Podcasts about how we love

*This episode addresses the existence of sex and sexual health.*In last month's installment of "How We Love," we dove deep into the world of ethical nonmonogamy and polyamory. For this special episode of "Under the Radar," we meet Justin, Debbie and Alex: three people in a legal domestic partnership, which is only recognized in certain towns in Massachusetts. They live together with their children, cohabitating in a familial structure many may question but that has worked for them for years. So what's their day-to-day like? How did they meet? And how do they push back on stereotypes, myths and side-eyes thrown their way?Check out all the installments of "How We Love": https://www.wgbh.org/culture/series/how-we-love

In this heartfelt end-of-month catch-up episode of Fed by the Fruit, host KB gets raw and real about the breakthroughs she's been experiencing in her marriage to Jonathan, including what she's calling a God-given shift that finally removed the "scales from her eyes." She opens up about years of unconscious fault-finding rooted in unworthiness, the surprising clarity that came from taking the "How We Love" quiz, and what a simple Florida getaway revealed about the power of out-serving your spouse. KB also shares exciting updates about being on baby watch as a soon-to-be grandma, her new faith-aligned wellness business Perga, her growing personal training work, and the May memory verse from 2 Corinthians 5:21. If you've been struggling in your marriage or simply need encouragement to embrace the beautiful, blessed life in front of you, this episode is for you.Reach out to KB on Instagram and share your thoughts.

Many of us have learned to live at odds with our own desires. Some of us follow them wherever they lead. Others try to suppress or manage them. Either way, desire can begin to feel like something we don’t quite trust. In this episode of the Unhurried Living Podcast, Alan Fadling sits down with therapist and author Jay Stringer to explore a more honest and hopeful way of understanding desire. Drawing from his book Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow, Jay helps us see how even our most confusing or unwanted desires can become pathways toward healing. Together, they discuss: Why desire can feel like a “civil war” within us How our stories shape the desires we carry The role of shame—and the invitation to curiosity How to discern the deeper longing beneath misdirected desire A simple next step toward healing and greater awareness This is a conversation for anyone who has ever felt conflicted inside—and wondered if there might be a more grace-filled way forward. Connect with Alan on LinkedIn or learn more about Unhurried Living programs on their website. Learn about PACE: Certificate in Leadership and Soul Care Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Does it feel like conflict sets your marriage back instead of making it stronger? Erin opens up about how her and Greg struggled to get along early on in their marriage. Then, Jim Daly chats with two couples - Milan and Kay Yerkovich and Marc and Amy Cameron - on how to be honest about your emotions with your spouse, in ways that don't lead to big arguments. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book How We Love for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment How Love Styles Can Help You Grow Closer as a Couple - I-II Counseling Consultation and Referrals Learn to Identify Your Emotions in Marriage Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

Does it feel like conflict sets your marriage back instead of making it stronger? Erin opens up about how her and Greg struggled to get along early on in their marriage. Then, Jim Daly chats with two couples - Milan and Kay Yerkovich and Marc and Amy Cameron - on how to be honest about your emotions with your spouse, in ways that don't lead to big arguments. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book How We Love for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment How Love Styles Can Help You Grow Closer as a Couple - I-II Counseling Consultation and Referrals Learn to Identify Your Emotions in Marriage Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29?v=20251111

Welcome back to the second half of this powerful conversation with Jay Stringer. Building on the foundation of his book, "Desire,"Jay moves us deeper into one of the most provocative ideas of the conversation: Sometimes our desires must disrupt and even destroy something in order to make way for something more true. This isn't destruction for destruction's sake. Iconoclasm is the breaking of false structures, identities, and "provisional selves" that no longer serve us. And as Jay explores, when we don't have wise guides or meaningful rites of passage, that disruption often shows up as self-sabotage—affairs, addictions, burnout, or relational breakdown. But instead of dismissing those moments as failure, Jay invites us to see them as honest signals—clues pointing back to our story, our unmet longings, and the deeper work our soul is trying to initiate. Listen in to a conversation that is rich with story and grounded in research as they also explore: why community is essential for making sense of our desires (and why we can't do this work alone) how to interrogate your desires in a healthy, curious way—not with shame, but with wisdom and how our desires are often shaped by forces we don't even realize, yet can be reshaped over time Desire has the power to both build and break. The question is not whether disruption will come—but whether we'll have the courage, support, and curiosity to let it lead us somewhere good. Order your copy of Jay's new book, "Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow," now at: https://jay-stringer.com/books/ About the Allender Center Podcast: For over a decade, the Allender Center Podcast has offered honest, thoughtful conversations about the deep work of healing and transformation. Hosted by Dr. Dan Allender and Rachael Clinton Chen, MDiv, this weekly podcast explores the complexities of trauma, abuse recovery, story, relationships, and spiritual formation. Through questions submitted by listeners, stories, interviews, and conversations, we engage the deep places of heartache and hope that are rarely addressed so candidly in our culture today. Join the Allender Center Podcast to uncover meaningful perspectives and support for your path to healing and growth. At the Allender Center, we value thoughtful dialogue across a wide range of voices, stories, and lived experiences. In that spirit, our podcast features guests and hosts who may hold differing perspectives. The perspectives shared on this podcast by guests and hosts reflect their own experiences and viewpoints and do not necessarily represent the views, positions, or endorsements of the Allender Center and/or The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology. Stream each episode, plus find transcripts, additional resources, and more at: theallendercenter.org/podcast To become a supporter of the Allender Center Podcast, visit: https://theallendercenter.org/2025/11/podcast-support/ If you and your organization would like to partner with the Allender Center Podcast, please reach out to Clay Clayton at cclayton@theallendercenter.org     

What if desire isn't something to suppress or fear, but something to honor and steward? In this two-part conversation, therapist and author Jay Stringer joins Dan Allender and Rachael Clinton Chen to explore that very question through the lens of his new book, "Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow." From the very beginning, it was clear this topic couldn't be contained in a single episode. Dan arrived with 16 pages of notes—so settle in for a deep, expansive conversation that unfolds across the next two weeks. In Part 1, Jay traces the long personal and clinical journey behind Desire, opening up a deeper question beneath the surface of struggle and behavior: how do we learn to want well? You'll hear: Why desire often feels like a "civil war" within us How your family of origin can shape what you long for (and what you may have denied) The concept of the "provisional self"—and how it can both help and hinder you Why some of the patterns you want to escape may actually be clues to deeper healing Through personal stories, clinical insight, and thoughtful reflection, this conversation invites you to get curious about your desires—not to judge them, but to understand where they come from and where they're leading you. Be sure to come back next week as Jay re-joins us to explore the disruptive role of desire, the courage it takes to engage it, and how to grow it within the context of community. In the meantime, you can order your copy of Jay Stringer's newest book, "Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow" today:  https://jay-stringer.com/books/  About the Allender Center Podcast: For over a decade, the Allender Center Podcast has offered honest, thoughtful conversations about the deep work of healing and transformation. Hosted by Dr. Dan Allender and Rachael Clinton Chen, MDiv, this weekly podcast explores the complexities of trauma, abuse recovery, story, relationships, and spiritual formation. Through questions submitted by listeners, stories, interviews, and conversations, we engage the deep places of heartache and hope that are rarely addressed so candidly in our culture today. Join the Allender Center Podcast to uncover meaningful perspectives and support for your path to healing and growth.   At the Allender Center, we value thoughtful dialogue across a wide range of voices, stories, and lived experiences. In that spirit, our podcast features guests and hosts who may hold differing perspectives. The perspectives shared on this podcast by guests and hosts reflect their own experiences and viewpoints and do not necessarily represent the views, positions, or endorsements of the Allender Center and/or The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology.   Stream each episode, plus find transcripts, additional resources, and more at: theallendercenter.org/podcast   To become a supporter of the Allender Center Podcast, visit: https://theallendercenter.org/2025/11/podcast-support/ If you and your organization would like to partner with the Allender Center Podcast, please reach out to Clay Clayton at cclayton@theallendercenter.org

Romantic relationships are full of joy, but they're also prone to complexities and challenges. What happens when you add multiple partners or nonmonogamy to the mix? We dive into the world of polyamory and ethical nonmonogamy as part of our yearlong series, "How We Love."RSVP to our FREE event at Molly's Bookstore in Allston with author Tara Menon! https://bit.ly/utrtaramenon

Welcome back to the Restoring the Soul podcast with Michael John Cusick. In this episode, Michael sits down with licensed therapist, author, and researcher Jay Stringer for a deep and vulnerable conversation exploring the core desires that shape our lives. Together, they unpack themes from Jay Stringer's latest book, Desire: The Longings Inside of Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow.Over the course of their dialogue, Michael and Jay examine the five core desires: wholeness, personal growth, pleasure, intimacy, and meaning. They candidly discuss the traps of mastery and control, the importance of radical self-hospitality, and the crucial role of self-acceptance in loving others well. You will hear stories from Jay's clinical experience, thoughtful reflections on the nature of shame and transformation, and an honest look at how pleasure and intimacy can be both revealing and redemptive.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Is fighting our desires, sexual or otherwise, a losing battle? Have we completely misunderstood what they are, and what they point to? How do we reclaim a Godly vision for them? Ben invites author, speaker, and Christian sex expert Jay Stringer back onto the show to talk about his new book, Desire: The Longings Inside Us, and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow. Pick up Jay's new book, HERE----------------------Ben has completely revised and updated his powerful book, Jesus in the Secular World: Reaching a Culture in Crisis—a must-read guide for anyone longing to reach those who may never step foot in a church. Packed with real-world insights and practical strategies, this book could be the breakthrough you've been searching for.Don't wait—get your copy today!Click HERE to check it out on Amazon.For more information, go to: jesusinthesecularworld.com------------------------Questions, comments, or feedback? We'd love to hear what you think! Send them to provokeandinspire@steiger.org, or send us a message on Instagram.Click HERE to receive news, thought-provoking articles, and stories directly in your inbox from Ben, David, Luke, and Chad!Click below to follow the regulars on Instagram!Ben PierceDavid PierceChad JohnsonLuke GreenwoodSend us Fan Mail.

Last month, we kicked off our new "How We Love" series with a conversation about romance fanfiction. But what's it like to go from fanfic to the New York Times best-seller list? In this podcast-exclusive interview, Callie speaks with Christina Lauren (Christina Hobbs and Lauren Billings), authors of celebrated romance novels like "The Unhoneymooners," "The True Love Experiment," "Love and Other Words" and "The Paradise Problem," among many others. Their new book, "The Romance Revival" comes out in July. They tell us more about how "Twilight" brought them together and how their work in fanfiction prepared them for the traditional romance-publishing world.

In this episode of the Pure Desire Podcast, we explore a radically different way of understanding desire in recovery, betrayal, and marriage. Rather than treating desire as the enemy, our guest, Jay Stringer, invites us to see unwanted behaviors as signposts pointing to deeper wounds and unmet longings.  Drawing from Jay's research with over 4,000 people, we discuss how fear-based restriction, shame-driven purity culture, and the pursuit of intensity often fuel addiction and emotional disconnection. We unpack how curiosity, compassion, and wholeness can help individuals move out of relapse cycles and support relational repair after betrayal.  For betrayed partners, we address how desire can go dormant—and how it can be reclaimed safely. We conclude by envisioning what “connected desire” looks like beyond crisis and where listeners can learn more in Jay's new book, Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow Resources: Check Out Jay's New Book! GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join us as we explore the profound insights of Jay Stringer, a psychotherapist and author, on desire, healing, and living an integrated life. Discover how understanding your desires and past can lead to transformation and a more authentic existence. Jay Stringer—is a licensed mental health counselor and researcher. For 15+ years He's helped thousands make sense of unwanted patterns and unmet longings and turn them into a path for healing and growth.His work equips you to read your story and form desire into your greatest ally. Jay is the author of two books,Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing and his latest book esire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow which offers a new framework for five core longings—wholeness, growth, intimacy, pleasure, and meaning—and shows how to form desire into a force that restores connection and purpose.  

This week Shae Wall dropped in to the studio for our interview with the Executive Director of Life Raft International Evette Rivera. Make sure to check out and support Life Raft International! JM's Album Of The Week: Asgeir - Julia Bradford's Book Club: Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal and Grow by Jay Stringer

"Send us a message! (questions, feedback, etc.)"Here is Part 2 of our conversation with Jay Stringer.Last week Jay released his book, Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow. Moving beyond the singular experience of sexual struggles found in his first book Unwanted, Desire offers a critically important opportunity to better understand the core longings created in every person. To see desire as good, part of how we reflect the image of God. To be curious about our experiences with desire - how it's been encouraged, discouraged, or even prohibited. Jay's book explores desire through the five core longings that show up in all of our lives: The desires for wholeness, growth, intimacy, pleasure, and meaning. Through better understanding our relationship to desire, we can live more fully the lives we were created to live.Jay lives in New York City with his wife Heather and their children.#jaystringer #unwanted #desire #storywork #sexuality #masculinity #counseling #coaching #gospel #sexualaddiction #sexaddiction #awaken #awakenrecovery #awakenpodcast #whatwereallywant #wwrw #grace #connection #conversationJay's websiteJay's books (Amazon)Holistic Desire website Support the showAwaken websiteRoots Retreat Men's IntensiveRoots Retreat Women's WorkshopAwaken Men & Women's support meeting info (including virtual)

In this powerful conversation, host Lantz Howard sits down with therapist, author, and New York City resident Jay Stringer, author of the award-winning Unwanted and the upcoming Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow.Jay shares vulnerably about midlife chrysalis moments, the "provisional self" we create to survive family dynamics, the cost of suppressing or blindly following desire, and how our deepest longings—sexual and beyond—can become roadmaps to healing rather than sources of shame.Key highlights include:Navigating marriage and dating in the intensity of NYC life; saunas, cold plunges, bookstore dates, and the longing for wild nature.How unresolved family stories shape unwanted sexual behaviors—and why paying attention to them leads to freedomThe difference between suppressing desire, indulging it, and intentionally forming itMidlife as a time to honor "loyal soldiers," bury outdated roles, and listen for what Jesus is invitingBecoming a person "worth having sex with"—differentiation, self-soothing, and bringing a whole self to intimacy (not just seeking validation)Practical invitations: Honor the "albatross" (current struggles/loneliness) flying over your life + rediscover the "bells" (moments your heart rang true)Whether you're wrestling with intimacy, purpose, midlife transition, or leadership fatigue, this episode offers compassion, clinical wisdom, and spiritual depth to help you stop surviving and start truly living.---Work with Lantz Howard at www.lantzhoward.com I help high-performers align identity, marriage, and vocation– so they can lead wholeheartedly with the purpose that flows from a sound mind and a healthy soul.

Welcome to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. Today, Michael is joined by author and therapist Jay Stringer for a deep and vulnerable conversation about his newest book, "Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow." Together, they explore the civil war of desire that shapes our lives—how our deepest longings birth both our greatest joys and our most profound heartaches.Jay Stringer shares how his personal and professional experiences led him to unpack the complexities of desire, discussing its impact beyond sexuality and touching on meaning, intimacy, growth, and purpose. The episode explores how our desires are formed, suppressed, or distorted—often by trauma, shame, and cultural influences—and why understanding these origins is crucial to transformation.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Send a textJay Stringer, licensed therapist and author of Unwanted, is back to talk about his brand new book Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow. Together, we unpack why so many of us — especially those from church backgrounds — were taught to fear and suppress our desires rather than develop them. We dig into enmeshment, the "provisional self," why differentiation is actually the secret to intimacy and a healthy sex life, and why low libido is never just a libido problem. If you've ever felt broken, empty, or like you don't even know what you want anymore, this conversation is for you.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Get Jay Stringer's book DesireGet Jay's book UnwantedFollow Jay on InstagramSheila's book The Marriage You Want, and the video curriculum that goes with itSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Description:Many of us were taught that desire is dangerous—something to manage, suppress, or feel ashamed of. But what if desire isn't the problem at all? What if it's not just about sex or attraction, but about the places we feel most alive? Today, Jen and Amy sit down with FTL fan-favorite Jay Stringer, a licensed therapist and author whose work helps people understand the deeper stories shaping their desires—especially the ones we've been taught to hide, or silence. Drawing from his powerful new book Desire, Jay reframes desire not as a moral failure or impulse to eliminate, but as a signal worth listening to—one that points us toward what formed us, what wounded us, and what we are still longing for beneath the surface. Jay shifts the focus from behavior modification to understanding the story behind desire—for intimacy, success, escape, creativity, or belonging—shaped by early attachment, trauma, and unmet needs. The conversation moves from "What's wrong with me?" to "What happened to me?" turning desire from shame into meaning. This is not a conversation about labeling or fixing yourself. It's about understanding yourself—how your story formed you, and how listening to what brings you to life can lead toward freedom, wholeness, and deeper connection.  This episode also serves as the opening doorway into our Wilderness & Wonder series. In a season when many of us are navigating uncertainty—spiritually, relationally, or internally—this episode grounds us in the idea that exploration isn't aimlessness, but formation. That the wilderness can be a teacher. And that desire itself may be one of the quiet guides helping us stay awake, curious, and present as we learn how to live inside the questions. This is a gentle conversation, but it's also a brave one. And we're really glad you're here for it. Thought-provoking Quotes: “Desire is a navigational term from Latin that means ‘lack of a star'. I'm looking into the skies, trying to find this new direction. How do I get home in the midst of all this wandering, all this misery that I feel like I'm in?” – Jay Stringer “When did you last feel alive? When did you feel connected to your body, connected to others? That's the essence of desire that we're trying to get back to.” – Jay Stringer “The antidote to shame is really developing some curiosity for it.” – Jay Stringer Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Harper's Magazine | Who Goes Nazi? by Dorothy Thompson - https://harpers.org/archive/1941/08/who-goes-nazi/ Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow by Jay Stringer - https://amzn.to/4buLADD Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer - https://www.amazon.com/Unwanted-Sexual-Brokenness-Reveals-Healing/dp/1631466720 Annie Dillard - https://www.anniedillard.com/ Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com/ Alex Honnold climbs Taipei 101 skyscraper without ropes - https://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Living/video/alex-honnold-climbs-taipei-101-skyscraper-ropes-129537771 Bill Plotkin - https://www.animas.org/about-us/our-founder/ Awake: A Memoir by Jen Hatmaker - https://amzn.to/3LTorjM Stanzas from the Grande Chartreuse by Matthew Arnold - https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43605/stanzas-from-the-grande-chartreuse Jon Batiste - jonbatiste.com Sarah Bessey - https://www.sarahbessey.com/ Dacher Keltner, PhD - https://www.dacherkeltner.com/ Guest's Links: Website - https://jay-stringer.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jay_stringer_/ Twitter - https://x.com/_jaystringer Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/JayStringerUnwanted# Connect with Jen!Jen's Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/ Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker The For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy.  To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Send us a message! (questions, feedback, etc.)"For people interested in digging deeply into their stories and better understanding themselves and the unwanted behaviors that plague them, few people have been as helpful as Jay Stringer.In 2018, Jay's book Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing invited readers to a new approach to unwanted sexual behaviors: one that begins by "listening to our lust." Jay encouraged readers to see their struggles as a roadmap to past harms and current hinderances to freedom.Now he's released his second book, Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow. Moving beyond the singular experience of sexual struggles, Desire offers a critically important opportunity to better understand the core longings created in every person. To see desire as good, part of how we reflect the image of God. To be curious about our experiences with desire - how it's been encouraged, discouraged, or even prohibited. Through better understanding our relationship to desire, we can live more fully the lives we were created to live.This conversation was too good to abbreviate, so we split it into two parts... the second half will be available Tuesday, March 10.Jay lives in New York City with his wife Heather and their children.#jaystringer #unwanted #desire #storywork #sexuality #masculinity #counseling #coaching #gospel #sexualaddiction #sexaddiction #awaken #awakenrecovery #awakenpodcast #whatwereallywant #wwrw #grace #connection #conversationJay's websiteJay's books (Amazon)Holistic Desire website Support the showAwaken websiteRoots Retreat Men's IntensiveRoots Retreat Women's WorkshopAwaken Men & Women's support meeting info (including virtual)

What if the desires you've been suppressing are not bad, but simply unrefined and underdeveloped? In this episode, Jay Stringer explores five core longings that drive us—and why we need to welcome them rather than try to conquer them or shut them down. You'll hear how desire is shaped by childhood experiences, pornography, and other forces—as well as how desire can be reshaped and resurrected.Jay Stringer is a licensed mental health counselor, researcher, and speaker who helps people uncover the unexpected meaning hidden in life's hardest challenges. He is the award-winning author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing and lives in New York City with his wife, Heather, and their two children. Learn more at jay-stringer.comBuy Jay's new book:Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and GrowGuest interviews do not constitute an endorsement. We encourage discernment—grab what's good, drop the rest.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Christa sits down with listener fave Jay Stringer, therapist and author of his brand new book Desire: The Longing Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow, for a conversation that bridges family systems, differentiation, and sexual intimacy in marriage. Jay breaks down how your family of origin shapes not just your attachment style but your sexual desire, why differentiation is essential for healthy intimacy, and how couples can stop triangulating their kids into their marriage. They discuss the family systems work that transforms your relationship in and out of the bedroom, how to work through attachment issues together as a couple, and why understanding where your desire comes from is key to healing and growth. If you've been doing family systems work and wondering how it connects to your sexual relationship with your spouse, this episode is a must-listen. Jay offers practical, research-backed insight into how we can grow in desire by doing the deeper work on our family patterns. Watch on YouTube! Get Jay's book and workbook here! https://a.co/d/00mubz6x Follow Jay on Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/jay_stringer_/?hl=en Find Jay's website with his courses, The Journey, and more that Christa refers to in the episode! https://jay-stringer.com/ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Send us a message! (questions, feedback, etc.)"Virtually any person of faith who has done work to understand their sexual story over the past several years has heard of JAY STRINGER. Jay is the author of the best-selling book Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. With over 100,000 copies sold, many people have come to better understand how their stories impact their current struggles. Jay has a new book, Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow, available Tuesday, March 3rd. We're celebrating launch day with Part 1 of our conversation about the new book, and the much broader conversation of how we understand and bless our God-given desires.Episode 60 | Jay Stringer: Listen to the Voice of Desire, part 1 will be available Tuesday, March 3rd, with part 2 available one week later!#jaystringer #unwanted #desire #storywork #therapy #healing #addiction #trauma #vulnerability #recovery #grace #gospel #transformationSupport the showAwaken websiteRoots Retreat Men's IntensiveRoots Retreat Women's WorkshopAwaken Men & Women's support meeting info (including virtual)

What if your favorite TV show or movie series didn't end when the credits rolled? That's at the heart of fanfiction: the social, collaborative, and imaginative community of amateur writers creating new adventures – and new love interests – from established stories and franchises. We kick off our new series, How We Love, with a conversation about the intersection of romance and fanfiction.Get your tickets now to our Bookmarked: LIVE! event at Lovestruck Books in Cambridge on Thursday, March 12, at 7 p.m.: https://bit.ly/miasosaUTR

"Loyalty without boundaries is self-abandonment."In this lecture, Christan and Tarrah tackle the exhausting dynamic of anxious attachment. If you feel like your "cup" is always being emptied but never refilled, it's time to recalibrate your connections and build internal safety.In this lecture:Friendship Court: A ruling on the friend who needs too much reassurance. Take Out The Trash: A life-changing review of How We Love. Why your childhood "Love Style" is the secret key to your current relationship drama.

Join my Patreon community for extra episodes, chats, and bonus content. Jay Stringer joined me in New York City to talk about dealing with unwanted sexual behavior, trauma, sexual compulsion, and…. Apple Fritters. He has an incredible way of bridging the gap between theology, counseling, and clinical research —listen now and share your thoughts in the comments! Jay is a therapist, researcher, and author based in New York City. He's the author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing (100,000+ readers), grounded in a study of nearly 4,000 adults and used by clinicians and communities worldwide. His forthcoming book, Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow (Random House, 2026), offers a new framework for five core longings—wholeness, growth, intimacy, pleasure, and meaning—and shows how to form desire into a force that restores connection and purpose.Learn more at https://jay-stringer.com/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Receive the book How We Love plus a free audio download of "How Love Styles Can Help You Grow Closer as a Couple" for your donation of any amount! Your Gift DOUBLES to Help Deliver Hope and Joy! Save 2X the marriages and families this Christmas with your life-changing gift today! Get More Episode Resources If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

Our earliest childhood interactions will shape how we connect and communicate with each other as adults. The Yerkoviches and Camerons call these ways we interact “love styles,” and they describe how we can overcome wounds of our past to improve and strengthen our relationships, especially in marriage. Receive the book How We Love plus a free audio download of "How Love Styles Can Help You Grow Closer as a Couple" for your donation of any amount! Your Gift DOUBLES to Help Deliver Hope and Joy! Save 2X the marriages and families this Christmas with your life-changing gift today! Get More Episode Resources If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

Caller Questions & Discussion: Marc shares about family dynamics and why it is so hard to be an adult when we go home for the holidays. I have full guardianship of my wife with severe depression and she refuses treatment; how do I cope with feeling stuck after trying everything? What should I do when my marriage has no intimacy and my wife refuses counseling? How can I heal from being estranged from my son and grandchildren for over ten years, even after long-term therapy? What is the difference between Understanding Your Attachment Style by Marc Cameron and How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich?

Caller Questions & Discussion: Marc shares about family dynamics and why it is so hard to be an adult when we go home for the holidays. I have full guardianship of my wife with severe depression and she refuses treatment; how do I cope with feeling stuck after trying everything? What should I do when my marriage has no intimacy and my wife refuses counseling? How can I heal from being estranged from my son and grandchildren for over ten years, even after long-term therapy? What is the difference between Understanding Your Attachment Style by Marc Cameron and How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich?

We talk with therapist and author Marc Cameron about how childhood bonds shape adult love and how anyone can “earn” secure attachment through story, skills, and practice. Practical tools like boundaries that invite connection and the Comfort Circle help couples move from reactivity to responsiveness.• what avoidant, pleaser, vacillator, and disorganized styles look like in childhood and adulthood• how a coherent narrative links emotions to needs• why empathy, validation, and clear language reduce conflict• boundaries as doors back into connection• style-specific growth goals and daily practice• co‑soothing before self‑soothing and nervous system regulation• the Comfort Circle listener-speaker tool• research roots from Bowlby, Ainsworth, and Main• resources from How We Love and Marc's new bookMarc Cameron's Resources and Links:Free How We Love Attachment Style Quiz:https://understandingyourattachmentstyle.com/How We Love: https://howwelove.com/Marc's Social Media:https://m.facebook.com/marc.cameron.mft/https://www.instagram.com/marc.cameron.mft/How We Love Social Media:https://www.facebook.com/howwelovebook?mibextid=wwXIfr&mibextid=wwXIfrhttps://www.instagram.com/howwelovebook?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qrhttps://www.tiktok.com/@how.we.love.tiktohttps://www.youtube.com/@HowWeLoveVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

A real conversation on How We Love — the way we show up for others, the lessons we've learned, and what it means to love well across generations.

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice discusses how the Comfort Circle exercise from the How We Love book really worked to reveal her daughter's pain underneath her distress. My wife is going through menopause, and I wanted to share how it affected our sex lives until I understood what she was going through. I'm 83yo […]

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice discusses how the Comfort Circle exercise from the How We Love book really worked to reveal her daughter's pain underneath her distress. My wife is going through menopause, and I wanted to share how it affected our sex lives until I understood what she was going through. I'm 83yo […]

Early childhood experiences, particularly a lack of comfort and security in infancy, can contribute to the development of codependency in adulthood. Join us Monday for our Live Q and A as we discuss Biblical solutions to heal and overcome. Escape the pain of the past and embrace the freedom God offers! Resources from today's video: How We Love website: https://howwelove.com/ How We Love, Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage Order from Amazon: https://a.co/d/fEADgf7 Suggested YouTube videos related to this topic: Receiving God's Comfort: https://youtu.be/roqaMXfoU10 Healing Mother Wounds: https://youtu.be/EX2_aOBQGvM JOIN US AT OUR NURTURE RETREAT 2025 this July at the Cove in Asheville, NC! Register at https://treasuredministries.com/retreat/ and enter coupon code YouTube50 at checkout for an additional $50 off. Registration has been extended! We can't wait to see you there! God has timeless truths to help you navigate life and live in freedom as He intended. Join us LIVE on Mondays at 7:30 PM ET where we answer your questions on how to Conquer Codependency God's Way. Do you have a question you would like Aliene to address? We've got you! Just leave your question in the comments below or email questions@treasuredministries.com Don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a comment if this episode resonates with you! For more information/resources check out the links below: ⇨ Visit the Treasured Ministries Website: https://treasuredministries.com/ ⇨ Join the Treasured Tribe https://treasuredtribe.com/ ⇨ Sign up for our FREE newsletter and get inspiration for your faith journey https://treasuredministries.activehos... ⇨ Donate: https://treasuredministries.com/donate/ ⇨Sign up for retreat https://treasuredministries.com/retreat/ YouTube RETREAT SPECIAL OFFER: Enter coupon code: YouTube50 at check out for an additional $50 off. _____________________ Treasured Ministries provides discipleship, biblical resources, and community for women so they can exchange codependency for God dependency and thrive. For more information visit https://treasuredministries.com ______________________ Aliene Thompson is the president of Treasured Ministries International, the creator of the Nourish Bible Study Method, and the founder of the Treasured Tribe, an online Christian community for women. Her popular series on YouTube, "Conquering Codependency God's Way", helps women worldwide move from codependency to God dependency so they can live in freedom as God intended. #codependence #conqueringcodependency

Our earliest childhood interactions will shape how we connect and communicate with each other as adults. Based on the book How We Love, Milan and Kay Yerkovich and Marc and Amy Cameron help couples discover their love or attachment styles, which shape behaviors, beliefs and expectations within marriage. The five love styles they describe are: secure connector, avoider, pleaser, vacillator, and chaotic (controller and victim). How We Love Hope Restored Learn to Identify Your Emotions in Marriage How Childhood Experiences Impact Our Love Styles If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Our earliest childhood interactions will shape how we connect and communicate with each other as adults. The Yerkoviches and Camerons call these ways we interact “love styles,” and they describe how we can overcome wounds of our past to improve and strengthen our relationships, especially in marriage. Receive the book How We Love plus a free audio download of "How Love Styles Can Help You Grow Closer as a Couple" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive. Get More Episode Resources If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Our earliest childhood interactions will shape how we connect and communicate with each other as adults. The Yerkoviches and Camerons call these ways we interact “love styles,” and they describe how we can overcome wounds of our past to improve and strengthen our relationships, especially in marriage. Receive the book How We Love plus a free audio download of "How Love Styles Can Help You Grow Closer as a Couple" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive. Get More Episode Resources If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Have you considered that the recent argument you had with your spouse began long before you ever got married? Walking down the aisle on your wedding day, you see the person that you love and are attracted to, but you may not realize that in that moment, two histories are colliding.  In effect, you are marrying your partner's brain. This means that all of your (and their) previous experiences with love, closeness, connection, hurt, relational expectations and ways of seeking comfort are like pre-programmed software that you will both need to learn about. It also means that your history and everything that's shaped you, is going to be operating in the background of all of your interactions.  The bottom line is that how you learned to love when you were growing up will be the way you love when you are married.  Using the 5 Love Styles from the book “How We Love” by Kay and Milan Yerkovich, Shay and Lynn discuss how each of these love styles developed in your childhood are impacting your relationship today. This enlightening conversation offers insight into the defensive patterns you might see in your marriage, and what to do when your two histories collide.  How We Love Love Style Quiz If you liked this episode, text it to a friend! And please consider rating WYITW on your podcast player and leave the team a review. You can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds!

The way we are brought up has a significant influence on the way we form attachments with others. There are few relationships in which this is as pronounced or as obvious as marriage. Kay and Milan Yerkovich, authors of the breakthrough book, “How We Love”, want to empower couples to become more aware of the ways in which their early years formed them, and to acquire the skills to develop secure attachments for healthy, long-lasting relationships.     Guests: Kay and Milan Yerkovich   Book: How We Love by Kay and Milan Yerkovich Website: howwelove.com Instagram: @howwelovebook   Get your free resource on marriage conflict resolution! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Marriage is an amazing gift. And yet, it can reveal a lot of our weaknesses, vulnerabilities and our growth edges. Today we talk with Chris Bruno about the most common struggles for marriages today and how we can fulfill our greatest desires for deep connection, to be known, and to truly know one another within our marriages.   Chris Bruno is a licensed professional counselor and the founder and CEO of ReStory Counseling and Restoration Project. He, along with Tracy Johnson, are the marriage experts of Thrive Marriage Lab, ReStory Marriage Intensives, and co-hosts of the Thrive Marriage Podcast. He is a colleague of authors, speakers, and counselors like Dr. Dan Allender of The Allender Center, Dr. Curt Thompson of The Anatomy of the Soul, Sheila Wray Gregoire of The Great Sex Rescue, and Milan and Kay Yerkovitch of How We Love. His goal is to help couples stay married and love being married. His team has helped hundreds of couples explore their story, and come to understand and care for one another more deeply.   To connect with Chris Bruno, go to: Website - https://www.restory.life/ Facebook - www.facebook.com/ReStory.Life Instagram - @storyrestored   To find Thrive Marriage Lab go to: Website - https://www.restory.life/thrive Instagram - @ThriveMarriageLab Youtube - @ThriveMarriageLab   FREE 12 Months of Dates - How date nights can lead to connection.  Subscribe here - www.restory.life/thrive-dates   How healthy is your marriage?  Take our FREE marriage assessment here: https://www.restory.life/marriage-assessment   =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter.    Don't forget our unique Wholehearted Leadership Cohort opportunities. Applications are open for the next one-year and two-year cohorts. In fact, the Cohort experience might be the very thing that helps you see long-term shifts in your leadership at work and at home. We'd love to come alongside you! Learn more and apply today at www.livingwholehearted.com/cohort.   And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholehearted.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Dear Mattsons        https://www.christianparenting.org/dearmattsons/ Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

Welcome to this enlightening episode where Lifeonaire coach Kathy Neubauer unveils a transformative tool that can break the cycle of conflict in couples. Join us as we explore a concept from the book How We Love: the 6 Love Styles. The styles are The Avoider, The Pleaser, The Vacillator, The Controller, The Victim, and The Secure Connector.   Jason and Peter ask Kathy tons of questions about this powerful tool, many of which you might have yourself. By learning you and your partner's styles and what patterns it causes in your own relationship, you'll be amazed at how much deeper understanding of yourself and your partner emerges.   Get ready for an eye-opening exploration of relationship dynamics, paving the way for growth and resolution in your relationship.   Get more life-changing insight on your relationships, your career, EVERYTHING at our Get-A-Life Getaways: Lifeonaire.com/getalife  

Leap Of Faith, Fast And Furious, I Don't Know, Small Talk Haircut, Masterclass, Jesus/Relaxed, Dumping Rich Friends, Psalm 46, When We Were Kids, Forgiveness, How We Love, Anxiety, Good Apologies; Quotes: “Faith is based on knowing things.” “If I know what Jesus knows I'll be relaxed, too.” “I'm a fan of enjoying other people's stuff.” “Forgiveness only takes one person.”

Milan and Kay Yerkovich help you understand how your attachment style impacts they way you relate to stress and how you can use stressful situations as opportunities to grow closer to your spouse.   Receive the book How We Love and the special audio download "Questions to Ask When Stressed" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive.   Have You Lost Hope in Your Marriage? For couples in crisis – you can still put the pieces of your marriage back together with Hope Restored.   Discover the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast with Greg and Erin Smalley.   Get Milan and Kay's Comfort Circle Guide!   If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Milan and Kay Yerkovich help you understand how your attachment style impacts they way you relate to stress and how you can use stressful situations as opportunities to grow closer to your spouse. (Part 2 of 2)   Receive a copy of "How We Love" and audio downloads of "Growing Your Marriage in Times of Stress" and “Questions to Ask When Stressed” for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive.   Get More Episode Resources   We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.   If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Milan and Kay Yerkovich help you understand how your attachment style impacts they way you relate to stress and how you can use stressful situations as opportunities to grow closer to your spouse. (Part 1 of 2)   Receive a copy of "How We Love" and audio downloads of "Growing Your Marriage in Times of Stress" and “Questions to Ask When Stressed” for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive.   Get More Episode Resources   We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.   If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Clementine Ford is a podcaster, speaker and feminist activist. She is the bestselling author of the feminist manifestos Fight Like A Girl and Boys Will Be Boys, and her memoir How We Love.  In this wide-ranging conversation, Clem and Chloe talk about their experiences with internalised ableism and receiving their ADHD diagnoses, the quote Clem returns to that motivates her activism, and how she looks after and stays true to herself. LINKS Follow Clem on Instagram and Facebook. Buy Clem's books How We Love, Boys Will Be Boys, and Fight Like A Girl. Follow Chloé on Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube. Learn more about Chloé on her website https://www.chloehayden.com.au/. Follow Nova Podcasts on Instagram for videos from the podcast and behind the scenes content – @novapodcastsofficial. CREDITSHost: Chloe HaydenProducer: Amy KimballEditor: Adrian WaltonExecutive Producer: Anna HenvestManaging Producer: Elle Beattie Find more great podcasts like this at novapodcasts.com.au Nova Entertainment acknowledges the traditional custodians of the land on which we produced this podcast, the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this episode of the Melanated Movement Podcast, Tess & Anne are rejoined by a very special guest: Mel! She makes her second appearance on the show since our "How We Love" series - "Conditional Love". This time, we tackle toxicity in relationships; accountability and the many forms intimate relationships take.  Join us as we take a bit of a dive. We laugh; we sigh; inspire thought, and  celebrate the growth within with each other!  * * If you enjoyed this episode, please follow our socials:  IG: @Melanatedmovementpodcast Twitter: @Melanatedmpod * * Give us a quick review and/or rating on your preferred platform. We'd love to hear from you!  As always, please take care of yourselves and each other.  XoXo Tess & Anne 

#8: On today's episode, Han's counselor, Virginia Dixon, founder of R.E.S.T, comes on the podcast to tell her personal story. They talk all things mental health, identifying trauma & your attachment style, the wiring of our central nervous system, and finding rest through self improvement.Virginia is a counselor, thought leader, & the founder of R.E.S.T. It's mission is to help people reason significance, and find significance in reason; displacing confusion, chaos, and dis-ease.She was previously consulted as the Director of of Inner Healing at the Center for New Medicine and Cancer Center for healing in Irvine, California. She also hosts a podcast, R.E.S.T with Virginia Dixon, which is pretty much free therapy.RESOURCES FROM THE INTERVIEW:Take the soul hunger test hereTake the How We Love (attachment style) test hereCONNECT BELOW:follow R.E.S.T herecheck out Virginia's site herecheck out Virginia's podcast hereCONNECT WITH HAN:follow Han herefollow HOW I SEE IT pod herefollow Han on TIK TOK herecheck out Han's blog here

Advice for marrying in your 30s, plus part two of a dating Q&A with Jonathan Pokluda, and maximizing your engagement season. Featured musical artist: Nathan Tasker ( http://www.nathantasker.com/ ) Roundtable: Marriage Challenges For 30-Somethings Marrying in your 30s gives you the benefits of a little more life experience, stability and (hopefully) maturity. But it also comes with unique challenges. You've become more settled in your ways, you've accumulated some baggage, and you're maybe a bit more cynical. Nate and Melinda recently married in their 30s and did the hard work of addressing some of their individual issues before tying the knot. Dr. Trent Langhofer counseled them individually as well as together to help give their marriage the healthiest start possible. All three join us this week to share their journey. Culture: Dating Q&A With Jonathan Pokluda (Part 2) After years of working with young adults, Pastor Jonathan (JP) Pokluda has fielded just about every dating question you could imagine. He joins us to answer even more, and this time they're your questions — asked by live audience members and submitted on social media. In part two this week, JP answers questions about reaching the commitment stage of a relationship, how to know if a guy is truly interested in you, and the worst dating advice he's ever heard. Get the book: "Outdated" for your donation of any amount:: https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-boundless-2022-06-30?refcd=1436602 Inbox: Making the Most of Engagement She's recently engaged and is wondering how to maximize this season. What are the best ways to prepare for marriage? What should she and her fiance keep in mind? Besides doing premarital counseling, should they read a book, set some goals, focus on certain conversations — or all of the above? Counselor Glenn Lutjens weighs in. Get the book: "How We Love": https://store.focusonthefamily.com/how-we-love/?refcd=1436602