and 12-step programs. Things that get in the way of self-compassion:  Guilt   Access  Budget  Shame Overwhelm Benefits of starting therapy or counseling  Benefits of a support group or 12-Step Programs  Links from today's show: USA Today Link  Psychology Today Link  Additional Resources:Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 32Self-Compassion 101: Your Body"If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete." Jack KornfieldIn today's episode, Megan Dahlman, Certified Trainer, Nutrition Coach, and mom of boys, shares what she believes moms navigating a season of chaos and uncertainty should do first on their self-compassion journey.This episode's takeaways: First steps to taking care of yourself. The unexpected benefits you experience from pouring more energy into your healing.  The role your body plays in your mental health And much more…. Links from today's show:YouTube channel: https://youtube.com/@vigeofitInstagram: www.instagram.com/MegandahlmanFREE Jumpstart Tips: www.vigeofit.com/tipsJumpstart 30 Course: www.vigeofit.com/jumpstart Additional Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Parenting Teens Through The Hard from Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Don't be quick to dismiss this.Self-care is critical in helping you show up in a way you can be proud of as the mama of a teen struggling through some tough stuff.When we take responsibility for ensuring we are o.k., we release our children of that responsibility. They get to focus solely on getting themselves o.k. without carrying the extra weight of our baggage.Life has changed trajectory. The path you thought you were on has taken an unexpected detour, and rather than sitting around waiting to see how we will respond based on how our child will respond. We are taking the lead on this one. We are starting our own journey. A journey that will strengthen us for the battles ahead of us. A journey that's going to help us show up the way we want to show up. Strong, brave, and resilient.This episode's takeaways: We'll speak directly to the three barriers running through your mind right now. Your self-care provides them with an example of healthy coping skills.  Self-care is necessary for us to show up best for all the roles we have been entrusted with. ResourcesPathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 30Title: A Look at Teen Behaviors: ConflictToday's episode is part 3 of our 3-part series looking at some common teen behaviors that you may be witnessing in your child and diving a little into why it happens, what about it creates challenges for us, and what we can do in response.Understanding that conflict is less about an entitled teenager or a controlling mom and more about normal friction created by two individuals who want control (whether that control comes from a place of desiring freedom or protection) helps put it into proper perspective.This episode's takeaways: The conflict we experience with our child is not only normal developmentally, and it can actually benefit your relationship.  Through conflict, we have an opportunity to model healthy conflict resolution. A lifelong skill.  Conflict teaches us flexibility and how to listen. There are two things I can do that will, 97% of the time, change the trajectory of my path with my child when we are engaged in conflict: Disengage to regulate my emotions Start digging up roots Learning and modeling healthy conflict resolution takes practice, practice, practice. Remember that these moments of conflict are actually key to the long-term health of the parent-child relationship, because it's in these moments that the relationship gets reshaped to include more reciprocity and equality between the parties.  ResourcesPathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 29Title: A Look at Teen Behaviors: ManipulationToday's episode is part 2 of a 3-part series where we will look into some common teen behaviors that you might be witnessing in your child and dive a little into why it happens, what about it creates challenges for us, and what we can do in response.The behavior we are focusing on today is teen manipulation. Manipulation we are covering today are guilt trips, playing the victim/deflecting blame, retaliation, and anger.This episode's takeaways: All behavior serves a purpose. Purpose of manipulation is to wear you down. Manipulation is a tactic derived from a desire to self govern and make their own choices. Striving towards independence from parental control is actually considered a developmental milestone based. Why does it bother us? It may feel like disrespect It may feel like we are being held emotionally hostage We feel like we are doing what is best for them What can you do? Set boundaries you can keep. Don't negotiate, investigate. Consider your bottom line and develop a broken record statement.  ResourcesHow Do I Handle Manipulation and Control Video by Karen Purvis and Michael MooreFor support, please email: afrey.pathways@gmail.comPathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/

Show-notes Episode 28Title: A Look at Teen Behaviors: IsolatingToday's episode is part 1 of a 3-part series where we will be looking into some common teen behaviors that you might be witnessing in your child and dive a little into you why it happens, what about it creates challenges for us, and what we can do in response.The behavior we are focusing on today is isolating.  What are some things you can do if you are concerned about isolation?This episode's takeaways: Teens' brains and bodies are trying to figure out this influx of hormones, and it will take some time to work it out.   It's developmentally normal for teens to retreat from their parents and engage less.  It's a practice of self-governance. Examine your own behaviors and emotions that are triggered by your teen's actions.  What can you learn about what you're feeling? Try asking fewer questions and making more observations when your child is less than chatty. Use technology as a way to stay connected. Create opportunities for fun and laughter together.  Watch for warning signs of unhealthy isolation and consult a professional when you see them.   Books quoted:The Teenage BrainArticles studied:Motivation and What Really Drives Human BehaviorUnderstanding the Effects of Social Isolation on Mental HealthOther Resources:Feelings WheelNate Bargatze Comedy ClipJohn Crist Comedy ClipJim Gaffigan Comedy Clip (one explicit word in this clip)Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ___________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 26Stop Fixing & Focus On ThisDid you know studies show that over-involved parenting is associated with anxiety, depression, life dissatisfaction, and emotional dysregulation? In today's episode, we talk about what everyone guilty of over-involved parenting wants to know.  If we're not meant to fix the problem or behavior, what are we supposed to do? This episode's takeaways: Influence. The biggest shift happens when we switch from a manager role to an advisor.  Instead of giving directions, ask questions and provide emotional support.  Relationship. Focus on being present in your child's discomfort they may be experiencing without taking it away. Your child is like a kite in the wind, and you are the person on the ground holding the string.   Truth without relationship leads to rejection.  Rules without relationship lead to rebellion.  Discipline without relationship leads to anger and resentment. Focus on the relationship, not the behavior.  Stay consistent with discipline.   Immediate consequences, short-term, remain loving when giving discipline. Non-emotional parenting. Show up mature, loving, and consistent. Modeling what the behavior looks like.  Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 27Strengthening Your Relationship with Your ChildIf life as a parent is less than perfect right now, if you feel like you are on a hamster wheel, living the same life over and over again, it may be an indication that it's time to make some shifts in your parenting. In today's episode, we will talk about 3 practical ways you can begin to change your parenting style to better support your relationship with your teen. Learn about:1) Switching from a model of Punishment to a model of Discipline:2) Switch from Lectures to Discussions:3) Switch from a parenting model of Telling to a parenting model of Sharing: Your to do list:Make a list of 5 things to do to make you feel good and put them in your calendar.  Take a hot bath, have coffee with a friend, watch a reality show, exercise, take a walk.  Find a way to pour back into yourself.  Remember to take things one day at a time. Resources: Book quoted:Raising Teens in a Contrary Culture by Mark GregstonArticle quoted:Sharing vs. Telling by Vince GowmonPathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

The Greatest Risk You Are FacingIn today's episode, we talk about the greates risk you are facing this season (it's not what you may think). We also discuss replacing reaction with rest and identifying the emotions that may indicate you could be in reaction mode, as well as the four steps you should take when you find yourself there.Notes from the show:Parents on this journey get stuck in a cycle of reacting.The greatest risk you are up against right now is that what's going on with your child will break you.You are the most important asset your child has. You are the very best chance at your child getting through this, and if you are so focused on fixing them that you end up broken, things will really start falling apart.Separate yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically, if needed, from the source of tension. Use a prepared phrase like: “I love you, and I need space for a little bit. You are important to me, and I don't want to screw this up.” Disengage with love.Be a detective! The story I'm telling myself is… Look for other possible interpretations. If those were true, would it change your response?Recognize when you are in reaction mode. Say or do as little as possible until peace is restored. Wait until calm before you reengage.Resources: Books quoted Codependent No More by Melodie Beattie Unfettered by Mandy Smith Music discussed (Of course, these are just my choices. Play what works best for you)  Lauren Daigle Country Music Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Getting Through the HolidaysThe holiday season can be challenging. In today's episode, we talk about some of the challenges you may face and a few new unexpected opportunities present this time of year. Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/ ____________________________________________________________________________ Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 23Finding Your PathFrom the moment we become parents, we condition ourselves to recognize potential dangers. For this reason, as parents with children in the juvenile justice system, it's very challenging to know how much to get involved and how much to restrain. With all our focus on them and their path, we forget that we have our own journey on this path toward healing. In this episode, we talk about that journey and how closely it's tied to discovering what our path and purpose are during this season of our child's life.Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Raw, Real & UneditedWarning: Emotional Episode. Today, I was feeling all the feels. Having a podcast or running a social media page doesn't make you an expert on anything. Don't let anyone tell you anyone different. Being in this role brings so many blessings, and I'm so grateful to walk beside each of you during this season of life, but it also has its challenges. Today's message was taken in a moment of vulnerability on my iPhone when more than anything, I just felt the need to connect to you and let you know that you are not alone in this. There's no intro, no outro, and more “ummm” than there should be, but it's 100% real. I pray that it still finds its way to speak to what you need today.Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes Episode 21Building Teen Competence and Confidence with Loving DetachmentOne of the reasons we get so exhausted as parents is that we can become a little over-involved in our child's decisions. In this episode, we explore the practice of loving detachment and learn about the surprising impact it can have on building competency and confidence in your teen.Listen as we review the two questions you should ask yourself before putting your child "in the backpack," and explore together feelings that may come up for you when practicing this form of letting go.Finally, we'll discuss the idea of loving detachment by taking a look at Dr. Wayland Meyers's Blog post, How Detachment Can Be Loving For All. It's definitely a must-read. Click the blog title to check it out! You can also find a link for it on our Resource Page listed below.Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Unyielding  Episode 20The #1 Reason You Feel ExhaustedRaising teenagers can be EXHAUSTING; in this episode, we discuss the #1 reason for it. Join the conversation as I talk about the “Backpack Principle.” This new way principle brings awareness and clarity to what it looks like to begin the process of loving detachment. I've been practicing it for a couple of weeks now, and it has been a GAME CHANGER in our family.We'll also discuss why detaching is so uncomfortable. Two questions to ask yourself before you jump in to instruct, solve or protect your teen. Switching roles from Director to Advisor And more.. Episode Take Aways....Grow in your awareness of backpack moments this week. When confronted with them, ask yourself...1.  Have they been given what I believe is wisdom on this matter, or in other words, have we covered this before?2.  Am I willing to allow this to be theirs?Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

When Does the Healing Begin?Parents who have been stretched thin are questioning their ability to continue holding and often ask when does the healing begin?In this episode, we explore what healing really looks like on this journey with our child.We also discuss some of our obstacles in getting to a place of healing, how our hope is found in the whispers, whether our patterns in parenting are still serving us in the best possible way, and more.Special announcement regarding the next session of our online support group. You can register and get more information by emailing “I'm in!” to closedgroup.pathways@gmail.comResources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Unyielding is brought to you by Pathways to Hope Network. A non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

A Mom's Search for Meaning How do I do this, and how do I do it right? That's the question nestled deep in the heart of every parent I meet.In this episode, we talk about the two truths found in every action we take, and we also discuss the one thing that changed everything about my journey, as well as each parent I've coached or mentored that has been able to implement it.Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

