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Welcome to “An Interview with Melissa Llarena” the podcast for executives who go after what they want with curiosity, creativity, and courage. Hi. I’m Melissa. I'm a career strategist. I want to help you shift YOUR focus from landing a job at a Fortune 500 company to finally figuring out how you c…

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    161: Kitchen Hacks for Ayurvedic Home Remedies From A Busy Mom and Restaurateur Anita Jaisinghani

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2023 52:56


    Love to cook? Today, Anita Jaisinghani shares some kitchen hacks for Ayurvedic home remedies. Especially, as moms, it's important to be able to cook for your kids and family yourself.   Anita Jaisinghani, the chef & co-owner of Pondicheri was born and raised in India and is of Sindhi descent. She developed a love for food early on in her life however trained and practiced as a microbiologist. Transitioning as a stay-at-home mother for her two children in Canada first and then Houston, she gradually developed her love of food into a career, beginning with an out-of-home catering business & selling chutneys through Whole Foods.  Anita's first restaurant job was at the famous Café Annie, where she worked in the pastry department for 2 years. Following her time at Café Annie, Anita opened Indika in 2001 serving deeply personal dishes that illustrated her desire to portray Indian food in a new light. Pondicheri, followed in 2011, expanding with the opening of the Bake Lab + Shop in 2014 and its first out-of-state outpost in New York City in the summer of 2016.  With all of her kaleidoscopic menus, Anita combines the complexities of Indian cuisine with leanings toward the ancient body of wisdom of Ayurveda, the magic of spices & the goodness of fresh, local ingredients. Listen in as Anita shares her delicious journey of living out her passions and sharing her message with other moms! In this episode, you will hear: Why cook for yourself vs. rely on others to feed you even as a busy mom? Why you should just eat whatever is in season in your area Even if you are a working and single mom aim for at least one family meal a day and this is how Is it possible to pursue your dreams and raise well-adjusted kids? Anita did it.  It's cheaper to prevent a disease than treat it. Eating at home once a day is within your reach in 2023 Home-made tea ideas to prevent illnesses or care for a cold for a family The case for exploring the medicinal properties of herbs Using saffron as a viable antidepressant Cumin as a heating spice that is a phytonutrient useful for cold weather environments  Anita's take on recipes as a creative exploration vs. strict instructions How to avoid picky eaters unlike Melissa your host Anita's approach to bringing Indian culture to U.S. restaurant patrons vs. as an expression of your heritage at home Is it doable to write a cookbook as a single mom (to teens) who runs restaurants? Anita laughed at this thought and shared a true story that you will get. Why Anita wrote Masala The timeline behind what it took for Anita to find the confidence to write and share her voice in a digestible book Mom guilt as a business owner while her kids were young and how Anita prioritized her days early on; networking and publicity were deprioritized those days SHARE this episode with a mom who enjoys reading nonfiction and/or is writing her own.  Similar Episodes: 2023: Upcoming Guests, Self-Publishing Book Journey Updates, DM For Free eBook "Mommy Shift: Reentry Strategy For Working Moms," Episode 160 https://www.melissallarena.com/2023-upcoming-guests-self-publishing-book-journey-updates-dm-for-free-ebook-mommy-shift-reentry-strategy-for-working-moms-episode-160/  On Substack: 10 Home Remedies To Aggressively Fight A Virus: Perfect for moms who are just NOT having it this cold, flu, RSV season: https://melissallarena.substack.com/p/10-home-remedies-to-aggressively  Supporting Resources: Cookbook: Masala: Recipes from India, the Land of Spices: https://amzn.to/3GQDsNU  Website: www.pondicheri.com  Instagram: @pondicheri Twitter: @pondicheri Facebook: @pondicheri Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to my podcast for moms who read and want to write a nonfiction book? I'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  I'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast for writer moms.  Grab your FREE chapter of my upcoming book entitled: Quit acting like a mom: Embark on a journey not intended for moms to reawaken your imagination and give yourself permission to explore options that will set your creative self free! Here's the link: https://www.melissallarena.com/waitlist/  In the FREE chapter, you will instantly receive, get ready to: See how I rewrote the “mom scripts” I inherited as a second-generation Latina who was raised to assume that becoming a mom was akin to a dream death sentence; can you relate? Be taken back to the days when you were free to be whoever the heck you wished to be; watch how I relived my glory days so you can do the same without having to run away from your home to join the circus Get a jolt of energy to reclaim your former free and spirited self into this season of your life as you continue to explore your interests as seriously as you do those of your school-age kids; uncover how to bring back your ambitious self today and have the energy to execute too Meanwhile, check out what moms like you have to say about this chapter and my upcoming book overall! Get your free chapter today! Don't you want to feel alive again? You know who raises happy kids? Happy moms. So here is what other moms have to say… “This chapter is about getting in touch with your creative, playful, imaginative side. The part of yourself that perhaps felt freer before you became a parent, before you chose your identity and had a lot of responsibilities weighing you down. In helping you get in touch with your more playful, creative self, it not only helps you on a path toward greater happiness and fulfillment, but it also helps you to feel more fulfilled as a parent.” – Mom/PR “The words: imagination, play, and fun are not the usual things we as mothers think of when wondering how to get a grip back on our career and I believe it provides a really fresh take and lots of food for thought for mothers reading it. I think that the tone is so energetic and fresh that is why I would pick it up.” – Latina Mom/Positive Psychology Coach “Melissa is a mom of three with big dreams who tells it like it is. She draws on her own experiences and the experiences of professionals she's interviewed for her podcast to reflect on the plight of the mother. How do women conform to or challenge the traditional “mom script”? If you're a mom, what can you do to break the “cultural glass ceiling” to be yourself and a great parent, all without having to force yourself into a mom mold that doesn't fit you? Melissa is like a great friend, honest and wise, and funny, telling you about her life and asking you to reflect on yours. This book is a great purchase for moms in every stage of life.” – Aspiring Novelist, Librarian and Mom To Two Kiddos. “For moms like me, the pandemic was an opportunity to re-evaluate and course-correct things in our lives we weren't thrilled with. Coming out of this period, sluggish yet motivated, so many of us can use this book to help us wake up! If you're looking to refresh, reenergize, and yes, reimagine a better version of your life, this book is for you. I loved the hilarious, yet poignant stories about motherhood today and the window into the world of those who've gone for it – and did it.” – Mom In A Biracial Relationship Who Left A Corporate Career “In her book, Melissa shows us that motherhood does not have to be a pause or an end of your pre-child self. With guidance from her podcast guests, she encourages us to think big, find what lights us up, think big, and move towards our goals with the steps that fit the reality of our lives as they are today. In doing so we honor and inspire our child(ren), and our own inner child.” – Single Mom To A 12-Year Old Boy Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist    Let's follow one another on Instagram! Say hi. Let me know if you learned something new in this week's episode.  https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena     

    2023: Upcoming Guests, Self-Publishing Book Journey Updates, DM For Free eBook "Mommy Shift: Reentry Strategy For Working Moms"

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2023 35:43


    In this episode, I will reveal some of my podcast guests coming up in 2023, behind-the-scenes efforts related to my book for moms and at the end, I will tell you how you can get a FREE copy of my very first book which I published in 2012 called The Mommy Shift: A Reentry Strategy for Working Moms. It's 5-pages of a non-BS strategy on how to undercover what you want to do next. Hint: Send me a DM on Instagram @melissallarena with the word SHIFT for the 5-page strategy for moms who want to reenter the world of work. What's Coming Up In 2023 Anita Jaisinghani, Chef /Owner of Pondicheri in Houston, Texas; Author of Masala: Recipes from India, the Land of Spices Paul Ollinger, Podcast Host of Crazy Money Ashley Kegley-Whitehead, Founder of BigHer Impact Australian Author Ingrid Adams - New novel 'Descended' launching March 2023 Wish List For 2023 (Please email me if you know any of these prospective guests and can connect me - melissa [@] melissallarena.com) Dan Buettner – Blue Zones Diet  Steven Pressfield – The War of Art  Austin Kleon – Show Your Work  Behind The Scenes - Self-Publishing My Book For Moms I just got my official acceptance into the Goodreads author program! Follow me: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/13985796.Melissa_Llarena I just got back feedback from 6 different moms who are my beta readers and in this episode, I read two excerpts! Side note: one made me tear up. Meanwhile, some news! I will be doing a crowdfunding program using either - Publishizer Offer OR Unbound Offer – because the truth is that my book has been a passion project funded by me for moms who do not want to have their whole identity swallowed up by motherhood thereby leaving them lost and feeling totally obsolete once their kids leave the nest! Oh and not to mention putting all that pressure on their kids as the source of their sole accomplishment. At this point, I know this can serve SO many moms like me who saw or were taught that motherhood has to mean pausing your life to pour all of your energy into ensuring your kids become who they are meant to be. And while that endeavor is noble…it's hard to imagine what's possible for others when you haven't explored or yet figured out what's possible for yourself? Holy cow, there's a lot I'm grateful for right now and the feedback I've gotten from my fellow moms on this book is my numero uno hence I want to make this OUR book. So look out for my campaign because it's coming out HOT! I'm trying to pick up the pace seeing how my boys just returned to school. In the meantime, join my mailing list and grab a free book chapter today: www.melissallarena.com/waitlist I am currently noodling over my book title and will be in the market for a book cover artist and grammar/eagle eye proofreader I also plan on using Ingramsparks to help me with the distribution Here's the cool thing I wrote my very first book in 2012 called The Mommy Shift: A Reentry Strategy For Working Moms likely when a lot of what I just spewed didn't exist. So this whole writing-a-book process in 2021, 2022, and now 2023 has taught me SO much! Now, for a BIG private coaching opportunity for 3 moms in January! I want to get 2023 started RIGHT! So many of you have been jerked around by the pandemic, motherhood, crappy childcare, micromanaging bosses, or unreasonable timelines in your former jobs or current jobs. You want to uncover what you do want to pursue today. You want to figure out what skills are transferable. You want to get back on the horse and this time take the reins in your career. If this is you then, I want to work with you starting this January to help you figure out what you want to pursue with complete clarity, confidence, and awareness of who wants you and where you can provide the maximum point of impact so you can get compensated your worth! I am accepting 3-moms only in this January cohort and if you are serious about redefining what you do and how you contribute then this is your chance to have me by your side every single step of the way until you have complete clarity or an actual job offer in your hand. Our coaching relationship can come in two flavors - I will help you uncover your best next career that aligns with your real purpose and/or I will help take you that last mile to see to it that you get your dream job offer. I'll be with you every single step of the way. You get to decide how far you wish to take your career! Please understand this is your chance to have the support, reassurance, and expertise you need to ensure that your time out of the market does not hurt your odds for the right role or opportunity for YOU only.  Again, this is if you want to uncover your purpose today and/or re-enter the job market. This is especially helpful if the roles out there today are unlike the ones that were available when you were last in the market especially if you never worked virtually or are unfamiliar with social media etc. Want to read case studies?: https://www.melissallarena.com/thank-you-appt/ Send me a DM to Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/ if this opportunity is exactly what you want right now. My gift to you will be a free copy of my first book ever: the Mommy Shift: A reentry Strategy for Working Moms today. DM me the word: SHIFT.  That's free and has no strings attached.  If you want a partnership to go from not knowing where you fit professionally to knowing where you belong then we will hop on Zoom to discuss what an all-in coaching partnership looks like. Here's the deal. I am working on my book right now and January is when I will be focusing all of my coaching efforts in 2023 so take advantage! I lot has changed in the job market and you don't want to miss out on the new roles/options out there! Follow Unimaginable Wellness for instant updates every single Tuesday in 2023! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unimaginable-wellness-for-aspiring-mom-nonfiction-writers/id1308269140?app=podcast&mt=2 Find the Unimaginable Wellness Newsletter on Substack where we can engage and tease out the insights shared during this week's episode. I'd love to hear what you think about this week's wellness + writing + mothering topic. See you there: https://melissallarena.substack.com/ Join other moms like yourself on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/bePatron?u=30901620

    159: Using Writing as an Escape Through Tough Times with Alison Macor

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2023 49:39


    There's a ton of challenges that go into writing a book. It involves a lot of research and travel, plus juggling that with your personal life and everything that's going on. Such is the determination it takes to be able to get a book done, especially as a single mom. In today's episode, Alison Macor shares her journey through writing and motherhood. Imagine a mom whose parents were both ill at that time so she had to fly back and forth from Austin, where she lives, to her parents in New Jersey to help with the care, while flying to Los Angeles for her book.  Alison Macor received a Public Scholars grant from the National Endowment for the Humanities for her forthcoming book “Making The Best Years of Our Lives: The Hollywood Classic That Inspired a Nation” (University of Texas Press, 2022), about the 1946 blockbuster that influenced the way we talk about PTSD. She is also the author of “Rewrite Man: The Life and Career of Screenwriter Warren Skaaren” (UT Press, 2017) and “Chainsaws, Slackers, and Spy Kids: Thirty Years of Filmmaking in Austin, Texas,” which won the 2012 Peter C. Rollins Book of the Year Award. She holds a Ph.D. in film history and taught for more than 20 years at the University of Texas at Austin, Texas State University, Austin Community College, and the Austin Museum of Art. A former film critic, Alison currently works as a freelance writer and ghostwriter and lives in Austin with her husband and son. A lot of moms out there have to make different major decisions in life – and there is no perfect path. There are always going to be moments when you have to re-establishes stages in your life and have different approaches to motherhood and a writing career depending on the season of your life and your kid's life. In this episode, you will hear: How some moms have made different career choices and the doubts that pop-up About the juggle of traveling for interviews as a mom while caring for aging parents The beauty of handling weekly writing deadlines as the ultimate productivity hack How career dreams do evolve once the reality of motherhood surfaces What is it like to be a woman in academia? What about a mom? How writing and work can be a useful escape through terrible times What was it about 1946? It's a Wonderful Life and The Best Years both came out in the same year  How women have been portrayed in movies and whether it's changed much through the years? The answer Alison shares is surprising. Should we adjust our lives to our kids or should the kids fit into our lives? Alison's baby and book birth story and how it wasn't planned that way A perfect metaphor for what being a mom and writer really looks like  A positive way to escape from the idea of workaholism SHARE this episode with a mom who enjoys reading nonfiction and/or is writing her own.  Similar Episodes: Melissa On Why I'm Pivoting An Interview With Melissa Llarena, Episode 146 https://www.melissallarena.com/melissa-on-why-im-pivoting-an-interview-with-melissa-llarena-episode-146/  Q&A Tuesday – How Can Writing Improve Your Self-Esteem, Self-Love, or Self-Care For A Mom?, Episode 154 https://www.melissallarena.com/qa-tuesday-how-can-writing-improve-your-self-esteem-self-love-or-self-care-for-a-mom-episode-154/  Supporting Resources: Shop the book: Making The Best Years of Our Lives: The Hollywood Classic That Inspired a Nation Website: www.alisonmacor.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alisonmacor Twitter: https://twitter.com/agmacor  Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to my podcast for moms who read and want to write a nonfiction book? I'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  I'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast for writer moms.  Grab a Free Chapter of My Personal Development Book for Moms entitled: Mom Needs A Lift: Stop Self-Doubt, Uncover What Lights You Up, And Imagine Yourself Going For It! Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist if you would like some answers tackling these questions: How can you get back to that time when you were free, fun, and energized? What if your kid/s hold the key to this? How can you start your journey from feeling zapped to uncapped in your own level of playfulness?  It's time you uncover just how under your nose the answers to these questions are! Grab the chapter here www.melissallarena.com/waitlist and use the ideas presented in this quick read.  Meanwhile, check out what moms like you have to say about this chapter and my upcoming book overall! Get your free chapter today! Don't you want to feel alive again? You know who raises happy kids? Happy moms. So here is what other moms have to say… “This book is about getting in touch with your creative, playful, imaginative side. The part of yourself that perhaps felt freer before you became a parent, before you chose your identity and had a lot of responsibilities weighing you down. In helping you get in touch with your more playful, creative self, it not only helps you on a path toward greater happiness and fulfillment, but it also helps you to feel more fulfilled as a parent.” - Mom/Librarian “The words: imagination, play and fun are not the usual things we as mothers think of when wondering how to get a grip back on our career and I believe it provides a really fresh take and lots of food for thought for mothers reading it. I think that the tone is so energetic and fresh that is why I would pick it up.” - Mom/Positive Psychology Coach Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist   You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? I'd love to know. https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/  

    158: Left Corporate? How to Avoid Becoming Obsolete During A Career Break, Episode 158

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 27, 2022 27:33


    Unimaginable Wellness is brought to you by: Wake Up Mom! A 5-Day Free Challenge For Moms Who Left A Corporate Career And Want More in 2023! https://www.melissallarena.com/momrut/ - January 2nd to 6th – sign-up Join Me! Let's Take Inventory Of What You Are Truly Capable Of + Uncover Your Ultimate Next Adventure for 2023! Join this LIVE and free masterclass on January 2nd-6th at 1pm CDT to: Take an inventory of the biggest wins you've had in your prior life and current one too while on a career break Uncover the skills you may have forgotten and can design your skill-building adventure around so you can stay relevant Discover fascinating skill-building adventures that will help you leap out of bed (I believe adopting an adventurous mindset to creating your own professional development endeavors is the key to staying out of a rut and feeling more fulfilled as a SAHM or WFHM in a mommy trek jo) What stories would you want to tell your grandkids eventually? We'll discuss your "why" Learn about role models that can help motivate you Hear about my personal outrageous adventures and how they have affected my mental wellness as well as my marketability Ask me anything about staying relevant during a career break *You can ask me questions in the comments during the LIVE session. I love LIVE participation in this masterclass because tailoring the conversation makes it relevant to those who attend and it keeps me on my feet which is exhilarating! I love to hear from listeners. Say hi on Instagram! @melissallarena

    157: How to Get Into Writing Books for a Young Audience with Carmen Oliver

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2022 57:52


    Unimaginable Wellness is brought to you by: Wake Up Mom! A 5-Day Free Challenge For Moms Who Left A Corporate Career And Want More in 2023!  https://www.melissallarena.com/momrut/ - January 2nd to 6th – sign-up Join Me! Let's Take Inventory Of What You Are Truly Capable Of + Uncover Your Ultimate Next Adventure for 2023! Join this LIVE and free masterclass on January 2nd-6th at 1pm CDT to: Take an inventory of the biggest wins you've had in your prior life and current one too while on a career break Uncover the skills you may have forgotten and can design your skill-building adventure around so you can stay relevant Discover fascinating skill-building adventures that will help you leap out of bed (I believe adopting an adventurous mindset to creating your own professional development endeavors is the key to staying out of a rut and feeling more fulfilled as a SAHM or WFHM in a mommy trek jo) What stories would you want to tell your grandkids eventually? We'll discuss your "why" Learn about role models that can help motivate you Hear about my personal outrageous adventures and how they have affected my mental wellness as well as my marketability Ask me anything about staying relevant during a career break *You can ask me questions in the comments during the LIVE session. I love LIVE participation in this masterclass because tailoring the conversation makes it relevant to those who attend and it keeps me on my feet which is exhilarating! Maybe you've been wanting to write a non-fiction book that's meant to inspire the younger audience, but you're struggling to find that spark. You feel like you've lost that childlike wonder inside of you. Well, you're never too young or too old to live your dreams. You just have to figure out ways to bring back and nurture that sense of wonder and creativity waiting to be unearthed. In today's episode, Carmen Oliver talks about her book-writing journey in her goal to make a difference in the world – one kid, one reader at a time. Learn how she stays young at heart, how to shape a book so you can connect on a multitude of levels, how she stays plugged into that little girl inside of her, and how her grandkids help with that as well. Carmen Oliver is the author of many award-winning picture books for children including A Voice for the Spirit Bears: How One Boy Inspired Millions to Save a Rare Animal, a Junior Library Guild Gold Standard, Building an Orchestra of Hope: How Favio Chavez Taught Children to Make Music From Trash, a Junior Library Gold Standard (Oct 25, 2022), and The Twilight Library (Sept 6, 2022). She's also the author of the Bears Make the Best Buddies series (Reading, Writing, Math, Science).  In 2014, Carmen founded The Booking Biz, a boutique-style agency that brings award-winning children's authors and illustrators to schools, libraries, and special events. She also teaches writing at The Writing Barn and The Highlights Foundation and loves speaking at schools, conferences, and festivals. Carmen lives with her family outside of Austin, Texas.  In this conversation, you will also understand why it's important to get out there. Carmen actually got her manuscript sold after having a casual conversation at a conference she attended. If you want to share your work with the world, you have to start somewhere!  In this episode, you will hear: What if you want to write a nonfiction children's book about someone you never met and who doesn't speak the same language as you? The story behind why she wrote Orchestra of Hope How to ground a story for readers How to find the right balance of word count vs. images in a picture book How do you know that a person's story will resonate with a kid? Gathering input to shape your book and why it's helpful for picture books Using your intuition and being a child at heart – how do you do this? Here's one serendipitous way you can explore to sell your manuscript Is finding the right illustrator the ultimate act of patience? When a story finds its author vs. the other way around The benefits of telling a story from another country to young readers Passions can go from a hobby to the center of your life Carmen's career pivot and call to action: how her daughter reminded her about the kid's book she was talking about writing The first steps to begin a writing career that involves young kids from reading to artist dates and establishing a writing routine  Carving time out of your day dedicated to your writing routine Getting inspiration from the books you read and from the wisdom of other writers Using the art of playing to uncover the kind of story that you want to eventually tell Self-care as a creative and why it's important The hard part about being in the messy middle of the book writing journey is… SHARE this episode with a mom who enjoys reading nonfiction and/or is writing her own.  Similar Episodes: Do You Feel Unmotivated and a Little Depressed or In A Rut? Try This in the Next Seven Days, Episode 156 Find Your Purpose Besides Being A Mom (This Is An Open Call For 50 Moms To Become Beta Readers Too), Episode 148 Supporting Resources: Shop for the perfect gift right here: Orchestra of Hope embodies the holiday spirit! https://amzn.to/3FBNtww  Website: www.carmenoliver.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenoliver9013/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/carmenoliverjaq  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carmen.oliver.566  Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to my podcast for moms who read and want to write a nonfiction book? I'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  I'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast for writer moms.  Grab a Free Chapter of My Personal Development Book for Moms entitled: Mom Needs A Lift: Stop Self-Doubt, Uncover What Lights You Up, And Imagine Yourself Going For It! Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist if you would like some answers tackling these questions: So how can you get back to that time when you were free, fun, and energized? What if your kids hold the key to this? How can you start your journey from feeling zapped to uncapped in your own level of playfulness? It's time you uncover just how under your nose the answers to these questions are! Grab the chapter here at www.melissallarena.com/waitlist, and tonight, you can use the ideas presented in this quick read.  Meanwhile, check out what moms like you have to say about this chapter and my upcoming book overall. Get your free chapter today! Don't you want to feel alive again? You know who raises happy kids? Happy moms. So here is what other moms have to say… “This book is about getting in touch with your creative, playful, imaginative side. The part of yourself that perhaps felt freer before you became a parent before you chose your identity and had a lot of responsibilities weighing you down. In helping you get in touch with your more playful, creative self, it not only helps you on a path toward greater happiness and fulfillment, but it also helps you to feel more fulfilled as a parent.” - Mom/Librarian “The words: imagination, play, and fun are not the usual things we as mothers think of when wondering how to get a grip back on our career and I believe it provides a really fresh take and lots of food for thought for mothers reading it. I think that the tone is so energetic and fresh that it is why I would pick it up.” - Mom/Positive Psychology Coach Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist    You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? I'd love to know. https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/    

    156: Do You Feel Unmotivated and a Little Depressed or Stuck? Try This in the Next Seven Days

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2022 27:41


    https://www.melissallarena.com/momrut/ - January 2nd to 6th – sign-up today there will be inspiring questions the moment you hop into the group 5-Day Free Challenge For Moms Who Want To Get Out of A Rut called Wake Up Mom! Let's Take Inventory Of What You Are Truly Capable Of + Uncover Your Ultimate Next Life Adventure! Join this LIVE masterclass on January 2nd-6th at 1pm CDT to:    -Take an inventory of the biggest wins you've had -Uncover the skills you may have forgotten and can design your adventure around -Discover fascinating adventures that will help you leap out of bed -What stories would you want to tell your grandkids eventually? We'll discuss your "why" -Learn about role models that can help motivate you -Hear about my personal outrageous adventures and how they have affected my mental wellness -Ask me anything *You can ask me questions in the comments during the LIVE session. I love LIVE participation in this masterclass because tailoring the conversation makes it relevant to those who attend and it keeps me on my feet which is exhilarating! How do you go from unmotivated and a little depressed or stuck to feeling high on life—so much so that you inspire others and ultimately get totally unstuck…or at least motivated enough to wash your hair? (Anyone else feel like sometimes they need a pep rally just to feel up to washing their hair? My curls get extra tangled, I have my own issues….) My life is an adventure. I've been called atrevida enough times to know that I match its definition: daring. Are you? Do you want to be more daring? Let me explain: Daring/adventurous, to me, is not the Fear Factor variety. Nor is it the kind that involves traveling based on where I can stretch my travel points or seeing places that are Instagram-worthy. It's always been, for me, about learning what lights me up like a Christmas tree. 'Tis the season.  Here's a good pre-mom version of what an adventure looks like to me: the day I set out to create my own independent study during grad school. I'll admit this was a nerdy adventure. In 2009, I visited China and we went as deep as Inner Mongolia. That trip was cool, but it wasn't all my doing; it was a group thing. But it inspired me to create a big, independent project, in exchange for college credit, to figure out the sweet spot between localizing vs. leveraging global capabilities as a marketer, challenging myself to talk to decision-makers in China, France, and other places I might one day work. No one told me to make my business school experience harder, nor was this topic in the curriculum. It was simply my way of creating a capstone of sorts to business school; I knew I'd head for motherhood shortly thereafter. This was me “getting it in.” The fact that I had to talk to some of my interview subjects at midnight to get their perspective on the matter wasn't a drawback to the experience. This was an incredible story that I'd get to independently create and own entirely in a way that was thrilling. You'd think my adventurous antics might stop when I became a quasi stay-at-home mom, but no. My FOMO for those adventures was so bad that I figured, why not launch a business, to keep up my wild and wacky side? Think about it: Whom were my kids going to mirror? I wanted them to have a zest for life and live an interesting one. So I retained my adventurous spirit, even during motherhood. It was too important to my mental health.  My mom has been battling a mental illness called manic depression since 1984—a situation I hope won't befall me. So I actively steer clear of depression via my adventures—they Bubble Wrap my sanity. Are you currently in a rut and willing to do anything to get out? So many of us moms feel this way, and the dynamics that make society move care little about providing solutions. My perspective is to seek ways that don't involve overly relying on synthetic and sometimes toxic options. (I've seen firsthand how carelessly some medications are prescribed; imagine losing your mom for one year—wondering why she can't speak coherently for 365 days—only to uncover that she was on too many meds the whole time.) To spare you from experimenting with psychopharmaceuticals (if you don't truly have to), I have this to offer. If you want to get yourself up and have something to look forward to, even while being a mom, then give yourself the gift of adventure. You too can learn how to create, own, and experience a moment or set of them that will make for a great story! Here's a breakdown of how to ideate your own comeback so that washing your hair won't feel so daunting anymore. Step 1: Create your adventure.   Brainstorming ideas is usually not the challenge. The challenge is knowing which idea will light you up.  So many options exist for your adventure, including physical, mental, creative, or spiritual avenues. Some girlfriends run marathons, and for some of them it can be so motivating that they will run for hours without music in their earbuds. I don't run myself, so going a great distance in the outside world without music is akin to psychological torture—for me. This would not light me up. Yet, the idea of putting copies of my book in one of civilization's first libraries in Alexandria, Egypt, lights me up so much that I could power an entire school district. Is anyone telling me to pull off this stunt? No! Yet, that goal motivates me more than any income I could collect from the book (one I'm self-publishing, due to be released on Mother's Day 2023, about moms who dare). What is it that might make you proud or give you this feeling of holy shit, did I just do that? YEAHHHHHHHHH! Uncover an adventure that will make you naturally high. Also, pay attention to what you envy. If I've ever felt envious about what someone was doing, it's usually been a sign to look into that as my next adventure. I saw a former actress talking about writing a book and I was like hell, no—I need to write my own book! Who knows if she had a ghostwriter, but listening to her talk about shitting in a vortex got my attention. What are people doing out there that make you a bit jelly?  Step 2: Own your adventure.   These past 11 years, coaching marketers into corporate roles, I have noticed that working for someone else can feel like being in a position where you lack control of your daytime hours. This feeling, like you are someone else's bitch, is not foreign to stay-at-home moms and business owners. It's a spectrum. I feel like I can go to the gym in the middle of my day as a stay-at-home mom who is also writing a book and relaunching her business. However, my morning routine with my three sons could start my day in an optimistic way or take me down after a hair-pulling set of experiences just getting them out the door to school. I can't control which way that goes. Sure, I can meditate, but I also can't let a horrific turn of events right before a podcast interview taint my 45-minute conversation. Stay-at-home moms without businesses have revealed to me that they too feel their life is not their own. What if your three kids want to partake in three different afterschool activities in three different parts of the neighborhood? Who has to work out those logistics and execute them? Mom does. And what about the mom who wants to launch a podcast but doesn't have a soundproof room or an off button for her colicky newborn? She has to work her ambitions around her babe. All of this is to say: Having something to call your own, that you can call the shots on like you are some kind of master of the universe (or She-Ra, in our case), will give you a new lease on life. Owning something and feeling in control of what it can look like will add vibrance to your daily schleppings.  Step 3: Live your adventure.   Imagine you've decided to write a book but quickly realize this activity is lonelier than motherhood. But what could be lonelier than motherhood? you ask. Yes, living a writer's life can feel even more Han Solo-esque. However, you can run your adventure as you've seen others run theirs. You can opt to seclude yourself in an office or at the kitchen table to get your word count in. Somewhat like the movie Inception, you can create an adventure inside an adventure. Why not reconfigure how to write on a daily basis? When I lived in Sydney there was this one moment when I felt like I'd arrived as a writer: I was sitting on the rooftop of the Australia Museum of Modern Art, overlooking the Sydney Opera House, as I typed one of my book chapters. My avo on toast was tasteless, but the view made up for it. I was higher in my mind than I was, literally, on that rooftop. You get to run your adventure however you wish, but a great way to get back into the flow of life, feel excited, and motivate yourself naturally is to switch up how you proceed through your own adventures.  Back in my business school days, the adventure I thought I was on was creating this independent project, but embedded inside of that quest was me thrilling myself by speaking to world-class marketers at all hours of the day. Looking back, perhaps I was unconsciously preparing for those sleepless nights we know too well as moms. I'm always seeking my next adventure. I like my identity as an atrevida, hence my daring ways. So imagine this: What if you became a mom who dares too? Perhaps a mom who dared to write a book, run a marathon, take a storytelling class, take a sailing class, launch a business, or exhibit in an art show. So many dares, so little time. You can sprinkle them in on a quarterly basis or as needed. The world challenges us. Our kids challenge us. All of those challenges sometimes make us feel powerless. Yet, we are not powerless. My adventures now, as a mom, have been the experiences that have helped me remember that I can help myself feel better. These adventures have juiced me—even today. I want the same for you. Your turn: What sort of dares would take you out of a rut?

    155: How to Overcome Money Anxiety and Become a Money Magnet by Ken Honda, Author of Happy Money

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2022 52:52


    A lot of us have this scarcity mindset when it comes to money. What if we get sick? What if we don't have insurance? There's too much anxiety around making money and a lot of that is due to a lack of trust. But what does it take to change your relationship with money so you end up becoming a money magnet? Today, money and happiness expert Ken Honda talks about ways to help you live happier and better without having to worry about your financial woes while still doing the things that excite you the most – such as writing a book!  Ken is a best-selling self-development author in Japan, with book sales surpassing eight million copies since 2001. His latest book is called “Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace With Your Money” (June 4, 2019, Simon & Schuster). Ken studied law at Waseda University in Tokyo and entered the Japanese workforce as a business consultant and investor. Ken's financial expertise comes from owning and managing several businesses, including an accounting company, a management consulting firm, and a venture capital corporation. His writings bridge the topics of finance and self-help, focusing on creating and generating personal wealth and happiness through deeper self-honesty. Ken provides ongoing support through mentoring programs, business seminars, therapeutic workshops, and correspondence courses. Ken is the first person from Japan to be voted into the Transformational Leadership Council, a group of personal and professional development leaders. He is fluent in Japanese and English; lived in Boston, Massachusetts for two years; and currently resides in Tokyo, Japan. Watch the YouTube snippet: https://youtu.be/zh-DZEVvktg Be sure to listen to this episode, if you're ready to let go of those self-limiting beliefs and ready to make peace with your money. In this episode, you will hear: Are there family-limiting beliefs around money you may wish to reconsider?  What it feels like to lively abundantly  How to uncover your gifts after a work hiatus, especially as a mom What if you feel like a fish out of the water as it relates to your old career or old self? Ways to ensure you do what you love and money follows you Looking for your gifts in your everyday life and looking for your own reserved seat What's your relationship to money? Weapon or angel?   Ask yourself a question: what excites you the most? How to take care of your mental health during this economic downturn? One phenomenon amongst wealthy people discussed candidly How are we being tested in terms of our money relationship? What can we learn from Japan and other countries with stronger networks? Can we rely on family or friends in the US? Why might you want to change this for real financial security? Why would having 52 good friends be a great safety net for you and your family? SHARE this episode with a mom who enjoys reading nonfiction and/or is writing her own.  Similar Episodes: How To Turn Life's Silliness Into Your Brand Featuring Squidinki Co-Founder Max Mendez, Episode 136 Suzy Batiz Shares The Wisdom She Cherishes For Giving Her The Freedom And Ability To Trust Herself And Accept Whatever Comes Her Way, Episode 67 Supporting Resources: Audiobook version (personally my favorite option for busy moms): Happy Money Spanish-language paperback: Feliz Dinero Website: https://kenhonda.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happykenhonda/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/KenHondaHappy  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kenhondahappymoney  Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to my podcast for moms who read and want to write a nonfiction book? I'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet. I'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast for writer moms.  Grab a Free Chapter of My Personal Development Book for Moms entitled: Mom Needs A Lift: Stop Self-Doubt, Uncover What Lights You Up, And Imagine Yourself Going For It! Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist if you would like some answers tackling these questions:  How can you get back to that time when you were free, fun, and energized? What if your kid/s hold the key to this? How can you start your journey from feeling zapped to uncapped in your own level of playfulness? It's time you uncover just how under your nose the answers to these questions are!  Grab the chapter here www.melissallarena.com/waitlist and tonight you can use the ideas presented in this quick read.  Meanwhile, check out what moms like you have to say about this chapter and my upcoming book overall! Get your free chapter today! Don't you want to feel alive again? You know who raises happy kids? Happy moms. So here is what other moms have to say… This book is about getting in touch with your creative, playful, imaginative side. The part of yourself that perhaps felt freer before you became a parent, before you chose your identity and had a lot of responsibilities weighing you down. In helping you get in touch with your more playful, creative self, it not only helps you on a path toward greater happiness and fulfillment, but it also helps you to feel more fulfilled as a parent. - Mom/Librarian The words: imagination, play and fun are not the usual things we as mothers think of when wondering how to get a grip back on our career and I believe it provides a really fresh take and lots of food for thought for mothers reading it. I think that the tone is so energetic and fresh that it is why I would pick it up. - Mom/Positive Psychology Coach Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist  You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? I'd love to know. https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/  Join Me So many moms are struggling to survive much less to thrive and use their superpower of imagination and for those moms, I have opened a waitlist for moms who want to be first in line for my upcoming book: How to reawaken your imagination to see the greatness in yourself. Here's what you can expect: Every Friday, I share with you an insight that I have uncovered about the book-writing process as a mom and I tell you very practically how to implement these insights so that you can start feeling more confident about someday writing your own story or just on how to use your imagination a bit more each day. If you are a mom who is ambitious and seeks to make the biggest impact possible in her life and teach her kids how to do the same then this waitlist call is precisely for you. Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist  You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/   

    154: Q&A Tuesday - How Can Writing Improve Your Self-Esteem, Self-Love, or Self-Care For A Mom?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2022 18:43


    Question from a writing client/listener: How can writing improve self-esteem, self-love, or self-care for a mom?  Answer: If I had to pick the house chore I avoid most, I'd say ironing clothes. I'll go as far as pulling a sweater over my wrinkled shirt just so I don't have to get out my iron. It's sad that I don't even need to find an ironing board and steady it on the ground, and yet the simple act of ironing still feels so extra. Extra, aka superfluous—I just want to emphasize how annoying it is, particularly for a mom of three boys (who shove their clothes into drawers). But when it comes to writing, this is the practice where I enjoy ironing: I can iron out my illogical thoughts, irrational reactions, and series of options before making big and small decisions, and anything else that would appear blurry if all I did was think about it for too long.   There's something to banging a keyboard in search of the truth behind the truth in several life categories, hence I write. I write quite a lot, especially when something is eating at me or bugging me. In this episode #153 of Unimaginable Wellness the podcast for moms who read/or want to write nonfiction, I want to help you understand how by creating your own writing ritual, you can improve your self-esteem, love yourself more, feel more cared for, and certainly better understand how complex you really are. Here are three ways you too could benefit from what is often a hard thing to do at first.   Writing creates some distance between your words/emotions and yourself. Imagine having a conversation with a friend in which you complain about a family run-in. Someone said something you found inconsiderate, and you're hurt. This one-day event has now turned into months of feeling pretty terrible. Even if your friend is totally aware of your family dynamics and a great person to turn to, the conversation with her, through the magic of audio waves, merely pours out of you and into the ears of another party. The pathway is memory to memory. In listening to her response, your ears get an earful. But, you can't SEE a transcription of what comes out of your mouth or hers. If you could SEE the words you use, then you could create distance between the event and yourself. You could make your thoughts visible. But this transcription would still be filtered if you were sharing it with a friend. A helpful alternative? Bring your most honest self to a blank page to document your grievances so that you can see both your truth and your BS. We all have some BS inside of us that interferes as we glue our experiences together, so that they mean something. It's only when you write out your experiences or emotions that you then begin to see that they do not need to stay buried inside of you. When you externalize them, you can look at your writing in all sorts of ways—even upside down, so you can imagine new approaches, from a myriad of different perspectives. When you write about a moment, you can change the main character from being you to anyone or anything else. What's bugging you today? A boss? A teacher's complaints? Write about that source of being bugged. You just might uncover a solution, too.   Writing helps you identify assumptions faster, especially if you write logically. I'd like to think I got something out of studying for the LSATs and sitting through one semester of Fordham Law School. To make myself feel better about that expensive life choice, of attending and quitting, I remind myself that it gave me the ability to pick up on the assumptions required to keep an argument intact. In my writing escapades, I have bullet-listed accusations, rationales, and thoughts to recognize the sometimes-false assumptions I've made. Other times, this style of writing has helped clarify what I really wanted to know. So many of our ideas rely on assumptions, and if you can catch them ahead of an argument or decision then you can cut to the chase and stop wasting so much spit arguing. Imagine if you were a lawyer who put together a glorious legal case for a client and all of it relied on your client's name being on a tenant lease. What if you found out in the courtroom that her name wasn't mentioned? Wouldn't you feel like a dunce? Life is not just a series of arguments, however. As meaning-making machines, when we write out our accusations, rationales, and thoughts—clarify our assumptions—it can pay off in strides. What are you making an event mean? What assumptions might you be making? How can you be sure those assumptions are fact?   Writing helps you pick up on patterns that can be overridden. There are so many journals out there. Some have prompts that if I'm honest seem like they were written by shiny, happy 1960s people on acid. As a mom who tends to be in her head often, I try to pick up on patterns that do not serve my family or me. Your kids might hate writing, like mine do because of their age. But we are capable of writing—we can handle our own stuff. Therapy might be expensive or intimidating or uncomfortable. Yet if you've ever found yourself saying unhelpful things that your mom would have said, then my dear, the key to rescuing yourself could be in taking to the pen. Some of you might be voracious readers. But to figure out your patterns, try becoming a voracious writer. I don't keep my notebooks, aka journals. I toss them. But the times I've found an old one and actually been able to read my own handwriting, I've detected that I have patterns—from the things that irk me to whatever is on my mind. To find yours, I suggest that you freely write for 30 days. You can commit to five minutes a day or 50—it's up to you. Follow your gut here. See what you spew. Maybe you could ask yourself: What moments in recent memory have I felt like a great mom? Then you could move on to thinking about the moments where you felt like you could have been better, for whatever reason. Address both. You could also write about a moment in recent memory where you felt like a healthy you. If you only have five minutes, just one to three sentences will do. Otherwise, let your pen lead the way. If you ever get stuck, you can ask yourself and write out your answer to this question (or one like it): When did I last hit the fridge to emotional eat my mom stresses? This question always helps me—it assists in remembering a difficult time, or what might have motivated that coping response. For you, it might be, “when did I last drink at night to take off the edge?” Or maybe it was a moment when you gave your kid a mega time-out that was extra hard to navigate. Think of the moments when you didn't feel peace about how you'd parented or about how you'd behaved in general. You'll see a pattern in 30 days' time.   In my life, writing has been both my nemesis and my most consistent path to victory. It was so damn hard to iron out my thinking early on in my life. But as an entrepreneur, I often feel like an email-writing maverick by the end of the day. My hope for you is that you'll see the benefits of ironing out your thoughts for yourself, too.   You might not have the luxury of what you imagine writing looks like: waking up at 4 a.m., lighting a candle (one named by those 1960s high-on-life psychedelic users), placing your tush in an ergonomic chair during a one-hour stretch of time without a peep from your kid/s. But if you're a mom like me, while that would be the BOMB, it's not essential. What is: that you have a way to make sense of your emotions, feelings, and behaviors so that you can evolve into being the best mom and you that you can be.   Writing is the ultimate tool for developing a self-awareness that can heal, soothe, and make sense of what's really behind our decisions and insecurities. As moms, it's helpful to iron these things out for ourselves, so our kids won't have to. And as for ironing in general, it's a conspiracy, I tell you. I vote for wrinkle-free fabrics all around.   Your turn: send me in your questions as it relates to writing / journaling rituals for moms, creative / immersive experiences for moms in a rut, or on the topic of wellness / mental health / mindfulness so that I can answer your question next on Unimaginable Wellness the podcast for moms who read/would someday like to write their nonfiction book.   You can see my contact details in the show notes where you are listening to this episode or follow me on Instagram @melissallarena today and send me your question (I'll keep it anonymous) via DM. Not on Instagram then email me Melissa [@] MelissaLlarena.com   Episodes like this one include:   Coaching a Homeschooling Mom Who Wants to Scale Her Small Business And Be Present With Her Kids, Episode 126 https://www.melissallarena.com/coaching-a-homeschooling-mom-who-wants-to-scale-her-small-business-and-be-present-with-her-kids-episode-126/ Find Your Purpose Besides Being A Mom (This Is An Open Call For 50 Moms To Become Beta Readers Too), Episode 148 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unimaginable-wellness-for-aspiring-mom-nonfiction-writers/id1308269140  

    153: 48-Years of One Mom's Daily Journaling Practice by Living Legacy Author And Educator Merle Saferstein

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2022 47:18


    Have you ever tried to start a consistent journaling practice? Especially, if you have young kids in the house, it might feel impossible to sit down and do anything with any sort of consistency. Merle Saferstein decided to share 48 years' worth of her journaling practice – containing lessons and life experiences –  through a series of books. In this episode, Merle shares how she managed to implement a journaling ritual, even when she was a mom with young kids. She also shared the times of day she would figure out when to write, as well as the moments that prompted us as a society to start journaling. As the director of educational outreach at the Holocaust Documentation and Education Center for twenty-six years, Merle Saferstein worked closely with hundreds of Holocaust survivors helping them to pass along their Legacy of Remembrance to hundreds of thousands of students and teachers. When she retired from the Holocaust Center, she developed a course entitled Living and Leaving Your Legacy® and teaches and speaks to audiences locally, nationally, and internationally. She trains hospice staffs and volunteers showing them ways to help patients leave their legacies and works closely with the patients at the end of their lives doing sacred legacy work.  For many years, she has volunteered at a camp for children who experienced the death of a family member. Merle facilitates a writing for wellness group at Gilda's Club for women who have been impacted by cancer. She is also currently involved in Wisdom of the Century, a project that interviews individuals ninety years old and older. Merle has been facilitating a weekly journaling circle since April 2020. For fourteen years, she culled through her 359 journals taking excerpts according to approximately seventy topics. This June, Living and Leaving My Legacy, Vol. 1, a book containing eleven of these topics was released. The second volume will be published in 2023. Merle is a council member of the International Association for Journal Writing and is the author of Room 732. Her chapter on legacy journaling appears in The Great Book of Journaling: How Journal Writing Can Support a Life of Wellness, Creativity, Meaning and Purpose. Hopefully, this episode will inspire you to get started on journaling and see its benefits. There may be times when your consistency will be challenged, that's why Merle is also going to share some journal prompts to help you with your journaling. Every mom has a story to tell. And if no one writes our legacies, who else will? In this episode, you will hear: How to create a new journaling ritual as a mom with young kids When to write when you don't really have time to write and why that's important Ways your feelings can come out and astound you by writing even a “fiction” piece   Are there typical times when most people journal? How to get through negative moments to get to a positive space Using journaling to grease your writing wheel Journaling as the place to practice being vulnerable for writing that's public Insights garnered about the cycle of life/motherhood after journaling for 48 years What might your kids not want to read about if you decide to write your own legacy book? The benefits of documenting your life for self-understanding and the benefits to our kids as they grow up and became parents Is journaling everyday being selfish? Here's what Merle found Our memory is unreliable; an effective alternative is keeping a daily journal How to start journaling using Merle's mom-friendly journal prompts and where to grab a Quick Guide Merle designed just for Unimaginable Wellness listeners Supporting Resources: Shop Merle's Book on Amazon: Living and Leaving My Legacy, Vol. 1 Paperback – June 7, 2022 by Merle R. Saferstein https://www.amazon.com/Living-Leaving-My-Legacy-Vol/dp/0999696092  Grab a FREE copy of Merle's Quick Start Journaling Guide For Moms: bit.ly/momwrites  Website: www.merlersaferstein.com  Instagram: www.instagram.com/merles1212/  Twitter: twitter.com/safer1212  Facebook: www.facebook.com/merle.saferstein  SHARE this episode with a mom who enjoys reading nonfiction and/or is writing her own.  Similar Episodes: Want to Make a Big Life Change? Learn the Four Phases of the Jump Curve from Mike Lewis, Episode 139 - https://www.melissallarena.com/want-to-make-a-big-life-change-learn-the-four-phases-of-the-jump-curve-from-mike-lewis-episode-139/  Shop: When To Jump: If The Job You Have Isn't The Life You Want  https://www.amazon.com/When-Jump-Have-Isnt-Life-ebook/dp/B072V1BWFK  The Rules of Raising An Entrepreneur by A Mom Who Did Margot Machol Bisnow, Episode 133 https://www.melissallarena.com/the-rules-of-raising-an-entrepreneur-by-a-mom-who-did-margot-machol-bisnow-episode-133/  Shop Raising an Entrepreneur: How to Help Your Children Achieve Their Dreams - 99 Stories from Families Who Did by Margot Machol Bisnow https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Entrepreneur-Children-Achieve-Families-ebook/dp/B09WCVC7HQ  Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to my podcast for moms who read and want to write a nonfiction book? I'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  I'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast for writer moms.  Grab a Free Chapter of My Personal Development Book for Moms entitled: Mom Needs A Lift: Stop Self-Doubt, Uncover What Lights You Up, And Imagine Yourself Going For It! Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist if you would like some answers tackling these questions:  So how can you get back to that time when you were free, fun, and energized?  What if your kid/s hold the key to this?  How can you start your journey from feeling zapped to uncapped in your own level of playfulness?  It's time you uncover just how under your nose the answer to these questions are! Grab the chapter here www.melissallarena.com/waitlist and tonight you can use the ideas presented in this quick read.  Meanwhile, check out what moms like you have to say about this chapter and my upcoming book overall! Get your free chapter today! Don't you want to feel alive again? You know who raises happy kids? Happy moms. So here is what other moms have to say… This book is about getting in touch with your creative, playful, imaginative side. The part of yourself that perhaps felt freer before you became a parent, before you chose your identity and had a lot of responsibilities weighing you down. In helping you get in touch with your more playful, creative self, it not only helps you on a path toward greater happiness and fulfillment, but it also helps you to feel more fulfilled as a parent. - Mom/Librarian The words: imagination, play and fun are not the usual things we as mothers think of when wondering how to get a grip back on our career and I believe it provides a really fresh take and lots of food for thought for mothers reading it. I think that the tone is so energetic and fresh that it is why I would pick it up. - Mom/Positive Psychology Coach Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist  You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? I'd love to know. https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/   

    152: How to Incorporate Ayurvedic or Self-Care Practices for a Time-Poor Mom with Jonathan Glass

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2022 43:21


    If there's one thing busy moms have in common, it would be that there are so many things to do with so little time. Most of us don't have a few hours a day that we can spend on self-care. Many moms are knowledgeable about the fundamentals of their careers, but then the idea of wellness always takes a backseat. It's time that we rethink the things that are really important to us as we work our way toward success. And so, I wanted to bring Dr. Jonathan Glass today to help us uncover some Ayurvedic and self-care practices that time-poor moms can incorporate into their daily, weekly, or monthly routine. Self-care is a necessity, it's not a privilege, so make it a non-negotiable part of your everyday life.  Jonathan Glass, M.Ac, is the founder and author of the Total Life Cleanse. He is a Naturopathic Doctor, Master Acupuncturist, Ayurvedic Practitioner, energy healer, herbalist, and Natural Health Educator. Jonathan served on the faculty of the New England School of Acupuncture and the Dharma Institute of Yoga and Ayurveda. He has facilitated thousands through his JivAtma Energy Healing and Total Life Cleanse programs. Jonathan has been in private practice since 1987 when he co-founded the Healing Essence Center with his wife Katherine, in Concord, Massachusetts. Hopefully, this episode will inspire you to develop these self-care practices. You don't have to overwhelm yourself and do them all at once. Slowly incorporate these practices until they turn into habits.  In this episode, you will hear: How is Ayurveda within your reach as a busy mom without three hours for self-care Writers put out a lot of energy – so how can you refill your cup? How to prevent burnout and be present for your work, life, and that of your kids The case for teaching your kids that mommy's self-care is sacred A super practical technique to calm your nervous system and feel more adaptive Why cleaning up your diet today is even more important than it was for prior generations How to not offend your own knowledge about the food/habits that heal or hurt your body Why interrupting stress once a day, weekly, or quarterly is a good thing The importance of moving the body and breathing The key to a long, sustainable writing career is self-care What is spiritual, mental, and emotional hygiene? 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    To The Lonely Moms Writing Books Who Need Their Own Unique Breed Of Ya-Ya Club

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2022 39:26


    In this episode, you will hear about my messy journey to writing my nonfiction book. You will also catch two other stories that could only be told by moms. I really do believe that mommying while writing a book presents a certain special kind of messiness. This is also why in this episode, I go on to invite you to an online mom writers' community that I'd love to lead. If writing is lonely....motherhood is lonely....then this need for us to be around one another just feels so blistering hot and necessary. Are you interested in learning more? Catch me on Instagram @melissallarena send me a DM with the word STORY if you are a mom who is writing nonfiction and would love access to a community of other crazy moms who for some wild reason or another have decided to write about true happenings precisely when their lives might be feeling like truly epic messes. Not on Insta? Then email me melissa[@]melissallarena.com What follows is the transcript...pardon the AI Moms, I want to really just share with you why it's different when a mom decides to write a nonfiction book. And I would even say that even if you're writing a fiction book, the same rules are going to apply. And the reason why I think it's so important to focus on mom authors is that I just don't think the same happens when you don't have kids and you're looking to write a book. I really think there are nuances that make a big difference pertaining to whether you actually get to the finish line. Here's where I'm coming from. I would say that as someone who is writing a nonfiction book right now, I'm a mom to three little boys. When I first launched my business, which is totally separate and distinct from this book that I'm looking to write and I'm currently writing, this was about 11 years ago. I decided to launch a career coaching practice in 2011. That happens to be when I became a mom. My first son was six months old and the thought of not having something other than being a mom as it had been portrayed to me by my own mom. What I noticed was important by way of TV moms. Like for me that thought of only looking at my child and being with them 24 seven and not using some other skills and talents. It just felt really hard and it might feel that way to you too. So when I decided to write my own nonfiction book, this happened about, well, specifically on May 18, 2021. By that point, I had already gained an appreciation for what it was like to have an online business, a career coaching practice. I had gained an appreciation for just all of the hurdles and challenges that come with navigating the online space, whether it's being able to publish every single day on social media or it's having the energy and wherewithal to get on all of those prospecting calls. And I thought I knew better. I thought that writing a book, especially if I had put a bit of a pause on my career coaching practice, I thought that writing a book would somehow be able to not fly out of me like when you give birth. If this was your experience from a natural, quote unquote perspective, if that was your experience, it was mine. I know it's not the same for everyone, but I just thought that I could somehow use the same sort of discipline skills, the same sort of courage, the same sort of creativity. But boy, was I wrong. I mean, I sit here telling you this from the perspective of a mom who decided to begin writing her nonfiction book during the pandemic when she and her family was abroad in Sydney, Australia. And I will say that the journey has felt extra long. I will also say that going through a global relocation made things that much more complicated, and writing a book is different. It just it just is. Because writing a book is almost like taking a piece of your heart and just putting it out there. For other people to consider, to evaluate and to judge. And sometimes it's a bit more vulnerable than going on social media and doing like a real on Instagram. For those of you who know what it's like to have an online business. And when I began my journey, it was I felt a brave choice. I was like, okay, I need to write a book that's going to help you moms really, like, lift yourself up. Like, I want the moms around me to really stop doubting themselves. I want the moms around me to figure out what lights you up today because it's different from what may have lit you up a decade ago or maybe even before becoming a mom. And I want to help you imagine yourself really, really pulling yourself through and going for it. And so I began my journey and it was me being a bit naive, assuming that if I could have my own online business for 11 years during the course of motherhood, which was definitely tumultuous because I have three little boys, I thought somehow writing a book would be similar would be doable. But again, I just had no idea. So I wanted to share with you not just my story of why it might feel different if you're a mom that's looking to write a non-fiction book. But I wanted to just share some conversations I've had with mom authors. These are people who have already published their non-fiction books and people who have had wonderful literary careers. And I think through their stories as well, the ones that never actually were recorded but were spoken about after the podcast interviews, I think you'll gain an appreciation for why it's so important for you for me to actually be part of a community of like-minded moms who are looking to write these epic stories based on true details. So here are, well, two stories that really, really called my attention as it relates to two moms who decided to write nonfiction and were in the middle of mommy-ing. I've almost wanted to create a verb out of the title of Mother. So one story that was quite vivid and again, this is a podcast guest, and we were talking and you'll hear her story in the future, but she did not share this insight when we had been live recording. This was after the fact. So here's her story. And I'm not going to name names because I don't think it's as important as the big point. So here's a mom who was already in her career as a writer, someone who also worked in academia, someone who also decided to become a mom later on. So in her forties. And what I thought was really, really amazing was that in her case and again, you don't hear these things, but in her case she actually was committed to writing a book. And as does happen to a lot of us, she couldn't perfectly time having a baby and giving birth. So what ended up happening was that she had a book and she was almost ready to finish the book and she assumed that she would have had her baby by then and everything would have worked out perfectly. But as with all things motherhood, it did not net out that way. She had to deliver her baby and then go back home and finish final edits of her book. And what was interesting was that her situation was such that she had to make a decision like, was she going to have like a nighttime nurse, for example, who could then help her finish the final edits of her big book? And these are the things that just are not even on the minds of individuals who are not moms as they're writing books. What's interesting here from a nonfiction perspective is that there was a lot that needed to be just confirmed and a lot of facts that she had to organize and a lot of conversations that needed to happen with real people that made the whole matter more complex, especially when you have a child who is not looking at the time and saying, Oh, now is a convenient time to be hungry, or Oh, let me sleep through the night to that. Mom gets to finish editing her big, big book. So that's one story that for me, the point here was that this. This particular individual had her non-fiction life already going. There was momentum behind it. She had books out there. She was in academia, and essentially when she had her child, she had to then figure out how she was going to make good on her commitments and finish up the editing to this book that should have already been done, but it just didn't happen that way. And she had to make a decision to hire a nurse to help her fill in the gaps pertaining to taking care of her firstborn child. Again, this was an older mom. And it's really interesting because I can appreciate how for an older mom those early days would have been so ultra special. Really extra special. If you've been waiting for that moment, you know, for the last decade. And these are the tough choices that take place for a mom in particular, when you're writing a book, any book, nonfiction or fiction. And I want to be sure that this podcast does what is necessary, which is to bring visibility to the complexities of being an author, writing a story that has to be written during the course of a mom-filled life. And that's just one story. Like, that's the crazy part. If you look at any book, I mean, there's an author behind the scenes, unless it's like this, I don't know, well-known brand name who has like a team of individuals writing on his or her behalf. But for the most part, it's like an individual who was locked up in an office writing something and maybe banging their head on their laptop, trying to figure out how to clearly articulate a statement. And then if it's nonfiction, how to ensure that the facts are straight. So that's one idea. And the big point there is that if you decide to write a book or as you write the book, isn't it so important for you to figure out how you're going to keep making progress or fulfill your commitments, even if life gets a little bit sloppy and messy? Right. So definitely motherhood will give you a lot of sloppiness and a lot of messiness. Second story, there was another author that I interviewed. Again, it's like these stories really come out when we're not recording because I think that's when a lot of us like let our guard down. But here's the back story. So with this particular author, she was in a totally different sector. She had a very analytical job at one point, and then she decided to become a children's book author. And in her case, she decided to become a children's book author. And she also had given birth to a child and the child was premature. So what do you do in that case when all of a sudden your hopes and dreams, whatever they may have been, they're going to be set aside or paused? So for her, you know, having a preemie and definitely dedicating your waking hours and not sleeping, frankly, in order to be with your preemie is going to definitely change your timeline and have you adjust your aspirations as it relates to anything, let alone a children's book. Right on top of that, this preemie also had illnesses during the first six months of his or her life. And what was interesting is, again, it's like, okay, so you're putting your dream of becoming an author to the side. It's almost like on this shelf. And you're really hoping that once you're done, quote unquote, that you can go back to that shelf and continue wherever you left off. And I think the moral of the story there for this particular author is quite simple, which is it was actually kind of interesting. It happens that her daughter ended up reminding her of this dream. She once had to write a children's book like her daughter. I don't know if her daughter was like four or five, six or older, but ultimately she was the one that said, Hey, mom, didn't you want to write a children's book? And so it was really interesting how her child nudged her to get back on it. And so that's another unique part, right? So while this particular mom, you know, had to pause her ambitions and then she basically decided to go back at it, it was her child that gave her that little nudge. And so that's also unique when it comes to being a mom and writing any book, whether it's nonfiction or not. So those two stories, I think, are really important, and I think they're not being told right now. You just see a book and it's gorgeous and it's like nicely edited and the illustrations are gorgeous and you see a beautiful, like publishing house or not, self-publishing is also very legit and you just have no idea what goes on in order to put this together. And I think for moms in particular, it's an extra dose of persistence, right? And so where is that? Going to come from when all your kids are sick? Where is that going to come from when there's a global pandemic? Not to say that anything is happening again, I just want to say that that was totally unexpected and a really, really big seismic edit on my timeframe for my own nonfiction book. So there's so much that needs to be considered when you are constantly considering someone else, i.e. a child, because each child is almost like a variable. And for me it's like anything can happen as it relates to one individual. And once you start multiplying beyond one child, things get ever more complicated. So if you have in your heart, if you feel like you have a book inside of you, I think it's important for you to understand that as a mom, there will be hard choices that you have to make when you will have to decide for yourself. Okay, is there something that I can do in order to ensure that I make that commitment to myself actually happen or commitment to a publisher? Right. And obviously that makes it even more stressful. So that's one point. The second point is as it relates to having this desire to write a book like I mean, not to say that you should wait ten years until that baby can talk to you and say, Hey, mom, maybe you ought to write that book. However, there's this notion that if that book is meant to be written, and if you've spoken about it at any point, then chances are someone, maybe your own child, will nudge you and remind you to get back at it. So I think there's a huge value there because I think that our kids are like these tiny little spiritual beings that are there to remind us of the important things. And writing a book might be that for you. And then as it relates to me and my journey, I think what's important in light of what might be in your heart is that, oh my gosh, like you could plan like the best of them. You could say to yourself, Well, I will be writing every day 6 a.m., Monday through Friday, Saturday and Sundays, I will be writing at 9:00 PM. And that's theoretically a beautiful little calendar and nice for you to consider. But ultimately, as life happens and it will, especially if you're a mom, you will need to make adjustments and you will just need to figure out how to plug yourself into a community of like-minded people who get it. I mean, you don't want to have to explain why you decided to not write one day when your child had 102 fever. Like, who needs to explain that? Wouldn't it be nice to be part of a community where there's other moms who want to write a book and they've been through the shitstorm? They understand how complex and unpredictable motherhood is and can not necessarily support the fact that you've paused. But essentially they get it. They just get it right. They just get it. And that's why for me, having moved from Australia to Austin, Texas, it's been a really interesting journey for the most part. I've been writing in my kitchen. I will say right now, as I'm staring dead at a squirrel on a tree outside of my window, that writing in the kitchen is not the most like, aesthetically wonderful, exciting place to be. I have gotten way more energy from the podcast guests that I've spoken to who have appreciated just how up and Downy writing and being a mom is, and I want to offer that to you. You're listening to this conversation and you're hearing how for a lot of moms, writing a book is truly a journey of like more than resilience and persistence. It's just like badassery on a whole other level. And if you're writing a book that is going to reflect a real story, I think the stakes sometimes can be even higher. Because what if it's not even your story that you want to tell? Then it's like, not only do you owe it to yourself, but you owe it to that person whose story you want to share with the world. And I want to offer you an opportunity to join me. I would be so excited if you, having listened to this conversation, if you have a book in your heart and you want a community, I would love to hear you reach out to me and just let me know if this sounds right up your alley. So here's what I'm thinking. Call me crazy, but I really think that creating a group of moms and all of this would be done virtually where together, right? We would be encouraging one another to write these real these raw and inspiring stories, I think to get. There, we can better navigate and definitely in a healthier way, navigate the ups and downs of not just motherhood, but writing a book. There's so many moms that have beautiful stories, that have recipes, that have memoirs that they want to write, that have how to said they would love to put out there, who just can't figure out how to make it happen in light of the unpredictability and uncertainty that is motherhood. And I want us to get together. Here's what I'm thinking, and I definitely want to know what you think. So in this community of storyteller moms who will be forming an online community, this is what we'll do together. We will imagine we will design, we will plan and immersed in creative experiences that will become those epic stories. Why is that important? So as I've been writing my book, what I have found for me is that I need these little spurts of inspiration and whether it's been me going on these little like adventures in order to just feel excited or it's me taking up a brand new class and learning something like and it's legit fantasy map making when I've gone on those quote unquote artists dates. For those of you who are familiar with Julia Cameron, I've just felt so much more invigorated when I've then approached the writing of my own nonfiction book. And so the plan is that on this online community where there will be other moms who want to write nonfiction books, that together we would go on these little adventures. I would absolutely share with you some of the best adventures that have given me the most life. And together, we would also learn how to master the art of trusting ourselves. I don't know about you, but for me, as I write every sentence for my nonfiction book, I feel like it's an exercise in Can I trust myself enough that this is the right sentence? Can I trust myself enough that this paragraph can end here? Am I telling the story in the best light? So this art of trusting yourself is something that I can teach you. And I think we can also learn from one another in this online community for moms who are storytellers and want to write our book. I think the other thing that is going to be really urgent in light of what a mom needs to write a nonfiction book, I want you to learn how to reprioritize yourself. So if you notice in those stories that I shared with you along with mine, there was a lot that was going on behind the scenes. One mom, like I said, had to finish editing her book, so she had to hire a night nurse. One mom had to pause her book because she had a preemie that was very ill. In my case, I had to be okay with extending the timeline of writing my nonfiction book, which I'm still writing, by the way. I want you to know that. And so it's important for you to know how to actually prioritize your book, right, Even in light of all these changes and complexities. And that is something else that I can teach you. So mastering the art of trusting yourself, reprioritizing yourself so that you can live the kind of storied life that is going to pack bookshelves in all of the world's greatest libraries. That's what this online group of like minded moms is all about. I don't want you to feel alone, like I said, and as I've been feeling, writing a book is a lonely endeavor. I mean, unless you've figured out how to, like, co-write. And even in those scenarios, according to the moms that I've interviewed, it's still something that you do on your own and your co-author does on their own, and then you somehow share the Google documents, let's just say. So either way you slice it, it's a lonely endeavor and so is motherhood. So now let's think about this. If motherhood is lonely and writing a book is lonely, you need a community. I need a community. So I don't want to feel alone. I want us to collaborate. I want us to check in on our dreams. If you noticed these different moms that I whose stories I shared along with my own, they had to get back on it. And I think checking in on one another is a beautiful, beautiful thing. The other idea is this cheering each other on. It's so funny because just like 24 hours ago I became an aunt and I feel like cheering on a brand new mom is like a beautiful thing and something that goes unnoticed. Like, where do you hear about these stories about moms holding the hands of other moms, whether it's online? Or just like text messaging a new mom, literally as she's giving birth. And I think the same can be done when it comes to writing your own book. So in this online community, it's about checking in on our dreams and it's about cheering each other on. Just imagine virtual pompoms. So this forum, this online community is for moms who want to write a book. It will be online. What does that mean? It will be Zoom sessions. It'll be Facebook groups where you'll get to share the questions on your mind. How do I get my book cover made? Or right now, everybody in the house has a fever. How do I continue my writing rituals, things like that? I want the form to be for you, for us, for moms in particular, who want to write a non-fiction book. Why nonfiction? For me, it's just a personal preference. Like for me, it's like there's so much truth that is happening in the world, even like history. And personally, I just enjoyed nonfiction books and I have since the age of 12. So that's really why my penchant for nonfiction. So again, in this community, you're going to have weekly adventures that are going to help you get out of that mom mode. And what's important about that is I have found that when you are in the middle of writing a book, there are so many moments that you can be compelled to just like let the book go because it's so hard to do and slip into full on motherhood. We're talking about like sweeping the floor 1000 times because it's easier than putting pen to paper, right? And I want to be sure that I share with you my adventures that helped me break out of that and kept me focused on writing my book. I also want to share with you in this online community prompts. Now, there's a lot of people who have writing prompts. They have not worked very well for me very specifically. But what has worked for me and what I have noticed in relation to nonfiction books, the best ones, is that the author is very vulnerable. And I think having reflection prompts would be really helpful to any mom who feels stuck, who's looking at a blank page and doesn't know how to move forward. So I will provide you in this online group for moms writing nonfiction reflection prompts so that this way you get the story ideas and you get the profound lessons. And whether you apply it to your actual nonfiction book is up to you. But I think it just wakes up that muscle that needs to be awakened when you're writing a book that needs to resonate with its reader and ideally inspire them into action. Here's the other part in terms of this online community that I'm sharing and why it's so important for moms. So we have questions. A lot of moms, we have questions, and there are so many hiccups in life. There are so many setbacks that wouldn't it be amazing to be able to ask fellow moms who are along different parts of this non-fiction book writing journey, kind of like how they managed, right? Like, how did you manage when you got like all those rejections to your query letters from these agents? Like how did you manage to actually, like, save that nonfiction book that you thought of back in? I'm making this up 1997, and only today, 2022, you're able to like bring out into the world. So these Q&A was like, why second guess yourself? Self doubt yourself, ask yourself questions when it's all new to you, right? Why not, like have a form, a group of moms who have been there before and just tell you real, real, real advice. So I want to really provide an online community for moms who are writing nonfiction books that you can feel comfortable enough to ask your questions. And it could be questions like, let's just imagine you had a C-section and you still want to write your nonfiction book and you're an extraordinary pain. Wouldn't it be amazing if you can ask another mom who had a C-section how she was able to break through those feelings and ultimately put pen to paper? Moms do extraordinary things. So even though that might sound extreme, a mom after a C-section wanting to, like, finish her book, like, I know there's a bunch of moms who have done it, so I'm not even going to question myself with that example I just shared right now. Here's the other thing. Energy. Let's talk about energy now. I could write a whole podcast on energy, and that's part of why this podcast is really focused on wellness. For moms who want to write nonfiction, you need energy to do anything. And as a human being, your energy one day might be fantastic and another day it might be absolutely underneath. The ground. And as a mom, like, I feel like we're just like it's more volatile for us, I think. And I think it's important to be around women who are moms who are writing nonfiction, who need energy to produce the greatest stories of their life. You need energy. So how do you create it? How do you really make sure that you're not you don't have energy leaks, as I call them in my book. I want to share with you my wisdom and my insights and my tips and tricks around that point, because I think it's urgent. I think it's so important if you're a mom who wants to create a book, who wants to write a book. I mean, this is something that can be perceived by the outside world as quote unquote, extra, Right? And if you don't have energy, you will only be doing the bare minimum of life. So if you want to create a book, write a book. You will need to somehow master the art of making your own energy. And that's also why I shared that idea about those mini adventures. So here's the next step. I want to be very, very clear right now. This is a call I am on a mission to bring together storyteller moms who want to write a book, a nonfiction book. This could be a memoir. This could be a historical sort of like evaluation of what happened. This could be recipe book. This could be a how to book. You might be an amazing instagrammer with all these insights around a topic. And you want to write a book. I want to bring you into this forum, this online community, where together you and I, because I'm on my own journey to will imagine design plan and immerse ourselves in and creative experiences that are going to contribute to these epic stories that you're writing. I want to teach you how to master the art of trusting yourself. I want to teach you how to reprioritize yourself so that this way you have an incredible, incredible story to tell and you get it done irrespective of what happens to you. As a mom, I do not want you to feel alone. I want you to have someone with whom to collaborate. I want you to feel like you have someone checking in on you just like you check in on your kids. I want you to feel like you to have someone looking out for you. And I want you a mom, which you tend to be the cheerleader pertaining to everyone else's dreams. I want you to feel like you have cheerleaders on your side calling out your name to get it done. So this forum is going to be online and it's going to provide members with weekly adventures, like I said, that are going to remind you that you are more than a mom. This form is going to include prompts that are going to help you access those vulnerable stories that you might want to share or just keep your message raw and real. So I want to be sure that you have something to inspire you to gather the profound lessons that you've accumulated throughout your life and that you might want to share in your book. This form is going to make available an opportunity for you to ask questions. So Q&A to overcome, like the real mom or nonfiction writer, hiccups and setbacks that do happen along the way. And this form is going to help you learn how to create your own energy, because without it, nothing is going to be written and dinner is not going to be on the table either. So unless you figured out how to navigate the art of dinner making with a partner, I want to just invite you because I'm really excited about this. Like as I'm writing my nonfiction book, these past few days have been pretty crazy. My children have been ill, they've had fevers. It's been one of those weeks and I am really praying that I don't get anything. And it's been one of those weeks where I've wanted a community of like minded women. I would love to know that right now I could sit here in my kitchen, go online, and I could find other moms who are writing nonfiction, who are going through the same thing that I'm going through. I would love to have an adventure to look forward to this weekend, for example, that I know that I could explore and try. And that is going to give me energy and enthusiasm that I need in order to get my seat or my bum in a seat and writing. So I want this like I would want this online community. I would want moms that are in the same trenches as I am who are also writing a nonfiction book. I want us to be together. You don't have to be lonely. I feel like at this point, if we're really honest with ourselves, loneliness is a choice. We are not in a lockdown right now. Right now, it's really a matter of figuring out how you're going to find your tribe. Who do you want to be around? Who? Who inspires you? Who motivates you? What scenarios make you feel like you've got a lot more to give? And immersing yourselves into those scenarios is the way to go. And so I want to create that online community. And right now, right this very moment, that online community, is something that I'm starting. So right now, this is going to be complimentary. I want to know if you're interested in joining me in this online forum. So here's how to reach out Super simply on Instagram. Just go to Melissa Lorena go to at Melissa lx a r, e and a, and all you have to do is type the word story. That's it. Type the word story in direct message on Instagram and let me know that you would want to be part of this community, this online forum where you will be together with other storyteller moms who want to write their own nonfiction books. And you want to feel inspired, motivated, you want your questions answered, and you want to learn how to trust yourself, gather your own energy and prioritize yourself. Let me know you're interested. Just type in the word story in DM on Instagram at Melissa. Lorena Now, as with all episodes I write in the story section or I write the show notes and you can see in the show notes how to spell my first and last name and reach out to me. If you are not on Instagram, there's a lot of writers that are on Twitter. And so I also want to invite you not so much to find me on Twitter because I want to change my handle name to be a lot more clear in terms of what it is that I do. But email me, just email me Melissa at Melissa Sina.com. Again, this will be in the show notes. Thank you so much. And as always, I truly appreciate you. So ultimately this is a call to action for you, my beautiful mom listener. If you have a book inside of you and you want to write it, I am inviting you very specifically. Yeah. You don't look over your shoulder. No, I'm actually talking to you to actually be part of this community. I want to know if you're interested. If you would be excited, send me a DM on Instagram. Just write the word story. Let me know that you want to be part of a group of like minded moms who want to write a non-fiction book, and then we will take it from there because this is something that I need in order to finish my nonfiction book. And it's also something that I know that a lot of moms out there would really appreciate because I think our journey is unique. I really, really do. Writing a book a lot of people refer to as like a book baby. But when you already have a bunch of babies or one baby, it just feels like a really big endeavor, like way bigger than anyone could even explain without doing it. So this is my invitation to you. Reach out to me. If this is something that is interesting, just type in the word STORY. I would love, love, love, love, love to have a conversation with you and just see what else you might need because I want to be sure that I can bring together other moms who are in the same exact boat. Thank you so much. And until next Tuesday, there will be a beautiful interview available for you with an author. And I want to be sure that you are getting insights from other voices as well. So look forward to that interview-focused episode next week on Tuesday. Thank you so much. And make sure to have subscribed officially to Unimaginable Wellness, the podcast for moms writing nonfiction. Thank you so much.

