Podcasts about restoring wholeness

You may have heard me mention IFS, or Internal Family Systems, in podcast episodes before. My guest today is going to go into much more detail, but briefly, IFS is a powerful and compassionate therapeutic framework for understanding the different “parts” within ourselves—like the inner critic, the protector, the people-pleaser. Through IFS, we can learn how to befriend and heal those parts so we can show up more fully as our true Self. I'm pretty fascinated by IFS and have seen how transformative it can be in helping people truly heal and find more peace in their lives. In my research, I came across a therapist who not only feels the same but has fully stepped into the intersection of IFS and neurodivergence. So of course, I had to invite them onto the show. In today's episode, you'll meet Jude Carn, a certified Level 3 Internal Family Systems (IFS) psychotherapist, international consultant, and passionate advocate for neurodiversity. Jude brings a powerful blend of lived experience and deep professional expertise to their work, and in this episode, we're exploring how IFS can be a transformative model for neurodivergent individuals and the families who support them. In our conversation, Jude walks us through the core concepts of IFS, explains how this framework can be especially healing for neurodivergent people—who often grow up feeling misunderstood, judged, or exiled—and shares insights on how IFS offers a respectful, empowering approach to trauma that allows each person to move at their own pace. Jude explains that recognizing and befriending one's own parts can lead to deeper self-acceptance and a better relationship with ourselves. IFS has been transformative for me, and it's really powerful to start from a place of knowing that you are not broken. Imagine what a difference it would make for all our neurodivergent kids to fundamentally know that they are not broken—and that no parts are bad. IFS can be a truly affirming starting point. I hope you get as excited about it as I do after this conversation.    About my guest Jude Carn is a level 3 certified IFS psychotherapist and approved consultant with the IFS Institute. Jude lives in the UK and works online internationally with some clients and mainly in supporting other therapists through supervision and consultation. Jude is a late diagnosed AuDHDer and an advocate for the recognition of neurodiversity as part of the human experience, rather than disorder.Jude creates and runs training, conference talks and groups supporting therapists to provide better support and care to their neurodivergent clients. She is genderqueer, and uses she/they pronouns. She co-hosts a podcast, Queering IFS which sets out other questions taken for granted norms around heteronormativity and neuronormativity as these present themselves in the world of therapy.Jude lives at home in rural Sussex with her two dogs and long term partner.   You'll learn: What IFS (Internal Family Systems) is and how it helps individuals foster deep self-acceptance through exploring inner parts Why every coping strategy has a purpose, often driven by protectors working to shield exiled parts that carry pain How recognizing and building relationships with internal parts can lead to profound healing and growth How IFS allows respectful trauma exploration at one's own pace Why neurodivergent individuals may especially benefit from IFS's flexible, creative, and affirming approach Ideas for how parents and therapists can help their children understand and connect with their parts   Resources: Jude's website, Anchored in Self Queering IFS Podcast Inneractive Cards Books for kids, teens, and adults about IFS No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwart, PhD Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

That voice in your head telling you you're not enough? It's not your enemy, it's part of your "Inner Crew" trying to protect you.In this mind-blowing episode, therapist Colleen West reveals why understanding your internal parts is the key to healing trauma and conquering anxiety. She breaks down the revolutionary Internal Family Systems approach that's taking the therapy world by storm.Discover why your anxiety exists, how childhood wounds still drive your adult decisions, and why that inner critic won't shut up. Plus, learn how to access your authentic "Self", the calm center that can finally bring peace to your mental battlefield.Cody shares his own journey using IFS to understand his workaholic tendencies, while Colleen explains how even pre-verbal trauma from infancy can be healed.Stop fighting yourself. Meet your Inner Crew and transform your relationship with every part of you that's been misunderstood.ℹ️ About the GuestsColleen West is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 25 years of experience helping individuals heal from trauma. As an Internal Family Systems Clinical Consultant and former EMDR Approved Consultant, Colleen brings a depth of expertise in transformative healing approaches that go beyond traditional talk therapy.She is the author of "We All Have Parts: An Illustrated Guide to Healing Trauma With Internal Family Systems," which makes complex psychological concepts accessible through thoughtful illustrations, as well as "The IFS Flip Chart: A psychoeducational Tool for Unlocking the Multiple Mind". Drawing from her own journey of healing childhood wounds, Colleen specializes in pre-verbal trauma and has developed unique insights into how our earliest experiences shape our adult lives.Instagram: @colleenwestTwitter/X: @colleenwestFacebook: Parts Work: Trauma-Informed IFSWebsites: https://www.colleenwest.com/ and https://smarttherapytools.com/LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/colleenwestiTunesSpotifyDownload as MP3

I have a coaching session for you this week, and in these sessions, I aim to pick topics that are universal. Maggie is brave today and coming on the show with a topic many of us struggle with, resentment, self-abandonment, and the rocky road to self-compassion.  I wanted to give this topic a voice because it's incredibly common. To normalize what it looks like when women find themselves stuck in cycles of indecisiveness, resentment, guilt, and burnout. Maggie's story is specific, but the themes? They're everywhere. In this session, we unpack what's getting in the way for Maggie and work together to create small, actionable steps that bring her closer to showing up for herself in meaningful ways. Her willingness to do the work on herself offers something for all of us - especially if you've been taught to prioritize everyone but yourself. You'll hear us talk about:  What it really looks like to explore resentments and why it matters (10:53) How self-abandonment sneaks into everything from parenting to partnership (26:19) Why you don't have to forgive someone in order to heal (28:07) How indecisiveness connects to fear, self-trust, and early family dynamics (28:39) What self-compassion can look like in real time (especially when it's new) (36:41) Resources: Coaching Single Sessions with Andrea No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, Richard Schwartz Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/677 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many of us hold the convenient belief that we possess a single identity. Dr. Richard Schwartz began challenging the flatness of that assumption in the early 1980s. His curiosity led to the creation of the Internal Family Systems Model (IFS), which recognizes the role of internal “parts” or subpersonalities that resemble a family structure.  Forty years later, Dick continues to expand on the model, exploring its capacity to resolve interpersonal conflicts, address broader societal issues, and reconnect us to our innate humanity. On this episode of Transforming Trauma, host Emily Ruth and Dr. Schwartz discuss how IFS helps clients reclaim their agency, restore inner harmony between their diverse parts, and strengthen their capacity to reveal their true self. About Dr. Richard Schwartz: Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, is the creator of Internal Family Systems, a highly effective, evidence-based therapeutic model that de-pathologizes the multi-part personality. His IFS Institute offers training for professionals and the general public. He is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, and has published five books, including No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. Dick lives with his wife Jeanne near Chicago, close to his three daughters and his growing number of grandchildren. Learn More: IFS Institute LinkedIn *** To read the full show notes and discover more resources, visit https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com/transformingtrauma SPACE: SPACE is an Inner Development Program of Support and Self-Discovery for Therapists on the Personal, Interpersonal, and Transpersonal Levels offered by the Complex Trauma Training Center. This experiential learning program offers an immersive group experience designed to cultivate space for self-care, community support, and deepening vitality in our professional role as therapists. Learn more about how to join. *** The Complex Trauma Training Center: https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com View upcoming trainings: https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com/schedule/ *** The Complex Trauma Training Center (CTTC) is a professional organization providing clinical training, education, consultation, and mentorship for psychotherapists and mental health professionals working with individuals and communities impacted by Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Complex Trauma (C-PTSD). CTTC provides NARM® Therapist and NARM® Master Therapist Training programs, as well as ongoing monthly groups in support of those learning NARM. CTTC offers a depth-oriented professional community for those seeking a supportive network of therapists focused on three levels of shared human experience: personal, interpersonal & transpersonal.  The Transforming Trauma podcast embodies the spirit of CTTC – best described by its three keywords: depth, connection, and heart - and offers guidance to those interested in effective, transformational trauma-informed care. We want to connect with you! Facebook @complextraumatrainingcenter Instagram @complextraumatrainingcenter LinkedIn YouTube      

In this final episode of the 4-part series on Internal Family Systems (IFS), let's recap and talk about the things we have learned. Drawing on insights from Richard Schwartz's and Jenna Riemersma's work, we can reflect on what we've learned about parts, how to get to know them, the use of journaling as a tool for connection, common pitfalls to watch out for, and the powerful role of the Self in healing. Whether you're new to IFS or ready to take the next step, this episode offers relatable examples and practical tips to Altogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems therapyAltogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and TrendsJenna RiemersmaNo Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems ModelIntroduction to Internal Family SystemsRichard Schwartz

Given our political situation in the United States, you may be hearing a lot of people–myself included–talk about living your values. Not just professing them, but really living them, even when it's uncomfortable. It's hard work that requires a lot of internal fortitude.But we so often default to acting against our values in order to protect ourselves and those we love from real or perceived danger–to our jobs, our reputations, dignity, physical safety, and more. We try to protect ourselves with compliance, while our silence does real harm to others.Those who have a history of relational trauma are especially likely to fear speaking up, even as they know their values and moral expectations are being violated. This collision of relational trauma with moral injury reinforces beliefs that the world is unsafe and that people in power cannot be trusted.My guest today is a survivor of abuse and cultish communities. She leans on her experiences of relational trauma and moral injury in her writing, teaching, and advocacy. The ongoing healing of her relational and betrayal wounds allows her to lead with courage and clarity, especially when it is not easy or convenient.Jamie Marich, Ph.D. (she/they) speaks internationally on EMDR therapy, trauma, addiction, dissociation, expressive arts, yoga, and mindfulness. They also run a private practice and online training network in their home base of Akron, OH. Marich has written numerous books, notably Trauma and the 12 Steps: An Inclusive Guide to Recovery and Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma-Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Life. She has won numerous awards for LGBT+ and mental health advocacy, specifically in reducing stigma around dissociative disorders through the sharing of her own lived experience.Listen to the full episode to hear:How Jamie learned to have more compassion for her mother as the bystander in the course of writing her memoirHow asking can I make a change here? can aid in deciding when and how to speak upHow binary judgments of healthy or unhealthy, healed or unhealed devalue the lifelong journey and process of healingHow to deflate your own judgments about where others are in their own journeysWhy leaders in health and wellness spaces need to be wary of one true way thinkingHow Jamie unpacked the concept of forgiveness from her religious childhood and made space for compassion and letting goHow growing up pretending everything was fine made Jamie value authenticity more fiercely as an adultLearn more about Dr. Jamie Marich:WebsiteRedefine TherapyThe Institute for Creative MindfulnessInstagram: @drjamiem, @traumatherapistrants TikTok: @traumatherapistrantsYouTube: @DrJamieMMYou Lied to Me About GodLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:Hidden Brain | Marching to Your Own Drummer with Sunita SahJonathan Shay, MD, PhDFrancine ShapiroNo Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, Richard Schwartz Ph.D.The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World, Desmond Tutu and Mpho TutuEMDR Made Simple: 4 Approaches to Using EMDR with Every Client, Jamie MarichHarvey MilkParable of the Sower, Octavia E ButlerI'm Not That GirlWickedRainbow BriteCats

On this episode: Nate is disjointed for southern migration. Aaron loves appetizers and dips. Both discuss limiting outrage porn and news.This week, Nate and Aaron interview Davis Kerwin. Davis is a registered nurse who became a certified health addiction counselor and uses internal family systems in his practice. He shares his background of multigenerational addiction, depression, and suicidality. His personal experiences include alcoholism from childhood and being caretaker for his dad, and father to his little brother. He shares a phenomena of being sober from alcohol for 10 years before remembering sexual abuse. Davis defines and helps understand the “acceptable” topic of process addiction, and how it's just another escape and way to medicate. He also talks about the 9 C's of self energy and how they help us in our healing journey.Links: Davis Kerwin Path 2 RecoveryBooks Mentioned: No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the IFS Model Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men to Authentic BrotherhoodMay 4-7, 2025 Sarah Society Annual Retreat June 6-8, 2025 Samson Canadian Retreat Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatSponsor: Life Works CounselingIf you have thoughts or questions and you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   path2recovery.org PATH - Healing addiction and its underlying trauma PATH is an international community centered on improving the lives of people all over the world struggling with addiction and its underlying trauma. Join our global community.  https://path2recovery.org/     Samson House Store Samson Canadian Retreat — Samson House Store J oin us at the Wesley Acres Retreat Centre & Campground from June 6-8, 2025 , for a weekend of growth, reflection, and community. This retreat is designed for men looking to strengthen their faith and recovery journey and connect with like-minded individuals in a beautiful natural setting.                

Have you ever felt like parts of yourself are missing? In this episode, Dr. Jen explores how to reclaim the lost or hidden pieces of who you are, weaving them back into a sense of wholeness. Through reflections and practical steps, you'll discover how to welcome these fragments HOME.  Contact: hello@drjenniferblossom.com  IG: @drjenniferblossom ITALY: BELLA VITA RETREAT DETAILS 

Have you ever felt like different parts of yourself were competing for attention and power? Maybe you have aspects of your personality that you're proud of, and others that you'd rather keep hidden from the world—the ones that tend to rear their heads in your not-so-shining moments. According to Internal Family Systems Therapy, a framework developed by today's guest, Dr. Richard Schwartz, we are all made up of sub-personalities or “parts.” IFS posits that by investigating and understanding where each of those parts come from and how they are dictating our current behavior, we can better understand our unique mental world and determine how to make change to support our healing and improve our relationships. Dr. Alexandra talks with Dr. Dick about how IFS has the potential to help individuals understand themselves, strengthen their romantic relationships, or even navigate the dating world. They also explore a question from a listener in Toronto who wants to feel more deeply understood in conversations with her boyfriend. IFS is a theoretical framework that has helped many folks, but as always, Dr. Alexandra encourages you to see what resonates with you in this conversation and what might be helpful to bring into your own processes of self-discovery and healing, and to your relationships. Relevant Links:IFS Institute: ifs-institute.comIntimacy From The Inside Out: https://ifs-institute.com/store/116No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D.: https://bookshop.org/p/books/no-bad-parts-healing-trauma-and-restoring-wholeness-with-the-internal-family-systems-model-richard-schwartz/16396062?ean=9781683646686You Are the One You've Been Waiting for: Applying Internal Family Systems to Intimate Relationships by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D.: https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-are-the-one-you-ve-been-waiting-for-applying-internal-family-systems-to-intimate-relationships-richard-schwartz/18790456?ean=9781683643623Story on IFS from NPR's Morning Edition: https://www.npr.org/sections/shots-health-news/2024/10/25/nx-s1-5055753/parts-work-therapy-internal-family-systems-anxiety#:~:text=At%20the%20center%20of%20IFS,his%20book%20No%20Bad%20Parts. Hey Reimagining Love Listeners! Quick note here that we're publishing new episodes on an every other week schedule with occasional bonus episodes sprinkled throughout, at least until the end of the year. If you're craving more content in the meantime, you can always search the back catalog and/or find juicy blog posts and other resources at http://dralexandrasolomon.com/

In the twenty-seventh episode of The Motherwhelm, I am joined by Madeline, a counsellor for millennial women and mum of one from Melbourne. She shares how her journey into motherhood challenged her people-pleasing tendencies and opened up a wellspring of creativity, allowing her to embrace her passions in ways she never thought possible. Texts mention in this episode: No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model Paperback by Richard Schwartz

As complex beings, we all encompass many different inner parts, or aspects of ourselves. Often, these parts may conflict, or we may feel ashamed or angered by those parts that we consider “bad” and therefore, try to suppress them. However, each of our parts serves a particular function that is meant to help us in some way, and by understanding where they all might have come from, how they work together, and how to foster healing and harmony among our various parts when needed, we can create space for our true, core selves to shine through.  Dr. Richard Schwartz, our guest in Episode 207 of The Mindset Game® podcast, is the creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), a widely used, evidence-based form of psychotherapy that is particularly effective for dealing with trauma. It provides a non-pathologizing, optimistic, and empowering perspective and a practical set of techniques for working with individuals, couples, families, corporations, and classrooms. After beginning his career as a family therapist, Dr. Schwartz now serves on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, and has published five books, including “No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model.” In this week's episode, Dr. Schwartz shares the following: The 8 Cs of “Self” or Self-leadership — calm, confident, curious, compassionate, courageous, creative, clear, and connected — which represent who we truly are at our core when we allow the other parts of ourselves to step aside and create space How understanding the different parts of ourselves can help us become more effective leaders, particularly for those who may have developed an over-attachment to the inner parts that have fueled their success A framework to better understand the different parts of yourself – including the critics, protectors, managers, and inner children – and why they may behave in certain ways Dr. Schwartz then guides us through an exercise designed to help us get in touch with those parts of ourselves that serve as protectors.  To learn more about Dr. Schwartz and Internal Family Systems (IFS), visit https://ifs-institute.com.  To learn more about The Mindset Game podcast, visit www.TheMindsetGame.com. To subscribe, visit https://apple.co/3oAnR8I.  For more information about IFS-informed leadership coaching and training programs, visit MomentumInstitute.com.

There is a common belief and drive that we have good and bad in us. That we are at war with our flesh. We mean well but we fall to this darkness inside of us. I'm a spiritual guy who has placed faith in Jesus. Just my personal decision. I have decided to put faith in the existence of good and evil. But here I'm going to step outside and look at this more scientifically. In the previous episode I talked with Dr Richard Schwartz about the message in his new book, No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. He claims we don't have a mono-mind, one mind, we have multiples. And they all have a valuable role. They aren't inherently bad. The opportunity is to understand them, and use them for productive reasons, instead of viewing them as faulty and fighting or falling to them. If you feel you are often fighting with and falling to the bad parts of yourself, you may find great value here. Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don't want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.   Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Get 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and enter code "KEVIN" at checkout. Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I have a paradigm shift that will alter your drive. We are all raised in the mono-mind belief system, the idea that we have one mind, and from this one mind we have an infinite amount of differing thoughts and emotions and impulses and urges. That we often feel are competing against each other. We think of our good selves and our bad selves. Our healthy and unhealthy aspects. And we get frustrated and feel guilty that our one mind seems so schizophrenic. My guest today has a very different theory and perspective. From his research he believes we have a multiple personality, and all the parts are doing what they are supposed to. If we understand this, we can use them in harmony to help us be our best selves. Richard C. Schwartz, is an American systemic family therapist, academic, author, and creator of the Internal Family Systems branch of therapy. He developed his foundational work with IFS in the 1980s after noticing that his clients were made up of many different pieces or "parts" of their "Self.” Dick is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, and his latest of five books is called, No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. The forward is by renowned music artist, Alanis Morissette who credits Dick's work with IFS as revolutionizing her own therapy and life perspective and even bringing her to her core spirituality. Famed physician Gabor Maté and psychologist Bessel Van Der Kolk attest to IFS as one of the most innovative and transformational therapies to have emerged in the present century. I sat down with Dick to dig into Internal Family Systems and the message in his new book, No Bad Parts, to uncover how changing our paradigm on the different parts of our minds can significantly alter what drives us for the better. Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don't want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.   Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Get 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and enter code "KEVIN" at checkout. Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of YKDS, therapists Cara and Rythea delve into a powerful therapeutic process with Rythea, exploring how her triggers impact her parenting choices. Using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy modality as a guide, they help Rythea to identify and understand the different parts of herself that influence her feelings and behaviors and how they come into her parenting, particularly in relation to a painful experience she's currently facing. Rythea explores triggers around being an activist, keeping her and her daughter safe, and how that relates to her childhood.Rythea and Cara introduce working with inner parts, illustrating the deep feelings and beliefs that exist inside of our inner child parts. Through Rythea's process, they demonstrate how to identify different parts within oneself, discovering the reasons these parts emerge and how they influence our reactivity with our kids. This episode provides practical insights for parents, showing how IFS can be a valuable tool for understanding triggers, with examples of parts work in action to improve parenting and self-healing.This episode is particularly valuable for parents seeking to better understand their feelings and actions and to identify what they truly need to do for their internal and external family systems. An episode that directly addresses how our inner work impacts our children, it offers unique insights into improving family dynamics. It's a hopeful resource for parents looking to navigate their emotions and actions towards a more harmonious family life!Check out the book Cara and Rythea refer to on Internal Family Systems (IFS) - No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Dick Schwartz, Founder of IFS: https://ifs-institute.com/nobadparts--It's important and essential to put our voices (Rythea and Cara) in a context. We are two white, cis-gender, straight, middle-class women living with financial and societal privilege. Because of this, our perspectives are limited and do not reflect the realities of all our listeners. This podcast will feature guests with expertise around conscious parenting who differ in gender, race, class, abilities, sexual orientation, and histories from us, to broaden the conversation and reflect the lives of as many people as possible. 25% of the proceeds of this podcast will go to creators of color who have been mentors and influences on our work and in our growth as parents. You can donate to this podcast by going to https://linktr.ee/yourkidsdontsuck

Episode 119. In today's solo episode, I'm going to share some of what I've learned about IFS and how it works based on both my personal and professional experiences thus far. I'm also going to talk about learning to slow down, how it's a journey I'm still on, and how IFS helps me actually do it, specifically focusing on my example of my Overworking Part, which I learned as I talked through this episode is very linked with my "Optimizing my Experience" Part (also described in my episode with Randi Rubenstein). In this episode I share my process of recognizing my Overworking/Optimizing Parts, appreciating them, and helping to do things (like record this episode for you!) from a more embodied and grounded place. In the middle of the episode, I lead you through an IFS based meditation to get to know a Protector Part of yours, Overworking Part or otherwise. Then I cover 3 of the main lessons I've learned from experiencing IFS. Without further ado, let's dive in! But First, Words of Wisdom “Compassion as a spontaneous aspect of Self blew my mind, because I'd always assumed and learned that compassion was something you had to develop. There's this idea—especially in some spiritual circles—that you have to build up the muscle of compassion over time, because it's not inherent. Again, that's the negative view on human nature at play. To be clear, what I mean by compassion is the ability to be in Self with somebody when they're really hurting and feel for them, but not be overwhelmed by their pain. You can only do that if you've done it within yourself. That is, if you can be with your own exiles without blending and being overwhelmed by them and instead show them compassion and help them, then you can do the same for someone in pain who's sitting across from you.”― Richard C. Schwartz, No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model The Top 3 Lessons I Have Learned Through Experiencing IFS Cognitive Self-Compassion is Very Different Than Heart Self Compassion. It's totally different. And I was definitely always practicing the cognitive type. This really came to light for me when I talked with Dr. Allyn Richards in episode 108 (you can listen here). We both experienced compassion for ourselves by practicing IFS in a way that was totally different than anything we've tried to do in the past. You Have to Life it to Give It. Hearing this always felt annoying to me. But also so true. I always heard that you shouldn't teach meditation if you don't have a meditation practice. Well, I occasionally taught it, but I definitely didn't have a practice. Talking About Parts is Very Different than Talking to and Building a Relationship with Parts. One of my trainers in my Level 1 mentioned that she often sees therapists saying they are doing IFS, when really they are talking about parts with clients, which can be helpful. Many of us, therapists especially, have developing amazing conceptualization and analyzing parts that helped us a TON. And also, they are still parts. When you truly build a relationship with and honor these parts, new levels of healing and embodiment open up, likely that you didn't believe were truly possible. Wanting more support beyond these podcasts? I am currently accepting new therapy clients if you live in one of these 40 states in the US My rate for an intake session is $220 and for a 45 minute follow up is $195 If interested in learning more, including my availability and details about my practice, email me at info@drshawnhondorp.com or call 616-227-0001 Or if you are a therapist of helping professional looking to connect in community and learn more about or experience the IFS model, get on my email list here and/or email me at info@drshawnhondorp.com to introduce yourself! We may be starting another IFS based community group soon. “I know I shouldn't focus on weight loss, but…” (Polarized Parts Alert!)

Have you ever felt divided inside yourself? Perhaps there's part of you who really wants to do something and part of you who doesn't. Or part of you that feels sad regarding an ending and part of you that is relieved. Maybe there's a part of you that still longs for a certain dream or a part of you that still carries the burden of a criticism you received a long time ago. We often described our complex feelings using this language... "Part of me feels (fill in the blank)." In this episode we're going to address our many different parts, and how this concept can help us to more fully understand our emotions and triggers they might bring. Most importantly of all, is the invitation we all have to love these different parts of who we are. Even those parts that annoy us or that we would rather reject. We're going to learn how to talk to those parts with love and understanding so we can move into wholeness instead of staying divided in fractal parts inside. SHOWNOTES:Use code ONEHEART30 to get 30 days free on the Co Create App and gain access to the guided meditations and Q&A that accompanies this Reclamation of Feeling course. No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with The Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz

296. Abby & Amanda's IFS Therapy Sessions with Richard Schwartz: Why We Do What We Don't Want to Do In Part 2 of our Internal Family Systems (IFS) discussion with IFS founder Richard C. Schwartz, we dive into how to recognize and hear from your own parts, how to know when you are being led by your parts instead of your true self, and Abby and Amanda each have a transformative on-air IFS therapy sessions! Discover:  -The KEY to uncovering your true self;  -How to apply IFS to parenting; -Abby's revelation during her IFS session about how to finally find self-love;  -The parts behind Amanda's journey to satisfaction; and  -How to have compassion AND Gratitude for your inner critic; For Part 1 of this conversation, check out: _____________________________ (---insert final title here AND HYPERLINK TO PRIOR EPISODE HERE)  For our earlier episodes that deal with IFS, check out: Episode 170. The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky Kennedy; and Episode 252. Martha Beck Helps Amanda Let Go  Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, is the creator of Internal Family Systems, a highly effective, evidence-based therapeutic model that depathologizes the multi-part personality. His IFS Institute offers training for professionals and the general public. He is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School and has published five books, including No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model.  Social Media:  Instagram: @internalfamilysystems To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A recording of excerpts from a SAND Community Gathering hosted by Zaya and Maurizio Benazzo. Trauma has a way of separating us from parts of ourselves. Painful experiences cause protective parts to take over, isolating our inner wounds in an effort to help us survive. Yet, avoiding our emotional injuries rarely leads to true healing. In this conversation, Internal Family System (IFS) founder Richard Schwartz outlined how to transform our relationship with the wounded parts holding our unresolved injuries. Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, is the creator of Internal Family Systems, a highly effective, evidence-based therapeutic model that de-pathologizes the multi-part personality. His IFS Institute offers training for professionals and the general public. He is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, and has published five books, including No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. Dick lives with his wife Jeanne near Chicago, close to his three daughters and his growing number of grandchildren. Topics: 00:00 – Introduction 02:00 – Intro to Internal Family System (IFS) 16:48 – IFS work with Maurizio 29:16 – Ancestor and Legacy Work 38:12 – Altered States of Consciousness in IFS Work 44:20 – Exiled Parts That Become Cultural Patterns Support the mission of SAND the production of this podcast by becoming a SAND Member.

295. Inside an Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy Session with Glennon & Richard C. Schwartz You don't want to miss this riveting deep dive into Internal Family Systems (IFS) – the revolutionary therapy model that Glennon has been using in her recovery – with IFS founder Dr. Richard C. Schwartz. Dr. Schwartz even does an on-air IFS session with Glennon!   Discover:  -Finally, the answer to the question “Why do I do what I don't want to do?”  -How our parts get exiled or locked away and the path to free them;  -Why your self-sabotaging parts often believe you are a very little kid and how to update them; and -The must-hear healing revelation from Glennon's live therapy session with Dr. Schwartz. CW: Self-harm, eating disorders For our prior episodes that deal with IFS, check out: Episode 170. The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky Kennedy; and Episode 252. Martha Beck Helps Amanda Let Go  Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, is the creator of Internal Family Systems, a highly effective, evidence-based therapeutic model that depathologizes the multi-part personality. His IFS Institute offers training for professionals and the general public. He is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, and has published five books, including No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. Social Media:  Instagram: @internalfamilysystems To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Here we explore what the Internal Family Systems [IFS] model encompasses and how healing our own inner world can create ripples of compassion that extend from ourselves to our communities. Schwartz encourages people to listen to these parts with spaciousness and personal curiosity so as to ultimately live a more balanced life. Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. is the creator of the therapeutic model known as Internal Family Systems [IFS] and founder of the IFS Institute which offers training for professionals and the general public. Formerly an associate professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Illinois at Chicago and later at Northwestern University, he is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School. He is the author of many books including No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma, and Restoring Wholeness with The Internal Family Systems Model (Sounds True 2021)Interview Date: 1/26/2024 Tags: Richard C. Schwartz, Hakomi, inner critic, attachment theory, shame, Personal Transformation, Psychology

Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. is the creator of the therapeutic model known as Internal Family Systems [IFS] and founder of the IFS Institute which offers training for professionals and the general public. Formerly an associate professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Illinois at Chicago and later at Northwestern University, he is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School. He is the author of many books including No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma, and Restoring Wholeness with The Internal Family Systems Model (Sounds True 2021)Interview Date: 1/26/2024 Tags: Richard C. Schwartz, Internal Family Systems, IFS, alternative therapy sessions, family therapy, multiple personality disorder, legacy burdens, inner protector, psychotherapy, Personal Transformation, Psychology

Therapy can be a big help for some people. But for stressed-out parents, healing our old wounds and stepping up for our kiddos often requires a different approach. One of my Masterminders, Dr. Shawn Hondorp, has experienced this disconnect from the inside. Shawn is an experienced clinical psychologist who isn't satisfied with the tools and techniques of the traditional diagnostic therapy methods. She's developing a new approach to improving mental health.Shawn's practices reject pathology and easy labels. Instead, they help you identify your old patterns of thoughts and feelings, understand why they were woven, and put them to work in ways that help rather than hinder your growth. I'm honored that working with me has helped her find the courage to share this new vision of what therapy can accomplish, and I can't wait for you to learn about it!In this episode, you'll learn:How a focus on efficiency and accomplishment can actually cost us - and our kiddos - more time and energy in the long run.The real reason why we struggle with negative self talk, and how that context can help you keep it from overwhelming you.Why pack leaders need other pack leaders they can lean on and grow with.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-280About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/About Our GuestDr. Shawn Hondorp is a clinical psychologist whose goal is to create safe learning environments for those who want to explore innovative approaches to healing, one authentic conversation at a time. Learn more about her work, and subscribe to The Innovative Therapist Podcast, at https://drshawnhondorp.com/ Resources Discussed/LinksNo Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dick Schwartz https://ifs-institute.com/store/419Decolonizing Therapy: Oppression, Historical Trauma & Politicizing Your Practice, by Dr. Jennifer Mullan https://www.decolonizingtherapy.com/book Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course!

In this episode of "Voices with Vervaeke," John Vervaeke and guest Seth Allison offer an insightful exploration into the depths of psychotherapy, focusing on internal family systems (IFS) and its connections with Jungian psychology and attachment theory. John and Seth delve into the theoretical and practical realms of IFS, as founded by Dick Schwartz, highlighting its transformative potential in clinical practice. The conversation traverses the historical development of psychological theories, the intricacies of the human psyche, and the therapeutic efficacy of blending IFS with emotional therapy (EFT). By weaving together theory and practice, Seth and John illuminate the path towards healing and wholeness.   Seth Allison is a renowned psychotherapist specializing in internal family systems (IFS) and its integration with traditional psychotherapy. With years of clinical practice, Seth brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to the conversation, offering valuable insights into the therapeutic journey.    Glossary of Terms   Internal Family Systems (IFS): A psychotherapy model that emphasizes the multiplicity of the mind, suggesting that the psyche is made up of subpersonalities or parts. Jungian Analysis: A psychotherapeutic approach based on the theories of Carl Jung, focusing on the integration of the conscious and unconscious aspects of the psyche.   John Vervaeke: Website: https://johnvervaeke.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@johnvervaeke  Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/johnvervaeke   X: https://twitter.com/vervaeke_john   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VervaekeJohn/   Seth Allison: Website: Grow Collective - https://www.growcollective.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seth-allison-13abb811b/ Join our new Patreon https://www.patreon.com/johnvervaeke   The Vervaeke Foundation - https://vervaekefoundation.org/   Awaken to Meaning - https://awakentomeaning.com/   John Vervaeke YouTube After Socrates: Episode 8 - The Socratic Shift | Dr. John Vervaeke https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AALyoLXE0AQ Books, Articles, and Publications   No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model - Richard Schwartz https://www.amazon.com/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1683646681 Many Minds, One Self: Evidence for a Radical Shift in Paradigm - Richard C. Schwartz, Robert R. Falconer  https://www.amazon.com/Many-Minds-One-Self-Evidence/dp/0692957340/ The Theradelic Approach: Psychedelic Therapy. Perspective, Preparation, and Practice - Sunny Strasburg, Richard Schwartz https://www.amazon.com/Theradelic-Approach-Psychedelic-Perspective-Preparation/dp/B0C7JJB5WY In Midlife: A Jungian Perspective - Murray Stein https://www.amazon.com/Midlife-Jungian-Perspective-Murray-Stein/dp/1630510890/ Jung's Map of the Soul: An Introduction - Murray Stein  https://www.amazon.com/Jungs-Map-Soul-Murray-Stein/dp/0812693760/ A Spirit of Trust: A Reading of Hegel's Phenomenology - Robert B. Brandom https://www.amazon.com/Spirit-Trust-Reading-Hegels-Phenomenology/dp/0674976819/   Quotes   "The pursuit of wisdom and virtue from an attachment perspective could be framed as the pursuit of trust, learning of trust. It is a dangerous thing to trust, yet we can't really get to the next level without some risk. The connections we make externally and internally really are the key forward, the door to walk through." - Seth Allison [01:21:08] Chapters    [00:00:00] - Introduction to Seth Allison and Recap of Previous Discussions [00:05:00] - Exploring Internal Family Systems (IFS) [00:20:00] - Jungian Analysis and Its Intersection with IFS [00:35:00] - Practical Applications of IFS in Therapy [00:50:00] - The Interplay of Technique, Attachment, and Transformation in Psychotherapy [01:05:00] - Navigating the Liminal Spaces of the Psyche with Hermes [01:16:00] - Conclusion and Plans for Future Conversations  

This episode of The Sober Butterfly podcast explores the profound journey of self-love within the context of sobriety. Join Nadine as she delves into the transformative power of embracing all parts of oneself: the good, the bad, and the ugly, while cultivating compassion, and discovering authentic love in this journey of sobriety.We also get into:Embracing Vulnerability: Acknowledging the challenges and vulnerabilities on the path to sobriety is the first step towards self-love.Cultivating Compassion: Learning to treat oneself with kindness and understanding, especially during difficult moments, is essential for nurturing self-love.Uncovering Authenticity: Sobriety provides an opportunity to rediscover and embrace one's true self, free from the constraints of addiction.Seeking Support: Surrounding oneself with a supportive community and seeking professional help can aid in the cultivation of self-love and sobriety.To connect with Nadine:Follow on IG: @the.soberbutterfly @soberbutterflypodcastFollow on TikTok @the.soberbutterflySubscribe to YouTube channel Subscribe to our monthly newsletter,  https://thesoberbutterfly.com/Resources from the Episode:The Love Atiya Experience Podcast - Sober Sex & Healthy Dating Tips with Nadine No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model Sober Toolboxes, But Make Them Sensory FREEBIE Guide to Quitting Alcohol - 30 Day Transformation (course)Partners:Drink MomentUse Code TSB23 for 25% off your orderAudibleFree 30 Day Trialhttps://www.audibletrial.com/tsb24Thanks for tuning in! New episodes premiere every Wednesday !Support the showSupport the showPlease note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services refereed to in this episode.

Dr. Rick and Forrest are joined by Dr. Richard Schwartz, creator of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy, to explore how we can integrate all the aspects of who we are. They explain the IFS model, the nature of parts and their roles, and how we can use this knowledge to increase self-awareness and deal with common problems. Then Rick and Dr. Schwartz dive deep into the nature of the “Self,” where it comes from, and how we can tune into and strengthen it.This was a wide-ranging conversation, and we were thrilled to have Dr. Schwartz on the podcast again. You won't want to miss this one.About our Guest: Dr. Richard “Dick” Schwartz is the creator of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy, and has authored a number of books and over fifty articles focused on IFS. His newest book is No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model.Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there. Key Topics:0:00: Introduction2:15: Quick explanation of the IFS Model6:45: Releasing the “Self”11:10: Where does the Self come from?16:00: How the practical side of IFS connects to the spiritual23:20: The four goals of IFS, and parts of parts26:15: Becoming your own attachment figure32:15: Richard's experience integrating his exiled parts37:25: Personification in IFS. Why think in terms of “parts”? 46:15: Why befriend our “bad” parts?49:55: The non-pathologizing nature of IFS in a clinical framework55:25: First and second darts57:15: Identifying parts with curiosity, courage, and physical awareness1:03:25: How asking yourself questions gets you in touch with your intuition1:12:45: RecapYou can watch this episode on YouTube.Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!   You'll also find the bonus questions & answers from this recording and can listen in ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon!   Resources / Topics / Honorable Mentions Article: “Sailboat Metaphor” on scottbarrykaufman.com Article: “Why we Need to Evolve Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs from a Pyramid to a Sailboat Metaphor” by Kyle Kowalski Book: “No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model” Topic: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs   Topic: Sailboat of Needs Topic: Motivational Interviewing Website: Chat GPT at chat.openai.com Website: IFS Institute (Internal Family Systems) at ifs-institute.com Website/App: Goblin Tools at goblin.tools

Watch the YouTube version of this episode HEREAre you a lawyer who is struggling with keeping your head above water? In this podcast episode, Jim and Tyson interview Maria Parker, a training and development consultant specializing in trauma-informed practice. Maria shares her journey from mental health nursing to psychotherapy, her work with legal professionals, and her approach to addressing mental health issues. There is no doubt that legal professionals deal with stress, trauma and burnout. It is a part of the job that some handle well and others don't at all. Lawyers work with people who are going through tough times and deal with situations that are not light in nature, Maria talks about the psychotherapy approach she brings to addressing this aspect of the job. Many lawyers deal with trauma and the profession is the perfect way to get away from it. Working a job that is always busy and on the go allows for your brain cognitively to leave your body or leave that trauma and focus on other people's needs. Lawyers are always thinking about the client, the case, prepping for the trial and the list goes on. It is the perfect way to not think about anything that is upsetting you personally.Maria talks about the importance of having a safe space for people to talk about their trauma and stressors. A lot of people will not tell anyone about their troubles because they may feel that person will judge them or misunderstand them. Once there is a safe space, whether that be in a friend's home or therapist's office, people feel validated in their thoughts and experiences. From this point, things can really change for someone who is going through a hard time. There is an issue with just diagnosing someone and prescribing medication so they can deal with the pain and go on with life. Maria believes it is crucial to get the diagnosis and acknowledge it, but then parking it and getting to what is underneath. This means getting to the root of the trauma and working backwards to know what has led someone to where they are now.Tyson, Jim and Maria talk about how common anxiety is among lawyers. Because of the stressful nature of the legal field, many lawyers struggle with anxiety and all that comes with it. There is a struggle to say yes to everything because of the competition that exists within firms. Many lawyers don't get much rest because they are up at all hours working on cases or researching for their trials. There is also an emotionless nature that comes with law where lawyers have to be serious and stone cold to remain professional, which really adds to someone feeling anxious. Listen in to learn more from Maria Parker!1:57 Maria shares the gap she saw in addressing stress and trauma in the legal profession11:11 The significance of creating a safe space for individuals in therapy20:43 The increasing prevalence of anxiety among lawyers23:15 How anxiety serves as a protective mechanismJim's Hack: Check out the book “Going Infinite: The Rise and Fall of a New Tycoon”, by Michael Lewis. Which talks about Sam Bankman-Fried and the rise and fall of crypto. The book provides some good lessons on paying attention to the rules and about the importance of following procedures. Maria Tip: Check out the book “No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model” by Dr. Richard Schwartz which is all about family systems.Tyson's Tip: Check out the new feature in Canva called Magic Studio, in which you tell it what you want and it will create it for you using AI. https://www.canva.com/Connect with Maria:Linkedin  Resources: Join the Guild Membership Subscribe to the Maximum Lawyer Youtube Channel Follow us on Instagram Join the Facebook Group Follow the Facebook Page Follow us on LinkedIn

One of the most common complaints from high-performers? “I can't turn off my brain.” So we turn to doomscrolling, alcohol and other substances. Tara Schuster used weed to cope — until she blacked out and left a terrifying voice message for her therapist. [Episode 26] Tara is a former executive at Comedy Central (Key and Peele, David Spade) and 2x best-selling author. This episode discusses suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call or text 988 or visit988lifeline.org LEARN MORE ABOUT TARA Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: And Other Rituals to Fix Your Life, from Someone Who's Been There Glow in the F*cking Dark: Simple Practices to Heal Your Soul, from Someone Who Learned the Hard Way Instagram Substack REFERENCES FROM THE SHOW No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz Self Therapy: A Step-by-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness Using IFS, A Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy by Jay Earley Affect labeling JOIN OUR GROUP COACHING COHORTS: Are you looking to ask deep, introspective and provocative questions about your own life (with Khe and likeminded peers) ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply today⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ BECOME A RADREADER:

Have you ever tried to hold a kickboard underwater? Besides being extremely hard, it requires all your attention and prevents you from enjoying the pool. The same thing happens when you suppress emotions and bully the parts of you that are trying to make it to the surface. Wouldn't it be better to welcome those parts and understand the origins of those emotions? What if you let them float and were able to build a harmonious relationship with them? In today's episode, the brilliant Dr. Erin Baker joins us to talk about Internal Family Systems, personal growth, healing, acceptance, self-leadership, and more. Dr. Erin is a Self-Leadership Coach, Business Strategist, Social Psychologist, Internal Family Systems Practitioner, and Official Curator of Joy. They hold a Ph.D. in Psychology, authored the best-selling book "Joy-Full AF: The Essential Business Strategy We're Afraid to Put First," and host two podcasts, "Shift-Starters" and "Life in the And."In this episode, you'll hear Dr. Erin's clear and compelling description of Internal Family Systems, how it can help you address the parts of you that cause pain and get in your way, and how you can use them as your allies. You'll also hear about joy audits, transgender and non-binary identities, the power of curious compassion, and much more. Additionally, Dr. Erin invites us to discard the idea that success is only attainable through being miserable for long periods. They encourage us to see the connections between success and joyful experiences. Dr. Erin also helps us understand how to deal with the parts of us that are terrified of making mistakes.Tune in and listen to Episode 20 and let Dr. Erin inspire you to understand the parts of you that scream for attention, lose the fear of putting joy first, and live joy-full AF. In This Episode, You Will Learn:What is Internal Family Systems? (6:20)Stop trying to hold the kickboard underwater (12:30)Your inner parts are a symphony (18:20)Dr. Erin talks about self-leadership (23:00)Joy isn't about taking only the easy paths (28:40)About trans joy and non-binary identities (36:20)Resources Mentioned:Book: Dr. Erin Baker - Joy-Full AF: The Essential Business Strategy We're Afraid To Put FirstBook: Richard Schwartz, Alanis Morissette - No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems ModelShift Starters podcastLife in the And podcastWe Can Do Hard Things Podcast - The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky KennedyConnect with Dr. Erin:WebsiteInstagramLinkedIn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Joy is not just an emotion; it's a deep alignment with the self. And those of us who are in the LGBTQ+ community know better than most communities about what it really feels like to wake up with joy at your core because who you are is aligned." - Dr. Erin Baker.In today's episode, we are joined by the amazing Dr. Erin Baker, Executive Coach, Elite Certified Neurotransformational Coach, Internal Family Systems L2 Practitioner, and Self-Leadership Expert. Erin earned a PhD in Social Psychology and is the Bestselling Author of "Joy-Full AF: The Essential Business Strategy We're Afraid to Put First." They led a UX Research team at Facebook, were part of bringing Facebook Stories to 2 billion people, and were the Director of UX Research and Design at Microsoft Yammer. Throughout this episode, a true testament to the uniqueness of everyone's gender experience, Erin discusses the process of coming to terms with their nonbinary gender identity throughout adolescence and early adulthood. They also share some of the challenges they faced, especially at the beginning. And we learned a lot thanks to Erin's openness about their top surgery, which led to a greater feeling of alignment with their gender. It was also interesting to hear about Erin's experiences as a nonbinary person working for tech giants. Additionally, Erin talks about their book, the multiple benefits of pursuing joy, Self-Leadership Coaching, Internal Family Systems, and much more. In This Episode, You Will Learn:About Dr. Erin's coming out story (6:40)Erin shares a bit about their experience with they/them pronouns and being misgendered (11:00)The retreat in Mexico that changed everything for Erin (18:10)Erin shares their thoughts on top surgery (24:00)What is Self-Leadership? Erin shares their perspectives on it (39:00)Pursue joy and success will follow (45:50)Resources Mentioned:Book: Dr. Erin Baker - Joy-Full AF: The Essential Business Strategy We're Afraid To Put FirstBook: Richard Schwartz, Alanis Morissette - No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems ModelConnect with Dr. Erin:WebsiteInstagramLinkedInConnect with Jackie and Bridget:Transgender Support: Becoming a True Ally Video Course on VimeoTransgender School Patreon Membership with all exclusive contentTransgender School on MediumInstagramWebsiteFacebook Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everyone in our lives is just another insecure, fallible person, and not always the enemy. Today we celebrate our interconnectedness as humans. Read No Bad Parts, Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, mentioned in this episode.  “It's Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co. Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are. Share your OK thing at 612.568.4441 or by emailing IGTBO@feelingsand.co. – “It's Going To Be OK” is brought to you by The Hartford. The Hartford is a leading insurance provider that's helping to simplify employee benefits by making them more personal and easier to understand. The IGTBO team is Nora McInerny, Megan Palmer, Claire McInerny, Marcel Malekebu, Amanda Romani and Michelle Plantan. – The transcript for this episode can be found here. Find all our shows and our store at www.feelingsand.co.

"Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model"

Treating our kids fairly makes a lot of instinctive sense. It's natural to want everybody to get equal everything. But different kids have different needs. When they all get the same attention and resources, they'll often wind up with very different outcomes. Effective pack leadership requires an equity approach. We need to see our children as the whole, unique, special humans they are, and to show up for each of them in the ways that serve their individual needs best. Masterminder Lauren joins me to talk about the leadership approach she uses to build family trust and a sense of equity that are so much stronger than simplistic ideas of fairness.In this episode, you'll learn:Why a one-size-fits-all approach to our kids' needs is the opposite of fair.The central role humility plays in establishing trust, both professionally and with your family. How our culture looks down on parents seeking support, and how we can start to change that stigma.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-262About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/LinksSave your seat for our monthly FREE 60-minute coaching session: https://mastermindparenting.com/monthlyOur 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dick Schwartz https://ifs-institute.com/store/419

When I read The Success Myth by bestselling author Emma Gannon,I knew she really got what integrity was all about.It sounds wonderful. But, like most things that serve our whole selves,it's Really. Fucking. Hard.It's a lifelong practice that's constantly evolving,with tons of ups and down, victories and setbacks.Emma Gannon joins us to talk about her relationship with integrity,and how putting her values first has changed her life.Mentioned: Emma Gannon is a Sunday Times bestselling non-fiction author and award-winning novelist. Her most recent book, The Success Myth, was chosen as a “best book of the month” by Apple. She runs the popular newsletter The Hyphen on Substack at http://thehyphen.substack.com, and she's on Instagram @emmagannonuk.No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dr. Richard SchwartzMake Magic:Living in integrity isn't a straight line.It's a living process. It expands and contracts,ebbs and flows, grows and sheds.It requires us to embrace all the parts of ourselves,and listen closely to the messages they're sending us.

"Therapy Rambling" may sound intimidating, but y'all will love our special guest and dear friend, Paige Bledsoe, LCSW. Paige has spent the last 21 years helping teenagers and adults heal their wounded hearts, minds and souls.  In this episode, we talk specifically about imposter syndrome, inner child wounds, and how to find healing from the traumas we all experience. This episode is packed with practical, helpful information and is a conversation well worth listening to! You can learn more about Paige and connect with her on the iMInd website here Paige's recommendations: If you need help finding a therapist, Paige recommends the following websites: Psychology Today  and Choosing Therapy  The Journey to Secure Attachment - learn how your attachment style impacts all of your relationships (includes great diagrams)  The Attachment Project - great resource for learning your attachment style; great workbooks  Learn more about your inner child and internal family systems from the IFS Institute  Order Richard Schwartz book No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model Brene Brown's website Learn more about Mindfulness  Proverbs 16:24: "Kind words are like honey— sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." We LOVE connecting with you!    Join our Facebook group   • Follow us on Instagram • Follow us on TikTok   • Follow us on Pinterest  

Dr. Richard (Dick) Schwartz, founder of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, kicks off our new season 7. While Dick is not a graduate of the Hoffman Process, we asked him to be on the podcast because his life's work of IFS aligns beautifully with the work of the Process.** IFS was born in the 1980s when Dick began to work with clients in his therapy practice. Dick shares his story of how he came to see and work with the family system we each have within us. His discoveries about the inner landscape of human beings have helped thousands of people heal. You will hear Dick talk about parts and burdens. Parts are sub-personalities that, combined with the Self, make up who we are. Burdens consist of "extreme beliefs and emotions accumulated during intense experiences," particularly in childhood. When parts are ready to release these burdens, hence the term unburdening, "they transform into their naturally valuable states." This is akin to what happens in the Cycle of Transformation during the Hoffman Process. While developing IFS, Dick realized that at the heart of each person is the Self. He discovered that the Self is not a part like he was used to working with. The Self is the core Self of a human being. Eventually, the Self appears as the IFS work deepens. This is when healing truly begins to take place. Dick and Drew reference the Self, parts, the eight 'C's, exiles, protectors, and firefighters. Find out more about these terms in the As mentioned in this episode section below. **While the vast majority of our guests are Process graduates, we occasionally host experts in other modalities of healing that align with the work of the Process. Discover more about Dick Schwartz : Richard (Dick) Schwartz began his career as a family therapist and an academic at the University of Illinois at Chicago. While there, he discovered that family therapy alone did not achieve full symptom relief, and in asking patients why, he learned that they were plagued by what they called “parts.” His patients became his teachers as they described how their parts formed networks of inner relationships that resembled the families he had been working with. Dick also found that as they focused on and, thereby, separated from their parts, they would shift into a state characterized by qualities like curiosity, calm, confidence, and compassion. He called that inner essence the Self and was amazed to find it even in severely diagnosed and traumatized patients. From these explorations, the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model was born in the early 1980s. IFS is now evidence-based and has become a widely used form of psychotherapy, particularly with trauma. It provides a non-pathologizing, optimistic, and empowering perspective and a practical and effective set of techniques for working with individuals, couples, families, and more recently, corporations and classrooms. Currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, Dick has published five books, including No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. Dick lives with his wife Jeanne near Chicago, close to his three daughters and his growing number of grandchildren. Follow IFS on Social Media: Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, & LinkedIn. https://media.blubrry.com/the_hoffman_podcast/content.blubrry.com/the_hoffman_podcast/Drew_and_Dick_Schwartz_Podcast_Final.mp3 As mentioned in this episode: Family Therapy Systems Thinking Attachment Theory IFS Terminology The Self: "One other key aspect of the IFS Model also differentiates it from other models. This is the belief that, in addition to these parts, everyone is at their core a Self, containing many crucial leadership qualities such as perspective, confidence, compassion, and acceptance." Read more... The 8 'C's: "The eight Cs of self-leadership include: calmness, curiosity, clarity, compassion, confidence, creativity, courage, and connectedness." Read more...

Addiction plagues so many of us across the world. In this video, herbalist Ashley Elenbaas will talk about her personal experience with addiction, how to move toward joy, and the medicine of Comfrey as an ally of integration and healing during the recovery process for all those affected by this disease. Please view the resources below if you or someone you know needs help. You will also find links to purchase Comfrey leaves and the flower essence. Alcoholics Anonymous: https://www.aa.org/find-aaAlanon Family Groups: https://al-anon.org/Narcotics Anonymous: https://na.org/Book - No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz - https://bookshop.org/p/books/no-bad-parts-healing-trauma-and-restoring-wholeness-with-the-internal-family-systems-model-richard-schwartz/16396062?ean=9781683646686The Herbal Astrology Oracle - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-herbal-astrology-oracle-a-55-card-deck-and-guidebook-adriana-ayales/18302265?ean=9781401969035The Earthwise Herbal by Matthew Wood - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-earthwise-herbal-volume-i-a-complete-guide-to-old-world-medicinal-plants-matthew-wood/8309265?ean=9781556436925Organic Comfrey Leaves - https://mountainroseherbs.com/comfrey-leafComfrey Flower Essence - https://www.treefrogfarm.com/store/flower-essences-tree-essences/comfrey-flower-essence.html

There are different parts of ourselves that come up to the surface…that come up, that show up when we are being attacked or when we feel like we need to protect. And, it's only because there are certain parts of ourselves that's triggered. – Dr. Neeta Bhushan   Hey there, Brave Table fam! In today's episode, we're diving deep into a topic that's crucial to our relational success. We'll be exploring the concept of gaslighting - what it is, how to spot it in ourselves and those around us, and how it can affect our relationships. I'll be sharing some powerful techniques to help you navigate those tough conversations and challenging emotions that we all face from time to time.   In this episode, I talk about… Breaking down empathy, recognizing when others are denying experiences & minimizing feelings. Shifting blame, creating conflict & their impact on communication. Knowing your emotional Type & reacting in tough moments   It's so important to remember to acknowledge and validate the emotions of others, and equally vital to practice self-awareness and self-compassion in our own lives. Remember, our greatest teachers are the relationships we have with ourselves and others. As we navigate this journey towards recognizing and addressing gaslighting dynamics, let's find the beauty and healing in embracing our emotions.   Recommended Book:  No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard C. Schwartz, PhD Connect with me: Find me on Instagram @neetabhushan.  Find The Brave Table on Instagram @thebravetable. Watch this reel to learn how to spot gaslighting, like, then leave a comment. Take my NEW quiz to discover your emotional type during sucky, stressful moments.   If you loved this episode… Episode 119: Speaking Your Truth & How to Let Go of Resentment with Dr. Neeta Bhushan might also interest you. Apple | Spotify Episode 94: How To Have Hard Conversations & Not Get Triggered Around Family Members During the Holidays will help you speak your truth. Apple | Spotify Focus on relationships with Episode 50: Understanding Your Attachment Styles To Create Boundaries in Relationships with Silvy Khoucasian. Apple | Spotify   Discussion Question:  In the context of gaslighting, how can we cultivate a safe and supportive environment in our relationships where open communication and emotional validation are encouraged? Join the conversation on Instagram @thebravetable!  Grab your limited edition MERCH while it's available here! Thatsuckednowwhat.com/shop We love hearing your feedback! Send a screenshot of your juicy 5-star review to support@globalgrit.co and we'll send you a FREE GIFT.

Every kiddo sometimes has a rough night and needs to crawl into bed with a parent. But what do you do when a rough night is every night for nine years? If you're anything like a mom I've been coaching, you get caught up in self-doubt, and you blame yourself for not doing the thing. But a lot of the time, what's getting in your way is a part of your personality that's trying to protect you from hurt and fear. What if you could take a step back and think about your responses from a place of understanding rather than judgment? In this episode, you'll learn: How self-criticism can short-circuit the learning process, and hold us back from the change we know we want. Why our yearning to not pass on our own trauma to our kids can lead us to give too much.  The possibilities that open up when we explore our inner patterns with compassion and curiosity. And much more!  As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/245 About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi's Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources Discussed/Links Apply to work with Randi at https://mastermindparenting.com/basics-bootcamp/  No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dick Schwartz https://ifs-institute.com/store/419

Our psyche is made up of different parts- each with it's own beliefs and behaviors… that sometimes get into conflict with one another. Learn how to use a NLP intervention that will create more wholeness and therefore internal peace for both you and your coaching clients. ----------  Free Resources:   No Bad Parts- Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, PhD NLP parts integration | NLP Sure  ----------  Stay Connected  Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com  

This might be my most vulnerable episode of Dear Gabby yet. I had SO much to cover with my guest, Dr. Richard (“Dick)” Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems therapy (and my hero!), that we kept rolling after our Big Talk episode, and ended up demoing a real, on-air session of Internal Family Systems therapy. And I'm the client! Don't miss this one!   Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, is the creator of Internal Family Systems therapy, a highly effective, evidence-based therapeutic model that de-pathologizes the multi-part personality. His IFS Institute offers training for professionals and the general public. He is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, and has published five books, including No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. Dick lives with his wife, Jeanne, near Chicago, close to his three daughters and his growing number of grandchildren. Want even more support? My NEW gabby™ coaching app makes personal growth easy to access. Get weekly lessons, guided meditations and proven manifesting methods to enhance every area of your life—on your own terms, at your own pace, all in one place. I'll be your coach to help you manifest your desires and live with an unshakeable sense of inner peace. Click here to join the waitlist. https://bit.ly/3X2560Q  I talk a lot about Internal Family Systems therapy in my book, Happy Days. Check it out for more on the practice, including my own experience with it and the impact it has had on my life. Get my most impactful meditation to release stress and calm anxiety. This 17-minute meditation will help you calm your mind, release tension and cultivate a sense of inner peace and stillness. Listen now to quiet your thoughts and connect with the present moment. Click here to get your free anxiety meditation. If you feel you need additional support, please consult this list of safety, recovery and mental health resources. I'm proud of you for your commitment to self-care. bit.ly/3p0AAY   Disclaimer: This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional.     Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.     If you want to take ownership of your health, try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase. Go to drinkAG1.com/GABBY.    For a limited time, Pique is offering 2 bonus gifts: a beaker and a frother when you head to piquelife.com/gabby     Produced by Dear Media.       

In this thought-provoking episode, Santi and Carlos share recent life updates and engage in a deep conversation with Leroy Mitchell from the Black Emotional and Mental Health Collective (BEAM). The spotlight is on Richard Schwartz's book 'No Bad Parts' and the transformative power of the Internal Family Systems Model in healing trauma and restoring wholeness. Tune in as we unravel the complexities of self-healing and psychological resilience.

Episode 94. Last episode I talked all about how Internal Family Systems (IFS) has changed my 1 on 1 practice. Check that episode out first if you haven't already because I give a general overview of IFS. This episode is all about some of the many ways IFS has impacted me personally, and some of the ways it's impacted me professionally and helped me think about our field in a more useful way. So excited to have you here! What to Expect in This Episode In this episode I will answer: How IFS has influenced me personally How it has changed how I think about the fields of weight management and eating disorders What I wish more professionals knew about healing people from disordered eating and weight-related concerns My top recommendations for people looking to learn more about IFS and how it relates to eating and weight concerns Are a therapist, dietitian or helping professional who works individuals struggling with disordered eating? Are you unsure of the best ways to help clients who say "I really like intuitive eating and what we are doing, but ultimately I really want to lose weight." You empathize. You tell them the science about dieting. But ultimately, that desire for weight loss keeps coming up and often interfering with their focus in treatment. How can you help them explore what is right for them without imposing you own agenda? I created this free step-by-step guide to walk you thought my #1 favorite exercise (based on Internal Family Systems theory) to help clients navigate this nuanced dynamic with parts of them that still want to lose weight. As a professional, it's my favorite way to help clients build self-trust, while also taking some of the pressure off of you to know the exact right advice to say or give. Total win-win. Grab it for free today! Support Local Bookstores Near You! Did you know that that if nothing slows their momentum, Amazon will have almost 80% of the book market by the end of 2025? Look, I love the convenience of Amazon, but I've got a super cool way that you can support local bookstores and my blog and podcast simply by buying books like you already do! You can choose any bookstore on the list in the US (they plan to expand to other counties in the future) OR you can just let the donation get split between all stores. They have raised over 15 million dollars for local bookstores. On my bookshop, you will see my absolute favorite books related to health and wellness, courage and vulnerability, and even my favorite fiction and kids books! My recent favorite related to achieving a deeper level of healing is No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. This model of healing has been incredibly helpful to me personally. I'm also using it with clients and seeing great results. This book isn't specific to eating or weight concerns, but is really one of the best ways I've found to help work with that deeper root cause of any behavior you are struggling with and I think you'll find it super interesting and valuable. So if you believe in supporting local businesses and want to support my blog and podcast, please consider buying your books through Bookshop from now on! The Psychology of Wellness Bookshop Link. Disclaimer: This blog and podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for individual professional advice or treatment, including medical or mental health advice. It does not constitute a provider patient relationship. Disclosure: Using the Bookshop.org links in this post means that I would get an affiliate fee if you purchase from the online bookshop (this supports my business, and local bookstores too!).

Episode 93. For this episode I recruited the wonderful Dr. Sapna Doshi back to interview me about my experiences in the past several months of immersing myself in the world of Internal Family Systems Theory. I've been learning IFS and beginning to apply it with several of my clients and have been seeing great results. It's also something I've been applying and to myself. Working with my parts (as IFS calls them) has been incredibly transformative for me. So in this two-part series, I will first share how Internal Family Systems has changed my 1 on 1 clinical practice, and in part 2 I will share how it has changed things for me personally and in my professional practice. What to Expect in This Episode In this episode I will answer: What is Internal Family Systems (IFS) and why should you care about it? How did I learn about it? How has it influenced my 1 on 1 practice? What are some of the biggest shifts I've seen? How can IFS merge (or not) with other forms of psychotherapy? Are a therapist, dietitian or helping professional who works individuals struggling with disordered eating? Are you unsure of the best ways to help clients who say "I really like intuitive eating and what we are doing, but ultimately I really want to lose weight." You empathize. You tell them the science about dieting. But ultimately, that desire for weight loss keeps coming up and often interfering with their focus in treatment. How can you help them explore what is right for them without imposing you own agenda? I created this free step-by-step guide to walk you thought my #1 favorite exercise (based on Internal Family Systems theory) to help clients navigate this nuanced dynamic with parts of them that still want to lose weight. As a professional, it's my favorite way to help clients build self-trust, while also taking some of the pressure off of you to know the exact right advice to say or give. Total win-win. Grab it for free today! Support Local Bookstores Near You! Did you know that that if nothing slows their momentum, Amazon will have almost 80% of the book market by the end of 2025? Look, I love the convenience of Amazon, but I've got a super cool way that you can support local bookstores and my blog and podcast simply by buying books like you already do! You can choose any bookstore on the list in the US (they plan to expand to other counties in the future) OR you can just let the donation get split between all stores. They have raised over 15 million dollars for local bookstores. On my bookshop, you will see my absolute favorite books related to health and wellness, courage and vulnerability, and even my favorite fiction and kids books! My recent favorite related to achieving a deeper level of healing is No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. This model of healing has been incredibly helpful to me personally. I'm also using it with clients and seeing great results. This book isn't specific to eating or weight concerns, but is really one of the best ways I've found to help work with that deeper root cause of any behavior you are struggling with and I think you'll find it super interesting and valuable. So if you believe in supporting local businesses and want to support my blog and podcast, please consider buying your books through Bookshop from now on! The Psychology of Wellness Bookshop Link. Disclaimer: This blog and podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for individual professional advice or treatment, including medical or mental health advice. It does not constitute a provider patient relationship. Disclosure: Using the Bookshop.org links in this post means that I would get an affiliate fee if you purchase from the online bookshop (this supports my business, and local bookstores too!).

John talks to Dr. Leah Katz, Clinical Psychologist helping others get unstuck, find healing, and live their most meaningful lives. Dr. Leah is also a speaker, author of Gutsy: Mindfulness Practices for Everyday Bravery, founder of Katz Counseling, media contributor (to CBS, Psychology Today, Huffington Post, ABC, Shape, and more), wife, and mom. Listen to this episode to learn more: [00:00] - Intro [01:25] - About Dr. Leah's book “Gutsy: Mindfulness Practices for Everyday Bravery” [03:23] - Dr. Leah's backstory [09:58] - Pain as a catalyst for personal growth and transformation [12:31] - Why Dr. Leah decided to go into the field of psychology [22:23] - The F6 Formula [23:17] - Train analogy for taking action before it's too late [26:03] - Learning the skills to have a healthy relationship [31:10] - How Dr. Leah improves her significant relationships [36:55] - Dr. Leah's definition of success [38:10] - The meaning behind the name Relationships & Revenue [39:15] - The difference between happiness and joy [40:52] - How can parents teach their children to be content [41:49] - Dr. Leah's top daily habit [42:41] - Dr. Leah's big fail and its consequences [46:10] - Best and worst parts of Dr. Leah's job [48:23] - How to get a free signed copy of “Gutsy” [50:08] - Dr. Leah's recommendation on books NOTABLE QUOTES: “We have to learn the skills to have a healthy relationship when we're younger … If you don't know it, you're just going to crash and burn; you're just going to go tumbling down that bridge.” “The hardest job you'll ever have is being married.” “Not only is it like not learning the skill to have a healthy relationship from the people that you witnessed growing up, but then you have all these unrealistic expectations of what a healthy relationship is. So it's like, how are we supposed to succeed at this and be happy.” “What we do as men many times is we're not able to give our wives what they need. They need to know from us. It is their relational oxygen. They need to know what's going on with us on the inside. They need to know our hopes, dreams, feelings, and emotions.”  “Your marriage is infinitely more important than any job or hobby.” “All relationships are a risk, but they are never a waste.”  “True wealth is in relationships.” “Success is getting up one more time than I fall down.” “Science shows we raise good kids through modeling … If you carve out a life for yourself and you're committed to finding your own joy and contentment, there's a good chance that you're going to raise kids who will value the same thing.” BOOKS MENTIONED: Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don't by Simon Sinek (https://tinyurl.com/LeadersEatLastBookSS) Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens (https://tinyurl.com/WhereTheCrawdadsSingBookDO) No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D. (https://tinyurl.com/NoBadPartsBook) USEFUL RESOURCES: https://www.drleahkatz.com  https://www.instagram.com/dr.leahkatz/ https://www.facebook.com/Dr.LeahKatz/ https://twitter.com/drleahkatz  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6hyYE80BOn-Lt7PxhRPwVQ https://tinyurl.com/GutsyBook  CONNECT WITH JOHN Website - https://thejohnhulen.com     Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/johnhulen     Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/johnhulen     Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/johnhulen     LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnhulen     YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLX_NchE8lisC4NL2GciIWA     EPISODE CREDITS Intro and Outro music provided by Jeff Scheetz - https://jeffscheetz.com/ 

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Do you sometimes feel that the nature of reality as it's been presented just doesn't add up? Let Kelly Brogan support you in becoming a Sovereign Creator of your own Reality. Only then does the invitation into authentic power present itself through the prism of reckoning with how we were stuck in paradigms of struggle, dependency, and meaninglessness… But what happens when the deception— one that we have colluded with and that has been handed down to us intergenerationally— runs even deeper than we'd like? Well, we just keep asking questions and putting one foot in front of the other… 20% Off with code "JOSH20" Listen To Episode 543 As Kelly Brogan, MD Uncovers: [01:30] Reclaim Your Power Of Choice Kelly Brogan, MD Sovereignty Series - 20% off with code "JOSH20" Own Your Self: The Surprising Path beyond Depression, Anxiety, and Fatigue to Reclaiming Your Authenticity, Vitality, and Freedom by Kelly Brogan, MD Why the plandemic was an invitation for Kelly to look inside. The meaning of the erotic caress of the enemy. Karpman Drama Triangle How to reclaim your power of choice. 535 Aaron Abke: The Law of ONE + How To Live In Love's Alignment Finding an opportunity to meet a part of yourself through negative experiences. [16:10] Sovereign Parenting Kelly's experience with death threats on social media. How to gain access to understanding your stress responses. Why she never wore a mask during the plandemic. How dynamic meditation helped her release anger. Wild Wild Country Why not sharing a reality with someone can feel like an existential threat. Coming from a place of love instead of projecting it onto others. Unpacking why judgment + choice = discernment. What sovereign parenting looks like. [41:00] Feminine + Masculine Polarities How to be fierce and humble. Kelly's connection to the divine as a former atheist. Graham Hancock Why we need a nervous system capacity to be able to fully express. How the feminist PSYOP emasculates men. What the shadow mother archetype is. American Circumcision How mothers disconnect their sons from their masculine essence. Dark feminine initiation. [01:00:35] Assessment Of The Nervous System Why she never talks badly about men and why she asks men for help. Paying attention to the containment energy of the masculine. Tom Cowan How Kelly assesses other people's nervous systems. Why the current erotic dynamic between men and women needs to be disrupted. Om Rupani Why men don't need help to open their hearts. [01:19:00] Healing The Mother + Father Wound How the father and daughter relationship is sexualized. The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide To Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace by Laura Doyle The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Deida Inverted polarity: Why a woman shouldn't take the bait of her man asking her opinion. Healing the father and mother wound: Believing that your father did not protect you and your mother didn't love you. Dr. Stan Tatkin 463 JP Sears | This Is How Media HIJACKS Your Mind: Stop Censoring Yourself & Heal The Tyrant Within [01:33:30] How To Integrate Our Past Into The Present Daily Mail: Disney executive who is the mother of a transgender and a pansexual child wants at least half of ALL future characters to be LGBTQIA or racial minorities Why gender dysphoria is not relevant to Kelly and her family. The victim consciousness energy that hides in the rescuer. Mike Dillard How to integrate our past into our current experience of self. Why the dark feminine wants to shame and punish. Jordan Peterson The importance of letting a man fail. [01:49:35] Authentic Expression Without Shame Why we need to mind our own business to be sovereign. How we can use social media as a spiritual practice. Why you shouldn't be ashamed of what brings you joy. Aubrey Marcus How sovereignty can manifest in mundane ways. No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Dick Schwartz How to start interacting with the parts of yourself you don't want to know. [02:16:10] Feel It, Face It, Free It Kelly's coping method: Feel it, face it, free it. Parts Work: An Illustrated Guide to Your Inner Life by Tom Holmes Why we need to explore our mirror. Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power by Carolyn Elliott How to experience pleasure in everything in life. Why it's good to be seen as bad and wrong in the eyes of others. Power Quotes From The Show Meet A Part Of Yourself "Any single thing I don't like about my day, or an interaction, or a direction that my life is going in, for me is an opportunity to meet a part of myself." - Kelly Brogan MD Judgment + Choice = Discernment "Judgment + choice = discernment. When you recognize that you don't like something, you're judging it. And when you can see that you have choices, you're actually taking responsibility for what you control. Then you can exercise discernment which is basically: "Does this work for me or does it not work for me?" It helps us to smoke out where it is that we're power-overing and it's never more relevant than in the area of parenting."- Kelly Brogan MD Get Real With Yourself "I have had an opportunity to recognize where I am sourcing something that's not available and semi-insisting that it should be and that can lead to ruptures where both parties are seeing that something is not working here. That is the opportunity for me to get real with myself and to say with a sober mind, sober heart, and sober eyes: 'What are my choices here? Can I interact with this painful process without needing the individuals that I'm in dynamic with to be bad and wrong? What if they're not bad and wrong?' And yet I still get to choose to exit and express my needs. I get to choose to make requests. I have all sorts of choices and I would never be aware of those choices if my energy was focused on being right and on how wronged I've been." - Kelly Brogan MD Links From Today's Show  Kelly Brogan, MD Sovereignty Series - 20% off with code "JOSH20" Own Your Self: The Surprising Path beyond Depression, Anxiety, and Fatigue to Reclaiming Your Authenticity, Vitality, and Freedom by Kelly Brogan, MD Karpman Drama Triangle 535 Aaron Abke: The Law of ONE + How To Live In Love's Alignment Wild Wild Country Graham Hancock Sovereignty Seres American Circumcision Tom Cowan Om Rupani The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide To Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace by Laura Doyle The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Deida Dr. Stan Tatkin 463 JP Sears | This Is How Media HIJACKS Your Mind: Stop Censoring Yourself & Heal The Tyrant Within Daily Mail: Disney executive who is the mother of a transgender and a pansexual child wants at least half of ALL future characters to be LGBTQIA or racial minorities Mike Dillard Jordan Peterson Aubrey Marcus No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Dick Schwartz Parts Work: An Illustrated Guide to Your Inner Life by Tom Holmes Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power by Carolyn Elliott Shop the Wellness Force Media Store breathwork.io MANNA Vitality - Save 20% with the code "JOSH20" Mendi.io - Save 20% with the code "JOSH20" HIGHER DOSE INFRARED MAT, RED LIGHT FACE MASK, SAUNA BLANKET - Get 15% off with the code “JOSH15“ (link + code must be used together for discount) Cured Nutrition CBD - Save 20% with the CODE "WELLNESSFORCE" PLUNGE – Save $150 with the code “WELLNESSFORCE" LiftMode - Save 10% with the code "JOSH10" Organifi – Special 20% off to our listeners with the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' HVMN - Get 20% off your Ketone IQ order with the code "JOSH" MitoZen – Save 10% with the code “WELLNESSFORCE” NOOTOPIA - Save 10% with the code "JOSH10" ActivationProducts – Save 20% with the code “WELLNESSFORCE” NEUVANA - Save 15% with the code “WELLNESSFORCE” SENSATE - Save $25 on your order with the code "JOSH25" DRY FARM WINES - Get an extra bottle of Pure Natural Wine with your order for just 1¢ CHILISLEEP - Save 25% on Josh's favorite ChiliSleep products with the code "JOSH" ION - Save 15% off sitewide with the code ‘JOSH1KS' TOUPS - Save 15% with the code "JOSH" Feel Free from Botanic Tonics – Save $40 when you use the code ‘WELLNESS40′ Drink LMNT – Zero Sugar Hydration: Get your free LMNT Sample Pack, with any purchase BREATHE - Save 20% by using the code “PODCAST20” Essential Oil Wizardry: Save 10% with the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' MY GREEN MATTRESS - Save up to $125 on your order with the code "JOSH" NEUROHACKER - Save 15% with the code "WELLNESSFORCE" ALIVE WATER - Save 33% on your first order with the code "JOSH33" M21 Wellness Guide Wellness + Wisdom Community Leave Wellness + Wisdom a review on Apple Podcasts Dr. Kelly Brogan Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube About Kelly Brogan MD Dr. Kelly Brogan is a holistic psychiatrist, author of the NY Times Bestselling book, A Mind of Your Own, Own Your Self, the children's book, A Time For Rain, and co-editor of the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression. She is the founder of the online healing program Vital Mind Reset, and the membership community, Vital Life Project. She completed her psychiatric training and fellowship at NYU Medical Center after graduating from Cornell University Medical College and has a B.S. from M.I.T. in Systems Neuroscience. She is board certified in psychiatry, psychosomatic medicine, and integrative holistic medicine, and is specialized in a root-cause resolution approach to psychiatric syndromes and symptoms. She is a certified KRI Kundalini Yoga teacher and a mother of two.

Episode 91. Part 2 of my coffee chat with Dr. Sapna Doshi is here! So grab your favorite beverage of choice and join us for an honest conversation about the fields of weight management, eating disorders, and health. Our goal in this 2-part series is to have these episodes be relevant for: People (whether you are an individual looking for an empowering healthcare team) who want to be inspired and motivated to create optimal health and thrive Clinicians who work with people on their health, eating, and/or weight who want to have a full range of options and strategies to help their clients thrive and feel empowered and excited about their health journey What to Expect in This Interview In this interview, we cover: What most people truly want in a provider (e.g., therapist, dietitian, other helping profession) What people don't want, but as providers we are often pulled to do How the concept of psychological flexibility can be so crucial for providers Why working on yourself and your own therapist or provider parts is always needed to continue to guide and empower your clients and patients in the most effective way How the framework of Self-Determination Theory helps us understand what truly works to motivate and empower others Some common client/patient presentations that can elicit anxiety in providers (ranging from weight gain as a response to intuitive eating to the opposite, having a client wanting to lose weight when their provider is recommending a non-diet approach) How to adopt a non-shaming growth mindset versus a fixed mindset when it comes to all things weight, health, eating, and helping others Also! If you are a therapist, dietitian or helping professional looking to learn more about the best ways to support and empower your clients... Sapna and I are planning some super cool workshops and learning community opportunities just for you! Next workshop is on Friday April 21st from 12:00pm to 1:00pm. Sign up today using this link! If that date has passed, then sign up here to be notified about future offerings! "We all want to feel secure and safe and feel good about what we are doing. The reality is that it's a very nuanced process to meet humans where they're at. I think our goal is reducing shame from all sides and also knowing it's super normal to judge people who aren't super aligned with you but if we keep doing that, it's just not helpful."- Shawn Hondorp, PhD Support Local Bookstores Near You! Did you know that that if nothing slows their momentum, Amazon will have almost 80% of the book market by the end of 2025? Look, I love the convenience of Amazon, but I've got a super cool way that you can support local bookstores and my blog and podcast simply by buying books like you already do! You can choose any bookstore on the list in the US (they plan to expand to other counties in the future) OR you can just let the donation get split between all stores. They have raised over 15 million dollars for local bookstores. On my bookshop, you will see my absolute favorite books related to health and wellness, courage and vulnerability, and even my favorite fiction and kids books! My recent favorite related to achieving a deeper level of healing is No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. This model of healing has been incredibly helpful to me personally. I'm also using it with clients and seeing great results. This book isn't specific to eating or weight concerns, but is really one of the best ways I've found to help work with that deeper root cause of any behavior you are struggling with and I think you'll find it super interesting and valuable. So if you believe in supporting local businesses and want to support my blog and podcast, please consider buying your books through Bookshop from now on! The Psychology of Wellness Bookshop Link. Disclaimer: This blog and podcast is for inform...

Episode 90. This conversation is a looooong time coming! I'd like you to imagine this conversation is happening with Sapna and I at a little coffee shop in Philadelphia that was near Drexel University where we both went for grad school. Our goal in this 2-part series is to have these episodes be relevant for: People (whether you are an individual looking for an empowering healthcare team) who want to be inspired and motivated to create optimal health and thrive Clinicians who work with people on their health, eating, and/or weight who want to have a full range of options and strategies to help their clients thrive and feel empowered and excited about their health journey What to Expect in This Interview In this interview, we cover: Our biases and why we are so passionate about this work Some of our experiences of the polarization in the health field (e.g., weight inclusive approaches, intuitive eating, versus weight management, etc.) The ways this polarization or rigidity can harm individuals and the field at large Some questions you can ask yourself to help determine which clinicians are the best fit for you and whether or not you may need new team members and/or different support along your journey Also! If you are a therapist, dietitian or helping professional looking to learn more about the best ways to support and empower your clients... Sapna and I are planning some super cool workshops and learning community opportunities just for you! Next workshop is on Friday April 21st from 12:00pm to 1:00pm. Sign up today using this link! If that date has passed, then sign up here to be notified about out next offering! "Ultimately people just want to be seen and heard and so when a client comes in and they are struggling with whatever, an eating disorder, they've gained weight over time, they want to work on weight loss, it's just like yes come talk to me I'm here to listen, I want to understand your experience and a lot of times when people come in saying they want to lose weight, if you dig deeper there's a lot underneath that."- Sapna Doshi, PhD Support Local Bookstores Near You! Did you know that that if nothing slows their momentum, Amazon will have almost 80% of the book market by the end of 2025? Look, I love the convenience of Amazon, but I've got a super cool way that you can support local bookstores and my blog and podcast simply by buying books like you already do! You can choose any bookstore on the list in the US (they plan to expand to other counties in the future) OR you can just let the donation get split between all stores. They have raised over 15 million dollars for local bookstores. On my bookshop, you will see my absolute favorite books related to health and wellness, courage and vulnerability, and even my favorite fiction and kids books! My recent favorite related to achieving a deeper level of healing is No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model. This model of healing has been incredibly helpful to me personally. I'm also using it with clients and seeing great results. This book isn't specific to eating or weight concerns, but is really one of the best ways I've found to help work with that deeper root cause of any behavior you are struggling with and I think you'll find it super interesting and valuable. So if you believe in supporting local businesses and want to support my blog and podcast, please consider buying your books through Bookshop from now on! The Psychology of Wellness Bookshop Link. Disclaimer: This blog and podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for individual professional advice or treatment, including medical or mental health advice. It does not constitute a provider patient relationship. Disclosure: Using the Bookshop.org links in this post means that I would get an affiliate fee if you purchase from the online booksh...

Heather Shannon is a Certified Sex Therapist who helps motivated clients to discover their sexual selves and deepen their intimate connections. She and her staff have helped thousands of clients with sex and relationships over the last 11+ years of her private practice. Heather has appeared in The Daily Beast, Hustler Magazine, and on podcasts such as The Horny Housewife for her expertise on sexuality and is a Sex and Relationship expert for the Peanut app, which serves over 2.5M women across all stages of life. Listen & Subscribe on: iTunes / Stitcher / Podbean / Overcast / Spotify Contact Info Website: www.heathershannon.co/ Most Influential Person Eckhart Tolle Effect on Emotions I will be really honest, this is still a work in progress for me. I noticed that I'm a lot kinder to myself about certain emotions. And then I also noticed that there are other emotions where I can beat myself up still. Then I'm just noticing the judgment that's still there. And like, okay, like, this is still here. This is something that, I can still work on, but then it's almost like not judging myself for the judgment. So can be a few layers there. Thoughts on Breathing That's a good one. Because I do think breath can help us a lot with sex. Oftentimes, in bed or not, we can kind of tense up and almost be holding our breath. And a lot of people tend to do that leading to orgasm, especially if you're somebody who maybe struggles with orgasm. Try deep breathing, try relaxing your muscles a little bit, and just see how the energy flows with that. Sex and Consciousness But with me, I've done all sorts of different breathing. I've done some, like Holotropic breathwork workshops that I've attended. I've gone through periods where I do the Wim Hof YouTube video in the morning. Dr. Andrew Weil has the 4-7-8 breathing technique for relaxation. Sex I noticed when I'm stressed, my breathing is more shallow and tense. And it's like a clue to me, like a signal that I can relax a little more. Suggested Resources Book: No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model Dr. Andrew Weil The 4-7-8 Breathing Technique App: Dipsea Stories  App: Quinn Bullying Story I've seen this more than once, where one partner is kind of pestering, coercing or manipulating their partner to have sex with them. Now that you're kind of bringing mindfulness to it. I actually think that's a huge component because one of the main reasons I got into sex therapy is because I think the way the culture is, there's a lot of shame and stigma around certain aspects of sexuality. Sex and Consciousness It could actually think male, bisexuality is one of those. I think there's a lot of men who have interest in some other men, but you know, are kind of told like, No, you're either gay or straight. There's no woman who can be bisexual. So I think that when there's an area of shame or stigma, or when someone's feeling hurt, and rejected, and maybe doesn't have the capacity, or the training or the skill set to be with that because I think mindfulness is a lot of that is being with whatever your experience is, they kind of gets more emotionally reactive. Sex and Consciousness And I think that's where sexual bullying can come in. So I think if people are able to develop the capacity to accept themselves, to not judge their own sexuality, to not take their partner's maybe lack of interest personally, and you just see that, like, that's what's going on in their mind, you know, looking away that has nothing to do with you. And to process any hurt that you have without judging it. I think that's huge. So I feel like when you do that, it really frees you up to have great sexual communication, which is, you know, another topic on my early podcast. Because it's key, it's like, if you can communicate well about sex, you're gonna probably have a pretty good sex life. Related Episodes Modern Spirituality with Ben Decker Don't Let This Habit Steal Your Life; Roman Mironov Rediscover Your Sexuality; Dr. Jane Guyn Special Offer Are you experiencing anxiety & stress? Peace is within your grasp. I'm Bruce Langford, a practicing coach, and hypnotist helping fast-track people just like you to shed their inner bully and move forward with confidence. Book a Free Coaching Session to get you on the road to a more satisfying life, feeling grounded and focused. Send me an email at bruce@mindfulnessmode.com with ‘Transition' in the subject line. We'll set up a zoom call and talk about how you can move forward to a better life.