The Truth About Reestablishing Trust For this final episode in Season 2, we are talking about trust. Upon reading that word, some of you are already thinking to yourself… I can't trust my child right now. They've made so many choices that have me questioning their thinking. Well, today isn't about trusting them. Today, we are talking about trusting ourselves. See, somewhere along the way, we lost that ability, and it's time we got it back.As promised, here are the links we discussed in the show:230 Personal Core ValuesBrene Brown's Whole Hearted Parenting ManifestoResources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing or at risk of facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeformothersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Down Grief Mountain with Mary Cranston In part two of my interview with Mary Cranston, we begin looking ahead to the journey down the other side of Grief Mountain.  What can we expect to encounter as we continue to navigate this journey?Understanding the grieving process gives us permission to accept where we are, to see more clearly the work we are meant to do in this season, and to wait expectantly, knowing that this too shall pass.4:27  Depression6:30  Re-Entry7:45  What Holds Us Back From Getting Support12:17 New Relationships15:30 New Strengths19:20 Overlooking the Physical Side of Grief21:40 Hope/Affirmation23:50 The Push and Pull of Moving On26:00 Helping OthersMary is a life coach, a counselor, a motivational speaker, and a published author who recently wrote the book Grief Mountain ( A practical guide in recovering from grief and loss). You can find the book here on Amazon.If you are interested in hearing more from Mary or connecting with what she's doing, check out:Her website https://www.coachmcranston.com/Her Instagram, Facebook and YouTubeResources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/aboutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Sometimes we are so consumed with trying to keep our heads above water with court dates, challenging behaviors, and worrying about the future that it's easy to dismiss the fact that there is real grief under the surface. When thinking about the challenges of grief, one person came to mind that I knew would be an incredible blessing to you. Her name is Mary Cranston and she is a life coach, a counselor, a motivational speaker, and a published author who recently wrote the book Grief Mountain ( A Practical Guide in Recovering from Grief and Loss). Join us as we explore the grief journey. Find Grief Mountain here on Amazon.If you are interested in hearing more from Mary or connecting with what she's doing, check out:Her website https://www.coachmcranston.com/Her Instagram, Facebook, and YouTubeResources:  Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/aboutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

When The Challenge Changes You - Part 2When the Challenge Changes You: Part TwoIn Episode 14, A quick part two of our interview with Blake, he continues his candid conversation about what life was like as a teen in the juvenile justice system. Listen as he examines if there was anything that anyone could've done that may have changed the path he was on, discusses life after detention, his advice for parents, what his life is like today, and sends a personal message to his mama..A few highlights from this episode:2:02   Life after detention3:48   Was there anything anyone could've done that would've changed the path5:56   Blake's advice for parents7:37   Life now  9:08   Blake's message to his mom ❤️If you would like to send a message to Blake letting him know how his interview helped you, OR if you are interested in sharing your own experiences on the show, email afrey.pathways@gmail.com.Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/aboutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

When The Challenge Changes You - Blake's StoryIn this episode, I have the honor of interviewing Blake, who offers us the gift of his perspective on what it was like to be a child who experienced the juvenile justice system. In part one of this two-part interview, Blake openly shares his story of what life was like during his teen years. His experiences, the factors he believes influenced his decisions, his relationship with his mom and siblings, and what he credits as the difference-maker in him changing his course.A few highlights from this episode:5:35    First encounter with law enforcement.9:18    Decision influencers15:00  Promises to change15:30  The difference-maker  17:00   Looking Back: what Blake credits his mom for doing well.23:43  The greatest challenge of detention28:00  Blakes's relationship with his mom and the role it played30:34  Sibling RelationshipsIf you would like to send a message to Blake letting him know how his interview helped you, OR if you are interested in sharing your own experiences on the show, email afrey.pathways@gmail.com.Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/aboutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

In this episode, I have the honor of interviewing Pete Feliciano. Pete graduated college with a degree in Law and Justice and a Master's degree in counseling. He recently retired from an extensive career working with hundreds of families in Thurston County Juvenile Court as a probation counselor for the last 32 years. Throughout those years, he has been a strong voice advocating for children and families in our community, and I am so grateful that he is on the show to provide us with some insight into the world of probation. Highlights from this episode:5:00    The biggest misconception about probation and probation counselors.13:32  The Us versus Them mentality and the damage created by it.15:51   What is probation, and what purpose does it serve?18:44  What you can do today that will help your child's probation process. 22:47  One thing resilient families do that keeps them moving forward.33:50  The one thing Petehope'ssyou'lll take away from this episode.Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/aboutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

In part two of my podcast interview with Pastor Jim Ladd, we discuss the difference between protecting and equipping our child and learn what could be at risk if we don't get this right.We also discuss the message our children receive when we constantly operate in protection mode and the question you should ask yourself if you find yourself helping a little too much.If you have a child in crisis, we sincerely hope that you find comfort and clarity while listening to his message on the importance of bringing ourselves back to baseline and beginning to examine the bigger picture and opportunity available to us during this time.A few highlights from this episode:7:40    The message our kids may be receiving when we are constantly in protection mode8:21    The difference between protecting and equipping11:45   Everyone can carry some of the load14:50   The question you should ask before rescuingIf you are interested in hearing more from Jim Ladd or connecting with what he's doing, check out the Jim and Jon website to access blogs, books, and the Upstream podcast he co-hosted with his son Jon (It's fantastic). You can also find him on the Evergreen Christian Community Website and Instagram.Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/aboutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Moving Through the Unknown with PurposeThis episode is the second in a series of interviews with different people offering different perspectives on what to consider as you walk beside your child through the justice system. Questioning what it looks like to parent well through a season we've never had to navigate before is a normal part of this process. In this episode, I have the honor of interviewing my pastor and friend, Jim Ladd. Jim is gifted in his ability to communicate concise, practical information in a way that is encouraging and thought-provoking, and this message is definitely one that will stay with you. If you have a child in crisis, we sincerely hope that you find comfort and clarity while listening to his message on the importance of bringing ourselves back to baseline and beginning to examine the bigger picture and opportunity available to us during this time.A few highlights from this episode:2:35    Our most difficult, panicky, terrifying crisis moments are actually extremely fertile for the activity of God.6:45    How to be loving while battling genuine feelings of anger and disappointment towards your child.14:43   The healthy ability to connect and disconnect.19:35   A parent's most important job when your child is in crisis.26:28   Aligning how we parent with God's love for us.If you are interested in hearing more from Jim Ladd or connecting with what he's doing, check out the Jim and Jon website to access blogs, books, and the Upstream podcast he co-hosted with his son Jon (It's fantastic). You can also find him on the Evergreen Christian Community Website and Instagram.Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/aboutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com

Show-notes (episode 9): Today's episode is the first in a series of interviews. We will interview different people for each show to offer different perspectives on important things you may want to consider while navigating the justice system with your child. It takes a lot of courage to share your story with others. Many families are so afraid of being judged or labeled that they never share the struggles they experienced when they had a child arrested, charged with a crime, or incarcerated. That's why I am incredibly grateful for our first guest interview.  We hope you will find comfort as you listen to this brave mom share a little about her struggles, regrets, and what she would do differently if she had to do it over.____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/ Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/ FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/aboutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: afrey.pathways@gmail.com 

Are you always worried about what you'll say if someone asks you about your child? In Episode 8, we are talking about one of the most challenging aspects of having a child facing charges, on probation, or incarcerated. The challenge of how to approach talking to others about it. We'll discuss all the ins and outs of who you should trust with this information, what you should tell, and what to do when someone asks you and simply put, you believe it's none of their business. We'll also talk about the top reasons most of us are reluctant to share this information and the powerful shift we experience when sharing our struggles. We'll help you fight off any anxiety you might be feeling about what to tell people by helping you come up with your go-to phrase.Resources: Pathways website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/ (Remember to Subscribe!) Local and national resources: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/resources/  Blog: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/blog-2/  FAQ: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/f-a-q/  ____________________________________________________________________________Pathways to Hope Network is a non-profit organization that provides cost-free support and community to parents with youth facing criminal allegations. Learn more about Pathways on our website: https://pathwaystohopenetwork.org/  Discover the community and connect by following us on Facebook and Instagram. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pathwaystohopenetwork Private Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Pathwaysclosedgroup/aboutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pathways_to_hope_network/For support, email: closedgroup.pathways@gmail.com