    150: Fran Hauser on Writing an Interactive Book to Help Women Become the Author of Their Own Career

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2022 42:01


    If you're a working mom looking to write a book one day, just know that there are going to be crazy and messy days. But they don't have to be those kinds of days if you don't allow them. You need to set boundaries to keep that sanity in you and you also have to learn how to leverage your network because that's where you will find those rare gems. In today's episode, author and speaker Fran Hauser will teach us ways to say NO at work and she's going to share some scripts on how to do that, especially if you need more time to write your book. She also shares the benefits of networking outside of your job function even outside of your book genre.  Fran Hauser is passionate about leveling the playing field for women. She does this through her investing, writing, and speaking. Fran has invested in over 30 female-founded companies across consumer tech, CPG, media & publishing, and wellness. She is the best-selling author of The Myth of the Nice Girl: Achieving a Career You Love Without Becoming a Person You Hate, which has been translated into six languages and was named “Best Business Book of the Year, 2018” by Audible.  Fran's new book, Embrace the Work, Love Your Career is quickly becoming the go-to for women seeking more joy and fulfillment in their careers. Fran regularly speaks at conferences and organizations to help women build careers they love while staying true to themselves. Much of her current work is informed by 15 years spent in media, where she rose through the ranks at Time Inc. to President of Digital. She lives outside of NYC with her husband and two sons. Fun fact: Fran became a mother in her 40s when she adopted her two sons.  Finally, Fran shares that she wrote an interactive book because she wants it to be all beautiful, fun, and light. At the end of the day, it's all about how you want to connect with your audience and touch their souls in a meaningful way. In this episode, you will hear: Why writing an interactive workbook vs. a regular book might be the way to go How to say NO at work i.e. scripts to use so you have time to write a book Finding lower-lift ways that you can still be helpful to other people The benefits to networking outside of your job function, country, book genre How to use the art of storytelling to ensure the work you are doing is visible to the right people Words to use when you are disappointed at work (also useful after agent rejections) Asking for a raise whenever you move up and why it's important (also important if you want to retire faster to become a full-time writer) Supporting Resources: Shop Fran's books today! Embrace The Work, Love Your Career The Myth of the Nice Girl (Paperback) The Myth of the Nice Girl (Kindle Edition) www.franhauser.com  https://www.instagram.com/fran_hauser/  SHARE this episode with a working mom who might also want to write a book someday.  Similar Episodes: Beth Comstock - Former GE Vice Chair of Business Innovation and CMO Beth Comstock On Granting Yourself Permission To Explore A Changing Reality, Episode 65 Suzi Watford of WSJ - How Wall Street Journal CMO Suzi Watford Puts Clarity of Purpose at the Heart of Leadership, Episode 77   Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to my podcast for moms who read and want to write a nonfiction book? I'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  I'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast for writer moms.  Grab a Free Chapter of My Personal Development Book for Moms entitled: Mom Needs A Lift: Stop Self-Doubt, Uncover What Lights You Up, And Imagine Yourself Going For It! Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist if you would like some answers tackling these questions: So how can you get back to that time when you were free, fun, and energized? What if your kid/s hold the key to this? How can you start your journey from feeling zapped to uncapped in your own level of playfulness? It's time you uncover just how under your nose the answers to these questions are! Grab the chapter here: www.melissallarena.com/waitlist and tonight you can use the ideas presented in this quick read.  Meanwhile, check out what moms like you have to say about this chapter and my upcoming book overall! Get your free chapter today! Don't you want to feel alive again? Do you know who raises happy kids? Happy moms. So here is what other moms have to say… This book is about getting in touch with your creative, playful, imaginative side. The part of yourself that perhaps felt freer before you became a parent before you chose your identity and had a lot of responsibilities weighing you down. In helping you get in touch with your more playful, creative self, it not only helps you on a path toward greater happiness and fulfillment, but it also helps you to feel more fulfilled as a parent. - Mom/Librarian The words: imagination, play, and fun are not the usual things we as mothers think of when wondering how to get a grip back on our career and I believe it provides a really fresh take and lots of food for thought for mothers reading it. I think that the tone is so energetic and fresh that it is why I would pick it up. - Mom/Positive Psychology Coach Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist   You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? I'd love to know. https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/

    149: NaNoWriMo - 3 Ways For Moms To Mentally Prepare For This November

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2022 34:54


    This solo episode is for a mom contemplating or getting ready for NaNoWriMo. It's divided into three parts. I want to share with you a little background into why I am going in this direction with my podcast Unimaginable Wellness the podcast for moms writing nonfiction, then I'll share my personal NaNoWriMo epic fail as a mom who had to make massive adjustments due to unforeseen circumstances, and then how I had to get myself mentally prepared to create my own NaNoWriMo experience. In the end, I will invite you to reach out to me on Instagram @melissallarena if you will be one of the brave mom souls who will be embarking on this year's NaNoWriMo adventure or if you will be creating one of your own. I have a mom-friendly ONE-PAGE worksheet with blank-page busting questions and fun tips that will keep you in your seat fit for moms who want to write their own non-fiction books.  Some background on why I am going in this direction with my podcast Unimaginable Wellness the podcast for moms writing nonfiction, Staying mentally grounded for me personally is a HUGE priority. This is why I decided to pivot this podcast into Unimaginable Wellness where you can expect weekly Mindfulness + Journaling + Wellness Habits For Moms Writing Nonfiction. I was raised by a single mom who has Manic Depression. On my dad's side, one of my first memories was visiting a nursing home and seeing my great-aunt Eladia who suffered from Alzheimer's. I do not have a mental illness and I have the memory of a small elephant. So, to the extent that I can continue to keep my brain bubble-wrapped and retain my sanity at ALL costs, I will. And in my over 40 years of living on this planet and carrying a chip on my shoulder about my writing skills, I have uncovered the holistic wellness practices that have worked for me both during my pre-mom days as well as my mom "in the thick of it" days. So this podcast is my way of sharing what I've learned has helped me stay calm, courageous, and banging on my keyboard no matter what my day has brought me. So I'm pivoting this podcast for us both. My writing journey has helped me retain my sense of self every single day along my journey as a mom. I believe writing can help you do the same too. Now, why non-fiction? Every summer during my Catholic school days, I had to read some classic fiction book Pride & Prejudice or The Great Gatsby. I was such a procrastinator that every summer I found myself inhaling these books just to get a gist for them and write those book reports in time for the first day of school. I didn't enjoy having to read books that were made up. Babysitters Club? Not interested. My life back then has ZERO resemblance to the books I was made to read nor told I should enjoy reading until I was 12. That's when I got my period. I didn't know ANYTHING about my period. So my mom took me to the library and I was told to take out books about my period. I was SO curious about what was happening to me right then and there that I read all the books I could get my hands on about puberty. Something unlocked for me. I was learning something that was relevant to me and that made me feel more informed. In hindsight, back then it's like I discovered that I could enjoy books, and my penchant for non-fiction books began. I'm still that non-fiction reader and right now I'm writing my own non-fiction book too. And after speaking with over 100 podcast guests since 2017, it's also my opinion that there is SO much more stuff to learn about real people's lives, family recipes, cultures, sea creatures, academic subjects, and historical events that non-fiction is still where it's at.  So now that you have a better sense of this podcast twist, let's discuss:  Now I'll share my personal NaNoWriMo epic fail as a mom who had to make massive adjustments due to unforeseen circumstances What Is NaNoWriMo? National Novel Writing Month began in 1999 as a daunting but straightforward challenge: to write 50,000 words of a novel in thirty days. Now, each year on November 1, hundreds of thousands of people around the world begin to write, determined to end the month with 50,000 words of a brand-new novel. They enter the month as elementary school teachers, mechanics, or stay-at-home parents. They leave novelists. Now, school breaks differ around the world but from a US perspective, November includes Thanksgiving break. So while the ambition is for you to write 1,667 words per day including on weekends, during Thanksgiving week, and day too. You may want to preplan for that now in October as to not find yourself breaking out in hives and rushing yourself to the ER because you had to skip sleep. I just had to lead with the timing of NaNoWriMo because it may not be realistic for you to participate in November. This is why in this week's episode, I want to shield you from disappointment by making these 3 ideas doable whether you decide to go all-in on NaNoWriMo or create your own writing lollapalooza as I did.  Here's my timeline as it related to NaNoWriMo in 2021 when I first set out to write my first draft The first week of May 2021 I spoke with a 30-year-old man in NZ with no kids who suggested that I write my first book in 30-days, it was part of a coaching program to help me monetize my coaching business at the time to help executives package, pitch, and position themselves into top marketing roles in corporations. I had three sons and I am the primary caregiver in my family. I didn't have a babysitter nor housekeeper during my 3.5 years in Australia so the assumption was that I could push out a book in 30-days relying on my sons being in school. I accepted the challenge. It wasn't in November. I put pen to paper on May 18, 2021. I didn't have a roadmap. I was just writing like a maniac. Praying for a salient book idea then in June Australia announced a lockdown that would last 106-days. P.S. my kids were on a holiday break before then so in May I was already in mommy mode. So on August 27, 2021, I signed up for an account with NaNoWriMo. It offers SO many resources…community, prompts, author inspiration, and plenty for fiction writers, but essentially it's its own container so you can immerse yourself in all that is writing. Fast-forward to October 19, 2022, and today is when I decided to verify my new NaNoWriMo account. Essentially, as a mom during that era, I barely had time to just write, I was not about to consume videos, meet new people for accountability, and now learn a new web platform if writing was a tall order for me. So instead, I decided to do my own lollapalooza of writing 1,000 words a day, and here is what it took for me as a mom to bubblewrap my sanity during the process. And here is ultimately how I had to get myself mentally prepared to create my own NaNoWriMo Experience 1. Setting up your own high stakes and deciding on a minute-by-minute basis at times whether you'll be a writer or a mom at the moment. 2. Sacred writing space and writing getaways are hilarious for moms. Listen for how I set up an invisible force field whether I had door locks or not (and during a lockdown when zero cafes were open) 3. 1,667 words a day for 30-days or packing nuts like a squirrel at 2,500 a day once in a while. You will need mental transitions between being a mom vs. a writer or you'll be bitter. Did you hear mine? I'm excited for you. Super excited for you. So here is how to get your very own for free my mom-friendly ONE-PAGE worksheet with blank-page busting questions and fun tips that will keep you in your seat. Send me a DM with the word NANO. Are you on Instagram? Follow me on @melissallarena

    148: Find Your Purpose Besides Being A Mom (This Is An Open Call For 50 Moms To Become Beta Readers Too)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2022 38:13


    Let's talk about how you can find your purpose, BESIDES being a mom, I have three steps for you in this week's podcast and this week I am calling for 50 moms from 50 US states to become my beta readers in exchange for your name in my book credits. Send me a DM on Instagram @melissallarena with the word BETA if you want to join me as an early reader of my non-fiction book for moms who want to say good-bye to self-neglect/old mom paradigms, figure out what lights them up, and imagine actually going for it! What follows below is the transcript to this week's solo episode... So as a stay at home mom, for the last 11 years, I have used my business, this podcast as my life force. I mean, I have too many unrealized dreams. And honestly, I've always loved a dare. But what I've noticed out there being amongst many stay at home moms, is that you might feel like you could not possibly push yourself enough to figure out what it is that you're meant to do, besides being a mom. In this solo episode, I want to give you practical, simple to explore ideas that are going to help you understand what your purpose might be. Besides being a mom. Now, I've been doing my due diligence and just looking at all the forums online. And ultimately, what I have heard from stay at home moms these days, is that you might feel a bit useless. Not as a mom, not as a caretaker. But just in the outside world, you might also feel like you don't have a purpose, you might feel like you don't have real value because you're not bringing home the bacon.   And ultimately, across the board, in terms of what I've noticed from my peers stay at home moms, is that a lot of us feel lonely. And that's why this episode is so important, especially if you want to turn things around for yourself. Because ultimately, no one is going to give you permission, no one is going to tap you on the shoulder. No one is going to help you find your own source of purpose, give you energy, nor give you a blueprint to how you will find what you were meant to do. Besides being a mom that is now I know that this is like I mean, I have such audacity here, right? Shouldn't being a stay at home mom, Shouldn't that be the ultimate source of fulfillment and purpose? Are we not doing the most important, critical, urgent job on this planet? It's really interesting because I will say this. A lot of times, that's what we hear. We hear that from society, we hear how being a mom is the ultimate self sacrificial job and how there is nothing more satisfying than being a mom. But I'm here to say that personally, it wasn't enough for me. Personally, I needed to stay in tuned with the activities that gave me life that have contributed to me having orals of energy, and that have made me happy. And oftentimes, I had to do things that were just not on the menu, not available for moms, things that maybe even 12 year old dudes would be doing. For example, having a conversation with Gary Vee, not on the menu for me, or launching a podcast not on the menu for stay at home mom, or deciding to I don't know, travelled to Uluru in Australia by myself for a weekend between the pandemic's lockdowns not on the menu for a mom with three kids. But these are the things that I had to do for myself. And if you're a stay at home, mom, chances are it's been some time since you've had an opportunity to do something for yourself. And therein lies the answer to this question. How is it that you might go about finding your purpose besides being a mom, so what When I think about this idea, when I first took on the role of motherhood back in 2011, I will say that I had certain expectations and assumptions about what it is to be a mom. And in a book that I'm writing, I've called it these mom scripts. So just like an actress, just like an actor, you get a script, you have a good sense of how you're supposed to play this role. And oftentimes, this script is provided to us by our family, by peers, maybe even by society. And I will say that once I got the script, I was totally not excited about it. I mean, when I first became a mom to my first son, and I realized that I would have to be a stay at home mom, according to my own trust issues, I will fully admit, I was bawling. I was sitting in a rocking chair, I found out that my perfectly and you don't see the air quotes, but perfectly orchestrated childcare solution fell apart before it even began. And I was bawling. For me it was like, Okay, what was I doing this whole time pursuing the harder academic subjects going totally all out? I mean, gangbusters, in terms of my education, like, what was that all about? If ultimately, what I was going to become, in that moment, was a stay at home mom. And so beyond the bawling beyond the crying beyond the emotions, I gave it a go, I tried, I really, really tried to relish in being a mom. I mean, I hung out with moms, watching daytime TV, I walked alongside moms, while I had my baby on my ergo, baby thingamajig. I mean, it was really exploring the stay at home mom thing. But ultimately, I was only able to do it for six months. For six months, I did what stay at home moms do. And I found it really hard to feel grateful for being able to be a stay at home mom and be quote, unquote, limited to the certain things. Here are the things that for me, of course, I was grateful in the moment. But ultimately, they just were not enough. For example, seeing my sons take their first steps. Absolutely. I was thrilled to see their first steps. But ultimately, what about me, like you're witnessing kids who are developing in like at rapid speeds, accomplishing things that are like incredible, but then it begs the question, so what are we chicken liver? So that was a thought that passed through my mind. Another one was this idea. Okay, I have the flexibility to attend all of my son's doctor's visits, all of the immunizations, but still, ultimately, he would leave all those visits weeping. And there I was trying to figure out how to comfort him. I mean, was grateful that I could go to the doctor's visits, obviously. But still, what about me, like, I was looking at the doctors or the pediatricians and I was like, man, they have their own office, their names are on the door, they're getting major money from the healthcare institutions, like, wow, they've got a career, what about me, so I get it how being a mom has been put on a pedestal as being the most noble job. But ultimately, if you're like me, or the moms that have written extensively on these mom forums, maybe it's not enough for you. Maybe you feel like, there's got to be more to it. So this is where this concept comes into play. Let me share this idea of jet fuel. So to me, when I'm plugged into my purpose, I feel energy that's really hard to explain. When I feel like I am doing something that is just for me, even if it sounds selfish, there's just something inside of me, that makes me go and not feel drained. It makes me feel like high on life. And what I want to say in this conversation with you, my dear listener, is that you too, as a stay at home mom, you're going to need energy to find your purpose. And I know right now, it might feel totally unattainable. But I promise I'll give you a couple of steps here. That'll get you closer. You are also going to need to explore different purposes. Now, the term purpose sounds super broad, but let's just imagine that your purpose can be found by way of doing an activity. And the third point is that you're going to have to surround yourself Have around other purpose chasers. So here's where I think it's important for us to have an honest talk, mom, to Mom, if right now you are finding yourself really almost like hiding out at home, because you don't feel like you have something exciting to talk about. Or maybe you feel a bit insecure, and you just stay in the background, when you're out there with your partner, maybe because you just don't feel confident enough about who you are, as a wonderful human, then it's really, really important for you to catch this concept, achieving something for yourself, figuring out what dreams you want to pursue only for you, that's going to give you everything that you need, it's going to give you that sensation that is going to wake you up in the middle of the night, excited about an idea that bubbles up to your mind, it's gonna give you the ultimate excuse for talking to strangers, is going to help you carve out even 10 minutes a day to work on your dreams. So it's important, you need some jet fuel. And without that jet fuel or source of energy or Spark, we can call it what we may, life just feels dull. It really, really does feel dull. For me, my creative projects, my client work these podcast conversations. Usually when I'm interviewing someone, or my jet fuel, like these are the things that I was told would have to take a back seat once I pushed out my son's. But honestly, if I never explored my interests beyond being a mom, and trying to be a good one, then I would have never figured out what activities actually energized me. Which activities gave me the most life, which activities if I did them that day, would result in a happier mom. And I know that a lot of moms out there are dangerously low on jet fuel. I mean, super dangerously low. And so that's why this idea of your mom's script and the expectations that you were told, come with being a mom is really, really important. I mean, I write extensively about this idea in the book that I'm writing right now. And I think it's important because a lot of what we were told about being a mom, and namely being a stay at home mom, it really results in feeling shackled, feeling limited. I'll give you an example. Like right now, let's just say that you're thinking about things that are available to you over the course of this week for you, you might say yes, going to a PTA is available to me, that's what's expected as a mom. Now taking a break dancing class in the middle of the day, even if it's a free dance break dancing class is not available to me as a mom. So like, where did this notion come from? Right as to what is available to you, as a mom, what is not available? That is what I'm referring to as a mom scripts. So as a mom, when you gave birth, and you were welcomed into the mom club, as I was when I gave birth by my mom, she said welcome to the mom club, there were certain things that were off limits for me certain environments that I shouldn't be in. I'll give you an example. And this might be so high, I don't even know. But don't judge me on this. So let's just imagine that you no longer because now you're a stay at home mom, and you're supposed to be really busy always cleaning your house, you can no longer take a Saturday morning off, like until the kid is 18. And you are no longer invited to attend. I don't even know ComiCon let's say right, that conference in New York City with all the costumes and such. Like who's to say moms are not allowed in that environment? Right? But maybe it's something that you learned from your mom, maybe you never witnessed your mom explore things that were outside of motherhood expectations. Maybe you never saw your mom, essentially, quote, unquote, be a little selfish and try things that technically were reserved for people that didn't have kids or for our own kids. And so for me, I didn't realize that there were lots of things that all of a sudden I felt like I was closing the door on because I was a mom. It was almost like I was programmed. Right? And ultimately, a lot of us are programmed through the age of Seven in terms of how our parents would like us to behave. And this is something that goes on realize if you're just on autopilot, as so many stay at home moms and working moms tend to be. So those first six months when I tried to be a stay at home mom, and I had no goals, but to be a mom, I II make sure my kids survived. I felt like my arms and legs were like flailing. Like I had no idea, like how to be anything. But a lackluster. Regular mom. Like it just didn't give me that excitement if it was not enough jet fuel, like how was I supposed to be so excited for a cutesy, cuddly baby, if I just did not feel excited. And I'm not even talking about postpartum, we're talking about even later on, when all those hormones had subdued, I still didn't feel the thrill. I didn't feel like my kid even deserved to completely fulfill all of my hopes and dreams. I needed something more. So here we go. What are the three steps that you can take practical steps to actually figuring out what your purpose might be? Or what is it going to take for you to almost generate your own jet fuel, so that this way, you are totally, totally alive?     Step 1 starts with giving yourself permission to pick items off of the kiddie menu.   I did this the other day. So I went to this like Mediterranean fast food place. And they had these like Buddha bowl thingamajigs. And they had the menu for adults. And then they had the kiddie menu. And I honestly had to think to myself, Okay, are they going to let me choose from the kiddie menu? Like, is that available to me. And so I went ahead, and I got the kiddie menu item, and no one even questioned my choice. Same thing for you. Think about it this way. Again, this is step one, super practical. Right now, as a mom, as a stay at home mom, you are also a curriculum designer for your family. So let's imagine that you have children with different interests, and you're trying to figure out how to bring forth an artistic interest in one of your kids. So you go ahead and look up library events that have to do with art, or you look up art classes that are extracurriculars. What if what if you did this for yourself? What if rather than take your daughter to dance class, you went to the dance class yourself? Now I know, you're gonna say, Melissa, what's the priority that's going to cost money? You know, I've already quote unquote, lived my life. That's a mom's script, by the way. So here's what I want to say to you. Here's why this is important. Why this matters, and why your excuse is just not enough. If right now, again, back to the drawing board. If right now you feel like you don't have that enthusiasm over your life, what you're doing something exciting to talk about with anyone, not because you're trying to impress them, but because you're just so excited about what you've got going on, then take this opportunity. Just think to yourself, like the curriculum designer that all stay at home moms are, what can I pick from the kiddie menu? What can I explore? That might make me the happiest mom on the block? What can I do that might make me remember who I was before being a mom that breakdancer? Let's just imagine, like really think about this, broadly, again, let go of these moms scripts of the expectations of the things that are available for moms, what's available for your kid? What's available for your children? Go there. Get something off the kiddie menu, I promise you. No one is going to question your choice. And now we'll go into the logistics. And of course that's going to include your partner if you have one.   Step 2. I want you to work out the logistics as you do for EVERYONE else.   Now. You're a mom, you're a stay at home mom. If I know anything about you very specifically. It's that you're a logistics ninja for everyone. else's logistics. So let's just imagine that super last minute, your child procrastinated, they forgot that they have to be somewhere. And it was just essential. I know what you as a stay at home mom would do, you'd make it happen, somehow, you would pull out a rabbit from a hat, and figure out how to take your kid from point A to B. And the interesting part here is that you have this muscle, and it's really strong, you could use it for yourself. So let's imagine you wanted to take a break dancing class. And I want to just like, share this with you. Not everything cost money. There are some breakdancing classes that you could probably take for free. So let's just put that to the side. But let's continue with the logistics. Let's imagine you want to take a break dancing class, right? And you need to think about logistics. One big piece of the puzzle is that you need to tell your partner if you have one, or you need to figure out your childcare situation. Now, what I know about you, fellow stay at home mom, is that you know how to make stuff happen. You know, how to bring together all of your resources when it comes to everyone else. And so what I'm asking you to do right now is to use this superpower for yourself for this new interest that might actually reveal part of your purpose, and if nothing else, will make you a happier mom.   Wait, what if you feel resistant in changing your schedule or asking someone else to change there's?   So here's where resistance comes in. Okay. I don't want to ask my husband to take care of the kids on Saturday morning. Let's just imagine that's an excuse or resistance. Here's how you work through that. Breakout, a journal or notebook, I want you to ask yourself this question. And literally write out in bullet form your answers until your hand hurts, or you have a really honest response.   Here's the question, you ready for it? Okay, now you might be driving. So just like take this in and contemplate whether this might be a point of resistance for you. I want you to ask yourself, why? Why do I not want to tell my husband about caring for the kids on Saturday morning. And the reason why it's important for you to understand the reason for your resistance to doing any of these steps in terms of the logistics, like, Why? Why do I want to ask my husband to cook breakfast on Saturday morning, whereas I usually cook breakfast on Saturday morning. The reason why you have to really be self aware around the reasons why you don't take action for yourself, is because you need to get to the crux of the matter. You need to get to the absolute truth. What is it? What are you telling yourself? What are you making it mean when you choose to take a break dancing class on a Saturday morning, instead of quote unquote, doing your mom duties? Or taking your child to jujitsu or taking your child and you know, making pancakes for them on Saturday morning? What is it that you're making this mean? What is it telling your husband when you're asking for him to step in on a Saturday morning? What are you afraid of is going to happen? Do you feel like you will no longer be needed on Saturday mornings Do you feel then that this is going to drip into Sunday mornings, and maybe your partner can handle Monday mornings, like it's so important because these logistics, if we're really, really honest with ourselves a stay at home moms, these logistics are doable for every buddy else in your house. If you are choosing not to take that break dancing class, for any reason, other than you don't want to explore break dancing, or you might break a wrist or something, then it's important for you to understand why why without that inner work, it's going to be really, really hard to implement the steps along your mom journey. Because your interests, the things that give you your jet fuel or make you feel like you have a sense of purpose. Besides being a mom. It evolves, it changes. And so you're gonna need to do this every so often. So that's how you will work out the logistics. You'll get it done, as you have before for everyone else except this time for you and the points of resistance. It's about writing out why you feel that resistance. What are you making it mean? Why are you hesitant to ask your husband to step in? Or why are you not asking your mother to help you take care of your kids? There's usually something way bigger happening Behind the scenes, and if you don't address that point, you will constantly be searching for your purpose and feel like I did early on like your arms or legs or just fail flailing aimlessly. And you need to feel plugged into life, your life.   Step 3 - You have to find your tribe. So when I think about, you know, when I first got married, my husband and I did what other couples do, we went to, you know, the suburbs, and we were house hunting. And what we noticed on the commuter bus was that the passengers looked absolutely dead. They were alive, as in like reading their cell phones, but they didn't have like this life in them. And it was something that we felt being on this bus, and it scared the bejesus out of us to be honest. And so we didn't find suburbia, early on. So look around you look around at the moms that you talk to look around at your neighborhood. And you have to be honest with yourself like, is anyone around you high on life? Is anyone around you energize? Is anyone around you doing something that is plugged into their purpose? Like how often are you around that person? If it's not often enough, then you have to find your tribe. And your tribe? Might not be a mom tribe? Again, go back to the scripts as a stay at home mom in the past? like who are you supposed to be around other stay at home moms? Are you supposed to be around? You know, other people that are partnered up? Are you supposed to be around other 30 year olds, 40 year olds, 50 year olds, like we have these expectations and assumptions, or mom's scripts that really, really require almost like a reconsideration so that this way you feel on purpose, or even give yourself a shot to figure out what your purpose might be before being a mom. And at this point, what's urgent is that this season of being a mom, there's an expiration date. This was something else I read on the forums, there were some empty nesters who wish wish years before their kids left to university that they had gone on this journey of uncovering their purpose, because at this point, they felt so bored, and totally without purpose. So what I want to share with you in this podcast episode is a warning. It's a warning, this season of being a stay at home mom, unless you keep adopting children for the rest of your life, there comes a day where you will no longer have someone to stay home with. And for a lot of us this starts in kindergarten, Ever notice how like once your kids are out to school, you might struggle with figuring out what you should be doing during the course of the day. And even if you don't struggle with all the things that you give yourself to do. Have you ever felt like Hmm, what's the point of sweeping this floor again for the umpteenth time? Well imagine that as an empty nester, I can't imagine it. But according to the forums that I read, there's a lot of empty nesters who wish that they had taken the time to carve out in their stay at home mom journey to figure out what their ultimate purpose was, at least for the moment, and at least have a tool or method that they could apply throughout the life stages throughout their life stages. So here's where I'm going with this. This is so important. Like this topic of finding your purpose, besides or beyond being a mom is so important, so important that I decided to write a book about it.   And now for my BIG ask of you my fellow mom   I want every single mom that's listening to this, I want you personally to have the tools, resources, the support and the energy that you need to give yourself a chance to really live out your purpose. And honestly, if mental health matters to you, like really, really matters to you, then this conversation should speak to your heart whether you're a mom or not. If you believe like me, that you only get one life and you get to have happy days. And you get to get happy days, not just because of something that your kid did, but because of something that you did, then I want to invite you to help me.   Yep, I want your help. I am calling for 50-moms who enjoy reading non-fiction books to become beta readers in exchange for goodies including your name in my book credits. Continue reading for the details….   Right now, as I'm writing this book, tackling moms scripts, defying motherhood expectations scrapping some of the rules that I was told and writing my own motherhood rules. I need help. I need people who will read my book in the early days. So this is pre publishing date, I need moms who are from each of the 50 states. And I also want moms who are from English speaking countries, because this is a global conversation. This is not just a conversation for you, if you're like in Boston, or Austin or Astoria, like the same sentiments, this feeling of like, not having a purpose not having value, because you're not bringing in money, feeling like there's gotta be something more like this is really common. And honestly, it's probably in your own zip code. The issue is that we're not talking about it instead, a lot of us are pretending that everything is wonderful and hunky dory, when it really isn't. And so, even I, when I've lived in different countries, I've heard the same thing from stay at home moms, you could go to any children's area of a library anywhere around the world, and you will hear the same conversations, the frustrations of motherhood, how you feel like you don't have anything interesting going on how you don't even know where to begin, when it comes to professional conversations. Like this just needs to stop. Because if we have the most noble profession, then why is it that we don't feel like it's valued? Why is it that we don't all feel high on life and in purpose might it be because there's something else besides being a mom, that would actually give you that energy, that power, that lift, to actually feel happier every day? So that's my mission. And I want you to be part of it.   How to become a BETA reader? Simple DM me the word BETA on Instagram @melissallarena for details.   If you want to help me by being a beta reader, let me know, send me a DM on Instagram. So just DM me the word beta BETA, go to Instagram at Melissa Llarena. I am looking for beta readers who are going to have an early copy of my book, you will have an opportunity to give me feedback. This is essentially a nonfiction book about personal growth for moms so that this way you can figure out what is going to light you up. Might it be creative endeavor? Might it be starting a business? Might it be, you know, doing a podcast, I want you to understand what you might feel like you're up against, but no one is talking about in terms of those, those moms scripts. And then I want to give you the tools and inspiration you need from even people that are not moms. So that this way you can live with more enthusiasm, have a sense of playfulness, and have something really, really exciting to talk about, with anyone who will listen. So definitely I need BETA readers. Again, this is how it all works super simple. First of all, you're gonna get stickers, you're gonna get stickers, and I don't know about you. But for me, I was a big Lisa Frank fan, I couldn't afford all those stickers. But I want to give you a sticker. And it's gonna reflect a sense of this identity, this bigger identity more than a mom, who the heck knows what I will actually say, but I want you to be excited because you're gonna be part of a beta group collective of women, we're going to have copies of my book early. So before publishing date, you will have a chance to give me feedback, you will let me know what stories really resonated with you, you will also have a chance to look at my journal prompts, and answer them if that's your heart's desire, or provide feedback so that this way, my questions really, really help you do that deep inner work necessary to pull yourself up and feel excited about what you've got going on in your life. I'll give you the whole book, I'll give you a couple of questions that will help you focus in terms of this feedback. We're also going to do a beta reader party, and you're going to have your name in my book in my credit, so I want to be sure that I help you feel special, especially as the world says that stay at home moms are now must you be a mom to be a beta reader. Yes, it is important to have that perspective. Must you be a stay at home mom to be a beta reader? Not at all. You could be a working mom, you could have a business you can work for a corporation, but you must have a mom because moms have a very different way of looking at our priorities and the products that we choose to take on or not. So go ahead, send me a DM at Instagram. This will be in the show notes. So right now if you're looking at iTunes, just look at your cell phone when you are not driving, and you will see the spelling of my instagram name. It's at Melissa Llarena definitely send me the word beta b e t So just send me that word. And then I will share with you the details pertaining to when you will get the pre release copy of my book, the questions that you will be considering. And of course, I'll let you know the details about the beta reader reader party. Now, if you are being called to a higher purpose beyond, or besides being a mom, here's the truth. The only way to know is to actually show up for yourself today, because your purpose is your fuel, like you're going to need it you're gonna need to fill up all the time, so that this way you can give more and more of you to everyone else in your family. And at the end of the day, I think this is a very worthy, very worthy cause. Because so many stay at home moms out there. Like I honestly believe that if you're plugged into your purpose, you can actually solve the real challenges in this world. And without you, like you make up a huge part of the population. Without you, we're just never going to make the progress that we can as a society. So thank you for listening to this conversation. This is a call for beta readers, I would love a mom from every state in the United States to represent their state and be a beta reader. I would love a mom from English speaking countries to also show up as a beta reader, send me a DM at Melissa Llarena with the word beta B E T A. If you're interested in becoming a beta reader, the book is going to be about 70,000 words, you'll have three weeks to read it, I'll give you guided questions to consider. You'll have your name in the book, you'll also be invited to the VIP Beta reader party, and you will also have an opportunity to have and share and show off your sticker. Like I'm really excited about this sticker. So for sure, be part of this group be part of this community. I want to show you what it feels like to be totally alive and on purpose. And yes, it's okay if you are like me and you feel like your purpose might be beyond being a mom. That doesn't say anything about you as a good mom or not. Your good mom, you have someone's life in your heart. That's all you need to feel like you're getting it right. So I would love you on my book writing journey. Come and help me my beautiful betas come and help me.

    147: You Can Learn How To Play Again! Try This Moms!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2022 30:07


    Did you ever hear your name during Romper Room? Do you remember that 80s TV show when the host would look through a mirror and say a bunch of names? Well, I may have said your name during this podcast episode. Listen for it. Also exciting about this episode is that I read a snippet of my book for moms who want their imagination, playful, and all-around fun selves back. In this podcast episode, I also shared details about where you can instantly download your very own copy of one of my favorite chapters of my upcoming book. Just visit www.melissallarena.com/waitlist for your free book chapter! In it, I share with you the value I gained and you can too from stepping outside of your comfort zone to learn how to play again. Hint: if you feel as if you have lost that cheerful, free, and fun sense of yourself since motherhood then in this chapter you will read the exact steps you can take in the next 7 days to get her back! Have feedback or want to become an early reader? Then send me a note. I am seeking 50 - mamas to become my beta readers by October 30th. Join me by sending me a note to melissa [@] melissallarena.com if you want to be part of my beta reader collective. This is a non-fiction book for moms who believe in personal growth. Imagine, incorporating the exercises and doing the reflection questions that have transformed the lives of my podcast guests and my own too for the better. What if you end up transforming how you see your potential and purpose? All of this is available as a beta reader and for free. Just email me and I'll share the details. Beta Readers also get perks beyond reading the book in advance. You'll be mentioned in the book. You'll get stickers. You'll get free meditations too designed by this mama of three boys. Don't we all need to catch our breath once in a while? Join me, ladies, this is a movement to help us all find the courage and energy to rewrite the scripts we have inherited about motherhood and make it our own. Grab the whole chapter here: www.melissallarena.com/waitlist P.S. The snippet I decided to read is transcribed below. It's a draft. Please do not copy any portion. Improvisation, puppetry, acting, all those things that I learned in my acting courses we have innately in us when we're young. And then slowly, it just is dragged out of us, and we just become who we are. And then somewhere down the line, we go, oh, man, we used to run around and play and do things for fun. So Chris Thomas Hayes (a former podcast guest who is a puppeteer for Sesame Street) is telling us, although he has a script for guidance, to create the character of Hoots he still needs to tap into a younger more playful version of himself to ensure the way he performs Hoots is relevant to his viewers. That sense of playfulness and its loss is particularly relevant for moms. We get so caught up in the stress of day-to-day life that we forget to just have fun. I'd say my personal definition of “playing” boils down to letting our kids lead the way during any activity or your inner little girl. When was the last time you let go of orchestrating a moment and lost track of time? Chances are that was the last time you played. We also don't always see the benefits of playing with our kids. Like I have to think about adding play with my children to my list. Meanwhile, my husband plays this role of fellow playmate as one he was made for. Unlike me, my husband walks in the door and doesn't scour the space for things to pick-up and clean; he looks for our chess set to play chess (and aims to beat) our eldest son. I think this is about letting ourselves get swept away in play too. It is important not to lose sight of your sense of fun. Have you ever considered enrolling in an acting class or dabbled      in any performance arts as a way of thinking of yourself as a different character?  When I took my client's advice about learning how to improvise and feel comfortable standing on a stage talking about myself, I enrolled in a course with Adam Wade. Adam has won The Moth's StorySlam, twenty-times; he is an expert in personal storytelling. The course was immersive and personally challenging. It was out of character for me to do anything like this and it turned out I was the only mom of young kids in class. The schlep from New Canaan, Connecticut to Korea town, NYC every Sunday afternoon was a pain, but worth it. The class culminated in each of us telling a brief story, on stage, in front of our peers, friends, and families. I wish I would have been able to hide behind a puppet like Chris. My performance involved a lot of preparation. In the same spirit of getting ready to play a puppet, I wanted to tell the story of who I was before I became a mom. To be authentic I had to go back to when I was studying and working in France during my MBA. I was living in Paris, in an icebox of an apartment, only eating Comté cheese and grilled chicken, and drinking Sancerre wine. I'm sure you can see how foreign that life felt to me at the time when I was a suburban mom with three young boys. As part of an exercise in my acting lesson we were asked to improvise a story based on a cherished personal object. Mine was an empty fragrance bottle. Towards the end of my three months in France I decided to backpack through the Côte d'Azur. I visited Grasse, the capital of the perfume industry, where I bought myself a bottle of Fragonard perfume. The empty bottle has always reminded me of that wanderlust time in France. I had to figure out how to tap into my pre-mom way of being so that the crowd could feel how free I felt back then, the bottle was my way in. My entire body changed as I told that story. I smiled. I felt as if I was back in Monaco with my heavy backpack hopping on-and-off trains during my last days in France. In that moment, I wasn't thinking about my long commute home that night or being a mom. But when I returned home I was happier and more playful. That class unlocked something in me that I had in France but had been missing in Connecticut. Imagine those moments in your life when you felt most free? What images are popping up in your mind? Might there be a way for you to act out those moments just to feel those feelings again today?  You can take an acting class to be more playful or you can just go back to the time when you were. We all have those moments that light us up. When was yours? Want the full chapter for free: www.melissallarena.com/waitlist Alternatively, want to be a beta reader? Send me an email by October 30th to melissa [@]melissallarena.com HUGE NEWS My book is set to release this Winter 2022. Join me on my journey: www.melissallarena.com/waitlist FREE DOWNLOAD Want to grab your free copy of the Courage Makerspace (™) Playbook? Download the courage-building playbook for mompreneurs here: www.melissallarena.com/courage   Boost your courage in 7-days using the exact courage design tools that have worked for both me and my clients. Grab your free playbook instantly so that you can discover how to:   Figure out what makes you tick Be more accountable and not procrastinate Overcome imposter syndrome Stop caring about what others think Progress despite self-doubt Manage anxiety Ask for help You will have a step-by-step playbook to help you finally fulfill your life purpose! Do not miss out on this free opportunity as it will not be available for long. Want to continue the conversation? Find me on Instagram! You can read my daily mini-blogs for moms with big business dreams centered on the same three topics that my podcast features: creativity, courage, and curiosity. I believe that without all three it would be impossible to solve the challenges we were each uniquely made to solve. Wouldn't you agree? I'm easy to find on Instagram @melissallarena Rather keep it professional? Let's connect on LinkedIn. I encourage every single podcast listener to connect with me.

    146: Melissa On Why I'm Pivoting An Interview With Melissa Llarena

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2022 24:17


    In this week's episode, you are about to go behind the scenes of my podcast relaunch journey. I want to reveal my personal reasons for pivoting from entrepreneurship to wellness. Today, I will invite you to be part of my creative process. I'll ask you to send me your thoughts on 3 important questions. My aim is to ensure the next iteration of this podcast will be valuable and part of your weekly routine going forward. Oh, and stay tuned until the end, because I will be doing something special for those moms who do answer those 3 questions before the end of October 14th. But first, in 2017, I launched An Interview with Melissa Llarena out of a dare. One night I was cooking rice and beans, as many other Latina moms would do, when suddenly and excitingly my husband had an idea. He dared me to invite GaryVee and James Altucher to my podcast but first to launch a podcast. I'm grateful. I achieved that dare. Other things also came from my 140+ podcast episodes, I: overcame familiar mom feelings of imposter syndrome figured out that I can bring my own value to conversations even with goddess-like Suzy Batiz the inventor of Poo~Pourri mastered the art of organizing my recordings in between childcare snafus the whole journey has taught me a lot about how big I was or wasn't playing it also felt good, really good to always have a fun, and daring conversation up my sleeves amongst my mom friends or friends in conventional careers frankly, doing this podcast, got me out of my mom brain and that felt good Then after 140 episodes or so I started to see how far a podcast that began as a dare could get. Thus far, fueled by a dare, I've been able to garner about 15K downloads. This may sound wonderful. However, through the years I'd hear of some getting 10K downloads in their first few months.  So at this point, I decided to look at the numbers more seriously, and here is what I uncovered: people were listening but I started to feel like it was a one-way conversation (which I take total ownership as my episodes started to get long) guests were coming but their followers were not sticking around after one episode (I'll admit it may have been because my guest list start feeling unpredictable) meanwhile, marketing was happening but I was exhausted and my recent relocation from Australia back to the USA was a moment where I felt like I bit off more than I could chew Now, I have my MBA. I saw the stats but my ego just kept me going. I wasn't asking my listeners for feedback. I was just producing content and not really knowing WHY the numbers were not going up. Then one of my sons asked me a question Noah asked me: mommy, why are you doing a podcast if you are not getting paid for it? All the data in the world could have told me to stop podcasting or pour more resources into marketing it or evolving the theme to something more niche. But it was Noah my 8-year-old who led me here to pivot my podcast significantly.  Noah got me to be DONE with listening to my ego.  I contemplate for enough time. I was falling into a trap. I was going after fancy schmancy people because I'm scared that I won't be fancy schmancy like them if we aren't in the same orbits. Who would I be without them? Am I enough without their company? Noah got me to think about this thought very deeply.  This is why I've set out to do something very different. Very aligned. And very raw. And this is where you come in so please let me what you think. I'll share how in a moment.  I want to reshape this podcast to address one very urgent question as there is an influx of moms pursuing self-employment right now. Key Question: What ancient or modern wellness practices can entrepreneurial moms use to achieve the kind of unimaginable wellness that can truly unlock their greatest creative potential? This question has nothing to do with a dare. I'll tell you where this question comes from: I was raised by a single mom with Manic Depression. I have only known my mom with her illness since 1979.  Back then, mental health was a family secret. Yet, seeing her unable to accomplish her grandiose ambitions fueled me to pursue (and achieve some of my own). You can say building my own business and being a mom these last 11 years is evidence that there could be a silver lining when moms think extraordinary thoughts and have solid wellness practices to bubblewrap their sanity. All of this to say: I stand for resilience and creativity and I'd love to share my wisdom along with the wisdom of experts with my fellow moms who have big dreams yet might be neglecting their needs. I can attest to it that building a business as well as a family is innately a contact sport. Wellness is what can help entrepreneurs get back up. For moms, we must get back up. Personally, my mom never quite got there. *****SHORT SURVEY FOR PODCAST PIVOT***** So this is where you come into this relaunch process. Are you ready? Scooch up in your seat. Grab a notepad. This is your chance to help a mom on a mission. Send answers to melissa [@} melissallarena.com or via Instagram @melissallarena I want to know 3 things.  Who is an expert that you trust for your wellness insights? Anywhere in the world. The person you follow. You may have read their book or watched them on TV. Who do you consult for your wellness practices or guidance? Write it down. Whoever comes to mind it could be your tia Josefita or Jack Kornfield. What would wellness feel like for you personally? What word or words come to mind? If you are a visual person, what images pop up. If you are a kinesthetic person, what movements feel like your deepest expression of wellness?  If you are more auditory what would wellness sound like? What questions do you have about wellness?  Wellness is very broad to me: Physical, mental health, emotional, spiritual, social, intellectual, creative wellness….my quest is to make sure we are thinking more deeply, proactively, and in a way that we can hold ourselves accountable…so the solutions/ideas I'm seeking from future guests need to be practical and within reach So I've asked you these three questions. So where do you send your thoughts? You can email me your questions to Melissa @ melissallarena.com OR you can catch me on Instagram @melissallarena and send me an audio message there or message with ideas. Two ways for you.  *****REWARD FOR SURVEY RESPONSES***** Oh and I would love to reward you for your participation in this mini-survey. In exchange for your answers, I will be scheduling a free meditation session over Zoom for moms who are new to self-employment.  We will be covering two meditations one called: how to find calm even in the midst of a shitstorm (15-minutes) how to release guilt even if your kid tends to be the last one picked up from most places (15-minutes) Both topics after my own 11-year entrepreneurial adventures + motherhood journey are near and dear to my life and that's why I want to walk you through my process. These meditations have helped ME and I firmly believe that us moms breathing together can be one of the most beautiful contributions we can make to our families and business.  The exact Zoom date will be set for the week of October 17th.  Based on who sends in her answers, we will iron out the exact date/time. Send me your answers via email or Instagram. You'll see this in your show notes too. In the meantime, beyond sending me your answers. As it relates to this specific podcast episode. On another note.... I need your help. Moms know 100s of other moms. I know billion-dollar companies out there who use our word of mouth to sell us things we need and don't need. The time is now to help me by using your megaphone. I would like to ask that you SHARE or FORWARD this episode on your social media. I would be extra honored if you sent this to your whatsapp group mom communities. If you are a fellow podcaster it would be an honor to be a guest on your show so that I can get this message out too. The incredible thing I've noticed as a coach who has helped moms build their self-confidence is that billion-dollar businesses know how powerful we are. Yet, it's us who sometimes forget.  Has that ever happened to you? You see a survey out there and you think to yourself: aw they don't need my opinion. Or, I'm just going to say something they must already know. Alternatively, you might think I don't have time to add another thing to my plate. I'm a MOM! Here's my answer to all of those thoughts: What is on your mind is important. Your ideas. Your perspective. They are important. You are important. Your hopes. Your dreams. Your concerns. Your shares. Your forwards. All matter. I want to be certain that this next edition of my podcast Unimaginable Wellness gives you the tools, insights, and hope you need to make your dreams possible. You only get one you and this is about ensuring you've got a well from which to give to the world. So what do you say? Are you emailing me or DM-ing me your answers? I'd be honored to read them and lead you in my guided meditations specifically made for moms who are new to the world of self-employment.  Thank you and stay tuned until next Tuesday. I'll be releasing an interview I did with Fran Hauser Named one of the "6 Most Powerful Women in NYC's Tech Scene" by Refinery29. If you are a mom who is building a tech business then tune in because Fran loves investing in women-owned businesses that bring us together.

    145: Rerun of The Secret To Healing Goes Back To Indigenous/Aboriginal Traditions As Told By Joe Williams

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2022 62:40


    Thank you for listening to this episode from my archives. Stay tuned for a refreshed podcast theme, new guests, and even artwork soon! Send me a DM on Instagram @melissallarena - I would love to hear your thoughts on this "best of episode." Joe Williams is a former NRL player, professional boxer, and turned mental health advocate, who's bringing The Enemy Within workshops to various communities. The Enemy Within is built on its five pillars of values: love, care, respect, humility, and compassion.  Joe is known for his committed work within the community mental health and suicide prevention sectors. During our conversation, Joe mentions how we always talk about, "it takes a village to raise a child." And he makes a valid point that we don't have a village anymore. We wake up and go to work and send our kids off to school or to daycare in the morning, pick them up in the afternoon, and put them to bed. Unfortunately, we're not raised by our village anymore. Our kids are being shipped off and passed around by all these different people that have absolutely no idea who they are.  Now, where is this magical village that was supposed to help us raise our kids and support our families? How can we heal as a society and recover from some of the consequences that come from living in a concrete jungle? What practical wisdom might we want to borrow from indigenous and/or aboriginal societies that have worked for thousands of years?  You may be new to this podcast and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for listening. In exchange, I want you to know that I believe you're in control of your overall well-being and success, whether you're a parent or not. My perspective comes from being a daughter to a mom who has manic depression. I've witnessed a parent whose capacity took a hit and had grown up in that environment. I had to figure out the tools, methods, and ways to show up resiliently in my life. Otherwise, I wouldn't have been able to achieve my goals and ambitions as a coach to moms in business, a podcast host who has brought on big names like GaryVee and Suzy Batiz, nor as a mom to three young sons.  Before jumping into today's story and wisdom, I want to be sure you are connected to a completely free group of powerful, driven, and resilient moms with child-proofed coaching or services businesses that can bounce back faster after family interruptions.  What is a child-proof business? The key to business success as a coach, podcaster, or service business professional is that you and your business can navigate the volatile and unpredictable changes – childcare, illness, newborn, homeschool, etc. Join our Facebook group: Resilient Moms With Child-Proof High Impact Businesses: https://bit.ly/curiousmom. Share this with a mom in business who values her mental health and that of her children because Joe offers wisdom that can honestly save someone's life. This conversation offers the key to healing as a society and for generations to come. Meet Joe Joe is a proud Wiradjuri/Wolgalu, First Nations Aboriginal man born in Cowra, raised in Wagga NSW, Australia. Joe played in the National Rugby League for South Sydney Rabbitohs, Penrith Panthers, and Canterbury Bulldogs before switching to professional Boxing in 2009. Joe is a 2x WBF World Jnr Welterweight champion and won the WBC Asia Continental Title.  Although forging a successful professional sporting career, Joe battled the majority of his life with suicidal ideation and bipolar disorder. After a suicide attempt in 2012, Joe felt his purpose was to help people who struggle with mental illness. Through customized workshops, Joe talks of dealing with adversities, struggles, resilience, addiction, connection, emotional wellbeing & healing trauma in schools, communities, correctional services, sporting clubs, and workplaces. Joe was awarded the Wagga Wagga Citizen of the Year in 2015 for his committed work within the community mental health and suicide prevention sectors and was named a finalist in the National Indigenous Human Rights Awards. In 2018, Joe was awarded Suicide Prevention Australia's highest honor, a LiFE Award for his excellence in communities within the suicide prevention sector. In 2019, he was named a dual winner of the Australian Mental Health Prize.  Now a published author, Joe's autobiography “Defying The Enemy Within” shares not only his life's story but also offers practical tools anyone can implement to improve and maintain their emotional wellbeing. Joe also contributed to the book, “Transformation; Turning Tragedy into Triumph” and was featured in the documentary, “Suicide: The Ripple Effect”. Highlights Mental Health: Decide to proactively identify the best mental health tools for you and begin to implement them. Introspection: Think about modern society and see what parts are not serving you or your kids. Use this chat as an invitation for self-reflection because you don't have to copy/paste what everyone else is doing…not as a mom nor in business. Values: Learn about the values of society you admire (one that is authentic to you or one you admire from a distance). Distraction: We sit from nine to five in front of the computer. We go home tired because we're working and earning money for someone else. We get nasty at our children because we've had a tough day, not even worrying about how emotionally unstable our kids are. Lineage: Every family has patterns and mythology of thought, belief, and behavior that are passed on from one generation to another, the same way physical characteristics have been passed on. Compassion: Everyone is the way they are for a reason. We just need to be kind and compassionate to each other.  Awareness: Any outburst of emotional pain is a response to something else. A lot of the time, it's not directly related to the person we're out bursting and responding to. We're triggered by something that happened to us many years ago - and awareness is key. Expression: We fail to talk about mental health due to shame. It's sad how children are not given the agency to regulate their emotions because adults don't allow them to. We have to look back to go forward again. Connection: As human beings, we are born wired for love and connection. People have been connected since the beginning of time. And we're more disconnected than we've ever been in the history of humankind.  Gift: Shamans walk into mental health facilities and they don't see sickness. They see an abundance of people who are spiritually gifted.  Grounding: If people are 70% water, and the earth is made up of water, we need to get back to water. Anxiety: The fact that we're so sick as people now is because we project forward into a future that may not even be there. Depression: Anything that we're depressed about has happened in our past. But the best we can do is learn from it and adjust it to be better.  Presence: All we have is a moment of presence and it becomes the past. It's about being the absolute best person that we can be in the present moment.  Advocate: Advocate for yourself and don't be afraid to speak up. Be the best version of yourself – but you have to do your work. Values: The opposite of respect is disrespect. The opposite of compassion is judgment. The opposite of humility is ego. The opposites of those values are aligned with behaviors as well.  Acceptance: We don't know what the destination looks like yet. We just have to be grateful and thankful and try to find peace with that. If you enjoyed this conversation, check out these episodes with similar themes: How To Rebuild Yourself After Trauma With Faith, Hope, and Mindset, Timothy Phelps is the Author of The Invisible Child: Overcoming the Odds, Episode 58 Will Travis, Global Brand Builder and Creator of Elevation Barn Talks About How to Boost Morale and How to Become an Elevated Leader, Episode 33 Books mentioned: The Dreaming Path What Happened to You? Lost Connections Links to continue to learn from: Website: www.joewilliams.com.au  Instagram: @joewilliams_tew Twitter: @joewilliams_tew Facebook: The Enemy Within: Suicide Prevention Trauma Recovery & Wellbeing FREE DOWNLOAD Want to grab your free copy of the Courage Makerspace (™) Playbook? Download the Courage Makerspace(™) here www.melissallarena.com/courage   Boost your courage in 7-days using the exact courage design tools that have worked for both me and my clients. Grab your free playbook instantly so that you can discover how to:   Figure out what makes you tick Be more accountable and not procrastinate Overcome imposter syndrome Stop caring about what others think Progress despite self-doubt Manage anxiety Ask for help You will have a step-by-step playbook to help you finally fulfill your life purpose! Do not miss out on this free opportunity as it will not be available for long. Love An Interview With Melissa Llarena podcast?  You can now support my time in producing the show with Patreon. If you find that the podcast inspires you and you'd like to help support this labor of love, please consider supporting me on Patreon for a couple of dollars per month. You'll get early access to my video-recorded episodes featuring unreleased guest insights; your name and/or business will be mentioned during an episode. You'll also see how I have connected with powerful world leaders so that you can network more effectively in any field or help you pitch hard-to-reach guests on your own platform. Then if you are feeling extra generous for only $10/a month, you'll get everything previously mentioned plus be invited to my monthly LIVE 30-Minute “Ball Juggling” Group Calls where I'll field your business or work-life questions, podcast/guest questions, and share with you courage hacks and imaginative tips so you can feel sane, level-headed, and stay on track pertaining to your upcoming goals. Want to continue the conversation? Find me on Instagram! You can read my daily mini-blogs centered on the same three topics that my podcast features: creativity, courage, and curiosity. I believe that without all three it would be impossible to solve the challenges we were each uniquely made to solve. Wouldn't you agree? I'm easy to find on Instagram @melissallarena Rather keep it professional? Let's connect on LinkedIn. I encourage every single podcast listener to connect with me.

    144: Rerun of Dr. Joel Fuhrman Talks About Regaining Your Power Through Nutrition

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2022 55:21


    Thank you for listening to this episode from my archives. Stay tuned for a refreshed podcast theme, new guests, and even artwork soon! Send me a DM on Instagram @melissallarena - I would love to hear your thoughts on this "best of episode." Are you looking to lose weight? Let's talk about this top New Year's resolution, which is the desire to lose weight or increase exercise or just improve our overall diet. Sure, we want to improve our health. But how serious are we when it comes to making the changes necessary to turn our health around? Now, what would be possible if we actually got it right this year? Today, we have Dr. Joel Fuhrman, a board-certified family physician, seven-time New York Times bestselling author, and nutritional researcher who specializes in preventing and reversing disease through nutritional and natural methods. He's here to help us understand why we get diseases in this modern era when we're supposed to be living longer than ever before. He shares how we can regain that power and how we can start leveraging nutritionally dense foods in our lives and that also taste delicious.  Dr. Fuhrman gives me a sense of hope that despite some diseases being hereditary, they are not a fact in my life nor in future generations. ​​And so, we don't need to live with the fear of disease if we just get our diet right.  Many diseases are preventable, including heart disease, diabetes, and cancer. It's really about changing our food habits, and the relationship we have with food so we can have healthy immune function. And I think a healthy immune function is a heck of a resolution above and beyond fitting into those skinny jeans.  In this interview, Dr. Fuhrman and I talked about what's behind the processed foods that are so addictive. Finally, he teaches us how we can feel empowered, that we have a say in what we eat, and ultimately feel successful that can actually achieve our New Year's resolution of losing weight and feeling healthier.  Share this episode with someone who is also trying to do better for their health and life. I hope this conversation inspires you to do the same for yourself and in your family as well!  Dr. Joel Fuhrman's Biography Dr. Joel Fuhrman is the author of several books including Eat for Life, The End of Dieting, and Eat to Live, among others. He also has a retreat called Eat to Live, and he shares his lifesaving nutritional protocols with people around the world. Dr. Fuhrman's work is cited in medical journals and he's involved with multiple nutritional studies with major research institutions across the U.S. He also serves as the president of the Nutritional Research Foundation. His five PBS shows have raised over $70 million for PBS.  Highlights Curiosity: Be curious about your history in terms of your health and wellbeing (physical, mental, and emotional) and think about what you need to avoid in your life. Take this opportunity to become your own advocate.  Creativity: It takes so much creativity to whip something together in a kitchen that is not relying on salt, fat, or sugar to make the flavors vibrant and stand out. When it comes to food choices, be more creative with how you piece healthier items together. Courage: It takes courage to eat differently than everyone around you. It also takes courage to just let everyone else live their lives because we are all able to make our own food choices. Be courageous enough to choose differently and change every generation in the future. Nutrition: Nutrition has the ability to be much more effective than conventional medical care. When applied therapeutically, nutrition can help people get rid of high blood pressure, diabetes, chronic headaches, and heal autoimmune diseases. Nutritarian: 90% of common cancers don't have to happen if the whole population changed their diet to one that was nutrient-rich and phytochemicals. Dr. Fuhrman calls it a nutritarian diet.  Disease: Conventional and popular medical care and all those medical interventions have almost an insignificant effect in extending human lifespan and preventing disease. But people can live longer and better without the fear of disease and if you are sick, you can even reverse it.  Education: We have a blossoming obesity epidemic, making more diabetics and younger people getting strokes. Unfortunately, we're not doing anything to curtail these needless deaths. That's because we're not teaching our population about the power of nutrition through reading, writing, arithmetic and nutritional science. Genetics: Genetics do not play a role in heart disease, unless you eat unhealthily, then you will enable those genetic markers and defects to be expressed themselves.  Educators: Most doctors are not eating healthy themselves, and they're overweight and sickly, just like the rest of the population. They're usually generally as ignorant about nutrition as your average truck driver or librarian because it's not their job. Their job is to search for things they can treat with drugs and some are surgically trained to treat people. But they're not really trained to motivate, educate, and inform people to change people's nutritional eating habits.  Addiction: Food is highly addictive and how fast the calories get into the bloodstream makes a food more or less addicting. Processed foods and fats have an addictive nature that's why people emotionally overeat. Concentrated calories can take over dopamine receptors in the brain that makes you want to eat more food resulting in a buildup of toxicity. Prevention: If doctors agree that people with heart disease shouldn't have more than 1500 milligrams of sodium a day, then why shouldn't the whole population do the same? Health Crisis: We have a healthcare crisis across the modern world. Infectious diseases have climbed from 1990 to 2005 every year, and we've been seeing more infection-related deaths before this pandemic. We have an emerging crisis and we're dying of these diseases of nutritional stupidity. Awareness: It's time for people to unravel all the misinformation they've learned their whole life and understand why it's so difficult for people to change their diet and their food preferences.  Processed Food Abstinence: You have to sometimes have enforced abstinence. But once you abstain long enough, then you start to like and enjoy and prefer this way of eating. Then you realize once you're out of that addictive trap, you get back control of your brain. You take back control of your life and you're back to being the creative and thoughtful person you always could have been.  Self-destruction: The more you're an addict, it makes people more narcissistic, more self-centered, more interested in instant gratification, and less concerned about other humans and humanity. They're looking for excuses for why they're okay to keep being with self-destructive behavior that's also destroying the environment, the climate and the natural world.  Knowledge: Our food system is devastating to the Earth's environment, and we should be learning that in conjunction with our own personal wellbeing. Without the fear of disease means you can enjoy your later years. Price: People living in a fairy tale think they can eat fried foods, fast foods, and commercial baked goods, but you pay a price for every mouthful that you do. It affects who you are and who you become. Unfortunately, people don't like that message.  Family: Parents are giving poisonous foods like donuts and soda pop to kids that are going to destroy their brain and cause depression and autoimmune conditions in their future. Work as a family to revamp your diet to get healthy and you can have a lot of fun.  Anger and anxiety: Processed foods, fried foods, and commercial baked goods lead to more anger, anxiety, lack of patience, and poor ability to make good choices. They interfere with people's ability to concentrate, be creative, and think logically because you're weakening your brain when you eat so poorly. The power of nutrition: You could eat healthfully for one or two weeks and your risk of having a heart attack could drop by 1000 fold, just because you changed your diet radically over the two-week period. Links to continue to learn from: Website: www.drfuhrman.com  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drfuhrman?_rdr=p  Twitter: https://twitter.com/drfuhrman Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joelfuhrmanmd/ FREE DOWNLOAD Want to grab your free copy of the Courage Makerspace (™) Playbook? Download the Courage Makerspace(™) here www.melissallarena.com/courage   Boost your courage in 7-days using the exact courage design tools that have worked for both me and my clients. Grab your free playbook instantly so that you can discover how to:   Figure out what makes you tick Be more accountable and not procrastinate Overcome imposter syndrome Stop caring about what others think Progress despite self-doubt Manage anxiety Ask for help You will have a step-by-step playbook to help you finally fulfill your life purpose! Do not miss out on this free opportunity as it will not be available for long. Love An Interview With Melissa Llarena podcast?  You can now support my time in producing the show with Patreon. If you find that the podcast inspires you and you'd like to help support this labor of love, please consider supporting me on Patreon for a couple of dollars per month. You'll get early access to my video-recorded episodes featuring unreleased guest insights; your name and/or business will be mentioned during an episode. You'll also see how I have connected with powerful world leaders so that you can network more effectively in any field or help you pitch hard-to-reach guests on your own platform. Then if you are feeling extra generous for only $10/a month, you'll get everything previously mentioned plus be invited to my monthly LIVE 30-Minute “Ball Juggling” Group Calls where I'll field your business or work-life questions, podcast/guest questions, and share with you courage hacks and imaginative tips so you can feel sane, level-headed, and stay on track pertaining to your upcoming goals. Want to continue the conversation? Find me on Instagram! You can read my daily mini-blogs centered on the same three topics that my podcast features: creativity, courage, and curiosity. I believe that without all three it would be impossible to solve the challenges we were each uniquely made to solve. Wouldn't you agree? I'm easy to find on Instagram @melissallarena Rather keep it professional? Let's connect on LinkedIn. I encourage every single podcast listener to connect with me.

    143: Rerun of Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith Talks About How to Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, and Restore Your Sanity Through Sacred Rest

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2022 59:13


    Thank you for listening to this episode from my archives. Stay tuned for a refreshed podcast theme, new guests, and even artwork soon! Send me a DM on Instagram @melissallarena - I would love to hear your thoughts on this "best of episode." Are you tired? It's a silly question, right? This is the episode that can change the quality of your life because this is for you if you are tired all the time.  We actually don't have a sophisticated language around our exhaustion. But this week's guest, Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, wrote the book, Sacred Rest, where she outlines the 7 different types of rest, which you will hear about today. This is a book about honoring rest in a society that values productivity as a way to express your worth.  We also go into why we experience Zoom fatigue which is one type of “tired” as well as why our brain doesn't always shut off when our heads are on our pillow and we're just thinking about that challenge or that tough conversation of the day. Then there is social rest. Interestingly, there are some people that pour into us, and then there are also some people that pull from us. Dr. Dalton-Smith also shares a quiz you can take to uncover what kind of rest you may need more of in your life. You will also hear about my 5 secrets to goal-achieving free workshop where you will have an opportunity to hear about the mindset and strategy I implement to achieve big goals that actually matter to my happiness, joy, and fulfillment. Now, if you have big goals you want to achieve in 2022, I'm sharing the insights that have worked for me in terms of achieving really big goals, whether it's been relocating my family from the United States to Australia, earning two full scholarships to private institutions, or birthing my children on my own terms. Get ready to uncover the insights that have worked for me and that I have taught my clients. And so, if you have big goals that you want to achieve and goals that really matter to you, then you are going to have a good sense of the five things you'll want to incorporate in your plan, if you have a plan. Sign-up for the recording today: www.melissallarena.com/goals it will be available for two-weeks only. Be ready to rethink what's possible in your next chapter. About this week's guest Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith is a Board-Certified internal medicine physician, speaker, and award-winning author. She is an international well-being thought-leader featured in numerous media outlets including Prevention, MSNBC, Women's Day, FOX, Fast Company, Psychology Today, INC, CNN Health, and TED.com. She is the author of numerous books including her bestseller Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity, including insight on the seven types of rest needed to optimize your productivity, increase your overall happiness, overcome burnout, and live your best life. Over 250,000 people have discovered their personal rest deficits using her free assessment at RestQuiz.com.  Share this with a friend for whom you would have to make her rest sacred and part of her daily habit.  Highlights Courage: It takes courage to understand where you are so that you can better understand the particular rest that you need and then to honor this place. You also get to see who is pouring into you or pulling from you Creativity: There is also a need for creative rest. This is the kind of rest we experience when we allow ourselves to appreciate beauty in whatever form. By the consumption of that beauty, it awakens that inspiration inside of you and it awakens your own creativity. Curiosity: Seek significant information. Be very specific in defining what's tired. Are you tired of dealing with other people? Are you tired of having to think? Are you tired of having to remember stuff? Or is your body achy?  Signs: What are the signs and symptoms of the kind of tired you are experiencing? If you can start narrowing down what the signs and symptoms of that are, you're going to be more likely to come up with a solution that's going to help that problem. Emotional rest: Very often we are masking our emotions or trying to keep them under tabs. We can just keep acting as if things don't affect us, and we're carrying a lot of emotional labor. Therefore, we have allow ourselves to be very real, open and authentic about what we are feeling. Honor: Just the ability to be authentic, and expressing those emotions begins that restful process. You can do it on a journal and honor where you're at. Acceptance: At the very core of rest is a restorative process. How do we make it better than where it's at? But there has to be that recognizing where you're at and evaluating your current state without any judgment. Burnout: The toxicity of that emotional labor will become so heavy that it starts feeling debilitating. Rest: The 7 types of rest include physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, social, sensory, and creative.  Social rest: Social rest looks at our relationships. Are they pulling from us or are they pouring back into us? Take a look at the people in our lives that are actively pouring back into us that are life-giving. Make sure some of your relationships are pouring back into you. Physical rest: This involves dealing with the physical body such as passive things like sleeping and napping, as well as active physical rest like massage therapy, or using a foam roller or going for a leisure walk.  Spiritual rest: If you're a person of faith, that could be your relationship with God. If you don't have a faith based system, that could look like communities you're in. Mental rest: If you are struggling with clearing your mind, you could have a mental rest deficit. You need to learn how to focus again and clear that mental clutter. Sensory rest: Most of us have a lot of sensory input we're not even aware of (the lights, the sounds, the smells around the place that you work, and that you spend most of your day). You have to be aware of the sensory inputs in your environment as well as how you are responding to them if they're actually affecting your overall personality. Zoom fatigue: The number one rest deficit used to be mental rest. But during the pandemic, there was an increase in the number of virtual meetings. Every little screen has his own little visual input that you're analyzing, which you normally would not even think about. Stress: There's an extra stress that comes with Zoom meetings because you lose the power of presence and you lose the ability to evaluate that the way you normally would if you gave that same presentation in the room.  Evaluate: If you are feeling like some part of you is not at its optimal best, then you need to evaluate that and then to make some decisions on how to improve that. Sleep: There's a place when things like a prescription drug or a glass of wine are needed but you don't like them to become your normal. Sleep isn't the only type of rest. However, rest is often the pathway to good sleep.  Sleep cycle: There are multiple stages of sleep. Stage 1 is the non-REM sleep. The restorative aspect of sleep is Stage 3 where you're soundly asleep. Deep sleep: As long as your brain keeps rehashing the same thought, it will keep you from actually going into those deeper levels of sleep. Have some strategies in place for how you're going to help the brain release it including mindfulness and the brain dump. Stillness: It's when you allow yourself to honor rest. We put more value in the busy and in the doing and the movement. We have gotten to a place where we don't honor our need to just be still. Links to continue to learn from: Website: http://drdaltonsmith.com/ Instagram: @DrDaltonSmith Twitter: @DrDaltonSmith Facebook: Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith Rest Quiz Test: https://www.restquiz.com/quiz/rest-quiz-test/  FREE DOWNLOAD Want to grab your free copy of the Courage Makerspace (™) Playbook? Download the Courage Makerspace(™) here www.melissallarena.com/courage   Boost your courage in 7-days using the exact courage design tools that have worked for both me and my clients. Grab your free playbook instantly so that you can discover how to:   Figure out what makes you tick Be more accountable and not procrastinate Overcome imposter syndrome Stop caring about what others think Progress despite self-doubt Manage anxiety Ask for help You will have a step-by-step playbook to help you finally fulfill your life purpose! Do not miss out on this free opportunity as it will not be available for long. Love An Interview With Melissa Llarena podcast?  You can now support my time in producing the show with Patreon. If you find that the podcast inspires you and you'd like to help support this labor of love, please consider supporting me on Patreon for a couple of dollars per month. You'll get early access to my video-recorded episodes featuring unreleased guest insights; your name and/or business will be mentioned during an episode. You'll also see how I have connected with powerful world leaders so that you can network more effectively in any field or help you pitch hard-to-reach guests on your own platform. Then if you are feeling extra generous for only $10/a month, you'll get everything previously mentioned plus be invited to my monthly LIVE 30-Minute “Ball Juggling” Group Calls where I'll field your business or work-life questions, podcast/guest questions, and share with you courage hacks and imaginative tips so you can feel sane, level-headed, and stay on track pertaining to your upcoming goals. Want to continue the conversation? Find me on Instagram! You can read my daily mini-blogs centered on the same three topics that my podcast features: creativity, courage, and curiosity. I believe that without all three it would be impossible to solve the challenges we were each uniquely made to solve. Wouldn't you agree? I'm easy to find on Instagram @melissallarena Rather keep it professional? Let's connect on LinkedIn. I encourage every single podcast listener to connect with me.

    142: Rerun of Phaidra Knight, World Rugby Hall of Famer, founder of PeaK Unleashed, and Mixed Martial Artist Expresses the Importance of Equality and Feeling Limitless Regardless of Age and Circumstances, Episode 17

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2022 54:24


    Thank you for listening to this episode from my archives. Stay tuned for a refreshed podcast theme, new guests, and even artwork soon! Send me a DM on Instagram @melissallarena - I would love to hear your thoughts on this "best of episode." Originally from a small rural town in Georgia, Phaidra Knight, for nearly 18 years, traveled the globe as a professional rugby player, establishing herself as one of the premier players in the sport. In this episode, she shared the many unique experiences she had both on and off the field. And she explained how each athletic opportunity offered a new perspective and made her a better athlete. She also shared her passion for youth leadership and reminded us that even if we can impact one child out, that's one person who we have helped shape the trajectory of their life. Every single person deserves equality and the opportunity to feel limitless, especially children.  Phaidra has made three appearances in the Rugby World Cup and was selected as the top player in the world for her position in 2002 and 2006. In 2010, she was named the US Rugby Player of the Decade. Also, in 2010, she became an avid CrossFit competitor and, in 2013, a member of the United States Developmental Bobsled Team. And in November 2017, she was inducted into the World Rugby Hall of Fame.  Phaidra is currently embarking on a new athletic endeavor, perhaps the most ambitious one in her life. She has set out to become a World Champion Mixed Martial Artist by the time she becomes a half centurion. She started training as a mixed martial artist in June of 2019 and has been devoted fulltime to it since. She trains at the Renzo Gracie Academy in New York City.  Meanwhile, in 2019, Phaidra founded PeaK Unleashed, a non-profit organization devoted to cultivating youth leadership and development through Rugby with an emphasis on the incarcerated and sexually exploited populations. She is also a keynote and motivational speaker, and TV/Media sports broadcaster. She serves on the USA Rugby Board of Directors and the Board of Trustees for the Women's Sports Foundation. With a passion for fashion and a powerful voice in equality for girls and women in sports, Phaidra will launch the PSK Collective an inclusive apparel line in the fall of 2020. What's more, Phaidra will be making her big-screen debut later this year in the movie “Bruised,” starring and directed by Halle Berry. And later this spring, the Global Sports Institute of Arizona State University will film a documentary featuring Phaidra's life journey. All the while, Phaidra pursued law earlier on in her career at the University of Wisconsin. Phaidra is unstoppable and so inspiring on so many levels! Tune in to hear Phaidra's thoughts pertaining to: How the COVID-19 pandemic makes it clear that we need to obtain perspective and learn how we can do better in the future. (6:00) Phaidra talked about the moment she got the notice that she was inducted into the World Rugby Hall of Fame. (7:56) Phaidra answers the question, “Do the reasons to get into sports differ for girls (intrinsic) and boys (extrinsic)?” (9:47) Her journey as a power athlete who got into basketball earned a Hall of Fame title in Rugby, and explored bobsledding. (14:00) The contrasts and similarities carry over across various sports, including foot and hand positioning. (28:19) Training never stops even during a pandemic: Phaidra continues her MMA training and chooses to focus on the things she can control; she points to the folks in the Olympics and how she feels for them, given that in one year some of them won't be competing and fulfilling their dreams. (29:47) Youth leadership and the mission and purpose of PeaK Unleashed. (31:06) Phaidra talks of the influence and push by her family: I know their drive is the reason why I am a Rugby Hall of Famer….I was pushed as a kid...and that's why I am who I am!!! (36:19) Learn how your cooperation can support Phaidra's non-profit, PeaK Unleashed; there are many creative ways to pitch in. Find out how. (45:28) I ask Phaidra: What's your take on the low standards we place on inner-city or small-town kids with few resources?  Listen to hear how Phaidra thinks about the low expectations we put on some children. Additional Links: Phaidra's website  Phaidra on Instagram

    141: The Power of Savoring Each Moment During This Back To School Season and into Your Daily Life with Alejandra Molina

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 30, 2022 61:59


    A lot of moms have a lot on their plates right now and sometimes, it can feel like things are a little out of control especially during this back to school season. How do we navigate this wild adventure of life called motherhood and still be able to find some humor amidst the craziness of it all? And how do we juggle the demands motherhood brings and our responsibilities in business? For whatever it's worth, just know that you're NOT alone! And it does help to insert a little positivity into your life. Make it happen right now!  In today's conversation, Alejandra Molina shares fresh perspectives into how we can all figure out that balance between entrepreneurship and motherhood while maintaining positivity in life. Alejandra is a Well-being and Mindfulness Coach, an NBC-HWC Board Certified Health Coach and holds Certificates in Neuroscience and Positive Psychology. She helps people undergoing stress or experiencing burnout, gain mental clarity and create more well-being. Alejandra is a wife and mother of two girls and has lived in three countries with her family, which has brought a lot of growth and inspiration for her work.  Alejandra started her journey in development and social work in Latin America, with a strong interest in personal agency, resilience, and early childhood development. It was the resilience she saw in her work and her personal journey with wellbeing and stress after being a mother that led her down this path of coaching and learning the science of wellbeing.  Today, Alejandra will teach us how to savor every moment of our lives. These are basic things that we may have all forgotten about, and it helps to be reminded every now and then. By choosing a different mindset and anchoring positive psychology in your life, you're able to create more meaning into your business, relationships, and every aspect of your life.    In this episode, you will hear: What is positive psychology? PERMA: The recipe to create balance and apply positive psychology to your daily life Ways to savor your morning: taking a pause, having a cup of coffee – it's all about intentionality! Recognizing the power of the pause and giving yourself some grace especially during an overwhelming back to school season How mindfulness resets your system The difference between virtues and values Having clarity and coherence of your values Acknowledging that transitions might shake up your routines – and that's okay! Empowerment is about knowing how to adapt to changes in your life What mental strength looks like Embracing both the negatives and positives in your life Why you need to muster up the courage to sit down with your emotions   Share this episode with a mom who could use some grace and compassion on her wild adventure of motherhood and entrepreneurship.   Similar Episodes: Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith Talks About How to Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, and Restore Your Sanity Through Sacred Rest, Episode 110 Finding Happiness in the Little Things Within Your Reach, Episode 102   Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to our podcast? We'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.   Supporting Resources: Website: www.theblisswell.com  Instagram: @theblisswell Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100064077190625    Join Me So many moms are struggling to survive much less to thrive and use their superpower of imagination and for those moms, I have opened a waitlist for moms who want to be first in line for my upcoming book: How to reawaken your imagination to see the greatness in yourself. Here's what you can expect: Every Friday, I share with you an insight that I have uncovered about the book-writing process as a mom and I tell you very practically how to implement these insights so that you can start feeling more confident about someday writing your own story or just on how to use your imagination a bit more each day. If you are a mom who is ambitious and seeks to make the biggest impact possible in her life and teach her kids how to do the same then this waitlist call is precisely for you. Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist  You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/

    140: How to Write the Book Inside of You with Alex Kiester

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2022 61:24


    Do you have a book inside of you that's just waiting for you to put out? As for Alex Kiester, writing has been her childhood dream. And although life has a way to deviate her from it at times, she still finds herself coming back to her first love.  Here's a little background about Alex. After graduating from Rhodes College with a degree in creative writing, Alex worked as a copyeditor for the Journal of the Texas House of Representatives then as a book editor for a boutique romance publisher.  Her debut novel, “In Her Skin,” came out as an Audible Original in fall, 2019 and was listed as one of November's Top Ten Trending Audible Originals. Her latest novel, “The Truth About Ben and June,” came out June, 2022 and was chosen as HarperCollins Canada's book of the season and Walmart Canada's read of the month for July. She currently lives in Austin, TX with her husband.  One of Alex's best pieces of advice is to write something you want to read and just let your inner voice guide you. If it resonates with you, then it's going to resonate with other people. But whether you're dreaming of becoming a writer or whatever that is, hopefully, this episode will inspire you and give you the confidence to pursue your childhood dream!   In this episode, you will hear: The story of a published author who always wanted to be one even as a little girl Sources of inspiration for the book The Truth About Ben and June The real value in writing about a fear or concern you may have – whether in private or publically How the opposite of ambivalence is not certainty The choices that we have as moms – career or otherwise Decisions authors make while working with publishing houses How to not censor yourself The key to getting beyond a bad first sentence How to get that book outside of you The free way to get a writing education   Share this episode with a writer or aspiring novelist who seeks inspiration from someone who made her childhood writing dreams come true. Similar Episodes: How to Plan Your Perfect Summer Travel Through Curiosity and Wonder with Author Jenny Herbert, Episode 82   Award-Winning Filmmaker Jeff Bollow on Expanding Your Imagination Exponentially, Episode 78  Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to our podcast? We'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: Website: https://www.alexkiester.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexkiesterwriter  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AlexKiesterWriter  Join Me So many moms are struggling to survive much less to thrive and use their superpower of imagination and for those moms, I have opened a waitlist for moms who want to be first in line for my upcoming book: How to reawaken your imagination to see the greatness in yourself. Here's what you can expect: Every Friday, I share with you an insight that I have uncovered about the book-writing process as a mom and I tell you very practically how to implement these insights so that you can start feeling more confident about someday writing your own story or just on how to use your imagination a bit more each day. If you are a mom who is ambitious and seeks to make the biggest impact possible in her life and teach her kids how to do the same then this waitlist call is precisely for you. Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist  You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/

    139: Want to Make a Big Life Change? Learn the Four Phases of the Jump Curve from Mike Lewis

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2022 44:01


    Are you thinking about making a big change in your life? Maybe you want to shift careers, or perhaps relocate to a different part of the world. Whatever that change looks like for you, today's guest, Mike Lewis, shares these four phases of what he calls, “the jump curve,” that people go through as they pursue change. Mike is a member of the Sustainable Finance Group at Goldman Sachs, where he focuses on impact investing and helps lead global climate partnerships. Earlier in his career, Mike was a venture and growth equity investor at Bain Capital Ventures and was the founder of When to Jump, a media and reskilling platform and community for working professionals globally. He is the author of "When to Jump: If the Job You Have Isn't the Life You Want", published worldwide by Macmillan and Hachette in 2018 and distributed in over fifty countries in six languages following its release. Mike is the founder of a 501(c)3 urban squash enrichment organization that mentors at-risk youth in his hometown. He formerly ranked 112th as a professional squash player in the world. Mike received his MBA from The Stanford Graduate School of Business and graduated magna cum laude from Dartmouth College, where he studied Government and Environmental Studies. Change comes with some risks and uncertainties. But if you're looking to press reset in your life, hopefully, the wisdom that Mike will share today will motivate you and give you the courage to finally make that jump.  In this episode, you will hear: How to think about a big change you want to make i.e. make a jump Transferable skills and experiences you can take with you during jumps The courage to share an important message and overcome imposter syndrome A shared desire to be fulfilled What is the jump curve? The 4 phases of making a jump How to begin thinking about your own jump and staying energized   Share this episode with a friend who would like to jump into a new sector, career, or even relocate to a different part of the world.    Similar Episodes: From Media Executives to The Big Life Experiment, Cathy and Joe Lurie Share Their Passion for Helping People Reset and Create the Life They Want, Episode 91   Laura Carney Didn't Find Her Life Purpose – Instead, It Found Her!, Episode 99    Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to our podcast? We'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.   Supporting Resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whentojump/  Website: www.whentojump.com      Join Me So many moms are struggling to survive much less to thrive and use their superpower of imagination and for those moms, I have opened a waitlist for moms who want to be first in line for my upcoming book: How to reawaken your imagination to see the greatness in yourself. Here's what you can expect: Every Friday, I share with you an insight that I have uncovered about the book-writing process as a mom and I tell you very practically how to implement these insights so that you can start feeling more confident about someday writing your own story or just on how to use your imagination a bit more each day. If you are a mom who is ambitious and seeks to make the biggest impact possible in her life and teach her kids how to do the same then this waitlist call is precisely for you. Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist  You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/

    138: Fall Back in Love with Your Craft Again with Lorin Martin

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2022 60:17


    Have you ever wanted to do something in your life but you just never had the courage to do it? Maybe you've pursued your passion to become a doctor or a pharmacist, or a lawyer because you wanted to do good in the world. But then you ended up working in an organization that's got its own set of ideas you don't necessarily align with.  Lorin Martin used to work as a pharmacist at CVS. For her, really getting to know the clients and getting to know customers was paramount. But it wasn't something she could do there. After graduating from Texas A&M University with her Bachelor of Science in Kinesiology, Lorin Martin received her Doctorate of Pharmacy from the University of Texas in Austin. Upon graduation, she managed an independent pharmacy in Austin for 3+ years, where her passion for compounding grew. Currently, Lorin is the owner of Bear's Compounding Pharmacy and the Pharmacist-In-Charge. Born and raised in Georgetown, Lorin could not be happier to be planting her roots back in her hometown! Could you even imagine a fun pharmacy? That's what Lorin's pharmacy is! Finally, it's now aligned with the things she enjoys the most. If you feel that you've fallen out of love with your profession, learn how to find your way back to falling in love with your craft again.  In this episode, you will hear: What if you are unhappy with your industry's practices and you think you can build a better solution?  How can you reinvent yourself and fall in love again with your profession? The benefits of launching in your hometown and bringing big city thinking back What if you could be resilient enough to step into entrepreneurship? Should you partner with your partner? Listen to this success story for inspo.  What steps might there be if you were to launch your own physical store? Ideas around collaborating and best practices to achieve success early on when capacity is limited   Share this episode with a power couple with big dreams of owning a business or someone who is curious about launching a new concept in their industry. Similar Episodes: Van Lai-DuMone Explains How Creativity Workshops Can Increase Creativity in the Workplace, Episode 87 How To Find Inspiration For Creating Viral Content, Katherine Young Creator of the Girls' Life Magazine Cover Meme, Episode 52 Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to our podcast? We'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources:  www.bearscompoundingpharmacy.com @bearspharmacy Join Me So many moms are struggling to survive much less to thrive and use their superpower of imagination and for those moms, I have opened a waitlist for moms who want to be first in line for my upcoming book: How to reawaken your imagination to see the greatness in yourself. Here's what you can expect: Every Friday, I share with you an insight that I have uncovered about the book-writing process as a mom and I tell you very practically how to implement these insights so that you can start feeling more confident about someday writing your own story or just on how to use your imagination a bit more each day. If you are a mom who is ambitious and seeks to make the biggest impact possible in her life and teach her kids how to do the same then this waitlist call is precisely for you. Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist  You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/

    137: EPIC Local Spots Where You Can Unravel Life's Challenges Featuring @HikeAustin's Creator Matthew Guthrie

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2022 50:44


    When was the last time you went out for a hike in the mountains, walked on the ocean, or just experienced nature? Being outdoors can do wonders. So, get your hiking boots or your surfboard ready because you definitely would want to head out after hearing this episode.  Born and raised in Austin, Texas, USA, Matthew Guthrie grew up exploring its greenbelts (i.e. woods) and parks. His passion for the outdoors led him to create Hike Austin, an organization devoted to promoting and protecting the green spaces around Austin. His first visit to Westcave was on an elementary school field trip and he has stayed connected to Westcave ever since. Matthew is a photographer whose work has been published in local/regional magazines. Matthew also has a passion for entrepreneurship and currently works as a producer on The Build Show.  Today, Matthew discusses the mental break you get from being outdoors. Sure, it's difficult to find time – but it takes intention. It's a matter of getting to that headspace where you can turn your head off for 10, 15, or 20 minutes so you can come back to whatever you're doing, feeling renewed and re-energized. Matthew also talks about kindness as well as the importance of nature conservation and how we can all use our imagination to conserve our beloved environment. In this episode, you will hear: How nature is a mental massage to help you untie life's “knotty” challenges Why Austin is one of America's kindest cities? How our mindset is reflected on other people and how we can be more accountable for our interactions How conflict and difficulties can make you a kinder person Why conserving Austin's natural ecosystems should be a priority, especially for newcomers and/or developers  The BEST swimming holes in surrounding Austin, Texas, USA Share this episode with anyone who is curious about hiking in Austin or who wants to learn more about why conserving Austin's natural beauty should be prioritized. Similar Episodes: How to Plan Your Perfect Summer Travel Through Curiosity and Wonder with Author Jenny Herbert, Episode 82 The Secret To Healing Goes Back To Indigenous/Aboriginal Traditions As Told By Joe Williams, Episode 132 Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to our podcast? We'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: @guthrie.atx @hikeaustin Join Me So many moms are struggling to survive much less to thrive and use their superpower of imagination and for those moms, I have opened a waitlist for moms who want to be first in line for my upcoming book: How to reawaken your imagination to see the greatness in yourself. Here's what you can expect: Every Friday, I share with you an insight that I have uncovered about the book-writing process as a mom and I tell you very practically how to implement these insights so that you can start feeling more confident about someday writing your own story or just on how to use your imagination a bit more each day. If you are a mom who is ambitious and seeks to make the biggest impact possible in her life and teach her kids how to do the same then this waitlist call is precisely for you. Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist  You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/

    How To Turn Life's Silliness Into Your Brand Featuring Squidinki Co-Founder Max Mendez, Episode 136

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 26, 2022 67:34


    Imagine being an illustrator with a studio in Sydney right next to the Museum of Contemporary Art in Australia, who gets to use their talent to give people a good laugh at the silliness of life?  This week's guest is Max Mendez and his artistry is behind the Squidinki brand.  Squidinki is a unique brand founded by Max Mendez and Kerry Findlay. With degrees in Industrial and Interior design respectively, Max and Kerry have had extensive experience working in design and branding agencies throughout the world, including England, Spain, America, Singapore, and Australia. Now after more than 10 years of designing brands and retail interiors for many prominent Australian and international brands, Max and Kerry decided to follow their passion for illustration and design, and create their own brand, Squidinki. Inspired by the humor Max sees in everyday life, and a desire to spend life sketching it, Squidinki was born. Max's witty and humorous hand-drawn illustrations are sold both as limited edition artwork and featured on everyday products with the hope of bringing a chuckle to your day. In this episode, Max shares how he creates vs. thinks about promoting his creations. He delves into his sources of inspiration and speaks fondly about his co-founder and partner Kerry.  In this episode, you will hear: Reawakening your imagination by noticing the silliness around you as a creator Stretching your imagination by bringing in a loving critique How to see the viability of your artistry How to come up with unexpected and more creative ideas Depicting things in different ways so that you can build a reputation The commercialization of art: creative vs. conceptual i.e. how to turn art into income The whiteboard exercise to reawaken your creativity Share this episode with fellow creative souls with a sense of humor or with anyone who dreams of being able to sell their art. Similar Episodes: How Do You Leverage Creativity To Reduce Anxiety With Sarah Spencer, Episode 80 From Teaching Art to Being Featured In Gary Vaynerchuk's Crushing It!, Hear How Luis-Miguel Caraballo Is Accelerating His Goal Of Making Art History, Episode 13 Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to our podcast? We'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. Supporting Resources: https://squidinki.com/ https://www.instagram.com/squidinki/ https://www.facebook.com/squidinki Join Me So many moms are struggling to survive much less to thrive and use their superpower of imagination and for those moms, I have opened a waitlist for moms who want to be first in line for my upcoming book: How to reawaken your imagination to see the greatness in yourself. Here's what you can expect: Every Friday, I share with you an insight that I have uncovered about the book-writing process as a mom and I tell you very practically how to implement these insights so that you can start feeling more confident about someday writing your own story or just on how to use your imagination a bit more each day. If you are a mom who is ambitious and seeks to make the biggest impact possible in her life and teach her kids how to do the same then this waitlist call is precisely for you. Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist  You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/

    The SECRET to SUCCESS Behind Australia's Chocolatier Rebecca Knights, Episode 135

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 19, 2022 52:26


    What could be possible for moms who want to launch their own businesses and reawaken their imagination? A life consumed by making gooey chocolate that's for one. Hear how this chocolatier (and mom), Rebecca Knights, navigated business over the course of 20-plus years, from working for BBC to doing a no sugar campaign with Sarah Wilson, and to even being hired to put together a chocolate event for Adele. All of the decision moves that wound her up to having a successful chocolatier career are truly impressive. Rebecca is a business collaborator and decadent inventor in the kitchen. Rebecca started in the food industry to support her design studies. She soon took off to France to pursue her other passion and trained at Valrhona Chocolate until opening the first cocoa chocolate in Edinburgh in 2004. After 10 years of working and training in Europe, she finally opened Coco Chocolate in Kirribilli, merging her two passions for chocolates and design. In this episode, you will hear: Striving to achieve to survive The admin and sales aspects of running a chocolate business Finding the beauty in the small vs. empire-building How people's palates have evolved over the years Rebecca's current collaborations Opening a physical shop vs. an online store Share this with a chocolate lover or a creative small business owner who wants to build a profitable brick and mortar shop/s. Links https://cocochocolate.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/cocochocolateau/ Join Me So many moms are struggling to survive much less to thrive and use their superpower of an imagination and for those moms, I have opened a waitlist for moms who want to be first in line for my upcoming book: How to reawaken your imagination to see the greatness in yourself. Here's what you can expect, every Friday I share with you an insight that I have uncovered about the book-writing process as a mom and I tell you very practically how to implement these insights so that you can start feeling more confident about someday writing your own story or just on how to use your imagination a bit more each day. If you are a mom who is ambitious and seeks to make the biggest impact possible in her life and teach her kids how to do the same then this waitlist call is precisely for you. Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist You are invited to send me a DM. What did you uncover from this episode? https://www.instagram.com/melissallarena/ Related Episodes: Jessica James-Thomson, Owner of the yarn shop, Ginger Twist Studio, Talks About Career Transitions, Finding Your Own Pace, and Tackling Ambitious Goals, Episode 27 World Barista Champion Hugh Kelly Reveals the Future of Coffee, Episode 111

    134: Finding Joy, Clarity, and Confidence as a New Entrepreneur with Jessica Burgio

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 12, 2022 77:22


    This conversation is perfect for new or aspiring entrepreneurs. What if you are new to self-employment and you want to put together a beta offer? What's the key to having massive clarity on what you want to sell? Who might you want to ask to be your first clients? What if you could uplevel your skills to more deeply serve every one of those clients and get more money for your time? How do you handle the fear of building a coaching business or pivoting into a new entrepreneurial offer?  It's natural to have more questions than answers when it comes to being an entrepreneur, that's why you will surely enjoy the energy and vibe of this week's podcast guest, Jessica Burgio. Host of the Beauty Inspires Beauty podcast, Jessica is an educator and speaker helping salon owners and stylists around the world to grow their business, while growing themselves. Her unique approach focuses on encouraging her clients to grow through personal development and self-care, all while offering the tools needed to build a thriving, sustainable salon business.  Even if you are not in the beauty industry, you will definitely get a lot out of this conversation because the core entrepreneurial foundational skills are the same across sectors.  Before jumping into today's story and wisdom, I want to be sure you are connected to a completely free group of powerful, driven, and resilient moms with child-proofed coaching or services businesses that can bounce back faster after family interruptions.  What is a child-proof business? The key to business success as a coach, podcaster, or service business professional is that you and your business can navigate the volatile and unpredictable changes – childcare, illness, newborn, homeschool, etc. Join our Facebook group: Resilient Moms With Child-Proof High Impact Businesses: https://bit.ly/curiousmom. Share this with anyone in the beauty business or who would like to launch an entrepreneurial beauty coaching practice. Hint: Share this with your beautician! About Jessica Through her Behind the Beauty Brand membership, the podcast, networking events and in person workshops, Jessica Burgio mentors beauty professionals with concrete, approachable, and proven steps to help grow and scale their business.  This BEAUTY INSPIRES BEAUTY community was created simply to help owners and stylists not only grow their business, but grow their confidence. Combining her deep passion and care for people and her love for the industry, Jess has made it her mission to unite the beauty industry and empower anyone that is a part of it. In between, you can catch Jessica dropping weekly business truth bombs on her IG stories, providing helpful resources for beauty entrepreneurs!  Highlights Trust: Work with people you already like and that you can trust, with them being okay with you messing up or not being perfect. Testing: Launch today your beta offer by inviting people you like to experience and give you feedback. Your community and your clients will tell you exactly what they want from you. Mastery: Initially stick to the things that you can unapologetically talk about, share, and get really passionate about. If you step into a space, what part of that job could you do really well and then go above and beyond that. Zone of genius: Stick to your zone of genius and slowly build a team before you're ready. Investment: Invest in yourself and bet on yourself. Work for the things in order to have the life you want. Entrepreneurship: Entrepreneurship is a wild west territory for a lot of people. Some people are cut out to be an entrepreneur, and some people just want to show up and work. There's a place in any industry for both types of people.  Empathy: It truly helps if you walk the walk in order to be able to empathize, sympathize, relate, and understand the people you're coaching. Being able to hold space for your client is a skillset. Confidence: Step into the fear. At the same time, do the things you know will give you confidence, then try the one next thing that you're not quite so familiar with. Joy: We can't always do the things that we'd be good at or we'd be doing a million things. And so, if you had to focus on one thing, that one thing should bring you the most amount of joy.  Visibility: Once you create the things that you want to be putting out into the world (ex. podcast, book, blog, vlog, IG TV, stories, etc.), talk about it. People won't know what you have unless you share it.  Target audience: Know who your avatar is and show up every single day. Speak to that person unapologetically, until you get the messaging and the pain points right. Frequency: For people to understand what you have to offer, they have to hear it a few times before they realize it might be for them.  Clarity: Lack of clarity is the number one reason people have failed launches or are not converting. Ask for what you need and what you need help with.  Momentum: When you're starting out something, you need to build a lot of momentum around that one thing or that one service.  Curiosity: Give yourself permission to explore what else is out there that you could fall into that feels right for you. Consistency: Build a business and be successful in any way that feels right for you. You don't have to do it like everybody else. But you have to be consistent at whatever it is that you are doing. If you enjoyed this conversation, check out these episodes with similar themes: Van Lai-DuMone Explains How Creativity Workshops Can Increase Creativity in the Workplace, Episode 87 Former Professional Cyclist and Lifetime Entrepreneur Kevin Miller on Starting Your Self-Employment Journey, Episode 73 Links to continue to learn from: Website: www.jessicaburgio.com Instagram: @jessicaburgio and @creativehousesd Podcast: @beautyinspiresbeautypodcast Book mentioned: The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer Join the Waitlist I have opened a waitlist for moms who want to be first in line for my book. The benefit of signing up for my waitlist today is that every Friday I share with you an insight that I have uncovered about the book-writing process as a mom and I tell you very practically how to implement these insights so that you can start feeling more confident about someday writing your own story or just on how to use your imagination a bit more each day. If you are a mom who is ambitious and seeks to make the biggest impact possible in her life and teach her kids how to do the same then this waitlist call/opening is precisely for you. Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist Want to grab your free copy of the Courage Makerspace (™) Playbook? Download the Courage Makerspace(™) here www.melissallarena.com/courage   Boost your courage in 7-days using the exact courage design tools that have worked for both me and my clients. Grab your free playbook instantly so that you can discover how to:   Figure out what makes you tick Be more accountable and not procrastinate Overcome imposter syndrome Stop caring about what others think Progress despite self-doubt Manage anxiety Ask for help You will have a step-by-step playbook to help you finally fulfill your life purpose! Do not miss out on this free opportunity as it will not be available for long. Love An Interview With Melissa Llarena podcast?  You can now support my time in producing the show with Patreon. If you find that the podcast inspires you and you'd like to help support this labor of love, please consider supporting me on Patreon for a couple of dollars per month. You'll get early access to my video-recorded episodes featuring unreleased guest insights; your name and/or business will be mentioned during an episode. You'll also see how I have connected with powerful world leaders so that you can network more effectively in any field or help you pitch hard-to-reach guests on your own platform. Then if you are feeling extra generous for only $10/a month, you'll get everything previously mentioned plus be invited to my monthly LIVE 30-Minute “Ball Juggling” Group Calls where I'll field your business or work-life questions, podcast/guest questions, and share with you courage hacks and imaginative tips so you can feel sane, level-headed, and stay on track pertaining to your upcoming goals. Want to continue the conversation? Find me on Instagram! You can read my daily mini-blogs centered on the same three topics that my podcast features: creativity, courage, and curiosity. I believe that without all three it would be impossible to solve the challenges we were each uniquely made to solve. Wouldn't you agree? I'm easy to find on Instagram @melissallarena Rather keep it professional? Let's connect on LinkedIn. I encourage every single podcast listener to connect with me.

    133: The Rules of Raising An Entrepreneur by A Mom Who Did Margot Machol Bisnow

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 5, 2022 62:57


    These days, the thought of entrepreneurship for our kids as a viable career option doesn't sound completely foreign or nuts. It may sound risky or unstable and less conventional than becoming a doctor, lawyer, engineer, or accountant – but it's an option that is increasingly getting popular, especially since the advent of the internet. Do you think you have an aspiring entrepreneur in your home? What can you do to nourish her or his interests in launching something one day? How important are school grades? Are there any differences between socioeconomic backgrounds or cultures? Would the idea of entertaining a gap year for your child raise your blood pressure – and should it?  When I was growing up, the internet didn't exist yet I was that little girl who picked up a green book about how to become an entrepreneur. I was fascinated by the ideas that kids could come up with to make money. But that was where the buck stopped for me until 2011 when I launched my own coaching practice.  I love the creativity and imagination that go into figuring out the best solution for prospective clients. This truly fills me up with straight-up joy!  It is with this context that I want to introduce this week's guest Margot Bisnow, a mom of two entrepreneurial sons. Margot offers a lot of valuable insights including some rules you have to think about when raising an entrepreneur child. Don't get me wrong. You can't just take an uninspired kid and send them to entrepreneur camp. It's about raising a kid that's not afraid to take risks because entrepreneurs are risk-takers. Before jumping into today's story and wisdom, I want to be sure you are connected to a completely free group of powerful, driven, and resilient moms with child-proofed coaching or services businesses that can bounce back faster after family interruptions.  What is a child-proof business? The key to business success as a coach, podcaster, or service business professional is that you and your business can navigate the volatile and unpredictable changes – childcare, illness, newborn, homeschool, etc. Join our Facebook group: Resilient Moms With Child-Proof High Impact Businesses: https://bit.ly/curiousmom. Share this with a parent who wants to raise an entrepreneur child in a way that they feel seen, heard, loved, and supported. This is a great conversation that will make you wonder how else can you be a loving and supportive parent to your kid! About Margot Margot Machol Bisnow is a writer, wife, and mom from Washington, DC. She has a BA in English and an MBA from Northwestern University. She spent 20 years in government, including being an FTC Commissioner and in the White House as staff director of the President's Council of Economic Advisers. Margot's book, “Raising An Entrepreneur: How To Help Your Children Achieve Their Dreams,” features entrepreneurs and parents discussing how to raise children who are confident, creative, resilient, and happy. Highlights Curiosity: Observe the interests of your child inside/outside of school and let them explore them deeply – explore their persistence/grit Appreciate: Offer your kids the stability of your love regardless of their professional choices and mistakes. Appreciate and support them for all the things they're accomplishing. Options: Consider entrepreneurship as another viable option but it is also one that cannot be forced. Mentorship: It's so important for kids to have a mentor, somebody (not their parents) who is telling them that what they're doing is great, especially if it's in the area that the kid loves.  Control: You can't control how life goes, but you can control how you deal with it, how to approach it, and how to respond.  Success: Believe that your love and support are what they need to succeed, not anything that you thought.  Support: It's a mistake for parents to say to their kids, "spend all your time doing stuff you hate or stuff you're not good at." Don't make your kids feel like they are losers because those don't matter that much. Joy: It's not about parents trying to raise entrepreneurs. But they became entrepreneurs because their parents didn't punish them for failing and were happy when they tried new things. Feedback: Don't punish your kid if you think they fail. Don't call it failure, but feedback. If they broke something, then they have to learn from it and figure out how to fix it.  If you enjoyed this conversation, check out these episodes with similar themes: Hear The Single Biggest Lesson Gary Vaynerchuk Thinks Corporations Need To Learn From Family-Owned Businesses As Well As The Smartest Way To Ask For Equity, Episode 10  Amy Guth Shares About Overcoming Fear and Embracing Discomfort at This Time of the Great Resignation, Episode 109  Links to continue to learn from: Website: https://raisinganentrepreneur.com Book: Raising An Entrepreneur: How To Help Your Children Achieve Their Dreams Facebook: www.facebook.com/raisinganentrepreneur1/?fref=ts Instagram: www.instagram.com/margotbisnow LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/margot-machol-bisnow-a29550b5/ Join the Waitlist I have opened a waitlist for moms who want to be first in line for my book The benefit of signing up for my waitlist today is that every Friday I share with you an insight that I have uncovered about the book-writing process as a mom and I tell you very practically how to implement these insights so that you can start feeling more confident about someday writing your own story or just on how to use your imagination a bit more each day. If you are a mom who is ambitious and seeks to make the biggest impact possible in her life and teach her kids how to do the same then this waitlist call/opening is precisely for you. Go to www.melissallarena.com/waitlist Want to grab your free copy of the Courage Makerspace (™) Playbook? Download the Courage Makerspace(™) here www.melissallarena.com/courage   Boost your courage in 7-days using the exact courage design tools that have worked for both me and my clients. Grab your free playbook instantly so that you can discover how to:   Figure out what makes you tick Be more accountable and not procrastinate Overcome imposter syndrome Stop caring about what others think Progress despite self-doubt Manage anxiety Ask for help You will have a step-by-step playbook to help you finally fulfill your life purpose! Do not miss out on this free opportunity as it will not be available for long. Love An Interview With Melissa Llarena podcast?  You can now support my time in producing the show with Patreon. If you find that the podcast inspires you and you'd like to help support this labor of love, please consider supporting me on Patreon for a couple of dollars per month. You'll get early access to my video-recorded episodes featuring unreleased guest insights; your name and/or business will be mentioned during an episode. You'll also see how I have connected with powerful world leaders so that you can network more effectively in any field or help you pitch hard-to-reach guests on your own platform. Then if you are feeling extra generous for only $10/a month, you'll get everything previously mentioned plus be invited to my monthly LIVE 30-Minute “Ball Juggling” Group Calls where I'll field your business or work-life questions, podcast/guest questions, and share with you courage hacks and imaginative tips so you can feel sane, level-headed, and stay on track pertaining to your upcoming goals. Want to continue the conversation? Find me on Instagram! You can read my daily mini-blogs centered on the same three topics that my podcast features: creativity, courage, and curiosity. I believe that without all three it would be impossible to solve the challenges we were each uniquely made to solve. Wouldn't you agree? I'm easy to find on Instagram @melissallarena Rather keep it professional? Let's connect on LinkedIn. I encourage every single podcast listener to connect with me.

    132: The Secret To Healing Goes Back To Indigenous/Aboriginal Traditions As Told By Joe Williams

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2022 61:02


    Joe Williams is a former NRL player, professional boxer, and turned mental health advocate, who's bringing The Enemy Within workshops to various communities. The Enemy Within is built on its five pillars of values: love, care, respect, humility, and compassion.  Joe is known for his committed work within the community mental health and suicide prevention sectors. During our conversation, Joe mentions how we always talk about, "it takes a village to raise a child." And he makes a valid point that we don't have a village anymore. We wake up and go to work and send our kids off to school or to daycare in the morning, pick them up in the afternoon, and put them to bed. Unfortunately, we're not raised by our village anymore. Our kids are being shipped off and passed around by all these different people that have absolutely no idea who they are.  Now, where is this magical village that was supposed to help us raise our kids and support our families? How can we heal as a society and recover from some of the consequences that come from living in a concrete jungle? What practical wisdom might we want to borrow from indigenous and/or aboriginal societies that have worked for thousands of years?  You may be new to this podcast and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for listening. In exchange, I want you to know that I believe you're in control of your overall well-being and success, whether you're a parent or not. My perspective comes from being a daughter to a mom who has manic depression. I've witnessed a parent whose capacity took a hit and had grown up in that environment. I had to figure out the tools, methods, and ways to show up resiliently in my life. Otherwise, I wouldn't have been able to achieve my goals and ambitions as a coach to moms in business, a podcast host who has brought on big names like GaryVee and Suzy Batiz, nor as a mom to three young sons.  Before jumping into today's story and wisdom, I want to be sure you are connected to a completely free group of powerful, driven, and resilient moms with child-proofed coaching or services businesses that can bounce back faster after family interruptions.  What is a child-proof business? The key to business success as a coach, podcaster, or service business professional is that you and your business can navigate the volatile and unpredictable changes – childcare, illness, newborn, homeschool, etc. Join our Facebook group: Resilient Moms With Child-Proof High Impact Businesses: https://bit.ly/curiousmom. Share this with a mom in business who values her mental health and that of her children because Joe offers wisdom that can honestly save someone's life. This conversation offers the key to healing as a society and for generations to come. Meet Joe Joe is a proud Wiradjuri/Wolgalu, First Nations Aboriginal man born in Cowra, raised in Wagga NSW, Australia. Joe played in the National Rugby League for South Sydney Rabbitohs, Penrith Panthers, and Canterbury Bulldogs before switching to professional Boxing in 2009. Joe is a 2x WBF World Jnr Welterweight champion and won the WBC Asia Continental Title.  Although forging a successful professional sporting career, Joe battled the majority of his life with suicidal ideation and bipolar disorder. After a suicide attempt in 2012, Joe felt his purpose was to help people who struggle with mental illness. Through customized workshops, Joe talks of dealing with adversities, struggles, resilience, addiction, connection, emotional wellbeing & healing trauma in schools, communities, correctional services, sporting clubs, and workplaces. Joe was awarded the Wagga Wagga Citizen of the Year in 2015 for his committed work within the community mental health and suicide prevention sectors and was named a finalist in the National Indigenous Human Rights Awards. In 2018, Joe was awarded Suicide Prevention Australia's highest honor, a LiFE Award for his excellence in communities within the suicide prevention sector. In 2019, he was named a dual winner of the Australian Mental Health Prize.  Now a published author, Joe's autobiography “Defying The Enemy Within” shares not only his life's story but also offers practical tools anyone can implement to improve and maintain their emotional wellbeing. Joe also contributed to the book, “Transformation; Turning Tragedy into Triumph” and was featured in the documentary, “Suicide: The Ripple Effect”. Highlights Mental Health: Decide to proactively identify the best mental health tools for you and begin to implement them. Introspection: Think about modern society and see what parts are not serving you or your kids. Use this chat as an invitation for self-reflection because you don't have to copy/paste what everyone else is doing…not as a mom nor in business. Values: Learn about the values of society you admire (one that is authentic to you or one you admire from a distance). Distraction: We sit from nine to five in front of the computer. We go home tired because we're working and earning money for someone else. We get nasty at our children because we've had a tough day, not even worrying about how emotionally unstable our kids are. Lineage: Every family has patterns and mythology of thought, belief, and behavior that are passed on from one generation to another, the same way physical characteristics have been passed on. Compassion: Everyone is the way they are for a reason. We just need to be kind and compassionate to each other.  Awareness: Any outburst of emotional pain is a response to something else. A lot of the time, it's not directly related to the person we're out bursting and responding to. We're triggered by something that happened to us many years ago - and awareness is key. Expression: We fail to talk about mental health due to shame. It's sad how children are not given the agency to regulate their emotions because adults don't allow them to. We have to look back to go forward again. Connection: As human beings, we are born wired for love and connection. People have been connected since the beginning of time. And we're more disconnected than we've ever been in the history of humankind.  Gift: Shamans walk into mental health facilities and they don't see sickness. They see an abundance of people who are spiritually gifted.  Grounding: If people are 70% water, and the earth is made up of water, we need to get back to water. Anxiety: The fact that we're so sick as people now is because we project forward into a future that may not even be there. Depression: Anything that we're depressed about has happened in our past. But the best we can do is learn from it and adjust it to be better.  Presence: All we have is a moment of presence and it becomes the past. It's about being the absolute best person that we can be in the present moment.  Advocate: Advocate for yourself and don't be afraid to speak up. Be the best version of yourself – but you have to do your work. Values: The opposite of respect is disrespect. The opposite of compassion is judgment. The opposite of humility is ego. The opposites of those values are aligned with behaviors as well.  Acceptance: We don't know what the destination looks like yet. We just have to be grateful and thankful and try to find peace with that. If you enjoyed this conversation, check out these episodes with similar themes: How To Rebuild Yourself After Trauma With Faith, Hope, and Mindset, Timothy Phelps is the Author of The Invisible Child: Overcoming the Odds, Episode 58 Will Travis, Global Brand Builder and Creator of Elevation Barn Talks About How to Boost Morale and How to Become an Elevated Leader, Episode 33 Books mentioned: The Dreaming Path What Happened to You? Lost Connections Links to continue to learn from: Website: www.joewilliams.com.au  Instagram: @joewilliams_tew Twitter: @joewilliams_tew Facebook: The Enemy Within: Suicide Prevention Trauma Recovery & Wellbeing FREE DOWNLOAD Want to grab your free copy of the Courage Makerspace (™) Playbook? Download the Courage Makerspace(™) here www.melissallarena.com/courage   Boost your courage in 7-days using the exact courage design tools that have worked for both me and my clients. Grab your free playbook instantly so that you can discover how to:   Figure out what makes you tick Be more accountable and not procrastinate Overcome imposter syndrome Stop caring about what others think Progress despite self-doubt Manage anxiety Ask for help You will have a step-by-step playbook to help you finally fulfill your life purpose! Do not miss out on this free opportunity as it will not be available for long. Love An Interview With Melissa Llarena podcast?  You can now support my time in producing the show with Patreon. If you find that the podcast inspires you and you'd like to help support this labor of love, please consider supporting me on Patreon for a couple of dollars per month. You'll get early access to my video-recorded episodes featuring unreleased guest insights; your name and/or business will be mentioned during an episode. You'll also see how I have connected with powerful world leaders so that you can network more effectively in any field or help you pitch hard-to-reach guests on your own platform. Then if you are feeling extra generous for only $10/a month, you'll get everything previously mentioned plus be invited to my monthly LIVE 30-Minute “Ball Juggling” Group Calls where I'll field your business or work-life questions, podcast/guest questions, and share with you courage hacks and imaginative tips so you can feel sane, level-headed, and stay on track pertaining to your upcoming goals. Want to continue the conversation? Find me on Instagram! You can read my daily mini-blogs centered on the same three topics that my podcast features: creativity, courage, and curiosity. I believe that without all three it would be impossible to solve the challenges we were each uniquely made to solve. Wouldn't you agree? I'm easy to find on Instagram @melissallarena Rather keep it professional? Let's connect on LinkedIn. I encourage every single podcast listener to connect with me.

    131: A Spiritual Journey: A Look into Your Masculine and Feminine Sides with Johnson Chong

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2022 77:43


    Are you on a spiritual journey right now? Chances are, if you are in your 30s or 40s, you have been on a spiritual journey of some sort, and maybe you still are going through the motions of it.  As for me, my spiritual journey started here in Australia due to the “at-home time” I had during the pandemic so I had the space to dig deep. As for many of us, it caused us to pause and reevaluate our purpose in life. It was my desire to reconnect with my intuition and keep my head above the water if I wanted to make progress on my business.  This brings me to this week's guest, Johnson Chong, the best-selling and award-winning author of Sage Sapien: From Karma to Dharma. Johnson is passionate about creating a bridge between ancient wisdom, energy medicine, and direct modern application. His unique experiences offer a profoundly healing self-discovery experience, followed by very practical and actionable steps to create lasting change.  With his background as a teacher who trains yoga teachers and pilates teachers, Johnson has an expansive knowledge of the physical body and how the psyche can create stagnation on all levels – physical, mental, emotional, and energetic. Today, Johnson shares his shamanic wisdom to help us keep it all together in all the roles that we are playing in life – in the most authentic way possible. Whether you're a child of parents who are also on their own spiritual journey or maybe you have conflicting beliefs, this is definitely a great episode for you to listen to.  Gain an appreciation for both your feminine and masculine sides and learn to reconnect with them. Share this with someone else who is also curious about the idea of doing inner work and its benefits on your life.  As a mom, you do not want to let the spark of a business idea get caught in the undercurrent of motherhood. This month, I will be offering 3 VIP Moms In Business Coaching spots for moms who wish to build a resilient business capable of bouncing back after any family interruption. It is during our day together that we will map out your precise implementation plan with the realities of being a caregiver in mind. This opportunity is unlike any other because it syncs up what you deeply desire out of motherhood with the needs of a business at every stage; it's what I've picked up and refined over the course of an 11-year plus entrepreneurial career that has grown with my family of three young boys. Are you ready for a tailored resilient business plan for yourself?  Sign-up today on https://go.oncehub.com/ClientSessionMelissaLlarena for a complimentary 15-minute connection Zoom call to see if it's the right fit based on your income goals in the next 9 weeks.  Johnson Chong's Biography Johnson Chong is the best-selling and award-winning author of Sage Sapien: From Karma to Dharma. He is also a TedX Speaker, shaman, and the founder of Sage Sapien Soul Academy where he trains aspiring meditation and breathwork teachers.  Through the synthesis of the most applicable teachings of yoga, meditation, breathwork, coaching, and shamanic healing, Johnson's training programs are designed to help people quiet the mind, awaken the heart, and free themselves of the roadblocks that keep them from living more authentically and joyfully.  Johnson has spoken and led workshops at companies like Unilever, Facebook, Nike, Macquarie, Insight Timer, UBS, UOB, and more. Johnson is a native New Yorker, has lived on three continents, and is currently based in Sydney, Australia.  Highlights Mental state: Modern people have to make use of technology in healthy ways. To keep his mental state, Johnson uses a pulsed electromagnetic frequency device, which mirrors back high-functioning brainwave states.  Spirituality: Your spiritual path is personal and one with huge benefits that can span generations. In my case, having this business led me to seek my spiritual path.  Balance: You have both feminine and masculine energies inside of you and both are equally important. Navigating life requires both sides of you and if you are too tilted in one direction, your kids may compensate in the opposite to maintain the balance in your home. Taking risks: You can search for a safe job, choice, or relationship but then you may miss out on the adventure of taking a risk – and the risk could sometimes mean being true to yourself. Imagination: Deciding to be a mom was the biggest risk I took. Learning to reawaken my imagination and stay true to myself was essential in navigating all the ups and downs. Resilience: We have all experienced some level of discomfort, pain, or things that didn't turn out the way we wanted. And so, you have to practice getting good at knowing how to be okay in the storm and weather it.  Focus: When you learn to focus your attention on the moment or on the different types of sensations in your body, you're learning extreme focus, which is necessary for all things in life. Purpose: We have to go back and sit with all of the pain, the hurt, as well as the things we never wanted and can't quite fully accept in the past before we can get to our life purpose. In order to enjoy more of life, you have to get deep and dirty in it.  Lower and upper worlds: The spiritual journey is not just up there but also down there. From a shamanic perspective, you go into the lower world first before you go up into the upper world. Sacred feminine: When we're talking about meeting certain things within ourselves that are darker or we want to hide away, that's the sacred feminine. We're not wanting to confront that and we're denying a part of ourselves. Yin Yang: Masculine and feminine (not male and female) energies are more of the essence of a plus and a minus charge – masculine, being the plus charge of the battery; and feminine, as the minus charge of the battery. Both are necessary to make the battery work.  (+) energy: Masculine energy is a giving, forward-giving energy. It's about direction. It is structured, mathematical, and philosophical.  (–) energy: Feminine energy is wild, creative, sexual energy which you can channel into art or an enlightened state. Chaos: Anything that's chaotic and destroys the norm, or the way that we perceive the norm is the feminine force. We associate that as bad, but it's part of nature, just like a hurricane. Business: A masculine force is being a high achiever. But the world's top billionaires have experienced great losses. That's them risking diving into the feminine, which is the great unknown, and then they come back up.  Rest: When the minus comes down, you now have the opportunity to rest, restore, read, and do things that are nourishing for yourself. It's winter break.  Flow: Part of the spiritual journey is understanding these waves within ourselves, and then expressing that.  Balance: Our job as human beings is to find the balance between masculine energy and feminine energy. Parents: A lot of immigrant families have a very masculine driving force. And so the kids have to have a structured life. So they have to learn to be okay with being vulnerable in public and being a bit messy.  Toxic family: A toxic relationship is a toxic relationship, sometimes, you have to end it. We can't judge trauma because you never know how that inspires someone else.  Pain: If you swallow your pain up and pretend it's not there, it's going to build into something toxic and your children may have to create some distance from you. Service: Every person, whatever their unique story is, has the capacity to make a choice of how to deal with their pain. You can take your pain and turn it into service and inspire you to help others. If you enjoyed this conversation, check out these episodes with similar themes: Michael A. Blunt Teaches How to Attain Peace and Success by Deprogramming Your Limiting Beliefs, Episode 127 Dr. Brad Elphinstone Talks About How to Stop Living Your Life On Autopilot Through Self-Determination, Equanimity, and Non-Attachment, Episode 100 Links to continue to learn from: Website: www.johnsonchong.com  Book: https://johnsonchong.com/book/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnsonchong_sagesapien Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sagesapien LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnson-chong-9475b848/ Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/user/exodusretreats?si=08YgBpCBSJ2Up4p-nhmARg  Email: sage@johnsonchong.com  FREE DOWNLOAD Want to grab your free copy of the Courage Makerspace (™) Playbook? Download the Courage Makerspace(™) here www.melissallarena.com/courage   Boost your courage in 7-days using the exact courage design tools that have worked for both me and my clients. Grab your free playbook instantly so that you can discover how to:   Figure out what makes you tick Be more accountable and not procrastinate Overcome imposter syndrome Stop caring about what others think Progress despite self-doubt Manage anxiety Ask for help You will have a step-by-step playbook to help you finally fulfill your life purpose! Do not miss out on this free opportunity as it will not be available for long. Love An Interview With Melissa Llarena podcast?  You can now support my time in producing the show with Patreon. If you find that the podcast inspires you and you'd like to help support this labor of love, please consider supporting me on Patreon for a couple of dollars per month. You'll get early access to my video-recorded episodes featuring unreleased guest insights; your name and/or business will be mentioned during an episode. You'll also see how I have connected with powerful world leaders so that you can network more effectively in any field or help you pitch hard-to-reach guests on your own platform. Then if you are feeling extra generous for only $10/a month, you'll get everything previously mentioned plus be invited to my monthly LIVE 30-Minute “Ball Juggling” Group Calls where I'll field your business or work-life questions, podcast/guest questions, and share with you courage hacks and imaginative tips so you can feel sane, level-headed, and stay on track pertaining to your upcoming goals. Want to continue the conversation? Find me on Instagram! You can read my daily mini-blogs centered on the same three topics that my podcast features: creativity, courage, and curiosity. I believe that without all three it would be impossible to solve the challenges we were each uniquely made to solve. Wouldn't you agree? I'm easy to find on Instagram @melissallarena Rather keep it professional? Let's connect on LinkedIn. I encourage every single podcast listener to connect with me.

    130: How To Reconnect With Your Artistic Self For Busy Moms With Belinda Lindhardt

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 14, 2022 64:52


    How can pausing or neglecting your hobbies as a busy mom lead to feeling like you've lost an essential connection to yourself? In this episode, you'll uncover what it takes to be an artist and a single mom, especially during those early childhood years. Hear whether it's worth it to give up on your dreams, your artistry, or your own self. Also, learn about cost-effective and less time-consuming media you can use to express your artistry as a mom.  Belinda Lindhardt provides valuable insights and productivity hacks fit for a creative mom who is busy or overwhelmed yet still appreciates her art as a tool to give herself downtime and help reconnect with herself.  In this conversation, Belinda shares what it takes to continue and persist and work on your passion projects or even your creative business, no matter where you are in your life, whether you're a single mom, or a mom taking care of a lot of unpredictable people. This concept is applicable whether you wish to maintain a hobby or you want to commercialize it and turn it into a “jobby.” Share this with a mom who thinks she's too busy to do things that bring her joy or a mom who desires to build and grow a resilient business that can weather the interruptions and changes that come with motherhood.  As a mom, you do not want to let their spark of a business idea get caught in the undercurrent of motherhood. This month, I will be offering 3 VIP Moms In Business Coaching spots for moms who wish to build a resilient business capable of bouncing back after any family interruption. It is during our day together that we will map out your precise implementation plan with the realities of being a caregiver in mind. This opportunity is unlike any other because it syncs up what you deeply desire out of motherhood with the needs of a business at every stage; it's what I've picked up and refined over the course of an 11-year plus entrepreneurial career that has grown with my family of three young boys. Are you ready for a tailored resilient business plan for yourself?  Sign-up today on https://go.oncehub.com/ClientSessionMelissaLlarena for a complimentary 15-minute connection Zoom call to see if it's the right fit based on your income goals in the next 9 weeks.  About Belinda Lindhardt Belinda is an artist/painter, illustrator & graphic designer, based on the Central Coast of New South Wales in Australia. Belinda is inspired by the beauty she sees everywhere – in landscapes, in people, and in the playfulness of color, light, form, and movement. She loves creating art that brings joy to people's lives. From colorful, abstract painted landscapes to captivating portraits and intricately detailed drawings, Belinda creates art and printed products that make ideal gifts or pieces to keep for yourself. Belinda studied Graphic Design in 1995 and started her first business in 1996 creating websites. She is mainly a self-taught artist being a student of the internet. Belinda thinks being a mom has been her greatest achievement yet! Highlights Artist: Being an artist means you've created something from nothing. That is equal in writing, or coming up with a solution or even cooking. Your identity is something you create for yourself. Medium: Belinda wants to work more freely and openly, and create a painting more easily with the limited timeframe she has raising a family. And so the medium became less important.  Mixed media: Try some watercolor backgrounds. Do a layer or two of watercolor. And then go over the top with some colored pencils for an intricate output. Work smaller: Find short-cuts to create your art and make reconnecting a priority. It doesn't have to take a long time to create the painting. You just need downtime for you to connect to yourself. Connection: It's about the connection and the journey of creating something new. It's not about the outcome, even though that's nice to have as well. You become better when you learn to connect with yourself. Restart: The great thing about mixed media or painting is that you can just paint over the top of it. So if it's not working how you want it to, you can paint over it and start again. Practice: If you have a picture in your head, and it's just not coming out on the canvas, understand that it takes time and practice to build up those skills. It's part of the creative process.  Art: It is hard when you have a blank canvas. Try drawing and scribbling words on the canvas before painting on it. If you don't like it, then start again. Formula: There is no formula in creativity because sometimes the idea or the concept is just there, and it works.  Value: There is value in creating something, even if it's not for financial gain.  Model: You've got to have a little bit of joy to share with your kids and show them what to do because you want a better life for them.  Joy: You've got to have joy in your life. It doesn't have to be creative. It can just be taking that little moment for yourself and enjoying a cup of tea. Think of ways to add more joy to your life. Resilience: Being a single mom, there is no backup. But being okay and kind to yourself about this helps you have resilience. Don't beat yourself up over it. If you enjoyed this conversation, check out these episodes with similar themes: Phaidra Knight, World Rugby Hall of Famer, founder of PeaK Unleashed, and Mixed Martial Artist Expresses the Importance of Equality and Feeling Limitless Regardless of Age and Circumstances, Episode 17 Felipe Galindo Gómez, Cartoonist Known as Feggo, Talks About Handling Criticism, Taking Initiative, and Being Whole, Episode 42 Links to continue to learn from: Website: https://creativehardt.com.au  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/creativehardt/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/creativehardt  Biography: https://www.creativehardt.com.au/about/  FREE DOWNLOAD My book is set to release this Winter 2022. Join me on my journey: