Podcasts about traver boehm

If you've ever felt like you're doing everything “right” but still not getting the sex, connection, or fulfillment you want ⚠️ - this conversation might blow something wide open for you.

In this episode I'll talk about why so many of us find ourselves in a constant cycle of self betrayal all in the name of fitting in and being loved. OY!We all do it to some degree, but once you see how you betray yourself in the name of keeping and creating connection and belonging, your life will change forever. I'll share with you a single sentence that you can apply to any form of self betrayal so you do just that — see it plane site — and then make the conscious decision to stop living against your value.Alignment isn't easy but it's pure freedom.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver

This episode dives into the raw, messy, and ultimately transformative terrain between suffering and awakening—a journey that's anything but straightforward. Traver Boehm. His story is wild—think: MMA fighter by day, acupuncturist by night, and years later, a man who spent a month alone in complete darkness to confront the deepest parts of himself. In between he navigated professional heartbreak, devastating personal loss, and a year devoted to living as if it were his last. If you're ready to challenge your own assumptions about pain, healing, and the human spirit—or searching for a map to navigate your own tough terrain—this episode promises insight, inspiration, and true no-barriers wisdom.

In this episode I'll talk about five of the most important factors for you to consider if you're in a breakup or divorce.My writing career kicked off with a book about how to use the pain of your breakup or divorce to transform your life, so this is my bread and butter! Since that book I've worked with thousands of people who are now on the other side of heartbreak and most are living lives they never thought possible.Knowing these are the keys to the kingdom:— You will be okay, you just won't be for a bit— It's okay to not be okay— You won't die, but part of you will and that's a good thing— Pain is fuel (this is a BIG one)— The reasons your breakup happened can lead you to a goldmine.Heartbreak is brutal, but on the other side of it can be a freedom you only dreamed of.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,TraverInterested in one of Traver's books? Find Them Here

In this episode I'll talk about how and why you need to get past the idea that people who don't live like you do or even want to, are supposed to understand you.If there's one thing that needs to be navigated in order to live a life outside of the box — it's being misunderstood. This comes from family, friends, and of course, perfect strangers who have internet access to you.Learning to work through what's different about you (these are good things) and owning the fact you can't have uncommon or UNcivilized outcomes while being celebrated by folks trapped in the matrix is a big deal.And on the other side of it is freedom.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver

Every time I have a client say their stuck because they're afraid of either failure or success I roll my eyes and say — OH LORD. No you're not. You're afraid of the unknown. The deep unknown. The things you can't even conceptualize right now.And — you need to start anyway. Anyone and everyone you know who's done something outside of their comfort zone has had the exact same stuck feeling. Stick around to the end of this already short episode where I give you three ways to get unstuck immediately.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver

In this profound and powerfully honest episode, Andrew is joined by Traver Boehm—author, speaker, and founder of the Uncivilized Men's Movement. This raw and revealing conversation dives deep into the emotional and spiritual reality of being a man in today's world. Traver shares the personal story behind his movement, how heartbreak and disillusionment cracked him open, and why he's devoted his life to helping men reclaim both their primal power and emotional truth. Together, Andrew and Traver explore men's sensitivity, the cultural disbelief in men's inner lives, and the loneliness and pain so many carry silently. Traver also opens up about his experiences with darkness retreats—radical, solitary immersions into absolute darkness—and how they've initiated him into deeper self-understanding, ego death, and trust in his own soul's call. He offers a powerful challenge to men: Dare to feel. Dare to be fully human. This episode is a must-listen for any man who's ever felt alone in his pain… and for anyone who's ready to meet the courage that lives inside vulnerability. ⸻ What You'll Learn in This Episode: • How Traver turned heartbreak into a mission to support men • Why emotional sensitivity is a masculine strength, not a weakness • The hidden epidemic of male emotional isolation—and how to break it • Why the phrase “I've never said this out loud before” changes everything • How to balance emotional expression with purpose, structure, and spine • The truth about numbness, avoidance, and the cost of living half-alive • What it's like to spend 28 (and soon 49) days in total darkness—and what that journey reveals • Why Traver believes something must break for a man to be reborn • How to cultivate a human experience that's raw, real, and relational • Two sentences every man needs to hear: “I believe you. I believe in you.” ⸻ Links & Resources: • https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm • The Uncivilized Nation • Preorder Traver's New Book: 28 Days in Darkness • Listen to Traver's Podcast: The Uncivilized Podcast ~~~ Becoming a Dominant Man is Andrew's flagship course for Dominant Men. Becoming a Dominant Man leads men through a 12 step process, the 12 Steps to Dominance, to claim full ownership of their lives and their inner strength, so that they can carry a loving strength, true Dominance, into their lives and relationships. Becoming a Dominant Man is a pre-recorded course that men can work through on their own time, but also includes live weekly instruction and Q&A with Andrew at no extra cost. Learn more about Becoming a Dominant Man at https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man Rules, Rituals, and Contracts for a loving D/s Dynamic. Check out Structuring Your DS Dynamic, our course that walks you through the process of setting up your D/s dynamic for success, using the same process that Andrew uses. No more basic templates, or trying to squeeze your real life into someone else's contract. This course walks you, step by step, through deep conversations, then helps you to establish rules, rituals, tasks, and eventually a full contract, that is fully YOURS and built to evolve with you over time. Learn more at https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic Our newest course for submissive women is available NOW. Submissive Foundations teaches women how to embody submission from a healthy emotional inner strength, with your self respect fully intact. 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Click here to download it now! https://www.infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman 00:00 Introduction to Dom Sub Devotion 00:33 Guest Introduction: Traver Boehm 01:21 Traver's Journey: From Divorce to Men's Movement 03:49 The Impact of Traver's Work 08:12 The Sensitivity and Strength of Men 13:59 Challenges Men Face in Society 19:26 Emotional Intelligence and Relationships 23:20 The Importance of Emotional Expression 32:51 Exploring Emotional Tools 33:58 Balancing Primal and Divine Energies 34:26 The Importance of Mission and Purpose 35:00 Using Emotions as Fuel 36:10 Integrating Both Sides of Masculinity 43:21 The Power of Darkness Retreats 52:10 Facing the Unknown in Extended Darkness 01:02:31 Final Thoughts and Advice for Men

In this episode of the You Are Not Broken podcast, Kelly Casperson, MD, engages in a deep conversation with Traver Boehm about redefining masculinity, the importance of emotional intelligence, and the journey of helping men navigate their feelings and relationships. Traver shares his experiences from the Year to Live Project, the impact of his book on men's lives, and the necessity of creating safe spaces for women. The discussion also touches on the differences in how men and women perceive safety and the importance of understanding these perspectives in fostering healthier relationships. In this conversation, Kelly Casperson, MD, and Traver explore the complexities of emotional awareness, therapy for men, gender differences in relationships, the evolving independence of women, and the foundational role of sexuality in partnerships. They discuss the importance of self-awareness in managing emotions, the need for therapy that resonates with men, and the societal shifts that have changed relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the necessity of understanding and communication between genders to foster healthier relationships. In this conversation, Traver and Dr. Kelly Casperson explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the business aspects of marriage, the importance of communication, the impact of pornography, and the challenges surrounding menopause. They emphasize the need for emotional maturity and understanding in relationships, advocating for open discussions about sexual satisfaction and the human experience. The dialogue highlights the evolving dynamics between men and women, the significance of consent, and the necessity of education regarding women's health issues. Traver's IG Man Uncivilized Sedona in October - only five slots left: https://www.ascendretreats.com/menopause-and-sexual-health-2025 Order my book "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over You Sex Life" Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Take my Adult Sex Ed Master Class: My Website Interested in my sexual health and hormone clinic? Starts 2025. To learn more about Via vaginal moisturizer from Solv Wellness, visit via4her.com for 30% off your first purchase of any product, automatically applied at checkout. For an additional $5 off, use coupon code DRKELLY5. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Traver Boehm is the author of the books “Today I Rise” and “Man UNcivilized“. He's a two-time TEDx speaker, men's coach, and the founder of the UNcivilized Men's Movement. He's helped men all over the world to become UNcivilized as they wake up to the power of their hearts, the brilliance of their bodies, and the wisdom of their souls so they can blaze their own path by uniquely blending both the primal and the divine within them.He is dedicated to doing his part to help end the suffering in men, and the suffering caused by men, by guiding them through their own journey into an actualized version of masculinity.

I just returned from an immersive training run by the Uncivilized Man Organization with Traver Boehm and led by one of the wisest men I've ever met - Duey Freeman. With over 50 years of experience in psychotherapy, he impacted me in a big way. One big theme stood out and it's the root cause of so many of our issues with each other - our struggles aren't about trauma, they are about fragmented attachment that prevents us from grieving and healing trauma. While we are full-fledged adults in many aspects of our lives like work, leisure activities, productivity; we are small children relationally. When our earliest needs were not met we subconsciously imprinted a belief system about our place in the world and how we should relate to others. The beliefs, many times, sound like - I'm not good enough, the world is not safe, I can't trust anyone, They will probably leave me, etc.As we dive into healing relationships and understanding the opposite sex more and more having a good grasp on this ‘operating system' that we run throughout lives is the most important thing as it's the root cause of everything we experience or don't experience in our lives.Timestamps:00:00 - 00:51 Intro and Overview of today's episode00:51 - 02:52 What I learned from Duey Freeman02:52 - 04:43 Attachment, not trauma Issues04:43 - 05:18 What the healing process is about05:18 - 07:35 Why are men hurting so much?07:35 - 09:25 Where hyper-stoic men come from09:25 - 11:28 When do attachment breaches begin?11:28 - 14:21 What happens when babies don't get attunement?14:21 - 16:23 How does unhealthy attachment manifest?16:23 - 17:57 Where 'Nice guys' come from17:57 - 19:17 Does anyone have a perfect attachment?19:17 - 19:53 Outro and closing remarks____________________________________________If you found some value today then help me spread the word! Share this episode with a friend or leave a review. This helps the podcast grow.You can also watch the episodes on youtube hereFollow me on Instagram @anyashakhYou can book a discovery call at anyashakh.com

In this episode you get to peak behind the coaching curtain and watch me work one-on-one with a man who's struggling bringing structure into his life. This is showing up in his challenge around meal planning and workout programming, as well as the deeper issue at hand: — This is a protection mechanism keeping him from getting what he really wants. What does he really want? A deep connection with the men in his life. A deep connection with friends and loved ones. And of course, not take all of the time and energy that he's spending keeping every single option open to him (how exhausting) and use that time and energy to reach a higher purpose. This is potent conversation about responsibility, maturity, and discipline and how all three actually do foster more feelings and experiences of freedom. Enjoy. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

This is a big topic and one that often gets overlooked or misunderstood by most men. And, here at UNcivilized we're interested in supporting you in becoming unlike most men. Radically so. In this solo episode I give you four concrete ways you can shift your own ways to help everyone around you feel safer, especially any woman in your life. They're powerful. They're field tested. And they work. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

Traver Boehm is the leader of the Man Uncivilized Movement, the author of multiple books, and a huge advocate for men’s work. Traver leads by example, and in this episode, he joins me on the show for a second appearance to share the powerful story of his father’s passing. He shares the insights and lessons we can all take from his experience. He also shares his story of spending 28 days in a “darkness retreat” where he saw no light for 28 days. The lessons of this powerful psychedelic experience shine through in striking detail as he takes us through what it was like to be in total darkness for a month. In this conversation, we discuss: The recent death of Traver’s father, reflecting on father wounds, with a powerful story of healing in those last days. The role of men’s work and men’s groups in healing the father wound. Dark Room: Traver’s experience living in a room by himself in complete darkness for 28 days. The insights this gave him on death, freedom, and living fearlessly, hallucinations, grief processing, and lessons about time perception. Death and Freedom: How the acceptance of our mortality can influence our approach to life and goals. Traver’s Upcoming book, “28 Days in Darkness,” releasing in February. Links from this episode: Man UNcivilized website Traver’s Instagram Book: 28 Days in Darkness The Arka Brotherhood men’s work community See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, I sit down with Traver Boehm, author, speaker, and founder of the Man Uncivilized movement. Traver's work has been a beacon for men seeking to reclaim their authentic selves in a world that often stifles true masculinity.Together, we explore why men need men—why male connection and community are essential not just for personal growth but for creating a life of purpose, power, and connection. From redefining vulnerability to tackling shame and isolation head-on, this episode is a raw, honest, and impactful conversation for anyone ready to step into their full potential.Show NotesThe Importance of Male ConnectionTraver explains why men thrive in environments of brotherhood and shared purpose.The risks of isolation in modern life and how it impacts mental, emotional, and relational health.Redefining VulnerabilityVulnerability is reframed as strength, not weakness, and a gateway to deeper relationships and personal growth.Traver shares stories of men who found transformation by embracing openness and honesty with others.Understanding and Healing ShameA deep dive into the role shame plays in holding men back from their true power.Practical steps for identifying and overcoming shame through shared experiences and self-compassion.The Role of Pain in TransformationWhy pain is often the catalyst for growth and how to use it as a tool for self-discovery.Traver shares his personal journey of loss and how it propelled him to create the Man Uncivilized movement.Men and Emotional FreedomWhy men struggle with expressing emotions and the consequences of emotional repression.Tools and practices Traver uses to help men unlock emotional freedom and live more balanced lives.The Power of BrotherhoodReal-life examples of how a strong male community can provide accountability, growth, and support.Traver discusses why men need other men to challenge them, hold space, and celebrate their wins.Practical Steps for Men Ready to TransformHow to build meaningful connections with other men.Simple practices to integrate emotional awareness and authentic leadership into daily life.Subscribe to the Dare to Be Different podcast on your favorite platform for more transformative conversations. If this episode resonates with you, don't forget to leave a review.

I'm taking the mic again for this short yet powerful episode on what I see as a major pain point for me — being disconnected from our instinct and intuition. What blocks access to this powerful source of guidance and information you ask? Any shame or guilt you have about being a man. In this episode I share conversations I've had with a number of men in the past week and invite you to challenge anyone who tells you it's not good to be a man. I also share with you how you can tap into your power, your purpose, and peace — all by trusting your gut. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

#141 - Untangling Shame; Sex, Money & Power In Relationship - Traver Boehm Round 2 with the powerhouse Traver Boehm. Traver Boehm is the author of Today I Rise, and Man UNcivilized. He's a two time TEDx speaker, Men's coach and the founder of the UNcivilized Men's Movement. This Movement is radically redefining the way men around the globe experience their masculinity by uniquely blending both primal elements of manhood with massive doses of consciousness. 28 Days In Darkness - Pre Order October 15th  We discuss some huge topics! Sex Shame & Addiction Male Vulnerability Myth Setting New Standards In Relationship Suicide Men & Women 28 Days In Darkness Book ====== Traver ===== IG ▶ https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm WEBSITE ▶ www.manuncivilised.com ====== CHRIS GEISLER ====== WEBSITE ▶ thechrisgeisler.com Online Mens Community ▶ https://bit.ly/3WHLlKU Mens Retreats ▶ https://bit.ly/3WDYK6S ======PODCAST====== Support The Podcast: https://www.patreon.com/thechrisgeisler Telegram: https://t.me/thechrisgeislerpodcast Sponsors === Exhale Coffee [https://exhalecoffee.com/ ]Use Code: CGP or click link below to receive £10 off your first purchase on a full flexible subscription!http://bit.ly/404n82Y Wildsole Sandals [https://www.wildsolesandals.com]Use Code CGP10 at checkout for 10% off 

On Sunday July 7th at 9:30 in the morning, my father passed. I was there with my Mom, holding his hand as he took his final breaths. While this is a very private moment to share, there are elements to it that I know will touch you and hopefully inspire you in all of your relationships. In this solo episode I touch on three of the key parts of this experience, one from the wild lead up to the decision of when to go back home, my nightly vigils with him, a hard choice I had to make the morning of his death This is recorded and shared with the hope that everyone listening gets the opportunity for both closure and open heartedness with their own parents. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

Traver Boehm is an entrepreneur, a speaker, the author of "Today I Rise" and "Man UNcivilized," and the founder of the UNcivilized Movement, "dedicated to ending the unnecessary suffering in men to end the suffering caused by men."------------Book a meeting with Dan------------Keep Talking SubstackRate on SpotifyRate on Apple PodcastsSocial media and all episodes------------Support via VenmoSupport on SubstackSupport on Patreon------------00:00 Intro 00:38 How Traver got into men's work 05:47 Living as an unconscious man for 40 years 11:00 Integrity and the book "How To Be A Man" by Robert Masters 16:33 Advice for men who feel out of integrity 28:11 Asking men: what do you want? 39:39 Shame, and how men can ask for what they need 55:29 Selecting women and the importance of male tribe 01:06:59 Male isolation and how to find good men 01:13:25 Vulnerability and how much Traver has changed

I believe there are three levels or stages of relationship you can engage in: — Extractive & Transactional — Character & Role Playing — Sacred, Divine, & Uncivilized Each stage also has sexual level associated with it… If you're curious about what's available to you relationally and sexually, this is the episode for you. It's a punch solo where I break down each stage and what you can expect if you're in it. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

"THE UNCIVILIZED MAN... Is Unapologetically Male. Dangerous but not a danger. Makes still his mind, makes savage his body. Knows his gifts grow in the garden of his wounds. Practices presence and performance. Honors the men before him, the women who bore him, and the children who will inherit his Earth. Has equal and easy access to his head, heart, and balls. Lives, by the rule — there are no rules — but there is responsibility. Loves fiercely, openly, and without reservation. Knows strength without love is tyranny. Knows love without strength is victimhood." These are the words you will find on the „about me“ page of the website „Man Uncivilized, created by the founder Traver Boehm. Traver is a man who knows men deeply. And much of the wisdom and insights he imparts to other men actually from his own lived experiences, particularly the breakdown moment that flipped his life upside down and catapulted him on his path of transformation. In a mere period of 24 hours, his wife and his business partner at the time both decided to go their separate ways – resulting in the loss of his marriage, business partnership, and business. Dumbstruck by what had happened, Traver knew the only way he could overcome this loss was by consciously moving through it. He created a program for himself called the "Year to Live Project," where he deliberately lived an entire year as if it was his last. And in that year among other things, he volunteered in hospice, spent 28 days in a dark room, and completed a one-month outdoor survival course. Eventually his own journey of growth led him to birth "Man Uncivilized" – one of the fastest-growing men's movements in the world where his mission is "to stop the unnecessary suffering in men in order to stop the suffering caused by men." I first became exposed to Traver's work three years ago when I read his book "Man Uncivilized." At the time, I was on a deep journey of self-discovery, exploring what it even means to be a man, but also how I could integrate the aspects of myself that I had locked away, such as my assertiveness, anger, grief, shame, and desires, among many other things. Traver's work has been absolutely pivotal for me in my own journey, and it was an honor to come full circle and invite Traver to "Heart of Man." As I see it, this conversation deeply lived up to the anticipation I had for it. We delved deeply into Traver's personal journey and extracted some of the deepest lessons, as well as what helped him move past rock bottom. And from there, we transitioned into our conversation around men and masculinity, diving into various areas such as moving through pain as men, relationships, and sexuality. This has been an absolutely powerful deep dive – and I can't wait for all of you to dive in. Connect with Traver: Website: https://www.manuncivilized.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/?hl=de Interested in moving past the "Nice Guy Mask"? Join Traver's "Kill The Nice Guy" Course: https://www.manuncivilized.com/killtheniceguy Read Traver's book "Man Uncivilized": https://www.amazon.com/Man-UNcivilized-hate-youll-book-ebook/dp/B088KTC56G Listen to Traver's Podcast "The UNcivilized Podcast": https://open.spotify.com/show/7IVMtZqO1WwgYKxKvSVqqK?si=-YyPDUBiTAynnBKJbTgfwA Connect with Alex: Website: https://www.alexlehmann.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/?hl=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeartofManPodcast/featured Interested in working with me 1:1? Apply here and book a free discovery call with me (1 one more spot available at present time): https://www.alexlehmann.co/11-coaching

Summary Traver Boehm, founder of the Uncivilized Movement, shares his journey of personal transformation and the creation of a men's movement. He discusses the need for men to be vulnerable and open up about their struggles, challenging the stigma that men don't reach out for help. Traver explains the concept of being uncivilized, which combines the best of traditional masculinity with emotional intelligence and self-improvement. He emphasizes the importance of resilience, faith, and tenacity in pursuing one's purpose and making a positive impact in the world. Believe in yourself, believe in your heart, and believe in something bigger than yourself. Follow these three beliefs to find satisfaction and joy in life. Take the time to sit with yourself and listen to what your heart and soul want. Don't chase material possessions or external validation, but instead focus on building meaningful relationships and following your true purpose. Remember that life is a series of micro steps and setbacks, and that success is not a linear process. Embrace the challenges and opportunities that come with rock bottom moments, and use them as a chance for growth and self-discovery. Takeaways Men often face stigma and resistance when reaching out for help, but it is important for them to be vulnerable and open up about their struggles. The Uncivilized Movement combines the best of traditional masculinity with emotional intelligence and self-improvement, challenging the notion that men have to be either tough or sensitive. Resilience, faith, and tenacity are key qualities for pursuing one's purpose and making a positive impact in the world. The concept of being uncivilized involves rejecting societal norms and systems that are not working and embracing a more authentic and fulfilling way of living. Building a supportive community and having meaningful conversations can be transformative for men and help them navigate challenges in their personal and professional lives. Believe in yourself, your heart, and something bigger than yourself Take the time to sit with yourself and listen to what your heart and soul want Focus on building meaningful relationships and following your true purpose Embrace challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth and self-discovery Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 07:01 The Importance of Men Seeking Support 11:30 Challenging Stigmas and Stereotypes 15:01 The Concept of 'Uncivilized' 24:47 The Journey of Building the Uncivilized Movement 30:24 The Power of Tenacity, Resilience, and Faith 34:34 Introduction and the Struggles of Men 57:17 The Power of Belief and Following Your Heart 01:04:24 The Importance of Relationships and Connection 01:07:23 New Chapter www.4fitfatherhood.carrd.co --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/4fitfatherhood/support

Last week I talked about getting your vision board to become your reality and closing the gap between the life you want to be living and the life you are living. AND — many of you reached out and asked for techniques that you can use if you don't have a community around you and you can't afford to hire a coach or a consultant. I get it. In this short solo episode I share my two favorite techniques for building an amazing life — ones I still use to this day. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

In my experience of over twenty years of coaching humans, most of you will get stuck in one place — needing permission. Whether that's to write your book, start your business, or even just be the healthiest one in your family, permission is a big wall for many people to climb. And — it may not be the only wall.  In this short, potent solo episode I break down the three reasons why most people don't achieve their dreams and how you can start to change that immediately. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver ⁠Take our free 60-second quiz to find out if your Nice Guy tendencies are sabotaging your relationships⁠. If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

After coaching humans for over 20 years through the good times and the challenges of their lives, I know people and what helps us get past our blocks, our heartbreaks, and our limiting beliefs. In this solo episode I'll break down the six attributes I feel you need to either get through a hard time, or engage in a challenging endeavor like building a business, learning to surf, or creating the UNcivilized life of your dreams. They are: —Resilience — Tenacity — Faith — Curiosity — Humor — Community Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

I get asked this question all the time so let's dive into it. There are amazing ways you can support your man as he begins therapy, men's work, or any other path to higher consciousness and healing. I've worked with thousands of men over the years and know these three points are crucial to being there for your man, without letting it take over your own life. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

This week I again have something special for you, a recorded live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates.  This episode is for you if you've ever struggled with anger and don't see the connection between having loose or porous boundaries — and the resentment and anger that naturally builds up. On the call is a man named Kevin who gives and gives and gives and also has a lot of built up anger for the people in his life who end up leaving. This is such a common experience for all of us who struggle holding strong boundaries. Give this a lesson as I walk Kevin through creating a strong, healthy boundary with his daughter who also happens to be his employee. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

At the root of most addictive behavior is a deep dissatisfaction with one or many areas of a man's life. I know because it wasn't long ago that I needed to escape from my life multiple times a day with alcohol, marijuana, porn, exercise and work. Just to name a few. In this episode I share with you the ROOT of this challenge and give you a frame for your life as a man. One that will create the type of life you don't want to escape from. It's not magic but it works. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

This past month I've been on the phone with far too many men who are stuck in bad relationships — and refuse to leave them.  Why? Because they've made it some sort of badge of honor to stay and suffer rather than leave and start over. In this episode I break down how you can shift areas of your marriage or relationship, and then why it's more than okay, no matter what society tells you, to seek your happiness elsewhere. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

What a crazy month in the civilized world, huh? Who ever would have thought such juggernauts as Nickelodeon, P Diddy, AND Andrew Huberman would come to light for being toxic and horrible — at the same time. For us at UNcivilized, this is a sign that the civilized veil is falling, truth is emerging, and as men — it's time for us to deal with what's in our own shadowy closets. In this solo episode I talk about what I see and most importantly, how you can make positive changes in your own life because of it. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

I've often talked about and taught the notion of Attachment vs Authenticity when it comes to Nice Guy work. And the idea of attachment is real — but it's taken me a few years of working with it and hearing about it quite often for it truly to stick. Thus I'm now shifting to talking about Belonging vs Authenticity — especially with but not exclusive to Nice Guys. In this short solo episode I break down why your need to belong may be strangling you of your authentic expression and I give you three steps on how to begin to shift the tides Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

Have you ever started a podcast and five episodes in you get to have a conversation with one of your favorite teachers that you've never met in person?Traver Boehm is an author, 2 time TEDx speaker, podcast host and creator of the worldwide men's community: Man Uncivilized.I first stumbled on to Traver's work in 2017, via his TEDx talk from the year before. I was in the beginning stages of my own "how did my life get like this" moment navigating the dismantling of my 15 year marriage and walking into life as a single mom.I had known grief through the loss of my parents in early childhood and young adulthood, but I had never met the type of pain that comes from this kind of chapter ending.Travers twelve minute TEDx talk helped set the framework for my own healing journey as I listened to his lived experience that catapulted him into the transformative work he now leads others through.In this episode we discuss his personal story of loss, his attempts to run from pain, and the year he decided to face it all.Take a deep breath and be ready to be blown away!All things Traver:Website: Man UnvilizedBooks: Today I Rise, Man UncivilizedInstagram: Traver BoehmTEDx: How To Make Pain Your GuruWhy we need more uncivilized men

An Instagram follower asked me the difference between aspects of Traditional Masculinity and our UNcivilized Masculinity and rather than write him back a novel, I decided to record this solo episode for you. In it, I jump right to the point and outline what's great about Traditional Masculinity and — what needed to be upgraded about it. Thus the creation of UNcivilized Masculinity. I outline what makes us different and why…key word — relationship. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

In this short and punchy solo episode, I answer another question from Instagram: “What were the most transformative parts of men's work for you?” I dive into the top three for you so you can decide for yourself if these are pieces you want to try on yourself. Outgrowing substances like alcohol, weed, and porn Getting to be authentically me in men's groups Having Michael Gay say, “Set the tone…” and turning the embodiment lightbulb on Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

Episode 193 is a deep dive into the changing landscape of masculinity and the challenges men face today.In this episode, you'll meet Traver Boehm, the founder of the UNcivilized Men's Movement, author of Man UNcivilized, host of the UNcivilized Podcast, and a two-time TEDx speaker. Traver's goal is to end the suffering in men — to end the suffering caused by men. He is dedicated to understanding how men think, what's behind their behavior, and, most importantly, their unique challenges in the modern landscape. In 2016, after losing a pregnancy, his marriage, and his business partnership all within weeks of each other, he created a radical year-long social experiment to answer the question, “Who am I as a man?” During that year, he lived alone in a pitch-black room for a month, sat among men nearing the end of their lives in hospice, and called all of his exes to ask where he was deficient as a man. It was also when he realized that he might be able to help other men answer the question for themselves, “Who am I as a man?” Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional bodyguard and mixed martial arts to a Master's Degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, he's helped men all over the world become UNcivilized as they wake up to the power of their hearts, the brilliance of their bodies, and the wisdom of their souls so they can blaze their own path. He does this through one-on-one coaching with men or women, couples coaching, and group mentorship.If you want to take risks and live boldly to create a fulfilling and meaningful life, you've got to listen to this episode!Key Takeaways:Grounded masculinity involves being physically strong, emotionally present, and having a sense of purpose. Men have core needs, including the need to feel seen, heard, and celebrated, as well as the need for a purpose beyond family. The concept of toxic masculinity oversimplifies the issues men face and can be harmful.Men should strive to be authentic and express themselves rather than conform to societal expectations. Integrity is crucial for men, aligning thoughts, words, and actions, leading to confidence and purpose. Fitness plays a significant role in masculinity, providing strength, capability, and safety. Meditation and presence are essential for men to cultivate self-awareness, improve relationships, and navigate the challenges of modern technology. More From Traver:WebsiteBookPodcastYouTubeInstagramWant To Change Your Life? Check Out FF30X!FF30X is a simple, sustainable, and specific weight loss program designed especially for busy men over 40. With short metabolic training workouts, an easy-to-follow meal plan, and an accountability team there for you every step of the way, FF30X can help you lose weight, regain energy and vitality, and live life to the fullest.

Last week I was on a call with a man who asked me this profound question, “Where do I begin my men's work journey? There are so many places I can start from?”In this episode I break down a great starting point for you if you're about to embark on your men's work journey, or where to return to if you've currently been on a break and aren't sure where to pick back up. I also share a new frame for you that takes the edge and anxiety out of how overwhelming the decision may be. Enjoy.Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

In this short solo episode, I break down the two main blocks I see when people try to figure out their purpose. Knowing why you're here and what you're here to do is a BIG deal. And being stuck without knowing either can lead to a lot of undue suffering. This episode will help ease that suffering and give you a path forward when you're in between major chapters of your life. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community and connect with me on⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

When it comes to men's role in society, things are rapidly changing. Many men feel lost, disconnected, and find themselves falling into patterns of addiction. Traver Boehm, author, TEDx speaker, and founder of Man UNcivilied, was no different. After facing a series of losses, Traver found himself navigating the trenches of life which ultimately led him to pave a new path for himself and other men to follow.  Join us as he shares about the impact of societal messaging for men, why it is important to build a relationship with yourself, and how we can implement sacred sexuality to improve not just our sex lives, but life as a whole! This episode is packed full of wisdom that both men and women can benefit from. Tune in and then let us know what you think over on Instagram @celestemooreimage and @traverboehm. In this week's episode, we discuss: [01:39] About Traver Boehm [03:03] What sparked the UNcivilized movement? [10:21] Using life's difficult moments as a catalyst for self-expression [16:15] Where do men fit into society? [17:59] Paving a new path for men [21:02] The transition from a transactional relational paradigm to a co-creative paradigm  [24:46] The importance of raw, real, and relational personal development [29:42] The impact of societal messaging  [32:31] Suppressed needs, trauma, and addiction [37:38] Using loss as a time to open up to life changes [39:36] Implementing sacred sexuality to improve our lives [45:01] Trust, integrity, and communication to get beyond friction in the bedroom [46:57] Traver's favorite date   Connect with Traver: Website  “Man UNcivilized” Book Instagram The Uncivilized Podcast    

It'd be easy to say this one's for the guys, but in all honesty, it's for all as we're all connected and are impacted by the masculine and feminine flow of it all.  And, this one is also for the guys.  In today's interview, Traver Boehm, author, two-time TEDx speaker, men's coach, and the founder of the UNcivilized Men's Movement, is here to shine light on men's work, men's mental health, relationships, and helping to crack open the issues that are wrapped into today's traumas, abuse, and inequality.He shares on and from his dedication to doing his part to help end the suffering in men, and the suffering caused by men, by guiding them through their own journey into an actualized version of masculinity.Along with this raw, real, heart-felt conversation, Traver shares on his month in a dark room/ashram in Guatemala, his definition and "killing of" his "nice guy", and opens up about honoring his journey through his own struggles, perseverance, and of course, mindfulness practices.Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional bodyguard and Mixed Martial Arts to a Master's Degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, he's helped men all over the world to become UNcivilized as they wake up to the power of their hearts, the brilliance of their bodies, and the wisdom of their souls so they can blaze their own path.  He does this through one-on-one coaching with men or women, couples coaching, and group mentorship.TO LEARN EVEN MORE ON TRAVER :Please visit his website: manuncivilized.comAnd find him on Instagram: @traverboehmAnd all podcast platforms: The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver BoehmHis books “Today I Rise” and “Man UNcivilized” His latest men's leadership course "Kill the Nice Guy"_______________________________________________

Why do people fear darkness? The answer lies in its uncontrollability. Darkness stirs up the deepest corners of our minds, like a blank canvas for our deepest fears. It's like being trapped in a horror movie with no escape. In this second part of our "Darkness" series, Traver Boehm and Katie Sroka are diving deep into the idea of darkness as an entity, unraveling the reasons behind people's profound fear of it. Looking ahead, there's something on the horizon. As Traver approaches his 49th birthday, he's got some big plans. What's he got in store? Will he face the darkness once more? You'll have to tune in to this episode to discover it all. As for you, could you handle an experience like this? Let us know in the comments! WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [00:23] Exploring Darkness as an Entity [04:53] Why People Fear Darkness [13:25] Exploring the Darkness in Others [19:48] Confronting Darkness [24:06] Back to Reality [29:39] Traver's 49th Birthday Plans If you look at the civilized world and think, "No thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website,⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠.

To celebrate the 200th episode of this podcast, I asked my good friend, Traver Boehm, to get weird and do something a bit different. I sent him a text asking him to think about a couple of random things he loves or is inspired by so we could talk about them. Neither of us knew what the other was bringing to the table. A surprising feast ensued. I've long loved the podcast conversations Tim Ferriss has with his pal, Kevin Rose, so I decided to emulate that here. This chat is informal and unpredictable. It's also filled with random stories, lots of laughter, and it's quite different than any other I've done before. Please let me know what you think. If you like it, perhaps I can invite more friends to have similar chats. And a huge and grateful THANK YOU to everyone who listens and shares the podcast. I appreciate you. _______________________________________ Traver Boehm is the author of the books Today I Rise and Man UNcivilized. He's a two-time TEDx speaker, men's coach, and the founder of the UNcivilized Men's Movement. He's helped men all over the world to become UNcivilized as they wake up to meditate, train their bodies, and blaze their own path by uniquely blending both the primal and the divine within them. He is dedicated to doing his part to help end the suffering in men and the suffering caused by men by guiding them through their own journey into an actualized version of masculinity. For more information about Traver, please ⁠visit his website⁠: ⁠www.manuncivilized.com⁠. ⁠Find him on Instagram⁠: @traverboehm - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm⁠ Buy his book here: https://amzn.to/3tQ5p4c And listen to his podcast, The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm, on all major platforms. _______________________________________ Follow me on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sign up for my weekly newsletter!  Each week, I share a personal story and my favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas.  Click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://longdistancelovebombs.mykajabi.com/email⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. It's easy and takes five seconds. Check out a list of 120 of my favorite books here, including MY BOOK, and many my guests have written and recommend reading: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/longdistancelovebombs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Here is all of my favorite stuff on the planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/favorites _______________________________________ CHAPTERS: 0:01:07 Recording Secrets and Embracing Imperfection0:05:38 Mysterious Half-Buddhist Statue Unveiled0:05:42 Contemplating a Unique Tattoo Design0:07:15 A Random Start with Tattoo Stories0:10:14 Candid Conversations: Sharing Medical History and Unexpected Connections0:19:35 Intrigued by non-alcoholic Guinness and the search for it0:22:56 Wrestling with the idea of drinking non-alcoholic beer0:26:03 The rule of three for checking cravings and habits0:28:05 Evaluating the Progress of the Conversation0:28:16 The Story of the Special Bread Knife0:32:26 Upgrading Everyday Items for a 10x Experience0:38:37 Childhood Fork: A Sentimental Keepsake0:47:04 Discussions about knives and documentaries0:53:06 Considering becoming a Zen master or starting a bread company0:58:33 A Shift in Perspective on Death and Myth1:02:02 Recommendation: Interview with a Funeral Home Director1:05:18 The Benefits and Deliciousness of Sprouting1:09:10 The Potential of Selling Sprouts and Merchandise --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/longdistancelovebombs/message

In this quick and dirty solo episode I'm answering a question I got on Instagram about what exactly boundaries are and how to set them and keep them. Boundaries are the special sauce of relationships. With them your relationships will thrive and can last forever. Without them you will slowly build up resentment and until you explode. Trust me as I speak from personal experience on this. I'm diving into how to understand boundaries more deeply, why you need them, and the magic sentence that you can use to enforce them. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click here to sign up for the⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Kill the Nice Guy course⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Do you struggle with what it means to be a man in today's society? Traver Boehm, author of Man Uncivilized, is shaking things up and shifting the mindset of what it means to be uncivilized. His book is amazing and it was an absolute pleasure to have him on the podcast.  I know this episode will resonate with a lot of you.   What you'll hear:   How we met and our experience with the mastermind group Training Grounds (1:32) Traver's background and the publication of his book (5:03) Defining what it means to be a man and what qualifies as "men's work" (8:56) The push for de-escalating men and the equalizing effect it has had (12:18) Trauma in men and toxic masculinity (14:20) Toughness and sensitivity are not mutually exclusive (17:10) The importance of feeling vs. doing (23:09) His typical client avatar (28:44) The primal masculine vs. the divine masculine (31:02) Sharing the truth and being real does not make you weak (36:41) The role of fatherhood in our society (42:39) Having clear, defined roles in a relationship (47:01) The protocol for working with his clientele (50:42) Viewing men as friends and not competition (57:59) The power of simply having a group of men together outside their normal routine (1:04:26)   How to become uncivilized:   Man Uncivilized Instagram If you loved this episode and our podcast, please take some time to rate and review us on Apple Podcasts, or drop us a comment below!

We men often don't stop and ask ourselves, “Whose rules am I playing by? Are they mine? Do they work for me? What if I changed them?” In this short solo episode I share a conversation I had with a man after Jiujitsu who has changed his entire outlook on life just by questioning whose rules he was living by. This is especially important for Nice Guys who often aren't playing by ONE set of someone else's rules but changing depending on who is in front of them. This episode is hard hitting and will help you shift both your perspective and your actions to be more aligned with you want to be! Enjoy. Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click here to sign up for the⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Kill the Nice Guy course⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

So many men are stuck thinking in this one certain way — I have to make everyone else happy before I'll have a good life. And that's a death sentence to your hopes, dreams, and confidence. In this live call with the men in my Kill The Nice Guy Group I dive into how to shift this limiting thought into a powerful one. One that will change every way you exist in the world, and how the world interacts with you. Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website,⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click here to sign up for the⁠⁠⁠⁠ Kill the Nice Guy course⁠⁠⁠⁠.

I wish I had a more easily understood term for the words Covert Contracts, but I don't…yet. And — everyone has these secret, one-way agreements in our relationships that slowly build resentment, erode trust, and actually prevent us from getting the very needs we're desperate to get met from doing just that. In this solo episode I break down what a Covert Contract is, how you can spot them in your relationship, and how you can STOP using them and instead speak your needs directly. Enjoy Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click here to sign up for the⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Kill the Nice Guy course⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Any time a potential client tells me they've recently had three major losses or setbacks, I take a deep breath and listen carefully. So often this is their soul's way of completely reorganizing their lives in a far more aligned way than it's ever been before. If you're experiencing back to back or perhaps even three losses in a row, this episode is for you. I'll break down my own dark night of the soul and how it was a blessing in disguise. I'll also give you tangible ways of navigating this challenging period. Please share this episode with someone in your life. Cheers, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website,⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click here to sign up for the⁠⁠⁠⁠ Kill the Nice Guy course⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Fear of rejection shows up in many less than obvious ways. It can be the difference between speaking your mind and keeping quiet, sharing your post or deleting before anyone gets a chance to read it. Many people believe there's a switch you can flip and suddenly this deep fear will just disappear. This is not the case that I have found. However, there are actions you can take and frames you can adopt to make your fear of rejection go from a huge burden in your life to a roommate who lives alone in your basement. Give this episode a listen if you're dealing with some fear of rejection. Please share this as well. Cheers, Traver  WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [1:00] How fear of rejection differs between men and women. [2:38] Personal encounters with rejection. [5:00] Why are we afraid of rejection? [8:30] Practical tips to overcome the fear of rejection. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website,⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠, or⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Get a copy of one of my books,⁠⁠⁠⁠ Man UNcivilized⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠⁠⁠ Today I Rise⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click here to sign up for the⁠⁠⁠⁠ Kill the Nice Guy course⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Talking points: trauma, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, trauma culture, therapy I was connected to Katherine Ann through my own mentor, the incredible gestalt therapist Duey Freeman. Her story is intense, powerful, and most importantly, it's shows the importance and possibilities inherent in trauma work and group work. I applaud Katherine Ann for coming forward and sharing her story. [00:01:12] - Katherine Ann's defining moment [00:08:50] - the role Katherine Ann's father played in her life [00:15:12] - Were you believed about what was happening, and how did your trauma start manifesting? [00:26:44] - How did what happened shape your perception of men, and how has that evolved since doing trauma excavation? [00:40:16] - What would you say to people who struggle with forgiving what's happened? [00:45:27] - What is trauma excavation? [00:54:44] - Do you get the sense that trauma work has become so mainstream it's been watered down? Katherine Ann is a mother of five grown children – 2 daughters and 3 stepsons. She resides in Boulder, CO with her beloved husband. After years of abuse and trauma, followed by 30 years (thus far) of healing, she recently released her website – see KatherineAnn.com – and is sharing her life story and experiences in hopes of helping others heal from trauma and abuse, and transform from a place of just surviving to thriving in life. The connection Katherine Ann has with (Connor) is through Duey Freeman, who has been a therapist for almost 50 years with about 80,000 contact hours with clients. Katherine Ann has worked with Duey individually and collectively with her siblings. Recently, Duey stated on Traver Boehm's podcast that, Katherine Ann, and her brother and her sister, “were involved in probably the most bizarre and intense situation of abuse – both physical and sexual – that I've seen.” In 2008, in a letter of promotion for the three siblings when they planned to write a book together, Duey wrote about the abuse as, “the most intense, insidious, and malicious case of abuse and incest I have ever known. It is a story of love and hate, of physical and sexual abuse, of incredible humiliation and manipulation. A story that makes you cry and then pray for both forgiveness and healing.” Katherine Ann's book will be published later this year. Connect with Katherine Ann -Website: https://katherineann.com/intro/introduction/ -Facebook: https://bit.ly/3NbKOyF -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katherineannhealing/ Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Talking points: AI, gender wars, masculinity, culture, relationships, dating, archetypes, myth All I can tell you is: this is a big one! Traver and I did an episode exchange for this one, and we always (I mean always) have great, wide-ranging conversations. It's one of the bes gifts that comes from having old friends.  This is the episode to listen to if you want to hear directly from two men's coaches who have hands on experience with what men are undergoing these days, and some of the ways we can regulate and manage what seems to be ever-increasing chaos. [00:03:52] - How social media conversations have gotten a lot more intense—and why[00:11:03] - How this is affecting men in general[00:16:57] - So much bad s**t is happening. What does your average man do?[00:26:56] - What used to be “luxuries” like a morning meditation practice are now tools for survival[00:33:02] - The effect even a basic participation in online toxicity can have[00:43:39] - “How do we get men back engaged in relationship itself?”[00:58:43] - The greatest gift you can give your partner[01:05:16] - Men need myth[01:11:50] - Why AI needs to be trained on myth Traver Boehm is the author of the books “Today I Rise” and “Man UNcivilized”. He's a two-time TEDx speaker, men's coach, and the founder of the UNcivilized Men's Movement. He's helped men worldwide to become UNcivilized as they wake up to the power of their hearts, the brilliance of their bodies, and the wisdom of their souls so they can blaze their own path by uniquely blending both the primal and the divine within them. He is dedicated to doing his part to help end the suffering in men, and the suffering caused by men, by guiding them through their own journey into an actualized version of masculinity. Connect with Traver -Website: https://www.manuncivilized.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/ -Podcast: https://www.manuncivilized.com/blog/ Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Reflecting back upon this episode as I recorded it with John, I cannot even begin to summarize the incredible conversation we recorded for you to listen in on. Taking the time to listen will give you more insight into how to become a better human than any episode we've produced this far. Here's the more professional summary for you as expected…In this episode, George and his special guest John Welbourn are also diving into:Hollow arguments that make you lose every single time (and the 3 things to change)Why words are important, but reactions are everything at eventsHow I shifted into alignment with events and changed everythingAre you giving back or are you playing the game?When the student is ready, the master appearsIt's a power packed interview as we discuss the March event, NFL, how we met, and so much more to catch up with the old pals that we are. You can find John over on Instagram to connect with him further.Want to dive into a similar episode that will take it even further? Check out this episode with Traver Boehm!Learn how to build lasting relationships with your customers and increase your retention rates with The Last Customer Journey - a 5-part video series specifically designed to help you master a relationship-based marketing approach.Through actionable insights and proven strategies, you'll discover how to connect with your audience on a deeper level, establish a foundation of familiarity, admiration, and trust, and create an unforgettable customer experience that will keep them returning for more.➡️Sign Up For This Free Series Now. —If you have any questions or comments about the episode, I'd love to hear from you! Send me a DM over on Instagram @itsgeorgebryant or pop on over to our free Facebook community, Relationship Beat Algorithms.