Podcasts about strongwilled

Not giving up. Not giving in. Not settling. Being all in. Today's episode recounts the story of Abbey, Jake, and their 7-year-old son finding purpose rather than despair, leaning in, offering mutual respect, and feeling like a united front.From feeling desperate and helpless, having "no good days" to parenting authentically, strategically, enjoying time together again.From their son never doing something he doesn't want to do, to not saying no anymore.From considering divorce, to the strongest they've ever felt together.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How Jake took a good hard look at his relationship with his sonWhat they had to do to get the "Jerry Springer" moments to stopThe heartbreaking question their son asked and how they transformed his self-esteemDON'T MISS-The power that comes from asking for helpI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Don't forget to leave a rating or review! Thank you!Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Following Episode 4 on Propaganda, we take aim at a crucial evangelical pillar: patriarchy. Patriarchy designed specifically around religious convictions to ultimately control the bodies of women and children. It’s also a tool to support authoritarian leadership explaining the rationale behind why evangelicals overwhelmingly support authoritarian governments: it’s what they practice in their own churches. Episode 5 welcomes three exciting guests. Cait West, author of Rift, opens our conversation by sharing her story growing up in the Christian Patriarchy Movement. CPM has developed an enterprise that pulls in billions of dollars in revenue from their materials overtly supporting the values of Christian patriarchy. Cait shares her journey escaping what she would ultimately describe as a cult, but in reality looks like a lot of conservative churches out there. How to attune to your bodies and trust your intuition are two important attributes for folks still stuck in the clutches of malformed churches. Liz Cooledge Jenkins is my second guest. She is the author of Nice Churchy Patriarchy. We discuss how evangelical churches hide their patriarchy; how they might look ‘cool’ on the outside, but in fact operate with the same tools of patriarchy behind the veil. Finally, DL Mayfield returns from Episode 4 to conclude a conversation about patriarchy and the intersections of white supremacy with eugenics. “There is no finish line to healing even though we want to be in a place where you’re perfectly happy. And there is a lot of resources now to minimize symptoms and heal from it. What worked for me was trauma therapy, which is different than talk therapy….” Cait West “[In patriarchy] there’s encouragement to not trust your gut, and encouragement not to talk to other women about unequal power structures.” Liz Jenkins “America has this horrific history of white supremacist patriarchal aims including in the realm of eugenics.” D.L. Mayfield Episode 5 – Chapters (00:00) – Introduction (04:40) – Introducing Cait West (09:20) – The size of Christian Patriarchy Movement including Goddard, IBL, Vision Form…. (12:20) – How to notice all that ain’t right in churches that love patriarchy. (18:00) – Pathways of healing from religious patriarchy. (30:00) – Introducing Liz Jenkins (32:00) – Chatting about patriarchy that’s not so ‘in your face’. (36:30) – Culture problems in parachurch and socialization. (40:20) – Returning to a conversation with DL Mayfield. (42:00) – DL on eugenics. (46:00) – DL Mayfield teasing out aspects of liberation from malformed intersections of patriarchy. (54:30) – Outro Featuring your host, Rohadi (from Rohadi.com). Rohadi’s books can be found here, including his latest publication, When We Belong. Reclaiming Christianity on the Margins. Special guests in Episode 5: Cait West – Author of Rift. A Memoir of Breaking Away from Christian Patriarchy Cait West lives in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Her work has been published in The Revealer, Religion Dispatches, Fourth Genre, and Hawaii Pacific Review, among others. As an advocate and a survivor of the Christian patriarchy movement, she serves on the editorial board for Tears of Eden, a nonprofit providing resources for survivors of spiritual abuse, and cohosts the podcast Survivors Discuss. Find out more. Substack | Instagram | TikTok Liz Jenkins – Author of Nice Churchy Patriarchy. If you’d like to read more, check out her now-occasional blog, her Substack, and/or her book Nice Churchy Patriarchy. Find Liz via Instagram: @lizcoolj and @postevangelicalprayers. Author/Podcaster – D.L. Mayfield D.L. Mayfield (they/them) is a podcaster and author. After a decade of writing for Christian spaces, they now write primarily about issues of neurodivergence and healing from high-control religion. D.L. and their partner Krispin Mayfield are currently working on a multimedia publishing project entitled STRONGWILLED, which is available on Substack. You can read along here. Bumper music by Daniel Wheat.

This episode is about propaganda: the mechanisms by which evangelicals and conservative Christians are formed. Evangelicals are suckers for conspiracy (Ep. 3) and are easily swayed by propaganda. The propaganda machine has done masterful job inoculating conservatives from developing worldviews beyond their own enrichment. In the first half, I invite Scott Coley to help unpack the how and why conservatives tend to accept damaging beliefs and theologies that harm vulnerable people and themselves. Connecting the dots between conservative political aspirations that seek power to preserve white supremacy and patriarchy, and the supprting belief systems in evangelicalism, opens a pathway for folks still in, leaving, or who have already left, to begin making sense of all the weird in the pursuit of freedom and liberation. “Evangelicals favor morally problematic social arrangements and political policies because they just aren’t thinking about the moral salience of institutions. They tend to focus on individual piety. They tend to not think about institutional injustice. I’ve come to recognize that is an incomplete picture. It’s true, bad belief leads to bad practices, but it’s also true that bad practices lead to bad beliefs. This ‘feedback loop’ is called ideology.” Scott Coley Later, DL Mayfield joins to discuss one of the most effective propaganda arms in evangelicalism: Focus on the Family. It, along with many others, are key reasons why evangelicals are harbingers of harm to the nation (and the world). “If you grew up with Dr. Dobson or Focus on the Family parenting methods, then you are a child of a positive eugenics movement. The continuation of the white supremacist patriarchy was the entire goal and they used religion to spread their ideology.” D.L. Mayfield Episode 4 – Show Notes (00:00) – Introduction (03:00) – Scott Coley on The Scandal of the Evangelical Mind (05:40) –  Why do conservative evangelicals appear to inhabit an alternate reality? (08:40) – Ideology and legitimizing narratives that provide moral justification. (11:47) – Propaganda as mechanism to bring folks into sub-culutre.. (14:30) – On fundamentalism and creation science example. (15:30) – Motivated reasoning and hermeneutics of legitimizing narratives. (21:30) – The pull of ideology, how do you know you’re on the ‘right’ side. (26:30) – Introducing DL Mayfield and Focus on the Family. (29:26) – The Strongwilled Child phenomenom. (31:00) – Focus on the Family is propaganada. (36:00) – Are folks leaving the church over the abuse they experienced as children? (40:38) – James ‘Fucking’ Dobson and white patriarchy. (47:30) – Speaking about estrangement. Featuring your host, Rohadi (from Rohadi.com). Rohadi’s books can be found here, including his most recent publication, When We Belong. Reclaiming Christianity on the Margins. Special guests in Episode 4: Scholar/Author – Scott Coley Scott Coley Scott M. Coley holds a Ph.D. in philosophy from Purdue University, a Master's degree in systematic theology from the University of Notre Dame, and a B.A. in philosophy and English from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. His research interests include philosophy of religion, moral epistemology and political philosophy. His book is entitled, Ministers of Propaganda: Truth, Power, and the Ideology of the Religious Right from Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing. Author/Podcaster – D.L. Mayfield D.L. Mayfield (they/them) is a podcaster and author. After a decade of writing for Christian spaces, they now write primarily about issues of neurodivergence and healing from high-control religion. D.L. and their partner Krispin Mayfield are currently working on a multimedia publishing project entitled STRONGWILLED, which is available on Substack. You can read along here. Bumper music by Daniel Wheat.

What does it even look like to set + hold good boundaries?Boundaries can feel like an illusive mystery. Our preconceived notions of what we should be doing can create really rigid metrics for succeeding or failing, when in all actuality, there's often no right or wrong!Today's discussion includes validating the intention to “find the line”, why boundaries isn't a binary but rather a spectrum, and the mindset reframes needed to be more effective and successful while still allowing for exceptions to the rule. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:How the lack of boundaries leads to entitlementWhat your true responsibility isHow much time you actually have to address the behaviorDON'T MISS:An important distinction to realize when parenting strong-willed kids // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Cooking during daytime hours, running in & out of a store, joining a homeschool group... these may seem like everyday occurrences to some families, but at Lisa's house, they felt impossible.She was tasked with getting her neurodivergent son up to state curriculum standards last year while homeschooling, but his pathological demand avoidance made cooperation so hard to attain.NOW - she shares what IS possible now, how her confidence has grown, and what seemed to help when nothing else did.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The multi-faceted feelings of failure Lisa struggled withThe breakthroughs she experienced while we worked togetherThe remarkable progress they've been able to make DON'T MISS-The unorthodox solution that helped her son wash his hairI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Heather and David, parents from the Midwest, take us along in their journey of parenting their strong-willed five-year-old daughter. Just a few months ago, they were drowning; overwhelmed by her tantrums, feeling like parenting was heartbreaking, stressful, and defeating more days than not.NOW, they are parenting with hope, optimism and confidence, let alone 90% less tantrums overall!Tune in to hear the things that were hard to admit, why they believe they benefitted so much from this work, and the nuggets and takeaways they want every listener to learn alongside them.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The moment Heather knew they needed helpHow David began to relate to his daughter in new waysThe mindset shifts that led to a quick turnaroundDON'T MISS-The challenges of being in a field like Heather's (speech language pathology in an elementary school) where you *SHOULD* know how to do this & struggle at home with your own childI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

TW/CW: physical abuse, corporal punishment, emotionally abusive caretaker Krispin & DL discuss the second part of the the Adventures in Odyssey episode, a follow up to our podcast episode Spanking on Christian Radio released last fall. This Adventure's in Odyssey episode focuses on Mr. Whitaker's troubled relationship with his adult daughter. Honestly, we couldn't have written an episode that is so perfect at describing what it is like to try and be in relationship with religious authoritarian parents if we tried. You can check out show notes and more STRONGWILLED content at strongwilled.substack.com  You can join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access extra episodes, our discord community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more. You can follow STRONGWILED Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here.

Today's episode is a rare treat. I had a fantastic coaching conversation with a parent of a 4 year-old around an ongoing problem at their house around not listening and not telling the truth when asked about it, and I have her permission to share it with you here!Listen as she shares more of the background into this particular moment as well as her concerns around the behavior, then tune in to hear what I recommended to her (and anyone else who can relate!) IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Insight into the developmental shifts happening at this ageWhat to STOP doing in the future when faced with this behaviorWhat TO do to prevent this situation from happening again (that does not include punishment)DON'T MISS-Perspective that will give you a sigh of relief I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @‌parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

If all your weekend plans seem held hostage by your strong-willed child's mood, you're not alone.In this episode, I name the extra challenges you face on the weekend and specific strategies to tackle them for good, unlocking actual freedom and possibilities to be spontaneous or just enjoy each other and relax! IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:Why what we think we want isn't what we actually wantTwo goals to go into every weekend withHow to stop power struggles before they startDON'T MISS:Powerful realizations a client shared that transformed her mindset // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

We all dread it - the inevitable meltdown of EPIC proportions. It's survival mode, and no one is immune.In this episode, I share why I disagree with typical advice (and even Dr. Becky) on how to manage these meltdowns/outbursts, why it's OK to walk away, and what to do when you can't. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:An analogy to help illustrate your responsibilityWhy staying WITH your child might actually backfireHow to “leave” the room without physically leavingDON'T MISS:Mantras to adopt that speak to your nervous system // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

… seems timely, right?My guest today, Dr. Tovah P. Klein, Ph.D. is the author of Raising Resilience: How to Help Our Children Thrive in Times of Uncertainty. In her role as a researcher and professor and in direct care with parents and children for over thirty years, Klein has helped to define what every child needs to thrive, regardless of their life situations.In our episode today, Dr. Tovah breaks down the 5 critical pillars that are the roots of resilience our kids need to be okay when things are not okay. She shares strategic ways to change how we react to our kids' negative emotions and how to feel much more equipped to know what to focus on. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...What Resilience is NOT and how our good intentions backfireThe 5 Critical “Roots of Resilience” we can instillThe recipe for our kids to love themselves for who they areDON'T MISS-A pep talk if your child is rigid and/or loses it when things don't go their way and you fear they're on track to be entitled, spoiled or selfish! // CONNECT WITH DR. TOVAH KLEIN //Website: TovahKlein.comUSA Today Bestselling Book, RAISING RESILIENCEInstagram- @tovahklein I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @‌parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

No couple goes into parenting as a perfectly united front. Every parent runs out of steam, hits a wall, and loses it from time to time. Good parents ask good questions like “How can I help my partner when things are going off the rails without stepping on their toes?”Before you hop in the car and start parenting extra challenging behaviors in front of extended family this holiday season, have this important conversation with your partner to set you both up for much more success. IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:The ONE question to ask your partnerWhy you're actually not failing, and what failing really looks likePractical strategies to inspire you to put a new plan in placeDON'T MISS:A better story to tell yourself that gives you permission to tag in/out in the first place // MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Other recommended Failing Motherhood episodes:Ep. 53 from 11/23/21 - Parenting Around FamilyEp. 61 from 3/8/22 - How to Get on the Same PageEp. 123 from 9/26/23 - Good Cop/ Bad Cop: The Broken Record RelationshipEp. 129 from 11/7/23 - Best BOOKS for Strong-Willed KidsEp. 131 from 11/21/23 - Best GIFTS for Strong-Willed Kids (unconventional, practical and long-lasting ideas that are still fun to open!)Ep. 133 from 12/5/23 - Boundaries with Parents with Jamie Cooper // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Following on from Part 1, we continue our chat about neurodivergence with podcast faves Danielle (D.L.) & Krispin Mayfield. Krispin's website D.L.'s websiteSTRONGWILLED (substack.com)STRONGWILLED (the podcast) Want more? Check out our exclusive Patreon episodes here.Join the conversation and connect with other listeners here.All our links are here. Transcript of this episode is here.Doubting your beliefs? Have questions about changing or leaving your faith? You are not alone and Recovering from Religion is here to help.

TW/CW: physical abuse, corporal punishment Krispin & DL interview Tori Williams Douglass about corporal punishment and their experience working in a neuroscience lab. You can follow Tori on IG and check out their website here. You can check out our recent post at STRONGWILLED about the research about spanking and corporal punishment here, and the rest of our STRONGWILLD content (and the transcript for this epsiode) at strongwilled.substack.com. You can join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access extra episodes, our facebook community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more. You can follow STRONGWILED Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here and DL on Instagram here.

On the back of Troy's recent ADHD diagnosis, we talk about neurodivergence with podcast faves Danielle (D.L.) & Krispin Mayfield. Danielle's tells of their own Autism diagnosis and Troy opens up about how ADHD impacted him in the Church and now that he's deconstructed. The Mayfield's also talk about their latest project, Strongwilled.Krispin's website D.L.'s websiteSTRONGWILLED (substack.com)STRONGWILLED (the podcast) Want more? Check out our exclusive Patreon episodes here.Join the conversation and connect with other listeners here.All our links are here. Transcript of this episode is here.Doubting your beliefs? Have questions about changing or leaving your faith? You are not alone and Recovering from Religion is here to help.

In this episode, Brandi is joined by author and storyteller Mariko Clark to talk about how we learn empire and the development of imperial values in how we raise our children and really, how we learn as adults what was never explicitly framed for us. They talk about how the bible is used as a tool to entrench children's thinking into the ways of empire and some of the ways that we can do differently. In this episode they mention D.L. and Krispin Mayfields "Strongwilled" project which you can find here. If you want so get the Book of Belonging for yourself, it is available here or wherever you get your books! You can find their accompanying substack here. If you like what you hear you can subscribe, rate, review, or tell others about the show. You can help make the show happen financially on patreon at patreon.com/reclaimingmytheology.If you have comments, questions, or requests please contact us at reclaimingmytheology@gmail.com or through the contact page at reclaimingmytheology.org.Reclaiming My Theology is recorded, produced and edited by Brandi Miller, our music is by Sanchez Fair. Taking our theology back from ideas and systems that oppress. @reclaimingmytheology

When other kids at the park instantly listen to their parents, it can make even the most well-intentioned parent feel self-conscious (and a little jealous).Isn't that the goal? A child who listens without hesitation?Let's talk about it.IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:The longterm ramifications of putting obedience on a pedestalWhat to focus on and aim for insteadA question to ask yourself to reflect on your approachDON'T MISS:The limiting factor that makes all of this extra challenging with strong-willed kids!‌// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @‌parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

"You can't have ADHD! You have a master's degree!"... and other misconceptions about ADHD.  Whether you've been diagnosed, related to the memes, or have a child that's been diagnosed... this episode is for you! Patricia Sung, Adult ADHD coach and host of Motherhood in ADHD, is here to share her journey into diagnosis, understanding her unique brain, and empowering other moms to do the same.We normalize the struggle, share new insights, and reflect on the powerful act of breaking cycles.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Common traits and misconceptions of ADHD beyond being forgetful Her go-to tools for managing anger while parentingWays to work WITH your ADHD to boost your self-compassion as a parentDON'T MISS-The double-edged sword that is having family with ADHD// CONNECT WITH PATRICIA SUNG //Website: www.motherhoodinadhd.comInstagram: @motherhoodinadhdhttps://www.patriciasung.com/meetupI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

TW/CW: physical abuse, emotionally abusive/aggressive caretaker, sexual abuse, animal/pet death. Krispin & DL discuss a Christian radio drama about spanking/corporal punishment. We're digging into an episode of Adventures in Odyssey (produced & distributed by James Dobson's organization, Focus on the Family) from 1988 that talked about why it was so important. We're discussing "A Member of the Family Part 1" which debuted in the early years of the program, talking about the importance of spanking. Even if you didn't grow up listening to this radio show, it's an important look into how spanking was practiced and the emotional dynamics surrounding it. You can check out show notes and more STRONGWILLED content at strongwilled.substack.com  You can join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access extra episodes, our facebook community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more. You can follow STRONGWILED Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here and DL on Instagram here.

In today's quick episode, I break down a key facet to behavior modification I've been supporting a lot of clients with lately!  It's not a surefire guarantee toward cupcakes, rainbows and butterflies - but it is necessary shift in your communication that doesn't contribute to a crash and burn affect.IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:2 Examples of effective behavior modification outside of parentingWhat the "Hold the Football" Tool is and why it's criticalHow to apply this tool when a sibling is being pestered in the carDON'T MISS:A challenge for you as you parent this week!// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Netflix Series- America's Sweethearts: The Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

My guest today, Holly Murphy, is accomplished in their profession, a devoted parent in love with their kids, a vibrant personality, AND they're open about how if they knew what they knew NOW back THEN, they would not become a parent. You might not agree with Holly, but I know they're not the only one.  If there's one thing we are on Failing Motherhood- it's honest - and that's why stories like Holly's have a place here. There is nothing more serious than making the commitment to become a parent.  Do you truly know what you're signing up for?  Can you?IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Holly's two different paths into parenthoodWhy we believe parenting is so much harder than teaching (as teachers) Ways to find yourself outside the parent roleDON'T MISS-What to do when parenting isn't what you thought it would beI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the showSTART HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

TW: suicidal ideation, child loss, emotional neglect/abuse A conversation between Krispin and DL, where DL talks about their childhood with a parent who believed it was the end of the world. In this episode, we also discuss late-diagnosed autism, making sense of family tragedies, and being gender non-conforming in a world that was obsessed with the patriarchal binary.  You can check out show notes and more STRONGWILLED content at strongwilled.substack.com  You can join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access extra episodes, our facebook community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more. You can follow STRONGWILED Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here and DL on Instagram here.

Have you ever been told, "I HATE YOU" by your child? Or even worse "You're not coming to my birthday party!"Parents of strong-willed kids (esp. mom) can become the scapegoat for the anger they harbor, and it can lead to parents hearing things like “You don't love me”.This often causes a spiral into permissiveness to avoid conflict, anxiety, and/or a lot of self-doubt as a parent.Spoiler Alert: They don't hate you. They hate feeling crazy and all alone with their BIG emotions. And we do too.‌IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:My CRAZY week and what led me to resent my husband7 things they hate MORE than youThe prerequisite to building the momentum that's needed to problem solve forward togetherDON'T MISS:How to interpret and respond when your child says “I HATE YOU!”‌// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Episode 111 (June 2023): “Why are they so angry?”‌// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

D.L. Mayfield (they/them) is a writer who authored 3 books in christian publishing. Their current project is a substack and podcast centered on helping survivors of religious authoritarian parenting called STRONGWILLED. They also have a newsletter focused on late diagnosed neurodivergence called healing is my special interest. In this episode we talk about: James Dobson Religious Authoritarian Parenting Gender Essentialism Being a Silly Billy Connect with D.L. Website: https://www.dlmayfield.com/  Substack (Healing is My Special Interest): https://dlmayfield.substack.com/  Substack (STRONGWILLED): https://strongwilled.substack.com/  Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1LSuQIznxAibRU8NFWz8o0?si=fdbc468e237040de  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/d_l_mayfield/?hl=en and https://www.instagram.com/strongwilledproject/?hl=en  Connect with Maggie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hello_deconstructionists/  Email: hello.decons@gmail.com Discord Server: https://discord.gg/C3DUZdF3HJ  Visit dauntless.fm for more content Learn more about Amy's music: Website: ⁠⁠https://www.amyazzara.com/⁠ ⁠⁠ Foray Music: ⁠⁠https://www.foraymusic.com/⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/amyazzara/⁠ This is a Dauntless Media Collective podcast. Visit dauntless.fm for more content.

TW: corporal punishment, child physical abuse, child sexual abuse This episode, Krispin talks about growing up in a small town with conservative parents would joined ministry and eventually overseas mission work, and what religious authoritarian parenting looked like for Krispin's childhood, teenage years and early adulthood. You can check out show notes and more STRONGWILLED content at strongwilled.substack.com  You can join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access extra episodes, our facebook community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more. You can follow STRONGWILED Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here and DL on Instagram here.

You are gonna be pretty hard-pressed to find more honesty than what is inside this conversation! In today's episode, I have the honor of interviewing Joseph and Sarah, my clients + parents of 6- and 21-year-old daughters.  Together they share the shifts that made it possible to stop triggering their daughter's defense mechanism, get on the same page, and have an approach and home full of mutual respect.Fair warning - Joseph describes himself as a blunt, "tell-it-like-it-is" kind of guy, and that is exactly what we get from him. No fluff, no sugarcoating; the real deal.He has gone from being incredibly skeptical of gentle parenting itself, let alone my program or working with me, to being on my podcast.This episode might speak deepest to Gen X'ers, dads, or any/all parents that were raised not to ask for help. If your partner is skeptical of how you're trying to parent, send them this episode.  IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The breaking point that made change possibleJoseph's powerful realizations that allowed him to stop fighting with HarperA new way to define "gentle parenting", esp. for strong-willed kidsDON'T MISS-Sarah + Joseph's two LIFESAVERS for bedtimeI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

DL and Krispin discuss how religious authoritarian parenting often creates dysfunctional family dynamics, and how it impacts the individuals who grow up in these families. We mention Leaving the Fold by Marlene Winell. You can check out show notes and more STRONGWILLED content at strongwilled.substack.com  You can join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access extra episodes, our facebook community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more. You can follow STRONGWILED Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here and DL on Instagram here.

DL and Krispin cover the basics of growing under religious authoritarian parenting — and what we believe therapists should know when they're helping people heal from this kind of upbringing.  We talk about the four goals of religious authoritarian parenting, and how spirituality and religion is used to coerce kids into obedience. We mention Lindsay Gibson's book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and Marlene Winell's book Leaving the Fold. We also mention Divergent models of childrearing in popular manuals: Conservative Protestants vs. the mainstream experts.” By Bartkowski, J. P., & Ellison, C. G. (1995). Sociology of Religion. You can check out show notes and more STRONGWILLED content at strongwilled.substack.com  You can join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access extra episodes, our facebook community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more. You can follow STRONGWILED Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here and DL on Instagram here.

Parents are inundated with messages from complete strangers on the Internet and in person reiterating "You're going to miss this!" "It goes SO fast!" "The mess can wait!"The problem is... sometimes the mess can't wait, you might NOT miss this stage, or there's so much more to look forward to!Let's stop forcing undue pressure on parents and instead, consider the hope and gratitude in a more longterm approach.IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:A viral post and a well-written rebuttal The lies I believed and what I believe now as a mom to 10 + 11 y/o'sPermission to step away without guiltDON'T MISS:The best might be yet to come* Failing Motherhood will be on break until August. *// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //FB Post: Last Time for Everything by Shay Toler// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

For this bonus episode, D.L. Mayfield interviewed Amber Cantorna-Wylde, author of Out of Focus, My Story of Sexuality, Shame, and Toxic Evangelicalism. DL talked with her about her experience growing up as the daughter of the man in charge of Adventures in Odyssey. Amber's story is heartbreaking, inspiring, and also a powerful indictment against the people that often told us that “family is everything.” Today Amber is a powerful advocate for the LGBTQIA+ community, focusing on people who grew up in high control religious environments. Make sure to check out her book Out of Focus: My Story of Shame, Sexuality, and Toxic Evangelicalism. She also hosts the Unashamed Love Collective. DL and Amber talk about a series her father helped produce called "The Ties that Bind," and you can listen to the season of this podcast where we discussed it episode by episode. You can check out a written version of this interview on our STRONGWILLED substack. Our STRONGWILLED season will drop next month! You can Join our patreon comamunity to support this podcast and gain access extra episodes, our facebook community, as well as the backlog of patreon-only episodes covering evangelical media, spiritual abuse, and more. You can follow The Bad Place Podcast on Twitter and Instagram. You can follow Krispin on Instagram here and Danielle on Instagram here.

Happy Father's Day, dads!My guests today, Kevin + Evan, are two stay-at-home dad comedians trying to let parents know the struggle is normal and we're doing better than we think. You might already follow them as they've been featured on Good Morning America, Momsplaining with Kristen Bell, & Today and go viral often on TikTok and Instagram for bits like "Dad Press Conferences".‌They've set out to be relatable dads that can poke fun out of the bizarre experience that parenting is, fight the stigma of the bar being on the floor for dads and give parents permission to laugh at themselves and their kids, knowing they're not alone.They say they're failing fatherhood, but I pull some great parenting perspective out of them inside this episode!IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Some of the most patronizing moments they've had as SAHD'sHow they find the line of what to share onlineHow to add the Improv tool of "Yes, And" to your parenting toolkitDON'T MISS-Why they're already the parents they wish they were// CONNECT WITH KEVIN & EVAN //‎Dumb Dad Podcast on Apple PodcastsInstagram: @thedumbdadsTikTok: The Dumb DadsI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Failing Motherhood is 4 years old and Wholeheartedly is 5! We're taking this opportunity to reflect on the last two years and the lessons I've learned - some easily, some the hard way.Entrepreneurship is such a similar journey to parenting - you don't know what you're getting into exactly, it's much harder than anticipated, it requires a lot of self-work and growth, and it's riddled with self-doubt and imposter syndrome. You have to take it one day at a time and make new decisions with every piece of new information.Take these 5 Lessons into your current business, potential business idea, or parenting journey, and know that your confidence is everything!‌IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:The Importance of “pruning” over innovating at this stageWhat I attribute the consistent success of Wholeheartedly toHow to relate these lessons to your parentingDON'T MISS:Why “going viral” doesn't mean what we think it does‌// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Ep. #65:  3 Years In: Reflections on being a Solopreneur - Failing MotherhoodCALM + CONFIDENT: The Masterclasswww.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident‌// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySend us Fan Mail over Text.Support the Show.START HERE:CALM + CONFIDENT: THE MASTERCLASS Master the KIND + FIRM Approach your Strong-Willed Child Needs WITHOUT Crushing their Spirit OR Walking on Eggshells *FREE* - www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

Today's episode is a little bit of a different, more special setup. I had a fantastic coaching conversation with a parent of a 3 1/2 year-old about a situation that they were dealing with around an irrational hyperfixation they just could not get over or let go of no matter what they tried!Listen as I dive into this universal experience and offer some more context around these situations and what I recommend. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The critical step to salvaging your sanity in these momentsWhen to introduce the logic or reasoningA counterintuitive game-changer I dare you to try!DON'T MISS-The lifesaver that is individualized feedback and support!I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Many parents today find themselves in the sandwich generation where stress, guilt and burnout is real. My guest today, Michele Magner, has earned her MBA and Master's certification in gerontology and is a Gerontology PhD student at the University of Nebraska Omaha. She's a certified life coach, certified dementia practitioner, and certified conscious aging facilitator and an adjunct professor in the fall of 2024.  As an experienced family caregiver with many years in the senior living industry, she understands the challenges that you are facing as you care for those you love. Our conversation included dissecting how we are managing stress, how core values play into our capacity and integrity, why it's okay to fill your cup just for you, and the difference between making promises and making plans. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Michele's vulnerable example of "failing" her daughter and the powerful realizations she took from itThe 3 "C's" all caregivers needThe Importance of bringing your kids into hard conversationsDON'T MISS-Fascinating research around the relationship between chronological age and subjective age, and its effect on aging// CONNECT WITH MICHELE MAGNER //Website: www.michelemagner.comInstagram: @inspiredcaringLinkedIn: Michele MagnerI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Which one are you?  Which one is your partner?Not only does the second half of your parenting life begin when you understand you're parenting a strong-willed child, but your self awareness sky rockets when you realize you're a Worrying Warrior.Your next step is to evaluate whether you're parenting with a "Just tell me what to do" parent or an "It is what it is" parent.In this episode, I break down each of these three parenting approaches, the motives behind their actions, and wedge of divide that grows between parents that feel they need to overcompensate for the other.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...How to identify your parenting styleThe long term ramifications of you + your partner parenting from opposite ends of the spectrumThe foundation to build from and move forward withDON'T MISS:How Chelsy and Matt found common ground // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Have you ever wondered what life after a divorce would even look like?Today's guest, Paige Dempsey, is an anti-anxiety Dating and Relationship Coach for women. In Paige's words, she got married late and divorced early. She's been a step mom, mom of a child with her ex, and a solo mother by choice.  At the same time as her and her husband were separating, her best friend was diagnosed with cancer. She felt like she was just getting by.In this episode, Paige holds nothing back as she narrates her thoughts and feelings both inside and outside of her marriage. She shares how she believes divorce can strengthen the kids' experience of and relationship with their fathers, the mindset she used to move forward without fear, and the patterns she sees in her dating clients. This episode is for you if you've wondered what's on the other side of a divorce, been intimidated by leaving or dating again, or just hope to glean wisdom for your current relationships!IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How Paige decided getting a divorce was the right decisionWhy Paige and her Ex get along now better than everThe difference between therapy and coachingDON'T MISS-Paige's timeless dating advice, especially if you're on the apps// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//UnF*ck your Brain podcast - Kara Loewentheil Ep. 121 of Failing Motherhood - Solo Motherhood by Choice - 9/12/23// CONNECT WITH PAIGE DEMPSEY //Website: www.paigedempseycoaching.comInstagram: @datingcoachpaigeTikTok: @datingcoachpaigeI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Say you're sorry. "I'M SORRY! GAAHHH!!" they ROAR from the other room.  Lessons were learned, right? Often when parenting strong-willed kids, the messages we're trying to send, the skills we're trying to model and the lessons we're trying to teach get lost at sea in a battle of control and BIG emotions.Instead of checking the box to make ourselves feel better, I'm breaking down why I don't insist my kids apologize and what we do instead.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...Why especially strong-willed kids struggle so much with the vulnerability of apologizingWhat choices you have in how you react that doesn't let them "get away with it"The way my kids ask each other for forgiveness and forgive the other.DON'T MISS:What to say when they shut down the choices you offer// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Have you ever thought these things while attempting to play with your kid(s)?I'd rather be doing something else. I should want to do this. This is boring. OR This is too much. I feel guilty bc of how much I hate this. This is not fun. This is not easy.  How do I get this to stop?You're not alone, and my guest today, Sara Olsher is going to share a brutally honest take at the real life challenges and guilt associated with play and quality time as a parent.Cancer survivor, divorced single mom of one, author-illustrator and founder of Mighty and Bright, Sara has a credible and honest take on these challenges as well as a unique, creative solution.We know we're supposed to spend quality time with our kids. We also know it's quite often much easier said than done.In our conversation we take the time to name the obvious realities of being bored, overstimulated or doing it wrong as well as the real dynamics that make it even more challenging like being a single parent, having multiple kids, having a chronic illness, and being neurodivergent or just being under so much stress.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Why we believe it's a crime that your mental health as a parent is not a consideration with most expert advice of what's best for kidsHow 1:1 time prevents negative behaviorsThe critical components to make sure play together ACTUALLY fills their cupDON'T MISS-Our beef with playing "The Floor Is Lava" :)// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//Sara's previous episodes:Ep. 37- Talking about Hard Things - April 13th, 2021Ep. 51 - Kids' Mental Health at Home - October 26th, 2021Time Timer Apps// CONNECT WITH SARA OLSHER //Website: MightyandBright.comInstagram:  @mightyandbrightcoSPECIAL TIME CARDS: https://mightyandbright.com/products/special-time-cardsEnter code: failingmotherhood for 10% offI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Have you found using timers at your house to be HIT or MISS?Either it helps tremendously or meltdowns ensue?  What gives?I'm breaking it all down on today's episode- both the DO's and DON'T's so you understand exactly what's needed to make your use of timers as effective as possible.Not only do I share key insight into reducing whining, clinging, and complaining, but visual timers are your friend, and it's all about semantics so your child sees the "what's in it for me" factor!IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...My go-to recommendation for keeping kids at the dinner table longerWays to make transitions to bedtime or leaving the park so much easierHow to leverage a timer during play / quality timeDON'T MISS:Whether or not you should be making "deals" with your child//MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//7.5 inch Timer3 inch TimerTime Timer Apps// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Happy Valentine's Day!   This episode is guaranteed to help you tap into more self-love.I'm talking to Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist, couples therapist, and relationship expert. She's the host of the podcast, "I'm not your Shrink", and author of "I Didn't Sign Up For This". Tracy starts by sharing her frustration with a family ski event not going according to plan.  As we dove into our conversation, a theme quickly emerged around feeling not enough, and how our core beliefs about self-worth influence how we parent and interact with partners.Tracy breaks down tangible ways we can level up our communication style in our partnerships, as well as how to become more of a friend to ourselves. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The 4 negative communication styles + how to ask for feedback3 Questions to ask yourself to become more self-awareHow meeting our own needs models healthy behavior for our kidsDON'T MISS-The 2 C's required to access self-compassionHow Tracy has reframed how she sees her strong-willed child// CONNECT WITH DR. TRACY DALGLEISH //Instagram:  @drtracydBook:  I Didn't Sign Up for ThisPodcast: I'm not your ShrinkWebsite, Be Connected Course: DrTracyD.comI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Think of literally anything. There's a fantastic children's book on it!Books can be used to meet your strong-willed child's need for control through a power reversal role, as well as teach them important social-emotional life skills!I've compiled 29 of my very favorite books I highly recommend to my clients, and have categorized them by  - Offers Control, BIG Emotions, Best for Toddlers and Skill Building.While they are linked to an Amazon wishlist below, feel free to reserve and rent them from your local library!// CLICK HERE TO FIND THE FULL LIST //IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...29 Books I Wholeheartedly RecommendWhy You Need Power Reversal Books in your Life ASAPWho my All-Time Favorite Author/Illustrator is!DON'T MISS:Omaya + Andrew's wisdom shared inside Wholeheartedly CALM// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Ep. #53 - Parenting Around Family// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Today's topic is a heavy one; dark and possibly triggering...but we don't leave you hanging. It's not one that I would advise playing in the car with kids around, but it is necessary listening if you aim to be an aware, conscious parent in today's society. Alexandra Stevenson, a former trafficking victim turned activist, started her anti-trafficking work at 11 years old. 10 years later, she was trafficked. And it wasn't until another 10 years passed that she was able to identify what happened to her as trafficking.  In today's episode, Alexandra not only walks us through her story, but depicts the truth about human trafficking: what it really is, why it's so hard to recognize and stop once you're in it, and what's actually worth spending your time on as a parent to protect your kids. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How human trafficking is different from the movies;  much closer to home, yet harder to recognizeThe progression of the relationship that binds and traps victimsPractical things we can implement in each age and stage to help prevent our kids from being susceptible to this pathDON'T MISS-How to put traffickers out of business for good// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //American Human Trafficking Hotline-1-888-373-7888  Text* 23333Canadian Human Trafficking Hotline-1-833-900-1010 // CONNECT WITH ALEXANDRA STEVENSON //Website / Book Waitlist:  TheLaughingSurvivor.comInstagram:  @thelaughingsurvivorI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Motherhood is hard for everyone, so how do you know when what you're experiencing is not what everyone is experiencing? Today's guest, Becky Gleed is a busy working mom of two fun, spirited girls, a licensed marriage and family therapist and a certified perinatal mental health professional ! She owns and operates a private mental health practice right outside of Washington, D.C. specializing in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders. In today's episode we talk about how the egregious policies and lack of support she witnessed while working in emergency psychiatric care for moms informed the work she does now. We covered the breadth of mental health and mood disorders postpartum parents experience and why it's critical to seek support sooner than later.  In a world that equates busyness with success, how do we differentiate when productivity is a mental health concern?  Becky shares key indicators, next steps and power thoughts for moms struggling with high functioning anxiety, and insight on when and why to get help.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How to recognize the root of what's driving your productivityWhy you need to differentiate your identity from your symptomsWhat happens years down the road when you DON'T get help DON'T MISS-Key take home messages to remind yourself of often// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Postpartum Support International: postpartum.net// CONNECT WITH BECKY GLEED //Website: rebeccamgleedlmft.com/Instagram: @employedmotherhoodAudible Promo Code: 2NSL4SARSEWACI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

While you may be breaking generational cycles, today I'm going to open your eyes to a new cycle you might not even know you're perpetuating.I've been taking ferocious notes during a new favorite show and I've compiled the key takeaways for you here!IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...How you may be inadvertently encouraging your child's negative behavior (it's NOT by being permissive!)The messages behind attention-seeking and power-seeking behaviorsWays to break free of the vicious cycle and eliminate problem behaviors for goodDON'T MISS:How lessons from "the dog whisperer" would help you support your "anxious aggressive Chihuahua" :)// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Do you feel equipped to prevent your child from being a bystander, victim or bully?Kayla Taylor is a best-selling author, researcher, advocate and parent. She recently published "Canaries Among Us", an important expose that blends poignant storytelling and groundbreaking scientific research to empower those caring for the millions of kids challenged by learning differences, bullying and anxiety.In this episode, Kayla shares openly about her family's journey coping with the bullying her daughter endured despite a caring teacher and ongoing conversations with administrators. If your child doesn't fit society's definition of "normal", you might have this fear as well.  Tune into this deep dive into all things bullying prevention, powerful advocacy, working with the school, and raising kind humans. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The qualifications for something to be considered bullyingWhat's been proven to help prevent it (it starts at home)The skills you need to be a powerful advocate for victimsDON'T MISS-The challenges Kayla did not anticipate while fighting for changeWays to create a deeply rooted culture of kindness and inclusion from a young age in your home// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Book: A Day in the Life of Marlon Bundo// CONNECT WITH KAYLA TAYLOR //kaylataylorwrites.comBook: Canaries Among Us: A Mother's Quest to Honor Her Child's Individuality in a Culture Determined to Negate It (link supports Independent Bookstores)I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

There are so many reasons to feel insecure, guilt, shame or fear as a parent. How do you know if you're doing okay or if you need to make a change?If your child's behavior is not your report card, what is?In today's episode I share 3 questions to navigate that help you decide for yourself and your family what the right next step is for you. Many times it's simply letting an expectation go, forgetting about that unsolicited advice, and allowing other families to parent differently than you.Use these questions alongside the day-to-day feedback to stay grounded in the decisions that are best for your kids, and help you truly hear and listen to your gut instinct as their parent.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...3 Questions to ask yourself when doubting, questioning or worried about your parentingA strategic way to address all the "shoulds" in your headA way to re frame the adversity you face day-to-dayDON'T MISS:How I use my family's values to know when something needs to change// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Family Culture + Values from Mighty + Bright// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Shame lives in the darkness; in the silence - the things unsaid. Freedom is found in honesty, vulnerability, and a round of "me too!"Parents of strong-willed kids bear a heavy burden when parenting feels exhausting, relenting, challenging, frustrating, and defeating on a daily basis.   Today I break down 10 things parents are afraid to admit, and why it's 100% okay for them to feel that way.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...Things that feel so cringe to say out loud but are true nonethelessThe paradox felt between the guilt of overreacting and underreactingWhat to do if you check every single boxDON'T MISS:Why you should have more compassion for yourself than you do// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Watch Here: https://youtu.be/ETIMkstNgqc  I HAVE A STRONG-WILLED CHILD, HELP! On this episode we are joined by Michelle McVittie. Michelle helps parents feel in control and confident with practical tips and parenting strategies. On this episode we discuss: Long Term parenting strategies ADHD Understanding the thinking of a strong-willed child For places to listen, places to connect on social media, to be a guest, collaborate with or sponsor DTE visit: https://linktr.ee/DisruptTheEveryday Michelle's website: https://momthemanager.ca/ About Michelle Michelle helps parents feel in control and confident with practical tips and parenting strategies. Michelle has worked with families and children for over twenty years: with young offenders, as a behaviour specialist in daycares, in pediatric medical and mental health, supervised private practice and in her own business. She takes all of her experience and help you understand what is behind your child and teens behaviour and give you practical tips and resources to build connection and more cooperation. Children don't come with a manual, her services are the next best thing. Ready to calm the chaos at home and get your children to cooperate and listen? Michelle is here to support you. You got this!

Every kid has meltdowns. Every parent yells. How do you know if you're on the right track?  Especially when you feel like your child's behavior might be *normal*, it's hard to know when to reach out without feeling like you're overreacting. And if you've already done a lot of work on your parenting, how can you know when something needs to change?IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...When to come to conclusions (and when not to)Questions to ask yourself to gain perspectiveThe most important indicator to considerDON'T MISS:How my intake process differs from other professionals// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com

Today I welcome Diane Dempster and Elaine Taylor-Klaus, certified coaches and experienced parents of complex children. As co-creators of ImpactParents.com, Diane and Elaine offer guidance, support, and resources to parents worldwide dealing with challenges such as ADHD and anxiety. With a coaching approach to parenting, they aim to empower children to become independent problem solvers while fostering confidence and self-esteem. Their deep understanding of the unique needs of complex children and passion for supporting parents make them trusted guests on the podcast. When Diane Dempster and Elaine Taylor-Klaus first met, they were both searching for a way to address the challenges faced by parents of complex kids. Diane, a neurotypical mom, and Elaine, who had been diagnosed with learning and attention issues, discovered they both had undergone significant improvements as parents after becoming coaches. Intrigued by the idea of applying a coaching approach to parenting, they decided to team up and develop a method that would empower children to become independent problem solvers. Through trial and error, they realized the importance of guiding parents through a process-oriented approach rather than simply providing solutions. By teaching parents to collaborate with their children, they found that they could foster a sense of agency and inspire kids to overcome obstacles. In this episode, you will be able to: Master the art of raising complex children through focus on personal growth and overcoming obstacles. Achieve harmony in families with children facing mental health challenges by balancing dynamics. Utilize coaching principles to help children flourish as autonomous problem solvers. Cultivate emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and trust-building in parental bonds. Embrace self-compassion, self-care, and recognize the importance of support networks for parents. As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! Diane and Elaine's Web and Social Links Website: https://impactparents.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParent/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ImpactParents YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ImpactParents About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi's Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it's free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/swc-quiz Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting